Speaker 1: Welcome back to Good Mom's Bad Choices. I'm Erica and
Speaker 1: I'm Mila. Happy Wednesday. Happy Wednesday, y'all. How are you feeling.
Speaker 2: I'm good.
Speaker 3: I feel like, I don't know, I feel I'm feeling optimistic,
Speaker 3: I'm feeling light, I'm feeling positive.
Speaker 1: I'm feeling stoned.
Speaker 4: I love that I took a tincture.
Speaker 3: And I don't know if you guys are into tinctures,
Speaker 3: but damn, s just hits you harder than I thought. Yeah,
Speaker 3: it's like a slow creep. It's not literally, I felt
Speaker 3: like my eyes suddenly just.
Speaker 1: Like go it's inaudible.
Speaker 3: I'm really I have these heavy ass eyelashes on right now,
Speaker 3: like prom queen, and I feel like they're weighing my
Speaker 3: eyelids down to my eyes open.
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Speaker 3: You actually better check us out because I have a
Speaker 3: full face of fucking makeup on.
Speaker 4: Somebody needs to see this ship.
Speaker 3: Her titties are at the red lips are on the school.
Speaker 3: I dressed like a like a boss bitch because we
Speaker 3: have a boss bitch on our show today, and I
Speaker 3: was like, I need to be bossy and look like
Speaker 3: I'm going to teach some shit.
Speaker 1: And you and you nailed it, nailed it. Educator of things. Okay,
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Speaker 4: Bad bitch, bad bitch.
Speaker 1: This is a lot of bad bitches in one room.
Speaker 2: Bitches.
Speaker 1: I'm so excited because we have our girl, our wife,
Speaker 1: and our beautiful sexual essential samayah.
Speaker 3: Here beautiful sexual.
Speaker 1: Oh guy, she's all the way from l A.
Speaker 2: We met.
Speaker 3: We met Samaya during COVID and we've only done an
Speaker 3: episode virtually, so this is like a really, this is
Speaker 3: a tree.
Speaker 1: We gotta got you in.
Speaker 3: The fledge and I got titties out. I put them
Speaker 3: off for you, and none of that. You really enjoyed titties.
Speaker 3: I heard you referenced titties and many times of conversations.
Speaker 2: So I was like, really like titty She's like, everybody
Speaker 2: really knows that I really love titties. Like I have
Speaker 2: a lot of ass. So it's like, are you not?
Speaker 2: Are you an ass woman?
Speaker 1: Or are not? Really?
Speaker 2: I have enough? I mean I like a nice ass.
Speaker 4: What about a guy? Like does a guy need to
Speaker 4: have an have asked.
Speaker 2: My niece to have anything?
Speaker 1: I mean, but I'm saying like, do you prefer like
Speaker 1: if do you like a hippie guy, a hippie guy,
Speaker 1: you know those niggas who got big hips.
Speaker 4: Not a hippie guy.
Speaker 2: But I think the limit is is my hips.
Speaker 1: If you're hippier, it's.
Speaker 2: Probably not my thing. But I like titties. I like
Speaker 2: the nipple, you know anyways.
Speaker 1: I like the nipple. I've never heard anyone say that
Speaker 1: I like the nipple. I like the areola.
Speaker 2: Yeah, like the tongue around it is like this, you know,
Speaker 2: little flick like see how did we get there? This
Speaker 2: is how we can't do you?
Speaker 1: What about you? You asked, are titty girl Erica ask?
Speaker 1: I think I'm a I'm pretty much an ask girl too. Well.
Speaker 2: I'm glad that I'm in you alls lives. So you
Speaker 2: guys about the titties and the nipple. You know, I
Speaker 2: get titties and and I have the ass and.
Speaker 1: It's and together we make up perfect threesome. Last year
Speaker 1: we met Samaya and Covid. Like two weeks later, maybe
Speaker 1: a month later, She's like, I'm coming to La. We're
Speaker 1: best friends. I'm like, okay, sounds good. I'm happy. Okay,
Speaker 1: some mis coming to La with best friends. Now she's
Speaker 1: like perfect, And then really we were best friends, and
Speaker 1: here we are a year later, maybe a year and
Speaker 1: a half later now, no right. Shout out to Orlando
Speaker 1: from Harder Sawce for bringing us together.
Speaker 2: Yes, we appreciate you. We love you, Orlando.
Speaker 1: We do love you, Orlando. Do I love Orlando and Tahoe.
Speaker 1: You know he gets sensitive.
Speaker 3: We love Tahoe.
Speaker 1: We love you.
Speaker 4: We don't make sure we're at him.
Speaker 1: Here, him in the comments may make sure that.
Speaker 3: I don't know if there's a special way we could
Speaker 3: tag my voice and put Tahoe there somehow, but we could,
Speaker 3: we would.
Speaker 1: It's a very sensitive pisces man. Yes, girl with that
Speaker 1: sensitivity over there, and then be acting like he's not sensitive.
Speaker 1: I'm like, nigga, that is the most sensitive thing of
Speaker 1: all things to do pretend like you ain't sensitive when
Speaker 1: everybody knows that you is.
Speaker 2: Like you all podcast husbands almost like they're a very
Speaker 2: attractive podcasts, and you guys are, of course, are a
Speaker 2: very attractive podcast I feel like y'all in one room.
Speaker 2: Everybody's like, yeah, I'll go. I mean, okay, look at nice,
Speaker 2: nice things.
Speaker 1: I know they are our podcast husbands. I mean, obviously
Speaker 1: everybody knows Orlando's my bond ship Bay. We're stuck for life.
Speaker 1: I would calling him with his bitches. I'd be like,
Speaker 1: let me see the bitches you did yes last night,
Speaker 1: let me see I love him shout out to him,
Speaker 1: my man, because he's literally answers the phone for me,
Speaker 1: no matter what bitches. But he's like I had a
Speaker 1: force him last night. I'm like, let me see those bitches.
Speaker 1: He's like, no, like whatever, Bye, I'm jealous love you Bye.
Speaker 1: I'm true open bondship baby. You know. I'm just so
Speaker 1: happy that you're here.
Speaker 2: I am I'm like, I'm not even saying anything. I'm
Speaker 2: just in blues. I'm just I'm so happy. Life pulls
Speaker 2: you together. And I think like, as an adult, it's
Speaker 2: really difficult to find friends. And I'm like, fuck this shit.
Speaker 2: You want to be my friend?
Speaker 1: Bye, We'll pull you in the corner at this lyard
Speaker 1: and be the friend. She's like, I'm scheduling my plane
Speaker 1: ticket for next week, okay. And then she's like, if
Speaker 1: you don't spend, did you block out fourty eight hours
Speaker 1: for just me? You can't go anywhere else? Oh you didn't.
Speaker 1: She does not fuck around. I'm a very scheduling as bach. Okay,
Speaker 1: very scheduled, very scheduling. Our scheduling ass bitch. She pulled
Speaker 1: a card today I did. It's Terrorot time. She would
Speaker 1: do a song. It's Tarot time. It's Tarot time, bitches,
Speaker 1: it's Terot time. I don't like it. T I kind
Speaker 1: of like the JJQ yeah jj is cue.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I like that sound.
Speaker 1: Damn, I can't drop my single yet, Terot. You can
Speaker 1: go over to a rewrite today. Samayah pulled the Night
Speaker 1: of Cups, and the Night of Cups is an invitation
Speaker 1: to splurge. She's fancy. She has appropriate the rich bitch
Speaker 1: car you know you got open. You're not rich, but
Speaker 1: your friend is richly I get about her, like, well,
Speaker 1: my friend is rich it's just be happy because my
Speaker 1: friend bought it. This is my friend's house. This is
Speaker 1: my friend house. She bought it. She's rich. That's my
Speaker 1: that's my semia first of sexual, that's my sexual sexual
Speaker 1: essential massexual sexual. Yeah, she's rich.
Speaker 2: I am so embarrassed.
Speaker 1: Isn't it nice when you keep ghetto friends like us?
Speaker 2: Yes? I need it.
Speaker 1: We're almost rich like you. If you have one rich friend,
Speaker 1: you'll be soon the rich friend too, birds of a friend,
Speaker 1: the fuck together period. Anyway, This invitation is to splurge
Speaker 1: indulgent life's pleasures. This includes enjoying good food and wine.
Speaker 1: Everybody knows somebody likes a good wine. But we happened
Speaker 1: last last night, appreciating the arts, making love, relaxing and
Speaker 1: luxurious resources are experiencing beauty. Wow, wow, I'm.
Speaker 4: Literally walked in the doors like, can you shade match me?
Speaker 4: Brought me a aircraft?
Speaker 1: I stole my purse. Live in the moment and give
Speaker 1: yourself permission to indulge temporarily without any guilt about the
Speaker 1: possible negative consequences of such pleasure. When you see the
Speaker 1: nine of cups in a reading, and remember to count
Speaker 1: your blessings and express gratitude for what you have. Start
Speaker 1: or end every day by creating a mental list of
Speaker 1: the three things of which you are most grateful. Over time,
Speaker 1: you will intensify your sense of contentment and your ability
Speaker 1: to attract what you wish for. It is the law
Speaker 1: of attraction. If you are struggling to find the positive
Speaker 1: side of life, then expressing gratitude will help you so
Speaker 1: that you have a lot to be glad about. One
Speaker 1: thing to keep in mind with the nine of cups
Speaker 1: is that he is sitting on a wooden bench that
Speaker 1: is comfortable for only a limited period. Realize that contentment
Speaker 1: and fulfillment, too, are only temporary, as everything is always
Speaker 1: in a state of change. That's why it is so
Speaker 1: important to appreciate what you have now and cherish it
Speaker 1: because it may disappear later or you may need to
Speaker 1: adjust to adopt adapt. Sorry.
Speaker 2: Wow, so hell of a card.
Speaker 1: Wow.
Speaker 4: I love this card for us.
Speaker 1: It fits perfectly And I was called to pull to
Speaker 1: talk about it at that time because I felt like
Speaker 1: it was about to say some shit. And I think
Speaker 1: when speaking of our friendship, that was so divinely ordered.
Speaker 1: When you are just open and living in alignment, all
Speaker 1: the people that match your life, Come and fuck with you,
Speaker 1: even if it's on the internet, and then on your life,
Speaker 1: because that's basically what happened. Yeah, I'm like, oh you cool,
Speaker 1: will be cool too, come to California.
Speaker 2: It was so nice to find out that you guys
Speaker 2: were cool, because you know, a lot of people think like, oh,
Speaker 2: the pretty ones are bitches. That is not true. Maybe
Speaker 2: you're just intimidated by their prettiness. I like to be
Speaker 2: in the proximity of beautiful people. I think it makes
Speaker 2: me look better. I know it sounds crazy, but I'm like, oh,
Speaker 2: they sexy. I want to stand by them. It's true, though,
Speaker 2: birds of a feather flock to calcul but with the
Speaker 2: sexy people.
Speaker 1: I never liked, like a fine bitch that doesn't like
Speaker 1: to hang out with like you can tell you know,
Speaker 1: there's a fine that intentionally doesn't have other fine friends.
Speaker 1: Just want to be the only f author's a fine bitch.
Speaker 1: And then you're around and she's acting funny. I'm like, bitch,
Speaker 1: just because you used to being around other fine bitches
Speaker 1: don't mean you can't shine with another fine bitch.
Speaker 2: And see this thing, I call it out girl, you
Speaker 2: want to come sit with us. No, okay, okay, it's like, no,
Speaker 2: I'm super nice. But it's just a lot of people don't.
Speaker 2: I think they underestimate like being kind.
Speaker 1: Well, you know, I'm the kindest bitch and a forty
Speaker 1: hundred mile radius. You know how many pictures in my phone?
Speaker 1: I have the best friends I met in the bathroom
Speaker 1: at the club. Thousands, I believe you, thousands.
Speaker 3: And I wish we could make a book of it, like,
Speaker 3: oh my can I remember a photo album of it?
Speaker 1: Oh my god, a little flip book, make it a
Speaker 1: real all the bathroom, all the bathroom, all the bathroom
Speaker 1: bitches Mila has ever met in her clothes call the
Speaker 1: book is nice or something. Meet Mela, Meet Mela, meet
Speaker 1: me Ala in the bathroom.
Speaker 2: I look here. You never know what people are going through,
Speaker 2: So being kind is like really good. It's really good.
Speaker 3: It changes someone's day. I mean, it's so much easier
Speaker 3: to be kind then. I mean, well, actually sometimes it's not.
Speaker 3: It depends who you ask. But I just feel like
Speaker 3: being kind is always going to open up more doors
Speaker 3: than not being kind. And your energy is always so positive,
Speaker 3: it's always so loving and always so nurturing. Yesterday I
Speaker 3: wasn't feeling good and to Mina must have asked me
Speaker 3: about forty two times.
Speaker 1: If I was still.
Speaker 3: Sick and if I was feeling better, and I'm just
Speaker 3: how bad she felt for me.
Speaker 1: I was like, no, no, and she's like, do you
Speaker 1: want me to go? Am I breaking down your hut?
Speaker 2: Because honestly, I'm like, I know how far all of
Speaker 2: this stuff is. So it's like, if we're going to
Speaker 2: go see each other, I want people to feel good,
Speaker 2: feel comfortable.
Speaker 3: Anyways, But speaking of that card, and it did ask us,
Speaker 3: I think as a group to kind of think about
Speaker 3: what is it that we're grateful for? What is it
Speaker 3: that we're in gratitude for? So if you could think
Speaker 3: of one thing right now, what would.
Speaker 1: It be I am grateful for. I mean a lot
Speaker 1: of things that I am really grateful for my ability
Speaker 1: to be authentic and show up as myself because it's
Speaker 1: given me the pleasure of attracting people who are also
Speaker 1: authentic and show up as themselves. And even if that's
Speaker 1: not normal or traditional, I've attracted all of my people
Speaker 1: and I continue to do that by just having the
Speaker 1: gift of you know, it may not be as normal
Speaker 1: or traditional, but I show up as myself, and then
Speaker 1: I literally attract friends all over the world and in
Speaker 1: my network that show up as themselves. And I'm grateful
Speaker 1: for that. I'm grateful for you guys accepting me and
Speaker 1: all my nudity and twerking and you know, all the things.
Speaker 1: Because it's not for everybody. Mila is not for everybody.
Speaker 1: Mila mownes are not for everybody. I don't think anyone
Speaker 1: should be for everybody, because you can't be for everybody.
Speaker 1: You can't literally give yourself. You literally couldn't you know
Speaker 1: what I mean.
Speaker 2: I'd be trying, though, you know what, I'm so over
Speaker 2: the people pleasing.
Speaker 1: Neggas.
Speaker 2: My friends are so embarrassing the.
Speaker 4: Hand in here.
Speaker 3: There's some men in the back screams yelling about they
Speaker 3: got hype about something.
Speaker 1: I don't know what it was.
Speaker 2: They're probably excited about the beauty. Blinded for sure. Maybe
Speaker 2: they fret to work here. I think that I'm grateful
Speaker 2: for Damn, that's a good one. I've not to feel
Speaker 2: like I need to try to do a different one. Okay,
Speaker 2: skip me.
Speaker 3: I think I'm grateful for being able to trust my intuition.
Speaker 3: I think I finally it is in a place in
Speaker 3: my life where I don't doubt it anymore ever at all.
Speaker 3: And because of that, like I've just seen how things
Speaker 3: in my life have started to flow into my life,
Speaker 3: how people that are not supposed to be in my
Speaker 3: life have float out of my life. And even though
Speaker 3: I do be stressed, like, it's only because like I know,
Speaker 3: I'm like, it's like everything that I want, everything that
Speaker 3: I am speaking into existence is on the way. It's
Speaker 3: just more of like got to get prepared. I know
Speaker 3: it's coming, you know. And so I just also feel
Speaker 3: like I'm grateful for my friends, so grateful for the
Speaker 3: people that I've been able to meet on this journey,
Speaker 3: like you, and like the people that I've been able
Speaker 3: to keep in my life for so many years as well,
Speaker 3: like the tribe that I've built. I have such an
Speaker 3: amazing group of friends, and I realize that that is
Speaker 3: not everyone's existence. I realize how difficult it is to
Speaker 3: make friends when as an adult.
Speaker 4: And I'm awkward.
Speaker 3: I'd be awkward, I don't like some people like misread
Speaker 3: my awkwardness as like standoffishness, but I am an awkward person,
Speaker 3: and so I just time I just don't even know
Speaker 3: what to say. I'm just feeling eugh, but like I'm
Speaker 3: grateful that I have a group of people that like
Speaker 3: I don't, I can I can be myself one hundred percent.
Speaker 1: I just want to say that right now, just turn
Speaker 1: to twenty two and I'll be catching all the triple
Speaker 1: digits because I will remind everyone to make a manifestation.
Speaker 1: And if you see triple digits, you do the same.
Speaker 2: And I always catch my birthday and.
Speaker 1: It's twenty twenty two. So should we just take a
Speaker 1: take a second moment everyone, wherever you're at, if you're
Speaker 1: in the car, don't close your eyes, but just take
Speaker 1: a moment to visual as the things that you want
Speaker 1: right now. What it looks like, what it feels like,
Speaker 1: what it smells like.
Speaker 2: It smells like a mansion, and it smells like.
Speaker 1: Driving what I saw driving up a rich ass driveway,
Speaker 1: the beach house, my male of Airbnb, skinny dipping in
Speaker 1: my very heated pool because I don't worried about how
Speaker 1: much it costs to heat it.
Speaker 3: I see myself getting having sex Dolly style looking over
Speaker 3: the ocean of my.
Speaker 1: Sanity pool. But like you popped up a little bit
Speaker 1: out the pool, so it's not the way you knees
Speaker 1: her in.
Speaker 2: I feel like I'm visualizing it a two man threesome.
Speaker 1: Oo girl, this will be a second time for visualizing
Speaker 1: that I need this, Okay, the first time I hung
Speaker 1: out with some Maya by the way side, not at
Speaker 1: her house. This is She's the one who inspired my
Speaker 1: interest in a male male female because she broke it
Speaker 1: down so beautifully the way that she would envision her
Speaker 1: male male female going and now like that totally changed
Speaker 1: my perception on what that looked like.
Speaker 2: And so actually I'm going to add that to Mike.
Speaker 1: Can you actually give us a brief? Can you brief
Speaker 1: us on how that's so?
Speaker 2: My fantasy for having two men is not them competing
Speaker 2: to give me pain, right, but really going off what
Speaker 2: I need me being the center of intention of like
Speaker 2: center of attention. And you got one guy kissing me
Speaker 2: like really slow, while the other maybe is massaging my
Speaker 2: feed or one of them eating me out and the
Speaker 2: other one like massaging my scalp or you know, sucking
Speaker 2: on my nipples to help me like come even harder,
Speaker 2: and just them working together. And I've added onto the fantasy.
Speaker 2: I definitely want an interview like I want to interview
Speaker 2: with my main bay a guy, and I want him
Speaker 2: to be so firm about it, like are you okay
Speaker 2: with her? Like how would you eat her pussy? Or yes,
Speaker 2: it's like leading the interview about me like sorry, like
Speaker 2: don't need like yeah, like are you going to get
Speaker 2: from multiple orgasms? It's not you can't be here, like
Speaker 2: that's that's what we're here.
Speaker 1: For, like you know, walking together.
Speaker 2: Absolutely, I'm getting big into this whole submission thing because
Speaker 2: I'm realizing, like how much power women have.
Speaker 1: You know, do you feel like because you're getting into submission,
Speaker 1: it's bringing you more into your power?
Speaker 2: I think so, and really accepting that I am bossy
Speaker 2: and that's okay, and that men that like it will
Speaker 2: be there and the ones that don't they won't.
Speaker 1: I also think people have the misconception that two men
Speaker 1: are pleasing you, then they can't both like they are
Speaker 1: must be submissive men. But like if you find like
Speaker 1: the right to dominate men who are willing to work
Speaker 1: together to get to the goal of pleasing you at
Speaker 1: their best ability and just like giving you a long
Speaker 1: drawna experience, then it give you such a beautiful thing.
Speaker 2: Absolutely, So you know, I had my session with Sir Marvelous,
Speaker 2: so I saw that he was on the show. Yeah,
Speaker 2: I definitely told him, and I told, you know, mister
Speaker 2: Bay that's what they call him over on my Patreon,
Speaker 2: mister Bay, that I wanted them to both. I want
Speaker 2: to have an experience with both of them, so I
Speaker 2: may book another session and have both of them there. Yes,
Speaker 2: that's I would like to do that.
Speaker 1: I would like to do that too.
Speaker 2: He's seen me get a central massage before, like from
Speaker 2: a man. No, from well, from pure intimacy, and that
Speaker 2: was amazing. Has he ever seen you with another man
Speaker 2: another man?
Speaker 1: No? Is he open to it?
Speaker 2: Well, now, he says, he's starting to get you know,
Speaker 2: my way of talking.
Speaker 3: About Okay, if you haven't noticed, a Maya has like
Speaker 3: the most soothing voice. So if this soothing ass a
Speaker 3: voice is like bliss some baby like, you know, I
Speaker 3: just really would love some Marvelous to come in and
Speaker 3: you know, put some fire on my pussy while you.
Speaker 1: Lick my neck.
Speaker 3: Absolutely, I'd be like, yes, yes, Tom, Yes, I wanted
Speaker 3: to sit between a guy's legs while another guy like
Speaker 3: plays with me.
Speaker 2: So he's like holding my hair and like kind of
Speaker 2: talking me through it and relaxing, meet your neck, yeah,
Speaker 2: and telling me like, don't rush my motherfucking nuts saw
Speaker 2: your ass down, Like you know, I just you know,
Speaker 2: I have vision, have vision.
Speaker 1: You have to have vision to make it happen and
Speaker 1: execute what you need to happen. Sometimes you just forget that.
Speaker 1: You have to be in that moment and really visualize
Speaker 1: it to like will it to you. You gotta really
Speaker 1: feel that ship to bring it into the universe. And
Speaker 1: like last time, to be honest, we did this motherfucking prayer.
Speaker 1: Erica got a fucking male male fucking massage, and I
Speaker 1: was super jealous, but then I wasn't.
Speaker 3: It was like Sierra's prayer, but for a ma male
Speaker 3: female did you record.
Speaker 1: No, We're we're at a party, so it wasn't like
Speaker 1: a place, so I didn't watch.
Speaker 2: Like that looked.
Speaker 4: If you guys haven't listened, you got to listen to
Speaker 4: the episode.
Speaker 1: You know what, I don't think we've talked about an episode.
Speaker 1: It's only on Patreon. Oh really, I think I think
Speaker 1: we're I think we're nervous.
Speaker 3: Okay, we'll go to Patreon and go to listen to
Speaker 3: our episode with Black Girl's text, and we did this
Speaker 3: collective prayer to have a male femw and literally that
Speaker 3: night we went to a sex party and then I
Speaker 3: got it.
Speaker 1: It was great.
Speaker 4: I was like, thank you God.
Speaker 1: I'm still working on mine because God seems to be
Speaker 1: out of the office.
Speaker 2: But I've already done enough with you. Okay, let someone
Speaker 2: else get We.
Speaker 3: Can only grant one a good mom's wish.
Speaker 1: We're not a package. I need my own mail mouth.
Speaker 1: I was like mad at her what happened because I
Speaker 1: was jealous, But then I like was like, God, this
Speaker 1: is so hot that I got into it. I was like, okay,
Speaker 1: I know, at least that's my friend.
Speaker 2: I know what I'm grateful for.
Speaker 1: What are you grateful for?
Speaker 2: But okay, I'm grateful for confidence because I feel like
Speaker 2: I did not have it for a long time, and
Speaker 2: like having it feels good as shit. Okay, like to
Speaker 2: not second guess yourself. I feel like it solved half
Speaker 2: of my anxiety issues, just having confidence in being whoever
Speaker 2: the fuck you are, and like you were just saying
Speaker 2: that the people that you're an acquired taste for don't
Speaker 2: want you, and the people that won't even if you
Speaker 2: fake like somebody else, they still won't want you so
Speaker 2: be your fuckingself.
Speaker 3: Well, eventually they all figure it out. You can only
Speaker 3: uphold the facade of even confidence for so long. You know,
Speaker 3: there's a lot of fake confidence people like. There's a
Speaker 3: lot of people that and it's like, you know, I
Speaker 3: believe in the idea that sometimes you have to fake
Speaker 3: it till you make it. Even in confidence, sometimes you
Speaker 3: have to pretend like you have it and then one
Speaker 3: day you wake up and you do.
Speaker 4: But that's you don't just wake up.
Speaker 3: You do the work, yes, and you get there and
Speaker 3: you make those choices, and you show up for yourself
Speaker 3: and you get uncomfortable, and then you wake up and
Speaker 3: then you're like, damn, I'm here.
Speaker 1: Yes, you know. I think, especially coming for three women
Speaker 1: who are really talking transparently about the male male female
Speaker 1: they want to have next as soon as possible, I
Speaker 1: think you think that we are all very confident women
Speaker 1: and fear free and like, I think even being a
Speaker 1: like sometimes you can appear confident and it doesn't mean
Speaker 1: necessarily that the internal is a reflection of that. And
Speaker 1: I think because we're on here a lot talking our personal,
Speaker 1: very personal business and maybe not as highly favored or
Speaker 1: traditional fantasies. People would assume that we're fearless and we're confident,
Speaker 1: but it has definitely been a journey, and like, especially
Speaker 1: being women and being sexual women and discussing it, it's
Speaker 1: not always a walk in the park. There's been a
Speaker 1: lot of questioning, you know, ourselves, a lot of fear
Speaker 1: even in doing this, but in doing it continuously and
Speaker 1: being like, well, it's true, Well I said it. I
Speaker 1: said it because I mean, like, maybe I'm going to
Speaker 1: count out ninety percent of the niggas who were like
Speaker 1: that bitch said what she'll never be my wife? Perfect,
Speaker 1: I don't need you anyway. Perfect didn't need you in
Speaker 1: the way anyway. But like, I just think it's taken
Speaker 1: even for us to have practice in not giving a
Speaker 1: fuck and just saying this is who I am and
Speaker 1: it's not going to be for everyone, and like just
Speaker 1: slowly cutting out those people pleasing traits because I'm a
Speaker 1: people pleaser. And I think it just starts to develop
Speaker 1: kind of from like childhood needing attention, trying to fight
Speaker 1: for attention, and then it develops into your adulthood and
Speaker 1: you're not realizing you're just trying to please everyone, but
Speaker 1: you can't.
Speaker 2: And not even pleasing yourself in the midst of doing that.
Speaker 2: I think that my boundaries have changed because I put
Speaker 2: myself first, and I realize the people that get weeded
Speaker 2: out after that. It just shows that you were benefiting
Speaker 2: from me putting you first. And if you're offended by
Speaker 2: me choosing myself, then you aren't for me. And I'm
Speaker 2: really okay with that, And also just understanding that you
Speaker 2: get one explanation out of me and that's it, because
Speaker 2: I'm not going to keep explaining to you why my
Speaker 2: answer is no, or why I don't want to come
Speaker 2: out or whatever. But I have to pick myself and
Speaker 2: I have to pick from whatever my energy is at
Speaker 2: that moment, you know what I mean. So I'm good
Speaker 2: for canceling. I will cancel on somebody fast and say,
Speaker 2: oh why, because I want to always show up as
Speaker 2: best the person that you invite it. And if I'm
Speaker 2: not being that person or or I'm dragging down the
Speaker 2: energy because I don't want to be there, why do
Speaker 2: you want me there? So I'll definitely let you know
Speaker 2: in advance, I'll reschedule with you. Whatever people cancel on me, know, worries,
Speaker 2: it's wine it's weed, it's a couch. I'm good like,
Speaker 2: let me know whenever you're free.
Speaker 1: It takes true confidence to choose yourself and be okay
Speaker 1: with it. I have been going to therapy because I'm
Speaker 1: really committed to doing the work.
Speaker 2: That's a bad bage move.
Speaker 1: And I noticed myself making decisions in like relationships that
Speaker 1: weren't really honoring who I was and like my entirety,
Speaker 1: and I realize there's something I need to obviously need
Speaker 1: to dig deeper if I'm in a position with a
Speaker 1: person that is making me question myself and a part
Speaker 1: of like the things I've been talking to my therapist
Speaker 1: about are just like when you really fuck with yourself,
Speaker 1: When someone comes into your life that doesn't really fuck
Speaker 1: with you, it takes nothing to cut them off because
Speaker 1: you're like, you know what the fuck I am? You
Speaker 1: don't even feel like there's no question is whether I
Speaker 1: should shrink or change for you, because I already know
Speaker 1: I'm the shit. But it really if you don't, if
Speaker 1: you're not in that space to really know you're the shit,
Speaker 1: it will take time to cut off niggas that you
Speaker 1: don't have time for. And that's in friendship, that's in
Speaker 1: family that's in relationships, and and I'm really like learning
Speaker 1: to better hone in on cutting the trim really fast.
Speaker 1: And I think women could all benefit from really starting
Speaker 1: to fuck with themselves so hard that the moment a friend,
Speaker 1: a bitch, a relative comes in trying to sway whatever
Speaker 1: your feelings about yourself, you can spot that shit real
Speaker 1: quick and eliminate it.
Speaker 2: Absolutely. I think that one of the things about even
Speaker 2: that card that come back to play is me spoiling myself.
Speaker 2: I actually date myself first, and it has made a
Speaker 2: hell of a difference. Like a lot of people are like,
Speaker 2: what does it mean? How do you get confident?
Speaker 1: Like?
Speaker 2: Those are the questions you get probably like all the time, Right,
Speaker 2: how'd you become so confident?
Speaker 1: Why?
Speaker 2: Because I'm speaking and you were watching. That doesn't make
Speaker 2: me necessarily the confidence. It is the work that I'm
Speaker 2: doing behind the camera. I was doing this afraid. You know,
Speaker 2: I'm not necessarily afraid anymore. But doing the work means
Speaker 2: waking up and not picking up my phone first. It
Speaker 2: means not going out and sitting alone even when I
Speaker 2: want to be around somebody. Okay, give myself some alone
Speaker 2: time with it first, and then invite someone over, Otherwise
Speaker 2: you're not going to be okay by yourself. Being okay
Speaker 2: by myself is It's where the ideas come from. It's
Speaker 2: where I can see myself, and when I know how
Speaker 2: I feel and I'm in tune with me, it means
Speaker 2: it's less work to get back on track. You ever
Speaker 2: look up and you're like, I don't even know who
Speaker 2: the fuck I am anymore, or I'm so lost, Well,
Speaker 2: guess what I know that People say I'm probably like
Speaker 2: selfish or self centered. I absolutely am because this is self.
Speaker 2: This is what fuels everything. This is what makes me
Speaker 2: a mom that's not trying to traumatize her own child,
Speaker 2: and this is what is helping break generational curses and
Speaker 2: become this badass bitch putting myself first because most of
Speaker 2: our lives were not. We're either listening to other people
Speaker 2: or you know, trying to fucking figure it out. It's
Speaker 2: taken twenty nine years for me to get to this point.
Speaker 2: I'm absolutely self centered. I am at the center of
Speaker 2: it all, and it takes less work to get back
Speaker 2: on track when I am off because I'm checking in
Speaker 2: with myself every fucking day, like every week, and real
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Speaker 3: I was in the car thinking the other day, I
Speaker 3: was like, man, I've been so I've been single now
Speaker 3: for I would say four years. I had a relationship,
Speaker 3: but it was practice. I was like, I'm thinking, like,
Speaker 3: which fun I always call it exactly, See, it doesn't count.
Speaker 1: It was practice.
Speaker 3: It was a relationships for the last great it does
Speaker 3: count in the fact that it was practice and I
Speaker 3: needed it to happen so that I could work on
Speaker 3: certain things.
Speaker 4: But I was thinking to myself.
Speaker 3: I was like, damn, Like am I happy by myself
Speaker 3: right now? Like when I'm sitting here and I'm thinking
Speaker 3: to myself like I am single? Like, yes, I get
Speaker 3: lonely and I want love sometimes and I want affection,
Speaker 3: But like, is me being single like in some way
Speaker 3: making my life less enjoyable?
Speaker 4: Like do I associate my.
Speaker 2: Something missing?
Speaker 1: Yeah? These are something missing?
Speaker 3: And do I associate my discomfort in anything in my life?
Speaker 3: Is it because I don't have a partner? And there
Speaker 3: was a part of me that was like maybe, But
Speaker 3: then there was a larger part of me that was
Speaker 3: like no, not really, And then it was like no, bitch,
Speaker 3: because you know what's on the way. That's the same
Speaker 3: thing with trusting my intuition of like knowing that, like
Speaker 3: what is for me is for me, and whether that's
Speaker 3: a man, whether that is a career, whether that is
Speaker 3: you know, where I'm going to be to two to
Speaker 3: five years from now, Like I trust wholeheartedly in wherever,
Speaker 3: whether I'm not even here anymore, do you know what
Speaker 3: I mean? Because there's that too, you know, Like none
Speaker 3: of this shit guarantee, none of it, you know, Like,
Speaker 3: and I'm morbid, I'm dark. Sometimes I'd be thinking about
Speaker 3: death and shit. But I was like, even if that
Speaker 3: is the truth, that's the journey, that's where it's supposed
Speaker 3: to be. And I was like, I felt felt good
Speaker 3: in that moment. I felt good knowing that, Like I
Speaker 3: just trust the process.
Speaker 2: You're not afraid of what's meant to be anymore.
Speaker 4: And I guess part of that is confidence. Part of
Speaker 4: that is confidence.
Speaker 3: And you know, I think confidence for me is something
Speaker 3: that's an ongoing battle for me. I feel like a
Speaker 3: lot of times I feel very confident. Then there's times
Speaker 3: where I don't. I just don't. And in those moments
Speaker 3: I accept it and then I go through and ask myself, Okay,
Speaker 3: what is it actually that's making me feel insecure? Like
Speaker 3: and do I feel like I'm in competition with someone.
Speaker 3: Do I feel like, why are they farther along and
Speaker 3: then me in this in this space? Or is it
Speaker 3: my body because you know, like you know, my weight
Speaker 3: fluctuates sometimes and sometimes I feel really snatched and other
Speaker 3: times I feel like, eh, whatever. And I think that
Speaker 3: that confidence is always an adjustment. I feel like there
Speaker 3: are times where you know things will come in and
Speaker 3: challenge you and you'll have to check yourself. You'll have
Speaker 3: to check in with yourself and you'll have to I
Speaker 3: think for me, positive self talk has been like really
Speaker 3: transformational for me, and it's something that I'm still working on,
Speaker 3: you know, talking good to yourself and talking out loud
Speaker 3: to yourself. I mean, honestly, Samaya, when you played me
Speaker 3: your what is it affirmation? Your sex affirmations that, like
Speaker 3: I have taken that and started using that as positive
Speaker 3: self talk for myself. Like actually, I've talked about it
Speaker 3: in previous episodes, recording myself talking good to myself and
Speaker 3: listening back to it, because I think a lot of
Speaker 3: times we don't hear ourselves talk good to ourselves only
Speaker 3: in our head because that's what the Internet tells us
Speaker 3: to do. That's what podcasts tell us to do to
Speaker 3: positive self talk, like, you know, but sometimes I need
Speaker 3: to hear myself, you know, because I don't hear my voice,
Speaker 3: and it's just it's an ongoing thing at least for me.
Speaker 3: But confidence is something that is crucial and transformational, and
Speaker 3: I think I think it's something that people they need.
Speaker 3: We need help, we need we really do. We do
Speaker 3: need help, we do need steps, some of us, I do.
Speaker 1: I think I think it's the practice of constantly saying,
Speaker 1: fuck the fear, you know. I think, I mean, we've
Speaker 1: we're all single moms. I mean, you have Bae Wo's
Speaker 1: mister Bay, but we've all had relationships with men we
Speaker 1: had kids with and left and that's not I think
Speaker 1: that's me. Okay, well, you're having to get the record straight.
Speaker 1: These men be leaving so because they're happy, okay. And
Speaker 1: and then you guys are good friends and you flip
Speaker 1: reversed it and you're successful and you're happy and like,
Speaker 1: but it's true, Like I think, I think sometimes we
Speaker 1: get so stuck, like in the fear of the ship,
Speaker 1: that we forget that, like you have to kind of
Speaker 1: step out on faith a lot of fucking times and
Speaker 1: trust the flow of the of your you know, intuition
Speaker 1: and of the universe for for the next steps to happen.
Speaker 1: And I think you have to constantly be like, fuck
Speaker 1: the fear, funk what may not happen? Fuck it, I
Speaker 1: don't know, but we got to do it.
Speaker 2: I think that with confidence, you have to have confidence
Speaker 2: in being wrong as well. And there are so many
Speaker 2: like a lot of people see where I'm I am now,
Speaker 2: but we're talking about three years of mistakes and loneliness
Speaker 2: and questioning myself and aging like ten fucking years just
Speaker 2: trying to be fucking successful. Like it's just like, damn,
Speaker 2: maybe I should just go back to being a regular person,
Speaker 2: like I could go get a job. And that shit
Speaker 2: made me sad and I was like, no, I can't,
Speaker 2: Like this is difficult, but not being myself is more
Speaker 2: difficult and it's more tiring, and it's just passion like
Speaker 2: through all of my life now choosing myself because it's
Speaker 2: like I don't do anything I don't want to do anymore.
Speaker 2: And that's some really, like that's what I wanted to
Speaker 2: grow up for. This is what we want to be
Speaker 2: adults for. I can fuck how I want.
Speaker 3: That's what I mean, honestly, that's what kids do. They
Speaker 3: don't be wanting to do shit they don't feel like doing,
Speaker 3: and they don't and they don't like even you, like
Speaker 3: you went to like if Jamila was on this one
Speaker 3: on this rant on Instagram the other day and I
Speaker 3: felt it though, like wanting to wear what the fuck
Speaker 3: she wanted to wear, and like having conviction about it
Speaker 3: and stomping around because this is who I am.
Speaker 4: Why won't you just let me be who the fuck
Speaker 4: I am? Whereas people will.
Speaker 3: Be like, Okay, well, yeah, you're right, Like you're right,
Speaker 3: this is not who I am, Like okay, fine, I'll
Speaker 3: wear that, or you know, oh it doesn't.
Speaker 1: Look good, okay yeah, and fit the mode.
Speaker 3: Kids are really like the fucking bosses of the world,
Speaker 3: like they are so like they just stand in their truth.
Speaker 3: They stand, they stand by they said what they said,
Speaker 3: you know, and they're not afraid.
Speaker 1: They're not afraid to demand what they want when they
Speaker 1: want it without expect like their only expectation is that
Speaker 1: they're gonna get with there's no fear and to demand it.
Speaker 1: And I started I had to, I had to reevaluate
Speaker 1: and looking at it that way because I was catching myself, like,
Speaker 1: you've asked me for so much shit? You pick I
Speaker 1: pick you up. You're asking me for shit all day long,
Speaker 1: you were asking me for shit, Like, don't I look
Speaker 1: tired to you?
Speaker 2: Scared to tell?
Speaker 1: And then and then it dawned on me. I'm like,
Speaker 1: of course she's asking you for it. You should be
Speaker 1: demanding shit too. In life, we are taught we start
Speaker 1: as a child demanding the shit we want, and then
Speaker 1: someone says, you're asking for too much. You're asking me
Speaker 1: for shit all day long. Stop asking me for shit.
Speaker 1: Be content with what you have. And sometimes that's kids
Speaker 1: are fucking spoiled and unappreciative. But in life, I think
Speaker 1: that's a part of the part, like we should adopt that.
Speaker 1: And maybe it's like I can't give you everything right now.
Speaker 1: You deserve it, You deserve everything you want and more,
Speaker 1: but I can't. I don't have the capacity to deliver
Speaker 1: to you right now at the second. In fact, I
Speaker 1: need a minute. Can you give me a minute? But
Speaker 1: it's like, even in the delivery and even in the
Speaker 1: mindset shift of ourselves and reparenting ourselves is that it's
Speaker 1: okay to request and demand and want and let people
Speaker 1: know what the things you want without hesitation and with conviction,
Speaker 1: and no one should be able to tell you differently,
Speaker 1: because this is what the fuck I want. I want
Speaker 1: the fucking filthy rich driveway. Okay, you know what it is.
Speaker 2: I feel like with that part, we're scared to say
Speaker 2: what we want when it's not normal, when it's different,
Speaker 2: And almost area of my life is like that.
Speaker 1: Well most of them wouldn't like just jump off a
Speaker 1: show and be like, oh, we all really want male
Speaker 1: male female three sums. But guess what.
Speaker 2: So hopefully somebody is watching this and they're like, let
Speaker 2: me go and tell her.
Speaker 4: Let me go ask because I need to get that,
Speaker 4: you know.
Speaker 1: You know, they're like, you know what, you're right, And
Speaker 1: I thought I was a hope for asking, But these
Speaker 1: bitches up here convicting they need it and they need
Speaker 1: it now.
Speaker 2: But you talking about people that's judging who's not getting
Speaker 2: nuts from regular one, regular men. So it's like, of
Speaker 2: course you think that it's outrageous that I want that,
Speaker 2: or men thinking it. I don't really give a fuck
Speaker 2: what you think. It's my nut and I wanted now.
Speaker 2: But as far as like wanting something different, whatever you want,
Speaker 2: if you don't see it, you have to have like
Speaker 2: the energy to create it, to figure out how to
Speaker 2: do it. I know, for me relationship wise, figuring out
Speaker 2: I was polyamorous, that one one person, no matter how
Speaker 2: much I love them, will ever be enough for me.
Speaker 2: It'll never I'm so like not judgmental that if someone
Speaker 2: else wanted a partner, my only requirement is that they're cool,
Speaker 2: Like it's a village. It takes a village, So you
Speaker 2: can't have a partner that's like, oh well, like as
Speaker 2: long as I don't know she exists, Like no, we're
Speaker 2: not doing that shit.
Speaker 1: Like it doesn't make sense.
Speaker 2: It doesn't make sense. And it's one of the reasons
Speaker 2: that for me, I don't know if marriage is going
Speaker 2: to be back on the table. You know, I've had
Speaker 2: it before and it it just I was. We just
Speaker 2: were so different, we didn't want the same things, And
Speaker 2: I think I would have literally been miserable and compartmentalized
Speaker 2: most of who I am if I was not a
Speaker 2: polyamorous woman. Like, polyamory has allowed me to meet so
Speaker 2: many people.
Speaker 1: You know, me and somebody are like the same, We're
Speaker 1: like get super energized by meeting any people we're just
Speaker 1: like lovers. She's like, do you have a new lover.
Speaker 1: I'll listen to you and talk to you about him.
Speaker 1: No one cares. I care. You love him, just like
Speaker 1: you loved the last one. I don't know, I understand you,
Speaker 1: like no is here so many No, for sure, he's
Speaker 1: a jump flame. I could feel a girl. I'm like, yes, girl,
Speaker 1: I know it's true.
Speaker 2: And it's real, and it changes, and what I want
Speaker 2: sexually changes, you.
Speaker 1: Know, And so often we're taught, especially as women, like
Speaker 1: you can like you, I don't know, like you can.
Speaker 1: You're you're monogamous and that's it. You know, you're Polly
Speaker 1: like i'd begamous. I've been a cheater. I've been a cheater.
Speaker 1: You know how often I've been in a relationship with
Speaker 1: someone and like, you know who I am starting and
Speaker 1: then continue in the relationship and they're like, you're not
Speaker 1: going to find a guy who's going to do that.
Speaker 1: You're not going to find a guy who's going to like,
Speaker 1: let you just be out here. Not that I just
Speaker 1: want to be out here, but if experience experiential fucks
Speaker 1: come up, I might want to indulge in this experience
Speaker 1: with this person. And does that mean I love you
Speaker 1: less know? And does that mean I don't get jealous? No?
Speaker 1: Does that mean like you're not going to meet someone too?
Speaker 1: And I'm gonna have to like check my feelings and like,
Speaker 1: but I'm willing to be like I know it's not perfect,
Speaker 1: it's not going to be perfect, but let's be human
Speaker 1: about it and walk through it. And like that you're
Speaker 1: out how to get and figure out how to get
Speaker 1: there together, you know. Like that's one thing about me
Speaker 1: and Orlando, Like I could tell let get anything, literally anything.
Speaker 1: I can tell me anything, and I'll be jealous for
Speaker 1: five minutes. And I'm jealous right now anyway, Like you over,
Speaker 1: I'm like mm hmm, I'm over right now. But like
Speaker 1: it's just it's really it takes practice and so often,
Speaker 1: like I've been told I'm not going to find a
Speaker 1: husband because blah blah blah. You know, you do this,
Speaker 1: your job, this, you talk about these things, and like
Speaker 1: guys don't really fuck with that. But it takes the courage.
Speaker 1: Like I don't really give a fuck with guys fuck
Speaker 1: with I, fuck with me, and then that guy is
Speaker 1: going to come as a result of fucking with me
Speaker 1: because I only want people who are going to meet
Speaker 1: me at my level. And sometimes it just requires for
Speaker 1: you to just cut off things that are comfortable. I've
Speaker 1: said this before, like, sometimes you have friends and relationships
Speaker 1: that you've had for so long, they have this idea
Speaker 1: of who you are, and that they can't even see
Speaker 1: you when you grow, They can't even see when you
Speaker 1: actually will.
Speaker 4: They will hold you hostage to that person. They will
Speaker 4: hold you hostage to the person that.
Speaker 1: You used to be, even if that's not unimore, even
Speaker 1: if it's not something you've actually agreed to, And then
Speaker 1: you start seeing yourself in that light because that's how
Speaker 1: everyone else is seeing you. And like I've talked about
Speaker 1: this before when me and Erica started this and we
Speaker 1: didn't really know the direction we're going in. We just
Speaker 1: know we're single moms and we want to have a
Speaker 1: couple of threesomes and smoke some weed and mind our
Speaker 1: business and be happy, you know, And is that what happened?
Speaker 1: That's kind of story. Just do single moms?
Speaker 2: You know?
Speaker 3: I want to smoke weed and have threesome one does it?
Speaker 3: One to date freely and I'm kidding, live peaceful.
Speaker 1: Lies, be on fucking hinge. Maybe have a couple of threesomes,
Speaker 1: drop the kids off, pick them up on Monday. And
Speaker 1: I had really close friends tell me like, I don't
Speaker 1: think this is really the Like I don't know if
Speaker 1: we're I don't know if people are going to fuck
Speaker 1: with that, you know, I don't know if that lane
Speaker 1: is something that is realistic if you want to be
Speaker 1: successful later, Like you know, brands are not going to
Speaker 1: fuck with you. If you say white bitches, white bitches,
Speaker 1: white bitches, white bitches, white bitches, I'll say whatever I want,
Speaker 1: you know. And I have some white bitches that are
Speaker 1: my friends, and if you my friend, you know, it's
Speaker 1: not personal. But the point is, it's like I've literally
Speaker 1: had to There was some when I met Erica. I
Speaker 1: told Erica, like, we're not long term friends. We haven't
Speaker 1: been friends for Hella long that we've literally became friends
Speaker 1: on the podcast in the last three and a half years.
Speaker 1: But there was a safety and just being showing up
Speaker 1: as I as I came, and that I knew I
Speaker 1: could do that, and it required that I paused some
Speaker 1: of those long term friendships that had been like, oh,
Speaker 1: you know, you know how melas you know Jamala's you
Speaker 1: know's gonna get you know, don't take your clothes off,
Speaker 1: like like, don't take your shirt off. Don't do that
Speaker 1: when we get there, Okay, like relax, I'm like, I
Speaker 1: am so sick a bit just telling me to relax.
Speaker 1: This is me relaxed.
Speaker 4: I am relaxed.
Speaker 2: I am relaxed.
Speaker 4: I'm relaxed.
Speaker 3: Topic now I'm uncurt and now I'm not relaxed because
Speaker 3: my clothes are on.
Speaker 1: This is rerue.
Speaker 2: I think that what you said it goes back to
Speaker 2: what are we still calling this? Fuck the fear, which
Speaker 2: is do it? Do it scared? Do it when you
Speaker 2: don't know what it looks like, because at the end
Speaker 2: of the day, you don't want to got to live there,
Speaker 2: goddamn life like and at the end of the day,
Speaker 2: so what if people don't FUCKU with what you're talking about?
Speaker 2: It's hello people that didn't fuck with the fact that
Speaker 2: I sugg dick for a living.
Speaker 1: And I wish we could stopped saying that because you
Speaker 1: don't get sound you so much, but it's not what
Speaker 1: you do. You teach people how to suck dick for
Speaker 1: a living, well, I have.
Speaker 4: To suck you said you such silicone for a living?
Speaker 2: See that don't sound like let's book her is?
Speaker 4: That's not that sexy? It don't sound it's like silicone
Speaker 4: for a living.
Speaker 2: Yes, so you know I have sex or whatever, teach
Speaker 2: sex or whatever for a living, and a lot of
Speaker 2: people that didn't fuck with it are the same people
Speaker 2: that's in my dms now either wanting an interview or oh,
Speaker 2: can you give me something because you trust me, because
Speaker 2: you know I'm not going to judge you as you
Speaker 2: were judging me, right, Like why do you even give
Speaker 2: a fuck what anybody else is doing? And why do
Speaker 2: you give a fuck if they give a fuck what
Speaker 2: you're doing, Like they can't beat your as well? If
Speaker 2: they can, then maybe that's your issue. But if you
Speaker 2: can't be my ass at this point, it's like what
Speaker 2: you're not paying my bills? Like I'm not scared. I'm
Speaker 2: just I'm not scared anymore, and I'm not scared of
Speaker 2: myself and my potential and what could be because betting
Speaker 2: on myself has been the best turnout of every move
Speaker 2: I've made ever since doing think about it. If you're
Speaker 2: living a life and you're doing something one hundred percent,
Speaker 2: I know for a fact that I'm going to get
Speaker 2: one hundred percent back of what it's supposed to be.
Speaker 2: But when you're making these other moves in lives for
Speaker 2: other people, you're half asking them because you don't want
Speaker 2: to do it, and that's why you're getting half assed results.
Speaker 2: I show up one hundred and ten percent as Somaya,
Speaker 2: and I get one hundred and ten percent back, And
Speaker 2: it's looking like that. And started the business with three
Speaker 2: and a half years ago. I didn't really start choosing
Speaker 2: myself until a year ago. And that's a year ago
Speaker 2: when everything changed. Y'all have seen Sexual Essentials, but I
Speaker 2: started Sexual Essentials on a credit card, you know what
Speaker 2: I mean? No money, no nothing, just figuring it out
Speaker 2: and life will meet you where you're at. You got
Speaker 2: to do the work, though, What do you think it
Speaker 2: was a year ago that really just that's something turned
Speaker 2: for you? Was it something specific or was it just
Speaker 2: kind of like starting to really see the success of
Speaker 2: your business grow. Maybe it's like eighteen months ago. So
Speaker 2: when my husband left, he literally was just like, I
Speaker 2: think that you're amazing, but I am not happy. He
Speaker 2: was like, our life is good and I'm not happy
Speaker 2: in it. And resentment came and so I realized that
Speaker 2: I didn't want to. I didn't want to be the
Speaker 2: one to leave because I believed in marriage right, and
Speaker 2: I honestly think for that last year we were tussling
Speaker 2: back and forth with basically like knowing that this isn't working,
Speaker 2: but coming from households of marriage and feeling like we
Speaker 2: can't get a divorce though. And then it's like in
Speaker 2: this world, when you tell people, oh I'm just not happy,
Speaker 2: you know what they tell you, well, sometimes marriage isn't
Speaker 2: always happy, and da da da da da. No, in
Speaker 2: my best self, he wasn't happy with me, and that's
Speaker 2: only making me feel bad about myself because this is
Speaker 2: a person that I love that thinks of me that way.
Speaker 2: And I literally told him I understand and thank you
Speaker 2: so much for telling me. And bitch, I've been off
Speaker 2: the chain ever fucking since. And not because it's like, oh,
Speaker 2: well i'm single now. No, it was like there were
Speaker 2: things I wasn't doing in my business that I wanted
Speaker 2: to do simply because I knew that he kind of
Speaker 2: was judging me or you know what I mean, and
Speaker 2: it's just like with nobody judging me, it was just
Speaker 2: like I'm never going back to that again, feeling like
Speaker 2: I have to do what if you don't love the
Speaker 2: person that I am, then move the fuck on.
Speaker 1: Period. Why are you.
Speaker 2: Trying to change me? I'm not trying to change you.
Speaker 1: That's not love. If you're in a relationship with someone
Speaker 1: and that their love is circumstantial, if you do this,
Speaker 1: then we can be that. Then like, if what that's
Speaker 1: my thing? If what I do naturally it just makes
Speaker 1: me happy doesn't also make you happy. We're probably not
Speaker 1: aligned in that. I'm not saying that, like relationships don't
Speaker 1: require like compromise, but I'm gonna want to naturally do
Speaker 1: the compromise if I don't, if I feel.
Speaker 3: Like it's hurting me like they I feel like people
Speaker 3: wrap compromise and so many packages.
Speaker 1: A bullshit package where like that it's.
Speaker 3: Like manipulation shows up in a package that says compromise
Speaker 3: on it.
Speaker 4: You know what I mean.
Speaker 3: And it's just like you have to be able to
Speaker 3: kind of know the difference, and you do know the difference.
Speaker 3: Your body tells you every time. I think we deny,
Speaker 3: like like we deny our intuition, We deny like the
Speaker 3: basic functions of how our bodies react to certain things.
Speaker 3: That are said to us, the things that you know,
Speaker 3: when we lay next to someone and we feel like
Speaker 3: something ain't right.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and even and especially even in sex.
Speaker 4: You know, I think, like you know, when the compromise
Speaker 4: is not it's not you, it's something you can't compromise.
Speaker 2: Yeah, this just isn't working. And we're scared to start over.
Speaker 2: We're scared of what other people think when we start over,
Speaker 2: and we're scared to be wrong. I be loud and
Speaker 2: wrong because the mistakes is really how I got to
Speaker 2: the thing that worked, and I need to fail hard
Speaker 2: and good. So I know, without a doubt in my mind,
Speaker 2: Oh no, that was not for me. When you kind
Speaker 2: of do stuff a little bit, then you kind of
Speaker 2: think and later, well, what maybe if I would have
Speaker 2: went a little bit harder. Maybe I don't have No.
Speaker 2: Maybe it's because everything that I'm doing, i'm doing it
Speaker 2: because I super believe in it, and if it don't work,
Speaker 2: it's not even in my mind. No, no, no, no,
Speaker 2: that's how I feel about anal No. No, no, you
Speaker 2: know I do. But it was it was a long
Speaker 2: It was a long no for a long time, but
Speaker 2: I was like, fuck it, we just got to do it,
Speaker 2: and I did it, and it was she went towards.
Speaker 1: She walked towards the fear. I walked towards.
Speaker 2: But it was a good. Oh my god.
Speaker 1: It's also like I think women are taught to be
Speaker 1: safe and and that's so it's our human nature. But
Speaker 1: feels secure, what feels safe, But sometimes safety will keep
Speaker 1: will keep you small, betting small and sacrificing your happiness.
Speaker 1: Like when me and Erica first started Good Moms, probably
Speaker 1: like six months in, I was dating this young guy
Speaker 1: in Jersey. A bitch got pregnant and I was like,
Speaker 1: he really wanted me to have this baby we had
Speaker 1: just started. Erica was like trying to fake be supportive.
Speaker 1: You can do whatever you want, but I just don't know.
Speaker 1: And I he has a job that he saved ten
Speaker 1: thousand dollars once, so he's secure. I was like, probably
Speaker 1: not in a good place, and I wasn't. I'd only
Speaker 1: been single for like two years and my last, my last,
Speaker 1: my last baby, daddy. This is so good. I also
Speaker 1: want to talk about growth, because I never talked about
Speaker 1: this on the show because I was too embarrassed to
Speaker 1: admit that this was happening. About what was happening, even
Speaker 1: though I was talking about all this other ship. But
Speaker 1: he was one of those guys who were not really
Speaker 1: understanding the vision. He was like, he's like, you should
Speaker 1: just move to New Jersey and be with me. And
Speaker 1: I was like, okay, I really waited a long, right,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna be a fucking New Jersey housewife.
Speaker 4: So my I was like so drinking.
Speaker 1: I was like, we're gonna do the podcast.
Speaker 2: I'm gonna move hear Eric she was.
Speaker 1: She wasn't good at faking it because we weren't as
Speaker 1: close yet, so she was like trying to be like supportive,
Speaker 1: but the point I.
Speaker 4: Was supportive, but she knew that was hired of everyone's shit.
Speaker 3: She knew was a dumb ass idea because it was
Speaker 3: looked like I seem like I'm a bitch. I just
Speaker 3: knew that, Like I knew that you were going to
Speaker 3: make the decision you were going to make. I was
Speaker 3: just going to be support what I mean, I wasn't
Speaker 3: I'm never going to tell someone what to do in
Speaker 3: their life. I knew that Jamila was going to make
Speaker 3: the choice that she was going to make. I also
Speaker 3: knew that, like we were onto something, and like I
Speaker 3: also knew that she knew that you know and like open.
Speaker 2: That she does what you want.
Speaker 1: But I literally had to bet on myself. I was like,
Speaker 1: it was new. Nobody understood what we were doing. It
Speaker 1: wasn't popular opinion. They're like, how are you going to
Speaker 1: make money? I was like, I don't know. Don't ask
Speaker 1: me those kinds of questions. I'm just telling my business
Speaker 1: on the internet right now. Okay, let's just start going
Speaker 1: to lean to big places. Mom, Okay, everybody needs to
Speaker 1: know about my three sons for my success to happen.
Speaker 1: But literally, my ass was so fucking I felt it
Speaker 1: so deeply in my spirit at already I had a
Speaker 1: baby with someone I knew for years. It did not
Speaker 1: work out. I remembered the feeling of being miserable and
Speaker 1: feeling stuck, and the courage it took me to get
Speaker 1: up out of that shit, and it took so fucking
Speaker 1: much to cut it off that Like, as I was falling,
Speaker 1: like sinking back into that place with this new nigga
Speaker 1: who had a job, I was like, you guys have
Speaker 1: a job. But I was just like, and I literally
Speaker 1: waited so long. I was like, are're gonna have a baby?
Speaker 1: I'm gonna have a family, and like literally, I was like,
Speaker 1: I can't do this. And I went to the fucking
Speaker 1: clinic and they're like, this is the last day that
Speaker 1: you can do this.
Speaker 2: And I was like, oh.
Speaker 1: I was in the lobby like should I leave? Should
Speaker 1: I leave? Should I stay? Should I leave? Stay? Stay? Say?
Speaker 1: And I was like something rooted my fucking ass in
Speaker 1: that waiting seat and I did not get the fuck up.
Speaker 1: I'm like, bitch, if you leave today, there's no coming back.
Speaker 1: But I knew in that moment, something deep in my
Speaker 1: gut told me, and I asked God. I was like,
Speaker 1: give me a fucking sign, and that nigga was like,
Speaker 1: you should have an abortion. I was like, perfect, no, I'm glad.
Speaker 1: I agree. I was like, made that appointment so quick.
Speaker 1: But looking back, bitch, I would have a four year
Speaker 1: old in February trip and.
Speaker 3: You may not have Maybe I don't know, maybe you
Speaker 3: wouldn't have moved there. Maybe you would have moved there,
Speaker 3: Maybe you wouldn't have maybe we would have had the baby,
Speaker 3: maybe you wouldn't have, but we could have still possibly
Speaker 3: still had good moms. You would have just been good
Speaker 3: moms with two kids. And I would have had one
Speaker 3: start over, it would be a different conversation. But yeah,
Speaker 3: I think that.
Speaker 1: The safety, that the illusion of safety is literally almost
Speaker 1: made me bet against myself, bet against my gut. And
Speaker 1: it's a crazy idea starting a podcast. There is no
Speaker 1: money for forever a lot of time, so it didn't
Speaker 1: make sense. But in my body and in my spirit,
Speaker 1: it made sense. And I had no idea what was
Speaker 1: happening or what was going to happen. But thank fucking
Speaker 1: God that I have a supportive friend and that I
Speaker 1: something in me is like I can't. I can't do
Speaker 1: the same, not bet on myself twice. I've gotten out
Speaker 1: of the situation once. There's no way in fucking hell
Speaker 1: I'm about to get in this position twice because of
Speaker 1: me and then have to live with the circumstances of
Speaker 1: knowing in my gut I didn't really want to do
Speaker 1: something but pleasing someone else because it seemed safe and
Speaker 1: it seemed like, oh, I have the house and a
Speaker 1: nigga and whatever I thought I was going to be
Speaker 1: fucking having. But now I'm having three sums and going
Speaker 1: to sex parties. So woo.
Speaker 2: Just said all that to say, don't have to say.
Speaker 1: Look at my best life.
Speaker 2: But not only that.
Speaker 3: I mean, have a brand that you know is successful.
Speaker 3: You are like following your dreams. You are painting and
Speaker 3: designing the life you want. You have ideas and you
Speaker 3: know we make them happen, you know what I mean,
Speaker 3: and in such a more fulfilling way than the tending.
Speaker 1: Than that would have been.
Speaker 3: So I mean that's a testament to yes, betting on
Speaker 3: yourself even when, like you said, it didn't make any sense.
Speaker 1: And not questioning who you are. You know, there's so
Speaker 1: much great. He told me one time, that same guy.
Speaker 1: He's like, yeah, I dated this girl and she told
Speaker 1: me she went to have a male male female relationship
Speaker 1: I mean threesome. I was like, oh, that's pretty dope.
Speaker 1: What'd you say? He's like, I would never make her
Speaker 1: my girl, Nigga, that's why I can't be girl. I
Speaker 1: gotta know she's on this something. Can you cute? She
Speaker 1: found somebody. But it's just like if I would have
Speaker 1: been like, that's not a normal fantasy to have. You're right,
Speaker 1: that kind of girl doesn't deserve to be married. Fuck that.
Speaker 1: But no, bitch, this is who I am. This is
Speaker 1: how I'm coming and hot and like that's the only
Speaker 1: way to be. You gotta be one hundred and ten
Speaker 1: percent yourself or none of that shit. You know, like,
Speaker 1: no one can make you you. No one defines you,
Speaker 1: not no nigga, not a relationship, not no mom or dad.
Speaker 1: Like we're grown now and I would just hate. One
Speaker 1: of my biggest things is like, imagine if something happens
Speaker 1: to me today and I'm like, fuck should I could
Speaker 1: have would have? But I did because so and so
Speaker 1: said or someone told me not to do that, Like
Speaker 1: I what if I would have been like, you're right,
Speaker 1: I said, white bitches too many times on that first episode.
Speaker 1: Let's just shut the whole shit down.
Speaker 2: You got you gotta you gotta be willing to lose big.
Speaker 2: But whoever said in the beginning you when you bet
Speaker 2: on yourself and you bet big, you win big. That's
Speaker 2: real as well, And I'm not I don't think that
Speaker 2: any of us are telling you to just go out
Speaker 2: and do something reckless. Make calculated decisions, but for the
Speaker 2: decisions that you want. Sometimes the road less traveled is
Speaker 2: just better, or the road that hasn't even been created yet,
Speaker 2: it's yours because it's time for you to create that
Speaker 2: shit you know, like it has discipline or even just
Speaker 2: starting over, like whatever the fuck you need to do.
Speaker 2: Being happy is some real flex ass shit because so
Speaker 2: many people are unhappy. And it don't mean I'm happy
Speaker 2: one hundred percent of the time all day, every fucking day,
Speaker 2: but almost every day I'm like, thank fucking god that
Speaker 2: nigga left me, like thank god, like I started this bent,
Speaker 2: thank God I sucked dick for a living like it works,
Speaker 2: and by ID be grateful. But if.
Speaker 1: A living, we wouldn't be here.
Speaker 2: We wouldn't be here. You all were talking about relationships,
Speaker 2: and I definitely have to say it out loud. I
Speaker 2: am yearning to date another couple, Like it's very yearning. Yeah,
Speaker 2: because we're putting it out here for the January manifesting things. Yes,
Speaker 2: I'm yearning for that. I think like watching another couple
Speaker 2: be in love and then like it's not really my
Speaker 2: responsibility is like sexy as fuck.
Speaker 1: I feel like attaching yourself to a very loving couple
Speaker 1: manifests love for you. I know a couple who the
Speaker 1: wife was a unicorn before she met her husband, and
Speaker 1: that couple, that married couple was really rooting for her
Speaker 1: and manifesting for her to meet that husband and she did,
Speaker 1: you know. And I just think people like miss have
Speaker 1: a misconception of really the beauty of being around a
Speaker 1: true love that's trusting and loving and is so open
Speaker 1: that they can embrace you in their relationship and it
Speaker 1: can really cultivate like that love effect. Yeah, you see it,
Speaker 1: You see it's possible, So you attract that for yourself.
Speaker 2: Absolutely, you don't have to always be the main character
Speaker 2: in the love story. But understanding what turns you on,
Speaker 2: even I feel like has pushed me to sexual limits
Speaker 2: that I didn't even think was possible, and just saying
Speaker 2: it out loud, like because when you say it out loud,
Speaker 2: you're gonna find somebody else who's with that shit, you know,
Speaker 2: So just getting used to saying that outlanders, thinking, yeah,
Speaker 2: people look at you like you're crazy sometimes, but like, shit,
Speaker 2: I wouldn't mind it.
Speaker 1: Like, you know, how long it's to say out loud,
Speaker 1: I want to have a male male female for so
Speaker 1: long that's not my fantasy. That's not my fantasy. And
Speaker 1: then I was like, it is my fantasy and I
Speaker 1: should yell it from the rooftops.
Speaker 2: And I still need to have my all girl threesome
Speaker 2: and I need to what else do I need to do?
Speaker 2: I got shit to do in twenty twenty two.
Speaker 3: Okay, well, I think it's so cool that we are
Speaker 3: in a space now. I mean, obviously, I know that
Speaker 3: there's a lot of women who are listening that are.
Speaker 4: Like, Wow, these bitches are crazy. But and then there's
Speaker 4: some that are like.
Speaker 2: Damn, like I want that shit too.
Speaker 1: I want that this is your permission as to do
Speaker 1: whatever I feel however you want to feel, yeah.
Speaker 3: And that we can have these conversations, and that there's
Speaker 3: even like resources like like like field, like dating apps
Speaker 3: that allow you to be yourself and show up as
Speaker 3: yourself off the off the gate, and that there's so
Speaker 3: many people on that app that feel safe, even comfortable.
Speaker 3: It lets you know that there are so many people
Speaker 3: out there, yes, that want that want that weird, freaky,
Speaker 3: freaky kinky shit that you saw on a porn one
Speaker 3: time that you've been waiting to do on someone or
Speaker 3: or you didn't.
Speaker 1: Think that anyone was doing.
Speaker 3: I think that like sex is so human and all
Speaker 3: the kinks are so human, whether or not I want
Speaker 3: to explore them or not. Like for me, I'm not
Speaker 3: interested in polyamory. You know, that's not that's not my vibe.
Speaker 1: I do. I do I subscribe to monogamy.
Speaker 3: No, not really, but I feel like I love that
Speaker 3: for you, I love that for her, I love that
Speaker 3: for everyone. I believe that everyone should be able to
Speaker 3: experience the type of love, the type of sex that
Speaker 3: they that they want, because guess what, y'all were only
Speaker 3: here for a limited amount of time.
Speaker 4: It's crazy, And.
Speaker 1: I don't maybe have the responsibility of like owning someone
Speaker 1: or limiting their their pleasure, Like.
Speaker 3: It goes so fast, life goes so fast, like and
Speaker 3: when you're gone, I mean, I don't.
Speaker 4: I believe that energy never dies.
Speaker 2: Should ever let me smoke on camera?
Speaker 3: I believe that energy never dies. But like this experience
Speaker 3: right now, me and this body you and this body
Speaker 3: you and this body, like this is it?
Speaker 1: Do it? Do it all.
Speaker 2: I'm with the ship.
Speaker 1: Don't let anyone or any fucking beliefs limit that shit
Speaker 1: because it's it's such a waste, It's such a waste
Speaker 1: of time.
Speaker 3: Yeah, Like, if you want to make a career sucking
Speaker 3: dick and teaching women how to fucking take charge of
Speaker 3: their sexual power, like do that ship, Like Samaya, Like
Speaker 3: what you do, Smaya is so important the Lord's work.
Speaker 3: It is really important.
Speaker 2: I really trying to get into heaven over here.
Speaker 4: Okay, you're doing it is the Lord's work.
Speaker 1: And I'm not saying that. I guess what's gonna be
Speaker 1: waiting for you when you get there, Fu.
Speaker 3: And a little chair of just following you around sprinkling
Speaker 3: dust on your head all day, because it is like
Speaker 3: you are changing women's and men's lives and changing the
Speaker 3: lives and relationships for people and couples, and and that
Speaker 3: is so important, and that is so part of like
Speaker 3: I think, I think the journey of becoming confident, being
Speaker 3: able to know what you want, being able to ask
Speaker 3: for what you want, I think a lot of it
Speaker 3: does start with sex, you know, and same with us,
Speaker 3: Like I'd like fucking two moms talking about sex on
Speaker 3: the internet, talking about mental health, talking about our kids,
Speaker 3: having posts about dildo's next to kids, next to like
Speaker 3: how much we love I fucking love my daughter so.
Speaker 1: Much because this is my life life, this.
Speaker 4: Is the existence of who I am. I like sex,
Speaker 4: I love my kid, I like to look cute.
Speaker 3: I'm trying to figure it out, you know, Like I'm
Speaker 3: an entrepreneur. I want to build businesses, I want to
Speaker 3: smoke weed like I want to do all those things
Speaker 3: and I should be able to do that. And I
Speaker 3: think it's really important for people to see women that
Speaker 3: are multifaceted and inspire them.
Speaker 4: So sorry, that's it, that's my spiel, that's my soul.
Speaker 1: That was beautiful, that's beautiful, honey. My wife is so smart.
Speaker 1: God God, I have such smart wives money and she
Speaker 1: has nice titties and I'm trying like looking badasses nice titties.
Speaker 1: Thank you, ladies for this episode. I love you guys.
Speaker 2: So what's our? What's our? What's our? What do we
Speaker 2: want people to take away? Be a boss sazed bitch
Speaker 2: and do you guy? Or be a boss sass dick.
Speaker 1: The affirmation is do you boo? Do you boo? You boo?
Speaker 2: Confidently? Just do it anyway. Please remember yourself, good God,
Speaker 2: Please remember yourself.
Speaker 1: And if you don't remember, it goes somewhere alone to
Speaker 1: figure that shit out and without the voice or opinions
Speaker 1: of others.
Speaker 2: I did a thing the other day, though I do
Speaker 2: got to tell you about it. So I got this
Speaker 2: foot massage or thing. It was like self love from Amazon,
Speaker 2: and it massages your feet like really really good, but
Speaker 2: like really really good, like it feels like a man
Speaker 2: is rubbing your feet. And I got my toy and
Speaker 2: I made myself come with at the same time as
Speaker 2: it was rubbing my feet, so it felt like I
Speaker 2: was getting a foot rube while I was like having
Speaker 2: my gosh, it was amazing. I feel like I'm always
Speaker 2: trying to do something, so it feels like I'm getting
Speaker 2: sucked by two people.
Speaker 1: Can you can you? We're gonna have to drop that
Speaker 1: link of that foot mascle.
Speaker 2: We need to have y'all sign up so they can
Speaker 2: give y'all some money because that shit was amazing. The
Speaker 2: thing was like on sale from like the Black Friday,
Speaker 2: so it was like maybe like two hundred bucks, so's yes,
Speaker 2: so that it was on sale. I put my feet
Speaker 2: in it. And this is another good thing about having
Speaker 2: a long time You can do weird ass orgasm shit, okay.
Speaker 2: And I was sitting on my couch, don't sit on
Speaker 2: my couch, sitting on my couch, and my feet were
Speaker 2: like this, and I got my toy and I was like, oh,
Speaker 2: this feels so fucking good, Like I could just imagine
Speaker 2: having a nut, and I was like, fuck it. Put
Speaker 2: out the toy and with the couch up. It was
Speaker 2: a good nut. I stayed there for three times. I
Speaker 2: had to run that ship back there for three times,
Speaker 2: three nimes, three nuts. I was like, bitch, this is
Speaker 2: this is why they pay you to be a bus.
Speaker 1: And you were experimenting for the people. Okay, for the people.
Speaker 2: I'm doing it for you, okay, and anything that feel good.
Speaker 2: I just try to figure out can I add a
Speaker 2: net to that.
Speaker 1: That makes sense? Yeah? Pleasure own pleasure.
Speaker 2: Know.
Speaker 4: I just remember the title of our last episode was
Speaker 4: Fear of the Nut.
Speaker 1: Was the fear fear?
Speaker 2: Like we got I got to come back on your patreons.
Speaker 2: We can talk about our summer six.
Speaker 1: Okay, let's do it.
Speaker 2: We need to do that. Get people some of the tips,
Speaker 2: like because your orgasms can always.
Speaker 4: Be better if you don't follow somebody on Patreon, what
Speaker 4: the fuck are you doing?
Speaker 1: Follow the Patreon and follow sexual Senseles there.
Speaker 3: You will thank us later, like you will learn so much.
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Speaker 1: I told them this. The winchow Wiper is the thing
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Speaker 1: you tell the people were find you?
Speaker 2: Absolutely? You guys can find me in their bid Okay,
Speaker 2: no for us. So my website is the sexual Essentials
Speaker 2: dot com or you can find me on Instagram at
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Speaker 2: And so I teach dick suckon, dick riding, masturbations, squirting,
Speaker 2: manifesting with your orgasms, everything and all the tough conversations too.
Speaker 2: So like if you've never had an orgasm and stuff
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