WEBVTT - The Journey To Confidence Feat. Samia From Sexual Essentials

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome back to Good Mom's Bad Choices. I'm Erica and

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<v Speaker 1>I'm Mila. Happy Wednesday. Happy Wednesday, y'all. How are you feeling.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm good.

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<v Speaker 3>I feel like, I don't know, I feel I'm feeling optimistic,

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<v Speaker 3>I'm feeling light, I'm feeling positive.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm feeling stoned.

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<v Speaker 4>I love that I took a tincture.

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<v Speaker 3>And I don't know if you guys are into tinctures,

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<v Speaker 3>but damn, s just hits you harder than I thought. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>it's like a slow creep. It's not literally, I felt

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<v Speaker 3>like my eyes suddenly just.

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<v Speaker 1>Like go it's inaudible.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm really I have these heavy ass eyelashes on right now,

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<v Speaker 3>like prom queen, and I feel like they're weighing my

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<v Speaker 3>eyelids down to my eyes open.

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<v Speaker 1>If you guys have been yet, check check us out

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<v Speaker 1>on YouTube so you can see Eric is open.

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<v Speaker 3>You actually better check us out because I have a

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<v Speaker 3>full face of fucking makeup on.

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<v Speaker 4>Somebody needs to see this ship.

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<v Speaker 3>Her titties are at the red lips are on the school.

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<v Speaker 3>I dressed like a like a boss bitch because we

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<v Speaker 3>have a boss bitch on our show today, and I

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<v Speaker 3>was like, I need to be bossy and look like

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<v Speaker 3>I'm going to teach some shit.

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<v Speaker 1>And you and you nailed it, nailed it. Educator of things. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>if you're just joining our show, that is Erica. I

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<v Speaker 1>am Miila. We are moms. We are also experts at

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<v Speaker 4>Bad bitch, bad bitch.

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<v Speaker 1>This is a lot of bad bitches in one room.

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<v Speaker 2>Bitches.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm so excited because we have our girl, our wife,

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<v Speaker 1>and our beautiful sexual essential samayah.

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<v Speaker 3>Here beautiful sexual.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh guy, she's all the way from l A.

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<v Speaker 2>We met.

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<v Speaker 3>We met Samaya during COVID and we've only done an

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<v Speaker 3>episode virtually, so this is like a really, this is

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<v Speaker 3>a tree.

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<v Speaker 1>We gotta got you in.

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<v Speaker 3>The fledge and I got titties out. I put them

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<v Speaker 3>off for you, and none of that. You really enjoyed titties.

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<v Speaker 3>I heard you referenced titties and many times of conversations.

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<v Speaker 2>So I was like, really like titty She's like, everybody

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<v Speaker 2>really knows that I really love titties. Like I have

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<v Speaker 2>a lot of ass. So it's like, are you not?

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<v Speaker 2>Are you an ass woman?

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<v Speaker 1>Or are not? Really?

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<v Speaker 2>I have enough? I mean I like a nice ass.

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<v Speaker 4>What about a guy? Like does a guy need to

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<v Speaker 4>have an have asked.

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<v Speaker 2>My niece to have anything?

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, but I'm saying like, do you prefer like

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<v Speaker 1>if do you like a hippie guy, a hippie guy,

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<v Speaker 1>you know those niggas who got big hips.

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<v Speaker 4>Not a hippie guy.

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<v Speaker 2>But I think the limit is is my hips.

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<v Speaker 1>If you're hippier, it's.

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<v Speaker 2>Probably not my thing. But I like titties. I like

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<v Speaker 2>the nipple, you know anyways.

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<v Speaker 1>I like the nipple. I've never heard anyone say that

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<v Speaker 1>I like the nipple. I like the areola.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, like the tongue around it is like this, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>little flick like see how did we get there? This

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<v Speaker 2>is how we can't do you?

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<v Speaker 1>What about you? You asked, are titty girl Erica ask?

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<v Speaker 1>I think I'm a I'm pretty much an ask girl too. Well.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm glad that I'm in you alls lives. So you

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<v Speaker 2>guys about the titties and the nipple. You know, I

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<v Speaker 2>get titties and and I have the ass and.

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<v Speaker 1>It's and together we make up perfect threesome. Last year

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<v Speaker 1>we met Samaya and Covid. Like two weeks later, maybe

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<v Speaker 1>a month later, She's like, I'm coming to La. We're

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<v Speaker 1>best friends. I'm like, okay, sounds good. I'm happy. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>some mis coming to La with best friends. Now she's

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<v Speaker 1>like perfect, And then really we were best friends, and

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<v Speaker 1>here we are a year later, maybe a year and

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<v Speaker 1>a half later now, no right. Shout out to Orlando

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<v Speaker 1>from Harder Sawce for bringing us together.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, we appreciate you. We love you, Orlando.

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<v Speaker 1>We do love you, Orlando. Do I love Orlando and Tahoe.

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<v Speaker 1>You know he gets sensitive.

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<v Speaker 3>We love Tahoe.

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<v Speaker 1>We love you.

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<v Speaker 4>We don't make sure we're at him.

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<v Speaker 1>Here, him in the comments may make sure that.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know if there's a special way we could

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<v Speaker 3>tag my voice and put Tahoe there somehow, but we could,

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<v Speaker 3>we would.

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<v Speaker 1>It's a very sensitive pisces man. Yes, girl with that

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<v Speaker 1>sensitivity over there, and then be acting like he's not sensitive.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, nigga, that is the most sensitive thing of

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<v Speaker 1>all things to do pretend like you ain't sensitive when

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<v Speaker 1>everybody knows that you is.

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<v Speaker 2>Like you all podcast husbands almost like they're a very

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<v Speaker 2>attractive podcasts, and you guys are, of course, are a

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<v Speaker 2>very attractive podcast I feel like y'all in one room.

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<v Speaker 2>Everybody's like, yeah, I'll go. I mean, okay, look at nice,

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<v Speaker 2>nice things.

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<v Speaker 1>I know they are our podcast husbands. I mean, obviously

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<v Speaker 1>everybody knows Orlando's my bond ship Bay. We're stuck for life.

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<v Speaker 1>I would calling him with his bitches. I'd be like,

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<v Speaker 1>let me see the bitches you did yes last night,

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<v Speaker 1>let me see I love him shout out to him,

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<v Speaker 1>my man, because he's literally answers the phone for me,

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<v Speaker 1>no matter what bitches. But he's like I had a

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<v Speaker 1>force him last night. I'm like, let me see those bitches.

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<v Speaker 1>He's like, no, like whatever, Bye, I'm jealous love you Bye.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm true open bondship baby. You know. I'm just so

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<v Speaker 1>happy that you're here.

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<v Speaker 2>I am I'm like, I'm not even saying anything. I'm

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<v Speaker 2>just in blues. I'm just I'm so happy. Life pulls

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<v Speaker 2>you together. And I think like, as an adult, it's

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<v Speaker 2>really difficult to find friends. And I'm like, fuck this shit.

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<v Speaker 2>You want to be my friend?

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<v Speaker 1>Bye, We'll pull you in the corner at this lyard

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<v Speaker 1>and be the friend. She's like, I'm scheduling my plane

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<v Speaker 1>ticket for next week, okay. And then she's like, if

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<v Speaker 1>you don't spend, did you block out fourty eight hours

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<v Speaker 1>for just me? You can't go anywhere else? Oh you didn't.

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<v Speaker 1>She does not fuck around. I'm a very scheduling as bach. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>very scheduled, very scheduling. Our scheduling ass bitch. She pulled

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<v Speaker 1>a card today I did. It's Terrorot time. She would

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<v Speaker 1>do a song. It's Tarot time. It's Tarot time, bitches,

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<v Speaker 1>it's Terot time. I don't like it. T I kind

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<v Speaker 1>of like the JJQ yeah jj is cue.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, I like that sound.

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<v Speaker 1>Damn, I can't drop my single yet, Terot. You can

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<v Speaker 1>go over to a rewrite today. Samayah pulled the Night

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<v Speaker 1>of Cups, and the Night of Cups is an invitation

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<v Speaker 1>to splurge. She's fancy. She has appropriate the rich bitch

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<v Speaker 1>car you know you got open. You're not rich, but

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<v Speaker 1>your friend is richly I get about her, like, well,

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<v Speaker 1>my friend is rich it's just be happy because my

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<v Speaker 1>friend bought it. This is my friend's house. This is

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<v Speaker 1>my friend house. She bought it. She's rich. That's my

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<v Speaker 1>that's my semia first of sexual, that's my sexual sexual

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<v Speaker 1>essential massexual sexual. Yeah, she's rich.

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<v Speaker 2>I am so embarrassed.

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<v Speaker 1>Isn't it nice when you keep ghetto friends like us?

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<v Speaker 2>Yes? I need it.

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<v Speaker 1>We're almost rich like you. If you have one rich friend,

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<v Speaker 1>you'll be soon the rich friend too, birds of a friend,

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<v Speaker 1>the fuck together period. Anyway, This invitation is to splurge

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<v Speaker 1>indulgent life's pleasures. This includes enjoying good food and wine.

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<v Speaker 1>Everybody knows somebody likes a good wine. But we happened

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<v Speaker 1>last last night, appreciating the arts, making love, relaxing and

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<v Speaker 1>luxurious resources are experiencing beauty. Wow, wow, I'm.

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<v Speaker 4>Literally walked in the doors like, can you shade match me?

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<v Speaker 4>Brought me a aircraft?

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<v Speaker 1>I stole my purse. Live in the moment and give

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<v Speaker 1>yourself permission to indulge temporarily without any guilt about the

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<v Speaker 1>possible negative consequences of such pleasure. When you see the

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<v Speaker 1>nine of cups in a reading, and remember to count

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<v Speaker 1>your blessings and express gratitude for what you have. Start

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<v Speaker 1>or end every day by creating a mental list of

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<v Speaker 1>the three things of which you are most grateful. Over time,

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<v Speaker 1>you will intensify your sense of contentment and your ability

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<v Speaker 1>to attract what you wish for. It is the law

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<v Speaker 1>of attraction. If you are struggling to find the positive

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<v Speaker 1>side of life, then expressing gratitude will help you so

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<v Speaker 1>that you have a lot to be glad about. One

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<v Speaker 1>thing to keep in mind with the nine of cups

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<v Speaker 1>is that he is sitting on a wooden bench that

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<v Speaker 1>is comfortable for only a limited period. Realize that contentment

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<v Speaker 1>and fulfillment, too, are only temporary, as everything is always

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<v Speaker 1>in a state of change. That's why it is so

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<v Speaker 1>important to appreciate what you have now and cherish it

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<v Speaker 1>because it may disappear later or you may need to

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<v Speaker 1>adjust to adopt adapt. Sorry.

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<v Speaker 2>Wow, so hell of a card.

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<v Speaker 1>Wow.

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<v Speaker 4>I love this card for us.

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<v Speaker 1>It fits perfectly And I was called to pull to

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<v Speaker 1>talk about it at that time because I felt like

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<v Speaker 1>it was about to say some shit. And I think

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<v Speaker 1>when speaking of our friendship, that was so divinely ordered.

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<v Speaker 1>When you are just open and living in alignment, all

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<v Speaker 1>the people that match your life, Come and fuck with you,

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<v Speaker 1>even if it's on the internet, and then on your life,

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<v Speaker 1>because that's basically what happened. Yeah, I'm like, oh you cool,

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<v Speaker 1>will be cool too, come to California.

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<v Speaker 2>It was so nice to find out that you guys

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<v Speaker 2>were cool, because you know, a lot of people think like, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>the pretty ones are bitches. That is not true. Maybe

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<v Speaker 2>you're just intimidated by their prettiness. I like to be

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<v Speaker 2>in the proximity of beautiful people. I think it makes

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<v Speaker 2>me look better. I know it sounds crazy, but I'm like, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>they sexy. I want to stand by them. It's true, though,

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<v Speaker 2>birds of a feather flock to calcul but with the

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<v Speaker 2>sexy people.

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<v Speaker 1>I never liked, like a fine bitch that doesn't like

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<v Speaker 1>to hang out with like you can tell you know,

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<v Speaker 1>there's a fine that intentionally doesn't have other fine friends.

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<v Speaker 1>Just want to be the only f author's a fine bitch.

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<v Speaker 1>And then you're around and she's acting funny. I'm like, bitch,

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<v Speaker 1>just because you used to being around other fine bitches

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<v Speaker 1>don't mean you can't shine with another fine bitch.

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<v Speaker 2>And see this thing, I call it out girl, you

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<v Speaker 2>want to come sit with us. No, okay, okay, it's like, no,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm super nice. But it's just a lot of people don't.

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<v Speaker 2>I think they underestimate like being kind.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, you know, I'm the kindest bitch and a forty

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<v Speaker 1>hundred mile radius. You know how many pictures in my phone?

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<v Speaker 1>I have the best friends I met in the bathroom

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<v Speaker 1>at the club. Thousands, I believe you, thousands.

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<v Speaker 3>And I wish we could make a book of it, like,

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<v Speaker 3>oh my can I remember a photo album of it?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my god, a little flip book, make it a

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<v Speaker 1>real all the bathroom, all the bathroom, all the bathroom

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<v Speaker 1>bitches Mila has ever met in her clothes call the

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<v Speaker 1>book is nice or something. Meet Mela, Meet Mela, meet

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<v Speaker 1>me Ala in the bathroom.

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<v Speaker 2>I look here. You never know what people are going through,

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<v Speaker 2>So being kind is like really good. It's really good.

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<v Speaker 3>It changes someone's day. I mean, it's so much easier

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<v Speaker 3>to be kind then. I mean, well, actually sometimes it's not.

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<v Speaker 3>It depends who you ask. But I just feel like

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<v Speaker 3>being kind is always going to open up more doors

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<v Speaker 3>than not being kind. And your energy is always so positive,

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<v Speaker 3>it's always so loving and always so nurturing. Yesterday I

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<v Speaker 3>wasn't feeling good and to Mina must have asked me

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<v Speaker 3>about forty two times.

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<v Speaker 1>If I was still.

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<v Speaker 3>Sick and if I was feeling better, and I'm just

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<v Speaker 3>how bad she felt for me.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, no, no, and she's like, do you

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<v Speaker 1>want me to go? Am I breaking down your hut?

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<v Speaker 2>Because honestly, I'm like, I know how far all of

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<v Speaker 2>this stuff is. So it's like, if we're going to

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<v Speaker 2>go see each other, I want people to feel good,

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<v Speaker 2>feel comfortable.

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<v Speaker 3>Anyways, But speaking of that card, and it did ask us,

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<v Speaker 3>I think as a group to kind of think about

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<v Speaker 3>what is it that we're grateful for? What is it

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<v Speaker 3>that we're in gratitude for? So if you could think

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<v Speaker 3>of one thing right now, what would.

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<v Speaker 1>It be I am grateful for. I mean a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of things that I am really grateful for my ability

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<v Speaker 1>to be authentic and show up as myself because it's

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<v Speaker 1>given me the pleasure of attracting people who are also

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<v Speaker 1>authentic and show up as themselves. And even if that's

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<v Speaker 1>not normal or traditional, I've attracted all of my people

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<v Speaker 1>and I continue to do that by just having the

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<v Speaker 1>gift of you know, it may not be as normal

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<v Speaker 1>or traditional, but I show up as myself, and then

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<v Speaker 1>I literally attract friends all over the world and in

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<v Speaker 1>my network that show up as themselves. And I'm grateful

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<v Speaker 1>for that. I'm grateful for you guys accepting me and

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<v Speaker 1>all my nudity and twerking and you know, all the things.

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<v Speaker 1>Because it's not for everybody. Mila is not for everybody.

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<v Speaker 1>Mila mownes are not for everybody. I don't think anyone

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<v Speaker 1>should be for everybody, because you can't be for everybody.

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<v Speaker 1>You can't literally give yourself. You literally couldn't you know

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<v Speaker 1>what I mean.

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<v Speaker 2>I'd be trying, though, you know what, I'm so over

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<v Speaker 2>the people pleasing.

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<v Speaker 1>Neggas.

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<v Speaker 2>My friends are so embarrassing the.

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<v Speaker 4>Hand in here.

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<v Speaker 3>There's some men in the back screams yelling about they

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<v Speaker 3>got hype about something.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know what it was.

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<v Speaker 2>They're probably excited about the beauty. Blinded for sure. Maybe

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<v Speaker 2>they fret to work here. I think that I'm grateful

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<v Speaker 2>for Damn, that's a good one. I've not to feel

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<v Speaker 2>like I need to try to do a different one. Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>skip me.

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<v Speaker 3>I think I'm grateful for being able to trust my intuition.

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<v Speaker 3>I think I finally it is in a place in

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<v Speaker 3>my life where I don't doubt it anymore ever at all.

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<v Speaker 3>And because of that, like I've just seen how things

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<v Speaker 3>in my life have started to flow into my life,

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<v Speaker 3>how people that are not supposed to be in my

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<v Speaker 3>life have float out of my life. And even though

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<v Speaker 3>I do be stressed, like, it's only because like I know,

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<v Speaker 3>I'm like, it's like everything that I want, everything that

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<v Speaker 3>I am speaking into existence is on the way. It's

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<v Speaker 3>just more of like got to get prepared. I know

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<v Speaker 3>it's coming, you know. And so I just also feel

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<v Speaker 3>like I'm grateful for my friends, so grateful for the

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<v Speaker 3>people that I've been able to meet on this journey,

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<v Speaker 3>like you, and like the people that I've been able

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<v Speaker 3>to keep in my life for so many years as well,

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<v Speaker 3>like the tribe that I've built. I have such an

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<v Speaker 3>amazing group of friends, and I realize that that is

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<v Speaker 3>not everyone's existence. I realize how difficult it is to

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<v Speaker 3>make friends when as an adult.

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<v Speaker 4>And I'm awkward.

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<v Speaker 3>I'd be awkward, I don't like some people like misread

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<v Speaker 3>my awkwardness as like standoffishness, but I am an awkward person,

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<v Speaker 3>and so I just time I just don't even know

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<v Speaker 3>what to say. I'm just feeling eugh, but like I'm

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<v Speaker 3>grateful that I have a group of people that like

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<v Speaker 3>I don't, I can I can be myself one hundred percent.

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<v Speaker 1>I just want to say that right now, just turn

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<v Speaker 1>to twenty two and I'll be catching all the triple

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<v Speaker 1>digits because I will remind everyone to make a manifestation.

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<v Speaker 1>And if you see triple digits, you do the same.

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<v Speaker 2>And I always catch my birthday and.

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<v Speaker 1>It's twenty twenty two. So should we just take a

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<v Speaker 1>take a second moment everyone, wherever you're at, if you're

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<v Speaker 1>in the car, don't close your eyes, but just take

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<v Speaker 1>a moment to visual as the things that you want

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<v Speaker 1>right now. What it looks like, what it feels like,

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<v Speaker 1>what it smells like.

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<v Speaker 2>It smells like a mansion, and it smells like.

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<v Speaker 1>Driving what I saw driving up a rich ass driveway,

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<v Speaker 1>the beach house, my male of Airbnb, skinny dipping in

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<v Speaker 1>my very heated pool because I don't worried about how

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<v Speaker 1>much it costs to heat it.

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<v Speaker 3>I see myself getting having sex Dolly style looking over

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<v Speaker 3>the ocean of my.

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<v Speaker 1>Sanity pool. But like you popped up a little bit

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<v Speaker 1>out the pool, so it's not the way you knees

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<v Speaker 1>her in.

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<v Speaker 2>I feel like I'm visualizing it a two man threesome.

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<v Speaker 1>Oo girl, this will be a second time for visualizing

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<v Speaker 1>that I need this, Okay, the first time I hung

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<v Speaker 1>out with some Maya by the way side, not at

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<v Speaker 1>her house. This is She's the one who inspired my

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<v Speaker 1>interest in a male male female because she broke it

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<v Speaker 1>down so beautifully the way that she would envision her

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<v Speaker 1>male male female going and now like that totally changed

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<v Speaker 1>my perception on what that looked like.

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<v Speaker 2>And so actually I'm going to add that to Mike.

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<v Speaker 1>Can you actually give us a brief? Can you brief

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<v Speaker 1>us on how that's so?

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<v Speaker 2>My fantasy for having two men is not them competing

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<v Speaker 2>to give me pain, right, but really going off what

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<v Speaker 2>I need me being the center of intention of like

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<v Speaker 2>center of attention. And you got one guy kissing me

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<v Speaker 2>like really slow, while the other maybe is massaging my

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<v Speaker 2>feed or one of them eating me out and the

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<v Speaker 2>other one like massaging my scalp or you know, sucking

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<v Speaker 2>on my nipples to help me like come even harder,

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<v Speaker 2>and just them working together. And I've added onto the fantasy.

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<v Speaker 2>I definitely want an interview like I want to interview

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<v Speaker 2>with my main bay a guy, and I want him

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<v Speaker 2>to be so firm about it, like are you okay

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<v Speaker 2>with her? Like how would you eat her pussy? Or yes,

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<v Speaker 2>it's like leading the interview about me like sorry, like

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<v Speaker 2>don't need like yeah, like are you going to get

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<v Speaker 2>from multiple orgasms? It's not you can't be here, like

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<v Speaker 2>that's that's what we're here.

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<v Speaker 1>For, like you know, walking together.

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<v Speaker 2>Absolutely, I'm getting big into this whole submission thing because

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<v Speaker 2>I'm realizing, like how much power women have.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, do you feel like because you're getting into submission,

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<v Speaker 1>it's bringing you more into your power?

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<v Speaker 2>I think so, and really accepting that I am bossy

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<v Speaker 2>and that's okay, and that men that like it will

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<v Speaker 2>be there and the ones that don't they won't.

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<v Speaker 1>I also think people have the misconception that two men

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<v Speaker 1>are pleasing you, then they can't both like they are

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<v Speaker 1>must be submissive men. But like if you find like

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<v Speaker 1>the right to dominate men who are willing to work

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<v Speaker 1>together to get to the goal of pleasing you at

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<v Speaker 1>their best ability and just like giving you a long

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<v Speaker 1>drawna experience, then it give you such a beautiful thing.

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<v Speaker 2>Absolutely, So you know, I had my session with Sir Marvelous,

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<v Speaker 2>so I saw that he was on the show. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>I definitely told him, and I told, you know, mister

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<v Speaker 2>Bay that's what they call him over on my Patreon,

0:18:05.680 --> 0:18:08.399
<v Speaker 2>mister Bay, that I wanted them to both. I want

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<v Speaker 2>to have an experience with both of them, so I

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<v Speaker 2>may book another session and have both of them there. Yes,

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<v Speaker 2>that's I would like to do that.

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<v Speaker 1>I would like to do that too.

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<v Speaker 2>He's seen me get a central massage before, like from

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<v Speaker 2>a man. No, from well, from pure intimacy, and that

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<v Speaker 2>was amazing. Has he ever seen you with another man

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<v Speaker 2>another man?

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<v Speaker 1>No? Is he open to it?

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<v Speaker 2>Well, now, he says, he's starting to get you know,

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<v Speaker 2>my way of talking.

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<v Speaker 3>About Okay, if you haven't noticed, a Maya has like

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<v Speaker 3>the most soothing voice. So if this soothing ass a

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<v Speaker 3>voice is like bliss some baby like, you know, I

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<v Speaker 3>just really would love some Marvelous to come in and

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<v Speaker 3>you know, put some fire on my pussy while you.

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<v Speaker 1>Lick my neck.

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<v Speaker 3>Absolutely, I'd be like, yes, yes, Tom, Yes, I wanted

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<v Speaker 3>to sit between a guy's legs while another guy like

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<v Speaker 3>plays with me.

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<v Speaker 2>So he's like holding my hair and like kind of

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<v Speaker 2>talking me through it and relaxing, meet your neck, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>and telling me like, don't rush my motherfucking nuts saw

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<v Speaker 2>your ass down, Like you know, I just you know,

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<v Speaker 2>I have vision, have vision.

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<v Speaker 1>You have to have vision to make it happen and

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<v Speaker 1>execute what you need to happen. Sometimes you just forget that.

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<v Speaker 1>You have to be in that moment and really visualize

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<v Speaker 1>it to like will it to you. You gotta really

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<v Speaker 1>feel that ship to bring it into the universe. And

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<v Speaker 1>like last time, to be honest, we did this motherfucking prayer.

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<v Speaker 1>Erica got a fucking male male fucking massage, and I

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<v Speaker 1>was super jealous, but then I wasn't.

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<v Speaker 3>It was like Sierra's prayer, but for a ma male

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<v Speaker 3>female did you record.

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<v Speaker 1>No, We're we're at a party, so it wasn't like

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<v Speaker 1>a place, so I didn't watch.

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<v Speaker 2>Like that looked.

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<v Speaker 4>If you guys haven't listened, you got to listen to

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<v Speaker 4>the episode.

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<v Speaker 1>You know what, I don't think we've talked about an episode.

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<v Speaker 1>It's only on Patreon. Oh really, I think I think

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<v Speaker 1>we're I think we're nervous.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, we'll go to Patreon and go to listen to

0:19:58.600 --> 0:20:01.600
<v Speaker 3>our episode with Black Girl's text, and we did this

0:20:01.880 --> 0:20:06.679
<v Speaker 3>collective prayer to have a male femw and literally that

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<v Speaker 3>night we went to a sex party and then I

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<v Speaker 3>got it.

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<v Speaker 1>It was great.

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<v Speaker 4>I was like, thank you God.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm still working on mine because God seems to be

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<v Speaker 1>out of the office.

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<v Speaker 2>But I've already done enough with you. Okay, let someone

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<v Speaker 2>else get We.

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<v Speaker 3>Can only grant one a good mom's wish.

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<v Speaker 1>We're not a package. I need my own mail mouth.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like mad at her what happened because I

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<v Speaker 1>was jealous, But then I like was like, God, this

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<v Speaker 1>is so hot that I got into it. I was like, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>I know, at least that's my friend.

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<v Speaker 2>I know what I'm grateful for.

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<v Speaker 1>What are you grateful for?

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<v Speaker 2>But okay, I'm grateful for confidence because I feel like

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<v Speaker 2>I did not have it for a long time, and

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<v Speaker 2>like having it feels good as shit. Okay, like to

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<v Speaker 2>not second guess yourself. I feel like it solved half

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<v Speaker 2>of my anxiety issues, just having confidence in being whoever

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<v Speaker 2>the fuck you are, and like you were just saying

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<v Speaker 2>that the people that you're an acquired taste for don't

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<v Speaker 2>want you, and the people that won't even if you

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<v Speaker 2>fake like somebody else, they still won't want you so

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<v Speaker 2>be your fuckingself.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, eventually they all figure it out. You can only

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<v Speaker 3>uphold the facade of even confidence for so long. You know,

0:21:13.040 --> 0:21:15.320
<v Speaker 3>there's a lot of fake confidence people like. There's a

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<v Speaker 3>lot of people that and it's like, you know, I

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<v Speaker 3>believe in the idea that sometimes you have to fake

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<v Speaker 3>it till you make it. Even in confidence, sometimes you

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<v Speaker 3>have to pretend like you have it and then one

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<v Speaker 3>day you wake up and you do.

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<v Speaker 4>But that's you don't just wake up.

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<v Speaker 3>You do the work, yes, and you get there and

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<v Speaker 3>you make those choices, and you show up for yourself

0:21:32.400 --> 0:21:35.760
<v Speaker 3>and you get uncomfortable, and then you wake up and

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<v Speaker 3>then you're like, damn, I'm here.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, you know. I think, especially coming for three women

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<v Speaker 1>who are really talking transparently about the male male female

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<v Speaker 1>they want to have next as soon as possible, I

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<v Speaker 1>think you think that we are all very confident women

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<v Speaker 1>and fear free and like, I think even being a

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<v Speaker 1>like sometimes you can appear confident and it doesn't mean

0:21:57.600 --> 0:22:01.120
<v Speaker 1>necessarily that the internal is a reflection of that. And

0:22:01.240 --> 0:22:04.040
<v Speaker 1>I think because we're on here a lot talking our personal,

0:22:04.160 --> 0:22:07.080
<v Speaker 1>very personal business and maybe not as highly favored or

0:22:07.080 --> 0:22:11.760
<v Speaker 1>traditional fantasies. People would assume that we're fearless and we're confident,

0:22:11.880 --> 0:22:15.320
<v Speaker 1>but it has definitely been a journey, and like, especially

0:22:15.359 --> 0:22:18.920
<v Speaker 1>being women and being sexual women and discussing it, it's

0:22:19.000 --> 0:22:22.040
<v Speaker 1>not always a walk in the park. There's been a

0:22:22.080 --> 0:22:24.720
<v Speaker 1>lot of questioning, you know, ourselves, a lot of fear

0:22:24.880 --> 0:22:28.320
<v Speaker 1>even in doing this, but in doing it continuously and

0:22:28.359 --> 0:22:31.639
<v Speaker 1>being like, well, it's true, Well I said it. I

0:22:31.680 --> 0:22:33.840
<v Speaker 1>said it because I mean, like, maybe I'm going to

0:22:33.880 --> 0:22:35.480
<v Speaker 1>count out ninety percent of the niggas who were like

0:22:35.560 --> 0:22:38.000
<v Speaker 1>that bitch said what she'll never be my wife? Perfect,

0:22:38.560 --> 0:22:40.680
<v Speaker 1>I don't need you anyway. Perfect didn't need you in

0:22:40.680 --> 0:22:43.240
<v Speaker 1>the way anyway. But like, I just think it's taken

0:22:43.320 --> 0:22:46.520
<v Speaker 1>even for us to have practice in not giving a

0:22:46.560 --> 0:22:49.040
<v Speaker 1>fuck and just saying this is who I am and

0:22:49.080 --> 0:22:51.199
<v Speaker 1>it's not going to be for everyone, and like just

0:22:51.240 --> 0:22:55.240
<v Speaker 1>slowly cutting out those people pleasing traits because I'm a

0:22:55.240 --> 0:22:57.800
<v Speaker 1>people pleaser. And I think it just starts to develop

0:22:57.880 --> 0:23:00.440
<v Speaker 1>kind of from like childhood needing attention, trying to fight

0:23:00.480 --> 0:23:03.159
<v Speaker 1>for attention, and then it develops into your adulthood and

0:23:03.160 --> 0:23:05.840
<v Speaker 1>you're not realizing you're just trying to please everyone, but

0:23:05.920 --> 0:23:06.800
<v Speaker 1>you can't.

0:23:06.760 --> 0:23:09.040
<v Speaker 2>And not even pleasing yourself in the midst of doing that.

0:23:09.480 --> 0:23:12.840
<v Speaker 2>I think that my boundaries have changed because I put

0:23:12.880 --> 0:23:15.919
<v Speaker 2>myself first, and I realize the people that get weeded

0:23:15.920 --> 0:23:18.200
<v Speaker 2>out after that. It just shows that you were benefiting

0:23:18.200 --> 0:23:21.960
<v Speaker 2>from me putting you first. And if you're offended by

0:23:22.000 --> 0:23:26.360
<v Speaker 2>me choosing myself, then you aren't for me. And I'm

0:23:26.440 --> 0:23:29.520
<v Speaker 2>really okay with that, And also just understanding that you

0:23:29.560 --> 0:23:32.080
<v Speaker 2>get one explanation out of me and that's it, because

0:23:32.080 --> 0:23:33.639
<v Speaker 2>I'm not going to keep explaining to you why my

0:23:33.680 --> 0:23:36.040
<v Speaker 2>answer is no, or why I don't want to come

0:23:36.040 --> 0:23:39.040
<v Speaker 2>out or whatever. But I have to pick myself and

0:23:39.080 --> 0:23:41.320
<v Speaker 2>I have to pick from whatever my energy is at

0:23:41.320 --> 0:23:43.480
<v Speaker 2>that moment, you know what I mean. So I'm good

0:23:43.520 --> 0:23:45.680
<v Speaker 2>for canceling. I will cancel on somebody fast and say,

0:23:45.680 --> 0:23:48.119
<v Speaker 2>oh why, because I want to always show up as

0:23:48.240 --> 0:23:50.480
<v Speaker 2>best the person that you invite it. And if I'm

0:23:50.480 --> 0:23:53.600
<v Speaker 2>not being that person or or I'm dragging down the

0:23:53.680 --> 0:23:54.960
<v Speaker 2>energy because I don't want to be there, why do

0:23:54.960 --> 0:23:57.280
<v Speaker 2>you want me there? So I'll definitely let you know

0:23:57.280 --> 0:24:01.400
<v Speaker 2>in advance, I'll reschedule with you. Whatever people cancel on me, know, worries,

0:24:01.480 --> 0:24:03.879
<v Speaker 2>it's wine it's weed, it's a couch. I'm good like,

0:24:04.240 --> 0:24:05.320
<v Speaker 2>let me know whenever you're free.

0:24:05.520 --> 0:24:09.040
<v Speaker 1>It takes true confidence to choose yourself and be okay

0:24:09.080 --> 0:24:12.520
<v Speaker 1>with it. I have been going to therapy because I'm

0:24:12.840 --> 0:24:14.280
<v Speaker 1>really committed to doing the work.

0:24:14.400 --> 0:24:15.440
<v Speaker 2>That's a bad bage move.

0:24:15.640 --> 0:24:19.000
<v Speaker 1>And I noticed myself making decisions in like relationships that

0:24:19.040 --> 0:24:21.680
<v Speaker 1>weren't really honoring who I was and like my entirety,

0:24:21.920 --> 0:24:24.119
<v Speaker 1>and I realize there's something I need to obviously need

0:24:24.160 --> 0:24:26.320
<v Speaker 1>to dig deeper if I'm in a position with a

0:24:26.359 --> 0:24:29.880
<v Speaker 1>person that is making me question myself and a part

0:24:29.880 --> 0:24:32.280
<v Speaker 1>of like the things I've been talking to my therapist

0:24:32.359 --> 0:24:36.320
<v Speaker 1>about are just like when you really fuck with yourself,

0:24:36.400 --> 0:24:39.320
<v Speaker 1>When someone comes into your life that doesn't really fuck

0:24:39.359 --> 0:24:42.080
<v Speaker 1>with you, it takes nothing to cut them off because

0:24:42.119 --> 0:24:44.080
<v Speaker 1>you're like, you know what the fuck I am? You

0:24:44.080 --> 0:24:46.320
<v Speaker 1>don't even feel like there's no question is whether I

0:24:46.359 --> 0:24:49.080
<v Speaker 1>should shrink or change for you, because I already know

0:24:49.119 --> 0:24:51.040
<v Speaker 1>I'm the shit. But it really if you don't, if

0:24:51.040 --> 0:24:52.720
<v Speaker 1>you're not in that space to really know you're the shit,

0:24:52.800 --> 0:24:55.480
<v Speaker 1>it will take time to cut off niggas that you

0:24:55.480 --> 0:24:57.359
<v Speaker 1>don't have time for. And that's in friendship, that's in

0:24:57.440 --> 0:25:01.240
<v Speaker 1>family that's in relationships, and and I'm really like learning

0:25:01.760 --> 0:25:05.320
<v Speaker 1>to better hone in on cutting the trim really fast.

0:25:05.359 --> 0:25:08.800
<v Speaker 1>And I think women could all benefit from really starting

0:25:08.800 --> 0:25:11.959
<v Speaker 1>to fuck with themselves so hard that the moment a friend,

0:25:12.119 --> 0:25:15.040
<v Speaker 1>a bitch, a relative comes in trying to sway whatever

0:25:15.119 --> 0:25:17.560
<v Speaker 1>your feelings about yourself, you can spot that shit real

0:25:17.680 --> 0:25:18.959
<v Speaker 1>quick and eliminate it.

0:25:19.160 --> 0:25:21.440
<v Speaker 2>Absolutely. I think that one of the things about even

0:25:21.440 --> 0:25:24.480
<v Speaker 2>that card that come back to play is me spoiling myself.

0:25:24.560 --> 0:25:27.800
<v Speaker 2>I actually date myself first, and it has made a

0:25:27.880 --> 0:25:30.159
<v Speaker 2>hell of a difference. Like a lot of people are like,

0:25:30.200 --> 0:25:31.600
<v Speaker 2>what does it mean? How do you get confident?

0:25:31.680 --> 0:25:31.720
<v Speaker 1>Like?

0:25:31.720 --> 0:25:33.680
<v Speaker 2>Those are the questions you get probably like all the time, Right,

0:25:33.800 --> 0:25:34.960
<v Speaker 2>how'd you become so confident?

0:25:34.960 --> 0:25:35.160
<v Speaker 1>Why?

0:25:35.160 --> 0:25:37.280
<v Speaker 2>Because I'm speaking and you were watching. That doesn't make

0:25:37.320 --> 0:25:39.720
<v Speaker 2>me necessarily the confidence. It is the work that I'm

0:25:39.720 --> 0:25:42.919
<v Speaker 2>doing behind the camera. I was doing this afraid. You know,

0:25:43.160 --> 0:25:46.600
<v Speaker 2>I'm not necessarily afraid anymore. But doing the work means

0:25:46.680 --> 0:25:49.040
<v Speaker 2>waking up and not picking up my phone first. It

0:25:49.119 --> 0:25:51.960
<v Speaker 2>means not going out and sitting alone even when I

0:25:52.040 --> 0:25:54.520
<v Speaker 2>want to be around somebody. Okay, give myself some alone

0:25:54.520 --> 0:25:57.360
<v Speaker 2>time with it first, and then invite someone over, Otherwise

0:25:57.400 --> 0:25:59.960
<v Speaker 2>you're not going to be okay by yourself. Being okay

0:26:00.119 --> 0:26:03.440
<v Speaker 2>by myself is It's where the ideas come from. It's

0:26:03.480 --> 0:26:05.960
<v Speaker 2>where I can see myself, and when I know how

0:26:06.000 --> 0:26:08.400
<v Speaker 2>I feel and I'm in tune with me, it means

0:26:08.400 --> 0:26:10.240
<v Speaker 2>it's less work to get back on track. You ever

0:26:10.280 --> 0:26:11.480
<v Speaker 2>look up and you're like, I don't even know who

0:26:11.480 --> 0:26:13.679
<v Speaker 2>the fuck I am anymore, or I'm so lost, Well,

0:26:13.720 --> 0:26:15.600
<v Speaker 2>guess what I know that People say I'm probably like

0:26:16.119 --> 0:26:19.440
<v Speaker 2>selfish or self centered. I absolutely am because this is self.

0:26:19.560 --> 0:26:22.359
<v Speaker 2>This is what fuels everything. This is what makes me

0:26:22.400 --> 0:26:24.760
<v Speaker 2>a mom that's not trying to traumatize her own child,

0:26:24.840 --> 0:26:27.960
<v Speaker 2>and this is what is helping break generational curses and

0:26:28.440 --> 0:26:31.720
<v Speaker 2>become this badass bitch putting myself first because most of

0:26:31.760 --> 0:26:34.719
<v Speaker 2>our lives were not. We're either listening to other people

0:26:35.480 --> 0:26:38.560
<v Speaker 2>or you know, trying to fucking figure it out. It's

0:26:38.640 --> 0:26:40.480
<v Speaker 2>taken twenty nine years for me to get to this point.

0:26:40.600 --> 0:26:43.280
<v Speaker 2>I'm absolutely self centered. I am at the center of

0:26:43.359 --> 0:26:46.520
<v Speaker 2>it all, and it takes less work to get back

0:26:46.520 --> 0:26:49.360
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0:26:49.400 --> 0:26:53.600
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<v Speaker 3>I was in the car thinking the other day, I

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<v Speaker 3>for I would say four years. I had a relationship,

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<v Speaker 1>It was practice.

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<v Speaker 3>It was a relationships for the last great it does

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<v Speaker 4>But I was thinking to myself.

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<v Speaker 3>I was like, damn, Like am I happy by myself

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<v Speaker 3>right now? Like when I'm sitting here and I'm thinking

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<v Speaker 3>to myself like I am single? Like, yes, I get

0:29:51.560 --> 0:29:54.480
<v Speaker 3>lonely and I want love sometimes and I want affection,

0:29:55.120 --> 0:29:59.400
<v Speaker 3>But like, is me being single like in some way

0:30:00.120 --> 0:30:02.320
<v Speaker 3>making my life less enjoyable?

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<v Speaker 4>Like do I associate my.

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<v Speaker 2>Something missing?

0:30:07.680 --> 0:30:08.680
<v Speaker 1>Yeah? These are something missing?

0:30:08.720 --> 0:30:11.320
<v Speaker 3>And do I associate my discomfort in anything in my life?

0:30:11.480 --> 0:30:14.120
<v Speaker 3>Is it because I don't have a partner? And there

0:30:14.160 --> 0:30:17.120
<v Speaker 3>was a part of me that was like maybe, But

0:30:17.160 --> 0:30:19.560
<v Speaker 3>then there was a larger part of me that was

0:30:19.600 --> 0:30:22.800
<v Speaker 3>like no, not really, And then it was like no, bitch,

0:30:22.840 --> 0:30:24.760
<v Speaker 3>because you know what's on the way. That's the same

0:30:24.760 --> 0:30:27.719
<v Speaker 3>thing with trusting my intuition of like knowing that, like

0:30:28.080 --> 0:30:30.160
<v Speaker 3>what is for me is for me, and whether that's

0:30:30.200 --> 0:30:33.080
<v Speaker 3>a man, whether that is a career, whether that is

0:30:33.360 --> 0:30:35.800
<v Speaker 3>you know, where I'm going to be to two to

0:30:35.880 --> 0:30:40.880
<v Speaker 3>five years from now, Like I trust wholeheartedly in wherever,

0:30:41.040 --> 0:30:43.080
<v Speaker 3>whether I'm not even here anymore, do you know what

0:30:43.120 --> 0:30:46.640
<v Speaker 3>I mean? Because there's that too, you know, Like none

0:30:46.680 --> 0:30:48.920
<v Speaker 3>of this shit guarantee, none of it, you know, Like,

0:30:49.120 --> 0:30:51.560
<v Speaker 3>and I'm morbid, I'm dark. Sometimes I'd be thinking about

0:30:51.560 --> 0:30:53.840
<v Speaker 3>death and shit. But I was like, even if that

0:30:54.080 --> 0:30:57.320
<v Speaker 3>is the truth, that's the journey, that's where it's supposed

0:30:57.360 --> 0:31:00.440
<v Speaker 3>to be. And I was like, I felt felt good

0:31:00.440 --> 0:31:03.520
<v Speaker 3>in that moment. I felt good knowing that, Like I

0:31:03.600 --> 0:31:04.560
<v Speaker 3>just trust the process.

0:31:04.720 --> 0:31:06.440
<v Speaker 2>You're not afraid of what's meant to be anymore.

0:31:06.520 --> 0:31:08.320
<v Speaker 4>And I guess part of that is confidence. Part of

0:31:08.320 --> 0:31:09.080
<v Speaker 4>that is confidence.

0:31:09.080 --> 0:31:12.160
<v Speaker 3>And you know, I think confidence for me is something

0:31:12.200 --> 0:31:14.120
<v Speaker 3>that's an ongoing battle for me. I feel like a

0:31:14.120 --> 0:31:16.480
<v Speaker 3>lot of times I feel very confident. Then there's times

0:31:16.480 --> 0:31:19.960
<v Speaker 3>where I don't. I just don't. And in those moments

0:31:20.560 --> 0:31:24.720
<v Speaker 3>I accept it and then I go through and ask myself, Okay,

0:31:24.720 --> 0:31:27.760
<v Speaker 3>what is it actually that's making me feel insecure? Like

0:31:28.560 --> 0:31:30.680
<v Speaker 3>and do I feel like I'm in competition with someone.

0:31:30.840 --> 0:31:33.600
<v Speaker 3>Do I feel like, why are they farther along and

0:31:33.640 --> 0:31:36.280
<v Speaker 3>then me in this in this space? Or is it

0:31:36.360 --> 0:31:39.680
<v Speaker 3>my body because you know, like you know, my weight

0:31:39.720 --> 0:31:42.440
<v Speaker 3>fluctuates sometimes and sometimes I feel really snatched and other

0:31:42.480 --> 0:31:46.720
<v Speaker 3>times I feel like, eh, whatever. And I think that

0:31:46.720 --> 0:31:50.840
<v Speaker 3>that confidence is always an adjustment. I feel like there

0:31:50.880 --> 0:31:53.640
<v Speaker 3>are times where you know things will come in and

0:31:53.720 --> 0:31:56.280
<v Speaker 3>challenge you and you'll have to check yourself. You'll have

0:31:56.280 --> 0:31:58.040
<v Speaker 3>to check in with yourself and you'll have to I

0:31:58.040 --> 0:32:00.320
<v Speaker 3>think for me, positive self talk has been like really

0:32:00.360 --> 0:32:02.800
<v Speaker 3>transformational for me, and it's something that I'm still working on,

0:32:03.160 --> 0:32:05.640
<v Speaker 3>you know, talking good to yourself and talking out loud

0:32:05.720 --> 0:32:08.600
<v Speaker 3>to yourself. I mean, honestly, Samaya, when you played me

0:32:08.680 --> 0:32:14.120
<v Speaker 3>your what is it affirmation? Your sex affirmations that, like

0:32:14.880 --> 0:32:18.320
<v Speaker 3>I have taken that and started using that as positive

0:32:18.320 --> 0:32:20.200
<v Speaker 3>self talk for myself. Like actually, I've talked about it

0:32:20.280 --> 0:32:23.000
<v Speaker 3>in previous episodes, recording myself talking good to myself and

0:32:23.040 --> 0:32:25.200
<v Speaker 3>listening back to it, because I think a lot of

0:32:25.200 --> 0:32:27.960
<v Speaker 3>times we don't hear ourselves talk good to ourselves only

0:32:27.960 --> 0:32:29.800
<v Speaker 3>in our head because that's what the Internet tells us

0:32:29.800 --> 0:32:31.920
<v Speaker 3>to do. That's what podcasts tell us to do to

0:32:32.360 --> 0:32:35.440
<v Speaker 3>positive self talk, like, you know, but sometimes I need

0:32:35.480 --> 0:32:39.480
<v Speaker 3>to hear myself, you know, because I don't hear my voice,

0:32:39.960 --> 0:32:43.920
<v Speaker 3>and it's just it's an ongoing thing at least for me.

0:32:44.680 --> 0:32:48.320
<v Speaker 3>But confidence is something that is crucial and transformational, and

0:32:48.360 --> 0:32:51.800
<v Speaker 3>I think I think it's something that people they need.

0:32:51.920 --> 0:32:53.640
<v Speaker 3>We need help, we need we really do. We do

0:32:53.720 --> 0:32:57.040
<v Speaker 3>need help, we do need steps, some of us, I do.

0:32:57.160 --> 0:33:01.120
<v Speaker 1>I think I think it's the practice of constantly saying,

0:33:01.160 --> 0:33:05.160
<v Speaker 1>fuck the fear, you know. I think, I mean, we've

0:33:05.280 --> 0:33:08.920
<v Speaker 1>we're all single moms. I mean, you have Bae Wo's

0:33:09.880 --> 0:33:13.600
<v Speaker 1>mister Bay, but we've all had relationships with men we

0:33:13.680 --> 0:33:17.800
<v Speaker 1>had kids with and left and that's not I think

0:33:17.840 --> 0:33:23.560
<v Speaker 1>that's me. Okay, well, you're having to get the record straight.

0:33:23.680 --> 0:33:26.920
<v Speaker 1>These men be leaving so because they're happy, okay. And

0:33:26.920 --> 0:33:28.680
<v Speaker 1>and then you guys are good friends and you flip

0:33:28.920 --> 0:33:31.800
<v Speaker 1>reversed it and you're successful and you're happy and like,

0:33:33.400 --> 0:33:36.720
<v Speaker 1>but it's true, Like I think, I think sometimes we

0:33:36.800 --> 0:33:39.480
<v Speaker 1>get so stuck, like in the fear of the ship,

0:33:39.640 --> 0:33:42.080
<v Speaker 1>that we forget that, like you have to kind of

0:33:42.560 --> 0:33:45.640
<v Speaker 1>step out on faith a lot of fucking times and

0:33:45.720 --> 0:33:48.880
<v Speaker 1>trust the flow of the of your you know, intuition

0:33:49.000 --> 0:33:52.200
<v Speaker 1>and of the universe for for the next steps to happen.

0:33:52.360 --> 0:33:55.000
<v Speaker 1>And I think you have to constantly be like, fuck

0:33:55.040 --> 0:33:56.840
<v Speaker 1>the fear, funk what may not happen? Fuck it, I

0:33:56.840 --> 0:33:58.600
<v Speaker 1>don't know, but we got to do it.

0:33:58.960 --> 0:34:01.760
<v Speaker 2>I think that with confidence, you have to have confidence

0:34:01.880 --> 0:34:05.000
<v Speaker 2>in being wrong as well. And there are so many

0:34:05.240 --> 0:34:07.280
<v Speaker 2>like a lot of people see where I'm I am now,

0:34:07.480 --> 0:34:11.880
<v Speaker 2>but we're talking about three years of mistakes and loneliness

0:34:11.920 --> 0:34:16.880
<v Speaker 2>and questioning myself and aging like ten fucking years just

0:34:16.880 --> 0:34:20.160
<v Speaker 2>trying to be fucking successful. Like it's just like, damn,

0:34:20.200 --> 0:34:22.360
<v Speaker 2>maybe I should just go back to being a regular person,

0:34:22.520 --> 0:34:24.439
<v Speaker 2>like I could go get a job. And that shit

0:34:24.480 --> 0:34:26.840
<v Speaker 2>made me sad and I was like, no, I can't,

0:34:27.000 --> 0:34:30.919
<v Speaker 2>Like this is difficult, but not being myself is more

0:34:30.960 --> 0:34:35.920
<v Speaker 2>difficult and it's more tiring, and it's just passion like

0:34:36.280 --> 0:34:39.120
<v Speaker 2>through all of my life now choosing myself because it's

0:34:39.200 --> 0:34:41.760
<v Speaker 2>like I don't do anything I don't want to do anymore.

0:34:42.000 --> 0:34:44.320
<v Speaker 2>And that's some really, like that's what I wanted to

0:34:44.360 --> 0:34:46.319
<v Speaker 2>grow up for. This is what we want to be

0:34:46.360 --> 0:34:47.919
<v Speaker 2>adults for. I can fuck how I want.

0:34:48.000 --> 0:34:50.200
<v Speaker 3>That's what I mean, honestly, that's what kids do. They

0:34:50.239 --> 0:34:52.239
<v Speaker 3>don't be wanting to do shit they don't feel like doing,

0:34:52.320 --> 0:34:55.320
<v Speaker 3>and they don't and they don't like even you, like

0:34:55.360 --> 0:34:56.879
<v Speaker 3>you went to like if Jamila was on this one

0:34:56.920 --> 0:34:58.799
<v Speaker 3>on this rant on Instagram the other day and I

0:34:58.840 --> 0:35:01.759
<v Speaker 3>felt it though, like wanting to wear what the fuck

0:35:01.840 --> 0:35:04.239
<v Speaker 3>she wanted to wear, and like having conviction about it

0:35:04.600 --> 0:35:06.959
<v Speaker 3>and stomping around because this is who I am.

0:35:07.280 --> 0:35:09.279
<v Speaker 4>Why won't you just let me be who the fuck

0:35:09.320 --> 0:35:10.880
<v Speaker 4>I am? Whereas people will.

0:35:10.760 --> 0:35:13.040
<v Speaker 3>Be like, Okay, well, yeah, you're right, Like you're right,

0:35:13.080 --> 0:35:14.560
<v Speaker 3>this is not who I am, Like okay, fine, I'll

0:35:14.600 --> 0:35:17.000
<v Speaker 3>wear that, or you know, oh it doesn't.

0:35:16.760 --> 0:35:20.520
<v Speaker 1>Look good, okay yeah, and fit the mode.

0:35:20.800 --> 0:35:23.839
<v Speaker 3>Kids are really like the fucking bosses of the world,

0:35:24.000 --> 0:35:27.680
<v Speaker 3>like they are so like they just stand in their truth.

0:35:27.719 --> 0:35:29.959
<v Speaker 3>They stand, they stand by they said what they said,

0:35:30.640 --> 0:35:31.960
<v Speaker 3>you know, and they're not afraid.

0:35:32.040 --> 0:35:34.080
<v Speaker 1>They're not afraid to demand what they want when they

0:35:34.080 --> 0:35:37.440
<v Speaker 1>want it without expect like their only expectation is that

0:35:37.480 --> 0:35:39.680
<v Speaker 1>they're gonna get with there's no fear and to demand it.

0:35:39.960 --> 0:35:43.320
<v Speaker 1>And I started I had to, I had to reevaluate

0:35:43.960 --> 0:35:47.160
<v Speaker 1>and looking at it that way because I was catching myself, like,

0:35:47.440 --> 0:35:50.120
<v Speaker 1>you've asked me for so much shit? You pick I

0:35:50.200 --> 0:35:52.480
<v Speaker 1>pick you up. You're asking me for shit all day long,

0:35:52.719 --> 0:35:54.879
<v Speaker 1>you were asking me for shit, Like, don't I look

0:35:54.960 --> 0:35:55.640
<v Speaker 1>tired to you?

0:35:55.760 --> 0:35:56.279
<v Speaker 2>Scared to tell?

0:35:56.680 --> 0:35:58.680
<v Speaker 1>And then and then it dawned on me. I'm like,

0:35:58.760 --> 0:36:00.840
<v Speaker 1>of course she's asking you for it. You should be

0:36:00.840 --> 0:36:04.680
<v Speaker 1>demanding shit too. In life, we are taught we start

0:36:04.719 --> 0:36:06.480
<v Speaker 1>as a child demanding the shit we want, and then

0:36:06.480 --> 0:36:08.560
<v Speaker 1>someone says, you're asking for too much. You're asking me

0:36:08.600 --> 0:36:11.399
<v Speaker 1>for shit all day long. Stop asking me for shit.

0:36:11.480 --> 0:36:14.399
<v Speaker 1>Be content with what you have. And sometimes that's kids

0:36:14.400 --> 0:36:18.680
<v Speaker 1>are fucking spoiled and unappreciative. But in life, I think

0:36:18.719 --> 0:36:20.880
<v Speaker 1>that's a part of the part, like we should adopt that.

0:36:20.960 --> 0:36:23.040
<v Speaker 1>And maybe it's like I can't give you everything right now.

0:36:23.160 --> 0:36:25.759
<v Speaker 1>You deserve it, You deserve everything you want and more,

0:36:25.920 --> 0:36:27.920
<v Speaker 1>but I can't. I don't have the capacity to deliver

0:36:28.000 --> 0:36:29.400
<v Speaker 1>to you right now at the second. In fact, I

0:36:29.440 --> 0:36:31.359
<v Speaker 1>need a minute. Can you give me a minute? But

0:36:31.520 --> 0:36:33.759
<v Speaker 1>it's like, even in the delivery and even in the

0:36:33.800 --> 0:36:38.439
<v Speaker 1>mindset shift of ourselves and reparenting ourselves is that it's

0:36:38.440 --> 0:36:41.919
<v Speaker 1>okay to request and demand and want and let people

0:36:42.000 --> 0:36:44.920
<v Speaker 1>know what the things you want without hesitation and with conviction,

0:36:45.440 --> 0:36:47.280
<v Speaker 1>and no one should be able to tell you differently,

0:36:47.320 --> 0:36:49.359
<v Speaker 1>because this is what the fuck I want. I want

0:36:49.400 --> 0:36:53.160
<v Speaker 1>the fucking filthy rich driveway. Okay, you know what it is.

0:36:53.320 --> 0:36:56.200
<v Speaker 2>I feel like with that part, we're scared to say

0:36:56.239 --> 0:36:58.920
<v Speaker 2>what we want when it's not normal, when it's different,

0:36:59.120 --> 0:37:01.520
<v Speaker 2>And almost area of my life is like that.

0:37:01.960 --> 0:37:04.120
<v Speaker 1>Well most of them wouldn't like just jump off a

0:37:04.120 --> 0:37:05.640
<v Speaker 1>show and be like, oh, we all really want male

0:37:05.719 --> 0:37:08.440
<v Speaker 1>male female three sums. But guess what.

0:37:08.600 --> 0:37:10.640
<v Speaker 2>So hopefully somebody is watching this and they're like, let

0:37:10.680 --> 0:37:11.479
<v Speaker 2>me go and tell her.

0:37:11.640 --> 0:37:13.200
<v Speaker 4>Let me go ask because I need to get that,

0:37:13.280 --> 0:37:13.520
<v Speaker 4>you know.

0:37:13.560 --> 0:37:15.200
<v Speaker 1>You know, they're like, you know what, you're right, And

0:37:15.239 --> 0:37:16.799
<v Speaker 1>I thought I was a hope for asking, But these

0:37:16.800 --> 0:37:19.560
<v Speaker 1>bitches up here convicting they need it and they need

0:37:19.600 --> 0:37:19.960
<v Speaker 1>it now.

0:37:20.440 --> 0:37:22.560
<v Speaker 2>But you talking about people that's judging who's not getting

0:37:22.600 --> 0:37:24.960
<v Speaker 2>nuts from regular one, regular men. So it's like, of

0:37:24.960 --> 0:37:27.440
<v Speaker 2>course you think that it's outrageous that I want that,

0:37:27.640 --> 0:37:29.520
<v Speaker 2>or men thinking it. I don't really give a fuck

0:37:29.560 --> 0:37:31.399
<v Speaker 2>what you think. It's my nut and I wanted now.

0:37:32.960 --> 0:37:35.640
<v Speaker 2>But as far as like wanting something different, whatever you want,

0:37:35.680 --> 0:37:37.120
<v Speaker 2>if you don't see it, you have to have like

0:37:37.160 --> 0:37:39.759
<v Speaker 2>the energy to create it, to figure out how to

0:37:39.800 --> 0:37:43.400
<v Speaker 2>do it. I know, for me relationship wise, figuring out

0:37:43.480 --> 0:37:45.880
<v Speaker 2>I was polyamorous, that one one person, no matter how

0:37:45.960 --> 0:37:47.920
<v Speaker 2>much I love them, will ever be enough for me.

0:37:48.480 --> 0:37:52.359
<v Speaker 2>It'll never I'm so like not judgmental that if someone

0:37:52.360 --> 0:37:55.680
<v Speaker 2>else wanted a partner, my only requirement is that they're cool,

0:37:55.719 --> 0:37:58.239
<v Speaker 2>Like it's a village. It takes a village, So you

0:37:58.239 --> 0:38:00.080
<v Speaker 2>can't have a partner that's like, oh well, like as

0:38:00.120 --> 0:38:01.879
<v Speaker 2>long as I don't know she exists, Like no, we're

0:38:01.880 --> 0:38:02.600
<v Speaker 2>not doing that shit.

0:38:02.760 --> 0:38:03.720
<v Speaker 1>Like it doesn't make sense.

0:38:03.920 --> 0:38:06.120
<v Speaker 2>It doesn't make sense. And it's one of the reasons

0:38:06.120 --> 0:38:08.840
<v Speaker 2>that for me, I don't know if marriage is going

0:38:08.920 --> 0:38:10.600
<v Speaker 2>to be back on the table. You know, I've had

0:38:10.640 --> 0:38:13.560
<v Speaker 2>it before and it it just I was. We just

0:38:13.640 --> 0:38:15.840
<v Speaker 2>were so different, we didn't want the same things, And

0:38:15.920 --> 0:38:19.200
<v Speaker 2>I think I would have literally been miserable and compartmentalized

0:38:19.239 --> 0:38:21.360
<v Speaker 2>most of who I am if I was not a

0:38:21.400 --> 0:38:25.600
<v Speaker 2>polyamorous woman. Like, polyamory has allowed me to meet so

0:38:25.680 --> 0:38:26.320
<v Speaker 2>many people.

0:38:26.880 --> 0:38:28.359
<v Speaker 1>You know, me and somebody are like the same, We're

0:38:28.400 --> 0:38:31.279
<v Speaker 1>like get super energized by meeting any people we're just

0:38:31.320 --> 0:38:32.839
<v Speaker 1>like lovers. She's like, do you have a new lover.

0:38:32.920 --> 0:38:34.960
<v Speaker 1>I'll listen to you and talk to you about him.

0:38:34.960 --> 0:38:37.560
<v Speaker 1>No one cares. I care. You love him, just like

0:38:37.600 --> 0:38:41.160
<v Speaker 1>you loved the last one. I don't know, I understand you,

0:38:40.280 --> 0:38:44.440
<v Speaker 1>like no is here so many No, for sure, he's

0:38:44.440 --> 0:38:47.760
<v Speaker 1>a jump flame. I could feel a girl. I'm like, yes, girl,

0:38:47.840 --> 0:38:49.840
<v Speaker 1>I know it's true.

0:38:49.840 --> 0:38:52.879
<v Speaker 2>And it's real, and it changes, and what I want

0:38:52.920 --> 0:38:56.080
<v Speaker 2>sexually changes, you.

0:38:56.000 --> 0:38:58.920
<v Speaker 1>Know, And so often we're taught, especially as women, like

0:38:58.960 --> 0:39:01.560
<v Speaker 1>you can like you, I don't know, like you can.

0:39:01.719 --> 0:39:04.080
<v Speaker 1>You're you're monogamous and that's it. You know, you're Polly

0:39:04.200 --> 0:39:09.400
<v Speaker 1>like i'd begamous. I've been a cheater. I've been a cheater.

0:39:09.520 --> 0:39:11.319
<v Speaker 1>You know how often I've been in a relationship with

0:39:11.360 --> 0:39:13.719
<v Speaker 1>someone and like, you know who I am starting and

0:39:13.760 --> 0:39:16.160
<v Speaker 1>then continue in the relationship and they're like, you're not

0:39:16.200 --> 0:39:17.799
<v Speaker 1>going to find a guy who's going to do that.

0:39:18.040 --> 0:39:19.719
<v Speaker 1>You're not going to find a guy who's going to like,

0:39:19.840 --> 0:39:22.560
<v Speaker 1>let you just be out here. Not that I just

0:39:22.560 --> 0:39:26.560
<v Speaker 1>want to be out here, but if experience experiential fucks

0:39:26.600 --> 0:39:29.160
<v Speaker 1>come up, I might want to indulge in this experience

0:39:29.200 --> 0:39:30.759
<v Speaker 1>with this person. And does that mean I love you

0:39:30.840 --> 0:39:33.759
<v Speaker 1>less know? And does that mean I don't get jealous? No?

0:39:33.960 --> 0:39:36.000
<v Speaker 1>Does that mean like you're not going to meet someone too?

0:39:36.000 --> 0:39:38.080
<v Speaker 1>And I'm gonna have to like check my feelings and like,

0:39:38.560 --> 0:39:41.440
<v Speaker 1>but I'm willing to be like I know it's not perfect,

0:39:41.440 --> 0:39:43.320
<v Speaker 1>it's not going to be perfect, but let's be human

0:39:43.360 --> 0:39:45.520
<v Speaker 1>about it and walk through it. And like that you're

0:39:45.520 --> 0:39:47.120
<v Speaker 1>out how to get and figure out how to get

0:39:47.160 --> 0:39:50.759
<v Speaker 1>there together, you know. Like that's one thing about me

0:39:50.880 --> 0:39:54.280
<v Speaker 1>and Orlando, Like I could tell let get anything, literally anything.

0:39:54.239 --> 0:39:55.840
<v Speaker 1>I can tell me anything, and I'll be jealous for

0:39:55.840 --> 0:39:59.960
<v Speaker 1>five minutes. And I'm jealous right now anyway, Like you over,

0:40:00.080 --> 0:40:03.319
<v Speaker 1>I'm like mm hmm, I'm over right now. But like

0:40:03.520 --> 0:40:06.400
<v Speaker 1>it's just it's really it takes practice and so often,

0:40:06.520 --> 0:40:09.279
<v Speaker 1>like I've been told I'm not going to find a

0:40:09.360 --> 0:40:12.399
<v Speaker 1>husband because blah blah blah. You know, you do this,

0:40:12.520 --> 0:40:14.680
<v Speaker 1>your job, this, you talk about these things, and like

0:40:14.880 --> 0:40:17.920
<v Speaker 1>guys don't really fuck with that. But it takes the courage.

0:40:18.080 --> 0:40:19.640
<v Speaker 1>Like I don't really give a fuck with guys fuck

0:40:19.680 --> 0:40:21.360
<v Speaker 1>with I, fuck with me, and then that guy is

0:40:21.400 --> 0:40:23.239
<v Speaker 1>going to come as a result of fucking with me

0:40:23.600 --> 0:40:25.399
<v Speaker 1>because I only want people who are going to meet

0:40:25.400 --> 0:40:28.319
<v Speaker 1>me at my level. And sometimes it just requires for

0:40:28.400 --> 0:40:31.319
<v Speaker 1>you to just cut off things that are comfortable. I've

0:40:31.320 --> 0:40:34.239
<v Speaker 1>said this before, like, sometimes you have friends and relationships

0:40:34.239 --> 0:40:37.800
<v Speaker 1>that you've had for so long, they have this idea

0:40:37.840 --> 0:40:40.359
<v Speaker 1>of who you are, and that they can't even see

0:40:40.320 --> 0:40:42.120
<v Speaker 1>you when you grow, They can't even see when you

0:40:42.120 --> 0:40:42.680
<v Speaker 1>actually will.

0:40:42.920 --> 0:40:44.920
<v Speaker 4>They will hold you hostage to that person. They will

0:40:44.960 --> 0:40:46.200
<v Speaker 4>hold you hostage to the person that.

0:40:46.200 --> 0:40:47.960
<v Speaker 1>You used to be, even if that's not unimore, even

0:40:48.000 --> 0:40:50.960
<v Speaker 1>if it's not something you've actually agreed to, And then

0:40:51.040 --> 0:40:53.600
<v Speaker 1>you start seeing yourself in that light because that's how

0:40:53.640 --> 0:40:56.239
<v Speaker 1>everyone else is seeing you. And like I've talked about

0:40:56.239 --> 0:40:58.719
<v Speaker 1>this before when me and Erica started this and we

0:40:58.760 --> 0:41:00.840
<v Speaker 1>didn't really know the direction we're going in. We just

0:41:00.880 --> 0:41:02.600
<v Speaker 1>know we're single moms and we want to have a

0:41:02.640 --> 0:41:05.279
<v Speaker 1>couple of threesomes and smoke some weed and mind our

0:41:05.280 --> 0:41:08.280
<v Speaker 1>business and be happy, you know, And is that what happened?

0:41:08.320 --> 0:41:12.280
<v Speaker 1>That's kind of story. Just do single moms?

0:41:12.560 --> 0:41:12.759
<v Speaker 2>You know?

0:41:12.840 --> 0:41:15.279
<v Speaker 3>I want to smoke weed and have threesome one does it?

0:41:15.360 --> 0:41:19.440
<v Speaker 3>One to date freely and I'm kidding, live peaceful.

0:41:19.080 --> 0:41:22.399
<v Speaker 1>Lies, be on fucking hinge. Maybe have a couple of threesomes,

0:41:22.680 --> 0:41:25.279
<v Speaker 1>drop the kids off, pick them up on Monday. And

0:41:25.920 --> 0:41:29.200
<v Speaker 1>I had really close friends tell me like, I don't

0:41:29.239 --> 0:41:31.160
<v Speaker 1>think this is really the Like I don't know if

0:41:31.160 --> 0:41:33.040
<v Speaker 1>we're I don't know if people are going to fuck

0:41:33.080 --> 0:41:34.840
<v Speaker 1>with that, you know, I don't know if that lane

0:41:34.920 --> 0:41:37.560
<v Speaker 1>is something that is realistic if you want to be

0:41:37.640 --> 0:41:39.640
<v Speaker 1>successful later, Like you know, brands are not going to

0:41:39.680 --> 0:41:42.560
<v Speaker 1>fuck with you. If you say white bitches, white bitches,

0:41:42.560 --> 0:41:48.640
<v Speaker 1>white bitches, white bitches, white bitches, I'll say whatever I want,

0:41:48.880 --> 0:41:50.560
<v Speaker 1>you know. And I have some white bitches that are

0:41:50.600 --> 0:41:52.799
<v Speaker 1>my friends, and if you my friend, you know, it's

0:41:52.880 --> 0:41:56.360
<v Speaker 1>not personal. But the point is, it's like I've literally

0:41:56.400 --> 0:41:58.279
<v Speaker 1>had to There was some when I met Erica. I

0:41:58.280 --> 0:42:01.279
<v Speaker 1>told Erica, like, we're not long term friends. We haven't

0:42:01.320 --> 0:42:04.080
<v Speaker 1>been friends for Hella long that we've literally became friends

0:42:04.080 --> 0:42:06.240
<v Speaker 1>on the podcast in the last three and a half years.

0:42:06.640 --> 0:42:10.440
<v Speaker 1>But there was a safety and just being showing up

0:42:10.480 --> 0:42:12.680
<v Speaker 1>as I as I came, and that I knew I

0:42:12.719 --> 0:42:15.880
<v Speaker 1>could do that, and it required that I paused some

0:42:15.920 --> 0:42:18.799
<v Speaker 1>of those long term friendships that had been like, oh,

0:42:18.800 --> 0:42:20.600
<v Speaker 1>you know, you know how melas you know Jamala's you

0:42:20.600 --> 0:42:22.160
<v Speaker 1>know's gonna get you know, don't take your clothes off,

0:42:22.200 --> 0:42:24.960
<v Speaker 1>like like, don't take your shirt off. Don't do that

0:42:24.960 --> 0:42:27.920
<v Speaker 1>when we get there, Okay, like relax, I'm like, I

0:42:27.920 --> 0:42:29.920
<v Speaker 1>am so sick a bit just telling me to relax.

0:42:30.400 --> 0:42:31.400
<v Speaker 1>This is me relaxed.

0:42:32.239 --> 0:42:32.920
<v Speaker 4>I am relaxed.

0:42:32.960 --> 0:42:33.600
<v Speaker 2>I am relaxed.

0:42:33.680 --> 0:42:34.200
<v Speaker 4>I'm relaxed.

0:42:34.280 --> 0:42:37.279
<v Speaker 3>Topic now I'm uncurt and now I'm not relaxed because

0:42:37.280 --> 0:42:37.960
<v Speaker 3>my clothes are on.

0:42:38.719 --> 0:42:39.680
<v Speaker 1>This is rerue.

0:42:40.120 --> 0:42:42.880
<v Speaker 2>I think that what you said it goes back to

0:42:42.960 --> 0:42:45.160
<v Speaker 2>what are we still calling this? Fuck the fear, which

0:42:45.200 --> 0:42:47.040
<v Speaker 2>is do it? Do it scared? Do it when you

0:42:47.080 --> 0:42:49.239
<v Speaker 2>don't know what it looks like, because at the end

0:42:49.239 --> 0:42:50.319
<v Speaker 2>of the day, you don't want to got to live there,

0:42:50.320 --> 0:42:53.000
<v Speaker 2>goddamn life like and at the end of the day,

0:42:53.040 --> 0:42:54.640
<v Speaker 2>so what if people don't FUCKU with what you're talking about?

0:42:54.640 --> 0:42:56.200
<v Speaker 2>It's hello people that didn't fuck with the fact that

0:42:56.239 --> 0:42:57.239
<v Speaker 2>I sugg dick for a living.

0:42:57.680 --> 0:42:59.319
<v Speaker 1>And I wish we could stopped saying that because you

0:42:59.360 --> 0:43:01.719
<v Speaker 1>don't get sound you so much, but it's not what

0:43:01.760 --> 0:43:04.319
<v Speaker 1>you do. You teach people how to suck dick for

0:43:04.400 --> 0:43:05.600
<v Speaker 1>a living, well, I have.

0:43:05.560 --> 0:43:07.880
<v Speaker 4>To suck you said you such silicone for a living?

0:43:08.600 --> 0:43:10.799
<v Speaker 2>See that don't sound like let's book her is?

0:43:10.800 --> 0:43:13.080
<v Speaker 4>That's not that sexy? It don't sound it's like silicone

0:43:13.120 --> 0:43:13.600
<v Speaker 4>for a living.

0:43:13.880 --> 0:43:17.200
<v Speaker 2>Yes, so you know I have sex or whatever, teach

0:43:17.239 --> 0:43:19.719
<v Speaker 2>sex or whatever for a living, and a lot of

0:43:19.719 --> 0:43:21.319
<v Speaker 2>people that didn't fuck with it are the same people

0:43:21.360 --> 0:43:24.759
<v Speaker 2>that's in my dms now either wanting an interview or oh,

0:43:24.760 --> 0:43:26.439
<v Speaker 2>can you give me something because you trust me, because

0:43:26.440 --> 0:43:28.000
<v Speaker 2>you know I'm not going to judge you as you

0:43:28.000 --> 0:43:31.080
<v Speaker 2>were judging me, right, Like why do you even give

0:43:31.120 --> 0:43:32.920
<v Speaker 2>a fuck what anybody else is doing? And why do

0:43:32.920 --> 0:43:34.319
<v Speaker 2>you give a fuck if they give a fuck what

0:43:34.360 --> 0:43:36.680
<v Speaker 2>you're doing, Like they can't beat your as well? If

0:43:36.680 --> 0:43:39.680
<v Speaker 2>they can, then maybe that's your issue. But if you

0:43:39.680 --> 0:43:41.759
<v Speaker 2>can't be my ass at this point, it's like what

0:43:41.840 --> 0:43:45.160
<v Speaker 2>you're not paying my bills? Like I'm not scared. I'm

0:43:45.200 --> 0:43:47.360
<v Speaker 2>just I'm not scared anymore, and I'm not scared of

0:43:47.400 --> 0:43:50.600
<v Speaker 2>myself and my potential and what could be because betting

0:43:50.600 --> 0:43:53.799
<v Speaker 2>on myself has been the best turnout of every move

0:43:53.840 --> 0:43:57.120
<v Speaker 2>I've made ever since doing think about it. If you're

0:43:57.520 --> 0:43:59.880
<v Speaker 2>living a life and you're doing something one hundred percent,

0:44:00.480 --> 0:44:01.880
<v Speaker 2>I know for a fact that I'm going to get

0:44:01.880 --> 0:44:04.080
<v Speaker 2>one hundred percent back of what it's supposed to be.

0:44:04.560 --> 0:44:06.400
<v Speaker 2>But when you're making these other moves in lives for

0:44:06.480 --> 0:44:09.520
<v Speaker 2>other people, you're half asking them because you don't want

0:44:09.520 --> 0:44:12.000
<v Speaker 2>to do it, and that's why you're getting half assed results.

0:44:12.320 --> 0:44:15.000
<v Speaker 2>I show up one hundred and ten percent as Somaya,

0:44:15.440 --> 0:44:17.400
<v Speaker 2>and I get one hundred and ten percent back, And

0:44:17.400 --> 0:44:20.719
<v Speaker 2>it's looking like that. And started the business with three

0:44:20.760 --> 0:44:23.480
<v Speaker 2>and a half years ago. I didn't really start choosing

0:44:23.480 --> 0:44:25.479
<v Speaker 2>myself until a year ago. And that's a year ago

0:44:25.520 --> 0:44:29.400
<v Speaker 2>when everything changed. Y'all have seen Sexual Essentials, but I

0:44:29.400 --> 0:44:31.800
<v Speaker 2>started Sexual Essentials on a credit card, you know what

0:44:31.840 --> 0:44:36.560
<v Speaker 2>I mean? No money, no nothing, just figuring it out

0:44:36.800 --> 0:44:39.680
<v Speaker 2>and life will meet you where you're at. You got

0:44:39.800 --> 0:44:41.799
<v Speaker 2>to do the work, though, What do you think it

0:44:41.920 --> 0:44:45.000
<v Speaker 2>was a year ago that really just that's something turned

0:44:45.000 --> 0:44:47.480
<v Speaker 2>for you? Was it something specific or was it just

0:44:47.640 --> 0:44:49.600
<v Speaker 2>kind of like starting to really see the success of

0:44:49.600 --> 0:44:53.799
<v Speaker 2>your business grow. Maybe it's like eighteen months ago. So

0:44:53.920 --> 0:44:56.960
<v Speaker 2>when my husband left, he literally was just like, I

0:44:57.000 --> 0:45:00.440
<v Speaker 2>think that you're amazing, but I am not happy. He

0:45:00.560 --> 0:45:03.240
<v Speaker 2>was like, our life is good and I'm not happy

0:45:03.280 --> 0:45:07.799
<v Speaker 2>in it. And resentment came and so I realized that

0:45:08.160 --> 0:45:10.000
<v Speaker 2>I didn't want to. I didn't want to be the

0:45:10.000 --> 0:45:13.319
<v Speaker 2>one to leave because I believed in marriage right, and

0:45:13.480 --> 0:45:15.760
<v Speaker 2>I honestly think for that last year we were tussling

0:45:15.800 --> 0:45:19.720
<v Speaker 2>back and forth with basically like knowing that this isn't working,

0:45:19.760 --> 0:45:22.759
<v Speaker 2>but coming from households of marriage and feeling like we

0:45:22.760 --> 0:45:25.400
<v Speaker 2>can't get a divorce though. And then it's like in

0:45:25.440 --> 0:45:27.960
<v Speaker 2>this world, when you tell people, oh I'm just not happy,

0:45:28.000 --> 0:45:30.040
<v Speaker 2>you know what they tell you, well, sometimes marriage isn't

0:45:30.040 --> 0:45:33.080
<v Speaker 2>always happy, and da da da da da. No, in

0:45:33.200 --> 0:45:35.879
<v Speaker 2>my best self, he wasn't happy with me, and that's

0:45:35.920 --> 0:45:38.840
<v Speaker 2>only making me feel bad about myself because this is

0:45:38.840 --> 0:45:40.680
<v Speaker 2>a person that I love that thinks of me that way.

0:45:41.280 --> 0:45:44.239
<v Speaker 2>And I literally told him I understand and thank you

0:45:44.320 --> 0:45:46.440
<v Speaker 2>so much for telling me. And bitch, I've been off

0:45:46.480 --> 0:45:53.080
<v Speaker 2>the chain ever fucking since. And not because it's like, oh,

0:45:53.080 --> 0:45:55.160
<v Speaker 2>well i'm single now. No, it was like there were

0:45:55.160 --> 0:45:56.839
<v Speaker 2>things I wasn't doing in my business that I wanted

0:45:56.880 --> 0:45:58.960
<v Speaker 2>to do simply because I knew that he kind of

0:45:59.040 --> 0:46:01.440
<v Speaker 2>was judging me or you know what I mean, and

0:46:02.880 --> 0:46:04.960
<v Speaker 2>it's just like with nobody judging me, it was just

0:46:05.000 --> 0:46:07.319
<v Speaker 2>like I'm never going back to that again, feeling like

0:46:07.360 --> 0:46:10.000
<v Speaker 2>I have to do what if you don't love the

0:46:10.000 --> 0:46:12.640
<v Speaker 2>person that I am, then move the fuck on.

0:46:13.160 --> 0:46:14.319
<v Speaker 1>Period. Why are you.

0:46:14.320 --> 0:46:16.359
<v Speaker 2>Trying to change me? I'm not trying to change you.

0:46:17.280 --> 0:46:19.840
<v Speaker 1>That's not love. If you're in a relationship with someone

0:46:19.880 --> 0:46:24.280
<v Speaker 1>and that their love is circumstantial, if you do this,

0:46:24.560 --> 0:46:27.719
<v Speaker 1>then we can be that. Then like, if what that's

0:46:27.760 --> 0:46:29.960
<v Speaker 1>my thing? If what I do naturally it just makes

0:46:30.000 --> 0:46:32.319
<v Speaker 1>me happy doesn't also make you happy. We're probably not

0:46:32.360 --> 0:46:35.000
<v Speaker 1>aligned in that. I'm not saying that, like relationships don't

0:46:35.000 --> 0:46:39.120
<v Speaker 1>require like compromise, but I'm gonna want to naturally do

0:46:39.120 --> 0:46:40.840
<v Speaker 1>the compromise if I don't, if I feel.

0:46:40.600 --> 0:46:43.600
<v Speaker 3>Like it's hurting me like they I feel like people

0:46:43.640 --> 0:46:46.160
<v Speaker 3>wrap compromise and so many packages.

0:46:46.200 --> 0:46:50.000
<v Speaker 1>A bullshit package where like that it's.

0:46:50.040 --> 0:46:54.120
<v Speaker 3>Like manipulation shows up in a package that says compromise

0:46:54.160 --> 0:46:54.480
<v Speaker 3>on it.

0:46:54.640 --> 0:46:55.319
<v Speaker 4>You know what I mean.

0:46:55.680 --> 0:46:57.880
<v Speaker 3>And it's just like you have to be able to

0:46:58.320 --> 0:47:02.600
<v Speaker 3>kind of know the difference, and you do know the difference.

0:47:02.640 --> 0:47:06.200
<v Speaker 3>Your body tells you every time. I think we deny,

0:47:06.600 --> 0:47:10.120
<v Speaker 3>like like we deny our intuition, We deny like the

0:47:10.160 --> 0:47:13.399
<v Speaker 3>basic functions of how our bodies react to certain things.

0:47:13.440 --> 0:47:15.680
<v Speaker 3>That are said to us, the things that you know,

0:47:15.719 --> 0:47:18.040
<v Speaker 3>when we lay next to someone and we feel like

0:47:18.840 --> 0:47:19.719
<v Speaker 3>something ain't right.

0:47:20.080 --> 0:47:22.800
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, and even and especially even in sex.

0:47:22.840 --> 0:47:26.160
<v Speaker 4>You know, I think, like you know, when the compromise

0:47:26.280 --> 0:47:28.520
<v Speaker 4>is not it's not you, it's something you can't compromise.

0:47:28.640 --> 0:47:31.160
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, this just isn't working. And we're scared to start over.

0:47:31.280 --> 0:47:33.399
<v Speaker 2>We're scared of what other people think when we start over,

0:47:33.520 --> 0:47:36.960
<v Speaker 2>and we're scared to be wrong. I be loud and

0:47:37.000 --> 0:47:41.400
<v Speaker 2>wrong because the mistakes is really how I got to

0:47:41.480 --> 0:47:44.240
<v Speaker 2>the thing that worked, and I need to fail hard

0:47:44.360 --> 0:47:47.399
<v Speaker 2>and good. So I know, without a doubt in my mind,

0:47:47.440 --> 0:47:49.680
<v Speaker 2>Oh no, that was not for me. When you kind

0:47:49.680 --> 0:47:51.440
<v Speaker 2>of do stuff a little bit, then you kind of

0:47:51.480 --> 0:47:52.759
<v Speaker 2>think and later, well, what maybe if I would have

0:47:52.800 --> 0:47:55.040
<v Speaker 2>went a little bit harder. Maybe I don't have No.

0:47:55.120 --> 0:47:57.200
<v Speaker 2>Maybe it's because everything that I'm doing, i'm doing it

0:47:57.200 --> 0:47:59.680
<v Speaker 2>because I super believe in it, and if it don't work,

0:48:00.040 --> 0:48:01.960
<v Speaker 2>it's not even in my mind. No, no, no, no,

0:48:02.000 --> 0:48:04.799
<v Speaker 2>that's how I feel about anal No. No, no, you

0:48:04.800 --> 0:48:08.000
<v Speaker 2>know I do. But it was it was a long

0:48:08.120 --> 0:48:10.600
<v Speaker 2>It was a long no for a long time, but

0:48:11.320 --> 0:48:12.880
<v Speaker 2>I was like, fuck it, we just got to do it,

0:48:12.920 --> 0:48:15.480
<v Speaker 2>and I did it, and it was she went towards.

0:48:15.760 --> 0:48:17.719
<v Speaker 1>She walked towards the fear. I walked towards.

0:48:18.000 --> 0:48:19.479
<v Speaker 2>But it was a good. Oh my god.

0:48:19.719 --> 0:48:23.400
<v Speaker 1>It's also like I think women are taught to be

0:48:23.520 --> 0:48:26.239
<v Speaker 1>safe and and that's so it's our human nature. But

0:48:26.400 --> 0:48:32.320
<v Speaker 1>feels secure, what feels safe, But sometimes safety will keep

0:48:33.000 --> 0:48:38.640
<v Speaker 1>will keep you small, betting small and sacrificing your happiness.

0:48:38.719 --> 0:48:42.160
<v Speaker 1>Like when me and Erica first started Good Moms, probably

0:48:42.239 --> 0:48:46.000
<v Speaker 1>like six months in, I was dating this young guy

0:48:46.160 --> 0:48:48.880
<v Speaker 1>in Jersey. A bitch got pregnant and I was like,

0:48:48.960 --> 0:48:50.719
<v Speaker 1>he really wanted me to have this baby we had

0:48:50.760 --> 0:48:54.120
<v Speaker 1>just started. Erica was like trying to fake be supportive.

0:48:56.320 --> 0:48:59.480
<v Speaker 1>You can do whatever you want, but I just don't know.

0:48:59.640 --> 0:49:06.279
<v Speaker 1>And I he has a job that he saved ten

0:49:06.320 --> 0:49:10.360
<v Speaker 1>thousand dollars once, so he's secure. I was like, probably

0:49:10.360 --> 0:49:12.200
<v Speaker 1>not in a good place, and I wasn't. I'd only

0:49:12.239 --> 0:49:14.920
<v Speaker 1>been single for like two years and my last, my last,

0:49:15.000 --> 0:49:18.919
<v Speaker 1>my last baby, daddy. This is so good. I also

0:49:18.920 --> 0:49:21.120
<v Speaker 1>want to talk about growth, because I never talked about

0:49:21.120 --> 0:49:22.640
<v Speaker 1>this on the show because I was too embarrassed to

0:49:22.800 --> 0:49:25.439
<v Speaker 1>admit that this was happening. About what was happening, even

0:49:25.440 --> 0:49:26.840
<v Speaker 1>though I was talking about all this other ship. But

0:49:27.040 --> 0:49:29.680
<v Speaker 1>he was one of those guys who were not really

0:49:29.800 --> 0:49:33.160
<v Speaker 1>understanding the vision. He was like, he's like, you should

0:49:33.160 --> 0:49:36.080
<v Speaker 1>just move to New Jersey and be with me. And

0:49:36.680 --> 0:49:40.920
<v Speaker 1>I was like, okay, I really waited a long, right,

0:49:41.000 --> 0:49:42.560
<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna be a fucking New Jersey housewife.

0:49:42.800 --> 0:49:45.520
<v Speaker 4>So my I was like so drinking.

0:49:45.800 --> 0:49:46.880
<v Speaker 1>I was like, we're gonna do the podcast.

0:49:46.920 --> 0:49:51.480
<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna move hear Eric she was.

0:49:51.880 --> 0:49:54.120
<v Speaker 1>She wasn't good at faking it because we weren't as

0:49:54.160 --> 0:49:56.960
<v Speaker 1>close yet, so she was like trying to be like supportive,

0:49:57.719 --> 0:49:58.560
<v Speaker 1>but the point I.

0:49:58.640 --> 0:50:02.040
<v Speaker 4>Was supportive, but she knew that was hired of everyone's shit.

0:50:02.160 --> 0:50:04.080
<v Speaker 3>She knew was a dumb ass idea because it was

0:50:04.239 --> 0:50:06.520
<v Speaker 3>looked like I seem like I'm a bitch. I just

0:50:06.680 --> 0:50:10.160
<v Speaker 3>knew that, Like I knew that you were going to

0:50:10.200 --> 0:50:11.920
<v Speaker 3>make the decision you were going to make. I was

0:50:12.000 --> 0:50:13.640
<v Speaker 3>just going to be support what I mean, I wasn't

0:50:13.640 --> 0:50:15.520
<v Speaker 3>I'm never going to tell someone what to do in

0:50:15.560 --> 0:50:17.960
<v Speaker 3>their life. I knew that Jamila was going to make

0:50:18.000 --> 0:50:19.600
<v Speaker 3>the choice that she was going to make. I also

0:50:19.680 --> 0:50:21.799
<v Speaker 3>knew that, like we were onto something, and like I

0:50:21.800 --> 0:50:25.040
<v Speaker 3>also knew that she knew that you know and like open.

0:50:25.280 --> 0:50:26.160
<v Speaker 2>That she does what you want.

0:50:26.320 --> 0:50:29.560
<v Speaker 1>But I literally had to bet on myself. I was like,

0:50:29.640 --> 0:50:32.520
<v Speaker 1>it was new. Nobody understood what we were doing. It

0:50:32.640 --> 0:50:35.239
<v Speaker 1>wasn't popular opinion. They're like, how are you going to

0:50:35.280 --> 0:50:36.680
<v Speaker 1>make money? I was like, I don't know. Don't ask

0:50:36.719 --> 0:50:39.280
<v Speaker 1>me those kinds of questions. I'm just telling my business

0:50:39.280 --> 0:50:41.959
<v Speaker 1>on the internet right now. Okay, let's just start going

0:50:42.040 --> 0:50:45.759
<v Speaker 1>to lean to big places. Mom, Okay, everybody needs to

0:50:45.760 --> 0:50:47.600
<v Speaker 1>know about my three sons for my success to happen.

0:50:49.440 --> 0:50:54.640
<v Speaker 1>But literally, my ass was so fucking I felt it

0:50:54.719 --> 0:50:57.520
<v Speaker 1>so deeply in my spirit at already I had a

0:50:57.520 --> 0:51:00.319
<v Speaker 1>baby with someone I knew for years. It did not

0:51:00.360 --> 0:51:03.120
<v Speaker 1>work out. I remembered the feeling of being miserable and

0:51:03.160 --> 0:51:06.080
<v Speaker 1>feeling stuck, and the courage it took me to get

0:51:06.160 --> 0:51:08.320
<v Speaker 1>up out of that shit, and it took so fucking

0:51:08.440 --> 0:51:11.280
<v Speaker 1>much to cut it off that Like, as I was falling,

0:51:11.400 --> 0:51:13.480
<v Speaker 1>like sinking back into that place with this new nigga

0:51:13.480 --> 0:51:15.160
<v Speaker 1>who had a job, I was like, you guys have

0:51:15.200 --> 0:51:20.400
<v Speaker 1>a job. But I was just like, and I literally

0:51:20.440 --> 0:51:22.359
<v Speaker 1>waited so long. I was like, are're gonna have a baby?

0:51:22.400 --> 0:51:26.600
<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna have a family, and like literally, I was like,

0:51:26.640 --> 0:51:28.840
<v Speaker 1>I can't do this. And I went to the fucking

0:51:29.160 --> 0:51:31.440
<v Speaker 1>clinic and they're like, this is the last day that

0:51:31.480 --> 0:51:32.200
<v Speaker 1>you can do this.

0:51:32.280 --> 0:51:32.920
<v Speaker 2>And I was like, oh.

0:51:33.200 --> 0:51:34.879
<v Speaker 1>I was in the lobby like should I leave? Should

0:51:34.880 --> 0:51:37.279
<v Speaker 1>I leave? Should I stay? Should I leave? Stay? Stay? Say?

0:51:37.320 --> 0:51:39.920
<v Speaker 1>And I was like something rooted my fucking ass in

0:51:39.960 --> 0:51:42.360
<v Speaker 1>that waiting seat and I did not get the fuck up.

0:51:42.400 --> 0:51:44.919
<v Speaker 1>I'm like, bitch, if you leave today, there's no coming back.

0:51:45.440 --> 0:51:48.160
<v Speaker 1>But I knew in that moment, something deep in my

0:51:48.320 --> 0:51:50.600
<v Speaker 1>gut told me, and I asked God. I was like,

0:51:50.600 --> 0:51:52.960
<v Speaker 1>give me a fucking sign, and that nigga was like,

0:51:52.960 --> 0:51:56.360
<v Speaker 1>you should have an abortion. I was like, perfect, no, I'm glad.

0:51:56.440 --> 0:51:59.640
<v Speaker 1>I agree. I was like, made that appointment so quick.

0:51:59.680 --> 0:52:02.839
<v Speaker 1>But looking back, bitch, I would have a four year

0:52:02.880 --> 0:52:05.200
<v Speaker 1>old in February trip and.

0:52:06.360 --> 0:52:08.120
<v Speaker 3>You may not have Maybe I don't know, maybe you

0:52:08.120 --> 0:52:09.759
<v Speaker 3>wouldn't have moved there. Maybe you would have moved there,

0:52:09.760 --> 0:52:11.840
<v Speaker 3>Maybe you wouldn't have maybe we would have had the baby,

0:52:11.840 --> 0:52:14.480
<v Speaker 3>maybe you wouldn't have, but we could have still possibly

0:52:14.480 --> 0:52:16.200
<v Speaker 3>still had good moms. You would have just been good

0:52:16.200 --> 0:52:17.839
<v Speaker 3>moms with two kids. And I would have had one

0:52:19.320 --> 0:52:23.359
<v Speaker 3>start over, it would be a different conversation. But yeah,

0:52:23.400 --> 0:52:23.959
<v Speaker 3>I think that.

0:52:24.719 --> 0:52:28.360
<v Speaker 1>The safety, that the illusion of safety is literally almost

0:52:28.360 --> 0:52:31.120
<v Speaker 1>made me bet against myself, bet against my gut. And

0:52:31.160 --> 0:52:33.680
<v Speaker 1>it's a crazy idea starting a podcast. There is no

0:52:33.800 --> 0:52:38.120
<v Speaker 1>money for forever a lot of time, so it didn't

0:52:38.160 --> 0:52:41.360
<v Speaker 1>make sense. But in my body and in my spirit,

0:52:41.480 --> 0:52:43.520
<v Speaker 1>it made sense. And I had no idea what was

0:52:43.520 --> 0:52:45.800
<v Speaker 1>happening or what was going to happen. But thank fucking

0:52:45.880 --> 0:52:49.719
<v Speaker 1>God that I have a supportive friend and that I

0:52:49.840 --> 0:52:52.279
<v Speaker 1>something in me is like I can't. I can't do

0:52:52.360 --> 0:52:54.640
<v Speaker 1>the same, not bet on myself twice. I've gotten out

0:52:54.680 --> 0:52:57.319
<v Speaker 1>of the situation once. There's no way in fucking hell

0:52:57.360 --> 0:52:59.840
<v Speaker 1>I'm about to get in this position twice because of

0:52:59.880 --> 0:53:02.960
<v Speaker 1>me and then have to live with the circumstances of

0:53:03.080 --> 0:53:05.160
<v Speaker 1>knowing in my gut I didn't really want to do

0:53:05.239 --> 0:53:08.920
<v Speaker 1>something but pleasing someone else because it seemed safe and

0:53:08.960 --> 0:53:10.440
<v Speaker 1>it seemed like, oh, I have the house and a

0:53:10.520 --> 0:53:12.680
<v Speaker 1>nigga and whatever I thought I was going to be

0:53:12.680 --> 0:53:14.759
<v Speaker 1>fucking having. But now I'm having three sums and going

0:53:14.800 --> 0:53:16.520
<v Speaker 1>to sex parties. So woo.

0:53:17.400 --> 0:53:19.640
<v Speaker 2>Just said all that to say, don't have to say.

0:53:19.640 --> 0:53:21.120
<v Speaker 1>Look at my best life.

0:53:21.200 --> 0:53:22.279
<v Speaker 2>But not only that.

0:53:22.440 --> 0:53:26.080
<v Speaker 3>I mean, have a brand that you know is successful.

0:53:26.880 --> 0:53:29.520
<v Speaker 3>You are like following your dreams. You are painting and

0:53:29.560 --> 0:53:32.680
<v Speaker 3>designing the life you want. You have ideas and you

0:53:32.719 --> 0:53:35.480
<v Speaker 3>know we make them happen, you know what I mean,

0:53:35.520 --> 0:53:39.319
<v Speaker 3>and in such a more fulfilling way than the tending.

0:53:39.000 --> 0:53:39.799
<v Speaker 1>Than that would have been.

0:53:40.080 --> 0:53:43.000
<v Speaker 3>So I mean that's a testament to yes, betting on

0:53:43.040 --> 0:53:46.920
<v Speaker 3>yourself even when, like you said, it didn't make any sense.

0:53:46.880 --> 0:53:48.840
<v Speaker 1>And not questioning who you are. You know, there's so

0:53:48.920 --> 0:53:50.960
<v Speaker 1>much great. He told me one time, that same guy.

0:53:51.000 --> 0:53:52.359
<v Speaker 1>He's like, yeah, I dated this girl and she told

0:53:52.360 --> 0:53:54.480
<v Speaker 1>me she went to have a male male female relationship

0:53:54.520 --> 0:53:56.399
<v Speaker 1>I mean threesome. I was like, oh, that's pretty dope.

0:53:56.440 --> 0:53:57.839
<v Speaker 1>What'd you say? He's like, I would never make her

0:53:57.880 --> 0:54:00.400
<v Speaker 1>my girl, Nigga, that's why I can't be girl. I

0:54:00.400 --> 0:54:05.799
<v Speaker 1>gotta know she's on this something. Can you cute? She

0:54:05.800 --> 0:54:08.440
<v Speaker 1>found somebody. But it's just like if I would have

0:54:08.440 --> 0:54:10.799
<v Speaker 1>been like, that's not a normal fantasy to have. You're right,

0:54:10.840 --> 0:54:13.040
<v Speaker 1>that kind of girl doesn't deserve to be married. Fuck that.

0:54:13.480 --> 0:54:15.160
<v Speaker 1>But no, bitch, this is who I am. This is

0:54:15.200 --> 0:54:18.080
<v Speaker 1>how I'm coming and hot and like that's the only

0:54:18.120 --> 0:54:20.279
<v Speaker 1>way to be. You gotta be one hundred and ten

0:54:20.320 --> 0:54:23.080
<v Speaker 1>percent yourself or none of that shit. You know, like,

0:54:23.160 --> 0:54:25.600
<v Speaker 1>no one can make you you. No one defines you,

0:54:25.680 --> 0:54:28.040
<v Speaker 1>not no nigga, not a relationship, not no mom or dad.

0:54:28.120 --> 0:54:30.560
<v Speaker 1>Like we're grown now and I would just hate. One

0:54:30.560 --> 0:54:33.480
<v Speaker 1>of my biggest things is like, imagine if something happens

0:54:33.480 --> 0:54:35.600
<v Speaker 1>to me today and I'm like, fuck should I could

0:54:35.600 --> 0:54:37.799
<v Speaker 1>have would have? But I did because so and so

0:54:37.920 --> 0:54:40.040
<v Speaker 1>said or someone told me not to do that, Like

0:54:40.200 --> 0:54:41.960
<v Speaker 1>I what if I would have been like, you're right,

0:54:42.040 --> 0:54:44.680
<v Speaker 1>I said, white bitches too many times on that first episode.

0:54:44.880 --> 0:54:46.319
<v Speaker 1>Let's just shut the whole shit down.

0:54:47.080 --> 0:54:49.880
<v Speaker 2>You got you gotta you gotta be willing to lose big.

0:54:50.120 --> 0:54:53.439
<v Speaker 2>But whoever said in the beginning you when you bet

0:54:53.480 --> 0:54:55.840
<v Speaker 2>on yourself and you bet big, you win big. That's

0:54:55.920 --> 0:54:58.279
<v Speaker 2>real as well, And I'm not I don't think that

0:54:58.280 --> 0:54:59.759
<v Speaker 2>any of us are telling you to just go out

0:54:59.760 --> 0:55:03.279
<v Speaker 2>and do something reckless. Make calculated decisions, but for the

0:55:03.320 --> 0:55:07.080
<v Speaker 2>decisions that you want. Sometimes the road less traveled is

0:55:07.160 --> 0:55:10.040
<v Speaker 2>just better, or the road that hasn't even been created yet,

0:55:10.040 --> 0:55:11.960
<v Speaker 2>it's yours because it's time for you to create that

0:55:12.000 --> 0:55:14.440
<v Speaker 2>shit you know, like it has discipline or even just

0:55:14.480 --> 0:55:16.560
<v Speaker 2>starting over, like whatever the fuck you need to do.

0:55:17.040 --> 0:55:21.279
<v Speaker 2>Being happy is some real flex ass shit because so

0:55:21.360 --> 0:55:24.000
<v Speaker 2>many people are unhappy. And it don't mean I'm happy

0:55:24.040 --> 0:55:25.879
<v Speaker 2>one hundred percent of the time all day, every fucking day,

0:55:25.880 --> 0:55:28.560
<v Speaker 2>but almost every day I'm like, thank fucking god that

0:55:28.680 --> 0:55:32.520
<v Speaker 2>nigga left me, like thank god, like I started this bent,

0:55:32.640 --> 0:55:37.240
<v Speaker 2>thank God I sucked dick for a living like it works,

0:55:37.440 --> 0:55:41.600
<v Speaker 2>and by ID be grateful. But if.

0:55:43.480 --> 0:55:44.479
<v Speaker 1>A living, we wouldn't be here.

0:55:44.560 --> 0:55:46.680
<v Speaker 2>We wouldn't be here. You all were talking about relationships,

0:55:46.719 --> 0:55:48.600
<v Speaker 2>and I definitely have to say it out loud. I

0:55:48.640 --> 0:55:54.960
<v Speaker 2>am yearning to date another couple, Like it's very yearning. Yeah,

0:55:55.040 --> 0:55:59.879
<v Speaker 2>because we're putting it out here for the January manifesting things. Yes,

0:56:01.480 --> 0:56:04.040
<v Speaker 2>I'm yearning for that. I think like watching another couple

0:56:04.120 --> 0:56:05.880
<v Speaker 2>be in love and then like it's not really my

0:56:05.960 --> 0:56:08.160
<v Speaker 2>responsibility is like sexy as fuck.

0:56:09.239 --> 0:56:12.480
<v Speaker 1>I feel like attaching yourself to a very loving couple

0:56:13.120 --> 0:56:16.239
<v Speaker 1>manifests love for you. I know a couple who the

0:56:16.719 --> 0:56:19.399
<v Speaker 1>wife was a unicorn before she met her husband, and

0:56:19.440 --> 0:56:22.319
<v Speaker 1>that couple, that married couple was really rooting for her

0:56:22.360 --> 0:56:25.479
<v Speaker 1>and manifesting for her to meet that husband and she did,

0:56:25.640 --> 0:56:29.279
<v Speaker 1>you know. And I just think people like miss have

0:56:29.360 --> 0:56:32.279
<v Speaker 1>a misconception of really the beauty of being around a

0:56:32.560 --> 0:56:36.360
<v Speaker 1>true love that's trusting and loving and is so open

0:56:36.400 --> 0:56:38.759
<v Speaker 1>that they can embrace you in their relationship and it

0:56:38.760 --> 0:56:42.799
<v Speaker 1>can really cultivate like that love effect. Yeah, you see it,

0:56:42.880 --> 0:56:45.320
<v Speaker 1>You see it's possible, So you attract that for yourself.

0:56:45.440 --> 0:56:48.960
<v Speaker 2>Absolutely, you don't have to always be the main character

0:56:49.160 --> 0:56:52.440
<v Speaker 2>in the love story. But understanding what turns you on,

0:56:52.719 --> 0:56:55.200
<v Speaker 2>even I feel like has pushed me to sexual limits

0:56:55.200 --> 0:56:57.080
<v Speaker 2>that I didn't even think was possible, and just saying

0:56:57.120 --> 0:56:59.440
<v Speaker 2>it out loud, like because when you say it out loud,

0:56:59.480 --> 0:57:01.799
<v Speaker 2>you're gonna find somebody else who's with that shit, you know,

0:57:02.280 --> 0:57:06.080
<v Speaker 2>So just getting used to saying that outlanders, thinking, yeah,

0:57:06.200 --> 0:57:08.399
<v Speaker 2>people look at you like you're crazy sometimes, but like, shit,

0:57:08.480 --> 0:57:09.520
<v Speaker 2>I wouldn't mind it.

0:57:09.400 --> 0:57:11.480
<v Speaker 1>Like, you know, how long it's to say out loud,

0:57:11.520 --> 0:57:13.239
<v Speaker 1>I want to have a male male female for so

0:57:13.280 --> 0:57:15.200
<v Speaker 1>long that's not my fantasy. That's not my fantasy. And

0:57:15.200 --> 0:57:18.120
<v Speaker 1>then I was like, it is my fantasy and I

0:57:18.120 --> 0:57:19.480
<v Speaker 1>should yell it from the rooftops.

0:57:19.840 --> 0:57:22.360
<v Speaker 2>And I still need to have my all girl threesome

0:57:23.800 --> 0:57:26.120
<v Speaker 2>and I need to what else do I need to do?

0:57:26.200 --> 0:57:28.200
<v Speaker 2>I got shit to do in twenty twenty two.

0:57:28.280 --> 0:57:30.560
<v Speaker 3>Okay, well, I think it's so cool that we are

0:57:30.600 --> 0:57:33.080
<v Speaker 3>in a space now. I mean, obviously, I know that

0:57:33.080 --> 0:57:34.840
<v Speaker 3>there's a lot of women who are listening that are.

0:57:34.800 --> 0:57:39.000
<v Speaker 4>Like, Wow, these bitches are crazy. But and then there's

0:57:39.000 --> 0:57:39.600
<v Speaker 4>some that are like.

0:57:39.680 --> 0:57:41.800
<v Speaker 2>Damn, like I want that shit too.

0:57:41.840 --> 0:57:44.120
<v Speaker 1>I want that this is your permission as to do

0:57:44.200 --> 0:57:46.280
<v Speaker 1>whatever I feel however you want to feel, yeah.

0:57:46.080 --> 0:57:47.919
<v Speaker 3>And that we can have these conversations, and that there's

0:57:47.960 --> 0:57:51.200
<v Speaker 3>even like resources like like like field, like dating apps

0:57:51.240 --> 0:57:54.200
<v Speaker 3>that allow you to be yourself and show up as

0:57:54.240 --> 0:57:57.160
<v Speaker 3>yourself off the off the gate, and that there's so

0:57:57.240 --> 0:58:00.720
<v Speaker 3>many people on that app that feel safe, even comfortable.

0:58:00.720 --> 0:58:03.200
<v Speaker 3>It lets you know that there are so many people

0:58:03.560 --> 0:58:07.880
<v Speaker 3>out there, yes, that want that want that weird, freaky,

0:58:08.000 --> 0:58:10.600
<v Speaker 3>freaky kinky shit that you saw on a porn one

0:58:10.640 --> 0:58:12.920
<v Speaker 3>time that you've been waiting to do on someone or

0:58:13.240 --> 0:58:14.040
<v Speaker 3>or you didn't.

0:58:13.840 --> 0:58:15.240
<v Speaker 1>Think that anyone was doing.

0:58:16.200 --> 0:58:21.000
<v Speaker 3>I think that like sex is so human and all

0:58:21.120 --> 0:58:23.080
<v Speaker 3>the kinks are so human, whether or not I want

0:58:23.120 --> 0:58:25.080
<v Speaker 3>to explore them or not. Like for me, I'm not

0:58:25.120 --> 0:58:28.160
<v Speaker 3>interested in polyamory. You know, that's not that's not my vibe.

0:58:28.240 --> 0:58:30.640
<v Speaker 1>I do. I do I subscribe to monogamy.

0:58:30.680 --> 0:58:34.160
<v Speaker 3>No, not really, but I feel like I love that

0:58:34.360 --> 0:58:36.400
<v Speaker 3>for you, I love that for her, I love that

0:58:36.520 --> 0:58:38.760
<v Speaker 3>for everyone. I believe that everyone should be able to

0:58:38.800 --> 0:58:41.720
<v Speaker 3>experience the type of love, the type of sex that

0:58:41.760 --> 0:58:44.479
<v Speaker 3>they that they want, because guess what, y'all were only

0:58:44.520 --> 0:58:46.920
<v Speaker 3>here for a limited amount of time.

0:58:47.040 --> 0:58:48.440
<v Speaker 4>It's crazy, And.

0:58:48.480 --> 0:58:51.040
<v Speaker 1>I don't maybe have the responsibility of like owning someone

0:58:51.080 --> 0:58:54.720
<v Speaker 1>or limiting their their pleasure, Like.

0:58:54.640 --> 0:58:59.160
<v Speaker 3>It goes so fast, life goes so fast, like and

0:58:59.200 --> 0:59:00.760
<v Speaker 3>when you're gone, I mean, I don't.

0:59:00.760 --> 0:59:02.040
<v Speaker 4>I believe that energy never dies.

0:59:02.240 --> 0:59:03.560
<v Speaker 2>Should ever let me smoke on camera?

0:59:05.760 --> 0:59:09.320
<v Speaker 3>I believe that energy never dies. But like this experience

0:59:09.440 --> 0:59:11.480
<v Speaker 3>right now, me and this body you and this body

0:59:11.480 --> 0:59:12.920
<v Speaker 3>you and this body, like this is it?

0:59:13.560 --> 0:59:14.480
<v Speaker 1>Do it? Do it all.

0:59:14.920 --> 0:59:15.560
<v Speaker 2>I'm with the ship.

0:59:15.720 --> 0:59:19.960
<v Speaker 1>Don't let anyone or any fucking beliefs limit that shit

0:59:20.280 --> 0:59:22.479
<v Speaker 1>because it's it's such a waste, It's such a waste

0:59:22.520 --> 0:59:22.880
<v Speaker 1>of time.

0:59:23.080 --> 0:59:24.920
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, Like, if you want to make a career sucking

0:59:25.000 --> 0:59:27.680
<v Speaker 3>dick and teaching women how to fucking take charge of

0:59:27.720 --> 0:59:31.000
<v Speaker 3>their sexual power, like do that ship, Like Samaya, Like

0:59:31.120 --> 0:59:33.600
<v Speaker 3>what you do, Smaya is so important the Lord's work.

0:59:33.680 --> 0:59:34.600
<v Speaker 3>It is really important.

0:59:34.680 --> 0:59:36.320
<v Speaker 2>I really trying to get into heaven over here.

0:59:36.320 --> 0:59:38.120
<v Speaker 4>Okay, you're doing it is the Lord's work.

0:59:38.160 --> 0:59:39.520
<v Speaker 1>And I'm not saying that. I guess what's gonna be

0:59:39.560 --> 0:59:42.720
<v Speaker 1>waiting for you when you get there, Fu.

0:59:43.560 --> 0:59:46.720
<v Speaker 3>And a little chair of just following you around sprinkling

0:59:46.800 --> 0:59:49.240
<v Speaker 3>dust on your head all day, because it is like

0:59:49.440 --> 0:59:52.160
<v Speaker 3>you are changing women's and men's lives and changing the

0:59:52.800 --> 0:59:56.960
<v Speaker 3>lives and relationships for people and couples, and and that

0:59:57.080 --> 0:59:59.520
<v Speaker 3>is so important, and that is so part of like

0:59:59.760 --> 1:00:02.600
<v Speaker 3>I think, I think the journey of becoming confident, being

1:00:02.600 --> 1:00:04.439
<v Speaker 3>able to know what you want, being able to ask

1:00:04.480 --> 1:00:05.960
<v Speaker 3>for what you want, I think a lot of it

1:00:06.000 --> 1:00:10.000
<v Speaker 3>does start with sex, you know, and same with us,

1:00:10.000 --> 1:00:12.960
<v Speaker 3>Like I'd like fucking two moms talking about sex on

1:00:13.000 --> 1:00:16.160
<v Speaker 3>the internet, talking about mental health, talking about our kids,

1:00:16.360 --> 1:00:19.200
<v Speaker 3>having posts about dildo's next to kids, next to like

1:00:19.240 --> 1:00:21.160
<v Speaker 3>how much we love I fucking love my daughter so.

1:00:21.160 --> 1:00:23.720
<v Speaker 1>Much because this is my life life, this.

1:00:23.760 --> 1:00:26.360
<v Speaker 4>Is the existence of who I am. I like sex,

1:00:26.520 --> 1:00:29.400
<v Speaker 4>I love my kid, I like to look cute.

1:00:29.560 --> 1:00:32.280
<v Speaker 3>I'm trying to figure it out, you know, Like I'm

1:00:32.280 --> 1:00:34.640
<v Speaker 3>an entrepreneur. I want to build businesses, I want to

1:00:34.680 --> 1:00:36.680
<v Speaker 3>smoke weed like I want to do all those things

1:00:36.680 --> 1:00:37.960
<v Speaker 3>and I should be able to do that. And I

1:00:37.960 --> 1:00:41.520
<v Speaker 3>think it's really important for people to see women that

1:00:41.680 --> 1:00:44.720
<v Speaker 3>are multifaceted and inspire them.

1:00:44.800 --> 1:00:47.560
<v Speaker 4>So sorry, that's it, that's my spiel, that's my soul.

1:00:47.640 --> 1:00:51.040
<v Speaker 1>That was beautiful, that's beautiful, honey. My wife is so smart.

1:00:51.680 --> 1:00:55.360
<v Speaker 1>God God, I have such smart wives money and she

1:00:55.440 --> 1:00:59.720
<v Speaker 1>has nice titties and I'm trying like looking badasses nice titties.

1:01:01.560 --> 1:01:04.520
<v Speaker 1>Thank you, ladies for this episode. I love you guys.

1:01:04.640 --> 1:01:07.000
<v Speaker 2>So what's our? What's our? What's our? What do we

1:01:07.040 --> 1:01:08.880
<v Speaker 2>want people to take away? Be a boss sazed bitch

1:01:09.200 --> 1:01:11.200
<v Speaker 2>and do you guy? Or be a boss sass dick.

1:01:11.880 --> 1:01:16.880
<v Speaker 1>The affirmation is do you boo? Do you boo? You boo?

1:01:17.280 --> 1:01:21.520
<v Speaker 2>Confidently? Just do it anyway. Please remember yourself, good God,

1:01:21.600 --> 1:01:22.680
<v Speaker 2>Please remember yourself.

1:01:23.200 --> 1:01:25.160
<v Speaker 1>And if you don't remember, it goes somewhere alone to

1:01:25.200 --> 1:01:29.080
<v Speaker 1>figure that shit out and without the voice or opinions

1:01:29.080 --> 1:01:29.640
<v Speaker 1>of others.

1:01:29.960 --> 1:01:31.240
<v Speaker 2>I did a thing the other day, though I do

1:01:31.240 --> 1:01:33.440
<v Speaker 2>got to tell you about it. So I got this

1:01:33.480 --> 1:01:36.280
<v Speaker 2>foot massage or thing. It was like self love from Amazon,

1:01:37.520 --> 1:01:39.760
<v Speaker 2>and it massages your feet like really really good, but

1:01:39.880 --> 1:01:43.320
<v Speaker 2>like really really good, like it feels like a man

1:01:43.560 --> 1:01:46.000
<v Speaker 2>is rubbing your feet. And I got my toy and

1:01:46.040 --> 1:01:48.480
<v Speaker 2>I made myself come with at the same time as

1:01:48.480 --> 1:01:50.400
<v Speaker 2>it was rubbing my feet, so it felt like I

1:01:50.440 --> 1:01:53.040
<v Speaker 2>was getting a foot rube while I was like having

1:01:55.680 --> 1:01:58.680
<v Speaker 2>my gosh, it was amazing. I feel like I'm always

1:01:58.720 --> 1:02:00.400
<v Speaker 2>trying to do something, so it feels like I'm getting

1:02:00.400 --> 1:02:01.240
<v Speaker 2>sucked by two people.

1:02:01.480 --> 1:02:03.560
<v Speaker 1>Can you can you? We're gonna have to drop that

1:02:03.600 --> 1:02:04.600
<v Speaker 1>link of that foot mascle.

1:02:06.880 --> 1:02:08.760
<v Speaker 2>We need to have y'all sign up so they can

1:02:08.880 --> 1:02:11.680
<v Speaker 2>give y'all some money because that shit was amazing. The

1:02:11.760 --> 1:02:14.440
<v Speaker 2>thing was like on sale from like the Black Friday,

1:02:14.480 --> 1:02:18.200
<v Speaker 2>so it was like maybe like two hundred bucks, so's yes,

1:02:18.320 --> 1:02:22.200
<v Speaker 2>so that it was on sale. I put my feet

1:02:22.240 --> 1:02:24.120
<v Speaker 2>in it. And this is another good thing about having

1:02:24.120 --> 1:02:27.120
<v Speaker 2>a long time You can do weird ass orgasm shit, okay.

1:02:27.400 --> 1:02:29.200
<v Speaker 2>And I was sitting on my couch, don't sit on

1:02:29.200 --> 1:02:32.080
<v Speaker 2>my couch, sitting on my couch, and my feet were

1:02:32.120 --> 1:02:34.200
<v Speaker 2>like this, and I got my toy and I was like, oh,

1:02:34.280 --> 1:02:36.320
<v Speaker 2>this feels so fucking good, Like I could just imagine

1:02:36.320 --> 1:02:38.959
<v Speaker 2>having a nut, and I was like, fuck it. Put

1:02:38.960 --> 1:02:41.760
<v Speaker 2>out the toy and with the couch up. It was

1:02:41.800 --> 1:02:44.600
<v Speaker 2>a good nut. I stayed there for three times. I

1:02:44.640 --> 1:02:46.480
<v Speaker 2>had to run that ship back there for three times,

1:02:46.720 --> 1:02:49.680
<v Speaker 2>three nimes, three nuts. I was like, bitch, this is

1:02:49.960 --> 1:02:51.680
<v Speaker 2>this is why they pay you to be a bus.

1:02:52.720 --> 1:02:55.200
<v Speaker 1>And you were experimenting for the people. Okay, for the people.

1:02:55.360 --> 1:02:59.479
<v Speaker 2>I'm doing it for you, okay, and anything that feel good.

1:02:59.560 --> 1:03:01.000
<v Speaker 2>I just try to figure out can I add a

1:03:01.080 --> 1:03:03.520
<v Speaker 2>net to that.

1:03:02.440 --> 1:03:05.160
<v Speaker 1>That makes sense? Yeah? Pleasure own pleasure.

1:03:05.200 --> 1:03:05.240
<v Speaker 2>Know.

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<v Speaker 4>I just remember the title of our last episode was

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