1 00:00:05,000 --> 00:00:09,320 Speaker 1: Hi. Uh. This week will not be a full episode 2 00:00:09,560 --> 00:00:12,719 Speaker 1: because it's Thanksgiving, and I just want to talk a 3 00:00:12,760 --> 00:00:16,599 Speaker 1: little bit about how Thanksgiving is definitely different this year. 4 00:00:16,920 --> 00:00:21,960 Speaker 1: People are obviously more insular, less social, but I think 5 00:00:21,960 --> 00:00:24,520 Speaker 1: people are craving a little bit of that love and 6 00:00:24,560 --> 00:00:29,840 Speaker 1: connectivity and making it their own. So thank you so 7 00:00:29,920 --> 00:00:32,920 Speaker 1: much for staying with me. This has been an incredible 8 00:00:33,080 --> 00:00:36,440 Speaker 1: experience that's been polarizing. There has been a lot of 9 00:00:36,479 --> 00:00:40,960 Speaker 1: controversial back and forth about guests of mine and things 10 00:00:41,000 --> 00:00:45,879 Speaker 1: said on here opinions. So keep it coming, uh. I 11 00:00:45,880 --> 00:00:48,320 Speaker 1: wonder what you're all doing for Thanksgiving. I have been 12 00:00:48,360 --> 00:00:52,519 Speaker 1: talking to bring my daughter about it, and she loves animals, 13 00:00:52,560 --> 00:00:56,440 Speaker 1: She really really loves animals. And she has told me 14 00:00:56,480 --> 00:00:59,120 Speaker 1: I forgot the number of turkeys that are slaughtered, and 15 00:00:59,120 --> 00:01:03,200 Speaker 1: she said millions, millions of turkeys. And I'm not mad 16 00:01:03,280 --> 00:01:05,800 Speaker 1: at turkey per se, and I don't love turkey. I 17 00:01:05,880 --> 00:01:08,120 Speaker 1: find that at the table, it's usually the thing that 18 00:01:08,160 --> 00:01:10,600 Speaker 1: people care the least about. I mean, there are some 19 00:01:10,680 --> 00:01:13,039 Speaker 1: grandfathers that really love the big drumstick, or people like 20 00:01:13,080 --> 00:01:15,400 Speaker 1: to find the wishbone, or I like the crispy skin, 21 00:01:15,560 --> 00:01:18,039 Speaker 1: et cetera. But By and large. It's the frying of 22 00:01:18,040 --> 00:01:20,160 Speaker 1: the turkey, the braising of the turkey, that the turd 23 00:01:20,240 --> 00:01:22,319 Speaker 1: duck in, the double stuffing the turkey, the stuffing the 24 00:01:22,319 --> 00:01:24,280 Speaker 1: turkey with a bird, with a dog, with a pig 25 00:01:24,319 --> 00:01:27,080 Speaker 1: with a stuffing, and do you stuff inside the turkey 26 00:01:27,160 --> 00:01:29,440 Speaker 1: or does that give you salmonella? Do you stuff after? 27 00:01:30,440 --> 00:01:34,520 Speaker 1: Is your stuffing rice? Is it corn bread? Is it 28 00:01:34,640 --> 00:01:37,679 Speaker 1: just bread crumbs? Is it day old bread? I mean 29 00:01:37,800 --> 00:01:39,800 Speaker 1: a lot of sort of controversy. Do you use the 30 00:01:39,800 --> 00:01:42,640 Speaker 1: cranberry in the in the can or do you hold 31 00:01:42,680 --> 00:01:47,040 Speaker 1: cranberry it um. So we have been talking for a 32 00:01:47,080 --> 00:01:49,840 Speaker 1: long time about making enchiladas together, just brind and I 33 00:01:49,960 --> 00:01:53,040 Speaker 1: just making enchiladas, our last thing with stuffed shells. And 34 00:01:53,080 --> 00:01:55,640 Speaker 1: I think we'll go to my friend's house who have 35 00:01:55,920 --> 00:01:58,600 Speaker 1: had the best family has been very careful and it's 36 00:01:58,640 --> 00:02:01,240 Speaker 1: just going to be them and their dogs. And they 37 00:02:01,240 --> 00:02:02,880 Speaker 1: say that we can bring Biggie and Smalls, and we're 38 00:02:02,920 --> 00:02:06,720 Speaker 1: talking about stopping over there. Uh, but we also were 39 00:02:06,760 --> 00:02:10,160 Speaker 1: talking about just bring myself Biggie Smalls, saying home and 40 00:02:10,200 --> 00:02:13,280 Speaker 1: making enchiladas. And truth be told, in the past, I 41 00:02:13,400 --> 00:02:17,120 Speaker 1: have on occasion stay at home by myself on Thanksgiving. 42 00:02:17,400 --> 00:02:20,200 Speaker 1: I never will admit it to anyone because then everybody 43 00:02:20,480 --> 00:02:22,000 Speaker 1: sort of it's the way that people were for my 44 00:02:22,000 --> 00:02:25,120 Speaker 1: fiftieth birthday, said that I don't a family and I'm alone, 45 00:02:25,160 --> 00:02:28,120 Speaker 1: and she's gonna feel sad and upset and depressed. The 46 00:02:28,160 --> 00:02:31,000 Speaker 1: truth is it's a day that you sort of reflect. 47 00:02:31,080 --> 00:02:35,639 Speaker 1: It's a calm day. Nothing's open. Uh. Sometimes it's nice 48 00:02:35,680 --> 00:02:39,079 Speaker 1: to just be. And you know, it hasn't just be 49 00:02:39,280 --> 00:02:41,560 Speaker 1: that sounds like a good name for a podcast. It 50 00:02:41,639 --> 00:02:45,040 Speaker 1: hasn't been meaningful when I've done that, except that it's 51 00:02:45,080 --> 00:02:49,160 Speaker 1: been sort of reflective and meditative. And so whatever Thanksgiving 52 00:02:49,240 --> 00:02:53,080 Speaker 1: is for you is right. It is actually just a day. 53 00:02:53,200 --> 00:02:55,440 Speaker 1: I mean, it's good to be thankful. It's great to 54 00:02:55,440 --> 00:02:58,040 Speaker 1: be thankful all the time. It's nice to connect with 55 00:02:58,080 --> 00:03:02,360 Speaker 1: other people. Although it may be largely by zoom, but 56 00:03:02,400 --> 00:03:03,920 Speaker 1: I don't think there should be a lot of pressure 57 00:03:03,960 --> 00:03:06,000 Speaker 1: attached to it. I think it should be to make 58 00:03:06,040 --> 00:03:08,800 Speaker 1: it meaningful. I remember one year I was really sad 59 00:03:08,919 --> 00:03:12,800 Speaker 1: when it was in the throes of some negativity surrounding 60 00:03:12,800 --> 00:03:14,840 Speaker 1: my divorce, and it was warm out and I just 61 00:03:14,960 --> 00:03:17,359 Speaker 1: walked straight into the ocean in my clothes in the 62 00:03:17,400 --> 00:03:20,680 Speaker 1: Hampton's I just needed to sort of cleanse myself on 63 00:03:20,800 --> 00:03:23,320 Speaker 1: Thanksgiving Day. I wanted to make it meaningful. I just 64 00:03:23,360 --> 00:03:25,880 Speaker 1: felt like I just needed to sort of refresh and 65 00:03:25,919 --> 00:03:30,400 Speaker 1: turn the page. And I think that whatever it is, 66 00:03:30,520 --> 00:03:32,760 Speaker 1: it will be good. It is a time that you 67 00:03:32,800 --> 00:03:37,240 Speaker 1: think about what we have, what other people don't have. 68 00:03:37,840 --> 00:03:41,320 Speaker 1: I definitely will think about my relief work, and there's 69 00:03:41,360 --> 00:03:44,760 Speaker 1: been so much tragedy and disaster. We'll think about politics, 70 00:03:44,800 --> 00:03:49,440 Speaker 1: I bet I'll think about I will think about lack 71 00:03:49,440 --> 00:03:53,360 Speaker 1: of family and lack of relationship. And one thing I 72 00:03:53,400 --> 00:03:55,880 Speaker 1: will say that friends of mine have thought is interesting 73 00:03:56,040 --> 00:03:59,280 Speaker 1: is the pressure of sort of if you're not if 74 00:03:59,320 --> 00:04:01,480 Speaker 1: you're not Mary Aid. I have a friend who, by 75 00:04:01,480 --> 00:04:03,800 Speaker 1: the way, won't be with her own husband on Thanksgiving 76 00:04:03,840 --> 00:04:06,680 Speaker 1: because her dad is very ill and in Europe and 77 00:04:06,720 --> 00:04:09,200 Speaker 1: she had to go there. So a lot of you know, 78 00:04:09,240 --> 00:04:12,560 Speaker 1: there will be a lot of dividing and sort of 79 00:04:13,760 --> 00:04:16,320 Speaker 1: just a different dynamic in where people need to be 80 00:04:17,640 --> 00:04:22,880 Speaker 1: regarding the pandemic and logistics and not putting other people 81 00:04:22,880 --> 00:04:25,479 Speaker 1: at risk. But in addition, people who are single and 82 00:04:25,520 --> 00:04:28,960 Speaker 1: don't have someone or or maybe in that gray area. 83 00:04:29,680 --> 00:04:32,400 Speaker 1: It's just not the year that you feel you could 84 00:04:32,400 --> 00:04:35,400 Speaker 1: feel bad about yourself because you're not with someone at Thanksgiving, 85 00:04:35,400 --> 00:04:37,320 Speaker 1: because you could even be in a good relationship, but 86 00:04:37,720 --> 00:04:40,120 Speaker 1: for whatever reason, everyone has to stay separate. I have 87 00:04:40,160 --> 00:04:41,440 Speaker 1: a friend that I won't see for the whole week 88 00:04:41,440 --> 00:04:43,080 Speaker 1: because she won't put her parents at risk and she's 89 00:04:43,120 --> 00:04:46,240 Speaker 1: in quarantine before. So it's sort of comforting in that 90 00:04:46,279 --> 00:04:51,240 Speaker 1: way to just say it's not usual year to practice 91 00:04:51,279 --> 00:04:54,240 Speaker 1: self care and try to rest and do the best 92 00:04:54,279 --> 00:04:57,760 Speaker 1: you can, but not to put any usual expectations on 93 00:04:57,800 --> 00:04:59,800 Speaker 1: this holiday, and maybe as a result of that will 94 00:04:59,800 --> 00:05:04,320 Speaker 1: all learn for future Thanksgivings. So I wish you love 95 00:05:04,520 --> 00:05:08,960 Speaker 1: and health and happiness and success and laughter, and this 96 00:05:09,080 --> 00:05:12,000 Speaker 1: too shall pass, and use it as a time of 97 00:05:12,040 --> 00:05:15,440 Speaker 1: reflection and a time to be grateful and just think 98 00:05:15,440 --> 00:05:18,479 Speaker 1: about the meaning of Thanksgiving, whatever that is for you. 99 00:05:18,680 --> 00:05:22,520 Speaker 1: So happy Thanksgiving to you, and I'll be back next week. 100 00:05:22,720 --> 00:05:24,680 Speaker 1: So thank you for supporting us.