1 00:00:01,000 --> 00:00:04,800 Speaker 1: Call It what It Is with Jessica Capshaw and Camille Lettington, 2 00:00:05,240 --> 00:00:07,080 Speaker 1: an iHeartRadio podcast. 3 00:00:17,880 --> 00:00:21,920 Speaker 2: Well, Hello, Hello, Hello, Hello call It crew, and welcome 4 00:00:21,920 --> 00:00:25,680 Speaker 2: to another episode of Short and Sweet, based on a 5 00:00:25,720 --> 00:00:28,240 Speaker 2: true story, how to. 6 00:00:28,440 --> 00:00:30,840 Speaker 1: Lose a girl in ten minutes. 7 00:00:31,280 --> 00:00:34,640 Speaker 2: We have learned that someone close to us has been 8 00:00:35,080 --> 00:00:38,840 Speaker 2: lost in a ten minute situation by somebody else less 9 00:00:38,840 --> 00:00:43,559 Speaker 2: than ten minutes, less than ten This is basically the 10 00:00:44,479 --> 00:00:48,280 Speaker 2: X right, yes, but it's like the opposite of the dues. 11 00:00:48,520 --> 00:00:50,720 Speaker 1: It is kind of a don'ts It is an episode 12 00:00:50,760 --> 00:00:56,480 Speaker 1: about it's a reverse dating tips guide. It is don't 13 00:00:56,480 --> 00:00:57,960 Speaker 1: do this, Please, don't do this. 14 00:00:58,400 --> 00:01:02,640 Speaker 2: If if we were we're subjected to the dating world 15 00:01:03,360 --> 00:01:06,280 Speaker 2: right now, what would be something that could lose you 16 00:01:06,319 --> 00:01:08,240 Speaker 2: in ten minutes? I'm gonna tell you right now, mine, 17 00:01:08,319 --> 00:01:10,800 Speaker 2: if you showed up a little real late to the date, 18 00:01:11,600 --> 00:01:12,360 Speaker 2: it's done. 19 00:01:13,120 --> 00:01:15,240 Speaker 1: Oh, done, done, Like you're not even well okay, well, 20 00:01:15,319 --> 00:01:16,720 Speaker 1: let me ask you how long are you waiting? 21 00:01:17,040 --> 00:01:21,440 Speaker 2: No more than fifteen minutes and then just leave? Yeah, yeah, 22 00:01:22,040 --> 00:01:24,440 Speaker 2: I agree with that. And even then I'd be like, 23 00:01:24,480 --> 00:01:26,440 Speaker 2: we're kind of sight eying the rest of the date. 24 00:01:26,760 --> 00:01:28,560 Speaker 1: You mean, if they got there fourteen minutes late. 25 00:01:28,920 --> 00:01:33,080 Speaker 2: Yeah, I'd be like, that's not it's a negative for 26 00:01:33,160 --> 00:01:35,520 Speaker 2: sure that you'd have to really win me back on. 27 00:01:36,360 --> 00:01:38,240 Speaker 2: Mm hmm, okay, I think it says a lot. What 28 00:01:38,280 --> 00:01:38,720 Speaker 2: about you. 29 00:01:40,120 --> 00:01:43,520 Speaker 1: The number one thing came to mind was smell. If 30 00:01:43,560 --> 00:01:49,040 Speaker 1: you don't smell like something I like at the beginning 31 00:01:49,040 --> 00:01:51,160 Speaker 1: of a date, it's sort of a no go. I can't. 32 00:01:51,320 --> 00:01:54,360 Speaker 1: I can't can because physically, I truly can't get over 33 00:01:54,400 --> 00:01:56,720 Speaker 1: it because you have to assume that someone's coming to 34 00:01:56,720 --> 00:01:58,800 Speaker 1: a date with their A game, right. You have to 35 00:01:58,840 --> 00:02:01,720 Speaker 1: assume that they've done everything that they possibly can to 36 00:02:01,720 --> 00:02:05,559 Speaker 1: be the most attractive, which would include all the things, 37 00:02:05,680 --> 00:02:10,239 Speaker 1: and if they had a smell that was not patible 38 00:02:10,280 --> 00:02:13,639 Speaker 1: with my nose mm hmm, we would have, it would 39 00:02:13,639 --> 00:02:14,040 Speaker 1: be a no go. 40 00:02:14,400 --> 00:02:16,760 Speaker 2: Yeah, because that that's the A game smell. Wait for 41 00:02:16,760 --> 00:02:21,799 Speaker 2: the C game, smell D game. I don't want to know. 42 00:02:22,240 --> 00:02:22,880 Speaker 1: You don't want to know. 43 00:02:22,919 --> 00:02:24,040 Speaker 2: That's the best they got. 44 00:02:24,880 --> 00:02:27,360 Speaker 1: You know, as an X sometimes you would bring your 45 00:02:27,440 --> 00:02:29,320 Speaker 1: X game and uh huh, nope. 46 00:02:29,080 --> 00:02:31,919 Speaker 2: Oh yeah. Once you're in a relationship, you you you 47 00:02:32,040 --> 00:02:34,040 Speaker 2: experienced the X game exactly? 48 00:02:35,160 --> 00:02:35,600 Speaker 3: Have you? 49 00:02:35,760 --> 00:02:39,000 Speaker 2: Back in the Jurassic era when we were dating, did 50 00:02:39,000 --> 00:02:40,640 Speaker 2: you ever go on a date where you wanted to 51 00:02:40,680 --> 00:02:45,040 Speaker 2: disappear after like five minutes. I'm really, oh you did. 52 00:02:45,120 --> 00:02:47,400 Speaker 2: I don't think I did have quite that bad of 53 00:02:47,440 --> 00:02:49,360 Speaker 2: an experience. What was it? 54 00:02:50,080 --> 00:02:53,920 Speaker 1: He was very arrogant. He was very arrogant, and he 55 00:02:54,040 --> 00:02:57,000 Speaker 1: was just like everything was about him, and he was 56 00:02:57,440 --> 00:03:03,360 Speaker 1: just so full of himself. And I was really I 57 00:03:03,480 --> 00:03:06,240 Speaker 1: was very very repelled by it, Like I didn't. Everything 58 00:03:06,280 --> 00:03:10,919 Speaker 1: he was saying, I think was intended to seem attractive, 59 00:03:11,000 --> 00:03:14,600 Speaker 1: like look at how great I am, and everything he 60 00:03:14,680 --> 00:03:17,919 Speaker 1: said made me feel unattracted to him. 61 00:03:18,440 --> 00:03:21,239 Speaker 2: Oh God, sometimes are so clueless. 62 00:03:22,000 --> 00:03:24,280 Speaker 1: Yeah, And I didn't, and I'm not so great. I mean, 63 00:03:24,440 --> 00:03:27,520 Speaker 1: I'm better now, but back then I would have just 64 00:03:27,560 --> 00:03:29,160 Speaker 1: sort of suffered through it. 65 00:03:29,360 --> 00:03:30,080 Speaker 2: Your cutthroat. 66 00:03:30,600 --> 00:03:33,880 Speaker 1: Yeah. I mean. Also, I think all these people dating 67 00:03:33,919 --> 00:03:35,920 Speaker 1: now have like, you know, they've figured out the tips 68 00:03:35,960 --> 00:03:37,920 Speaker 1: and tricks, right, They've got a friend that you know, 69 00:03:38,280 --> 00:03:40,400 Speaker 1: may day may day texts them or calls them and 70 00:03:40,520 --> 00:03:42,440 Speaker 1: is like I need you if it's if they get 71 00:03:42,440 --> 00:03:43,920 Speaker 1: the word right, Well, you don't. 72 00:03:43,760 --> 00:03:45,920 Speaker 2: Have a may Day back in back in the Jurassic era, 73 00:03:46,000 --> 00:03:46,760 Speaker 2: I had a may Day? 74 00:03:46,920 --> 00:03:48,520 Speaker 1: You did, I didn't say for work? 75 00:03:48,600 --> 00:03:50,800 Speaker 2: Yeah? Yeah, yeah, it's just a little It would be 76 00:03:50,920 --> 00:03:52,640 Speaker 2: like you go to the bathroom and then you're like 77 00:03:52,720 --> 00:03:55,560 Speaker 2: texting and you're like, just you gotta call me and 78 00:03:55,640 --> 00:03:58,360 Speaker 2: be like, oh my god, the apartment's flooded and you 79 00:03:58,440 --> 00:04:01,040 Speaker 2: got to come home, and I you know, but I 80 00:04:01,120 --> 00:04:03,440 Speaker 2: never used a may day, but there was definitely a 81 00:04:03,560 --> 00:04:08,800 Speaker 2: version of it. Can a vibe be reversed or is 82 00:04:08,840 --> 00:04:10,160 Speaker 2: it over in ten minutes? 83 00:04:11,040 --> 00:04:15,440 Speaker 1: Well, like, let's take this that example if well, well 84 00:04:15,480 --> 00:04:19,160 Speaker 1: I was gonna take the really arrogant guy, but oh yeah, yeah, 85 00:04:19,240 --> 00:04:21,000 Speaker 1: I don't think smell. I don't think smell guy is 86 00:04:21,000 --> 00:04:22,840 Speaker 1: gonna all of a sudden like change his smell intim 87 00:04:23,080 --> 00:04:26,560 Speaker 1: because that's the a game smell. And then arrogant guy 88 00:04:27,880 --> 00:04:31,599 Speaker 1: in less a minute ten he was like just kidding 89 00:04:31,680 --> 00:04:34,160 Speaker 1: or I was being somehow punked and it wasn't really his. 90 00:04:34,120 --> 00:04:37,479 Speaker 2: Truth annoying I'd be like, why am I being punked 91 00:04:37,480 --> 00:04:37,920 Speaker 2: on a day? 92 00:04:38,000 --> 00:04:40,120 Speaker 1: Yeah? Yeah, yeah no yeah. Anyways, so we went to 93 00:04:40,160 --> 00:04:43,040 Speaker 1: go dig up a little relationship expert advice and uh 94 00:04:43,600 --> 00:04:46,480 Speaker 1: and and and they shared common mistakes that they see 95 00:04:46,600 --> 00:04:49,240 Speaker 1: people making, you know that doesn't get them past the 96 00:04:49,360 --> 00:04:51,919 Speaker 1: like you know, yeah, we should do this again. 97 00:04:52,120 --> 00:04:52,720 Speaker 2: Sometime. 98 00:04:53,080 --> 00:04:57,240 Speaker 1: Yeah, and by some time, I mean never, never, never, 99 00:04:57,360 --> 00:05:00,839 Speaker 1: ever again, not even your face and sent across from 100 00:05:00,839 --> 00:05:05,640 Speaker 1: you lose my number, maybe fall off the planet. 101 00:05:06,200 --> 00:05:09,760 Speaker 2: There were four points. There were four expert points. 102 00:05:10,200 --> 00:05:13,320 Speaker 1: Yeah and they honestly, if any of these surprise you, 103 00:05:15,000 --> 00:05:21,880 Speaker 1: I'm worried. Okay, Number one, When meeting your first date, 104 00:05:22,600 --> 00:05:24,960 Speaker 1: it's key to not overwhelm them with your childhood trauma 105 00:05:25,400 --> 00:05:27,760 Speaker 1: or who your favorite middle school teacher was. Favorite middle 106 00:05:27,760 --> 00:05:29,840 Speaker 1: school teacher actually could be a funny story, but your 107 00:05:29,920 --> 00:05:32,600 Speaker 1: childhood trauma I would definitely maybe not bring out on 108 00:05:32,640 --> 00:05:33,080 Speaker 1: a first date. 109 00:05:33,200 --> 00:05:35,719 Speaker 2: I think it's hard. I think for someone like me, 110 00:05:35,800 --> 00:05:38,480 Speaker 2: it's hard because it's always like where does your dad live? 111 00:05:38,560 --> 00:05:38,680 Speaker 3: Oh? 112 00:05:38,720 --> 00:05:41,800 Speaker 2: Here, how does your mom lived? Well, there's no way 113 00:05:41,839 --> 00:05:45,640 Speaker 2: I can be like Kentucky. I have to say my 114 00:05:45,800 --> 00:05:48,920 Speaker 2: mom died, and then they're a follow up question and 115 00:05:49,000 --> 00:05:53,000 Speaker 2: so it's like I feel bad for people like me 116 00:05:53,200 --> 00:05:58,920 Speaker 2: because you just organically make it awkward with the truth. 117 00:05:59,200 --> 00:06:02,000 Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, yeah, you just move. 118 00:06:01,839 --> 00:06:03,920 Speaker 2: On, you know, and it's like there's no way to 119 00:06:03,960 --> 00:06:07,200 Speaker 2: like make it. I don't know, it's awkward. Okay, fine, 120 00:06:07,200 --> 00:06:10,960 Speaker 2: you're right, no way, I understand voluntarily you're not gonna 121 00:06:10,960 --> 00:06:12,440 Speaker 2: you shouldn't be, like I just I would like to 122 00:06:12,440 --> 00:06:14,760 Speaker 2: talk about my second grade billy right now, Like it's 123 00:06:14,800 --> 00:06:17,080 Speaker 2: not the time. You know the ways to avoid certain things. 124 00:06:17,760 --> 00:06:20,960 Speaker 2: Number two, avoid being This is a big one. 125 00:06:20,960 --> 00:06:23,160 Speaker 1: By the way, I've heard this from many, many, many 126 00:06:23,200 --> 00:06:23,839 Speaker 1: different people. 127 00:06:24,440 --> 00:06:27,160 Speaker 2: This would have been my problem. You could go go 128 00:06:27,240 --> 00:06:30,520 Speaker 2: to avoid being fixated on whether there is chemistry or 129 00:06:30,560 --> 00:06:32,039 Speaker 2: not with the person you're on a date with. 130 00:06:33,000 --> 00:06:35,719 Speaker 1: Yes, because people can really miss out on really great 131 00:06:35,720 --> 00:06:38,120 Speaker 1: people because you're so focused on the instant chemistry and 132 00:06:38,160 --> 00:06:40,520 Speaker 1: sometimes there isn't. Is that what you're gonna say, I don't. 133 00:06:40,800 --> 00:06:44,880 Speaker 2: Yes, No, I agree that that's probably true. But back 134 00:06:44,920 --> 00:06:47,680 Speaker 2: when I was dating in the Jurassic era, this would 135 00:06:47,720 --> 00:06:50,159 Speaker 2: have been like, we should do this again sometime. Cop 136 00:06:50,160 --> 00:06:52,839 Speaker 2: out line, like there was if I felt no chemistry 137 00:06:52,880 --> 00:06:56,200 Speaker 2: on that date, there was no second date and I 138 00:06:56,360 --> 00:06:58,919 Speaker 2: was looking for it. That's also the problem. Yeah, like 139 00:06:59,000 --> 00:07:00,839 Speaker 2: I was like digging in the day. 140 00:07:01,040 --> 00:07:04,719 Speaker 1: It often we but often we mistake chemistry, or we 141 00:07:04,720 --> 00:07:10,720 Speaker 1: we we mistake we mistake being hot for someone with chemistry. 142 00:07:10,880 --> 00:07:12,920 Speaker 1: I get that they can be intertwined, but like you 143 00:07:12,960 --> 00:07:15,880 Speaker 1: can't see personality from across the room so often you 144 00:07:15,920 --> 00:07:17,360 Speaker 1: don't necessarily out in the world. 145 00:07:17,600 --> 00:07:19,720 Speaker 2: I don't think, I know. I just agree, I don't. 146 00:07:19,880 --> 00:07:22,280 Speaker 2: I when I'm thinking about this, I'm not necessarily thinking 147 00:07:22,280 --> 00:07:26,360 Speaker 2: about like hot steamy chemistry. I'm thinking like way more 148 00:07:26,440 --> 00:07:27,840 Speaker 2: personality chemistry. 149 00:07:28,080 --> 00:07:31,520 Speaker 1: Actually, okay, all right, okay, yeah, yeah, yeah, all right. 150 00:07:31,640 --> 00:07:34,920 Speaker 1: Well I earlier in one of the episodes, I spoke 151 00:07:34,920 --> 00:07:38,040 Speaker 1: about someone who was not was a different height than 152 00:07:38,040 --> 00:07:40,760 Speaker 1: me and it was shorter, and I gave them. It's 153 00:07:40,800 --> 00:07:43,480 Speaker 1: like I gave them. I don't mean to gift them 154 00:07:43,480 --> 00:07:44,080 Speaker 1: a second day. 155 00:07:44,440 --> 00:07:47,600 Speaker 2: Yeah, gift is a second day. It is what it is. 156 00:07:47,640 --> 00:07:50,400 Speaker 2: It was a gift. It was a gift. Did they 157 00:07:50,400 --> 00:07:51,240 Speaker 2: get gifted. 158 00:07:50,920 --> 00:07:55,200 Speaker 3: The third No, because I couldn't push through the fact 159 00:07:55,240 --> 00:07:56,200 Speaker 3: there was no chemistry. 160 00:07:56,320 --> 00:08:05,239 Speaker 2: Yeah, that's where the gifts ended. I'm sorry. 161 00:08:06,280 --> 00:08:09,320 Speaker 1: Okay. Number three very common mistake people make on first 162 00:08:09,400 --> 00:08:12,000 Speaker 1: dates is bringing up past relationships in a negative way. 163 00:08:12,240 --> 00:08:13,560 Speaker 1: I understand that, Oh. 164 00:08:13,360 --> 00:08:15,600 Speaker 2: Can I tell you what, like set would have sent 165 00:08:15,760 --> 00:08:19,920 Speaker 2: alarm bells for me? Is when and I still judge 166 00:08:19,920 --> 00:08:21,440 Speaker 2: this when my hair guys say this is when they're 167 00:08:21,480 --> 00:08:25,200 Speaker 2: like my ex was crazy. I'm instantly like, what did 168 00:08:25,240 --> 00:08:28,480 Speaker 2: you do? And or you are That's what I'm saying, 169 00:08:28,520 --> 00:08:31,800 Speaker 2: what did you? You are the reason? Yeah, I don't 170 00:08:31,840 --> 00:08:38,760 Speaker 2: believe the X was crazy. I'm like, you're undtable. Yeah 171 00:08:38,800 --> 00:08:41,360 Speaker 2: for sure, I have sat with this girl that I 172 00:08:41,360 --> 00:08:42,040 Speaker 2: don't even know. 173 00:08:43,080 --> 00:08:43,600 Speaker 1: Yeah. 174 00:08:43,760 --> 00:08:47,280 Speaker 2: For Another big mistake is talking too much about yourself 175 00:08:47,320 --> 00:08:49,720 Speaker 2: and not asking your date any questions. That's hard because 176 00:08:49,760 --> 00:08:54,160 Speaker 2: sometimes that comes out of you. I did, but sometimes 177 00:08:54,559 --> 00:08:57,840 Speaker 2: I think you can. Sometimes nerves do that, like you're 178 00:08:57,880 --> 00:09:01,920 Speaker 2: trying to like push conversation and you it's kind of 179 00:09:01,960 --> 00:09:02,640 Speaker 2: an accident. 180 00:09:03,320 --> 00:09:07,040 Speaker 1: Yeah, I get that, but you shouldn't do it. I'll 181 00:09:07,080 --> 00:09:08,400 Speaker 1: tw you lose a girl in ten minutes. 182 00:09:21,880 --> 00:09:23,720 Speaker 2: The crew have submissions. 183 00:09:23,920 --> 00:09:26,319 Speaker 1: Yeah, well they've got submissions and I cannot wait. Are 184 00:09:26,320 --> 00:09:30,880 Speaker 1: you ready for it? Mary said, talk about only yourself? 185 00:09:31,320 --> 00:09:35,599 Speaker 2: Yeah, true story. Ooh, Lacy pull out your phone mid conversation. 186 00:09:36,200 --> 00:09:37,199 Speaker 1: That's a move. 187 00:09:37,280 --> 00:09:38,320 Speaker 2: Don't do That's not good. 188 00:09:38,840 --> 00:09:39,360 Speaker 1: I'm gone. 189 00:09:39,400 --> 00:09:40,079 Speaker 2: Bye. 190 00:09:40,559 --> 00:09:44,640 Speaker 1: Olivia rude to the waiter, No kidding. Oh it's so embarrassing. 191 00:09:45,160 --> 00:09:51,400 Speaker 2: It's awful. Gabby slurp their drink, pick Cecy talk about 192 00:09:51,400 --> 00:09:56,760 Speaker 2: their ex. Yeah yeah, Bianca bringing up politics is a 193 00:09:56,800 --> 00:09:57,360 Speaker 2: no for me. 194 00:09:58,400 --> 00:10:03,959 Speaker 1: Yeah, it's not safe place to talk. Yeah, Amanda mentioning 195 00:10:04,000 --> 00:10:06,320 Speaker 1: they don't like animals. My dogs are my kids. 196 00:10:07,200 --> 00:10:08,480 Speaker 2: Oh yeah, that's too. 197 00:10:08,520 --> 00:10:09,920 Speaker 1: Who doesn't like animals? 198 00:10:10,160 --> 00:10:10,720 Speaker 2: That's weird? 199 00:10:10,840 --> 00:10:13,120 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, why you don't need to be a down 200 00:10:13,160 --> 00:10:13,720 Speaker 1: and date with them? 201 00:10:14,280 --> 00:10:18,160 Speaker 2: Yeah no, Los Sierra chew with their mouth open. 202 00:10:18,440 --> 00:10:18,640 Speaker 1: Yeah. 203 00:10:19,040 --> 00:10:22,959 Speaker 2: Ten minutes, dude, minutes Tasha. 204 00:10:22,720 --> 00:10:27,360 Speaker 3: Ordering for me or telling me what I would like. Oh, 205 00:10:27,480 --> 00:10:28,840 Speaker 3: I don't even know what I would do. 206 00:10:30,160 --> 00:10:34,160 Speaker 2: I can't. Oh, that has to be an invitation, Like 207 00:10:34,240 --> 00:10:36,400 Speaker 2: I'd be like, hey, Jessica, what's good here? You know, 208 00:10:36,600 --> 00:10:38,920 Speaker 2: and and that would that would be fine. But if 209 00:10:38,960 --> 00:10:41,880 Speaker 2: you're like you will, well, I don't know. There is 210 00:10:41,920 --> 00:10:43,640 Speaker 2: a version of this where press someone's like at a 211 00:10:43,679 --> 00:10:45,280 Speaker 2: new restaurant and the other person's been here and you're like, 212 00:10:45,320 --> 00:10:47,960 Speaker 2: oh my god, you'll love the steak here, it's so good. 213 00:10:48,280 --> 00:10:51,440 Speaker 2: There's a version of this. It's not what I think. 214 00:10:51,800 --> 00:10:55,199 Speaker 1: Ordering for me, like when the waiter comes they say 215 00:10:55,960 --> 00:10:58,240 Speaker 1: what your order is without asking you. 216 00:10:58,240 --> 00:11:00,880 Speaker 2: No, that part of it is gross, But the second 217 00:11:00,880 --> 00:11:02,840 Speaker 2: part of this is also telling me what I would like, 218 00:11:03,280 --> 00:11:06,680 Speaker 2: And I think that there's you know, there's a way 219 00:11:06,720 --> 00:11:09,920 Speaker 2: to maybe suggest like you might love this, but I 220 00:11:09,960 --> 00:11:12,400 Speaker 2: do you'll you'll know, you would know the difference Marie 221 00:11:12,720 --> 00:11:17,240 Speaker 2: pulling what pulling out his vate right in front of 222 00:11:17,280 --> 00:11:23,359 Speaker 2: my face? Made conversation you guys, Well, between. 223 00:11:22,960 --> 00:11:26,080 Speaker 1: That and the zins, I think that it's probably entered 224 00:11:26,120 --> 00:11:26,560 Speaker 1: the dating. 225 00:11:27,280 --> 00:11:29,160 Speaker 2: Oh god, it but happens all the time. 226 00:11:29,360 --> 00:11:36,160 Speaker 1: What gros, Jamie says, cussing excessively. I get that. Yeah, yeah, 227 00:11:36,200 --> 00:11:37,800 Speaker 1: I do like to throw a good ground. 228 00:11:38,600 --> 00:11:40,400 Speaker 2: Yeah, well, but this is excessive. 229 00:11:40,640 --> 00:11:40,880 Speaker 1: You know. 230 00:11:41,040 --> 00:11:44,400 Speaker 2: It's a lot. It's been thrown around. And one time 231 00:11:44,440 --> 00:11:47,320 Speaker 2: a guy picked me up for the first date and 232 00:11:47,720 --> 00:11:50,280 Speaker 2: I knew immediately he was not my man when I 233 00:11:50,320 --> 00:11:51,720 Speaker 2: saw him have a road rage. 234 00:11:52,200 --> 00:11:54,280 Speaker 1: I con't safe for you kidding, Get out of the car. 235 00:11:54,480 --> 00:12:01,440 Speaker 1: Call nine one one, Yeah there nine okay, Brandy said, 236 00:12:01,480 --> 00:12:06,120 Speaker 1: checking out, Oh come gone in less than ten seconds, 237 00:12:06,200 --> 00:12:08,400 Speaker 1: checking out another girl while talking to you. 238 00:12:08,920 --> 00:12:12,800 Speaker 2: Yeah, that's a ten second bye, Laurie for me personally, 239 00:12:12,840 --> 00:12:16,520 Speaker 2: he says off the bat. He doesn't want kids, okay bye. Yeah, 240 00:12:16,559 --> 00:12:17,640 Speaker 2: well go that's important for. 241 00:12:17,600 --> 00:12:20,040 Speaker 1: You, Megan said, talking about themselves the whole time and 242 00:12:20,040 --> 00:12:21,000 Speaker 1: not having interest in you. 243 00:12:21,760 --> 00:12:26,199 Speaker 2: Yeah. Ooh, Miley, look at Miley coming in saying they 244 00:12:26,240 --> 00:12:31,200 Speaker 2: don't like Taylor Swift. Wow, okay, that's all. 245 00:12:31,200 --> 00:12:34,120 Speaker 1: Right, Reagan, I went on a date and he right 246 00:12:34,160 --> 00:12:36,720 Speaker 1: away smelled like mildew I couldn't do it. I'm with you. 247 00:12:37,200 --> 00:12:39,120 Speaker 2: That was his a smell. That was his eight game smile. 248 00:12:39,200 --> 00:12:42,920 Speaker 2: The mildew Aaron controversial maybe, but I do not like 249 00:12:43,040 --> 00:12:45,320 Speaker 2: when a man asked me or right off the bat, 250 00:12:45,360 --> 00:12:50,520 Speaker 2: what I do for work? We are more than our job. Okay, huh, Yeah, 251 00:12:50,520 --> 00:12:53,560 Speaker 2: I guess it's a conversation starter though. That's what's hard 252 00:12:53,559 --> 00:12:54,000 Speaker 2: about that. 253 00:12:55,200 --> 00:12:58,440 Speaker 1: Yeah, I guess Lauren talks about their mom. 254 00:12:58,840 --> 00:13:00,760 Speaker 2: I don't know how annoying is the mom. Some of 255 00:13:00,840 --> 00:13:05,200 Speaker 2: us said, you know, who knows. Maybe you leave that 256 00:13:05,240 --> 00:13:07,320 Speaker 2: for like a later date, you know, like ten dates, 257 00:13:07,320 --> 00:13:10,760 Speaker 2: and you're like, my mom kind of sucks. Olivia show 258 00:13:10,880 --> 00:13:14,800 Speaker 2: up late immediately, will lose me, Olivia and me and you. 259 00:13:14,840 --> 00:13:15,880 Speaker 2: I said this earlier. 260 00:13:17,280 --> 00:13:20,520 Speaker 1: Yeah, mom said, it's a no no for me. 261 00:13:20,520 --> 00:13:22,760 Speaker 2: If a guy talks about how he was in a frat, wow, 262 00:13:22,840 --> 00:13:24,880 Speaker 2: that's a that's a lot of America. That's going to 263 00:13:24,960 --> 00:13:28,760 Speaker 2: take some some guys out of your dating pool. Yeah, Sarah, 264 00:13:28,960 --> 00:13:31,040 Speaker 2: I wonder if there's like a well known frat. I 265 00:13:31,040 --> 00:13:33,720 Speaker 2: don't know this answer, because like this is not you know, 266 00:13:33,880 --> 00:13:36,840 Speaker 2: I was not a part of the American college scene. 267 00:13:36,960 --> 00:13:38,920 Speaker 2: But I wonder if there's a certain frat too that 268 00:13:38,960 --> 00:13:43,360 Speaker 2: carries like a I was in Delta Kepa Sigma tell 269 00:13:43,720 --> 00:13:46,280 Speaker 2: yeah that you're but there's a certain one also that 270 00:13:46,360 --> 00:13:52,440 Speaker 2: just carries known for being naughty. Yeah, it's just bad vibe. Yeah, Sarah, 271 00:13:53,040 --> 00:13:57,560 Speaker 2: discuss who is Oh god, Sarah said, discuss who is 272 00:13:57,600 --> 00:14:00,400 Speaker 2: paying before we even decide where we're going to dinner. 273 00:14:01,679 --> 00:14:03,080 Speaker 2: Do people really do that? 274 00:14:04,040 --> 00:14:06,560 Speaker 1: I mean, talk about the Jurassic era. I don't even remember. 275 00:14:06,720 --> 00:14:11,880 Speaker 2: That's so Jurassic era. Oh god, Please know what is 276 00:14:12,000 --> 00:14:12,880 Speaker 2: happening people? 277 00:14:13,080 --> 00:14:13,440 Speaker 1: But do you know? 278 00:14:13,679 --> 00:14:13,880 Speaker 2: Yeah? 279 00:14:14,000 --> 00:14:15,160 Speaker 1: But you know what a lot? You know what the 280 00:14:15,200 --> 00:14:17,760 Speaker 1: kids do these days? They just they venmo each other 281 00:14:17,800 --> 00:14:19,760 Speaker 1: and stuff. They go out and then like they go 282 00:14:19,840 --> 00:14:20,440 Speaker 1: split skis. 283 00:14:20,640 --> 00:14:23,600 Speaker 2: They do split skis. It's always an awful conversation with 284 00:14:23,680 --> 00:14:25,440 Speaker 2: split skis on a date. 285 00:14:25,480 --> 00:14:28,880 Speaker 1: It's well, I guess I'm going to be jurrassicy and 286 00:14:29,280 --> 00:14:32,280 Speaker 1: tell you that. Back in the day when I was dating, I. 287 00:14:32,280 --> 00:14:34,440 Speaker 2: Would just the assumption is that you're paying for dinner. 288 00:14:34,560 --> 00:14:37,840 Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, yeah, because I've gifted you with this date. 289 00:14:38,320 --> 00:14:41,240 Speaker 2: But what I mean, yeah, yeah, you gift the date. 290 00:14:41,280 --> 00:14:45,000 Speaker 2: They gift the dinner. You're gifting your time. It's you know, 291 00:14:45,600 --> 00:14:49,960 Speaker 2: it's like a gifting site. Yeah, I'm gifting you me. 292 00:14:50,600 --> 00:14:52,680 Speaker 1: But although I do actually have a fate memory, I 293 00:14:52,720 --> 00:14:54,240 Speaker 1: can't remember who it was or what, but I do 294 00:14:54,400 --> 00:15:00,160 Speaker 1: remember there being a situation where I it wasn't the 295 00:15:00,160 --> 00:15:02,040 Speaker 1: the really bad guy, but I did there was a 296 00:15:02,120 --> 00:15:05,160 Speaker 1: date that was going particularly bad lee bad. How do 297 00:15:05,240 --> 00:15:06,760 Speaker 1: you say that there was a There was a date 298 00:15:06,800 --> 00:15:09,600 Speaker 1: that was not going well. There was a date and 299 00:15:09,880 --> 00:15:11,880 Speaker 1: I remember being like, I don't want to owe this 300 00:15:11,920 --> 00:15:15,000 Speaker 1: guy anything. And I was like, okay. 301 00:15:14,800 --> 00:15:17,280 Speaker 2: Your card was out before I pay to get out 302 00:15:17,320 --> 00:15:20,520 Speaker 2: of your appetizers. I was like, look, I have a 303 00:15:20,600 --> 00:15:22,720 Speaker 2: question really quick before you go okay. When you're when 304 00:15:23,080 --> 00:15:27,040 Speaker 2: dressic era dating, the guy goes like the check arrives 305 00:15:27,040 --> 00:15:29,320 Speaker 2: at the table, did you do the fake like I'll 306 00:15:29,360 --> 00:15:31,720 Speaker 2: reach from my purse and you better stop me. 307 00:15:32,000 --> 00:15:34,280 Speaker 1: I hated that. I still feel that way when I'm 308 00:15:34,280 --> 00:15:38,160 Speaker 1: like out with someone who's like more senior or or 309 00:15:38,200 --> 00:15:40,160 Speaker 1: that I like work with, and they're in a situation 310 00:15:40,200 --> 00:15:42,840 Speaker 1: where it would be more customary for them to pay, 311 00:15:43,720 --> 00:15:45,680 Speaker 1: and it's assumed that they probably will, But at the 312 00:15:45,680 --> 00:15:48,880 Speaker 1: same time, I don't want to not offer. Yeah, so 313 00:15:49,000 --> 00:15:51,200 Speaker 1: you do like the foe move to the wallet, the 314 00:15:51,240 --> 00:15:53,440 Speaker 1: hand to the yeah, yeah yeah. 315 00:15:53,720 --> 00:15:56,000 Speaker 2: If you're if you're like having a meeting though with like, 316 00:15:56,080 --> 00:15:59,640 Speaker 2: you know, a Jeff Bezos, though, are you even doing 317 00:15:59,680 --> 00:16:02,000 Speaker 2: a reach? Are you doing I would do I would 318 00:16:02,040 --> 00:16:02,960 Speaker 2: still do a reach. 319 00:16:03,240 --> 00:16:05,080 Speaker 1: I think it's right to do a reach. But I 320 00:16:05,080 --> 00:16:08,600 Speaker 1: think probably I'm imagining this, but probably most people don't 321 00:16:08,840 --> 00:16:12,000 Speaker 1: listen if your net worth, if your net worth is published, 322 00:16:12,760 --> 00:16:17,280 Speaker 1: I think that likely you're probably thinking that. Everyone assumes 323 00:16:17,280 --> 00:16:18,800 Speaker 1: you're paying for whatever meal you're head. 324 00:16:18,880 --> 00:16:22,200 Speaker 2: But I don't like from me, my person, just from me. 325 00:16:22,720 --> 00:16:24,000 Speaker 2: It's a pride thing. 326 00:16:24,240 --> 00:16:26,600 Speaker 1: That's what I mean. I think, Yeah, I get that, 327 00:16:26,760 --> 00:16:29,280 Speaker 1: I get that. Yeah, we've digressed. Okay, So these are 328 00:16:29,280 --> 00:16:31,080 Speaker 1: the things. These are just some of the things that 329 00:16:31,160 --> 00:16:33,680 Speaker 1: might lose you a girl. 330 00:16:33,960 --> 00:16:35,960 Speaker 2: But this is ten minutes, it's not ten days. This 331 00:16:36,000 --> 00:16:37,800 Speaker 2: is a short amount of time. This is a short 332 00:16:37,840 --> 00:16:38,360 Speaker 2: amount of time. 333 00:16:38,440 --> 00:16:41,840 Speaker 1: So bring your a game, your a game, smell your 334 00:16:41,920 --> 00:16:45,640 Speaker 1: a game, conversation your a game, just your a game. 335 00:16:45,880 --> 00:16:48,320 Speaker 2: Bring your a game. If girls are gifting you a date, 336 00:16:48,520 --> 00:16:48,920 Speaker 2: oh you know. 337 00:16:49,040 --> 00:16:50,880 Speaker 1: One of my biggest turn offs is actually you could 338 00:16:50,880 --> 00:16:52,840 Speaker 1: add to this how to Lose How to Lose a 339 00:16:52,880 --> 00:16:56,520 Speaker 1: Girl in ten minutes. Yeah, Apathy when people don't care, 340 00:16:56,760 --> 00:16:59,480 Speaker 1: like when they don't care about anything, whether it's just 341 00:16:59,680 --> 00:17:01,800 Speaker 1: not I appreciate people who care. 342 00:17:02,360 --> 00:17:04,359 Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yeah. And you can kind of smell that 343 00:17:04,480 --> 00:17:07,439 Speaker 2: vibe from a mile away too, yep, I sure do. 344 00:17:08,080 --> 00:17:11,160 Speaker 1: All right, Well, this has been highly enjoyable, well, walk 345 00:17:11,200 --> 00:17:12,000 Speaker 1: down Memory Lane. 346 00:17:12,880 --> 00:17:15,040 Speaker 2: I also just love it when the crew give us submissions, 347 00:17:15,080 --> 00:17:17,960 Speaker 2: because they tell us stuff that I wouldn't even think about, 348 00:17:18,080 --> 00:17:21,680 Speaker 2: and then I'm like, yeah, you're so right, You're out 349 00:17:21,720 --> 00:17:25,959 Speaker 2: in ten minutes. Okay, let's call it the end of 350 00:17:26,040 --> 00:17:32,560 Speaker 2: the episode.