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Speaker 1: A big Bank.

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Speaker 2: DJ Scream bring you Big Facts podcast in.

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Speaker 1: The street Livaro Vose Studios.

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Speaker 3: It's time for Big Facts, Big Bank.

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Speaker 1: What up?

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Speaker 4: DJ Scream up here? We got the ladies on Big

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Speaker 4: Facts today. Of Man the Lee is here, Angelus Stanton Keene,

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Speaker 4: doctor Charnelle is here. What's up, ladies? How y'all feeling

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Speaker 4: everybody good? Everybody energy good? Man? We got started, you

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Speaker 4: know what I'm saying. We got to jump straight into it.

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Speaker 4: It was getting spicy before the cameras started rolling. Man Today,

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Speaker 4: we want to talk about gender wars because it seems

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Speaker 4: like it's just in our community, especially the men at

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Speaker 4: the women, the women at the men, and everything in between.

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Speaker 4: And we just want to understand, like how to social

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Speaker 4: media affect that? How to society affect that? Like what

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Speaker 4: are your thoughts on the gender wars and the disconnection

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Speaker 4: between the men and the women in our community?

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Speaker 3: Who want to start?

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Speaker 5: I have a lot to say about it, but I'm

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Speaker 5: gonna keep it short. Unfortunately, social media give a false

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Speaker 5: sense of what real relationship and real love and partnership is,

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Speaker 5: so I think it takes away from the quality, like

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Speaker 5: people are just women are just looking for men to

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Speaker 5: just provide. They're not looking for communicators, they're not looking

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Speaker 5: for a protector, they're not looking for a man to

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Speaker 5: pray over them.

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Speaker 2: None of those things.

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Speaker 5: Oh, if we can have the content, and I'll use quotes,

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Speaker 5: if they can do good content, then they okay with

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Speaker 5: the man and they take them for whatever it is.

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Speaker 5: And men a lot of times are very intimidated by

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Speaker 5: women who are successful. They want to be able to

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Speaker 5: have that financial control over you. So when you're too successful,

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Speaker 5: they feel like you have too much to say. But

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Speaker 5: it's not that I just can't allow you to run

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Speaker 5: me into a brick wall, because I'm smart enough to

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Speaker 5: know that we're going head first one hundred miles an

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Speaker 5: hour and we're going to crash.

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Speaker 2: So that's what I think.

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Speaker 6: I agree, and I think part of the problem is

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Speaker 6: we have conditioned men to think the only thing we

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Speaker 6: need from them is their money. So then when we

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Speaker 6: get them and they're not emotionally intelligent, we don't value

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Speaker 6: the other strengths that they have. So you want a bag,

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Speaker 6: but now he over here running through the mud. Our

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Speaker 6: men don't think they have any other value than money anymore,

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Speaker 6: so they'll lead with that. But honestly and truly. If

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Speaker 6: a good man can you, y'all can together make some money.

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Speaker 2: Correct. But if you don't know you need the protection.

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Speaker 6: I'd rather be protected wholeheartedly than just having a bag,

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Speaker 6: because you can get the bag. The bag, it can

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Speaker 6: always be got. But like you said, they don't want

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Speaker 6: to be prayed for, they don't want be proected.

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Speaker 2: They don't want the leadership.

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Speaker 6: You want some money, and that's cool until you're out

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Speaker 6: here burning.

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Speaker 2: You got to take every day for the rest of

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Speaker 2: your life.

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Speaker 6: And then and then social media makes everybody think they

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Speaker 6: have so many options, especially us. I would say us

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Speaker 6: more than men, because I feel like from a man's perspective,

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Speaker 6: when women are coming at you like they're coming to you,

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Speaker 6: men of course come to us too. But we think

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Speaker 6: we have so many We think we have so many options.

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Speaker 6: But a man's nature is to chase a woman. So

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Speaker 6: I don't think we have as many options as they

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Speaker 6: think we as we think we have. When a woman

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Speaker 6: come to a man, he's she probably thinks he's a

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Speaker 6: little bit more valuable.

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Speaker 2: It's not normal, it's not natural.

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Speaker 6: But we got people all in our DM so we

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Speaker 6: think we and you ready to lose a whole relationship

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Speaker 6: because it looks like this man can do more and

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Speaker 6: you not even looking at any other values.

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Speaker 2: You feel like.

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Speaker 6: You can get everything everything, but you can it's not there.

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Speaker 6: It's just a false sense of options, big false into options.

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Speaker 2: I think it's most of the problem we shoultak angel.

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Speaker 7: I mean, I think we are at war. I mean,

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Speaker 7: let's be honest there. Our gender war is going on,

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Speaker 7: and I'm not gonna say I think it started long

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Speaker 7: before social media. I can't speak for everybody, but I

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Speaker 7: think the majority of us that are probably my age,

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Speaker 7: you know, we come from being raised by strong women,

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Speaker 7: independent women that didn't have a choice but probably to

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Speaker 7: be independent. So we've taken on, you know, this narrative

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Speaker 7: that we're strong and we're independent and.

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Speaker 8: That we don't need men.

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Speaker 7: And I think in a way that probably pushes a

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Speaker 7: man's existence to be needed, you know what I'm saying,

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Speaker 7: especially by his family, especially by his woman. I mean,

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Speaker 7: I don't think that society has played a good role

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Speaker 7: in it, because now are we even defining men and women,

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Speaker 7: Because these days.

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Speaker 8: A man could be a woman and a woman could

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Speaker 8: be a man. So yeah, I mean, well, yeah, I'm done.

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Speaker 1: There, I'm done.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm just I mean, let's just be honest.

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Speaker 1: We don't know what we're dealing with.

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Speaker 7: How can we even have a conversation if there's not

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Speaker 7: a clear defining difference between man and women?

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Speaker 8: I mean conversation if you had at this point.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, it's like what are you?

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Speaker 3: Who are you?

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Speaker 1: So?

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Speaker 3: What do y'all think this stem's from?

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Speaker 4: Like is this something that it ain't something like you said,

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Speaker 4: that just start happening in the last ten twenty years.

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Speaker 4: There's always been disconnections in our community. But what is

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Speaker 4: this stem from? Do you think it go back thirty

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Speaker 4: forty years? Civil rights? That you think has been since

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Speaker 4: the beginning of the time, regardless of what race was there,

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Speaker 4: has it always been a disconnection or what does it

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Speaker 4: stem from? Because if you find the root of the problem,

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Speaker 4: you can try to start to heal the problem.

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Speaker 7: I don't think we no longer really have a respect

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Speaker 7: for like family values, because like my dad and his

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Speaker 7: wife been married for almost like forty something years, and

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Speaker 7: it's like, I think, now these and you don't stay

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Speaker 7: married forty years because it was perfect, right, you know

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Speaker 7: the worst says, a wise woman doesn't tear down her house.

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Speaker 8: And that was one of the things I learned kind

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Speaker 8: of like along my journey. Ended up having.

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Speaker 7: Different relationships is because I'll be with one that child's

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Speaker 7: father he cheat, I find out about it, I leave

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Speaker 7: him thinking the grass green on the other side, go

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Speaker 7: get with somebody else, have another baby.

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Speaker 8: We've created these broken homes.

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Speaker 7: We got to deal with all of these different situations

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Speaker 7: because we don't know how to stay down. And I

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Speaker 7: wouldn't say that, you know, we give men a past

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Speaker 7: to cheat, but I just think that's preally not much

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Speaker 7: like a western nine theology. Right now that I'm older

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Speaker 7: and i'm mature, I'm not against the way that people

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Speaker 8: But it's just come with life experience.

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Speaker 7: Because even if you read in the Bible, if you

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Speaker 7: think about all other cultures, right when they were building kingdoms,

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Speaker 7: a man had more than one wife, okay, and these

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Speaker 7: women they stuck together and they helped create that kingdom.

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Speaker 7: We got situations where even my children's father, God blessed

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Speaker 7: the dead, who had four other women, you know, as

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Speaker 7: mothers for his children. I'll coparing it with them. Right,

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Speaker 7: let's build the keeno, let's not tear it down. So

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Speaker 7: I think a lot of us have contributed to the

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Speaker 7: not only the demids of our own family, but our

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Speaker 7: own culture, like child support. Child support wasn't never put

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Speaker 7: in the system to keep the family together, right, we

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Speaker 7: don't know how to work out our issues. I'm gonna

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Speaker 7: run and put the court system in our business, and

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Speaker 7: now you paying them, right, And there's no encouragement for

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Speaker 7: us to keep the family together. So if we create

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Speaker 7: these families, you know, we stuck with them, like some

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Speaker 7: of them first cousins. You can't stand them, but you

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Speaker 7: can't get away from them. So once we create these families,

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Speaker 7: it's important, you know, just for future generations, for our children,

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Speaker 7: for our bloodlines, and we figure out a way to

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Speaker 7: work it out and make sure everybody good.

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Speaker 3: I agree what you think, start to shut up.

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Speaker 2: Well, I agree with what she's saying.

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Speaker 5: But then I also think women were so silenced at

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Speaker 5: one point, and now women are becoming smarter. Now, women

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Speaker 5: are becoming successful. Forty fifty years ago, family was together

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Speaker 5: because women couldn't vote. You know, women was at home

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Speaker 5: having multiple children. They knew their husbands was across across

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Speaker 5: the block. You get what I'm saying on Friday and

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Speaker 5: Saturday with Miss Susy. But he took care of home

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Speaker 5: right women. So my grandmother is ninety three, and what

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Speaker 5: she always said was is like I get a peace.

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Speaker 5: June twentieth and philosophy, and my dissertation is on black

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Speaker 5: women being silenced and scrutinized for our bodies, for our voices,

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Speaker 5: for our opinions and things like that. That is what

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Speaker 5: the dissertation is about. But it stems from my grandmother

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Speaker 5: always told me she was so proud of me because

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Speaker 5: she was like, you take up for yourself, you know,

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Speaker 5: like you have a voice.

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Speaker 2: You even when your husband.

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Speaker 5: I was married to a multi millionaire for thirteen years,

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Speaker 5: I still want to work because I still wanted to

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Speaker 5: have just some sense of myself and not lose myself.

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Speaker 5: I think some women forget that. No, we still need husbands.

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Speaker 5: We still have to be helpmates to these men. But

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Speaker 5: this independency thing has just turned into like a thing

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Speaker 5: that women believe that, oh, independent is such a grand thing.

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Speaker 5: I don't want to be by myself. I can take

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Speaker 5: care of myself. My businesses are very successful, but I

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Speaker 5: don't want to be by myself. But women we get

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Speaker 5: so loud sometimes with our voices. We don't know how

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Speaker 5: to like mettle them out. And I'm learning that within

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Speaker 5: myself as a human right now. But women will say,

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Speaker 5: I don't need you. I don't need you for not.

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Speaker 5: I make my own money.

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Speaker 1: Don't know.

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Speaker 2: Men want to be talked to like that. Put your

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Speaker 2: finger down, you know.

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Speaker 5: But I think it separates us because you hear I

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Speaker 5: call them the podcast bros.

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Speaker 2: The podcast bros.

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Speaker 5: Asking women with what you bring to the table, and

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Speaker 5: then sir, where is the table? Because I don't even

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Speaker 5: see a whole table with four legs over there.

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Speaker 2: I see a half of a table. And what they.

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Speaker 5: Don't realize is is women was always supposed to be

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Speaker 5: the helper.

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Speaker 2: So, sir, what have you did so far in life?

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Speaker 5: Because I'm gonna analyze whatever that is and whatever you

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Speaker 5: have and you put inside my hands, I'm gonna make

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Speaker 5: sure that it grow. I'm gonna make sure that it's

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Speaker 5: very fruitful, or I'm gonna help you with another path

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Speaker 5: if something doesn't look right. But the podcast bros like,

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Speaker 5: I don't need women. I can get a maid to

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Speaker 5: clean up. I can sleep with anybody. So they have

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Speaker 5: detached from us, and women are like, I don't want

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Speaker 5: nobody the boss may around. They want a point point point,

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Speaker 5: and they go for this independency thing. So I just

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Speaker 5: kind of feel like we are against each other. And

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Speaker 5: my grandma said, if she could have left my granddaddy

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Speaker 5: a long time ago, she would have, but she couldn't vote,

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Speaker 2: Where are you going?

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Speaker 9: So Grandma kicking that one, like how do you trust

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Speaker 6: First thing, back in the day, the village literally raised

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Speaker 2: It's not like that anymore. That's one problem. Number two is,

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Speaker 6: You to get rid of the dad. So half these

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Speaker 2: And if you think systemically, like really.

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Speaker 6: Big picture, especially black men, they know people know how

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Speaker 2: Nobody's teaching these boys to pick up a drill.

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Speaker 6: They're being raised by the mamas are like, oh, I

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Speaker 2: Who's picking up all these other spirits?

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Speaker 6: And then and not for nothing, I'm not judging nobody,

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Speaker 6: but if your son's at home with your daughters all day,

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Speaker 6: They're alway to your daughter's over there, puting bonnets on

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Speaker 6: want him to show up. Now, granted, every man's to

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Speaker 2: I hate when people say, well, you should fight for

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Speaker 1: No you should not.

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Speaker 6: The mother should be smart enough to know that our

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Speaker 2: The daddy out the house.

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Speaker 6: And it's a lot of times, especially when the courts

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Speaker 2: And I did a video saying this.

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Speaker 6: Most of the court order is, the very common core

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Speaker 6: I believe that turned out to four days a month.

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Speaker 6: What you want that man to teach those children? And

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Speaker 6: And the children that are in jail are usually because

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Speaker 6: the system is so broken and it's not People are like, oh,

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Speaker 6: let me just be an independent woman. But I'm like,

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Speaker 6: you guys don't understand. This is a systemic issue. I

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Speaker 6: we are strong.

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Speaker 1: If you look at.

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Speaker 6: Everybody who is united and successful, them people stick together.

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Speaker 6: We're not sticking together, and we're the strongest out of

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Speaker 8: Too strong, strong, strong, Goddamn.

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Speaker 6: When they started dropping drugs in cocaine and cracking all

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Speaker 6: already damned. I drove through neighborhoods now and you literally

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Speaker 6: see the chat, cash and place, the liquor store in

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Speaker 6: those communities, and they're gonna stay down because all those

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Speaker 6: your face. And if we're not strong enough to pay

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Speaker 3: Facts. What some of the what's some of the ways

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Speaker 3: we can fix it.

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Speaker 9: So the kids the puns basically yeah, kids, kids the

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Speaker 2: Damn nine times out of ten.

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Speaker 6: The only way to fix it is for people to

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Speaker 6: I was trying, when I was raising my kids by myself,

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Speaker 6: I had to say, dang, I'm making my daughters hard

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Speaker 6: the woman is the reb or the helpmate.

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Speaker 2: I don't want to raise no ra rah loud girl. Now.

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Speaker 6: Granted, you need the survival skills of being able to

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Speaker 2: I'm raising strong daughters and weak men. So I had

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Speaker 2: to check. Okay, man, hold on, we got to get

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Speaker 6: Really shit, because you're you are raising boys to be

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Speaker 2: You are raising girls to I end up just like you.

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Speaker 2: Just be realistic.

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Speaker 6: Look at I also tells, right, bet the mama's go

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Speaker 6: meet the mama and the auntie if they treated their

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Speaker 6: product in your environment. Nine times out of ten. Now,

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Speaker 6: if you're smart enough, you can get out of that environment.

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Speaker 2: But most of the.

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Speaker 6: Time you and you subconsciously mimic what your environment was

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Speaker 6: until you become a little bit self aware. I want

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Speaker 2: I don't want him. I don't want that.

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Speaker 7: I think how we fix the problem is we have

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Speaker 7: all due respect to the doctor, like getting a degree

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Speaker 7: with an education or institutional system having to teach you

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Speaker 7: how to be a black woman, It's something that I

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Speaker 7: would be leary of because I've really lived that experience

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Speaker 7: I don't think it's a degree that you can earn

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Speaker 8: And I think sometimes we can.

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Speaker 7: Want a voice, and it's okay to have a voice,

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Speaker 7: but what about if your voice is so loud that.

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Speaker 8: It's drowning out everything in a room.

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Speaker 7: Like you just said a minute ago, you said father

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Speaker 7: shouldn't abandon their children. You know, we blame fathers all

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Speaker 7: the time for abandoning their children, but do we blame

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Speaker 7: you know, wanting to have that freedom of liberation, wanting

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Speaker 7: you're willing to sacrifice. And when we talk about you know,

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Speaker 7: before he is a black boy.

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Speaker 2: So we really really got in.

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Speaker 7: You can ask Kimora Lee Simmons, you can only get

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Speaker 7: black life from a black man, right, So as a community,

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Speaker 7: we should be doing more to protect black babies, black boys, Okay,

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Speaker 7: black man because we have contributed to a system and

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Speaker 7: always like we can all we've all contributed. Women being

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Speaker 7: Nobody's really at fault. We was all just a part

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Speaker 7: of a culture. But we're all trying to fix it now. Right,

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Speaker 7: We've all contributed in some way or form to the

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Speaker 2: Right, So we can't have a.

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Speaker 7: Voice that's so loud that when we vote it's based

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Speaker 7: off color and our policy.

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Speaker 8: Right, or when it's time.

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Speaker 7: To fight for black life or black men. Right, it's

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Speaker 7: time to fight until we standing in the courthouse getting

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Speaker 7: to children care that meant that father's legacy. Okay, When

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Speaker 7: I'm with that man, So since you made that decision, bro,

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Speaker 7: let's be I don't like you, you don't like me, Okay, Cool.

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Speaker 7: We cannot like each other and still understand. We have

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Speaker 9: Right, I think a lot of that shit just be

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Speaker 9: know what I'm saying, you going with your life, on

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Speaker 9: going with my life. I'm gonna take what I got.

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Speaker 9: The man feel like, shit, you ain't gonna never find

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Speaker 9: no nigga like me, and she feel like, well, you ain't

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Speaker 1: It's just a bunch of bullshit.

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Speaker 3: Bro.

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Speaker 8: It's like I see niggas that have more loved and

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Speaker 9: Really want to take care of their kid that just can't,

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Speaker 9: Like I ain't never like that. It hurt me to

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Speaker 9: what I supposed to do?

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Speaker 3: Bro?

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Speaker 1: To go down there?

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Speaker 9: And you know what I'm saying, Like she said, I

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Speaker 6: I've watched women it was like call the police while

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Speaker 2: Because especially in the course, it's it's a woman's world.

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Speaker 6: And that's what I'm saying, Like there was a girl

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Speaker 6: And apparently so now that I've navigated the course, this

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Speaker 6: everybody does their investigation. So but now you just made

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Speaker 6: and I want them to raise their children.

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Speaker 2: But you bring that kid back over here, and that woman.

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Speaker 6: Has a bad day or she don't have no sense

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Speaker 6: you're going.

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Speaker 2: Back to jail.

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00:19:41,280 --> 00:19:44,360
Speaker 8: Would touch them, Yeah, they do that too, or touch.

444
00:19:44,240 --> 00:19:46,240
Speaker 6: Them lawyers and John just told me that is such

445
00:19:46,240 --> 00:19:48,800
Speaker 6: a common way they can get custody so they can

446
00:19:48,840 --> 00:19:50,919
Speaker 6: get their child support. They will say anything, and you're

447
00:19:50,960 --> 00:19:53,320
Speaker 6: gonna put yourself in a position you can't even rap.

448
00:19:53,400 --> 00:19:54,199
Speaker 6: They say you can't.

449
00:19:54,359 --> 00:19:56,120
Speaker 2: And it be the dads who want to be there

450
00:19:56,400 --> 00:19:57,679
Speaker 2: that the women don't allow them to.

451
00:19:57,720 --> 00:19:58,520
Speaker 1: Ain't shit da.

452
00:20:00,119 --> 00:20:02,280
Speaker 7: For the safety of the children. It's a lot going

453
00:20:02,320 --> 00:20:04,880
Speaker 7: on in defects. It's a lot going on in human trafficking.

454
00:20:05,280 --> 00:20:07,680
Speaker 7: If me and you fighting and they, for whatever reason

455
00:20:07,720 --> 00:20:10,639
Speaker 7: decided they want to come take our children, we both lost.

456
00:20:10,920 --> 00:20:14,040
Speaker 7: It's not a win for anybody, right, and we ain't

457
00:20:14,080 --> 00:20:15,600
Speaker 7: gonna never be able to get the streets together, and

458
00:20:15,600 --> 00:20:16,840
Speaker 7: we ain't got our families together.

459
00:20:17,440 --> 00:20:21,639
Speaker 9: Do y'all think people be builter after they lose? They

460
00:20:21,760 --> 00:20:24,239
Speaker 9: true like this was my one. I fucked it up,

461
00:20:24,359 --> 00:20:26,720
Speaker 9: like me and hers together, and I'd be like, if

462
00:20:26,720 --> 00:20:28,320
Speaker 9: she gone on by her way, she feels like I'm

463
00:20:28,359 --> 00:20:30,720
Speaker 9: the one, and she feeled me to the point that

464
00:20:30,840 --> 00:20:33,760
Speaker 9: I'm her one. Do that spill over on the next

465
00:20:33,840 --> 00:20:36,040
Speaker 9: dude and the next dude and the next dude, like it.

466
00:20:36,119 --> 00:20:40,359
Speaker 5: Could a lot in some women. I just stopped communicating with.

467
00:20:41,200 --> 00:20:43,520
Speaker 5: I would say a really good friend of mine because

468
00:20:44,000 --> 00:20:48,480
Speaker 5: she told me something that I just didn't prefer as

469
00:20:48,480 --> 00:20:50,199
Speaker 5: a human. But it was about her child and her

470
00:20:50,280 --> 00:20:53,440
Speaker 5: child's father, and I'm just trying to explain she put

471
00:20:53,520 --> 00:20:55,240
Speaker 5: me in it. I don't even like to be in

472
00:20:55,280 --> 00:20:58,520
Speaker 5: people business, but she put me in it. And when

473
00:20:58,520 --> 00:21:01,040
Speaker 5: I gave her my advice, he was like, he can't

474
00:21:01,040 --> 00:21:03,880
Speaker 5: see the baby unless I know every woman that's going

475
00:21:04,000 --> 00:21:06,280
Speaker 5: in and out of his house. I say, well, wait

476
00:21:06,280 --> 00:21:09,159
Speaker 5: a minute, you do not pay his mortgage. That is

477
00:21:09,280 --> 00:21:13,119
Speaker 5: that man's home. And she was like, well, I said,

478
00:21:13,119 --> 00:21:16,280
Speaker 5: so you're gonna take your child away from his father

479
00:21:16,800 --> 00:21:19,720
Speaker 5: because you can't tell him who he can bring. I

480
00:21:19,720 --> 00:21:21,840
Speaker 5: don't want nobody to touch my baby. I say, that's

481
00:21:21,880 --> 00:21:24,520
Speaker 5: a grown man. I said, you decided to sleep with him,

482
00:21:24,600 --> 00:21:27,320
Speaker 5: You decided to let him now use a condiment, all

483
00:21:27,359 --> 00:21:29,720
Speaker 5: the things, and you think he's gonna let somebody harm

484
00:21:29,760 --> 00:21:30,240
Speaker 5: his child.

485
00:21:30,400 --> 00:21:33,159
Speaker 2: That doesn't make sense. That means you chose the wrong person.

486
00:21:33,480 --> 00:21:36,560
Speaker 5: That means you were making bad decisions because now that

487
00:21:36,680 --> 00:21:38,919
Speaker 5: this baby is here and he decided to go in

488
00:21:38,960 --> 00:21:43,159
Speaker 5: a different direction, besides y'all being in a relationship, now

489
00:21:43,200 --> 00:21:45,600
Speaker 5: he's such a villain. I say that means he was

490
00:21:45,640 --> 00:21:48,520
Speaker 5: always a villain, and you are making poor decisions, so

491
00:21:48,600 --> 00:21:50,640
Speaker 5: you have to start with you. She was like, well,

492
00:21:50,680 --> 00:21:53,480
Speaker 5: my baby won't know, and I'm gonna just tell my

493
00:21:53,560 --> 00:21:56,480
Speaker 5: baby his daddy didn't try. But that's not true because

494
00:21:56,520 --> 00:22:00,840
Speaker 5: his daddy just told you give him the baby seven days.

495
00:22:00,880 --> 00:22:03,800
Speaker 5: You get him seven days, he get him back seven days.

496
00:22:03,840 --> 00:22:06,240
Speaker 5: But then the father also said, I'm gonna pay half

497
00:22:06,280 --> 00:22:08,679
Speaker 5: a daycare. You pay half a daycare. She said, I'm

498
00:22:08,680 --> 00:22:11,439
Speaker 5: putting him on child support. I'm going he need to

499
00:22:11,440 --> 00:22:15,080
Speaker 5: pay it all because he tricking off whoa this is

500
00:22:15,200 --> 00:22:18,560
Speaker 5: y'all baby. And now at some point, yeah, if you're

501
00:22:18,600 --> 00:22:20,639
Speaker 5: gonna have the baby the majority of the time, but

502
00:22:20,760 --> 00:22:24,119
Speaker 5: she stopped the child from going and see his father

503
00:22:24,440 --> 00:22:26,880
Speaker 5: because she don't want to pay half of the daycare.

504
00:22:27,440 --> 00:22:30,119
Speaker 2: I say, but is that your child or is that

505
00:22:30,240 --> 00:22:33,840
Speaker 2: his child? Is that y'all child? And you make good money.

506
00:22:34,080 --> 00:22:36,640
Speaker 5: I'm putting them on child support because child support gonna

507
00:22:36,640 --> 00:22:38,719
Speaker 5: give me and I'm gonna find all of his money.

508
00:22:38,800 --> 00:22:40,959
Speaker 5: Is it about the money or is it about the baby?

509
00:22:41,240 --> 00:22:44,280
Speaker 5: Do you want to know how many women is in there?

510
00:22:44,320 --> 00:22:46,760
Speaker 5: Because you can't be over there because they don't got

511
00:22:46,800 --> 00:22:48,920
Speaker 5: nothing to do with your baby. How if he got

512
00:22:48,960 --> 00:22:52,480
Speaker 5: another woman sleeping over there? I say, girl, step mamas

513
00:22:52,480 --> 00:22:54,800
Speaker 5: are good. I was anna step mama for a long time.

514
00:22:54,880 --> 00:22:58,200
Speaker 2: Baby. Will I get an award for step mama?

515
00:22:58,280 --> 00:22:58,880
Speaker 1: In all right?

516
00:22:58,960 --> 00:23:00,400
Speaker 5: I said, baby, let me tell you some of them

517
00:23:00,400 --> 00:23:02,600
Speaker 5: girls gonna love that baby so much because they want

518
00:23:02,640 --> 00:23:05,760
Speaker 5: the man and the baby comes with the man. So

519
00:23:05,880 --> 00:23:08,399
Speaker 5: every step kid I had, come on, y'all, what you

520
00:23:08,480 --> 00:23:10,760
Speaker 5: need wanta go to the mall? Let's go because I'm

521
00:23:10,800 --> 00:23:12,320
Speaker 5: interested and they daddy.

522
00:23:12,520 --> 00:23:15,840
Speaker 7: So I would say, I'm gonna say thank y'all for

523
00:23:15,880 --> 00:23:18,200
Speaker 7: being good step mothers. But all women are good step

524
00:23:18,240 --> 00:23:20,840
Speaker 7: mothers and men have to be careful because so a

525
00:23:20,840 --> 00:23:22,800
Speaker 7: lot of you get with some of these women that

526
00:23:22,960 --> 00:23:26,040
Speaker 7: can't have children and you have a baby, and they

527
00:23:26,080 --> 00:23:28,919
Speaker 7: take it out on the baby, you understand, for whatever reasons,

528
00:23:29,000 --> 00:23:31,119
Speaker 7: or they're jealous of the relationship that you have with

529
00:23:31,240 --> 00:23:34,120
Speaker 7: the mother because you are a good man that wants

530
00:23:34,160 --> 00:23:36,120
Speaker 7: to stand up and take care of your children rather

531
00:23:36,480 --> 00:23:37,560
Speaker 7: you and your baby.

532
00:23:37,359 --> 00:23:38,439
Speaker 8: Mama worked out or not.

533
00:23:38,720 --> 00:23:40,800
Speaker 7: So you do have to be careful when you let

534
00:23:40,920 --> 00:23:43,520
Speaker 7: certain women around your children and make sure that they're

535
00:23:43,560 --> 00:23:45,040
Speaker 7: treating your children fairly.

536
00:23:45,119 --> 00:23:47,199
Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying. And it's okay going in

537
00:23:47,240 --> 00:23:50,040
Speaker 2: and out his house every day all day.

538
00:23:50,680 --> 00:23:51,880
Speaker 8: No, she don't need to know that.

539
00:23:51,960 --> 00:23:55,440
Speaker 7: But the man just to the to the point, all

540
00:23:55,560 --> 00:23:59,040
Speaker 7: women like even in situations where if let's say the

541
00:23:59,040 --> 00:24:02,200
Speaker 7: man cheated and he created a baby outside of the marriage, okay,

542
00:24:02,640 --> 00:24:04,600
Speaker 7: most of women will won't do the man that had

543
00:24:04,600 --> 00:24:07,480
Speaker 7: a baby aboard it. I will welcome to life anyway,

544
00:24:07,520 --> 00:24:10,960
Speaker 7: because all babies are blessings, right. But if y'all decided

545
00:24:11,000 --> 00:24:13,800
Speaker 7: to stay together, is that woman gonna mestreat that child

546
00:24:13,840 --> 00:24:16,600
Speaker 7: because you had that baby on her? Yeah, you understand

547
00:24:16,600 --> 00:24:19,840
Speaker 7: where I'm coming from. Like the child is innocent, you understand,

548
00:24:19,840 --> 00:24:23,960
Speaker 7: So trauma can pass over, right, And I went to

549
00:24:23,960 --> 00:24:26,800
Speaker 7: school for psychology. I have a bachelor's in psychology, and

550
00:24:26,840 --> 00:24:29,440
Speaker 7: what I learned about trauma is there are three hundred

551
00:24:29,480 --> 00:24:32,440
Speaker 7: and sixty five days in the year, so usually every

552
00:24:32,520 --> 00:24:33,880
Speaker 7: day is just a normal day.

553
00:24:33,960 --> 00:24:36,360
Speaker 8: Right, we get up, we go to work, nothing happens.

554
00:24:36,640 --> 00:24:38,880
Speaker 7: But let's just say maybe five days out of those

555
00:24:38,920 --> 00:24:42,760
Speaker 7: three hundred and sixty five, something traumatic might happen. One

556
00:24:42,840 --> 00:24:45,000
Speaker 7: day out of the year. We might lose a loved

557
00:24:45,000 --> 00:24:48,120
Speaker 7: one second day like that. Other day, something else might happen.

558
00:24:48,160 --> 00:24:52,440
Speaker 7: But bad events we remember them more than we remember

559
00:24:52,520 --> 00:24:56,879
Speaker 7: the good because they only happen maybe those five days

560
00:24:56,880 --> 00:24:59,600
Speaker 7: out of the three hundred and sixty five. So trauma

561
00:25:00,040 --> 00:25:03,760
Speaker 7: words itself because it's not normal. And so we have

562
00:25:03,960 --> 00:25:08,919
Speaker 7: to realize that happy days are normal because most of

563
00:25:08,960 --> 00:25:12,000
Speaker 7: them are. And we can't carry that trauma from one

564
00:25:12,040 --> 00:25:14,520
Speaker 7: person to the next because everybody in it, and we

565
00:25:14,560 --> 00:25:16,840
Speaker 7: get tired of getting hurt. You don't think, like I

566
00:25:17,000 --> 00:25:19,679
Speaker 7: just got out of a divorce. It was crazy, married

567
00:25:19,720 --> 00:25:20,640
Speaker 7: for nine years.

568
00:25:22,400 --> 00:25:24,359
Speaker 1: Can a man truly make a woman happy?

569
00:25:24,640 --> 00:25:25,840
Speaker 3: Or is that her job?

570
00:25:34,760 --> 00:25:36,439
Speaker 6: I got a good one for that, because at the

571
00:25:36,520 --> 00:25:39,560
Speaker 6: end of the day, we came out here alone. We're

572
00:25:39,560 --> 00:25:42,320
Speaker 6: gonna die along. We do have to make ourselves happy. However,

573
00:25:43,440 --> 00:25:48,080
Speaker 6: a man's job is to make me happier, not that

574
00:25:48,920 --> 00:25:52,639
Speaker 6: you needs to protect your heart right now if you

575
00:25:52,800 --> 00:26:00,480
Speaker 6: can't naturally, if I have to be happy, you have

576
00:26:00,560 --> 00:26:02,800
Speaker 6: to genuinely be happy with your life and your dejail.

577
00:26:02,840 --> 00:26:04,760
Speaker 6: You can't be dependent on him to do things for

578
00:26:04,800 --> 00:26:07,080
Speaker 6: you to make you happy. He can't run your life

579
00:26:07,080 --> 00:26:10,240
Speaker 6: for you. However, his job is to protect you. Now

580
00:26:10,600 --> 00:26:12,960
Speaker 6: if you talk about he just buy her stuff and

581
00:26:13,000 --> 00:26:14,800
Speaker 6: she's never satisfied, or he's paying the bills and she's

582
00:26:14,840 --> 00:26:15,560
Speaker 6: never satisfied.

583
00:26:17,200 --> 00:26:18,320
Speaker 2: He got a different issue.

584
00:26:18,840 --> 00:26:21,480
Speaker 6: But his job is to protect you, to make sure

585
00:26:21,520 --> 00:26:22,640
Speaker 6: that your mental stressed.

586
00:26:22,640 --> 00:26:24,560
Speaker 2: We are, we will always be the weaker vessel.

587
00:26:24,600 --> 00:26:26,480
Speaker 9: That's a fact I think. Like I feel like women

588
00:26:26,640 --> 00:26:29,440
Speaker 9: just get obsessed with the feeling. Like if I meet

589
00:26:29,480 --> 00:26:31,560
Speaker 9: you and give you a feeling that you never had before,

590
00:26:31,760 --> 00:26:33,679
Speaker 9: now you're obsessed with it, and now you're afraid for

591
00:26:33,760 --> 00:26:35,880
Speaker 9: me to give it to somebody else. It's just you

592
00:26:35,920 --> 00:26:38,720
Speaker 9: create your own drama inside of your head that they

593
00:26:38,760 --> 00:26:39,840
Speaker 9: ain't going on with us.

594
00:26:40,560 --> 00:26:42,200
Speaker 1: Like if I'm around you every day, if.

595
00:26:42,200 --> 00:26:44,680
Speaker 9: Savings, I take you out the country, we spend a week,

596
00:26:44,880 --> 00:26:45,639
Speaker 9: a month, whatever.

597
00:26:45,800 --> 00:26:47,919
Speaker 1: Now I got to get back to work. What's all on.

598
00:26:47,960 --> 00:26:49,840
Speaker 9: Your mind is that how I made you feel in

599
00:26:49,880 --> 00:26:54,360
Speaker 9: those moments, So you you geeking for that shit like dope.

600
00:26:53,920 --> 00:26:56,439
Speaker 9: You want this shit all day every day, but I

601
00:26:56,480 --> 00:26:58,639
Speaker 9: can't do it. So that makes you unhappy that I

602
00:26:58,640 --> 00:27:00,399
Speaker 9: can't make you feel like I made you feel in

603
00:27:00,400 --> 00:27:00,960
Speaker 9: that moment.

604
00:27:02,160 --> 00:27:03,520
Speaker 2: That's what I was gonna say.

605
00:27:03,640 --> 00:27:05,720
Speaker 5: That's not all the time, because you gotta get back

606
00:27:05,760 --> 00:27:07,600
Speaker 5: to work, and then I gotta get back to work.

607
00:27:07,720 --> 00:27:10,359
Speaker 5: So if you got somebody that's sitting around like I

608
00:27:10,560 --> 00:27:12,920
Speaker 5: just the last couple of days, I was out somewhere

609
00:27:12,960 --> 00:27:15,639
Speaker 5: with somebody and we today we all had to go

610
00:27:15,640 --> 00:27:16,040
Speaker 5: to work.

611
00:27:16,280 --> 00:27:17,200
Speaker 2: You get what I'm saying.

612
00:27:17,280 --> 00:27:20,080
Speaker 5: I enjoyed that feeling, but everybody ain't looking for the

613
00:27:20,119 --> 00:27:20,760
Speaker 5: feeling everything.

614
00:27:20,800 --> 00:27:22,679
Speaker 1: It ain't even gotta be just every day feeling.

615
00:27:22,800 --> 00:27:25,159
Speaker 9: It could be I might mix the text, how you

616
00:27:25,280 --> 00:27:27,960
Speaker 9: doing text, I might mix mix your phone call whatever

617
00:27:28,280 --> 00:27:31,760
Speaker 9: that instrally put women to me in a place that

618
00:27:31,960 --> 00:27:35,200
Speaker 9: you like, Damn, this wasn't even that.

619
00:27:35,440 --> 00:27:38,919
Speaker 2: I'll say, I remember, you're not what.

620
00:27:41,200 --> 00:27:41,359
Speaker 1: I know?

621
00:27:41,400 --> 00:27:42,960
Speaker 2: He ever, he hasn't text me. I was like, damn,

622
00:27:43,000 --> 00:27:44,800
Speaker 2: he don't care about me today. I've done it.

623
00:27:44,960 --> 00:27:46,880
Speaker 6: Okay, you gotta learn, you got it. You gotta catch

624
00:27:46,920 --> 00:27:48,280
Speaker 6: the feeling. I was like, oh, well, I want this

625
00:27:48,440 --> 00:27:49,800
Speaker 6: used text because you ain't text me good morning.

626
00:27:49,880 --> 00:27:52,359
Speaker 2: This one I understand, but you I've learned to not

627
00:27:52,400 --> 00:27:53,240
Speaker 2: put those films out.

628
00:27:53,280 --> 00:27:55,560
Speaker 6: I think most of the time we probably do, maybe

629
00:27:55,640 --> 00:27:58,560
Speaker 6: move the goalpost too much. I'm not gonna disagree with that.

630
00:27:58,640 --> 00:28:00,439
Speaker 6: But on the same time, to your point, if we

631
00:28:00,560 --> 00:28:02,600
Speaker 6: first meeting were kicking it and you're taking me out

632
00:28:02,640 --> 00:28:05,760
Speaker 6: the country, right, you're providing me with the lifestyle that

633
00:28:05,800 --> 00:28:06,440
Speaker 6: I haven't seen.

634
00:28:07,119 --> 00:28:08,800
Speaker 2: But it's not a lifestyle you can keep up with.

635
00:28:09,160 --> 00:28:10,240
Speaker 2: You shouldn't have lead with that.

636
00:28:10,640 --> 00:28:12,440
Speaker 9: No, I ain't leading with that, baby, But I don't

637
00:28:12,440 --> 00:28:14,040
Speaker 9: finish go out to the country anyway.

638
00:28:14,240 --> 00:28:15,400
Speaker 8: Can you tell what I think?

639
00:28:15,680 --> 00:28:17,480
Speaker 2: I think I think some women.

640
00:28:17,600 --> 00:28:19,760
Speaker 7: I think some women when they talk about men making

641
00:28:19,760 --> 00:28:20,359
Speaker 7: them happy?

642
00:28:20,680 --> 00:28:21,880
Speaker 2: Is that based on condition?

643
00:28:22,520 --> 00:28:22,720
Speaker 1: Dude?

644
00:28:22,720 --> 00:28:25,440
Speaker 7: Do that mean I'm happy as long as you're doing

645
00:28:25,440 --> 00:28:26,120
Speaker 7: what I want.

646
00:28:25,960 --> 00:28:27,520
Speaker 2: When you want right?

647
00:28:27,960 --> 00:28:28,600
Speaker 1: That does that?

648
00:28:28,720 --> 00:28:30,880
Speaker 7: But see me, I could be happy all the time.

649
00:28:30,920 --> 00:28:32,680
Speaker 7: You might not be able to do it today.

650
00:28:32,800 --> 00:28:33,159
Speaker 8: Just get it.

651
00:28:33,200 --> 00:28:33,400
Speaker 1: Done.

652
00:28:33,520 --> 00:28:34,760
Speaker 2: You understand where I'm coming from.

653
00:28:34,760 --> 00:28:37,439
Speaker 7: So it's just based on I think the understand and

654
00:28:37,480 --> 00:28:39,760
Speaker 7: what type of woman you got too, because some are

655
00:28:39,800 --> 00:28:40,920
Speaker 7: seasoned and some are not.

656
00:28:41,120 --> 00:28:43,040
Speaker 2: Some done, you know, some know how this go.

657
00:28:43,520 --> 00:28:46,160
Speaker 7: Some women understand that if you want a man with money,

658
00:28:46,160 --> 00:28:48,080
Speaker 7: then you can't have a man that sit around at

659
00:28:48,080 --> 00:28:51,080
Speaker 7: home all day unless he just already sat. Some women

660
00:28:51,120 --> 00:28:53,200
Speaker 7: ain't gonna respect a man that's sitting in her face

661
00:28:53,200 --> 00:28:55,480
Speaker 7: every day because I'm gonna instantly lose respect. If you

662
00:28:55,520 --> 00:28:57,760
Speaker 7: ain't got nothing to do with being my business, please

663
00:28:57,800 --> 00:28:58,480
Speaker 7: go do something.

664
00:28:58,800 --> 00:28:59,800
Speaker 2: You understand where I'm coming from.

665
00:29:00,040 --> 00:29:03,400
Speaker 7: It also depends on you know, what type of woman

666
00:29:03,920 --> 00:29:05,400
Speaker 7: you know you tying yourself to.

667
00:29:05,640 --> 00:29:05,720
Speaker 3: No.

668
00:29:05,840 --> 00:29:08,760
Speaker 9: I just feel like if a woman really really all

669
00:29:08,800 --> 00:29:11,040
Speaker 9: into you, bro, they just go They just hit the

670
00:29:11,080 --> 00:29:11,640
Speaker 9: looning to them.

671
00:29:11,680 --> 00:29:14,120
Speaker 1: But that's just how I feel. It's just the looney tone.

672
00:29:14,160 --> 00:29:16,560
Speaker 9: But automatic come on, they can tell you exactly what

673
00:29:16,640 --> 00:29:17,560
Speaker 9: you did today.

674
00:29:18,000 --> 00:29:18,600
Speaker 8: That's too much.

675
00:29:18,760 --> 00:29:21,840
Speaker 2: It's a movie like I ain't got time, Like she said, most.

676
00:29:21,640 --> 00:29:24,680
Speaker 1: Women do that.

677
00:29:25,320 --> 00:29:27,640
Speaker 5: I know a lot of people that do that, and

678
00:29:27,680 --> 00:29:31,640
Speaker 5: at one point I used to do that in my marriage.

679
00:29:31,840 --> 00:29:33,440
Speaker 5: But let me tell you it don't have nothing to

680
00:29:33,440 --> 00:29:35,920
Speaker 5: do with looney tune, but it has something to do

681
00:29:36,000 --> 00:29:38,880
Speaker 5: with when you've been cheated on so much.

682
00:29:38,840 --> 00:29:41,840
Speaker 2: That them two hours it was a trauma.

683
00:29:42,040 --> 00:29:45,480
Speaker 5: I was an unhealed person when I always text my

684
00:29:45,560 --> 00:29:48,080
Speaker 5: ex husband. So that's why one day I woke up

685
00:29:48,120 --> 00:29:50,680
Speaker 5: and said, I gotta get out of here because this

686
00:29:50,800 --> 00:29:54,680
Speaker 5: is unhealthy for me as a human. My relationship made

687
00:29:54,720 --> 00:29:58,320
Speaker 5: me insecure, and it didn't start that way. My relationship made

688
00:29:58,520 --> 00:30:03,600
Speaker 5: the looney tone come out. Okay, it wasn't, but right, Okay,

689
00:30:03,880 --> 00:30:06,440
Speaker 5: you get out of it, right, But after you get

690
00:30:06,480 --> 00:30:09,560
Speaker 5: out of it, you didn't have to hold yourself accountable

691
00:30:09,640 --> 00:30:12,360
Speaker 5: for why you even allowed such a thing to happen,

692
00:30:12,720 --> 00:30:16,160
Speaker 5: and most times it spills over into your next relationship

693
00:30:16,200 --> 00:30:19,200
Speaker 5: because you don't go heal. I had to heal process,

694
00:30:19,360 --> 00:30:22,680
Speaker 5: stop playing the victim, stop saying what somebody did me,

695
00:30:23,040 --> 00:30:27,240
Speaker 5: and identify what reasoning I had for allowing that to happen.

696
00:30:27,520 --> 00:30:31,040
Speaker 5: So I had to hold me accountable and fix it.

697
00:30:30,560 --> 00:30:33,440
Speaker 2: So moving forward, it won't happen.

698
00:30:34,840 --> 00:30:36,880
Speaker 1: I'm just saying, let me ask you this though.

699
00:30:39,560 --> 00:30:42,960
Speaker 9: Okay, let's rewind from the beginning. This guy that you're

700
00:30:43,000 --> 00:30:44,040
Speaker 9: talking about, it's my.

701
00:30:44,040 --> 00:30:46,000
Speaker 1: Friend, right, you might know him.

702
00:30:48,520 --> 00:30:51,960
Speaker 9: Okay, okay, So when you met that guy, he had

703
00:30:52,000 --> 00:30:53,160
Speaker 9: all the qualities of.

704
00:30:53,160 --> 00:30:54,720
Speaker 1: The nigga that would take you through the shit.

705
00:30:54,760 --> 00:30:57,000
Speaker 2: He took you through absolutely.

706
00:30:56,440 --> 00:31:01,000
Speaker 1: So did that. But that's what we were thinking gonna happen.

707
00:31:00,840 --> 00:31:05,320
Speaker 5: When but let me, let me tell you the problem

708
00:31:05,640 --> 00:31:07,800
Speaker 5: was is And I tell guy, I'm a life coach.

709
00:31:07,840 --> 00:31:10,440
Speaker 5: So I tell people right now, women, go get your

710
00:31:10,480 --> 00:31:13,840
Speaker 5: life together. When I met that human, he came in

711
00:31:13,920 --> 00:31:17,760
Speaker 5: with the trips, the A P watches, the burkins. I

712
00:31:17,800 --> 00:31:20,720
Speaker 5: had a private we was on private jets all the time.

713
00:31:20,840 --> 00:31:23,920
Speaker 5: It's the feeling that you just talked about. So he

714
00:31:24,000 --> 00:31:24,560
Speaker 5: walked in.

715
00:31:24,760 --> 00:31:27,520
Speaker 1: But what did I? How did I? How do I

716
00:31:27,560 --> 00:31:28,520
Speaker 1: become a fault nigga?

717
00:31:28,560 --> 00:31:32,360
Speaker 5: Because let me tell you what happens because then y'all

718
00:31:32,360 --> 00:31:35,200
Speaker 5: in the life, right, So he.

719
00:31:36,800 --> 00:31:41,800
Speaker 1: No, but you what the life started to come. But

720
00:31:41,880 --> 00:31:42,840
Speaker 1: we're still doing this.

721
00:31:43,840 --> 00:31:45,960
Speaker 9: Hold only why we're not doing this because you nagget

722
00:31:45,960 --> 00:31:47,440
Speaker 9: when we're going to trips now if.

723
00:31:47,280 --> 00:31:51,760
Speaker 5: You want, And I'm going The only reason I didn't

724
00:31:51,800 --> 00:31:53,960
Speaker 5: stage left.

725
00:31:54,200 --> 00:31:59,880
Speaker 2: Listen, let me tell you something.

726
00:32:00,120 --> 00:32:02,960
Speaker 5: Oh, I'm going on all the trips, hear man, And

727
00:32:03,000 --> 00:32:05,240
Speaker 5: I'm with some of the fuck shit too. That you

728
00:32:05,360 --> 00:32:10,480
Speaker 5: got going on, so, but the problem was is okay?

729
00:32:10,200 --> 00:32:13,000
Speaker 5: And I had no issue with the man that I

730
00:32:13,080 --> 00:32:14,760
Speaker 5: was married to. I used to tell people all the

731
00:32:14,800 --> 00:32:17,120
Speaker 5: time he was never faithful to me. I've been on

732
00:32:17,160 --> 00:32:19,960
Speaker 5: the show with y'all before. I had never told y'all,

733
00:32:20,040 --> 00:32:22,160
Speaker 5: not one time, that I ever thought my husband was

734
00:32:22,200 --> 00:32:24,760
Speaker 5: faithful because I knew from the day that I met

735
00:32:24,800 --> 00:32:26,800
Speaker 5: him that he was. Never I told that to you before.

736
00:32:26,840 --> 00:32:29,600
Speaker 5: I told that to you before. I am not confused

737
00:32:29,920 --> 00:32:33,280
Speaker 5: in life. But what I am not okay. And like

738
00:32:33,360 --> 00:32:35,880
Speaker 5: she just said, you okay with a little.

739
00:32:36,000 --> 00:32:38,000
Speaker 2: Let me tell you something. I'm a real nigga.

740
00:32:38,040 --> 00:32:39,960
Speaker 5: And that's the problem with me is because I'm too

741
00:32:40,040 --> 00:32:42,720
Speaker 5: much of a real nigga. Sometime I'm with a lot

742
00:32:42,760 --> 00:32:48,680
Speaker 5: of shit that y'all are with. Problem in general, the

743
00:32:48,800 --> 00:32:52,719
Speaker 5: problem is it gets nasty when women keep calling my

744
00:32:52,800 --> 00:32:54,240
Speaker 5: phone talking about they pregnant.

745
00:32:54,240 --> 00:32:56,560
Speaker 2: For my husband, I had started just.

746
00:32:56,480 --> 00:33:01,040
Speaker 5: Buying him congratulation cards and balloons you having a baby.

747
00:33:01,400 --> 00:33:04,040
Speaker 5: I had to ask him here your friend, ask him

748
00:33:04,040 --> 00:33:06,720
Speaker 5: that I do I want the lost cars.

749
00:33:06,640 --> 00:33:08,960
Speaker 2: Take this to the baby shower with my nigga because

750
00:33:09,000 --> 00:33:12,520
Speaker 2: I got the ultrasound in my phone. The problem is this.

751
00:33:13,080 --> 00:33:16,520
Speaker 5: The men get disrespectful when they know their wife's not leaving.

752
00:33:16,760 --> 00:33:19,560
Speaker 5: So my ex husband knew I wasn't leaving. I used

753
00:33:19,600 --> 00:33:21,400
Speaker 5: to tell everybody I'm not leaving them.

754
00:33:21,600 --> 00:33:22,080
Speaker 2: I don't care.

755
00:33:22,120 --> 00:33:25,760
Speaker 5: I used to tell a girl you want because I'm not.

756
00:33:26,080 --> 00:33:28,400
Speaker 2: I'm not coming off of this, Nigga.

757
00:33:28,280 --> 00:33:29,720
Speaker 3: Why was that? Why was that?

758
00:33:30,440 --> 00:33:31,720
Speaker 2: I had all the trips.

759
00:33:31,440 --> 00:33:33,600
Speaker 5: I got all the bad, but I got everything in

760
00:33:33,640 --> 00:33:36,040
Speaker 5: the world and he was the same man I met.

761
00:33:36,640 --> 00:33:40,400
Speaker 5: I made a decision to marry the man that I met.

762
00:33:40,400 --> 00:33:43,800
Speaker 4: That was That was that sustainable happiness though like all

763
00:33:43,840 --> 00:33:46,440
Speaker 4: this stuff you're talking about stable.

764
00:33:49,720 --> 00:33:54,640
Speaker 2: Edit that part because the girls on the internet. I

765
00:33:54,680 --> 00:33:58,160
Speaker 2: was happy. I was extremely happy.

766
00:33:57,880 --> 00:34:00,200
Speaker 1: Because ire that wasn't you know?

767
00:34:00,280 --> 00:34:02,720
Speaker 2: That was my best friend. We laughed, we talked.

768
00:34:03,000 --> 00:34:06,400
Speaker 5: That is I still now after our divorce, after people

769
00:34:06,440 --> 00:34:09,200
Speaker 5: got out of his ear, we still talk and kick shit.

770
00:34:09,400 --> 00:34:13,240
Speaker 5: Right now, we are not married because we were truly friends.

771
00:34:13,680 --> 00:34:16,360
Speaker 5: I am not with my husband because I do not

772
00:34:16,560 --> 00:34:19,040
Speaker 5: want to catch something and Atlanta is nasty.

773
00:34:19,560 --> 00:34:21,759
Speaker 2: That is the only reason I left.

774
00:34:21,840 --> 00:34:24,359
Speaker 5: One day, God told me you gotta get out of there,

775
00:34:24,960 --> 00:34:26,879
Speaker 5: and I woke up. Me and him had just left

776
00:34:26,880 --> 00:34:29,600
Speaker 5: a party. We had a hell of a time at

777
00:34:29,600 --> 00:34:30,200
Speaker 5: that party.

778
00:34:30,440 --> 00:34:31,239
Speaker 1: We woke up.

779
00:34:31,320 --> 00:34:33,520
Speaker 5: I looked at him and I said, I gotta go.

780
00:34:33,960 --> 00:34:37,680
Speaker 5: He thought I was going to publics until he realized.

781
00:34:37,680 --> 00:34:39,719
Speaker 5: And I told God when I was walking out the door,

782
00:34:39,800 --> 00:34:42,840
Speaker 5: just gonna be ugly and I don't care where I land.

783
00:34:43,239 --> 00:34:44,080
Speaker 2: Just allow me.

784
00:34:44,080 --> 00:34:47,480
Speaker 5: To land on my feet. He did, and when I

785
00:34:47,920 --> 00:34:50,359
Speaker 5: got a hell of a life. Right now, you hear me,

786
00:34:50,480 --> 00:34:53,919
Speaker 5: But in my spirit, I knew if I stayed there,

787
00:34:54,200 --> 00:34:57,600
Speaker 5: I was gonna be on the HIV sign talking about I've.

788
00:34:57,480 --> 00:35:00,960
Speaker 2: Been married and now I got I ain't that girl, my.

789
00:35:00,920 --> 00:35:02,239
Speaker 1: Boy, don't put on that man.

790
00:35:02,440 --> 00:35:05,320
Speaker 5: I'm not saying that, but at Lana, I'm just saying,

791
00:35:05,320 --> 00:35:08,080
Speaker 5: in general, like she just said, the twenty one year old,

792
00:35:08,239 --> 00:35:09,880
Speaker 5: they let you sleep with him, they let you do

793
00:35:09,960 --> 00:35:13,160
Speaker 5: anything to them. At a certain point, a man has

794
00:35:13,200 --> 00:35:16,719
Speaker 5: to have discipline within hisself. I'm not saying you are

795
00:35:16,800 --> 00:35:20,000
Speaker 5: never gonna be lustful of another woman. I'm not saying

796
00:35:20,160 --> 00:35:22,680
Speaker 5: you not gonna you're gonna be perfect. I never asked

797
00:35:22,719 --> 00:35:25,239
Speaker 5: him to be that perfect me, but protect me.

798
00:35:25,680 --> 00:35:27,239
Speaker 2: They've got the cheating and.

799
00:35:28,640 --> 00:35:29,640
Speaker 1: Respect and you.

800
00:35:29,800 --> 00:35:30,880
Speaker 2: Nothing in somebody.

801
00:35:31,120 --> 00:35:34,760
Speaker 5: And my vagina hurt and my doctor said, you sleve

802
00:35:34,800 --> 00:35:39,200
Speaker 5: with somebody. I said, no, oh, your husband maybe, and

803
00:35:39,239 --> 00:35:41,480
Speaker 5: then when you ask him, you know what he told me.

804
00:35:41,600 --> 00:35:44,600
Speaker 2: If you don't like it, here, close the door and.

805
00:35:44,560 --> 00:35:47,960
Speaker 5: Don't slam my door behind you because somebody else will

806
00:35:48,000 --> 00:35:48,480
Speaker 5: come and be.

807
00:35:48,600 --> 00:35:51,439
Speaker 1: I ain't seeing so many faithful women in all.

808
00:35:57,200 --> 00:35:59,760
Speaker 6: I'm not going to d say these my best homegirls

809
00:36:00,239 --> 00:36:01,160
Speaker 6: and this real life.

810
00:36:01,320 --> 00:36:03,160
Speaker 2: I don't got to impress my homegirls with the men

811
00:36:03,200 --> 00:36:03,960
Speaker 2: that I'm sleeping with.

812
00:36:04,239 --> 00:36:06,919
Speaker 6: Y'all want to not y'all men want to either brag

813
00:36:07,000 --> 00:36:08,120
Speaker 6: or bost of it. They get a living mess. You

814
00:36:08,160 --> 00:36:09,880
Speaker 6: want to take girl in public if I'm messing around,

815
00:36:10,640 --> 00:36:12,879
Speaker 6: I can bet you ten times out of ten.

816
00:36:13,400 --> 00:36:14,480
Speaker 2: Unless that man come to.

817
00:36:14,440 --> 00:36:16,120
Speaker 6: You and sit in your face and tell you himself,

818
00:36:16,239 --> 00:36:18,640
Speaker 6: you will never know. So it's not that you're not

819
00:36:19,080 --> 00:36:22,120
Speaker 6: And that's what I'm saying. It's not the cheating in disrespect.

820
00:36:22,280 --> 00:36:24,960
Speaker 6: I'm not going to it's disrespect. I'm not gonna make

821
00:36:25,000 --> 00:36:26,680
Speaker 6: you look no way, I don't.

822
00:36:26,960 --> 00:36:27,279
Speaker 2: I'm not.

823
00:36:27,440 --> 00:36:29,160
Speaker 6: I don't condone the whole women cheating anyway.

824
00:36:29,160 --> 00:36:30,799
Speaker 2: No, that's not the point. The point is.

825
00:36:31,760 --> 00:36:34,560
Speaker 6: The point is is that men will go and be

826
00:36:34,719 --> 00:36:37,279
Speaker 6: nasty and not protect their woman and if I say, okay,

827
00:36:37,320 --> 00:36:38,680
Speaker 6: I see you kicking it with a girl. Okay, you

828
00:36:38,719 --> 00:36:40,279
Speaker 6: need to get rid of her. It shouldn't even be

829
00:36:40,280 --> 00:36:42,600
Speaker 6: a discussion. Boom she gone because my wife is number one.

830
00:36:42,719 --> 00:36:45,640
Speaker 6: The problem is is you want to.

831
00:36:45,000 --> 00:36:46,719
Speaker 2: Take the girl out, bring around your friends. Oh look

832
00:36:46,719 --> 00:36:48,239
Speaker 2: at this little one I'm messing with. You'll go woo

833
00:36:48,280 --> 00:36:48,799
Speaker 2: woo wool.

834
00:36:49,000 --> 00:36:51,799
Speaker 6: We typically don't move that way. It don't be the cheating,

835
00:36:51,840 --> 00:36:52,560
Speaker 6: to be the disrespect.

836
00:36:52,640 --> 00:36:56,320
Speaker 9: That's worse though, Nigga, that's work because now you sneaker,

837
00:36:56,320 --> 00:36:57,879
Speaker 9: you'll do anything that you just a stab me in my.

838
00:36:57,800 --> 00:37:07,560
Speaker 2: Sleep, yeah if I sleep face right, But that's your perspective.

839
00:37:07,680 --> 00:37:09,920
Speaker 9: Would would you rather? Would you rather have a motherfucker

840
00:37:09,960 --> 00:37:12,920
Speaker 9: that you noticed? Agga? Somebody that blindsided.

841
00:37:12,800 --> 00:37:17,120
Speaker 2: Tell me nothing? Well, my question I would rather? Is

842
00:37:17,239 --> 00:37:19,080
Speaker 2: it you to tell me?

843
00:37:19,239 --> 00:37:21,480
Speaker 5: Because my ex husband did not used to lie to

844
00:37:21,520 --> 00:37:22,440
Speaker 5: me until he fell.

845
00:37:22,280 --> 00:37:22,880
Speaker 1: In love with me.

846
00:37:23,280 --> 00:37:26,160
Speaker 5: My issue is is that he fell in love with

847
00:37:26,360 --> 00:37:28,719
Speaker 5: I tell people that all the time. I wish she

848
00:37:28,840 --> 00:37:29,800
Speaker 5: would have never.

849
00:37:29,880 --> 00:37:32,359
Speaker 2: He used to be like, now I was all night,

850
00:37:32,440 --> 00:37:33,520
Speaker 2: he will come in the house.

851
00:37:33,719 --> 00:37:34,560
Speaker 1: This is what I did.

852
00:37:34,920 --> 00:37:35,760
Speaker 2: This her picture.

853
00:37:35,800 --> 00:37:38,160
Speaker 5: I'd be like, you want some grits? You want some eggs, bro,

854
00:37:38,360 --> 00:37:40,520
Speaker 5: go take a shower. You get what I'm saying. The

855
00:37:40,600 --> 00:37:44,840
Speaker 5: disrespect came when he stopped using a condom. And because

856
00:37:44,960 --> 00:37:48,360
Speaker 5: I would tell the girls, I'm not leaving my husband

857
00:37:48,440 --> 00:37:51,719
Speaker 5: and his brain. I can now do her anything. I

858
00:37:51,719 --> 00:37:55,879
Speaker 5: would tell everybody I'm not leaving. I don't care who

859
00:37:55,920 --> 00:37:57,840
Speaker 5: he slept with. I don't care what he did. My

860
00:37:58,000 --> 00:38:01,279
Speaker 5: problem came in when a condom came off with who

861
00:38:01,280 --> 00:38:03,359
Speaker 5: he slept with. I never had a problem with who

862
00:38:03,400 --> 00:38:06,399
Speaker 5: he was. Accepted him for that, I loved him for that.

863
00:38:06,400 --> 00:38:10,640
Speaker 5: That was my best friend. But when you know, y'all men,

864
00:38:10,880 --> 00:38:15,120
Speaker 5: when y'all know we ain't going nowhere, sometimes y'all want

865
00:38:15,120 --> 00:38:17,759
Speaker 5: a tiptoe, and y'all gonna push the limit and push

866
00:38:17,800 --> 00:38:19,640
Speaker 5: the limit, and like you say, the goal post, my

867
00:38:19,719 --> 00:38:22,759
Speaker 5: goal post. When when a man who I'm married to

868
00:38:22,800 --> 00:38:25,680
Speaker 5: tell me, if you don't want to be here, anybody

869
00:38:25,719 --> 00:38:29,399
Speaker 5: else would get up, take whatever you bought from out

870
00:38:29,400 --> 00:38:31,520
Speaker 5: of here and close the door behind you.

871
00:38:32,440 --> 00:38:32,879
Speaker 2: Let's go.

872
00:38:33,880 --> 00:38:36,640
Speaker 1: Because it's like it's getting it's becoming a headache. Now

873
00:38:37,480 --> 00:38:41,279
Speaker 1: we are arguing about it. Energy of this.

874
00:38:41,760 --> 00:38:45,520
Speaker 9: You're upset, you're not with me right, so you're well,

875
00:38:45,760 --> 00:38:46,800
Speaker 9: you need to just go on.

876
00:38:47,160 --> 00:38:48,160
Speaker 2: Well guess what, but.

877
00:38:51,760 --> 00:38:54,720
Speaker 6: You had yourself together, the energy wouldn't shift.

878
00:38:54,800 --> 00:38:55,480
Speaker 2: You talk about a.

879
00:38:55,480 --> 00:38:57,160
Speaker 1: Woman who's really but you want a man to be

880
00:38:57,200 --> 00:39:00,560
Speaker 1: as sneaky as a woman. It's not about just killed

881
00:39:00,560 --> 00:39:01,160
Speaker 1: the condom.

882
00:39:01,360 --> 00:39:03,120
Speaker 2: No, I want you to use a condom. I want

883
00:39:03,160 --> 00:39:05,560
Speaker 2: you to not be so jumped. Stop at the gas

884
00:39:05,600 --> 00:39:08,000
Speaker 2: station and buy a pack of condoms. That's all I

885
00:39:08,040 --> 00:39:09,800
Speaker 2: asked you for. I don't need you to be sneaky.

886
00:39:09,800 --> 00:39:10,160
Speaker 1: You can come.

887
00:39:10,280 --> 00:39:13,000
Speaker 2: You might like her, tell me all abouty.

888
00:39:13,040 --> 00:39:14,160
Speaker 1: He might like a little bit.

889
00:39:14,239 --> 00:39:15,440
Speaker 2: He didn't like him a little bit.

890
00:39:15,480 --> 00:39:15,640
Speaker 1: Good.

891
00:39:15,680 --> 00:39:16,840
Speaker 2: She bought a little start.

892
00:39:16,719 --> 00:39:17,480
Speaker 1: Killing I did.

893
00:39:17,560 --> 00:39:19,799
Speaker 9: So you don't, man, you man, you fucking to be

894
00:39:19,800 --> 00:39:22,840
Speaker 9: a five six on color bit you having six with

895
00:39:22,920 --> 00:39:25,919
Speaker 9: a woman five six seven times? Man, you just need

896
00:39:25,920 --> 00:39:28,000
Speaker 9: to hit the one two times because you started liking that.

897
00:39:28,000 --> 00:39:28,680
Speaker 1: Ship coming off.

898
00:39:28,880 --> 00:39:29,640
Speaker 2: But that's the problem.

899
00:39:29,680 --> 00:39:30,399
Speaker 1: It's just how it goes.

900
00:39:30,800 --> 00:39:32,239
Speaker 9: They're gonna be the same thing with you if you

901
00:39:32,360 --> 00:39:34,280
Speaker 9: was in a relationship with a man on the side.

902
00:39:34,600 --> 00:39:41,000
Speaker 1: It no matter if if you that I can tell

903
00:39:41,040 --> 00:39:43,440
Speaker 1: you from after about six months I know him. He cleaned.

904
00:39:43,480 --> 00:39:47,440
Speaker 9: He is hitting that ship wrong. That's just how it

905
00:39:47,480 --> 00:39:48,920
Speaker 9: goes because I like him too.

906
00:39:49,200 --> 00:39:52,480
Speaker 5: That's not true because I had a relationship with somebody

907
00:39:52,560 --> 00:39:59,279
Speaker 5: for seven years. Why you don't even count lething. So

908
00:39:59,400 --> 00:40:01,680
Speaker 5: I've been marri multiple times. I'm not a victim. I've

909
00:40:01,680 --> 00:40:03,880
Speaker 5: been married four times. I'm not a victim.

910
00:40:03,960 --> 00:40:12,120
Speaker 2: It is what it is. I'm done. But but I.

911
00:40:11,880 --> 00:40:16,279
Speaker 5: Never and never ever ever let him take the condom off.

912
00:40:16,560 --> 00:40:16,840
Speaker 2: Never.

913
00:40:17,000 --> 00:40:19,240
Speaker 4: There's other stuff that can go on in the ballroom

914
00:40:19,320 --> 00:40:20,719
Speaker 4: that could spread stuff.

915
00:40:20,440 --> 00:40:26,359
Speaker 2: Though, spirits, spirits.

916
00:40:27,640 --> 00:40:31,000
Speaker 1: That man, he don't even know this. You might tell

917
00:40:31,000 --> 00:40:32,919
Speaker 1: what then you probably with the nigga who ain't even

918
00:40:33,320 --> 00:40:35,200
Speaker 1: of his status. No, you bring the ship now, I

919
00:40:35,280 --> 00:40:36,920
Speaker 1: take it losses because you got this broke sniggs.

920
00:40:38,120 --> 00:40:40,560
Speaker 2: Girls, I don't.

921
00:40:43,440 --> 00:40:45,440
Speaker 1: He could be doing some other ship that that's not

922
00:40:45,560 --> 00:40:46,120
Speaker 1: my carma.

923
00:40:47,200 --> 00:40:53,800
Speaker 6: Yeahgether maybe hold Look what I feel like most of

924
00:40:54,120 --> 00:40:55,839
Speaker 6: you genuinely locked in and you believe your man.

925
00:40:56,080 --> 00:40:57,520
Speaker 2: We're not even gonna take it there.

926
00:40:57,600 --> 00:40:59,839
Speaker 7: Well, that's what I was gonna say. You got your right, man,

927
00:41:00,040 --> 00:41:02,319
Speaker 7: you don't you don't want to. I've met a man

928
00:41:02,360 --> 00:41:04,480
Speaker 7: before that make me don't want nobody else. I've been

929
00:41:04,520 --> 00:41:06,880
Speaker 7: in that before because it is a real thing. It

930
00:41:06,880 --> 00:41:09,920
Speaker 7: can happen if he's handling this suss and he doing everything.

931
00:41:10,000 --> 00:41:17,120
Speaker 7: I mean, it's rare, it happens in this day and age.

932
00:41:17,120 --> 00:41:19,360
Speaker 7: If we're gonna be real, I don't know if we

933
00:41:19,400 --> 00:41:22,800
Speaker 7: can be real it say big facts, we can speak facts.

934
00:41:23,200 --> 00:41:26,239
Speaker 7: Let's just be honest about the quality of men that's

935
00:41:26,280 --> 00:41:26,719
Speaker 7: out here.

936
00:41:26,760 --> 00:41:31,560
Speaker 2: Okay, most most high quality.

937
00:41:31,120 --> 00:41:34,400
Speaker 7: Man we know at our age are already taking Okay,

938
00:41:34,960 --> 00:41:37,560
Speaker 7: so or the next level.

939
00:41:38,200 --> 00:41:39,880
Speaker 8: They got other women, they.

940
00:41:39,719 --> 00:41:40,279
Speaker 2: Have other men.

941
00:41:40,400 --> 00:41:42,399
Speaker 7: It just don't I was getting ready to go there

942
00:41:42,800 --> 00:41:45,560
Speaker 7: and you got down my theom that's gay value.

943
00:41:47,960 --> 00:41:49,200
Speaker 2: You got up.

944
00:41:51,480 --> 00:41:53,800
Speaker 6: I agree with you one hundred perse whole truly.

945
00:41:53,840 --> 00:41:54,400
Speaker 2: Statistically.

946
00:41:54,400 --> 00:41:56,600
Speaker 6: Why is he either married or he don't like women?

947
00:41:56,640 --> 00:41:58,200
Speaker 6: And you are valued?

948
00:41:58,520 --> 00:42:02,560
Speaker 2: But you? You are you? You're job is to protect me?

949
00:42:02,920 --> 00:42:06,319
Speaker 1: Okay, well you know what, baby, why don't we use condoms?

950
00:42:07,880 --> 00:42:11,560
Speaker 1: I did? So. I'm just saying, if you don't trust that,

951
00:42:11,880 --> 00:42:13,320
Speaker 1: if we in this ship for the long, how to

952
00:42:13,360 --> 00:42:14,480
Speaker 1: protect yourself.

953
00:42:14,680 --> 00:42:18,400
Speaker 5: But I started to do that with my relationship. I

954
00:42:18,480 --> 00:42:21,480
Speaker 5: started to use condoms with one of my ex husbands.

955
00:42:21,520 --> 00:42:23,319
Speaker 5: I was like, no, I don't trust you, you gotta

956
00:42:23,320 --> 00:42:27,320
Speaker 5: get a condom. So, but then that's where the problem

957
00:42:27,400 --> 00:42:30,320
Speaker 5: comeing at, because it's like if I don't trust you enough.

958
00:42:30,120 --> 00:42:33,120
Speaker 1: To not you don't trust me anyway.

959
00:42:34,000 --> 00:42:37,560
Speaker 2: No, I trusted him when the whole time.

960
00:42:37,760 --> 00:42:39,520
Speaker 1: No, not that if you told him use a condom.

961
00:42:40,440 --> 00:42:42,920
Speaker 5: No, I didn't trust you to give me something it

962
00:42:43,040 --> 00:42:43,600
Speaker 5: don't know.

963
00:42:43,680 --> 00:42:45,320
Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying. Listen, listen, listen.

964
00:42:45,520 --> 00:42:48,720
Speaker 9: You didn't trust that he would just be a nigga

965
00:42:48,760 --> 00:42:50,080
Speaker 9: that go out and use condor with other women.

966
00:42:50,120 --> 00:42:52,080
Speaker 1: You tried to he'll slip he in there, right, Yeah,

967
00:42:52,280 --> 00:42:54,160
Speaker 1: So that you didn't trust him in that department.

968
00:42:54,239 --> 00:42:57,520
Speaker 9: So that was the only Listen, that's the only reason

969
00:42:57,560 --> 00:42:59,760
Speaker 9: why you left because you didn't trust that part of it.

970
00:42:59,840 --> 00:43:01,080
Speaker 1: So that's an easy fax.

971
00:43:03,000 --> 00:43:06,919
Speaker 5: Y'all ain't no because your husband is like, you must

972
00:43:07,000 --> 00:43:07,759
Speaker 5: be doing this.

973
00:43:07,840 --> 00:43:10,960
Speaker 2: Why gotta use no bro? You doing this?

974
00:43:11,560 --> 00:43:14,200
Speaker 5: And so but y'all, y'all don't like that when it's

975
00:43:14,239 --> 00:43:17,200
Speaker 5: y'all wife, because y'all don't like that with y'all side piece.

976
00:43:17,239 --> 00:43:19,719
Speaker 2: If you didn't slept with a girl ten times, you're like, look.

977
00:43:19,520 --> 00:43:22,920
Speaker 5: Girl, and and then you're paying all the bills and

978
00:43:22,960 --> 00:43:25,840
Speaker 5: all of that. You guys take possession over us like

979
00:43:25,960 --> 00:43:29,840
Speaker 5: we are like for y'all. So in my one of

980
00:43:29,880 --> 00:43:32,560
Speaker 5: my exes brain, I was his property.

981
00:43:33,080 --> 00:43:33,719
Speaker 7: I own you.

982
00:43:33,840 --> 00:43:36,200
Speaker 5: I spent this amount of money so I can do

983
00:43:36,360 --> 00:43:38,320
Speaker 5: with your body what I want.

984
00:43:38,160 --> 00:43:39,040
Speaker 2: To do with your body.

985
00:43:39,120 --> 00:43:41,600
Speaker 5: So that's not an easy conversation to have with a

986
00:43:41,600 --> 00:43:44,960
Speaker 5: man that you've not, you know, used rubbers with for

987
00:43:45,480 --> 00:43:48,120
Speaker 5: however many years to then say I need you to

988
00:43:48,200 --> 00:43:51,680
Speaker 5: use this condom every single time, So then y An'll start.

989
00:43:51,480 --> 00:43:52,240
Speaker 2: Think we bugging.

990
00:43:52,320 --> 00:43:54,239
Speaker 9: I don't think neither one of you guys answered the

991
00:43:54,360 --> 00:43:58,680
Speaker 9: question though. Is it possible for a man to.

992
00:44:00,360 --> 00:44:02,320
Speaker 1: Please a woman? Because okay, I think.

993
00:44:02,160 --> 00:44:04,080
Speaker 5: So because of God that I like right now, I

994
00:44:04,120 --> 00:44:05,560
Speaker 5: don't want to sleep with nobody else.

995
00:44:05,680 --> 00:44:08,279
Speaker 9: Okay, okay, but until you get into a relationship with

996
00:44:08,360 --> 00:44:10,920
Speaker 9: him and start seeing his flaw his flaws could be.

997
00:44:10,920 --> 00:44:12,719
Speaker 2: I know him, I don't like them all.

998
00:44:12,760 --> 00:44:15,480
Speaker 1: But that's what I'm saying. But they gonna eventually turns.

999
00:44:15,280 --> 00:44:15,480
Speaker 3: They go.

1000
00:44:16,480 --> 00:44:18,200
Speaker 7: I'm gonna say yes because one of the things that

1001
00:44:18,239 --> 00:44:20,239
Speaker 7: I go by is the eighty twenty rule. Right, So

1002
00:44:20,280 --> 00:44:22,600
Speaker 7: if a man got a dollar and he give you

1003
00:44:22,640 --> 00:44:25,400
Speaker 7: eighty cents and he keep twenty, are you satisfied with that?

1004
00:44:25,480 --> 00:44:27,720
Speaker 7: If you're looking at the skills, just ain't nobody perfect?

1005
00:44:27,960 --> 00:44:29,879
Speaker 7: So if you going around looking for a man.

1006
00:44:29,960 --> 00:44:30,880
Speaker 2: That's just perfect.

1007
00:44:31,239 --> 00:44:34,800
Speaker 7: You're gonna find yourself in multiple relationships, right, because nobody

1008
00:44:34,880 --> 00:44:35,400
Speaker 7: is perfect.

1009
00:44:35,719 --> 00:44:37,880
Speaker 8: What can you or what are you willing to deal with?

1010
00:44:38,200 --> 00:44:38,720
Speaker 2: She said.

1011
00:44:38,760 --> 00:44:41,600
Speaker 7: Her cut off wasn't necessarily that she it was the

1012
00:44:41,640 --> 00:44:44,480
Speaker 7: fact that you won't protect her and you won't protect herself.

1013
00:44:44,800 --> 00:44:47,880
Speaker 7: That's a reasonable request, especially with I was dealing with.

1014
00:44:48,400 --> 00:44:50,480
Speaker 7: Let me tell you what my situation was. I have

1015
00:44:50,600 --> 00:44:53,600
Speaker 7: been married nine years. My husband was an excellent provider.

1016
00:44:53,600 --> 00:44:55,359
Speaker 7: I ain't have to pay no bills, no none of that.

1017
00:44:55,640 --> 00:44:59,239
Speaker 7: And because of that security, I never went looking for anything. Right,

1018
00:44:59,280 --> 00:45:00,920
Speaker 7: you tell me you're gonna on a golfing trip, you're

1019
00:45:00,920 --> 00:45:03,080
Speaker 7: gonna be home in three days, fine, and that's cool.

1020
00:45:03,120 --> 00:45:03,560
Speaker 1: Go ahead.

1021
00:45:03,800 --> 00:45:05,640
Speaker 8: I ain't going through your phone. I ain't looking to

1022
00:45:05,640 --> 00:45:07,200
Speaker 8: see them calling, text and none of that.

1023
00:45:07,320 --> 00:45:09,799
Speaker 7: Because you're handling your business. You taking care of me.

1024
00:45:10,400 --> 00:45:13,640
Speaker 7: I go to work, come home early on my birthday.

1025
00:45:13,960 --> 00:45:16,560
Speaker 7: RFK got me in New York somewhere. I fly home early,

1026
00:45:16,640 --> 00:45:19,840
Speaker 7: I come home. You in my house. You got a

1027
00:45:19,880 --> 00:45:22,320
Speaker 7: woman in my house. You got somebody else in my house?

1028
00:45:22,360 --> 00:45:24,680
Speaker 7: And shit, I don't know what the fuck was going

1029
00:45:24,680 --> 00:45:27,160
Speaker 7: on in in Atlanta. It was some weird shit going on.

1030
00:45:27,320 --> 00:45:30,239
Speaker 7: So my thing is for me, I've never seen them

1031
00:45:30,360 --> 00:45:32,879
Speaker 7: talk to them again since that moment. Okay, that was it,

1032
00:45:33,160 --> 00:45:36,200
Speaker 7: all right, And you know we were separated for two years.

1033
00:45:36,200 --> 00:45:39,200
Speaker 7: I just got my divorce finalized. But my thing is,

1034
00:45:39,280 --> 00:45:41,439
Speaker 7: I think with men sometimes it ain't so much even

1035
00:45:41,480 --> 00:45:43,360
Speaker 7: what you do, it's how you do it, how you

1036
00:45:43,440 --> 00:45:46,000
Speaker 7: do it right, because it ain't We ain't living in

1037
00:45:46,040 --> 00:45:48,600
Speaker 7: the world no more where y'all meet from high school

1038
00:45:48,640 --> 00:45:50,680
Speaker 7: and go get married and you with the same baby mama.

1039
00:45:50,840 --> 00:45:53,640
Speaker 7: That's very, very rare. So most of these relationships we getting.

1040
00:45:53,640 --> 00:45:57,120
Speaker 7: The men already have ready made families. So whether you

1041
00:45:57,200 --> 00:46:01,520
Speaker 7: look at it as polygamy or not, he can't.

1042
00:46:01,320 --> 00:46:04,040
Speaker 2: Talk to his baby mama, he can't.

1043
00:46:04,080 --> 00:46:06,600
Speaker 7: Like you, gotta learn to realize at some point, and

1044
00:46:06,640 --> 00:46:09,239
Speaker 7: this comes with maturity that the only way you're really

1045
00:46:09,239 --> 00:46:11,200
Speaker 7: gonna be happy as a woman, a man, or whatever

1046
00:46:11,440 --> 00:46:14,040
Speaker 7: is we got to understand that we don't own nobody right,

1047
00:46:14,320 --> 00:46:17,480
Speaker 7: and if somebody vowses you and loves you and wants

1048
00:46:17,560 --> 00:46:19,520
Speaker 7: to do for you and wants to provide for you,

1049
00:46:20,000 --> 00:46:22,279
Speaker 7: that in itself is a blessing because you shouldn't have

1050
00:46:22,360 --> 00:46:25,320
Speaker 7: to make anybody do anything.

1051
00:46:25,080 --> 00:46:25,520
Speaker 1: Or the man.

1052
00:46:25,880 --> 00:46:27,560
Speaker 8: If a man don't just do it on his own,

1053
00:46:27,560 --> 00:46:28,480
Speaker 8: I don't even want them.

1054
00:46:28,920 --> 00:46:33,400
Speaker 6: I mean to answer the question specifically, It's possible, not probable.

1055
00:46:34,960 --> 00:46:37,480
Speaker 2: I've seen it. I can't say that because everything is.

1056
00:46:37,719 --> 00:46:40,440
Speaker 7: I've had a man in my life that that I

1057
00:46:40,520 --> 00:46:43,719
Speaker 7: was with for several years that met every single need

1058
00:46:43,840 --> 00:46:46,439
Speaker 7: and I didn't want anything that was coming.

1059
00:46:46,520 --> 00:46:47,920
Speaker 2: I mean, that's a crazy story.

1060
00:46:48,440 --> 00:46:52,000
Speaker 8: So you what the nigga got life?

1061
00:46:52,719 --> 00:46:54,600
Speaker 2: Listen? Do you know what shit happens?

1062
00:46:54,680 --> 00:46:55,479
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying.

1063
00:46:55,600 --> 00:46:57,080
Speaker 8: But I'm saying.

1064
00:46:58,760 --> 00:47:02,719
Speaker 7: I didn't do that either, but you know shit, That's

1065
00:47:02,760 --> 00:47:06,640
Speaker 7: what I'm saying. It is possible as a woman to

1066
00:47:06,680 --> 00:47:09,080
Speaker 7: meet a man that could. It's not probable, but it

1067
00:47:09,160 --> 00:47:11,120
Speaker 7: is possible, and I don't want us to think. And

1068
00:47:11,280 --> 00:47:13,799
Speaker 7: it's possible that it might be a man out here

1069
00:47:13,920 --> 00:47:16,759
Speaker 7: that got another situation and it still treats you better

1070
00:47:16,760 --> 00:47:18,200
Speaker 7: than any man that you had in your life, and

1071
00:47:18,239 --> 00:47:21,480
Speaker 7: he's being honest about it. Like, women, do you really

1072
00:47:21,520 --> 00:47:24,040
Speaker 7: want honesty? Can you handle the truth?

1073
00:47:24,600 --> 00:47:24,799
Speaker 1: Right?

1074
00:47:25,160 --> 00:47:27,600
Speaker 7: I can handle the tree. I can't wait for somebody

1075
00:47:27,600 --> 00:47:28,640
Speaker 7: to tell you the question.

1076
00:47:30,160 --> 00:47:32,279
Speaker 9: Can you see the truth? Can you see it? Like

1077
00:47:32,719 --> 00:47:35,359
Speaker 9: what you mean like basically, you could be like, yeah, okay,

1078
00:47:35,440 --> 00:47:37,120
Speaker 9: I'm with you. I'm with you, girl, I don't care.

1079
00:47:37,000 --> 00:47:39,480
Speaker 1: About what it was. Then you see this ship like

1080
00:47:39,600 --> 00:47:42,160
Speaker 1: she's happy with him too. You get what I'm saying.

1081
00:47:42,160 --> 00:47:43,160
Speaker 7: Do you see like you.

1082
00:47:45,320 --> 00:47:46,000
Speaker 1: Know what I'm saying.

1083
00:47:46,040 --> 00:47:48,920
Speaker 9: Like you you're saying okay, cool because in the moment,

1084
00:47:48,960 --> 00:47:50,799
Speaker 9: I make you feel how you want to feel as

1085
00:47:50,840 --> 00:47:54,160
Speaker 9: a side whatever. But then when you see okay, she's

1086
00:47:54,160 --> 00:47:57,080
Speaker 9: smiling too, she happy, We not upset.

1087
00:47:57,360 --> 00:47:59,520
Speaker 1: She loved me and I love her, but you see this,

1088
00:48:00,320 --> 00:48:01,200
Speaker 1: that shit hurts.

1089
00:48:01,200 --> 00:48:05,120
Speaker 2: I don't think I can't tell you how.

1090
00:48:05,320 --> 00:48:11,000
Speaker 5: No, but I don't agree that the side chick gets

1091
00:48:11,719 --> 00:48:15,000
Speaker 5: like upset when they see whoever.

1092
00:48:14,680 --> 00:48:16,040
Speaker 2: With they already know yeah.

1093
00:48:17,600 --> 00:48:17,799
Speaker 3: Them.

1094
00:48:17,840 --> 00:48:22,480
Speaker 7: And it depends her watching.

1095
00:48:22,120 --> 00:48:23,160
Speaker 2: Me because you're married.

1096
00:48:23,400 --> 00:48:25,160
Speaker 7: You're married to me, and she want to be me

1097
00:48:25,560 --> 00:48:27,319
Speaker 7: and you know, created a whole end and she know

1098
00:48:27,400 --> 00:48:29,160
Speaker 7: everything about me and I don't know nothing about it.

1099
00:48:29,719 --> 00:48:32,880
Speaker 7: That's the problem with that side sick chick situation because

1100
00:48:32,920 --> 00:48:34,959
Speaker 7: you run your side chick and you tell this woman

1101
00:48:35,040 --> 00:48:37,160
Speaker 7: all your business because you need somebody to vent to

1102
00:48:37,200 --> 00:48:39,440
Speaker 7: about what's going on in your house with your wife.

1103
00:48:39,640 --> 00:48:42,960
Speaker 7: And what you do is you create a silent enemy

1104
00:48:43,320 --> 00:48:45,239
Speaker 7: right for your wife and.

1105
00:48:47,040 --> 00:48:47,719
Speaker 1: What's going on.

1106
00:48:48,040 --> 00:48:48,839
Speaker 8: You know what I'm saying.

1107
00:48:48,840 --> 00:48:50,839
Speaker 7: They don't plyed they know where we live at nine

1108
00:48:50,880 --> 00:48:53,520
Speaker 7: times been in your house, I don't think man.

1109
00:48:53,880 --> 00:48:54,920
Speaker 1: So you answer the question.

1110
00:48:54,960 --> 00:48:56,920
Speaker 9: What I'm saying is, like you just said earlier, like

1111
00:48:56,960 --> 00:48:59,680
Speaker 9: you making find a dude, dude with somebody, you know

1112
00:48:59,719 --> 00:49:00,440
Speaker 9: what I'm say.

1113
00:49:00,040 --> 00:49:01,399
Speaker 1: And he'd be cool too.

1114
00:49:01,840 --> 00:49:03,799
Speaker 9: But at the end of the day, he's gonna have

1115
00:49:03,800 --> 00:49:05,680
Speaker 9: to he's gonna have to move a certain way for

1116
00:49:05,760 --> 00:49:06,640
Speaker 9: you to remain cool.

1117
00:49:07,280 --> 00:49:10,239
Speaker 7: No, if it ain't nothing like to understanding what's understanding,

1118
00:49:10,360 --> 00:49:12,320
Speaker 7: I don't understand you understand.

1119
00:49:12,320 --> 00:49:13,160
Speaker 1: You don't understand that.

1120
00:49:14,080 --> 00:49:15,520
Speaker 8: I don't know about that.

1121
00:49:15,560 --> 00:49:17,000
Speaker 1: Man, Even when you.

1122
00:49:16,840 --> 00:49:21,000
Speaker 6: Go ahead, go ahead, if somebody is gonna fold because like.

1123
00:49:21,320 --> 00:49:23,600
Speaker 2: Truth, the fact of the matter is only okay.

1124
00:49:23,719 --> 00:49:25,200
Speaker 6: Like if I'm the side chick, right and we just

1125
00:49:25,200 --> 00:49:27,360
Speaker 6: start kicking it, I'll see him very often cool. But

1126
00:49:27,360 --> 00:49:29,640
Speaker 6: if we start spending more time together and we get

1127
00:49:29,680 --> 00:49:33,000
Speaker 6: closer and closer, that woman is a threat because somebody

1128
00:49:33,040 --> 00:49:34,279
Speaker 6: on either side, somebody.

1129
00:49:34,080 --> 00:49:34,719
Speaker 1: Is getting more.

1130
00:49:35,600 --> 00:49:37,040
Speaker 6: I can deal with when we first start kicking it,

1131
00:49:37,040 --> 00:49:38,920
Speaker 6: because like I said, you're making me feel good. But

1132
00:49:38,960 --> 00:49:40,759
Speaker 6: then if you don't answer my phone has and she's

1133
00:49:40,760 --> 00:49:42,959
Speaker 6: getting more time to me. Somebody's gonna fold well.

1134
00:49:42,840 --> 00:49:45,480
Speaker 7: Because the problem is the man get possessive with the

1135
00:49:45,560 --> 00:49:47,680
Speaker 7: side hick. You know I got it regardless, but I

1136
00:49:47,680 --> 00:49:49,759
Speaker 7: don't want you messing with nobody else and you can't

1137
00:49:49,800 --> 00:49:55,520
Speaker 7: have no other do And that's what.

1138
00:49:53,640 --> 00:49:56,960
Speaker 1: You don't say. Yes, niggas, try to keep that.

1139
00:49:57,040 --> 00:49:59,520
Speaker 9: Dude, you gotta do what you gotta until you start

1140
00:49:59,600 --> 00:50:03,279
Speaker 9: saying I ain't with that, then nigga.

1141
00:50:03,160 --> 00:50:04,319
Speaker 1: Trying to hold you to that.

1142
00:50:04,680 --> 00:50:06,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know when.

1143
00:50:06,000 --> 00:50:06,640
Speaker 1: It started off.

1144
00:50:06,680 --> 00:50:09,319
Speaker 9: Nigga, be like, ship, do what you do because I'm

1145
00:50:09,320 --> 00:50:10,640
Speaker 9: gonna tell you one thing. A boy, the woman that

1146
00:50:10,719 --> 00:50:12,799
Speaker 9: I know, they don't want to be put right here.

1147
00:50:13,160 --> 00:50:15,600
Speaker 9: They always want to go here, no matter what it is.

1148
00:50:15,680 --> 00:50:18,600
Speaker 9: That's your main, your side, your third, your fourth, your field.

1149
00:50:18,840 --> 00:50:21,680
Speaker 9: They always want to level up. They want to be

1150
00:50:21,680 --> 00:50:23,719
Speaker 9: the favorite, regardless. So at the end of the day,

1151
00:50:23,800 --> 00:50:26,759
Speaker 9: you can say this were cool. So you what you're

1152
00:50:26,760 --> 00:50:29,960
Speaker 9: gonna do is you're not gonna because the ultimate goal

1153
00:50:30,080 --> 00:50:34,720
Speaker 9: is to boot old girl, no matter what. The ultimate

1154
00:50:35,880 --> 00:50:37,640
Speaker 9: why regardless.

1155
00:50:39,440 --> 00:50:39,840
Speaker 8: Business.

1156
00:50:39,920 --> 00:50:42,360
Speaker 1: Yeah, So you're trying to be the best, You're trying to.

1157
00:50:42,320 --> 00:50:45,959
Speaker 8: Be making you think it's a chance because the way.

1158
00:50:45,880 --> 00:50:48,320
Speaker 1: I make you feel, because I ain't say that.

1159
00:50:48,600 --> 00:50:50,480
Speaker 2: But sometimes y'all say that, y'all.

1160
00:50:52,719 --> 00:50:55,920
Speaker 7: That you don't want they side women messing with another man.

1161
00:50:56,040 --> 00:50:57,960
Speaker 7: We first got to go back and start there before.

1162
00:50:59,080 --> 00:51:02,239
Speaker 9: After after you, after you don't moved on, you get

1163
00:51:02,239 --> 00:51:05,080
Speaker 9: gonna say after you done, after you don't hurt the lies,

1164
00:51:06,120 --> 00:51:07,920
Speaker 9: then you don't want it to because now you don't

1165
00:51:07,960 --> 00:51:10,560
Speaker 9: fail for the lives. Like Ship she be in the house,

1166
00:51:10,600 --> 00:51:13,520
Speaker 9: she don't. When I first met you, I'm saying, hey, baby,

1167
00:51:13,560 --> 00:51:14,840
Speaker 9: DoD what you gotta do. I'm gonna do what I

1168
00:51:14,880 --> 00:51:17,399
Speaker 9: gotta do. That's just how it goes. Am I right

1169
00:51:17,480 --> 00:51:17,759
Speaker 9: or wrong?

1170
00:51:18,080 --> 00:51:18,480
Speaker 2: You're right.

1171
00:51:20,840 --> 00:51:23,640
Speaker 1: I'm a homebody. I'm a homebody. I just get can

1172
00:51:23,719 --> 00:51:29,120
Speaker 1: be kids, and you do all that put sad Ship.

1173
00:51:29,360 --> 00:51:32,799
Speaker 1: Then she asked it all back like.

1174
00:51:34,360 --> 00:51:36,919
Speaker 9: You know what I'm saying, Oh, that's an act that's

1175
00:51:36,960 --> 00:51:39,120
Speaker 9: still trying to move in positions the.

1176
00:51:39,000 --> 00:51:39,880
Speaker 2: Same thing you gonna be.

1177
00:51:39,920 --> 00:51:41,399
Speaker 6: Of course, if I'm the side chick, I'm gonna give

1178
00:51:41,400 --> 00:51:44,120
Speaker 6: you everything you want. I'm gonna say everything because I'm

1179
00:51:44,360 --> 00:51:46,600
Speaker 6: my The end goal is he gonna like me so

1180
00:51:46,680 --> 00:51:47,759
Speaker 6: much because I'll nag like this.

1181
00:51:47,840 --> 00:51:49,439
Speaker 8: What's the benefit of being a side ship?

1182
00:51:49,800 --> 00:51:51,840
Speaker 6: I don't personally don't want to be one, but in

1183
00:51:51,920 --> 00:51:54,440
Speaker 6: the beginning, you you Sometimes those side chicks get the

1184
00:51:54,520 --> 00:51:56,719
Speaker 6: fun and the money, but it's sporadic.

1185
00:51:56,640 --> 00:51:58,760
Speaker 1: Because because you ain't been hurt neither.

1186
00:51:58,680 --> 00:52:00,319
Speaker 6: Y'all ain't really spending no time to get so you

1187
00:52:00,360 --> 00:52:01,200
Speaker 6: still miss each other.

1188
00:52:01,280 --> 00:52:02,719
Speaker 1: Now there's a hundred.

1189
00:52:02,480 --> 00:52:05,520
Speaker 6: Married, and the honeymoon face with the side chick lasts

1190
00:52:05,520 --> 00:52:07,799
Speaker 6: a lot longer because you're not together all the time.

1191
00:52:08,040 --> 00:52:09,880
Speaker 6: Because same thing. Fact of the matter is is I know,

1192
00:52:09,920 --> 00:52:11,319
Speaker 6: if I'm a side chick and we start spending more

1193
00:52:11,360 --> 00:52:13,200
Speaker 6: more time together, you finish, start seeing my flaws. I'm

1194
00:52:13,200 --> 00:52:15,280
Speaker 6: finna start getting all your nerves, and then your position

1195
00:52:15,400 --> 00:52:18,000
Speaker 6: is gone. It's just it's a temporary thing because there's

1196
00:52:18,000 --> 00:52:20,239
Speaker 6: no there's no real time spend we together all day

1197
00:52:20,280 --> 00:52:21,880
Speaker 6: every day. I'm getting all your nerves. You're getting on

1198
00:52:21,960 --> 00:52:24,279
Speaker 6: my nerves, so your release is hurt. Side chicks keep

1199
00:52:24,320 --> 00:52:28,719
Speaker 6: marriages together, unfortunately, but it's only because it's so the

1200
00:52:28,800 --> 00:52:31,440
Speaker 6: time is so few of it's a thing we nagging.

1201
00:52:31,480 --> 00:52:32,640
Speaker 6: He all right, well, let me go get off on

1202
00:52:32,640 --> 00:52:34,120
Speaker 6: what's the name, And I'm gonna bring my wife some

1203
00:52:34,120 --> 00:52:36,480
Speaker 6: flowers homes because I'm straight now and baby, I'm sorry,

1204
00:52:36,520 --> 00:52:37,239
Speaker 6: We're gonna make it work.

1205
00:52:37,280 --> 00:52:38,080
Speaker 1: It's balanced.

1206
00:52:38,920 --> 00:52:41,000
Speaker 2: I'm not saying no, I'm not agreed.

1207
00:52:40,680 --> 00:52:44,719
Speaker 7: With balanced, though, bro, I'm keeping a lot said the

1208
00:52:44,760 --> 00:52:47,560
Speaker 7: words scream like, look y'all see, I'm.

1209
00:52:47,560 --> 00:52:48,840
Speaker 3: Born, faithful marriage.

1210
00:52:50,520 --> 00:52:52,080
Speaker 1: I just say what the funk I want to say?

1211
00:52:52,120 --> 00:52:53,680
Speaker 1: I feel like at the end of the day because

1212
00:52:53,719 --> 00:52:54,359
Speaker 1: I talk to men.

1213
00:52:54,480 --> 00:52:56,640
Speaker 9: You know what I'm saying. I'm a life coach to me,

1214
00:52:56,680 --> 00:52:58,400
Speaker 9: and so I was speaking for the bed, not for

1215
00:52:58,440 --> 00:52:59,320
Speaker 9: myself personally.

1216
00:52:59,600 --> 00:53:00,279
Speaker 3: You know what I'm saying.

1217
00:53:00,400 --> 00:53:03,200
Speaker 9: I've seen niggas be good niggas all the way around

1218
00:53:03,280 --> 00:53:06,319
Speaker 9: the board. You get what I'm saying, Like, okay, cool men,

1219
00:53:06,400 --> 00:53:08,440
Speaker 9: Suya meet today, we've hanging out.

1220
00:53:08,920 --> 00:53:11,040
Speaker 1: I like her. She cool, last gemin I like me.

1221
00:53:11,120 --> 00:53:13,120
Speaker 8: I fuck with her, she with the ships gemis.

1222
00:53:13,160 --> 00:53:16,440
Speaker 1: But then I start going with her. Now we do this'

1223
00:53:16,520 --> 00:53:17,000
Speaker 1: corning them out.

1224
00:53:17,040 --> 00:53:19,440
Speaker 8: We go together, real bad.

1225
00:53:19,760 --> 00:53:22,160
Speaker 1: Real bad. Now she don't start got that.

1226
00:53:22,280 --> 00:53:24,319
Speaker 9: But she's a homebody and she's I just go to

1227
00:53:24,320 --> 00:53:26,680
Speaker 9: school business.

1228
00:53:27,400 --> 00:53:29,719
Speaker 1: I start acting like Shi, where you at?

1229
00:53:30,440 --> 00:53:30,560
Speaker 3: Now?

1230
00:53:30,560 --> 00:53:31,640
Speaker 1: I'm starting to ask where you at?

1231
00:53:31,640 --> 00:53:33,279
Speaker 9: First I ain't give a fuck, but then if I

1232
00:53:33,280 --> 00:53:35,880
Speaker 9: didn't give a fuck, he don't like me, So I

1233
00:53:35,880 --> 00:53:37,759
Speaker 9: gotta go into that road for you to like me.

1234
00:53:38,080 --> 00:53:39,920
Speaker 9: I want you to be kind of crazy about me.

1235
00:53:41,520 --> 00:53:43,200
Speaker 9: Am I right or wrong? I want you to be

1236
00:53:43,320 --> 00:53:45,319
Speaker 9: kind of where you at? Because if I don't do that,

1237
00:53:45,360 --> 00:53:50,239
Speaker 9: you just a regular bitch? Then yeah, looked for me, right.

1238
00:53:56,040 --> 00:53:58,560
Speaker 1: So why wouldn't I tell you I don't want nobody

1239
00:53:58,560 --> 00:54:00,000
Speaker 1: in your pussy? Because I know that what you want

1240
00:54:00,080 --> 00:54:01,839
Speaker 1: me to say. Really, I don't give a fuck.

1241
00:54:01,920 --> 00:54:05,600
Speaker 7: But as one why wouldn't a woman say that? Jealousy

1242
00:54:05,760 --> 00:54:08,320
Speaker 7: is a born trait. You ever seen a little baby

1243
00:54:08,520 --> 00:54:11,160
Speaker 7: you got? You got so me like I had. I

1244
00:54:11,440 --> 00:54:13,920
Speaker 7: had five children, so my oldest baby didn't want the

1245
00:54:13,960 --> 00:54:15,759
Speaker 7: baby up on her home my lap. They get mad,

1246
00:54:15,800 --> 00:54:19,319
Speaker 7: they get jealous. Jealousy is just a human trait. So

1247
00:54:19,400 --> 00:54:21,759
Speaker 7: it's okay to be a little jealous, you know what

1248
00:54:21,800 --> 00:54:23,879
Speaker 7: I'm saying. But any woman that you would and you're

1249
00:54:23,880 --> 00:54:26,200
Speaker 7: having sex with, of course she gonna want you to

1250
00:54:26,239 --> 00:54:26,799
Speaker 7: just be with her.

1251
00:54:26,920 --> 00:54:29,279
Speaker 2: Any man, it's the same thing. We know you're not

1252
00:54:29,280 --> 00:54:30,040
Speaker 2: gonna leave the other woman.

1253
00:54:30,080 --> 00:54:31,840
Speaker 6: The woman still always want to be favorite, because in

1254
00:54:31,880 --> 00:54:35,319
Speaker 6: ourselves we're just naturally competitive. We don't want nobody having

1255
00:54:35,400 --> 00:54:36,160
Speaker 6: one up on us.

1256
00:54:36,760 --> 00:54:39,920
Speaker 1: So while I why not when like y'all said, be

1257
00:54:40,000 --> 00:54:42,640
Speaker 1: underweth me. Hey, I'm trying not for the man.

1258
00:54:43,200 --> 00:54:44,520
Speaker 8: I want to be honest, I.

1259
00:54:46,239 --> 00:54:48,120
Speaker 1: Try for the man. I ain't here the god damn

1260
00:54:48,200 --> 00:54:51,040
Speaker 1: playb little game bitch by y'all.

1261
00:54:51,040 --> 00:54:53,600
Speaker 5: But nobody was born the day that you met them,

1262
00:54:53,640 --> 00:54:58,080
Speaker 5: So everybody has some sort of situation happening. So most

1263
00:54:58,120 --> 00:55:02,040
Speaker 5: women are understanding, Like, if I meet you on Monday,

1264
00:55:02,360 --> 00:55:05,080
Speaker 5: I know Sunday you probably was just with somebody else,

1265
00:55:05,080 --> 00:55:07,360
Speaker 5: So I'm not looking for you to only be with me.

1266
00:55:07,480 --> 00:55:11,359
Speaker 5: But then it comes to a certain point, sir, what

1267
00:55:11,440 --> 00:55:11,919
Speaker 5: were doing?

1268
00:55:12,600 --> 00:55:12,759
Speaker 2: Like?

1269
00:55:13,000 --> 00:55:15,480
Speaker 9: But what makes you thought we were finna do anything

1270
00:55:15,600 --> 00:55:20,399
Speaker 9: other than what I signed you?

1271
00:55:19,239 --> 00:55:23,960
Speaker 1: I heard the motherfucker say. Motherfucker say why you say that?

1272
00:55:24,000 --> 00:55:26,239
Speaker 1: I ain't say ship, But why you do that? Why

1273
00:55:26,400 --> 00:55:26,640
Speaker 1: do what?

1274
00:55:27,960 --> 00:55:30,719
Speaker 2: Action? Speak? Louder the word you hear?

1275
00:55:30,760 --> 00:55:32,879
Speaker 1: What day?

1276
00:55:32,880 --> 00:55:34,480
Speaker 9: And she suck your dick to the point and did

1277
00:55:34,520 --> 00:55:35,799
Speaker 9: you make you feel like you love her?

1278
00:55:36,000 --> 00:55:37,799
Speaker 1: No, she don't love you, bro, That's how she do that.

1279
00:55:37,960 --> 00:55:39,680
Speaker 8: She might love sucking your dick, that's.

1280
00:55:39,480 --> 00:55:40,880
Speaker 1: How she do that to whoever.

1281
00:55:41,400 --> 00:55:44,000
Speaker 9: She's great at what she doing So if I come,

1282
00:55:44,320 --> 00:55:47,800
Speaker 9: if I come, be a man that you've never had before,

1283
00:55:47,960 --> 00:55:49,799
Speaker 9: make you feel the way you never felt before. That

1284
00:55:49,840 --> 00:55:53,359
Speaker 9: don't that that don't that's not because of you. That's

1285
00:55:53,360 --> 00:55:56,359
Speaker 9: because of who I am. And you'll take that as

1286
00:55:56,400 --> 00:55:57,000
Speaker 9: in your.

1287
00:55:56,840 --> 00:55:59,560
Speaker 6: Special That's what I'm saying, Especially.

1288
00:56:00,200 --> 00:56:02,879
Speaker 1: Motherfucking thing. I just been me, but.

1289
00:56:02,920 --> 00:56:04,720
Speaker 6: You're making me feel good, and I'm thinking I'm gonna

1290
00:56:04,719 --> 00:56:05,360
Speaker 6: get that position.

1291
00:56:05,480 --> 00:56:07,960
Speaker 1: No, you heard something but made you feel, made you

1292
00:56:07,960 --> 00:56:10,480
Speaker 1: hear some imaginary you're telling me energy.

1293
00:56:11,360 --> 00:56:15,439
Speaker 9: I understand that, but you'll you'll, you'll be somewhere telling

1294
00:56:15,440 --> 00:56:15,960
Speaker 9: your homegirl.

1295
00:56:15,960 --> 00:56:18,160
Speaker 1: He lied, but he ain't saying now, you're right about that.

1296
00:56:18,200 --> 00:56:20,239
Speaker 1: I have that nigga lied that niggas a piece of ship.

1297
00:56:20,239 --> 00:56:23,239
Speaker 1: He lied. What did he say? I fought with you?

1298
00:56:23,360 --> 00:56:28,440
Speaker 1: I do. I like you, I do, I should do

1299
00:56:28,520 --> 00:56:32,160
Speaker 1: nothing others I like you and fuck with you. Am

1300
00:56:32,160 --> 00:56:32,799
Speaker 1: I right or wrong?

1301
00:56:33,160 --> 00:56:37,120
Speaker 9: But niggas motherfucker create their own false story in their

1302
00:56:37,200 --> 00:56:38,440
Speaker 9: head that you say you're.

1303
00:56:38,320 --> 00:56:40,040
Speaker 8: Not being right now I'm not.

1304
00:56:40,800 --> 00:56:42,840
Speaker 7: You could like me and fuck with me as my partner,

1305
00:56:42,960 --> 00:56:44,279
Speaker 7: or you could like me and fuck with me as

1306
00:56:44,280 --> 00:56:47,520
Speaker 7: a nigga that that that wants to screw me but different.

1307
00:56:47,719 --> 00:56:49,040
Speaker 1: You ain't got to, but I don't.

1308
00:56:48,960 --> 00:56:52,239
Speaker 7: Like your intentions is not different because your your action

1309
00:56:52,360 --> 00:56:53,200
Speaker 7: is gonna be based.

1310
00:56:52,960 --> 00:56:53,279
Speaker 8: Off for you.

1311
00:56:53,480 --> 00:56:53,719
Speaker 1: Nigga.

1312
00:56:53,760 --> 00:56:57,719
Speaker 9: They got boy Flyenn swag, your words swag, hold up,

1313
00:56:57,880 --> 00:57:00,239
Speaker 9: and some niggas that got Boart Flynn swag.

1314
00:57:00,320 --> 00:57:00,879
Speaker 1: Like I don't.

1315
00:57:00,920 --> 00:57:02,800
Speaker 9: I can't if me personally, I can't deal with a

1316
00:57:02,840 --> 00:57:05,040
Speaker 9: woman less I like her. That don't mean I want

1317
00:57:05,040 --> 00:57:06,920
Speaker 9: to marry her. That's what I don't mean. I want

1318
00:57:06,920 --> 00:57:08,839
Speaker 9: to leave that I like her.

1319
00:57:08,920 --> 00:57:10,319
Speaker 8: I don't mean I want to fuck her either.

1320
00:57:10,480 --> 00:57:12,479
Speaker 9: I'm saying, if a bitch that I want to fuck,

1321
00:57:13,040 --> 00:57:14,759
Speaker 9: if I meet her, take on dates, take her out

1322
00:57:14,760 --> 00:57:16,160
Speaker 9: of town, and start fucking her.

1323
00:57:16,320 --> 00:57:18,640
Speaker 8: I like her enough to fuck her.

1324
00:57:18,800 --> 00:57:22,920
Speaker 1: Yes, okay, enough for everything that I can't get rid of.

1325
00:57:23,560 --> 00:57:24,600
Speaker 2: You're never doing that.

1326
00:57:24,640 --> 00:57:27,280
Speaker 7: You' not already made that clear, but in that you've

1327
00:57:27,320 --> 00:57:30,680
Speaker 7: already made said nothing. But in fact you said, I

1328
00:57:30,840 --> 00:57:32,520
Speaker 7: like you, and I with you, and I don't want to.

1329
00:57:34,880 --> 00:57:36,040
Speaker 1: West.

1330
00:57:36,440 --> 00:57:40,920
Speaker 2: But let me tell y'all what y'all fuck up to.

1331
00:57:41,200 --> 00:57:43,440
Speaker 7: Y'all get with these side chickens, and y'all don't know

1332
00:57:43,480 --> 00:57:44,960
Speaker 7: how to just fucking go on about you.

1333
00:57:45,040 --> 00:57:46,880
Speaker 1: But you want to go out of town. That's how

1334
00:57:46,960 --> 00:57:50,800
Speaker 1: you bitch, that's how you know. That's how you guess something.

1335
00:57:51,440 --> 00:57:52,400
Speaker 1: You'll run through a hundred hole.

1336
00:57:52,440 --> 00:57:52,560
Speaker 4: Man.

1337
00:57:52,560 --> 00:57:54,600
Speaker 1: You let me get tools of fruz. Man, I'm good

1338
00:57:57,240 --> 00:57:59,200
Speaker 1: because I ain't got the capacity.

1339
00:57:58,760 --> 00:58:00,720
Speaker 8: For that and attachments call but it's.

1340
00:58:00,560 --> 00:58:03,680
Speaker 2: Not attached and okay, so we can do all that.

1341
00:58:03,720 --> 00:58:06,080
Speaker 1: But I still ain't told you. No, Lie, I'm not.

1342
00:58:06,240 --> 00:58:06,720
Speaker 1: I will not.

1343
00:58:07,200 --> 00:58:08,920
Speaker 6: I don't think it's right, but I'm not gonna disagree

1344
00:58:08,960 --> 00:58:10,840
Speaker 6: with the fact of the matter is because again this

1345
00:58:10,960 --> 00:58:14,600
Speaker 6: comes in a woman's own delusion. If the man said no,

1346
00:58:14,760 --> 00:58:17,520
Speaker 6: I'm not fucking with you, I'm not leaving my wife.

1347
00:58:17,720 --> 00:58:19,440
Speaker 6: We fucking you can go on the trips. It is

1348
00:58:19,480 --> 00:58:22,480
Speaker 6: still my fault. He told me what it was. I

1349
00:58:22,680 --> 00:58:24,280
Speaker 6: created this relationship.

1350
00:58:23,760 --> 00:58:26,400
Speaker 2: With my head. It's normal, and it's.

1351
00:58:26,480 --> 00:58:28,760
Speaker 7: We may not have made myself believed that I'm gonna

1352
00:58:28,760 --> 00:58:30,240
Speaker 7: be good enough for him to leave her.

1353
00:58:31,200 --> 00:58:35,880
Speaker 3: Why Lie, I think what they're saying, from the standpoint is.

1354
00:58:37,320 --> 00:58:40,600
Speaker 7: Is just saying some motion attention, your attentions. Was you

1355
00:58:40,720 --> 00:58:42,720
Speaker 7: my bitch and number fuck you for the rest of

1356
00:58:42,720 --> 00:58:43,120
Speaker 7: my life.

1357
00:58:43,160 --> 00:58:48,080
Speaker 1: But understanding I'm thinking, we gotta understand you waking me up.

1358
00:58:48,920 --> 00:58:49,760
Speaker 2: But you gotta think.

1359
00:58:50,160 --> 00:58:54,640
Speaker 1: Most people you're doing don't talk man.

1360
00:58:54,760 --> 00:58:55,840
Speaker 2: So she's attaching to that.

1361
00:58:55,880 --> 00:58:58,480
Speaker 6: So now she's no other man is doing this for me?

1362
00:58:58,760 --> 00:59:01,000
Speaker 2: But he is he not leaving his wife. That part

1363
00:59:01,000 --> 00:59:03,280
Speaker 2: of the problem too. Most men don't do they not

1364
00:59:03,320 --> 00:59:04,080
Speaker 2: doing what you're doing.

1365
00:59:04,280 --> 00:59:06,320
Speaker 6: So now she's thinking he must I must really be

1366
00:59:06,360 --> 00:59:07,080
Speaker 6: special because.

1367
00:59:06,880 --> 00:59:07,240
Speaker 2: He's doing it.

1368
00:59:07,320 --> 00:59:08,960
Speaker 6: He's saying that he don't want to.

1369
00:59:08,920 --> 00:59:09,240
Speaker 1: Be with me.

1370
00:59:09,280 --> 00:59:17,440
Speaker 6: But yes, that's ours right or wrong, whether it's right

1371
00:59:17,520 --> 00:59:20,240
Speaker 6: or whether it's wrong. We told him we go together.

1372
00:59:20,760 --> 00:59:23,480
Speaker 6: Is that no, we don't. We said, yes, we did

1373
00:59:23,520 --> 00:59:23,960
Speaker 6: what it was.

1374
00:59:25,080 --> 00:59:27,080
Speaker 1: I agree with you, we do go together. You have

1375
00:59:27,200 --> 00:59:31,920
Speaker 1: no liar though we like this. Yeah, I'm saying, if

1376
00:59:31,960 --> 00:59:33,200
Speaker 1: you whatever you want.

1377
00:59:32,960 --> 00:59:35,560
Speaker 2: To call, you want no boyfriend.

1378
00:59:36,200 --> 00:59:40,680
Speaker 5: That's why I don't know situations like that, because if

1379
00:59:40,720 --> 00:59:43,680
Speaker 5: you are a woman that truly have the desires for

1380
00:59:43,880 --> 00:59:47,520
Speaker 5: companionship and a relationship, somebody is gonna crash and burn.

1381
00:59:47,800 --> 00:59:50,680
Speaker 5: Something is going to go wrong because you can think,

1382
00:59:51,040 --> 00:59:52,840
Speaker 5: like I have friends that be like, oh, I'm gonna

1383
00:59:52,840 --> 00:59:54,640
Speaker 5: just mess with him for right now. And then six

1384
00:59:54,720 --> 00:59:57,600
Speaker 5: seven months later, the birthday done came Mother's they done

1385
00:59:57,680 --> 01:00:00,760
Speaker 5: came Valentine's Day. The man doing this. They like, oh,

1386
01:00:00,840 --> 01:00:02,720
Speaker 5: that's my man. I said, well, did he ask you

1387
01:00:02,840 --> 01:00:05,120
Speaker 5: to be his girlfriend here? And they be like no,

1388
01:00:05,360 --> 01:00:08,960
Speaker 5: but we together all the time. It's the delusion, like

1389
01:00:09,000 --> 01:00:11,280
Speaker 5: you said, but.

1390
01:00:10,480 --> 01:00:11,880
Speaker 1: A lot of women lie.

1391
01:00:12,280 --> 01:00:14,800
Speaker 5: No, you never lie, but a lot of women we

1392
01:00:14,880 --> 01:00:17,520
Speaker 5: create this when we meet a man and start liking them.

1393
01:00:17,680 --> 01:00:19,800
Speaker 5: And if you sleeping with me, rang, I didn't already

1394
01:00:19,800 --> 01:00:22,400
Speaker 5: planned our wedding. I really know what we were retiring at.

1395
01:00:22,720 --> 01:00:25,360
Speaker 5: I know everything. But when that condom come off and

1396
01:00:25,400 --> 01:00:29,240
Speaker 5: I put these good Meganes on you, baby, it's planned out. Okay,

1397
01:00:29,680 --> 01:00:34,400
Speaker 5: So that's why we're Situationships doesn't work for me because

1398
01:00:34,560 --> 01:00:35,959
Speaker 5: I'm going to fall in love.

1399
01:00:36,040 --> 01:00:37,520
Speaker 2: I'm a love person, just.

1400
01:00:37,520 --> 01:00:40,440
Speaker 9: Genuine I just think most women feel like they pushing magic.

1401
01:00:40,480 --> 01:00:42,880
Speaker 9: Every woman feel like they pushing magic, like he gonna

1402
01:00:42,920 --> 01:00:45,240
Speaker 9: do something different because he puts it in their.

1403
01:00:45,160 --> 01:00:46,760
Speaker 1: Head and it don't work. Like they don't worry, got

1404
01:00:46,840 --> 01:00:49,840
Speaker 1: nigga on, They dig something every language. They donna give

1405
01:00:49,840 --> 01:00:51,160
Speaker 1: a fuck about how your head is.

1406
01:00:51,240 --> 01:00:53,400
Speaker 9: Baby, Hey, deal with this. Here, deal with this, sill

1407
01:00:53,560 --> 01:00:56,360
Speaker 9: we're doing this. We're doing this then no, No, it's.

1408
01:01:01,440 --> 01:01:05,120
Speaker 7: It's like it's all about it understanding, Like if that's

1409
01:01:05,120 --> 01:01:06,880
Speaker 7: all it is, and let it just be that. But

1410
01:01:06,920 --> 01:01:10,200
Speaker 7: if you extend it and it's repetitive, then it just

1411
01:01:10,240 --> 01:01:11,240
Speaker 7: becomes more than that.

1412
01:01:11,280 --> 01:01:14,200
Speaker 9: But what's the percentage of the understanding becoming a misunderstanding

1413
01:01:14,240 --> 01:01:15,360
Speaker 9: on the woman's part.

1414
01:01:15,840 --> 01:01:20,280
Speaker 8: Talking about that? It just changes over time, just as.

1415
01:01:20,160 --> 01:01:22,040
Speaker 1: Time goes on, only.

1416
01:01:21,840 --> 01:01:23,840
Speaker 7: One fucking that we need to come to the new.

1417
01:01:30,880 --> 01:01:32,760
Speaker 2: But that's what I do it.

1418
01:01:32,840 --> 01:01:35,080
Speaker 5: Even though they say, oh, I'm okay with the man

1419
01:01:35,200 --> 01:01:38,880
Speaker 5: having somebody else, women are naturally jealous human beings if

1420
01:01:38,920 --> 01:01:42,200
Speaker 5: somebody if the men mental, but if you spending more

1421
01:01:42,240 --> 01:01:43,800
Speaker 5: time with her, I am going to feel a certain

1422
01:01:43,800 --> 01:01:46,480
Speaker 5: type of way. So because I know those things about myself,

1423
01:01:46,600 --> 01:01:47,480
Speaker 5: let me just not do it.

1424
01:01:47,560 --> 01:01:49,760
Speaker 9: I think women just say sound like it ain't so

1425
01:01:49,840 --> 01:01:50,520
Speaker 9: much as the cheating.

1426
01:01:50,600 --> 01:01:51,200
Speaker 1: Yes it is.

1427
01:01:51,640 --> 01:01:53,920
Speaker 2: No, it's not just because what comes with disrespect.

1428
01:01:54,080 --> 01:01:55,920
Speaker 1: I'm just talking about you anyway.

1429
01:01:56,000 --> 01:01:58,440
Speaker 9: No no, ain't no no no no no no no no.

1430
01:01:58,280 --> 01:02:00,360
Speaker 2: No no no no no, no expect me.

1431
01:02:01,200 --> 01:02:02,080
Speaker 1: Let me just finish my.

1432
01:02:02,040 --> 01:02:03,960
Speaker 8: Pertect first and then I'm gonna help you out.

1433
01:02:04,000 --> 01:02:07,440
Speaker 9: Look, she done got quiet. Listen, I got at the

1434
01:02:07,560 --> 01:02:12,160
Speaker 9: end of the day, either you either you're against you

1435
01:02:12,680 --> 01:02:15,040
Speaker 9: or you with it blank period.

1436
01:02:15,040 --> 01:02:18,720
Speaker 1: Either you is zero tolerance or ain't. No, ain't. I

1437
01:02:18,720 --> 01:02:21,000
Speaker 1: think that's just something to say because when you find out,

1438
01:02:21,040 --> 01:02:23,400
Speaker 1: you just as mad. If I use it comes out.

1439
01:02:23,280 --> 01:02:27,760
Speaker 2: I don't think. Let me respond, that's.

1440
01:02:27,560 --> 01:02:29,080
Speaker 1: The whole thing is about it. I just don't want

1441
01:02:29,120 --> 01:02:29,680
Speaker 1: you to like her.

1442
01:02:29,840 --> 01:02:33,000
Speaker 7: How let me respond, I don't want you.

1443
01:02:33,000 --> 01:02:34,400
Speaker 2: To fall in love, but let me respond.

1444
01:02:34,680 --> 01:02:37,680
Speaker 7: In reality, there is a huge misconception because it ain't cheating.

1445
01:02:37,680 --> 01:02:39,520
Speaker 7: If he ain't gave you his last name, if you

1446
01:02:39,640 --> 01:02:42,160
Speaker 7: not his wife, he's not cheating on you.

1447
01:02:42,240 --> 01:02:42,600
Speaker 2: Okay.

1448
01:02:42,640 --> 01:02:45,840
Speaker 7: So that's the first big misconception that we have. The

1449
01:02:45,960 --> 01:02:49,000
Speaker 7: second thing is this right. It's all about the understanding

1450
01:02:49,000 --> 01:02:52,200
Speaker 7: that you and I have together. Right, if we didn't already,

1451
01:02:52,200 --> 01:02:54,520
Speaker 7: if you done told me what it is, I can't

1452
01:02:54,960 --> 01:02:57,600
Speaker 7: blame you or get upset with you or say that

1453
01:02:57,680 --> 01:03:00,360
Speaker 7: you are cheating on me. But if you haven't told

1454
01:03:00,360 --> 01:03:02,880
Speaker 7: me what it is, and if you aren't being honest,

1455
01:03:02,960 --> 01:03:05,600
Speaker 7: and if you are misleading me hold on, then that's

1456
01:03:05,600 --> 01:03:07,880
Speaker 7: when people believe that they're being cheated.

1457
01:03:08,280 --> 01:03:16,000
Speaker 9: The intuition that'll already got it when you first I

1458
01:03:16,040 --> 01:03:19,160
Speaker 9: got I got I got stolen cable, my apartment.

1459
01:03:18,720 --> 01:03:22,280
Speaker 1: On the CPN. I'm a cheat the funk, I'm a

1460
01:03:22,400 --> 01:03:26,600
Speaker 1: cheating not do all bullshit. Everything about life is bullshit.

1461
01:03:26,640 --> 01:03:30,720
Speaker 1: Everybody for full family tree bush and just so hell,

1462
01:03:30,760 --> 01:03:35,200
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna cheat. What ain't gotta bet being me?

1463
01:03:35,640 --> 01:03:40,360
Speaker 7: Reality is that your husband could very well be like

1464
01:03:40,520 --> 01:03:44,680
Speaker 7: my partner bank good nos. But that motherfucker's gonna do

1465
01:03:44,800 --> 01:03:49,880
Speaker 7: what he wants where he want to do it.

1466
01:03:48,760 --> 01:03:54,800
Speaker 3: You should that be question? Just just want to know?

1467
01:03:54,960 --> 01:03:56,919
Speaker 3: Should that? Should that be verbalized? Off top?

1468
01:03:58,720 --> 01:04:01,560
Speaker 1: I'm just asking the question. People eat louder than.

1469
01:04:03,160 --> 01:04:03,800
Speaker 8: Some people are.

1470
01:04:04,000 --> 01:04:08,600
Speaker 4: Just why is it hard though?

1471
01:04:08,640 --> 01:04:10,680
Speaker 3: Why is it hard women?

1472
01:04:10,840 --> 01:04:12,920
Speaker 1: Or won't you because you got bitches didn't get with you?

1473
01:04:12,960 --> 01:04:15,200
Speaker 1: And think them bitches just gonna dispel.

1474
01:04:14,880 --> 01:04:15,560
Speaker 3: This is correct?

1475
01:04:16,400 --> 01:04:20,360
Speaker 1: You won't won't it? They want it more?

1476
01:04:20,680 --> 01:04:23,920
Speaker 8: And why do the men want women? Why y'all want

1477
01:04:23,920 --> 01:04:24,440
Speaker 8: a babbage?

1478
01:04:25,000 --> 01:04:28,200
Speaker 1: I don't like babbages. I like women. I like women

1479
01:04:28,200 --> 01:04:32,600
Speaker 1: that look like the niness that bad ship. They could

1480
01:04:32,600 --> 01:04:34,680
Speaker 1: have been boys back women.

1481
01:04:35,400 --> 01:04:36,360
Speaker 2: Why do men want women?

1482
01:04:36,400 --> 01:04:37,800
Speaker 8: Because y'all really do y'all need them?

1483
01:04:37,840 --> 01:04:39,919
Speaker 7: Because in a man's mind, he could buy, he could

1484
01:04:39,960 --> 01:04:42,720
Speaker 7: be a bachelor and pay for housekeeping and pay for

1485
01:04:42,760 --> 01:04:45,240
Speaker 7: somebody to cook and all of that. You know, women,

1486
01:04:45,600 --> 01:04:50,360
Speaker 7: you know are disposable. Why do y'all need women security protection?

1487
01:04:50,400 --> 01:04:52,040
Speaker 8: What type of security security?

1488
01:04:52,200 --> 01:04:54,040
Speaker 1: Just just it's just like a pillow, you know what

1489
01:04:54,040 --> 01:04:54,320
Speaker 1: I'm saying.

1490
01:04:54,320 --> 01:04:55,800
Speaker 3: Why you need a pillow?

1491
01:04:56,040 --> 01:04:57,960
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, It's just the body.

1492
01:04:59,320 --> 01:05:04,080
Speaker 3: You can sleep with. Then it's crazy.

1493
01:05:04,720 --> 01:05:06,600
Speaker 1: But at the end of the day, I just feel

1494
01:05:06,720 --> 01:05:08,360
Speaker 1: right at the.

1495
01:05:08,320 --> 01:05:15,680
Speaker 9: End of the day to ask. But at the end

1496
01:05:15,720 --> 01:05:17,919
Speaker 9: of the day, men, we can't live without women. That's

1497
01:05:17,960 --> 01:05:20,320
Speaker 9: just what it is. It's just the feminine energy that

1498
01:05:20,440 --> 01:05:22,400
Speaker 9: just keeps you cool, you know.

1499
01:05:22,400 --> 01:05:22,920
Speaker 1: What I'm saying.

1500
01:05:22,960 --> 01:05:25,880
Speaker 9: So if I'm at home, it's it's like it's a book, bro,

1501
01:05:26,000 --> 01:05:33,520
Speaker 9: it's called Superior Superior man. Okay, it's it's two different women.

1502
01:05:33,520 --> 01:05:35,920
Speaker 9: It's called hot and a cold woman. Right, you got

1503
01:05:35,920 --> 01:05:38,200
Speaker 9: a hot attitude woman, you got a cool energy woman.

1504
01:05:38,760 --> 01:05:40,600
Speaker 1: Nigga need both mm hmm.

1505
01:05:41,600 --> 01:05:44,920
Speaker 3: You said a nigga. Everybody needs not You're saying that

1506
01:05:44,960 --> 01:05:45,480
Speaker 3: you need.

1507
01:05:46,600 --> 01:05:47,720
Speaker 2: Get you like.

1508
01:05:52,280 --> 01:05:54,040
Speaker 8: Women one way this day that one way.

1509
01:05:54,040 --> 01:05:54,840
Speaker 2: You don't never know.

1510
01:05:54,880 --> 01:05:56,320
Speaker 1: It's now that might work out.

1511
01:05:56,360 --> 01:05:58,800
Speaker 9: But I'm just saying, it's just like it's hot and cold.

1512
01:05:59,000 --> 01:06:01,360
Speaker 9: I don't know how to explain it right now.

1513
01:06:01,440 --> 01:06:03,360
Speaker 1: I'm not an advocate for cheaters, you know what I'm saying.

1514
01:06:03,440 --> 01:06:07,320
Speaker 7: I'm a reform We're we're advocates for honesty and and

1515
01:06:07,320 --> 01:06:09,800
Speaker 7: and productive relationship.

1516
01:06:09,960 --> 01:06:12,280
Speaker 2: But I know what to understanding.

1517
01:06:12,520 --> 01:06:16,920
Speaker 9: I see people say things women in particular, that they

1518
01:06:16,960 --> 01:06:19,560
Speaker 9: know they ain't with and fought you for it because.

1519
01:06:19,320 --> 01:06:21,480
Speaker 1: You did what she said you was able to do.

1520
01:06:22,160 --> 01:06:24,480
Speaker 9: Now, you got women that come into relationships and feel

1521
01:06:24,520 --> 01:06:28,080
Speaker 9: like even a poly relationship anything okay, cool, ain't as

1522
01:06:28,120 --> 01:06:30,240
Speaker 9: long as you're there. They cool with it until they

1523
01:06:30,240 --> 01:06:33,000
Speaker 9: see it's actually going on. Everybody be cool with everything

1524
01:06:33,240 --> 01:06:34,840
Speaker 9: until they actually see it in real time.

1525
01:06:34,920 --> 01:06:35,720
Speaker 2: It's just a hook you.

1526
01:06:35,920 --> 01:06:37,520
Speaker 6: I'm gonna say, I'm cool with you being watching it,

1527
01:06:37,640 --> 01:06:39,280
Speaker 6: but as soon as I catch feeling now, she gotta go.

1528
01:06:40,440 --> 01:06:42,960
Speaker 9: That's the truth that's looking at you like, that's what

1529
01:06:43,120 --> 01:06:46,160
Speaker 9: That's where the disconnects come in at like uh you

1530
01:06:46,160 --> 01:06:46,640
Speaker 9: you you.

1531
01:06:46,640 --> 01:06:47,320
Speaker 1: The Weekly Link.

1532
01:06:47,680 --> 01:06:49,360
Speaker 7: It's because I think, but I just a like for

1533
01:06:49,440 --> 01:06:52,280
Speaker 7: a man for you to have multiple women like you

1534
01:06:52,320 --> 01:06:55,120
Speaker 7: need to be able to handle that. You like thatfe

1535
01:06:55,600 --> 01:06:57,640
Speaker 7: men with multiple women, you're supposed to be able to

1536
01:06:57,720 --> 01:07:00,760
Speaker 7: afford them women right for one thing, and then like

1537
01:07:01,400 --> 01:07:03,360
Speaker 7: some of these men ain't got enough dick for three

1538
01:07:03,480 --> 01:07:07,480
Speaker 7: four five women like about it, Like most of the

1539
01:07:07,560 --> 01:07:10,520
Speaker 7: men that's trying to be on that bro, you ain't

1540
01:07:10,520 --> 01:07:12,439
Speaker 7: got enough to be on that. You know what I'm saying,

1541
01:07:12,440 --> 01:07:14,320
Speaker 7: You need to just stay where you at and just

1542
01:07:14,400 --> 01:07:18,160
Speaker 7: you know shit. For me personally, where I'm at right

1543
01:07:18,200 --> 01:07:21,200
Speaker 7: now in life, I just I don't think that it

1544
01:07:21,240 --> 01:07:23,320
Speaker 7: goes back to what you were saying earlier. This journey

1545
01:07:23,320 --> 01:07:26,360
Speaker 7: that I'm on personally right now for my happiness is

1546
01:07:26,400 --> 01:07:28,760
Speaker 7: to like find me. I think this like the first

1547
01:07:28,760 --> 01:07:31,120
Speaker 7: time in my life I haven't had to be responsible

1548
01:07:31,160 --> 01:07:33,680
Speaker 7: for anybody. Like I was a mother at fifteen, had

1549
01:07:33,680 --> 01:07:36,640
Speaker 7: my first daughter, and like by the time that was over,

1550
01:07:36,760 --> 01:07:39,520
Speaker 7: I was married. Now I'm divorced, so all of my

1551
01:07:39,600 --> 01:07:42,800
Speaker 7: children are grown. Now I don't have anybody depending on me.

1552
01:07:42,840 --> 01:07:44,800
Speaker 7: And it's kind of weird waking up in a space

1553
01:07:44,840 --> 01:07:47,040
Speaker 7: where I ain't got to worry about nobody but me.

1554
01:07:47,160 --> 01:07:49,960
Speaker 7: So I'm really in a space where I'm finding my

1555
01:07:50,040 --> 01:07:53,440
Speaker 7: own happiness and I have a great career.

1556
01:07:53,680 --> 01:07:57,520
Speaker 8: I'm good. I don't necessarily need anything, but yeah.

1557
01:07:57,400 --> 01:07:59,360
Speaker 7: Of course I want a man, and I think that

1558
01:08:00,680 --> 01:08:02,880
Speaker 7: I don't know if I'm not looking for a man

1559
01:08:02,960 --> 01:08:05,200
Speaker 7: to fulfill my happiness, but I am looking for a

1560
01:08:05,200 --> 01:08:06,440
Speaker 7: man to make me happier.

1561
01:08:07,120 --> 01:08:08,400
Speaker 8: Don't come in my space.

1562
01:08:09,040 --> 01:08:11,960
Speaker 7: You know, if if you're going to cause me issues,

1563
01:08:12,000 --> 01:08:12,280
Speaker 7: if you.

1564
01:08:12,480 --> 01:08:15,720
Speaker 9: What's making you happier life, It's like you gotta be

1565
01:08:16,400 --> 01:08:18,120
Speaker 9: man with the time that he.

1566
01:08:18,200 --> 01:08:19,479
Speaker 2: Has your intellect.

1567
01:08:19,520 --> 01:08:21,799
Speaker 7: Because I'm the type of woman who I sit around

1568
01:08:22,120 --> 01:08:25,880
Speaker 7: wealthy niggas all day and and we make decisions with

1569
01:08:26,000 --> 01:08:29,120
Speaker 7: world leaders, and I sit at certain tables, and you know,

1570
01:08:29,200 --> 01:08:31,280
Speaker 7: everybody a boss and their own right. But I kind

1571
01:08:31,280 --> 01:08:34,040
Speaker 7: of run ship all day. I help consult, I helped strategize,

1572
01:08:34,040 --> 01:08:36,360
Speaker 7: to help make decisions. I need a man that can

1573
01:08:36,360 --> 01:08:38,479
Speaker 7: make some decisions for me when I come home.

1574
01:08:38,760 --> 01:08:39,519
Speaker 8: I don't want to think.

1575
01:08:41,040 --> 01:08:44,800
Speaker 9: What I'm gathering is women want Women won't like most

1576
01:08:44,840 --> 01:08:47,479
Speaker 9: women these days, And I ain't speaking for out with

1577
01:08:47,600 --> 01:08:51,559
Speaker 9: most women these days. They won't super nigga. They want

1578
01:08:51,560 --> 01:08:55,160
Speaker 9: a nigga that's out for meal. Got outside the house,

1579
01:08:55,200 --> 01:08:56,439
Speaker 9: then when you get in the house, he turned into

1580
01:08:56,439 --> 01:08:56,800
Speaker 9: a bitch.

1581
01:08:56,840 --> 01:08:57,679
Speaker 2: I don't want to know.

1582
01:08:59,479 --> 01:09:01,040
Speaker 1: Certain Look, I'm mena tell you what makes you a

1583
01:09:01,040 --> 01:09:02,840
Speaker 1: bit where they at. I'm gonna tell you what they

1584
01:09:02,920 --> 01:09:03,360
Speaker 1: don't is this.

1585
01:09:04,240 --> 01:09:08,000
Speaker 9: What makes sure is when you can call me you

1586
01:09:08,000 --> 01:09:09,680
Speaker 9: you really do, but you don't know you do break

1587
01:09:09,680 --> 01:09:10,040
Speaker 9: it down to you.

1588
01:09:10,160 --> 01:09:10,920
Speaker 1: Let me break it down to you.

1589
01:09:12,000 --> 01:09:14,280
Speaker 9: If you want a nigga to think about your emotions

1590
01:09:14,479 --> 01:09:17,080
Speaker 9: and your thoughts and these things. That's what bitches do.

1591
01:09:17,960 --> 01:09:20,160
Speaker 9: Me only do holdod. Men only treat you the way

1592
01:09:20,360 --> 01:09:22,880
Speaker 9: they can treat you in their moment. I can't come

1593
01:09:22,920 --> 01:09:24,559
Speaker 9: in the house and I'm pitched off about I just

1594
01:09:24,640 --> 01:09:27,360
Speaker 9: lost got damn lost something and then be nice.

1595
01:09:27,560 --> 01:09:29,639
Speaker 1: Baby. No, I feel a way, but you're.

1596
01:09:29,520 --> 01:09:31,840
Speaker 9: Gonna take that personal every time you come in ouse.

1597
01:09:31,840 --> 01:09:34,000
Speaker 9: You're mad, bitch. I can't tell you I just lost money.

1598
01:09:34,000 --> 01:09:35,479
Speaker 9: I can't tell you this because I don't want you

1599
01:09:35,520 --> 01:09:37,680
Speaker 9: to worry, but you want me to be. You want

1600
01:09:37,720 --> 01:09:39,280
Speaker 9: me to come in out and be a lady breaking

1601
01:09:39,360 --> 01:09:41,400
Speaker 9: down baby, this is what's going on in my day.

1602
01:09:41,479 --> 01:09:43,679
Speaker 1: No, I'm finna figure this shit out. I'm in my head,

1603
01:09:43,680 --> 01:09:44,280
Speaker 1: I'm in my thought.

1604
01:09:44,400 --> 01:09:46,000
Speaker 7: I don't want that, But don't come in the house

1605
01:09:46,000 --> 01:09:46,960
Speaker 7: taking that shit out on me.

1606
01:09:47,479 --> 01:09:48,519
Speaker 1: I'm not taking it out on you.

1607
01:09:48,560 --> 01:09:50,320
Speaker 2: My energy is taking it out on you.

1608
01:09:51,160 --> 01:09:52,800
Speaker 1: It's my energy. I'm coming out, go in there and

1609
01:09:52,840 --> 01:09:54,120
Speaker 1: taking a shot it was something wrong with it? What

1610
01:09:54,200 --> 01:09:57,080
Speaker 1: bitch got this? Niggam ma ad not not. I could

1611
01:09:57,080 --> 01:10:00,560
Speaker 1: have lost money or something. Nothing happened in my life.

1612
01:10:01,200 --> 01:10:04,320
Speaker 9: There's something else that you can cook something in your.

1613
01:10:04,240 --> 01:10:05,439
Speaker 1: Head that's wrong with me.

1614
01:10:05,760 --> 01:10:06,599
Speaker 8: That's that trauma.

1615
01:10:07,800 --> 01:10:09,880
Speaker 9: Because I can't speak to you about this, baby, I

1616
01:10:09,880 --> 01:10:11,680
Speaker 9: don't want you to world. Let you know, Hey, I

1617
01:10:11,720 --> 01:10:13,400
Speaker 9: bet I'm going to rub a bank to mark we

1618
01:10:13,479 --> 01:10:14,800
Speaker 9: finna get put out.

1619
01:10:14,920 --> 01:10:16,559
Speaker 7: You going to come talk to me because I might

1620
01:10:16,640 --> 01:10:21,200
Speaker 7: have a bag somewhere.

1621
01:10:17,840 --> 01:10:22,400
Speaker 1: But I can't tell. I'm just keeping it there for

1622
01:10:23,000 --> 01:10:23,719
Speaker 1: if you take.

1623
01:10:23,640 --> 01:10:24,479
Speaker 8: Care of everything.

1624
01:10:24,600 --> 01:10:26,600
Speaker 7: Just like back to what you said this lady that

1625
01:10:27,920 --> 01:10:30,439
Speaker 7: this lady says she was married to a millionaire and

1626
01:10:30,479 --> 01:10:33,840
Speaker 7: still handled her business, your job as a wise woman.

1627
01:10:33,880 --> 01:10:36,640
Speaker 2: If God blessed ships.

1628
01:10:36,320 --> 01:10:37,040
Speaker 1: And gas man that.

1629
01:10:40,800 --> 01:10:42,200
Speaker 2: But I guarantee you it's.

1630
01:10:42,040 --> 01:10:44,719
Speaker 9: Been a plenty of time that that man had lost

1631
01:10:44,760 --> 01:10:46,040
Speaker 9: money all type of ship.

1632
01:10:45,880 --> 01:10:46,639
Speaker 2: And I came through.

1633
01:10:48,280 --> 01:10:52,519
Speaker 7: But but you saw call nobody you knew about it

1634
01:10:52,600 --> 01:10:54,599
Speaker 7: because I still did my part.

1635
01:10:55,600 --> 01:10:56,559
Speaker 1: Go ahead, help me.

1636
01:10:56,640 --> 01:10:59,400
Speaker 9: Well know women you're talking about man, I'm not talking

1637
01:10:59,400 --> 01:10:59,960
Speaker 9: about no time.

1638
01:11:00,040 --> 01:11:02,760
Speaker 1: Well, I'm talking about typical ship. This goes on in

1639
01:11:02,800 --> 01:11:03,400
Speaker 1: real life.

1640
01:11:04,360 --> 01:11:06,719
Speaker 9: In real life, A man is not finna come home

1641
01:11:06,800 --> 01:11:09,080
Speaker 9: and tell his woman that they put out.

1642
01:11:09,520 --> 01:11:11,640
Speaker 1: Finna get put out. A woman is gonna come home

1643
01:11:11,640 --> 01:11:12,800
Speaker 1: and see that ship on the side.

1644
01:11:13,600 --> 01:11:17,280
Speaker 9: I don't want I'm just telling you this just ego

1645
01:11:17,360 --> 01:11:17,559
Speaker 9: and pro.

1646
01:11:17,920 --> 01:11:19,880
Speaker 7: If I come home and my ship outside and you

1647
01:11:19,920 --> 01:11:21,800
Speaker 7: ain't saying nothing to me, that's the last time you're

1648
01:11:21,800 --> 01:11:23,800
Speaker 7: going to because I let me know you are irresponsible.

1649
01:11:23,840 --> 01:11:25,760
Speaker 7: FU nigga, because you don't know what I got in

1650
01:11:25,800 --> 01:11:27,880
Speaker 7: the bank. Nigga, you better come tell me we finna

1651
01:11:27,920 --> 01:11:28,720
Speaker 7: get put the funk out.

1652
01:11:28,720 --> 01:11:32,320
Speaker 2: I might.

1653
01:11:35,960 --> 01:11:39,120
Speaker 9: Most niggas gonna figure it out, but it is extreme.

1654
01:11:39,920 --> 01:11:43,240
Speaker 9: Most niggas fire be times that niggas done been down today.

1655
01:11:43,600 --> 01:11:44,799
Speaker 9: I ain't had a never my dick.

1656
01:11:44,680 --> 01:11:45,200
Speaker 2: A my done.

1657
01:11:45,680 --> 01:11:47,880
Speaker 7: But it's bad that you feel like you can call

1658
01:11:48,000 --> 01:11:49,759
Speaker 7: your like it ain't I feel like yo.

1659
01:11:49,760 --> 01:11:50,400
Speaker 8: I want to have.

1660
01:11:51,320 --> 01:11:52,559
Speaker 1: That made me feel less of me.

1661
01:11:52,680 --> 01:11:54,640
Speaker 8: I don't want I don't want respect that.

1662
01:11:54,640 --> 01:11:55,679
Speaker 2: I don't want you for that.

1663
01:11:55,680 --> 01:11:57,639
Speaker 1: That ain't what you're here for. That ain't what you're

1664
01:11:57,640 --> 01:11:57,880
Speaker 1: here for.

1665
01:11:57,960 --> 01:12:00,200
Speaker 2: What you have, I'm supposed to have it because I.

1666
01:12:01,640 --> 01:12:02,439
Speaker 1: We ain't never had no life.

1667
01:12:02,439 --> 01:12:04,320
Speaker 7: We ain't never nothing, And that's why I'm supposed to

1668
01:12:04,320 --> 01:12:05,120
Speaker 7: have it, because.

1669
01:12:07,680 --> 01:12:10,920
Speaker 1: Say, ain't no way is you have a bag.

1670
01:12:11,280 --> 01:12:14,440
Speaker 2: A true provider.

1671
01:12:15,640 --> 01:12:17,400
Speaker 1: Look at this ship that's gonna make me. I'll be

1672
01:12:17,479 --> 01:12:17,840
Speaker 1: right back.

1673
01:12:17,920 --> 01:12:18,840
Speaker 2: He don't want to put his woman.

1674
01:12:20,640 --> 01:12:23,160
Speaker 7: We're talking about a true provider being with a wise

1675
01:12:23,240 --> 01:12:25,599
Speaker 7: woman that knows how to kilde her house.

1676
01:12:25,880 --> 01:12:26,040
Speaker 2: Right.

1677
01:12:26,280 --> 01:12:28,280
Speaker 7: If you with a man that's taking care of everything

1678
01:12:28,400 --> 01:12:30,680
Speaker 7: and you ain't got to worry about nothing and you

1679
01:12:30,680 --> 01:12:33,400
Speaker 7: ain't doing nothing but spending money, that means that you're

1680
01:12:33,439 --> 01:12:34,040
Speaker 7: not wise.

1681
01:12:34,120 --> 01:12:36,519
Speaker 6: But I think his perspective is because he knows he

1682
01:12:36,600 --> 01:12:38,960
Speaker 6: has a wise woman, he's not gonna want her to

1683
01:12:39,120 --> 01:12:41,880
Speaker 6: lack or want for nothing. But you have to understand

1684
01:12:41,920 --> 01:12:45,000
Speaker 6: to a certain degree that we will also we also

1685
01:12:45,080 --> 01:12:46,599
Speaker 6: have ways of figuring out as a team.

1686
01:12:46,680 --> 01:12:47,360
Speaker 1: But as a.

1687
01:12:47,240 --> 01:12:50,320
Speaker 6: True true provider, he he might let it side bitch

1688
01:12:50,400 --> 01:12:52,719
Speaker 6: go it out, but he's not gonna let his wise

1689
01:12:52,760 --> 01:12:57,440
Speaker 6: woman that he's supposed to protect, no them my losses because.

1690
01:12:57,760 --> 01:13:00,280
Speaker 1: For her, that's a flex for her, But that's a

1691
01:13:00,360 --> 01:13:02,040
Speaker 1: flex foror no matter what. That's a flex.

1692
01:13:02,080 --> 01:13:05,120
Speaker 2: And that's why I got I got to undred dollar.

1693
01:13:04,840 --> 01:13:07,439
Speaker 9: Put up in my saving account. Ain't never to touch this.

1694
01:13:07,600 --> 01:13:09,599
Speaker 9: I ain't no that niggat flipped my taxes.

1695
01:13:09,680 --> 01:13:13,200
Speaker 8: None of that ship that.

1696
01:13:12,200 --> 01:13:13,240
Speaker 1: It's fifteen years old.

1697
01:13:13,240 --> 01:13:17,760
Speaker 6: It's a hustler, right, regardless what happened, it's how you

1698
01:13:17,760 --> 01:13:20,640
Speaker 6: hate baby. We're gonna get put out, and we as emotional,

1699
01:13:20,680 --> 01:13:23,200
Speaker 6: impulsive women, not all of us. Some of us know

1700
01:13:23,240 --> 01:13:24,720
Speaker 6: to watch our tongue, but we best around to say,

1701
01:13:24,720 --> 01:13:26,080
Speaker 6: we remember that time you was gonna let us get

1702
01:13:26,080 --> 01:13:26,400
Speaker 6: put out.

1703
01:13:26,479 --> 01:13:30,599
Speaker 2: The relationship dead.

1704
01:13:27,640 --> 01:13:33,559
Speaker 1: It's over with. Checkmate, checkmate, it's over with. It's bitch

1705
01:13:33,600 --> 01:13:34,360
Speaker 1: fuck you forever.

1706
01:13:34,600 --> 01:13:36,880
Speaker 9: Yeah, I'm hold the ground ridshly with them from now

1707
01:13:37,080 --> 01:13:38,639
Speaker 9: so I ain't even beat you in that position even

1708
01:13:38,680 --> 01:13:40,280
Speaker 9: look look at me like I ain't a nigga that

1709
01:13:40,320 --> 01:13:40,599
Speaker 9: I am.

1710
01:13:40,840 --> 01:13:42,439
Speaker 6: And then you probably boy dad could see the nigga

1711
01:13:42,439 --> 01:13:43,960
Speaker 6: who don't look like he putting his bitch in.

1712
01:13:43,960 --> 01:13:45,560
Speaker 2: His position, and now you're gonna switch up on you.

1713
01:13:45,880 --> 01:13:48,439
Speaker 2: He can't do it, especially as a black guy. But

1714
01:13:48,479 --> 01:13:49,200
Speaker 2: I don't agree with you.

1715
01:13:49,840 --> 01:13:53,120
Speaker 7: If you married, you have mad like and we and

1716
01:13:53,160 --> 01:13:55,320
Speaker 7: we and we were partners.

1717
01:13:54,840 --> 01:13:56,599
Speaker 2: But we're partners anymore.

1718
01:13:56,840 --> 01:13:59,320
Speaker 7: That well, that's why we're talking about changing the culture.

1719
01:13:59,320 --> 01:14:02,320
Speaker 7: That's why we have in this conversation. But some people

1720
01:14:02,400 --> 01:14:06,840
Speaker 7: are and everybody ain't Okay, Like if I just think

1721
01:14:06,880 --> 01:14:11,200
Speaker 7: that they shouldn't get that bad, if we should have

1722
01:14:11,840 --> 01:14:13,000
Speaker 7: plans in place.

1723
01:14:13,760 --> 01:14:15,240
Speaker 2: You got a man that's a hustler.

1724
01:14:15,360 --> 01:14:17,080
Speaker 7: But if you got a man that's a hustler, you

1725
01:14:17,160 --> 01:14:19,519
Speaker 7: know what you're dealing with, right, And Young Miami just says,

1726
01:14:19,560 --> 01:14:21,639
Speaker 7: spend that ship, put that money up case the fast,

1727
01:14:21,680 --> 01:14:23,679
Speaker 7: come get them. If you know what type of man

1728
01:14:23,760 --> 01:14:26,360
Speaker 7: you got, and you know this man out here a hustler.

1729
01:14:26,439 --> 01:14:29,920
Speaker 7: Anything happened any day now like pee wee? But does

1730
01:14:29,960 --> 01:14:32,439
Speaker 7: he have time to the street anything? What you're gonna

1731
01:14:32,479 --> 01:14:32,680
Speaker 7: do this?

1732
01:14:32,920 --> 01:14:34,920
Speaker 6: I'm time to analyze that because fact in the matter is,

1733
01:14:35,000 --> 01:14:38,519
Speaker 6: especially as a black man, the whole entire, complete world

1734
01:14:38,880 --> 01:14:40,679
Speaker 6: is against that man, the whole world.

1735
01:14:40,680 --> 01:14:42,000
Speaker 2: He don't have a choice but to survive.

1736
01:14:42,280 --> 01:14:43,839
Speaker 8: And that's why you can survive.

1737
01:14:44,000 --> 01:14:47,080
Speaker 5: But you know, in leadership, right, if he know, if

1738
01:14:47,120 --> 01:14:53,280
Speaker 5: you know that you're a street guy, you ever business

1739
01:14:53,479 --> 01:14:54,040
Speaker 5: a man?

1740
01:14:54,160 --> 01:14:54,320
Speaker 8: Right?

1741
01:14:54,560 --> 01:14:57,120
Speaker 5: You and your wife or you and your long term girl,

1742
01:14:57,160 --> 01:14:59,559
Speaker 5: whatever it is that you guys are, y'all should be

1743
01:14:59,600 --> 01:15:01,360
Speaker 5: having financial conversations.

1744
01:15:01,560 --> 01:15:02,719
Speaker 2: The problem is.

1745
01:15:03,640 --> 01:15:04,960
Speaker 1: A little bit. You know how more money you got,

1746
01:15:05,040 --> 01:15:11,679
Speaker 1: but you don't know nothing.

1747
01:15:11,760 --> 01:15:15,000
Speaker 5: No, listen to what I'm saying you cannot, Like I

1748
01:15:15,040 --> 01:15:18,080
Speaker 5: never knew exactly how much money my ex husband had, right,

1749
01:15:18,120 --> 01:15:19,720
Speaker 5: but I knew how much our bills was, and I

1750
01:15:19,800 --> 01:15:22,000
Speaker 5: knew how much we spent, whatever the case is. But

1751
01:15:22,080 --> 01:15:25,000
Speaker 5: I always knew where a certain amount of money was

1752
01:15:25,040 --> 01:15:29,240
Speaker 5: at all the time. So and then every couple of months, Okay,

1753
01:15:29,400 --> 01:15:32,000
Speaker 5: we're gonna invest in this, We're gonna invest in this.

1754
01:15:32,160 --> 01:15:34,840
Speaker 2: I don't have to know your whole thing to.

1755
01:15:35,880 --> 01:15:40,120
Speaker 9: Go over the ship that money. See that money low different,

1756
01:15:40,200 --> 01:15:41,439
Speaker 9: but it shouldn't.

1757
01:15:41,000 --> 01:15:43,960
Speaker 5: Be, because you should have a partner over there, right

1758
01:15:44,080 --> 01:15:46,479
Speaker 5: Like I've always been in real estate. I went to

1759
01:15:46,479 --> 01:15:49,400
Speaker 5: school for construction because I wanted to help my ex.

1760
01:15:49,600 --> 01:15:52,719
Speaker 5: I completely went and got two college degrees in construction

1761
01:15:52,800 --> 01:15:54,200
Speaker 5: because that's what he wanted to do.

1762
01:15:54,400 --> 01:15:56,240
Speaker 2: You have to have a partner that wants to be

1763
01:15:56,320 --> 01:15:57,080
Speaker 2: a help mate.

1764
01:15:57,240 --> 01:16:01,080
Speaker 5: Because so at the end of the day, yeah, getting

1765
01:16:01,080 --> 01:16:04,000
Speaker 5: put out is extreme, but also if you can't have

1766
01:16:04,120 --> 01:16:06,720
Speaker 5: financial conversations, even if you don't want to tell her

1767
01:16:06,760 --> 01:16:09,000
Speaker 5: to the penny, you should be able to trust her

1768
01:16:09,160 --> 01:16:10,800
Speaker 5: enough because she shouldn't.

1769
01:16:10,360 --> 01:16:11,360
Speaker 2: Be sitting at home all.

1770
01:16:11,320 --> 01:16:17,200
Speaker 1: Day and you at home. But got what got no?

1771
01:16:17,240 --> 01:16:19,439
Speaker 1: I said, that's extreme, I said, that's extreme.

1772
01:16:19,479 --> 01:16:21,840
Speaker 9: I'm not put out. I'm just saying, like we low.

1773
01:16:22,120 --> 01:16:24,040
Speaker 9: We don't say put out low. We're gonna say put

1774
01:16:24,040 --> 01:16:25,639
Speaker 9: out because that that ship would never happen.

1775
01:16:26,280 --> 01:16:26,639
Speaker 1: We low.

1776
01:16:26,760 --> 01:16:28,840
Speaker 9: The money is low. Ain't nobody finish? Come take I

1777
01:16:28,840 --> 01:16:29,400
Speaker 9: took a loss.

1778
01:16:30,160 --> 01:16:31,040
Speaker 8: Let me ask you a question.

1779
01:16:32,000 --> 01:16:35,160
Speaker 1: I bet on horses. I bet a million dollars one

1780
01:16:35,160 --> 01:16:35,639
Speaker 1: point too.

1781
01:16:37,000 --> 01:16:39,479
Speaker 8: Let me ask you a question. Let's let's switch it up.

1782
01:16:39,560 --> 01:16:43,760
Speaker 7: Let's say God forbid you and screen rides somewhere and

1783
01:16:43,800 --> 01:16:46,519
Speaker 7: it's a car wreck, and you get injured, and now

1784
01:16:46,600 --> 01:16:49,840
Speaker 7: you got a physical injury, and you ain't nowhere near

1785
01:16:50,000 --> 01:16:52,040
Speaker 7: making the money that you used to make no more.

1786
01:16:52,600 --> 01:16:56,160
Speaker 2: Then what about that woman? Then then you ain't.

1787
01:16:56,240 --> 01:16:57,400
Speaker 1: I can do this ship in the wheel chair, I

1788
01:16:57,400 --> 01:16:58,600
Speaker 1: can do this.

1789
01:16:59,760 --> 01:17:03,280
Speaker 7: Let's let's have a real conversations about Let's have her.

1790
01:17:03,360 --> 01:17:06,439
Speaker 7: Let's have a real conversation, because it could be several

1791
01:17:06,479 --> 01:17:08,519
Speaker 7: ways that you fall off for a minute, and it

1792
01:17:08,560 --> 01:17:10,960
Speaker 7: may not necessarily just be because money got low. You

1793
01:17:11,040 --> 01:17:13,400
Speaker 7: might could get injured. You need to know that whatever

1794
01:17:13,479 --> 01:17:17,200
Speaker 7: person you partnering with is gonna have your back. Rather

1795
01:17:17,800 --> 01:17:20,639
Speaker 7: it's a back injury, it's a car wreck. Whether nigger

1796
01:17:20,720 --> 01:17:24,120
Speaker 7: ran off with the bag rather like ship. Whoever you

1797
01:17:24,160 --> 01:17:27,519
Speaker 7: are with, you should feel comfortable enough to say, baby,

1798
01:17:27,560 --> 01:17:29,320
Speaker 7: I done held it down all this time?

1799
01:17:29,800 --> 01:17:30,759
Speaker 8: Can you hold it forget?

1800
01:17:31,240 --> 01:17:34,320
Speaker 2: If you ain't got somebody like that, it's about your prime.

1801
01:17:34,840 --> 01:17:38,400
Speaker 9: Ain't you got? But that's my bro you know, go

1802
01:17:38,479 --> 01:17:41,040
Speaker 9: break your bank ain't nothing?

1803
01:17:41,040 --> 01:17:43,320
Speaker 1: No, what the fuck are we finna do? My back broke?

1804
01:17:44,800 --> 01:17:48,040
Speaker 1: I got legitimate stud I ain't got almost need to feed.

1805
01:17:48,160 --> 01:17:51,479
Speaker 1: I'm him no need to feed.

1806
01:17:51,720 --> 01:17:53,479
Speaker 6: It shouldn't be that way, But I understand that, I

1807
01:17:53,560 --> 01:17:56,200
Speaker 6: understand what the biology of him is not gonna let

1808
01:17:56,200 --> 01:17:56,559
Speaker 6: it happen.

1809
01:17:56,600 --> 01:17:59,400
Speaker 2: And I said, I took care of a patient. This

1810
01:17:59,479 --> 01:18:01,040
Speaker 2: man was completely bad bound.

1811
01:18:01,160 --> 01:18:04,200
Speaker 6: He was taking care of his wife from the bed. Now,

1812
01:18:04,920 --> 01:18:08,080
Speaker 6: So I understand what you're saying. And unfortunately, I think

1813
01:18:08,120 --> 01:18:09,640
Speaker 6: mary should be that you should be able to come

1814
01:18:09,680 --> 01:18:12,559
Speaker 6: to your partner. But let's be real, at any point,

1815
01:18:12,560 --> 01:18:15,559
Speaker 6: at any moment, anybody can switch up, switch up on you.

1816
01:18:15,560 --> 01:18:18,120
Speaker 6: You could be on your knees praying for this man today.

1817
01:18:18,160 --> 01:18:22,599
Speaker 6: He could switch up on you tomorrow. His biologically a

1818
01:18:23,000 --> 01:18:25,320
Speaker 6: building man is he doesn't want his woman to know.

1819
01:18:25,320 --> 01:18:26,680
Speaker 6: It shouldn't be that you should know if you got

1820
01:18:26,680 --> 01:18:27,360
Speaker 6: your prayer for.

1821
01:18:27,360 --> 01:18:29,400
Speaker 2: Woman and all things. But at the end of the day,

1822
01:18:29,439 --> 01:18:31,160
Speaker 2: you never really you don't know.

1823
01:18:31,280 --> 01:18:33,960
Speaker 9: You don't no matter how, you don't know how long

1824
01:18:34,000 --> 01:18:35,760
Speaker 9: you don't know, But you know I'm in time to

1825
01:18:35,800 --> 01:18:38,559
Speaker 9: see niggas go through so much ship? Would a woman

1826
01:18:38,640 --> 01:18:40,400
Speaker 9: take care of? Soon as you get in a position

1827
01:18:40,439 --> 01:18:43,320
Speaker 9: by who pay back? No pay bad time?

1828
01:18:43,680 --> 01:18:45,240
Speaker 1: Now, I'm finna whoop you with belts and shit your

1829
01:18:45,240 --> 01:18:48,320
Speaker 1: back broke? You'll if he gets a whoopers you can

1830
01:18:48,400 --> 01:18:56,360
Speaker 1: get some whoopings bt a me over to show you

1831
01:18:56,360 --> 01:18:57,120
Speaker 1: you did the road?

1832
01:18:57,160 --> 01:18:57,360
Speaker 2: Ship?

1833
01:18:57,400 --> 01:18:58,120
Speaker 1: Who finna do that?

1834
01:18:58,160 --> 01:18:58,280
Speaker 4: Now?

1835
01:18:58,280 --> 01:18:59,360
Speaker 1: Who's going into that position?

1836
01:18:59,520 --> 01:19:00,920
Speaker 8: What did you do to deserve that?

1837
01:19:01,120 --> 01:19:02,479
Speaker 2: It's not even whatever you made.

1838
01:19:02,400 --> 01:19:05,439
Speaker 1: Up and concoct in your mind, whatever you agreed to

1839
01:19:05,880 --> 01:19:15,120
Speaker 1: that you didn't agree to extreme, it's not this show.

1840
01:19:15,160 --> 01:19:15,799
Speaker 1: We don't see.

1841
01:19:15,760 --> 01:19:18,400
Speaker 7: Anybody has watching right now. Please don't listen to none

1842
01:19:18,439 --> 01:19:20,759
Speaker 7: of us. When it comes to relationships.

1843
01:19:20,720 --> 01:19:25,360
Speaker 1: Real time, ship play out in real time.

1844
01:19:25,439 --> 01:19:27,519
Speaker 9: How many, like I said on the last time we talked,

1845
01:19:27,560 --> 01:19:30,160
Speaker 9: how many of them friends you've seen was all in.

1846
01:19:30,320 --> 01:19:32,840
Speaker 9: I'm not leaving him that money got low?

1847
01:19:32,960 --> 01:19:35,559
Speaker 1: She found the strength. How many time we seen that.

1848
01:19:35,439 --> 01:19:37,880
Speaker 7: We have seen she's strong now all of a sudden,

1849
01:19:38,200 --> 01:19:40,640
Speaker 7: fulcome girls stronger than him were outside.

1850
01:19:40,880 --> 01:19:43,439
Speaker 9: You know what, I'm getting older now and then and

1851
01:19:43,479 --> 01:19:45,639
Speaker 9: then in the gym, bitch in the gym, she getting

1852
01:19:45,640 --> 01:19:47,760
Speaker 9: about it right. Oh, now, you just don't count your

1853
01:19:47,800 --> 01:19:51,160
Speaker 9: back broke buddy, you remember what you did.

1854
01:19:51,400 --> 01:19:55,519
Speaker 1: That comes into play bro How many times have you

1855
01:19:55,560 --> 01:19:56,360
Speaker 1: seen that angela?

1856
01:19:57,120 --> 01:19:58,439
Speaker 8: I mean, it definitely happens.

1857
01:19:58,479 --> 01:20:00,200
Speaker 1: How many times have you seen that?

1858
01:19:59,400 --> 01:20:02,200
Speaker 8: Sh You know that ship go both with friends.

1859
01:20:02,640 --> 01:20:05,400
Speaker 7: You know we be with years and hey, you might

1860
01:20:05,439 --> 01:20:07,760
Speaker 7: have met him when y'all was eighteen and ran the

1861
01:20:07,840 --> 01:20:10,120
Speaker 7: bag up and you know, gave him four or five children.

1862
01:20:10,200 --> 01:20:12,839
Speaker 7: And now y'all forty and this nigga won an eighteen

1863
01:20:12,920 --> 01:20:15,120
Speaker 7: year old. You know what I'm saying. It happens on

1864
01:20:15,280 --> 01:20:19,439
Speaker 7: both ends. This is why I'm saying I can't at

1865
01:20:19,439 --> 01:20:23,519
Speaker 7: the end of the day, overall over anything. When we

1866
01:20:23,600 --> 01:20:25,880
Speaker 7: get in the mindset as a people that we don't

1867
01:20:25,960 --> 01:20:31,360
Speaker 7: own anybody right, value the people that value you right

1868
01:20:31,840 --> 01:20:32,880
Speaker 7: fuck with who fuck with you?

1869
01:20:33,360 --> 01:20:34,920
Speaker 2: Everybody would be much more happier.

1870
01:20:35,040 --> 01:20:36,760
Speaker 7: You can't make these men do nothing, and you can't

1871
01:20:36,800 --> 01:20:39,200
Speaker 7: make these women do nothing, and women just as sneaky

1872
01:20:39,240 --> 01:20:41,639
Speaker 7: as man man just don't.

1873
01:20:41,760 --> 01:20:44,600
Speaker 1: Not sneaky, Yeah, sneaky.

1874
01:20:43,880 --> 01:20:48,160
Speaker 7: Hearth, We're just it's a difference a poker face. Have

1875
01:20:48,200 --> 01:20:49,640
Speaker 7: you ever seen two cats.

1876
01:20:52,000 --> 01:20:54,799
Speaker 9: To dogs and my grandma you say that all the time. Yeah,

1877
01:20:54,920 --> 01:20:58,439
Speaker 9: but they had way more kin than dogs. Yeah, you

1878
01:20:58,600 --> 01:21:00,439
Speaker 9: right down the street seat dogs stuck on each other.

1879
01:21:00,640 --> 01:21:03,360
Speaker 2: But what that just teach you keep your business to yourself.

1880
01:21:03,680 --> 01:21:05,800
Speaker 5: And if you keep your business to yourself, then you

1881
01:21:05,880 --> 01:21:06,800
Speaker 5: won't have a lot of pride.

1882
01:21:06,920 --> 01:21:09,160
Speaker 2: But he's not gonna tell you his business.

1883
01:21:10,360 --> 01:21:12,720
Speaker 5: No, thank you, But that don't got nothing to do

1884
01:21:12,800 --> 01:21:14,800
Speaker 5: with your wife and y'all fighting.

1885
01:21:15,120 --> 01:21:18,559
Speaker 1: What you was. I ain't gonna Women are women and

1886
01:21:18,640 --> 01:21:21,280
Speaker 1: men are men. That's just what it is. You can

1887
01:21:21,400 --> 01:21:25,679
Speaker 1: know something, you can't know everything about a woman.

1888
01:21:25,800 --> 01:21:28,160
Speaker 9: You will never completely know a woman. I wouldn't give

1889
01:21:28,200 --> 01:21:31,120
Speaker 9: a fuck what y'all say, not one way. Women hold

1890
01:21:31,160 --> 01:21:33,960
Speaker 9: secrets more than anybody in the world.

1891
01:21:34,000 --> 01:21:38,280
Speaker 1: Secrets, not really, nigga, it's hard. Nigga ain't got more transparent.

1892
01:21:38,760 --> 01:21:41,599
Speaker 3: We're more transparent. Niggas gonna be straight up, we are

1893
01:21:41,680 --> 01:21:42,480
Speaker 3: more transparent.

1894
01:21:43,240 --> 01:21:46,519
Speaker 2: I won't say straight up. Work that hard to wish.

1895
01:21:46,520 --> 01:21:49,320
Speaker 3: He's gonna tell you. Remember sometimes women have selected.

1896
01:21:53,040 --> 01:21:55,400
Speaker 7: Said nothing.

1897
01:21:57,880 --> 01:21:59,439
Speaker 1: Now I ain't talking about that type to see until

1898
01:21:59,439 --> 01:22:02,320
Speaker 1: about real sea rejectriment to make you leave women? How

1899
01:22:02,400 --> 01:22:05,400
Speaker 1: we always women when women men in up breaking man

1900
01:22:05,400 --> 01:22:06,719
Speaker 1: and got caught it all types of ship.

1901
01:22:07,120 --> 01:22:09,760
Speaker 9: How do woman always say he keep on, I'm gonna

1902
01:22:09,760 --> 01:22:12,280
Speaker 9: shout of his heart, bitch, what you got in the chamber?

1903
01:22:16,200 --> 01:22:17,640
Speaker 1: Nigga, nigga go ahead.

1904
01:22:17,360 --> 01:22:21,280
Speaker 9: And say yeah, hell yeah, yeah you got women know

1905
01:22:21,439 --> 01:22:22,640
Speaker 9: that was not that's a I.

1906
01:22:24,920 --> 01:22:26,280
Speaker 1: In real like nigga us.

1907
01:22:26,200 --> 01:22:30,519
Speaker 5: A I robot man keep some detrimental secrets, got to

1908
01:22:30,760 --> 01:22:32,840
Speaker 5: and when it come out, then they be wanting to

1909
01:22:32,840 --> 01:22:35,160
Speaker 5: get rid of the woman because the woman ended up

1910
01:22:35,200 --> 01:22:35,760
Speaker 5: finding out.

1911
01:22:35,880 --> 01:22:38,120
Speaker 2: So I'm just.

1912
01:22:45,320 --> 01:22:48,280
Speaker 7: I never forget my uncle Dave funeral. I think about

1913
01:22:48,360 --> 01:22:50,719
Speaker 7: five of them when you know about him. Everybody showed

1914
01:22:50,800 --> 01:22:51,360
Speaker 7: up at the funeral.

1915
01:22:51,400 --> 01:22:53,080
Speaker 1: That one no secret. That ain't your business.

1916
01:22:53,080 --> 01:23:00,680
Speaker 7: Now I'm just saying, like coming we got meeting everybody

1917
01:23:00,760 --> 01:23:01,479
Speaker 7: at the funeral.

1918
01:23:01,520 --> 01:23:06,920
Speaker 9: We didn't volunteer information. Ain't nobody volunteer no information. Let

1919
01:23:06,960 --> 01:23:09,960
Speaker 9: me tell you what I'm about secrets inside of the relationship,

1920
01:23:10,040 --> 01:23:13,400
Speaker 9: Like you know something you should tell me, but you'll

1921
01:23:13,400 --> 01:23:14,160
Speaker 9: tell me when you're mad.

1922
01:23:14,160 --> 01:23:14,800
Speaker 1: You ain't gonna tell me.

1923
01:23:14,840 --> 01:23:15,839
Speaker 2: You had a baby shower.

1924
01:23:15,920 --> 01:23:17,479
Speaker 5: You don't think your wife should know that you had

1925
01:23:17,479 --> 01:23:20,480
Speaker 5: a baby shower that you are attendant and the photos.

1926
01:23:20,880 --> 01:23:22,759
Speaker 1: I think no, I think if you had a baby

1927
01:23:22,800 --> 01:23:23,679
Speaker 1: period your wife.

1928
01:23:24,360 --> 01:23:31,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm just saying, I think showers and have wives.

1929
01:23:34,040 --> 01:23:38,719
Speaker 9: And say she keeping it your wife soon as yours,

1930
01:23:38,720 --> 01:23:41,600
Speaker 9: soon as a woman is get pregnant, and the possibility

1931
01:23:41,680 --> 01:23:44,320
Speaker 9: of yours you don't know, and she's pregnant, she's saying

1932
01:23:44,360 --> 01:23:46,240
Speaker 9: she's keeping it. That day you're supposed to tell your

1933
01:23:46,280 --> 01:23:47,920
Speaker 9: people that day.

1934
01:23:47,840 --> 01:23:48,720
Speaker 2: It don't work.

1935
01:23:48,800 --> 01:23:50,760
Speaker 9: But I'm saying that there you do that just but

1936
01:23:50,840 --> 01:23:52,479
Speaker 9: that day you do because at the end of the day,

1937
01:23:52,760 --> 01:23:55,000
Speaker 9: ain't no wife, nobody feeling to not make me turn

1938
01:23:55,040 --> 01:23:57,479
Speaker 9: my back on my flesh. That's just what it is.

1939
01:23:57,520 --> 01:23:59,679
Speaker 9: So bitch, fuck you didn't my mistake. But I'm gonna

1940
01:23:59,680 --> 01:24:02,920
Speaker 9: stand on right. So I'm gonna tell you respect that

1941
01:24:02,920 --> 01:24:05,000
Speaker 9: you're finish on what it is. What it is, however,

1942
01:24:05,040 --> 01:24:10,479
Speaker 9: you're gonna feel whatever, just what it is, but you

1943
01:24:10,680 --> 01:24:13,640
Speaker 9: and her. But this line, so that ja what it is.

1944
01:24:13,640 --> 01:24:15,320
Speaker 9: So like I said, that's a fun nigga who don't

1945
01:24:15,360 --> 01:24:17,880
Speaker 9: do that. I can't say what reason why. Niggas wouldn't,

1946
01:24:18,000 --> 01:24:20,720
Speaker 9: but me personally, I'm a stunt on anything I do.

1947
01:24:21,720 --> 01:24:23,960
Speaker 1: So you can give you a choice immediately.

1948
01:24:24,200 --> 01:24:25,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, most people don't do that.

1949
01:24:25,920 --> 01:24:28,080
Speaker 9: If your intuition right about me, about some ship, yo,

1950
01:24:28,160 --> 01:24:29,120
Speaker 9: I'll be like, damn, you're good.

1951
01:24:30,479 --> 01:24:32,800
Speaker 1: I ain't finished lots of your intuition. You good.

1952
01:24:32,840 --> 01:24:35,439
Speaker 6: You're not gonna nobody intuition because the type of man

1953
01:24:35,439 --> 01:24:36,960
Speaker 6: and the statue of the things that you have. A

1954
01:24:37,040 --> 01:24:38,800
Speaker 6: man who don't have much, he has to lie because

1955
01:24:38,800 --> 01:24:41,280
Speaker 6: he's dependent on that woman ship.

1956
01:24:41,360 --> 01:24:42,600
Speaker 1: That I can't not the man for doing what you

1957
01:24:42,640 --> 01:24:43,640
Speaker 1: gotta do.

1958
01:24:44,800 --> 01:24:49,160
Speaker 5: Even when men of certain statues they do because they

1959
01:24:49,200 --> 01:24:50,360
Speaker 5: don't want to lose their wife.

1960
01:24:51,120 --> 01:24:51,920
Speaker 1: Heldo, Holdo.

1961
01:24:52,080 --> 01:24:55,519
Speaker 9: The number one thing women lead for is when your

1962
01:24:55,560 --> 01:24:57,400
Speaker 9: ship ain't clicking like it used to be clicking.

1963
01:24:57,400 --> 01:25:00,000
Speaker 1: That's just the bottom line, bro, It's just the bottom line.

1964
01:25:00,080 --> 01:25:02,360
Speaker 9: Ain't no women, ain't no woman walking away for no

1965
01:25:02,439 --> 01:25:04,000
Speaker 9: nigga who making sure they good?

1966
01:25:04,160 --> 01:25:04,519
Speaker 3: Period.

1967
01:25:05,560 --> 01:25:06,400
Speaker 1: That's just what it is.

1968
01:25:07,360 --> 01:25:13,000
Speaker 7: Hard that it ain't hard a bashel for my partner

1969
01:25:13,040 --> 01:25:15,720
Speaker 7: before because I'm a I'm a successful woman and don't

1970
01:25:15,760 --> 01:25:18,400
Speaker 7: I don't touch some money and I don't mind, you know,

1971
01:25:18,439 --> 01:25:21,040
Speaker 7: if we're rocking together like that for me is the

1972
01:25:21,120 --> 01:25:23,519
Speaker 7: disrespect like you got. It ain't so much what you

1973
01:25:23,600 --> 01:25:25,960
Speaker 7: do is how you do it. Because I was raised

1974
01:25:26,280 --> 01:25:28,840
Speaker 7: my daughter's my daddy's only daughter. I got a brother,

1975
01:25:28,920 --> 01:25:30,360
Speaker 7: I got a bunch of boy cousins, I got a

1976
01:25:30,360 --> 01:25:32,320
Speaker 7: bunch of uncles. Like I was just raised around men.

1977
01:25:32,640 --> 01:25:35,200
Speaker 7: So I kind of maybe have a different perspective. So

1978
01:25:35,280 --> 01:25:37,840
Speaker 7: to me, it ain't necessarily what you do is what

1979
01:25:37,880 --> 01:25:40,120
Speaker 7: you is how you do. I don't know what world

1980
01:25:40,160 --> 01:25:43,559
Speaker 7: women believe that they're the only woman in a man's life.

1981
01:25:43,600 --> 01:25:46,400
Speaker 7: Now maybe that's my own personal trauma, but that's just

1982
01:25:46,640 --> 01:25:49,320
Speaker 7: the belief that I've developed off of my own life.

1983
01:25:49,640 --> 01:25:53,679
Speaker 8: But just right, yes, with and with that being said, right.

1984
01:25:53,840 --> 01:25:57,080
Speaker 7: Like, you have to just understand that when it comes

1985
01:25:57,120 --> 01:26:00,000
Speaker 7: to people and when it comes to relationships, regardless of

1986
01:26:00,120 --> 01:26:03,640
Speaker 7: what you have to respect that person. You in the marriage,

1987
01:26:03,880 --> 01:26:06,240
Speaker 7: you ain't got no business at no baby showering a

1988
01:26:06,280 --> 01:26:08,640
Speaker 7: picture with another woman and your wife don't know you

1989
01:26:08,760 --> 01:26:10,920
Speaker 7: in the marriage, you ain't got no business.

1990
01:26:10,920 --> 01:26:13,360
Speaker 2: Bringing no woman to your baby boom.

1991
01:26:13,479 --> 01:26:16,240
Speaker 8: You understand why I'm coming, Oh.

1992
01:26:15,640 --> 01:26:19,000
Speaker 2: It's just it's it's it's that's no. But that's true.

1993
01:26:19,080 --> 01:26:22,960
Speaker 1: It should be that way not me. Okay, you want

1994
01:26:23,000 --> 01:26:23,400
Speaker 1: we finished?

1995
01:26:23,920 --> 01:26:25,880
Speaker 7: You say you love that man, if you don't love

1996
01:26:25,920 --> 01:26:28,720
Speaker 7: his child, that child is his flesh, his blood. Like

1997
01:26:28,840 --> 01:26:31,280
Speaker 7: let's be for real now, like we gotta grow up,

1998
01:26:31,320 --> 01:26:35,000
Speaker 7: We gotta mature and as a woman. For me, I

1999
01:26:35,000 --> 01:26:37,800
Speaker 7: don't want a man they don't take care of his kids.

2000
01:26:38,160 --> 01:26:40,200
Speaker 7: Okay I don't because I feel like if you can

2001
01:26:40,240 --> 01:26:42,920
Speaker 7: abandon your children, your own flesh and blood, then you'll

2002
01:26:42,960 --> 01:26:46,519
Speaker 7: abandon me. So it ain't about the cheating, Okay, it

2003
01:26:46,560 --> 01:26:49,519
Speaker 7: ain't about you know, the other ship. It's about the respect.

2004
01:26:49,680 --> 01:26:51,479
Speaker 7: And I think that's what the three of us kind

2005
01:26:51,479 --> 01:26:52,120
Speaker 7: of agree.

2006
01:26:52,680 --> 01:26:55,839
Speaker 9: Yeah, but y'all take respect to different levels though respect

2007
01:26:55,880 --> 01:26:57,599
Speaker 9: could be like I said, I ain't answer.

2008
01:26:57,400 --> 01:26:59,559
Speaker 2: The phone for the day. That's your mom.

2009
01:26:59,600 --> 01:27:02,040
Speaker 1: You paid it bill, But that's disrespect to women? Am

2010
01:27:02,040 --> 01:27:06,760
Speaker 1: I right along? I man, goddamn creaky?

2011
01:27:08,640 --> 01:27:10,160
Speaker 2: What certain level it is?

2012
01:27:10,200 --> 01:27:12,240
Speaker 5: Because it's like day you ain't checked on me, You

2013
01:27:12,280 --> 01:27:14,479
Speaker 5: ain't made sure that I was good checking on me.

2014
01:27:14,520 --> 01:27:16,360
Speaker 1: You don't know what's on what's going on with you?

2015
01:27:16,560 --> 01:27:17,880
Speaker 2: But I wouldn't know what.

2016
01:27:18,120 --> 01:27:19,639
Speaker 9: I got a call on you, baby, let me miss

2017
01:27:19,680 --> 01:27:22,599
Speaker 9: you damn for talk all day?

2018
01:27:23,040 --> 01:27:24,719
Speaker 1: So we ain't got ship to talk about.

2019
01:27:24,840 --> 01:27:26,599
Speaker 2: But that goes back to what was happening.

2020
01:27:26,600 --> 01:27:28,720
Speaker 6: I'm creating a situation in my head because you can't

2021
01:27:28,760 --> 01:27:29,719
Speaker 6: pick up the phone exactly.

2022
01:27:29,720 --> 01:27:31,200
Speaker 1: So I'm gonna call you all day. Baby, I'm finished

2023
01:27:31,400 --> 01:27:31,960
Speaker 1: started the interview.

2024
01:27:31,960 --> 01:27:36,639
Speaker 9: I got got damn Okay, I got.

2025
01:27:36,520 --> 01:27:38,000
Speaker 1: None to talk to you about when I get home.

2026
01:27:38,120 --> 01:27:39,680
Speaker 1: So now like I got to answer a bitch, I

2027
01:27:39,800 --> 01:27:43,400
Speaker 1: talked to my whole day. Let me tell you about

2028
01:27:43,439 --> 01:27:45,559
Speaker 1: my day when I get home. The fuck is I'm

2029
01:27:45,560 --> 01:27:47,560
Speaker 1: texting it, talking to you every day, sending meanings and

2030
01:27:47,560 --> 01:27:48,599
Speaker 1: ship all day.

2031
01:27:49,080 --> 01:27:52,120
Speaker 2: I'm not saying all day, but a simple happen. What

2032
01:27:52,240 --> 01:27:53,599
Speaker 2: you doing?

2033
01:27:53,640 --> 01:27:56,720
Speaker 1: How you doing? Upon the contact? If someone wrong, they

2034
01:27:56,760 --> 01:27:58,960
Speaker 1: gonna call me and vice versa.

2035
01:28:01,520 --> 01:28:05,519
Speaker 3: Man, what I give about this is people communicate different.

2036
01:28:06,000 --> 01:28:10,200
Speaker 9: That's some niggas don't want to get what even even

2037
01:28:10,200 --> 01:28:11,680
Speaker 9: when you want to do it, you can't do it

2038
01:28:11,680 --> 01:28:13,880
Speaker 9: because you can't create patterns. That's what niggas can't do,

2039
01:28:14,040 --> 01:28:16,040
Speaker 9: because when niggas in a good mood, they create pattern

2040
01:28:16,120 --> 01:28:17,000
Speaker 9: that they can't keep up.

2041
01:28:17,800 --> 01:28:18,320
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying.

2042
01:28:18,320 --> 01:28:20,960
Speaker 9: So I'm gonna be a bullshit nigga all back on

2043
01:28:21,080 --> 01:28:23,280
Speaker 9: celebrate birthday don't celebrate holiday. Don't celebrate now that ship.

2044
01:28:23,439 --> 01:28:26,519
Speaker 9: We celebrate every day. So don't expect for me to

2045
01:28:26,520 --> 01:28:28,840
Speaker 9: be buying your ship on your birthday because I might

2046
01:28:28,840 --> 01:28:31,479
Speaker 9: be fucked up on your birthday next year. I ain't

2047
01:28:31,479 --> 01:28:34,320
Speaker 9: even create no pattern. I took you this on your birthday. No, basically,

2048
01:28:34,320 --> 01:28:35,880
Speaker 9: I just popped out the blue and took you somewhere.

2049
01:28:36,600 --> 01:28:39,000
Speaker 9: It's we live life. We don't live days.

2050
01:28:39,640 --> 01:28:40,280
Speaker 2: I'll feel that.

2051
01:28:40,680 --> 01:28:41,040
Speaker 1: I don't.

2052
01:28:41,160 --> 01:28:44,000
Speaker 2: That's sixty five.

2053
01:28:45,960 --> 01:28:47,360
Speaker 1: That's false. That's false.

2054
01:28:47,640 --> 01:28:48,719
Speaker 8: Hey, I don't care.

2055
01:28:48,720 --> 01:28:50,240
Speaker 1: That's false. My kids don't know.

2056
01:28:50,720 --> 01:28:57,719
Speaker 5: I'm gonna think that that just before I've been doing

2057
01:28:59,040 --> 01:29:01,599
Speaker 5: the holiday. But I ain't miss nothing. I might get

2058
01:29:01,600 --> 01:29:05,439
Speaker 5: on random Tuesday on ap watch, So who's here? So

2059
01:29:05,560 --> 01:29:07,559
Speaker 5: I got it in March. I'm just keep it in

2060
01:29:07,560 --> 01:29:09,960
Speaker 5: the box to my birthday. So that's what I learned

2061
01:29:09,960 --> 01:29:13,160
Speaker 5: to do. And they honestly worked because he but he

2062
01:29:13,320 --> 01:29:16,479
Speaker 5: gave the same perspective, like we gonna live good.

2063
01:29:16,920 --> 01:29:20,920
Speaker 8: Every single star was born.

2064
01:29:25,439 --> 01:29:30,439
Speaker 1: This day. But it's mindset.

2065
01:29:30,600 --> 01:29:37,040
Speaker 5: Well, but it's a perspective thing. The gift is given

2066
01:29:37,080 --> 01:29:40,000
Speaker 5: to you on that particular day. I'm not saying somebody

2067
01:29:40,040 --> 01:29:43,120
Speaker 5: completely ignore who you are, right I'm not saying nobody

2068
01:29:43,200 --> 01:29:47,280
Speaker 5: celebrates you, but expensive gifts, trips and all of that done.

2069
01:29:47,360 --> 01:29:51,439
Speaker 5: My meed that the person didn't celebrate you. Everybody celebrates differently.

2070
01:29:51,720 --> 01:29:54,639
Speaker 5: When I was in my situation, when I met that person,

2071
01:29:54,840 --> 01:29:58,840
Speaker 5: they did not celebrate Christmas, they did not celebrate Valentine's anniversaries.

2072
01:29:58,880 --> 01:30:01,280
Speaker 5: Are none of those things, and that was where they were.

2073
01:30:01,400 --> 01:30:03,400
Speaker 5: I had a decision to make do I want to

2074
01:30:03,439 --> 01:30:05,320
Speaker 5: be a part of that. But I'm like, he cool,

2075
01:30:05,439 --> 01:30:09,400
Speaker 5: so cool, whatever, But guess what April of March and

2076
01:30:09,560 --> 01:30:12,720
Speaker 5: he ain't never going month without getting something on a

2077
01:30:12,880 --> 01:30:15,679
Speaker 5: random day. So all I'm saying is if you put

2078
01:30:15,720 --> 01:30:18,840
Speaker 5: it on a holiday or birthday, you may miss an

2079
01:30:18,880 --> 01:30:23,759
Speaker 5: amazing human. Because I never missed out. I never felt away.

2080
01:30:24,080 --> 01:30:27,000
Speaker 5: I got some of the best, most amazing gifts on

2081
01:30:27,000 --> 01:30:29,479
Speaker 5: a Wednesday when he was just walking to the jewelry

2082
01:30:29,479 --> 01:30:31,760
Speaker 5: store looking all this ship is all.

2083
01:30:31,800 --> 01:30:33,840
Speaker 9: This ship is training though, Bro, you know what I'm saying,

2084
01:30:33,880 --> 01:30:42,439
Speaker 9: You have to train. You gotta say no the sense

2085
01:30:42,840 --> 01:30:44,760
Speaker 9: things that mean something to this person to see how

2086
01:30:44,800 --> 01:30:45,720
Speaker 9: they read.

2087
01:30:46,000 --> 01:30:53,040
Speaker 2: Don't just voluntarily, because there's.

2088
01:30:52,800 --> 01:30:54,400
Speaker 9: Gonna be a time that I have to tell you no.

2089
01:30:54,920 --> 01:30:57,360
Speaker 9: So what I'm saying yes to everything, Yes, yes, And

2090
01:30:57,400 --> 01:30:59,559
Speaker 9: I say, you know you're gonna be devastated. Okay, you

2091
01:30:59,560 --> 01:31:01,600
Speaker 9: want me to go to you your nephew graduations. I

2092
01:31:01,600 --> 01:31:05,080
Speaker 9: ain't going that ship, so you normal, know, nigga. So

2093
01:31:05,160 --> 01:31:09,160
Speaker 9: when I do say yes, you know it's special baby.

2094
01:31:10,160 --> 01:31:13,320
Speaker 2: Some expectations that ain't like that. I don't want that

2095
01:31:13,439 --> 01:31:14,760
Speaker 2: kind of true, That's what I'm saying.

2096
01:31:14,840 --> 01:31:16,559
Speaker 1: It's a diff but Gold didn't go.

2097
01:31:18,400 --> 01:31:23,600
Speaker 7: But I'm even moultraumatized.

2098
01:31:24,520 --> 01:31:28,679
Speaker 8: I ain't never knowing that ship again.

2099
01:31:30,120 --> 01:31:30,920
Speaker 3: More of the story.

2100
01:31:31,120 --> 01:31:40,320
Speaker 1: More of the story is part two. But listen, I

2101
01:31:40,360 --> 01:31:41,719
Speaker 1: know y'all gonna think I'm retarded.

2102
01:31:41,800 --> 01:31:43,240
Speaker 8: I am just a little bit.

2103
01:31:43,400 --> 01:31:46,000
Speaker 9: But it takes a special person to deal with special person.

2104
01:31:46,280 --> 01:31:48,920
Speaker 9: I came in this real special breech bird, seek first

2105
01:31:48,920 --> 01:31:52,240
Speaker 9: to stand on business. Yes, the truth, this is the butt, nigga.

2106
01:31:52,280 --> 01:31:52,479
Speaker 1: True.

2107
01:31:52,520 --> 01:31:54,400
Speaker 9: I came in this bitch feet first, so I ain't

2108
01:31:54,439 --> 01:31:56,800
Speaker 9: trying to adjust to other people. This, this ain't got

2109
01:31:56,840 --> 01:31:59,920
Speaker 9: no relationship. This friends everybody, Like all my friends know,

2110
01:32:00,880 --> 01:32:03,879
Speaker 9: he ain't gonna come. So when I come out, it's special.

2111
01:32:04,240 --> 01:32:04,920
Speaker 2: I'm gonna fuck you.

2112
01:32:04,960 --> 01:32:05,679
Speaker 1: Open a restaurant.

2113
01:32:05,880 --> 01:32:07,960
Speaker 9: Patna opened up, shot out the pat man in the

2114
01:32:08,080 --> 01:32:09,799
Speaker 9: and the new spot.

2115
01:32:10,320 --> 01:32:11,120
Speaker 1: I'm in the room, man.

2116
01:32:11,160 --> 01:32:13,400
Speaker 9: You know what I'm saying, Bron, been over three months

2117
01:32:13,439 --> 01:32:16,240
Speaker 9: and you've been there. He know, bank might not come

2118
01:32:16,320 --> 01:32:18,519
Speaker 9: to a year, But I love you, you my friend on

2119
01:32:18,600 --> 01:32:19,479
Speaker 9: a post and everything.

2120
01:32:19,600 --> 01:32:23,000
Speaker 1: I just I'm a no nigga. I move on my time.

2121
01:32:24,520 --> 01:32:27,280
Speaker 9: When you when you, when you have developed yourself into

2122
01:32:27,320 --> 01:32:28,680
Speaker 9: the person that you want to be, and you at

2123
01:32:28,680 --> 01:32:30,439
Speaker 9: peace with yourself, you should be able to move on

2124
01:32:30,479 --> 01:32:35,120
Speaker 9: your own time, no matter how nobody feels. That's wife, kids, friends, family,

2125
01:32:35,720 --> 01:32:38,400
Speaker 9: Because if you start delegating yourself to other people feelings,

2126
01:32:38,400 --> 01:32:40,599
Speaker 9: you're gonna have to do that forever. That's called people pleasing.

2127
01:32:40,720 --> 01:32:43,280
Speaker 9: I can't do that. I tried it and she stressed me.

2128
01:32:43,200 --> 01:32:44,160
Speaker 3: Out, big stress.

2129
01:32:44,320 --> 01:32:46,280
Speaker 1: I can't. I can't people please. I can't yea yea yeah,

2130
01:32:46,320 --> 01:32:47,160
Speaker 1: yea yeah, I can't do that.

2131
01:32:47,400 --> 01:32:47,599
Speaker 2: Yeah.

2132
01:32:48,080 --> 01:32:50,200
Speaker 9: When I know, I won't say no, I don't even

2133
01:32:50,280 --> 01:32:53,240
Speaker 9: let me see no more no because let me see now,

2134
01:32:53,280 --> 01:32:54,240
Speaker 9: I'm stressing every time.

2135
01:32:54,080 --> 01:32:56,920
Speaker 1: You call it and then call him out. This ship no,

2136
01:32:59,000 --> 01:32:59,360
Speaker 1: try that.

2137
01:32:59,360 --> 01:33:02,560
Speaker 2: That's the that's that's a full sentence. That ship is powerful,

2138
01:33:02,680 --> 01:33:04,080
Speaker 2: no period, that's it.

2139
01:33:04,120 --> 01:33:06,720
Speaker 9: That's the old them getting my anxiety gaining like I'm

2140
01:33:06,720 --> 01:33:07,360
Speaker 9: shaking the ship.

2141
01:33:07,560 --> 01:33:09,000
Speaker 8: No, man, that's what happened though.

2142
01:33:09,200 --> 01:33:11,120
Speaker 7: That's when you begin to find out the people that

2143
01:33:11,800 --> 01:33:13,280
Speaker 7: really fuck with you for you.

2144
01:33:13,479 --> 01:33:14,200
Speaker 1: Thank you, you know what.

2145
01:33:14,520 --> 01:33:16,000
Speaker 9: And that's where I'm at the point of my life,

2146
01:33:16,040 --> 01:33:17,680
Speaker 9: like lying in the saying who with me?

2147
01:33:17,720 --> 01:33:19,920
Speaker 1: Whoever against me? I don't give a fuck. They keep marching.

2148
01:33:20,320 --> 01:33:23,160
Speaker 9: They don't need no lot of motherfucker real fuck sir,

2149
01:33:23,360 --> 01:33:24,559
Speaker 9: give me a dot. I'm cool with that.

2150
01:33:24,840 --> 01:33:27,000
Speaker 8: Yeah, I'm telling you because when you look.

2151
01:33:26,880 --> 01:33:29,519
Speaker 9: Around and who got you, you got you, regardless of

2152
01:33:29,520 --> 01:33:31,679
Speaker 9: what if you're in a relationship, you got family, friend,

2153
01:33:31,720 --> 01:33:33,960
Speaker 9: whatever you ain't, nobody got you like you got you cause.

2154
01:33:33,760 --> 01:33:35,760
Speaker 1: I'm your own feeling, your own emotions.

2155
01:33:36,439 --> 01:33:38,479
Speaker 9: That true, and that's just how I live. Brother, And

2156
01:33:38,800 --> 01:33:41,080
Speaker 9: there might be some bullshit. I know, even even the

2157
01:33:41,120 --> 01:33:43,639
Speaker 9: people I work with scream. He don't know what When

2158
01:33:43,680 --> 01:33:45,200
Speaker 9: he called him faces, he's looking to see how I

2159
01:33:45,240 --> 01:33:48,559
Speaker 9: feel before he says something, Brother, Oh yeah, yeah, you're good.

2160
01:33:48,560 --> 01:33:48,880
Speaker 3: What's up?

2161
01:33:51,080 --> 01:33:52,759
Speaker 1: Like it is what it is. I'm embraceton.

2162
01:33:52,800 --> 01:33:54,919
Speaker 9: I can't try to hide it because that brings stress,

2163
01:33:55,600 --> 01:33:58,160
Speaker 9: trying to hide who you is and try to shy

2164
01:33:58,400 --> 01:34:00,800
Speaker 9: how you feel they started, who take it for we

2165
01:34:00,960 --> 01:34:03,960
Speaker 9: big only to day and I I talk to you,

2166
01:34:03,960 --> 01:34:07,000
Speaker 9: you never know what this nigga, because I'm dealing with

2167
01:34:07,000 --> 01:34:09,360
Speaker 9: my own ship, trying to transition into this person that

2168
01:34:09,439 --> 01:34:11,960
Speaker 9: I never thought I would be. Like I tell these niggas,

2169
01:34:11,960 --> 01:34:15,160
Speaker 9: these nigga trying to be something, trying to make believe

2170
01:34:15,200 --> 01:34:16,800
Speaker 9: be something. I'm trying my betch not to be who

2171
01:34:16,880 --> 01:34:20,080
Speaker 9: I really am inside. So that's the struggle within itself

2172
01:34:20,520 --> 01:34:22,000
Speaker 9: in front of these cameras and lights and ship.

2173
01:34:22,800 --> 01:34:24,760
Speaker 2: You're done, great, thank you.

2174
01:34:24,479 --> 01:34:29,040
Speaker 1: But it's hard though. It's hard though, hard as fuck.

2175
01:34:30,120 --> 01:34:32,320
Speaker 1: So you can't have nobody stressing that what I'm saying.

2176
01:34:32,640 --> 01:34:35,280
Speaker 9: My wife ain't gotta be nothing but that person that

2177
01:34:35,439 --> 01:34:37,840
Speaker 9: makes me feel cool when I see her.

2178
01:34:38,200 --> 01:34:42,720
Speaker 8: Okay, that's great, right.

2179
01:34:42,760 --> 01:34:46,639
Speaker 9: If it ain't cool, then anything else is extra. Whatever

2180
01:34:46,680 --> 01:34:48,799
Speaker 9: you do for my birthday, whatever you do that ship extra.

2181
01:34:49,640 --> 01:34:51,759
Speaker 9: When I see you, I feel a sense of calm

2182
01:34:51,800 --> 01:34:54,439
Speaker 9: and coolness. That's when you know you got something your

2183
01:34:54,479 --> 01:34:58,200
Speaker 9: peace exactly. If it ain't that, it ain't nothing. So

2184
01:34:58,240 --> 01:35:00,320
Speaker 9: if you nigga got damn two three on the got.

2185
01:35:00,240 --> 01:35:03,680
Speaker 1: Damn she got to day, she cool over here, she

2186
01:35:03,840 --> 01:35:10,240
Speaker 1: cooled up yeah, I appreciate y'all. Pull up.

2187
01:35:11,000 --> 01:35:11,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's all good.

2188
01:35:12,040 --> 01:35:14,799
Speaker 9: We ain't get to the subjects we had.

2189
01:35:19,439 --> 01:35:24,679
Speaker 4: I'm like, quick, okay, well talking about this this morning?

2190
01:35:24,680 --> 01:35:26,400
Speaker 4: What type of women are you? Are you a type

2191
01:35:26,439 --> 01:35:28,920
Speaker 4: of woman? Let's say you're dating the street guy, right

2192
01:35:29,600 --> 01:35:32,759
Speaker 4: and he catch a bid? Are you a type of woman?

2193
01:35:33,160 --> 01:35:33,519
Speaker 4: All right?

2194
01:35:33,640 --> 01:35:35,160
Speaker 3: I know you gotta go out do your bid.

2195
01:35:35,400 --> 01:35:37,640
Speaker 4: Stand tall, stand solid, I'm gonna hold it down, so

2196
01:35:37,720 --> 01:35:39,800
Speaker 4: forth and so forth. Are you the type of woman

2197
01:35:39,800 --> 01:35:42,160
Speaker 4: that's gonna be like, you need to tell them folks

2198
01:35:42,280 --> 01:35:44,080
Speaker 4: what they want to hear so you can come home

2199
01:35:44,160 --> 01:35:47,880
Speaker 4: to your family. Women, they are be honest.

2200
01:35:48,080 --> 01:35:51,080
Speaker 2: You should go do whatever bid you got going on.

2201
01:35:51,280 --> 01:35:53,880
Speaker 5: But I'm not gonna sit around here and wait for

2202
01:35:53,960 --> 01:35:56,200
Speaker 5: you to come out. That's the kind of woman. Now,

2203
01:35:56,280 --> 01:35:58,120
Speaker 5: But if you tell what you be with him, I

2204
01:35:58,120 --> 01:36:02,840
Speaker 5: don't really do snitches like that, just not or that

2205
01:36:04,000 --> 01:36:06,640
Speaker 5: you know in New Orleans is rough. So it's a

2206
01:36:06,680 --> 01:36:09,800
Speaker 5: situation where it's like the snitches don't have no sort

2207
01:36:09,840 --> 01:36:12,400
Speaker 5: of like that's they're like fuck niggas.

2208
01:36:12,560 --> 01:36:13,519
Speaker 1: You get what I'm saying.

2209
01:36:13,520 --> 01:36:16,000
Speaker 5: So and that could be a trauma thing with me, right,

2210
01:36:16,040 --> 01:36:18,479
Speaker 5: I'm not saying that this is a right thing. If

2211
01:36:18,479 --> 01:36:21,120
Speaker 5: you did not do something, do not go get in

2212
01:36:21,160 --> 01:36:23,840
Speaker 5: trouble for something you did not do. But if you

2213
01:36:24,040 --> 01:36:27,599
Speaker 5: was a part, you don't gotta mess everybody family up.

2214
01:36:28,200 --> 01:36:30,559
Speaker 5: That's all I'm saying. But if you did not do it,

2215
01:36:30,640 --> 01:36:31,759
Speaker 5: my boy, you're.

2216
01:36:31,600 --> 01:36:33,400
Speaker 2: Getting a body there who did it.

2217
01:36:33,960 --> 01:36:37,679
Speaker 5: But if you were a part, and nobody else knows

2218
01:36:38,080 --> 01:36:43,439
Speaker 5: that everybody else was a part, don't mess up everybody.

2219
01:36:42,840 --> 01:36:45,160
Speaker 3: But you're not staying around.

2220
01:36:46,960 --> 01:36:48,000
Speaker 2: When you get out.

2221
01:36:48,240 --> 01:36:51,120
Speaker 5: But I'm not sitting here for ten years with you

2222
01:36:51,400 --> 01:36:54,280
Speaker 5: because I'm the girl that's gonna tell you. You know, we

2223
01:36:54,320 --> 01:36:56,800
Speaker 5: can build houses without you going to be in that situation.

2224
01:36:57,000 --> 01:36:59,280
Speaker 5: I'm gonna have a different plan for you. So if

2225
01:36:59,320 --> 01:37:02,880
Speaker 5: you still did that situation, there's consequences that come with it.

2226
01:37:02,960 --> 01:37:04,639
Speaker 2: But I'm not stopping my life.

2227
01:37:04,400 --> 01:37:07,160
Speaker 5: For ten fifteen years to wait on you because you

2228
01:37:07,240 --> 01:37:10,439
Speaker 5: was a real nigga, so that it was that considered.

2229
01:37:11,840 --> 01:37:13,400
Speaker 2: So however I treat you, it's warranted.

2230
01:37:14,640 --> 01:37:16,320
Speaker 9: If I'm a street nigga, mean your a relationship and

2231
01:37:16,360 --> 01:37:18,040
Speaker 9: I know you feel like that fifteen years. You're not

2232
01:37:18,080 --> 01:37:19,479
Speaker 9: gonna wait on me ten years, not for you, So

2233
01:37:19,520 --> 01:37:22,240
Speaker 9: whatever I do to you is warranted in the relationship because.

2234
01:37:22,040 --> 01:37:23,479
Speaker 2: I'm not gonna let you do me any kind of way.

2235
01:37:23,479 --> 01:37:24,639
Speaker 2: There's a certain saying.

2236
01:37:24,720 --> 01:37:26,639
Speaker 1: You care what I'm trying to tell you. It don't

2237
01:37:26,640 --> 01:37:28,480
Speaker 1: matter at this point because.

2238
01:37:28,680 --> 01:37:31,240
Speaker 5: It matters because you don't have to go do what

2239
01:37:31,240 --> 01:37:33,400
Speaker 5: you're doing. So if you get me in your life,

2240
01:37:33,400 --> 01:37:36,320
Speaker 5: we'll never have a scenario. But if I'm your woman,

2241
01:37:36,439 --> 01:37:38,840
Speaker 5: that you gotta be ever a street nigga whatever.

2242
01:37:41,880 --> 01:37:43,639
Speaker 1: This is why I know I don't trust that real estate.

2243
01:37:43,840 --> 01:37:47,320
Speaker 1: That's tricky mood. Pass You shouldn't you.

2244
01:37:47,280 --> 01:37:49,720
Speaker 2: Trust, shouldn't trust these niggas in these packs either.

2245
01:37:50,520 --> 01:37:51,280
Speaker 1: Let me break it down to you.

2246
01:37:51,360 --> 01:37:52,080
Speaker 2: I get what you saying.

2247
01:37:53,200 --> 01:37:55,960
Speaker 1: These trips and all these ap shit came from these packs.

2248
01:37:56,280 --> 01:37:58,920
Speaker 2: They can it can come from housing too.

2249
01:37:59,360 --> 01:38:03,080
Speaker 1: But it came from packs. So by this ship come

2250
01:38:03,120 --> 01:38:05,160
Speaker 1: from pets. It's time for me to go do fifteen

2251
01:38:05,200 --> 01:38:08,600
Speaker 1: years for these packs. You staying around, okay, So it

2252
01:38:08,640 --> 01:38:10,960
Speaker 1: don't matter what I do. I proughtly have sixteen baby, Mom.

2253
01:38:14,200 --> 01:38:15,760
Speaker 8: I'm just not what you're gonna do.

2254
01:38:15,960 --> 01:38:17,800
Speaker 6: I ain't gonna tell the snitch because the problem is

2255
01:38:17,800 --> 01:38:19,320
Speaker 6: if you you can, you can snitch and you can

2256
01:38:19,360 --> 01:38:20,800
Speaker 6: come home. But the problem is you come home, and

2257
01:38:20,800 --> 01:38:23,160
Speaker 6: now we gotta hit on our head. You gotta you

2258
01:38:23,200 --> 01:38:27,479
Speaker 6: gotta own your ship. If that's your that's your thing.

2259
01:38:27,520 --> 01:38:29,760
Speaker 6: And them bricks or sticks or whatever y'all call them,

2260
01:38:30,240 --> 01:38:32,080
Speaker 6: if that's how you're moving your money. And I know

2261
01:38:32,160 --> 01:38:34,280
Speaker 6: that you're not gonna come home and get us messed up.

2262
01:38:34,280 --> 01:38:35,640
Speaker 6: Because if I'm dealing with you and you're doing that,

2263
01:38:35,760 --> 01:38:37,640
Speaker 6: you're a boss. You go home and tell me, my

2264
01:38:37,720 --> 01:38:38,679
Speaker 6: kids and everybody else.

2265
01:38:38,520 --> 01:38:38,920
Speaker 2: Here rich to you?

2266
01:38:38,960 --> 01:38:42,120
Speaker 4: Got you you have so so what you're doing? While

2267
01:38:42,280 --> 01:38:44,120
Speaker 4: why why you're going on his vacation.

2268
01:38:44,160 --> 01:38:46,240
Speaker 6: I'm gonna say two things. I'm gonna be completely honest

2269
01:38:46,280 --> 01:38:46,639
Speaker 6: with you.

2270
01:38:47,040 --> 01:38:49,200
Speaker 2: I would think that I would hold it down.

2271
01:38:49,200 --> 01:38:51,040
Speaker 6: However, just to your point, like you were just saying

2272
01:38:51,080 --> 01:38:53,080
Speaker 6: a few minutes ago, at the end of the day,

2273
01:38:54,000 --> 01:38:55,479
Speaker 6: I have to be me.

2274
01:38:55,800 --> 01:38:57,360
Speaker 2: I would think I would hold it down.

2275
01:38:57,520 --> 01:38:58,880
Speaker 1: But what you would? You would? You would you?

2276
01:38:59,680 --> 01:39:01,439
Speaker 9: If they're gonna get ten to fifteen years and space

2277
01:39:01,479 --> 01:39:03,400
Speaker 9: for a woman to be one hundred faith of him?

2278
01:39:03,400 --> 01:39:05,240
Speaker 8: He's an idiot, But that's that's the thing.

2279
01:39:05,360 --> 01:39:08,160
Speaker 1: He's an idiot. Anyway, baby, do your thing.

2280
01:39:08,240 --> 01:39:11,439
Speaker 9: Get a relationship, whatever, Sneak me some some commisary here

2281
01:39:11,439 --> 01:39:12,439
Speaker 9: and there, do what you do?

2282
01:39:12,479 --> 01:39:14,439
Speaker 1: You know, I held it down, held me down. That's it.

2283
01:39:14,479 --> 01:39:17,320
Speaker 2: Well, so that's a difference if I'm going to help.

2284
01:39:17,200 --> 01:39:19,200
Speaker 9: You trying to be in no relationship with no woman

2285
01:39:19,280 --> 01:39:20,519
Speaker 9: doing no time, got stressed.

2286
01:39:20,920 --> 01:39:24,080
Speaker 5: But I think I'm not gonna be still in a

2287
01:39:24,080 --> 01:39:26,679
Speaker 5: full relationship with you. But if you was taking care

2288
01:39:26,680 --> 01:39:28,639
Speaker 5: of me, if you made sure that I was good,

2289
01:39:29,040 --> 01:39:31,240
Speaker 5: We're gonna have some money. Can I make sure?

2290
01:39:31,640 --> 01:39:32,400
Speaker 1: Go ahead?

2291
01:39:32,720 --> 01:39:34,080
Speaker 7: First of all, I need to know what you're asking

2292
01:39:34,200 --> 01:39:36,559
Speaker 7: jail for now. We just talking about moving the paccause

2293
01:39:36,560 --> 01:39:43,240
Speaker 7: that's one thing. The second part of that is for

2294
01:39:43,320 --> 01:39:47,200
Speaker 7: me personally, when it comes to snitching, what y'all gonna

2295
01:39:47,240 --> 01:39:48,760
Speaker 7: say the snitch it? Because even a lot of ship

2296
01:39:48,880 --> 01:39:52,400
Speaker 7: going on on big facts. God damn six nine, let's.

2297
01:39:52,200 --> 01:39:52,960
Speaker 2: Talk about.

2298
01:39:57,120 --> 01:40:03,840
Speaker 9: One that you know that you know, know, litting time out. Listen, no,

2299
01:40:03,840 --> 01:40:06,120
Speaker 9: no angela, you know what snitching is. So we can't

2300
01:40:06,160 --> 01:40:09,160
Speaker 9: say what these new people consider snitching. The one that

2301
01:40:09,240 --> 01:40:10,240
Speaker 9: you know, telling.

2302
01:40:10,080 --> 01:40:15,599
Speaker 1: Bro the man a rat. Reality is if he finished,

2303
01:40:15,600 --> 01:40:17,080
Speaker 1: you can be with him. If he told told you.

2304
01:40:17,160 --> 01:40:21,280
Speaker 7: Based on based on recent events in Atlanta, most of

2305
01:40:21,320 --> 01:40:24,800
Speaker 7: these nigga snitches, okay, based on and the nigga being

2306
01:40:24,800 --> 01:40:25,120
Speaker 7: a snitch.

2307
01:40:25,160 --> 01:40:26,759
Speaker 2: Don't stopping from being your baby daddy.

2308
01:40:26,760 --> 01:40:28,880
Speaker 7: Don't stop him from being your husband, don't stopping from

2309
01:40:28,880 --> 01:40:30,880
Speaker 7: being your brother. Don't stop him from being your partner.

2310
01:40:31,080 --> 01:40:33,439
Speaker 7: Don't stop him from being your cousin. Don't stop him

2311
01:40:33,439 --> 01:40:35,639
Speaker 7: from being a nigga on your music later, don't stop

2312
01:40:35,720 --> 01:40:41,960
Speaker 7: him from being your ball my nigga personally, I ain't

2313
01:40:41,960 --> 01:40:44,040
Speaker 7: got there right now. He might be in the fairs.

2314
01:40:44,080 --> 01:40:44,360
Speaker 2: I don't know.

2315
01:40:44,439 --> 01:40:46,120
Speaker 7: Y'all holler at me, but I'm going to holler at

2316
01:40:46,120 --> 01:40:48,200
Speaker 7: Trump and my nigga getting nobody that.

2317
01:40:48,200 --> 01:40:48,960
Speaker 8: That's what I'm gonna do.

2318
01:40:49,000 --> 01:40:50,679
Speaker 1: You happen to be looking.

2319
01:40:52,680 --> 01:40:52,880
Speaker 3: Girl.

2320
01:40:54,280 --> 01:40:55,519
Speaker 1: That's that's what I do.

2321
01:40:55,800 --> 01:40:57,160
Speaker 8: No, that's what you should be doing.

2322
01:40:57,160 --> 01:40:58,400
Speaker 2: But that's you asked me.

2323
01:40:58,960 --> 01:41:00,719
Speaker 8: I can't speak fairybout else you said.

2324
01:41:00,720 --> 01:41:01,760
Speaker 2: And you what you're gonna do?

2325
01:41:03,840 --> 01:41:05,559
Speaker 1: Fuck you ain't nothing I can do.

2326
01:41:06,040 --> 01:41:07,800
Speaker 3: So I'm saying, you're gonna write it out.

2327
01:41:07,960 --> 01:41:12,120
Speaker 7: While my daughter father been in prison since she was

2328
01:41:12,120 --> 01:41:14,760
Speaker 7: two months old, she's getting ready to walk across the

2329
01:41:14,800 --> 01:41:18,520
Speaker 7: stage at m I t okay. I still have conversations

2330
01:41:18,520 --> 01:41:21,080
Speaker 7: with him. I still send him money. I'd have been

2331
01:41:21,080 --> 01:41:23,200
Speaker 7: married and everything. You understand where I'm coming from. We

2332
01:41:23,280 --> 01:41:26,240
Speaker 7: created a life together, all right, And he may have

2333
01:41:26,280 --> 01:41:28,160
Speaker 7: been bad to other people, but that nigga wasn't never

2334
01:41:28,280 --> 01:41:31,040
Speaker 7: bad to me. I'm just a good hearted person and

2335
01:41:31,200 --> 01:41:34,240
Speaker 7: I got.

2336
01:41:31,640 --> 01:41:34,479
Speaker 1: Him if he could come home by telling what you

2337
01:41:34,560 --> 01:41:35,320
Speaker 1: had told the ten.

2338
01:41:35,720 --> 01:41:38,360
Speaker 7: I mean here in a situation where everybody snitched on him,

2339
01:41:38,520 --> 01:41:41,840
Speaker 7: so he you know he was back way. But if

2340
01:41:41,840 --> 01:41:45,559
Speaker 7: you think that you getting, what do y'all could? Y'all

2341
01:41:45,560 --> 01:41:47,120
Speaker 7: got a break down? What's snitching?

2342
01:41:48,840 --> 01:41:52,439
Speaker 5: And I can't answer the question at the table and

2343
01:41:52,479 --> 01:41:54,519
Speaker 5: they say, if you give me X, Y and Z,

2344
01:41:54,920 --> 01:41:58,120
Speaker 5: you get probation. You're looking at twenty years. But if

2345
01:41:58,160 --> 01:42:00,400
Speaker 5: you tell me what I want to hear you getting probation?

2346
01:42:00,520 --> 01:42:04,240
Speaker 2: Are you getting? Okay, let's talk about some real shit.

2347
01:42:04,479 --> 01:42:06,719
Speaker 2: All these people down with you again.

2348
01:42:06,760 --> 01:42:09,200
Speaker 8: I don't say that the interrogation table on some real ship.

2349
01:42:09,320 --> 01:42:09,439
Speaker 5: Nah.

2350
01:42:09,560 --> 01:42:11,479
Speaker 7: Now we could speak as women, or we could speak

2351
01:42:11,479 --> 01:42:13,840
Speaker 7: as niggas that don't experience this ship. I'm at the

2352
01:42:13,920 --> 01:42:17,640
Speaker 7: interrogation table. These niggas come tell me well, Bank and

2353
01:42:17,720 --> 01:42:20,799
Speaker 7: scream said, God damn, you was the one working all.

2354
01:42:20,680 --> 01:42:22,880
Speaker 8: The checks and and and they work for you.

2355
01:42:23,800 --> 01:42:24,960
Speaker 2: How the fuck they say that?

2356
01:42:25,080 --> 01:42:25,280
Speaker 1: You know?

2357
01:42:25,400 --> 01:42:29,120
Speaker 7: Sometimes you know, people play games. They gonna cross you up,

2358
01:42:29,120 --> 01:42:31,160
Speaker 7: They're gonna set you up against you. I just don't

2359
01:42:31,160 --> 01:42:35,120
Speaker 7: see all type of scenarios. And then if we did

2360
01:42:35,240 --> 01:42:38,639
Speaker 7: some and I went to prison, we went to prison. Okay,

2361
01:42:38,720 --> 01:42:41,479
Speaker 7: let's just say me, Phador and Apollo went to prison. Okay,

2362
01:42:41,880 --> 01:42:44,080
Speaker 7: and let's just say I went to prison and I

2363
01:42:44,160 --> 01:42:48,360
Speaker 7: never told, and get to the one. Let's just say

2364
01:42:48,400 --> 01:42:50,840
Speaker 7: I went to prison. I never told. I did all

2365
01:42:50,880 --> 01:42:53,240
Speaker 7: my time. I had my baby chain to a fucking

2366
01:42:53,280 --> 01:42:56,439
Speaker 7: bed with a share of watching everything. Same baby Finna

2367
01:42:56,439 --> 01:42:59,280
Speaker 7: graduate from m I t I never told. I serve

2368
01:42:59,360 --> 01:43:01,640
Speaker 7: all my state time. I walk out of prison, the

2369
01:43:01,720 --> 01:43:03,639
Speaker 7: fans waiting at the gate to lock me up.

2370
01:43:03,760 --> 01:43:06,000
Speaker 2: The fans locked me up. I go to the FEDS.

2371
01:43:06,040 --> 01:43:08,439
Speaker 7: When I go to the fares and finally get the discovery, y'all,

2372
01:43:08,439 --> 01:43:11,439
Speaker 7: I realized that because y'all went to the FEDS right

2373
01:43:11,479 --> 01:43:13,600
Speaker 7: while I was serving my time in the state, that

2374
01:43:13,720 --> 01:43:16,080
Speaker 7: y'all framed me to be the mastermind of this crime.

2375
01:43:16,160 --> 01:43:18,479
Speaker 8: Said, did y'all work for me? Y'all ain't worked for me.

2376
01:43:18,560 --> 01:43:19,479
Speaker 8: I was working for y'all.

2377
01:43:19,600 --> 01:43:23,320
Speaker 7: Okay, Now I never snitched everything y'all done. Enough where

2378
01:43:23,400 --> 01:43:24,679
Speaker 7: I'm out here trying to survive.

2379
01:43:25,400 --> 01:43:26,639
Speaker 2: I write my life story.

2380
01:43:27,080 --> 01:43:29,519
Speaker 7: If I write my life story, which is mine, and

2381
01:43:29,560 --> 01:43:31,439
Speaker 7: I'm telling the story, is that snitching?

2382
01:43:32,880 --> 01:43:35,440
Speaker 1: You did your time already.

2383
01:43:35,800 --> 01:43:39,400
Speaker 8: I some might some people might constitute it the snitching.

2384
01:43:39,439 --> 01:43:43,879
Speaker 6: But do you want I don't want my man to snitch.

2385
01:43:44,000 --> 01:43:52,240
Speaker 7: If he had, if he parted, if you did, if

2386
01:43:52,240 --> 01:43:54,080
Speaker 7: you did it, you got I took my leg. You

2387
01:43:54,120 --> 01:43:56,280
Speaker 7: gotta take your look if you what you snitching for me?

2388
01:43:56,840 --> 01:43:59,559
Speaker 7: But if you, if you, it's a nah. Don't nobody

2389
01:43:59,600 --> 01:44:06,200
Speaker 7: want to be no fucking rat. That last questions down

2390
01:44:06,240 --> 01:44:06,799
Speaker 7: the loyalty.

2391
01:44:06,840 --> 01:44:08,680
Speaker 4: It's a curiosity since we kind of talking not kind

2392
01:44:08,680 --> 01:44:10,760
Speaker 4: of we're talking about the black community, right, so why

2393
01:44:10,840 --> 01:44:14,280
Speaker 4: is it in like Latino in Italian culture. It's like

2394
01:44:14,360 --> 01:44:16,720
Speaker 4: not even a conversation. It's gonna be like I'm gonna

2395
01:44:16,760 --> 01:44:18,560
Speaker 4: tell you whatever I got to tell you. I'm not

2396
01:44:18,600 --> 01:44:20,559
Speaker 4: saying it's right. I'm just bringing up a question. Don't

2397
01:44:20,560 --> 01:44:22,400
Speaker 4: put it on me. I'm gonna tell you whatever you

2398
01:44:22,479 --> 01:44:24,160
Speaker 4: need to know to get back to my family.

2399
01:44:25,439 --> 01:44:28,240
Speaker 7: Different because they're not niggas, because they gonna go see

2400
01:44:28,280 --> 01:44:31,080
Speaker 7: about their family. They ain't gonna band in their motherfucking children.

2401
01:44:31,120 --> 01:44:33,240
Speaker 7: They gonna do whatever the fuck they got it are.

2402
01:44:34,000 --> 01:44:36,439
Speaker 3: Our mindset is somewhat each other.

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Speaker 7: We're gonna snitch on each other. We're gonna aboard our children.

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Speaker 7: We're gonna set up our Pottner to be motherfucking rob.

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Speaker 7: We're gonna leave our baby mama struggling.

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Speaker 2: We fucked up.

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Speaker 7: Okay at the end of the day, And and that

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Speaker 7: snitch and ship, I don't know because some people don't

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Speaker 7: lost their lives for being accused of being the snitch.

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Speaker 2: And then you come to find out after you donna.

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Speaker 7: Murk them that it wasn't even that nigga, it was

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Speaker 7: somebody else.

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Speaker 8: Like what is snitching of culture?

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