1 00:00:00,240 --> 00:00:03,680 Speaker 1: How did you feel at your reunion about people like, 2 00:00:04,760 --> 00:00:07,480 Speaker 1: I don't know, being weird or making a big deal 3 00:00:07,560 --> 00:00:10,639 Speaker 1: over like your career, or yeah, you fucking loved it. 4 00:00:12,480 --> 00:00:16,200 Speaker 2: Here's what I loved that I could tell that the 5 00:00:16,239 --> 00:00:18,680 Speaker 2: people that were not very nice to me in high school, 6 00:00:18,800 --> 00:00:20,600 Speaker 2: I could tell that they had an issue with it, 7 00:00:20,640 --> 00:00:23,880 Speaker 2: which is like, wow, you're still holding on too, like 8 00:00:23,920 --> 00:00:25,760 Speaker 2: some kind of like weird competition. 9 00:00:26,280 --> 00:00:28,920 Speaker 3: Whereas like I was just like, was it like comments, I'm. 10 00:00:28,800 --> 00:00:31,160 Speaker 4: Like, wow, it's so good to see you. 11 00:00:31,520 --> 00:00:33,320 Speaker 5: My god, you're doing so well. 12 00:00:33,440 --> 00:00:35,159 Speaker 3: It wasn't even that. It was like what do you 13 00:00:35,240 --> 00:00:37,919 Speaker 3: do again? And I was like, bitch, you I know. 14 00:00:39,080 --> 00:00:49,720 Speaker 6: More Better, More, Better, Better More. 15 00:00:54,640 --> 00:00:57,960 Speaker 2: Welcome to More Better a podcast where we stop pretending 16 00:00:57,960 --> 00:01:00,240 Speaker 2: to have it all together and embrace it's the. 17 00:01:00,320 --> 00:01:03,480 Speaker 5: Journey of becoming a little more better every day. 18 00:01:03,480 --> 00:01:05,360 Speaker 2: Or at least trying to. That's most of a marrow, 19 00:01:05,520 --> 00:01:07,959 Speaker 2: and that's the many futures and here we are. And guys, 20 00:01:08,160 --> 00:01:11,280 Speaker 2: if you're listening to this on your iHeart app or 21 00:01:11,400 --> 00:01:14,080 Speaker 2: iTunes or wherever you listen to your podcast, you can 22 00:01:14,120 --> 00:01:17,040 Speaker 2: also watch us now. Yeah, because this particular episode is 23 00:01:17,120 --> 00:01:18,360 Speaker 2: going to be on the internet. 24 00:01:18,560 --> 00:01:20,880 Speaker 3: It's a special IRL episode. Look at that? 25 00:01:21,080 --> 00:01:21,640 Speaker 5: What have you done? 26 00:01:21,640 --> 00:01:21,840 Speaker 6: Like that? 27 00:01:21,880 --> 00:01:23,520 Speaker 3: It's more better? Oh? 28 00:01:23,560 --> 00:01:26,479 Speaker 5: What have I done lately? That is more better. 29 00:01:27,319 --> 00:01:30,000 Speaker 1: I feel like I got a bit of a break 30 00:01:30,080 --> 00:01:33,199 Speaker 1: with like cooking and figuring out what's for dinner during 31 00:01:33,240 --> 00:01:35,959 Speaker 1: the summer, and so I feel rejuvenated. 32 00:01:36,959 --> 00:01:39,000 Speaker 5: And I've been this. 33 00:01:39,000 --> 00:01:41,000 Speaker 1: This is not a sponsored as, but it is a 34 00:01:41,040 --> 00:01:43,200 Speaker 1: plug New York Times cooking app. 35 00:01:43,319 --> 00:01:44,759 Speaker 3: Oh is it worth it? 36 00:01:45,160 --> 00:01:45,399 Speaker 6: Yes? 37 00:01:46,240 --> 00:01:50,360 Speaker 1: I am a big fan. They have so many like 38 00:01:50,520 --> 00:01:52,120 Speaker 1: I like that I can just be like, I don't know, 39 00:01:52,160 --> 00:01:54,080 Speaker 1: I've got chicken thighs, Like what kind of maybe chicken 40 00:01:54,120 --> 00:01:56,280 Speaker 1: thiye is? And like and then all these yummy and 41 00:01:56,280 --> 00:01:58,520 Speaker 1: there's so many of their recipes are like fast and easy? 42 00:01:58,640 --> 00:02:00,720 Speaker 2: Can you ask not that I use it, But can't 43 00:02:00,760 --> 00:02:02,200 Speaker 2: you ask chat GPT the same thing? 44 00:02:02,960 --> 00:02:03,559 Speaker 5: I could? 45 00:02:04,600 --> 00:02:07,560 Speaker 1: And that probably I'm just not on the chat GBT train. 46 00:02:07,680 --> 00:02:09,280 Speaker 1: Yet I'm not on that train either. 47 00:02:09,320 --> 00:02:09,640 Speaker 5: I don't. 48 00:02:09,680 --> 00:02:10,880 Speaker 3: I refuse to get in bed. 49 00:02:11,200 --> 00:02:12,160 Speaker 5: I know me too. 50 00:02:12,400 --> 00:02:13,480 Speaker 3: But then she's gonna be. 51 00:02:13,440 --> 00:02:16,440 Speaker 2: Like, hey girl, there's sale going on over here, right 52 00:02:16,560 --> 00:02:18,720 Speaker 2: if you wanted to set some of your money, I 53 00:02:18,760 --> 00:02:20,120 Speaker 2: know you don't have this. 54 00:02:20,040 --> 00:02:22,000 Speaker 3: And this and this. I know you've been looking at 55 00:02:22,320 --> 00:02:24,200 Speaker 3: fill those holes in your fall wardrobe. 56 00:02:24,520 --> 00:02:28,120 Speaker 1: I have been very tempted, because I do get decision 57 00:02:28,200 --> 00:02:31,040 Speaker 1: fatigue when it comes to dinner after I don't have 58 00:02:31,120 --> 00:02:33,640 Speaker 1: it right now, I've been more better at not letting 59 00:02:33,639 --> 00:02:36,160 Speaker 1: myself get overwhelmed. It's not that big a deal. It's 60 00:02:36,200 --> 00:02:39,120 Speaker 1: just dinner. If you feel like making something more involved, great, 61 00:02:39,600 --> 00:02:41,560 Speaker 1: if you don't just slap something on a plate. 62 00:02:41,680 --> 00:02:45,000 Speaker 5: We're having chicken nuggets tonight. Great. I love it. Yeah, 63 00:02:45,080 --> 00:02:46,320 Speaker 5: I've been like less judgy. 64 00:02:46,480 --> 00:02:49,160 Speaker 2: I think you're not mad at having to cook dinner 65 00:02:49,200 --> 00:02:50,120 Speaker 2: and you're into this app. 66 00:02:50,160 --> 00:02:51,800 Speaker 3: Do you have to have a New York Times? 67 00:02:52,120 --> 00:02:54,440 Speaker 5: I think you did a descriptions. Yeah, I don't. I 68 00:02:54,520 --> 00:02:56,440 Speaker 5: can't have it on my phone anymore because I got 69 00:02:56,520 --> 00:02:57,639 Speaker 5: so depressed. 70 00:02:58,080 --> 00:03:01,280 Speaker 4: Oh I mean the new was yeah, reading about the. 71 00:03:01,280 --> 00:03:05,960 Speaker 2: World being on fire, yeah, civil rights being you know. 72 00:03:06,080 --> 00:03:08,880 Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean anyway, you know what, you. 73 00:03:08,840 --> 00:03:11,440 Speaker 2: Didn't come here for this, Yeah, I mean you should 74 00:03:11,440 --> 00:03:13,240 Speaker 2: try to make the world more better, that's for sure. 75 00:03:13,360 --> 00:03:15,840 Speaker 3: Yes, well that's good. I'm not going to do it. 76 00:03:15,919 --> 00:03:18,160 Speaker 2: I took New York Times app off my phone last night, 77 00:03:18,240 --> 00:03:20,400 Speaker 2: literally last Oh really, I have to ta get off. 78 00:03:20,560 --> 00:03:22,040 Speaker 3: I was furious. 79 00:03:22,320 --> 00:03:24,000 Speaker 5: Yeah, I know, I hear you. 80 00:03:24,080 --> 00:03:26,920 Speaker 1: I've been avoiding reading articles and just like doing the 81 00:03:26,960 --> 00:03:28,239 Speaker 1: cooking app and. 82 00:03:28,240 --> 00:03:32,920 Speaker 5: Like wordle okay, okay, yeah, what have you? What about you? 83 00:03:32,919 --> 00:03:33,440 Speaker 5: What have you done? 84 00:03:34,280 --> 00:03:37,080 Speaker 2: Mormalized the feature on the iPhone. I don't know if 85 00:03:37,080 --> 00:03:40,280 Speaker 2: other phones have this, but you know the new feature 86 00:03:40,280 --> 00:03:42,000 Speaker 2: on the iPhone. We can send the text later. 87 00:03:43,200 --> 00:03:45,480 Speaker 5: Oh I keep forgetting about that match. 88 00:03:45,680 --> 00:03:46,880 Speaker 3: It's such a good featuring. 89 00:03:46,920 --> 00:03:49,080 Speaker 2: I was so mad at Brad because I was trying 90 00:03:49,120 --> 00:03:52,960 Speaker 2: to have this like interaction with Raz. She was kind 91 00:03:53,000 --> 00:03:55,160 Speaker 2: of starting to whine. She's like in a whiny pace, 92 00:03:55,200 --> 00:03:57,560 Speaker 2: so she was starting to whine about like can't you. 93 00:03:57,520 --> 00:04:00,280 Speaker 3: Take me to school? Why can't you take me? Can't 94 00:04:00,320 --> 00:04:02,160 Speaker 3: you just walk into the car me? Mom has to 95 00:04:02,240 --> 00:04:04,920 Speaker 3: take the biggest poop of my life. And I'm like 96 00:04:05,680 --> 00:04:07,920 Speaker 3: talking to her like I have to go to the bathroom. 97 00:04:07,960 --> 00:04:09,400 Speaker 3: I can't walk me to the car. 98 00:04:10,320 --> 00:04:12,160 Speaker 2: And Brad's like, we gotta go, we gotta go, and 99 00:04:12,200 --> 00:04:15,080 Speaker 2: I'm like, Rad, I have to talk to her about this. 100 00:04:15,160 --> 00:04:17,600 Speaker 2: I can't just be like yeah, I'm trying to, like 101 00:04:17,920 --> 00:04:21,280 Speaker 2: I'm what I'm doing is trying to parent and like 102 00:04:21,520 --> 00:04:23,360 Speaker 2: not be like your feelings don't matter. We have to 103 00:04:23,360 --> 00:04:25,279 Speaker 2: get somewhere on time, which is how I grew up, 104 00:04:25,279 --> 00:04:27,720 Speaker 2: which is like get in the car. Yeah, yeah, yeah, 105 00:04:27,760 --> 00:04:30,800 Speaker 2: And like obviously I want to teach my kid that 106 00:04:30,880 --> 00:04:33,960 Speaker 2: everybody's time. She needs to respect other people's time, right, 107 00:04:34,040 --> 00:04:35,920 Speaker 2: Like that's the stepping stone that we're gonna. 108 00:04:35,680 --> 00:04:36,640 Speaker 5: Get to eventually. 109 00:04:36,720 --> 00:04:39,320 Speaker 2: Yeah, but the first thing is like I love you 110 00:04:39,400 --> 00:04:41,960 Speaker 2: even though I can't take you to the car right now, 111 00:04:42,320 --> 00:04:44,280 Speaker 2: and you're not going to get what you want just 112 00:04:44,279 --> 00:04:45,839 Speaker 2: by whining and repeating yourself. 113 00:04:46,120 --> 00:04:47,480 Speaker 3: I'm gonna stick to my guns here. 114 00:04:47,640 --> 00:04:48,200 Speaker 5: Yeah. 115 00:04:48,200 --> 00:04:50,920 Speaker 3: And so like Brad made me really upset because he. 116 00:04:50,920 --> 00:04:53,160 Speaker 2: Was like, let's go, let's go, like out the door, 117 00:04:53,279 --> 00:04:55,720 Speaker 2: like hovering and yelling kind of not yelling, but. 118 00:04:55,720 --> 00:04:56,799 Speaker 5: Oh yeah yeah yeah. 119 00:04:56,839 --> 00:04:59,240 Speaker 3: So I wrote them this really angry. 120 00:04:59,240 --> 00:05:02,680 Speaker 2: Text message and then I stopped and I was like, 121 00:05:02,800 --> 00:05:04,720 Speaker 2: send it in fifteen minutes, and then I had time 122 00:05:04,720 --> 00:05:05,880 Speaker 2: to like edit it so that. 123 00:05:05,880 --> 00:05:07,400 Speaker 3: It was kinder and more. 124 00:05:07,720 --> 00:05:07,960 Speaker 6: Yeah. 125 00:05:08,120 --> 00:05:10,000 Speaker 5: When you hear what I wrote, Yeah, you hear what 126 00:05:10,040 --> 00:05:10,360 Speaker 5: I wrote. 127 00:05:10,360 --> 00:05:12,920 Speaker 3: You guys what I wrote? Yeah, I was. 128 00:05:12,880 --> 00:05:16,200 Speaker 2: Like, it is incredibly upsetting to have a timer above 129 00:05:16,240 --> 00:05:17,960 Speaker 2: my head when I'm trying to talk to ros and 130 00:05:18,000 --> 00:05:20,600 Speaker 2: teach her lessons about life. I understand that she needs 131 00:05:20,640 --> 00:05:22,120 Speaker 2: to be at school at a certain time, but you 132 00:05:22,240 --> 00:05:24,279 Speaker 2: standing over both of us and repeating we gotta go, 133 00:05:24,320 --> 00:05:26,640 Speaker 2: we gotta go is really rude. If it means we 134 00:05:26,680 --> 00:05:29,000 Speaker 2: need to start getting her up earlier, getting to bed earlier, 135 00:05:29,080 --> 00:05:31,880 Speaker 2: whatever it is that's not working, that will allow us 136 00:05:31,920 --> 00:05:34,239 Speaker 2: time to parent her in the morning. That would be better, 137 00:05:34,560 --> 00:05:36,920 Speaker 2: because on the mornings that I'm around, I don't want 138 00:05:36,920 --> 00:05:38,920 Speaker 2: to feel belittled when I'm just trying to spend time 139 00:05:38,920 --> 00:05:41,960 Speaker 2: with ros or work through something with her. That's not 140 00:05:41,960 --> 00:05:47,160 Speaker 2: what it originally said, that right, What I really said 141 00:05:47,320 --> 00:05:48,360 Speaker 2: was like, oh fuck you. 142 00:05:48,600 --> 00:05:51,880 Speaker 3: Yeah, But I used to back off in the morning. 143 00:05:52,000 --> 00:05:54,120 Speaker 2: I used the timer thing, and I was like, really 144 00:05:54,160 --> 00:05:57,320 Speaker 2: proud of myself because it gave me a moment to 145 00:05:57,680 --> 00:06:00,080 Speaker 2: take a breath and be like, is this what I 146 00:06:00,080 --> 00:06:02,240 Speaker 2: actually want to express to this man who I love, 147 00:06:02,279 --> 00:06:05,400 Speaker 2: who was only really looking out for my family, What 148 00:06:05,520 --> 00:06:07,800 Speaker 2: I really want to express is this? Yeah, So I 149 00:06:07,839 --> 00:06:11,080 Speaker 2: gave I did a more better argument text. 150 00:06:10,839 --> 00:06:15,080 Speaker 1: Yeah, which always very proud of that is that's huge. 151 00:06:14,160 --> 00:06:17,720 Speaker 1: Hue by the wall, by the way, welcome to the 152 00:06:17,920 --> 00:06:19,080 Speaker 1: chaos of mornings. 153 00:06:19,120 --> 00:06:20,680 Speaker 3: It's really difficult. 154 00:06:20,800 --> 00:06:23,520 Speaker 1: It's the only thing that makes me feel better about 155 00:06:23,520 --> 00:06:27,719 Speaker 1: it is that I don't know a parent who doesn't 156 00:06:27,800 --> 00:06:29,680 Speaker 1: have a rough time in the morning. You know, I 157 00:06:29,680 --> 00:06:31,600 Speaker 1: can see that there's most days. 158 00:06:31,279 --> 00:06:34,680 Speaker 2: Some stuff that like I'm missing out, Like I'm like, 159 00:06:34,760 --> 00:06:36,240 Speaker 2: this morning, I was like, it. 160 00:06:36,200 --> 00:06:38,400 Speaker 3: Takes fifteen minutes for her to choose what clothes. 161 00:06:38,160 --> 00:06:38,800 Speaker 5: She's gonna wear. 162 00:06:39,320 --> 00:06:41,359 Speaker 2: Right, I can do that the night before, Like we 163 00:06:41,400 --> 00:06:44,360 Speaker 2: can make it like fun fashion time, you know, and 164 00:06:44,400 --> 00:06:45,800 Speaker 2: that will cut down on some of it. 165 00:06:45,960 --> 00:06:50,839 Speaker 3: And also she's like me, I'm like, Brad turns on 166 00:06:50,920 --> 00:06:51,800 Speaker 3: the light and is like. 167 00:06:51,720 --> 00:06:55,200 Speaker 2: Good morning, and I'm like yeah, literally, like, well hiss 168 00:06:55,240 --> 00:06:56,560 Speaker 2: when he pulls the blinds out. 169 00:06:59,160 --> 00:06:59,880 Speaker 6: More better? 170 00:07:02,120 --> 00:07:03,880 Speaker 3: Okay, So what we are we talking about today? 171 00:07:04,160 --> 00:07:04,360 Speaker 6: Ah? 172 00:07:04,600 --> 00:07:08,159 Speaker 2: Jin Hey, it's almost like we hang out a lot. 173 00:07:08,760 --> 00:07:12,720 Speaker 2: We're talking about reunions, reunion because we're coming up on 174 00:07:12,920 --> 00:07:17,400 Speaker 2: like a lot of gatherings, yes, holidays. We have a 175 00:07:17,440 --> 00:07:21,280 Speaker 2: friend gathering next week, actually doing a friend gathering next week. 176 00:07:21,760 --> 00:07:24,120 Speaker 2: There's a lot of stuff that's happening right now that 177 00:07:24,320 --> 00:07:27,280 Speaker 2: like whether it's like seeing people that you haven't seen 178 00:07:27,560 --> 00:07:29,800 Speaker 2: for a long time, seeing family that you haven't seen 179 00:07:29,840 --> 00:07:32,040 Speaker 2: for a long time, friends from. 180 00:07:31,920 --> 00:07:35,640 Speaker 3: Home, Oh, those are always the I've got a high. 181 00:07:35,480 --> 00:07:38,040 Speaker 5: School reunion coming up in November. 182 00:07:38,480 --> 00:07:38,920 Speaker 6: What year? 183 00:07:39,920 --> 00:07:43,320 Speaker 1: I think like twenty five because I think we missed 184 00:07:43,320 --> 00:07:44,440 Speaker 1: our twentieth because it was. 185 00:07:44,440 --> 00:07:45,560 Speaker 3: A lot of time. 186 00:07:46,080 --> 00:07:49,080 Speaker 5: Yeah, are you going to go? I don't know to go. 187 00:07:49,360 --> 00:07:50,560 Speaker 3: I loved going to mine. 188 00:07:50,840 --> 00:07:53,760 Speaker 2: You did, yes, I was obsessed with the idea of it. 189 00:07:53,840 --> 00:07:56,480 Speaker 2: I was like, I'm getting a outfit and getting choes 190 00:07:56,720 --> 00:07:57,080 Speaker 2: my hair. 191 00:07:57,120 --> 00:07:58,280 Speaker 4: Gum, I'm doing my makeup. 192 00:07:58,520 --> 00:08:00,720 Speaker 1: Did you go to your tenure? Oh yeah, that would 193 00:08:00,720 --> 00:08:03,680 Speaker 1: have been no, okay, ye went to a later one 194 00:08:03,800 --> 00:08:05,320 Speaker 1: I went to like it was I think it was 195 00:08:05,360 --> 00:08:09,280 Speaker 1: twenty okay, And it was at a It was at 196 00:08:09,280 --> 00:08:11,040 Speaker 1: a what is. 197 00:08:10,960 --> 00:08:13,560 Speaker 2: That place where you go like play video games, and like, oh, 198 00:08:13,600 --> 00:08:16,800 Speaker 2: David Buster, David Busters. It was a David Bussers and 199 00:08:16,840 --> 00:08:19,680 Speaker 2: like someone there was complaining about She was like, I 200 00:08:19,680 --> 00:08:21,520 Speaker 2: don't know why this is a damn Busters And I 201 00:08:21,560 --> 00:08:24,760 Speaker 2: was like, because no one wanted to organize this, like right, 202 00:08:24,960 --> 00:08:27,600 Speaker 2: nobody wanted to be like we're having a cad or 203 00:08:27,600 --> 00:08:28,240 Speaker 2: sit down dinner. 204 00:08:28,360 --> 00:08:31,400 Speaker 3: Please stop complaining. Yeah, well, not name names, but. 205 00:08:32,920 --> 00:08:34,480 Speaker 1: She was like that in high school, did you guys 206 00:08:34,520 --> 00:08:36,760 Speaker 1: have like a party room like they do for kids birthday? 207 00:08:37,120 --> 00:08:37,640 Speaker 6: It was a party. 208 00:08:37,880 --> 00:08:39,840 Speaker 2: It was very brightly lit. That was the only problem, 209 00:08:39,880 --> 00:08:41,760 Speaker 2: Like it could have been less for kid's birthday. It was, 210 00:08:41,800 --> 00:08:43,280 Speaker 2: it couldn't been less brightly lit. 211 00:08:43,280 --> 00:08:45,280 Speaker 3: But it was fine, Like people were like and then 212 00:08:45,320 --> 00:08:48,400 Speaker 3: people went to bar afterwards, Okay, it's totally fine. It 213 00:08:48,440 --> 00:08:51,280 Speaker 3: was also like, you know, people were in their cups, 214 00:08:51,480 --> 00:08:53,079 Speaker 3: as we usually are. 215 00:08:53,200 --> 00:08:55,760 Speaker 2: I was like restraining myself because I didn't want to 216 00:08:55,760 --> 00:08:56,720 Speaker 2: get slip sloppy. 217 00:08:56,920 --> 00:08:57,760 Speaker 5: Yep, yep yeah. 218 00:08:57,840 --> 00:09:03,120 Speaker 2: And I found it incredibly gratifying as someone who blossomed 219 00:09:03,640 --> 00:09:04,800 Speaker 2: at the end of high school. 220 00:09:06,640 --> 00:09:11,000 Speaker 3: I was like, you were like, yes, here I am. 221 00:09:11,160 --> 00:09:14,000 Speaker 5: This is what I like feeling. 222 00:09:14,240 --> 00:09:15,360 Speaker 3: I'm super success. 223 00:09:16,600 --> 00:09:17,480 Speaker 5: What's your name again? 224 00:09:18,000 --> 00:09:20,560 Speaker 3: I'm not gonna lie. I'm not gonna lie. I'm not 225 00:09:20,600 --> 00:09:21,240 Speaker 3: gonna lie. 226 00:09:21,800 --> 00:09:24,760 Speaker 2: I don't again, I won't name names. I went to 227 00:09:24,840 --> 00:09:27,720 Speaker 2: high school in Texas and went to a big public 228 00:09:27,800 --> 00:09:30,880 Speaker 2: high school. You know, everyone says like, oh, once you 229 00:09:30,960 --> 00:09:33,280 Speaker 2: leave high school, like things are different, and like sometimes 230 00:09:33,320 --> 00:09:35,960 Speaker 2: they are, but sometimes they're not. Sometimes they're not because 231 00:09:36,000 --> 00:09:41,520 Speaker 2: people are establishing themselves as like the beginnings of grown 232 00:09:41,600 --> 00:09:43,920 Speaker 2: ups right when you're in high school and there's a 233 00:09:43,920 --> 00:09:48,400 Speaker 2: lot of stuff about like hierarchy and image and who 234 00:09:48,440 --> 00:09:51,280 Speaker 2: you align yourselves with and how you network and how 235 00:09:51,360 --> 00:09:54,640 Speaker 2: your friends and what kind of like how you project 236 00:09:54,720 --> 00:09:57,280 Speaker 2: as a person, like what do you wear, what kind 237 00:09:57,280 --> 00:09:58,720 Speaker 2: of like which click are you in? 238 00:09:58,960 --> 00:10:00,520 Speaker 3: How friendly are friendly? 239 00:10:00,600 --> 00:10:01,160 Speaker 5: Are you right? 240 00:10:01,200 --> 00:10:05,160 Speaker 2: And like part of that is like the Queen Bee stuff, 241 00:10:05,200 --> 00:10:08,080 Speaker 2: which is really hard. 242 00:10:08,000 --> 00:10:11,560 Speaker 3: In high school, it's really hard. The cleaning stuff is really. 243 00:10:11,480 --> 00:10:14,480 Speaker 2: Tricky, and most of the time it's very beautiful young 244 00:10:14,520 --> 00:10:19,480 Speaker 2: women that are also very smart, that oftentimes are very talented. 245 00:10:22,200 --> 00:10:24,040 Speaker 3: Well, I can't wait to hear about who you are 246 00:10:24,040 --> 00:10:25,760 Speaker 3: gonna see. 247 00:10:26,000 --> 00:10:28,480 Speaker 2: But I think like what for me what was satisfying 248 00:10:28,520 --> 00:10:32,200 Speaker 2: about going back was like I did the thing that 249 00:10:32,240 --> 00:10:34,840 Speaker 2: I wanted to do, Like in high school, I started 250 00:10:34,880 --> 00:10:36,920 Speaker 2: acting like this was the first time that I was 251 00:10:36,960 --> 00:10:40,040 Speaker 2: acting yeah, And so like going back to my high 252 00:10:40,040 --> 00:10:42,280 Speaker 2: school reunion, I was like, I'm proud of what I've 253 00:10:42,960 --> 00:10:45,760 Speaker 2: not just because like I'm on TV, although that did help, 254 00:10:45,840 --> 00:10:48,600 Speaker 2: but like because people had seen the show, but also 255 00:10:48,720 --> 00:10:51,000 Speaker 2: like I had done the career that I had chosen. 256 00:10:51,040 --> 00:10:52,080 Speaker 3: I was like, I did. 257 00:10:52,040 --> 00:10:53,800 Speaker 5: I like that? 258 00:10:53,880 --> 00:10:57,360 Speaker 1: And I'm also stracurricular you were always doing yeah, talking 259 00:10:57,400 --> 00:10:58,840 Speaker 1: about and yeah. 260 00:10:58,520 --> 00:11:01,360 Speaker 2: And I was excited to see people that like you know, 261 00:11:01,400 --> 00:11:04,800 Speaker 2: I'm just thinking of this friend that There were two 262 00:11:04,800 --> 00:11:08,280 Speaker 2: friends that I saw at the reunion, Martin, who was 263 00:11:08,320 --> 00:11:11,840 Speaker 2: this really really smart kid. He was super super nice, 264 00:11:12,440 --> 00:11:16,439 Speaker 2: and also Issha. Both of them I saw again at 265 00:11:16,440 --> 00:11:18,680 Speaker 2: the reunion and it was like it was just so 266 00:11:18,840 --> 00:11:20,719 Speaker 2: nice because like I hadn't connected with them in a 267 00:11:20,760 --> 00:11:23,520 Speaker 2: really long time and they're not people that I necessarily 268 00:11:23,600 --> 00:11:25,960 Speaker 2: kept in touch with, but like I was so happy 269 00:11:26,000 --> 00:11:29,080 Speaker 2: to see them because like Martin was married to a 270 00:11:29,120 --> 00:11:32,560 Speaker 2: girl that we went to high school with, Jenny. Issha 271 00:11:32,720 --> 00:11:35,400 Speaker 2: was like doing like living her life, and like you know, 272 00:11:35,480 --> 00:11:38,800 Speaker 2: it was just like really cool. And then subsequently I've 273 00:11:38,800 --> 00:11:40,559 Speaker 2: like kind of kept in touch with them a little bit, 274 00:11:40,600 --> 00:11:43,920 Speaker 2: like especially Eisha, but like Martin's kid was like really 275 00:11:43,960 --> 00:11:47,040 Speaker 2: obsessed with Ngumhas. I like sent her a poster like you. 276 00:11:48,760 --> 00:11:57,320 Speaker 2: And also I saw Cassie. Cassie was about she was 277 00:11:57,440 --> 00:12:00,360 Speaker 2: exceptionally beautiful at a time when I just is not. 278 00:12:00,679 --> 00:12:04,400 Speaker 2: I was like, I mean, I mean it was there 279 00:12:04,480 --> 00:12:05,560 Speaker 2: was a lot going on. 280 00:12:07,120 --> 00:12:09,080 Speaker 1: Here's the thing though, that no one ever talks about, 281 00:12:09,200 --> 00:12:10,880 Speaker 1: is like you don't want to peak in high school? 282 00:12:11,000 --> 00:12:13,920 Speaker 5: No, you really don't, really don't really all the people 283 00:12:13,960 --> 00:12:15,439 Speaker 5: that peaked in high school. 284 00:12:16,640 --> 00:12:19,440 Speaker 3: It's rough, it's not the same. It's situation. 285 00:12:19,600 --> 00:12:23,160 Speaker 2: It's really a lot of them living vicariously through their children, 286 00:12:23,760 --> 00:12:25,880 Speaker 2: which I saw quite a bit of a the reunion. 287 00:12:26,000 --> 00:12:31,520 Speaker 1: I was like, oh oh, okay, okay, okay, yeah, like 288 00:12:31,600 --> 00:12:32,240 Speaker 1: a lot of girls. 289 00:12:32,240 --> 00:12:34,800 Speaker 2: So there's this thing in Texas and I think a 290 00:12:34,800 --> 00:12:36,840 Speaker 2: lot of the time in the South called drill team. 291 00:12:36,920 --> 00:12:39,840 Speaker 2: And now it's not drill team with the flags. Okay, right, 292 00:12:39,920 --> 00:12:42,920 Speaker 2: So drill team is based on the Kilgore rainerets, which 293 00:12:42,920 --> 00:12:46,000 Speaker 2: are like a kick line. So imagine when the Dallas 294 00:12:46,320 --> 00:12:48,040 Speaker 2: the DCC when they do their kickline. 295 00:12:48,120 --> 00:12:48,760 Speaker 5: Uh huh. 296 00:12:48,880 --> 00:12:51,560 Speaker 2: That's what drill team is. It's like organized dancing on 297 00:12:51,600 --> 00:12:54,240 Speaker 2: a field. But it's not true leading. 298 00:12:54,400 --> 00:12:59,120 Speaker 1: Okay, it's dance crazure to like the Rockets, yes, got it, yes, 299 00:12:59,280 --> 00:13:00,800 Speaker 1: and like all forms of dance. 300 00:13:00,800 --> 00:13:04,160 Speaker 3: So they do it at halftime at football games. Okay. 301 00:13:04,280 --> 00:13:07,040 Speaker 3: And I was on drill team for my sophomore year. 302 00:13:07,280 --> 00:13:07,839 Speaker 5: Yeah you were. 303 00:13:08,160 --> 00:13:09,559 Speaker 3: And then once I. 304 00:13:09,520 --> 00:13:13,720 Speaker 2: Started doing theater, my drill team instructor she was like, well, 305 00:13:13,720 --> 00:13:16,360 Speaker 2: you can't do both, and I was like, oh, well, 306 00:13:16,440 --> 00:13:17,600 Speaker 2: I guess I'm doing theater. 307 00:13:17,960 --> 00:13:18,480 Speaker 5: Yeah. 308 00:13:18,520 --> 00:13:20,319 Speaker 3: And so the girls that rare and Drels team were 309 00:13:20,360 --> 00:13:22,599 Speaker 3: really really obsessed with being on drill team. That was 310 00:13:22,640 --> 00:13:23,679 Speaker 3: our whole personality. 311 00:13:23,800 --> 00:13:26,520 Speaker 2: And a lot of them their daughters are also now 312 00:13:26,600 --> 00:13:28,840 Speaker 2: a lot of them stayed so like a lot of them. 313 00:13:28,880 --> 00:13:31,040 Speaker 2: Their daughters are also on drill team. Again, not that 314 00:13:31,040 --> 00:13:33,520 Speaker 2: there's anything wrong with them. I don't know that, but 315 00:13:33,640 --> 00:13:38,120 Speaker 2: I do feel like if you're if your entire life 316 00:13:38,160 --> 00:13:41,560 Speaker 2: is poured into your child, yeah, or your entire Like 317 00:13:43,559 --> 00:13:45,480 Speaker 2: I think it's cute sometimes when people are like me 318 00:13:45,559 --> 00:13:48,040 Speaker 2: and my mini me, right, they're like, yeah, I don't. 319 00:13:48,320 --> 00:13:50,640 Speaker 2: I personally don't think of Roz as my mini me 320 00:13:50,760 --> 00:13:54,120 Speaker 2: because like she's her own person. Like I like, even 321 00:13:54,160 --> 00:13:55,720 Speaker 2: this morning, I was like, what if you wear this 322 00:13:55,920 --> 00:13:59,160 Speaker 2: like cool like vintage Pinafore that I bought you. She's like, no, 323 00:14:00,200 --> 00:14:02,719 Speaker 2: I don't like that. Yeah, And I was. 324 00:14:02,679 --> 00:14:05,440 Speaker 3: Like, You're like, a what can I do? Like you're 325 00:14:05,520 --> 00:14:07,400 Speaker 3: your own person. I don't want to like force you 326 00:14:07,480 --> 00:14:08,960 Speaker 3: to wear shit that like you don't like. 327 00:14:09,360 --> 00:14:09,560 Speaker 6: Yeah. 328 00:14:09,960 --> 00:14:12,760 Speaker 2: Anyway, I loved going to my high school reunion. Okay, 329 00:14:13,040 --> 00:14:15,880 Speaker 2: I highly recommend you go. I feel like you need 330 00:14:15,960 --> 00:14:17,960 Speaker 2: to look fabulous, you know what I mean, Like you 331 00:14:18,000 --> 00:14:20,800 Speaker 2: need to like you need to feel super confident. 332 00:14:20,840 --> 00:14:22,000 Speaker 5: What did you wear to yours? 333 00:14:22,040 --> 00:14:24,640 Speaker 2: I need to know this, like black and white short 334 00:14:24,720 --> 00:14:29,360 Speaker 2: mini recreation dress and little black mules. And I had 335 00:14:29,400 --> 00:14:32,960 Speaker 2: just gotten my haircut and like my makeup looked pretty good. 336 00:14:33,040 --> 00:14:35,320 Speaker 3: I think, Okay, yeah, okay, but. 337 00:14:35,280 --> 00:14:38,720 Speaker 2: Like you want to be comfortable, yeah, any renion honestly, 338 00:14:38,800 --> 00:14:40,640 Speaker 2: like you never want to wear something that you're like, 339 00:14:40,720 --> 00:14:42,240 Speaker 2: I don't know, I've never worn this, or like you 340 00:14:42,280 --> 00:14:44,680 Speaker 2: try it on before you you need to try on outfits. Yea, 341 00:14:44,720 --> 00:14:47,120 Speaker 2: it needs to be well yeah if I thought. 342 00:14:47,160 --> 00:14:49,800 Speaker 1: It's also like it's in New Jersey, I need to 343 00:14:49,920 --> 00:14:52,120 Speaker 1: like fly there, like yeah, everything has to be like 344 00:14:52,200 --> 00:14:53,280 Speaker 1: set and planned. 345 00:14:52,920 --> 00:14:55,120 Speaker 2: And it's kind of like you're making a first impression again, 346 00:14:56,880 --> 00:14:58,800 Speaker 2: you know, because they've not They don't. 347 00:14:58,840 --> 00:14:59,280 Speaker 3: They haven't. 348 00:14:59,440 --> 00:15:01,720 Speaker 2: You haven't met this version of them, and they haven't 349 00:15:01,760 --> 00:15:04,440 Speaker 2: met this version of you. True, there's elements that will 350 00:15:04,480 --> 00:15:06,120 Speaker 2: be the same. Like Brad and I went to his 351 00:15:06,400 --> 00:15:09,560 Speaker 2: twenty year high school re union. First of all, that 352 00:15:09,640 --> 00:15:13,520 Speaker 2: was amazing because everybody was so nice. It was such 353 00:15:13,640 --> 00:15:17,920 Speaker 2: I've never seen that before. He went to a small school, okay, 354 00:15:18,040 --> 00:15:19,560 Speaker 2: and everyone. 355 00:15:19,280 --> 00:15:19,840 Speaker 3: Knew each other. 356 00:15:19,920 --> 00:15:22,440 Speaker 2: They were all friendly, like all the clicks, like all 357 00:15:22,880 --> 00:15:24,120 Speaker 2: got along with each other. 358 00:15:24,360 --> 00:15:28,080 Speaker 3: It was really like an idyllic situation. 359 00:15:28,360 --> 00:15:30,520 Speaker 2: And all the girls were like super friendly to me, 360 00:15:30,640 --> 00:15:31,800 Speaker 2: like no one was weird. 361 00:15:32,000 --> 00:15:33,920 Speaker 5: It was no, it was a energy. 362 00:15:34,040 --> 00:15:34,320 Speaker 2: Yeah. 363 00:15:34,400 --> 00:15:37,239 Speaker 3: No, it was just like, oh, Brad, we're so happy. 364 00:15:36,960 --> 00:15:38,320 Speaker 5: To see It was so nice. 365 00:15:38,560 --> 00:15:40,000 Speaker 1: I mean, my high school is a little bit like 366 00:15:40,040 --> 00:15:42,400 Speaker 1: that because it was a smaller school or class was 367 00:15:42,440 --> 00:15:45,560 Speaker 1: only like one hundred and fifty people. I know, it 368 00:15:45,640 --> 00:15:47,680 Speaker 1: was a small public, but it was a small town 369 00:15:47,800 --> 00:15:50,520 Speaker 1: like all the all the schools are pretty small. 370 00:15:50,720 --> 00:15:53,240 Speaker 5: Yeah. And so you know, I have my one. 371 00:15:53,120 --> 00:15:56,800 Speaker 1: Childhood bestie that I've always been close to, and then 372 00:15:56,880 --> 00:16:00,840 Speaker 1: the like group of people that we hung out with 373 00:16:00,880 --> 00:16:03,520 Speaker 1: in high school. She still kind of sees them and 374 00:16:03,640 --> 00:16:05,720 Speaker 1: is friends with them, And that's probably who I would 375 00:16:05,760 --> 00:16:08,520 Speaker 1: like spend most of them night with because some of them, 376 00:16:08,600 --> 00:16:10,880 Speaker 1: like we were so so close in high school and college. 377 00:16:12,320 --> 00:16:15,080 Speaker 1: But I sort of feel like i'm more or less 378 00:16:15,120 --> 00:16:17,840 Speaker 1: like you know what I mean, because I've picked tabs 379 00:16:17,920 --> 00:16:23,000 Speaker 1: on those people through my childhood bestie Elena, and. 380 00:16:24,120 --> 00:16:25,720 Speaker 5: I don't know if I care to see everybody else. 381 00:16:25,760 --> 00:16:28,920 Speaker 3: But here's the big thing. It's the energy of the moment. 382 00:16:28,960 --> 00:16:31,480 Speaker 4: But it would be nice to see the group of friends. 383 00:16:31,520 --> 00:16:34,440 Speaker 2: It's like, because the difference between going to like oh 384 00:16:34,520 --> 00:16:37,000 Speaker 2: I'll see them at that thing and then like going 385 00:16:37,000 --> 00:16:38,680 Speaker 2: to a Christmas party at someone's house. 386 00:16:38,600 --> 00:16:39,440 Speaker 3: Right, you know what I mean? 387 00:16:39,480 --> 00:16:42,680 Speaker 2: Like it's the energy of like, this is the gathering, 388 00:16:42,760 --> 00:16:45,000 Speaker 2: this is the moment, we're doing it now. As I 389 00:16:45,160 --> 00:16:47,160 Speaker 2: was like, we're all going to a bar on this Saturday, 390 00:16:47,520 --> 00:16:48,840 Speaker 2: how did you feel. 391 00:16:48,600 --> 00:16:53,240 Speaker 1: At your reunion about people like, I don't know, being 392 00:16:53,320 --> 00:16:56,400 Speaker 1: weird or making a big deal over like your career 393 00:16:56,640 --> 00:16:57,920 Speaker 1: or yeah, you fucking loved it. 394 00:17:00,000 --> 00:17:03,480 Speaker 2: That's what I loved that I could tell that the 395 00:17:03,520 --> 00:17:06,040 Speaker 2: people that were not very nice to me in high school, 396 00:17:06,119 --> 00:17:07,919 Speaker 2: I could tell that they had an issue with it, 397 00:17:08,000 --> 00:17:11,199 Speaker 2: which is like, wow, you're still holding on too, like 398 00:17:11,280 --> 00:17:13,080 Speaker 2: some kind of like weird competition. 399 00:17:13,640 --> 00:17:16,320 Speaker 3: Whereas like I was just like, was it like comments, I'm. 400 00:17:16,119 --> 00:17:18,520 Speaker 4: Like, wow, it's so good to see you. 401 00:17:18,880 --> 00:17:20,640 Speaker 5: My god, you're doing so well. 402 00:17:20,800 --> 00:17:22,520 Speaker 3: It wasn't even that it was like what do you 403 00:17:22,560 --> 00:17:23,040 Speaker 3: do again? 404 00:17:23,119 --> 00:17:26,840 Speaker 1: And I was like, bitch, I know, yeah. It was 405 00:17:26,960 --> 00:17:29,320 Speaker 1: kind of like you know some when you went to 406 00:17:29,400 --> 00:17:31,320 Speaker 1: high school. When she asked me that I was any 407 00:17:31,359 --> 00:17:32,879 Speaker 1: when you went to high school with if they're like 408 00:17:32,960 --> 00:17:35,879 Speaker 1: super rich or famous in any way, like you know 409 00:17:36,040 --> 00:17:36,560 Speaker 1: about it. 410 00:17:36,640 --> 00:17:39,159 Speaker 2: Also social media, like and like social media, we all 411 00:17:39,320 --> 00:17:40,320 Speaker 2: keep tabs on each other. 412 00:17:40,400 --> 00:17:43,000 Speaker 1: Most they're like a old traveler, like anything that's like 413 00:17:43,160 --> 00:17:46,240 Speaker 1: out of the norm or box, like you fucking know 414 00:17:46,280 --> 00:17:46,600 Speaker 1: about it. 415 00:17:46,600 --> 00:17:47,879 Speaker 3: She was like what do you do again? And I 416 00:17:47,880 --> 00:17:49,360 Speaker 3: was like, God, wow. 417 00:17:49,359 --> 00:17:52,680 Speaker 5: Honestly, kudos though they're having the ball that's ballsy. That 418 00:17:52,800 --> 00:17:56,159 Speaker 5: she was in her cups, that's ballsy. 419 00:17:56,320 --> 00:17:58,760 Speaker 2: She was always kind of like that, Yeah, I mean, 420 00:17:59,359 --> 00:18:00,640 Speaker 2: you know, it's it's interesting. 421 00:18:00,680 --> 00:18:02,479 Speaker 3: The world really rewards. 422 00:18:02,000 --> 00:18:04,239 Speaker 5: Like where did she learn that from? Like was her 423 00:18:04,320 --> 00:18:06,560 Speaker 5: mom like that? And then I started having I start 424 00:18:06,600 --> 00:18:07,720 Speaker 5: having follow up questions. 425 00:18:07,760 --> 00:18:10,040 Speaker 3: I know, I never and I was always like not, 426 00:18:10,359 --> 00:18:12,119 Speaker 3: I didn't know her well. 427 00:18:12,320 --> 00:18:16,640 Speaker 2: She was just like this, like you know, person who 428 00:18:16,960 --> 00:18:19,600 Speaker 2: had a lot of like social power because of like 429 00:18:20,200 --> 00:18:23,320 Speaker 2: how she looked and how much sure you know, access 430 00:18:23,359 --> 00:18:24,520 Speaker 2: to whatever she had. 431 00:18:27,480 --> 00:18:35,960 Speaker 1: More more, what about family reunions? 432 00:18:36,200 --> 00:18:39,359 Speaker 5: I get I was just planning one last night. 433 00:18:39,880 --> 00:18:43,160 Speaker 1: You're planning a family not a reunion, Like okay reunion 434 00:18:43,160 --> 00:18:45,840 Speaker 1: because like my family doesn't do like the forty people 435 00:18:45,920 --> 00:18:46,240 Speaker 1: or whatever. 436 00:18:47,520 --> 00:18:50,560 Speaker 3: But so my aunt lives in Barankia. 437 00:18:51,119 --> 00:18:55,680 Speaker 2: My dad's sister, and out of my dad's five siblings, 438 00:18:55,840 --> 00:18:58,600 Speaker 2: only two or left my dad. My dad passed away, 439 00:18:58,600 --> 00:19:01,399 Speaker 2: but like his brother and his sister are left. His 440 00:19:01,760 --> 00:19:03,720 Speaker 2: brother lives in New Orleans. So what we're gonna do 441 00:19:03,880 --> 00:19:06,879 Speaker 2: is fly the SSE out to New Orleans. 442 00:19:06,920 --> 00:19:08,800 Speaker 3: We're gonna meet her there. We're gonna do like five 443 00:19:08,880 --> 00:19:10,440 Speaker 3: days in New Orleans. 444 00:19:10,400 --> 00:19:14,560 Speaker 2: Cute, and then hopefully my cousins who live in Texas 445 00:19:14,560 --> 00:19:17,120 Speaker 2: will join us and we'll just like go do stuff, 446 00:19:17,480 --> 00:19:21,000 Speaker 2: and then the SS will fly here with us and 447 00:19:21,040 --> 00:19:25,919 Speaker 2: be here for a month in a yeah good, And 448 00:19:26,000 --> 00:19:28,280 Speaker 2: like I'm nervous and excited. 449 00:19:28,560 --> 00:19:29,680 Speaker 3: I love the SS. 450 00:19:29,680 --> 00:19:32,680 Speaker 2: She's so funny and weird, and she doesn't speak any English, 451 00:19:32,760 --> 00:19:35,159 Speaker 2: and she like eats like a bird. She always just 452 00:19:35,200 --> 00:19:39,919 Speaker 2: wants like to drink a Coca Cola. And my sister 453 00:19:40,240 --> 00:19:42,400 Speaker 2: loves her because they cook together, even though the SSE 454 00:19:42,520 --> 00:19:44,520 Speaker 2: barely eats to like cook a bunch of stuff. 455 00:19:44,920 --> 00:19:47,920 Speaker 3: Roz freaking loves her. Oh my mom loves her. The 456 00:19:48,000 --> 00:19:48,880 Speaker 3: gossip all the time. 457 00:19:49,720 --> 00:19:53,920 Speaker 2: What I'm nervous about is being in New Orleans, because 458 00:19:54,400 --> 00:19:56,919 Speaker 2: I love New Orleans. But my aunt and uncle that 459 00:19:56,960 --> 00:19:59,640 Speaker 2: live there, they're a little nervous about everything. 460 00:20:00,119 --> 00:20:00,439 Speaker 5: Okay. 461 00:20:00,600 --> 00:20:02,520 Speaker 2: They live like in a suburb of New Orleans and 462 00:20:02,640 --> 00:20:06,040 Speaker 2: like they barely go into the city. Oh, I see, 463 00:20:06,200 --> 00:20:09,119 Speaker 2: so I was trying to plan. I mean, family redions 464 00:20:09,119 --> 00:20:14,720 Speaker 2: are stressful because somebody has to plan. Yes, someone has 465 00:20:14,720 --> 00:20:16,120 Speaker 2: to take it upon themselves to plan. 466 00:20:16,040 --> 00:20:17,600 Speaker 5: And it's good for you. 467 00:20:17,640 --> 00:20:20,679 Speaker 2: Normally it's me yeah, okay, And like, I don't know 468 00:20:20,680 --> 00:20:22,760 Speaker 2: if that's like older sister behavior or what. 469 00:20:22,880 --> 00:20:24,280 Speaker 3: Like I asked my sister. I was like, how many 470 00:20:24,359 --> 00:20:26,399 Speaker 3: days you want to stay? She was like I don't know. 471 00:20:26,560 --> 00:20:32,040 Speaker 2: I was like, oh my god, gave me like something, Jenny. Yeah. 472 00:20:32,080 --> 00:20:33,520 Speaker 2: And then I was also like, do you want to 473 00:20:33,560 --> 00:20:35,400 Speaker 2: share a hotel room while we're there? 474 00:20:35,400 --> 00:20:37,000 Speaker 3: And she was like yeah. And then I looked at 475 00:20:37,040 --> 00:20:37,520 Speaker 3: her and I was. 476 00:20:37,480 --> 00:20:39,680 Speaker 5: Like, you know what, we're grown ups and. 477 00:20:39,640 --> 00:20:43,879 Speaker 2: I really value our relationship, and I think we should 478 00:20:43,880 --> 00:20:46,080 Speaker 2: have separate rooms because, like, I know what's going to 479 00:20:46,119 --> 00:20:49,040 Speaker 2: happen if we share the same room. That's the thing 480 00:20:49,080 --> 00:20:52,480 Speaker 2: about family is that you go back to these patterns 481 00:20:52,480 --> 00:20:57,560 Speaker 2: that you had that were established so young. So when 482 00:20:57,600 --> 00:21:00,919 Speaker 2: you're around everybody, yes, it becomes. 483 00:21:00,640 --> 00:21:02,439 Speaker 5: I'm a more annoying version of myself. 484 00:21:03,880 --> 00:21:07,760 Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm like soul control, What are your what do 485 00:21:07,840 --> 00:21:09,640 Speaker 3: you turn into? What do you mean like annoying? 486 00:21:09,920 --> 00:21:14,560 Speaker 1: I feel like I'm just like too easily like set off. 487 00:21:14,560 --> 00:21:17,560 Speaker 1: I'm like snappy a little bit, you know, and I'm 488 00:21:17,600 --> 00:21:19,679 Speaker 1: just like why did you say that? Like you know, 489 00:21:19,760 --> 00:21:22,840 Speaker 1: it's like I turned into the little sister, like the yeah, 490 00:21:23,080 --> 00:21:28,040 Speaker 1: you know, and I'm like a little bit argumentative and 491 00:21:29,040 --> 00:21:31,000 Speaker 1: I don't know. I feel like in my everyday life, 492 00:21:31,040 --> 00:21:33,960 Speaker 1: I'm like chill, go with the flow. Like it takes 493 00:21:34,000 --> 00:21:36,359 Speaker 1: a lot to like poke me or like trigger me. 494 00:21:37,040 --> 00:21:38,800 Speaker 1: And then for some reason, you get me around my family, 495 00:21:38,880 --> 00:21:42,639 Speaker 1: who I love and I get along with really, but 496 00:21:43,200 --> 00:21:45,760 Speaker 1: you know, my brother will say like one thing to 497 00:21:45,840 --> 00:21:47,399 Speaker 1: me and I'm like the fuck do you mean by that? 498 00:21:47,440 --> 00:21:50,200 Speaker 3: And I'm like smacking him and I'm like why did 499 00:21:50,200 --> 00:21:50,800 Speaker 3: I just hit you? 500 00:21:50,920 --> 00:21:51,080 Speaker 6: Yeah? 501 00:21:51,160 --> 00:21:54,520 Speaker 1: Like yeah, but if your established pattern, you think like 502 00:21:55,040 --> 00:21:57,760 Speaker 1: I think so yeah, It's like you know, I was 503 00:21:57,800 --> 00:22:00,200 Speaker 1: always I was a little sister and I was it's 504 00:22:00,280 --> 00:22:02,280 Speaker 1: like always I feel like trying to fight for my 505 00:22:02,359 --> 00:22:05,040 Speaker 1: voice to be heard and like you know, being like. 506 00:22:05,080 --> 00:22:07,640 Speaker 3: I'm here, I have thoughts too, and like did. 507 00:22:07,560 --> 00:22:08,439 Speaker 5: Anyone ask me? 508 00:22:08,600 --> 00:22:10,479 Speaker 1: Like I feel like my family will make plans sometimes 509 00:22:10,480 --> 00:22:13,840 Speaker 1: without asking me, and I'll be like, would you get oh, 510 00:22:14,000 --> 00:22:15,000 Speaker 1: you'd not ask me? 511 00:22:15,200 --> 00:22:18,280 Speaker 5: Like I don't know. It doesn't always happen that way, but. 512 00:22:18,960 --> 00:22:22,680 Speaker 1: Sometimes is there is there like like this year, are 513 00:22:22,680 --> 00:22:27,560 Speaker 1: you guys gonna go do reunion style like Thanksgiving or Christmas? 514 00:22:27,600 --> 00:22:29,679 Speaker 3: Or like, are are your plans to go there? Are 515 00:22:29,720 --> 00:22:30,480 Speaker 3: they coming here? 516 00:22:30,760 --> 00:22:30,840 Speaker 6: Like? 517 00:22:31,000 --> 00:22:33,760 Speaker 1: No, hopefully they come here. I've sort of while my 518 00:22:33,880 --> 00:22:36,880 Speaker 1: kids are little, have gotten very I'm like, I want 519 00:22:36,920 --> 00:22:38,960 Speaker 1: my kids to wake up in their house on Christmas morning. 520 00:22:39,280 --> 00:22:40,400 Speaker 1: I want you know. 521 00:22:40,680 --> 00:22:43,200 Speaker 2: Are you saying that, You're like I want this, Like yeah, i. 522 00:22:43,200 --> 00:22:47,040 Speaker 1: Are tradition, our tradition, and everyone is invited and everyone 523 00:22:47,080 --> 00:22:49,320 Speaker 1: can join. But I'm just like the putting them on 524 00:22:49,359 --> 00:22:52,200 Speaker 1: a plane and going to a hot place and shipping 525 00:22:52,280 --> 00:22:55,359 Speaker 1: gifts and like and then it's not the thing. I 526 00:22:55,400 --> 00:22:58,960 Speaker 1: realized too. Love my mom, love my mother in law. 527 00:22:59,080 --> 00:23:03,440 Speaker 1: They're great mother. There's they had dinky, little fucking Christmas 528 00:23:03,440 --> 00:23:07,040 Speaker 1: trees out and like one decoration. Oh no, And I 529 00:23:07,119 --> 00:23:09,960 Speaker 1: just had this moment where I was like, oh, they 530 00:23:10,040 --> 00:23:13,800 Speaker 1: already did this, right, They're kids, right, I can't get 531 00:23:13,840 --> 00:23:17,040 Speaker 1: mad at them for not going full out on Christmas. 532 00:23:17,040 --> 00:23:18,200 Speaker 5: Magic for my kids. 533 00:23:18,680 --> 00:23:19,959 Speaker 3: You have to be the one that does it. 534 00:23:20,000 --> 00:23:21,800 Speaker 1: I have to be the one that does that. And 535 00:23:21,880 --> 00:23:24,199 Speaker 1: I'm gonna do that at home, and I do. I 536 00:23:24,320 --> 00:23:26,680 Speaker 1: decorate the shit out of our house, like I get 537 00:23:26,680 --> 00:23:29,440 Speaker 1: a big Christmas tree, Like I go for it because 538 00:23:30,280 --> 00:23:32,879 Speaker 1: they're my kids and it's my time, you know what 539 00:23:32,920 --> 00:23:36,680 Speaker 1: I mean. So I'm just like, yeah, I just the 540 00:23:36,760 --> 00:23:39,320 Speaker 1: last time we did it, I was like, oh yeah, no, 541 00:23:39,960 --> 00:23:43,600 Speaker 1: I want a bigger thing for my kids on Christmas morning. 542 00:23:43,800 --> 00:23:45,800 Speaker 3: Yeah, And I can't expect two women that. 543 00:23:45,920 --> 00:23:48,800 Speaker 1: Already did it for years and years and years, and 544 00:23:48,880 --> 00:23:52,600 Speaker 1: I'm not going to have that make them feel bad 545 00:23:52,680 --> 00:23:55,400 Speaker 1: that they didn't try harder to make Christmas a big 546 00:23:55,440 --> 00:23:58,800 Speaker 1: deal or special or there the grandma's let's say, I 547 00:23:58,960 --> 00:24:01,000 Speaker 1: like to do better exactly what I'm gonna make. They 548 00:24:01,040 --> 00:24:04,040 Speaker 1: buy a bunch of more like more decorations, you know 549 00:24:04,080 --> 00:24:04,480 Speaker 1: what I mean. 550 00:24:04,560 --> 00:24:05,440 Speaker 5: Like that's my thing. 551 00:24:05,640 --> 00:24:09,080 Speaker 1: Yeah, so yeah, so I'm more like, but I would 552 00:24:09,160 --> 00:24:13,520 Speaker 1: love you know, are ever since we left New York 553 00:24:13,760 --> 00:24:18,120 Speaker 1: and my parents retired and left New Jersey, all of 554 00:24:18,160 --> 00:24:21,760 Speaker 1: my cousins in New York that used to come to 555 00:24:21,800 --> 00:24:25,359 Speaker 1: my parents' house for nochahuena, like the younger cousins have 556 00:24:25,400 --> 00:24:28,879 Speaker 1: actually started to get together Foruena or like Notouena, but 557 00:24:28,960 --> 00:24:30,840 Speaker 1: like the week of Christmas they do a little Christmas 558 00:24:30,880 --> 00:24:35,680 Speaker 1: dinner you And I'm so nostalgic for that whole side 559 00:24:35,720 --> 00:24:38,480 Speaker 1: of the family to be together that I've been like, 560 00:24:38,680 --> 00:24:40,879 Speaker 1: at some point, maybe we can figure out like a 561 00:24:40,920 --> 00:24:44,760 Speaker 1: family reunion thing where maybe we find a retreat place 562 00:24:44,840 --> 00:24:47,680 Speaker 1: or someplace in New York. And because most people are there, 563 00:24:47,760 --> 00:24:49,560 Speaker 1: and but it's hard. 564 00:24:49,640 --> 00:24:50,080 Speaker 5: It's hard. 565 00:24:50,080 --> 00:24:52,320 Speaker 1: There's so many of us, and there's a lot of 566 00:24:52,320 --> 00:24:54,359 Speaker 1: moving parts. There's a lot of moving parts. The younger 567 00:24:54,400 --> 00:24:56,880 Speaker 1: ones are now not so like they're getting married, they're 568 00:24:56,880 --> 00:24:59,760 Speaker 1: starting to have babies too, and like so the families 569 00:24:59,760 --> 00:25:03,159 Speaker 1: grow and it just all feels very overwhelming and complicated. 570 00:25:03,200 --> 00:25:04,119 Speaker 5: But I feel like the. 571 00:25:06,280 --> 00:25:08,600 Speaker 2: So this this is what I think, Like this is 572 00:25:08,640 --> 00:25:12,160 Speaker 2: why we're doing this thing where the ss he's coming, 573 00:25:12,320 --> 00:25:15,240 Speaker 2: and like what we're doing is just we'll try it 574 00:25:15,240 --> 00:25:17,120 Speaker 2: and see for works, right, Yeah, Like what we're saying 575 00:25:17,280 --> 00:25:19,359 Speaker 2: is like we want to bring her, Like we're gonna 576 00:25:19,359 --> 00:25:20,000 Speaker 2: buy her ticket. 577 00:25:20,119 --> 00:25:22,240 Speaker 3: Yeah, she's coming on these days. 578 00:25:22,520 --> 00:25:24,879 Speaker 2: Yeah, and if you guys want to see her, like 579 00:25:25,000 --> 00:25:27,359 Speaker 2: she'll be here on these days and they're happy to 580 00:25:27,400 --> 00:25:30,760 Speaker 2: plan a brunch, you know, because I think my aunt 581 00:25:30,800 --> 00:25:33,240 Speaker 2: and uncle are nervous about being in the French quarter 582 00:25:33,280 --> 00:25:33,600 Speaker 2: at night. 583 00:25:33,640 --> 00:25:35,199 Speaker 3: So I was like, why don't they come in the daytime? 584 00:25:35,480 --> 00:25:37,840 Speaker 2: Like that way they feel kind of safe and like 585 00:25:38,560 --> 00:25:40,480 Speaker 2: it's just like it's just lunch in the middle of 586 00:25:40,520 --> 00:25:42,640 Speaker 2: the day, you know, and like it's not a big trip. 587 00:25:42,680 --> 00:25:44,480 Speaker 3: They don't have to go anywhere. We make it easy 588 00:25:44,560 --> 00:25:47,720 Speaker 3: for them, right, and like we're not. 589 00:25:49,520 --> 00:25:51,480 Speaker 2: I think the thing about reunions is like there are 590 00:25:51,480 --> 00:25:53,720 Speaker 2: a lot like when you think of like reunion, like 591 00:25:53,760 --> 00:25:56,479 Speaker 2: it's a lot of work, right, Like throwing a party 592 00:25:56,640 --> 00:25:58,240 Speaker 2: is a lot of work. Like you do a Christmas 593 00:25:58,240 --> 00:26:00,000 Speaker 2: party almost every year. We didn't do it last year, 594 00:26:00,040 --> 00:26:01,000 Speaker 2: what we're going to do it this year? 595 00:26:01,520 --> 00:26:05,960 Speaker 3: And like it's a lot of work. But it's also like, hey, we're. 596 00:26:05,760 --> 00:26:07,440 Speaker 2: Doing it on this day and if you can make 597 00:26:07,480 --> 00:26:10,760 Speaker 2: it cool, we're going to be Uh. People are welcome 598 00:26:10,760 --> 00:26:13,679 Speaker 2: to come between like two and we'll be going until midnight, 599 00:26:13,920 --> 00:26:18,200 Speaker 2: you know, and like whenever you're down to come. It's 600 00:26:18,240 --> 00:26:20,600 Speaker 2: like that like making it more flexible, I think is 601 00:26:20,760 --> 00:26:26,360 Speaker 2: easier for people because like a high school reunion that's 602 00:26:26,359 --> 00:26:28,120 Speaker 2: like on a certain day and you have to fly 603 00:26:28,520 --> 00:26:29,160 Speaker 2: like that's the. 604 00:26:29,119 --> 00:26:29,680 Speaker 3: Hard part of that. 605 00:26:29,920 --> 00:26:32,600 Speaker 2: Yeah, right, Like it's very I mean even just like 606 00:26:32,720 --> 00:26:34,320 Speaker 2: our friend dinner that we're doing, like. 607 00:26:34,400 --> 00:26:36,960 Speaker 3: That was, oh my god, it was like who's schedule? 608 00:26:37,119 --> 00:26:38,240 Speaker 3: And when our one. 609 00:26:39,640 --> 00:26:44,120 Speaker 5: Find out what free Wednesday night? Jesus. 610 00:26:47,200 --> 00:26:55,320 Speaker 2: More more, do you guys, do ever do like matching 611 00:26:55,600 --> 00:26:57,480 Speaker 2: Jammy's or anything on Christmas? 612 00:26:57,960 --> 00:26:59,480 Speaker 5: I do like to do matching. 613 00:26:59,320 --> 00:27:02,760 Speaker 1: Jammy I feel like I'm the one that's so into 614 00:27:02,800 --> 00:27:04,439 Speaker 1: it and I'm forcing the rest of the family to 615 00:27:04,520 --> 00:27:06,720 Speaker 1: do it, but there super. 616 00:27:06,440 --> 00:27:08,960 Speaker 5: Happy when they get into Jammy's. 617 00:27:09,400 --> 00:27:12,400 Speaker 2: We did themed Jammy's last year, so like everyone had 618 00:27:12,480 --> 00:27:15,600 Speaker 2: like their own color, but they were the those like 619 00:27:15,720 --> 00:27:17,000 Speaker 2: fancy cotton like. 620 00:27:18,320 --> 00:27:20,959 Speaker 5: No, no, no, yeah. But like I got us really 621 00:27:21,119 --> 00:27:22,360 Speaker 5: soft soft. 622 00:27:22,040 --> 00:27:24,360 Speaker 1: Ones last year that were a big hit with the family, 623 00:27:24,400 --> 00:27:26,760 Speaker 1: and even Rosie got like a little donky one. 624 00:27:27,000 --> 00:27:28,920 Speaker 3: Yeah that's cute. 625 00:27:29,400 --> 00:27:31,800 Speaker 2: What about like, Okay, this is more for like high 626 00:27:31,800 --> 00:27:35,159 Speaker 2: school union style or like family extended family maybe the 627 00:27:35,480 --> 00:27:38,000 Speaker 2: or parties. Do you do small talk? Like are you 628 00:27:38,040 --> 00:27:39,679 Speaker 2: into small I mean, like I know we all do 629 00:27:39,760 --> 00:27:40,280 Speaker 2: small talk. 630 00:27:40,400 --> 00:27:41,560 Speaker 5: We all do small talk. 631 00:27:41,760 --> 00:27:44,280 Speaker 2: I'm interested to hear what your thoughts are, ok, I 632 00:27:44,320 --> 00:27:46,159 Speaker 2: think because I have strong opinions. 633 00:27:46,280 --> 00:27:47,800 Speaker 5: Okay, I know you do. 634 00:27:48,440 --> 00:27:53,440 Speaker 1: I have general I think anxiety, social anxiety about any 635 00:27:53,480 --> 00:27:56,320 Speaker 1: type of like gathering, wedding event. 636 00:27:56,720 --> 00:27:58,399 Speaker 5: You know this, you've been in events with me. 637 00:27:59,280 --> 00:28:03,280 Speaker 1: I think one piece of it is small talk makes 638 00:28:03,359 --> 00:28:09,760 Speaker 1: me feel more anxious, because I feel like dumb when 639 00:28:09,800 --> 00:28:14,240 Speaker 1: I'm making small talk and I I don't know, I 640 00:28:14,359 --> 00:28:19,919 Speaker 1: just I'm I'm and then I get bored and and 641 00:28:20,000 --> 00:28:23,320 Speaker 1: I just I'm not good at I don't I don't 642 00:28:23,400 --> 00:28:23,720 Speaker 1: like it. 643 00:28:23,760 --> 00:28:24,639 Speaker 3: I don't like it. 644 00:28:24,680 --> 00:28:26,960 Speaker 1: The best times I've had at any work event or 645 00:28:26,960 --> 00:28:29,600 Speaker 1: any dinner or whatever is like when you end up 646 00:28:29,600 --> 00:28:32,000 Speaker 1: having like this random deep talk with somebody that you 647 00:28:32,200 --> 00:28:34,880 Speaker 1: just met, Like, I fucking live for that. I love 648 00:28:35,400 --> 00:28:38,200 Speaker 1: I'm like exhilarated by it. I love it so much. 649 00:28:40,800 --> 00:28:42,800 Speaker 1: I'm I'm literally the type of person that you could 650 00:28:42,800 --> 00:28:44,320 Speaker 1: come I could come up to you at a party 651 00:28:44,320 --> 00:28:45,760 Speaker 1: and be like, oh, it's nice to meet you, and 652 00:28:45,760 --> 00:28:48,040 Speaker 1: you'd be like sorry, I'm like so out of it, 653 00:28:48,120 --> 00:28:50,880 Speaker 1: like my mom just died, and I won't leave that conversation. 654 00:28:51,040 --> 00:28:52,440 Speaker 5: Yeah you know what I mean. 655 00:28:52,400 --> 00:28:57,280 Speaker 1: Like Sam, and yeah, so I don't know small talk, 656 00:28:57,360 --> 00:28:58,320 Speaker 1: but we all do it. 657 00:28:58,400 --> 00:29:01,719 Speaker 5: I mean, it's fine. It's it's you know. 658 00:29:02,200 --> 00:29:04,640 Speaker 1: And you actually helped me get better at getting out 659 00:29:04,680 --> 00:29:07,880 Speaker 1: of small talk too, Like let that that's a skill 660 00:29:07,920 --> 00:29:10,400 Speaker 1: too that I tried to get better at, and I 661 00:29:10,400 --> 00:29:12,200 Speaker 1: feel like that's a good one to have for like 662 00:29:12,520 --> 00:29:13,760 Speaker 1: high school reunions. 663 00:29:14,680 --> 00:29:16,760 Speaker 5: You gave me like some kind of line. 664 00:29:16,480 --> 00:29:19,520 Speaker 1: Of I have to go, oh oh, not even that 665 00:29:19,560 --> 00:29:21,840 Speaker 1: of just like oh, well, it was so great catching 666 00:29:21,920 --> 00:29:24,000 Speaker 1: up with you, like so yeah, to see you like 667 00:29:24,080 --> 00:29:26,080 Speaker 1: I'm gonna go and then just like whatever it could 668 00:29:26,080 --> 00:29:27,600 Speaker 1: be like I'm gonna go to the bathroom, I'm gonna go. 669 00:29:27,560 --> 00:29:28,200 Speaker 5: Get another drink. 670 00:29:28,240 --> 00:29:30,959 Speaker 3: The escape I'm gonna yeah, the escape line. 671 00:29:31,200 --> 00:29:34,360 Speaker 5: Yeah. I used to just feel held. 672 00:29:34,160 --> 00:29:37,680 Speaker 1: Hostage and conversations forever at parties that I didn't want 673 00:29:37,680 --> 00:29:40,560 Speaker 1: to be in ran out of like small talk, and 674 00:29:40,600 --> 00:29:42,640 Speaker 1: then you just gave me that permission, and now I 675 00:29:42,640 --> 00:29:43,920 Speaker 1: feel like I've gone so much better. 676 00:29:44,080 --> 00:29:46,080 Speaker 2: Yeah, it's a good it's a really like a hand 677 00:29:46,120 --> 00:29:48,600 Speaker 2: on the shoulder, like yeah, or even I think you 678 00:29:48,600 --> 00:29:51,040 Speaker 2: said like I'm gonna mingle a little bit, I'm gonna 679 00:29:51,080 --> 00:29:51,560 Speaker 2: do around. 680 00:29:51,680 --> 00:29:53,840 Speaker 1: You have to do it, you have to do it, 681 00:29:54,440 --> 00:29:56,160 Speaker 1: so great catching up, I'm gonna go, I'm gonna do 682 00:29:56,280 --> 00:29:56,960 Speaker 1: like a little round. 683 00:29:56,960 --> 00:30:00,640 Speaker 2: That's like the personally when people do to me now, 684 00:30:00,720 --> 00:30:03,000 Speaker 2: because I'm like, it's not that I'm boring, it's just 685 00:30:03,080 --> 00:30:05,560 Speaker 2: like literally, you came to this party to network, like 686 00:30:05,600 --> 00:30:07,720 Speaker 2: you have to go say hi to people. Yeah, like 687 00:30:07,800 --> 00:30:09,680 Speaker 2: that's fine, yeah, or you want to catch up with 688 00:30:09,760 --> 00:30:11,120 Speaker 2: multiple people or whatever. 689 00:30:11,280 --> 00:30:15,240 Speaker 5: Like it's such a great thing, I think, especially. 690 00:30:14,880 --> 00:30:17,160 Speaker 3: I'm sure I told it from someone. I will say 691 00:30:17,200 --> 00:30:18,040 Speaker 3: that's about small talk. 692 00:30:18,120 --> 00:30:20,120 Speaker 2: I read this the other day that was like you 693 00:30:20,240 --> 00:30:22,880 Speaker 2: small talk to get to the big talk, and I 694 00:30:22,920 --> 00:30:26,160 Speaker 2: was like ooh, and then whatever I was eating like 695 00:30:26,200 --> 00:30:29,520 Speaker 2: went on to sort of say, like you use small 696 00:30:29,600 --> 00:30:33,560 Speaker 2: talk to start like be like in your mind, like 697 00:30:33,600 --> 00:30:34,120 Speaker 2: pretend like. 698 00:30:34,080 --> 00:30:37,360 Speaker 3: You're kind of an interviewer a little bit and be like, oh, tell. 699 00:30:37,240 --> 00:30:39,280 Speaker 2: Me more about that, or like look for the thing 700 00:30:39,480 --> 00:30:41,640 Speaker 2: like in the small talk that kind of like excites 701 00:30:41,960 --> 00:30:45,840 Speaker 2: it seems like it's exciting them, yeah, or like firing 702 00:30:45,880 --> 00:30:47,400 Speaker 2: them up, and then go for that. 703 00:30:47,640 --> 00:30:50,840 Speaker 3: I have that be the next question, like, Oh, you 704 00:30:50,920 --> 00:30:52,000 Speaker 3: seem like you really. 705 00:30:51,840 --> 00:30:54,720 Speaker 2: Like outdoor stuff, like do you spend a lot of 706 00:30:54,920 --> 00:30:56,520 Speaker 2: your family spend a lot of time outdoors? 707 00:30:56,520 --> 00:30:58,840 Speaker 3: Like what are you doing lately? Like that's been outdoors 708 00:30:58,920 --> 00:30:59,360 Speaker 3: or whatever. 709 00:30:59,520 --> 00:30:59,760 Speaker 2: You know. 710 00:31:00,680 --> 00:31:03,080 Speaker 3: I think that's nice because then you get past like. 711 00:31:03,000 --> 00:31:04,720 Speaker 5: The how are your kids? 712 00:31:04,760 --> 00:31:07,040 Speaker 2: You know, and then you get into like oh my gosh, 713 00:31:07,440 --> 00:31:09,760 Speaker 2: yeah yeah, you get into like how about this weather? 714 00:31:11,000 --> 00:31:15,000 Speaker 2: I also read oh no, Red heard probably on TikTok. Honestly, 715 00:31:15,040 --> 00:31:17,640 Speaker 2: let's be real. It was like if you ask someone 716 00:31:17,720 --> 00:31:20,719 Speaker 2: what they do, it's like the smallest version of like 717 00:31:20,800 --> 00:31:24,480 Speaker 2: what you could ask about them as a curious person. 718 00:31:24,760 --> 00:31:27,840 Speaker 3: Oh like, don't ask, like, avoid the question. I don't 719 00:31:27,840 --> 00:31:28,720 Speaker 3: know what you do. 720 00:31:28,880 --> 00:31:31,680 Speaker 5: I don't like I have questions, question. I hate that question. 721 00:31:31,760 --> 00:31:33,840 Speaker 2: Lauren ash is so funny about that when she was 722 00:31:33,840 --> 00:31:36,040 Speaker 2: like stuck on a plane and someone was like, so 723 00:31:36,080 --> 00:31:37,239 Speaker 2: what do you do? And she was like, oh, I'm 724 00:31:37,240 --> 00:31:38,360 Speaker 2: an actress and they were like. 725 00:31:38,440 --> 00:31:40,560 Speaker 3: Have I seen you and anything? And she was like, well, have. 726 00:31:40,480 --> 00:31:43,040 Speaker 2: You a question blah blah and they were like no, 727 00:31:43,280 --> 00:31:47,240 Speaker 2: I haven't seen that. And then and then I'm retelling 728 00:31:47,280 --> 00:31:49,840 Speaker 2: her story. And then they were on the flight and 729 00:31:49,880 --> 00:31:53,760 Speaker 2: they found Superstore started watching it and then they were 730 00:31:53,800 --> 00:31:54,920 Speaker 2: like it's not for me. 731 00:31:55,920 --> 00:31:59,360 Speaker 3: Can you imagine? Can you imagine I would fly? 732 00:31:59,640 --> 00:32:02,880 Speaker 2: Why I would flag down and be like I have 733 00:32:02,960 --> 00:32:10,000 Speaker 2: to make to have to change seats and being harassed. Okay, 734 00:32:10,640 --> 00:32:13,040 Speaker 2: really quick, let's do like a tiny touch on nerd 735 00:32:13,080 --> 00:32:14,400 Speaker 2: time the nerd. 736 00:32:16,560 --> 00:32:17,840 Speaker 3: I thought this was really interesting. 737 00:32:17,880 --> 00:32:20,840 Speaker 2: A Michigan study that explored the differences seen in the 738 00:32:20,880 --> 00:32:22,960 Speaker 2: high school reunions. And this is a quote from the 739 00:32:23,080 --> 00:32:25,200 Speaker 2: University of Michigan psychologists Abigail J. 740 00:32:25,360 --> 00:32:27,320 Speaker 3: Stewart. People who leave their. 741 00:32:27,160 --> 00:32:31,320 Speaker 2: Hometowns after high school are less likely to have traditional families. 742 00:32:31,880 --> 00:32:34,320 Speaker 2: They are drawn to diversity and comfortable with it, and 743 00:32:34,360 --> 00:32:38,760 Speaker 2: they're successful at navigating a more impersonal world, which I 744 00:32:38,800 --> 00:32:41,320 Speaker 2: think is interesting because it is interesting. There were a 745 00:32:41,320 --> 00:32:43,160 Speaker 2: lot of people at my high school reunion that did 746 00:32:43,200 --> 00:32:46,120 Speaker 2: stay at home, right, And like, there's nothing wrong with that. 747 00:32:46,840 --> 00:32:49,480 Speaker 2: The only thing is, like, if you stay in the 748 00:32:49,560 --> 00:32:53,760 Speaker 2: environment that feels safe, when you see or are exposed 749 00:32:53,840 --> 00:33:00,920 Speaker 2: to differences, cultural differences, socioeconomic differences, it's scary. Yeah, And 750 00:33:01,000 --> 00:33:03,760 Speaker 2: like I think that's where we get that's where like 751 00:33:03,880 --> 00:33:08,200 Speaker 2: it gets tricky, right, Like that's where racism, xenophobia, homophobia 752 00:33:08,280 --> 00:33:10,880 Speaker 2: comes in, right, because like you haven't been exposed to 753 00:33:11,040 --> 00:33:16,400 Speaker 2: or seen other families or friends or groups different than you, 754 00:33:16,640 --> 00:33:20,280 Speaker 2: other religions, other cultures, other ways of life, and like that, 755 00:33:20,480 --> 00:33:23,000 Speaker 2: I think is the thing that's that I struggle with 756 00:33:23,040 --> 00:33:26,400 Speaker 2: at reunions, say even family reunions, where I'm like, you 757 00:33:26,440 --> 00:33:29,560 Speaker 2: guys don't see anybody outside of your little circle, yep, 758 00:33:29,760 --> 00:33:33,120 Speaker 2: and so you're terrified when I bring up like we 759 00:33:33,160 --> 00:33:34,800 Speaker 2: took Ross to Pride, you know, like. 760 00:33:35,120 --> 00:33:38,200 Speaker 1: Or like whatever, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, one hundred percent. 761 00:33:38,240 --> 00:33:40,560 Speaker 1: I think that's so interesting and it's so true. And 762 00:33:40,600 --> 00:33:44,560 Speaker 1: it's like it's like, what is kind of keeping me 763 00:33:44,600 --> 00:33:47,680 Speaker 1: on the fence of going to my reunion because all 764 00:33:47,760 --> 00:33:50,120 Speaker 1: the people are thinking about I'm like, yeah, they just 765 00:33:50,200 --> 00:33:56,200 Speaker 1: stayed near in our same hometown and it's still is 766 00:33:56,400 --> 00:33:59,959 Speaker 1: more or less the same, and they haven't left that 767 00:34:00,120 --> 00:34:04,880 Speaker 1: bubble and there are I already know, big disagreements there 768 00:34:04,960 --> 00:34:07,080 Speaker 1: about general listen. 769 00:34:07,040 --> 00:34:10,759 Speaker 2: Things is how they phrase the house please go to 770 00:34:10,800 --> 00:34:13,280 Speaker 2: have your own Romeo Michelle's high school reunion moment. 771 00:34:13,400 --> 00:34:17,400 Speaker 5: Okay, okay, just like pink dress. 772 00:34:17,280 --> 00:34:21,479 Speaker 2: Tell everyone you're on the inventor post its and have 773 00:34:21,520 --> 00:34:24,560 Speaker 2: your moment and then like hire you should hire a 774 00:34:24,640 --> 00:34:27,400 Speaker 2: helicopter to come and pick you up. Yeah, and then 775 00:34:27,480 --> 00:34:28,719 Speaker 2: put who was it? 776 00:34:29,000 --> 00:34:35,040 Speaker 3: Who was there? The boyfriend and coming. 777 00:34:33,480 --> 00:34:36,080 Speaker 2: But have him do like a weird prosthetic face like 778 00:34:36,160 --> 00:34:37,240 Speaker 2: he does in romy Michelle. 779 00:34:37,239 --> 00:34:39,080 Speaker 3: He's got a weird prosthetic chin or whatever. 780 00:34:42,200 --> 00:34:42,960 Speaker 6: More better? 781 00:34:44,480 --> 00:34:45,160 Speaker 5: Okay, do you? 782 00:34:45,560 --> 00:34:45,960 Speaker 6: Uh? 783 00:34:46,000 --> 00:34:47,480 Speaker 5: What was your takeaways today? 784 00:34:47,680 --> 00:34:48,040 Speaker 6: Oh? 785 00:34:48,080 --> 00:34:51,720 Speaker 1: My takeaways was I love the reframe of small talk. 786 00:34:52,080 --> 00:34:54,160 Speaker 5: That was a big one for me. I'm going to 787 00:34:54,280 --> 00:34:55,200 Speaker 5: use that in my life. 788 00:34:55,880 --> 00:35:00,760 Speaker 1: And my takeaways was it like reunions are a mixed 789 00:35:00,840 --> 00:35:05,000 Speaker 1: bag of emotions and that's maybe okay, and everybody feels 790 00:35:05,000 --> 00:35:05,279 Speaker 1: like that. 791 00:35:05,800 --> 00:35:07,000 Speaker 5: Yeah, what's your takeaways? 792 00:35:07,280 --> 00:35:09,680 Speaker 3: My takeaway is that Cassie still sucks. 793 00:35:10,280 --> 00:35:16,440 Speaker 2: You can about her last name, just thinking about I 794 00:35:16,440 --> 00:35:18,719 Speaker 2: don't think about her often, but oh this brought it, 795 00:35:18,800 --> 00:35:20,760 Speaker 2: brought it up, and I don't like Kassie. 796 00:35:21,000 --> 00:35:21,800 Speaker 5: I don't like you. 797 00:35:23,480 --> 00:35:26,080 Speaker 2: My other takeaway was that I'm I'm like pretty good 798 00:35:26,080 --> 00:35:29,160 Speaker 2: at reunions, like even family ones, as long as I 799 00:35:29,200 --> 00:35:33,279 Speaker 2: stay calm and like don't like take people for what 800 00:35:33,320 --> 00:35:36,239 Speaker 2: they are in the moment and like give them the 801 00:35:36,280 --> 00:35:39,200 Speaker 2: benefit of the doubt of like and also give myself 802 00:35:39,200 --> 00:35:40,719 Speaker 2: the benefit of the doubt, which is like I get 803 00:35:40,719 --> 00:35:42,160 Speaker 2: to go home after this, Like I don't have to. 804 00:35:42,920 --> 00:35:45,440 Speaker 3: It doesn't have to continue past this brunch. 805 00:35:45,640 --> 00:35:46,719 Speaker 5: You're more better. 806 00:35:46,520 --> 00:35:49,719 Speaker 1: At reunions than me. I think I get to that's 807 00:35:49,719 --> 00:35:52,440 Speaker 1: why we're doing this. Yeah, that's literally why we're doing this. 808 00:35:52,680 --> 00:35:56,399 Speaker 1: Yeah all right, all right, great, okay, see you next week. 809 00:35:56,440 --> 00:35:56,840 Speaker 5: Friends. 810 00:35:56,880 --> 00:35:57,680 Speaker 6: Bye bye. 811 00:36:00,200 --> 00:36:01,879 Speaker 2: You have something you'd like to be more better at 812 00:36:01,880 --> 00:36:03,800 Speaker 2: that you want us to talk about in a future episode. 813 00:36:03,880 --> 00:36:06,280 Speaker 1: Can you relate to our struggles or have you tried 814 00:36:06,280 --> 00:36:07,440 Speaker 1: one of our tips and tricks? 815 00:36:07,640 --> 00:36:08,239 Speaker 5: Shoot us your. 816 00:36:08,200 --> 00:36:11,680 Speaker 2: Thoughts and ideas at Morebetter pod at gmail dot com 817 00:36:12,000 --> 00:36:13,800 Speaker 2: and include a voice note if you want to be 818 00:36:13,840 --> 00:36:17,160 Speaker 2: featured on the pod. 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