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Speaker 2: I'm in my last day of Whistler, Canada for the season.

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Speaker 3: This is it.

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Speaker 2: I skied yesterday. We did some spring skiing with all

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Speaker 2: One was in like three feet of snow and behind

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Speaker 2: got a massage. It was just like one of those

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Speaker 2: perfect days. I was with like six of my girlfriends.

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Speaker 2: And then tonight I'm doing my book. I'm doing a

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Speaker 2: So I'm going to do that tonight and then I'm

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Speaker 2: off I'm off to Chicago to.

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Speaker 1: Marrow, borrow, fabulous, fabulous, and then you go to Europe.

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Speaker 1: You'll be going to Europe.

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna going to Europe, you guys, if you haven't

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Speaker 2: gotten your tickets. I start out in Rekuvic. I think

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Speaker 2: it's May eleventh. I'm in Rekuvic, and then I'm in Belfast.

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Speaker 2: I'm coming to thirteen countries, so check Chelseahandler dot com.

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Speaker 2: I am coming to a city near you. I'm very

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Speaker 2: very excited for my European tour.

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Speaker 1: And we've got one of your buddies in the studio today.

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, this is one of my close friends who

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Speaker 2: is a huge pain in my ass. Actually I'm a

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Speaker 2: of pride in that. She is the creator and host

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Speaker 2: of the Motherhood on Hallmark, whose first two episodes are

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Speaker 2: out now. She also starts in Overcompensating on Amazon Prime.

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Speaker 2: All episodes are available May fifteenth, and you would recognize

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Speaker 2: like Dirty John, Like, I don't know, she's in everything,

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Speaker 2: So please welcome Connie Britton.

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Speaker 3: Hi, Connie, we got you muted right now? Okay, do

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Speaker 2: I have a little story to tell about Connie as

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Speaker 3: Are we starting? Is this?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? No, that bitch is on? Yeah, that's on. So

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Speaker 2: we're promoting, you know, Connie Britton from a million television series.

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Speaker 2: We'll go over that in your intro while you're not here,

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Speaker 3: That, and also you can say whatever you want. I know,

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Speaker 3: I know what you're gonna say. I know how you

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Speaker 2: Do you I find it very funny whenever I watch

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Speaker 2: I want to tell you what happened. So Jane Fonda

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Speaker 2: What of when Jane Fonda asks you to do anything,

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Speaker 3: San Sancho Pez. No, wait, San Jose, San Antonio, Mexico,

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Speaker 2: No, okay, let's start, let's start, okay, okay, she's from Dartmouth.

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Speaker 3: Thank you, you know what. You should have been able

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Speaker 3: to think of that too, Santa Fe, Thank you, Catherine.

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Speaker 2: Okay, So back to Connie. When I see Connie on television,

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Speaker 2: I take screen grabs of Connie's faces and I just

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Speaker 3: You know?

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Speaker 2: And I forget what was the last? You're in everything,

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Speaker 2: and the mashbacks. I forget what that? No, that was

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Speaker 3: That was the whole. That was the whole. It's because

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Speaker 2: Okay. But now Connie has a new series. It's called

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Speaker 2: The Motherhood, and she's been talking about this for about

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Speaker 2: two years because she is she's adopted a son. About

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Speaker 2: how many years ago did you adopt your son? Fourteen

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Speaker 3: sort of a style but it's kind of a self

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Speaker 3: love style person, and then one is a parenting coach,

433
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Speaker 3: and then one is a DIY home renovation person. They're

434
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Speaker 3: all amazing, all three of them. And so each week

435
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Speaker 3: we have a new single mom and then our three

436
00:21:40,200 --> 00:21:44,639
Speaker 3: neighbor ladies will kind of go in and create magic

437
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Speaker 3: for them and help them, help to guide them so

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Speaker 3: that they can have sustainable things that can help them

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Speaker 3: as they continue to raise their child and do their

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Speaker 3: jobs and do all the things that they're doing in

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Speaker 3: the world. And then ultimately we're creating a community with

442
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Speaker 3: all of these.

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Speaker 2: Moms and that's a yes, a very beautiful thing. What's

444
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Speaker 2: your friend's name again? The woman who Yobi's best friend.

445
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Speaker 2: They don't go to the same school, but Jimmy Tammy. Yeah,

446
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Speaker 2: I would like to know who her community is, who

447
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Speaker 2: her neighborhood ladies are.

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Speaker 3: Well, you know, that's a really interesting point because, first

449
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Speaker 3: of all, I'm hoping because next but we're already start

450
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Speaker 3: starting to talk about season two of the show.

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Speaker 2: It's on Hallmark. Everybody, you can watch The Motherhood on Hallmark,

452
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Speaker 2: and the first two episodes are out now.

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Speaker 3: But we shot the first season in Kansas City, which

454
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Speaker 3: was awesome. By the way, have you ever been to

455
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Speaker 3: Kansas City?

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Speaker 2: Of course, I've been in Kansas City. I'm a comedian.

457
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Speaker 2: I go to all the cities that you never want

458
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Speaker 2: to ever see the inside of, not the Kansas City

459
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Speaker 2: is one of them.

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Speaker 3: I really liked Kansas City.

461
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Speaker 2: Kansas City is cool. That whole area that midwestern Kansas

462
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Speaker 2: City is very cool.

463
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Speaker 3: Yes, I really liked it a lot, and we had

464
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Speaker 3: a beautiful time there. But next season, because I live

465
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Speaker 3: in LA you be starting high school next year, so

466
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Speaker 3: I'm like, it would be so much better. Or if

467
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Speaker 3: we shot I'd be able to be in the show

468
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Speaker 3: more if we shut shoot in LA. So we're looking

469
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Speaker 3: at that, and if we do, then Tammy will be

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Speaker 3: one of the moms next year. Oh yeah, I'm I'm like,

471
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Speaker 3: because she's definitely one of the people that also kind

472
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Speaker 3: of inspired this, you know, totally right, and so I

473
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Speaker 3: know it'd be so amazing, I know.

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Speaker 2: And I'm always inviting Tammy to come to one of

475
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Speaker 2: my Vegas shows and she's like, girl, you don't understand

476
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Speaker 2: what I would do to make that happen. She's like,

477
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Speaker 2: I want to come to Vegas. She's like, do you

478
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Speaker 2: understand I can never leave my child for one night

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Speaker 2: unless I have a like a fool proof plan for

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Speaker 2: him to spend the night.

481
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Speaker 3: And I'm just like with her mother, who like her mother.

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Speaker 2: The last time I flew somewhere to meet Connie was

483
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Speaker 2: for her. I went early to south By Southwest for

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Speaker 2: her birthday. We went, we had a nice dinner. I

485
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Speaker 2: don't know what was in the water, on the plane

486
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Speaker 2: ride I got, I took there, but something was in it.

487
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Speaker 2: It was this this guy had this brand deal, this brand.

488
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Speaker 2: It's called love Water, and they said it was just water,

489
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Speaker 2: but I'm convinced there was something else in there. And

490
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Speaker 2: when I got to that dinner, I was ready to

491
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Speaker 2: go and guess what's hot?

492
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Speaker 3: I was hot, hot, coming in hot.

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Speaker 2: I came in hot. And that night ended it around

494
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Speaker 2: two thirty in the morning. And the next morning I

495
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Speaker 2: had panels at south By Southwest, not one, not two,

496
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Speaker 2: five separate panels that started at nine thirty am, and

497
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Speaker 2: I got in at three thirty am, so I looked

498
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Speaker 2: like somebody punched me in the face. I didn't recover

499
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Speaker 2: from that night for two days.

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Speaker 3: Because of the water. Weird the weird waters.

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Speaker 2: No, because of everything that happened. After the water we

502
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Speaker 2: drank and then we went back to her friends house

503
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Speaker 2: and the people were smoking cigarettes. It just got It

504
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Speaker 2: was just one of those It was first of all,

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Speaker 2: I don't regret it for a second because it was

506
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Speaker 2: a really fucking fun night and I'm glad that I

507
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Speaker 2: was there.

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Speaker 3: But uh, of course, Austin.

509
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Speaker 2: But it took me a couple days to really get

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Speaker 2: my head back on straight after the after the first

511
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Speaker 2: day of five panels, because there were so many fun

512
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Speaker 2: things going on at south By Southwest. My assistant was

513
00:25:00,320 --> 00:25:01,720
Speaker 2: there and he's like, Okay, so do you want to

514
00:25:01,760 --> 00:25:03,800
Speaker 2: go to this dinner with this person? And this person's

515
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Speaker 2: I go dinner? Are you fucking kidding me? I have

516
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Speaker 2: to go to bed at five pm today because of

517
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Speaker 2: last night, as if it was somehow his fault.

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Speaker 3: Your assistant is so sweet.

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Speaker 2: I know, I know.

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Speaker 3: Wait, remind me his name again, McKinley.

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Speaker 2: That's a private joke.

522
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Speaker 3: That is a private joke, and we know that it's

523
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Speaker 3: not McKinley.

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Speaker 2: Okay, anyway, Okay, we're gonna take a break and we're

525
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Speaker 2: going to be right back with Connie Britton, the world's

526
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Speaker 2: best actress.

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Speaker 1: If you'd like advice from Chelsea, right into us at

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Speaker 1: Dear Chelsea podcast at gmail dot com. We'd love to

529
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Speaker 1: hear your questions for any juicy story you'd like advice on,

530
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Speaker 1: but this week we're specifically looking for questions about family issues.

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Speaker 2: If you have an issue with a family member or

532
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Speaker 2: you need.

533
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Speaker 1: Advice about a specific relationship issue, please write in at

534
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Speaker 1: Dear Chelsea Podcast at gmail dot com.

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Speaker 2: We're rack with Connie Britton. Hey, Connie, I have an

536
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Speaker 2: acting question for you. Do you ever have a have

537
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Speaker 2: you ever had? Because you've been in everything? I mean,

538
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Speaker 2: just to name a few, as you named, you were

539
00:26:07,960 --> 00:26:11,920
Speaker 2: in Friday Night Lights, you were in Nashville, you were

540
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Speaker 2: in White Lotus.

541
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Speaker 3: Your favorite dirty John, Dirty John.

542
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Speaker 2: Yes, that's just to name a few. Her resume is endless.

543
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Speaker 2: Do you ever have a crisis of confidence when you're

544
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Speaker 2: acting or have you had one about your performance? I,

545
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Speaker 2: of course I always have a crisis of confidence, Like,

546
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Speaker 2: isn't that part of being an artiste? I guess so,

547
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Speaker 2: I just feel like you always feel. I mean, I've

548
00:26:37,359 --> 00:26:40,400
Speaker 2: never seen that side of you. Even though I joke

549
00:26:40,400 --> 00:26:42,399
Speaker 2: about you being bad at acting, I know you're not,

550
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Speaker 2: and I know you're very talented. And I wonder if

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Speaker 2: someone who says established and as experienced, like the hours

552
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Speaker 2: of experience that you have accrued.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that erose is legit. That ten thousand hours thing.

554
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Speaker 3: One of the things that I've noticed in my fifties.

555
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Speaker 3: It's a maaze, is that ten thousand hours thing. Like

556
00:27:05,080 --> 00:27:11,359
Speaker 3: I feel much more like I can access whatever that

557
00:27:11,440 --> 00:27:14,040
Speaker 3: thing is that I need to be able to do

558
00:27:14,119 --> 00:27:18,280
Speaker 3: a scene and create a character. It's it's like I

559
00:27:18,359 --> 00:27:21,959
Speaker 3: have much more immediate connection to that, Whereas when I

560
00:27:22,000 --> 00:27:24,880
Speaker 3: was younger, I think I would, you know, I kind

561
00:27:24,880 --> 00:27:27,679
Speaker 3: of have to really like it was more cerebral and

562
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Speaker 3: I'd have to really like dig down and that kind

563
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Speaker 3: of thing. And now I think that, you know, it's

564
00:27:32,119 --> 00:27:34,520
Speaker 3: the after ten thousand hours, it becomes a little bit

565
00:27:34,560 --> 00:27:38,919
Speaker 3: more immediate and so that, but that doesn't titt necessarily

566
00:27:38,960 --> 00:27:42,880
Speaker 3: take away from every time I start a character. It's funny.

567
00:27:43,000 --> 00:27:48,080
Speaker 3: I actually literally this just this last week finished shooting.

568
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Speaker 3: We're doing a sequel to The Brothers McMullen. All the

569
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Speaker 3: Family McMullen. The Brothers McMullen was my big break movie

570
00:27:56,000 --> 00:28:00,960
Speaker 3: that happened in nineteen ninety five, and that movie is

571
00:28:01,080 --> 00:28:04,320
Speaker 3: like like it takes place on Long Island and it's

572
00:28:04,359 --> 00:28:07,760
Speaker 3: like pretty thick like Long Island accent, and you know,

573
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Speaker 3: I did the part thirty years ago. So it's always

574
00:28:10,440 --> 00:28:14,359
Speaker 3: a thing like, oh, what is I don't I guess

575
00:28:14,359 --> 00:28:16,199
Speaker 3: I know what this character is. I don't know. But

576
00:28:16,359 --> 00:28:18,720
Speaker 3: every time I first step foot on set and the

577
00:28:18,760 --> 00:28:22,159
Speaker 3: camera starts to roll, I'm kind of like, what am

578
00:28:22,200 --> 00:28:24,840
Speaker 3: I going to sound like as this character. I don't know,

579
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Speaker 3: it's super nerve wracking, like it's access.

580
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Speaker 2: They're probably intimidating, I could.

581
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Speaker 3: Imagine, but it's also just even a leap of faith,

582
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Speaker 3: even if it's not with an accent. It's just kind

583
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Speaker 3: of like, I don't really know, I'm just figuring it

584
00:28:37,280 --> 00:28:39,520
Speaker 3: out as I go, kind of thing. You have to

585
00:28:39,600 --> 00:28:41,280
Speaker 3: jump off a cliff a little bit every time.

586
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Speaker 2: How is it meeting Robert de Niro on set? I mean,

587
00:28:44,640 --> 00:28:48,600
Speaker 2: I'm sure you've met him before, butting your.

588
00:28:48,640 --> 00:28:51,800
Speaker 3: Your lover, your passion and your pat your lover, passion,

589
00:28:52,120 --> 00:28:57,920
Speaker 3: Robert Tiro, my baby daddy, your baby daddy. It was amazing,

590
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Speaker 3: Are you kidding? It was like the I mean, he's

591
00:29:01,160 --> 00:29:05,440
Speaker 3: just he's so nice. He's a really nice guy. He's

592
00:29:05,480 --> 00:29:08,440
Speaker 3: got such an incredible work ethic, also a guy in

593
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Speaker 3: his eighties, and he just works his ass off and

594
00:29:13,320 --> 00:29:15,520
Speaker 3: so and he's just kind of a normal guy. And

595
00:29:15,560 --> 00:29:17,440
Speaker 3: he would just talk to me like, how are you

596
00:29:17,520 --> 00:29:19,640
Speaker 3: learning all these lines? You know? These lines? Are you

597
00:29:19,680 --> 00:29:22,440
Speaker 3: know what I mean? And it was interesting for me

598
00:29:22,440 --> 00:29:24,239
Speaker 3: because it was a little bit like it was his

599
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Speaker 3: first time doing television, which you know, I've been doing

600
00:29:26,480 --> 00:29:30,040
Speaker 3: for a long time, and so it was almost like

601
00:29:30,080 --> 00:29:32,080
Speaker 3: he was kind of looking to me like, oh, yeah,

602
00:29:32,120 --> 00:29:33,680
Speaker 3: how do you do this kind of thing? I'm like,

603
00:29:33,960 --> 00:29:34,320
Speaker 3: who me?

604
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Speaker 2: What's so demirror?

605
00:29:37,960 --> 00:29:41,160
Speaker 3: But yeah he I. It was very exciting meeting to Nero.

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Speaker 2: Okay, so we're gonna move to Callers, Connie, try and

607
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Speaker 2: give some advice we need. Okay, put on your.

608
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Speaker 3: Stage callers collar. We have people.

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Speaker 2: It's called Dear Chelsea. It's like dear Abby, but with me.

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Speaker 1: Oh god, guys. So our first question comes from Laura.

611
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Speaker 1: She says, Dear Chelsea, I'd love some advice on this.

612
00:30:01,800 --> 00:30:03,840
Speaker 1: One of my best friends since high school is thirty

613
00:30:03,920 --> 00:30:06,280
Speaker 1: nine and so ready to meet someone and start a family.

614
00:30:06,600 --> 00:30:09,280
Speaker 1: She's beautiful, a doctor, she even designed and built her

615
00:30:09,320 --> 00:30:11,480
Speaker 1: own house. All she needs is to meet a decent

616
00:30:11,520 --> 00:30:13,600
Speaker 1: man and she's ready to go. She wants a family

617
00:30:13,680 --> 00:30:15,680
Speaker 1: so bad. She's also frozen her eggs, so she has

618
00:30:15,720 --> 00:30:18,000
Speaker 1: a backup plan, but she really doesn't want to resort

619
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Speaker 1: to it. She feels the clock is sticking. I don't

620
00:30:20,680 --> 00:30:23,520
Speaker 1: understand why she can't find someone. She's such a catch.

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Speaker 1: She's kind, she's active, She's keys a lot in Canada too,

622
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Speaker 1: She's been on the apps for literally years, and men

623
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Speaker 1: are either intimidated by her or they're quote just not

624
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Speaker 1: ready to think about a family. I constantly put it

625
00:30:34,680 --> 00:30:36,560
Speaker 1: out to people I know, to oh, hey, if you

626
00:30:36,600 --> 00:30:39,360
Speaker 1: know any single guys, and it's just not working. To

627
00:30:39,400 --> 00:30:41,000
Speaker 1: throw a bit of a wrench in her search. She

628
00:30:41,080 --> 00:30:43,200
Speaker 1: met a guy online a year ago who lives across

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Speaker 1: the country who she keeps holding out hope for. He's

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Speaker 1: the same cultural background as her, which I feel she

631
00:30:48,320 --> 00:30:51,600
Speaker 1: sees as an added fairytale esque bonus, but he keeps

632
00:30:51,600 --> 00:30:54,840
Speaker 1: disappointing her, not making an effort in communication or plans

633
00:30:54,840 --> 00:30:59,120
Speaker 1: to see her unless it conveniently just happens, example, randomly

634
00:30:59,120 --> 00:31:00,920
Speaker 1: being in the same city in Europe one day and

635
00:31:01,040 --> 00:31:03,520
Speaker 1: meeting up. She's been very straight up with him about

636
00:31:03,520 --> 00:31:05,920
Speaker 1: what she wants, and it's frustrating that he keeps stringing

637
00:31:05,920 --> 00:31:07,280
Speaker 1: her along but not committing.

638
00:31:07,760 --> 00:31:08,440
Speaker 2: I tell her I.

639
00:31:08,440 --> 00:31:10,160
Speaker 1: Was just a sign of the times and it's not her.

640
00:31:10,480 --> 00:31:13,040
Speaker 1: I also tell her what an inspiration she is, especially

641
00:31:13,080 --> 00:31:14,760
Speaker 1: if she does decide to be a mother alone. And

642
00:31:14,760 --> 00:31:17,600
Speaker 1: I'm wondering how I can support her. I need Chelsea's wisdom.

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Speaker 2: Laura. First of all, Hi Laura. This is our special

644
00:31:21,520 --> 00:31:22,840
Speaker 2: guest Connie Britton today.

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Speaker 3: You're Laura, like Laura from the letter.

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Speaker 2: Well, she's Laura from the letter, but she's talking about

647
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Speaker 2: her friend in the letter.

648
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Speaker 3: Is it your friend, Laura my friend? No? Really, it

649
00:31:39,320 --> 00:31:39,720
Speaker 3: really is.

650
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Speaker 1: When I talk to Laura, she had like babies and test.

651
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Speaker 2: A detective show.

652
00:31:46,640 --> 00:31:47,560
Speaker 3: Okay, this is.

653
00:31:49,880 --> 00:31:53,120
Speaker 2: Honestly, I'm sorry about her. I'm sorry anyway.

654
00:31:54,080 --> 00:31:55,000
Speaker 3: Let's just be real.

655
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Speaker 2: I think you should encourage your friend to go ahead

656
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Speaker 2: and not be holding out for any fucking man to

657
00:32:01,000 --> 00:32:04,200
Speaker 2: have her babies. If she is passionate about becoming a mother,

658
00:32:04,280 --> 00:32:06,479
Speaker 2: and she has her eggs frozen, and she has her

659
00:32:06,520 --> 00:32:09,240
Speaker 2: shit together and her life together, fucking go for it.

660
00:32:09,520 --> 00:32:11,800
Speaker 2: She could be waiting another ten years before she finds

661
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Speaker 2: the right guy. Connie didn't meet her right guy until

662
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Speaker 2: you were what fifty Connie, have you guys been together?

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Speaker 3: Yeah? No, fifty two, fifty fifty two, fifty two. I

664
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Speaker 3: can actually speak to this too, Laura, even though I

665
00:32:25,000 --> 00:32:30,840
Speaker 3: thought maybe you were the friend, uh I, because frankly,

666
00:32:30,920 --> 00:32:33,800
Speaker 3: this was I adopted my son as a single mom

667
00:32:33,800 --> 00:32:35,440
Speaker 3: because I kept thinking, Oh, I'm gonna meet the guy.

668
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Speaker 3: I'm gonna meet the guy. I'm gonna meet the guy. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: And I knew I wanted to adopt, just as your

670
00:32:39,440 --> 00:32:41,240
Speaker 3: friend knows that she wants to have babies and she

671
00:32:41,240 --> 00:32:44,479
Speaker 3: throws her eggs and so I finally was like, what

672
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Speaker 3: am I waiting for? And I did it, And I'm

673
00:32:46,960 --> 00:32:50,400
Speaker 3: just so glad that I did. I will say, how old.

674
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Speaker 2: Were you, Connie when you did it? You did it

675
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Speaker 2: fourteen years ago?

676
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Speaker 3: Four?

677
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Speaker 2: Okay?

678
00:32:54,440 --> 00:32:59,440
Speaker 3: Yeah, great, so encouraging. Yeah. So, but I will say,

679
00:32:59,480 --> 00:33:02,080
Speaker 3: you know, and she can watch my show that's coming

680
00:33:02,120 --> 00:33:04,560
Speaker 3: out on Monday, The Motherhood, because it's all about single

681
00:33:04,560 --> 00:33:08,440
Speaker 3: mom So it's helpful because the thing is you you

682
00:33:08,560 --> 00:33:10,160
Speaker 3: kind of need to know what you're in for when

683
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Speaker 3: you are going to be a single mom. But honestly,

684
00:33:14,040 --> 00:33:18,640
Speaker 3: it's so amazing if she, if she chooses to do that.

685
00:33:19,800 --> 00:33:23,280
Speaker 3: It's so amazing to be able to do that and

686
00:33:24,400 --> 00:33:28,160
Speaker 3: not feel like because otherwise it's it screws up your

687
00:33:28,240 --> 00:33:30,440
Speaker 3: thinking if you're sort of at the mercy of the

688
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Speaker 3: idea of like, I want to meet a guy so

689
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Speaker 3: I can have a baby.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, I'm saying, yeah, totally yeah, And I've actually

691
00:33:37,080 --> 00:33:41,040
Speaker 4: just become a single mom too, So I'm I'm really

692
00:33:41,120 --> 00:33:43,080
Speaker 4: trying to did.

693
00:33:42,920 --> 00:33:46,000
Speaker 2: You kill yourselsband? But yeah, I have.

694
00:33:46,160 --> 00:33:47,960
Speaker 3: It's a personal question, Chelsea.

695
00:33:49,640 --> 00:33:51,760
Speaker 4: I have two kids, so I'm trying to really show

696
00:33:51,760 --> 00:33:54,600
Speaker 4: her that, you know, it's awesome alone.

697
00:33:55,280 --> 00:33:56,560
Speaker 3: So yeah, thank you so much.

698
00:33:56,640 --> 00:33:58,680
Speaker 2: You guys live near each other, you and your friend.

699
00:33:58,840 --> 00:34:01,520
Speaker 4: Yeah, we love We're going to Sana tonight, so okay,

700
00:34:02,040 --> 00:34:03,080
Speaker 4: ten minutes from each other.

701
00:34:03,360 --> 00:34:03,959
Speaker 2: That's great.

702
00:34:04,040 --> 00:34:06,760
Speaker 3: You're each other's community. You're each other because.

703
00:34:06,560 --> 00:34:08,920
Speaker 2: That's what we're talking about. Connie's news show is all

704
00:34:08,920 --> 00:34:11,280
Speaker 2: about this. It's not a hallmark and it's called motherhood,

705
00:34:11,480 --> 00:34:14,640
Speaker 2: and it's all about this. It's about, actually, for me,

706
00:34:14,719 --> 00:34:17,360
Speaker 2: a community with your friends who also are single parents,

707
00:34:17,360 --> 00:34:19,760
Speaker 2: so that you guys can help each other parent together,

708
00:34:20,000 --> 00:34:22,120
Speaker 2: you know, and be there for when the other person

709
00:34:22,200 --> 00:34:24,920
Speaker 2: isn't and having your kids spend time together like this

710
00:34:25,040 --> 00:34:27,719
Speaker 2: is exactly what we're talking about. So please don't ever

711
00:34:27,760 --> 00:34:29,360
Speaker 2: put anything on holds in the hopes that you're going

712
00:34:29,440 --> 00:34:31,160
Speaker 2: to meet the right guy. You never know when that

713
00:34:31,160 --> 00:34:31,960
Speaker 2: person is coming.

714
00:34:32,480 --> 00:34:33,520
Speaker 3: Awesome, I love it.

715
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Speaker 2: Thank you, Okay, great, thanks for calling. Thank you so much.

716
00:34:37,160 --> 00:34:38,880
Speaker 2: By Laura. Bye, It's Laura.

717
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Speaker 3: What a perfect question.

718
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Speaker 1: Wow, that was really quick yeah, we might even make

719
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Speaker 1: it to four questions.

720
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Speaker 3: We'll see.

721
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Speaker 1: So our next color is Stephanie, she says, Dear Chelsea,

722
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Speaker 1: I'm a high school teacher at a school in an

723
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Speaker 1: underprivileged area in Connecticut. Yes, they exist here. We're situated

724
00:34:55,160 --> 00:34:57,400
Speaker 1: around the richest towns in the state. I worked in

725
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Speaker 1: my school for my entire career eleven years. I just

726
00:35:00,800 --> 00:35:02,880
Speaker 1: finished my last ever degree, which will allow me to

727
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Speaker 1: be a school administrator. My dilemma right now is between

728
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Speaker 1: loving my job and wanting to be financially stable. My

729
00:35:09,320 --> 00:35:12,239
Speaker 1: job is literally my calling. I love my students, I

730
00:35:12,280 --> 00:35:15,000
Speaker 1: love my coworkers, and most days I truly just love

731
00:35:15,040 --> 00:35:18,400
Speaker 1: going to work and doing this job despite everything. However,

732
00:35:18,520 --> 00:35:21,239
Speaker 1: we're paid like garbage after school hours. I nanny for

733
00:35:21,280 --> 00:35:23,239
Speaker 1: a family and tutor the other days of the week

734
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Speaker 1: for more income, plus say nanny part time in the

735
00:35:25,320 --> 00:35:27,840
Speaker 1: summer when I'm off work. With my new degree, I

736
00:35:27,880 --> 00:35:30,279
Speaker 1: could move into an administrative position in one of the

737
00:35:30,320 --> 00:35:33,040
Speaker 1: richer towns next year and make way more money. But

738
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Speaker 1: I'm afraid that I won't find as much joy in

739
00:35:34,880 --> 00:35:36,680
Speaker 1: the business end of running a school as I do

740
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Speaker 1: in my current role. I need your advice. Do what

741
00:35:39,239 --> 00:35:41,320
Speaker 1: I love or work for a paycheck to afford a

742
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Speaker 1: comfortable life.

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Speaker 2: Stephanie Hi, Stephanie Hi, Hi, Stephanie Hi's Kattie Britton our

744
00:35:49,200 --> 00:35:50,280
Speaker 2: special guest today.

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Speaker 3: Oh, I'm blown away. She was a teacher too, in

746
00:35:55,120 --> 00:35:57,719
Speaker 3: one of her lives, in one of my lives, Yeah,

747
00:35:57,760 --> 00:36:00,400
Speaker 3: my acting lives.

748
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Speaker 2: I mean that's I feel conflicted. I read this thing

749
00:36:03,080 --> 00:36:05,760
Speaker 2: the other day from Bill Gates. There's a big tech conference,

750
00:36:05,800 --> 00:36:08,279
Speaker 2: a big climate conference, at a big tech conference last

751
00:36:08,320 --> 00:36:11,160
Speaker 2: week in San Francisco, and Bill Gates came out and

752
00:36:11,200 --> 00:36:14,239
Speaker 2: said that in ten years, all nursing jobs and all

753
00:36:14,280 --> 00:36:17,480
Speaker 2: teaching jobs will be done by AI. And if he

754
00:36:17,640 --> 00:36:21,120
Speaker 2: said that, then I think that's probably going to be true.

755
00:36:21,360 --> 00:36:24,719
Speaker 2: So I would normally say stick with your passion, but

756
00:36:24,840 --> 00:36:27,440
Speaker 2: I feel like you're already on your You've gotten you

757
00:36:27,480 --> 00:36:29,719
Speaker 2: had to get a degree, right, an extra degree to

758
00:36:29,760 --> 00:36:32,799
Speaker 2: become an administrator. You've worked for this. It's going to

759
00:36:32,840 --> 00:36:36,759
Speaker 2: be more financially secure for you. I feel like that's

760
00:36:36,800 --> 00:36:37,279
Speaker 2: your move.

761
00:36:38,000 --> 00:36:39,520
Speaker 3: I kind of agree with that, But can I just

762
00:36:39,640 --> 00:36:43,120
Speaker 3: ask one thing, which is, as you're thinking about it,

763
00:36:43,560 --> 00:36:46,480
Speaker 3: could you make a list of the specific things And

764
00:36:46,520 --> 00:36:49,840
Speaker 3: you kind of did in your letter but like the

765
00:36:49,920 --> 00:36:55,400
Speaker 3: specific things that you love about this specific job, because

766
00:36:55,480 --> 00:36:58,640
Speaker 3: then what you could do is, as you look to

767
00:36:58,719 --> 00:37:01,440
Speaker 3: something that's more lucrative for you and like it creates

768
00:37:01,440 --> 00:37:04,479
Speaker 3: a better lifestyle for you, you can try to see

769
00:37:04,480 --> 00:37:07,080
Speaker 3: if you can fill in those things in some way,

770
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Speaker 3: even if it's not this exact same circumstance, so that

771
00:37:10,320 --> 00:37:15,560
Speaker 3: you're not completely sacrificing what you love, you know, right, Yeah,

772
00:37:15,719 --> 00:37:16,440
Speaker 3: that makes sense.

773
00:37:16,560 --> 00:37:19,440
Speaker 2: But also don't downplay all the positive impacts you can

774
00:37:19,480 --> 00:37:21,880
Speaker 2: have as an administrator, Like, there are many things you

775
00:37:21,920 --> 00:37:24,400
Speaker 2: can do to also bring your self joy. It's not

776
00:37:24,400 --> 00:37:26,280
Speaker 2: going to be the same as being inside a classroom

777
00:37:26,280 --> 00:37:29,200
Speaker 2: every day, but you can influence the teachers. You can

778
00:37:29,480 --> 00:37:32,560
Speaker 2: provide comfort and safety for them. Like, there are a

779
00:37:32,600 --> 00:37:34,640
Speaker 2: lot of ways that you're going to find that you're

780
00:37:34,640 --> 00:37:38,080
Speaker 2: going to find yourself experiencing like fulfillment and joy in

781
00:37:38,120 --> 00:37:40,000
Speaker 2: your new job that you're not even yet aware of.

782
00:37:40,400 --> 00:37:42,239
Speaker 2: So don't think that that's not going to have any

783
00:37:42,280 --> 00:37:43,840
Speaker 2: of those aspects moving forward.

784
00:37:44,239 --> 00:37:46,520
Speaker 3: Yeah, right, yeah, I agree with you there.

785
00:37:46,600 --> 00:37:49,480
Speaker 5: I just I get worried because I see how people

786
00:37:49,520 --> 00:37:53,280
Speaker 5: who move into that role kind of ease away from

787
00:37:53,400 --> 00:37:55,520
Speaker 5: what I love to do in my job day to day,

788
00:37:55,640 --> 00:37:58,080
Speaker 5: and that's what scares me. It's like, am I will

789
00:37:58,120 --> 00:38:00,239
Speaker 5: I be allowed to break the mold and do that?

790
00:38:00,560 --> 00:38:02,799
Speaker 5: Or do I kind of have to fall into this

791
00:38:03,000 --> 00:38:05,880
Speaker 5: public school system of you know, you're in charge, you

792
00:38:05,920 --> 00:38:07,200
Speaker 5: have to be a little bit less fun.

793
00:38:07,960 --> 00:38:10,080
Speaker 3: Well that's the thing. You can be a leader in

794
00:38:10,120 --> 00:38:12,800
Speaker 3: that circumstance. Yeah, you can be the one to break

795
00:38:12,840 --> 00:38:16,279
Speaker 3: through that and like let it. And that's why it's

796
00:38:16,320 --> 00:38:18,680
Speaker 3: like making a list is a helpful idea because then

797
00:38:18,680 --> 00:38:23,359
Speaker 3: it's like, Okay, I want to include these things as

798
00:38:23,440 --> 00:38:26,840
Speaker 3: part of this job, which everybody says, oh, that's not

799
00:38:26,920 --> 00:38:28,880
Speaker 3: part of this job. It's like you're going to do

800
00:38:28,920 --> 00:38:31,040
Speaker 3: it differently, you know, that's an opportunity.

801
00:38:31,640 --> 00:38:33,719
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think you should go into it with a

802
00:38:33,760 --> 00:38:36,600
Speaker 2: whole with a whole bunch of energy about how you

803
00:38:36,680 --> 00:38:39,560
Speaker 2: were going to make this role special for you and

804
00:38:39,600 --> 00:38:41,320
Speaker 2: how it's going to work for you.

805
00:38:41,320 --> 00:38:41,480
Speaker 3: You know.

806
00:38:41,520 --> 00:38:43,719
Speaker 2: I'm sure there will be some limitations that you maybe

807
00:38:43,760 --> 00:38:46,080
Speaker 2: you don't foresee, or maybe you do foresee, but there's

808
00:38:46,120 --> 00:38:49,040
Speaker 2: always ways that you can actually impact and have change

809
00:38:49,320 --> 00:38:52,160
Speaker 2: in your environment, you know, and especially in a leadership role.

810
00:38:52,239 --> 00:38:54,600
Speaker 2: So like look at it like that, like oh now,

811
00:38:54,600 --> 00:38:56,719
Speaker 2: I'm going to get to influence and give like my

812
00:38:56,840 --> 00:38:59,280
Speaker 2: passion for teaching. You're going to be able to infuse

813
00:38:59,280 --> 00:39:01,880
Speaker 2: that into other teas that are working, you know, underneath you,

814
00:39:02,239 --> 00:39:03,759
Speaker 2: and you're gonna be able to like kind of set

815
00:39:03,800 --> 00:39:05,920
Speaker 2: the tone and set the vibe. And I mean nothing

816
00:39:06,000 --> 00:39:07,440
Speaker 2: needs that more now than education.

817
00:39:08,160 --> 00:39:08,520
Speaker 3: Yeah.

818
00:39:08,600 --> 00:39:11,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, you have obviously a little bit of a deadline

819
00:39:12,000 --> 00:39:13,320
Speaker 1: on this because you have to sort of make a

820
00:39:13,360 --> 00:39:16,480
Speaker 1: decision for this next year pretty soon. But like, if

821
00:39:16,480 --> 00:39:18,120
Speaker 1: you really feel, like, you know, I want to take

822
00:39:18,160 --> 00:39:20,399
Speaker 1: one more year as a teacher, Like I think that's

823
00:39:20,400 --> 00:39:23,920
Speaker 1: okay too, And like I think the extra stuff that

824
00:39:23,960 --> 00:39:25,960
Speaker 1: you have to do to make ends meet is kind

825
00:39:25,960 --> 00:39:28,200
Speaker 1: of a recipe for a burnout. So you know, if

826
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Speaker 1: it's not the right time now, do some soul searching

827
00:39:30,719 --> 00:39:32,919
Speaker 1: see if it is. If it's not, then maybe it's

828
00:39:32,920 --> 00:39:35,480
Speaker 1: next year or the following year. But you're going to

829
00:39:35,560 --> 00:39:38,879
Speaker 1: gain so much more time and bandwidth that, like Connie said,

830
00:39:38,880 --> 00:39:41,120
Speaker 1: you could do some volunteering with a group that like

831
00:39:41,239 --> 00:39:43,360
Speaker 1: fulfills what your job is currently fulfilling.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I've been thinking a lot about it. I also

833
00:39:46,480 --> 00:39:48,239
Speaker 5: was thinking about it a lot this weekend. So I'm

834
00:39:48,239 --> 00:39:52,359
Speaker 5: so excited maybe proposing like more of a hybrid administrative role.

835
00:39:52,560 --> 00:39:53,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's my district.

836
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Speaker 5: That's something maybe they would be into if I could

837
00:39:55,920 --> 00:39:58,839
Speaker 5: still teach a few classes a day and then do

838
00:39:59,040 --> 00:40:01,600
Speaker 5: the leadership comp on it, sit through meetings and everything

839
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Speaker 5: like that.

840
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Speaker 3: So I was like, it couldn't hurt. I suppose to

841
00:40:05,040 --> 00:40:06,040
Speaker 3: just throw that out there.

842
00:40:06,520 --> 00:40:09,960
Speaker 2: Absolutely, Yes, ok, great way to keep your feet on

843
00:40:10,000 --> 00:40:12,400
Speaker 2: the ground and in touch with everything that's happening also,

844
00:40:12,600 --> 00:40:14,319
Speaker 2: you know, like in your administration.

845
00:40:15,080 --> 00:40:16,800
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, for sure.

846
00:40:17,120 --> 00:40:19,879
Speaker 2: Okay, great, Well, this was a very high upbeat phone call.

847
00:40:20,000 --> 00:40:22,080
Speaker 2: I'm glad that we called, and I'm glad we could help.

848
00:40:22,120 --> 00:40:24,080
Speaker 2: And good luck with everything you're doing. The Lord's work

849
00:40:24,160 --> 00:40:24,600
Speaker 2: so much.

850
00:40:25,000 --> 00:40:27,920
Speaker 3: I know, seriously, that's the most what you're doing is

851
00:40:27,960 --> 00:40:31,480
Speaker 3: the most valuable thing we could ever ask. Thank you

852
00:40:31,520 --> 00:40:34,319
Speaker 3: so much, Thank you, Thanks to you all.

853
00:40:35,160 --> 00:40:37,719
Speaker 2: You know what I hope I hope that with this AI,

854
00:40:37,920 --> 00:40:39,920
Speaker 2: like everyone's so scared of AI. And I was reading

855
00:40:39,920 --> 00:40:42,320
Speaker 2: this article about how everybody was so scared of computers

856
00:40:42,320 --> 00:40:45,360
Speaker 2: in nineteen ninety three when Al Gore invented the Internet.

857
00:40:45,640 --> 00:40:48,880
Speaker 2: Everyone was so scared that that the computers were going

858
00:40:48,960 --> 00:40:52,160
Speaker 2: to take everybody's jobs. Everyone was freaking out. We don't

859
00:40:52,200 --> 00:40:54,600
Speaker 2: remember this because half of us weren't even born then,

860
00:40:54,640 --> 00:40:58,160
Speaker 2: but I was. And this article that I read reminded

861
00:40:58,200 --> 00:41:00,400
Speaker 2: me of that. And that's how people feel about AI.

862
00:41:00,920 --> 00:41:02,680
Speaker 2: And you know, AI is going to be used for

863
00:41:02,760 --> 00:41:04,399
Speaker 2: bad stuff, but it's going to be used for good

864
00:41:04,400 --> 00:41:07,239
Speaker 2: stuff too. Think about what we're dealing with with our

865
00:41:07,360 --> 00:41:10,080
Speaker 2: education department being assaulted in the way that it has

866
00:41:10,160 --> 00:41:13,440
Speaker 2: been with this administration. Wouldn't it just be the ice

867
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Speaker 2: cream on the cake for all of us or the

868
00:41:17,200 --> 00:41:20,839
Speaker 2: brownie for for AI to come in and educate the

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Speaker 2: fucking shit out of all of these kids in America

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Speaker 2: for free without school. Can you imagine how smart everyone's

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Speaker 2: going to be if everything that they are doing just

872
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Speaker 2: completely backfired? Anyway, No, anyone, Hello, I don't think I

873
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Speaker 2: think we're there yet. Well we're not there yet, but

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Speaker 2: what if that that's the silver lining?

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Speaker 3: What if that happened. I like that. I like that

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Speaker 3: point of view. Like I think, if that happened, that'll

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Speaker 3: be amazing.

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Speaker 2: I mean, if you you have to be motivated to learn,

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Speaker 2: but the people who are motivated to learn that want

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Speaker 2: AI tutors, and they want these you know, they're going

881
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Speaker 2: to be able to learn faster than anybody. I mean,

882
00:41:56,680 --> 00:41:59,319
Speaker 2: all the information's there, so as much as you have

883
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Speaker 2: a thirst for you're gonna get it.

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Speaker 3: M hmm.

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Speaker 1: I feel like best case scenario, teachers are able to

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Speaker 1: use it as a tool because, as our color just showed,

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Speaker 1: being a teacher is so much more than just like

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Speaker 1: providing information. It's like you are caring for these children.

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Speaker 1: You're listening to them when they're having an issue, You're

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Speaker 1: watching out for them, seeing if there's an issue at home,

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Speaker 1: sort of thing that like AI is never going to do.

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Speaker 1: But if you can take some of the burden off

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Speaker 1: of teachers, that's I think where the sweet spot would be.

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Speaker 3: I agree, Like, I think if we can be smart

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Speaker 3: about it and not just have it be like okay,

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Speaker 3: now it's AI and like fire all the teachers, right,

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Speaker 3: you know what I mean, Like, but instead understand the

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Speaker 3: value of who the teachers are and that they can

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Speaker 3: that the AI can actually be an assist to them,

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Speaker 3: so that maybe we're not burning out our teachers all

901
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Speaker 3: the time, you know, I mean, we already pay our

902
00:42:44,680 --> 00:42:47,440
Speaker 3: teachers total crap. So I don't know if it's going

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Speaker 3: to help that situation, but I don't know. I agree.

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Speaker 3: I think there's something where it could be. It could be,

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Speaker 3: it could always it could work to our advantage.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, well, let's take a quick break and we'll come

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Speaker 1: right back with quickie.

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Speaker 2: Please tag me for the special because I get so

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Speaker 2: many tags about my books, but I'm not getting as

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Speaker 2: many about my special, and my special is the newest

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Speaker 2: thing out, so I want to make sure all my

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00:43:09,239 --> 00:43:11,920
Speaker 2: ardent fans are watching it and tagging me, and I'll

913
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Speaker 2: repost you. And yes, it's called the Feeling. Okay, we're

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Speaker 2: back with the star of the Motherhood, Connie Britton, the

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Speaker 2: executive producer and star of the Motherhood, which is a

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Speaker 2: new series on Hallmark. You can watch the first two

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Speaker 2: episodes now. And this is for anyone any parent who

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Speaker 2: is at home who is a single parent, or his

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Speaker 2: friends with someone who is a single parent, to gain

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Speaker 2: a better understanding of how important it is to build

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Speaker 2: a community. Okay, do we have one last caller?

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Speaker 1: Well, this was just an email, but let me do

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Speaker 1: one last question. So Liz writes, her subject line is

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Speaker 1: am I abusing my babysitter? Dear Chelsea? Right, Yeah, I'm

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Speaker 1: a thirty seven year old working mom, of two kids,

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Speaker 1: ages six and two. I'm fortunate to work four days

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Speaker 1: a week, and I worked really hard to get to

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Speaker 1: this place in my life. I have an incredible babysitter

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Speaker 1: whom my girl's adore, whose hours are seven thirty to

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Speaker 1: five thirty and Monday through Friday, and just as a reminder,

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Speaker 1: she only works at her job four days a week.

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Speaker 1: Since I had my first daughter, I felt conflicted about childcare.

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Speaker 1: A friend once said I didn't have kids so someone

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Speaker 1: else could raise them, and I felt that way too.

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Speaker 1: I've always had the goal of minimizing the amount of

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Speaker 1: time my kids spend with the babysitter, and I picked

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Speaker 1: them up right at five thirty, which is great on

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Speaker 1: my workdays. But I've also been using her on my

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Speaker 1: Fridays off so I can have some strongly desired alone time.

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Speaker 1: This felt like a win for me in terms of

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Speaker 1: prioritizing myself and my sanity. Today, I checked in with

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Speaker 1: her to make sure it's okay for me to continue

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Speaker 1: sending them to her on Fridays. She's a small daycare

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Speaker 1: center and they're the only kids there on Fridays. She

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Speaker 1: shrugged and said sure, but seemed hesitant. She works hard.

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Speaker 1: So I get it, but it triggered that old part

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Speaker 1: of me that felt like I have to spend every

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Speaker 1: free moment with my kids. As I'm typing this, I

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Speaker 1: also realize that it triggered the part of me that

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Speaker 1: needs to be completely self sufficient and never ask for

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Speaker 1: or accept help. God forbid, I be a birday to

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Speaker 1: anyone else. Don't worry. I'm in therapy. I've come so far,

953
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Speaker 1: but the situation is so hard for me. Honestly, I

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Speaker 1: don't feel like I need advice. What I need is

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Speaker 1: for someone who doesn't know and love me to tell

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Speaker 1: me it's not just okay, but good and necessary to

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Speaker 1: take time for myself. I know the real work is

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Speaker 1: to find that voice within myself, but I'm fucking busy,

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Speaker 1: so I need some help with this one. Sincerely, Liz Connie,

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Speaker 1: I mean the whole This is my show, Liz again,

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Speaker 1: please watch The Motherhood.

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Speaker 3: It's all about how hard it is for us to

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00:45:32,880 --> 00:45:35,920
Speaker 3: ask for help and to feel like it's okay. Like

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Speaker 3: all six of the moms in all of our episodes,

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Speaker 3: each one of them spoke about how they feel like

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Speaker 3: they can't justify taking time for themselves. They can't justify

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Speaker 3: buying things for themselves, because if it always comes down

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Speaker 3: to time with their kid or the kid needs something,

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Speaker 3: and that's always going to take the first priority, and

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Speaker 3: that is how you literally destroy your own soul, and

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Speaker 3: a mom the destroyed soul is not helpful to their child.

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Speaker 3: And so it's like, I think what it begs you

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Speaker 3: to do is, first of all, really ask yourself, like

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Speaker 3: what do I need here? It's okay for me to

975
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Speaker 3: need help, and I have reasons why I need that.

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Speaker 3: And then just have a real conversation with your babysitter,

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Speaker 3: because what you don't want is that icky like yeah, sure,

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00:46:25,000 --> 00:46:29,080
Speaker 3: but like there's some kind of like tension growing or

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00:46:29,320 --> 00:46:32,600
Speaker 3: you know, resentment or whatever. It's like, be real about

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00:46:32,600 --> 00:46:35,600
Speaker 3: it and be like this, you know this is important time.

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Speaker 3: Don't apologize. This is important time for me. I need

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Speaker 3: this time. But if it's a problem for you, let's

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Speaker 3: talk about what works for both of us. But it's

984
00:46:44,880 --> 00:46:49,560
Speaker 3: okay to stand up for and know that you need

985
00:46:50,280 --> 00:46:52,400
Speaker 3: your own time because it's going to make you a

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Speaker 3: better mother.

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Speaker 2: Period.

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Speaker 3: End of conversation, except for whenever you have to taste,

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00:46:56,640 --> 00:46:58,440
Speaker 3: say Chelsea, I'm just going to agree.

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Speaker 2: With everything you said, because yeah, obvious that women need

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Speaker 2: to take care of each other and themselves. So yes,

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00:47:04,320 --> 00:47:08,600
Speaker 2: I'm going to let that, let that sit without adding on. Okay,

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Speaker 2: and that is the only time I will do that

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Speaker 2: in our lives. Connie. I want you to know that week.

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Speaker 3: Like literally, I'm gonna take a little pink sqeeze.

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Speaker 2: Okay, Well, Connie Brittain, we finally did it. You're on

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Speaker 2: the podcast. We did it. We're promoting a great project.

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00:47:23,320 --> 00:47:26,480
Speaker 2: The show is called The Motherhood and you can follow

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00:47:26,520 --> 00:47:29,319
Speaker 2: Connie on Instagram if you want to. But not a

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Speaker 2: lot happening there, so.

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Speaker 3: We can't all have the most perfect Instagram that you

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00:47:39,160 --> 00:47:40,560
Speaker 3: have so much help making.

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Speaker 2: Okay, I love you, Connie. I find out your premiere.

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00:47:45,040 --> 00:47:46,560
Speaker 2: I'm sorry I can't be there, but I'll see you

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Speaker 2: next time.

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00:47:47,320 --> 00:47:48,400
Speaker 3: Okay, honey, I love you.

1007
00:47:48,760 --> 00:47:53,880
Speaker 2: Okaye, bye guy, bye bye. And that concludes another episode

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Speaker 2: after your Chelsea, We'll see you next week. Do Do

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Speaker 2: Do Do Do dorroll Catherine please And abroad broad is

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Speaker 2: my European tour, so I'm coming to obviously find a

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Speaker 2: husband abroad. I need to get the health out of

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00:48:12,280 --> 00:48:15,360
Speaker 2: this fucking country. And it's not as easy as you

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Speaker 2: think so. I'm coming to Rekuvik, I'm coming to Dublin.

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Speaker 2: I'm coming to the UK. I'm coming to Brussels, Paris,

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Speaker 2: Belfast in May and June. I'm coming to Oslo, Stockholm,

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Speaker 2: to Copenhagen, Manchester, London, Glasgow, New Zurich, Vienna. I've never

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Speaker 2: ever been to Vienna, Berlin, Barcelona and Lisbon. I'm coming abroad.

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Speaker 2: Is abroad that sounds like fun.

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00:48:42,880 --> 00:48:44,000
Speaker 3: I'm gonna go see you abroad.

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Speaker 2: I know I want to go see me abroad and

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Speaker 2: there all be there, all be excellent. Okay. My remaining

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Speaker 2: dates for Vegas, there are remaining dates for this year.

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Speaker 2: Summertime is coming and I will be in Vegas out

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Speaker 2: the Cosmo doing my residency on July fifth. We will

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Speaker 2: be the next date that I'm there, July fifth, August thirtieth,

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Speaker 2: and then November one and twenty ninth. November one and

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Speaker 2: November twenty ninth, I will be in Las Vegas at

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Speaker 2: the Cosmo performing Inside Myself at the Chelsea. It's called

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Speaker 2: Chelsea at the Chelsea for a reason. Okay, thank you.

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Speaker 3: Do you want advice from Chelsea?

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