WEBVTT - Second Date Update PODCAST: He’s Already Married

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<v Speaker 1>Brooking Jewels. Second Date Update. Since we started doing the

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<v Speaker 1>second date updates, our email box has been so full

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<v Speaker 1>of people wanting to know why they've been blown off

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<v Speaker 1>after a first date. That's ridiculous. Um. Ashley is on

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<v Speaker 1>the phone with us right now. She apparently met a

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<v Speaker 1>guy on a dating website. His name is Nathan, right, Ashley? Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>so you met this dude online and then you guys

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<v Speaker 1>went out how to go? This was definitely one of

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<v Speaker 1>the best dates I've ever had. What do you guys do?

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<v Speaker 1>We just went for drinks and we instantly clipped and

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<v Speaker 1>we were laughing the whole time. We've never had like those,

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<v Speaker 1>you know positives. You sound very smitten with Nathan after

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<v Speaker 1>one date, and it did feel that way. I've never

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<v Speaker 1>had a date so so well, So how did the

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<v Speaker 1>date end? And why hasn't it gotten back to you? Um?

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<v Speaker 1>The kiss was great, To be honest, I totally would

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<v Speaker 1>have liked to go back to his place. Did you

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<v Speaker 1>let him know that? I kind of did, and he

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<v Speaker 1>said he couldn't do that. What do you mean you

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<v Speaker 1>kind of did? Like? How did you let him know?

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<v Speaker 1>You said take me back to your place now I

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<v Speaker 1>love you? Or oh? I did not do that. I

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<v Speaker 1>think he was just trying to be like gentlemanly or

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<v Speaker 1>romantic or whatever. Okay, actually, how long ago was this date?

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<v Speaker 1>Two weeks ago? He didn't text me a few days

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<v Speaker 1>after and say I'll call, But he didn't call, so

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know if something happened, you know, like, I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know. It's just it's confusing. You don't think that

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<v Speaker 1>maybe you being up front about wanting to go home

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<v Speaker 1>with him might have creeped him out, or he's just

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<v Speaker 1>not that kind of dude. He didn't seem creeped out

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<v Speaker 1>by it. If he texted, he probably can't be that

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<v Speaker 1>creeped out, right, Like he would just not text at

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<v Speaker 1>all unless he was scared. Yeah, he could be scared.

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<v Speaker 1>He could just be nice because all text You know,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm the past. I've texted girls when I haven't wanted

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<v Speaker 1>anything to do with him. Um, all right, Ashley, we're

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<v Speaker 1>gonna call him right after this and see if we

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<v Speaker 1>can get an answer as to why he hasn't called

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<v Speaker 1>you back. Okay, Okay, thank the worst pain, ioking jubil

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<v Speaker 1>in the morning. Ashley emailed us after going out with Nathan.

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<v Speaker 1>They had what she says was a great date. At

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<v Speaker 1>the end of the night they made out, she offered

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<v Speaker 1>herself to him. Is that a good way to say it? Ashley?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh no, that's fine. She said that it was love

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<v Speaker 1>at first sight. Possibly. Yeah, so she was really really

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<v Speaker 1>into this dude. So we're gonna call and get him

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<v Speaker 1>on the phone. You ready, Ashley? Yeah? I feel like

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<v Speaker 1>you're going to be crushed by this answer. I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>She's dude love at first sight. She's got a lot

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<v Speaker 1>invested in this one date. Hello. Hey, is this Nathan? Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>this is Nathan. Here's this is Jewil from Brook and

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<v Speaker 1>Jubil in the morning. I'm moving ninety two point five.

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<v Speaker 1>How you doing? Man um? Why are you calling me? Well?

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<v Speaker 1>We have a mutual friend, a girl named Ashley. Do

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<v Speaker 1>you know it? Ashley? Am I on the radio right now?

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<v Speaker 1>I don't. I don't want to be on the radio.

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<v Speaker 1>That's what's going on. You are, But before you just

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<v Speaker 1>hear me out for a second. Okay, we do a

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<v Speaker 1>segment on our show called Second Date Update. Ashley emailed us,

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<v Speaker 1>wanting to know why you haven't gotten back to her

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<v Speaker 1>after you guys went out and had what she thought

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<v Speaker 1>was a great time. If she's wondering if I've had

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<v Speaker 1>a nice time with her, then I absolutely did. She

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<v Speaker 1>was fantastic. She was a really great girl, and I

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<v Speaker 1>wanted to give her a call back. I just couldn't

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<v Speaker 1>bring myself to do it. And why is that? She

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<v Speaker 1>said that you texted her and said that you're gonna call,

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<v Speaker 1>and they never called. The problem is that I couldn't

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<v Speaker 1>in touch with her because I am married. Oh what? Oh? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>And I thought she was really fantastic, and so I

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<v Speaker 1>had to cut it off right there. You know. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>you guys met on a dating website. You're on a

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<v Speaker 1>dating website and you're married. Yes? Are you like in

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<v Speaker 1>the marriage or are you separated? Things have been going

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<v Speaker 1>roughly for a while now, and I think that we're

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<v Speaker 1>on the path to being separated. Oh my god, I

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<v Speaker 1>can't believe this. Nathan, Ashley's on the phone right now

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<v Speaker 1>before she is, I can't believe this. You're married. That's like,

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<v Speaker 1>my instincts are completely awesome. All the good ones are

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<v Speaker 1>they're married or gay. So you got to marry one

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<v Speaker 1>so horrible? Oh my god, I'll like to think about

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<v Speaker 1>is his poor wife? Yeah? So what? Sorry? Have you

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<v Speaker 1>gone out with women off this dating website before. I've

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<v Speaker 1>kind of just started to test the waters a little

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<v Speaker 1>bit because things are going really roughly. You know, there

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<v Speaker 1>have been discussions about a separation, and I really did

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<v Speaker 1>like Ashley, and I did not expect to ever kind

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<v Speaker 1>of really hit it off that way with somebody. I

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<v Speaker 1>just started to feel really guilty. I guess about doing that,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, but you should feel guilty like you're messing

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<v Speaker 1>with her, You're messing with me, Like I haven't been

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<v Speaker 1>not excited about somebody for a really long time. And

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<v Speaker 1>then I'm just sitting around wondering why you haven't called meanwhile,

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<v Speaker 1>not knowing that you're married. Obviously, I'm not just gonna

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<v Speaker 1>come out and tell you that I'm married. It's you

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<v Speaker 1>shouldn't be out with me anyway. You know, it's easy

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<v Speaker 1>to say that when you're not in a situation. You

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<v Speaker 1>know that's okay, Hey, napin, how long have you been married?

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<v Speaker 1>Three years? Too long? Apparently? Yeah, exactly do you know

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<v Speaker 1>why your marriage isn't working? Probably because he's on dating side. Um, like, man,

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<v Speaker 1>you obviously have some stuff you have to figure out.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, the crazy thing is that I'm sitting here,

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm thinking, like, if Ashley wanted to have a

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<v Speaker 1>second date, then huh, alright, so the show, the show

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<v Speaker 1>will pay for you, guys to go on a second date. Uh,

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<v Speaker 1>we're gonna go ahead and pay for you to cheat

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<v Speaker 1>on your wife. U. We cannot pay for this date, dude,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm serious. We cannot pay for this date. There's every

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<v Speaker 1>moral fiber in me is screaming no right now. Part

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<v Speaker 1>of our deal though, that's what we do if the

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<v Speaker 1>West comes along triple day. We don't have the budget

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<v Speaker 1>for that. Guys, don't worry. I'm not going on another

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<v Speaker 1>date with him. Like, if you, for some reason you

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<v Speaker 1>fake the things out way down the line and you

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<v Speaker 1>guys are separated, then maybe you can call me and

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<v Speaker 1>I'll think about it. But I'm not so when you

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<v Speaker 1>leave her, you got my number, give me a call.

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<v Speaker 1>It's not a good choice, Ashley, you got your answer. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>good luck on the dating site. Thanks. Thanks, And I

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<v Speaker 1>was talking to her man, not you, and she learned

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<v Speaker 1>a partial