1 00:00:01,000 --> 00:00:03,760 Speaker 1: It's time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if you 2 00:00:03,800 --> 00:00:07,760 Speaker 1: need advice on relationships, dating, works, sex, parenting, and more, 3 00:00:08,119 --> 00:00:11,280 Speaker 1: please submit your Strawberry letter to Steve BARBFM dot com 4 00:00:11,320 --> 00:00:14,960 Speaker 1: and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your 5 00:00:15,040 --> 00:00:17,239 Speaker 1: letter live on the air, just like we're going to 6 00:00:17,320 --> 00:00:20,040 Speaker 1: read this one right here, right now. You never know, 7 00:00:20,120 --> 00:00:23,560 Speaker 1: it could be yours. M H. 8 00:00:23,920 --> 00:00:26,000 Speaker 2: All right, everybody, buck love and hold on tight. 9 00:00:26,040 --> 00:00:29,000 Speaker 3: It's time for a strawberry little my friend Shirlie Straupberry. 10 00:00:29,320 --> 00:00:33,519 Speaker 1: Thank you, my friend Junior. It's subject. 11 00:00:33,120 --> 00:00:34,640 Speaker 2: I know what happened. 12 00:00:34,840 --> 00:00:37,519 Speaker 1: His ex wife got a real Christmas tree is the 13 00:00:37,560 --> 00:00:42,160 Speaker 1: subject of this letter for today. Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm 14 00:00:42,200 --> 00:00:45,280 Speaker 1: on my second marriage, and there's an issue in my marriage. 15 00:00:45,400 --> 00:00:48,120 Speaker 1: My husband was married for eighteen years and he's got 16 00:00:48,120 --> 00:00:51,199 Speaker 1: two daughters and joint custody of them. I have a 17 00:00:51,280 --> 00:00:54,480 Speaker 1: daughter that lives with us. We've blended the family nicely, 18 00:00:54,760 --> 00:00:57,639 Speaker 1: and his daughters are sweet to my daughter, but they 19 00:00:57,800 --> 00:01:00,840 Speaker 1: like to remind her that their father is her father. 20 00:01:01,280 --> 00:01:04,080 Speaker 1: My husband is not good at setting boundaries for his 21 00:01:04,200 --> 00:01:07,440 Speaker 1: ex wife. When we started dating, he let me know 22 00:01:07,520 --> 00:01:10,000 Speaker 1: that he and his ex are friends and whatever he 23 00:01:10,120 --> 00:01:13,600 Speaker 1: does for her is for his daughters. I can accept that, 24 00:01:13,880 --> 00:01:16,039 Speaker 1: but when it gets to be too much, I step 25 00:01:16,120 --> 00:01:19,440 Speaker 1: in to help him set boundaries. The other day, he 26 00:01:19,560 --> 00:01:22,520 Speaker 1: told me that since his ex wife and the girls 27 00:01:22,560 --> 00:01:24,920 Speaker 1: moved into a new house, he wanted to buy his 28 00:01:25,040 --> 00:01:29,080 Speaker 1: daughter's a nice Christmas tree. I was against it, but 29 00:01:29,160 --> 00:01:33,679 Speaker 1: then I realized his daughter's feelings. Then I considered his 30 00:01:33,840 --> 00:01:36,480 Speaker 1: daughter's feelings and I agree to it. We got a 31 00:01:36,480 --> 00:01:39,480 Speaker 1: little seven foot artificial tree out of the storage room, 32 00:01:39,480 --> 00:01:43,440 Speaker 1: and I went and bought new ornaments. Saturday, he told 33 00:01:43,480 --> 00:01:46,000 Speaker 1: me he was picking up his daughters to get a tree, 34 00:01:46,440 --> 00:01:49,680 Speaker 1: and he took my daughter with them. I wasn't invited. 35 00:01:50,160 --> 00:01:53,160 Speaker 1: Two hours after they left, my daughter posted a video 36 00:01:53,240 --> 00:01:56,520 Speaker 1: in her Instagram story and they were shopping for a 37 00:01:56,640 --> 00:02:01,440 Speaker 1: real tree. They picked a giant, beautiful, room fluffy tree. 38 00:02:01,600 --> 00:02:04,040 Speaker 1: I had assumed they would go to Walmart and buy 39 00:02:04,040 --> 00:02:07,160 Speaker 1: an artificial tree. My daughter said they took the tree 40 00:02:07,200 --> 00:02:09,880 Speaker 1: to his ex wife's house and he set it up 41 00:02:09,880 --> 00:02:11,440 Speaker 1: for them. He set it up for them and they 42 00:02:11,480 --> 00:02:15,240 Speaker 1: decorated it together. I was crushed because I decorated our 43 00:02:15,280 --> 00:02:19,040 Speaker 1: fake tree alone while they were gone. My husband always 44 00:02:19,240 --> 00:02:22,600 Speaker 1: justifies things by saying that his daughter shouldn't suffer because 45 00:02:22,639 --> 00:02:25,640 Speaker 1: he left their mother. Does he do it out of guilt? 46 00:02:25,840 --> 00:02:29,840 Speaker 1: Will his ex wife be forever a part of our family? 47 00:02:29,960 --> 00:02:33,400 Speaker 1: Well yeah, in a sense. She may not be a 48 00:02:33,440 --> 00:02:36,320 Speaker 1: part of your family. Okay, but she is the mother 49 00:02:36,400 --> 00:02:40,600 Speaker 1: of your husband's daughters, and those are your stepdaughters. So 50 00:02:40,880 --> 00:02:44,079 Speaker 1: the ex will always be in your life somehow. Okay, 51 00:02:44,080 --> 00:02:46,919 Speaker 1: as long as you know she's got the daughters and everything. 52 00:02:49,040 --> 00:02:51,600 Speaker 1: You know. My issue is with you though, really, I mean, 53 00:02:51,639 --> 00:02:54,079 Speaker 1: this is kind of petty. You're worried about a Christmas 54 00:02:54,160 --> 00:02:57,120 Speaker 1: tree here. I think you're saying it's about that, but 55 00:02:57,240 --> 00:02:59,160 Speaker 1: what it really is is that you don't want your 56 00:02:59,240 --> 00:03:01,560 Speaker 1: man over there, and you don't want him over there 57 00:03:01,639 --> 00:03:04,440 Speaker 1: doing stuff for them like putting up the tree as 58 00:03:04,480 --> 00:03:08,800 Speaker 1: a family. I think you're jealous when where this is concerned. 59 00:03:09,160 --> 00:03:12,040 Speaker 1: But I'm telling you don't be insecure. Because he still 60 00:03:12,040 --> 00:03:14,600 Speaker 1: wants to spend time with his daughters. That means he's 61 00:03:14,639 --> 00:03:17,959 Speaker 1: a good dad. Okay. He's right, he left their mom, 62 00:03:18,240 --> 00:03:21,240 Speaker 1: not his kids, so he wants to continue to show 63 00:03:21,320 --> 00:03:24,720 Speaker 1: up in their life for them as their father. He 64 00:03:24,880 --> 00:03:27,600 Speaker 1: and the ex don't have anything going on. I mean, 65 00:03:28,120 --> 00:03:31,040 Speaker 1: if you guys can afford it, why don't you, you know, 66 00:03:31,160 --> 00:03:33,800 Speaker 1: if there's something wrong with your tree, why don't you 67 00:03:34,040 --> 00:03:36,160 Speaker 1: and your husband and the girls go out and get 68 00:03:36,160 --> 00:03:38,520 Speaker 1: a tree. You didn't have to stay there and decorate 69 00:03:38,560 --> 00:03:41,320 Speaker 1: the tree by yourself. You could have waited until they 70 00:03:41,360 --> 00:03:43,400 Speaker 1: came home and you guys could have done it together. 71 00:03:44,360 --> 00:03:46,760 Speaker 1: You know, he just went with the girls to get 72 00:03:46,760 --> 00:03:49,040 Speaker 1: a new tree. You need to talk to him if 73 00:03:49,040 --> 00:03:51,240 Speaker 1: you have a problem with how he's moving right now. 74 00:03:51,400 --> 00:03:53,400 Speaker 1: But he sounds like a father who's just trying to 75 00:03:53,400 --> 00:03:54,119 Speaker 1: do the right thing. 76 00:03:54,240 --> 00:03:54,480 Speaker 3: To me. 77 00:03:55,120 --> 00:03:58,040 Speaker 1: As crazy as that all seems, it sounds. Yeah, I 78 00:03:58,040 --> 00:04:00,000 Speaker 1: don't have a problem with this, Steve. 79 00:04:01,440 --> 00:04:04,320 Speaker 2: Well, it's a twofold situation. 80 00:04:04,520 --> 00:04:08,080 Speaker 3: In my eyes, he's being a good dad and he's 81 00:04:08,120 --> 00:04:11,520 Speaker 3: being punished for that. But he's doing it, and he's 82 00:04:11,560 --> 00:04:14,080 Speaker 3: making a couple of mistakes the way he's doing it. 83 00:04:15,840 --> 00:04:19,400 Speaker 3: You know, first of all, when y'all this is both 84 00:04:19,440 --> 00:04:23,400 Speaker 3: of y'all second marriage, he set this whole thing up 85 00:04:23,480 --> 00:04:29,800 Speaker 3: by telling you that, you know, look, but I'm gonna 86 00:04:29,800 --> 00:04:33,719 Speaker 3: do stuff with a daughter, and I'm gonna do stuff 87 00:04:33,760 --> 00:04:35,520 Speaker 3: for my daughter, and I'm gonna do stuff for her. 88 00:04:35,920 --> 00:04:37,479 Speaker 2: But the reason I'm doing it for her, is for 89 00:04:37,560 --> 00:04:38,039 Speaker 2: my daughter. 90 00:04:38,960 --> 00:04:40,719 Speaker 3: He set all of this up with you in the 91 00:04:40,760 --> 00:04:44,960 Speaker 3: beginning because he's active in that life as he should be. 92 00:04:45,880 --> 00:04:47,920 Speaker 3: Now you all say you all have blended the family 93 00:04:47,960 --> 00:04:50,440 Speaker 3: together nicely. But the daughters are sweet to your daughter, 94 00:04:50,440 --> 00:04:52,920 Speaker 3: but they always remind her that ain't your daddy. They 95 00:04:52,960 --> 00:04:56,159 Speaker 3: do that. Kid's gonna be kids. They're gonna jockey for position. 96 00:04:57,600 --> 00:05:00,560 Speaker 3: Your husband is not good with setting bound for his 97 00:05:00,680 --> 00:05:05,800 Speaker 3: ex wife, and his ex wife is flexing because she 98 00:05:06,120 --> 00:05:11,280 Speaker 3: has two kids with him and she's taking advantage of it. Now, 99 00:05:11,320 --> 00:05:13,480 Speaker 3: let's get to the whole thing about what this letter 100 00:05:13,520 --> 00:05:17,640 Speaker 3: is about. His ex got a real Christmas tree. First 101 00:05:17,720 --> 00:05:21,200 Speaker 3: of all, when he picked up the daughter, when he 102 00:05:21,279 --> 00:05:25,040 Speaker 3: picked up his two daughters, and he took your daughter. 103 00:05:27,000 --> 00:05:30,719 Speaker 3: He took your daughter, which is his daughter, which is 104 00:05:31,240 --> 00:05:35,400 Speaker 3: to with his biological daughters, because he wanted to get 105 00:05:35,440 --> 00:05:40,839 Speaker 3: them a tree because they had moved into a new house. Well, 106 00:05:40,920 --> 00:05:45,200 Speaker 3: now here the problem you made though when you took 107 00:05:45,279 --> 00:05:50,760 Speaker 3: your daughter from your new wife with you, and she 108 00:05:50,920 --> 00:05:51,640 Speaker 3: posted it. 109 00:05:51,560 --> 00:05:52,520 Speaker 2: On a story. 110 00:05:53,520 --> 00:05:57,960 Speaker 3: So I'm assuming that these these might be teenage kids 111 00:05:58,000 --> 00:06:00,000 Speaker 3: if they can post on stories and stuff. 112 00:06:00,600 --> 00:06:03,440 Speaker 1: Wait a minute, what did you say, wait, say that 113 00:06:03,480 --> 00:06:10,159 Speaker 1: one more time, Steve, about the daughters. What I just 114 00:06:10,200 --> 00:06:11,800 Speaker 1: wanted you to say that one more time. What you 115 00:06:11,839 --> 00:06:15,000 Speaker 1: said about the daughters. He has two daughters with his ex. 116 00:06:15,360 --> 00:06:17,480 Speaker 1: He has two daughters with his ex, and then the 117 00:06:17,520 --> 00:06:20,000 Speaker 1: wife had a daughter. The new wife has a second 118 00:06:20,040 --> 00:06:20,840 Speaker 1: wife has a daughter. 119 00:06:20,960 --> 00:06:23,320 Speaker 2: Okay, well see, and that's his daughter. 120 00:06:25,160 --> 00:06:29,040 Speaker 3: He has three daughters, now, yeah, right right, separate them. 121 00:06:29,320 --> 00:06:32,800 Speaker 2: If you separate them, they will help you separate that. Yeah, yeah, 122 00:06:32,800 --> 00:06:34,240 Speaker 2: maybe that's what the deal is. 123 00:06:34,279 --> 00:06:36,120 Speaker 3: When I come back, I'm gonna tell you the mistake 124 00:06:36,200 --> 00:06:38,839 Speaker 3: he's making with this. He's a great dad, but he's 125 00:06:38,839 --> 00:06:39,600 Speaker 3: making a mistakes. 126 00:06:40,080 --> 00:06:40,440 Speaker 2: All right. 127 00:06:40,520 --> 00:06:43,440 Speaker 1: We'll have part two of Steve's response coming up at 128 00:06:43,440 --> 00:06:47,320 Speaker 1: twenty three minutes after the hour. Today's Strawberry letter, subject 129 00:06:47,480 --> 00:06:50,279 Speaker 1: is his ex wife got a real Christmas tree. We'll 130 00:06:50,279 --> 00:06:54,560 Speaker 1: get back into it right after this. You're listening hard 131 00:06:54,720 --> 00:06:57,800 Speaker 1: Morning show. All right, Steve, come on, let's recap today's 132 00:06:57,800 --> 00:07:00,679 Speaker 1: Strawberry letter. The subject his ex wife got a real 133 00:07:00,800 --> 00:07:01,600 Speaker 1: Christmas tree. 134 00:07:01,920 --> 00:07:04,120 Speaker 2: Okay, So on the break, I read this letter again. 135 00:07:04,320 --> 00:07:05,000 Speaker 2: This marriage. 136 00:07:05,080 --> 00:07:07,320 Speaker 3: This man was married to this woman for eighteen years 137 00:07:07,320 --> 00:07:10,000 Speaker 3: and they got two daughters. His ex wife was married 138 00:07:10,040 --> 00:07:11,520 Speaker 3: eighteen years and they got two daughters. 139 00:07:11,560 --> 00:07:13,120 Speaker 2: So I'm going to assume that these. 140 00:07:13,000 --> 00:07:16,440 Speaker 3: Two daughters are teenager, yeah, because they got Instagram and 141 00:07:16,480 --> 00:07:17,600 Speaker 3: they posted stories. 142 00:07:18,600 --> 00:07:18,680 Speaker 1: You. 143 00:07:19,520 --> 00:07:22,480 Speaker 3: She the woman he's married to now, who's writing this letter. 144 00:07:23,000 --> 00:07:26,560 Speaker 3: She has a daughter from her previous marriage. I don't 145 00:07:26,600 --> 00:07:29,840 Speaker 3: know how old she is, but they treat her nicely, 146 00:07:30,600 --> 00:07:32,560 Speaker 3: but they do remind her that. 147 00:07:32,840 --> 00:07:35,640 Speaker 2: He's not your real daddy. That's our real daddy. 148 00:07:36,280 --> 00:07:38,239 Speaker 3: But they treat her nicely, and you all have blend 149 00:07:38,360 --> 00:07:39,720 Speaker 3: and they're sweet to the girl. 150 00:07:39,760 --> 00:07:43,040 Speaker 2: Okay. Cool, So we got that out the way. Now. 151 00:07:43,080 --> 00:07:45,840 Speaker 3: The man set this up by telling you, listen, I'm 152 00:07:45,840 --> 00:07:48,360 Speaker 3: gonna do some things for my wife, my ex wife, 153 00:07:48,400 --> 00:07:51,400 Speaker 3: because we're friends, but everything I do first because of 154 00:07:51,480 --> 00:07:54,800 Speaker 3: the daughters. You okay with that. Now let's get to 155 00:07:54,880 --> 00:07:59,000 Speaker 3: what the problem is. It's a Christmas tree. He the 156 00:07:59,120 --> 00:08:01,880 Speaker 3: ex wife and the two daughters that moved into a 157 00:08:01,920 --> 00:08:04,840 Speaker 3: new house. He wants to get them a nice tree 158 00:08:04,920 --> 00:08:10,680 Speaker 3: for their house for Christmas. Okay, So he takes your daughter, 159 00:08:10,880 --> 00:08:16,360 Speaker 3: which is his daughter from this marriage, Christmas tree shopping 160 00:08:17,240 --> 00:08:20,440 Speaker 3: with his daughters from his previous marriage. 161 00:08:19,920 --> 00:08:23,559 Speaker 2: And he goes and buys them a real Christmas tree 162 00:08:24,240 --> 00:08:25,680 Speaker 2: big old fluffy tree. 163 00:08:26,520 --> 00:08:28,720 Speaker 3: You'd have went to the storage room and went out 164 00:08:28,760 --> 00:08:32,560 Speaker 3: there and got that little ragged ass Sears tree seven. 165 00:08:32,320 --> 00:08:36,480 Speaker 2: Feet call in the box, man. 166 00:08:36,040 --> 00:08:38,920 Speaker 3: That's in the box that you've been putting up for years. 167 00:08:40,600 --> 00:08:46,680 Speaker 3: And so now you bought some ornaments for the tree, 168 00:08:47,080 --> 00:08:48,319 Speaker 3: some new ornaments. 169 00:08:48,640 --> 00:08:49,840 Speaker 2: They went tree shopping. 170 00:08:50,280 --> 00:08:55,720 Speaker 3: You look on Instagram, your daughter that posted they bought 171 00:08:55,720 --> 00:08:59,240 Speaker 3: a tree. They take the tree to his ex wife's 172 00:08:59,280 --> 00:09:02,640 Speaker 3: house where his daughters live. They set the tree up 173 00:09:02,960 --> 00:09:06,560 Speaker 3: and they all decorated. Now you said earlier they were 174 00:09:06,640 --> 00:09:10,320 Speaker 3: Christmas tree shopping and you weren't invited. Okay, it was 175 00:09:10,360 --> 00:09:13,520 Speaker 3: just him and the girls. So that's cool because the 176 00:09:13,520 --> 00:09:15,880 Speaker 3: tree is for the girls. But it's at the ex 177 00:09:15,960 --> 00:09:21,000 Speaker 3: wife's house. I mean that's what they said. So in 178 00:09:21,000 --> 00:09:24,600 Speaker 3: a way, this would be cool. Here's the mistake he's making. 179 00:09:25,840 --> 00:09:32,240 Speaker 3: You got to not make them kids feel and see 180 00:09:32,559 --> 00:09:37,280 Speaker 3: a difference. You've got to go above and beyond in 181 00:09:37,400 --> 00:09:42,040 Speaker 3: treating them the same and evil. This is not your stepdaughter, 182 00:09:42,400 --> 00:09:46,880 Speaker 3: this is your daughter. If the daughters get a real tree, 183 00:09:47,120 --> 00:09:50,280 Speaker 3: everybody get a real tree. See, he should have bought 184 00:09:50,280 --> 00:09:53,320 Speaker 3: two real trees, is what he should have been. Because 185 00:09:53,360 --> 00:10:00,600 Speaker 3: you can't make the quote unquote step daughter feel step See. 186 00:10:00,640 --> 00:10:02,959 Speaker 3: The reason we never used the word step in our 187 00:10:03,040 --> 00:10:07,280 Speaker 3: family was because when you say step child, it's usually 188 00:10:07,600 --> 00:10:12,640 Speaker 3: like a step down, and it's like a step down 189 00:10:12,720 --> 00:10:14,839 Speaker 3: from the level that the regular children on. That's why 190 00:10:14,880 --> 00:10:17,640 Speaker 3: we never used that term. So now, but you can't 191 00:10:18,320 --> 00:10:21,120 Speaker 3: let them see or feel the difference. Now, if his 192 00:10:21,280 --> 00:10:24,160 Speaker 3: daughter's got a big, fluffy Christmas tree, he should have 193 00:10:24,200 --> 00:10:26,560 Speaker 3: got a big Christmas tree at his house too. 194 00:10:27,240 --> 00:10:29,000 Speaker 2: That's the mistake he made. 195 00:10:29,360 --> 00:10:33,320 Speaker 3: Yes, that would that would have cleared this whole thing up, 196 00:10:33,760 --> 00:10:36,520 Speaker 3: and bruh, that's all you got to do. Everybody got 197 00:10:36,559 --> 00:10:41,480 Speaker 3: to get equal and light treatment, period. And you can't 198 00:10:41,559 --> 00:10:44,040 Speaker 3: have your new wife feeling some kind of way because 199 00:10:44,040 --> 00:10:46,480 Speaker 3: you're doing all this extra stuff for your ex wife, 200 00:10:46,640 --> 00:10:49,080 Speaker 3: because that's how she looking at that too. Oh, she 201 00:10:49,200 --> 00:10:51,920 Speaker 3: got a tree, and y'all all decorated the tree together. 202 00:10:52,520 --> 00:10:53,920 Speaker 3: I didn't know you was gonna go over there and 203 00:10:53,960 --> 00:10:56,199 Speaker 3: put it up and decorate it together. I wanted to 204 00:10:56,240 --> 00:10:59,280 Speaker 3: surprise y'all when you came home. Y'all come home late. 205 00:10:59,320 --> 00:11:02,640 Speaker 3: I didn't decorate the tree by myself, and y'all ass 206 00:11:02,800 --> 00:11:06,800 Speaker 3: was over there having family time, right, you see, why 207 00:11:06,840 --> 00:11:09,720 Speaker 3: she's you see now she gonna be upset about that dog. 208 00:11:09,960 --> 00:11:13,240 Speaker 3: And this is your fun because you gotta do everything equal. 209 00:11:13,400 --> 00:11:15,560 Speaker 3: You're over there having hot chocolate. You got to come 210 00:11:15,559 --> 00:11:21,440 Speaker 3: home he hot chold you'd have bought the Voka pound 211 00:11:21,480 --> 00:11:24,480 Speaker 3: cake from Nama Marcus over there, you got to come 212 00:11:24,520 --> 00:11:25,240 Speaker 3: in your house with. 213 00:11:25,240 --> 00:11:26,360 Speaker 2: The Voka pound cake. 214 00:11:27,280 --> 00:11:28,800 Speaker 1: Okay, you know. 215 00:11:29,000 --> 00:11:32,280 Speaker 2: See that's what you gotta do now, Bro, that's the mistake. 216 00:11:32,360 --> 00:11:35,400 Speaker 3: You make it, and you've got to sit your husband 217 00:11:35,400 --> 00:11:39,920 Speaker 3: down and say, hey, listen, we can't feel like we're 218 00:11:40,040 --> 00:11:44,079 Speaker 3: second class citizens when it comes to special events, while 219 00:11:44,120 --> 00:11:48,160 Speaker 3: your ex and your biological children get all the purpose. 220 00:11:49,520 --> 00:11:52,040 Speaker 3: So I think that's unfair. So you can do whatever 221 00:11:52,080 --> 00:11:53,959 Speaker 3: you want to do for them. I'm not stopping you, 222 00:11:54,360 --> 00:11:56,840 Speaker 3: but you needed to start doing the same thing over here. 223 00:11:57,160 --> 00:11:59,840 Speaker 3: See that real big fluffy treat that was beautiful, but 224 00:11:59,880 --> 00:12:01,480 Speaker 3: that would look good in this house too. 225 00:12:02,120 --> 00:12:04,120 Speaker 1: Yeah, they should go get one, you. 226 00:12:04,000 --> 00:12:06,120 Speaker 3: See, because they had a new house. He feels like 227 00:12:06,120 --> 00:12:08,559 Speaker 3: they should get a new tree. Well well, well, and 228 00:12:08,640 --> 00:12:10,320 Speaker 3: you got to get to everybody else a new tree. 229 00:12:10,360 --> 00:12:10,560 Speaker 2: Though. 230 00:12:11,480 --> 00:12:13,360 Speaker 1: Something a thought came to my head because a lot 231 00:12:13,360 --> 00:12:16,840 Speaker 1: of mothers have mom guilt. Do dads have dad guilt 232 00:12:17,280 --> 00:12:20,200 Speaker 1: as well. Is that what he's dealing with? Dad guilt 233 00:12:20,360 --> 00:12:20,920 Speaker 1: as well? 234 00:12:21,080 --> 00:12:26,480 Speaker 3: Yeah, because he said in the letter they can't pay 235 00:12:26,520 --> 00:12:28,040 Speaker 3: because I left their mother. 236 00:12:28,440 --> 00:12:32,760 Speaker 1: Right right, left their mother, not them. 237 00:12:33,240 --> 00:12:33,560 Speaker 2: See. 238 00:12:33,559 --> 00:12:37,400 Speaker 3: But then also now you gotta be careful of the 239 00:12:37,440 --> 00:12:39,200 Speaker 3: Disney dad syndrome too. 240 00:12:39,520 --> 00:12:40,480 Speaker 1: Yeah, exactly. 241 00:12:40,559 --> 00:12:42,559 Speaker 3: See, when you do see the kids, you can't be 242 00:12:42,720 --> 00:12:45,120 Speaker 3: Disney Dad. And then all of a sudden when you 243 00:12:45,120 --> 00:12:47,280 Speaker 3: go home to your family, ain't. 244 00:12:47,040 --> 00:12:51,400 Speaker 1: No Disney right, It's just the old tree. 245 00:12:53,120 --> 00:12:55,679 Speaker 2: You got Disney Dad mode all the way around. 246 00:12:55,720 --> 00:12:59,240 Speaker 1: Board, bro, All right, post your commentsn Today's Strawberry Letter 247 00:12:59,240 --> 00:13:02,600 Speaker 1: at Steve Barby Felm on Instagram and Facebook, and check 248 00:13:02,640 --> 00:13:06,120 Speaker 1: out the Strawberry Letter podcast on demand. You're listening to 249 00:13:07,000 --> 00:13:07,960 Speaker 1: Harvey Morning Show.