WEBVTT - Flying Southwest with Connie Britton

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<v Speaker 1>Hi Catherine, Hi Chelsea.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm in my last day of Whistler, Canada for the season.

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<v Speaker 3>This is it.

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<v Speaker 2>I skied yesterday. We did some spring skiing with all

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<v Speaker 2>the kids and all the adults. We had such an

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<v Speaker 2>epic day. It was so much fun. I skied into

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<v Speaker 2>a tree, which I always do, but it was spring

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<v Speaker 2>slushy skiing, so even as I was heading towards the tree,

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<v Speaker 2>I thought this is going to be easy and to

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<v Speaker 2>bounce right off. And then Ann Shauneker, who you may

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<v Speaker 2>know from my book, was able to rescue me. As usual.

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<v Speaker 2>She got my skis off and out of the tree.

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<v Speaker 2>One was in like three feet of snow and behind

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<v Speaker 2>the tree, so I have good pictures. And then we

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<v Speaker 2>went to appray to a new place and then I

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<v Speaker 2>got a massage. It was just like one of those

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<v Speaker 2>perfect days. I was with like six of my girlfriends.

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<v Speaker 2>And then tonight I'm doing my book. I'm doing a

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<v Speaker 2>book event in Whistler at the theater here. Armchair Books

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<v Speaker 2>is our local bookstore, so I wanted to support them

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<v Speaker 2>and have a book event for I'll have what she's having.

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<v Speaker 2>So I'm going to do that tonight and then I'm

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<v Speaker 2>off I'm off to Chicago to.

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<v Speaker 1>Marrow, borrow, fabulous, fabulous, and then you go to Europe.

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<v Speaker 1>You'll be going to Europe.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna going to Europe, you guys, if you haven't

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<v Speaker 2>gotten your tickets. I start out in Rekuvic. I think

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<v Speaker 2>it's May eleventh. I'm in Rekuvic, and then I'm in Belfast.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm coming to thirteen countries, so check Chelseahandler dot com.

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<v Speaker 2>I am coming to a city near you. I'm very

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<v Speaker 2>very excited for my European tour.

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<v Speaker 1>And we've got one of your buddies in the studio today.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah, this is one of my close friends who

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<v Speaker 2>is a huge pain in my ass. Actually I'm a

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<v Speaker 2>huge pain in her ass. And I take a lot

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<v Speaker 2>of pride in that. She is the creator and host

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<v Speaker 2>of the Motherhood on Hallmark, whose first two episodes are

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<v Speaker 2>out now. She also starts in Overcompensating on Amazon Prime.

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<v Speaker 2>All episodes are available May fifteenth, and you would recognize

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<v Speaker 2>her from a lot of different shows like Friday Night Lights,

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<v Speaker 2>like Dirty John, Like, I don't know, she's in everything,

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<v Speaker 2>So please welcome Connie Britton.

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<v Speaker 3>Hi, Connie, we got you muted right now? Okay, do

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<v Speaker 3>you want me to unmute?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, no, we want you to stay on mute. Connie,

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<v Speaker 2>we want you to stay on mute for the interview.

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<v Speaker 2>I have a little story to tell about Connie as

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<v Speaker 2>we begin this episode of the podcast.

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<v Speaker 3>Are we starting? Is this?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah? No, that bitch is on? Yeah, that's on. So

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<v Speaker 2>we're promoting, you know, Connie Britton from a million television series.

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<v Speaker 2>We'll go over that in your intro while you're not here,

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<v Speaker 2>so that you don't have to listen to.

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<v Speaker 3>That, and also you can say whatever you want. I know,

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<v Speaker 3>I know what you're gonna say. I know how you

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<v Speaker 3>feel about my television series.

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<v Speaker 2>Do you I find it very funny whenever I watch

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<v Speaker 2>Connie in anything, because it's I know her very well,

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<v Speaker 2>and I go out of my way for Connie all

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<v Speaker 2>the time. I constantly am showing up at things whenever

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<v Speaker 2>she asked me to. I can't say the same for

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<v Speaker 2>Connie with regard to me or my birthday, but I'm

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<v Speaker 2>always doing things for her. But we did have a

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<v Speaker 2>pretty funny do you want to talk about album? I

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<v Speaker 2>think that's a pretty funny story to share.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh, that is a pretty funny story to share. I

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<v Speaker 3>love that story.

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<v Speaker 2>I want to tell you what happened. So Jane Fonda

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<v Speaker 2>wanted us to campaign in Albuquerque before the election. The

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<v Speaker 2>candidate that we campaigned for did not win the election.

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<v Speaker 2>I want to be on record saying that she is

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<v Speaker 2>not the president.

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<v Speaker 3>But so we did. We did that.

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<v Speaker 2>What of when Jane Fonda asks you to do anything,

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<v Speaker 2>you do it, especially with my history with Jane Fonda.

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<v Speaker 2>Connie has her own history with Jane Fonda different from yours. Uh,

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<v Speaker 2>actually no, because remember that time we went to go

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<v Speaker 2>visit her when she had her hip, so she had

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<v Speaker 2>some surgery, dined and we went to go visit her

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<v Speaker 2>at her house and you revealed to her that your

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<v Speaker 2>father said that she was Remember what did you say

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<v Speaker 2>to her?

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<v Speaker 3>Oh, that's right. And I thought it was such a

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<v Speaker 3>great story. And she looked at me like, oh, she's

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<v Speaker 3>like my father, I said. I said, Basically, we were

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<v Speaker 3>not allowed to say your name in our house growing

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<v Speaker 3>up because my father worked in nuclear power and so

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<v Speaker 3>it was like literally one name, one name that we

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<v Speaker 3>could not say. We could not watch any movies that

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<v Speaker 3>Jane Fonda was a part of. It was not to

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<v Speaker 3>be spoken because I guess of the China syndrome or something,

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<v Speaker 3>so like she was perceived as you know, this like

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<v Speaker 3>anti nuclear person in my household. And now of course

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<v Speaker 3>I idolize her. She is like the greatest icon. I

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<v Speaker 3>can't believe that I get to call her my friend,

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<v Speaker 3>like whatever. So I thought, great story, Like also, she

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<v Speaker 3>just had hip surgery, she just got out of surgery,

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<v Speaker 3>and she's just like drugs.

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<v Speaker 2>Anyway, that was one highlight. But cut to this last

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<v Speaker 2>year we were It was twenty twenty four. So last

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<v Speaker 2>year we went to Albuquerque and Jane was like, okay,

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<v Speaker 2>we both said we're in. We're like fun trip. Jane

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<v Speaker 2>told us she was taking a Southwest flight and Kannie

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<v Speaker 2>and I I was like, does that mean we have

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<v Speaker 2>to take a Southwest flight?

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<v Speaker 3>Can we meet you there?

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, so can we just can we? Is there? Okay?

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<v Speaker 2>So forget about the private plane. There isn't one. That's okay,

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<v Speaker 2>no problem. It's a political event, so of course I'm

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<v Speaker 2>not expecting that, but I don't know. I thought maybe

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<v Speaker 2>something something else would happen then, other than Southwest, perhaps

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<v Speaker 2>another airline. And then I say, okay, we're flying out

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<v Speaker 2>of Burbank. I think I'm trying to find the picture. Yes, Burbank,

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<v Speaker 2>do you have the picture to put up on I

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<v Speaker 2>don't know how high tech you are. Probably we're not

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<v Speaker 2>that high tech, but I do have the picture. I'll

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<v Speaker 2>use it when I post this episode. Anyway, we took

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<v Speaker 2>a picture of us. So we go to Burbank and

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<v Speaker 2>Jane has an assistant with her. Kanye and I are

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<v Speaker 2>are braving at the Burbank Airport, braving Southwest Airlines and

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<v Speaker 2>we I'm like, how is this gonna work? And every

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<v Speaker 2>single person I'm annoyed that I'm gonna have to deal with,

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<v Speaker 2>you know like this. I'm like, We're just going to

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<v Speaker 2>Southwest and Burbank and this is gonna be like a

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<v Speaker 2>shit show. And every person that you can imagine, of course,

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<v Speaker 2>is recognizing Jane Fonda. Nobody gives a shit that I'm there,

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<v Speaker 2>which was a beautiful reprieve. But but everyone would come

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<v Speaker 2>up to her and say can I get a picture

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<v Speaker 2>with you? Can I get a picture with you? And

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<v Speaker 2>then so I was there managing Jane Fonda. I'm like, well,

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<v Speaker 2>you can't keep saying yes to every single person, will

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<v Speaker 2>be here all day. But she had no no there

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<v Speaker 2>was It's like it's when Jane Fonda. Imagine her walking

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<v Speaker 2>through the terminal of Southwest and Burbank. I mean, obviously

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<v Speaker 2>anyone who sees her is like, what the fuck is

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<v Speaker 2>she doing there? Then we take the sideway.

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<v Speaker 3>She is also like could care less, Like she doesn't

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<v Speaker 3>give a shit about anything in real side seats of

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<v Speaker 3>the wall. Yes to the Starbucks at Burbank Airport. That's

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<v Speaker 3>where we're going to sit till our flight takes off.

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<v Speaker 2>And then someone was like because she was sitting down,

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<v Speaker 2>so people were crouching to get pictures with her, and

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<v Speaker 2>then some guy asked her. He goes, would you mind

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<v Speaker 2>standing up? And she was about to get up, and

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, don't get up, Jane, like just let

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<v Speaker 2>him take Why are you listening to him? And she's like,

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<v Speaker 2>you're right, Why am I listen? I'm eighty years old? Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>she's eighty? Is she eighty?

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<v Speaker 3>Is she eighty? Is she eighty two? Eighty she's older

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<v Speaker 3>than eighty, right, Okay, yeah, I think she's eighty two.

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<v Speaker 3>She's unbelievable.

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<v Speaker 1>The Internet says she's eighty seven.

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<v Speaker 3>That's right, she's eighty seven. I knew she was like

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<v Speaker 3>way older, but then I didn't want to say a

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<v Speaker 3>fact like, it's so hard to believe that she's eighty seven.

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<v Speaker 2>It is really hard to She's a vibrant So she's vibrant.

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<v Speaker 2>She makes a hundred phone calls a day for her

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<v Speaker 2>climate pack, which I just made a donation to this

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<v Speaker 2>very morning. FYI, if you want to donate for climate change,

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<v Speaker 2>which you should. Her pack works harder than anything I've

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<v Speaker 2>ever seen.

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<v Speaker 3>Also, I'm speaking on a zoom for that oh later

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<v Speaker 3>today actually, okay, see, see she keeps asking you to

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<v Speaker 3>do things. I think she stopped asking me to do

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<v Speaker 3>things after this trip Querqueachdather. So then we get to Albuquerque,

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<v Speaker 3>we find out we're staying at the hotel the Hilton Yard.

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<v Speaker 2>Was the airport, the airport Hilton, Airport Hilton, the Airport Hilton.

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<v Speaker 2>Once again, Connie and I were texting on the side,

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<v Speaker 2>going is this really gonna happen? Are we staying? And

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like, God, I don't think we can move hotels

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<v Speaker 2>if Jane is staying at the airport Hilton, like we

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<v Speaker 2>have to. And I was only coming for Albuquerque. Connie

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<v Speaker 2>went on to another city the next day.

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<v Speaker 3>I stayed by the way, you like you kind of

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<v Speaker 3>just like brushed off the rest of the Southwest trip

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<v Speaker 3>like you me and Jane Fonda, like at least we

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<v Speaker 3>completed the row of our Southwest like I of course

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<v Speaker 3>had the middle seat, but yeah, like the three of

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<v Speaker 3>us in the row is our Southwest flight.

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<v Speaker 2>And then we get to Albuquerque. We go for lunch.

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<v Speaker 2>First I order a frozen margarita obviously, and Jane's like, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>I've never thought to have a frozen margarite in the daytime,

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<v Speaker 2>so she Connie orders one Jane or what I think.

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<v Speaker 2>I ordered my second one, and Jane's like, I can't

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<v Speaker 2>have two frozen margarita's and I was like, well I can.

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<v Speaker 2>And then right before we were about to campaign, right,

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<v Speaker 2>So then we go to one campaign event, which was

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<v Speaker 2>great for all the people who are working in the campaign,

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<v Speaker 2>and then we had some downtime. At that point, I

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<v Speaker 2>think I pulled an edible out of my purse and

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<v Speaker 2>was grabbing that and Jane goes, is that an edible, Chelsea?

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<v Speaker 2>And I'm like, yeah, we're campaigning, like I have to

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<v Speaker 2>remain alert. So then we went to the second event,

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<v Speaker 2>which was great. You know, Jane, it's just so nice

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<v Speaker 2>to see how people respond to her it's very inspiring.

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<v Speaker 3>But also how amazing she is at speaking about this subject,

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<v Speaker 3>like she is the most educated on it, Like she

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<v Speaker 3>she just knows how to talk about it. Like if

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<v Speaker 3>you want facts, you talk to Jane. It's like kind

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<v Speaker 3>of incredible to listen to her too.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, And she makes one hundred phone calls a day

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<v Speaker 2>to raise money for that climate pack and is always protesting.

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<v Speaker 2>She was doing fire drill Fridays for years while Biden

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<v Speaker 2>was in the White House. And she's constantly going to

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<v Speaker 2>places where they're going to drill and protesting. I mean,

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<v Speaker 2>she's indefatigable. So she so then yeah, for you too.

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<v Speaker 2>She although Connie went to Dartmouth, Oh I just in

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<v Speaker 2>case you forgot, and Speakspanderin by the way, okay, and

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<v Speaker 2>with roommates with Kirsten Chillibrand I don't think everyone knows that,

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<v Speaker 2>so I'd like to get that out there. But then

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<v Speaker 2>at the end of the night, so Connie sends me

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<v Speaker 2>a link while we're on our way to Albuquerque, probably

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<v Speaker 2>sitting in the Southwest seats, she sends me a link

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<v Speaker 2>to a hotel that she found that's like thirty minutes

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<v Speaker 2>outside of where we're supposed to stay at the airport hotel,

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<v Speaker 2>and she's like, what about this?

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<v Speaker 3>First, I was like, could we switch and stay at

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<v Speaker 3>this nice hotel?

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<v Speaker 2>Well exactly, And I was like, I just don't think

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<v Speaker 2>we can do that because we can't ditch Jane, Like

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<v Speaker 2>we have to stay at the airport hotel.

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<v Speaker 3>Too, right, And no, of course we couldn't ditch Jane.

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<v Speaker 2>No, of course, and we did it. And so then

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<v Speaker 2>after we were done early like nine, and Connie's like, well,

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<v Speaker 2>let's just at least go get a drink at this

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<v Speaker 2>hotel that she found that was like thirty minutes out

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<v Speaker 2>of the way. So we're driving and at this point

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<v Speaker 2>we've picked up a couple of other people, some of

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<v Speaker 2>Jane's Climate pac people. They're in the car with us,

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<v Speaker 2>and then there was a couple of people meeting us there.

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<v Speaker 2>And so we get to this really cool place, this

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<v Speaker 2>like hotel outside or I think in Albuquerque, but outside

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<v Speaker 2>off the beaten drack, and Jane's like, it's really far.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm really tired. How long is this going to take?

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<v Speaker 2>We were in the car longer than we expected. It

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<v Speaker 2>was about a thirty minute drive, and Jane is kind

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<v Speaker 2>of getting a little antsy, like, oh God, is this

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<v Speaker 2>worth it?

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<v Speaker 3>It's not on the schedule at all. The Hilton Airport

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<v Speaker 3>was the next and.

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<v Speaker 2>Final stop, and Connie and I were like, Jane, you

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<v Speaker 2>can go to bed like Connie and I'll just go

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<v Speaker 2>it's no big deal. And she's like, m I'll come

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<v Speaker 2>with you. I'll come with you. So we get there.

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<v Speaker 2>It's like a thirty minute drive. We get there, we see,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, we're kind of like worried, like I don't

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<v Speaker 2>want to We don't want to annoy her. I don't

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<v Speaker 2>want to annoy her. I don't want to keep her

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<v Speaker 2>out later than she wants to be out. I don't

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<v Speaker 2>want to be responsible for her drink thinking or anything

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<v Speaker 2>you know that's related to me. I get in trouble

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<v Speaker 2>for everyone's bad behavior, you know. So I so then

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<v Speaker 2>we have drinks. It ends up being a lovely night.

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<v Speaker 2>We order some snacks. I think we had a couple

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<v Speaker 2>of drinks. There was like six or seven of us

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<v Speaker 2>by this time, and as we're walking out the door,

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<v Speaker 2>Jane says, Oh, I'm actually so glad we came here.

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<v Speaker 2>Thank you, Chelsea for picking this place out, and I've

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<v Speaker 2>got You're welcome.

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<v Speaker 3>All the time, like I'm getting blamed as she's getting

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<v Speaker 3>more and more tired, more and more stressed, like why

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<v Speaker 3>are we going to this place?

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<v Speaker 2>And then she then I get credited with with the win, and.

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<v Speaker 3>I, by the way, you take off the next morning,

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<v Speaker 3>and I go, I go on to the next the next.

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<v Speaker 2>Yea, where did you guys go from there?

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<v Speaker 3>Well? Wait, that was Albuquerque. So then we went to

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<v Speaker 3>San Sancho Pez. No, wait, San Jose, San Antonio, Mexico,

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<v Speaker 3>New Mexico, New Mexico, the big town in Mexico. The police.

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<v Speaker 2>No, okay, let's start, let's start, okay, okay, she's from Dartmouth.

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<v Speaker 2>Every once she went to Dartmouth, just so you know.

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<v Speaker 2>And she speaks Mandarin, but she doesn't know where San Antoni.

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<v Speaker 3>Thank you, you know what. You should have been able

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<v Speaker 3>to think of that too, Santa Fe, Thank you, Catherine.

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<v Speaker 1>No problem.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, So back to Connie. When I see Connie on television,

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<v Speaker 2>I sent her a screen grab when I saw her

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<v Speaker 2>playing Dirty John with the woman that got duped by

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<v Speaker 2>this lunatic loser. He wasn't even that much of a lunatic.

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<v Speaker 2>That's how kind of slow on the uptake this woman was.

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<v Speaker 3>He was too a lunatic.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I mean, I guess so, I.

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<v Speaker 3>Mean compared to the guys you date, But yes, he

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<v Speaker 3>was a luminis.

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<v Speaker 2>I take screen grabs of Connie's faces and I just

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<v Speaker 2>send them to her, like, how can anyone take your

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<v Speaker 2>acting seriously?

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<v Speaker 3>You know?

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<v Speaker 2>And I forget what was the last? You're in everything,

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<v Speaker 2>So it's impossible to avoid Connie Britton. You guys, if

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<v Speaker 2>you're watching, you've seen her in everything. In fact, I

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<v Speaker 2>started watching that new series on Netflix, and you were

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<v Speaker 2>in it, and I was so excited, and then and

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<v Speaker 2>then you die in it, but then you come back

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<v Speaker 2>and the mashbacks. I forget what that? No, that was

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<v Speaker 2>a series.

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<v Speaker 3>No, the Life List? A Life List is a movie.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh I thought it was a series. Okay, So then

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<v Speaker 2>I did watch it. I thought I only watched the

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<v Speaker 2>first episode.

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<v Speaker 3>That was the whole. That was the whole. It's because

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<v Speaker 3>it's a movie.

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<v Speaker 1>Technically you did watch the first episode.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay. But now Connie has a new series. It's called

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<v Speaker 2>The Motherhood, and she's been talking about this for about

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<v Speaker 2>two years because she is she's adopted a son. About

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<v Speaker 2>how many years ago did you adopt your son? Fourteen

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<v Speaker 2>fourteen years ago. Okay, so pretty recent. So she adopted

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<v Speaker 2>her son. She adopted her son fourteen years ago as

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<v Speaker 2>a single and she is very passionate, and it has

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<v Speaker 2>always been very passionate. I can attest to this, to

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<v Speaker 2>the plight of single mothers and to the plight of

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<v Speaker 2>what it takes for a mother to raise a child,

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<v Speaker 2>not only in this world just as a job. It

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<v Speaker 2>is a job, a full time job, one that I

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<v Speaker 2>have chosen not to participate in. So talk to us

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<v Speaker 2>about your series, Connie, because.

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<v Speaker 3>By the way, you've been hearing me talk about this

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<v Speaker 3>for longer than two years, because I've been working on

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<v Speaker 3>this for so long, because I saw the whole idea

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<v Speaker 3>came to me while I was in Nashville, because basically

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<v Speaker 3>I adopted Yobi and then immediately moved to Nashville to

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<v Speaker 3>do the show Nashville, and I was like a brand

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<v Speaker 3>new mother. I had no support system. I didn't know

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<v Speaker 3>anybody in Nashville. I started working eighteen hour days, was

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<v Speaker 3>so crazy, and I had this new baby. I'm like,

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<v Speaker 3>what do I do with it? Like, I don't know,

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know how, And it was quite traumatizing and

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<v Speaker 3>so so anyway, I figured it out. I started. I

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<v Speaker 3>created like an amazing support system there, like was they people.

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<v Speaker 2>How did you figure it out?

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<v Speaker 3>Though it took a long time. And by the way,

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<v Speaker 3>I don't I don't mean to say that, like, oh yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>so I figured it out because I figured no. But

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<v Speaker 3>what the main thing that saved my life basically was

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<v Speaker 3>that I slowly started to create a community. And that

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<v Speaker 3>started actually with I think you've met these guys with me,

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<v Speaker 3>Like Nathan Followell he's the drummer in the Kings of

0:16:31.800 --> 0:16:34.960
<v Speaker 3>Leon and his wife Jesse Balen were the only people

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<v Speaker 3>in Nashville that I knew, and they had I'd met

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<v Speaker 3>them because they had come to the set of Friday

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<v Speaker 3>Night Lights. Nathan had brought Jesse as like a surprise

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<v Speaker 3>to visit the set of Friday Night Lights and we

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<v Speaker 3>had had like some crazy night with them, and so

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<v Speaker 3>I remembered, I'm like, wait, I think those guys live

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<v Speaker 3>in Nashville. So I called them up and so because

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<v Speaker 3>thanks to them, like I started like I had like

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<v Speaker 3>a little bit like of it was like somebody to

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<v Speaker 3>hold on to you. And then they kind of introduced

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<v Speaker 3>me to their community and then crazy, I think, you

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<v Speaker 3>know this story. But after one year on the show,

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<v Speaker 3>the house next door to theirs went on the market

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<v Speaker 3>and I bought it, so I was able to live

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<v Speaker 3>next door to them, which also and then they had kids,

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<v Speaker 3>and so Yobi and their kids like we're kind of

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<v Speaker 3>growing up together and anyway, but what I realized is

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<v Speaker 3>it's all about community. And also in Nashville, I had

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<v Speaker 3>another friend who was working on the show in costumes.

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<v Speaker 3>She was a single mom of four kids, and she

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<v Speaker 3>was working these crazy eighteen hour days without a break,

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<v Speaker 3>and she didn't have Like, at least I could afford

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<v Speaker 3>a nanny, which I needed. I would not have been

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<v Speaker 3>able to do it without that. But I recognize, like

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<v Speaker 3>so many single moms don't have the resources that I have,

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<v Speaker 3>and you still have to do it. And so they're

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<v Speaker 3>out working three jobs at a time or all these

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<v Speaker 3>long hours. And one day she calls me and she's like,

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<v Speaker 3>I forgot to give Jed lunch money, and I'm I

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<v Speaker 3>happen to be off that day, so I swing by

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<v Speaker 3>the local middle school and drop off, like Rayna James,

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<v Speaker 3>who's the character that I'm playing in Nashville, like just

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<v Speaker 3>drops off like five dollars in the front office for

0:18:10.359 --> 0:18:13.520
<v Speaker 3>like her kid Jed, and like at that moment, I

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<v Speaker 3>was like, I wish I'd love to start an organization

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<v Speaker 3>or something where single moms could just get you could

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<v Speaker 3>volunteer to like go grocery shopping or just hang out

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<v Speaker 3>with the kids for two hours, just to like give

0:18:28.800 --> 0:18:31.479
<v Speaker 3>single moms a break, you know what I mean. Anyway,

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<v Speaker 3>So that's kind of where it all started, the whole

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<v Speaker 3>idea of it, and it kind of emerged into I

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<v Speaker 3>got together with these guys at Scout who created Queer Eye,

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<v Speaker 3>and they love the idea because nobody's also really done

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<v Speaker 3>anything like this sort of talking about single moms, which

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<v Speaker 3>I think is another issue because there are so many

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<v Speaker 3>single moms in the world, not just the United States,

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<v Speaker 3>but in the world. Anybody that you talk to, if

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<v Speaker 3>they're not a single mom or weren't raised by a

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<v Speaker 3>single mom, they have somebody in their life who they

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<v Speaker 3>know and they're close to that's a single parent. And

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<v Speaker 3>so it's like as a culture, we don't really we

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<v Speaker 3>kind of just push single parents away, like that's not

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<v Speaker 3>a thing, and there's no support for you know, certainly

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<v Speaker 3>I mean at this point, but like there's no governmental

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<v Speaker 3>like any kind of anything in place in terms of

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<v Speaker 3>giving support to single parents, and I just was like,

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<v Speaker 3>I want to change the narrative about that and like

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<v Speaker 3>create respect for these people who are doing this heroic

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<v Speaker 3>thing which is being single parents and doing it by themselves,

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<v Speaker 3>and also help to create a community for single parents

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<v Speaker 3>so that they can not feel alone in it. Because

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<v Speaker 3>I also what I found like shooting the show is

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<v Speaker 3>it's one of the big things is it's so hard,

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<v Speaker 3>especially for women, to ask for help, and so they

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<v Speaker 3>think that they're supposed to do it all by themselves

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<v Speaker 3>and it's so isolating and challenging and kind of impossible,

0:20:05.480 --> 0:20:08.439
<v Speaker 3>like you can't do it by yourself. And so the

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<v Speaker 3>whole point of the show is like create community.

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<v Speaker 2>And well, first you gather a bunch of single mothers

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<v Speaker 2>who are also you know, who are going through it, right,

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, yeah, take us through it.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh well, so on the show itself, like we yes,

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<v Speaker 3>we basically there are six episodes. Each episode, we have

0:20:25.640 --> 0:20:29.000
<v Speaker 3>a single mom who you know, of course, every person

0:20:29.040 --> 0:20:32.719
<v Speaker 3>has their own set of circumstances, and we have three

0:20:33.080 --> 0:20:36.439
<v Speaker 3>women who are our experts and I call them the

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<v Speaker 3>neighbor Ladies, named after the women that when I was

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<v Speaker 3>growing up, Like I grew up in Virginia on a

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<v Speaker 3>cul de sac, and like every day at five o'clock,

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<v Speaker 3>the neighbor ladies from around the cold de sac would

0:20:48.160 --> 0:20:51.320
<v Speaker 3>come over to my mom to our house, and like

0:20:51.359 --> 0:20:53.440
<v Speaker 3>they'd all have like their glass of wine or their

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<v Speaker 3>cocktail and like have like whatever cheese and crackers and

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<v Speaker 3>just like talk about their days and like that was

0:20:59.760 --> 0:21:03.399
<v Speaker 3>their support system. And so I grew up watching that,

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<v Speaker 3>and that made me realize, like, oh, like my mother

0:21:06.600 --> 0:21:08.440
<v Speaker 3>is even my mother wasn't even a single mom. But

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<v Speaker 3>I'm like, you can't do this, but like they rely

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<v Speaker 3>on each other to get through the day raising their kids.

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<v Speaker 3>And so anyway, so we called the three mom experts

0:21:19.880 --> 0:21:22.199
<v Speaker 3>on the show the neighbor Ladies. One of them is

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<v Speaker 3>sort of a style but it's kind of a self

0:21:25.240 --> 0:21:29.119
<v Speaker 3>love style person, and then one is a parenting coach,

0:21:29.200 --> 0:21:34.120
<v Speaker 3>and then one is a DIY home renovation person. They're

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<v Speaker 3>all amazing, all three of them. And so each week

0:21:37.520 --> 0:21:40.200
<v Speaker 3>we have a new single mom and then our three

0:21:40.200 --> 0:21:44.639
<v Speaker 3>neighbor ladies will kind of go in and create magic

0:21:44.680 --> 0:21:46.879
<v Speaker 3>for them and help them, help to guide them so

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<v Speaker 3>that they can have sustainable things that can help them

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<v Speaker 3>as they continue to raise their child and do their

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<v Speaker 3>jobs and do all the things that they're doing in

0:21:55.240 --> 0:21:58.199
<v Speaker 3>the world. And then ultimately we're creating a community with

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<v Speaker 3>all of these.

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<v Speaker 2>Moms and that's a yes, a very beautiful thing. What's

0:22:03.720 --> 0:22:06.680
<v Speaker 2>your friend's name again? The woman who Yobi's best friend.

0:22:06.720 --> 0:22:09.600
<v Speaker 2>They don't go to the same school, but Jimmy Tammy. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>I would like to know who her community is, who

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<v Speaker 2>her neighborhood ladies are.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, you know, that's a really interesting point because, first

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<v Speaker 3>of all, I'm hoping because next but we're already start

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<v Speaker 3>starting to talk about season two of the show.

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<v Speaker 2>It's on Hallmark. Everybody, you can watch The Motherhood on Hallmark,

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<v Speaker 2>and the first two episodes are out now.

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<v Speaker 3>But we shot the first season in Kansas City, which

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<v Speaker 3>was awesome. By the way, have you ever been to

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<v Speaker 3>Kansas City?

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<v Speaker 2>Of course, I've been in Kansas City. I'm a comedian.

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<v Speaker 2>I go to all the cities that you never want

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<v Speaker 2>to ever see the inside of, not the Kansas City

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<v Speaker 2>is one of them.

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<v Speaker 3>I really liked Kansas City.

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<v Speaker 2>Kansas City is cool. That whole area that midwestern Kansas

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<v Speaker 2>City is very cool.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, I really liked it a lot, and we had

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<v Speaker 3>a beautiful time there. But next season, because I live

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<v Speaker 3>in LA you be starting high school next year, so

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<v Speaker 3>I'm like, it would be so much better. Or if

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<v Speaker 3>we shot I'd be able to be in the show

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<v Speaker 3>more if we shut shoot in LA. So we're looking

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<v Speaker 3>at that, and if we do, then Tammy will be

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<v Speaker 3>one of the moms next year. Oh yeah, I'm I'm like,

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<v Speaker 3>because she's definitely one of the people that also kind

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<v Speaker 3>of inspired this, you know, totally right, and so I

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<v Speaker 3>know it'd be so amazing, I know.

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<v Speaker 2>And I'm always inviting Tammy to come to one of

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<v Speaker 2>my Vegas shows and she's like, girl, you don't understand

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<v Speaker 2>what I would do to make that happen. She's like,

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<v Speaker 2>I want to come to Vegas. She's like, do you

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<v Speaker 2>understand I can never leave my child for one night

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<v Speaker 2>unless I have a like a fool proof plan for

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<v Speaker 2>him to spend the night.

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<v Speaker 3>And I'm just like with her mother, who like her mother.

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<v Speaker 2>The last time I flew somewhere to meet Connie was

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<v Speaker 2>for her. I went early to south By Southwest for

0:23:45.080 --> 0:23:48.399
<v Speaker 2>her birthday. We went, we had a nice dinner. I

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<v Speaker 2>don't know what was in the water, on the plane

0:23:51.119 --> 0:23:53.800
<v Speaker 2>ride I got, I took there, but something was in it.

0:23:53.800 --> 0:23:56.760
<v Speaker 2>It was this this guy had this brand deal, this brand.

0:23:56.800 --> 0:23:59.600
<v Speaker 2>It's called love Water, and they said it was just water,

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<v Speaker 2>but I'm convinced there was something else in there. And

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<v Speaker 2>when I got to that dinner, I was ready to

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<v Speaker 2>go and guess what's hot?

0:24:06.480 --> 0:24:08.520
<v Speaker 3>I was hot, hot, coming in hot.

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<v Speaker 2>I came in hot. And that night ended it around

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<v Speaker 2>two thirty in the morning. And the next morning I

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<v Speaker 2>had panels at south By Southwest, not one, not two,

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<v Speaker 2>five separate panels that started at nine thirty am, and

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<v Speaker 2>I got in at three thirty am, so I looked

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<v Speaker 2>like somebody punched me in the face. I didn't recover

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<v Speaker 2>from that night for two days.

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<v Speaker 3>Because of the water. Weird the weird waters.

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<v Speaker 2>No, because of everything that happened. After the water we

0:24:36.480 --> 0:24:38.680
<v Speaker 2>drank and then we went back to her friends house

0:24:39.000 --> 0:24:41.719
<v Speaker 2>and the people were smoking cigarettes. It just got It

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<v Speaker 2>was just one of those It was first of all,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't regret it for a second because it was

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<v Speaker 2>a really fucking fun night and I'm glad that I

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<v Speaker 2>was there.

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<v Speaker 3>But uh, of course, Austin.

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<v Speaker 2>But it took me a couple days to really get

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<v Speaker 2>my head back on straight after the after the first

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<v Speaker 2>day of five panels, because there were so many fun

0:24:57.640 --> 0:25:00.320
<v Speaker 2>things going on at south By Southwest. My assistant was

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<v Speaker 2>there and he's like, Okay, so do you want to

0:25:01.760 --> 0:25:03.800
<v Speaker 2>go to this dinner with this person? And this person's

0:25:03.960 --> 0:25:06.119
<v Speaker 2>I go dinner? Are you fucking kidding me? I have

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<v Speaker 2>to go to bed at five pm today because of

0:25:08.400 --> 0:25:10.840
<v Speaker 2>last night, as if it was somehow his fault.

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<v Speaker 3>Your assistant is so sweet.

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<v Speaker 2>I know, I know.

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<v Speaker 3>Wait, remind me his name again, McKinley.

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<v Speaker 2>That's a private joke.

0:25:24.280 --> 0:25:26.720
<v Speaker 3>That is a private joke, and we know that it's

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<v Speaker 3>not McKinley.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, anyway, Okay, we're gonna take a break and we're

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<v Speaker 2>going to be right back with Connie Britton, the world's

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<v Speaker 2>best actress.

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<v Speaker 1>If you'd like advice from Chelsea, right into us at

0:25:36.920 --> 0:25:40.359
<v Speaker 1>Dear Chelsea podcast at gmail dot com. We'd love to

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<v Speaker 1>hear your questions for any juicy story you'd like advice on,

0:25:43.480 --> 0:25:46.680
<v Speaker 1>but this week we're specifically looking for questions about family issues.

0:25:46.760 --> 0:25:48.520
<v Speaker 2>If you have an issue with a family member or

0:25:48.520 --> 0:25:48.960
<v Speaker 2>you need.

0:25:48.840 --> 0:25:51.960
<v Speaker 1>Advice about a specific relationship issue, please write in at

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<v Speaker 1>Dear Chelsea Podcast at gmail dot com.

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<v Speaker 2>We're rack with Connie Britton. Hey, Connie, I have an

0:26:00.359 --> 0:26:02.800
<v Speaker 2>acting question for you. Do you ever have a have

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<v Speaker 2>you ever had? Because you've been in everything? I mean,

0:26:05.440 --> 0:26:07.960
<v Speaker 2>just to name a few, as you named, you were

0:26:07.960 --> 0:26:11.920
<v Speaker 2>in Friday Night Lights, you were in Nashville, you were

0:26:11.960 --> 0:26:13.560
<v Speaker 2>in White Lotus.

0:26:13.359 --> 0:26:15.600
<v Speaker 3>Your favorite dirty John, Dirty John.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, that's just to name a few. Her resume is endless.

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<v Speaker 2>Do you ever have a crisis of confidence when you're

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<v Speaker 2>acting or have you had one about your performance? I,

0:26:28.600 --> 0:26:31.560
<v Speaker 2>of course I always have a crisis of confidence, Like,

0:26:31.760 --> 0:26:34.720
<v Speaker 2>isn't that part of being an artiste? I guess so,

0:26:34.920 --> 0:26:37.320
<v Speaker 2>I just feel like you always feel. I mean, I've

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<v Speaker 2>never seen that side of you. Even though I joke

0:26:40.400 --> 0:26:42.399
<v Speaker 2>about you being bad at acting, I know you're not,

0:26:43.040 --> 0:26:45.280
<v Speaker 2>and I know you're very talented. And I wonder if

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<v Speaker 2>someone who says established and as experienced, like the hours

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<v Speaker 2>of experience that you have accrued.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, that erose is legit. That ten thousand hours thing.

0:26:57.200 --> 0:26:59.480
<v Speaker 3>One of the things that I've noticed in my fifties.

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<v Speaker 3>It's a maaze, is that ten thousand hours thing. Like

0:27:05.080 --> 0:27:11.359
<v Speaker 3>I feel much more like I can access whatever that

0:27:11.440 --> 0:27:14.040
<v Speaker 3>thing is that I need to be able to do

0:27:14.119 --> 0:27:18.280
<v Speaker 3>a scene and create a character. It's it's like I

0:27:18.359 --> 0:27:21.959
<v Speaker 3>have much more immediate connection to that, Whereas when I

0:27:22.000 --> 0:27:24.880
<v Speaker 3>was younger, I think I would, you know, I kind

0:27:24.880 --> 0:27:27.679
<v Speaker 3>of have to really like it was more cerebral and

0:27:27.680 --> 0:27:29.920
<v Speaker 3>I'd have to really like dig down and that kind

0:27:29.960 --> 0:27:32.080
<v Speaker 3>of thing. And now I think that, you know, it's

0:27:32.119 --> 0:27:34.520
<v Speaker 3>the after ten thousand hours, it becomes a little bit

0:27:34.560 --> 0:27:38.919
<v Speaker 3>more immediate and so that, but that doesn't titt necessarily

0:27:38.960 --> 0:27:42.880
<v Speaker 3>take away from every time I start a character. It's funny.

0:27:43.000 --> 0:27:48.080
<v Speaker 3>I actually literally this just this last week finished shooting.

0:27:48.200 --> 0:27:52.359
<v Speaker 3>We're doing a sequel to The Brothers McMullen. All the

0:27:52.400 --> 0:27:55.960
<v Speaker 3>Family McMullen. The Brothers McMullen was my big break movie

0:27:56.000 --> 0:28:00.960
<v Speaker 3>that happened in nineteen ninety five, and that movie is

0:28:01.080 --> 0:28:04.320
<v Speaker 3>like like it takes place on Long Island and it's

0:28:04.359 --> 0:28:07.760
<v Speaker 3>like pretty thick like Long Island accent, and you know,

0:28:07.800 --> 0:28:10.440
<v Speaker 3>I did the part thirty years ago. So it's always

0:28:10.440 --> 0:28:14.359
<v Speaker 3>a thing like, oh, what is I don't I guess

0:28:14.359 --> 0:28:16.199
<v Speaker 3>I know what this character is. I don't know. But

0:28:16.359 --> 0:28:18.720
<v Speaker 3>every time I first step foot on set and the

0:28:18.760 --> 0:28:22.159
<v Speaker 3>camera starts to roll, I'm kind of like, what am

0:28:22.200 --> 0:28:24.840
<v Speaker 3>I going to sound like as this character. I don't know,

0:28:24.920 --> 0:28:27.439
<v Speaker 3>it's super nerve wracking, like it's access.

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<v Speaker 2>They're probably intimidating, I could.

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<v Speaker 3>Imagine, but it's also just even a leap of faith,

0:28:31.320 --> 0:28:33.200
<v Speaker 3>even if it's not with an accent. It's just kind

0:28:33.200 --> 0:28:36.560
<v Speaker 3>of like, I don't really know, I'm just figuring it

0:28:37.280 --> 0:28:39.520
<v Speaker 3>out as I go, kind of thing. You have to

0:28:39.600 --> 0:28:41.280
<v Speaker 3>jump off a cliff a little bit every time.

0:28:41.800 --> 0:28:44.600
<v Speaker 2>How is it meeting Robert de Niro on set? I mean,

0:28:44.640 --> 0:28:48.600
<v Speaker 2>I'm sure you've met him before, butting your.

0:28:48.640 --> 0:28:51.800
<v Speaker 3>Your lover, your passion and your pat your lover, passion,

0:28:52.120 --> 0:28:57.920
<v Speaker 3>Robert Tiro, my baby daddy, your baby daddy. It was amazing,

0:28:57.960 --> 0:29:01.080
<v Speaker 3>Are you kidding? It was like the I mean, he's

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<v Speaker 3>just he's so nice. He's a really nice guy. He's

0:29:05.480 --> 0:29:08.440
<v Speaker 3>got such an incredible work ethic, also a guy in

0:29:08.480 --> 0:29:13.200
<v Speaker 3>his eighties, and he just works his ass off and

0:29:13.320 --> 0:29:15.520
<v Speaker 3>so and he's just kind of a normal guy. And

0:29:15.560 --> 0:29:17.440
<v Speaker 3>he would just talk to me like, how are you

0:29:17.520 --> 0:29:19.640
<v Speaker 3>learning all these lines? You know? These lines? Are you

0:29:19.680 --> 0:29:22.440
<v Speaker 3>know what I mean? And it was interesting for me

0:29:22.440 --> 0:29:24.239
<v Speaker 3>because it was a little bit like it was his

0:29:24.280 --> 0:29:26.440
<v Speaker 3>first time doing television, which you know, I've been doing

0:29:26.480 --> 0:29:30.040
<v Speaker 3>for a long time, and so it was almost like

0:29:30.080 --> 0:29:32.080
<v Speaker 3>he was kind of looking to me like, oh, yeah,

0:29:32.120 --> 0:29:33.680
<v Speaker 3>how do you do this kind of thing? I'm like,

0:29:33.960 --> 0:29:34.320
<v Speaker 3>who me?

0:29:34.560 --> 0:29:37.840
<v Speaker 2>What's so demirror?

0:29:37.960 --> 0:29:41.160
<v Speaker 3>But yeah he I. It was very exciting meeting to Nero.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, so we're gonna move to Callers, Connie, try and

0:29:43.760 --> 0:29:46.400
<v Speaker 2>give some advice we need. Okay, put on your.

0:29:46.320 --> 0:29:49.080
<v Speaker 3>Stage callers collar. We have people.

0:29:49.480 --> 0:29:52.000
<v Speaker 2>It's called Dear Chelsea. It's like dear Abby, but with me.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh god, guys. So our first question comes from Laura.

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<v Speaker 1>She says, Dear Chelsea, I'd love some advice on this.

0:30:01.800 --> 0:30:03.840
<v Speaker 1>One of my best friends since high school is thirty

0:30:03.920 --> 0:30:06.280
<v Speaker 1>nine and so ready to meet someone and start a family.

0:30:06.600 --> 0:30:09.280
<v Speaker 1>She's beautiful, a doctor, she even designed and built her

0:30:09.320 --> 0:30:11.480
<v Speaker 1>own house. All she needs is to meet a decent

0:30:11.520 --> 0:30:13.600
<v Speaker 1>man and she's ready to go. She wants a family

0:30:13.680 --> 0:30:15.680
<v Speaker 1>so bad. She's also frozen her eggs, so she has

0:30:15.720 --> 0:30:18.000
<v Speaker 1>a backup plan, but she really doesn't want to resort

0:30:18.040 --> 0:30:20.600
<v Speaker 1>to it. She feels the clock is sticking. I don't

0:30:20.680 --> 0:30:23.520
<v Speaker 1>understand why she can't find someone. She's such a catch.

0:30:23.640 --> 0:30:26.400
<v Speaker 1>She's kind, she's active, She's keys a lot in Canada too,

0:30:27.000 --> 0:30:29.120
<v Speaker 1>She's been on the apps for literally years, and men

0:30:29.120 --> 0:30:32.080
<v Speaker 1>are either intimidated by her or they're quote just not

0:30:32.120 --> 0:30:34.680
<v Speaker 1>ready to think about a family. I constantly put it

0:30:34.680 --> 0:30:36.560
<v Speaker 1>out to people I know, to oh, hey, if you

0:30:36.600 --> 0:30:39.360
<v Speaker 1>know any single guys, and it's just not working. To

0:30:39.400 --> 0:30:41.000
<v Speaker 1>throw a bit of a wrench in her search. She

0:30:41.080 --> 0:30:43.200
<v Speaker 1>met a guy online a year ago who lives across

0:30:43.240 --> 0:30:45.800
<v Speaker 1>the country who she keeps holding out hope for. He's

0:30:45.800 --> 0:30:48.280
<v Speaker 1>the same cultural background as her, which I feel she

0:30:48.320 --> 0:30:51.600
<v Speaker 1>sees as an added fairytale esque bonus, but he keeps

0:30:51.600 --> 0:30:54.840
<v Speaker 1>disappointing her, not making an effort in communication or plans

0:30:54.840 --> 0:30:59.120
<v Speaker 1>to see her unless it conveniently just happens, example, randomly

0:30:59.120 --> 0:31:00.920
<v Speaker 1>being in the same city in Europe one day and

0:31:01.040 --> 0:31:03.520
<v Speaker 1>meeting up. She's been very straight up with him about

0:31:03.520 --> 0:31:05.920
<v Speaker 1>what she wants, and it's frustrating that he keeps stringing

0:31:05.920 --> 0:31:07.280
<v Speaker 1>her along but not committing.

0:31:07.760 --> 0:31:08.440
<v Speaker 2>I tell her I.

0:31:08.440 --> 0:31:10.160
<v Speaker 1>Was just a sign of the times and it's not her.

0:31:10.480 --> 0:31:13.040
<v Speaker 1>I also tell her what an inspiration she is, especially

0:31:13.080 --> 0:31:14.760
<v Speaker 1>if she does decide to be a mother alone. And

0:31:14.760 --> 0:31:17.600
<v Speaker 1>I'm wondering how I can support her. I need Chelsea's wisdom.

0:31:17.760 --> 0:31:21.479
<v Speaker 2>Laura. First of all, Hi Laura. This is our special

0:31:21.520 --> 0:31:22.840
<v Speaker 2>guest Connie Britton today.

0:31:22.960 --> 0:31:26.840
<v Speaker 3>You're Laura, like Laura from the letter.

0:31:27.920 --> 0:31:30.720
<v Speaker 2>Well, she's Laura from the letter, but she's talking about

0:31:30.720 --> 0:31:32.480
<v Speaker 2>her friend in the letter.

0:31:33.320 --> 0:31:39.280
<v Speaker 3>Is it your friend, Laura my friend? No? Really, it

0:31:39.320 --> 0:31:39.720
<v Speaker 3>really is.

0:31:39.760 --> 0:31:49.360
<v Speaker 1>When I talk to Laura, she had like babies and test.

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<v Speaker 2>A detective show.

0:31:46.640 --> 0:31:47.560
<v Speaker 3>Okay, this is.

0:31:49.880 --> 0:31:53.120
<v Speaker 2>Honestly, I'm sorry about her. I'm sorry anyway.

0:31:54.080 --> 0:31:55.000
<v Speaker 3>Let's just be real.

0:31:55.560 --> 0:31:58.440
<v Speaker 2>I think you should encourage your friend to go ahead

0:31:58.560 --> 0:32:00.920
<v Speaker 2>and not be holding out for any fucking man to

0:32:01.000 --> 0:32:04.200
<v Speaker 2>have her babies. If she is passionate about becoming a mother,

0:32:04.280 --> 0:32:06.479
<v Speaker 2>and she has her eggs frozen, and she has her

0:32:06.520 --> 0:32:09.240
<v Speaker 2>shit together and her life together, fucking go for it.

0:32:09.520 --> 0:32:11.800
<v Speaker 2>She could be waiting another ten years before she finds

0:32:11.800 --> 0:32:14.320
<v Speaker 2>the right guy. Connie didn't meet her right guy until

0:32:14.360 --> 0:32:17.200
<v Speaker 2>you were what fifty Connie, have you guys been together?

0:32:17.560 --> 0:32:21.800
<v Speaker 3>Yeah? No, fifty two, fifty fifty two, fifty two. I

0:32:21.880 --> 0:32:24.960
<v Speaker 3>can actually speak to this too, Laura, even though I

0:32:25.000 --> 0:32:30.840
<v Speaker 3>thought maybe you were the friend, uh I, because frankly,

0:32:30.920 --> 0:32:33.800
<v Speaker 3>this was I adopted my son as a single mom

0:32:33.800 --> 0:32:35.440
<v Speaker 3>because I kept thinking, Oh, I'm gonna meet the guy.

0:32:35.440 --> 0:32:37.560
<v Speaker 3>I'm gonna meet the guy. I'm gonna meet the guy. Yeah,

0:32:37.640 --> 0:32:39.440
<v Speaker 3>And I knew I wanted to adopt, just as your

0:32:39.440 --> 0:32:41.240
<v Speaker 3>friend knows that she wants to have babies and she

0:32:41.240 --> 0:32:44.479
<v Speaker 3>throws her eggs and so I finally was like, what

0:32:44.520 --> 0:32:46.920
<v Speaker 3>am I waiting for? And I did it, And I'm

0:32:46.960 --> 0:32:50.400
<v Speaker 3>just so glad that I did. I will say, how old.

0:32:50.240 --> 0:32:51.800
<v Speaker 2>Were you, Connie when you did it? You did it

0:32:51.800 --> 0:32:52.680
<v Speaker 2>fourteen years ago?

0:32:53.320 --> 0:32:53.720
<v Speaker 3>Four?

0:32:54.040 --> 0:32:54.480
<v Speaker 2>Okay?

0:32:54.440 --> 0:32:59.440
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, great, so encouraging. Yeah. So, but I will say,

0:32:59.480 --> 0:33:02.080
<v Speaker 3>you know, and she can watch my show that's coming

0:33:02.120 --> 0:33:04.560
<v Speaker 3>out on Monday, The Motherhood, because it's all about single

0:33:04.560 --> 0:33:08.440
<v Speaker 3>mom So it's helpful because the thing is you you

0:33:08.560 --> 0:33:10.160
<v Speaker 3>kind of need to know what you're in for when

0:33:10.200 --> 0:33:13.000
<v Speaker 3>you are going to be a single mom. But honestly,

0:33:14.040 --> 0:33:18.640
<v Speaker 3>it's so amazing if she, if she chooses to do that.

0:33:19.800 --> 0:33:23.280
<v Speaker 3>It's so amazing to be able to do that and

0:33:24.400 --> 0:33:28.160
<v Speaker 3>not feel like because otherwise it's it screws up your

0:33:28.240 --> 0:33:30.440
<v Speaker 3>thinking if you're sort of at the mercy of the

0:33:30.480 --> 0:33:32.320
<v Speaker 3>idea of like, I want to meet a guy so

0:33:32.360 --> 0:33:33.000
<v Speaker 3>I can have a baby.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, yeah, I'm saying, yeah, totally yeah, And I've actually

0:33:37.080 --> 0:33:41.040
<v Speaker 4>just become a single mom too, So I'm I'm really

0:33:41.120 --> 0:33:43.080
<v Speaker 4>trying to did.

0:33:42.920 --> 0:33:46.000
<v Speaker 2>You kill yourselsband? But yeah, I have.

0:33:46.160 --> 0:33:47.960
<v Speaker 3>It's a personal question, Chelsea.

0:33:49.640 --> 0:33:51.760
<v Speaker 4>I have two kids, so I'm trying to really show

0:33:51.760 --> 0:33:54.600
<v Speaker 4>her that, you know, it's awesome alone.

0:33:55.280 --> 0:33:56.560
<v Speaker 3>So yeah, thank you so much.

0:33:56.640 --> 0:33:58.680
<v Speaker 2>You guys live near each other, you and your friend.

0:33:58.840 --> 0:34:01.520
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, we love We're going to Sana tonight, so okay,

0:34:02.040 --> 0:34:03.080
<v Speaker 4>ten minutes from each other.

0:34:03.360 --> 0:34:03.959
<v Speaker 2>That's great.

0:34:04.040 --> 0:34:06.760
<v Speaker 3>You're each other's community. You're each other because.

0:34:06.560 --> 0:34:08.920
<v Speaker 2>That's what we're talking about. Connie's news show is all

0:34:08.920 --> 0:34:11.280
<v Speaker 2>about this. It's not a hallmark and it's called motherhood,

0:34:11.480 --> 0:34:14.640
<v Speaker 2>and it's all about this. It's about, actually, for me,

0:34:14.719 --> 0:34:17.360
<v Speaker 2>a community with your friends who also are single parents,

0:34:17.360 --> 0:34:19.760
<v Speaker 2>so that you guys can help each other parent together,

0:34:20.000 --> 0:34:22.120
<v Speaker 2>you know, and be there for when the other person

0:34:22.200 --> 0:34:24.920
<v Speaker 2>isn't and having your kids spend time together like this

0:34:25.040 --> 0:34:27.719
<v Speaker 2>is exactly what we're talking about. So please don't ever

0:34:27.760 --> 0:34:29.360
<v Speaker 2>put anything on holds in the hopes that you're going

0:34:29.440 --> 0:34:31.160
<v Speaker 2>to meet the right guy. You never know when that

0:34:31.160 --> 0:34:31.960
<v Speaker 2>person is coming.

0:34:32.480 --> 0:34:33.520
<v Speaker 3>Awesome, I love it.

0:34:33.600 --> 0:34:37.080
<v Speaker 2>Thank you, Okay, great, thanks for calling. Thank you so much.

0:34:37.160 --> 0:34:38.880
<v Speaker 2>By Laura. Bye, It's Laura.

0:34:39.719 --> 0:34:40.760
<v Speaker 3>What a perfect question.

0:34:40.920 --> 0:34:43.640
<v Speaker 1>Wow, that was really quick yeah, we might even make

0:34:43.640 --> 0:34:44.360
<v Speaker 1>it to four questions.

0:34:44.440 --> 0:34:44.960
<v Speaker 3>We'll see.

0:34:45.160 --> 0:34:48.640
<v Speaker 1>So our next color is Stephanie, she says, Dear Chelsea,

0:34:49.000 --> 0:34:50.920
<v Speaker 1>I'm a high school teacher at a school in an

0:34:51.000 --> 0:34:55.120
<v Speaker 1>underprivileged area in Connecticut. Yes, they exist here. We're situated

0:34:55.160 --> 0:34:57.400
<v Speaker 1>around the richest towns in the state. I worked in

0:34:57.440 --> 0:35:00.719
<v Speaker 1>my school for my entire career eleven years. I just

0:35:00.800 --> 0:35:02.880
<v Speaker 1>finished my last ever degree, which will allow me to

0:35:02.880 --> 0:35:06.320
<v Speaker 1>be a school administrator. My dilemma right now is between

0:35:06.360 --> 0:35:09.239
<v Speaker 1>loving my job and wanting to be financially stable. My

0:35:09.320 --> 0:35:12.239
<v Speaker 1>job is literally my calling. I love my students, I

0:35:12.280 --> 0:35:15.000
<v Speaker 1>love my coworkers, and most days I truly just love

0:35:15.040 --> 0:35:18.400
<v Speaker 1>going to work and doing this job despite everything. However,

0:35:18.520 --> 0:35:21.239
<v Speaker 1>we're paid like garbage after school hours. I nanny for

0:35:21.280 --> 0:35:23.239
<v Speaker 1>a family and tutor the other days of the week

0:35:23.280 --> 0:35:25.320
<v Speaker 1>for more income, plus say nanny part time in the

0:35:25.320 --> 0:35:27.840
<v Speaker 1>summer when I'm off work. With my new degree, I

0:35:27.880 --> 0:35:30.279
<v Speaker 1>could move into an administrative position in one of the

0:35:30.320 --> 0:35:33.040
<v Speaker 1>richer towns next year and make way more money. But

0:35:33.080 --> 0:35:34.840
<v Speaker 1>I'm afraid that I won't find as much joy in

0:35:34.880 --> 0:35:36.680
<v Speaker 1>the business end of running a school as I do

0:35:36.760 --> 0:35:39.200
<v Speaker 1>in my current role. I need your advice. Do what

0:35:39.239 --> 0:35:41.320
<v Speaker 1>I love or work for a paycheck to afford a

0:35:41.360 --> 0:35:42.280
<v Speaker 1>comfortable life.

0:35:42.440 --> 0:35:49.160
<v Speaker 2>Stephanie Hi, Stephanie Hi, Hi, Stephanie Hi's Kattie Britton our

0:35:49.200 --> 0:35:50.280
<v Speaker 2>special guest today.

0:35:50.560 --> 0:35:55.080
<v Speaker 3>Oh, I'm blown away. She was a teacher too, in

0:35:55.120 --> 0:35:57.719
<v Speaker 3>one of her lives, in one of my lives, Yeah,

0:35:57.760 --> 0:36:00.400
<v Speaker 3>my acting lives.

0:35:59.719 --> 0:36:03.040
<v Speaker 2>I mean that's I feel conflicted. I read this thing

0:36:03.080 --> 0:36:05.760
<v Speaker 2>the other day from Bill Gates. There's a big tech conference,

0:36:05.800 --> 0:36:08.279
<v Speaker 2>a big climate conference, at a big tech conference last

0:36:08.320 --> 0:36:11.160
<v Speaker 2>week in San Francisco, and Bill Gates came out and

0:36:11.200 --> 0:36:14.239
<v Speaker 2>said that in ten years, all nursing jobs and all

0:36:14.280 --> 0:36:17.480
<v Speaker 2>teaching jobs will be done by AI. And if he

0:36:17.640 --> 0:36:21.120
<v Speaker 2>said that, then I think that's probably going to be true.

0:36:21.360 --> 0:36:24.719
<v Speaker 2>So I would normally say stick with your passion, but

0:36:24.840 --> 0:36:27.440
<v Speaker 2>I feel like you're already on your You've gotten you

0:36:27.480 --> 0:36:29.719
<v Speaker 2>had to get a degree, right, an extra degree to

0:36:29.760 --> 0:36:32.799
<v Speaker 2>become an administrator. You've worked for this. It's going to

0:36:32.840 --> 0:36:36.759
<v Speaker 2>be more financially secure for you. I feel like that's

0:36:36.800 --> 0:36:37.279
<v Speaker 2>your move.

0:36:38.000 --> 0:36:39.520
<v Speaker 3>I kind of agree with that, But can I just

0:36:39.640 --> 0:36:43.120
<v Speaker 3>ask one thing, which is, as you're thinking about it,

0:36:43.560 --> 0:36:46.480
<v Speaker 3>could you make a list of the specific things And

0:36:46.520 --> 0:36:49.840
<v Speaker 3>you kind of did in your letter but like the

0:36:49.920 --> 0:36:55.400
<v Speaker 3>specific things that you love about this specific job, because

0:36:55.480 --> 0:36:58.640
<v Speaker 3>then what you could do is, as you look to

0:36:58.719 --> 0:37:01.440
<v Speaker 3>something that's more lucrative for you and like it creates

0:37:01.440 --> 0:37:04.479
<v Speaker 3>a better lifestyle for you, you can try to see

0:37:04.480 --> 0:37:07.080
<v Speaker 3>if you can fill in those things in some way,

0:37:07.160 --> 0:37:10.279
<v Speaker 3>even if it's not this exact same circumstance, so that

0:37:10.320 --> 0:37:15.560
<v Speaker 3>you're not completely sacrificing what you love, you know, right, Yeah,

0:37:15.719 --> 0:37:16.440
<v Speaker 3>that makes sense.

0:37:16.560 --> 0:37:19.440
<v Speaker 2>But also don't downplay all the positive impacts you can

0:37:19.480 --> 0:37:21.880
<v Speaker 2>have as an administrator, Like, there are many things you

0:37:21.920 --> 0:37:24.400
<v Speaker 2>can do to also bring your self joy. It's not

0:37:24.400 --> 0:37:26.280
<v Speaker 2>going to be the same as being inside a classroom

0:37:26.280 --> 0:37:29.200
<v Speaker 2>every day, but you can influence the teachers. You can

0:37:29.480 --> 0:37:32.560
<v Speaker 2>provide comfort and safety for them. Like, there are a

0:37:32.600 --> 0:37:34.640
<v Speaker 2>lot of ways that you're going to find that you're

0:37:34.640 --> 0:37:38.080
<v Speaker 2>going to find yourself experiencing like fulfillment and joy in

0:37:38.120 --> 0:37:40.000
<v Speaker 2>your new job that you're not even yet aware of.

0:37:40.400 --> 0:37:42.239
<v Speaker 2>So don't think that that's not going to have any

0:37:42.280 --> 0:37:43.840
<v Speaker 2>of those aspects moving forward.

0:37:44.239 --> 0:37:46.520
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, right, yeah, I agree with you there.

0:37:46.600 --> 0:37:49.480
<v Speaker 5>I just I get worried because I see how people

0:37:49.520 --> 0:37:53.280
<v Speaker 5>who move into that role kind of ease away from

0:37:53.400 --> 0:37:55.520
<v Speaker 5>what I love to do in my job day to day,

0:37:55.640 --> 0:37:58.080
<v Speaker 5>and that's what scares me. It's like, am I will

0:37:58.120 --> 0:38:00.239
<v Speaker 5>I be allowed to break the mold and do that?

0:38:00.560 --> 0:38:02.799
<v Speaker 5>Or do I kind of have to fall into this

0:38:03.000 --> 0:38:05.880
<v Speaker 5>public school system of you know, you're in charge, you

0:38:05.920 --> 0:38:07.200
<v Speaker 5>have to be a little bit less fun.

0:38:07.960 --> 0:38:10.080
<v Speaker 3>Well that's the thing. You can be a leader in

0:38:10.120 --> 0:38:12.800
<v Speaker 3>that circumstance. Yeah, you can be the one to break

0:38:12.840 --> 0:38:16.279
<v Speaker 3>through that and like let it. And that's why it's

0:38:16.320 --> 0:38:18.680
<v Speaker 3>like making a list is a helpful idea because then

0:38:18.680 --> 0:38:23.359
<v Speaker 3>it's like, Okay, I want to include these things as

0:38:23.440 --> 0:38:26.840
<v Speaker 3>part of this job, which everybody says, oh, that's not

0:38:26.920 --> 0:38:28.880
<v Speaker 3>part of this job. It's like you're going to do

0:38:28.920 --> 0:38:31.040
<v Speaker 3>it differently, you know, that's an opportunity.

0:38:31.640 --> 0:38:33.719
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I think you should go into it with a

0:38:33.760 --> 0:38:36.600
<v Speaker 2>whole with a whole bunch of energy about how you

0:38:36.680 --> 0:38:39.560
<v Speaker 2>were going to make this role special for you and

0:38:39.600 --> 0:38:41.320
<v Speaker 2>how it's going to work for you.

0:38:41.320 --> 0:38:41.480
<v Speaker 3>You know.

0:38:41.520 --> 0:38:43.719
<v Speaker 2>I'm sure there will be some limitations that you maybe

0:38:43.760 --> 0:38:46.080
<v Speaker 2>you don't foresee, or maybe you do foresee, but there's

0:38:46.120 --> 0:38:49.040
<v Speaker 2>always ways that you can actually impact and have change

0:38:49.320 --> 0:38:52.160
<v Speaker 2>in your environment, you know, and especially in a leadership role.

0:38:52.239 --> 0:38:54.600
<v Speaker 2>So like look at it like that, like oh now,

0:38:54.600 --> 0:38:56.719
<v Speaker 2>I'm going to get to influence and give like my

0:38:56.840 --> 0:38:59.280
<v Speaker 2>passion for teaching. You're going to be able to infuse

0:38:59.280 --> 0:39:01.880
<v Speaker 2>that into other teas that are working, you know, underneath you,

0:39:02.239 --> 0:39:03.759
<v Speaker 2>and you're gonna be able to like kind of set

0:39:03.800 --> 0:39:05.920
<v Speaker 2>the tone and set the vibe. And I mean nothing

0:39:06.000 --> 0:39:07.440
<v Speaker 2>needs that more now than education.

0:39:08.160 --> 0:39:08.520
<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

0:39:08.600 --> 0:39:11.960
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, you have obviously a little bit of a deadline

0:39:12.000 --> 0:39:13.320
<v Speaker 1>on this because you have to sort of make a

0:39:13.360 --> 0:39:16.480
<v Speaker 1>decision for this next year pretty soon. But like, if

0:39:16.480 --> 0:39:18.120
<v Speaker 1>you really feel, like, you know, I want to take

0:39:18.160 --> 0:39:20.399
<v Speaker 1>one more year as a teacher, Like I think that's

0:39:20.400 --> 0:39:23.920
<v Speaker 1>okay too, And like I think the extra stuff that

0:39:23.960 --> 0:39:25.960
<v Speaker 1>you have to do to make ends meet is kind

0:39:25.960 --> 0:39:28.200
<v Speaker 1>of a recipe for a burnout. So you know, if

0:39:28.200 --> 0:39:30.440
<v Speaker 1>it's not the right time now, do some soul searching

0:39:30.719 --> 0:39:32.919
<v Speaker 1>see if it is. If it's not, then maybe it's

0:39:32.920 --> 0:39:35.480
<v Speaker 1>next year or the following year. But you're going to

0:39:35.560 --> 0:39:38.879
<v Speaker 1>gain so much more time and bandwidth that, like Connie said,

0:39:38.880 --> 0:39:41.120
<v Speaker 1>you could do some volunteering with a group that like

0:39:41.239 --> 0:39:43.360
<v Speaker 1>fulfills what your job is currently fulfilling.

0:39:43.880 --> 0:39:46.239
<v Speaker 5>Yeah, I've been thinking a lot about it. I also

0:39:46.480 --> 0:39:48.239
<v Speaker 5>was thinking about it a lot this weekend. So I'm

0:39:48.239 --> 0:39:52.359
<v Speaker 5>so excited maybe proposing like more of a hybrid administrative role.

0:39:52.560 --> 0:39:53.840
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it's my district.

0:39:53.920 --> 0:39:55.879
<v Speaker 5>That's something maybe they would be into if I could

0:39:55.920 --> 0:39:58.839
<v Speaker 5>still teach a few classes a day and then do

0:39:59.040 --> 0:40:01.600
<v Speaker 5>the leadership comp on it, sit through meetings and everything

0:40:01.680 --> 0:40:02.080
<v Speaker 5>like that.

0:40:02.360 --> 0:40:04.920
<v Speaker 3>So I was like, it couldn't hurt. I suppose to

0:40:05.040 --> 0:40:06.040
<v Speaker 3>just throw that out there.

0:40:06.520 --> 0:40:09.960
<v Speaker 2>Absolutely, Yes, ok, great way to keep your feet on

0:40:10.000 --> 0:40:12.400
<v Speaker 2>the ground and in touch with everything that's happening also,

0:40:12.600 --> 0:40:14.319
<v Speaker 2>you know, like in your administration.

0:40:15.080 --> 0:40:16.800
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, yeah, for sure.

0:40:17.120 --> 0:40:19.879
<v Speaker 2>Okay, great, Well, this was a very high upbeat phone call.

0:40:20.000 --> 0:40:22.080
<v Speaker 2>I'm glad that we called, and I'm glad we could help.

0:40:22.120 --> 0:40:24.080
<v Speaker 2>And good luck with everything you're doing. The Lord's work

0:40:24.160 --> 0:40:24.600
<v Speaker 2>so much.

0:40:25.000 --> 0:40:27.920
<v Speaker 3>I know, seriously, that's the most what you're doing is

0:40:27.960 --> 0:40:31.480
<v Speaker 3>the most valuable thing we could ever ask. Thank you

0:40:31.520 --> 0:40:34.319
<v Speaker 3>so much, Thank you, Thanks to you all.

0:40:35.160 --> 0:40:37.719
<v Speaker 2>You know what I hope I hope that with this AI,

0:40:37.920 --> 0:40:39.920
<v Speaker 2>like everyone's so scared of AI. And I was reading

0:40:39.920 --> 0:40:42.320
<v Speaker 2>this article about how everybody was so scared of computers

0:40:42.320 --> 0:40:45.360
<v Speaker 2>in nineteen ninety three when Al Gore invented the Internet.

0:40:45.640 --> 0:40:48.880
<v Speaker 2>Everyone was so scared that that the computers were going

0:40:48.960 --> 0:40:52.160
<v Speaker 2>to take everybody's jobs. Everyone was freaking out. We don't

0:40:52.200 --> 0:40:54.600
<v Speaker 2>remember this because half of us weren't even born then,

0:40:54.640 --> 0:40:58.160
<v Speaker 2>but I was. And this article that I read reminded

0:40:58.200 --> 0:41:00.400
<v Speaker 2>me of that. And that's how people feel about AI.

0:41:00.920 --> 0:41:02.680
<v Speaker 2>And you know, AI is going to be used for

0:41:02.760 --> 0:41:04.399
<v Speaker 2>bad stuff, but it's going to be used for good

0:41:04.400 --> 0:41:07.239
<v Speaker 2>stuff too. Think about what we're dealing with with our

0:41:07.360 --> 0:41:10.080
<v Speaker 2>education department being assaulted in the way that it has

0:41:10.160 --> 0:41:13.440
<v Speaker 2>been with this administration. Wouldn't it just be the ice

0:41:13.480 --> 0:41:17.160
<v Speaker 2>cream on the cake for all of us or the

0:41:17.200 --> 0:41:20.839
<v Speaker 2>brownie for for AI to come in and educate the

0:41:20.880 --> 0:41:23.840
<v Speaker 2>fucking shit out of all of these kids in America

0:41:24.280 --> 0:41:27.840
<v Speaker 2>for free without school. Can you imagine how smart everyone's

0:41:27.880 --> 0:41:30.560
<v Speaker 2>going to be if everything that they are doing just

0:41:30.600 --> 0:41:37.239
<v Speaker 2>completely backfired? Anyway, No, anyone, Hello, I don't think I

0:41:37.360 --> 0:41:39.799
<v Speaker 2>think we're there yet. Well we're not there yet, but

0:41:39.840 --> 0:41:41.720
<v Speaker 2>what if that that's the silver lining?

0:41:41.760 --> 0:41:43.960
<v Speaker 3>What if that happened. I like that. I like that

0:41:44.000 --> 0:41:46.080
<v Speaker 3>point of view. Like I think, if that happened, that'll

0:41:46.120 --> 0:41:46.680
<v Speaker 3>be amazing.

0:41:46.760 --> 0:41:48.839
<v Speaker 2>I mean, if you you have to be motivated to learn,

0:41:48.880 --> 0:41:51.359
<v Speaker 2>but the people who are motivated to learn that want

0:41:51.400 --> 0:41:54.080
<v Speaker 2>AI tutors, and they want these you know, they're going

0:41:54.160 --> 0:41:56.600
<v Speaker 2>to be able to learn faster than anybody. I mean,

0:41:56.680 --> 0:41:59.319
<v Speaker 2>all the information's there, so as much as you have

0:41:59.360 --> 0:42:00.840
<v Speaker 2>a thirst for you're gonna get it.

0:42:01.280 --> 0:42:01.719
<v Speaker 3>M hmm.

0:42:01.880 --> 0:42:04.040
<v Speaker 1>I feel like best case scenario, teachers are able to

0:42:04.160 --> 0:42:07.840
<v Speaker 1>use it as a tool because, as our color just showed,

0:42:08.080 --> 0:42:09.759
<v Speaker 1>being a teacher is so much more than just like

0:42:09.960 --> 0:42:13.400
<v Speaker 1>providing information. It's like you are caring for these children.

0:42:13.480 --> 0:42:15.520
<v Speaker 1>You're listening to them when they're having an issue, You're

0:42:15.560 --> 0:42:18.279
<v Speaker 1>watching out for them, seeing if there's an issue at home,

0:42:18.440 --> 0:42:20.880
<v Speaker 1>sort of thing that like AI is never going to do.

0:42:21.080 --> 0:42:22.919
<v Speaker 1>But if you can take some of the burden off

0:42:22.920 --> 0:42:25.600
<v Speaker 1>of teachers, that's I think where the sweet spot would be.

0:42:25.880 --> 0:42:27.720
<v Speaker 3>I agree, Like, I think if we can be smart

0:42:27.760 --> 0:42:30.560
<v Speaker 3>about it and not just have it be like okay,

0:42:30.600 --> 0:42:33.480
<v Speaker 3>now it's AI and like fire all the teachers, right,

0:42:33.560 --> 0:42:36.000
<v Speaker 3>you know what I mean, Like, but instead understand the

0:42:36.080 --> 0:42:38.359
<v Speaker 3>value of who the teachers are and that they can

0:42:38.440 --> 0:42:40.480
<v Speaker 3>that the AI can actually be an assist to them,

0:42:40.719 --> 0:42:42.920
<v Speaker 3>so that maybe we're not burning out our teachers all

0:42:42.920 --> 0:42:44.640
<v Speaker 3>the time, you know, I mean, we already pay our

0:42:44.680 --> 0:42:47.440
<v Speaker 3>teachers total crap. So I don't know if it's going

0:42:47.520 --> 0:42:50.440
<v Speaker 3>to help that situation, but I don't know. I agree.

0:42:50.480 --> 0:42:53.839
<v Speaker 3>I think there's something where it could be. It could be,

0:42:53.920 --> 0:42:55.880
<v Speaker 3>it could always it could work to our advantage.

0:42:56.360 --> 0:42:59.480
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, well, let's take a quick break and we'll come

0:42:59.560 --> 0:43:00.400
<v Speaker 1>right back with quickie.

0:43:01.840 --> 0:43:03.400
<v Speaker 2>Please tag me for the special because I get so

0:43:03.440 --> 0:43:05.440
<v Speaker 2>many tags about my books, but I'm not getting as

0:43:05.440 --> 0:43:07.360
<v Speaker 2>many about my special, and my special is the newest

0:43:07.360 --> 0:43:09.040
<v Speaker 2>thing out, so I want to make sure all my

0:43:09.239 --> 0:43:11.920
<v Speaker 2>ardent fans are watching it and tagging me, and I'll

0:43:11.960 --> 0:43:18.640
<v Speaker 2>repost you. And yes, it's called the Feeling. Okay, we're

0:43:18.680 --> 0:43:21.840
<v Speaker 2>back with the star of the Motherhood, Connie Britton, the

0:43:21.920 --> 0:43:24.680
<v Speaker 2>executive producer and star of the Motherhood, which is a

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<v Speaker 2>new series on Hallmark. You can watch the first two

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<v Speaker 2>episodes now. And this is for anyone any parent who

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<v Speaker 2>is at home who is a single parent, or his

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<v Speaker 2>friends with someone who is a single parent, to gain

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<v Speaker 2>a better understanding of how important it is to build

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<v Speaker 2>a community. Okay, do we have one last caller?

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<v Speaker 1>Well, this was just an email, but let me do

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<v Speaker 1>one last question. So Liz writes, her subject line is

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<v Speaker 1>am I abusing my babysitter? Dear Chelsea? Right, Yeah, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>a thirty seven year old working mom, of two kids,

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<v Speaker 1>ages six and two. I'm fortunate to work four days

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<v Speaker 1>a week, and I worked really hard to get to

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<v Speaker 1>this place in my life. I have an incredible babysitter

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<v Speaker 1>whom my girl's adore, whose hours are seven thirty to

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<v Speaker 1>five thirty and Monday through Friday, and just as a reminder,

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<v Speaker 1>she only works at her job four days a week.

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<v Speaker 1>Since I had my first daughter, I felt conflicted about childcare.

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<v Speaker 1>A friend once said I didn't have kids so someone

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<v Speaker 1>else could raise them, and I felt that way too.

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<v Speaker 1>I've always had the goal of minimizing the amount of

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<v Speaker 1>time my kids spend with the babysitter, and I picked

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<v Speaker 1>them up right at five thirty, which is great on

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<v Speaker 1>my workdays. But I've also been using her on my

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<v Speaker 1>Fridays off so I can have some strongly desired alone time.

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<v Speaker 1>This felt like a win for me in terms of

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<v Speaker 1>prioritizing myself and my sanity. Today, I checked in with

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<v Speaker 1>her to make sure it's okay for me to continue

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<v Speaker 1>sending them to her on Fridays. She's a small daycare

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<v Speaker 1>center and they're the only kids there on Fridays. She

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<v Speaker 1>shrugged and said sure, but seemed hesitant. She works hard.

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<v Speaker 1>So I get it, but it triggered that old part

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<v Speaker 1>of me that felt like I have to spend every

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<v Speaker 1>free moment with my kids. As I'm typing this, I

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<v Speaker 1>also realize that it triggered the part of me that

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<v Speaker 1>needs to be completely self sufficient and never ask for

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<v Speaker 1>or accept help. God forbid, I be a birday to

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<v Speaker 1>anyone else. Don't worry. I'm in therapy. I've come so far,

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<v Speaker 1>but the situation is so hard for me. Honestly, I

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<v Speaker 1>don't feel like I need advice. What I need is

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<v Speaker 1>for someone who doesn't know and love me to tell

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<v Speaker 1>me it's not just okay, but good and necessary to

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<v Speaker 1>take time for myself. I know the real work is

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<v Speaker 1>to find that voice within myself, but I'm fucking busy,

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<v Speaker 1>so I need some help with this one. Sincerely, Liz Connie,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean the whole This is my show, Liz again,

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<v Speaker 1>please watch The Motherhood.

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<v Speaker 3>It's all about how hard it is for us to

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<v Speaker 3>ask for help and to feel like it's okay. Like

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<v Speaker 3>all six of the moms in all of our episodes,

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<v Speaker 3>each one of them spoke about how they feel like

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<v Speaker 3>they can't justify taking time for themselves. They can't justify

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<v Speaker 3>buying things for themselves, because if it always comes down

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<v Speaker 3>to time with their kid or the kid needs something,

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<v Speaker 3>and that's always going to take the first priority, and

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<v Speaker 3>that is how you literally destroy your own soul, and

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<v Speaker 3>a mom the destroyed soul is not helpful to their child.

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<v Speaker 3>And so it's like, I think what it begs you

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<v Speaker 3>to do is, first of all, really ask yourself, like

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<v Speaker 3>what do I need here? It's okay for me to

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<v Speaker 3>need help, and I have reasons why I need that.

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<v Speaker 3>And then just have a real conversation with your babysitter,

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<v Speaker 3>because what you don't want is that icky like yeah, sure,

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<v Speaker 3>but like there's some kind of like tension growing or

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<v Speaker 3>you know, resentment or whatever. It's like, be real about

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<v Speaker 3>it and be like this, you know this is important time.

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<v Speaker 3>Don't apologize. This is important time for me. I need

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<v Speaker 3>this time. But if it's a problem for you, let's

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<v Speaker 3>talk about what works for both of us. But it's

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<v Speaker 3>okay to stand up for and know that you need

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<v Speaker 3>your own time because it's going to make you a

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<v Speaker 3>better mother.

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<v Speaker 2>Period.

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<v Speaker 3>End of conversation, except for whenever you have to taste,

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<v Speaker 3>say Chelsea, I'm just going to agree.

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<v Speaker 2>With everything you said, because yeah, obvious that women need

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<v Speaker 2>to take care of each other and themselves. So yes,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm going to let that, let that sit without adding on. Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>and that is the only time I will do that

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<v Speaker 2>in our lives. Connie. I want you to know that week.

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<v Speaker 3>Like literally, I'm gonna take a little pink sqeeze.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, Well, Connie Brittain, we finally did it. You're on

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<v Speaker 2>the podcast. We did it. We're promoting a great project.

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<v Speaker 2>The show is called The Motherhood and you can follow

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<v Speaker 2>Connie on Instagram if you want to. But not a

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<v Speaker 2>lot happening there, so.

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<v Speaker 3>We can't all have the most perfect Instagram that you

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<v Speaker 3>have so much help making.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, I love you, Connie. I find out your premiere.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm sorry I can't be there, but I'll see you

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<v Speaker 2>next time.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, honey, I love you.

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<v Speaker 2>Okaye, bye guy, bye bye. And that concludes another episode

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<v Speaker 2>after your Chelsea, We'll see you next week. Do Do

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<v Speaker 2>Do Do Do dorroll Catherine please And abroad broad is

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<v Speaker 2>my European tour, so I'm coming to obviously find a

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<v Speaker 2>husband abroad. I need to get the health out of

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<v Speaker 2>this fucking country. And it's not as easy as you

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<v Speaker 2>think so. I'm coming to Rekuvik, I'm coming to Dublin.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm coming to the UK. I'm coming to Brussels, Paris,

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<v Speaker 2>Belfast in May and June. I'm coming to Oslo, Stockholm,

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<v Speaker 2>to Copenhagen, Manchester, London, Glasgow, New Zurich, Vienna. I've never

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<v Speaker 2>ever been to Vienna, Berlin, Barcelona and Lisbon. I'm coming abroad.

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<v Speaker 2>Is abroad that sounds like fun.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm gonna go see you abroad.

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<v Speaker 2>I know I want to go see me abroad and

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<v Speaker 2>there all be there, all be excellent. Okay. My remaining

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<v Speaker 2>dates for Vegas, there are remaining dates for this year.

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<v Speaker 2>Summertime is coming and I will be in Vegas out

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<v Speaker 2>the Cosmo doing my residency on July fifth. We will

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<v Speaker 2>be the next date that I'm there, July fifth, August thirtieth,

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<v Speaker 2>and then November one and twenty ninth. November one and

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<v Speaker 2>November twenty ninth, I will be in Las Vegas at

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<v Speaker 2>the Cosmo performing Inside Myself at the Chelsea. It's called

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<v Speaker 2>Chelsea at the Chelsea for a reason. Okay, thank you.

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