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Speaker 1: the man behind cult hit TV show Freaks and Geeks,

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Speaker 1: his very chill travel style. I have never flown without

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Speaker 1: All right, well, I don't go that far, but I

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Speaker 1: do respect the effort. But first, I'm talking with Kristen Newman,

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Speaker 1: which is no relation to me, Brendan Newnham or Brandy

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Speaker 1: Was Doing While You Were Breeding And no, you are

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Speaker 1: not alone in thinking that's a great title. If I

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Speaker 1: so that's not only my right but my responsibility. The

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Speaker 1: I Was Doing While You Were Breeding, He immediately began laughing,

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Speaker 1: So yeah, I talked with Christen about her travels, her

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Speaker 1: why why do you want that? Why do you want

427
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Speaker 1: to hang on too? I mean, unless you like like

428
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Speaker 1: ruled when you were a teenager, I don't know who did,

429
00:23:07,556 --> 00:23:09,556
Speaker 1: why would you not want to jettison those and go like,

430
00:23:09,636 --> 00:23:12,316
Speaker 1: let's be grown ups and have grown up fun. You know.

431
00:23:12,476 --> 00:23:14,276
Speaker 1: That's the biggest thing about the book for me, is like,

432
00:23:14,316 --> 00:23:16,436
Speaker 1: it's fun to be a grown up, and I really

433
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Speaker 1: want to impress that on people. I'm with you. I

434
00:23:19,196 --> 00:23:21,716
Speaker 1: actually I'm thinking about that. Maybe Tony Hawk like he

435
00:23:21,876 --> 00:23:25,796
Speaker 1: can stay sixteen forever because apparently his genetics allow him exactly,

436
00:23:25,876 --> 00:23:27,636
Speaker 1: and he did have a pretty pretty good teen years.

437
00:23:27,636 --> 00:23:30,196
Speaker 1: But for the rest of us exactly, well you only

438
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Speaker 1: just just on that point. I think it was with

439
00:23:32,996 --> 00:23:36,596
Speaker 1: Richard E. Grant we had dinner name drop and thank you,

440
00:23:36,676 --> 00:23:41,076
Speaker 1: but I think I think it was him. He said, Basically, people,

441
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Speaker 1: especially guys, freeze at the age they got famous, you know,

442
00:23:47,116 --> 00:23:49,636
Speaker 1: so like if you got famous you're eighteen, you sort

443
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Speaker 1: of never mentally go past that, you know. So I

444
00:23:53,156 --> 00:23:55,916
Speaker 1: think I'm going to age gracefully because I've never been famous.

445
00:23:56,036 --> 00:23:58,996
Speaker 1: So there. So you travel a lot for work. Your

446
00:23:58,996 --> 00:24:01,476
Speaker 1: most recent film, The School for Good and Evil, came

447
00:24:01,476 --> 00:24:04,916
Speaker 1: out in October. It was shot in Northern Ireland, and

448
00:24:04,956 --> 00:24:07,796
Speaker 1: I'm thinking, like about this kind of grown up like atmosphere.

449
00:24:08,276 --> 00:24:10,876
Speaker 1: You know, it's cocktail, but it's dim light, it's good music,

450
00:24:10,916 --> 00:24:15,196
Speaker 1: it's conversation with other adults with out interruption. How do

451
00:24:15,236 --> 00:24:17,756
Speaker 1: you find that when you're going somewhere Like I know

452
00:24:17,836 --> 00:24:20,276
Speaker 1: you had a job to do a Northern Ireland, but

453
00:24:20,796 --> 00:24:22,796
Speaker 1: you know you had some weekends and some follow time,

454
00:24:22,836 --> 00:24:25,636
Speaker 1: Like do you do any advanced research for for bars?

455
00:24:25,916 --> 00:24:27,476
Speaker 1: Like how do you get how do you get your

456
00:24:27,556 --> 00:24:29,556
Speaker 1: reader usually I do. I do a lot of research

457
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Speaker 1: on where to eat, where to go, where where the

458
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Speaker 1: best bars are, like you said, but this was weird

459
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Speaker 1: because we were going in during lockdown, So so for

460
00:24:37,076 --> 00:24:40,356
Speaker 1: more than anything, it was like, where's the best liquor stores?

461
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Speaker 1: You know, who's got the best selection so I can

462
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Speaker 1: stock up the house, you know. And I got this

463
00:24:45,356 --> 00:24:48,396
Speaker 1: great apartment that had this huge kitchen, and so I

464
00:24:48,436 --> 00:24:50,836
Speaker 1: just decided I'm just gonna cook for people. So you know,

465
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Speaker 1: it's like, hey, you know, come on over and I'm

466
00:24:52,556 --> 00:24:54,596
Speaker 1: gonna just cook a chicken or whatever and let's just

467
00:24:54,596 --> 00:24:56,796
Speaker 1: sit around and have drinks and have fun. But yeah,

468
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Speaker 1: in general, my wife, Laurie, she's what we call the CEO,

469
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Speaker 1: the chief entertainment officer, because she will normally and during

470
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Speaker 1: a normal production period, we'll organize parties on the weekend

471
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Speaker 1: and usually she loved to find a body of water

472
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Speaker 1: and then we always have these kind of like boat parties,

473
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Speaker 1: you know, we go out food and drink and dance. Yeah,

474
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Speaker 1: it's really fun. So, yeah, how does film insurance work

475
00:25:18,876 --> 00:25:20,836
Speaker 1: when you're getting people drunk on a boat and it's

476
00:25:20,876 --> 00:25:25,716
Speaker 1: part of your Yeah, it's always a dicey proposition. All right. Well,

477
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Speaker 1: speaking of propositions, I believe the advertisers might have a

478
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Speaker 1: few for my audience, So I need to put a

479
00:25:33,276 --> 00:25:35,836
Speaker 1: break in here. But when I get back, will you

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Speaker 1: give me a hand answering travel questions submitted by our audience.

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00:25:39,636 --> 00:25:43,076
Speaker 1: I will give it a shot. Great, Okay, Not Lost Chat,

482
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Speaker 1: We'll be right back. All right, Welcome back to Not

483
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Speaker 1: Lost Chat. I am joined by writer, director and bomb

484
00:25:51,836 --> 00:25:55,436
Speaker 1: vivon Paul Feig, and we are now going to answer

485
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Speaker 1: your travel questions. Remember you can always submit your travel

486
00:25:59,196 --> 00:26:03,916
Speaker 1: questions to not Lost at pushkin dot FM. Are you ready, Paul?

487
00:26:04,236 --> 00:26:05,996
Speaker 1: Take everything I say with a grain of salt, people

488
00:26:06,036 --> 00:26:08,556
Speaker 1: out there, but bring it on. All right, Well, let

489
00:26:08,596 --> 00:26:12,996
Speaker 1: me find one here. Okay, I think I knew the

490
00:26:13,036 --> 00:26:14,796
Speaker 1: answer for this one, and it's not even on my list,

491
00:26:14,796 --> 00:26:16,676
Speaker 1: but it's always on my mind and it has been

492
00:26:17,636 --> 00:26:24,516
Speaker 1: out exactly. No, the question is airplanes dressing? What are

493
00:26:24,516 --> 00:26:27,476
Speaker 1: the rules of the road? You're talking? You're talking the

494
00:26:27,556 --> 00:26:29,836
Speaker 1: right guy for this. I've never flown without wearing a

495
00:26:29,876 --> 00:26:32,276
Speaker 1: suit and time I refused to do it. I just

496
00:26:32,356 --> 00:26:35,116
Speaker 1: because I you know, look, I get it. Share the

497
00:26:35,156 --> 00:26:38,196
Speaker 1: philosophy behind that. Yeah, Well I just think if you

498
00:26:38,276 --> 00:26:42,556
Speaker 1: lose respect for sort of miraculous things, and we've completely

499
00:26:42,916 --> 00:26:46,316
Speaker 1: forgotten that, like flying is a miracle that we can

500
00:26:46,356 --> 00:26:49,236
Speaker 1: do it, you know, And so to me, it's just like,

501
00:26:49,396 --> 00:26:53,316
Speaker 1: why would you treat it like anything other than that.

502
00:26:53,916 --> 00:26:56,276
Speaker 1: I get it, you know, you go through security and

503
00:26:56,316 --> 00:26:58,236
Speaker 1: the tear you to part and all that stuff, so

504
00:26:58,276 --> 00:26:59,956
Speaker 1: it's much easier to have the sweatpants and be able

505
00:26:59,956 --> 00:27:01,996
Speaker 1: to knock off your flip flops. But at the same time,

506
00:27:02,316 --> 00:27:05,156
Speaker 1: is that really the image you want to present to

507
00:27:05,196 --> 00:27:08,876
Speaker 1: the world when you're flying. I just I like that pageantry,

508
00:27:08,876 --> 00:27:11,036
Speaker 1: and I I mean, all I know is every time

509
00:27:11,076 --> 00:27:13,716
Speaker 1: I fly, everybody the airports, all the flight attendants, everybody

510
00:27:13,876 --> 00:27:15,716
Speaker 1: just like, oh my god, you should dressed up. That's

511
00:27:15,716 --> 00:27:18,476
Speaker 1: so nice, Like they appreciate it, you know. Yeah, I

512
00:27:18,756 --> 00:27:20,956
Speaker 1: think there's just something nice about it. And from a

513
00:27:20,996 --> 00:27:23,396
Speaker 1: practical point of view, it's one less suit you have

514
00:27:23,436 --> 00:27:25,476
Speaker 1: to pack, So there you go. I think having kind

515
00:27:25,476 --> 00:27:28,316
Speaker 1: of a uniform when you arrive someplace and then you

516
00:27:28,356 --> 00:27:30,276
Speaker 1: get to your hotel and then you want to go

517
00:27:30,356 --> 00:27:32,476
Speaker 1: downstairs and have a drink, you can change out of

518
00:27:32,556 --> 00:27:34,756
Speaker 1: your kind of travel armor. I agree, And then you

519
00:27:34,796 --> 00:27:36,516
Speaker 1: decide your mode. If you want to exercise, you put

520
00:27:36,516 --> 00:27:38,676
Speaker 1: on your exercise clothes. If you want to, you know,

521
00:27:38,836 --> 00:27:41,196
Speaker 1: go take a walk, maybe you put on sneakers. But yeah,

522
00:27:41,396 --> 00:27:43,916
Speaker 1: if you're always dressed the exact same way all the time,

523
00:27:43,956 --> 00:27:46,756
Speaker 1: there's no delineation point in your day. I'm so with you.

524
00:27:46,876 --> 00:27:50,876
Speaker 1: Years ago, I wrote an article for Esquire called responsible Tourism,

525
00:27:51,076 --> 00:27:54,036
Speaker 1: and the idea behind it is, well, we go on vacation.

526
00:27:54,636 --> 00:27:57,436
Speaker 1: We're all the background for everybody else's vacation photos and

527
00:27:57,556 --> 00:28:01,076
Speaker 1: vacation in general. You know, So that's that's an interesting Yeah. So,

528
00:28:01,116 --> 00:28:03,356
Speaker 1: like we go to Capri, you know, which we love,

529
00:28:03,636 --> 00:28:05,516
Speaker 1: and I always wear something nice, some kind of like

530
00:28:05,596 --> 00:28:08,756
Speaker 1: vacation wear or something, you know, jacket, And when we're

531
00:28:08,756 --> 00:28:10,476
Speaker 1: taking picture and I got a bunch of people in

532
00:28:10,516 --> 00:28:14,676
Speaker 1: like tiva's and cargo shorts and all that behind me,

533
00:28:14,716 --> 00:28:16,876
Speaker 1: it's like, well, now you've ruined my movie. I made

534
00:28:16,916 --> 00:28:19,356
Speaker 1: your movie look really good because they're like, oh look

535
00:28:19,356 --> 00:28:21,676
Speaker 1: how classy that is. And I got I'm stick with you. Yeah,

536
00:28:21,756 --> 00:28:25,236
Speaker 1: so yeah, you're messing up the scenes. That is interesting. Yeah,

537
00:28:25,476 --> 00:28:27,556
Speaker 1: all right, I have some actual questions now that aren't

538
00:28:27,556 --> 00:28:29,916
Speaker 1: just my arm. This one comes from Greta in New

539
00:28:29,996 --> 00:28:34,116
Speaker 1: York City, and she writes, generally, when we travel, my

540
00:28:34,196 --> 00:28:37,236
Speaker 1: husband thinks we should book the cheapest possible hotel room.

541
00:28:37,276 --> 00:28:39,276
Speaker 1: After all, he says, we're only going to be sleeping there.

542
00:28:39,756 --> 00:28:42,676
Speaker 1: I disagree. I want the place we are staying, even

543
00:28:42,716 --> 00:28:45,316
Speaker 1: just for a night, to have a great vibe. Who

544
00:28:45,396 --> 00:28:49,156
Speaker 1: is right? Lol? Stakes are medium, but she has she

545
00:28:49,196 --> 00:28:51,996
Speaker 1: has a good question. I say, Greta's right by all means.

546
00:28:52,316 --> 00:28:53,876
Speaker 1: I mean, look, it is true. And my wife and

547
00:28:53,916 --> 00:28:56,676
Speaker 1: I grapple with that sometimes too, because you know, sometimes

548
00:28:56,676 --> 00:28:58,956
Speaker 1: you'll get a chance to get like a really good room,

549
00:28:59,316 --> 00:29:00,516
Speaker 1: and it's like, are we going to be in it

550
00:29:00,716 --> 00:29:02,956
Speaker 1: enough to use it? But it's also the bed you're

551
00:29:02,996 --> 00:29:04,836
Speaker 1: gonna be on, the sheets that they're gonna have, what

552
00:29:04,916 --> 00:29:07,116
Speaker 1: the bathroom's gonna be, like, how they take care of you?

553
00:29:07,356 --> 00:29:09,676
Speaker 1: Now it's yeah, I mean, you know, as much as

554
00:29:09,676 --> 00:29:12,116
Speaker 1: you can. And I'm not saying, like, you know, go bankrupt,

555
00:29:12,156 --> 00:29:15,036
Speaker 1: but if you can afford it, get get the nicest

556
00:29:15,076 --> 00:29:16,956
Speaker 1: room you can afford. That doesn't, you know, put you

557
00:29:16,956 --> 00:29:19,516
Speaker 1: in trouble. Yeah, I think it's good. Yeah, it's because

558
00:29:19,556 --> 00:29:23,076
Speaker 1: it's a holistic experience, and sometimes you end up spending

559
00:29:23,116 --> 00:29:25,076
Speaker 1: more time than you want, or maybe you're happy to

560
00:29:25,116 --> 00:29:26,996
Speaker 1: spend more time in your hotel room. Yeah, so there

561
00:29:27,036 --> 00:29:29,636
Speaker 1: you go, Greta, that's that's our guidance for you. There

562
00:29:29,676 --> 00:29:32,996
Speaker 1: you go. Okay. This question comes from Maya and she asks,

563
00:29:33,636 --> 00:29:35,836
Speaker 1: if you're traveling with someone, is it okay if you

564
00:29:35,956 --> 00:29:38,836
Speaker 1: both want to do something different? Is it okay to

565
00:29:38,916 --> 00:29:40,596
Speaker 1: part ways for a bit on the trip to do

566
00:29:40,676 --> 00:29:42,916
Speaker 1: your own thing? Yes? Yes. My wife and I've been

567
00:29:42,916 --> 00:29:45,316
Speaker 1: married for twenty eight years, twenty eight happy years, together

568
00:29:45,356 --> 00:29:49,036
Speaker 1: for thirty two and you're like thirty four years old week.

569
00:29:49,276 --> 00:29:51,636
Speaker 1: I met her in the maternity ward when I was just,

570
00:29:52,636 --> 00:29:55,836
Speaker 1: I mean, creepy but beautiful exactly. So we always say

571
00:29:55,916 --> 00:29:59,916
Speaker 1: that the most successful relationships are where you're not tied

572
00:29:59,916 --> 00:30:01,956
Speaker 1: at the hip. You have to be able to spend

573
00:30:02,196 --> 00:30:05,756
Speaker 1: time apart, because look, I'm saying, there's probably couples have

574
00:30:05,796 --> 00:30:07,316
Speaker 1: been married for fifty years and never been out of

575
00:30:07,316 --> 00:30:09,836
Speaker 1: each other's sight. But I think that's a that's a

576
00:30:09,836 --> 00:30:12,796
Speaker 1: lot of pressure to put on on a relationship. And

577
00:30:13,076 --> 00:30:14,756
Speaker 1: it's worse if you go like one person wants to

578
00:30:14,796 --> 00:30:17,636
Speaker 1: do someone that a person doesn't really and you go

579
00:30:17,756 --> 00:30:20,156
Speaker 1: together and that person's like, you know, having a bad

580
00:30:20,196 --> 00:30:22,516
Speaker 1: time or being a downer, you're gonna have the big

581
00:30:22,556 --> 00:30:25,356
Speaker 1: fight versus if you just go off, have the greatest time.

582
00:30:25,436 --> 00:30:27,516
Speaker 1: Come back. You got stuff to talk about dinner? What

583
00:30:27,556 --> 00:30:30,516
Speaker 1: you did? You know? Yeah, get somebody a little present

584
00:30:30,516 --> 00:30:32,196
Speaker 1: while you're out, so then you can surprise, like, oh

585
00:30:32,236 --> 00:30:33,836
Speaker 1: look what I picked up when I was out. You know,

586
00:30:33,916 --> 00:30:35,916
Speaker 1: make it a fun thing. But but yeah, don't be

587
00:30:35,956 --> 00:30:38,036
Speaker 1: tied to the hid and and just the low level

588
00:30:38,116 --> 00:30:40,676
Speaker 1: tension you have. Bringing someone to museum that they were

589
00:30:40,676 --> 00:30:44,116
Speaker 1: ambivalent about almost undermines the whole trip for you. And

590
00:30:44,276 --> 00:30:47,636
Speaker 1: you're there all day. There's three meals, four five opportunities

591
00:30:47,636 --> 00:30:50,076
Speaker 1: to drink and eat. Yeah, you can always mix it up.

592
00:30:50,156 --> 00:30:54,276
Speaker 1: So yeah, I say, may I feel comfortable breaking away

593
00:30:54,316 --> 00:30:56,916
Speaker 1: from whoever it is. Yeah. I've heard a lot of

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00:30:56,916 --> 00:30:59,556
Speaker 1: fights in places of like, oh you're actually you don't

595
00:30:59,556 --> 00:31:01,796
Speaker 1: want to be here. It's like, oh God, I'm like, oh,

596
00:31:01,876 --> 00:31:03,956
Speaker 1: I bet I bet that person didn't want to be there.

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00:31:04,796 --> 00:31:06,436
Speaker 1: All right, Paulicians, you're so good at this. I'm gonna

598
00:31:06,436 --> 00:31:07,876
Speaker 1: throw one more out at you. I love this just

599
00:31:07,956 --> 00:31:11,756
Speaker 1: from Ashley from maryl Astley writes, I've always been nervous

600
00:31:11,796 --> 00:31:14,236
Speaker 1: about asking folks in the security line about cutting in

601
00:31:14,236 --> 00:31:16,036
Speaker 1: front of them when I'm running late for a flight.

602
00:31:16,476 --> 00:31:18,836
Speaker 1: I've never skipped a line, and I've miss flights because

603
00:31:18,876 --> 00:31:20,996
Speaker 1: of it. When do you think it's acceptable to cut

604
00:31:21,036 --> 00:31:24,396
Speaker 1: the line? What's the best way to ask the folks

605
00:31:24,396 --> 00:31:29,836
Speaker 1: in line. I'm with her, like, I'm really I don't

606
00:31:29,876 --> 00:31:32,156
Speaker 1: like to do that, you know, especially on my own.

607
00:31:32,316 --> 00:31:34,476
Speaker 1: What the times I've been able to do it is

608
00:31:34,516 --> 00:31:36,836
Speaker 1: when somebody who works at the airport and you're like,

609
00:31:37,156 --> 00:31:39,076
Speaker 1: before you get in the line, you're like, I'm in trouble,

610
00:31:39,436 --> 00:31:41,636
Speaker 1: we got held up or whatever, could you help me?

611
00:31:41,796 --> 00:31:43,956
Speaker 1: They will generally do it when you're doing it yourself.

612
00:31:44,156 --> 00:31:45,636
Speaker 1: I don't when people ask me is I was like,

613
00:31:46,036 --> 00:31:47,916
Speaker 1: all right, you know my head, I'm like, well you

614
00:31:47,916 --> 00:31:50,316
Speaker 1: should have got here, not like you know, that's on

615
00:31:50,476 --> 00:31:53,156
Speaker 1: you for That's a little bit of the thing. I

616
00:31:53,156 --> 00:31:55,876
Speaker 1: think you're right if you can have an escort, okay,

617
00:31:55,916 --> 00:31:58,076
Speaker 1: But otherwise, no matter what you say, no one's gonna

618
00:31:58,076 --> 00:32:01,556
Speaker 1: believe you. Everyone's gonna be resentful. Even Gandhi would be

619
00:32:01,596 --> 00:32:04,716
Speaker 1: angry in a security line if someone starts barging up

620
00:32:04,716 --> 00:32:07,276
Speaker 1: the path. Yeah, exactly, I did like the picture though

621
00:32:07,316 --> 00:32:10,156
Speaker 1: of you, you know, coming in late but dressed like

622
00:32:10,196 --> 00:32:12,916
Speaker 1: you are for the airport, like oh great, you know,

623
00:32:12,996 --> 00:32:15,596
Speaker 1: like James Bond. It needs to cut in front of me. Oh,

624
00:32:15,636 --> 00:32:18,516
Speaker 1: I know, like the rich guys getting in here. It's like, no,

625
00:32:19,436 --> 00:32:21,396
Speaker 1: I didn't want to pack my suit. I swear, I'm

626
00:32:21,396 --> 00:32:23,476
Speaker 1: not a jerk. I was running late because we liked

627
00:32:23,476 --> 00:32:25,796
Speaker 1: our hotel rooms. It's right. I couldn't get out of

628
00:32:25,796 --> 00:32:28,316
Speaker 1: the room. I was student. I was emptying the mini

629
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Speaker 1: bar Um. Paul, thank you so much for helping with

630
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Speaker 1: our etiquette questions or travel etiquette questions. Love and this

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00:32:36,196 --> 00:32:38,116
Speaker 1: is a wonderful chat. Thank you so much. It's great.

632
00:32:38,276 --> 00:32:39,916
Speaker 1: Great Jude talk to you. There's a lot of fun.

633
00:32:44,636 --> 00:32:47,276
Speaker 1: That was Paul fig check out his new film The

634
00:32:47,356 --> 00:32:49,836
Speaker 1: School for Good and Evil, which I don't think it's

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