1 00:00:00,240 --> 00:00:03,160 Speaker 1: Welcome to Can't Flee Reckless, the production of iHeart Radio 2 00:00:03,279 --> 00:00:16,880 Speaker 1: and The Black Effect, And just like that, we're back 3 00:00:16,920 --> 00:00:20,000 Speaker 1: with yet another podcast episode with your girl just hilarious. 4 00:00:20,239 --> 00:00:23,120 Speaker 1: Welcome to Carefully Reckless, where I Fix your mess. 5 00:00:23,200 --> 00:00:24,280 Speaker 2: Y'all listen. 6 00:00:24,320 --> 00:00:26,239 Speaker 1: I just want to give a special shout out to 7 00:00:26,280 --> 00:00:28,680 Speaker 1: the Breakfast Club and be Et and Charlemagne and the 8 00:00:28,720 --> 00:00:32,920 Speaker 1: Black Effect in our heart, all four of those entities. 9 00:00:33,680 --> 00:00:36,800 Speaker 1: They are the reason, well not the whole reason, but 10 00:00:37,440 --> 00:00:40,400 Speaker 1: a good part of the reason why I do keep 11 00:00:40,440 --> 00:00:41,879 Speaker 1: coming back to do this shit. 12 00:00:41,680 --> 00:00:42,480 Speaker 2: Every Wednesday, y'all. 13 00:00:42,479 --> 00:00:44,239 Speaker 1: I want to let y'all know I love y'all, and 14 00:00:44,280 --> 00:00:46,639 Speaker 1: I just I really really feel good, really really feel good. 15 00:00:46,640 --> 00:00:48,400 Speaker 1: It's my first day at Breakfast Club, my first day 16 00:00:48,440 --> 00:00:51,040 Speaker 1: of the weekendt Breakfast Club. So my episode drops on 17 00:00:51,080 --> 00:00:53,959 Speaker 1: a Wednesday, but this is a Monday, all right, and 18 00:00:54,360 --> 00:00:55,560 Speaker 1: I just want to let y'all know the. 19 00:00:55,480 --> 00:00:57,360 Speaker 2: Type of work day that I'm dealing with. 20 00:00:57,640 --> 00:01:02,640 Speaker 1: I flew from Charlotte, North Carolina after a show last night. 21 00:01:02,920 --> 00:01:04,839 Speaker 2: Right show was at six pm. 22 00:01:04,880 --> 00:01:07,280 Speaker 1: We got off stage, finished the show, everything was wrapped 23 00:01:07,319 --> 00:01:08,520 Speaker 1: up a round like eight thirty. 24 00:01:08,880 --> 00:01:11,360 Speaker 2: Had to catch a nine fifty eight flight. 25 00:01:11,760 --> 00:01:15,520 Speaker 1: I made the flight, got here, landed here in New 26 00:01:15,600 --> 00:01:19,160 Speaker 1: York around like right before twelve o'clock. We bought it 27 00:01:19,200 --> 00:01:21,400 Speaker 1: at nine fifty eight, so we took off around like 28 00:01:21,440 --> 00:01:24,760 Speaker 1: ten something, landed twelve, didn't get to my hotel till 29 00:01:24,760 --> 00:01:27,640 Speaker 1: one got right back up at four o'clock. That my 30 00:01:27,720 --> 00:01:30,720 Speaker 1: makeup was here at the station at five point thirty 31 00:01:31,040 --> 00:01:32,760 Speaker 1: to go on at six am. 32 00:01:33,120 --> 00:01:34,160 Speaker 2: I'm tired as hell. 33 00:01:34,440 --> 00:01:37,560 Speaker 1: And then from six to ten we do breakfast club, 34 00:01:37,720 --> 00:01:40,480 Speaker 1: we do whatever interviews that we have, and then now 35 00:01:40,560 --> 00:01:43,440 Speaker 1: I'm in here recording, So I am literally running off 36 00:01:43,440 --> 00:01:44,679 Speaker 1: of three hours of sleep. 37 00:01:45,000 --> 00:01:46,720 Speaker 2: But I love y'all so much. I love what I do. 38 00:01:47,040 --> 00:01:49,120 Speaker 2: I'm tired, but I still got energy. You understand what 39 00:01:49,120 --> 00:01:49,480 Speaker 2: I'm saying. 40 00:01:49,520 --> 00:01:54,920 Speaker 1: So the motivation can also be adrenaline, Like, yeah, I'm tired, yeah, 41 00:01:55,040 --> 00:01:56,760 Speaker 1: and I may not even sound like it, and shit, 42 00:01:56,880 --> 00:02:00,400 Speaker 1: I really am. I'm not sleepy, I'm not drained. I'm 43 00:02:00,440 --> 00:02:03,160 Speaker 1: just tired, that's all. So kay to say that you're tired, 44 00:02:03,200 --> 00:02:04,760 Speaker 1: I'm not tired of y'all. I'm not tired of what 45 00:02:04,800 --> 00:02:07,000 Speaker 1: I do. I'm actually very damn grateful and I'm gonna 46 00:02:07,080 --> 00:02:09,760 Speaker 1: keep on going and doing what I do. But I'm 47 00:02:09,840 --> 00:02:12,040 Speaker 1: letting y'all know I do this shit for y'all. You 48 00:02:12,120 --> 00:02:14,880 Speaker 1: found me, So we're gonna jump right in. Nobody sent 49 00:02:14,919 --> 00:02:16,560 Speaker 1: in voice notes for this episode. 50 00:02:16,560 --> 00:02:20,160 Speaker 2: So I'm just gonna read this long ass run on sentence. 51 00:02:20,240 --> 00:02:22,079 Speaker 1: That's what it is. I'm gonna call it out. It 52 00:02:22,120 --> 00:02:24,760 Speaker 1: is what it is, girl, Hi, Jess, I really need 53 00:02:24,800 --> 00:02:27,440 Speaker 1: you to help with my mess. I wish to remain 54 00:02:27,440 --> 00:02:30,080 Speaker 1: anonymous because I could catch a case about this one. 55 00:02:30,200 --> 00:02:31,120 Speaker 2: Damn oh shit. 56 00:02:31,800 --> 00:02:33,840 Speaker 1: So I guess I'll start off with the fact that 57 00:02:33,880 --> 00:02:36,440 Speaker 1: I'm a twenty two year old female who's had really 58 00:02:36,520 --> 00:02:39,000 Speaker 1: bad taste in men, and I find myself to be 59 00:02:39,040 --> 00:02:41,040 Speaker 1: a little bit of a hopeless romantic. I mean, we 60 00:02:41,120 --> 00:02:44,640 Speaker 1: are you, twenty two shit, I'm always falling in love 61 00:02:44,680 --> 00:02:46,240 Speaker 1: with the idea of a man. 62 00:02:46,440 --> 00:02:46,840 Speaker 2: Anyway. 63 00:02:46,840 --> 00:02:49,600 Speaker 1: In February, I started a job working in the kitchen 64 00:02:49,639 --> 00:02:52,280 Speaker 1: at the jail. Before starting this job, my mother and 65 00:02:52,360 --> 00:02:55,800 Speaker 1: family all said do not fall for anyone in there, 66 00:02:56,280 --> 00:02:59,160 Speaker 1: meaning in the jail. I even had training informing me 67 00:02:59,720 --> 00:03:03,160 Speaker 1: that personal relationship with an inmate could result in a 68 00:03:03,280 --> 00:03:04,240 Speaker 1: rape charge for me. 69 00:03:04,680 --> 00:03:06,240 Speaker 2: Wow, whether it was. 70 00:03:06,200 --> 00:03:09,200 Speaker 1: Consensual or not, y'all listen to that, don't y'all become 71 00:03:09,320 --> 00:03:12,560 Speaker 1: CEOs and cafeteria ladies and these damn jails, and then 72 00:03:12,639 --> 00:03:15,919 Speaker 1: y'all get caught fucking these inmates. That's a charge on y'all, 73 00:03:15,960 --> 00:03:18,399 Speaker 1: whether it was consensual or not. Y'all can go down 74 00:03:18,440 --> 00:03:21,520 Speaker 1: for raping these motherfuckers. Okay, even if y'all didn't rape 75 00:03:21,560 --> 00:03:24,560 Speaker 1: these motherfuckers. All right, back to the story. So I 76 00:03:24,600 --> 00:03:27,720 Speaker 1: start working, things are going fine. I immediately knew I 77 00:03:27,800 --> 00:03:30,200 Speaker 1: was going to have to deal with some thirsties. Okay, 78 00:03:30,240 --> 00:03:32,000 Speaker 1: so you must be a nice, little cute little girl, 79 00:03:32,080 --> 00:03:34,920 Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. Nice wholesome young lady, But 80 00:03:34,960 --> 00:03:37,839 Speaker 1: nothing can truly prepare you for working with men who 81 00:03:37,880 --> 00:03:41,000 Speaker 1: haven't had pussy in years. I had men saying they 82 00:03:41,120 --> 00:03:43,760 Speaker 1: drink my bath water, sniffing me when they walk past. 83 00:03:43,800 --> 00:03:45,920 Speaker 1: It was a lot, I must admit. But there was 84 00:03:46,000 --> 00:03:49,120 Speaker 1: one that was different. They called him Bori for anyone 85 00:03:49,160 --> 00:03:52,800 Speaker 1: that isn't Latino, that's short for the Boriqua. Okay, okay, 86 00:03:52,840 --> 00:03:55,080 Speaker 1: I said that right. I got my little Spanish down 87 00:03:55,120 --> 00:03:58,280 Speaker 1: pick Boriqua. And at first I wasn't even looking at 88 00:03:58,360 --> 00:04:01,160 Speaker 1: him that way at all. It just started with small 89 00:04:01,200 --> 00:04:04,840 Speaker 1: conversation asking where I'm from. Talking about family, him helping 90 00:04:04,880 --> 00:04:07,480 Speaker 1: me carry heavy things so I wouldn't have to struggle. 91 00:04:08,040 --> 00:04:10,200 Speaker 1: The next thing, I know, every day we're talking more 92 00:04:10,200 --> 00:04:14,360 Speaker 1: and more about life and God. Okay, I noticed the 93 00:04:14,400 --> 00:04:17,680 Speaker 1: disrespect from the other men eventually stopped as well. He 94 00:04:17,720 --> 00:04:20,000 Speaker 1: would tell me how beautiful I was and how he 95 00:04:20,080 --> 00:04:22,040 Speaker 1: just wanted to take care of me and do everything 96 00:04:22,120 --> 00:04:25,280 Speaker 1: for me. Eventually my wall broke down and I started 97 00:04:25,279 --> 00:04:27,920 Speaker 1: to develop feelings for the man who I was spending 98 00:04:27,960 --> 00:04:32,599 Speaker 1: so much time around. So we started getting frisky. Hold 99 00:04:32,600 --> 00:04:36,720 Speaker 1: on and the damn jail girl, So we started getting risky, 100 00:04:36,760 --> 00:04:39,719 Speaker 1: she said, not frisky. I slipped him my number, He 101 00:04:39,720 --> 00:04:42,680 Speaker 1: would slip me letters and pictures. We would sneak off 102 00:04:42,720 --> 00:04:45,560 Speaker 1: into the freezer together. No, we didn't have sex. We 103 00:04:45,600 --> 00:04:48,080 Speaker 1: started talking about a life together. When he got out, 104 00:04:48,400 --> 00:04:50,960 Speaker 1: I was even looking for apartners and shit. And before 105 00:04:51,000 --> 00:04:53,000 Speaker 1: you judge me, I'm going through a lot in life 106 00:04:53,080 --> 00:04:55,400 Speaker 1: right now. Sometimes the unhealed part of me looks for 107 00:04:55,480 --> 00:04:58,760 Speaker 1: something that can save me, or someone to come save me. 108 00:04:59,360 --> 00:05:02,480 Speaker 1: After a while, words spread that we were messing around. 109 00:05:02,560 --> 00:05:04,600 Speaker 1: Oh shit, girl, you know it's like the hood. It's 110 00:05:04,600 --> 00:05:07,200 Speaker 1: the damn jail, old shit, the walls talk and the 111 00:05:07,240 --> 00:05:10,720 Speaker 1: inmates do too, and sure enough, this information gets back 112 00:05:10,760 --> 00:05:13,000 Speaker 1: to my manager. I'm not gonna say her name, but 113 00:05:13,040 --> 00:05:15,120 Speaker 1: I will say this. She is one of the realist 114 00:05:15,160 --> 00:05:17,760 Speaker 1: shorties I ever met. She sits me down and tells 115 00:05:17,800 --> 00:05:20,240 Speaker 1: me she knows about me and body, and I'm gonna 116 00:05:20,240 --> 00:05:23,680 Speaker 1: just say buddy, me and Boddy that she really likes me. 117 00:05:24,160 --> 00:05:25,960 Speaker 1: And that's why she was telling me. She thought it 118 00:05:26,000 --> 00:05:29,839 Speaker 1: would be best if I quit. Damn that if the 119 00:05:29,839 --> 00:05:33,279 Speaker 1: information got back to her, then word was spread beyond 120 00:05:33,320 --> 00:05:37,320 Speaker 1: her into the CEOs and then they'd launch an investigation 121 00:05:37,480 --> 00:05:38,560 Speaker 1: and I'd get arrested. 122 00:05:38,960 --> 00:05:39,960 Speaker 2: So she was saving me. 123 00:05:40,520 --> 00:05:42,800 Speaker 1: To avoid all of the mess, I just needed to quit, 124 00:05:43,160 --> 00:05:45,960 Speaker 1: and that's exactly what I did. I came in one 125 00:05:46,040 --> 00:05:49,000 Speaker 1: last day to tell Boddy to make sure he saves 126 00:05:49,000 --> 00:05:51,720 Speaker 1: my number in a safe space, and I didn't go back. 127 00:05:52,200 --> 00:05:54,880 Speaker 1: This was in the end of March, so having quit, 128 00:05:55,040 --> 00:05:57,200 Speaker 1: I figured there was nothing more for me to lose. 129 00:05:57,279 --> 00:05:59,360 Speaker 1: To look for him, So that's what I did. I 130 00:05:59,400 --> 00:06:02,239 Speaker 1: looked for him on Facebook and found a couple of pages. 131 00:06:02,560 --> 00:06:05,039 Speaker 1: I looked through his friendless to see if I can 132 00:06:05,240 --> 00:06:07,440 Speaker 1: find someone to pass a message to him. 133 00:06:07,800 --> 00:06:09,279 Speaker 2: Also, he didn't call you. Damn. 134 00:06:09,680 --> 00:06:12,040 Speaker 1: I find this friend that he seemed to be very 135 00:06:12,040 --> 00:06:14,320 Speaker 1: close with. I messaged the friend to see if they 136 00:06:14,400 --> 00:06:17,880 Speaker 1: still keep in contact, and this man proceeds to tell 137 00:06:17,920 --> 00:06:20,280 Speaker 1: me that him and buddy are together. 138 00:06:21,320 --> 00:06:25,560 Speaker 2: What that was his man? Oh? 139 00:06:26,080 --> 00:06:28,240 Speaker 1: He asked me who I was and what I wanted 140 00:06:28,279 --> 00:06:31,120 Speaker 1: with his boyfriend. Then I looked through his pictures and 141 00:06:31,160 --> 00:06:33,160 Speaker 1: find a picture with them too hugged up. 142 00:06:33,120 --> 00:06:35,160 Speaker 2: With engagement rings. Damn. 143 00:06:36,040 --> 00:06:39,520 Speaker 1: Needless to say, my heart was broke. I immediately got 144 00:06:39,600 --> 00:06:41,800 Speaker 1: sick to my stomach. I didn't know how to process 145 00:06:41,800 --> 00:06:44,640 Speaker 1: that information at all. So I just blocked the friend 146 00:06:44,720 --> 00:06:47,960 Speaker 1: and the situation from my mind and just kept moving forward, 147 00:06:48,360 --> 00:06:50,640 Speaker 1: because now I got to figure out how to pay 148 00:06:50,640 --> 00:06:53,200 Speaker 1: my bills since I was stupid and fucked up a 149 00:06:53,240 --> 00:06:56,800 Speaker 1: state job with a pension and all that girl dumba's hell. 150 00:06:57,200 --> 00:06:59,800 Speaker 1: Despite that, though, I still think of him all the 151 00:06:59,839 --> 00:07:02,360 Speaker 1: time time and the way he made me feel, how 152 00:07:02,400 --> 00:07:04,880 Speaker 1: soft and gentle he was with me. Maybe that was 153 00:07:05,040 --> 00:07:08,599 Speaker 1: from him being gay, I don't fucking know, or just 154 00:07:08,680 --> 00:07:11,000 Speaker 1: him knowing how to treat another human being. 155 00:07:11,080 --> 00:07:13,679 Speaker 2: Girl. That don't have nothing to do with him being gay, 156 00:07:13,920 --> 00:07:14,120 Speaker 2: you know? 157 00:07:14,920 --> 00:07:18,080 Speaker 1: But now he still calls me, uh, and I answer 158 00:07:18,160 --> 00:07:20,600 Speaker 1: from time to time because I want to hear his voice. 159 00:07:21,280 --> 00:07:24,320 Speaker 1: Oh today I told him I knew about him and 160 00:07:24,400 --> 00:07:27,280 Speaker 1: his boyfriend. Of course he couldn't explain much do to 161 00:07:27,320 --> 00:07:30,480 Speaker 1: where he is. But he claims that's his old life 162 00:07:30,760 --> 00:07:33,040 Speaker 1: and he wants a new one, and how he doesn't 163 00:07:33,040 --> 00:07:36,240 Speaker 1: want to lose me, how he'll answer whatever questions I have. 164 00:07:36,440 --> 00:07:38,840 Speaker 1: Just give him a chance when he gets out. Oh hell, no, 165 00:07:39,120 --> 00:07:40,720 Speaker 1: you want me to wait for you to get out. 166 00:07:40,760 --> 00:07:42,880 Speaker 1: I don't know when the hell that is You want 167 00:07:42,960 --> 00:07:45,400 Speaker 1: me to wait for you to get out to tell 168 00:07:45,400 --> 00:07:47,600 Speaker 1: me that you ain't gay? No more, so you can 169 00:07:47,680 --> 00:07:51,160 Speaker 1: answer all my questions about you being gay, some about 170 00:07:51,160 --> 00:07:53,240 Speaker 1: this is your old life. Well, that Nigga didn't say 171 00:07:53,240 --> 00:07:55,400 Speaker 1: that when I hit him up to ask him about you. 172 00:07:55,760 --> 00:07:57,880 Speaker 1: Y'all are fucking engaged. And what you did was you 173 00:07:57,920 --> 00:08:00,360 Speaker 1: got your ass locked up, and that Nigga's waiting for 174 00:08:00,400 --> 00:08:01,360 Speaker 1: you to come to fuck home. 175 00:08:01,960 --> 00:08:02,320 Speaker 2: All right. 176 00:08:03,200 --> 00:08:05,520 Speaker 1: A part of me wants that so bad, just to 177 00:08:05,520 --> 00:08:07,680 Speaker 1: say fuck it and love him openly for who he is. 178 00:08:08,120 --> 00:08:10,160 Speaker 1: Then there's that other part of me that thinks, what 179 00:08:10,200 --> 00:08:12,360 Speaker 1: if he gets tired and wants to go back to 180 00:08:12,440 --> 00:08:16,200 Speaker 1: dick exactly I'm not sure why I haven't completely checked 181 00:08:16,200 --> 00:08:18,960 Speaker 1: out after finding out he was gay. I need to 182 00:08:19,040 --> 00:08:22,000 Speaker 1: know how you would fix this mess. Am my delusional 183 00:08:22,000 --> 00:08:24,600 Speaker 1: to want love so bad that I tried to love 184 00:08:24,640 --> 00:08:25,200 Speaker 1: a gay man. 185 00:08:25,680 --> 00:08:27,720 Speaker 2: Get back to me if you can. This shit got 186 00:08:27,720 --> 00:08:28,440 Speaker 2: me fucked up. 187 00:08:28,920 --> 00:08:30,800 Speaker 1: Hold up, Hold up, I know this shit getting good. 188 00:08:30,840 --> 00:08:33,120 Speaker 1: But listen to just a couple seconds of a commercial. 189 00:08:33,160 --> 00:08:35,520 Speaker 1: If you love me, you'll listen, all. 190 00:08:35,480 --> 00:08:37,120 Speaker 2: Right, bookie. But I do understand. 191 00:08:37,120 --> 00:08:38,880 Speaker 1: I understand how you can be fucked up by a lot, 192 00:08:38,920 --> 00:08:41,400 Speaker 1: because that was just a whole lot. All right, Now, 193 00:08:41,679 --> 00:08:43,920 Speaker 1: let's go back to the beginning. Listen, You're twenty two 194 00:08:44,000 --> 00:08:46,560 Speaker 1: years old. You're twenty two. You had a great job, 195 00:08:46,800 --> 00:08:49,520 Speaker 1: you did, I mean, I don't you know considerably speaking. 196 00:08:49,559 --> 00:08:51,400 Speaker 1: You know, you worked in a fucking jail, but you 197 00:08:51,400 --> 00:08:53,640 Speaker 1: did have a pension. You mentioned, you mentioned that you 198 00:08:53,720 --> 00:08:55,439 Speaker 1: loved the state job. I mean, obviously you didn't have 199 00:08:55,480 --> 00:08:58,040 Speaker 1: anything bad to say about it other than you had 200 00:08:58,040 --> 00:09:00,720 Speaker 1: to leave it due to a nigga. I'm just gonna 201 00:09:00,720 --> 00:09:02,680 Speaker 1: say a nigga. Ain't gonna say a gay nigga because 202 00:09:02,720 --> 00:09:04,079 Speaker 1: we don't even know if he's gay. He may be, 203 00:09:04,240 --> 00:09:08,679 Speaker 1: by he obviously is not gay. You know, he's obviously bisexual, 204 00:09:09,200 --> 00:09:11,200 Speaker 1: or he could be poly. I mean, we don't know 205 00:09:11,280 --> 00:09:14,160 Speaker 1: when we get into all the sexual departments, but we don't. 206 00:09:14,280 --> 00:09:16,720 Speaker 1: We don't know, all right. I'm also not gonna say 207 00:09:17,080 --> 00:09:20,400 Speaker 1: what he made you feel has no regard. It's fake, 208 00:09:20,520 --> 00:09:23,560 Speaker 1: it's bullshit, it's asinine to feel that way. I'm not 209 00:09:23,679 --> 00:09:26,680 Speaker 1: going to say that because that's not true. I do 210 00:09:26,800 --> 00:09:29,600 Speaker 1: believe that he developed feelings for you. I believe that 211 00:09:29,800 --> 00:09:33,280 Speaker 1: he was and probably still is connected to that ex man, 212 00:09:33,480 --> 00:09:36,320 Speaker 1: you know, his ex fiance or could still be his 213 00:09:36,360 --> 00:09:39,400 Speaker 1: current fiance, and he still may be even battling with 214 00:09:39,440 --> 00:09:40,199 Speaker 1: his sexuality. 215 00:09:40,280 --> 00:09:42,080 Speaker 2: He may not know who the fuck he is. You 216 00:09:42,160 --> 00:09:43,959 Speaker 2: understand what I'm saying. He may not. That's why I 217 00:09:44,000 --> 00:09:45,000 Speaker 2: don't want to call him gay. 218 00:09:45,480 --> 00:09:48,440 Speaker 1: We can't just say, oh, you're gay because you found 219 00:09:48,480 --> 00:09:50,360 Speaker 1: out that he fucked with men. You know that he 220 00:09:50,440 --> 00:09:52,800 Speaker 1: had a man that he was engaged to. He could 221 00:09:52,840 --> 00:09:55,800 Speaker 1: still be very well bisexual. You know, we just don't know, 222 00:09:56,120 --> 00:09:58,120 Speaker 1: so I don't want to put that on him altogether. 223 00:09:58,440 --> 00:10:01,760 Speaker 1: I also don't think you're crazy for feeling the way 224 00:10:01,800 --> 00:10:03,880 Speaker 1: you do. We can't control our feelings. We can't control 225 00:10:03,960 --> 00:10:06,320 Speaker 1: who we love. If you love this man, I do 226 00:10:06,480 --> 00:10:10,640 Speaker 1: understand that. I do think that you are young. I'm 227 00:10:10,640 --> 00:10:12,240 Speaker 1: not going to say you don't know what love is, 228 00:10:12,600 --> 00:10:15,520 Speaker 1: but you have a whole lot more life to live 229 00:10:16,360 --> 00:10:19,360 Speaker 1: and a lot more to experience before you lock. 230 00:10:19,280 --> 00:10:21,959 Speaker 2: Down with a guy who is in jail. 231 00:10:22,000 --> 00:10:23,840 Speaker 1: You don't know when he's coming home, and he just 232 00:10:23,960 --> 00:10:26,000 Speaker 1: expressed to you that he may be gay. 233 00:10:26,400 --> 00:10:27,120 Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying. 234 00:10:27,280 --> 00:10:30,280 Speaker 1: But he wants you to wait until he gets out 235 00:10:30,480 --> 00:10:35,120 Speaker 1: for a full explanation. That's bullshit. That's the only part 236 00:10:35,160 --> 00:10:38,480 Speaker 1: about it that is bullshit. And the craziest part about 237 00:10:38,520 --> 00:10:41,760 Speaker 1: it is that you actually had to quit your job. 238 00:10:41,800 --> 00:10:43,520 Speaker 1: You didn't quit because you wanted to. You quit because 239 00:10:43,520 --> 00:10:46,840 Speaker 1: you had to, and you avoid it and arrest. Okay, 240 00:10:46,920 --> 00:10:49,120 Speaker 1: I think your manager is a real one for coming, 241 00:10:49,559 --> 00:10:52,960 Speaker 1: you know, coming to you before shit actually hit the 242 00:10:53,000 --> 00:10:56,160 Speaker 1: fucking fan and telling you to get out of there. 243 00:10:56,200 --> 00:10:57,040 Speaker 2: That was meaningful. 244 00:10:57,080 --> 00:11:00,240 Speaker 1: That was somebody who understands and probably somebody who saw 245 00:11:00,280 --> 00:11:03,120 Speaker 1: a situation like that before. You know, a young girl 246 00:11:03,160 --> 00:11:05,480 Speaker 1: caught in a situation like that. I'm not gonna say 247 00:11:05,480 --> 00:11:07,360 Speaker 1: that all men in jail are the same. I'm not 248 00:11:07,360 --> 00:11:09,600 Speaker 1: going to say that, but I am gonna say, it's 249 00:11:09,720 --> 00:11:12,719 Speaker 1: very easy to believe a dream that a man in 250 00:11:12,800 --> 00:11:15,440 Speaker 1: jail will sell you. You understand what I'm saying, not saying 251 00:11:15,480 --> 00:11:17,920 Speaker 1: that this is your situation now, I'm talking in general. 252 00:11:18,080 --> 00:11:20,960 Speaker 1: It's very easy to believe that because all they have 253 00:11:21,000 --> 00:11:22,120 Speaker 1: to live by is dreams. 254 00:11:22,600 --> 00:11:24,400 Speaker 2: Some of them don't even know when they're coming home. 255 00:11:24,600 --> 00:11:27,319 Speaker 1: Some of them ain't even coming home, so all they 256 00:11:27,360 --> 00:11:29,360 Speaker 1: have to do is hold on to dreams and memories 257 00:11:29,400 --> 00:11:32,560 Speaker 1: and shit, you know, And sometimes their dreams become nightmares 258 00:11:32,559 --> 00:11:34,559 Speaker 1: and shit because they don't know when they're coming home. 259 00:11:34,720 --> 00:11:37,640 Speaker 1: They have to live in a fucking cage and look 260 00:11:37,679 --> 00:11:39,600 Speaker 1: at four walls for the rest of their fucking lives 261 00:11:39,760 --> 00:11:42,000 Speaker 1: or for a very long period of time, and be 262 00:11:42,080 --> 00:11:44,720 Speaker 1: away from their friends and families. And like you said, pussy, 263 00:11:45,160 --> 00:11:47,640 Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. It's hard that you had 264 00:11:47,640 --> 00:11:50,720 Speaker 1: to deal with the mental abuse, you know, the verbal 265 00:11:50,760 --> 00:11:53,360 Speaker 1: abuse from all the other inmates hitting on you, telling 266 00:11:53,360 --> 00:11:54,719 Speaker 1: you they drink your bad for it. I know it 267 00:11:54,760 --> 00:11:56,680 Speaker 1: had to make you feel uncomfortable. And then you said 268 00:11:56,720 --> 00:11:59,600 Speaker 1: you meant buddy, buddy kua and you all was sneaking 269 00:11:59,600 --> 00:12:01,839 Speaker 1: to the free so much yry hand sex what the 270 00:12:01,840 --> 00:12:03,839 Speaker 1: fuck y'all doing in the freezer. Then not y'all freezing, 271 00:12:03,920 --> 00:12:06,880 Speaker 1: y'all damn asses off and they're just talking and trembling. 272 00:12:07,280 --> 00:12:08,400 Speaker 2: What the fuck y'all doing? 273 00:12:08,840 --> 00:12:10,480 Speaker 1: Shit, ain't no way you could ass sexy they I 274 00:12:10,559 --> 00:12:12,679 Speaker 1: know this dick can't get hard in the cold a 275 00:12:12,800 --> 00:12:17,400 Speaker 1: fucking freezer next to the chicken. Chiall listen, all jokes aside. 276 00:12:17,520 --> 00:12:21,480 Speaker 1: I think, like I said, you're very young. Okay, make 277 00:12:21,520 --> 00:12:24,320 Speaker 1: this a lesson. Learn you said he calls you, you 278 00:12:24,440 --> 00:12:26,840 Speaker 1: still answer because you just want to hear his voice. 279 00:12:27,360 --> 00:12:29,640 Speaker 1: Don't run from it. I'm not saying run from it. 280 00:12:29,800 --> 00:12:32,719 Speaker 1: Just keep all your options open, honey. I can't tell you. 281 00:12:33,920 --> 00:12:36,800 Speaker 1: I can't tell you. I can't tell you to be 282 00:12:36,920 --> 00:12:38,760 Speaker 1: with a gay man. I can't tell you to not 283 00:12:38,920 --> 00:12:41,400 Speaker 1: be with a bisexual man. I can't tell you to 284 00:12:41,480 --> 00:12:44,080 Speaker 1: not fuck with him. And listen, it's all about your preference. 285 00:12:44,120 --> 00:12:46,319 Speaker 1: You're still young, you don't know who the fuck you are. Probably, 286 00:12:46,360 --> 00:12:49,480 Speaker 1: so even if you're considering dealing with the bisexual man, 287 00:12:50,040 --> 00:12:52,760 Speaker 1: that's not me judging you. That's your fucking preference. If 288 00:12:52,880 --> 00:12:55,080 Speaker 1: that's what you prefer, you need to figure out what 289 00:12:55,120 --> 00:12:57,080 Speaker 1: you want to do. You know he said, that's his 290 00:12:57,120 --> 00:13:00,160 Speaker 1: old life. Do you believe him? Can you ungay have 291 00:13:00,160 --> 00:13:02,960 Speaker 1: to being gay for so long? That's a real fucking question. 292 00:13:03,360 --> 00:13:05,360 Speaker 2: Women do it? Why can't men do it? 293 00:13:05,720 --> 00:13:08,839 Speaker 1: And then the flip side is once your buttole been entered, 294 00:13:09,160 --> 00:13:12,520 Speaker 1: how do you like go back to being a version. 295 00:13:12,240 --> 00:13:14,640 Speaker 2: Of the butt? You know what I mean? And are 296 00:13:14,679 --> 00:13:17,839 Speaker 2: you gay fever once you get your butt plugged up? 297 00:13:17,960 --> 00:13:18,480 Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying. 298 00:13:18,640 --> 00:13:21,240 Speaker 1: It's just so many there's so many questions, you know 299 00:13:21,280 --> 00:13:23,400 Speaker 1: what I'm saying. We did have Andrew Calwell bring him 300 00:13:23,480 --> 00:13:25,400 Speaker 1: up every now and then. He said that he's not 301 00:13:25,440 --> 00:13:28,920 Speaker 1: gay anymore. He very well may not be, you know 302 00:13:28,960 --> 00:13:30,439 Speaker 1: what I'm saying. We don't know what that guy does. 303 00:13:30,480 --> 00:13:32,520 Speaker 1: I mean, he still has you know, is this feminine 304 00:13:32,559 --> 00:13:35,360 Speaker 1: ways or whatever. But that could still just be the 305 00:13:35,440 --> 00:13:36,720 Speaker 1: last little bit, you. 306 00:13:36,640 --> 00:13:38,040 Speaker 2: Know, coming out. 307 00:13:38,160 --> 00:13:40,400 Speaker 1: You know, he probably got to get the last little 308 00:13:40,400 --> 00:13:43,280 Speaker 1: bit out by twenty twenty five. He could sound like me, 309 00:13:43,720 --> 00:13:47,560 Speaker 1: you know, he could sound like you know, James Earl Jones. 310 00:13:47,600 --> 00:13:50,240 Speaker 1: We don't know, you know what I mean, You probably don't. 311 00:13:50,640 --> 00:13:51,320 Speaker 2: He probably don't. 312 00:13:51,440 --> 00:13:54,120 Speaker 1: You know, he's getting the last little bit of gay out, 313 00:13:54,280 --> 00:13:57,160 Speaker 1: you know. So we just don't know. And while it 314 00:13:57,200 --> 00:13:59,360 Speaker 1: sounds like I'm playing, I'm being dead ass serious. 315 00:13:59,360 --> 00:14:00,400 Speaker 2: All right, So I. 316 00:14:00,400 --> 00:14:03,920 Speaker 1: Want you to, you know, reach out to body or 317 00:14:04,000 --> 00:14:05,720 Speaker 1: well you can't reach out at the jail, you know, 318 00:14:05,880 --> 00:14:08,600 Speaker 1: but don't reach out to no more his friends, because 319 00:14:08,600 --> 00:14:10,720 Speaker 1: then I feel like you're gonna find out some more shit. 320 00:14:11,120 --> 00:14:12,640 Speaker 2: All right. I think you need to let him know. 321 00:14:12,640 --> 00:14:14,720 Speaker 1: Write him a nice little letter, let him know that 322 00:14:14,800 --> 00:14:17,160 Speaker 1: you're conflicted on this, you know, be as open as 323 00:14:17,200 --> 00:14:18,959 Speaker 1: you can, and tell him that you don't want to 324 00:14:19,000 --> 00:14:21,160 Speaker 1: wait until he gets home for him to explain everything. 325 00:14:21,520 --> 00:14:24,040 Speaker 1: You met him in there, and he still he owed 326 00:14:24,080 --> 00:14:27,160 Speaker 1: you an explanation. Nigga, I lost my mother fucking job 327 00:14:27,920 --> 00:14:31,720 Speaker 1: because I picked you, over risking my freedom I did. 328 00:14:31,720 --> 00:14:35,800 Speaker 1: In hindsight, I ultimately picked you. He knows you're young. 329 00:14:36,160 --> 00:14:38,440 Speaker 1: I'm sure you didn't lie about your fucking age. He 330 00:14:38,520 --> 00:14:41,480 Speaker 1: knows you're young. I'm not saying that he's trying to 331 00:14:41,480 --> 00:14:43,960 Speaker 1: take advantage of you, but you are very impressionable. 332 00:14:44,400 --> 00:14:46,360 Speaker 2: Okay. It took him a minute to knock down that wall, 333 00:14:46,400 --> 00:14:49,480 Speaker 2: but he did. A nigga in jail knocked down the wall. 334 00:14:50,200 --> 00:14:53,880 Speaker 1: Okay, you can have anybody on the outside your age, 335 00:14:53,880 --> 00:14:56,200 Speaker 1: a couple of years old or whatever, without a record, 336 00:14:56,320 --> 00:15:01,360 Speaker 1: without a boyfriend or you know, a fiance and without 337 00:15:01,360 --> 00:15:06,360 Speaker 1: a past like that, and you chose Buddy again. 338 00:15:06,840 --> 00:15:08,920 Speaker 2: It may sound like I'm judging you. I'm not. 339 00:15:09,480 --> 00:15:12,520 Speaker 1: But sometimes you gotta hear shit repeated back to you 340 00:15:12,640 --> 00:15:16,200 Speaker 1: so you can hear how unorthodox it sounds. I'm not 341 00:15:16,240 --> 00:15:19,280 Speaker 1: saying the situation is crazy. I'm not saying it's disgusting. 342 00:15:19,480 --> 00:15:20,760 Speaker 1: I'm not saying any of that. I don't want you 343 00:15:20,840 --> 00:15:23,920 Speaker 1: to get the wrong idea. I said unorthodox. It's a 344 00:15:23,960 --> 00:15:27,240 Speaker 1: lot going on, a lot going on. You're too young 345 00:15:27,240 --> 00:15:29,240 Speaker 1: for that. You should be working on your next fucking job, 346 00:15:29,720 --> 00:15:32,320 Speaker 1: not working on buddy. And when the fuck he come home? 347 00:15:32,920 --> 00:15:34,920 Speaker 1: What the fuck is he gonna give you? Is he 348 00:15:35,040 --> 00:15:38,200 Speaker 1: backing up his promises with concrete details? Does he have 349 00:15:38,280 --> 00:15:41,080 Speaker 1: a fucking plan? What is he doing in there now? 350 00:15:41,080 --> 00:15:42,240 Speaker 1: And did you work in a jail or did you 351 00:15:42,240 --> 00:15:45,280 Speaker 1: work in a prison that's different? Is he taking classes 352 00:15:45,280 --> 00:15:47,160 Speaker 1: to better himself? Like? What the fuck is he doing? 353 00:15:47,520 --> 00:15:49,920 Speaker 1: What are his dreams? Did y'all get to know each 354 00:15:49,920 --> 00:15:51,240 Speaker 1: other in the damn did he tell you that in 355 00:15:51,240 --> 00:15:53,760 Speaker 1: that freezer? What did he tell you he was cold, 356 00:15:53,760 --> 00:15:55,360 Speaker 1: freezing your ass off. He supposed to be on the 357 00:15:55,440 --> 00:15:56,320 Speaker 1: damn floor. 358 00:15:56,120 --> 00:15:58,680 Speaker 2: With the rest of the inmates and you playing in 359 00:15:58,680 --> 00:16:00,920 Speaker 2: the freezer with buddy. Girl. 360 00:16:01,760 --> 00:16:03,120 Speaker 1: I think you need to go try to get your 361 00:16:03,200 --> 00:16:05,360 Speaker 1: damn job back, or go to another damn jail and 362 00:16:05,400 --> 00:16:07,360 Speaker 1: don't fall in love with no more fucking inmates. 363 00:16:07,440 --> 00:16:08,760 Speaker 2: Girl. I mean that. 364 00:16:08,880 --> 00:16:10,560 Speaker 1: No, they're not all the same, but that ain't where 365 00:16:10,640 --> 00:16:12,440 Speaker 1: you want to get your man from. 366 00:16:12,920 --> 00:16:14,040 Speaker 2: It's good men and that two. 367 00:16:14,400 --> 00:16:17,360 Speaker 1: But let them come home, figure themselves out and find 368 00:16:17,360 --> 00:16:21,000 Speaker 1: their woman, or let them come home to people that's already. 369 00:16:20,640 --> 00:16:22,320 Speaker 2: Waiting for them. I mean that. 370 00:16:22,760 --> 00:16:25,200 Speaker 1: I mean that, even in your case, let them come 371 00:16:25,240 --> 00:16:30,560 Speaker 1: home to who's waiting for them obviously, Okay, because dreams 372 00:16:30,560 --> 00:16:35,640 Speaker 1: are still sold in jail. Okay, Okay, check back in 373 00:16:35,720 --> 00:16:37,480 Speaker 1: with me because I want to know where you go 374 00:16:37,560 --> 00:16:39,600 Speaker 1: from here. I would love for you to go get 375 00:16:39,640 --> 00:16:41,840 Speaker 1: another job. You seem like you had your head on 376 00:16:42,040 --> 00:16:46,400 Speaker 1: damn straight, but you know, we don't know, we don't know. 377 00:16:46,440 --> 00:16:47,640 Speaker 2: I know you need to get it together. 378 00:16:48,440 --> 00:16:50,760 Speaker 1: If you love me, you'll listen to this commercial and 379 00:16:50,800 --> 00:16:54,600 Speaker 1: then we'll be right back moving on. Hey, jas, I 380 00:16:54,600 --> 00:16:56,600 Speaker 1: have a boyfriend that I've been with for four years, 381 00:16:56,680 --> 00:16:59,560 Speaker 1: but we both want different things. I want us to 382 00:16:59,640 --> 00:17:02,080 Speaker 1: have our own place, but he wants to keep living 383 00:17:02,120 --> 00:17:06,840 Speaker 1: with his dad. He's twenty one and I'm twenty. Damn girl, shit, 384 00:17:07,800 --> 00:17:10,560 Speaker 1: girly pribably ain't ready for all of that. Now, come on, 385 00:17:10,720 --> 00:17:12,919 Speaker 1: what the hell are you talking about? First of all, 386 00:17:12,960 --> 00:17:16,240 Speaker 1: your little hot ass, calm down. You ain't even twenty 387 00:17:16,280 --> 00:17:20,639 Speaker 1: one yet. He's twenty one and you're twenty. Understand you 388 00:17:20,680 --> 00:17:23,080 Speaker 1: want to move. Okay, you want to move with your boyfriend. 389 00:17:23,160 --> 00:17:26,000 Speaker 1: Y'all been together for four years. Yeah, so, y'all were 390 00:17:26,000 --> 00:17:31,240 Speaker 1: together since sixteen seventeen. I understand, But you really truly 391 00:17:31,280 --> 00:17:34,320 Speaker 1: don't know a person until you live with them. And now, honestly, 392 00:17:34,359 --> 00:17:37,600 Speaker 1: I'm not trying to I'm not trying to control your life. 393 00:17:38,280 --> 00:17:40,120 Speaker 1: But you got one more year until you make all 394 00:17:40,119 --> 00:17:42,120 Speaker 1: these big decisions, and you got to live with them. 395 00:17:42,240 --> 00:17:45,080 Speaker 1: You understand what I'm saying. I think he's making a 396 00:17:45,080 --> 00:17:49,280 Speaker 1: sensible decision. You act like he thirty one, forty one 397 00:17:49,440 --> 00:17:52,520 Speaker 1: living with his dad. I know some people living with 398 00:17:52,600 --> 00:17:55,880 Speaker 1: their parents that are older than I am, which I'm 399 00:17:55,920 --> 00:17:59,000 Speaker 1: still not saying anything is wrong with I'm just saying 400 00:17:59,440 --> 00:18:02,840 Speaker 1: it depends on your level of independence. If you want 401 00:18:02,840 --> 00:18:05,280 Speaker 1: to be independent. It's some people parents don't want them 402 00:18:05,320 --> 00:18:07,280 Speaker 1: to leave. Some people don't want to leave their parents. 403 00:18:07,720 --> 00:18:11,159 Speaker 1: But when you have relationships and jobs and kids and 404 00:18:11,160 --> 00:18:13,040 Speaker 1: all that type of shit, you want your own. And 405 00:18:13,160 --> 00:18:15,920 Speaker 1: when you just are tired of living under someone else's roof, 406 00:18:16,359 --> 00:18:18,720 Speaker 1: you want your own. But then you have people that 407 00:18:18,840 --> 00:18:23,760 Speaker 1: stay at home as long as they can. Because I'm 408 00:18:23,800 --> 00:18:25,600 Speaker 1: me tell you something, it's. 409 00:18:25,400 --> 00:18:26,879 Speaker 2: Hard to shit out here these days. 410 00:18:27,600 --> 00:18:29,880 Speaker 1: Back in the day when I first moved out, yeah 411 00:18:29,920 --> 00:18:33,600 Speaker 1: it was hard, but it wasn't nowhere near as hard 412 00:18:33,640 --> 00:18:34,480 Speaker 1: as it is now. 413 00:18:34,840 --> 00:18:38,160 Speaker 2: We're in a recession right now. And while it doesn't. 414 00:18:37,840 --> 00:18:40,280 Speaker 1: Affect a lot of people, and why it doesn't look 415 00:18:40,359 --> 00:18:43,600 Speaker 1: like why it doesn't look like it affects a lot 416 00:18:43,640 --> 00:18:47,040 Speaker 1: of people. Oh it does. It's affecting a lot of 417 00:18:47,080 --> 00:18:50,200 Speaker 1: fucking people. I went to this is a side truck 418 00:18:50,240 --> 00:18:53,359 Speaker 1: real quick. I want the chick for later other day, right, 419 00:18:53,680 --> 00:18:56,600 Speaker 1: I order fool for me, my sister and my videographer. 420 00:18:57,160 --> 00:19:00,919 Speaker 1: That shit came up to like thirty eight dollars and 421 00:19:01,000 --> 00:19:02,639 Speaker 1: we didn't even get four meals. 422 00:19:03,000 --> 00:19:04,320 Speaker 2: I was the only one that got a four meal. 423 00:19:04,359 --> 00:19:07,560 Speaker 1: My sister got some nuggets meg and cheese, and he 424 00:19:07,640 --> 00:19:10,159 Speaker 1: got a salad and a milkshake or some shit. Thirty 425 00:19:10,200 --> 00:19:13,679 Speaker 1: eight dollars forty dollars for three people to eat and 426 00:19:13,680 --> 00:19:17,920 Speaker 1: they weren't even full complete meals. It's a fucking struggle 427 00:19:17,960 --> 00:19:21,159 Speaker 1: out here. That shit may sound like pennies to certain people. 428 00:19:21,320 --> 00:19:24,600 Speaker 1: To other people, you ain't got it. It's hard feeding 429 00:19:24,640 --> 00:19:27,239 Speaker 1: your fucking family. That's why so much crime, That's why 430 00:19:27,359 --> 00:19:31,080 Speaker 1: niggas is hungry, robbing, stealing, fucking killing people and shit 431 00:19:31,280 --> 00:19:32,840 Speaker 1: people are trying. 432 00:19:32,480 --> 00:19:35,480 Speaker 2: To make ways out of no way. You understand what 433 00:19:35,520 --> 00:19:35,960 Speaker 2: I'm saying. 434 00:19:36,119 --> 00:19:38,800 Speaker 1: And then we have yollow ass that want to move 435 00:19:38,840 --> 00:19:41,800 Speaker 1: out quick fast, in a hurry. Girl, you're gonna be 436 00:19:41,880 --> 00:19:44,560 Speaker 1: right back. And I don't even like it. And I 437 00:19:44,560 --> 00:19:47,480 Speaker 1: don't like saying this. I don't like seeming like I'm 438 00:19:47,520 --> 00:19:51,560 Speaker 1: talking down. But don't jump out there too fucking fast, Okay, 439 00:19:52,040 --> 00:19:55,320 Speaker 1: don't at least wait until you're twenty one, and then 440 00:19:55,440 --> 00:19:57,840 Speaker 1: let him take his time. If y'all been together for 441 00:19:57,840 --> 00:20:01,240 Speaker 1: four years already, where are you going? Do you see 442 00:20:01,320 --> 00:20:04,000 Speaker 1: y'all going downhill? Is this a deal breaker for you? 443 00:20:04,000 --> 00:20:07,760 Speaker 1: If y'all don't move together, you're gonna leave him? What 444 00:20:07,880 --> 00:20:12,359 Speaker 1: is this, it's all right. Compromise and a relationship compromise. 445 00:20:13,119 --> 00:20:17,800 Speaker 1: Give him like a wager, you know, leverage. Let's meet 446 00:20:17,800 --> 00:20:21,240 Speaker 1: in the middle. Compromise. Say all right, Ben, you know 447 00:20:21,320 --> 00:20:23,840 Speaker 1: how bad I want to move together. Since we can't 448 00:20:23,880 --> 00:20:27,280 Speaker 1: do that right now, let's revisit this in another year, 449 00:20:28,080 --> 00:20:30,280 Speaker 1: six months to a year, and let's see where you'll 450 00:20:30,320 --> 00:20:32,680 Speaker 1: be by then. Or let's wait until my twenty first 451 00:20:32,720 --> 00:20:35,199 Speaker 1: birthday and let's see where you'll be by then, and 452 00:20:35,240 --> 00:20:36,040 Speaker 1: we'll revisit it. 453 00:20:36,480 --> 00:20:37,040 Speaker 2: You know what I mean. 454 00:20:37,440 --> 00:20:40,880 Speaker 1: Don't just up and leave call it quits just because 455 00:20:40,920 --> 00:20:43,800 Speaker 1: he's not trying to move together right now. He also 456 00:20:43,800 --> 00:20:46,080 Speaker 1: could be scared. He could be nervous. His parents could 457 00:20:46,080 --> 00:20:47,679 Speaker 1: be in his head. You ain't about to move with 458 00:20:47,680 --> 00:20:49,960 Speaker 1: that girl, you know what I'm saying. You don't know, 459 00:20:50,280 --> 00:20:52,119 Speaker 1: so I think it's a communication thing. Sit down and 460 00:20:52,160 --> 00:20:54,680 Speaker 1: talk to him, But also compromise if you see it's 461 00:20:54,680 --> 00:20:58,040 Speaker 1: really a problem. Don't ever pressure a man to do shit, 462 00:20:58,880 --> 00:21:00,320 Speaker 1: just like I don't think we should be pre sure 463 00:21:00,320 --> 00:21:03,200 Speaker 1: to do anything. Never put pressure on a man, because 464 00:21:03,240 --> 00:21:06,880 Speaker 1: when they feel pressure, they do shit like lie. They 465 00:21:06,920 --> 00:21:08,600 Speaker 1: start telling you what you want to hear, and they 466 00:21:08,600 --> 00:21:11,160 Speaker 1: don't even mean it just to get from up under 467 00:21:11,160 --> 00:21:14,359 Speaker 1: that pressure, you know what I'm saying, Like they start 468 00:21:14,359 --> 00:21:16,440 Speaker 1: to lie, they start to run, they start the cheap, 469 00:21:16,480 --> 00:21:22,600 Speaker 1: they start to don't pressure him. Be upfront always. That's 470 00:21:22,600 --> 00:21:25,520 Speaker 1: a tip that you could take for me. I'm thirty one. 471 00:21:25,760 --> 00:21:27,960 Speaker 1: I still ain't got it all figured out relationship wise, 472 00:21:28,200 --> 00:21:30,080 Speaker 1: but I think I'm doing pretty damn good because I've 473 00:21:30,080 --> 00:21:32,840 Speaker 1: had some bad examples to show me what not to 474 00:21:32,920 --> 00:21:35,240 Speaker 1: do and what to watch out for. Well, actually, I 475 00:21:35,240 --> 00:21:37,560 Speaker 1: should call them good examples because I know the nigga 476 00:21:37,640 --> 00:21:40,800 Speaker 1: right now was thinking them niggas a All right, well, listen, 477 00:21:40,880 --> 00:21:43,719 Speaker 1: we come to the end of another Carefully Reckless episode 478 00:21:43,720 --> 00:21:46,480 Speaker 1: where Jess is fixing your mess every Wednesday on The 479 00:21:46,480 --> 00:21:49,760 Speaker 1: Black Effect. Thank you, I heart this is the home 480 00:21:49,840 --> 00:21:52,760 Speaker 1: for your podcast anyway you find podcasts, So you listen 481 00:21:52,800 --> 00:21:56,120 Speaker 1: to podcasts, make sure you search carefully Reckless and then 482 00:21:56,119 --> 00:23:10,639 Speaker 1: my deepest pam voice name name can't Fully Reckless is 483 00:23:10,640 --> 00:23:13,960 Speaker 1: a production of iHeartRadio and The Black Effect. 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