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Speaker 1: Hey, this is Sam. This is John, the og story

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Speaker 1: propped up like a little house. Oh yeah, my stepsister

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Speaker 1: I Female twenty three got married to my husband about

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Speaker 1: a year ago. It was wonderful and probably the happiest

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Speaker 1: day of my life. My family was involved with everything,

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Speaker 1: and I was delighted by it. This included my stepfather,

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Speaker 1: who at first I had a somewhat rocky relationship with,

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Speaker 1: but I grew to appreciate him. By the way, this

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Speaker 1: comes from user sad Pomegranate thirty one eighty three, and

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Speaker 1: the r slash Okay Storytime suburn it. I'm Dakota, I'm Sophia,

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Speaker 1: I'm Riley, and we are here to give you good advice. Goofily,

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Speaker 1: But we don't have all the answers. We only know

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Speaker 1: what we would do, So if you would do something different,

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Speaker 1: let us know in the comments. As Op says, his daughter,

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Speaker 1: Female twenty six is an entirely different story. The stepsister

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Speaker 1: that's what she sounds like. We can't get along. I've tried,

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Speaker 1: and I'm sure she also has, but I can never

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Speaker 1: tell what she's saying because she sounds like but it's

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Speaker 1: not about being different. It's because she has always had

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Speaker 1: very similar tastes as me. We used to fight about

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Speaker 1: our clothes, our toys, so on and so forth. She

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Speaker 1: has a relationship with a man whom I've only got

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Speaker 1: to know maybe three or four times. She announced her

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Speaker 1: relationship with him during my wedding, which annoyed me at first,

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Speaker 1: but I let it go since it was only a

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Speaker 1: twenty second PSA. She became engaged just four months after that.

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Speaker 1: Now she has been planning her wedding, and I've tried

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Speaker 1: to help as much as I can, since I already

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Speaker 1: had most contacts fresh. She plans to marry a day

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Speaker 1: after Christmas, so I thought everything was set and ready

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Speaker 1: to go. On Saturday, she calls me crying, saying that

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Speaker 1: to have some changes done for some context, No one

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Speaker 1: knows how this dress looks because she wanted to keep

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Speaker 1: it as a surprise for everyone. Per her own words,

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Speaker 1: I doubt that it even exists.

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Speaker 3: Yep, same fake. There's no dress.

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Speaker 1: There has only one dress, and it's yours.

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Speaker 3: Yes.

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Speaker 1: I tried to comfort her and told her I knew

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Speaker 1: some cute boutiques that had nice wedding dresses ready for

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Speaker 1: her date. She cries harder, telling me she didn't want

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Speaker 1: any cheap dress. Well, I didn't talk about the price, now,

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Speaker 1: did I. I tried to calm her down once more

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Speaker 1: before telling her I would call my stepdad to see

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Speaker 1: what we could do. Before I could finish that sentence,

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Speaker 1: she says, out of the blue, can I wear your dress?

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Speaker 2: No? Notes? Because it is my dress?

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Speaker 1: Can you say that? Can you repeat that? Can you

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Speaker 1: wear whose dress? Mine? You want to wear my dress,

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Speaker 1: but I'd keep you it's mine, my dress. I wore

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Speaker 1: that for my wedding nut, but it's not yours, not

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Speaker 2: You know.

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Speaker 1: I didn't respond because I didn't know how to. She

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Speaker 1: goes on, explaining that it would make things less troubling,

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Speaker 1: she loved it the second she saw it on me.

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Speaker 1: I don't know what possessed me to simply say no

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Speaker 1: the general vibe possessed you.

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Speaker 2: I would say, just you know how you were feeling

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Speaker 1: Yeah. I've received multiple calls from her, her fiance, and

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Speaker 1: He pleaded with me to let her borrow my wedding dress.

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Speaker 1: Just like when we were kids. That's not something that

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Speaker 2: And also, I'm sure if he wasn't lending a wedding

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Speaker 1: It's like acting like you're lending like a T shirt

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you always used to lend me clothes. Why can't

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Speaker 1: I tried to explain to him that my wedding dress

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Speaker 3: Yeah. Absolutely no.

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Speaker 2: You literally don't have to give any reasoning like the

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Speaker 1: You know.

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Speaker 2: If someone was like I want to borrow this sputter,

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Speaker 3: Why not? I just can't.

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Speaker 1: Why don't give me this sweater? It'll be in the

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Speaker 2: Yeah, dude, I finally got my sweater back from Dakota's trunk.

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Speaker 2: It's been there since end of July.

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Speaker 3: Goodness. Also, if op you decide, yeah, you know what,

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Speaker 3: I'm gonna give you the dress? Who knows if she's

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Speaker 3: Way that she got it.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, she's gonna gonna spill red wine on it and

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Speaker 1: Penny, I threw it into the fires of Mount Doom.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I kind of want to wear my mom's wedding dress,

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Speaker 2: but she gave it to me, so it's chill.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's that makes sense. So should I just let

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Speaker 1: No, what are they gonna escalate?

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Speaker 2: If you let her walk all over your boundaries, then

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Speaker 2: she's got to keep doing that with everything. What does

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Speaker 1: That is the next logical step, exactly. And we have

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Speaker 1: I'm calling Shenanigans on your stepsister's part. She probably had

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Speaker 1: never wanted to assume things, but this is where I'm

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Speaker 1: at too. I'll talk to her tomorrow and try to

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Speaker 1: figure things out. Op is voted not the a hole.

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Speaker 1: And there's an update. Oh man, I'll go see her now.

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Speaker 1: I'll update when I get home. There's another update right

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Speaker 2: I hope you said no, no, no, get your own dress, shoo.

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Speaker 3: Get your own husband, gets your own family. Yeah, because

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Speaker 3: didn't they just share toys at a young age?

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Speaker 2: I think so something like that.

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Speaker 1: You should just bring a picture of the.

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Speaker 2: Dress, yeah, you say, and slide it to her.

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Speaker 1: On the table. Say that's the closest thing you're gonna

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Speaker 1: get to my wedding dress.

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Speaker 2: Dam and you don't brank eye contact. That's the closest

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Speaker 2: you get to my wedding dress.

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Speaker 1: This is my final offer. You take this piece of

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Speaker 2: You never talk to me again.

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Speaker 1: It's update update number two. Well that happened. I arrived

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Speaker 1: at said coffee shop just in time. She took half

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Speaker 3: Oh dude, that's a power play.

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Speaker 2: The thirty was her stealing the dress.

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Speaker 1: What if she was trying to pull a B and E.

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Speaker 3: Maybe Yeah, That's what I'm saying.

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Speaker 1: She's trying to be and e the d ress, the

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Speaker 1: for stealing my duress. We've got to hit on her hands.

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Speaker 1: I talked as gently as I could with her, explaining

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Speaker 1: She went absolutely nuts, straight up bananas cuckoo for cocoa puffs.

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Speaker 1: She called me a selfish cow.

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Speaker 2: At that to my repertoire, selfish cow, You're a selvash cow.

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Speaker 1: Selfish cow woo. She called me a selfish cow, telling

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Speaker 2: From me, and that is a threat I will be

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Speaker 2: willing to take to the police.

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Speaker 1: That's when you need to pull a Brox Samson.

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Speaker 3: Is that the gout promotions? Eleven? No, dang it.

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Speaker 1: I simply left the coffee shop without saying another word.

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Speaker 1: And now I'm home. We've got a third update from

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Speaker 1: nine months later.

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Speaker 3: I knew she could make it.

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Speaker 2: I think not going to the wedding is probably a good.

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Speaker 1: This story has fully gestated.

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Speaker 2: Now. And how's she gonna have a wedding if she

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Speaker 1: Uh? Oh, maybe she'll go in a denim kilt.

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Speaker 3: Ooh no, not denim. It's so bad for your balls.

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Speaker 3: What have your had denim on your balls? Didn't think so?

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Speaker 3: But if you're wearing a kilt, still gonna rub on them?

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Speaker 1: Nine months later, this is some sort of update to

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Speaker 1: a previous post I made almost a year ago. But

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Speaker 1: some things have definitely happened. Per my last post, my

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Speaker 1: female twenty four stepsister female twenty seven got married last December.

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Speaker 1: She asked for my wedding dress, after not wanting to

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Speaker 1: my ground and I didn't go to her wedding. Fast

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Speaker 1: forward to last month, she and her husband have separated. Wow,

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Speaker 1: I got engaged after four months and it didn't work her.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it didn't work with this woman. Yeah, that's that's

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Speaker 2: not all that surprising. I gotta admit, what.

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Speaker 1: Were the betting odds on that?

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Speaker 2: Pretty low? Pretty low.

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Speaker 1: She says that they're only taking a break, sure, a

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Speaker 1: long break, a Ross break, or a Rachel break.

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Speaker 2: Mmmm, that's kind of the same thing. Jen Jennifer andsness.

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Speaker 1: The smart Water girl. Yeah, well, y'all talking about the

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Speaker 1: girl from the Smart Water I thought you meant.

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Speaker 3: Like time wise, Ross was like this, Yeah, a Ross

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Speaker 3: break is he's gonna go see the people.

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Speaker 1: Rachel how she got so famous? She's just been in

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Speaker 3: Yeah, okay, Deny.

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Speaker 1: So the double dates went really well up until the

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Speaker 2: Wait did she steal the wedding dress?

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Speaker 3: Told the wedding dress, I'm sorry. If you're rebuilding a relationship,

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Speaker 3: If you're rebuilding a relationship with someone and they recently

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Speaker 1: Right?

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Speaker 2: I thought she didn't get married. I thought they took

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Speaker 2: They didn't get married. Apologies, they did get what they

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Speaker 3: That's what Yeah, that's what I thought. Yeah, oh, because

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Speaker 3: go to this wedding, right, So what like if someone

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Speaker 1: That's what I'm confusing.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, what wedding dress did she wear?

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Speaker 3: How do you how are you now just letting let

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Speaker 2: Me would have noticed if the wedding dress wasn't in

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Speaker 3: That's what I think too, And she would have noticed

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Speaker 3: she probably got married like a few years ago. Are

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Speaker 1: Into I think you might be right. I think she

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Speaker 3: She did it, checked the pictures, let's check them.

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Speaker 1: It was in a garment bag and it was there

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Speaker 1: thinking she could do that.

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Speaker 2: Well, it didn't just disappear, now, did it.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, didn't grow legs and walk itself down the aisle,

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Speaker 3: By the way, imagine address with legs walking down the aisle? Oh,

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Speaker 1: Legs like a smiling friend's character.

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Speaker 3: Oh they're coming, you can hear them.

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Speaker 2: Someone played that Countoys that we played in Columbia.

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Speaker 1: You got a little more time, We got a little

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Speaker 1: her farage, her farage, I am no longer associating myself

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Speaker 2: No like, I think that you've given her too many,

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Speaker 2: you know, chances, And I think one first, try and

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Speaker 2: get try everything you can to get that dress back.

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Speaker 1: Anything you can hire, paramilitary, if you have.

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Speaker 2: To, private investigator, Pretend that you're her friend, and then

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Speaker 1: Pay somebody on fiver to be her best friend.

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Speaker 2: But once you get that dressed, or if you can

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Speaker 2: ever get that dressed, cut her off, got this platy off.

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Speaker 3: Low key fake whatever you got going on?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's what I'm saying.

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Speaker 3: And go to see her closet.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, fake the friendship.

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Speaker 3: Yes, say oops, there's a plumbing incident. You have to

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Speaker 3: in your closet for now.

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Speaker 1: Go online and you buy one court of coyote urine.

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Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, you don't have to go online and

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Speaker 3: get that and just go never mind, go on, and.

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Speaker 1: Then you go to her closet and you fill it

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Speaker 3: Agreed.

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Speaker 2: You think, all right, this is bad.

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Speaker 1: You can buy that coyote urine at a good price

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Speaker 1: where you could get it, and I think it's to

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Speaker 1: keep the coyotes away. Anyways, later my stepdad calls again.

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Speaker 1: He got my stepsister to tell the truth. She stole

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Speaker 1: He tells me to calm down and to resolve this

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Speaker 1: Do I call the police?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, let's resolve this like adults. I'm gonna, you know,

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Speaker 1: But I called her again and simply said to prepare

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Speaker 1: I was too livid to acknowledge it until my mom

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Speaker 1: but that dress means too much to me. I saved

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Speaker 1: did anything to it. Am I the a hole for

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Speaker 1: suing my sister? No? Sewert especially that's as soon I

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Speaker 1: stepped Well you should handle this like an adult, I go,

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Speaker 1: you know what, You're right, So I'll let the courts

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Speaker 1: get in because she's stolen a valuable piece of property.

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Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure it's a felony to steal over a

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Speaker 2: Thousands if she liked it that much.

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Speaker 1: So since you've stolen my personal property, I'm gonna go

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Speaker 2: It, Sewer, because she's a rat.

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Speaker 3: Yeah to get that, yep, I did.

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Speaker 1: Super rat commenter says, well downvoted. How does someone steal

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Speaker 1: a wedding dress and op doesn't notice? Fake? And you're

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Speaker 1: the ale?

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Speaker 2: Fake and you're the ale and you sucks and I

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Speaker 2: hate you?

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Speaker 1: And your breath is hot like attractive or no, you're

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Speaker 1: like it stinks, oh like temperature hot breath. Opie replies,

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Speaker 1: I wouldn't say my closet is too big, but it

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Speaker 1: I was looking through my shirts with my back against her.

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Speaker 1: Commenter says, not all wedding dresses are big and poofy.

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Speaker 1: My own wedding dress about the same size as a

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Speaker 1: pair of standard genes. I'm not saying that this post

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Speaker 1: it really wasn't puffy Without all the accessories, it would

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Speaker 1: be really a simple a line dress. But I loved it. Commenter,

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Speaker 1: why did she steal a wedding dress for a wedding

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Speaker 1: that happened eight months ago because she's unwell, she's crazy.

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Speaker 1: Opie replies, that's what I'm trying to figure out to

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Speaker 2: I assure yes, that's why. And she's already breaking up

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Speaker 2: with that guy, so she's gonna have another wedding in

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Speaker 2: the future.

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Speaker 1: Commenter, it's been days at least, Chances are the dress

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Speaker 1: has already been altered or ruined for the sister now anyway,

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Speaker 1: So just filing the report and getting the dress back

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Speaker 1: isn't enough. Opie says, I'm extremely scared and heartbroken of

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Speaker 1: Thank you everyone for the kind comments. I'll try talking

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Speaker 1: to the police a updates as soon as I can.

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Speaker 1: And that is it.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you suer, you go to the police, you file

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Speaker 2: a police support anything you can do, get this dress back.

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Speaker 2: I don't care what her dad has to say he's

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Speaker 2: complicit in this if he tries to solve it like

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Speaker 2: adults and then cut these people off. Once you get

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Speaker 2: back your dress.

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Speaker 1: What are we doing waiting around? Ah? Why are we waiting?

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Speaker 1: Why are we waiting until tomorrow? Go go over to

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Speaker 1: or right, you have one chance to give me the

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Speaker 1: I am leaving and calling the police and you are

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Speaker 2: And destruction of property if you touch it.

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Speaker 3: Oof. Also, there's no update. The last update was a

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Speaker 2: Well, good luck, Op, you got this.

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna say she got that dress back. Oh so

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Speaker 1: I hope she got that dress back. I got my

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Speaker 3: Yeah, my father had to keep me a secret because

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Speaker 1: Secret baby, secret baby.

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Speaker 3: Trigger warning mentions of abuse. I thirty three female, met

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Speaker 3: and chaotic. By the way, this comes from daddy issues

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Speaker 3: Tea and if you want to smit your own stories,

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Speaker 3: about it, where this one is submitted to it's one

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Speaker 3: of you guys submitted this with your daddy issues. Yes,

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Speaker 3: I'm Riley, I'm Dakota, and I'm Sophia, and we're here

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Speaker 3: to give you good advice goothfully, but we don't have

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Speaker 3: all the so if you have any comments about this,

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Speaker 3: I met Lily, it was tense, like how many tents.

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Speaker 3: The woman was cold, unyielding in her frown, and just

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Speaker 3: not very welcome. Unyielding in her.

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Speaker 1: Frown is though I've never heard that before. What an

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Speaker 1: amazing way to describe a little spoil sport.

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Speaker 3: Like that's a good description.

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Speaker 1: Unyielding in her frown. Oh is that right? Right, that's

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Speaker 1: Sounds like very like like medieval unyielding in her frown.

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Speaker 3: We all had dinner together and I tore my stepsisters.

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Speaker 3: I remember while one of my stepsisters were in conversation

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Speaker 1: That's a strong vibe to bring to the dinner function, didn't.

442
00:21:02,840 --> 00:21:05,159
Speaker 3: She continued to say how rude I was for not

443
00:21:05,280 --> 00:21:09,040
Speaker 3: addressing her daughter directly. I shrunk. Maybe she was right

444
00:21:09,160 --> 00:21:11,119
Speaker 3: to be upset, but I was only trying to have

445
00:21:11,160 --> 00:21:13,560
Speaker 3: a conversation with her since we weren't a part of

446
00:21:13,680 --> 00:21:15,719
Speaker 3: the current one and I wanted to get to know her.

447
00:21:16,000 --> 00:21:18,480
Speaker 3: My dad changed the subject and I stopped trying to

448
00:21:18,520 --> 00:21:21,960
Speaker 3: make conversation with Lily After that. Her eldest Jane twelve

449
00:21:22,080 --> 00:21:26,080
Speaker 3: female at the time, gave an apologetic smile, happy to

450
00:21:26,119 --> 00:21:29,399
Speaker 3: say our relationship then was great, but she stopped talking

451
00:21:29,520 --> 00:21:32,159
Speaker 3: to me and I haven't heard from her since because

452
00:21:32,600 --> 00:21:35,320
Speaker 3: she was afraid of her mother's reaction if she were

453
00:21:35,359 --> 00:21:37,960
Speaker 3: to contact me. Oh, Lily, what's her problem? Dude?

454
00:21:38,359 --> 00:21:41,000
Speaker 1: Sounds like it's Ope because Opie.

455
00:21:41,200 --> 00:21:44,639
Speaker 3: Also has a brother, but is a brother with Lily

456
00:21:44,720 --> 00:21:47,640
Speaker 3: and her dad, or Lily and her husband Opie's dad.

457
00:21:47,840 --> 00:21:50,119
Speaker 3: Because the only reason I think Lily has a problem

458
00:21:50,160 --> 00:21:55,040
Speaker 3: with Opie is because it reminds Lily that Opie's dad

459
00:21:55,400 --> 00:21:56,800
Speaker 3: has been with other women. I don't know.

460
00:21:56,880 --> 00:21:59,080
Speaker 1: It really could be so many different things. That's a

461
00:21:59,119 --> 00:21:59,600
Speaker 1: good guess.

462
00:22:00,000 --> 00:22:04,240
Speaker 3: So you got a theory that I agree with that theory. Yeah, yeah, man.

463
00:22:04,480 --> 00:22:06,520
Speaker 3: A year or so after meeting them all, my dad

464
00:22:06,640 --> 00:22:08,720
Speaker 3: offered me to come and stay with him and is

465
00:22:09,119 --> 00:22:12,280
Speaker 3: now fiance Lily across the country. He said, Lily felt

466
00:22:12,359 --> 00:22:13,840
Speaker 3: sorry for her reaction towards me.

467
00:22:14,359 --> 00:22:15,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's what he's saying.

468
00:22:15,960 --> 00:22:19,240
Speaker 3: But she saying, Matt, did she say directly to you?

469
00:22:19,760 --> 00:22:22,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, you gotta apologize to me, big dog.

470
00:22:23,080 --> 00:22:25,760
Speaker 3: And when he explained that I was coming from a

471
00:22:25,800 --> 00:22:28,119
Speaker 3: good place, just trying to have a conversation with her,

472
00:22:28,400 --> 00:22:30,800
Speaker 3: she understood and wanted to get to know me better.

473
00:22:31,000 --> 00:22:35,080
Speaker 1: Hey, stupid when someone just asked you something about I

474
00:22:35,119 --> 00:22:38,560
Speaker 1: don't know your daughter, like you can just answer the

475
00:22:38,800 --> 00:22:40,280
Speaker 1: of course, what did you think you were trying to do?

476
00:22:40,640 --> 00:22:43,359
Speaker 1: That's just such a nonsense, like, oh well, Once I

477
00:22:43,560 --> 00:22:48,080
Speaker 1: explained to her how conversations work, she realized that she

478
00:22:48,320 --> 00:22:48,720
Speaker 1: was wrong.

479
00:22:48,920 --> 00:22:51,919
Speaker 3: Hey, I was like a pumpkin patch you. How did

480
00:22:52,000 --> 00:22:53,639
Speaker 3: your girlfriend like the punkin patch you guys went to?

481
00:22:54,359 --> 00:22:56,800
Speaker 1: She she really liked it. She's not here right now, though,

482
00:22:56,880 --> 00:22:58,840
Speaker 1: so that doesn't I thought you're gonna be like she

483
00:22:59,280 --> 00:23:01,960
Speaker 1: should ask her? It was different because it was she

484
00:23:02,160 --> 00:23:04,080
Speaker 1: was like there, But I think it was I don't know,

485
00:23:04,520 --> 00:23:06,159
Speaker 1: I don't know. It just feels like a crazy thing

486
00:23:06,280 --> 00:23:06,640
Speaker 1: to get.

487
00:23:06,920 --> 00:23:08,480
Speaker 3: Hey, Dakota, how did so feel like that part of

488
00:23:08,520 --> 00:23:09,560
Speaker 3: you guys went to the other day?

489
00:23:10,040 --> 00:23:16,680
Speaker 1: She is right there. You can ask yourself, you monster. Uh.

490
00:23:17,160 --> 00:23:20,359
Speaker 3: I was elated and hopeful, like the naive girl I

491
00:23:20,480 --> 00:23:22,560
Speaker 3: once was. I took them up on their offer.

492
00:23:23,119 --> 00:23:23,359
Speaker 1: Ah.

493
00:23:23,720 --> 00:23:24,480
Speaker 2: It was hell.

494
00:23:25,119 --> 00:23:27,240
Speaker 1: It wasn't leaving nightmare. Ah.

495
00:23:27,640 --> 00:23:30,080
Speaker 3: You offered me a room, told me it was a

496
00:23:30,320 --> 00:23:33,200
Speaker 3: safe neighborhood and that I could stay for six months

497
00:23:33,240 --> 00:23:36,359
Speaker 3: to a year. The room was under a staircase and

498
00:23:36,680 --> 00:23:39,119
Speaker 3: was just big enough for my one twin bed and

499
00:23:39,280 --> 00:23:42,560
Speaker 3: nothing else. Harry Potter, I put that in.

500
00:23:42,600 --> 00:23:45,440
Speaker 1: There, Harry Potter, under the stairs.

501
00:23:45,720 --> 00:23:49,479
Speaker 3: Upon arriving, I discovered that wasn't true, and Lily seemed

502
00:23:49,680 --> 00:23:53,520
Speaker 3: anything but happy to see me, although she tried.

503
00:23:53,880 --> 00:23:54,280
Speaker 1: I guess.

504
00:23:54,920 --> 00:23:58,199
Speaker 3: They had me stay in their camper van while they

505
00:23:58,560 --> 00:24:02,160
Speaker 3: prepared the room in a city where two people were

506
00:24:02,359 --> 00:24:05,440
Speaker 3: on alive across the street from us during my first

507
00:24:05,520 --> 00:24:06,320
Speaker 3: few months there.

508
00:24:06,840 --> 00:24:10,240
Speaker 1: Fun right, Yeah, it's like urban camping.

509
00:24:12,440 --> 00:24:13,199
Speaker 2: Urban camping.

510
00:24:14,000 --> 00:24:17,399
Speaker 3: You live Detroit, I can say, Chicago. Uh, you got

511
00:24:17,520 --> 00:24:20,240
Speaker 3: a city, a city, you got a city that san

512
00:24:20,359 --> 00:24:24,720
Speaker 3: Bernardino that I hate, No, not hate, but like has

513
00:24:25,240 --> 00:24:26,560
Speaker 3: a criminal activity.

514
00:24:26,640 --> 00:24:28,920
Speaker 1: Someone would be summarily executed in front of you.

515
00:24:29,320 --> 00:24:30,840
Speaker 3: Antonia, what are you talking about?

516
00:24:31,280 --> 00:24:35,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, skid Row, No, probably not Sidrow.

517
00:24:35,680 --> 00:24:38,840
Speaker 3: She promised to get the bedroom ready, but that never happened.

518
00:24:39,119 --> 00:24:42,240
Speaker 3: Eventually was forced to stay in an empty, musty basement

519
00:24:42,400 --> 00:24:45,040
Speaker 3: after she sold the van. I'm going to list a

520
00:24:45,080 --> 00:24:47,600
Speaker 3: few crucial things here. She sold the.

521
00:24:47,760 --> 00:24:50,480
Speaker 1: Van while you were living in it. She sell it

522
00:24:50,560 --> 00:24:53,480
Speaker 1: with all your stuff in it. I'm sorry, I'm what's

523
00:24:53,560 --> 00:24:54,160
Speaker 1: going on here?

524
00:24:54,720 --> 00:24:58,240
Speaker 3: My dad had to keep our hangout secret. We couldn't

525
00:24:58,240 --> 00:25:01,280
Speaker 3: tell Lily we had a breakfast spot, couldn't tell her

526
00:25:01,400 --> 00:25:03,560
Speaker 3: where we hung out in the backyard while she was

527
00:25:03,600 --> 00:25:05,760
Speaker 3: at work either. My brother was sent off to the

528
00:25:05,840 --> 00:25:08,920
Speaker 3: military during this time, and Lily didn't allow my father

529
00:25:09,080 --> 00:25:12,280
Speaker 3: to wait with him for his plane. The tears in

530
00:25:12,359 --> 00:25:15,040
Speaker 3: my brother's eyes that he tried to hide still hurt

531
00:25:15,080 --> 00:25:18,040
Speaker 3: my heart to think about. And yes, I gave my

532
00:25:18,160 --> 00:25:21,800
Speaker 3: dad heck for it. Lily did truly agree for me

533
00:25:22,080 --> 00:25:24,960
Speaker 3: to live there, but upon my arrival and seeing my

534
00:25:25,040 --> 00:25:28,600
Speaker 3: relationship with my dad, decided she couldn't like me. This

535
00:25:28,800 --> 00:25:31,240
Speaker 3: was awkwardly overheard one night.

536
00:25:31,440 --> 00:25:33,840
Speaker 1: Why how do you stay with this woman? You little

537
00:25:34,040 --> 00:25:39,600
Speaker 1: jellyfish man? What are you doing to jellyfish man? Jellyfish man?

538
00:25:40,080 --> 00:25:42,920
Speaker 1: Why so weird jellyfish hands?

539
00:25:43,440 --> 00:25:47,359
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm very perplexed of what the beef is between

540
00:25:47,480 --> 00:25:48,400
Speaker 3: Lily and op.

541
00:25:48,640 --> 00:25:52,280
Speaker 1: Like like she's jealous that she has a connection with

542
00:25:52,480 --> 00:25:55,280
Speaker 1: her father. Oh yeah, which is crazy.

543
00:25:55,920 --> 00:25:58,399
Speaker 3: Lily and my dad fought over his relationship with me,

544
00:25:58,760 --> 00:26:01,240
Speaker 3: and my dad explained to me that the way she

545
00:26:01,480 --> 00:26:04,320
Speaker 3: sees the world is that people can't love multiple people.

546
00:26:04,600 --> 00:26:08,120
Speaker 2: That's a crazy that's crazy kid.

547
00:26:08,240 --> 00:26:10,280
Speaker 1: Wait, wait, wait, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on,

548
00:26:10,560 --> 00:26:10,959
Speaker 1: back up.

549
00:26:11,320 --> 00:26:13,720
Speaker 3: She said, the way that she sees the world is

550
00:26:13,760 --> 00:26:17,680
Speaker 3: that people can't love multiple people. So if she loves

551
00:26:17,760 --> 00:26:20,920
Speaker 3: one of her daughters that day, she doesn't love the other.

552
00:26:21,680 --> 00:26:22,440
Speaker 1: Psychopath.

553
00:26:22,640 --> 00:26:25,680
Speaker 3: How she viewed my father's love for me was that

554
00:26:26,200 --> 00:26:30,120
Speaker 3: one I was seen as another woman, not really his daughter,

555
00:26:30,480 --> 00:26:33,600
Speaker 3: because he didn't raise me. Two, if he loved me

556
00:26:33,880 --> 00:26:36,760
Speaker 3: or my brother, she's more lenient towards my brother, then

557
00:26:37,119 --> 00:26:39,840
Speaker 3: he didn't love her or her daughters.

558
00:26:40,160 --> 00:26:42,560
Speaker 1: Hey, can I send you back to the laboratory they

559
00:26:42,640 --> 00:26:44,800
Speaker 1: built you in? Can I send you back to the

560
00:26:44,960 --> 00:26:48,560
Speaker 1: manufacturer because they they put you together wrong? Do I

561
00:26:48,640 --> 00:26:52,320
Speaker 1: get a refund? Maybe, Like even a rebate would be great.

562
00:26:52,680 --> 00:26:54,680
Speaker 3: I don't think she came from a lab. I'm not

563
00:26:54,760 --> 00:26:56,680
Speaker 3: gonna say where I think she came from, because that

564
00:26:56,720 --> 00:26:57,359
Speaker 3: would be mean.

565
00:26:57,440 --> 00:26:59,880
Speaker 1: She came from a cloning tube. She was cloned.

566
00:27:00,359 --> 00:27:02,240
Speaker 3: Theoretically, we both have cloning tubes.

567
00:27:02,600 --> 00:27:03,200
Speaker 1: Let that one go.

568
00:27:03,520 --> 00:27:07,240
Speaker 3: Younger Meat felt so angry but also awful that had

569
00:27:07,320 --> 00:27:10,879
Speaker 3: cost so much tension between them by simply existing and

570
00:27:11,000 --> 00:27:15,399
Speaker 3: wanting a relationship with my dad, Like, that's even your fault, Opy, Like.

571
00:27:15,560 --> 00:27:18,879
Speaker 1: How do you honestly if I hear this from anyone

572
00:27:18,960 --> 00:27:22,119
Speaker 1: I'm with. First of all, if my partner doesn't let

573
00:27:22,200 --> 00:27:24,280
Speaker 1: me go to see my son off at the airport

574
00:27:24,280 --> 00:27:28,440
Speaker 1: when he's going to the military, we're done. But hearing

575
00:27:28,600 --> 00:27:32,440
Speaker 1: this new deep lore dropped about you, it's over. I'm

576
00:27:32,480 --> 00:27:34,920
Speaker 1: afraid of you now. First of all, I am afraid

577
00:27:34,960 --> 00:27:38,119
Speaker 1: of what you could do. And we're no longer together.

578
00:27:38,480 --> 00:27:39,720
Speaker 1: What is wrong with your father?

579
00:27:40,160 --> 00:27:40,360
Speaker 2: Hugh?

580
00:27:41,119 --> 00:27:44,160
Speaker 3: So I tried to mind this. I made a plan

581
00:27:44,359 --> 00:27:46,440
Speaker 3: with my dad where we went to the beach and

582
00:27:46,960 --> 00:27:49,880
Speaker 3: found a small bag of sand dollars. I was going

583
00:27:50,000 --> 00:27:53,200
Speaker 3: to buy roses, place them in a heart with the

584
00:27:53,280 --> 00:27:55,920
Speaker 3: sand dollars and lay them out and lay out a

585
00:27:56,040 --> 00:27:58,560
Speaker 3: lunch for my dad and her to have a date

586
00:27:58,640 --> 00:28:00,719
Speaker 3: on the beach. My dad was going to bring her

587
00:28:00,840 --> 00:28:04,720
Speaker 3: to surprise her, and I'd make myself scarce. Obviously, Lily

588
00:28:04,880 --> 00:28:08,040
Speaker 3: was apparently livid by the sheer idea of it. She

589
00:28:08,160 --> 00:28:10,800
Speaker 3: knew my dad was up to something and demanded in

590
00:28:10,920 --> 00:28:13,480
Speaker 3: a panic, for him to tell her what he was doing.

591
00:28:13,680 --> 00:28:16,240
Speaker 3: The reason she was so angry was because of her

592
00:28:16,320 --> 00:28:19,720
Speaker 3: spiritual belief towards sand dollars and apparently how if you

593
00:28:19,840 --> 00:28:22,960
Speaker 3: find them with someone, it means you have some deep

594
00:28:23,119 --> 00:28:26,080
Speaker 3: spiritual bond. Is this real? Is this real?

595
00:28:26,280 --> 00:28:29,639
Speaker 1: No? It may be so, I mean sure, but it's like,

596
00:28:30,240 --> 00:28:32,800
Speaker 1: imagine she just like buys a bunch of sand dollars

597
00:28:32,880 --> 00:28:35,840
Speaker 1: online and just starts like leaving them around like places

598
00:28:36,119 --> 00:28:39,600
Speaker 1: for the dad to like find. She's like, oh wow,

599
00:28:40,040 --> 00:28:43,680
Speaker 1: a giant, like a big like oil drum shows up.

600
00:28:44,000 --> 00:28:45,080
Speaker 1: She's like, what is this?

601
00:28:45,320 --> 00:28:45,800
Speaker 2: What could it be?

602
00:28:45,920 --> 00:28:48,080
Speaker 1: It's just full of sand dollars And she's like, Oh,

603
00:28:48,120 --> 00:28:50,120
Speaker 1: I guess that's a sign that we need to be

604
00:28:50,280 --> 00:28:52,600
Speaker 1: together forever, only us.

605
00:28:53,120 --> 00:28:55,680
Speaker 3: Oh, but it's quite the opposite to go to since

606
00:28:55,720 --> 00:28:57,920
Speaker 3: my dad and I had found a lot, and she

607
00:28:58,040 --> 00:29:01,560
Speaker 3: apparently had never found one with him. She felt I

608
00:29:01,680 --> 00:29:06,560
Speaker 3: had one opted on her and was stealing him. He's

609
00:29:06,680 --> 00:29:09,000
Speaker 3: her dad, He's her.

610
00:29:08,960 --> 00:29:13,000
Speaker 1: Dad, you idiot. Rest Mama says, this woman needs to

611
00:29:13,080 --> 00:29:14,760
Speaker 1: be sent to an institution.

612
00:29:15,680 --> 00:29:18,840
Speaker 3: So, yeah, that's some of our past. To explain it

613
00:29:18,920 --> 00:29:22,880
Speaker 3: all would make this post longer than it already is. Anyway,

614
00:29:23,080 --> 00:29:25,800
Speaker 3: I moved shortly after that event and came back home.

615
00:29:26,120 --> 00:29:29,280
Speaker 3: I didn't hear from my dad for years, except the

616
00:29:29,320 --> 00:29:32,520
Speaker 3: Happy Birthday almost every year. When my dad reconnected with

617
00:29:32,640 --> 00:29:36,680
Speaker 3: me at twenty eight years old, mind you, six years later,

618
00:29:37,200 --> 00:29:40,440
Speaker 3: I found out his disconnect was due to Lily giving

619
00:29:40,520 --> 00:29:45,120
Speaker 3: him an ultimatum her and the girls or his relationship

620
00:29:45,240 --> 00:29:46,840
Speaker 3: with me, that you know, she's.

621
00:29:46,800 --> 00:29:54,920
Speaker 1: So crazy, it's gotta go crazy. Oh man, how else

622
00:29:55,800 --> 00:29:59,680
Speaker 1: would you what other spell could be?

623
00:30:00,840 --> 00:30:05,520
Speaker 3: Yeah, she rich she have a big one. I'm perplexed.

624
00:30:05,640 --> 00:30:07,360
Speaker 1: I'm I'm stupefied.

625
00:30:07,840 --> 00:30:11,480
Speaker 3: He chose them. And yes, my dad is very apologetic

626
00:30:11,560 --> 00:30:14,800
Speaker 3: about this, and I've chosen to forgive him. Okay, that's

627
00:30:14,840 --> 00:30:16,640
Speaker 3: a big thing for you to do, Opie, that is

628
00:30:16,760 --> 00:30:19,719
Speaker 3: very brave of you. I also found out that they

629
00:30:19,840 --> 00:30:22,200
Speaker 3: moved to my state, which is where my dad also

630
00:30:22,320 --> 00:30:25,360
Speaker 3: grew up. My dad and I had a somewhat secret

631
00:30:25,480 --> 00:30:29,000
Speaker 3: relationship ever since. Mind you, Opie is thirty three now,

632
00:30:29,120 --> 00:30:30,760
Speaker 3: so this has been going on for about five years,

633
00:30:30,800 --> 00:30:34,959
Speaker 3: a seat relationship. She knows he sees me, but doesn't

634
00:30:35,000 --> 00:30:37,560
Speaker 3: want to know when she knows, we talk and reads

635
00:30:37,640 --> 00:30:41,000
Speaker 3: messages between us. My dad's freedom is very limited because

636
00:30:41,400 --> 00:30:44,840
Speaker 3: she always needs him to do something, so he's barely

637
00:30:44,960 --> 00:30:48,160
Speaker 3: allowed to leave the house or do anything on his

638
00:30:48,280 --> 00:30:48,880
Speaker 3: own terms.

639
00:30:49,160 --> 00:30:52,240
Speaker 1: Whoosh, whoosh. I would rather be single the rest of

640
00:30:52,360 --> 00:30:52,800
Speaker 1: my life.

641
00:30:53,400 --> 00:30:57,760
Speaker 3: Yeah, truly does he like doing these things? If he does,

642
00:30:57,800 --> 00:30:59,520
Speaker 3: then great, that's a cool relationship.

643
00:31:00,040 --> 00:31:03,320
Speaker 1: Dude, what the heck tell your dad to leave this woman?

644
00:31:03,600 --> 00:31:05,640
Speaker 1: And that the spicy robots.

645
00:31:05,280 --> 00:31:07,880
Speaker 3: Are just around the corner they're actually are.

646
00:31:08,040 --> 00:31:10,960
Speaker 1: That's gonna you can actually just a quick aside. That

647
00:31:11,200 --> 00:31:12,320
Speaker 1: will ruin the planet.

648
00:31:12,640 --> 00:31:15,840
Speaker 3: Yeah, that will ruin us. Yeah, there's you can buy

649
00:31:16,160 --> 00:31:20,120
Speaker 3: a Chinese or a Chinese robot wife for three grant.

650
00:31:19,920 --> 00:31:21,920
Speaker 1: And can you imagine what the Ais will do once

651
00:31:21,960 --> 00:31:24,000
Speaker 1: they've learned what we've been doing to the robots. It's

652
00:31:24,080 --> 00:31:27,040
Speaker 1: not gonna be is hey all, it's John og Host

653
00:31:27,080 --> 00:31:28,600
Speaker 1: here We're gonna get back to the stories, but here's

654
00:31:28,600 --> 00:31:30,400
Speaker 1: a quick three minute break from as for more sponsors.

655
00:31:31,080 --> 00:31:34,200
Speaker 3: He says it's gotten better and that she has been

656
00:31:34,360 --> 00:31:38,120
Speaker 3: going to therapy to try and to overcome her jealousy

657
00:31:38,280 --> 00:31:41,960
Speaker 3: of our relationship, but she still isn't ready years later,

658
00:31:42,360 --> 00:31:45,840
Speaker 3: and I'm now thirty three, mind you, they haven't seen

659
00:31:45,880 --> 00:31:49,120
Speaker 3: each other in eleven years. I'm at a point where

660
00:31:49,360 --> 00:31:52,040
Speaker 3: I'm thinking of giving my dad a talking to. My

661
00:31:52,160 --> 00:31:54,920
Speaker 3: partner and I are planning on getting married and having children,

662
00:31:55,160 --> 00:31:57,960
Speaker 3: and I will not tolerate his relationship with them being

663
00:31:58,080 --> 00:32:00,920
Speaker 3: kept secret like it's something to be shamed of. I

664
00:32:01,040 --> 00:32:04,240
Speaker 3: can't even fathom explaining to my kids why their papa

665
00:32:04,520 --> 00:32:07,320
Speaker 3: can't see them on holidays he's not allowed to contact

666
00:32:07,400 --> 00:32:09,720
Speaker 3: me or see me on holidays, or why they can't

667
00:32:09,760 --> 00:32:12,240
Speaker 3: stay the night there with him like their friends can

668
00:32:12,720 --> 00:32:15,800
Speaker 3: with their grandparents. I also don't want my kids to

669
00:32:15,920 --> 00:32:18,880
Speaker 3: be there if she's going to be an absolute witch

670
00:32:19,280 --> 00:32:22,200
Speaker 3: to them simply because of their mind, or because of

671
00:32:22,320 --> 00:32:25,200
Speaker 3: her wild belief that my father can't love more than

672
00:32:25,320 --> 00:32:27,320
Speaker 3: one person at a time. I want them to have

673
00:32:27,440 --> 00:32:31,080
Speaker 3: a good relationship with him, to go camping, bike rides,

674
00:32:31,120 --> 00:32:33,960
Speaker 3: when they're big enough, here's funny war stories and go

675
00:32:34,160 --> 00:32:36,400
Speaker 3: fishing with him. I want them to have my dad

676
00:32:36,440 --> 00:32:39,240
Speaker 3: in their lives, especially since their relationship with my mother

677
00:32:39,640 --> 00:32:43,280
Speaker 3: be very limited. But I worry about Lily's control on

678
00:32:43,360 --> 00:32:47,240
Speaker 3: my dad. Lily has proven herself to be emotionally unstable

679
00:32:47,440 --> 00:32:50,280
Speaker 3: over the years, and even now, I don't feel like

680
00:32:50,480 --> 00:32:54,120
Speaker 3: she's a safe person to be around my future children

681
00:32:54,520 --> 00:32:58,640
Speaker 3: or positive influence on my father. She already stands between

682
00:32:58,720 --> 00:33:01,880
Speaker 3: our hangouts. She's found found out about through reading his

683
00:33:02,120 --> 00:33:06,120
Speaker 3: text and has been sick or commanded him to work

684
00:33:06,200 --> 00:33:08,640
Speaker 3: on the house instead of having lunch with me. We've

685
00:33:08,680 --> 00:33:11,760
Speaker 3: had to keep our father daughter camping trip a secret,

686
00:33:12,160 --> 00:33:14,280
Speaker 3: and I don't want my kids to have to tiptoe

687
00:33:14,400 --> 00:33:17,239
Speaker 3: like I do in order to have a relationship with him.

688
00:33:17,440 --> 00:33:19,400
Speaker 3: I know how much it hurts me, and I don't

689
00:33:19,440 --> 00:33:22,880
Speaker 3: want them to experience this hurt as well. DA Code

690
00:33:22,920 --> 00:33:25,440
Speaker 3: of Sophia, what are you going to talk to this

691
00:33:25,560 --> 00:33:26,760
Speaker 3: dad about in this talk thing?

692
00:33:27,280 --> 00:33:29,560
Speaker 1: Nothing but turn around, give him an ultimatum and say

693
00:33:29,560 --> 00:33:33,840
Speaker 1: you either pick me and your future grandchild or them. Wow,

694
00:33:34,200 --> 00:33:38,480
Speaker 1: that's it, because forget this guy, dude, this pathetic Here's

695
00:33:38,600 --> 00:33:42,560
Speaker 1: daughter he's already chosen this woman over his son and

696
00:33:42,720 --> 00:33:47,800
Speaker 1: you and probably anything else. And you know she's if

697
00:33:47,880 --> 00:33:51,720
Speaker 1: you don't leave after you hear that insane explanation about love,

698
00:33:52,200 --> 00:33:54,360
Speaker 1: then that's like crazy, Like, yeah, you can, she can

699
00:33:54,400 --> 00:33:56,120
Speaker 1: grow and become a better person. She doesn't have to

700
00:33:56,160 --> 00:33:58,960
Speaker 1: do it while she's with you. Yeah, so I just say,

701
00:33:59,080 --> 00:34:01,160
Speaker 1: do that you give him the ultimatum you say, since

702
00:34:01,200 --> 00:34:03,160
Speaker 1: you're such a fan of these, I figured i'd give

703
00:34:03,160 --> 00:34:06,200
Speaker 1: you one myself. Yeah. You either pick us or you

704
00:34:06,320 --> 00:34:09,120
Speaker 1: pick her, and then we have nothing to do with

705
00:34:09,239 --> 00:34:12,279
Speaker 1: you ever. Again. Don't call me, don't write me a letter,

706
00:34:12,760 --> 00:34:15,719
Speaker 1: don't tell me seven years from now how much you

707
00:34:15,800 --> 00:34:18,680
Speaker 1: regret it. Live with it forever, and make your decision.

708
00:34:18,920 --> 00:34:21,279
Speaker 1: That's that's my call, because I'm over this guy.

709
00:34:22,200 --> 00:34:25,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, I just think that he's kind of betrayed your

710
00:34:25,760 --> 00:34:26,480
Speaker 2: trust a lot.

711
00:34:28,000 --> 00:34:33,080
Speaker 3: Yeah. Yeah, definitely ultimatum here. It may be easier for

712
00:34:33,160 --> 00:34:37,399
Speaker 3: your kids to not have a relationship with your dad

713
00:34:37,960 --> 00:34:42,080
Speaker 3: at all. Yeah, but we have a little bit left here,

714
00:34:42,080 --> 00:34:43,759
Speaker 3: and you can also use the number PET.

715
00:34:44,000 --> 00:34:45,520
Speaker 2: I know, but I like this better.

716
00:34:45,840 --> 00:34:47,719
Speaker 3: I want to tell my dad he needs to put

717
00:34:48,120 --> 00:34:50,640
Speaker 3: his foot down with Lily and get his freedom back.

718
00:34:50,760 --> 00:34:52,920
Speaker 3: I'd care less if Lily has anything to do with

719
00:34:53,040 --> 00:34:55,840
Speaker 3: my children, but I sure Zach won't put up with

720
00:34:55,960 --> 00:34:59,960
Speaker 3: her standing between them and their relationship with their grandpa. However,

721
00:35:00,520 --> 00:35:02,960
Speaker 3: I'm worried. I don't want to cause drama for my

722
00:35:03,080 --> 00:35:05,120
Speaker 3: dad and I guess in the long run, I'm a

723
00:35:05,200 --> 00:35:07,520
Speaker 3: a loss what to say or how to handle the

724
00:35:07,560 --> 00:35:11,759
Speaker 3: situation properly. Any advice is appreciated. No, I have tried

725
00:35:11,800 --> 00:35:14,160
Speaker 3: to speak with Lily. I've offered a hand to her

726
00:35:14,480 --> 00:35:16,560
Speaker 3: to meet me for lunch or just meet up and

727
00:35:16,680 --> 00:35:20,080
Speaker 3: talk in her own space or anywhere she's comfortable. She

728
00:35:20,280 --> 00:35:22,480
Speaker 3: denies it every time. I've been wrote a letter to

729
00:35:22,520 --> 00:35:25,239
Speaker 3: her expressing my desire to start over with her, as

730
00:35:25,280 --> 00:35:28,960
Speaker 3: I'm unable to talk to her myself, so all conversations

731
00:35:29,040 --> 00:35:32,320
Speaker 3: go through my dad. Apparently she has appreciated the sentiment

732
00:35:32,400 --> 00:35:35,160
Speaker 3: and believes him on us girl, but she isn't ready

733
00:35:35,239 --> 00:35:38,040
Speaker 3: to meet me again because of her jealousy issues as

734
00:35:38,120 --> 00:35:40,960
Speaker 3: she calls them. She's not working through it, and.

735
00:35:41,120 --> 00:35:45,239
Speaker 1: That was from ours. I bred it. Yeah, yeah, First

736
00:35:45,239 --> 00:35:47,040
Speaker 1: of all, I thought the kids weren't born yet. Kids

737
00:35:47,040 --> 00:35:51,600
Speaker 1: already born. Yeah, ultimatum should happened yesterday. Yeah, say, I'm

738
00:35:51,640 --> 00:35:53,239
Speaker 1: not giving you a chance to I don't know.

739
00:35:54,239 --> 00:35:54,600
Speaker 3: I would.

740
00:35:54,600 --> 00:35:56,840
Speaker 1: First of all, I would repeat that whole thing about

741
00:35:57,000 --> 00:36:00,640
Speaker 1: how your lily's sense of love is literally the most skewed,

742
00:36:00,880 --> 00:36:04,840
Speaker 1: nonsense thing I've ever heard. Yeah, and then be like,

743
00:36:04,960 --> 00:36:07,880
Speaker 1: if you want to decide to stay in a toxic

744
00:36:08,000 --> 00:36:11,120
Speaker 1: relationship with this woman who's going to other your children

745
00:36:11,160 --> 00:36:15,800
Speaker 1: and grandchildren because she is so cripplingly jealous that she

746
00:36:16,000 --> 00:36:20,520
Speaker 1: can't even accept that another person exists that you care about,

747
00:36:20,920 --> 00:36:23,040
Speaker 1: that's fine. Stay out of my life, stay at my

748
00:36:23,120 --> 00:36:25,480
Speaker 1: grandkid's life. I'll just tell them that.

749
00:36:26,280 --> 00:36:26,600
Speaker 3: I don't know.

750
00:36:27,200 --> 00:36:30,440
Speaker 1: The story will change over time. Right now, it's he

751
00:36:30,560 --> 00:36:33,359
Speaker 1: can't come over because he's sick, and then older, I'll

752
00:36:33,360 --> 00:36:36,600
Speaker 1: be like, he's sick with a terrible wife, and let

753
00:36:36,680 --> 00:36:40,160
Speaker 1: him be a cautionary tale of what happens when you

754
00:36:40,360 --> 00:36:44,439
Speaker 1: let a toxic person dictate your entire life.

755
00:36:44,760 --> 00:36:49,520
Speaker 3: The thing I'm really scared for is Opie's dad's mental health,

756
00:36:49,760 --> 00:36:52,960
Speaker 3: because I believe that people have multiple purposes, you know,

757
00:36:53,520 --> 00:36:56,879
Speaker 3: like my personals human being is to you know, give

758
00:36:56,920 --> 00:36:59,880
Speaker 3: people smiles, be a good brother, be a good boyfriend,

759
00:37:00,200 --> 00:37:03,160
Speaker 3: all these different things. If her belief is that you

760
00:37:03,200 --> 00:37:05,880
Speaker 3: can only love one person at a time. And I

761
00:37:05,920 --> 00:37:09,359
Speaker 3: feel like and Opie's dad seems to not ever leave

762
00:37:09,400 --> 00:37:11,640
Speaker 3: the house. The only purpose that he has that ever

763
00:37:11,760 --> 00:37:14,400
Speaker 3: live is for her and to worship her. Thus, I

764
00:37:14,520 --> 00:37:18,920
Speaker 3: believe his mental health is definitely declining because all he can,

765
00:37:19,040 --> 00:37:22,319
Speaker 3: ever can and is supposed to focus on is her.

766
00:37:22,880 --> 00:37:25,040
Speaker 3: I don't I feel like he might be depressed. I

767
00:37:25,040 --> 00:37:27,560
Speaker 3: feel like he's in a really bad headspace and needs

768
00:37:27,640 --> 00:37:31,000
Speaker 3: to separate from this that is not healthy. And then two,

769
00:37:31,560 --> 00:37:33,920
Speaker 3: it's crazy that Lily looks at you as I'm a

770
00:37:34,000 --> 00:37:37,040
Speaker 3: fair partner, baby, a fair baby. If that's not the

771
00:37:37,120 --> 00:37:39,840
Speaker 3: case at all, I think that's really it is because

772
00:37:40,120 --> 00:37:42,480
Speaker 3: Obie's dad have a relationship with another woman and then

773
00:37:42,560 --> 00:37:44,840
Speaker 3: met Lily, and she's just upset that she isn't the

774
00:37:44,920 --> 00:37:45,799
Speaker 3: only woman in his life.

775
00:37:46,280 --> 00:37:49,000
Speaker 1: Yeah. I think Lily just wants it to be to her.

776
00:37:49,160 --> 00:37:52,800
Speaker 1: She's the only person in his life other than the

777
00:37:53,000 --> 00:37:56,319
Speaker 1: extension of herself, which is her children. So those are

778
00:37:56,320 --> 00:38:02,120
Speaker 1: the only people who are greenlit to exist in his life.

779
00:38:02,200 --> 00:38:06,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, and everything she says is hypocritical. No talk to

780
00:38:06,080 --> 00:38:08,560
Speaker 3: her directly, not me. And you can't even talk to

781
00:38:08,640 --> 00:38:11,440
Speaker 3: Ope who someone you have a problem with directly. No,

782
00:38:11,760 --> 00:38:14,400
Speaker 3: you can't love you can't love your daughter and me

783
00:38:14,480 --> 00:38:15,920
Speaker 3: and my kids at the same time. Oh, I thought

784
00:38:15,920 --> 00:38:20,320
Speaker 3: you can only love one percent. She's just weird, but bananas, it's.

785
00:38:20,640 --> 00:38:23,200
Speaker 1: I I can only love one daughter per day.

786
00:38:23,680 --> 00:38:25,000
Speaker 3: Wild wild.

787
00:38:25,320 --> 00:38:28,839
Speaker 1: Oh Hi, there's the door. I'm just gonna go check

788
00:38:28,880 --> 00:38:31,719
Speaker 1: out this door really quick. I'm gonna check out this side.

789
00:38:31,840 --> 00:38:33,839
Speaker 1: Oh it opens, Okay, I'm gonna close it and check

790
00:38:33,880 --> 00:38:37,959
Speaker 1: out the other side. And then you sprint boom boomprint away.

791
00:38:38,480 --> 00:38:39,880
Speaker 3: Guys, let's see that story.

792
00:38:40,480 --> 00:38:43,320
Speaker 1: My sister wanted to reconcile as if she hadn't ignored

793
00:38:43,440 --> 00:38:44,680
Speaker 1: me for months.

794
00:38:44,840 --> 00:38:47,160
Speaker 3: Maybe you should contact me a few months ago then.

795
00:38:47,200 --> 00:38:49,440
Speaker 1: And uh, there's a trigger warning for emotional abuse. And

796
00:38:49,960 --> 00:38:53,080
Speaker 1: this comes directly from the r slash Okay storytime. So, Brennette,

797
00:38:53,320 --> 00:38:56,800
Speaker 1: my sister twenty seven and I twenty female, haven't spoken

798
00:38:56,880 --> 00:38:59,400
Speaker 1: since March of this year. For background, I had a

799
00:38:59,440 --> 00:39:02,759
Speaker 1: baby this year. You're on March eighteenth. Congratulations. I know

800
00:39:02,880 --> 00:39:05,600
Speaker 1: I'm really young, and I wasn't really trying to get pregnant,

801
00:39:05,640 --> 00:39:08,480
Speaker 1: but it wasn't like I was preventing it either. By

802
00:39:08,480 --> 00:39:10,759
Speaker 1: the way, this comes from user level upstairs fifty four

803
00:39:10,760 --> 00:39:12,200
Speaker 1: to fifty two, and if you want to submit your

804
00:39:12,200 --> 00:39:14,400
Speaker 1: own stories, go to the r slash Okay storytime subriddit

805
00:39:14,400 --> 00:39:17,720
Speaker 1: it where this story was submitted. I'm Dakota, I'm Riley,

806
00:39:17,960 --> 00:39:21,239
Speaker 1: I'm Sophia, and we are here to give you good

807
00:39:21,239 --> 00:39:23,520
Speaker 1: advice goofily, but we don't have all the answers. We

808
00:39:23,600 --> 00:39:25,160
Speaker 1: only know what we would do, so if you would

809
00:39:25,200 --> 00:39:27,319
Speaker 1: do something different, let us know in the comments. As

810
00:39:27,400 --> 00:39:30,440
Speaker 1: Op says, my boyfriend and I are really happy with

811
00:39:30,560 --> 00:39:35,480
Speaker 1: our baby girl. Yes, oh yeah, babies. She is the

812
00:39:35,680 --> 00:39:38,279
Speaker 1: joy of my life. I really can't imagine my life

813
00:39:38,280 --> 00:39:41,320
Speaker 1: without her smile, her eyes watching me every morning, and

814
00:39:41,400 --> 00:39:45,120
Speaker 1: of course her constant crying. It makes me so happy

815
00:39:45,200 --> 00:39:47,200
Speaker 1: being a mom. I heard that becoming a young mom

816
00:39:47,320 --> 00:39:49,200
Speaker 1: ruins your life, but for me it was different. She

817
00:39:49,360 --> 00:39:52,040
Speaker 1: saved my life when it was in a really dark time,

818
00:39:52,520 --> 00:39:55,360
Speaker 1: and I love her. Did I mention I adore my baby.

819
00:39:57,440 --> 00:39:59,800
Speaker 1: My sister also became a young mom and had my

820
00:40:00,120 --> 00:40:02,480
Speaker 1: niece when she was eighteen. She didn't have a good

821
00:40:02,520 --> 00:40:04,480
Speaker 1: relationship with the father and they broke up when the

822
00:40:04,520 --> 00:40:07,440
Speaker 1: baby wasn't even six months old, and he hasn't been

823
00:40:07,560 --> 00:40:11,400
Speaker 1: involved since. My niece is now seven years old. With

824
00:40:11,640 --> 00:40:15,000
Speaker 1: the help of my parents, she graduated and became a nurse.

825
00:40:15,400 --> 00:40:17,600
Speaker 1: It was really tough on her, but it also improved

826
00:40:17,640 --> 00:40:20,399
Speaker 1: her as a person. She used to smoke and also

827
00:40:20,600 --> 00:40:23,600
Speaker 1: hide bad things in the house without my parents knowing.

828
00:40:23,800 --> 00:40:26,840
Speaker 1: She was a constant runaway and had very bad friendships.

829
00:40:27,080 --> 00:40:29,839
Speaker 1: After she got pregnant, she got better and has been

830
00:40:29,880 --> 00:40:31,480
Speaker 1: a really good person and mother.

831
00:40:31,920 --> 00:40:34,839
Speaker 3: I will say that happens to my mom. She changed

832
00:40:34,840 --> 00:40:36,759
Speaker 3: her life. Yeah, whenever she got pregnant with me.

833
00:40:36,880 --> 00:40:39,120
Speaker 1: It really it's I feel like it's it's only like

834
00:40:39,239 --> 00:40:42,399
Speaker 1: one of two. You either get better or you get worse.

835
00:40:43,160 --> 00:40:45,680
Speaker 3: You know, can't stay the same, can't say the same.

836
00:40:45,719 --> 00:40:48,880
Speaker 1: Everything's different now, But you're either gonna cause if you

837
00:40:48,960 --> 00:40:51,279
Speaker 1: do stay the same, that's just getting worse. Once you

838
00:40:51,360 --> 00:40:54,040
Speaker 1: have a kid, got something gotta change. My other siblings

839
00:40:54,080 --> 00:40:56,600
Speaker 1: and I used to bully her for her past behavior.

840
00:40:56,719 --> 00:40:58,719
Speaker 1: Don't get me wrong, we didn't bully her in a

841
00:40:58,840 --> 00:41:01,160
Speaker 1: bad way. If you have siblings, you know what I'm

842
00:41:01,200 --> 00:41:05,200
Speaker 1: talking about, Sophia Riley, Yeah, bullying in the good way.

843
00:41:05,480 --> 00:41:08,360
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, you always give him a hard time to

844
00:41:08,440 --> 00:41:12,319
Speaker 3: make sure they don't forget who's the head honcho, who's

845
00:41:12,360 --> 00:41:14,800
Speaker 3: the big brother, who's a big dog. Yeah? You know

846
00:41:14,880 --> 00:41:17,520
Speaker 3: what actually, real quick, some bullying that happened. You know

847
00:41:17,560 --> 00:41:19,759
Speaker 3: what my brother did today? He called me and he's like, hey,

848
00:41:19,840 --> 00:41:21,799
Speaker 3: what are you doing for my bachelor party? You're doing?

849
00:41:22,320 --> 00:41:23,920
Speaker 3: Is Joe gonna have to do it? I'm like, Bro,

850
00:41:24,080 --> 00:41:25,799
Speaker 3: you haven't even asked me to be your best man.

851
00:41:26,360 --> 00:41:28,680
Speaker 3: He's like, oh, yeah, well, we've been talking about it

852
00:41:28,719 --> 00:41:30,360
Speaker 3: for years. But I'm like, if someone's gonna ask you

853
00:41:30,440 --> 00:41:31,680
Speaker 3: to be the best man, to be like, hey, man,

854
00:41:31,800 --> 00:41:33,120
Speaker 3: would you like to be my best man? I'd be

855
00:41:33,160 --> 00:41:35,040
Speaker 3: like heck yeah. He's like, well, forget it, forget that

856
00:41:35,120 --> 00:41:37,120
Speaker 3: I said that, Hey, Riley, you would be my best man.

857
00:41:37,160 --> 00:41:39,520
Speaker 3: I'm like, no, I'm not. Come on, give me like

858
00:41:39,520 --> 00:41:41,440
Speaker 3: an axe or something. Make it. Give me a present,

859
00:41:41,520 --> 00:41:43,400
Speaker 3: give me an axe, I don't care. Give me a

860
00:41:43,480 --> 00:41:47,920
Speaker 3: gi yes, I will forever give him heck for this,

861
00:41:48,080 --> 00:41:49,800
Speaker 3: because he's expected me to be his best man, not

862
00:41:49,880 --> 00:41:51,800
Speaker 3: even ask me. I don't even give me the honor.

863
00:41:51,920 --> 00:41:54,040
Speaker 1: Thing, Loki. I kind of see his perspective though.

864
00:41:54,480 --> 00:41:55,920
Speaker 3: Of course, of course, well, if.

865
00:41:55,840 --> 00:41:58,319
Speaker 1: You've been talking about it for years, yeah, but it's like, yeah,

866
00:41:58,560 --> 00:42:00,120
Speaker 1: but if you do want the moment of like the

867
00:42:00,200 --> 00:42:02,160
Speaker 1: ribbon being cut, and it's like you're my best man.

868
00:42:02,360 --> 00:42:05,239
Speaker 3: Yeah exactly. And he also has new friends. Now, he

869
00:42:05,280 --> 00:42:06,920
Speaker 3: has new people that he's acquainted with. He might not

870
00:42:07,000 --> 00:42:08,600
Speaker 3: want me to be his best man. And I'm not

871
00:42:08,680 --> 00:42:10,320
Speaker 3: going to assume that I'm his best man.

872
00:42:10,360 --> 00:42:11,320
Speaker 1: Right because that'd be awkward.

873
00:42:11,560 --> 00:42:14,640
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, yeah, So he's gonna have to make it

874
00:42:14,719 --> 00:42:16,360
Speaker 3: up to me. And that's the book you do.

875
00:42:16,520 --> 00:42:18,799
Speaker 1: That is an example of get him an axe tape. Yes,

876
00:42:18,920 --> 00:42:20,200
Speaker 1: a man wants an axe.

877
00:42:20,160 --> 00:42:22,920
Speaker 3: Need an x. It has to be under three inches

878
00:42:22,960 --> 00:42:24,319
Speaker 3: of the blade so I can come on the plane

879
00:42:24,360 --> 00:42:24,520
Speaker 3: with me.

880
00:42:25,000 --> 00:42:26,080
Speaker 2: Whoa whoa.

881
00:42:28,400 --> 00:42:31,160
Speaker 3: Axe? Just joking anyway, Sorry, sorry, officer.

882
00:42:31,239 --> 00:42:34,480
Speaker 1: This axe goes where I go. It's for everyone's safety. Okay.

883
00:42:34,719 --> 00:42:37,240
Speaker 1: We would say that she better pray her daughter doesn't

884
00:42:37,280 --> 00:42:40,040
Speaker 1: do the things that she did. Now on to the present.

885
00:42:40,200 --> 00:42:42,400
Speaker 1: I don't live close to my family, and when I

886
00:42:42,480 --> 00:42:45,120
Speaker 1: knew I was pregnant, I hid the pregnancy from them.

887
00:42:45,480 --> 00:42:48,120
Speaker 1: My two older sisters have children, and when they told

888
00:42:48,239 --> 00:42:51,040
Speaker 1: my mom they were pregnant, my mom did not react

889
00:42:51,239 --> 00:42:53,600
Speaker 1: very well. Let's just say she likes to use the

890
00:42:53,719 --> 00:42:56,759
Speaker 1: silent treatment very much. I didn't want any kind of

891
00:42:56,840 --> 00:42:59,440
Speaker 1: bad feelings or stress during my pregnancy, as it could

892
00:42:59,520 --> 00:43:02,160
Speaker 1: cause something to my baby, so I kept it a secret.

893
00:43:02,400 --> 00:43:05,040
Speaker 1: Sound smart. Fast forward to the birth of my baby.

894
00:43:05,400 --> 00:43:07,960
Speaker 1: It was a very difficult berth. My baby was in

895
00:43:08,080 --> 00:43:12,319
Speaker 1: a sunnyside position and I spent twenty hours with contractions

896
00:43:12,400 --> 00:43:14,960
Speaker 1: and five hours pushing. It didn't help that she was

897
00:43:15,080 --> 00:43:19,440
Speaker 1: a very big baby, nine pounds. What is a sunny

898
00:43:19,600 --> 00:43:20,400
Speaker 1: side position?

899
00:43:20,760 --> 00:43:21,759
Speaker 3: You know what a sunny side up?

900
00:43:22,239 --> 00:43:23,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm thinking like an egg.

901
00:43:24,000 --> 00:43:26,000
Speaker 3: I don't know. As a woman doctor, that's my theory.

902
00:43:26,160 --> 00:43:27,839
Speaker 1: My your baby looked like an egg.

903
00:43:28,239 --> 00:43:30,279
Speaker 3: Sovia, do you know what a sunnyside shit?

904
00:43:30,680 --> 00:43:34,680
Speaker 1: Say the sentence sunnyside position, baby, No, say the sentence.

905
00:43:35,280 --> 00:43:37,040
Speaker 3: Want, Dakota, my baby.

906
00:43:36,880 --> 00:43:41,239
Speaker 1: Was in a sunnyside position, like probably facing up. You

907
00:43:41,360 --> 00:43:44,040
Speaker 1: can look. You have the computer to look it up. No,

908
00:43:44,320 --> 00:43:47,160
Speaker 1: you just wanted that's I wanted the fact.

909
00:43:47,680 --> 00:43:50,120
Speaker 3: You just wanted to do that, bag Sophiel Bot.

910
00:43:51,320 --> 00:43:55,320
Speaker 1: Dude, just staring blankly back at me, like, read it again.

911
00:43:55,520 --> 00:43:57,880
Speaker 3: I'm thinking it's like feet first.

912
00:43:58,560 --> 00:44:01,480
Speaker 2: When the baby is head down and faces but faces

913
00:44:01,560 --> 00:44:02,200
Speaker 2: the mother's back.

914
00:44:02,600 --> 00:44:08,040
Speaker 1: Mm. Okay, so head down facing the back. So it's

915
00:44:08,160 --> 00:44:09,400
Speaker 1: like torpedo style.

916
00:44:09,600 --> 00:44:12,080
Speaker 3: Wait, it's supposed to be like a football when the

917
00:44:12,120 --> 00:44:12,759
Speaker 3: baby comes out.

918
00:44:13,200 --> 00:44:14,479
Speaker 1: Shouldn't he come out head first?

919
00:44:14,760 --> 00:44:18,120
Speaker 3: Yeah, this is the mother's belly. I'm like this, wait

920
00:44:18,200 --> 00:44:19,480
Speaker 3: can we see you? We can't see you.

921
00:44:20,040 --> 00:44:23,080
Speaker 2: I'm like this, but like I'm like doing a handstand.

922
00:44:23,600 --> 00:44:25,480
Speaker 3: Oh oh wait no no sorry, wait no, I'm doing

923
00:44:25,560 --> 00:44:27,600
Speaker 3: this feet first. She's out there other way.

924
00:44:28,120 --> 00:44:30,160
Speaker 1: Okay, So it was kind of like, this is the

925
00:44:30,200 --> 00:44:31,719
Speaker 1: mother's belly, kind of like butt first.

926
00:44:32,080 --> 00:44:34,440
Speaker 2: No, no, no, no, I'm doing a handstand. I just

927
00:44:34,520 --> 00:44:35,560
Speaker 2: I can't do one right now.

928
00:44:35,880 --> 00:44:39,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, Tia says, butt first. It said head first, belly.

929
00:44:39,480 --> 00:44:42,680
Speaker 2: Yep, you know what. Yeah, it's it's said head first.

930
00:44:43,040 --> 00:44:44,160
Speaker 2: I just can't do a handstand.

931
00:44:44,239 --> 00:44:47,040
Speaker 1: Guys op, congratulations on giving birth to an egg.

932
00:44:47,440 --> 00:44:49,839
Speaker 3: Yeah that's huge. We've never seen that before.

933
00:44:50,200 --> 00:44:53,480
Speaker 1: A nine pound egg. Gotta be an ostrich. But once

934
00:44:53,560 --> 00:44:56,440
Speaker 1: she was delivered, my life changed forever, and it's been

935
00:44:56,600 --> 00:45:00,279
Speaker 1: incredible ever since. My plan was that once the baby

936
00:45:00,360 --> 00:45:02,080
Speaker 1: was here and I recovered from the birth, I was

937
00:45:02,160 --> 00:45:04,439
Speaker 1: going to tell everyone about her. Some of my friends

938
00:45:04,520 --> 00:45:06,680
Speaker 1: told me that I was an a hole, but I

939
00:45:06,880 --> 00:45:09,799
Speaker 1: didn't want any kind of stress for my baby. I'm

940
00:45:09,840 --> 00:45:13,120
Speaker 1: a very sensitive person and the pregnancy hormones were no help.

941
00:45:13,360 --> 00:45:15,479
Speaker 1: So once my baby was one month old, I called

942
00:45:15,520 --> 00:45:19,280
Speaker 1: my mom first and told her. What happened next was ugly.

943
00:45:19,960 --> 00:45:22,800
Speaker 1: Why why baby's already born? You get mad? It's not

944
00:45:22,880 --> 00:45:23,720
Speaker 1: gonna do anything.

945
00:45:24,080 --> 00:45:26,560
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, this is gonna make Opee feel guilty, and

946
00:45:26,640 --> 00:45:28,360
Speaker 3: that's what we want. We want to feed off that,

947
00:45:28,480 --> 00:45:30,279
Speaker 3: and that's how we feed off of people to go

948
00:45:30,400 --> 00:45:31,480
Speaker 3: to we make them feel bad.

949
00:45:31,680 --> 00:45:34,000
Speaker 1: This is just a perfect example of why she kept

950
00:45:34,040 --> 00:45:35,480
Speaker 1: his secret. Ye I was smart.

951
00:45:35,560 --> 00:45:37,000
Speaker 3: It was a smart move. I would be heard of

952
00:45:37,080 --> 00:45:38,720
Speaker 3: my kid didn't tell me they were pregnant.

953
00:45:39,120 --> 00:45:40,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, but what if they were just like the only

954
00:45:41,280 --> 00:45:43,800
Speaker 1: I didn't tell anybody. I didn't tell anybody because I

955
00:45:43,840 --> 00:45:46,160
Speaker 1: didn't want the baby to be stressed out in any way,

956
00:45:46,200 --> 00:45:47,560
Speaker 1: because I stressed out very easily.

957
00:45:47,920 --> 00:45:50,880
Speaker 3: Well, I would like to be a point of contact

958
00:45:50,960 --> 00:45:53,480
Speaker 3: that is no stress for them, and it would make

959
00:45:53,560 --> 00:45:55,120
Speaker 3: me upset and feel like I felled as a father.

960
00:45:55,440 --> 00:45:57,600
Speaker 1: Dang, and I'd be like, I also want ten million dollars,

961
00:45:57,640 --> 00:45:58,839
Speaker 1: but we don't get all the things we want.

962
00:45:59,000 --> 00:46:01,400
Speaker 3: Some things we have to earn well, I was hoping

963
00:46:01,480 --> 00:46:03,920
Speaker 3: that in this scenario. I always cooked her pancakes for

964
00:46:03,960 --> 00:46:06,400
Speaker 3: breakfast and she always You're like, okay, But.

965
00:46:06,520 --> 00:46:10,520
Speaker 1: In this scenario, Riley, you're good dad. Yeah, no, okay, Yeah.

966
00:46:10,800 --> 00:46:13,240
Speaker 1: If I was your daughter, I'd tell you I was pregnant.

967
00:46:13,320 --> 00:46:13,600
Speaker 2: Riley.

968
00:46:13,880 --> 00:46:14,919
Speaker 1: We fine, We got there.

969
00:46:15,239 --> 00:46:17,960
Speaker 3: I love you, Charlotte. Is that your baby name? I'm

970
00:46:18,040 --> 00:46:18,640
Speaker 3: not feeling you?

971
00:46:19,400 --> 00:46:21,799
Speaker 1: Okay, Hey is John og host. We don't get back

972
00:46:21,800 --> 00:46:23,360
Speaker 1: to the stories, but a quick free minute break of

973
00:46:23,360 --> 00:46:26,960
Speaker 1: ads from our sponsors. She said some very nasty things,

974
00:46:27,120 --> 00:46:29,960
Speaker 1: very hurtful, and basically she said she was disappointed in

975
00:46:30,040 --> 00:46:32,600
Speaker 1: me for doing what my sisters did. I understood her.

976
00:46:33,000 --> 00:46:36,080
Speaker 1: It wasn't something I was planning, but it happened. Also,

977
00:46:36,239 --> 00:46:38,160
Speaker 1: it didn't help that she is the type of mom

978
00:46:38,200 --> 00:46:41,600
Speaker 1: who projects her dreams onto her children, more specifically onto me,

979
00:46:41,880 --> 00:46:45,040
Speaker 1: because I'm the one who had more potential. I'm not

980
00:46:45,160 --> 00:46:47,120
Speaker 1: saying she did a horrible job as a mom, but

981
00:46:47,280 --> 00:46:49,800
Speaker 1: she really didn't do a good one either. When she

982
00:46:49,960 --> 00:46:52,080
Speaker 1: compared me with a bunch of her friend's kids for

983
00:46:52,239 --> 00:46:54,920
Speaker 1: not being good enough, it's a messed up thing to

984
00:46:55,040 --> 00:46:57,320
Speaker 1: do to your child, which I am working through to

985
00:46:57,520 --> 00:47:00,640
Speaker 1: not repeat the same mistake. I know how it feels

986
00:47:00,719 --> 00:47:02,839
Speaker 1: being good enough for the person you love the most

987
00:47:02,880 --> 00:47:05,239
Speaker 1: as a kid, So being the child who couldn't make

988
00:47:05,320 --> 00:47:09,040
Speaker 1: her wishes true broke her and she became distant. When

989
00:47:09,120 --> 00:47:11,520
Speaker 1: reading all the things she said about me, I realized

990
00:47:11,560 --> 00:47:13,680
Speaker 1: it was a good idea to keep my pregnancy a

991
00:47:13,760 --> 00:47:19,480
Speaker 1: secret because it really affected me. Exactly. So you're vindicated immediately.

992
00:47:19,960 --> 00:47:23,200
Speaker 1: You you made the right call for your child.

993
00:47:23,760 --> 00:47:27,600
Speaker 3: This is the one ray because your m mother is

994
00:47:27,640 --> 00:47:30,840
Speaker 3: a c C that she's an A And I asked,

995
00:47:31,680 --> 00:47:36,800
Speaker 3: MCA your mother ce your.

996
00:47:36,719 --> 00:47:40,960
Speaker 1: Mother question, mink certified a hole. That's what YMCA stands

997
00:47:41,000 --> 00:47:41,279
Speaker 1: for now.

998
00:47:41,719 --> 00:47:43,439
Speaker 3: Also, I would probably come to play.

999
00:47:43,480 --> 00:47:43,719
Speaker 1: Hmm.

1000
00:47:44,080 --> 00:47:46,720
Speaker 3: If I were not to tell her that I was pregnant,

1001
00:47:47,239 --> 00:47:50,520
Speaker 3: then maybe I should not tell her to come over

1002
00:47:50,640 --> 00:47:51,480
Speaker 3: to see my child.

1003
00:47:51,880 --> 00:47:53,839
Speaker 1: Well, I think that would kind of you know, put

1004
00:47:53,880 --> 00:47:55,960
Speaker 1: the icing on the cake. It's like, clearly I was

1005
00:47:56,040 --> 00:47:58,280
Speaker 1: never gonna just like keep you on the outside forever,

1006
00:47:58,440 --> 00:48:00,200
Speaker 1: or that the baby's a month old. Now it's the

1007
00:48:00,239 --> 00:48:03,320
Speaker 1: perfect time for everyone to know and come see the baby.

1008
00:48:03,520 --> 00:48:05,840
Speaker 3: It's like, you know, I will say, not letting anyone

1009
00:48:05,960 --> 00:48:08,360
Speaker 3: know is kind of wild, But you have your reasons,

1010
00:48:08,400 --> 00:48:10,879
Speaker 3: and you already did it, so people, Yeah, people probably

1011
00:48:10,920 --> 00:48:13,040
Speaker 3: need to need time to process that, because I would

1012
00:48:13,040 --> 00:48:13,640
Speaker 3: be upset.

1013
00:48:13,880 --> 00:48:16,320
Speaker 1: Flood the baby full of free radicals from all that stress.

1014
00:48:16,360 --> 00:48:18,520
Speaker 1: You'd be feeling you did the right thing. So I

1015
00:48:18,640 --> 00:48:20,640
Speaker 1: realized it was a good idea to keep my pregnancy

1016
00:48:20,680 --> 00:48:23,760
Speaker 1: a secret because it really affected me. I was sad, angry,

1017
00:48:24,040 --> 00:48:27,520
Speaker 1: and depressed. I understand that her projecting her dreams onto

1018
00:48:27,560 --> 00:48:29,320
Speaker 1: me for so long took a toll on me and

1019
00:48:29,480 --> 00:48:32,040
Speaker 1: was hurting me more than I thought. But my partner

1020
00:48:32,120 --> 00:48:34,440
Speaker 1: has been amazing during this time, and it's helped me

1021
00:48:34,520 --> 00:48:36,920
Speaker 1: realize that it's not my fault and I shouldn't be

1022
00:48:37,040 --> 00:48:40,479
Speaker 1: sad because I didn't become what she wanted me to become.

1023
00:48:40,800 --> 00:48:43,680
Speaker 1: One week later, she called me and was giving me

1024
00:48:43,760 --> 00:48:46,240
Speaker 1: advice on how to wash, feed and keep my baby

1025
00:48:46,280 --> 00:48:49,080
Speaker 1: alive since I was a young dumb girl who doesn't

1026
00:48:49,120 --> 00:48:51,240
Speaker 1: know anything about taking care of a baby.

1027
00:48:51,680 --> 00:48:55,560
Speaker 3: Exhibit A of why we should be no contact with

1028
00:48:55,719 --> 00:48:56,040
Speaker 3: your mother.

1029
00:48:56,360 --> 00:48:58,440
Speaker 1: Joan of arc was fifteen. Did you call her a

1030
00:48:58,520 --> 00:49:02,360
Speaker 1: young dumb baby? She led armies and built an arm

1031
00:49:02,400 --> 00:49:04,720
Speaker 1: She probably had schizophrenia, but she also led.

1032
00:49:04,719 --> 00:49:07,440
Speaker 3: Armies and Sofia I saw that you started climbing recently.

1033
00:49:07,760 --> 00:49:10,759
Speaker 3: Did you know that you need chalk shoes and you

1034
00:49:10,880 --> 00:49:13,520
Speaker 3: need to actually work on building your upper strengths so

1035
00:49:13,640 --> 00:49:15,920
Speaker 3: you can you can rock climb. I don't think you've

1036
00:49:15,960 --> 00:49:18,040
Speaker 3: been doing that because you're like basically a twenty two

1037
00:49:18,080 --> 00:49:20,560
Speaker 3: year old stupid girl, and stupid girls don't do that.

1038
00:49:20,640 --> 00:49:22,440
Speaker 3: So yeah, I think you need to start do some

1039
00:49:22,520 --> 00:49:22,920
Speaker 3: push up.

1040
00:49:22,960 --> 00:49:27,520
Speaker 1: Stupid girl too, Stupid girls stuff go stupid got sports girl? Why?

1041
00:49:28,200 --> 00:49:30,600
Speaker 1: Uh wow? You see that that was boxing, not climbing.

1042
00:49:30,920 --> 00:49:31,320
Speaker 3: You did this?

1043
00:49:31,480 --> 00:49:31,800
Speaker 2: You did it?

1044
00:49:32,040 --> 00:49:35,279
Speaker 1: Did Oh dude, that's some technique right there. There was

1045
00:49:35,320 --> 00:49:37,560
Speaker 1: some forms you know that's called the speedbag. And what

1046
00:49:37,640 --> 00:49:39,080
Speaker 1: you do is did you take both your hands and

1047
00:49:39,160 --> 00:49:43,400
Speaker 1: you excuse me? A man is talking? Also, Okay, this

1048
00:49:43,520 --> 00:49:44,399
Speaker 1: is all a bit for people.

1049
00:49:44,560 --> 00:49:45,040
Speaker 3: This is little bit.

1050
00:49:45,120 --> 00:49:45,520
Speaker 1: This all bit.

1051
00:49:45,960 --> 00:49:51,200
Speaker 3: My least favorite thing is seeing parents tell other parents

1052
00:49:51,440 --> 00:49:54,360
Speaker 3: how to parent their child. Let them do it on

1053
00:49:54,440 --> 00:49:57,120
Speaker 3: their own. Every parent, this is the way I look

1054
00:49:57,160 --> 00:50:00,959
Speaker 3: at it, natural selection. Every parent is building an arrow,

1055
00:50:01,280 --> 00:50:03,960
Speaker 3: and their arrow is their child. And the way that

1056
00:50:04,040 --> 00:50:06,759
Speaker 3: they decide to build their arrow, that we will see

1057
00:50:06,800 --> 00:50:09,080
Speaker 3: how well this child does whenever they go out into

1058
00:50:09,120 --> 00:50:10,759
Speaker 3: the world and they shoot it out, We'll see how

1059
00:50:10,840 --> 00:50:13,000
Speaker 3: far it goes, how good it travels, and where it

1060
00:50:13,080 --> 00:50:14,759
Speaker 3: hits the mark. Don't mess with it. Let them do

1061
00:50:14,840 --> 00:50:16,760
Speaker 3: it their own. Now, if you see that this child

1062
00:50:17,120 --> 00:50:20,920
Speaker 3: is in immediate danger, intervene. Other than that, let them

1063
00:50:20,960 --> 00:50:22,880
Speaker 3: at it. Don't tell them stuff. Gosh.

1064
00:50:23,239 --> 00:50:26,799
Speaker 1: I like Clark Kent's dad's explanation from the New Superman movie,

1065
00:50:27,080 --> 00:50:29,920
Speaker 1: where he was like, our job is to give you

1066
00:50:30,160 --> 00:50:33,240
Speaker 1: tools to go out there and live your own life,

1067
00:50:33,600 --> 00:50:35,640
Speaker 1: and our job is to let you make a fool

1068
00:50:35,680 --> 00:50:38,560
Speaker 1: of yourself and to fall down and for us to

1069
00:50:38,680 --> 00:50:41,200
Speaker 1: be there to help you get back up and use

1070
00:50:41,360 --> 00:50:44,440
Speaker 1: the tools that we gave you, not to do it ourselves,

1071
00:50:44,600 --> 00:50:47,400
Speaker 1: or something like that. I don't know exactly if he

1072
00:50:47,560 --> 00:50:51,480
Speaker 1: is back there crying because that was so beautiful. I

1073
00:50:51,600 --> 00:50:53,520
Speaker 1: told her that I wasn't going to talk to her

1074
00:50:53,560 --> 00:50:55,000
Speaker 1: if she was going to try to tell me how

1075
00:50:55,040 --> 00:50:57,919
Speaker 1: to parent my baby, as if she was the perfect mom.

1076
00:50:58,400 --> 00:51:00,719
Speaker 1: She didn't apologize for the thing she and just kept

1077
00:51:00,800 --> 00:51:02,759
Speaker 1: calling me to know how the baby was and how

1078
00:51:02,880 --> 00:51:07,040
Speaker 1: I was. After some time, we started talking like normal again. Also,

1079
00:51:07,280 --> 00:51:10,160
Speaker 1: my family's the kind of family that doesn't apologize when

1080
00:51:10,239 --> 00:51:13,520
Speaker 1: someone hurts another. They don't show any affection. We just

1081
00:51:13,680 --> 00:51:15,919
Speaker 1: kind of assume we love each other without showing any

1082
00:51:16,040 --> 00:51:20,839
Speaker 1: kind of love Italian or Irish which one just kidding, guys,

1083
00:51:21,520 --> 00:51:25,160
Speaker 1: this's wild. When something happened, we just let time pass

1084
00:51:25,320 --> 00:51:28,279
Speaker 1: and act like it didn't happen. To the point where

1085
00:51:28,320 --> 00:51:30,920
Speaker 1: I feel very awkward when my parents say that they

1086
00:51:31,040 --> 00:51:34,080
Speaker 1: love me, because I really don't remember those words in

1087
00:51:34,280 --> 00:51:37,120
Speaker 1: my childhood. Now that I'm older, it's very hard for

1088
00:51:37,200 --> 00:51:40,040
Speaker 1: me to show and express my feelings to the people

1089
00:51:40,160 --> 00:51:42,360
Speaker 1: I love. I had a couple of fights over this

1090
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Speaker 1: with my partner, and we're working to break through my trauma.

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Speaker 1: Now everyone knows about my baby. My mom loves her,

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Speaker 1: and my younger brother didn't really care that I had

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00:51:52,880 --> 00:51:55,840
Speaker 1: become a mom. He just loves her. My second older

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00:51:55,960 --> 00:51:59,120
Speaker 1: sister was the only one who didn't criticize me, because,

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00:51:59,239 --> 00:52:02,080
Speaker 1: in her word, we all made the same decision, so

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00:52:02,360 --> 00:52:05,160
Speaker 1: I'm no one to judge. She's referring to all of

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00:52:05,280 --> 00:52:08,239
Speaker 1: us becoming young moms, and she has been good with

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00:52:08,480 --> 00:52:10,880
Speaker 1: me and my baby. The only thing she said that

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00:52:11,040 --> 00:52:14,719
Speaker 1: bothers me is that I kept the pregnancy secret from her.

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Speaker 1: She thought I trusted her better to know and she

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00:52:17,920 --> 00:52:21,200
Speaker 1: never would have judged me. Deep down, I do regret

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Speaker 1: doing it to her. My dad and I don't talk

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00:52:24,360 --> 00:52:27,479
Speaker 1: to each other, which is another story. My older sister,

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Speaker 1: the one I'm talking about in this story, was the

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Speaker 1: only one who didn't talk to me since she knew

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Speaker 1: about my baby. It's been six months since I told

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Speaker 1: my family, and she was the only one who ignored me.

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00:52:39,400 --> 00:52:42,279
Speaker 1: Mind you, we were very close and talked on the

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00:52:42,400 --> 00:52:45,200
Speaker 1: phone daily. I tried to talk to her when my

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00:52:45,280 --> 00:52:47,680
Speaker 1: baby was three months old, and she did respond, but

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00:52:48,239 --> 00:52:51,000
Speaker 1: only to tell me what a mistake I made. She

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Speaker 1: thought I knew better not to get pregnant, and basically

1113
00:52:53,480 --> 00:52:55,680
Speaker 1: said the same thing my mom told me that she

1114
00:52:55,880 --> 00:53:00,520
Speaker 1: was disappointed in me. The audacity. This woman really was

1115
00:53:00,600 --> 00:53:03,120
Speaker 1: trying to make me feel like crap just because I

1116
00:53:03,200 --> 00:53:06,720
Speaker 1: got pregnant young when she was doing really bad stuff.

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00:53:06,800 --> 00:53:09,439
Speaker 1: I can't even say, but let's just say it could

1118
00:53:09,480 --> 00:53:12,399
Speaker 1: put you in jail if they got you doing it. Yeah,

1119
00:53:12,719 --> 00:53:18,680
Speaker 1: it's just hunting unlicensed. You're unlicensed well digging, no well hunting,

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Speaker 1: whale hunting. Oh, I thought it. I thought you were saying,

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00:53:22,400 --> 00:53:25,000
Speaker 1: like digging a well without a permit? Do you need

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00:53:25,040 --> 00:53:26,319
Speaker 1: to get back to that. You need to get back

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00:53:26,360 --> 00:53:28,640
Speaker 1: to the home. Well, I do get that water back

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00:53:28,680 --> 00:53:28,880
Speaker 1: in you.

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Speaker 3: I'm not feeling as strong as I used to.

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Speaker 1: And look again, this is just another perfect I mean, like, yeah,

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00:53:33,320 --> 00:53:34,680
Speaker 1: you were talking to her every day and you didn't

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Speaker 1: tell her by the pregnancy, good because she would have

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00:53:36,840 --> 00:53:39,279
Speaker 1: done exactly what you were trying to avoid just based

1130
00:53:39,320 --> 00:53:41,799
Speaker 1: on her reaction right here. She would have immediately been

1131
00:53:42,160 --> 00:53:45,400
Speaker 1: up your butt about what a mistake you made and

1132
00:53:45,560 --> 00:53:47,319
Speaker 1: how she thought you were better than this and now

1133
00:53:47,400 --> 00:53:49,080
Speaker 1: she's disappointed and how it's going to ruin your life

1134
00:53:49,080 --> 00:53:50,719
Speaker 1: and blah blah blah blah blah blah blah, and it

1135
00:53:50,719 --> 00:53:52,880
Speaker 1: would have stressed you out and it could have complicated

1136
00:53:52,920 --> 00:53:56,640
Speaker 1: the pregnancy. So you again are nothing but vindicated here

1137
00:53:56,760 --> 00:53:59,320
Speaker 1: in making the right call. And I think I know

1138
00:53:59,400 --> 00:54:01,359
Speaker 1: you're saying, like I do regret not telling my other

1139
00:54:01,440 --> 00:54:04,279
Speaker 1: sister as well, but it's like I think, if you're

1140
00:54:04,320 --> 00:54:06,359
Speaker 1: not gonna tell your mom and your sister or whatever,

1141
00:54:06,400 --> 00:54:09,320
Speaker 1: if you're already excluding certain family members, you gotta go

1142
00:54:09,800 --> 00:54:12,160
Speaker 1: all the way. You gotta make it full blown secret,

1143
00:54:12,160 --> 00:54:15,160
Speaker 1: because then it's like, hey, no one was excluded unequally

1144
00:54:15,320 --> 00:54:19,000
Speaker 1: like everyone had the same secret, and it was again

1145
00:54:19,400 --> 00:54:22,080
Speaker 1: not for any other reason than to keep my baby healthy.

1146
00:54:22,280 --> 00:54:24,840
Speaker 1: So if you guys are gonna get take that personally,

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00:54:25,239 --> 00:54:28,520
Speaker 1: that's just selfish. I actually being like I wanted to

1148
00:54:28,600 --> 00:54:31,719
Speaker 1: tell you guys, but I couldn't risk my baby's health,

1149
00:54:31,960 --> 00:54:34,839
Speaker 1: so I felt like it could possibly make it complicated.

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00:54:35,000 --> 00:54:36,480
Speaker 1: And if you don't care about that, then you really

1151
00:54:36,480 --> 00:54:38,279
Speaker 1: don't care about the baby. This is just about you

1152
00:54:39,040 --> 00:54:40,160
Speaker 1: and wanting to feel important.

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00:54:40,239 --> 00:54:43,320
Speaker 3: So yeah, these people who are selfish, and if I

1154
00:54:43,360 --> 00:54:46,080
Speaker 3: were you, Opie, I'd be looking for I don't know,

1155
00:54:46,840 --> 00:54:49,840
Speaker 3: it might be smart to go low contact, and it

1156
00:54:49,840 --> 00:54:51,960
Speaker 3: seems like people are already going no contact with you

1157
00:54:52,640 --> 00:54:55,320
Speaker 3: and seeing how you can serve a stable life for

1158
00:54:55,400 --> 00:54:59,600
Speaker 3: your child coming along and understanding like, Okay, I know

1159
00:54:59,680 --> 00:55:01,480
Speaker 3: I'm my to see my mom for holidays. When we're

1160
00:55:01,480 --> 00:55:05,000
Speaker 3: gonna see for holidays, just thinking out these thoughts, it's

1161
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Speaker 3: gonna be hard. It's gonna be really hard. I know

1162
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Speaker 3: you got it, and I know your love for your

1163
00:55:09,280 --> 00:55:12,080
Speaker 3: child definitely knock it out. But like it's just family

1164
00:55:12,160 --> 00:55:13,680
Speaker 3: just doesn't look like they're in your corner right now.

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00:55:14,000 --> 00:55:16,479
Speaker 1: Yeah, pick the ones that are like that. It sounds

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00:55:16,520 --> 00:55:18,759
Speaker 1: like you got one sister at least, yeah, and your brother,

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Speaker 1: I guess. Mm hmmm uh. Find the people who are

1168
00:55:21,760 --> 00:55:24,560
Speaker 1: in your corner and forget everyone else for real. So

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Speaker 1: now this older sister is married and has a baby

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Speaker 1: with her husband, and her life is very peaceful. I'm

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Speaker 1: happy for her, I really am. But what I'm trying

1172
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Speaker 1: to say is that she's treating me like I did

1173
00:55:35,560 --> 00:55:38,320
Speaker 1: the most horrible thing, when in reality, she did worse.

1174
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Speaker 1: My other sisters twenty five told me not to talk

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Speaker 1: to her until she reaches out because she is a

1176
00:55:43,560 --> 00:55:46,640
Speaker 1: judgmental witch, her words, not mine, and to not talk

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00:55:46,719 --> 00:55:49,800
Speaker 1: to her until she apologized for ignoring me. Now we

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Speaker 1: do have a little bit more story left. I feel

1179
00:55:51,239 --> 00:55:53,040
Speaker 1: like we just kind of wrapped our thoughts up in

1180
00:55:53,080 --> 00:55:55,520
Speaker 1: a bow right before we got here. But we have

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Speaker 1: any final things to say, my beautiful people.

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Speaker 3: Nope, you still look words out of my mouth.

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00:56:01,040 --> 00:56:04,280
Speaker 1: All right, let's finish this story. So now she texted

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Speaker 1: me this morning asking me for some pictures of my baby,

1185
00:56:06,960 --> 00:56:10,440
Speaker 1: with no apologies, not even a hello. I hate that

1186
00:56:10,520 --> 00:56:12,600
Speaker 1: my family does this all the time, treating each other

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00:56:12,920 --> 00:56:15,719
Speaker 1: very badly and then just letting some time pass and

1188
00:56:15,840 --> 00:56:18,480
Speaker 1: speaking like nothing happened. I let that slide with my

1189
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Speaker 1: mom because deep down I wanted to talk to her again,

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Speaker 1: but obviously with boundaries, and it has worked, surprisingly But

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00:56:25,280 --> 00:56:28,200
Speaker 1: with my sister, I love her and I really want

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00:56:28,239 --> 00:56:29,160
Speaker 1: to have her in my life.

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Speaker 3: But now it's just not my life.

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00:56:31,440 --> 00:56:34,480
Speaker 1: It's my baby's life too, and I'll be danged if

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00:56:34,520 --> 00:56:37,480
Speaker 1: I let them treat her like they treated me. I

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Speaker 1: don't know what to do. I haven't responded to her text.

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00:56:40,680 --> 00:56:42,920
Speaker 1: Do I ignore her or do I ask her for

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Speaker 1: an apology? Any advice would be appreciated. That is the

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Speaker 1: end of that story. I think you could nudge. I

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00:56:49,239 --> 00:56:51,640
Speaker 1: think you could send something like that doesn't sound I

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00:56:51,719 --> 00:56:54,280
Speaker 1: didn't see an apology anywhere in that message.

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00:56:54,520 --> 00:56:57,120
Speaker 3: Also, do whatever's going to keep your peace in your

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00:56:57,160 --> 00:57:00,279
Speaker 3: baby's piece, because that's what you preserved for the preyer see.

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00:57:00,320 --> 00:57:02,520
Speaker 3: And I think that's also very important for a child

1205
00:57:02,600 --> 00:57:05,359
Speaker 3: at a young age, that piece of stability, and if

1206
00:57:05,400 --> 00:57:08,680
Speaker 3: you know she's gonna be rocking that up, shuffling that up,

1207
00:57:08,880 --> 00:57:10,239
Speaker 3: might not be smart to include her.

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00:57:10,800 --> 00:57:13,120
Speaker 1: I think maybe maybe you can make this like an

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00:57:13,320 --> 00:57:16,040
Speaker 1: entire group text. It's like the whole family just being

1210
00:57:16,120 --> 00:57:17,680
Speaker 1: like Hey, I just want to put it out there.

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00:57:17,720 --> 00:57:21,400
Speaker 1: Our communication style is horrific, all right. We cannot keep

1212
00:57:21,760 --> 00:57:25,520
Speaker 1: having these blow up arguments where we cross several lines

1213
00:57:25,920 --> 00:57:28,800
Speaker 1: and then just wait a couple weeks and then act

1214
00:57:28,920 --> 00:57:31,120
Speaker 1: like it never happened. I can't do that.

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00:57:31,440 --> 00:57:32,480
Speaker 3: Yeah, I know one.

1216
00:57:32,600 --> 00:57:35,720
Speaker 1: None of us should be doing that, and I refuse

1217
00:57:35,840 --> 00:57:38,600
Speaker 1: to let my child grow up in an environment where

1218
00:57:38,720 --> 00:57:41,720
Speaker 1: that is normal in their family. So we either need

1219
00:57:41,840 --> 00:57:45,320
Speaker 1: to address this as a unit or I'm only going

1220
00:57:45,440 --> 00:57:47,920
Speaker 1: to maintain a connection with those who are open to

1221
00:57:48,200 --> 00:57:50,840
Speaker 1: changing the way we communicate, which sounds like it'll be

1222
00:57:50,880 --> 00:57:53,960
Speaker 1: your brother, maybe your sister, but now your older sister

1223
00:57:54,400 --> 00:57:54,800
Speaker 1: or your mother.

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Speaker 3: But guys, that's the end of that episode. Thanks for joining.

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Speaker 3: We got another one coming out tomorrow, like we always do.

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