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Speaker 2: But before that, we have a quick two minute break

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Speaker 2: wanted me out so he can take his sister's kids

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Speaker 2: from foster care.

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Speaker 1: Honestly, that sounds incredibly reasonable.

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Speaker 2: My roommate and I rent a pretty nice two bedroom

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Speaker 2: apartment together. We pay practically nothing in rent because we

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Speaker 2: have a deal to keep and I on things and

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Speaker 2: take care of the facilities. It's a great deal because

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Speaker 2: it doesn't take more than a few hours a week and.

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Speaker 3: We take turns.

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Speaker 2: I'm Dakota, and we are here to give good advice.

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Speaker 3: Goofully.

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Speaker 2: But obviously we do not have all the answers, but

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Speaker 2: we would love to know what you would do in

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Speaker 2: the comments below.

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Speaker 3: As Op says.

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Speaker 2: My roommate's sister lost custody of her kids, two girls

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Speaker 2: and one and maybe facing prison time. My roommate wants

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Speaker 2: to get them out of the foster system since they

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Speaker 2: were placed in separate homes. Oh yeah, he is their

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Speaker 2: only other family since their dads aren't in the picture,

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Speaker 2: so there's no one else who can take them in.

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Speaker 2: The social worker gave him some requirements and has issues

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Speaker 2: with me because I am an unrelated adult male and

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Speaker 2: because I have a record of substance.

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Speaker 3: Also because of the ages of the kids.

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Speaker 2: My roommate needs to have at least two bedrooms. He

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Speaker 2: cannot afford a two bedroom place except this one because

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Speaker 2: of the great deal we get. This is why he

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Speaker 2: wants me to move out, he says. The fact is

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Speaker 2: he needs the apartment more than I do. I understand

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Speaker 2: he is in a difficult position, but rent is insanely

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Speaker 2: expensive around here. If I moved out, renting even a

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Speaker 2: single bedroom elsewhere would be way more expensive than renting

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Speaker 2: this apartment by myself. I would like to keep living

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Speaker 2: here so I can save money and hopefully one day

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Speaker 2: buy a place of my own. That goal is unlikely

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Speaker 2: to happen if I have to pay mark get right rent.

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Speaker 2: I was also living here first, so I don't feel

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Speaker 2: it's fair that I should be the one to move.

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Speaker 3: Am I the a hole?

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Speaker 1: That does add a bit of a wrinkle into the situation.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, like they I just think and regardless of who

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Speaker 2: Like I just I think like just asking someone to

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Speaker 2: move out of the house because the other person just

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Speaker 2: needs it is like inconsiderate. But I also understand the

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Speaker 2: situation of like getting the kids out of like the system,

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Speaker 2: because you know, obviously you don't want to keep them

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Speaker 2: in the system because that's just scary and hard.

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Speaker 4: But you are It is a little bit like selfish

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Speaker 4: a holy because guess what you can maybe maybe a studio,

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Speaker 4: not even a one bedroom. Maybe maybe you find another

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Speaker 4: place with more than just one roommate. I don't know

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Speaker 4: what to tell you. But also, you were here first,

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Speaker 4: but are you going to use that when it's like

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Speaker 4: I was here first? So the same problems that I

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Speaker 4: am saying are the reasons why I can't leave, even

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Speaker 4: though they also apply to you and now two children

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Speaker 4: that you have to deal.

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Speaker 1: With that now.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, so it's like I don't know, it's just the

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Speaker 2: Here are some comments. Isn't your great deal for ren

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Speaker 2: has a taking care of things condition. I assume having

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Speaker 2: landlord anyway, regardless, if he can't afford to take the

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Speaker 2: heartbreaking situation and not leaving the house will make you

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Speaker 2: feel like an ahole, but you are entitled to be

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Speaker 2: an a hole given the circumstances. Opie responds, I don't

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Speaker 2: doesn't really take that much time at all. Another comment says,

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Speaker 2: depending on the ages of the kids, since they are different,

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Speaker 2: they may be required to have separate rooms, So your

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Speaker 2: roommate would actually need a three bedroom place. That was

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Speaker 2: the concern when we were contemplating getting some Nibblings place.

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Speaker 2: Yes with us, Opie responds, their social worker just said

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Speaker 2: at least two bedrooms. Another response, your roommate may also

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Speaker 2: be eligible for a stipend if he provides foster care

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Speaker 2: for the kids. That stipend can go towards pain for

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Speaker 2: a suitable place. Opie says, no, he's family, so he

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Speaker 2: so he can't afford a new place. Opie says, no,

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Speaker 2: with these kids? He could move there with them instead.

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Speaker 2: Question Mark not sure what her living situation was before

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Speaker 2: her loss of custody, but the kids were somewhere not

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Speaker 2: the a hole. Hoping for the best for your friend

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Speaker 2: and his kiddos, though Opie responds, not an option. Another

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Speaker 2: care for these children. Are the grandparents around can they

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Speaker 2: other family members who can help out with the situation.

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Speaker 2: Opie responds, as I said, my roommate is their only family,

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Speaker 3: Is an update. This is a pretty short update.

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Speaker 2: I got the suggestion a few times that I should

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Speaker 2: talk to my landlord about the situation since he may

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Speaker 2: not be okay with the idea. While he was okay

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Speaker 2: with the idea of kids, he already has a lot

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Speaker 2: of tenants with kids. He was not okay with continuing

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Speaker 2: the same arrangement with my roommate without me there. So

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Speaker 2: there's really no point in me moving now since my

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Speaker 2: roommate would have to pay market rate rent for the place,

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Speaker 2: which he can't afford as of right now. My roommate's

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Speaker 2: plans are to continue living here while he figures out

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Speaker 2: some other arrangement. Once he does, he's going to move

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Speaker 2: out and I'm going to get a new roommate here.

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Speaker 1: Okay. But two, well, I guess that kind of takes

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Speaker 3: So he's just gonna get a new place.

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Speaker 4: He's just got a knuckle down, yeah, and figured out

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Speaker 4: Update two.

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Speaker 2: I said in my last update that my roommate was

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Speaker 2: some other arrangement that would work out for the four

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Speaker 2: of them. I had passed on some of the helpful

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Speaker 2: suggestions and sources people messaged me about. Upon further research, though,

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Speaker 2: he realized it was still going to take time and

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Speaker 2: it would be faster for him to save up money

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Speaker 2: for a deposit and first slash last month's rent on

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Speaker 2: were moved in. Honestly, I don't really get how it works.

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Speaker 2: For those wondering why he doesn't have money saved up

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Speaker 2: him to hopefully have enough in four to five months.

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Speaker 2: My roommates started to become more and more hostile, though

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Speaker 2: first just passive aggressive, but it led to a big blowout,

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Speaker 2: nothing physical, just yelling. He was really mad because he thought,

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Speaker 2: since I have such a good relationship with our landlord,

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Speaker 2: that I should have tried to convince him that he

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Speaker 2: could handle the maintenance on his own.

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Speaker 4: That's the case where it's like I feel like and

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Speaker 4: I feel like it could be and OP might have

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Speaker 4: just spun it where it's like, oh, yeah, well, if

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Speaker 4: I'm not going to be here because the landlord likes

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Speaker 4: me so much, he won't give him the deal. It'd

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Speaker 4: be like, no, if I'm not here, the landlord thinks

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Speaker 4: that the maintenance can't be done, so that he wouldn't

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Speaker 4: you didn't even go to up to bat. You didn't

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Speaker 4: go up to bat for me at all, Like at.

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Speaker 3: All that's true.

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Speaker 2: He could have definitely like said, you know, like that,

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Speaker 2: I think that I would put in the category of.

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Speaker 3: An a hole move.

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Speaker 4: Uh yeah, because it seemed like it was almost like

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Speaker 4: a well, I'd see now he knows and there's nothing

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Speaker 4: I can do, so whatever, And it's like, dude, you

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Speaker 4: bet you got the answer you kind of wanted to get,

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Speaker 4: and then you were like, yes, okay, thank you.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: He was kind of like telling it like not yeah

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Speaker 1: Words, I don't know, just have a heart, brother, I

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Speaker 1: don't know what to tell you.

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Speaker 4: Man.

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Speaker 1: I would be wanting to help this.

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Speaker 4: If this is a roommate and a friend of mine

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Speaker 4: and they're trying to do this, I would want to

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I would, honestly. He probably could. I know I

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Speaker 2: can handle it on my own. I almost considered it too,

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Speaker 2: because I didn't think I wanted to continue to live

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Speaker 2: with him. After talking to my landlord about the situation again,

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Speaker 2: we came to a new agreement. My landlord is going

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Speaker 2: to be ending our lease. He gave us both official notice.

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Speaker 2: I'm going to continue living here, but moving into another unit.

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Speaker 2: It's a smaller one bedroom and a bit smaller, but

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Speaker 3: I'm going to have to.

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Speaker 2: Do the maintenance on my own from now on, but

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Speaker 2: it's still a really great deal and worth it to

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Speaker 4: And yeah, it feels like there was a way to

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Speaker 4: figure this out with both of you still in this

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Speaker 4: but to a level that is still beneficial to both

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Speaker 4: of you. Yeah, because and it feels like you just

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Speaker 4: did it for yourself.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, And that's kind of whack.

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Speaker 2: That's the part that's kind of throwing me off, because

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Speaker 2: now he's saying, like, oh, I moved into like, you know,

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Speaker 2: like another place but still in the same Like I

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Speaker 2: moved into the same building but different like room, and

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Speaker 2: like I'm still getting the deal that I want so like,

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Speaker 2: but like the other guy's not going to get the

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I don't know, man, it just were you how

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Speaker 4: tight were you with this roommate. It really is reading

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Speaker 4: like this was a stranger. But at the beginning of this,

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Speaker 4: I don't know. I just assumed you guys were close.

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Speaker 4: Yeah maybe if if you're not super close, I mean,

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Speaker 4: I guess I can see doing this, but like, yeah,

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Speaker 4: it's uh, I don't know, man, everything just kind of

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's like there's not really like a good answer

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Speaker 2: because like all of them kind of stink.

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Speaker 3: It's putting everyone in like a bad situation.

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Speaker 4: Like someone has to get a short end of the stick. Yeah,

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Speaker 4: and uh, it's not really fair to anybody.

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Speaker 2: Thankfully, I will be able to move into the new

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Speaker 2: Reply the roommate should be working with the social worker

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Speaker 2: I get it was a decision in a rush, but dude,

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Speaker 4: My roommate stole money from me to buy junk food,

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Speaker 4: so I took revenge.

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Speaker 3: I don't know, I love junk food.

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Speaker 4: I twenty seven female, live in a house with two

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Speaker 1: By the way, this comes from user Draped in Pearls

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Speaker 1: and if you want to.

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Speaker 4: Submit your own stories, go to the r slash Okay

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Speaker 4: storytime suburn it. I'm Dakota and I'm Savannah, and we're

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Speaker 4: here to give you good advice, Goofily, But we don't

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Speaker 4: have all the answers.

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Speaker 1: We just know what we do, so tell us what

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Speaker 4: As Op says she's on so social Security because she

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Speaker 4: obviously can't work at her size. She does very few

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Speaker 1: Our lease is up at the.

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Speaker 4: this at this start of summer because until they get

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Speaker 4: She says, I'm abandoning her and I should have to

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Speaker 1: Lease is up.

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Speaker 4: I told her that's not happening. Ever since then, her

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Speaker 4: bad behavior has ramped up. She takes even more of

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Speaker 4: my food. She makes passive aggressive comments constantly. But worst

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Speaker 4: of all, she stole money from me the other day.

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Speaker 4: There's this specialty candy shop not far from where we

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Speaker 4: it's pretty clear it's for her. When I asked how

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Speaker 4: she struggles with money, she said, flat out, I borrowed.

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Speaker 1: Some of the cash you had in your room.

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Speaker 4: I went to check and she had taken one hundred

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Speaker 4: dollars of my money to spend on junk food.

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Speaker 2: Okay, that, like I I could see maybe like five

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Speaker 2: ten bugs, maybe a twenty.

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Speaker 4: Now this is an intervention level moment. So you took

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Speaker 4: one hundred dollars from me to buy junk food.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, which means you like went through my stuff.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, like went in my room, moved my stuff around,

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Speaker 2: and say this is for everyone.

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Speaker 3: Lake.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, no, it's it's it's it's just a rash, It's

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Speaker 4: in a bad roommate. She started to cry and said

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Speaker 4: But of course she won't because she never has. She's

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Speaker 4: she gets her SSI so here's where I might be

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Speaker 4: the ale.

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Speaker 1: She's leaving for the weekend to visit her parents.

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Speaker 4: I want to take all the treats she left behind

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Speaker 4: and donate them to a food shelf, except two things.

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Speaker 4: I want to eat a slice of the homemade pie

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Speaker 4: she bought, still untouched as of now, and text her

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Speaker 4: a piece of her pie and then dumped down dish

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Speaker 4: soap over the rest and put it back in the fridge.

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Speaker 4: When she goes to eat it, it will be ruined

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Speaker 4: and the dish soap won't hurt her. Then I plan

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Speaker 4: to take the homemade jam she bought and dump them

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Speaker 4: and be gone. I'm moving back in with my parents.

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Speaker 4: I'm over this. So would I bedaole for donating food

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Speaker 4: she bought with my stolen money? Eating her pie because

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Speaker 4: I know it would bug her, ruin the rest and

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Speaker 4: positive I'll actually do, But the other things I definitely

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Speaker 4: will come at one. It's your money, your food, do

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Speaker 4: what you want with it, but you should dang well

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Speaker 4: file a theft report too, but refrain from damaging her stuff,

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Speaker 4: as that could cause issues that aren't worth dealing with.

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Speaker 1: Her over Op replies, Yeah, you're probably right.

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Speaker 4: How do you feel about me taking a bite of

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Speaker 4: every single candy bar and treat she bought and then

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Speaker 4: putting them back half unwrapped and full of bite marks?

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Speaker 1: Lol? I still don't feel great about that. Just feels

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Speaker 1: like what are we accomplishing?

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Speaker 4: Like we know this person's behavior was bad, so are

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Speaker 4: we just gonna also have bad behavior in response, like

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Speaker 4: an I for an eye makes the whole world blind,

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Speaker 4: you know what I'm saying.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, Like it seems like you just want to get

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Speaker 2: like your eyes out of her, to just be like,

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Speaker 2: you stole my money and now I'm gonna do something

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Speaker 2: terrible to you. But like I don't know, getting even

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Speaker 2: with someone isn't always the right choice, and he usually isn't.

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Speaker 4: A reply says, also, do not put dish, soap or

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Speaker 1: You could get arrested for that. It's not worth it.

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Speaker 4: Comment too says just donate what you don't eat. Opie says,

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Speaker 4: the point is I want to piss her off. While

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Speaker 4: the humanitarian thing to do would be to donate these treats,

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Speaker 4: the petty part of me wants her to come home

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Speaker 4: see all the remaining treats inedible and freak out.

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Speaker 1: And there's an update.

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Speaker 4: Amanda already left this morning. I have decided not to

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Speaker 4: have decided not to destroy her sheets or put soap

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Speaker 4: on the pie. Many of you pointed out that can

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Speaker 4: don't want to hurt her.

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Speaker 1: What I am going to do is eat that pie

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Speaker 1: from the inside out.

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Speaker 4: I'll leave the ring of crust in the tin and

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Speaker 4: put it back in the fridge. Then I'll take all

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Speaker 4: I'm not going to call the cops for three reasons. One,

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Speaker 4: my city is currently experiencing a vandalism epidemics of those

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Speaker 4: resources would be better.

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Speaker 1: Used working on that.

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Speaker 4: Two, I am highly mistrustful of the police and would

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Speaker 4: only call them in an emergency. This is not an emergency.

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Speaker 4: And three, in the grander scheme of things, one hundred

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Speaker 4: dollars doesn't matter that much. It was birthday money for

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Speaker 4: don't want to post about this on social media, as

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Speaker 4: she is very good at playing victim and I don't

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Speaker 4: want it to turn into a case of me bullying

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Speaker 4: the fat lady. Thanks everyone for the comments.

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Speaker 2: God, I need to just get out of there and

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Speaker 2: be done with it, like stuff trying to like get

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Speaker 2: even like this is there's no no point and it's

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Speaker 2: just you're not like I don't That wouldn't make me

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Speaker 2: feel good.

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Speaker 1: I don't know. I mean, you're you're, you're.

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Speaker 4: This kind of stuff is like you dream poison and

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Speaker 4: then you expect it to hurt the other person.

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Speaker 1: You're just poisoning yourself.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, it's like she's already miserable if you haven't caught on,

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Speaker 4: so you don't really need to go out of your

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Speaker 4: way to make her even more miserable.

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Speaker 1: Because she is.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, exactly.

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Speaker 1: There's a third update.

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Speaker 4: I spent the entire weekend moving my stuff out of

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Speaker 4: our apartment and back into my parents' place, so I

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Speaker 4: am no longer Amanda's roommate. To answer some of the

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Speaker 4: most frequently asked questions, I did not destroy her bed sheets.

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Speaker 4: I spent the weekend slowly eating the pie in shifts.

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Speaker 4: I left the crusts in the refrigerator. I took the

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Speaker 4: rest of the candy and snacks when I left and

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Speaker 4: brought it into work today. Whatever is left over at

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Speaker 4: the end of the day, I'll donate. I did not

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Speaker 4: file a police report. Not only am I mistrustful of

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Speaker 4: problems in her life without a criminal record. Plus now

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Speaker 4: that I'm gone, she can't steal from me again. Our

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Speaker 4: witnessed this whole mess, has gotten a lock for her

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Speaker 4: bedroom door. Last night, on six pm, I got the

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Speaker 4: empty and the n espresso machine, which is mine was gone.

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Speaker 4: I said I was, and it was in large part

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00:20:12,480 --> 00:20:14,399
Speaker 4: because of her taking my money and using it to

442
00:20:14,440 --> 00:20:17,280
Speaker 4: buy candy. She panicked when I told her, I took

443
00:20:17,280 --> 00:20:21,600
Speaker 4: the rest of it with me, like a legit hyperventilating breakdown.

444
00:20:22,080 --> 00:20:26,000
Speaker 4: I wasn't expecting that. I was expecting anger. She cried

445
00:20:26,040 --> 00:20:27,960
Speaker 4: on the phone, saying she was looking forward to coming

446
00:20:27,960 --> 00:20:30,600
Speaker 4: home to eat certain things, and since the store she

447
00:20:30,640 --> 00:20:33,200
Speaker 4: has got them from has closed until Monday, her entire

448
00:20:33,320 --> 00:20:36,639
Speaker 4: day was ruined. She was legit crying into the phone

449
00:20:36,640 --> 00:20:40,160
Speaker 4: like she was dealing with someone's passing, not missing snacks.

450
00:20:40,800 --> 00:20:42,560
Speaker 4: I knew she had an issue with overeating, but I

451
00:20:42,600 --> 00:20:46,080
Speaker 4: was unaware she was this emotional about food. Yeah, because

452
00:20:46,119 --> 00:20:50,600
Speaker 4: it's like, you know, a very nuanced, intricate mental health

453
00:20:50,600 --> 00:20:54,600
Speaker 4: disorder that leads somebody to live that lifestyle and it

454
00:20:54,680 --> 00:20:56,679
Speaker 4: is not a normal response and it should make your

455
00:20:56,720 --> 00:21:00,320
Speaker 4: eyebrows raise, I guess. But but yeah, again, he didn't

456
00:21:00,320 --> 00:21:03,040
Speaker 4: really have to go super hard because she's already miserable.

457
00:21:03,160 --> 00:21:04,919
Speaker 1: Her snacks are missing, and it ruins her whole day.

458
00:21:04,960 --> 00:21:05,920
Speaker 1: It's someone who needs help.

459
00:21:06,160 --> 00:21:08,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's that's It's sad.

460
00:21:08,720 --> 00:21:10,119
Speaker 1: It is more than anything.

461
00:21:10,119 --> 00:21:10,320
Speaker 4: It is.

462
00:21:10,400 --> 00:21:12,120
Speaker 1: It is a little sad. I'm glad you're out.

463
00:21:12,359 --> 00:21:15,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's what you can control.

464
00:21:15,680 --> 00:21:16,520
Speaker 1: More than anything.

465
00:21:16,640 --> 00:21:19,080
Speaker 4: It sucks to live with a thief. Yeah, have you

466
00:21:19,080 --> 00:21:21,439
Speaker 4: ever lived with a thief? But maybe you did and

467
00:21:21,480 --> 00:21:22,640
Speaker 4: they were so good? You don't know.

468
00:21:22,920 --> 00:21:27,280
Speaker 3: I know my cousin is a thief. Well she's still

469
00:21:27,320 --> 00:21:29,520
Speaker 3: from my mom. But my mom called her out.

470
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Speaker 1: There you go, she did it again? Am I almost

471
00:21:32,320 --> 00:21:35,040
Speaker 1: like you gotta call out the thievery anyways? Ope, he says.

472
00:21:35,119 --> 00:21:37,600
Speaker 4: I kept calm and I told her that the candy

473
00:21:37,840 --> 00:21:41,359
Speaker 4: wasn't hers anyway, it was mine, and that she's lucky

474
00:21:41,400 --> 00:21:43,600
Speaker 4: that I just took it with me. I could have

475
00:21:43,600 --> 00:21:46,320
Speaker 4: filed the police report for her being a thief. I

476
00:21:46,400 --> 00:21:48,960
Speaker 4: told her my portion of August rent was given directly

477
00:21:49,000 --> 00:21:51,040
Speaker 4: to the landlord when I had him come in yesterday

478
00:21:51,119 --> 00:21:54,240
Speaker 4: morning to inspect my room, so if she messes things up,

479
00:21:54,280 --> 00:21:57,200
Speaker 4: he will know it wasn't me. She didn't care about

480
00:21:57,200 --> 00:21:59,159
Speaker 4: any of that. She didn't care that I'm gone, or

481
00:21:59,200 --> 00:22:01,920
Speaker 4: that I could have involved the police. She just kept

482
00:22:01,960 --> 00:22:04,240
Speaker 4: asking if I had left any of the snacks behind,

483
00:22:04,680 --> 00:22:07,560
Speaker 4: what about the Mary James, or did you leave even

484
00:22:07,560 --> 00:22:09,920
Speaker 4: a few of the mini mallow cups. When I told

485
00:22:09,960 --> 00:22:12,760
Speaker 4: her I took everything, she started to ball even harder.

486
00:22:13,359 --> 00:22:16,200
Speaker 1: At that point, I just hung up. I'm over it

487
00:22:16,280 --> 00:22:17,080
Speaker 1: and it's done.

488
00:22:17,280 --> 00:22:19,800
Speaker 4: I haven't heard from her since, but our other roommates

489
00:22:19,800 --> 00:22:21,639
Speaker 4: texted me later that night to tell me that she

490
00:22:21,720 --> 00:22:24,000
Speaker 4: cried again when she found the pie crusts.

491
00:22:23,720 --> 00:22:26,080
Speaker 1: In the fridge. And that is the end of that story.

492
00:22:27,240 --> 00:22:31,359
Speaker 2: My roommate is obsessed with cleanliness, and it's a nightmare

493
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Speaker 2: for me.

494
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Speaker 4: Why is that because you're a stinky, little pig pen person,

495
00:22:35,000 --> 00:22:35,920
Speaker 4: little pit person.

496
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Speaker 2: Over the past few months, I've been living on campus

497
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Speaker 2: in a four bedroom apartment. We are all girls and

498
00:22:42,600 --> 00:22:45,879
Speaker 2: all around nineteen years old. By the way, this comes

499
00:22:45,920 --> 00:22:49,680
Speaker 2: from Calligrapher novel for eighty six and if you want

500
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Speaker 2: to submit your own stories, go to the r slash

501
00:22:52,119 --> 00:22:56,160
Speaker 2: okay storytime subreddit. I am Savannah, I am Dakota, and

502
00:22:56,200 --> 00:22:59,359
Speaker 2: we are here to give some good advice goofy, but

503
00:22:59,640 --> 00:23:02,480
Speaker 2: we don't have all the answers or you would just

504
00:23:02,520 --> 00:23:04,399
Speaker 2: tell you what we would do in this situation, but

505
00:23:04,440 --> 00:23:06,120
Speaker 2: we would love to know what you would.

506
00:23:05,960 --> 00:23:08,119
Speaker 3: Do in this situation. Comment down below.

507
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Speaker 2: As OPI says, during this time, my roommate claimed that

508
00:23:12,320 --> 00:23:15,600
Speaker 2: I brought a mildew smell into our room. She even

509
00:23:15,640 --> 00:23:19,120
Speaker 2: asked if I shower. Apparently the smell wasn't there while

510
00:23:19,160 --> 00:23:21,439
Speaker 2: she stayed in our dorm for two weeks during summer.

511
00:23:21,920 --> 00:23:24,840
Speaker 3: This was very awkward. This happened on.

512
00:23:24,840 --> 00:23:27,679
Speaker 2: The first day of moving in, by the way, so

513
00:23:27,920 --> 00:23:31,120
Speaker 2: she did not make a good first impression. I even panicked,

514
00:23:31,240 --> 00:23:34,560
Speaker 2: thinking I had made her uncomfortable. I watched everything I

515
00:23:34,600 --> 00:23:37,040
Speaker 2: had and immediately took a shower, but she still claimed

516
00:23:37,080 --> 00:23:40,840
Speaker 2: the smell remained. I asked sweet mates if they smelled anything,

517
00:23:40,880 --> 00:23:43,840
Speaker 2: and they said they didn't. Because of this mildew smell.

518
00:23:43,960 --> 00:23:46,120
Speaker 2: She sprays our room with air freshener every.

519
00:23:46,000 --> 00:23:46,760
Speaker 3: Day and night.

520
00:23:47,040 --> 00:23:49,880
Speaker 2: I also had a multitude of problems with her, which

521
00:23:50,000 --> 00:23:52,280
Speaker 2: led me to contact the people in charge of housing

522
00:23:52,359 --> 00:23:56,720
Speaker 2: multiple times. The problems included her keeping her lights on constantly,

523
00:23:56,800 --> 00:23:59,680
Speaker 2: even at night. She has three lights, one desk lamp

524
00:23:59,720 --> 00:24:02,240
Speaker 2: which she's the brightest, another lamp near her bed, and

525
00:24:02,359 --> 00:24:06,280
Speaker 2: a decently sized neon sign hanging over her bed. She

526
00:24:06,400 --> 00:24:08,960
Speaker 2: usually keeps the lamp near her bed and the neon

527
00:24:09,040 --> 00:24:13,440
Speaker 2: sign on. She sometimes keeps them on all night, even

528
00:24:13,600 --> 00:24:15,760
Speaker 2: after I asked if she could turn them off. One day,

529
00:24:15,840 --> 00:24:17,919
Speaker 2: I was tired and her lights were too bright for me,

530
00:24:18,000 --> 00:24:19,920
Speaker 2: so I turned them off. The next day, she said

531
00:24:20,119 --> 00:24:22,719
Speaker 2: that if I touched her stuff again, she would report

532
00:24:22,800 --> 00:24:26,440
Speaker 2: me to housing. During Labor Day weekend, I got sick.

533
00:24:26,760 --> 00:24:29,160
Speaker 2: When I told my roommate, the first thing she said

534
00:24:29,440 --> 00:24:32,680
Speaker 2: wasn't I hope you feel better, but turn your face

535
00:24:32,720 --> 00:24:34,640
Speaker 2: to the wall so you don't cough in my direction.

536
00:24:35,200 --> 00:24:38,159
Speaker 2: She only said she hoped I got better. After saying

537
00:24:38,240 --> 00:24:41,800
Speaker 2: all that, that night, I kept coughing. She kept complaining

538
00:24:41,800 --> 00:24:43,359
Speaker 2: to the point where she told me to sleep on

539
00:24:43,400 --> 00:24:45,439
Speaker 2: the couch, which I did because I felt bad for

540
00:24:45,480 --> 00:24:46,520
Speaker 2: interrupting her sleep.

541
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Speaker 3: After I got better.

542
00:24:47,920 --> 00:24:50,600
Speaker 2: Apparently I stoted snoring in my sleep because my roommate

543
00:24:50,640 --> 00:24:52,800
Speaker 2: asked me to sleep on the couch again. I got

544
00:24:52,880 --> 00:24:55,440
Speaker 2: tired of her complaining, and also because I felt bad,

545
00:24:55,680 --> 00:24:57,720
Speaker 2: I slept on the couch for a few days. One

546
00:24:57,760 --> 00:25:00,399
Speaker 2: time I left my shoes on her rug, which she

547
00:25:00,480 --> 00:25:03,920
Speaker 2: said was disgusting. I apologize and put my shoes back

548
00:25:03,920 --> 00:25:07,280
Speaker 2: on my side. One day, I accidentally hung my loofa

549
00:25:07,440 --> 00:25:09,760
Speaker 2: onto her shower hooks, and I found it in the

550
00:25:09,840 --> 00:25:12,719
Speaker 2: trash the next day. All of this led me to

551
00:25:12,800 --> 00:25:16,160
Speaker 2: ask Urra to set up a mediation meeting. The thing

552
00:25:16,359 --> 00:25:19,320
Speaker 2: was that my roommate plays volleyball, so she is almost

553
00:25:19,359 --> 00:25:22,600
Speaker 2: never here sometimes. But when we finally caught her just

554
00:25:22,640 --> 00:25:24,600
Speaker 2: as she was about to leave, we did our first

555
00:25:24,760 --> 00:25:28,800
Speaker 2: mediation meeting. Apparently, she only threw my loof away because

556
00:25:28,840 --> 00:25:31,800
Speaker 2: she thought it was hers. All she said about my

557
00:25:31,920 --> 00:25:35,000
Speaker 2: loofo was oh, my bad. She also claimed that she

558
00:25:35,080 --> 00:25:38,440
Speaker 2: didn't know we had any issues because I never said anything.

559
00:25:38,920 --> 00:25:41,200
Speaker 2: She lied and said she never told me to sleep

560
00:25:41,200 --> 00:25:44,120
Speaker 2: on the couch. She said she would try to keep

561
00:25:44,160 --> 00:25:46,800
Speaker 2: her lights off at night, but that promise lasted only

562
00:25:46,800 --> 00:25:50,520
Speaker 2: about four days. Sometimes they were on sometimes they're off,

563
00:25:50,760 --> 00:25:53,359
Speaker 2: she said. The reason she said those words to me

564
00:25:53,440 --> 00:25:55,520
Speaker 2: when I was sick was that she plays volleyball and

565
00:25:55,560 --> 00:25:58,040
Speaker 2: didn't want to get her team sick. I get that,

566
00:25:58,240 --> 00:26:01,080
Speaker 2: but it was still pretty rude. After this, she started

567
00:26:01,119 --> 00:26:03,200
Speaker 2: locking the door at night. It was kind of annoying

568
00:26:03,240 --> 00:26:05,479
Speaker 2: having to get my key all the time to unlock it,

569
00:26:05,560 --> 00:26:09,400
Speaker 2: but I wasn't too mad. Literally a week after the mediation,

570
00:26:09,880 --> 00:26:12,320
Speaker 2: my roommate went on a volleyball trip. One night, I

571
00:26:12,359 --> 00:26:14,679
Speaker 2: started feeling a sudden knee pain, which led me to

572
00:26:14,720 --> 00:26:17,200
Speaker 2: sit on her automan. I sat there for only a

573
00:26:17,280 --> 00:26:19,399
Speaker 2: few seconds, waiting for the pain to fade, when she

574
00:26:19,480 --> 00:26:23,080
Speaker 2: suddenly came into the room. She immediately started yelling at me,

575
00:26:23,440 --> 00:26:26,760
Speaker 2: asking why I couldn't sit anywhere else. I couldn't sit

576
00:26:26,800 --> 00:26:28,639
Speaker 2: on my bed because it was too tall for me

577
00:26:28,680 --> 00:26:30,520
Speaker 2: and I would usually have to jump or hook my

578
00:26:30,640 --> 00:26:32,879
Speaker 2: leg onto it, which was hard to do even if

579
00:26:32,920 --> 00:26:37,080
Speaker 2: my knees weren't an excruciating pain. I apologized multiple times

580
00:26:37,080 --> 00:26:39,359
Speaker 2: and explained my side, but she wasn't having it.

581
00:26:39,440 --> 00:26:39,640
Speaker 1: Dude.

582
00:26:39,640 --> 00:26:42,919
Speaker 4: I wouldn't even apologize. I'd be like, it's a freaking ottoman, Dude,

583
00:26:43,040 --> 00:26:43,840
Speaker 4: I'm sitting on it.

584
00:26:44,119 --> 00:26:48,520
Speaker 1: Yeah my knees. Yeah, get over yourself. This is it's

585
00:26:48,560 --> 00:26:52,840
Speaker 1: not made out of gilded like, come on, come on.

586
00:26:53,200 --> 00:26:55,440
Speaker 2: I decided to leave for a bit until she calmed down.

587
00:26:55,760 --> 00:26:58,440
Speaker 2: My sweet mates heard the commotion and recorded my roommate yelling.

588
00:26:58,560 --> 00:27:01,320
Speaker 2: On the recording, she said that what I did was

589
00:27:01,440 --> 00:27:05,399
Speaker 2: cross contamination. She even threatened to call campus police and

590
00:27:05,400 --> 00:27:08,119
Speaker 2: housing on me. We alerted the RAS and they found

591
00:27:08,119 --> 00:27:10,919
Speaker 2: her lit candle, which she wasn't supposed to have and

592
00:27:11,040 --> 00:27:15,040
Speaker 2: confiscated it. After this incident, I started sleeping in my

593
00:27:15,040 --> 00:27:18,359
Speaker 2: sweet mate's room underneath their blanket forts. During this time,

594
00:27:18,480 --> 00:27:21,680
Speaker 2: OURRA was doing check ins and confiscated another lit candle

595
00:27:21,720 --> 00:27:24,600
Speaker 2: from the room. Pretty sure she thinks I had something

596
00:27:24,600 --> 00:27:27,040
Speaker 2: to do with it, because she kept asking if everyone's

597
00:27:27,080 --> 00:27:30,560
Speaker 2: dorms were being checked. This happened from August to September.

598
00:27:30,600 --> 00:27:33,720
Speaker 2: I started sleeping in their room for most of October

599
00:27:33,880 --> 00:27:36,000
Speaker 2: because I didn't feel comfortable sleeping in the same room

600
00:27:36,040 --> 00:27:38,800
Speaker 2: as her. When I did see her outside their room,

601
00:27:38,920 --> 00:27:40,960
Speaker 2: she never really talked to me or apologized for the

602
00:27:40,960 --> 00:27:43,680
Speaker 2: freak out, so I avoided her unless I needed something

603
00:27:43,720 --> 00:27:47,119
Speaker 2: from my room. This only changed a week ago. I

604
00:27:47,160 --> 00:27:49,680
Speaker 2: started sleeping in my room again on Monday to testify

605
00:27:49,720 --> 00:27:53,439
Speaker 2: felt comfortable while she was awake. She kept both of

606
00:27:53,440 --> 00:27:56,040
Speaker 2: her lights on all night. Around eleven thirty pm, she

607
00:27:56,119 --> 00:27:58,680
Speaker 2: started watching YouTube at a loud volume so I could

608
00:27:58,760 --> 00:28:01,639
Speaker 2: hear it. I asked if she could use headphones or earbuds.

609
00:28:01,680 --> 00:28:03,560
Speaker 2: She said her air pods were in her bag, but

610
00:28:03,600 --> 00:28:06,200
Speaker 2: instead of getting them, she just turned the volume down.

611
00:28:07,119 --> 00:28:11,200
Speaker 2: She was also constantly spraining lysol. I have severe asthma,

612
00:28:11,280 --> 00:28:13,520
Speaker 2: so I was coughing more than usual because of this.

613
00:28:14,080 --> 00:28:16,240
Speaker 2: I literally tasted it in the air, and she was

614
00:28:16,320 --> 00:28:19,959
Speaker 2: only spraying her side. I went into the bathroom for

615
00:28:20,000 --> 00:28:22,720
Speaker 2: about ten minutes to recover. When I returned, she had

616
00:28:22,720 --> 00:28:25,639
Speaker 2: her air pods in. We finally got a meeting with

617
00:28:25,680 --> 00:28:28,280
Speaker 2: the head of housing on Tuesday, where my roommate explained

618
00:28:28,280 --> 00:28:31,159
Speaker 2: her side. She admitted that when I sat on her

619
00:28:31,200 --> 00:28:33,919
Speaker 2: ottoman she overreacted, but said it was due to MY

620
00:28:34,520 --> 00:28:38,320
Speaker 2: repeated behavior of touching her things. During September, our entire

621
00:28:38,320 --> 00:28:42,280
Speaker 2: apartment area experienced the power outage, turning off everything, including

622
00:28:42,400 --> 00:28:46,160
Speaker 2: her air purifier. When she returned from volleyball, she asked

623
00:28:46,160 --> 00:28:48,320
Speaker 2: about the purifier and I explained it must have been

624
00:28:48,360 --> 00:28:51,040
Speaker 2: off due to the blackout. At the meeting, she revealed

625
00:28:51,080 --> 00:28:53,520
Speaker 2: she didn't believe me back then, even though she could have.

626
00:28:53,600 --> 00:28:54,640
Speaker 3: Asked our sweet mates.

627
00:28:54,760 --> 00:28:57,400
Speaker 2: She also claims that after her freak out, she realized

628
00:28:57,440 --> 00:29:01,360
Speaker 2: she never saw me sleep in the room, contacted our

629
00:29:01,600 --> 00:29:04,959
Speaker 2: ra and had a housing about it, but neither mentioned

630
00:29:04,960 --> 00:29:07,680
Speaker 2: that to me. She claims she also has asthma, which

631
00:29:07,720 --> 00:29:10,280
Speaker 2: I don't get because she used candles and sprayed large

632
00:29:10,320 --> 00:29:14,200
Speaker 2: amounts of air freshener daily. But people can have different severities.

633
00:29:14,760 --> 00:29:17,040
Speaker 2: She said she didn't know there was a problem because

634
00:29:17,040 --> 00:29:19,440
Speaker 2: I didn't say anything. I admit I didn't tell her

635
00:29:19,480 --> 00:29:22,640
Speaker 2: about some issues, mainly because she yelled instead of listening.

636
00:29:22,840 --> 00:29:23,440
Speaker 1: Yeah, she has.

637
00:29:23,560 --> 00:29:26,440
Speaker 4: She's like, I'll understand why she didn't tell me any

638
00:29:26,480 --> 00:29:28,960
Speaker 4: of this stuff. It's like, it's not like every single

639
00:29:28,960 --> 00:29:29,800
Speaker 4: time we interact.

640
00:29:29,920 --> 00:29:31,280
Speaker 1: I just scream at.

641
00:29:31,120 --> 00:29:33,720
Speaker 2: Her because I sat on your automate and you ate

642
00:29:33,840 --> 00:29:34,240
Speaker 2: me out.

643
00:29:34,400 --> 00:29:35,720
Speaker 3: That was probably the wrong.

644
00:29:35,680 --> 00:29:38,000
Speaker 1: That might have been the wrong turn of phrase there.

645
00:29:37,960 --> 00:29:40,480
Speaker 2: Because I sat on your automate and you bit off

646
00:29:40,520 --> 00:29:40,960
Speaker 2: my head.

647
00:29:41,120 --> 00:29:41,600
Speaker 1: There we go.

648
00:29:41,880 --> 00:29:44,560
Speaker 2: She had things to say too, so she could have

649
00:29:44,720 --> 00:29:47,640
Speaker 2: easily addressed them. She said the lights were always on

650
00:29:47,760 --> 00:29:50,280
Speaker 2: because she was used to that. With her previous roommate,

651
00:29:50,400 --> 00:29:52,400
Speaker 2: she locked the door at night because that's what she

652
00:29:52,520 --> 00:29:53,040
Speaker 2: was used to.

653
00:29:53,560 --> 00:29:54,400
Speaker 3: What a we got.

654
00:29:55,000 --> 00:29:57,280
Speaker 4: Yeah, I think you can just work it out to

655
00:29:57,320 --> 00:29:59,040
Speaker 4: where you don't have.

656
00:29:59,040 --> 00:30:01,120
Speaker 1: To live with this person anymore.

657
00:30:01,280 --> 00:30:03,680
Speaker 4: I think that's the whole point of like RAS and

658
00:30:03,800 --> 00:30:06,760
Speaker 4: like the housing authority for campuses and stuff like.

659
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Speaker 1: I think that's where you should take this. I wouldn't

660
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Speaker 1: want to live with this person sounds insufferable.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it sounds like she needs to live alone because

662
00:30:15,960 --> 00:30:18,520
Speaker 2: she doesn't want any roommates. She doesn't want to have

663
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Speaker 2: to deal with anyone else, so she should just live alone.

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Speaker 2: That seems like the obvious thing to do here.

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Speaker 3: Anyways.

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Speaker 2: She basically said she is a germophobe and reacts harshly

667
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Speaker 2: when anyone she isn't close with touches her things.

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Speaker 1: Because the people that you are close to don't have germs.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I think.

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Speaker 1: What you're trans let me retranslate that.

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Speaker 4: I I don't talk to people I respect this way.

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Speaker 4: I only talk to people I don't respect the way

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Speaker 4: I've been.

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Speaker 1: Talking to you.

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Speaker 3: There you go.

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Speaker 2: She sprays lifesaw because she is sensitive to smells and

677
00:30:50,960 --> 00:30:54,360
Speaker 2: still smelled the mildew the head of housing suggested a

678
00:30:54,440 --> 00:30:57,320
Speaker 2: maintenance request and granted me permission to turn off her

679
00:30:57,360 --> 00:31:00,880
Speaker 2: lights if she is out late. With her permission, she

680
00:31:01,040 --> 00:31:04,200
Speaker 2: said she wouldn't stop using lightsow but would spread less.

681
00:31:04,360 --> 00:31:08,720
Speaker 2: Alternatives suggested include wax melts, which are allowed. The head

682
00:31:08,720 --> 00:31:10,920
Speaker 2: of housing asked if I felt comfortable sleeping in the

683
00:31:11,000 --> 00:31:13,280
Speaker 2: room again, and I said maybe I'll try, but I

684
00:31:13,320 --> 00:31:16,600
Speaker 2: honestly don't feel comfortable after everything. My sweet mates feel

685
00:31:16,640 --> 00:31:19,600
Speaker 2: the atmosphere is less tense, but they think some of

686
00:31:19,600 --> 00:31:21,560
Speaker 2: her explanations were total b s.

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Speaker 3: I still don't want.

688
00:31:22,800 --> 00:31:25,080
Speaker 2: To sleep in a room with someone who clearly doesn't

689
00:31:25,160 --> 00:31:27,680
Speaker 2: like me. On rare occasions when I see her on campus,

690
00:31:27,720 --> 00:31:31,520
Speaker 2: she avoids me. This all happened long before the first mediation.

691
00:31:32,120 --> 00:31:34,120
Speaker 2: I don't want to leave because my mom knows where

692
00:31:34,200 --> 00:31:37,959
Speaker 2: my dorm is. She even popped in unannounced once. I

693
00:31:38,040 --> 00:31:40,760
Speaker 2: haven't told her any of this. If she finds out,

694
00:31:40,840 --> 00:31:43,640
Speaker 2: she will make the situation about her and make it worse.

695
00:31:44,800 --> 00:31:47,600
Speaker 2: There are some comments, would you be able to move

696
00:31:47,640 --> 00:31:49,400
Speaker 2: out or get a new space to stay in? This

697
00:31:49,440 --> 00:31:52,680
Speaker 2: seems detrimental to both your mental and physical well being.

698
00:31:53,360 --> 00:31:56,320
Speaker 2: I wouldn't have survived this or uh oh.

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00:31:56,160 --> 00:31:56,960
Speaker 3: Be response.

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Speaker 2: I might be able to move, but the moving pro

701
00:32:00,080 --> 00:32:02,920
Speaker 2: says to a different dorm would take a while, especially

702
00:32:03,000 --> 00:32:06,040
Speaker 2: when every ra I've talked to said the dorms were

703
00:32:06,120 --> 00:32:09,160
Speaker 2: jam packed and even if I did move, it would

704
00:32:09,160 --> 00:32:11,520
Speaker 2: be kind of redundant because we only have a few

705
00:32:11,520 --> 00:32:14,520
Speaker 2: weeks left of college this semester. After the first mediation,

706
00:32:14,640 --> 00:32:16,720
Speaker 2: my roommate was given the option to leave because the

707
00:32:16,760 --> 00:32:19,760
Speaker 2: mediation didn't work. She was approved to move to a

708
00:32:19,760 --> 00:32:22,320
Speaker 2: different apartment. They even gave her the key to it,

709
00:32:22,600 --> 00:32:24,600
Speaker 2: but for some reason, she didn't want to move, even

710
00:32:24,640 --> 00:32:27,000
Speaker 2: though she clearly has issues with us not liking her.

711
00:32:27,080 --> 00:32:30,840
Speaker 4: Yeah, she didn't want to move because then she loses. Yeah, honestly,

712
00:32:31,160 --> 00:32:32,200
Speaker 4: she might be a little competitive.

713
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Speaker 1: She plays vollyball.

714
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Speaker 2: I just I don't know if the like, why would

715
00:32:35,640 --> 00:32:37,040
Speaker 2: you want to stay in a room where you just

716
00:32:37,320 --> 00:32:39,640
Speaker 2: complain and don't have a good time, and you know,

717
00:32:39,800 --> 00:32:42,600
Speaker 2: don't like the people we live with If they're offering

718
00:32:42,640 --> 00:32:44,600
Speaker 2: you a solution, it's like, nah, I.

719
00:32:44,680 --> 00:32:45,880
Speaker 3: Rather just complain.

720
00:32:46,080 --> 00:32:47,280
Speaker 1: That would be quite lame.

721
00:32:47,600 --> 00:32:51,240
Speaker 2: Because she never moved out, the moving process was automatically canceled.

722
00:32:51,360 --> 00:32:53,400
Speaker 2: For the process to be approved again, we would have

723
00:32:53,440 --> 00:32:56,960
Speaker 2: to go through another mediation to get approval. Anyways, my

724
00:32:57,080 --> 00:32:59,600
Speaker 2: roommates said there's a fifty to fifty chance she would

725
00:32:59,600 --> 00:33:01,760
Speaker 2: be moving now next semester to share a dorm with

726
00:33:01,800 --> 00:33:05,239
Speaker 2: her volleyball team. So I hope that actually happens. And

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00:33:05,280 --> 00:33:05,920
Speaker 2: that's the end.

728
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Speaker 5: Hey, it's Carly, your favorite Axelottel host.

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Speaker 3: Here.

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Speaker 5: We're going to get back to the stories, but here's

731
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Speaker 5: three minutes of ads from our sponsors. My assistant lied

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Speaker 5: about me, so I refuse to let her have her vacation.

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Speaker 3: What you can't take that away? The title sounds rough,

734
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Speaker 3: but hear me out on this.

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Speaker 5: I thirty one female, have been managing a small Starbucks

736
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Speaker 5: kiosk in my store for a little over a year now,

737
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Speaker 5: and in that time I have faced nothing but struggles,

738
00:33:35,760 --> 00:33:37,040
Speaker 5: mainly with my assistant.

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Speaker 3: We'll call her Betty.

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Speaker 5: By the way, this comes from Honest fifty four one

741
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Speaker 5: hundred and if you want us to make your own stories,

742
00:33:43,840 --> 00:33:46,440
Speaker 5: go to the r slash okay storytime subreddit. I'm Carly

743
00:33:46,760 --> 00:33:49,360
Speaker 5: and I'm Savannah, and we're here to give you good advice.

744
00:33:49,400 --> 00:33:49,880
Speaker 3: Goofiy.

745
00:33:50,080 --> 00:33:52,480
Speaker 5: But we don't have all the answers. We only know

746
00:33:52,520 --> 00:33:53,720
Speaker 5: what we would do, so let us know what you

747
00:33:53,760 --> 00:33:56,480
Speaker 5: would do in the comments, and Opie says when Betty

748
00:33:56,920 --> 00:33:59,400
Speaker 5: was first hired, she made a deal with the old

749
00:33:59,440 --> 00:34:03,840
Speaker 5: manager that she absolutely needed Thursdays and Fridays off, but

750
00:34:04,040 --> 00:34:06,760
Speaker 5: never gave a legitimate reason for needing those days in

751
00:34:06,800 --> 00:34:09,640
Speaker 5: her interview. At the time, I was the bookkeeper, so

752
00:34:09,719 --> 00:34:12,600
Speaker 5: I heard her entire interview. Since the bookkeeping office and

753
00:34:12,760 --> 00:34:16,000
Speaker 5: store office are side by side, our old manager granted

754
00:34:16,040 --> 00:34:18,600
Speaker 5: that to her, but it never became a written agreement.

755
00:34:18,800 --> 00:34:21,600
Speaker 5: That was over two years ago. Betty calls out sick

756
00:34:21,640 --> 00:34:24,600
Speaker 5: twice a month after her weekend, claiming that she has

757
00:34:24,640 --> 00:34:27,799
Speaker 5: the flu or food poisoning, but comes back the next

758
00:34:27,840 --> 00:34:31,160
Speaker 5: day as if nothing happened, and she takes four ten

759
00:34:31,239 --> 00:34:34,319
Speaker 5: day vacations a year. Is that stressful on me? Yes,

760
00:34:34,760 --> 00:34:37,359
Speaker 5: but I've always managed to get through it. However, when

761
00:34:37,400 --> 00:34:39,440
Speaker 5: I am sick, which is rare because I have to

762
00:34:39,480 --> 00:34:42,400
Speaker 5: feel like I'm passing away to call out, she refuses

763
00:34:42,440 --> 00:34:44,719
Speaker 5: to cover me or anyone else, even though I have

764
00:34:44,800 --> 00:34:47,320
Speaker 5: covered for her countless times by working doubles.

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Speaker 3: When she calls.

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00:34:48,080 --> 00:34:51,040
Speaker 5: Out, Betty is always ready to leave the minute her

767
00:34:51,080 --> 00:34:53,960
Speaker 5: shift ends, whether someone is here or not for coverage

768
00:34:54,040 --> 00:34:56,319
Speaker 5: leaving me high and dry. I normally do not care

769
00:34:56,360 --> 00:34:59,839
Speaker 5: about someone taking vacation, since this is part of our compensation.

770
00:35:00,200 --> 00:35:02,680
Speaker 5: I put my vacations in as soon as my vacation

771
00:35:02,760 --> 00:35:04,799
Speaker 5: for news, so there's no need to fight over it.

772
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Speaker 5: One of my vacations includes my one year anniversary with

773
00:35:07,760 --> 00:35:10,760
Speaker 5: my boyfriend. Right after New Year's two days ago, Betty

774
00:35:10,760 --> 00:35:12,480
Speaker 5: came up to me and said that she talked to

775
00:35:12,520 --> 00:35:16,200
Speaker 5: our ASM about getting January second through the tenth off

776
00:35:16,200 --> 00:35:20,120
Speaker 5: for a wedding. She has been discussing endlessly. I get

777
00:35:20,160 --> 00:35:23,080
Speaker 5: her excitement, but I told her, unfortunately that's not going

778
00:35:23,120 --> 00:35:25,680
Speaker 5: to work because I have January second to the sixth off.

779
00:35:25,760 --> 00:35:28,840
Speaker 5: January second is my one year anniversary with my boyfriend,

780
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Speaker 5: and I won't be in this part of the state.

781
00:35:30,680 --> 00:35:32,800
Speaker 5: One of us has to be here. Betty looked shocked

782
00:35:32,840 --> 00:35:34,840
Speaker 5: and said, well, can you change the time you go

783
00:35:34,880 --> 00:35:37,080
Speaker 5: out of town? We already put the deposit in on

784
00:35:37,120 --> 00:35:39,200
Speaker 5: the venue. I told her this is why I have

785
00:35:39,280 --> 00:35:42,160
Speaker 5: the planner for us to put our vacations in so

786
00:35:42,200 --> 00:35:44,600
Speaker 5: we know when either of us is gone and avoid

787
00:35:44,719 --> 00:35:48,000
Speaker 5: overlapping issues. I've had this time off approved since the

788
00:35:48,239 --> 00:35:51,160
Speaker 5: end of July, and I'm not willing to change it

789
00:35:51,320 --> 00:35:53,520
Speaker 5: or give up my planned vacation time that works for

790
00:35:53,600 --> 00:35:56,040
Speaker 5: my boyfriend and me before he begins his next.

791
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Speaker 3: Quarter of school.

792
00:35:56,840 --> 00:35:59,440
Speaker 5: I could tell Betty was furious, and all I got

793
00:35:59,520 --> 00:36:02,719
Speaker 5: was was about that. Today Betty went up to management

794
00:36:02,760 --> 00:36:05,920
Speaker 5: and lied, saying that I agreed to change my vacation

795
00:36:06,040 --> 00:36:09,400
Speaker 5: in January so she could get married. She could get married.

796
00:36:09,440 --> 00:36:10,960
Speaker 5: I thought it was her friend's wedding.

797
00:36:11,360 --> 00:36:11,560
Speaker 2: Yeah.

798
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Speaker 3: Wait, I'm very confused. I'm not gonna lie.

799
00:36:14,800 --> 00:36:17,400
Speaker 5: At the beginning of this, I was very much like,

800
00:36:18,040 --> 00:36:20,319
Speaker 5: and she sounds like she just is working at a

801
00:36:20,400 --> 00:36:22,160
Speaker 5: job that she doesn't really like, and she does her

802
00:36:22,239 --> 00:36:24,799
Speaker 5: bare minimum. And you can't really be mad at someone

803
00:36:24,840 --> 00:36:27,480
Speaker 5: for doing the bare minimum on something like as long

804
00:36:27,520 --> 00:36:29,440
Speaker 5: as was she not being the most considerate.

805
00:36:29,960 --> 00:36:32,520
Speaker 2: Yes, But like I thought the same thing. I was like,

806
00:36:32,680 --> 00:36:35,600
Speaker 2: it's just someone who like just works because they have to.

807
00:36:35,920 --> 00:36:38,200
Speaker 5: And as long as she's doing her job when she's

808
00:36:38,239 --> 00:36:41,360
Speaker 5: there and like supposed to be there. Sure now this

809
00:36:41,520 --> 00:36:45,160
Speaker 5: is like, girl, come on, Betty, what are we doing? Yeah?

810
00:36:45,160 --> 00:36:49,000
Speaker 3: And also the fact that like she lies, it was like, oh,

811
00:36:49,040 --> 00:36:50,400
Speaker 3: she said that she would change.

812
00:36:50,200 --> 00:36:52,759
Speaker 5: It for me, like for my wedding when it was

813
00:36:52,800 --> 00:36:54,319
Speaker 5: like a friend's wedding. Yore.

814
00:36:55,080 --> 00:36:58,080
Speaker 3: I'm confused. I am very confused on whose wedding it is.

815
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Speaker 5: Management came up to me on the sale floor in

816
00:37:00,600 --> 00:37:02,440
Speaker 5: front of her and said it was generous of me

817
00:37:02,520 --> 00:37:04,600
Speaker 5: to change my vacation for her life plans.

818
00:37:04,840 --> 00:37:05,960
Speaker 3: I was furious.

819
00:37:06,520 --> 00:37:09,360
Speaker 5: I turned to Betty and said, what on God's green

820
00:37:09,440 --> 00:37:11,480
Speaker 5: earth made you think it was a good idea to

821
00:37:11,640 --> 00:37:14,399
Speaker 5: lie to management. I have never stopped you from taking

822
00:37:14,400 --> 00:37:17,080
Speaker 5: a vacation in the past, nor did anyone else here.

823
00:37:17,160 --> 00:37:19,440
Speaker 5: But I told you I am unwilling to change my

824
00:37:19,600 --> 00:37:22,920
Speaker 5: anniversary trip to another weekend so you can get married.

825
00:37:23,200 --> 00:37:25,000
Speaker 5: I'm sorry you'll be losing money, but you.

826
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Speaker 3: Have to pick a different day.

827
00:37:26,560 --> 00:37:28,600
Speaker 5: This is where I told the management and told them

828
00:37:28,640 --> 00:37:30,960
Speaker 5: if you still approve this, not only will I go

829
00:37:31,040 --> 00:37:33,640
Speaker 5: to corporate and the union to complain, but you'll be

830
00:37:33,680 --> 00:37:36,440
Speaker 5: looking for a new manager for this department. I will

831
00:37:36,480 --> 00:37:39,080
Speaker 5: not be treated this way for one person to get

832
00:37:39,120 --> 00:37:42,680
Speaker 5: whatever she wants. Betty was infuriated with my response to

833
00:37:42,680 --> 00:37:45,040
Speaker 5: the point where I saw her starting to cry, saying

834
00:37:45,080 --> 00:37:47,560
Speaker 5: she needed a minute. A slight part of me feels

835
00:37:47,560 --> 00:37:50,600
Speaker 5: bad for blowing up, but in this situation, she only

836
00:37:50,600 --> 00:37:54,239
Speaker 5: did it to herself. Am I the a hole? No? Yeah,

837
00:37:54,360 --> 00:37:57,239
Speaker 5: Betty needed to put her time in as long as

838
00:37:57,640 --> 00:38:01,000
Speaker 5: this planner thing that you were mentioning was the legit

839
00:38:01,080 --> 00:38:03,239
Speaker 5: way to get because she was like, I went out

840
00:38:03,280 --> 00:38:05,040
Speaker 5: and bought a planner as long as that's like the

841
00:38:05,200 --> 00:38:07,640
Speaker 5: legit approved way for putting in time off, and she

842
00:38:07,680 --> 00:38:09,839
Speaker 5: had access to that, and she had the time off,

843
00:38:10,400 --> 00:38:12,799
Speaker 5: she should have put in for it.

844
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Speaker 2: It's also not right of Betty to, you know, come

845
00:38:16,719 --> 00:38:18,480
Speaker 2: in and lie and be like YoY.

846
00:38:18,800 --> 00:38:21,279
Speaker 5: They said that that I could change it and take

847
00:38:21,320 --> 00:38:24,120
Speaker 5: their days like, I'm glad they checked with you so

848
00:38:24,160 --> 00:38:27,880
Speaker 5: that that didn't happen to you, like your op's vacation

849
00:38:27,960 --> 00:38:28,600
Speaker 5: get taken away.

850
00:38:28,719 --> 00:38:30,839
Speaker 3: Yeah, because that would have been in fury. It would

851
00:38:30,840 --> 00:38:32,520
Speaker 3: have been like excuse me.

852
00:38:32,960 --> 00:38:35,040
Speaker 5: I'm just more so like we really have no one

853
00:38:35,080 --> 00:38:38,000
Speaker 5: else that can cover just two people taking time off. Yeah,

854
00:38:38,080 --> 00:38:40,040
Speaker 5: at like all my friends that have ever worked at

855
00:38:40,040 --> 00:38:42,000
Speaker 5: Starbucks have so many backup people.

856
00:38:42,200 --> 00:38:44,480
Speaker 3: Maybe it's just just tiny. They said, it is like

857
00:38:44,520 --> 00:38:45,160
Speaker 3: a kiosk.

858
00:38:45,400 --> 00:38:49,320
Speaker 5: But like relevant comments, Commuchawan not the ale. She doesn't

859
00:38:49,320 --> 00:38:51,839
Speaker 5: get to lie to management to get her way. You

860
00:38:51,880 --> 00:38:55,279
Speaker 5: claimed the days first. Be aware she's likely going to

861
00:38:55,320 --> 00:38:58,239
Speaker 5: try to sabotage you and your manager need to plan

862
00:38:58,440 --> 00:39:01,040
Speaker 5: to go if she quits ripe before or just doesn't

863
00:39:01,040 --> 00:39:03,759
Speaker 5: show up, And if that happens, it is still not

864
00:39:03,880 --> 00:39:06,399
Speaker 5: on you to stay back and cover the shift. Your

865
00:39:06,440 --> 00:39:09,319
Speaker 5: time is still approved. If she quits beforehand, you still

866
00:39:09,360 --> 00:39:12,640
Speaker 5: get your time off. That like, that's on the company

867
00:39:12,680 --> 00:39:15,560
Speaker 5: at that point. Yeah, that would be fed up if

868
00:39:15,560 --> 00:39:17,640
Speaker 5: the company tried to do that to you. If you're

869
00:39:17,680 --> 00:39:20,440
Speaker 5: caught unaware, it's one hundred percent on you. Guys, what

870
00:39:20,560 --> 00:39:23,000
Speaker 5: country are you in that she gets this much pto

871
00:39:23,360 --> 00:39:26,600
Speaker 5: four ten day vacations. I have zero problem with her

872
00:39:26,640 --> 00:39:29,360
Speaker 5: getting Thursdays and Fridays off like it or not. That

873
00:39:29,520 --> 00:39:32,120
Speaker 5: was agreed to when she was hired. I also have

874
00:39:32,160 --> 00:39:34,120
Speaker 5: no problem with her not picking up extra shifts that

875
00:39:34,239 --> 00:39:36,960
Speaker 5: is not required. Doesn't have to be a team player.

876
00:39:37,120 --> 00:39:40,080
Speaker 5: This is not a family, it's a job. Calling in

877
00:39:40,200 --> 00:39:43,000
Speaker 5: sick on a predictable basis is a problem and should

878
00:39:43,000 --> 00:39:46,760
Speaker 5: be heavily documented. Explain the issues to your direct manager

879
00:39:46,800 --> 00:39:49,560
Speaker 5: and to hr ask them how you can handle it,

880
00:39:49,600 --> 00:39:53,120
Speaker 5: because it's not alright. Track all of her calls outs

881
00:39:53,120 --> 00:39:56,480
Speaker 5: with details about when relative to the shift she called out,

882
00:39:56,719 --> 00:39:59,359
Speaker 5: who was available to cover, what her excuse was, when

883
00:39:59,360 --> 00:40:01,799
Speaker 5: it happened relative to her other days off, if it

884
00:40:01,840 --> 00:40:04,920
Speaker 5: was on a holiday or especially busy period. If you

885
00:40:04,960 --> 00:40:07,400
Speaker 5: have access to her social media, see if she's posting

886
00:40:07,440 --> 00:40:10,440
Speaker 5: picks on those days or picks of partying the night before,

887
00:40:10,800 --> 00:40:14,160
Speaker 5: build a detailed file. Opie says, I live in the US,

888
00:40:14,160 --> 00:40:16,440
Speaker 5: and how it works my company is the first ten

889
00:40:16,520 --> 00:40:20,080
Speaker 5: years of the company you only get ninety hours of PTO.

890
00:40:20,480 --> 00:40:23,040
Speaker 5: Between ten and twelve years you get one hundred hours.

891
00:40:23,320 --> 00:40:25,880
Speaker 5: Twelve to fourteen years you get one hundred and sixty

892
00:40:26,280 --> 00:40:29,799
Speaker 5: fifteen and above you get two hundred Allotted. PTO is

893
00:40:29,840 --> 00:40:32,239
Speaker 5: based off how long you've worked for the company. I

894
00:40:32,360 --> 00:40:35,000
Speaker 5: just hit twelve years in July, so I'm at the

895
00:40:35,000 --> 00:40:37,440
Speaker 5: one hundred and sixty hour mark. Betty has been with

896
00:40:37,480 --> 00:40:40,200
Speaker 5: the company for three years, so she only gets ninety

897
00:40:40,239 --> 00:40:43,200
Speaker 5: hours PTO and the rest is unpaid time off, which

898
00:40:43,200 --> 00:40:46,319
Speaker 5: employees don't get reprimanded for as it's a requested day off.

899
00:40:46,400 --> 00:40:48,960
Speaker 5: I do have a year's record of her callouts, but

900
00:40:49,160 --> 00:40:52,840
Speaker 5: not just her, everybody, including myself. I didn't want anyone

901
00:40:52,880 --> 00:40:55,520
Speaker 5: to feel targeted, and I make sure that everyone knows

902
00:40:55,560 --> 00:40:57,880
Speaker 5: I keep track of this stuff, including me. I have

903
00:40:58,040 --> 00:41:01,239
Speaker 5: presented her attendance issues not just to upper management, but

904
00:41:01,320 --> 00:41:04,200
Speaker 5: to both my dms on the company side and Starbucks,

905
00:41:04,200 --> 00:41:06,520
Speaker 5: since I deal with both. They've spoken to my manager

906
00:41:06,560 --> 00:41:08,839
Speaker 5: and nothing has happened. At this point, it's on him.

907
00:41:09,200 --> 00:41:11,680
Speaker 5: I do also have the morning crew alert me if

908
00:41:11,719 --> 00:41:13,719
Speaker 5: she called out and I come in sooner, as the

909
00:41:13,760 --> 00:41:16,520
Speaker 5: department is my responsibility to keep it up and running.

910
00:41:16,800 --> 00:41:19,359
Speaker 5: Another thing I forgot to add in agreements that are

911
00:41:19,400 --> 00:41:22,480
Speaker 5: not written with previous management are null and void when

912
00:41:22,520 --> 00:41:25,560
Speaker 5: new management steps in in my company. But Betty goes

913
00:41:25,760 --> 00:41:28,120
Speaker 5: to the union each time something doesn't go her way,

914
00:41:28,400 --> 00:41:31,960
Speaker 5: forcing management to roll on their backs. OPI, responding to

915
00:41:32,000 --> 00:41:34,200
Speaker 5: a downloaded comment about when she got hired at the

916
00:41:34,200 --> 00:41:37,040
Speaker 5: company at such a young age, Opie says, I'm thirty one.

917
00:41:37,239 --> 00:41:40,200
Speaker 5: I got hired right before I turn nineteen. Technical and

918
00:41:40,320 --> 00:41:44,200
Speaker 5: community colleges accept people well beyond eighteen for education in

919
00:41:44,239 --> 00:41:47,200
Speaker 5: the US, OPI explaining what happens if she and Betty

920
00:41:47,280 --> 00:41:49,200
Speaker 5: can't be off at the same time, even if it's

921
00:41:49,239 --> 00:41:51,359
Speaker 5: just for a few days. Opie says, if the main

922
00:41:51,400 --> 00:41:55,320
Speaker 5: manager is out, the assistant needs to be present. Vice versa. Basically,

923
00:41:55,360 --> 00:41:58,440
Speaker 5: a manager needs to be present each day, regardless how

924
00:41:58,440 --> 00:42:00,920
Speaker 5: it works out, what happens if you both actually get sick.

925
00:42:01,480 --> 00:42:04,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, I feel like that's not a good system.

926
00:42:04,239 --> 00:42:04,479
Speaker 5: Yeah.

927
00:42:04,760 --> 00:42:05,439
Speaker 3: Commentary two.

928
00:42:05,880 --> 00:42:08,399
Speaker 5: Betty is an entitled brat, but you could have picked

929
00:42:08,400 --> 00:42:10,600
Speaker 5: a fight with her on any other time that wasn't

930
00:42:10,600 --> 00:42:13,800
Speaker 5: her wedding, Opie says, I understand your point. The wedding

931
00:42:13,880 --> 00:42:16,279
Speaker 5: just came up within the last week, months after I

932
00:42:16,320 --> 00:42:19,760
Speaker 5: had my time off approved. Well, now we're lying because

933
00:42:19,800 --> 00:42:22,080
Speaker 5: you talked about how she's been talking about this wedding

934
00:42:22,280 --> 00:42:26,160
Speaker 5: NonStop for months. Yeah, that all you've been hearing about

935
00:42:26,280 --> 00:42:28,480
Speaker 5: is this wedding, and now you've only known about it

936
00:42:28,520 --> 00:42:29,040
Speaker 5: for a week.

937
00:42:29,520 --> 00:42:32,960
Speaker 2: So I think maybe Betty didn't share the date, but

938
00:42:33,120 --> 00:42:35,359
Speaker 2: was talking about talking about it, you know, blah blah blah,

939
00:42:35,440 --> 00:42:38,719
Speaker 2: and then I'll give you that. Oh, I'll just you know,

940
00:42:38,840 --> 00:42:41,560
Speaker 2: put in my time whatever, not thinking that it was

941
00:42:41,600 --> 00:42:44,600
Speaker 2: gonna correspond. I don't think that Opie actually knew that

942
00:42:44,680 --> 00:42:47,759
Speaker 2: the wedding was at that time. If you did, Ope, well,

943
00:42:47,760 --> 00:42:48,160
Speaker 2: I don't.

944
00:42:48,000 --> 00:42:50,319
Speaker 5: Think that changes when you're with your boyfriend, is though,

945
00:42:50,360 --> 00:42:54,120
Speaker 5: Like that's still inconvenient timing in my head, I'm at

946
00:42:54,120 --> 00:42:55,799
Speaker 5: the point where she maybe was like, oh my god,

947
00:42:55,800 --> 00:42:59,160
Speaker 5: these are the same weeks. Better get that in which like,

948
00:42:59,400 --> 00:43:00,840
Speaker 5: and you did it the right way.

949
00:43:01,280 --> 00:43:02,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's true. You did it the way that you're

950
00:43:03,000 --> 00:43:06,680
Speaker 2: supposed to, but you also could have said something, you know,

951
00:43:07,080 --> 00:43:11,120
Speaker 2: But also she doesn't really respect you in that way,

952
00:43:12,040 --> 00:43:12,200
Speaker 2: you know.

953
00:43:12,440 --> 00:43:14,920
Speaker 5: Yeah, I'm with that comment or where it's like, couldn't

954
00:43:14,920 --> 00:43:16,959
Speaker 5: you have picked it before the wedding kind of thing,

955
00:43:17,360 --> 00:43:19,359
Speaker 5: like I hope that she doesn't lose out on all

956
00:43:19,400 --> 00:43:21,480
Speaker 5: these deposits for a wedding because that's a lot of money.

957
00:43:21,719 --> 00:43:24,480
Speaker 5: But yeah, at the same time, I am like, she

958
00:43:24,680 --> 00:43:28,239
Speaker 5: probably knew the protocols, but like, I don't know. I'm

959
00:43:28,239 --> 00:43:29,759
Speaker 5: always like, if you can help someone out, why don't

960
00:43:29,800 --> 00:43:31,319
Speaker 5: you help someone out? But it's like she doesn't help

961
00:43:31,360 --> 00:43:34,799
Speaker 5: you out. So yeah, no, I'm exactly the same. My

962
00:43:34,920 --> 00:43:37,600
Speaker 5: boyfriend is still in school and this is during his vacation.

963
00:43:37,840 --> 00:43:39,239
Speaker 5: It would be one thing if I could pick a

964
00:43:39,280 --> 00:43:42,399
Speaker 5: different weekend with my boyfriend, even with major holidays being

965
00:43:42,400 --> 00:43:45,239
Speaker 5: a blackout period, But to lie to management to take

966
00:43:45,280 --> 00:43:48,040
Speaker 5: my vacation time after it was approved months ago is

967
00:43:48,120 --> 00:43:50,279
Speaker 5: not okay with me. I won't roll on my back

968
00:43:50,320 --> 00:43:52,399
Speaker 5: for that. Comment to three, not the a hole. Why

969
00:43:52,440 --> 00:43:55,080
Speaker 5: is Betty still employed there? Opie says. We're a union,

970
00:43:55,160 --> 00:43:57,799
Speaker 5: so it's very difficult to fire someone. Can Opie go

971
00:43:57,920 --> 00:44:00,160
Speaker 5: to the union and report Betty since she lied to

972
00:44:00,160 --> 00:44:03,040
Speaker 5: the management? Opie says, I have talked to my ASM

973
00:44:03,120 --> 00:44:06,000
Speaker 5: assistant store manager about her attendance issues, and there has

974
00:44:06,040 --> 00:44:08,400
Speaker 5: already been a problem with Betty going to corporate and

975
00:44:08,480 --> 00:44:12,239
Speaker 5: making a false accusation on HR. Nothing has been done

976
00:44:12,280 --> 00:44:14,960
Speaker 5: on their end. I can only make so many suggestions

977
00:44:14,960 --> 00:44:17,959
Speaker 5: to them about having a documented conversation when they don't

978
00:44:18,040 --> 00:44:21,640
Speaker 5: seem interested. We are a licensed store, not a franchise,

979
00:44:22,080 --> 00:44:25,200
Speaker 5: so we are technically employees under the other company in

980
00:44:25,239 --> 00:44:29,440
Speaker 5: the partnership Kroger and Union. It's very hard to just

981
00:44:29,560 --> 00:44:33,040
Speaker 5: fire people in the union. There has to be a

982
00:44:33,080 --> 00:44:36,400
Speaker 5: big reason, and fighting for time off that was approved

983
00:44:36,400 --> 00:44:39,160
Speaker 5: months ago for a last second notice is not grounds

984
00:44:39,200 --> 00:44:42,640
Speaker 5: for termination. Dishonesty is, but they don't do anything about it.

985
00:44:42,719 --> 00:44:44,799
Speaker 5: Comment or four says, it doesn't sound like Betty is

986
00:44:44,840 --> 00:44:47,799
Speaker 5: doing anything out with her rights on any of your

987
00:44:47,880 --> 00:44:51,040
Speaker 5: background info. You're the manager. If there's no coverage at

988
00:44:51,040 --> 00:44:54,040
Speaker 5: the end of her shift, that is a you problem

989
00:44:54,200 --> 00:44:56,520
Speaker 5: sounds like you need to hire another person, Opie says,

990
00:44:56,560 --> 00:44:58,920
Speaker 5: I understand your point. We are a partnership Kiosk, not

991
00:44:58,960 --> 00:45:01,480
Speaker 5: an actual franchise store. I already worked six days a

992
00:45:01,480 --> 00:45:04,279
Speaker 5: week and can't work a seventh. That's part of our

993
00:45:04,360 --> 00:45:07,320
Speaker 5: union contract. If it happens on my day off. Betty

994
00:45:07,400 --> 00:45:10,480
Speaker 5: is in charge, so it becomes her responsibility to find coverage,

995
00:45:10,640 --> 00:45:13,000
Speaker 5: much like how it is my responsibility to do the

996
00:45:13,000 --> 00:45:15,560
Speaker 5: same when she calls out that much. I understand, but

997
00:45:15,600 --> 00:45:18,120
Speaker 5: I tend to work doubles since my closers can't come

998
00:45:18,120 --> 00:45:20,600
Speaker 5: in early due to school interference. I wish I was

999
00:45:20,640 --> 00:45:24,040
Speaker 5: part of the hiring process, but HR leaves department managers

1000
00:45:24,080 --> 00:45:27,239
Speaker 5: out of that. Opie clarifies on the pay cut for

1001
00:45:27,320 --> 00:45:29,839
Speaker 5: her position. Opie says, I actually didn't take a pay

1002
00:45:29,840 --> 00:45:32,080
Speaker 5: cut for this position. I was under the impression that

1003
00:45:32,120 --> 00:45:33,640
Speaker 5: I was going to get a raise for being in

1004
00:45:33,680 --> 00:45:36,440
Speaker 5: a manager position, but they took that away, so I

1005
00:45:36,520 --> 00:45:38,680
Speaker 5: kept my current pay and the tips make up for it.

1006
00:45:38,800 --> 00:45:41,480
Speaker 5: I developed the habit of tracking things very early on

1007
00:45:41,560 --> 00:45:44,200
Speaker 5: in life, so this is just natural habit to this point.

1008
00:45:44,320 --> 00:45:46,880
Speaker 5: When I was the bookkeeper, management also wanted me in

1009
00:45:46,960 --> 00:45:49,360
Speaker 5: three other departments helping out, and I got to a

1010
00:45:49,400 --> 00:45:52,400
Speaker 5: point where I just wanted something stable and reliable for work,

1011
00:45:52,440 --> 00:45:55,160
Speaker 5: and this was my ticket. As Opie spoke with the

1012
00:45:55,480 --> 00:45:58,560
Speaker 5: proper district managers of her company about the situation with

1013
00:45:58,640 --> 00:46:01,320
Speaker 5: Betty and the days off, OPI says, I've already spoken

1014
00:46:01,320 --> 00:46:04,520
Speaker 5: to Starbucks DM and my company Kroger DM about her

1015
00:46:04,640 --> 00:46:07,120
Speaker 5: in one of my planning visits. I didn't have to

1016
00:46:07,160 --> 00:46:09,680
Speaker 5: mention her work ethic, as they already knew about it,

1017
00:46:09,719 --> 00:46:12,359
Speaker 5: but I did mention and present how often she calls

1018
00:46:12,400 --> 00:46:15,400
Speaker 5: out stating that her attendance is a liability. I know

1019
00:46:15,520 --> 00:46:17,160
Speaker 5: it was put in an email because I have it

1020
00:46:17,280 --> 00:46:19,640
Speaker 5: printed out in a file in my locker with my

1021
00:46:19,719 --> 00:46:22,080
Speaker 5: boss c seed in it, but nothing on his end

1022
00:46:22,120 --> 00:46:24,160
Speaker 5: was done about it. As far as her day's off go,

1023
00:46:24,680 --> 00:46:26,800
Speaker 5: that was the least of my issues with her because

1024
00:46:26,840 --> 00:46:29,480
Speaker 5: I have a set day off each week. However, we're

1025
00:46:29,520 --> 00:46:32,560
Speaker 5: going through some scheduling changes where Thursdays and Fridays off

1026
00:46:32,600 --> 00:46:35,480
Speaker 5: for Betty is not doable for business purposes. I even

1027
00:46:35,520 --> 00:46:37,719
Speaker 5: had to change my day off, which I.

1028
00:46:37,760 --> 00:46:38,359
Speaker 3: Was fine with.

1029
00:46:38,640 --> 00:46:41,440
Speaker 5: So maybe she'll just quit if that was kind of

1030
00:46:41,480 --> 00:46:43,120
Speaker 5: like already written enough that those had to be her

1031
00:46:43,239 --> 00:46:45,160
Speaker 5: days off. If you guys can't do that anymore, maybe

1032
00:46:45,200 --> 00:46:45,800
Speaker 5: she'll quit.

1033
00:46:45,760 --> 00:46:46,360
Speaker 3: That's true.

1034
00:46:46,640 --> 00:46:50,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, maybe if because I wonder what she's doing Thursdays

1035
00:46:50,120 --> 00:46:52,760
Speaker 2: and Fridays. I mean, it could actually be something serious.

1036
00:46:52,800 --> 00:46:53,799
Speaker 3: It doesn't have to be like.

1037
00:46:53,760 --> 00:46:56,359
Speaker 2: Oh, I just want a pregame and I don't think

1038
00:46:56,400 --> 00:46:58,120
Speaker 2: she has to disclose that information.

1039
00:46:58,360 --> 00:47:01,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, no, you don't do I want to know? Yeah,

1040
00:47:01,160 --> 00:47:01,520
Speaker 3: am I No?

1041
00:47:01,960 --> 00:47:05,080
Speaker 5: Maybe? Yes, there's a couple of problems with the Thursday

1042
00:47:05,080 --> 00:47:09,239
Speaker 5: Friday weekend for Betty now. One not doable for business purposes.

1043
00:47:09,560 --> 00:47:12,320
Speaker 5: Two that was a non written agreement under different management,

1044
00:47:12,360 --> 00:47:14,480
Speaker 5: so that agreement is now null and void. I don't

1045
00:47:14,480 --> 00:47:16,759
Speaker 5: know why I've been getting Maybe I've just felt very

1046
00:47:16,880 --> 00:47:20,279
Speaker 5: against Ope's today. But some things that everybody keeps saying,

1047
00:47:20,280 --> 00:47:21,880
Speaker 5: I'm just kind of like, why are we doing this?

1048
00:47:22,080 --> 00:47:24,640
Speaker 5: Like why doesn't it work now? Is this just because

1049
00:47:24,960 --> 00:47:27,839
Speaker 5: something happened and she lied, which is terrible, But are

1050
00:47:27,840 --> 00:47:30,279
Speaker 5: we now changing things because of that? Or is this

1051
00:47:30,440 --> 00:47:34,400
Speaker 5: like in actual need I to know everything?

1052
00:47:34,600 --> 00:47:35,720
Speaker 3: I feel like I said.

1053
00:47:36,760 --> 00:47:40,120
Speaker 2: Well, especially like with you know, talking about the stuff.

1054
00:47:40,160 --> 00:47:44,880
Speaker 2: So it seems like these people like Ope very much

1055
00:47:45,280 --> 00:47:48,440
Speaker 2: like is doing everything by the books, so then why

1056
00:47:48,560 --> 00:47:51,080
Speaker 2: is it not working? So, like, that's what I don't

1057
00:47:51,160 --> 00:47:53,480
Speaker 2: understand is like, how did all of this come to

1058
00:47:53,640 --> 00:47:57,399
Speaker 2: head when you've been complaining. You keep records, you keep

1059
00:47:57,400 --> 00:48:00,160
Speaker 2: all these things, but they just don't do anything.

1060
00:48:00,239 --> 00:48:03,120
Speaker 5: Yeah. It sounds like your upper management sucks even more

1061
00:48:03,160 --> 00:48:04,000
Speaker 5: than Betty somehow.

1062
00:48:04,600 --> 00:48:06,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, And I don't know how you could go over

1063
00:48:06,760 --> 00:48:08,520
Speaker 2: their head and like go to the union. I feel

1064
00:48:08,520 --> 00:48:11,359
Speaker 2: like that's like overdoing it, you know, But.

1065
00:48:11,640 --> 00:48:14,280
Speaker 5: Well, the Union's going to be way more on Betty's

1066
00:48:14,320 --> 00:48:16,759
Speaker 5: side though. The union is there for Betty, not for

1067
00:48:17,120 --> 00:48:20,439
Speaker 5: the company running spid no, which sucks. I'm sorry, ob,

1068
00:48:21,120 --> 00:48:22,879
Speaker 5: the unions are great at the same time.

1069
00:48:22,920 --> 00:48:23,120
Speaker 1: It is.

1070
00:48:23,480 --> 00:48:25,920
Speaker 2: It's true because they fight for you, but but they

1071
00:48:25,960 --> 00:48:27,839
Speaker 2: also fight for all of the people in it that

1072
00:48:28,040 --> 00:48:30,120
Speaker 2: are sucky, which sucks.

1073
00:48:30,440 --> 00:48:32,279
Speaker 5: Our current manager doesn't need to honor that.

1074
00:48:32,520 --> 00:48:32,960
Speaker 3: Three.

1075
00:48:33,080 --> 00:48:35,560
Speaker 5: She's pulling everything she can to get her way, even

1076
00:48:35,560 --> 00:48:38,160
Speaker 5: if it means calling the union. And we have an update.

1077
00:48:38,480 --> 00:48:39,400
Speaker 1: Oh, just get to it.

1078
00:48:39,440 --> 00:48:42,200
Speaker 5: I want to hear do it. One month later, for

1079
00:48:42,280 --> 00:48:44,520
Speaker 5: a recap, my assistant Betty asked me to reschedule my

1080
00:48:44,560 --> 00:48:46,839
Speaker 5: one year anniversary trip with my boyfriend so she could

1081
00:48:46,880 --> 00:48:49,520
Speaker 5: have her wedding, to which I declined. Then Betty went

1082
00:48:49,560 --> 00:48:52,359
Speaker 5: to management and lied, saying I would do it for her,

1083
00:48:52,560 --> 00:48:55,479
Speaker 5: only for it to blow up in her face. One

1084
00:48:55,520 --> 00:48:57,520
Speaker 5: thing I forgot to add in the original is that

1085
00:48:57,600 --> 00:48:59,880
Speaker 5: I keep a planner in the department, not just for

1086
00:49:00,080 --> 00:49:03,200
Speaker 5: important things coming up like a launch or sale dates,

1087
00:49:03,280 --> 00:49:05,239
Speaker 5: but also so Betty and I can put in our

1088
00:49:05,320 --> 00:49:09,480
Speaker 5: vacation and work around each other, so no vacation overlaps

1089
00:49:09,640 --> 00:49:13,360
Speaker 5: due to previous problems last year. And yes, Betty is

1090
00:49:13,400 --> 00:49:16,200
Speaker 5: fully aware that this exists. I not only put my

1091
00:49:16,280 --> 00:49:19,279
Speaker 5: vacation time off in the system, but the planner as

1092
00:49:19,320 --> 00:49:22,680
Speaker 5: well as soon as my vacation hour's renewed, all vacations

1093
00:49:22,719 --> 00:49:25,400
Speaker 5: six months to a year in advance, so there's no

1094
00:49:25,640 --> 00:49:28,799
Speaker 5: question of it. Fast forward to today, Betty did it

1095
00:49:28,840 --> 00:49:32,880
Speaker 5: again and what live I was flipping through the planner,

1096
00:49:33,000 --> 00:49:35,160
Speaker 5: so for the coming months, I knew what to expect

1097
00:49:35,280 --> 00:49:38,000
Speaker 5: and have a plan weeks in advance of important dates.

1098
00:49:38,200 --> 00:49:41,000
Speaker 5: I knew Betty scheduled her wedding date, but didn't know when.

1099
00:49:41,640 --> 00:49:43,800
Speaker 5: I only had the hint that it would fall towards

1100
00:49:43,880 --> 00:49:47,000
Speaker 5: the end of May to early June. In a local park,

1101
00:49:47,120 --> 00:49:49,360
Speaker 5: you can rent part of for the day. No shaming,

1102
00:49:49,400 --> 00:49:51,319
Speaker 5: but I know that dates can be switched easier than

1103
00:49:51,360 --> 00:49:54,480
Speaker 5: an actual venue, which works for me as well as

1104
00:49:54,520 --> 00:49:55,440
Speaker 5: I will be around.

1105
00:49:55,760 --> 00:49:56,600
Speaker 3: Wait, I thought that.

1106
00:49:57,080 --> 00:49:59,040
Speaker 5: I thought it was like just January.

1107
00:49:59,160 --> 00:49:59,960
Speaker 3: That's what I also thought.

1108
00:50:00,160 --> 00:50:01,759
Speaker 5: It was like, I think that's what we're about to

1109
00:50:01,800 --> 00:50:02,319
Speaker 5: find out.

1110
00:50:02,440 --> 00:50:03,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, okay.

1111
00:50:03,080 --> 00:50:06,080
Speaker 5: For the last four months, I've been pretty vocal with

1112
00:50:06,160 --> 00:50:08,520
Speaker 5: my plans the week of the twenty first to the

1113
00:50:08,640 --> 00:50:11,560
Speaker 5: twenty seventh of June as my boyfriend and I will

1114
00:50:11,560 --> 00:50:14,839
Speaker 5: be going to Yellowstone as an end of school year

1115
00:50:15,200 --> 00:50:19,480
Speaker 5: summer punt off vacation. When I saw the month of June,

1116
00:50:19,560 --> 00:50:22,040
Speaker 5: I noticed she wrote in her wedding day falls on

1117
00:50:22,080 --> 00:50:25,439
Speaker 5: the start of my vacation three days ago. Betty looked

1118
00:50:25,440 --> 00:50:27,439
Speaker 5: at me and said, I know you're excited about going

1119
00:50:27,440 --> 00:50:29,879
Speaker 5: to Yellowstone in June, and you've been planning it since

1120
00:50:29,880 --> 00:50:32,000
Speaker 5: the end of March. But I was hoping you would

1121
00:50:32,040 --> 00:50:34,080
Speaker 5: do me a favor and push your trip back so

1122
00:50:34,160 --> 00:50:36,440
Speaker 5: I could have my wedding day. I scheduled it for

1123
00:50:36,480 --> 00:50:39,400
Speaker 5: the twenty first. I looked at her in disbelief because

1124
00:50:39,400 --> 00:50:41,800
Speaker 5: apparently she didn't get the hint the first time.

1125
00:50:42,120 --> 00:50:44,360
Speaker 3: Okay, okay, so they had rescheduled it.

1126
00:50:44,480 --> 00:50:47,160
Speaker 5: Now, Ope, I'm sure that a park with a tent

1127
00:50:47,400 --> 00:50:50,640
Speaker 5: is way easier to be scheduled, But I also do

1128
00:50:50,680 --> 00:50:54,319
Speaker 5: feel like she could potentially be limited on dates and

1129
00:50:54,440 --> 00:50:57,160
Speaker 5: you knew, you did no months in advance this time,

1130
00:50:57,200 --> 00:50:59,560
Speaker 5: that it was going to be around that time in June.

1131
00:50:59,680 --> 00:51:01,719
Speaker 5: And I know it's once again like okay, but you

1132
00:51:01,800 --> 00:51:03,719
Speaker 5: followed the books and you put it in first. But

1133
00:51:03,760 --> 00:51:07,080
Speaker 5: if she had rescheduled her wedding and told you the

1134
00:51:07,120 --> 00:51:10,000
Speaker 5: time of year down to like roughly when in the

1135
00:51:10,040 --> 00:51:12,920
Speaker 5: month it would be, and then you planned your vacation

1136
00:51:13,160 --> 00:51:15,520
Speaker 5: for that exact time because you wanted it to be

1137
00:51:15,560 --> 00:51:18,840
Speaker 5: a summer punt off, Oh god.

1138
00:51:19,080 --> 00:51:24,520
Speaker 3: This is this is just messy. That's so messy. You

1139
00:51:24,520 --> 00:51:26,280
Speaker 3: guys just need to not work together.

1140
00:51:26,800 --> 00:51:29,799
Speaker 2: Yeah, there's like no communication, and when there is communication,

1141
00:51:30,000 --> 00:51:31,799
Speaker 2: it's just like I can't do.

1142
00:51:31,719 --> 00:51:32,440
Speaker 1: That, and I can't do that.

1143
00:51:32,560 --> 00:51:34,920
Speaker 2: Well, well, you schedule this and I schedule this, and

1144
00:51:35,160 --> 00:51:37,359
Speaker 2: that's just like.

1145
00:51:36,520 --> 00:51:38,400
Speaker 5: Like I get it. She's hard to work with. But

1146
00:51:38,480 --> 00:51:40,440
Speaker 5: now I'm kind of like, let this girl have her wedding.

1147
00:51:40,560 --> 00:51:42,680
Speaker 2: I mean, yeah, I'm the same. I'm like, I understand

1148
00:51:42,719 --> 00:51:44,279
Speaker 2: you did it by the book, so opie, and like,

1149
00:51:44,360 --> 00:51:48,000
Speaker 2: you know, you're not changing it whatever, Like you know,

1150
00:51:48,480 --> 00:51:51,440
Speaker 2: I get being stubborn about it, but at the end

1151
00:51:51,480 --> 00:51:51,960
Speaker 2: of the day, you.

1152
00:51:51,920 --> 00:51:55,000
Speaker 3: Know, like it is very hard to very hard to

1153
00:51:55,040 --> 00:51:55,360
Speaker 3: plan a.

1154
00:51:55,360 --> 00:51:59,440
Speaker 2: Wedding, and plus like dates are very specific. You know, Yes,

1155
00:51:59,560 --> 00:51:59,879
Speaker 2: I did.

1156
00:52:00,000 --> 00:52:02,200
Speaker 5: I have to gather my thoughts because it's clear to

1157
00:52:02,239 --> 00:52:05,080
Speaker 5: me she's doing this on purpose. At this point, I

1158
00:52:05,160 --> 00:52:05,759
Speaker 5: can't don't know.

1159
00:52:06,160 --> 00:52:06,879
Speaker 1: I don't know either.

1160
00:52:07,120 --> 00:52:09,719
Speaker 5: I calmly told her, no, We've been down this road

1161
00:52:09,760 --> 00:52:12,800
Speaker 5: and I'm not rescheduling anything I've had planned and approved

1162
00:52:12,840 --> 00:52:16,600
Speaker 5: on works and for months because you planned poorly. I'll

1163
00:52:16,600 --> 00:52:19,040
Speaker 5: also remind you that we have a planner for these

1164
00:52:19,080 --> 00:52:22,879
Speaker 5: reasons to schedule around each other's vacation, so nothing overlaps.

1165
00:52:23,320 --> 00:52:25,520
Speaker 5: We are both in leadership roles, so when one of

1166
00:52:25,600 --> 00:52:29,080
Speaker 5: us is on vacation, the other has to be here. Yeah,

1167
00:52:29,120 --> 00:52:31,000
Speaker 5: I mean, yeah, she does need to learn that eventually,

1168
00:52:31,080 --> 00:52:34,920
Speaker 5: though that's true. Betty stayed silent and I saw her

1169
00:52:34,920 --> 00:52:38,040
Speaker 5: face turn red. But instead of giving her the opportunity

1170
00:52:38,120 --> 00:52:40,600
Speaker 5: to lie to management again, I went up and said something.

1171
00:52:40,719 --> 00:52:43,160
Speaker 5: I showed my boss the planner and our system and

1172
00:52:43,160 --> 00:52:45,719
Speaker 5: that this is a problem she doesn't see I made

1173
00:52:45,719 --> 00:52:49,080
Speaker 5: it clear, even though it shows one day, expect her

1174
00:52:49,080 --> 00:52:51,200
Speaker 5: to call out in the next day or two. I

1175
00:52:51,239 --> 00:52:53,440
Speaker 5: will be in Wyoming and will not be willing to

1176
00:52:53,520 --> 00:52:56,360
Speaker 5: change anything as this trip is half of my boyfriend's

1177
00:52:56,360 --> 00:52:59,759
Speaker 5: big Christmas present. Management confirmed that her day off has

1178
00:52:59,760 --> 00:53:02,080
Speaker 5: none and approved and she will need to rearrange the

1179
00:53:02,160 --> 00:53:04,160
Speaker 5: day as I got it approved first.

1180
00:53:04,440 --> 00:53:05,440
Speaker 3: Betty did look.

1181
00:53:05,280 --> 00:53:07,279
Speaker 5: Like she wanted to cry because she's not getting the

1182
00:53:07,320 --> 00:53:10,279
Speaker 5: princess treatment she wants, but she also doesn't realize that

1183
00:53:10,320 --> 00:53:12,960
Speaker 5: other people have lives too. I do fully expect her

1184
00:53:13,000 --> 00:53:15,080
Speaker 5: to call out and leave the department high and dry,

1185
00:53:15,200 --> 00:53:17,840
Speaker 5: like she has done many times in the past, especially

1186
00:53:17,920 --> 00:53:20,960
Speaker 5: while I'm gone. We will see what happens and we

1187
00:53:21,000 --> 00:53:23,400
Speaker 5: have some relevant comments commented. Or what kind of person

1188
00:53:23,440 --> 00:53:25,640
Speaker 5: books a venue for a day that they know they

1189
00:53:25,640 --> 00:53:28,319
Speaker 5: have to work, Opie says, a local park. She does

1190
00:53:28,400 --> 00:53:31,319
Speaker 5: because we all know she's going to call out. But

1191
00:53:31,520 --> 00:53:34,000
Speaker 5: what she should know, since she's called the union so

1192
00:53:34,000 --> 00:53:37,280
Speaker 5: many times, is making false accusations that if she calls

1193
00:53:37,280 --> 00:53:40,400
Speaker 5: out on a denied request, that's grounds for termination. That

1194
00:53:40,520 --> 00:53:41,520
Speaker 5: is the end of that story.

1195
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Speaker 1: Hey, it's Keon your favorite Filipino here. We're going to

1196
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Speaker 2: I want to report my manager, but I'm scared of

1199
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Speaker 2: the retaliation.

1200
00:53:52,960 --> 00:53:54,160
Speaker 5: They're not allowed to do that.

1201
00:53:54,400 --> 00:53:58,240
Speaker 2: My boss is a bully, obviously. I thirty three female,

1202
00:53:58,400 --> 00:54:02,200
Speaker 2: work for a popular craft retail store. I genuinely enjoy

1203
00:54:02,239 --> 00:54:04,480
Speaker 2: my job and the people I work with, except for

1204
00:54:04,680 --> 00:54:10,279
Speaker 2: one person, my boss, fifty ish female. I started this

1205
00:54:10,400 --> 00:54:13,080
Speaker 2: job at the end of December twenty twenty four. Before

1206
00:54:13,160 --> 00:54:17,640
Speaker 2: I was hired, I was very specific about my availability.

1207
00:54:17,000 --> 00:54:18,800
Speaker 3: And it was agreed to without question.

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Speaker 2: and if you want to submit your own stories, go

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1211
00:54:28,880 --> 00:54:31,640
Speaker 2: I'm Carly, and we are here to give good advice goofully,

1212
00:54:31,760 --> 00:54:33,360
Speaker 2: but we don't have all the answers.

1213
00:54:33,440 --> 00:54:34,080
Speaker 3: We would just tell you.

1214
00:54:34,120 --> 00:54:36,240
Speaker 2: What we would do in this situation, but we would

1215
00:54:36,280 --> 00:54:38,840
Speaker 2: love to know what you would do in the comments.

1216
00:54:39,160 --> 00:54:42,160
Speaker 2: As Op says, right after I started, the guy who

1217
00:54:42,239 --> 00:54:44,839
Speaker 2: hired me left for another company. It took them three

1218
00:54:44,880 --> 00:54:47,279
Speaker 2: months to get us a new GM. We had a

1219
00:54:47,360 --> 00:54:50,080
Speaker 2: temp manager who had been with the company for years

1220
00:54:50,120 --> 00:54:53,040
Speaker 2: from another store to help us until then. During that time,

1221
00:54:53,200 --> 00:54:56,640
Speaker 2: still had the assistant managers and the replenishment manager from

1222
00:54:56,640 --> 00:54:59,440
Speaker 2: the original crew of people. While the temp manager was

1223
00:54:59,440 --> 00:55:02,719
Speaker 2: a bit aggress and could be bullish, she was good

1224
00:55:02,719 --> 00:55:06,160
Speaker 2: at her job and extremely knowledgeable about the company policies

1225
00:55:06,200 --> 00:55:09,279
Speaker 2: and procedures. We had a couple of people leave during

1226
00:55:09,280 --> 00:55:11,839
Speaker 2: that time because things were a bit chaotic, and like

1227
00:55:11,880 --> 00:55:15,040
Speaker 2: I said, she was a bit more aggressive than necessary.

1228
00:55:15,200 --> 00:55:18,160
Speaker 2: I wasn't that upset about one person because they never

1229
00:55:18,200 --> 00:55:20,840
Speaker 2: wanted to work when they were there and had a

1230
00:55:20,920 --> 00:55:24,480
Speaker 2: super negative attitude that brought everyone else down. However, the

1231
00:55:24,560 --> 00:55:28,040
Speaker 2: other person was great, worked hard, usually positive, and did

1232
00:55:28,080 --> 00:55:31,480
Speaker 2: their best. So the new general managers started and everything

1233
00:55:31,560 --> 00:55:34,319
Speaker 2: seemed pretty good at first. She jumped in, worked side

1234
00:55:34,320 --> 00:55:37,280
Speaker 2: by side with you, laughed, observed how all the employees

1235
00:55:37,480 --> 00:55:41,080
Speaker 2: were currently, even had a friend she worked with previously

1236
00:55:41,239 --> 00:55:44,400
Speaker 2: follow her in. Then one day it was like something

1237
00:55:44,600 --> 00:55:48,600
Speaker 2: just snapped suddenly, no one could do anything right. Y'all

1238
00:55:48,640 --> 00:55:51,120
Speaker 2: aren't working fast enough, you don't know what you're doing.

1239
00:55:51,520 --> 00:55:53,440
Speaker 2: No one wants to work around here. I have to

1240
00:55:53,440 --> 00:55:57,840
Speaker 2: do everything myself. Meanwhile, we have all been staying well

1241
00:55:57,880 --> 00:56:00,799
Speaker 2: after our scheduled shifts, agreed to overnight shifts on top

1242
00:56:00,840 --> 00:56:03,759
Speaker 2: of them, and busting our butts, trying our best to

1243
00:56:03,800 --> 00:56:05,880
Speaker 2: get the store where it needs to be. We are

1244
00:56:05,920 --> 00:56:09,200
Speaker 2: all looking around at each other, including her friend, like,

1245
00:56:09,520 --> 00:56:12,319
Speaker 2: who on earth is she talking about? Because it sure

1246
00:56:12,320 --> 00:56:14,839
Speaker 2: as heck ain't this team. It only proceeded to get

1247
00:56:14,840 --> 00:56:18,720
Speaker 2: worse from there. She started systematically bully people into leaving.

1248
00:56:18,880 --> 00:56:22,120
Speaker 2: Anyone she decided wasn't doing a good enough job, she

1249
00:56:22,160 --> 00:56:25,680
Speaker 2: would constantly beerate them until she couldn't take it anymore.

1250
00:56:25,920 --> 00:56:28,360
Speaker 2: She would talk about them so and Sel went Scott

1251
00:56:28,440 --> 00:56:31,080
Speaker 2: to go. She can't do this job. She never should

1252
00:56:31,080 --> 00:56:33,640
Speaker 2: have been given the responsibility if she can't do it

1253
00:56:33,760 --> 00:56:39,320
Speaker 2: to other employees, which is completely against HR. Also being

1254
00:56:39,360 --> 00:56:43,359
Speaker 2: made aware by multiple people, including the person herself, that.

1255
00:56:43,400 --> 00:56:46,160
Speaker 3: She is autistic. WHOA, that is not where I thought

1256
00:56:46,200 --> 00:56:46,759
Speaker 3: that was gonna go.

1257
00:56:47,880 --> 00:56:49,480
Speaker 2: I thought that was gonna be like that she is

1258
00:56:49,560 --> 00:56:54,000
Speaker 2: mean or something. She is doing her absolute best in

1259
00:56:54,160 --> 00:56:57,200
Speaker 2: trying her very hardest to do what she is asked,

1260
00:56:57,280 --> 00:56:59,680
Speaker 2: but doesn't always understand what the GM is wanting her

1261
00:56:59,719 --> 00:57:02,000
Speaker 2: to do. It didn't help that the GN changed what

1262
00:57:02,040 --> 00:57:04,759
Speaker 2: she wanted every other minute and expected everyone to just know.

1263
00:57:05,320 --> 00:57:06,520
Speaker 1: You gotta love those people.

1264
00:57:06,640 --> 00:57:09,320
Speaker 2: When told the girl was autistic and might need extra

1265
00:57:09,360 --> 00:57:13,040
Speaker 2: slash more specific instructions to accomplish tasks, she flat out said,

1266
00:57:13,360 --> 00:57:16,960
Speaker 2: I don't care. She should know it's common sense. If

1267
00:57:16,960 --> 00:57:19,200
Speaker 2: she can't figure it out by now, then she shouldn't

1268
00:57:19,240 --> 00:57:20,080
Speaker 2: have this job and.

1269
00:57:20,080 --> 00:57:20,800
Speaker 3: She needs to go.

1270
00:57:21,160 --> 00:57:23,920
Speaker 5: Oh my god, that's kind of crazy to say, like

1271
00:57:24,080 --> 00:57:27,040
Speaker 5: I don't know, girl, Maybe say what you're saying better,

1272
00:57:27,360 --> 00:57:30,120
Speaker 5: like yeah, I don't even know. Well then at that point, though,

1273
00:57:30,480 --> 00:57:35,280
Speaker 5: I would think that that employee could go report something

1274
00:57:35,760 --> 00:57:39,000
Speaker 5: under like the Disability Act kind of being that you

1275
00:57:39,080 --> 00:57:42,600
Speaker 5: actually can't say that like I am allowed my accommodations

1276
00:57:42,600 --> 00:57:45,520
Speaker 5: of like more time or like needing a second kind

1277
00:57:45,560 --> 00:57:45,840
Speaker 5: of thing.

1278
00:57:45,960 --> 00:57:47,040
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's the thing.

1279
00:57:47,240 --> 00:57:49,720
Speaker 2: She caused this girl to cry on multiple ocasions by

1280
00:57:49,760 --> 00:57:52,440
Speaker 2: constantly berating her to the point where she was terrified

1281
00:57:52,480 --> 00:57:57,080
Speaker 2: to even move or ask any questions for clarification on tasks.

1282
00:57:57,360 --> 00:57:59,920
Speaker 2: It got to the point that the girl, who was

1283
00:58:00,080 --> 00:58:02,920
Speaker 2: part time assistant manager eventually just quit because she couldn't

1284
00:58:02,920 --> 00:58:05,720
Speaker 2: take it anymore. The GM has done this to multiple

1285
00:58:05,760 --> 00:58:08,919
Speaker 2: employees since Unfortunately, some of them were actually really great

1286
00:58:08,960 --> 00:58:12,680
Speaker 2: employees who always worked extremely hard and had great positive attitudes.

1287
00:58:12,920 --> 00:58:16,040
Speaker 2: Several of them even quit without notice or walked out

1288
00:58:16,080 --> 00:58:20,240
Speaker 2: midshift due to her bullying ing. I feel like that's

1289
00:58:20,560 --> 00:58:23,120
Speaker 2: like something that needs to like go on record.

1290
00:58:23,160 --> 00:58:25,400
Speaker 5: Yeah, I'm like, does management not take note of that

1291
00:58:25,400 --> 00:58:27,760
Speaker 5: that multiple people are walk out quitting?

1292
00:58:28,160 --> 00:58:29,040
Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't know.

1293
00:58:29,560 --> 00:58:32,520
Speaker 2: The GM has a habit of telling everyone that if

1294
00:58:32,560 --> 00:58:35,600
Speaker 2: they aren't sure about something, then just ask her. But

1295
00:58:36,000 --> 00:58:38,960
Speaker 2: when you do ask, she immediately goes off about how

1296
00:58:38,960 --> 00:58:42,000
Speaker 2: it is common sense and you shouldn't be having to ask.

1297
00:58:42,160 --> 00:58:44,000
Speaker 2: But if you go ahead and do a task you've

1298
00:58:44,000 --> 00:58:46,680
Speaker 2: done multiple times the same way as always, then you've

1299
00:58:46,680 --> 00:58:49,120
Speaker 2: done it wrong and you should have asked. Oh god,

1300
00:58:49,320 --> 00:58:52,360
Speaker 2: you're danged if you do, and danged if you don't.

1301
00:58:52,600 --> 00:58:53,800
Speaker 3: That's horrible.

1302
00:58:54,600 --> 00:58:57,640
Speaker 2: Her favorite thing to do is belittle you, but only

1303
00:58:57,680 --> 00:59:00,360
Speaker 2: in front of customers or other employees. We will do

1304
00:59:00,480 --> 00:59:04,520
Speaker 2: everything she can to make you feel as incompetent as possible.

1305
00:59:04,720 --> 00:59:07,880
Speaker 2: The GM also refuses to listen to anyone about anything.

1306
00:59:07,960 --> 00:59:09,880
Speaker 2: If you try to tell her there is a problem

1307
00:59:09,920 --> 00:59:12,160
Speaker 2: with the system, she says there is not, and the

1308
00:59:12,160 --> 00:59:16,080
Speaker 2: employees just aren't doing their jobs. Example, inventory keeps getting

1309
00:59:16,160 --> 00:59:19,720
Speaker 2: unlocated or relocated to other areas in the system. I

1310
00:59:19,720 --> 00:59:22,920
Speaker 2: have personally gone through two specific departments and fully corrected

1311
00:59:22,920 --> 00:59:25,840
Speaker 2: the locations of every overstock item in every spot in

1312
00:59:25,880 --> 00:59:28,040
Speaker 2: those departments multiple times.

1313
00:59:28,080 --> 00:59:28,320
Speaker 1: Now.

1314
00:59:28,440 --> 00:59:31,960
Speaker 2: Four different managers have witnessed this. Days later, the locations

1315
00:59:32,000 --> 00:59:35,680
Speaker 2: are wrong again, usually after the system has been updated overnight.

1316
00:59:35,840 --> 00:59:38,440
Speaker 2: I have been telling her this four months. She is

1317
00:59:38,520 --> 00:59:41,840
Speaker 2: one hundred percent insistent that there is nothing wrong with

1318
00:59:41,840 --> 00:59:44,400
Speaker 2: the system, and I am just not doing my job

1319
00:59:44,560 --> 00:59:47,880
Speaker 2: for managers that you hired because you bullied. All the

1320
00:59:47,920 --> 00:59:50,160
Speaker 2: others out of the store have witnessed me correcting this

1321
00:59:50,280 --> 00:59:56,480
Speaker 2: multiple times, but apparently I'm doing nothing sarcasm. Other examples

1322
00:59:56,840 --> 01:00:00,000
Speaker 2: SOP standard operating procedures are not followed.

1323
01:00:00,640 --> 01:00:03,640
Speaker 3: I know about us, Shah, we all know about us, sopeasier.

1324
01:00:04,200 --> 01:00:07,480
Speaker 2: If brought to her attention, she says, you're wrong and

1325
01:00:07,560 --> 01:00:10,480
Speaker 2: asks who is the manager here. She has berated several

1326
01:00:10,520 --> 01:00:13,600
Speaker 2: employees over allowing people with animals in the store that

1327
01:00:13,680 --> 01:00:17,080
Speaker 2: are not service animals because we can't do anything about those.

1328
01:00:17,280 --> 01:00:20,920
Speaker 2: Her words, not mine. I love animals and service animals

1329
01:00:20,920 --> 01:00:25,040
Speaker 2: are fantastic, wonderful, hardworking creatures. She is insistent no animals

1330
01:00:25,080 --> 01:00:27,240
Speaker 2: are allowed in the store and has kicked out customers

1331
01:00:27,240 --> 01:00:29,960
Speaker 2: over it, even when the animals were leashed and well behaved.

1332
01:00:30,080 --> 01:00:33,000
Speaker 2: I came across the sop regarding animals recently. They are

1333
01:00:33,040 --> 01:00:35,320
Speaker 2: actually allowed as long as there is no open food

1334
01:00:35,320 --> 01:00:38,200
Speaker 2: and the animal is well behaved. It even specifically states

1335
01:00:38,240 --> 01:00:40,280
Speaker 2: that if an employee is afraid of them, then have

1336
01:00:40,360 --> 01:00:43,520
Speaker 2: another employee assist the customer. If you, in any way

1337
01:00:43,560 --> 01:00:46,440
Speaker 2: go against something she wants, then your job is threatened.

1338
01:00:46,600 --> 01:00:48,840
Speaker 2: She always has a golden child she uses as an

1339
01:00:48,880 --> 01:00:52,480
Speaker 2: example to other employees, usually without that person's knowledge, until

1340
01:00:52,480 --> 01:00:54,800
Speaker 2: they make her mad, and then they become a target.

1341
01:00:55,000 --> 01:00:58,000
Speaker 5: God, this girl's houts horrible, the worst.

1342
01:00:58,120 --> 01:01:00,760
Speaker 2: Hey, I know because at one point it was me

1343
01:01:00,960 --> 01:01:04,320
Speaker 2: until I said no to extending my availability. As soon

1344
01:01:04,360 --> 01:01:06,480
Speaker 2: as I said no, she said, well, if I have

1345
01:01:06,560 --> 01:01:08,960
Speaker 2: to hire someone for these shifts, that's going to cut

1346
01:01:09,000 --> 01:01:11,400
Speaker 2: into your hours and that will put you out the door.

1347
01:01:11,680 --> 01:01:14,240
Speaker 2: Keep in mind, I was very specific in my availability

1348
01:01:14,280 --> 01:01:15,080
Speaker 2: before I was hired.

1349
01:01:15,200 --> 01:01:15,880
Speaker 3: That is true.

1350
01:01:15,960 --> 01:01:18,520
Speaker 2: She knew that when she started three months after me.

1351
01:01:18,720 --> 01:01:21,080
Speaker 2: I stay late multiple times a week to help, don't

1352
01:01:21,120 --> 01:01:22,240
Speaker 2: take breaks, miss lunch.

1353
01:01:22,320 --> 01:01:22,840
Speaker 3: Most of the.

1354
01:01:22,800 --> 01:01:24,880
Speaker 2: Time, I forget about it when I'm focused on my task.

1355
01:01:24,920 --> 01:01:26,720
Speaker 2: Until I start to shake because I need to eat.

1356
01:01:26,840 --> 01:01:29,800
Speaker 2: I've never said no to an overnight shift to help out,

1357
01:01:30,040 --> 01:01:33,000
Speaker 2: and I build all the holiday village displays because everyone

1358
01:01:33,000 --> 01:01:35,280
Speaker 2: else is afraid of the wiring as well as any

1359
01:01:35,360 --> 01:01:38,400
Speaker 2: other displays. I bust my butt at work, but she

1360
01:01:38,520 --> 01:01:41,240
Speaker 2: threatens my job when I refuse to adjust my availability

1361
01:01:41,640 --> 01:01:44,959
Speaker 2: to fill schedule gaps she created by bullying employees until

1362
01:01:45,000 --> 01:01:48,880
Speaker 2: they quit. We have had at least three full staff turnovers,

1363
01:01:48,880 --> 01:01:51,880
Speaker 2: minus one person me since December.

1364
01:01:51,400 --> 01:01:52,120
Speaker 3: Of last year.

1365
01:01:52,320 --> 01:01:54,439
Speaker 2: You would think that corporate would notice, but the store

1366
01:01:54,480 --> 01:01:57,240
Speaker 2: numbers have gone up so much from us catching up

1367
01:01:57,280 --> 01:01:59,720
Speaker 2: on store resets and sales. Because the resets are up

1368
01:01:59,720 --> 01:02:02,360
Speaker 2: today and you can find stuff that They made her

1369
01:02:02,640 --> 01:02:06,360
Speaker 2: a part of a manager training team, someone who will

1370
01:02:06,400 --> 01:02:09,240
Speaker 2: help train other new store managers when they start. When

1371
01:02:09,240 --> 01:02:11,720
Speaker 2: you walk in the store, you know immediately if she

1372
01:02:11,840 --> 01:02:14,440
Speaker 2: is there, because the store energy is so heavy and

1373
01:02:14,520 --> 01:02:16,640
Speaker 2: all the employees look miserable if.

1374
01:02:16,520 --> 01:02:17,160
Speaker 3: She isn't there.

1375
01:02:17,240 --> 01:02:20,120
Speaker 2: Everyone is super upbeat, laughing, having fun and working hard

1376
01:02:20,200 --> 01:02:23,040
Speaker 2: because we feel good. Her friend who came with her

1377
01:02:23,440 --> 01:02:25,760
Speaker 2: even quit and walked out one day because it was

1378
01:02:25,880 --> 01:02:26,560
Speaker 2: so bad.

1379
01:02:26,880 --> 01:02:30,000
Speaker 5: I wonder if people coming in for this training program, though,

1380
01:02:30,200 --> 01:02:33,400
Speaker 5: will be the ones to kind of start reporting her. Yeah,

1381
01:02:33,480 --> 01:02:36,440
Speaker 5: because if she's mean to them, they're just there to train.

1382
01:02:36,880 --> 01:02:37,720
Speaker 3: True, it's true.

1383
01:02:37,840 --> 01:02:39,880
Speaker 2: Yeah, I hope, I hope that happens.

1384
01:02:40,000 --> 01:02:40,600
Speaker 3: Hey, bullies.

1385
01:02:40,760 --> 01:02:43,640
Speaker 2: She came back a week later, but still that says something.

1386
01:02:43,720 --> 01:02:45,720
Speaker 2: The friend is always trying to keep all of us

1387
01:02:45,760 --> 01:02:48,440
Speaker 2: positive and to say. When the GM is on a

1388
01:02:48,440 --> 01:02:50,600
Speaker 2: war path, she will tell us to just ignore her

1389
01:02:50,640 --> 01:02:52,840
Speaker 2: and let it roll off because we are doing good.

1390
01:02:52,960 --> 01:02:55,440
Speaker 2: They've worked together at other jobs, and apparently it's like

1391
01:02:55,480 --> 01:02:57,760
Speaker 2: this at each one, but the GM doesn't seem to

1392
01:02:57,800 --> 01:03:00,520
Speaker 2: notice the pattern. We would all love if her friend,

1393
01:03:00,560 --> 01:03:03,280
Speaker 2: who is an assistant manager that came with her, took

1394
01:03:03,400 --> 01:03:06,800
Speaker 2: over the GM position. She won't, but we would try

1395
01:03:06,840 --> 01:03:10,440
Speaker 2: to get her too, for sure. I've been asked multiple

1396
01:03:10,440 --> 01:03:14,000
Speaker 2: times by the DM, the temp GM, the visiting manager

1397
01:03:14,040 --> 01:03:16,360
Speaker 2: from the other store, and the other current managers about

1398
01:03:16,400 --> 01:03:19,800
Speaker 2: taking a management position, and I've flat out refused. I

1399
01:03:19,840 --> 01:03:22,040
Speaker 2: don't want it. I want to work what I agreed

1400
01:03:22,080 --> 01:03:25,720
Speaker 2: to and keep doing my outside interests that make me happy.

1401
01:03:25,920 --> 01:03:26,720
Speaker 3: Good for you, Opie.

1402
01:03:26,880 --> 01:03:29,960
Speaker 2: I genuinely enjoy my other coworkers and the job itself.

1403
01:03:30,000 --> 01:03:32,040
Speaker 2: The only problem is her what do we think.

1404
01:03:32,440 --> 01:03:34,800
Speaker 5: Yeah, she just sounds awful. That's one of those things

1405
01:03:34,800 --> 01:03:38,120
Speaker 5: where I do, unfortunately feel like it's gonna take a while,

1406
01:03:38,320 --> 01:03:42,720
Speaker 5: but management will notice and kind of see, I don't

1407
01:03:42,760 --> 01:03:46,240
Speaker 5: think you should be afraid of retaliation though from reporting this.

1408
01:03:46,400 --> 01:03:49,760
Speaker 5: More like what's she gonna do? Just be the same

1409
01:03:49,880 --> 01:03:53,000
Speaker 5: level of mean she's already being. Yeah, and like she

1410
01:03:53,040 --> 01:03:54,720
Speaker 5: can be really mean. But the more that they hear

1411
01:03:54,720 --> 01:03:57,160
Speaker 5: about this, the more likely it is that she gets

1412
01:03:57,200 --> 01:04:00,320
Speaker 5: reassigned or like you could get reassigned or something like

1413
01:04:01,040 --> 01:04:03,800
Speaker 5: hopefully it'd be her, but like I think that they

1414
01:04:03,880 --> 01:04:06,439
Speaker 5: need to know. Yeah, and she it's not she can't

1415
01:04:06,520 --> 01:04:08,960
Speaker 5: fire you for that. See that's illegal.

1416
01:04:09,200 --> 01:04:14,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, and see in this situation, like me personally, I

1417
01:04:14,120 --> 01:04:16,560
Speaker 2: have no backbone, and I would be like, I mean,

1418
01:04:16,680 --> 01:04:19,320
Speaker 2: I don't like how she's treating it, but like I'm

1419
01:04:19,320 --> 01:04:22,560
Speaker 2: doing my work fine, so you know whatever. But it

1420
01:04:22,640 --> 01:04:25,680
Speaker 2: does like suck when you're like trying to you know,

1421
01:04:26,240 --> 01:04:29,080
Speaker 2: keep it positive and keep everyone like you know, in

1422
01:04:29,120 --> 01:04:31,360
Speaker 2: the loop. And like even if you make friends like

1423
01:04:31,440 --> 01:04:33,560
Speaker 2: during it, then you know, then all of a sudden

1424
01:04:33,680 --> 01:04:35,720
Speaker 2: they're gone because they didn't get along with the.

1425
01:04:35,960 --> 01:04:37,200
Speaker 3: You know, GM or whatever.

1426
01:04:37,400 --> 01:04:40,480
Speaker 2: We had a visiting manager from another store who witnessed

1427
01:04:40,520 --> 01:04:43,120
Speaker 2: her treatment of the employees and asked some of us

1428
01:04:43,120 --> 01:04:47,000
Speaker 2: about it. We all spilled the tea, the whole pot,

1429
01:04:47,280 --> 01:04:49,880
Speaker 2: and most of the cabinet, but not all of it.

1430
01:04:50,520 --> 01:04:52,520
Speaker 2: When she asked why none of us had sent anything

1431
01:04:52,560 --> 01:04:55,000
Speaker 2: to the district manager on their visits, we all looked

1432
01:04:55,000 --> 01:04:57,720
Speaker 2: at her like, are you serious? Can you imagine the

1433
01:04:57,760 --> 01:05:00,360
Speaker 2: retaliation she would rain down on all of us if

1434
01:05:00,520 --> 01:05:03,720
Speaker 2: they let our names slip. We don't trust them. The

1435
01:05:03,800 --> 01:05:06,560
Speaker 2: only time they've asked how things were going with the

1436
01:05:06,600 --> 01:05:08,840
Speaker 2: new GM, she was standing.

1437
01:05:08,840 --> 01:05:09,479
Speaker 3: Next to them.

1438
01:05:09,840 --> 01:05:10,600
Speaker 1: Oh.

1439
01:05:10,680 --> 01:05:12,880
Speaker 2: She made sure we were all aware that there is

1440
01:05:12,920 --> 01:05:15,960
Speaker 2: an anonymous number we can call to report her actions. Oh,

1441
01:05:16,400 --> 01:05:18,560
Speaker 2: this was a couple of weeks ago. We were all

1442
01:05:18,560 --> 01:05:21,440
Speaker 2: skeptical of the anonymous number. I found out on Friday

1443
01:05:21,440 --> 01:05:24,320
Speaker 2: that multiple employees, including the other managers and the manager

1444
01:05:24,320 --> 01:05:26,280
Speaker 2: who visited us, are planning to use it.

1445
01:05:26,160 --> 01:05:26,840
Speaker 3: To report her.

1446
01:05:27,120 --> 01:05:29,280
Speaker 2: Would I be an a hole if I did too?

1447
01:05:29,400 --> 01:05:30,000
Speaker 1: No? Do it?

1448
01:05:30,120 --> 01:05:30,680
Speaker 3: No, do it?

1449
01:05:30,840 --> 01:05:33,120
Speaker 5: No, you'd be an a hole to yourself if you didn't.

1450
01:05:33,240 --> 01:05:35,640
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's true. That is actually the end