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Speaker 1: Welcome back to Good Mom's Bad Choices. I'm Erica and

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Speaker 1: I'm Mila. Happy Wednesday. Happy Wednesday, y'all. How are you feeling.

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Speaker 2: I'm good.

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Speaker 3: I feel like, I don't know, I feel I'm feeling optimistic,

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Speaker 3: I'm feeling light, I'm feeling positive.

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Speaker 1: I'm feeling stoned.

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Speaker 4: I love that I took a tincture.

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Speaker 3: And I don't know if you guys are into tinctures,

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Speaker 3: but damn, s just hits you harder than I thought. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: it's like a slow creep. It's not literally, I felt

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Speaker 3: like my eyes suddenly just.

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Speaker 1: Like go it's inaudible.

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Speaker 3: I'm really I have these heavy ass eyelashes on right now,

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Speaker 3: like prom queen, and I feel like they're weighing my

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Speaker 3: eyelids down to my eyes open.

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Speaker 1: If you guys have been yet, check check us out

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Speaker 1: on YouTube so you can see Eric is open.

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Speaker 3: You actually better check us out because I have a

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Speaker 3: full face of fucking makeup on.

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Speaker 4: Somebody needs to see this ship.

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Speaker 3: Her titties are at the red lips are on the school.

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Speaker 3: I dressed like a like a boss bitch because we

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Speaker 3: have a boss bitch on our show today, and I

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Speaker 3: was like, I need to be bossy and look like

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Speaker 3: I'm going to teach some shit.

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Speaker 1: And you and you nailed it, nailed it. Educator of things. Okay,

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Speaker 1: if you're just joining our show, that is Erica. I

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Speaker 1: am Miila. We are moms. We are also experts at

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Speaker 1: many things, advice, threesomes, talking to your kids about uncomfortable things,

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Speaker 1: cannabis and parenthood and you know, all the things that

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Speaker 1: you didn't know you needed but surprise, you needed it,

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Speaker 1: and we're here to tell you all about it. Experts

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Speaker 1: at new age parenting, thought leaders, authors, set designers, merch designers,

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Speaker 1: all of the things.

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Speaker 4: Bad bitch, bad bitch.

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Speaker 1: This is a lot of bad bitches in one room.

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Speaker 2: Bitches.

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Speaker 1: I'm so excited because we have our girl, our wife,

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Speaker 1: and our beautiful sexual essential samayah.

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Speaker 3: Here beautiful sexual.

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Speaker 1: Oh guy, she's all the way from l A.

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Speaker 2: We met.

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Speaker 3: We met Samaya during COVID and we've only done an

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Speaker 3: episode virtually, so this is like a really, this is

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Speaker 3: a tree.

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Speaker 1: We gotta got you in.

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Speaker 3: The fledge and I got titties out. I put them

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Speaker 3: off for you, and none of that. You really enjoyed titties.

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Speaker 3: I heard you referenced titties and many times of conversations.

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Speaker 2: So I was like, really like titty She's like, everybody

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Speaker 2: really knows that I really love titties. Like I have

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Speaker 2: a lot of ass. So it's like, are you not?

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Speaker 2: Are you an ass woman?

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Speaker 1: Or are not? Really?

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Speaker 2: I have enough? I mean I like a nice ass.

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Speaker 4: What about a guy? Like does a guy need to

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Speaker 4: have an have asked.

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Speaker 2: My niece to have anything?

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Speaker 1: I mean, but I'm saying like, do you prefer like

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Speaker 1: if do you like a hippie guy, a hippie guy,

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Speaker 1: you know those niggas who got big hips.

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Speaker 4: Not a hippie guy.

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Speaker 2: But I think the limit is is my hips.

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Speaker 1: If you're hippier, it's.

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Speaker 2: Probably not my thing. But I like titties. I like

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Speaker 2: the nipple, you know anyways.

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Speaker 1: I like the nipple. I've never heard anyone say that

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Speaker 1: I like the nipple. I like the areola.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, like the tongue around it is like this, you know,

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Speaker 2: little flick like see how did we get there? This

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Speaker 2: is how we can't do you?

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Speaker 1: What about you? You asked, are titty girl Erica ask?

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Speaker 1: I think I'm a I'm pretty much an ask girl too. Well.

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Speaker 2: I'm glad that I'm in you alls lives. So you

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Speaker 2: guys about the titties and the nipple. You know, I

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Speaker 2: get titties and and I have the ass and.

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Speaker 1: It's and together we make up perfect threesome. Last year

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Speaker 1: we met Samaya and Covid. Like two weeks later, maybe

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Speaker 1: a month later, She's like, I'm coming to La. We're

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Speaker 1: best friends. I'm like, okay, sounds good. I'm happy. Okay,

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Speaker 1: some mis coming to La with best friends. Now she's

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Speaker 1: like perfect, And then really we were best friends, and

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Speaker 1: here we are a year later, maybe a year and

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Speaker 1: a half later now, no right. Shout out to Orlando

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Speaker 1: from Harder Sawce for bringing us together.

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Speaker 2: Yes, we appreciate you. We love you, Orlando.

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Speaker 1: We do love you, Orlando. Do I love Orlando and Tahoe.

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Speaker 1: You know he gets sensitive.

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Speaker 3: We love Tahoe.

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Speaker 1: We love you.

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Speaker 4: We don't make sure we're at him.

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Speaker 1: Here, him in the comments may make sure that.

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Speaker 3: I don't know if there's a special way we could

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Speaker 3: tag my voice and put Tahoe there somehow, but we could,

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Speaker 3: we would.

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Speaker 1: It's a very sensitive pisces man. Yes, girl with that

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Speaker 1: sensitivity over there, and then be acting like he's not sensitive.

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Speaker 1: I'm like, nigga, that is the most sensitive thing of

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Speaker 1: all things to do pretend like you ain't sensitive when

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Speaker 1: everybody knows that you is.

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Speaker 2: Like you all podcast husbands almost like they're a very

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Speaker 2: attractive podcasts, and you guys are, of course, are a

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Speaker 2: very attractive podcast I feel like y'all in one room.

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Speaker 2: Everybody's like, yeah, I'll go. I mean, okay, look at nice,

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Speaker 2: nice things.

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Speaker 1: I know they are our podcast husbands. I mean, obviously

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Speaker 1: everybody knows Orlando's my bond ship Bay. We're stuck for life.

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Speaker 1: I would calling him with his bitches. I'd be like,

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Speaker 1: let me see the bitches you did yes last night,

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Speaker 1: let me see I love him shout out to him,

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Speaker 1: my man, because he's literally answers the phone for me,

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Speaker 1: no matter what bitches. But he's like I had a

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Speaker 1: force him last night. I'm like, let me see those bitches.

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Speaker 1: He's like, no, like whatever, Bye, I'm jealous love you Bye.

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Speaker 1: I'm true open bondship baby. You know. I'm just so

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Speaker 1: happy that you're here.

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Speaker 2: I am I'm like, I'm not even saying anything. I'm

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Speaker 2: just in blues. I'm just I'm so happy. Life pulls

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Speaker 2: you together. And I think like, as an adult, it's

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Speaker 2: really difficult to find friends. And I'm like, fuck this shit.

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Speaker 2: You want to be my friend?

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Speaker 1: Bye, We'll pull you in the corner at this lyard

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Speaker 1: and be the friend. She's like, I'm scheduling my plane

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Speaker 1: ticket for next week, okay. And then she's like, if

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Speaker 1: you don't spend, did you block out fourty eight hours

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Speaker 1: for just me? You can't go anywhere else? Oh you didn't.

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Speaker 1: She does not fuck around. I'm a very scheduling as bach. Okay,

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Speaker 1: very scheduled, very scheduling. Our scheduling ass bitch. She pulled

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Speaker 1: a card today I did. It's Terrorot time. She would

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Speaker 1: do a song. It's Tarot time. It's Tarot time, bitches,

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Speaker 1: it's Terot time. I don't like it. T I kind

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Speaker 1: of like the JJQ yeah jj is cue.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I like that sound.

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Speaker 1: Damn, I can't drop my single yet, Terot. You can

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Speaker 1: go over to a rewrite today. Samayah pulled the Night

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Speaker 1: of Cups, and the Night of Cups is an invitation

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Speaker 1: to splurge. She's fancy. She has appropriate the rich bitch

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Speaker 1: car you know you got open. You're not rich, but

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Speaker 1: your friend is richly I get about her, like, well,

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Speaker 1: my friend is rich it's just be happy because my

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Speaker 1: friend bought it. This is my friend's house. This is

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Speaker 1: my friend house. She bought it. She's rich. That's my

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Speaker 1: that's my semia first of sexual, that's my sexual sexual

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Speaker 2: I am so embarrassed.

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Speaker 1: Isn't it nice when you keep ghetto friends like us?

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Speaker 2: Yes? I need it.

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Speaker 1: We're almost rich like you. If you have one rich friend,

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Speaker 1: you'll be soon the rich friend too, birds of a friend,

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Speaker 1: the fuck together period. Anyway, This invitation is to splurge

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Speaker 1: indulgent life's pleasures. This includes enjoying good food and wine.

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Speaker 1: Everybody knows somebody likes a good wine. But we happened

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Speaker 1: last last night, appreciating the arts, making love, relaxing and

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Speaker 4: Literally walked in the doors like, can you shade match me?

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Speaker 4: Brought me a aircraft?

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Speaker 1: I stole my purse. Live in the moment and give

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Speaker 1: yourself permission to indulge temporarily without any guilt about the

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Speaker 1: possible negative consequences of such pleasure. When you see the

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Speaker 1: nine of cups in a reading, and remember to count

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Speaker 1: your blessings and express gratitude for what you have. Start

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Speaker 1: or end every day by creating a mental list of

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Speaker 1: the three things of which you are most grateful. Over time,

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Speaker 1: you will intensify your sense of contentment and your ability

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Speaker 1: to attract what you wish for. It is the law

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Speaker 1: of attraction. If you are struggling to find the positive

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Speaker 1: side of life, then expressing gratitude will help you so

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Speaker 1: that you have a lot to be glad about. One

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Speaker 1: thing to keep in mind with the nine of cups

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Speaker 1: is comfortable for only a limited period. Realize that contentment

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Speaker 1: and fulfillment, too, are only temporary, as everything is always

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Speaker 1: in a state of change. That's why it is so

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Speaker 1: important to appreciate what you have now and cherish it

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Speaker 2: Wow, so hell of a card.

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Speaker 1: Wow.

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Speaker 4: I love this card for us.

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Speaker 1: It fits perfectly And I was called to pull to

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Speaker 1: when speaking of our friendship, that was so divinely ordered.

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Speaker 1: When you are just open and living in alignment, all

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Speaker 1: the people that match your life, Come and fuck with you,

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Speaker 1: even if it's on the internet, and then on your life,

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Speaker 1: because that's basically what happened. Yeah, I'm like, oh you cool,

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Speaker 1: will be cool too, come to California.

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Speaker 2: It was so nice to find out that you guys

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Speaker 2: were cool, because you know, a lot of people think like, oh,

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Speaker 2: the pretty ones are bitches. That is not true. Maybe

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Speaker 2: you're just intimidated by their prettiness. I like to be

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Speaker 2: in the proximity of beautiful people. I think it makes

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Speaker 2: birds of a feather flock to calcul but with the

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Speaker 1: I never liked, like a fine bitch that doesn't like

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Speaker 1: to hang out with like you can tell you know,

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Speaker 1: there's a fine that intentionally doesn't have other fine friends.

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Speaker 1: Just want to be the only f author's a fine bitch.

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Speaker 1: And then you're around and she's acting funny. I'm like, bitch,

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Speaker 1: just because you used to being around other fine bitches

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Speaker 1: don't mean you can't shine with another fine bitch.

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Speaker 2: And see this thing, I call it out girl, you

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Speaker 2: want to come sit with us. No, okay, okay, it's like, no,

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Speaker 2: I'm super nice. But it's just a lot of people don't.

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Speaker 2: I think they underestimate like being kind.

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Speaker 1: Well, you know, I'm the kindest bitch and a forty

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Speaker 1: hundred mile radius. You know how many pictures in my phone?

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Speaker 1: I have the best friends I met in the bathroom

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Speaker 1: at the club. Thousands, I believe you, thousands.

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Speaker 3: And I wish we could make a book of it, like,

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Speaker 3: oh my can I remember a photo album of it?

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, a little flip book, make it a

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Speaker 1: real all the bathroom, all the bathroom, all the bathroom

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Speaker 1: I just want to say that right now, just turn

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Speaker 2: It smells like a mansion, and it smells like.

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Speaker 1: Driving what I saw driving up a rich ass driveway,

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Speaker 3: I see myself getting having sex Dolly style looking over

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Speaker 1: Sanity pool. But like you popped up a little bit

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Speaker 2: I feel like I'm visualizing it a two man threesome.

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Speaker 1: Oo girl, this will be a second time for visualizing

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Speaker 2: And so actually I'm going to add that to Mike.

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Speaker 1: Can you actually give us a brief? Can you brief

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Speaker 2: My fantasy for having two men is not them competing

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Speaker 2: I definitely want an interview like I want to interview

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Speaker 2: it's like leading the interview about me like sorry, like

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Speaker 1: For, like you know, walking together.

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Speaker 2: Absolutely, I'm getting big into this whole submission thing because

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Speaker 1: You know, do you feel like because you're getting into submission,

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Speaker 2: I think so, and really accepting that I am bossy

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Speaker 1: I also think people have the misconception that two men

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Speaker 2: Absolutely, So you know, I had my session with Sir Marvelous,

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Speaker 2: He's seen me get a central massage before, like from

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Speaker 2: a man. No, from well, from pure intimacy, and that

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Speaker 1: No? Is he open to it?

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Speaker 3: About Okay, if you haven't noticed, a Maya has like

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Speaker 1: Lick my neck.

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Speaker 3: Absolutely, I'd be like, yes, yes, Tom, Yes, I wanted

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Speaker 2: So he's like holding my hair and like kind of

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Speaker 2: and telling me like, don't rush my motherfucking nuts saw

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Speaker 2: I have vision, have vision.

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Speaker 1: You have to have vision to make it happen and

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Speaker 1: You have to be in that moment and really visualize

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Speaker 1: like last time, to be honest, we did this motherfucking prayer.

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Speaker 1: Erica got a fucking male male fucking massage, and I

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Speaker 3: It was like Sierra's prayer, but for a ma male

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Speaker 1: No, We're we're at a party, so it wasn't like

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Speaker 2: Like that looked.

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Speaker 4: If you guys haven't listened, you got to listen to

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Speaker 1: You know what, I don't think we've talked about an episode.

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Speaker 1: It's only on Patreon. Oh really, I think I think

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Speaker 1: we're I think we're nervous.

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Speaker 3: Okay, we'll go to Patreon and go to listen to

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Speaker 1: It was great.

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Speaker 4: I was like, thank you God.

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Speaker 1: I'm still working on mine because God seems to be

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Speaker 2: But I've already done enough with you. Okay, let someone

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Speaker 3: Can only grant one a good mom's wish.

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Speaker 1: We're not a package. I need my own mail mouth.

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Speaker 1: I was like mad at her what happened because I

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Speaker 2: I know what I'm grateful for.

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Speaker 1: What are you grateful for?

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Speaker 2: But okay, I'm grateful for confidence because I feel like

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Speaker 2: of my anxiety issues, just having confidence in being whoever

439
00:20:55,680 --> 00:20:57,040
Speaker 2: the fuck you are, and like you were just saying

440
00:20:57,080 --> 00:21:00,400
Speaker 2: that the people that you're an acquired taste for don't

441
00:21:00,400 --> 00:21:02,359
Speaker 2: want you, and the people that won't even if you

442
00:21:02,400 --> 00:21:04,560
Speaker 2: fake like somebody else, they still won't want you so

443
00:21:05,280 --> 00:21:06,080
Speaker 2: be your fuckingself.

444
00:21:06,080 --> 00:21:08,680
Speaker 3: Well, eventually they all figure it out. You can only

445
00:21:08,960 --> 00:21:13,040
Speaker 3: uphold the facade of even confidence for so long. You know,

446
00:21:13,040 --> 00:21:15,320
Speaker 3: there's a lot of fake confidence people like. There's a

447
00:21:15,359 --> 00:21:18,159
Speaker 3: lot of people that and it's like, you know, I

448
00:21:18,240 --> 00:21:21,040
Speaker 3: believe in the idea that sometimes you have to fake

449
00:21:21,080 --> 00:21:23,359
Speaker 3: it till you make it. Even in confidence, sometimes you

450
00:21:23,400 --> 00:21:25,119
Speaker 3: have to pretend like you have it and then one

451
00:21:25,200 --> 00:21:26,159
Speaker 3: day you wake up and you do.

452
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Speaker 4: But that's you don't just wake up.

453
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Speaker 3: You do the work, yes, and you get there and

454
00:21:30,160 --> 00:21:32,360
Speaker 3: you make those choices, and you show up for yourself

455
00:21:32,400 --> 00:21:35,760
Speaker 3: and you get uncomfortable, and then you wake up and

456
00:21:35,800 --> 00:21:37,120
Speaker 3: then you're like, damn, I'm here.

457
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Speaker 1: Yes, you know. I think, especially coming for three women

458
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Speaker 1: who are really talking transparently about the male male female

459
00:21:45,200 --> 00:21:47,760
Speaker 1: they want to have next as soon as possible, I

460
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Speaker 1: think you think that we are all very confident women

461
00:21:50,920 --> 00:21:53,879
Speaker 1: and fear free and like, I think even being a

462
00:21:54,240 --> 00:21:57,560
Speaker 1: like sometimes you can appear confident and it doesn't mean

463
00:21:57,600 --> 00:22:01,120
Speaker 1: necessarily that the internal is a reflection of that. And

464
00:22:01,240 --> 00:22:04,040
Speaker 1: I think because we're on here a lot talking our personal,

465
00:22:04,160 --> 00:22:07,080
Speaker 1: very personal business and maybe not as highly favored or

466
00:22:07,080 --> 00:22:11,760
Speaker 1: traditional fantasies. People would assume that we're fearless and we're confident,

467
00:22:11,880 --> 00:22:15,320
Speaker 1: but it has definitely been a journey, and like, especially

468
00:22:15,359 --> 00:22:18,920
Speaker 1: being women and being sexual women and discussing it, it's

469
00:22:19,000 --> 00:22:22,040
Speaker 1: not always a walk in the park. There's been a

470
00:22:22,080 --> 00:22:24,720
Speaker 1: lot of questioning, you know, ourselves, a lot of fear

471
00:22:24,880 --> 00:22:28,320
Speaker 1: even in doing this, but in doing it continuously and

472
00:22:28,359 --> 00:22:31,639
Speaker 1: being like, well, it's true, Well I said it. I

473
00:22:31,680 --> 00:22:33,840
Speaker 1: said it because I mean, like, maybe I'm going to

474
00:22:33,880 --> 00:22:35,480
Speaker 1: count out ninety percent of the niggas who were like

475
00:22:35,560 --> 00:22:38,000
Speaker 1: that bitch said what she'll never be my wife? Perfect,

476
00:22:38,560 --> 00:22:40,680
Speaker 1: I don't need you anyway. Perfect didn't need you in

477
00:22:40,680 --> 00:22:43,240
Speaker 1: the way anyway. But like, I just think it's taken

478
00:22:43,320 --> 00:22:46,520
Speaker 1: even for us to have practice in not giving a

479
00:22:46,560 --> 00:22:49,040
Speaker 1: fuck and just saying this is who I am and

480
00:22:49,080 --> 00:22:51,199
Speaker 1: it's not going to be for everyone, and like just

481
00:22:51,240 --> 00:22:55,240
Speaker 1: slowly cutting out those people pleasing traits because I'm a

482
00:22:55,240 --> 00:22:57,800
Speaker 1: people pleaser. And I think it just starts to develop

483
00:22:57,880 --> 00:23:00,440
Speaker 1: kind of from like childhood needing attention, trying to fight

484
00:23:00,480 --> 00:23:03,159
Speaker 1: for attention, and then it develops into your adulthood and

485
00:23:03,160 --> 00:23:05,840
Speaker 1: you're not realizing you're just trying to please everyone, but

486
00:23:05,920 --> 00:23:06,800
Speaker 1: you can't.

487
00:23:06,760 --> 00:23:09,040
Speaker 2: And not even pleasing yourself in the midst of doing that.

488
00:23:09,480 --> 00:23:12,840
Speaker 2: I think that my boundaries have changed because I put

489
00:23:12,880 --> 00:23:15,919
Speaker 2: myself first, and I realize the people that get weeded

490
00:23:15,920 --> 00:23:18,200
Speaker 2: out after that. It just shows that you were benefiting

491
00:23:18,200 --> 00:23:21,960
Speaker 2: from me putting you first. And if you're offended by

492
00:23:22,000 --> 00:23:26,360
Speaker 2: me choosing myself, then you aren't for me. And I'm

493
00:23:26,440 --> 00:23:29,520
Speaker 2: really okay with that, And also just understanding that you

494
00:23:29,560 --> 00:23:32,080
Speaker 2: get one explanation out of me and that's it, because

495
00:23:32,080 --> 00:23:33,639
Speaker 2: I'm not going to keep explaining to you why my

496
00:23:33,680 --> 00:23:36,040
Speaker 2: answer is no, or why I don't want to come

497
00:23:36,040 --> 00:23:39,040
Speaker 2: out or whatever. But I have to pick myself and

498
00:23:39,080 --> 00:23:41,320
Speaker 2: I have to pick from whatever my energy is at

499
00:23:41,320 --> 00:23:43,480
Speaker 2: that moment, you know what I mean. So I'm good

500
00:23:43,520 --> 00:23:45,680
Speaker 2: for canceling. I will cancel on somebody fast and say,

501
00:23:45,680 --> 00:23:48,119
Speaker 2: oh why, because I want to always show up as

502
00:23:48,240 --> 00:23:50,480
Speaker 2: best the person that you invite it. And if I'm

503
00:23:50,480 --> 00:23:53,600
Speaker 2: not being that person or or I'm dragging down the

504
00:23:53,680 --> 00:23:54,960
Speaker 2: energy because I don't want to be there, why do

505
00:23:54,960 --> 00:23:57,280
Speaker 2: you want me there? So I'll definitely let you know

506
00:23:57,280 --> 00:24:01,400
Speaker 2: in advance, I'll reschedule with you. Whatever people cancel on me, know, worries,

507
00:24:01,480 --> 00:24:03,879
Speaker 2: it's wine it's weed, it's a couch. I'm good like,

508
00:24:04,240 --> 00:24:05,320
Speaker 2: let me know whenever you're free.

509
00:24:05,520 --> 00:24:09,040
Speaker 1: It takes true confidence to choose yourself and be okay

510
00:24:09,080 --> 00:24:12,520
Speaker 1: with it. I have been going to therapy because I'm

511
00:24:12,840 --> 00:24:14,280
Speaker 1: really committed to doing the work.

512
00:24:14,400 --> 00:24:15,440
Speaker 2: That's a bad bage move.

513
00:24:15,640 --> 00:24:19,000
Speaker 1: And I noticed myself making decisions in like relationships that

514
00:24:19,040 --> 00:24:21,680
Speaker 1: weren't really honoring who I was and like my entirety,

515
00:24:21,920 --> 00:24:24,119
Speaker 1: and I realize there's something I need to obviously need

516
00:24:24,160 --> 00:24:26,320
Speaker 1: to dig deeper if I'm in a position with a

517
00:24:26,359 --> 00:24:29,880
Speaker 1: person that is making me question myself and a part

518
00:24:29,880 --> 00:24:32,280
Speaker 1: of like the things I've been talking to my therapist

519
00:24:32,359 --> 00:24:36,320
Speaker 1: about are just like when you really fuck with yourself,

520
00:24:36,400 --> 00:24:39,320
Speaker 1: When someone comes into your life that doesn't really fuck

521
00:24:39,359 --> 00:24:42,080
Speaker 1: with you, it takes nothing to cut them off because

522
00:24:42,119 --> 00:24:44,080
Speaker 1: you're like, you know what the fuck I am? You

523
00:24:44,080 --> 00:24:46,320
Speaker 1: don't even feel like there's no question is whether I

524
00:24:46,359 --> 00:24:49,080
Speaker 1: should shrink or change for you, because I already know

525
00:24:49,119 --> 00:24:51,040
Speaker 1: I'm the shit. But it really if you don't, if

526
00:24:51,040 --> 00:24:52,720
Speaker 1: you're not in that space to really know you're the shit,

527
00:24:52,800 --> 00:24:55,480
Speaker 1: it will take time to cut off niggas that you

528
00:24:55,480 --> 00:24:57,359
Speaker 1: don't have time for. And that's in friendship, that's in

529
00:24:57,440 --> 00:25:01,240
Speaker 1: family that's in relationships, and and I'm really like learning

530
00:25:01,760 --> 00:25:05,320
Speaker 1: to better hone in on cutting the trim really fast.

531
00:25:05,359 --> 00:25:08,800
Speaker 1: And I think women could all benefit from really starting

532
00:25:08,800 --> 00:25:11,959
Speaker 1: to fuck with themselves so hard that the moment a friend,

533
00:25:12,119 --> 00:25:15,040
Speaker 1: a bitch, a relative comes in trying to sway whatever

534
00:25:15,119 --> 00:25:17,560
Speaker 1: your feelings about yourself, you can spot that shit real

535
00:25:17,680 --> 00:25:18,959
Speaker 1: quick and eliminate it.

536
00:25:19,160 --> 00:25:21,440
Speaker 2: Absolutely. I think that one of the things about even

537
00:25:21,440 --> 00:25:24,480
Speaker 2: that card that come back to play is me spoiling myself.

538
00:25:24,560 --> 00:25:27,800
Speaker 2: I actually date myself first, and it has made a

539
00:25:27,880 --> 00:25:30,159
Speaker 2: hell of a difference. Like a lot of people are like,

540
00:25:30,200 --> 00:25:31,600
Speaker 2: what does it mean? How do you get confident?

541
00:25:31,680 --> 00:25:31,720
Speaker 1: Like?

542
00:25:31,720 --> 00:25:33,680
Speaker 2: Those are the questions you get probably like all the time, Right,

543
00:25:33,800 --> 00:25:34,960
Speaker 2: how'd you become so confident?

544
00:25:34,960 --> 00:25:35,160
Speaker 1: Why?

545
00:25:35,160 --> 00:25:37,280
Speaker 2: Because I'm speaking and you were watching. That doesn't make

546
00:25:37,320 --> 00:25:39,720
Speaker 2: me necessarily the confidence. It is the work that I'm

547
00:25:39,720 --> 00:25:42,919
Speaker 2: doing behind the camera. I was doing this afraid. You know,

548
00:25:43,160 --> 00:25:46,600
Speaker 2: I'm not necessarily afraid anymore. But doing the work means

549
00:25:46,680 --> 00:25:49,040
Speaker 2: waking up and not picking up my phone first. It

550
00:25:49,119 --> 00:25:51,960
Speaker 2: means not going out and sitting alone even when I

551
00:25:52,040 --> 00:25:54,520
Speaker 2: want to be around somebody. Okay, give myself some alone

552
00:25:54,520 --> 00:25:57,360
Speaker 2: time with it first, and then invite someone over, Otherwise

553
00:25:57,400 --> 00:25:59,960
Speaker 2: you're not going to be okay by yourself. Being okay

554
00:26:00,119 --> 00:26:03,440
Speaker 2: by myself is It's where the ideas come from. It's

555
00:26:03,480 --> 00:26:05,960
Speaker 2: where I can see myself, and when I know how

556
00:26:06,000 --> 00:26:08,400
Speaker 2: I feel and I'm in tune with me, it means

557
00:26:08,400 --> 00:26:10,240
Speaker 2: it's less work to get back on track. You ever

558
00:26:10,280 --> 00:26:11,480
Speaker 2: look up and you're like, I don't even know who

559
00:26:11,480 --> 00:26:13,679
Speaker 2: the fuck I am anymore, or I'm so lost, Well,

560
00:26:13,720 --> 00:26:15,600
Speaker 2: guess what I know that People say I'm probably like

561
00:26:16,119 --> 00:26:19,440
Speaker 2: selfish or self centered. I absolutely am because this is self.

562
00:26:19,560 --> 00:26:22,359
Speaker 2: This is what fuels everything. This is what makes me

563
00:26:22,400 --> 00:26:24,760
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564
00:26:24,840 --> 00:26:27,960
Speaker 2: and this is what is helping break generational curses and

565
00:26:28,440 --> 00:26:31,720
Speaker 2: become this badass bitch putting myself first because most of

566
00:26:31,760 --> 00:26:34,719
Speaker 2: our lives were not. We're either listening to other people

567
00:26:35,480 --> 00:26:38,560
Speaker 2: or you know, trying to fucking figure it out. It's

568
00:26:38,640 --> 00:26:40,480
Speaker 2: taken twenty nine years for me to get to this point.

569
00:26:40,600 --> 00:26:43,280
Speaker 2: I'm absolutely self centered. I am at the center of

570
00:26:43,359 --> 00:26:46,520
Speaker 2: it all, and it takes less work to get back

571
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572
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Speaker 2: with myself every fucking day, like every week, and real

573
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624
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630
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631
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632
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633
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634
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635
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636
00:29:55,120 --> 00:29:59,400
Speaker 3: But like, is me being single like in some way

637
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638
00:30:02,480 --> 00:30:04,760
Speaker 4: Like do I associate my.

639
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Speaker 2: Something missing?

640
00:30:07,680 --> 00:30:08,680
Speaker 1: Yeah? These are something missing?

641
00:30:08,720 --> 00:30:11,320
Speaker 3: And do I associate my discomfort in anything in my life?

642
00:30:11,480 --> 00:30:14,120
Speaker 3: Is it because I don't have a partner? And there

643
00:30:14,160 --> 00:30:17,120
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644
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645
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646
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Speaker 3: because you know what's on the way. That's the same

647
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648
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Speaker 3: what is for me is for me, and whether that's

649
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650
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651
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652
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653
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Speaker 3: I mean? Because there's that too, you know, Like none

654
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655
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656
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Speaker 3: death and shit. But I was like, even if that

657
00:30:54,080 --> 00:30:57,320
Speaker 3: is the truth, that's the journey, that's where it's supposed

658
00:30:57,360 --> 00:31:00,440
Speaker 3: to be. And I was like, I felt felt good

659
00:31:00,440 --> 00:31:03,520
Speaker 3: in that moment. I felt good knowing that, Like I

660
00:31:03,600 --> 00:31:04,560
Speaker 3: just trust the process.

661
00:31:04,720 --> 00:31:06,440
Speaker 2: You're not afraid of what's meant to be anymore.

662
00:31:06,520 --> 00:31:08,320
Speaker 4: And I guess part of that is confidence. Part of

663
00:31:08,320 --> 00:31:09,080
Speaker 4: that is confidence.

664
00:31:09,080 --> 00:31:12,160
Speaker 3: And you know, I think confidence for me is something

665
00:31:12,200 --> 00:31:14,120
Speaker 3: that's an ongoing battle for me. I feel like a

666
00:31:14,120 --> 00:31:16,480
Speaker 3: lot of times I feel very confident. Then there's times

667
00:31:16,480 --> 00:31:19,960
Speaker 3: where I don't. I just don't. And in those moments

668
00:31:20,560 --> 00:31:24,720
Speaker 3: I accept it and then I go through and ask myself, Okay,

669
00:31:24,720 --> 00:31:27,760
Speaker 3: what is it actually that's making me feel insecure? Like

670
00:31:28,560 --> 00:31:30,680
Speaker 3: and do I feel like I'm in competition with someone.

671
00:31:30,840 --> 00:31:33,600
Speaker 3: Do I feel like, why are they farther along and

672
00:31:33,640 --> 00:31:36,280
Speaker 3: then me in this in this space? Or is it

673
00:31:36,360 --> 00:31:39,680
Speaker 3: my body because you know, like you know, my weight

674
00:31:39,720 --> 00:31:42,440
Speaker 3: fluctuates sometimes and sometimes I feel really snatched and other

675
00:31:42,480 --> 00:31:46,720
Speaker 3: times I feel like, eh, whatever. And I think that

676
00:31:46,720 --> 00:31:50,840
Speaker 3: that confidence is always an adjustment. I feel like there

677
00:31:50,880 --> 00:31:53,640
Speaker 3: are times where you know things will come in and

678
00:31:53,720 --> 00:31:56,280
Speaker 3: challenge you and you'll have to check yourself. You'll have

679
00:31:56,280 --> 00:31:58,040
Speaker 3: to check in with yourself and you'll have to I

680
00:31:58,040 --> 00:32:00,320
Speaker 3: think for me, positive self talk has been like really

681
00:32:00,360 --> 00:32:02,800
Speaker 3: transformational for me, and it's something that I'm still working on,

682
00:32:03,160 --> 00:32:05,640
Speaker 3: you know, talking good to yourself and talking out loud

683
00:32:05,720 --> 00:32:08,600
Speaker 3: to yourself. I mean, honestly, Samaya, when you played me

684
00:32:08,680 --> 00:32:14,120
Speaker 3: your what is it affirmation? Your sex affirmations that, like

685
00:32:14,880 --> 00:32:18,320
Speaker 3: I have taken that and started using that as positive

686
00:32:18,320 --> 00:32:20,200
Speaker 3: self talk for myself. Like actually, I've talked about it

687
00:32:20,280 --> 00:32:23,000
Speaker 3: in previous episodes, recording myself talking good to myself and

688
00:32:23,040 --> 00:32:25,200
Speaker 3: listening back to it, because I think a lot of

689
00:32:25,200 --> 00:32:27,960
Speaker 3: times we don't hear ourselves talk good to ourselves only

690
00:32:27,960 --> 00:32:29,800
Speaker 3: in our head because that's what the Internet tells us

691
00:32:29,800 --> 00:32:31,920
Speaker 3: to do. That's what podcasts tell us to do to

692
00:32:32,360 --> 00:32:35,440
Speaker 3: positive self talk, like, you know, but sometimes I need

693
00:32:35,480 --> 00:32:39,480
Speaker 3: to hear myself, you know, because I don't hear my voice,

694
00:32:39,960 --> 00:32:43,920
Speaker 3: and it's just it's an ongoing thing at least for me.

695
00:32:44,680 --> 00:32:48,320
Speaker 3: But confidence is something that is crucial and transformational, and

696
00:32:48,360 --> 00:32:51,800
Speaker 3: I think I think it's something that people they need.

697
00:32:51,920 --> 00:32:53,640
Speaker 3: We need help, we need we really do. We do

698
00:32:53,720 --> 00:32:57,040
Speaker 3: need help, we do need steps, some of us, I do.

699
00:32:57,160 --> 00:33:01,120
Speaker 1: I think I think it's the practice of constantly saying,

700
00:33:01,160 --> 00:33:05,160
Speaker 1: fuck the fear, you know. I think, I mean, we've

701
00:33:05,280 --> 00:33:08,920
Speaker 1: we're all single moms. I mean, you have Bae Wo's

702
00:33:09,880 --> 00:33:13,600
Speaker 1: mister Bay, but we've all had relationships with men we

703
00:33:13,680 --> 00:33:17,800
Speaker 1: had kids with and left and that's not I think

704
00:33:17,840 --> 00:33:23,560
Speaker 1: that's me. Okay, well, you're having to get the record straight.

705
00:33:23,680 --> 00:33:26,920
Speaker 1: These men be leaving so because they're happy, okay. And

706
00:33:26,920 --> 00:33:28,680
Speaker 1: and then you guys are good friends and you flip

707
00:33:28,920 --> 00:33:31,800
Speaker 1: reversed it and you're successful and you're happy and like,

708
00:33:33,400 --> 00:33:36,720
Speaker 1: but it's true, Like I think, I think sometimes we

709
00:33:36,800 --> 00:33:39,480
Speaker 1: get so stuck, like in the fear of the ship,

710
00:33:39,640 --> 00:33:42,080
Speaker 1: that we forget that, like you have to kind of

711
00:33:42,560 --> 00:33:45,640
Speaker 1: step out on faith a lot of fucking times and

712
00:33:45,720 --> 00:33:48,880
Speaker 1: trust the flow of the of your you know, intuition

713
00:33:49,000 --> 00:33:52,200
Speaker 1: and of the universe for for the next steps to happen.

714
00:33:52,360 --> 00:33:55,000
Speaker 1: And I think you have to constantly be like, fuck

715
00:33:55,040 --> 00:33:56,840
Speaker 1: the fear, funk what may not happen? Fuck it, I

716
00:33:56,840 --> 00:33:58,600
Speaker 1: don't know, but we got to do it.

717
00:33:58,960 --> 00:34:01,760
Speaker 2: I think that with confidence, you have to have confidence

718
00:34:01,880 --> 00:34:05,000
Speaker 2: in being wrong as well. And there are so many

719
00:34:05,240 --> 00:34:07,280
Speaker 2: like a lot of people see where I'm I am now,

720
00:34:07,480 --> 00:34:11,880
Speaker 2: but we're talking about three years of mistakes and loneliness

721
00:34:11,920 --> 00:34:16,880
Speaker 2: and questioning myself and aging like ten fucking years just

722
00:34:16,880 --> 00:34:20,160
Speaker 2: trying to be fucking successful. Like it's just like, damn,

723
00:34:20,200 --> 00:34:22,360
Speaker 2: maybe I should just go back to being a regular person,

724
00:34:22,520 --> 00:34:24,439
Speaker 2: like I could go get a job. And that shit

725
00:34:24,480 --> 00:34:26,840
Speaker 2: made me sad and I was like, no, I can't,

726
00:34:27,000 --> 00:34:30,919
Speaker 2: Like this is difficult, but not being myself is more

727
00:34:30,960 --> 00:34:35,920
Speaker 2: difficult and it's more tiring, and it's just passion like

728
00:34:36,280 --> 00:34:39,120
Speaker 2: through all of my life now choosing myself because it's

729
00:34:39,200 --> 00:34:41,760
Speaker 2: like I don't do anything I don't want to do anymore.

730
00:34:42,000 --> 00:34:44,320
Speaker 2: And that's some really, like that's what I wanted to

731
00:34:44,360 --> 00:34:46,319
Speaker 2: grow up for. This is what we want to be

732
00:34:46,360 --> 00:34:47,919
Speaker 2: adults for. I can fuck how I want.

733
00:34:48,000 --> 00:34:50,200
Speaker 3: That's what I mean, honestly, that's what kids do. They

734
00:34:50,239 --> 00:34:52,239
Speaker 3: don't be wanting to do shit they don't feel like doing,

735
00:34:52,320 --> 00:34:55,320
Speaker 3: and they don't and they don't like even you, like

736
00:34:55,360 --> 00:34:56,879
Speaker 3: you went to like if Jamila was on this one

737
00:34:56,920 --> 00:34:58,799
Speaker 3: on this rant on Instagram the other day and I

738
00:34:58,840 --> 00:35:01,759
Speaker 3: felt it though, like wanting to wear what the fuck

739
00:35:01,840 --> 00:35:04,239
Speaker 3: she wanted to wear, and like having conviction about it

740
00:35:04,600 --> 00:35:06,959
Speaker 3: and stomping around because this is who I am.

741
00:35:07,280 --> 00:35:09,279
Speaker 4: Why won't you just let me be who the fuck

742
00:35:09,320 --> 00:35:10,880
Speaker 4: I am? Whereas people will.

743
00:35:10,760 --> 00:35:13,040
Speaker 3: Be like, Okay, well, yeah, you're right, Like you're right,

744
00:35:13,080 --> 00:35:14,560
Speaker 3: this is not who I am, Like okay, fine, I'll

745
00:35:14,600 --> 00:35:17,000
Speaker 3: wear that, or you know, oh it doesn't.

746
00:35:16,760 --> 00:35:20,520
Speaker 1: Look good, okay yeah, and fit the mode.

747
00:35:20,800 --> 00:35:23,839
Speaker 3: Kids are really like the fucking bosses of the world,

748
00:35:24,000 --> 00:35:27,680
Speaker 3: like they are so like they just stand in their truth.

749
00:35:27,719 --> 00:35:29,959
Speaker 3: They stand, they stand by they said what they said,

750
00:35:30,640 --> 00:35:31,960
Speaker 3: you know, and they're not afraid.

751
00:35:32,040 --> 00:35:34,080
Speaker 1: They're not afraid to demand what they want when they

752
00:35:34,080 --> 00:35:37,440
Speaker 1: want it without expect like their only expectation is that

753
00:35:37,480 --> 00:35:39,680
Speaker 1: they're gonna get with there's no fear and to demand it.

754
00:35:39,960 --> 00:35:43,320
Speaker 1: And I started I had to, I had to reevaluate

755
00:35:43,960 --> 00:35:47,160
Speaker 1: and looking at it that way because I was catching myself, like,

756
00:35:47,440 --> 00:35:50,120
Speaker 1: you've asked me for so much shit? You pick I

757
00:35:50,200 --> 00:35:52,480
Speaker 1: pick you up. You're asking me for shit all day long,

758
00:35:52,719 --> 00:35:54,879
Speaker 1: you were asking me for shit, Like, don't I look

759
00:35:54,960 --> 00:35:55,640
Speaker 1: tired to you?

760
00:35:55,760 --> 00:35:56,279
Speaker 2: Scared to tell?

761
00:35:56,680 --> 00:35:58,680
Speaker 1: And then and then it dawned on me. I'm like,

762
00:35:58,760 --> 00:36:00,840
Speaker 1: of course she's asking you for it. You should be

763
00:36:00,840 --> 00:36:04,680
Speaker 1: demanding shit too. In life, we are taught we start

764
00:36:04,719 --> 00:36:06,480
Speaker 1: as a child demanding the shit we want, and then

765
00:36:06,480 --> 00:36:08,560
Speaker 1: someone says, you're asking for too much. You're asking me

766
00:36:08,600 --> 00:36:11,399
Speaker 1: for shit all day long. Stop asking me for shit.

767
00:36:11,480 --> 00:36:14,399
Speaker 1: Be content with what you have. And sometimes that's kids

768
00:36:14,400 --> 00:36:18,680
Speaker 1: are fucking spoiled and unappreciative. But in life, I think

769
00:36:18,719 --> 00:36:20,880
Speaker 1: that's a part of the part, like we should adopt that.

770
00:36:20,960 --> 00:36:23,040
Speaker 1: And maybe it's like I can't give you everything right now.

771
00:36:23,160 --> 00:36:25,759
Speaker 1: You deserve it, You deserve everything you want and more,

772
00:36:25,920 --> 00:36:27,920
Speaker 1: but I can't. I don't have the capacity to deliver

773
00:36:28,000 --> 00:36:29,400
Speaker 1: to you right now at the second. In fact, I

774
00:36:29,440 --> 00:36:31,359
Speaker 1: need a minute. Can you give me a minute? But

775
00:36:31,520 --> 00:36:33,759
Speaker 1: it's like, even in the delivery and even in the

776
00:36:33,800 --> 00:36:38,439
Speaker 1: mindset shift of ourselves and reparenting ourselves is that it's

777
00:36:38,440 --> 00:36:41,919
Speaker 1: okay to request and demand and want and let people

778
00:36:42,000 --> 00:36:44,920
Speaker 1: know what the things you want without hesitation and with conviction,

779
00:36:45,440 --> 00:36:47,280
Speaker 1: and no one should be able to tell you differently,

780
00:36:47,320 --> 00:36:49,359
Speaker 1: because this is what the fuck I want. I want

781
00:36:49,400 --> 00:36:53,160
Speaker 1: the fucking filthy rich driveway. Okay, you know what it is.

782
00:36:53,320 --> 00:36:56,200
Speaker 2: I feel like with that part, we're scared to say

783
00:36:56,239 --> 00:36:58,920
Speaker 2: what we want when it's not normal, when it's different,

784
00:36:59,120 --> 00:37:01,520
Speaker 2: And almost area of my life is like that.

785
00:37:01,960 --> 00:37:04,120
Speaker 1: Well most of them wouldn't like just jump off a

786
00:37:04,120 --> 00:37:05,640
Speaker 1: show and be like, oh, we all really want male

787
00:37:05,719 --> 00:37:08,440
Speaker 1: male female three sums. But guess what.

788
00:37:08,600 --> 00:37:10,640
Speaker 2: So hopefully somebody is watching this and they're like, let

789
00:37:10,680 --> 00:37:11,479
Speaker 2: me go and tell her.

790
00:37:11,640 --> 00:37:13,200
Speaker 4: Let me go ask because I need to get that,

791
00:37:13,280 --> 00:37:13,520
Speaker 4: you know.

792
00:37:13,560 --> 00:37:15,200
Speaker 1: You know, they're like, you know what, you're right, And

793
00:37:15,239 --> 00:37:16,799
Speaker 1: I thought I was a hope for asking, But these

794
00:37:16,800 --> 00:37:19,560
Speaker 1: bitches up here convicting they need it and they need

795
00:37:19,600 --> 00:37:19,960
Speaker 1: it now.

796
00:37:20,440 --> 00:37:22,560
Speaker 2: But you talking about people that's judging who's not getting

797
00:37:22,600 --> 00:37:24,960
Speaker 2: nuts from regular one, regular men. So it's like, of

798
00:37:24,960 --> 00:37:27,440
Speaker 2: course you think that it's outrageous that I want that,

799
00:37:27,640 --> 00:37:29,520
Speaker 2: or men thinking it. I don't really give a fuck

800
00:37:29,560 --> 00:37:31,399
Speaker 2: what you think. It's my nut and I wanted now.

801
00:37:32,960 --> 00:37:35,640
Speaker 2: But as far as like wanting something different, whatever you want,

802
00:37:35,680 --> 00:37:37,120
Speaker 2: if you don't see it, you have to have like

803
00:37:37,160 --> 00:37:39,759
Speaker 2: the energy to create it, to figure out how to

804
00:37:39,800 --> 00:37:43,400
Speaker 2: do it. I know, for me relationship wise, figuring out

805
00:37:43,480 --> 00:37:45,880
Speaker 2: I was polyamorous, that one one person, no matter how

806
00:37:45,960 --> 00:37:47,920
Speaker 2: much I love them, will ever be enough for me.

807
00:37:48,480 --> 00:37:52,359
Speaker 2: It'll never I'm so like not judgmental that if someone

808
00:37:52,360 --> 00:37:55,680
Speaker 2: else wanted a partner, my only requirement is that they're cool,

809
00:37:55,719 --> 00:37:58,239
Speaker 2: Like it's a village. It takes a village, So you

810
00:37:58,239 --> 00:38:00,080
Speaker 2: can't have a partner that's like, oh well, like as

811
00:38:00,120 --> 00:38:01,879
Speaker 2: long as I don't know she exists, Like no, we're

812
00:38:01,880 --> 00:38:02,600
Speaker 2: not doing that shit.

813
00:38:02,760 --> 00:38:03,720
Speaker 1: Like it doesn't make sense.

814
00:38:03,920 --> 00:38:06,120
Speaker 2: It doesn't make sense. And it's one of the reasons

815
00:38:06,120 --> 00:38:08,840
Speaker 2: that for me, I don't know if marriage is going

816
00:38:08,920 --> 00:38:10,600
Speaker 2: to be back on the table. You know, I've had

817
00:38:10,640 --> 00:38:13,560
Speaker 2: it before and it it just I was. We just

818
00:38:13,640 --> 00:38:15,840
Speaker 2: were so different, we didn't want the same things, And

819
00:38:15,920 --> 00:38:19,200
Speaker 2: I think I would have literally been miserable and compartmentalized

820
00:38:19,239 --> 00:38:21,360
Speaker 2: most of who I am if I was not a

821
00:38:21,400 --> 00:38:25,600
Speaker 2: polyamorous woman. Like, polyamory has allowed me to meet so

822
00:38:25,680 --> 00:38:26,320
Speaker 2: many people.

823
00:38:26,880 --> 00:38:28,359
Speaker 1: You know, me and somebody are like the same, We're

824
00:38:28,400 --> 00:38:31,279
Speaker 1: like get super energized by meeting any people we're just

825
00:38:31,320 --> 00:38:32,839
Speaker 1: like lovers. She's like, do you have a new lover.

826
00:38:32,920 --> 00:38:34,960
Speaker 1: I'll listen to you and talk to you about him.

827
00:38:34,960 --> 00:38:37,560
Speaker 1: No one cares. I care. You love him, just like

828
00:38:37,600 --> 00:38:41,160
Speaker 1: you loved the last one. I don't know, I understand you,

829
00:38:40,280 --> 00:38:44,440
Speaker 1: like no is here so many No, for sure, he's

830
00:38:44,440 --> 00:38:47,760
Speaker 1: a jump flame. I could feel a girl. I'm like, yes, girl,

831
00:38:47,840 --> 00:38:49,840
Speaker 1: I know it's true.

832
00:38:49,840 --> 00:38:52,879
Speaker 2: And it's real, and it changes, and what I want

833
00:38:52,920 --> 00:38:56,080
Speaker 2: sexually changes, you.

834
00:38:56,000 --> 00:38:58,920
Speaker 1: Know, And so often we're taught, especially as women, like

835
00:38:58,960 --> 00:39:01,560
Speaker 1: you can like you, I don't know, like you can.

836
00:39:01,719 --> 00:39:04,080
Speaker 1: You're you're monogamous and that's it. You know, you're Polly

837
00:39:04,200 --> 00:39:09,400
Speaker 1: like i'd begamous. I've been a cheater. I've been a cheater.

838
00:39:09,520 --> 00:39:11,319
Speaker 1: You know how often I've been in a relationship with

839
00:39:11,360 --> 00:39:13,719
Speaker 1: someone and like, you know who I am starting and

840
00:39:13,760 --> 00:39:16,160
Speaker 1: then continue in the relationship and they're like, you're not

841
00:39:16,200 --> 00:39:17,799
Speaker 1: going to find a guy who's going to do that.

842
00:39:18,040 --> 00:39:19,719
Speaker 1: You're not going to find a guy who's going to like,

843
00:39:19,840 --> 00:39:22,560
Speaker 1: let you just be out here. Not that I just

844
00:39:22,560 --> 00:39:26,560
Speaker 1: want to be out here, but if experience experiential fucks

845
00:39:26,600 --> 00:39:29,160
Speaker 1: come up, I might want to indulge in this experience

846
00:39:29,200 --> 00:39:30,759
Speaker 1: with this person. And does that mean I love you

847
00:39:30,840 --> 00:39:33,759
Speaker 1: less know? And does that mean I don't get jealous? No?

848
00:39:33,960 --> 00:39:36,000
Speaker 1: Does that mean like you're not going to meet someone too?

849
00:39:36,000 --> 00:39:38,080
Speaker 1: And I'm gonna have to like check my feelings and like,

850
00:39:38,560 --> 00:39:41,440
Speaker 1: but I'm willing to be like I know it's not perfect,

851
00:39:41,440 --> 00:39:43,320
Speaker 1: it's not going to be perfect, but let's be human

852
00:39:43,360 --> 00:39:45,520
Speaker 1: about it and walk through it. And like that you're

853
00:39:45,520 --> 00:39:47,120
Speaker 1: out how to get and figure out how to get

854
00:39:47,160 --> 00:39:50,759
Speaker 1: there together, you know. Like that's one thing about me

855
00:39:50,880 --> 00:39:54,280
Speaker 1: and Orlando, Like I could tell let get anything, literally anything.

856
00:39:54,239 --> 00:39:55,840
Speaker 1: I can tell me anything, and I'll be jealous for

857
00:39:55,840 --> 00:39:59,960
Speaker 1: five minutes. And I'm jealous right now anyway, Like you over,

858
00:40:00,080 --> 00:40:03,319
Speaker 1: I'm like mm hmm, I'm over right now. But like

859
00:40:03,520 --> 00:40:06,400
Speaker 1: it's just it's really it takes practice and so often,

860
00:40:06,520 --> 00:40:09,279
Speaker 1: like I've been told I'm not going to find a

861
00:40:09,360 --> 00:40:12,399
Speaker 1: husband because blah blah blah. You know, you do this,

862
00:40:12,520 --> 00:40:14,680
Speaker 1: your job, this, you talk about these things, and like

863
00:40:14,880 --> 00:40:17,920
Speaker 1: guys don't really fuck with that. But it takes the courage.

864
00:40:18,080 --> 00:40:19,640
Speaker 1: Like I don't really give a fuck with guys fuck

865
00:40:19,680 --> 00:40:21,360
Speaker 1: with I, fuck with me, and then that guy is

866
00:40:21,400 --> 00:40:23,239
Speaker 1: going to come as a result of fucking with me

867
00:40:23,600 --> 00:40:25,399
Speaker 1: because I only want people who are going to meet

868
00:40:25,400 --> 00:40:28,319
Speaker 1: me at my level. And sometimes it just requires for

869
00:40:28,400 --> 00:40:31,319
Speaker 1: you to just cut off things that are comfortable. I've

870
00:40:31,320 --> 00:40:34,239
Speaker 1: said this before, like, sometimes you have friends and relationships

871
00:40:34,239 --> 00:40:37,800
Speaker 1: that you've had for so long, they have this idea

872
00:40:37,840 --> 00:40:40,359
Speaker 1: of who you are, and that they can't even see

873
00:40:40,320 --> 00:40:42,120
Speaker 1: you when you grow, They can't even see when you

874
00:40:42,120 --> 00:40:42,680
Speaker 1: actually will.

875
00:40:42,920 --> 00:40:44,920
Speaker 4: They will hold you hostage to that person. They will

876
00:40:44,960 --> 00:40:46,200
Speaker 4: hold you hostage to the person that.

877
00:40:46,200 --> 00:40:47,960
Speaker 1: You used to be, even if that's not unimore, even

878
00:40:48,000 --> 00:40:50,960
Speaker 1: if it's not something you've actually agreed to, And then

879
00:40:51,040 --> 00:40:53,600
Speaker 1: you start seeing yourself in that light because that's how

880
00:40:53,640 --> 00:40:56,239
Speaker 1: everyone else is seeing you. And like I've talked about

881
00:40:56,239 --> 00:40:58,719
Speaker 1: this before when me and Erica started this and we

882
00:40:58,760 --> 00:41:00,840
Speaker 1: didn't really know the direction we're going in. We just

883
00:41:00,880 --> 00:41:02,600
Speaker 1: know we're single moms and we want to have a

884
00:41:02,640 --> 00:41:05,279
Speaker 1: couple of threesomes and smoke some weed and mind our

885
00:41:05,280 --> 00:41:08,280
Speaker 1: business and be happy, you know, And is that what happened?

886
00:41:08,320 --> 00:41:12,280
Speaker 1: That's kind of story. Just do single moms?

887
00:41:12,560 --> 00:41:12,759
Speaker 2: You know?

888
00:41:12,840 --> 00:41:15,279
Speaker 3: I want to smoke weed and have threesome one does it?

889
00:41:15,360 --> 00:41:19,440
Speaker 3: One to date freely and I'm kidding, live peaceful.

890
00:41:19,080 --> 00:41:22,399
Speaker 1: Lies, be on fucking hinge. Maybe have a couple of threesomes,

891
00:41:22,680 --> 00:41:25,279
Speaker 1: drop the kids off, pick them up on Monday. And

892
00:41:25,920 --> 00:41:29,200
Speaker 1: I had really close friends tell me like, I don't

893
00:41:29,239 --> 00:41:31,160
Speaker 1: think this is really the Like I don't know if

894
00:41:31,160 --> 00:41:33,040
Speaker 1: we're I don't know if people are going to fuck

895
00:41:33,080 --> 00:41:34,840
Speaker 1: with that, you know, I don't know if that lane

896
00:41:34,920 --> 00:41:37,560
Speaker 1: is something that is realistic if you want to be

897
00:41:37,640 --> 00:41:39,640
Speaker 1: successful later, Like you know, brands are not going to

898
00:41:39,680 --> 00:41:42,560
Speaker 1: fuck with you. If you say white bitches, white bitches,

899
00:41:42,560 --> 00:41:48,640
Speaker 1: white bitches, white bitches, white bitches, I'll say whatever I want,

900
00:41:48,880 --> 00:41:50,560
Speaker 1: you know. And I have some white bitches that are

901
00:41:50,600 --> 00:41:52,799
Speaker 1: my friends, and if you my friend, you know, it's

902
00:41:52,880 --> 00:41:56,360
Speaker 1: not personal. But the point is, it's like I've literally

903
00:41:56,400 --> 00:41:58,279
Speaker 1: had to There was some when I met Erica. I

904
00:41:58,280 --> 00:42:01,279
Speaker 1: told Erica, like, we're not long term friends. We haven't

905
00:42:01,320 --> 00:42:04,080
Speaker 1: been friends for Hella long that we've literally became friends

906
00:42:04,080 --> 00:42:06,240
Speaker 1: on the podcast in the last three and a half years.

907
00:42:06,640 --> 00:42:10,440
Speaker 1: But there was a safety and just being showing up

908
00:42:10,480 --> 00:42:12,680
Speaker 1: as I as I came, and that I knew I

909
00:42:12,719 --> 00:42:15,880
Speaker 1: could do that, and it required that I paused some

910
00:42:15,920 --> 00:42:18,799
Speaker 1: of those long term friendships that had been like, oh,

911
00:42:18,800 --> 00:42:20,600
Speaker 1: you know, you know how melas you know Jamala's you

912
00:42:20,600 --> 00:42:22,160
Speaker 1: know's gonna get you know, don't take your clothes off,

913
00:42:22,200 --> 00:42:24,960
Speaker 1: like like, don't take your shirt off. Don't do that

914
00:42:24,960 --> 00:42:27,920
Speaker 1: when we get there, Okay, like relax, I'm like, I

915
00:42:27,920 --> 00:42:29,920
Speaker 1: am so sick a bit just telling me to relax.

916
00:42:30,400 --> 00:42:31,400
Speaker 1: This is me relaxed.

917
00:42:32,239 --> 00:42:32,920
Speaker 4: I am relaxed.

918
00:42:32,960 --> 00:42:33,600
Speaker 2: I am relaxed.

919
00:42:33,680 --> 00:42:34,200
Speaker 4: I'm relaxed.

920
00:42:34,280 --> 00:42:37,279
Speaker 3: Topic now I'm uncurt and now I'm not relaxed because

921
00:42:37,280 --> 00:42:37,960
Speaker 3: my clothes are on.

922
00:42:38,719 --> 00:42:39,680
Speaker 1: This is rerue.

923
00:42:40,120 --> 00:42:42,880
Speaker 2: I think that what you said it goes back to

924
00:42:42,960 --> 00:42:45,160
Speaker 2: what are we still calling this? Fuck the fear, which

925
00:42:45,200 --> 00:42:47,040
Speaker 2: is do it? Do it scared? Do it when you

926
00:42:47,080 --> 00:42:49,239
Speaker 2: don't know what it looks like, because at the end

927
00:42:49,239 --> 00:42:50,319
Speaker 2: of the day, you don't want to got to live there,

928
00:42:50,320 --> 00:42:53,000
Speaker 2: goddamn life like and at the end of the day,

929
00:42:53,040 --> 00:42:54,640
Speaker 2: so what if people don't FUCKU with what you're talking about?

930
00:42:54,640 --> 00:42:56,200
Speaker 2: It's hello people that didn't fuck with the fact that

931
00:42:56,239 --> 00:42:57,239
Speaker 2: I sugg dick for a living.

932
00:42:57,680 --> 00:42:59,319
Speaker 1: And I wish we could stopped saying that because you

933
00:42:59,360 --> 00:43:01,719
Speaker 1: don't get sound you so much, but it's not what

934
00:43:01,760 --> 00:43:04,319
Speaker 1: you do. You teach people how to suck dick for

935
00:43:04,400 --> 00:43:05,600
Speaker 1: a living, well, I have.

936
00:43:05,560 --> 00:43:07,880
Speaker 4: To suck you said you such silicone for a living?

937
00:43:08,600 --> 00:43:10,799
Speaker 2: See that don't sound like let's book her is?

938
00:43:10,800 --> 00:43:13,080
Speaker 4: That's not that sexy? It don't sound it's like silicone

939
00:43:13,120 --> 00:43:13,600
Speaker 4: for a living.

940
00:43:13,880 --> 00:43:17,200
Speaker 2: Yes, so you know I have sex or whatever, teach

941
00:43:17,239 --> 00:43:19,719
Speaker 2: sex or whatever for a living, and a lot of

942
00:43:19,719 --> 00:43:21,319
Speaker 2: people that didn't fuck with it are the same people

943
00:43:21,360 --> 00:43:24,759
Speaker 2: that's in my dms now either wanting an interview or oh,

944
00:43:24,760 --> 00:43:26,439
Speaker 2: can you give me something because you trust me, because

945
00:43:26,440 --> 00:43:28,000
Speaker 2: you know I'm not going to judge you as you

946
00:43:28,000 --> 00:43:31,080
Speaker 2: were judging me, right, Like why do you even give

947
00:43:31,120 --> 00:43:32,920
Speaker 2: a fuck what anybody else is doing? And why do

948
00:43:32,920 --> 00:43:34,319
Speaker 2: you give a fuck if they give a fuck what

949
00:43:34,360 --> 00:43:36,680
Speaker 2: you're doing, Like they can't beat your as well? If

950
00:43:36,680 --> 00:43:39,680
Speaker 2: they can, then maybe that's your issue. But if you

951
00:43:39,680 --> 00:43:41,759
Speaker 2: can't be my ass at this point, it's like what

952
00:43:41,840 --> 00:43:45,160
Speaker 2: you're not paying my bills? Like I'm not scared. I'm

953
00:43:45,200 --> 00:43:47,360
Speaker 2: just I'm not scared anymore, and I'm not scared of

954
00:43:47,400 --> 00:43:50,600
Speaker 2: myself and my potential and what could be because betting

955
00:43:50,600 --> 00:43:53,799
Speaker 2: on myself has been the best turnout of every move

956
00:43:53,840 --> 00:43:57,120
Speaker 2: I've made ever since doing think about it. If you're

957
00:43:57,520 --> 00:43:59,880
Speaker 2: living a life and you're doing something one hundred percent,

958
00:44:00,480 --> 00:44:01,880
Speaker 2: I know for a fact that I'm going to get

959
00:44:01,880 --> 00:44:04,080
Speaker 2: one hundred percent back of what it's supposed to be.

960
00:44:04,560 --> 00:44:06,400
Speaker 2: But when you're making these other moves in lives for

961
00:44:06,480 --> 00:44:09,520
Speaker 2: other people, you're half asking them because you don't want

962
00:44:09,520 --> 00:44:12,000
Speaker 2: to do it, and that's why you're getting half assed results.

963
00:44:12,320 --> 00:44:15,000
Speaker 2: I show up one hundred and ten percent as Somaya,

964
00:44:15,440 --> 00:44:17,400
Speaker 2: and I get one hundred and ten percent back, And

965
00:44:17,400 --> 00:44:20,719
Speaker 2: it's looking like that. And started the business with three

966
00:44:20,760 --> 00:44:23,480
Speaker 2: and a half years ago. I didn't really start choosing

967
00:44:23,480 --> 00:44:25,479
Speaker 2: myself until a year ago. And that's a year ago

968
00:44:25,520 --> 00:44:29,400
Speaker 2: when everything changed. Y'all have seen Sexual Essentials, but I

969
00:44:29,400 --> 00:44:31,800
Speaker 2: started Sexual Essentials on a credit card, you know what

970
00:44:31,840 --> 00:44:36,560
Speaker 2: I mean? No money, no nothing, just figuring it out

971
00:44:36,800 --> 00:44:39,680
Speaker 2: and life will meet you where you're at. You got

972
00:44:39,800 --> 00:44:41,799
Speaker 2: to do the work, though, What do you think it

973
00:44:41,920 --> 00:44:45,000
Speaker 2: was a year ago that really just that's something turned

974
00:44:45,000 --> 00:44:47,480
Speaker 2: for you? Was it something specific or was it just

975
00:44:47,640 --> 00:44:49,600
Speaker 2: kind of like starting to really see the success of

976
00:44:49,600 --> 00:44:53,799
Speaker 2: your business grow. Maybe it's like eighteen months ago. So

977
00:44:53,920 --> 00:44:56,960
Speaker 2: when my husband left, he literally was just like, I

978
00:44:57,000 --> 00:45:00,440
Speaker 2: think that you're amazing, but I am not happy. He

979
00:45:00,560 --> 00:45:03,240
Speaker 2: was like, our life is good and I'm not happy

980
00:45:03,280 --> 00:45:07,799
Speaker 2: in it. And resentment came and so I realized that

981
00:45:08,160 --> 00:45:10,000
Speaker 2: I didn't want to. I didn't want to be the

982
00:45:10,000 --> 00:45:13,319
Speaker 2: one to leave because I believed in marriage right, and

983
00:45:13,480 --> 00:45:15,760
Speaker 2: I honestly think for that last year we were tussling

984
00:45:15,800 --> 00:45:19,720
Speaker 2: back and forth with basically like knowing that this isn't working,

985
00:45:19,760 --> 00:45:22,759
Speaker 2: but coming from households of marriage and feeling like we

986
00:45:22,760 --> 00:45:25,400
Speaker 2: can't get a divorce though. And then it's like in

987
00:45:25,440 --> 00:45:27,960
Speaker 2: this world, when you tell people, oh I'm just not happy,

988
00:45:28,000 --> 00:45:30,040
Speaker 2: you know what they tell you, well, sometimes marriage isn't

989
00:45:30,040 --> 00:45:33,080
Speaker 2: always happy, and da da da da da. No, in

990
00:45:33,200 --> 00:45:35,879
Speaker 2: my best self, he wasn't happy with me, and that's

991
00:45:35,920 --> 00:45:38,840
Speaker 2: only making me feel bad about myself because this is

992
00:45:38,840 --> 00:45:40,680
Speaker 2: a person that I love that thinks of me that way.

993
00:45:41,280 --> 00:45:44,239
Speaker 2: And I literally told him I understand and thank you

994
00:45:44,320 --> 00:45:46,440
Speaker 2: so much for telling me. And bitch, I've been off

995
00:45:46,480 --> 00:45:53,080
Speaker 2: the chain ever fucking since. And not because it's like, oh,

996
00:45:53,080 --> 00:45:55,160
Speaker 2: well i'm single now. No, it was like there were

997
00:45:55,160 --> 00:45:56,839
Speaker 2: things I wasn't doing in my business that I wanted

998
00:45:56,880 --> 00:45:58,960
Speaker 2: to do simply because I knew that he kind of

999
00:45:59,040 --> 00:46:01,440
Speaker 2: was judging me or you know what I mean, and

1000
00:46:02,880 --> 00:46:04,960
Speaker 2: it's just like with nobody judging me, it was just

1001
00:46:05,000 --> 00:46:07,319
Speaker 2: like I'm never going back to that again, feeling like

1002
00:46:07,360 --> 00:46:10,000
Speaker 2: I have to do what if you don't love the

1003
00:46:10,000 --> 00:46:12,640
Speaker 2: person that I am, then move the fuck on.

1004
00:46:13,160 --> 00:46:14,319
Speaker 1: Period. Why are you.

1005
00:46:14,320 --> 00:46:16,359
Speaker 2: Trying to change me? I'm not trying to change you.

1006
00:46:17,280 --> 00:46:19,840
Speaker 1: That's not love. If you're in a relationship with someone

1007
00:46:19,880 --> 00:46:24,280
Speaker 1: and that their love is circumstantial, if you do this,

1008
00:46:24,560 --> 00:46:27,719
Speaker 1: then we can be that. Then like, if what that's

1009
00:46:27,760 --> 00:46:29,960
Speaker 1: my thing? If what I do naturally it just makes

1010
00:46:30,000 --> 00:46:32,319
Speaker 1: me happy doesn't also make you happy. We're probably not

1011
00:46:32,360 --> 00:46:35,000
Speaker 1: aligned in that. I'm not saying that, like relationships don't

1012
00:46:35,000 --> 00:46:39,120
Speaker 1: require like compromise, but I'm gonna want to naturally do

1013
00:46:39,120 --> 00:46:40,840
Speaker 1: the compromise if I don't, if I feel.

1014
00:46:40,600 --> 00:46:43,600
Speaker 3: Like it's hurting me like they I feel like people

1015
00:46:43,640 --> 00:46:46,160
Speaker 3: wrap compromise and so many packages.

1016
00:46:46,200 --> 00:46:50,000
Speaker 1: A bullshit package where like that it's.

1017
00:46:50,040 --> 00:46:54,120
Speaker 3: Like manipulation shows up in a package that says compromise

1018
00:46:54,160 --> 00:46:54,480
Speaker 3: on it.

1019
00:46:54,640 --> 00:46:55,319
Speaker 4: You know what I mean.

1020
00:46:55,680 --> 00:46:57,880
Speaker 3: And it's just like you have to be able to

1021
00:46:58,320 --> 00:47:02,600
Speaker 3: kind of know the difference, and you do know the difference.

1022
00:47:02,640 --> 00:47:06,200
Speaker 3: Your body tells you every time. I think we deny,

1023
00:47:06,600 --> 00:47:10,120
Speaker 3: like like we deny our intuition, We deny like the

1024
00:47:10,160 --> 00:47:13,399
Speaker 3: basic functions of how our bodies react to certain things.

1025
00:47:13,440 --> 00:47:15,680
Speaker 3: That are said to us, the things that you know,

1026
00:47:15,719 --> 00:47:18,040
Speaker 3: when we lay next to someone and we feel like

1027
00:47:18,840 --> 00:47:19,719
Speaker 3: something ain't right.

1028
00:47:20,080 --> 00:47:22,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, and even and especially even in sex.

1029
00:47:22,840 --> 00:47:26,160
Speaker 4: You know, I think, like you know, when the compromise

1030
00:47:26,280 --> 00:47:28,520
Speaker 4: is not it's not you, it's something you can't compromise.

1031
00:47:28,640 --> 00:47:31,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, this just isn't working. And we're scared to start over.

1032
00:47:31,280 --> 00:47:33,399
Speaker 2: We're scared of what other people think when we start over,

1033
00:47:33,520 --> 00:47:36,960
Speaker 2: and we're scared to be wrong. I be loud and

1034
00:47:37,000 --> 00:47:41,400
Speaker 2: wrong because the mistakes is really how I got to

1035
00:47:41,480 --> 00:47:44,240
Speaker 2: the thing that worked, and I need to fail hard

1036
00:47:44,360 --> 00:47:47,399
Speaker 2: and good. So I know, without a doubt in my mind,

1037
00:47:47,440 --> 00:47:49,680
Speaker 2: Oh no, that was not for me. When you kind

1038
00:47:49,680 --> 00:47:51,440
Speaker 2: of do stuff a little bit, then you kind of

1039
00:47:51,480 --> 00:47:52,759
Speaker 2: think and later, well, what maybe if I would have

1040
00:47:52,800 --> 00:47:55,040
Speaker 2: went a little bit harder. Maybe I don't have No.

1041
00:47:55,120 --> 00:47:57,200
Speaker 2: Maybe it's because everything that I'm doing, i'm doing it

1042
00:47:57,200 --> 00:47:59,680
Speaker 2: because I super believe in it, and if it don't work,

1043
00:48:00,040 --> 00:48:01,960
Speaker 2: it's not even in my mind. No, no, no, no,

1044
00:48:02,000 --> 00:48:04,799
Speaker 2: that's how I feel about anal No. No, no, you

1045
00:48:04,800 --> 00:48:08,000
Speaker 2: know I do. But it was it was a long

1046
00:48:08,120 --> 00:48:10,600
Speaker 2: It was a long no for a long time, but

1047
00:48:11,320 --> 00:48:12,880
Speaker 2: I was like, fuck it, we just got to do it,

1048
00:48:12,920 --> 00:48:15,480
Speaker 2: and I did it, and it was she went towards.

1049
00:48:15,760 --> 00:48:17,719
Speaker 1: She walked towards the fear. I walked towards.

1050
00:48:18,000 --> 00:48:19,479
Speaker 2: But it was a good. Oh my god.

1051
00:48:19,719 --> 00:48:23,400
Speaker 1: It's also like I think women are taught to be

1052
00:48:23,520 --> 00:48:26,239
Speaker 1: safe and and that's so it's our human nature. But

1053
00:48:26,400 --> 00:48:32,320
Speaker 1: feels secure, what feels safe, But sometimes safety will keep

1054
00:48:33,000 --> 00:48:38,640
Speaker 1: will keep you small, betting small and sacrificing your happiness.

1055
00:48:38,719 --> 00:48:42,160
Speaker 1: Like when me and Erica first started Good Moms, probably

1056
00:48:42,239 --> 00:48:46,000
Speaker 1: like six months in, I was dating this young guy

1057
00:48:46,160 --> 00:48:48,880
Speaker 1: in Jersey. A bitch got pregnant and I was like,

1058
00:48:48,960 --> 00:48:50,719
Speaker 1: he really wanted me to have this baby we had

1059
00:48:50,760 --> 00:48:54,120
Speaker 1: just started. Erica was like trying to fake be supportive.

1060
00:48:56,320 --> 00:48:59,480
Speaker 1: You can do whatever you want, but I just don't know.

1061
00:48:59,640 --> 00:49:06,279
Speaker 1: And I he has a job that he saved ten

1062
00:49:06,320 --> 00:49:10,360
Speaker 1: thousand dollars once, so he's secure. I was like, probably

1063
00:49:10,360 --> 00:49:12,200
Speaker 1: not in a good place, and I wasn't. I'd only

1064
00:49:12,239 --> 00:49:14,920
Speaker 1: been single for like two years and my last, my last,

1065
00:49:15,000 --> 00:49:18,919
Speaker 1: my last baby, daddy. This is so good. I also

1066
00:49:18,920 --> 00:49:21,120
Speaker 1: want to talk about growth, because I never talked about

1067
00:49:21,120 --> 00:49:22,640
Speaker 1: this on the show because I was too embarrassed to

1068
00:49:22,800 --> 00:49:25,439
Speaker 1: admit that this was happening. About what was happening, even

1069
00:49:25,440 --> 00:49:26,840
Speaker 1: though I was talking about all this other ship. But

1070
00:49:27,040 --> 00:49:29,680
Speaker 1: he was one of those guys who were not really

1071
00:49:29,800 --> 00:49:33,160
Speaker 1: understanding the vision. He was like, he's like, you should

1072
00:49:33,160 --> 00:49:36,080
Speaker 1: just move to New Jersey and be with me. And

1073
00:49:36,680 --> 00:49:40,920
Speaker 1: I was like, okay, I really waited a long, right,

1074
00:49:41,000 --> 00:49:42,560
Speaker 1: I'm gonna be a fucking New Jersey housewife.

1075
00:49:42,800 --> 00:49:45,520
Speaker 4: So my I was like so drinking.

1076
00:49:45,800 --> 00:49:46,880
Speaker 1: I was like, we're gonna do the podcast.

1077
00:49:46,920 --> 00:49:51,480
Speaker 2: I'm gonna move hear Eric she was.

1078
00:49:51,880 --> 00:49:54,120
Speaker 1: She wasn't good at faking it because we weren't as

1079
00:49:54,160 --> 00:49:56,960
Speaker 1: close yet, so she was like trying to be like supportive,

1080
00:49:57,719 --> 00:49:58,560
Speaker 1: but the point I.

1081
00:49:58,640 --> 00:50:02,040
Speaker 4: Was supportive, but she knew that was hired of everyone's shit.

1082
00:50:02,160 --> 00:50:04,080
Speaker 3: She knew was a dumb ass idea because it was

1083
00:50:04,239 --> 00:50:06,520
Speaker 3: looked like I seem like I'm a bitch. I just

1084
00:50:06,680 --> 00:50:10,160
Speaker 3: knew that, Like I knew that you were going to

1085
00:50:10,200 --> 00:50:11,920
Speaker 3: make the decision you were going to make. I was

1086
00:50:12,000 --> 00:50:13,640
Speaker 3: just going to be support what I mean, I wasn't

1087
00:50:13,640 --> 00:50:15,520
Speaker 3: I'm never going to tell someone what to do in

1088
00:50:15,560 --> 00:50:17,960
Speaker 3: their life. I knew that Jamila was going to make

1089
00:50:18,000 --> 00:50:19,600
Speaker 3: the choice that she was going to make. I also

1090
00:50:19,680 --> 00:50:21,799
Speaker 3: knew that, like we were onto something, and like I

1091
00:50:21,800 --> 00:50:25,040
Speaker 3: also knew that she knew that you know and like open.

1092
00:50:25,280 --> 00:50:26,160
Speaker 2: That she does what you want.

1093
00:50:26,320 --> 00:50:29,560
Speaker 1: But I literally had to bet on myself. I was like,

1094
00:50:29,640 --> 00:50:32,520
Speaker 1: it was new. Nobody understood what we were doing. It

1095
00:50:32,640 --> 00:50:35,239
Speaker 1: wasn't popular opinion. They're like, how are you going to

1096
00:50:35,280 --> 00:50:36,680
Speaker 1: make money? I was like, I don't know. Don't ask

1097
00:50:36,719 --> 00:50:39,280
Speaker 1: me those kinds of questions. I'm just telling my business

1098
00:50:39,280 --> 00:50:41,959
Speaker 1: on the internet right now. Okay, let's just start going

1099
00:50:42,040 --> 00:50:45,759
Speaker 1: to lean to big places. Mom, Okay, everybody needs to

1100
00:50:45,760 --> 00:50:47,600
Speaker 1: know about my three sons for my success to happen.

1101
00:50:49,440 --> 00:50:54,640
Speaker 1: But literally, my ass was so fucking I felt it

1102
00:50:54,719 --> 00:50:57,520
Speaker 1: so deeply in my spirit at already I had a

1103
00:50:57,520 --> 00:51:00,319
Speaker 1: baby with someone I knew for years. It did not

1104
00:51:00,360 --> 00:51:03,120
Speaker 1: work out. I remembered the feeling of being miserable and

1105
00:51:03,160 --> 00:51:06,080
Speaker 1: feeling stuck, and the courage it took me to get

1106
00:51:06,160 --> 00:51:08,320
Speaker 1: up out of that shit, and it took so fucking

1107
00:51:08,440 --> 00:51:11,280
Speaker 1: much to cut it off that Like, as I was falling,

1108
00:51:11,400 --> 00:51:13,480
Speaker 1: like sinking back into that place with this new nigga

1109
00:51:13,480 --> 00:51:15,160
Speaker 1: who had a job, I was like, you guys have

1110
00:51:15,200 --> 00:51:20,400
Speaker 1: a job. But I was just like, and I literally

1111
00:51:20,440 --> 00:51:22,359
Speaker 1: waited so long. I was like, are're gonna have a baby?

1112
00:51:22,400 --> 00:51:26,600
Speaker 1: I'm gonna have a family, and like literally, I was like,

1113
00:51:26,640 --> 00:51:28,840
Speaker 1: I can't do this. And I went to the fucking

1114
00:51:29,160 --> 00:51:31,440
Speaker 1: clinic and they're like, this is the last day that

1115
00:51:31,480 --> 00:51:32,200
Speaker 1: you can do this.

1116
00:51:32,280 --> 00:51:32,920
Speaker 2: And I was like, oh.

1117
00:51:33,200 --> 00:51:34,879
Speaker 1: I was in the lobby like should I leave? Should

1118
00:51:34,880 --> 00:51:37,279
Speaker 1: I leave? Should I stay? Should I leave? Stay? Stay? Say?

1119
00:51:37,320 --> 00:51:39,920
Speaker 1: And I was like something rooted my fucking ass in

1120
00:51:39,960 --> 00:51:42,360
Speaker 1: that waiting seat and I did not get the fuck up.

1121
00:51:42,400 --> 00:51:44,919
Speaker 1: I'm like, bitch, if you leave today, there's no coming back.

1122
00:51:45,440 --> 00:51:48,160
Speaker 1: But I knew in that moment, something deep in my

1123
00:51:48,320 --> 00:51:50,600
Speaker 1: gut told me, and I asked God. I was like,

1124
00:51:50,600 --> 00:51:52,960
Speaker 1: give me a fucking sign, and that nigga was like,

1125
00:51:52,960 --> 00:51:56,360
Speaker 1: you should have an abortion. I was like, perfect, no, I'm glad.

1126
00:51:56,440 --> 00:51:59,640
Speaker 1: I agree. I was like, made that appointment so quick.

1127
00:51:59,680 --> 00:52:02,839
Speaker 1: But looking back, bitch, I would have a four year

1128
00:52:02,880 --> 00:52:05,200
Speaker 1: old in February trip and.

1129
00:52:06,360 --> 00:52:08,120
Speaker 3: You may not have Maybe I don't know, maybe you

1130
00:52:08,120 --> 00:52:09,759
Speaker 3: wouldn't have moved there. Maybe you would have moved there,

1131
00:52:09,760 --> 00:52:11,840
Speaker 3: Maybe you wouldn't have maybe we would have had the baby,

1132
00:52:11,840 --> 00:52:14,480
Speaker 3: maybe you wouldn't have, but we could have still possibly

1133
00:52:14,480 --> 00:52:16,200
Speaker 3: still had good moms. You would have just been good

1134
00:52:16,200 --> 00:52:17,839
Speaker 3: moms with two kids. And I would have had one

1135
00:52:19,320 --> 00:52:23,359
Speaker 3: start over, it would be a different conversation. But yeah,

1136
00:52:23,400 --> 00:52:23,959
Speaker 3: I think that.

1137
00:52:24,719 --> 00:52:28,360
Speaker 1: The safety, that the illusion of safety is literally almost

1138
00:52:28,360 --> 00:52:31,120
Speaker 1: made me bet against myself, bet against my gut. And

1139
00:52:31,160 --> 00:52:33,680
Speaker 1: it's a crazy idea starting a podcast. There is no

1140
00:52:33,800 --> 00:52:38,120
Speaker 1: money for forever a lot of time, so it didn't

1141
00:52:38,160 --> 00:52:41,360
Speaker 1: make sense. But in my body and in my spirit,

1142
00:52:41,480 --> 00:52:43,520
Speaker 1: it made sense. And I had no idea what was

1143
00:52:43,520 --> 00:52:45,800
Speaker 1: happening or what was going to happen. But thank fucking

1144
00:52:45,880 --> 00:52:49,719
Speaker 1: God that I have a supportive friend and that I

1145
00:52:49,840 --> 00:52:52,279
Speaker 1: something in me is like I can't. I can't do

1146
00:52:52,360 --> 00:52:54,640
Speaker 1: the same, not bet on myself twice. I've gotten out

1147
00:52:54,680 --> 00:52:57,319
Speaker 1: of the situation once. There's no way in fucking hell

1148
00:52:57,360 --> 00:52:59,840
Speaker 1: I'm about to get in this position twice because of

1149
00:52:59,880 --> 00:53:02,960
Speaker 1: me and then have to live with the circumstances of

1150
00:53:03,080 --> 00:53:05,160
Speaker 1: knowing in my gut I didn't really want to do

1151
00:53:05,239 --> 00:53:08,920
Speaker 1: something but pleasing someone else because it seemed safe and

1152
00:53:08,960 --> 00:53:10,440
Speaker 1: it seemed like, oh, I have the house and a

1153
00:53:10,520 --> 00:53:12,680
Speaker 1: nigga and whatever I thought I was going to be

1154
00:53:12,680 --> 00:53:14,759
Speaker 1: fucking having. But now I'm having three sums and going

1155
00:53:14,800 --> 00:53:16,520
Speaker 1: to sex parties. So woo.

1156
00:53:17,400 --> 00:53:19,640
Speaker 2: Just said all that to say, don't have to say.

1157
00:53:19,640 --> 00:53:21,120
Speaker 1: Look at my best life.

1158
00:53:21,200 --> 00:53:22,279
Speaker 2: But not only that.

1159
00:53:22,440 --> 00:53:26,080
Speaker 3: I mean, have a brand that you know is successful.

1160
00:53:26,880 --> 00:53:29,520
Speaker 3: You are like following your dreams. You are painting and

1161
00:53:29,560 --> 00:53:32,680
Speaker 3: designing the life you want. You have ideas and you

1162
00:53:32,719 --> 00:53:35,480
Speaker 3: know we make them happen, you know what I mean,

1163
00:53:35,520 --> 00:53:39,319
Speaker 3: and in such a more fulfilling way than the tending.

1164
00:53:39,000 --> 00:53:39,799
Speaker 1: Than that would have been.

1165
00:53:40,080 --> 00:53:43,000
Speaker 3: So I mean that's a testament to yes, betting on

1166
00:53:43,040 --> 00:53:46,920
Speaker 3: yourself even when, like you said, it didn't make any sense.

1167
00:53:46,880 --> 00:53:48,840
Speaker 1: And not questioning who you are. You know, there's so

1168
00:53:48,920 --> 00:53:50,960
Speaker 1: much great. He told me one time, that same guy.

1169
00:53:51,000 --> 00:53:52,359
Speaker 1: He's like, yeah, I dated this girl and she told

1170
00:53:52,360 --> 00:53:54,480
Speaker 1: me she went to have a male male female relationship

1171
00:53:54,520 --> 00:53:56,399
Speaker 1: I mean threesome. I was like, oh, that's pretty dope.

1172
00:53:56,440 --> 00:53:57,839
Speaker 1: What'd you say? He's like, I would never make her

1173
00:53:57,880 --> 00:54:00,400
Speaker 1: my girl, Nigga, that's why I can't be girl. I

1174
00:54:00,400 --> 00:54:05,799
Speaker 1: gotta know she's on this something. Can you cute? She

1175
00:54:05,800 --> 00:54:08,440
Speaker 1: found somebody. But it's just like if I would have

1176
00:54:08,440 --> 00:54:10,799
Speaker 1: been like, that's not a normal fantasy to have. You're right,

1177
00:54:10,840 --> 00:54:13,040
Speaker 1: that kind of girl doesn't deserve to be married. Fuck that.

1178
00:54:13,480 --> 00:54:15,160
Speaker 1: But no, bitch, this is who I am. This is

1179
00:54:15,200 --> 00:54:18,080
Speaker 1: how I'm coming and hot and like that's the only

1180
00:54:18,120 --> 00:54:20,279
Speaker 1: way to be. You gotta be one hundred and ten

1181
00:54:20,320 --> 00:54:23,080
Speaker 1: percent yourself or none of that shit. You know, like,

1182
00:54:23,160 --> 00:54:25,600
Speaker 1: no one can make you you. No one defines you,

1183
00:54:25,680 --> 00:54:28,040
Speaker 1: not no nigga, not a relationship, not no mom or dad.

1184
00:54:28,120 --> 00:54:30,560
Speaker 1: Like we're grown now and I would just hate. One

1185
00:54:30,560 --> 00:54:33,480
Speaker 1: of my biggest things is like, imagine if something happens

1186
00:54:33,480 --> 00:54:35,600
Speaker 1: to me today and I'm like, fuck should I could

1187
00:54:35,600 --> 00:54:37,799
Speaker 1: have would have? But I did because so and so

1188
00:54:37,920 --> 00:54:40,040
Speaker 1: said or someone told me not to do that, Like

1189
00:54:40,200 --> 00:54:41,960
Speaker 1: I what if I would have been like, you're right,

1190
00:54:42,040 --> 00:54:44,680
Speaker 1: I said, white bitches too many times on that first episode.

1191
00:54:44,880 --> 00:54:46,319
Speaker 1: Let's just shut the whole shit down.

1192
00:54:47,080 --> 00:54:49,880
Speaker 2: You got you gotta you gotta be willing to lose big.

1193
00:54:50,120 --> 00:54:53,439
Speaker 2: But whoever said in the beginning you when you bet

1194
00:54:53,480 --> 00:54:55,840
Speaker 2: on yourself and you bet big, you win big. That's

1195
00:54:55,920 --> 00:54:58,279
Speaker 2: real as well, And I'm not I don't think that

1196
00:54:58,280 --> 00:54:59,759
Speaker 2: any of us are telling you to just go out

1197
00:54:59,760 --> 00:55:03,279
Speaker 2: and do something reckless. Make calculated decisions, but for the

1198
00:55:03,320 --> 00:55:07,080
Speaker 2: decisions that you want. Sometimes the road less traveled is

1199
00:55:07,160 --> 00:55:10,040
Speaker 2: just better, or the road that hasn't even been created yet,

1200
00:55:10,040 --> 00:55:11,960
Speaker 2: it's yours because it's time for you to create that

1201
00:55:12,000 --> 00:55:14,440
Speaker 2: shit you know, like it has discipline or even just

1202
00:55:14,480 --> 00:55:16,560
Speaker 2: starting over, like whatever the fuck you need to do.

1203
00:55:17,040 --> 00:55:21,279
Speaker 2: Being happy is some real flex ass shit because so

1204
00:55:21,360 --> 00:55:24,000
Speaker 2: many people are unhappy. And it don't mean I'm happy

1205
00:55:24,040 --> 00:55:25,879
Speaker 2: one hundred percent of the time all day, every fucking day,

1206
00:55:25,880 --> 00:55:28,560
Speaker 2: but almost every day I'm like, thank fucking god that

1207
00:55:28,680 --> 00:55:32,520
Speaker 2: nigga left me, like thank god, like I started this bent,

1208
00:55:32,640 --> 00:55:37,240
Speaker 2: thank God I sucked dick for a living like it works,

1209
00:55:37,440 --> 00:55:41,600
Speaker 2: and by ID be grateful. But if.

1210
00:55:43,480 --> 00:55:44,479
Speaker 1: A living, we wouldn't be here.

1211
00:55:44,560 --> 00:55:46,680
Speaker 2: We wouldn't be here. You all were talking about relationships,

1212
00:55:46,719 --> 00:55:48,600
Speaker 2: and I definitely have to say it out loud. I

1213
00:55:48,640 --> 00:55:54,960
Speaker 2: am yearning to date another couple, Like it's very yearning. Yeah,

1214
00:55:55,040 --> 00:55:59,879
Speaker 2: because we're putting it out here for the January manifesting things. Yes,

1215
00:56:01,480 --> 00:56:04,040
Speaker 2: I'm yearning for that. I think like watching another couple

1216
00:56:04,120 --> 00:56:05,880
Speaker 2: be in love and then like it's not really my

1217
00:56:05,960 --> 00:56:08,160
Speaker 2: responsibility is like sexy as fuck.

1218
00:56:09,239 --> 00:56:12,480
Speaker 1: I feel like attaching yourself to a very loving couple

1219
00:56:13,120 --> 00:56:16,239
Speaker 1: manifests love for you. I know a couple who the

1220
00:56:16,719 --> 00:56:19,399
Speaker 1: wife was a unicorn before she met her husband, and

1221
00:56:19,440 --> 00:56:22,319
Speaker 1: that couple, that married couple was really rooting for her

1222
00:56:22,360 --> 00:56:25,479
Speaker 1: and manifesting for her to meet that husband and she did,

1223
00:56:25,640 --> 00:56:29,279
Speaker 1: you know. And I just think people like miss have

1224
00:56:29,360 --> 00:56:32,279
Speaker 1: a misconception of really the beauty of being around a

1225
00:56:32,560 --> 00:56:36,360
Speaker 1: true love that's trusting and loving and is so open

1226
00:56:36,400 --> 00:56:38,759
Speaker 1: that they can embrace you in their relationship and it

1227
00:56:38,760 --> 00:56:42,799
Speaker 1: can really cultivate like that love effect. Yeah, you see it,

1228
00:56:42,880 --> 00:56:45,320
Speaker 1: You see it's possible, So you attract that for yourself.

1229
00:56:45,440 --> 00:56:48,960
Speaker 2: Absolutely, you don't have to always be the main character

1230
00:56:49,160 --> 00:56:52,440
Speaker 2: in the love story. But understanding what turns you on,

1231
00:56:52,719 --> 00:56:55,200
Speaker 2: even I feel like has pushed me to sexual limits

1232
00:56:55,200 --> 00:56:57,080
Speaker 2: that I didn't even think was possible, and just saying

1233
00:56:57,120 --> 00:56:59,440
Speaker 2: it out loud, like because when you say it out loud,

1234
00:56:59,480 --> 00:57:01,799
Speaker 2: you're gonna find somebody else who's with that shit, you know,

1235
00:57:02,280 --> 00:57:06,080
Speaker 2: So just getting used to saying that outlanders, thinking, yeah,

1236
00:57:06,200 --> 00:57:08,399
Speaker 2: people look at you like you're crazy sometimes, but like, shit,

1237
00:57:08,480 --> 00:57:09,520
Speaker 2: I wouldn't mind it.

1238
00:57:09,400 --> 00:57:11,480
Speaker 1: Like, you know, how long it's to say out loud,

1239
00:57:11,520 --> 00:57:13,239
Speaker 1: I want to have a male male female for so

1240
00:57:13,280 --> 00:57:15,200
Speaker 1: long that's not my fantasy. That's not my fantasy. And

1241
00:57:15,200 --> 00:57:18,120
Speaker 1: then I was like, it is my fantasy and I

1242
00:57:18,120 --> 00:57:19,480
Speaker 1: should yell it from the rooftops.

1243
00:57:19,840 --> 00:57:22,360
Speaker 2: And I still need to have my all girl threesome

1244
00:57:23,800 --> 00:57:26,120
Speaker 2: and I need to what else do I need to do?

1245
00:57:26,200 --> 00:57:28,200
Speaker 2: I got shit to do in twenty twenty two.

1246
00:57:28,280 --> 00:57:30,560
Speaker 3: Okay, well, I think it's so cool that we are

1247
00:57:30,600 --> 00:57:33,080
Speaker 3: in a space now. I mean, obviously, I know that

1248
00:57:33,080 --> 00:57:34,840
Speaker 3: there's a lot of women who are listening that are.

1249
00:57:34,800 --> 00:57:39,000
Speaker 4: Like, Wow, these bitches are crazy. But and then there's

1250
00:57:39,000 --> 00:57:39,600
Speaker 4: some that are like.

1251
00:57:39,680 --> 00:57:41,800
Speaker 2: Damn, like I want that shit too.

1252
00:57:41,840 --> 00:57:44,120
Speaker 1: I want that this is your permission as to do

1253
00:57:44,200 --> 00:57:46,280
Speaker 1: whatever I feel however you want to feel, yeah.

1254
00:57:46,080 --> 00:57:47,919
Speaker 3: And that we can have these conversations, and that there's

1255
00:57:47,960 --> 00:57:51,200
Speaker 3: even like resources like like like field, like dating apps

1256
00:57:51,240 --> 00:57:54,200
Speaker 3: that allow you to be yourself and show up as

1257
00:57:54,240 --> 00:57:57,160
Speaker 3: yourself off the off the gate, and that there's so

1258
00:57:57,240 --> 00:58:00,720
Speaker 3: many people on that app that feel safe, even comfortable.

1259
00:58:00,720 --> 00:58:03,200
Speaker 3: It lets you know that there are so many people

1260
00:58:03,560 --> 00:58:07,880
Speaker 3: out there, yes, that want that want that weird, freaky,

1261
00:58:08,000 --> 00:58:10,600
Speaker 3: freaky kinky shit that you saw on a porn one

1262
00:58:10,640 --> 00:58:12,920
Speaker 3: time that you've been waiting to do on someone or

1263
00:58:13,240 --> 00:58:14,040
Speaker 3: or you didn't.

1264
00:58:13,840 --> 00:58:15,240
Speaker 1: Think that anyone was doing.

1265
00:58:16,200 --> 00:58:21,000
Speaker 3: I think that like sex is so human and all

1266
00:58:21,120 --> 00:58:23,080
Speaker 3: the kinks are so human, whether or not I want

1267
00:58:23,120 --> 00:58:25,080
Speaker 3: to explore them or not. Like for me, I'm not

1268
00:58:25,120 --> 00:58:28,160
Speaker 3: interested in polyamory. You know, that's not that's not my vibe.

1269
00:58:28,240 --> 00:58:30,640
Speaker 1: I do. I do I subscribe to monogamy.

1270
00:58:30,680 --> 00:58:34,160
Speaker 3: No, not really, but I feel like I love that

1271
00:58:34,360 --> 00:58:36,400
Speaker 3: for you, I love that for her, I love that

1272
00:58:36,520 --> 00:58:38,760
Speaker 3: for everyone. I believe that everyone should be able to

1273
00:58:38,800 --> 00:58:41,720
Speaker 3: experience the type of love, the type of sex that

1274
00:58:41,760 --> 00:58:44,479
Speaker 3: they that they want, because guess what, y'all were only

1275
00:58:44,520 --> 00:58:46,920
Speaker 3: here for a limited amount of time.

1276
00:58:47,040 --> 00:58:48,440
Speaker 4: It's crazy, And.

1277
00:58:48,480 --> 00:58:51,040
Speaker 1: I don't maybe have the responsibility of like owning someone

1278
00:58:51,080 --> 00:58:54,720
Speaker 1: or limiting their their pleasure, Like.

1279
00:58:54,640 --> 00:58:59,160
Speaker 3: It goes so fast, life goes so fast, like and

1280
00:58:59,200 --> 00:59:00,760
Speaker 3: when you're gone, I mean, I don't.

1281
00:59:00,760 --> 00:59:02,040
Speaker 4: I believe that energy never dies.

1282
00:59:02,240 --> 00:59:03,560
Speaker 2: Should ever let me smoke on camera?

1283
00:59:05,760 --> 00:59:09,320
Speaker 3: I believe that energy never dies. But like this experience

1284
00:59:09,440 --> 00:59:11,480
Speaker 3: right now, me and this body you and this body

1285
00:59:11,480 --> 00:59:12,920
Speaker 3: you and this body, like this is it?

1286
00:59:13,560 --> 00:59:14,480
Speaker 1: Do it? Do it all.

1287
00:59:14,920 --> 00:59:15,560
Speaker 2: I'm with the ship.

1288
00:59:15,720 --> 00:59:19,960
Speaker 1: Don't let anyone or any fucking beliefs limit that shit

1289
00:59:20,280 --> 00:59:22,479
Speaker 1: because it's it's such a waste, It's such a waste

1290
00:59:22,520 --> 00:59:22,880
Speaker 1: of time.

1291
00:59:23,080 --> 00:59:24,920
Speaker 3: Yeah, Like, if you want to make a career sucking

1292
00:59:25,000 --> 00:59:27,680
Speaker 3: dick and teaching women how to fucking take charge of

1293
00:59:27,720 --> 00:59:31,000
Speaker 3: their sexual power, like do that ship, Like Samaya, Like

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Speaker 3: what you do, Smaya is so important the Lord's work.

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Speaker 3: It is really important.

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Speaker 2: I really trying to get into heaven over here.

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Speaker 4: Okay, you're doing it is the Lord's work.

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Speaker 1: And I'm not saying that. I guess what's gonna be

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Speaker 1: waiting for you when you get there, Fu.

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Speaker 3: And a little chair of just following you around sprinkling

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Speaker 3: dust on your head all day, because it is like

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Speaker 3: you are changing women's and men's lives and changing the

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Speaker 3: lives and relationships for people and couples, and and that

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Speaker 3: is so important, and that is so part of like

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Speaker 3: I think, I think the journey of becoming confident, being

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Speaker 3: able to know what you want, being able to ask

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Speaker 3: for what you want, I think a lot of it

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Speaker 3: does start with sex, you know, and same with us,

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Speaker 3: Like I'd like fucking two moms talking about sex on

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Speaker 3: the internet, talking about mental health, talking about our kids,

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Speaker 3: having posts about dildo's next to kids, next to like

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Speaker 3: how much we love I fucking love my daughter so.

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Speaker 1: Much because this is my life life, this.

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Speaker 4: Is the existence of who I am. I like sex,

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Speaker 4: I love my kid, I like to look cute.

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Speaker 3: I'm trying to figure it out, you know, Like I'm

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Speaker 3: an entrepreneur. I want to build businesses, I want to

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Speaker 3: smoke weed like I want to do all those things

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Speaker 3: and I should be able to do that. And I

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Speaker 3: think it's really important for people to see women that

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Speaker 3: are multifaceted and inspire them.

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Speaker 4: So sorry, that's it, that's my spiel, that's my soul.

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Speaker 1: That was beautiful, that's beautiful, honey. My wife is so smart.

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Speaker 1: God God, I have such smart wives money and she

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Speaker 1: has nice titties and I'm trying like looking badasses nice titties.

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Speaker 1: Thank you, ladies for this episode. I love you guys.

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Speaker 2: So what's our? What's our? What's our? What do we

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Speaker 2: want people to take away? Be a boss sazed bitch

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Speaker 2: and do you guy? Or be a boss sass dick.

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Speaker 1: The affirmation is do you boo? Do you boo? You boo?

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Speaker 2: Confidently? Just do it anyway. Please remember yourself, good God,

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Speaker 2: Please remember yourself.

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Speaker 1: And if you don't remember, it goes somewhere alone to

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Speaker 1: figure that shit out and without the voice or opinions

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Speaker 1: of others.

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Speaker 2: I did a thing the other day, though I do

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Speaker 2: got to tell you about it. So I got this

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Speaker 2: foot massage or thing. It was like self love from Amazon,

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Speaker 2: and it massages your feet like really really good, but

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Speaker 2: like really really good, like it feels like a man

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Speaker 2: is rubbing your feet. And I got my toy and

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Speaker 2: I made myself come with at the same time as

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Speaker 2: it was rubbing my feet, so it felt like I

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Speaker 2: was getting a foot rube while I was like having

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Speaker 2: my gosh, it was amazing. I feel like I'm always

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Speaker 2: trying to do something, so it feels like I'm getting

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Speaker 2: sucked by two people.

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Speaker 1: Can you can you? We're gonna have to drop that

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Speaker 1: link of that foot mascle.

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Speaker 2: We need to have y'all sign up so they can

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Speaker 2: give y'all some money because that shit was amazing. The

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Speaker 2: thing was like on sale from like the Black Friday,

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Speaker 2: so it was like maybe like two hundred bucks, so's yes,

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Speaker 2: so that it was on sale. I put my feet

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Speaker 2: in it. And this is another good thing about having

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Speaker 2: a long time You can do weird ass orgasm shit, okay.

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Speaker 2: And I was sitting on my couch, don't sit on

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Speaker 2: my couch, sitting on my couch, and my feet were

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Speaker 2: like this, and I got my toy and I was like, oh,

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Speaker 2: this feels so fucking good, Like I could just imagine

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Speaker 2: having a nut, and I was like, fuck it. Put

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Speaker 2: out the toy and with the couch up. It was

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Speaker 2: a good nut. I stayed there for three times. I

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Speaker 2: had to run that ship back there for three times,

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Speaker 2: three nimes, three nuts. I was like, bitch, this is

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Speaker 2: this is why they pay you to be a bus.

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Speaker 1: And you were experimenting for the people. Okay, for the people.

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Speaker 2: I'm doing it for you, okay, and anything that feel good.

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Speaker 2: I just try to figure out can I add a

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Speaker 2: net to that.

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Speaker 1: That makes sense? Yeah? Pleasure own pleasure.

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Speaker 2: Know.

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Speaker 4: I just remember the title of our last episode was

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Speaker 4: Fear of the Nut.

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Speaker 1: Was the fear fear?

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Speaker 2: We can talk about our summer six.

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Speaker 1: Okay, let's do it.

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Speaker 1: don't give them too much. But the thing definitely taking

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Speaker 2: So like if you've never had an orgasm and stuff

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Speaker 2: We're about to go get high, getting drunk.

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Speaker 4: Well, we'll catch you guys next week.

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