WEBVTT - Second Cup: Make time for you a habit

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio. Good Morning,

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<v Speaker 1>This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. Today's

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<v Speaker 1>tip is to make time for you a habit. Even

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<v Speaker 1>if you are not entirely sure what hobbies or passions

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<v Speaker 1>you'd like to pursue, carving out time for yourself can

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<v Speaker 1>help you start to figure this out. In my most

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<v Speaker 1>recent book, Tranquility by Tuesday, I talk about my nine

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<v Speaker 1>favorite time management rules that can help people calm the

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<v Speaker 1>chaos and make time for what matters. One of those rules,

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<v Speaker 1>rule number seven, to be exact, is to take one

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<v Speaker 1>night for you. I challenge busy people to spend a

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<v Speaker 1>few hours a week on something that is not work

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<v Speaker 1>and is not caring for family. It is just for you.

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<v Speaker 1>Doing so can make life feel more sustainable and joyful. Ideally,

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<v Speaker 1>this night for you involves a commitment to something you

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<v Speaker 1>find energizing. I sing an a choir on Thursday nights.

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<v Speaker 1>Some people have a regular tennis game with a partner,

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<v Speaker 1>or play on a softball team, or attend a painting class,

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<v Speaker 1>or volunteer at a food bank every Wednesday after work.

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<v Speaker 1>These are all great ideas, but sometimes people tell me

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<v Speaker 1>that they are not sure what they would do with

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<v Speaker 1>their night off. They don't have a particular passion or

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<v Speaker 1>hobby that seems to lend itself to this, or if

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<v Speaker 1>they do, there might not be great opportunities for that

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<v Speaker 1>thing in their community. I do think that in this

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<v Speaker 1>wide world, and especially we consider all the virtual options

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<v Speaker 1>out there, people can come up with something. But even

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<v Speaker 1>if you are not sure what you would do, I'd

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<v Speaker 1>strongly suggest committing to take a few hours a week

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<v Speaker 1>to explore your interests in the hopes of figuring it out.

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<v Speaker 1>Time for you can be a habit even if you're

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<v Speaker 1>not totally sure what you will do with it. If

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<v Speaker 1>you've got young kids, there are obvious logistical challenges with this.

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<v Speaker 1>So if you've got a co parent, one great ideas

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<v Speaker 1>just too trade off. Each of you gets one night

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<v Speaker 1>off each week and you cover for each other. On

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<v Speaker 1>your night off. Just go do something. Visit a friend,

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<v Speaker 1>go to a bookstore, sit in a coffee shop, take

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<v Speaker 1>a walk, go to the gym, maybe go to a

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<v Speaker 1>movie or anything along those lines. It doesn't have to

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<v Speaker 1>be perfect, it just has to be reasonably enjoyable. The

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<v Speaker 1>next week, during your time off, do the same thing

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<v Speaker 1>or do something else, see what you enjoy. If you

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<v Speaker 1>keep finding yourself doing something similar, that might be a

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<v Speaker 1>clue to your interests. If you always wind up in

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<v Speaker 1>your town's museum or galleries, you might enjoy an art class.

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<v Speaker 1>If you find you really enjoy a particular class at

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<v Speaker 1>your gym, you can start thinking of yourself as a

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<v Speaker 1>regular and get to know the other attendees. Or you

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<v Speaker 1>can use this time to sit in a coffee shop

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<v Speaker 1>and think about what you enjoyed as a kid and

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<v Speaker 1>brainstorm ways to do this now. If you don't have

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<v Speaker 1>someone who can easily cover for your kids, this is

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<v Speaker 1>obviously more complicated. I do think that having one night

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<v Speaker 1>off a week might be a reasonable use of babysitting

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<v Speaker 1>funds over the long run, getting one night off each

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<v Speaker 1>week can make you a more present and have person.

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<v Speaker 1>But if that is not going to fly, you might

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<v Speaker 1>also be able to build up a community of other

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<v Speaker 1>folks in similar circumstances who can cover for each other.

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<v Speaker 1>A friend gets Tuesday night off and you take her kids,

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<v Speaker 1>and she takes your kids on Thursday nights. But by

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<v Speaker 1>figuring out a way to build this time into your life,

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<v Speaker 1>you will start thinking about what you'd like to do

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<v Speaker 1>with it. You will start approaching your leisure time with

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<v Speaker 1>more intention. You will start thinking about possibilities rather than

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<v Speaker 1>assuming that there is no time. You do have time

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<v Speaker 1>that one night a week you take for you. After

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<v Speaker 1>a few weeks of trying different things, you might have

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<v Speaker 1>more insight into what you enjoy. Or you can start

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<v Speaker 1>following the clues. You find your aerobics class at the

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<v Speaker 1>GEM reasonably interesting, but a fellow attendee mentions that she

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<v Speaker 1>started a tap dancing class at a nearby studio and

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<v Speaker 1>loves it. You go try that out and just like that,

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<v Speaker 1>you find a new passion that will have you looking

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<v Speaker 1>forward to Tuesday nights. Make time for you a habit,

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<v Speaker 1>and you will start to figure out what you like

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<v Speaker 1>to do. It really is as simple as that. In

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<v Speaker 1>the meantime, this is Laura. Thanks for listening, and here's

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<v Speaker 1>to making the most of our times. Hey, everybody, I'd

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<v Speaker 1>love to hear from you. You can send me your tips,

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<v Speaker 1>thanks so much, should I look forward to staying in touch.

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