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Speaker 2: Ladies and gentlemen. It is time for the Strawberry Letter

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Speaker 2: with my good friend Shirley Strawberry.

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Speaker 1: Thank you my good friend Junior. Subject is he faking

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Speaker 1: it with me? Dear Stephen, Shirley. I used to sing

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Speaker 1: with a band, and that's how I met my boyfriend.

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Speaker 1: We moved to Atlanta and he started another career as

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Speaker 1: a rapper. He's good at it and he does local

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Speaker 1: festivals and that's good enough for him because he works

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Speaker 1: full time. He's been talking about marriage, buying a home,

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Speaker 1: and having kids. But he's a lot different than a homebody.

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Speaker 1: When he's rapping, his lyrics say he is a man whore.

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Speaker 1: He calls women all kinds of names and glorifies a

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Speaker 1: woman that has had surgery to enhance her breast, butt

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Speaker 1: and lips. He says that he doesn't trust women, so

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Speaker 1: he uses them for sex and would never be stupid

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Speaker 1: enough to give his heart to one. I went to

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Speaker 1: a show on the fourth of July, and my auntie

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Speaker 1: and her husband went with me. My boyfriend's lyrics were

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Speaker 1: so embarrassing. He said he has a main bee and

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Speaker 1: her friend and her friend's friend, and all of them

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Speaker 1: love him. He said all of the designer clothes he

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Speaker 1: owns come from women because his sex is so good.

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Speaker 1: My uncle said that I need to reevaluate my relationship

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Speaker 1: and stop spending my money on my boyfriend. I swore

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Speaker 1: to him that those are just lyrics and he's totally

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Speaker 1: different than that, different than that with me. My uncle said,

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Speaker 1: my man is nothing but a womanizer, a show off,

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Speaker 1: and he's full of himself, thinking he is God's give

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Speaker 1: to women. Then my aunt chimed in and said he's

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Speaker 1: faking it with me. She said, my boyfriend is faking

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Speaker 1: like he likes me because I'm a stable woman and

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Speaker 1: he's latched himself onto me. He does have two different personalities.

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Speaker 1: He sings gospel music at church and then trashes women

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Speaker 1: and his rap what exists. He loves me but it's questionable.

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Speaker 1: Is he faking it on stage or is he faking

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Speaker 1: it with me?

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Speaker 2: He said.

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Speaker 1: He's a hustler right.

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Speaker 2: Well on stage?

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Speaker 1: Or is he taking it on with me? Only you

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Speaker 1: can answer that one. How does he treat you? How

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Speaker 1: does he treat others? Is he a player? You should

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Speaker 1: know these things? Does he have other women?

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Speaker 2: Uh?

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Speaker 1: Are there any signs of that? Most rappers do have

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Speaker 1: different personas when they get up on that stage. A

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Speaker 1: lot of times they don't mean what they're singing about,

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Speaker 1: what they're rapping about. It's just like actors who play

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Speaker 1: different roles. You know, they can play this role, they're

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Speaker 1: not that, but they play that role on TV or

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Speaker 1: in the movies. But is your man living the life

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Speaker 1: he raps about? That's the question. Have you asked him

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Speaker 1: to tone it down because his lyrics make you uncomfortable

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Speaker 1: and they embarrass you? That's the key, because even if

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Speaker 1: he's not living that lifestyle he raps about, you're embarrassed.

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Speaker 1: You're hurt by what he talks about. You know, you're

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Speaker 1: embarrassed in front of your family. So either you need

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Speaker 1: to break up with this guy because you can't support

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Speaker 1: take it. I mean, you're a singer, that's how you

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Speaker 1: other men on stage when you're performing. So you have

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Speaker 1: every right to feel how you feel about this guy, Steve.

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Speaker 2: I don't the subject is is he faking it with me?

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Speaker 2: I don't see any and I will try, but I

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Speaker 2: don't see any redeeming qualities. I just don't. I'm sorry.

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Speaker 2: I'm listening to the letter and at the end where

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Speaker 2: I had to bust out laughing, after all this was

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Speaker 2: said he a gospel singing at church. What dog did

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Speaker 2: you hit? A whole letter? Now, Stephen Sherley, I used

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Speaker 2: to sing with a band, So it's a woman writing

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Speaker 2: to we moved to Atlanta and he started another career

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Speaker 2: as a rapper. What he's good at it He does

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Speaker 2: talks about getting married, by a house and having kids.

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Speaker 2: But he's a lot different than a homeboy when he's rapping.

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Speaker 2: That's a weird description coming from a woman who make

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Speaker 2: a man. Oh he's a homebody, I'm saying. But he's

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Speaker 2: a lot different than a homebody. When he he's rapping. Now,

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Speaker 1: Here, Wow, bruh.

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Speaker 2: He calls women's all kinds of names. He glorifies a

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Speaker 2: woman that had surgery, breast done, button lips, and he

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Speaker 2: say he don't trust women, so he uses them for

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Speaker 2: sex and would never be stupid enough to give his

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Speaker 2: he's rapping. This ain't somebody else's. Oh what the bars?

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Speaker 2: These his bars? He wrote these. I went to a

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Speaker 2: show on the fourth of July. My auntie and her

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Speaker 2: He said he has a main b and her friend

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Speaker 2: and her friends, and all of them love him. He said.

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Speaker 2: All the design to clothes he don't come from women

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Speaker 2: because his sex is so good. Now, my uncle said,

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Speaker 2: I need to revaluate my relationship and stop spending my

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Speaker 2: My uncle said, my man is nothing but a woman

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Speaker 2: eyes or show off, and he's full of himself, thinking

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Speaker 2: these God's gift to women. At this point, I agree

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Speaker 2: with your uncle. I'm just gonna be real with you. You can't.

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Speaker 2: You can't have all these different lives. But see, he

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Speaker 2: wrote those lyrics. Now, I got most people don't live

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Speaker 2: the life of the lyrics they write. But what you're

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Speaker 1: All right, hold that thought, Steve, Hold your thought. We're

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Speaker 1: to today's strawberry letter? Is he faking it with me?

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Speaker 1: At twenty three minutes after the hour right after this

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Speaker 1: you're listening Steve Hardy Morning Show. All right, Steve, come on,

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Speaker 1: let's recap today's strawberry letter. The subject is is he

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Speaker 1: faking it with me?

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Speaker 2: I just didn't see anything redeeming in this letter. This

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Speaker 2: letter meant this. She used to sing in the band.

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Speaker 2: That's how she met a boyfriend. They moved to Atlanta together.

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Speaker 2: He started a new career. He been rapping. She said

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Speaker 2: he good at it because he get jobs at local festivals. Okay,

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Speaker 2: I used to work at taverns and bars. When I started,

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Speaker 2: you know, I was good at it, but the money

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Speaker 2: wasn't good to me, So I don't know anyway. You know,

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Speaker 2: y'all been talking about marriage, having kids, getting married by

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Speaker 2: homebody when he's rapping, So his lyrics are contrary to

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Speaker 2: He trashes women, He calls them out, they name. He's

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Speaker 2: He would never trust any woman enough to give his

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Speaker 2: up there and said, hey, listen to me, stop spending

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Speaker 2: him designer clothes that he gets from women because his

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Speaker 2: sex is so good, and blah blah blah. The uncle

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Speaker 2: told her you need to stop, you need to revalue

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Speaker 2: your relationship with you. Quit spending money on him. I

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Speaker 2: swore to him, those are just lyrics, and he's totally

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Speaker 2: different than that. With me. My uncle said, my man

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Speaker 2: is nothing but a womanizer, a show off, and he's

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Speaker 2: full of himself, thinking these gods give to women. Then

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Speaker 2: likes me because I'm a stable woman and he's lashed

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Speaker 2: himself on to me. Now here's a line that gets

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Speaker 2: us ready to get up out of him. He does

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Speaker 2: have two different personalities. Okay, well, then that does mean

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Speaker 2: at times he's one or the other. That's what that means.

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Speaker 2: So is he the rapper or is he the guy

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Speaker 2: that's the homebody. But then you threw another one in.

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Speaker 2: You said he's sang gospel music at the church. I

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Speaker 2: fell out laughing. I fell out laughing. Who is this boy?

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Speaker 1: Right?

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Speaker 2: He's sanging gospel music at your Now you got to

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Speaker 2: be careful though, because if it's confusing to you if

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Speaker 2: you get these lyrics mixed up.

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Speaker 1: Uh, he mixed up his rap lyrics with the gospel song?

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Speaker 2: Is that? What?

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Speaker 1: Dude?

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Speaker 2: You know the problem here?

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Speaker 1: Mother Mary was the baby, but who was she? Really

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Speaker 2: Hold up, hold up part where we're going with this.

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Speaker 2: So he sings gospel music at the church and then

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Speaker 2: but it's questionable. Is he faking it on stage or

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Speaker 2: is he faking it with me? He's faking it period. Okay,

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Speaker 2: let's take you and the relationship about the mix. Who

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Speaker 2: the church. He sang gospel music. I don't think this

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Speaker 2: You're gonna get to a part like that. If you

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Speaker 2: go double day. That's what women really want to do

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Speaker 2: we got this family. But your dude man is all

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Speaker 2: over the place, and your uncle hit it spot on

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Speaker 2: you up on stage, rapping all these legs about how

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Speaker 2: You never trust one. And my woman loved me and

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Speaker 2: all her friends, and that's what made you sick because

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Speaker 2: I don't see it. I don't see it. Little good, No,

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Speaker 2: young lady, I really don't tell you. But that gos

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