Speaker 1: Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of I Heart Radio.
Speaker 1: Good Morning, This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast.
Speaker 1: Today's tip is to find ways to lift your loved
Speaker 1: one's moods. Everyone feels down sometimes, and knowing your family
Speaker 1: members and friends pick me ups equips you to help
Speaker 1: them feel better. Who wants to wait out a low
Speaker 1: mood when a little boost from a companion can help
Speaker 1: lift it. Even during a festive season, we can't all
Speaker 1: walk around wearing smiles. Seven. Everyone has times of sadness,
Speaker 1: and sometimes it's wise to feel our emotions rather than
Speaker 1: covering them up. But there's a difference between covering up
Speaker 1: emotions and actively working to change them. I've been talking
Speaker 1: a lot lately about the idea that happiness takes work.
Speaker 1: Hopefully you know your own pick me ups for when
Speaker 1: you're feeling down. Maybe it's a call with a friend,
Speaker 1: a walk outdoors, a manicure, cooking or eating something delicious.
Speaker 1: Looking at a photo of you and your siblings when
Speaker 1: you were kids. There are so many ways people can
Speaker 1: reliably lift their moods. Knowing your own lifts is an
Speaker 1: important life skill. Knowing how your family and friends can
Speaker 1: feel better is incredibly powerful too, so you can nudge
Speaker 1: them to engage in those activities that will lift their spirits.
Speaker 1: The first step to exercising this superpower is knowing what works.
Speaker 1: One easy way to find out is just to ask
Speaker 1: if someone you love is in a funk. You could
Speaker 1: say what would help you feel better today or what
Speaker 1: would lift your spirits. Sometimes people won't know, so feel
Speaker 1: free to suggest common mood boosters or sources of comfort.
Speaker 1: Would you like to go for a walk outside, either
Speaker 1: with me or so lo? Why don't you go play
Speaker 1: video games for a while? Can I make you a
Speaker 1: cup of coffee? Gently invite the person to participate in
Speaker 1: something that might help them feel a little better. Then
Speaker 1: pay attention to what feels right to them. You can
Speaker 1: even record what the people your closest too crave when
Speaker 1: they want to feel comforted or cheered, perhaps in the
Speaker 1: note section of your contacts app. Then the next time
Speaker 1: someone you love feels low, you can make a suggestion
Speaker 1: tailored to what feels good to that person. In particular,
Speaker 1: I think you'd feel a lot better if you went
Speaker 1: for a trail run for the next hour. I can
Speaker 1: take the kids until you're done, Or why don't you
Speaker 1: call Lisa, she always cheers you up. What you suggest
Speaker 1: may be just what they need to boost their mood,
Speaker 1: and your thoughtful suggestion itself may make them feel seen
Speaker 1: and cared for. If you have kids, help them recognize
Speaker 1: what lifts their own moods so they are empowered to
Speaker 1: help themselves feel better. Independently, you can say, I've noticed
Speaker 1: that sometimes when you're feeling down, you feel better after
Speaker 1: you've done something physical. Want to go outside and shoot
Speaker 1: some baskets? Or sometimes people feel more relaxed after a
Speaker 1: hot shower. Would that be helpful to you right now.
Speaker 1: This way, you're helping your kids lift their mood in
Speaker 1: the moment and also equipping them to do so themselves
Speaker 1: in the future. If the person lives farther away, I'll
Speaker 1: put in a pitch here for sending things that put
Speaker 1: a smile on most people's faces cookie bouquets, flowers. You
Speaker 1: can work wonders with a card that says you are
Speaker 1: thinking of someone and recalling a funny memory or a
Speaker 1: time that person was at her best. Someone who lives
Speaker 1: relatively nearby might also be happy to get soothing foods
Speaker 1: like casseroles or soups. There is a long tradition of
Speaker 1: dropping off dishes for people who need their spirits lifted,
Speaker 1: So no need to reinvent the wheel here. Your enchiladas
Speaker 1: will be appreciated. We all feel lowsometimes, and we can't
Speaker 1: and shouldn't try to avoid that. But when we pay
Speaker 1: attention to how our loved ones are feeling and to
Speaker 1: what might lift their spirits, we are able to help
Speaker 1: each other thrive. So how do you help your loved
Speaker 1: ones get through low moments? You can let me know
Speaker 1: at Laura at Laura Vanderkam dot com. In the meantime,
Speaker 1: this is Laura. Thanks for listening, and here's to making
Speaker 1: the most of our time. Hey, everybody, I'd love to
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