1 00:00:01,040 --> 00:00:04,840 Speaker 1: Call It what It Is with Jessica Capshaw and Camil Luddington, 2 00:00:05,280 --> 00:00:14,920 Speaker 1: an iHeartRadio podcast. 3 00:00:16,400 --> 00:00:19,720 Speaker 2: Hello, Hello, I Call It Crew. 4 00:00:21,040 --> 00:00:25,959 Speaker 3: I was thinking this morning when I looked at the 5 00:00:26,000 --> 00:00:30,280 Speaker 3: time of the year that we were in that when 6 00:00:30,360 --> 00:00:33,120 Speaker 3: I was on Gray's Anatomy, this was around the time 7 00:00:33,159 --> 00:00:35,960 Speaker 3: that I would be going back to work for that 8 00:00:36,840 --> 00:00:39,320 Speaker 3: first episode of season fill in the blank. 9 00:00:39,600 --> 00:00:43,400 Speaker 4: So was that happening. I'm glad you asked. 10 00:00:43,600 --> 00:00:47,560 Speaker 5: It's funny you say this because I woke up this morning, 11 00:00:48,159 --> 00:00:51,720 Speaker 5: scroll through my phone and there it was sitting. 12 00:00:51,400 --> 00:00:52,560 Speaker 4: In my inbox. 13 00:00:53,080 --> 00:00:58,680 Speaker 5: What the premiere episode script of Gray's Anatomy Season twenty one. 14 00:00:58,840 --> 00:01:00,920 Speaker 4: And you know what's so funny? You know this, Jess. 15 00:01:01,240 --> 00:01:05,560 Speaker 5: We never know what's going to happen. We are not 16 00:01:05,840 --> 00:01:07,880 Speaker 5: giving a heads up. And so I was reading the 17 00:01:07,920 --> 00:01:13,520 Speaker 5: script in bed this morning and I was shook ath a. 18 00:01:13,600 --> 00:01:15,720 Speaker 4: People still saying shook Uth. I don't know that's a 19 00:01:15,840 --> 00:01:18,640 Speaker 4: good they are staying shook ath. Have you heard of 20 00:01:18,680 --> 00:01:19,640 Speaker 4: shookth Jess? 21 00:01:20,280 --> 00:01:23,720 Speaker 5: Anyway, that's how I felt. I was shook Goth, I was. 22 00:01:24,400 --> 00:01:27,040 Speaker 5: I was amazed, and yeah, we're going back next week. 23 00:01:27,080 --> 00:01:31,000 Speaker 4: I actually have a tape wle read tomorrow what Yes, 24 00:01:31,680 --> 00:01:33,600 Speaker 4: what if I just showed up with you? I think 25 00:01:33,640 --> 00:01:38,240 Speaker 4: you should. By the way, Jessica is so loved that. 26 00:01:38,200 --> 00:01:40,840 Speaker 5: You could show up and you and they were probably 27 00:01:40,880 --> 00:01:44,800 Speaker 5: give you my seat. They're like, really, get up, get up, 28 00:01:44,959 --> 00:01:49,520 Speaker 5: give her your seat for God's sake. No, we're yes, 29 00:01:49,760 --> 00:01:52,720 Speaker 5: I'm back in scrubs very soon, which is why it 30 00:01:52,760 --> 00:01:54,600 Speaker 5: feels like the end of the summer to me, even 31 00:01:54,640 --> 00:01:56,120 Speaker 5: though it's not the end of the summer. But you 32 00:01:56,160 --> 00:01:58,240 Speaker 5: are right, this is the time of year. This is 33 00:01:58,600 --> 00:02:00,040 Speaker 5: and it kind of feels like the beginning of the 34 00:02:00,240 --> 00:02:02,560 Speaker 5: school year, even though it's the middle of the summer, right, 35 00:02:02,560 --> 00:02:05,480 Speaker 5: it's like the beginning of the season. Yes, yes, And 36 00:02:05,520 --> 00:02:08,480 Speaker 5: in fact, you know this. We when we get to set, 37 00:02:08,560 --> 00:02:11,680 Speaker 5: we actually greet everybody cast and crew and we say 38 00:02:11,680 --> 00:02:12,399 Speaker 5: happy New Year. 39 00:02:12,919 --> 00:02:16,320 Speaker 4: Yeah, we say happy Oh it's so great, so great. 40 00:02:16,400 --> 00:02:17,840 Speaker 3: Yeah, And then get yourself a week and you'll be 41 00:02:17,840 --> 00:02:20,560 Speaker 3: like whatever everybody exactly. 42 00:02:20,600 --> 00:02:23,560 Speaker 4: I'm like, oh, God, who's breaking up? Who's dying? I'm 43 00:02:23,600 --> 00:02:27,280 Speaker 4: putting in requests for time off. No, I know, I'm 44 00:02:27,320 --> 00:02:28,200 Speaker 4: excited to go back. 45 00:02:28,360 --> 00:02:32,720 Speaker 5: I love my kids, but I need a little breaky poos. 46 00:02:33,040 --> 00:02:33,520 Speaker 4: I love it. 47 00:02:33,880 --> 00:02:35,960 Speaker 5: I have to say this really quick because I'm using 48 00:02:35,960 --> 00:02:38,679 Speaker 5: all this cool lingo that's not cool at all. 49 00:02:38,960 --> 00:02:39,600 Speaker 4: Dear God. 50 00:02:39,960 --> 00:02:44,760 Speaker 5: I did read this thing that cracked me up, and 51 00:02:44,800 --> 00:02:49,280 Speaker 5: it basically said that there was a tweet and it 52 00:02:49,360 --> 00:02:51,520 Speaker 5: was talking about how there are people of and by 53 00:02:51,520 --> 00:02:53,840 Speaker 5: the way, they're our aged, people of our age are 54 00:02:53,919 --> 00:02:57,960 Speaker 5: still using lingo from like way back in the day. 55 00:02:58,040 --> 00:03:00,200 Speaker 5: It's not cool anymore. I want I'm gonna read do 56 00:03:00,280 --> 00:03:02,840 Speaker 5: some lingo, and i want to know if you've said. 57 00:03:02,680 --> 00:03:04,880 Speaker 4: It any of these words. I'm gonna be well if 58 00:03:04,919 --> 00:03:07,840 Speaker 4: you have said it, and if you're still using it, 59 00:03:07,880 --> 00:03:08,520 Speaker 4: because we. 60 00:03:08,639 --> 00:03:12,799 Speaker 5: Are we're losers apparently, Okay, go go did you use 61 00:03:13,240 --> 00:03:13,519 Speaker 5: did you? 62 00:03:14,040 --> 00:03:16,040 Speaker 4: Did you used to say wowsers? 63 00:03:16,639 --> 00:03:16,880 Speaker 2: Never? 64 00:03:17,639 --> 00:03:20,240 Speaker 4: Did you ever say wowser browser? Never? 65 00:03:20,760 --> 00:03:24,480 Speaker 5: I've done it both. I'm guilty of both. I once 66 00:03:24,520 --> 00:03:26,359 Speaker 5: in a while I whip out a wowser browser. 67 00:03:26,680 --> 00:03:29,840 Speaker 3: And what instance of life, Like, give me an example 68 00:03:29,880 --> 00:03:31,359 Speaker 3: of a of a good app. 69 00:03:32,680 --> 00:03:35,080 Speaker 5: You know, if my kids show me something and they're like, oh, 70 00:03:35,240 --> 00:03:38,680 Speaker 5: he just you know, Lucas just just spilled some water 71 00:03:38,720 --> 00:03:40,360 Speaker 5: on the floor, and I'm like, not really like I 72 00:03:40,400 --> 00:03:43,440 Speaker 5: don't care that. I'm like, oh, wowser browser, you could 73 00:03:43,520 --> 00:03:45,760 Speaker 5: use it? For anything, Jess, try it out, give it 74 00:03:45,760 --> 00:03:46,160 Speaker 5: a whirl. 75 00:03:46,840 --> 00:03:53,200 Speaker 4: Methinks not. No, I didn't use that either. Cool beans. 76 00:03:53,520 --> 00:03:55,760 Speaker 4: I feel like you said cool beans, don't lie. 77 00:03:57,160 --> 00:03:59,240 Speaker 3: I had a friend who said it, and I definitely 78 00:03:59,280 --> 00:04:01,920 Speaker 3: can sometimes be influenced, so I'm sure I have, but 79 00:04:02,000 --> 00:04:03,720 Speaker 3: I I don't know that it was. 80 00:04:04,680 --> 00:04:06,320 Speaker 4: I definitely didn't bring it to the part I was 81 00:04:06,520 --> 00:04:09,600 Speaker 4: rolling off the tongue. It was. It was rolling off 82 00:04:09,640 --> 00:04:11,560 Speaker 4: the towne. No, no, no, no. 83 00:04:11,880 --> 00:04:14,320 Speaker 3: Did you've seem like what like a substitute teacher would say, 84 00:04:14,320 --> 00:04:15,600 Speaker 3: like on their first day of class? 85 00:04:15,720 --> 00:04:20,160 Speaker 5: Well but well, Sally, Sally, I feel like we were 86 00:04:20,200 --> 00:04:23,640 Speaker 5: the substitute teacher generation. Remember going out to a club 87 00:04:23,920 --> 00:04:25,800 Speaker 5: and they make fun of us now that we look 88 00:04:25,920 --> 00:04:28,200 Speaker 5: like we were going for job interviews. We were all 89 00:04:28,240 --> 00:04:32,280 Speaker 5: in pencil skirts and and and button downs. 90 00:04:33,560 --> 00:04:37,480 Speaker 4: Gloves. Were you going to I was definitely nowhere button 91 00:04:37,520 --> 00:04:46,480 Speaker 4: downs and pencil skirts. Did you watch the Hills? No? Lord, 92 00:04:46,279 --> 00:04:47,960 Speaker 4: I really didn't watch much reality. 93 00:04:48,000 --> 00:04:50,760 Speaker 3: No. I wore like the shortest skirts I could possibly find, 94 00:04:50,839 --> 00:04:53,240 Speaker 3: like barely cover the business. 95 00:04:53,680 --> 00:04:55,120 Speaker 4: You do love a short skirt? 96 00:04:55,200 --> 00:04:58,880 Speaker 5: You do? You never wore you never like went out 97 00:04:58,920 --> 00:05:01,800 Speaker 5: to dinner, a swing dinner, even and wore a pencil 98 00:05:01,839 --> 00:05:05,479 Speaker 5: skirt like like what I had so many from Express. 99 00:05:05,600 --> 00:05:11,680 Speaker 4: I would hit up the Express like section pencil skirts. 100 00:05:12,279 --> 00:05:18,080 Speaker 5: Yes, give me a double We sadly we are that generation. Okay, 101 00:05:18,080 --> 00:05:20,360 Speaker 5: you just don't remember it, all right, So the cool beans? 102 00:05:20,440 --> 00:05:20,760 Speaker 4: Moving on? 103 00:05:20,839 --> 00:05:24,400 Speaker 3: What's what's the sauce? No, but the next thing you're 104 00:05:24,440 --> 00:05:25,920 Speaker 3: gonna say is like a maze balls. 105 00:05:26,600 --> 00:05:31,640 Speaker 4: It is amaze balls. It's last one. Okay. Well, she 106 00:05:31,680 --> 00:05:33,720 Speaker 4: used to say that, I remember. 107 00:05:33,720 --> 00:05:35,600 Speaker 3: For some reason, I wonder if she said again in 108 00:05:35,680 --> 00:05:37,280 Speaker 3: my memory, but I'm pretty sure she does. 109 00:05:37,440 --> 00:05:40,599 Speaker 5: We gotta give her a call if she says amazed balls. 110 00:05:40,600 --> 00:05:43,040 Speaker 5: Did you ever were you guilty of an amaze balls? 111 00:05:43,839 --> 00:05:47,400 Speaker 4: Again, it's not resonating. No, oh sorry, you're just perfect, 112 00:05:48,040 --> 00:05:52,440 Speaker 4: jeez with your mini skirts and your cool lingo. I 113 00:05:52,520 --> 00:05:52,960 Speaker 4: was out there. 114 00:05:53,400 --> 00:05:55,600 Speaker 5: I was hit the streets and a pencil skirt saying 115 00:05:55,640 --> 00:06:01,200 Speaker 5: cool beans, Jess at a bar in bar and I 116 00:06:01,240 --> 00:06:08,080 Speaker 5: was feeling myself. Yeah you were move Yeah for sure, 117 00:06:08,279 --> 00:06:10,000 Speaker 5: let's move on. How is your week? 118 00:06:12,360 --> 00:06:15,720 Speaker 4: Oh? My week? So the dead days just fly in 119 00:06:15,760 --> 00:06:19,719 Speaker 4: the summertime. My week's been great. My week's been very chill. 120 00:06:21,279 --> 00:06:23,480 Speaker 3: And then a lot of summertime brings a lot of 121 00:06:24,160 --> 00:06:27,200 Speaker 3: guests and sort of fun things happening in and out, 122 00:06:27,320 --> 00:06:31,040 Speaker 3: and lots of beach time and lots of They all 123 00:06:31,080 --> 00:06:33,520 Speaker 3: stay up late. They were all complaining the other night. 124 00:06:33,520 --> 00:06:37,200 Speaker 3: They're like, it's so unfair. When we were eight years old, 125 00:06:37,560 --> 00:06:39,880 Speaker 3: we had to go to bed at seven thirty pm, 126 00:06:39,920 --> 00:06:41,720 Speaker 3: and Josie's up at ten pm. 127 00:06:43,320 --> 00:06:45,000 Speaker 4: Yeah, that's the baby of the family. 128 00:06:45,040 --> 00:06:45,280 Speaker 5: Though. 129 00:06:45,560 --> 00:06:47,680 Speaker 3: Yeah, I know, I know, and I can't really find 130 00:06:47,680 --> 00:06:49,360 Speaker 3: it again. It goes back to what we were saying. 131 00:06:49,400 --> 00:06:52,200 Speaker 3: It's like, wow, yeah, I guess that's true. 132 00:06:52,360 --> 00:06:56,800 Speaker 4: The goalposts have moved, yes, And also introduction to the 133 00:06:56,839 --> 00:07:00,240 Speaker 4: first chapter of life. It's called It's not fair. 134 00:07:01,160 --> 00:07:03,200 Speaker 3: And if I try to teach you that life is scare, 135 00:07:03,320 --> 00:07:06,440 Speaker 3: I'd be falling asleep on the job. It's just not 136 00:07:07,440 --> 00:07:09,680 Speaker 3: I don't want to prepare you for a myth. I 137 00:07:09,720 --> 00:07:12,800 Speaker 3: want to prepare you for real life. And it's not fair. 138 00:07:13,440 --> 00:07:16,880 Speaker 4: And Josie's going to bed at midnight, and Josie is 139 00:07:16,920 --> 00:07:20,600 Speaker 4: gonna take her little pencil skirt, yeah, and her button 140 00:07:20,640 --> 00:07:24,440 Speaker 4: down to the bar to the night and it is 141 00:07:24,480 --> 00:07:26,920 Speaker 4: what it is, and she doesn't even have a curfew. 142 00:07:27,680 --> 00:07:30,880 Speaker 5: It's also I hear you know. I say this like 143 00:07:30,920 --> 00:07:33,880 Speaker 5: I've been invited to one. I'm like, it's a wedding season. 144 00:07:34,080 --> 00:07:36,160 Speaker 5: The only reason I know this is because of Instagram. 145 00:07:36,560 --> 00:07:38,880 Speaker 5: I haven't been invited to a single wedding. I have 146 00:07:38,920 --> 00:07:40,200 Speaker 5: a pencil skirt wedding either. 147 00:07:40,240 --> 00:07:42,840 Speaker 3: And I'm a great wedding guest in my own mind. 148 00:07:43,280 --> 00:07:47,280 Speaker 3: I'm a fantastic wedding guest. I what makes the dance 149 00:07:47,280 --> 00:07:49,680 Speaker 3: floor the last I'm telling you, the first on the 150 00:07:49,800 --> 00:07:52,520 Speaker 3: dance floor, the last to leave. I'm super polite and 151 00:07:52,560 --> 00:07:55,720 Speaker 3: I'm super excited for everybody. I'm optimistic. 152 00:07:56,640 --> 00:08:00,600 Speaker 4: Well, it's a wedding. What are you gonna do? Arrive 153 00:08:00,680 --> 00:08:02,520 Speaker 4: and be like I smell a divorce? 154 00:08:06,960 --> 00:08:07,440 Speaker 2: Does anyone? 155 00:08:07,480 --> 00:08:08,280 Speaker 4: I'm jacked? I do. 156 00:08:12,560 --> 00:08:15,960 Speaker 3: Back here in the background, I do, I do. 157 00:08:15,960 --> 00:08:20,560 Speaker 4: Doesn't feel right, doesn't feel right to me, doesn't feel right. 158 00:08:20,640 --> 00:08:21,559 Speaker 4: I know too much. 159 00:08:21,800 --> 00:08:26,160 Speaker 3: Well, listen episode of Graze Natomy right there. Yeah, no, yeah, 160 00:08:26,160 --> 00:08:28,920 Speaker 3: I'm a good wedding guest. I'm a good wedding guest. 161 00:08:29,240 --> 00:08:30,160 Speaker 4: I don't know if I am. 162 00:08:31,040 --> 00:08:33,320 Speaker 3: I was a great wedding guest at your wedding. That's 163 00:08:33,360 --> 00:08:35,760 Speaker 3: a hello, you've experienced me as a wedding guest. 164 00:08:36,040 --> 00:08:38,360 Speaker 4: No, you're great, and by the way, you're ready to 165 00:08:38,400 --> 00:08:39,280 Speaker 4: party at my wedding. 166 00:08:40,280 --> 00:08:40,880 Speaker 5: Yeah, I was. 167 00:08:41,400 --> 00:08:42,800 Speaker 4: You know what, we have a picture of you. 168 00:08:42,800 --> 00:08:46,880 Speaker 5: You actually stole the flowers from one of my bridesmaids 169 00:08:47,200 --> 00:08:48,960 Speaker 5: who I went to high school with, and you took 170 00:08:49,240 --> 00:08:53,320 Speaker 5: pictures with the bouquet, pretending that you were also a bridesmaid. 171 00:08:53,760 --> 00:08:55,400 Speaker 4: I was a bridesmaid. There's a picture to prove it. 172 00:08:55,440 --> 00:08:58,280 Speaker 4: I have a bouquet. It's true. You don't remember me 173 00:08:58,320 --> 00:09:02,920 Speaker 4: being a bridesmaid. I remember. Are you stealing the bouquet? No? No, 174 00:09:03,760 --> 00:09:06,800 Speaker 4: the picture of me with the bouquet is from when 175 00:09:06,840 --> 00:09:07,559 Speaker 4: I was in. 176 00:09:09,720 --> 00:09:12,400 Speaker 5: If you get a bouquet from a bridesmaid, you were 177 00:09:12,440 --> 00:09:14,439 Speaker 5: instantly a bridesmaid. 178 00:09:15,280 --> 00:09:17,160 Speaker 4: Yeah, for sure, I was. 179 00:09:17,000 --> 00:09:17,240 Speaker 3: I was. 180 00:09:17,559 --> 00:09:20,160 Speaker 4: I was the best one. You're always the best one. 181 00:09:20,200 --> 00:09:21,600 Speaker 4: You should have been. I don't even know what I 182 00:09:21,640 --> 00:09:23,600 Speaker 4: was thinking. What was I thinking? Were you already? 183 00:09:23,640 --> 00:09:26,600 Speaker 5: I don't know why you weren't a bridesmaid. Naturally, you 184 00:09:26,600 --> 00:09:28,120 Speaker 5: don't have a pencil shirt ready to go. 185 00:09:28,559 --> 00:09:31,400 Speaker 4: I loved your wedding. Oh I love you. 186 00:09:30,559 --> 00:09:34,080 Speaker 5: You know what's so funny people don't know this. I 187 00:09:34,120 --> 00:09:37,920 Speaker 5: had my wedding at a really pretty resort in Santa Barbara, 188 00:09:38,000 --> 00:09:40,760 Speaker 5: and I loved it. However, it was not my pick 189 00:09:40,880 --> 00:09:42,880 Speaker 5: and choice of where I wanted to have my wedding. 190 00:09:43,679 --> 00:09:48,160 Speaker 5: We had a house that we had rented out ready 191 00:09:48,200 --> 00:09:49,840 Speaker 5: to go for the weekend of the wedding that I 192 00:09:49,880 --> 00:09:52,720 Speaker 5: had been for years looking at. But that was such 193 00:09:52,760 --> 00:09:57,920 Speaker 5: a beautiful house in malibill and in March. Our original 194 00:09:58,000 --> 00:10:01,160 Speaker 5: date was July. In March, the also burnt down, I 195 00:10:01,160 --> 00:10:04,559 Speaker 5: shouldn't laugh, burnt down in the fires in Malibu, and 196 00:10:04,600 --> 00:10:07,880 Speaker 5: I remember thinking this is not a good omen and 197 00:10:07,920 --> 00:10:12,079 Speaker 5: we had to do a very quick change to Santa Barbara. 198 00:10:12,160 --> 00:10:14,960 Speaker 4: But it did end up amazing. But my Midge original 199 00:10:15,000 --> 00:10:21,280 Speaker 4: location burnt down good times, Yeah, that's that's not fun. 200 00:10:21,480 --> 00:10:21,960 Speaker 4: I remember. 201 00:10:21,960 --> 00:10:25,520 Speaker 3: We actually got brought up the other day because we 202 00:10:25,640 --> 00:10:30,439 Speaker 3: kind of convene here every summer with my family and 203 00:10:31,200 --> 00:10:32,839 Speaker 3: now I don't leave. I kind of park it here, 204 00:10:33,000 --> 00:10:35,400 Speaker 3: set up the kids camps, and we just don't go anywhere, 205 00:10:35,440 --> 00:10:37,720 Speaker 3: and takes a lot. As a matter of fact, I 206 00:10:37,800 --> 00:10:40,000 Speaker 3: just don't I don't go unless I have to go anywhere. 207 00:10:40,240 --> 00:10:44,840 Speaker 4: And we had to leave. Maybe what was your wedding date? 208 00:10:46,280 --> 00:10:48,599 Speaker 4: August seventeenth. I had to think about it in the 209 00:10:48,640 --> 00:10:51,200 Speaker 4: middle of August, we had to leave and everyone's like, 210 00:10:51,240 --> 00:10:53,120 Speaker 4: where are you going? And I was like, I'm going 211 00:10:53,160 --> 00:10:53,560 Speaker 4: to a wedding. 212 00:10:53,600 --> 00:10:56,480 Speaker 3: And They're like, who could possibly get be getting married 213 00:10:56,480 --> 00:10:58,319 Speaker 3: that you would actually leave here for. 214 00:10:58,640 --> 00:11:01,080 Speaker 4: And I was like, before I could even say that, 215 00:11:01,160 --> 00:11:04,880 Speaker 4: Camella Camilla is getting married. Yes, she's getting married. Did 216 00:11:04,960 --> 00:11:06,720 Speaker 4: you have a wedding with like four thousand people? 217 00:11:07,600 --> 00:11:07,800 Speaker 3: No? 218 00:11:08,640 --> 00:11:12,400 Speaker 4: Really, I would have thought that you were a four thousander. Nope, 219 00:11:12,440 --> 00:11:15,800 Speaker 4: not a four thousander. No, I think it was. It was. 220 00:11:15,800 --> 00:11:18,920 Speaker 4: I think it's between one twenty and one thirty. I 221 00:11:18,920 --> 00:11:21,360 Speaker 4: mean it wasn't. So oh no, that's not Why wasn't 222 00:11:21,400 --> 00:11:26,440 Speaker 4: it Oh interesting? No? No, no, no, yeah, Jessica just 223 00:11:26,480 --> 00:11:27,680 Speaker 4: happening to know everybody. 224 00:11:27,720 --> 00:11:30,520 Speaker 5: If I'm like hey, I always say Bob, but if 225 00:11:30,520 --> 00:11:32,360 Speaker 5: I'm like Bob on the corner, because she's like, yeah, 226 00:11:32,360 --> 00:11:34,880 Speaker 5: I know, Bob, I just as everyone. So I'm surprised 227 00:11:34,960 --> 00:11:37,760 Speaker 5: it's not it was not a city of a wedding. 228 00:11:38,520 --> 00:11:40,880 Speaker 4: I like that number. That's a good number. Yeah, its 229 00:11:40,880 --> 00:11:42,080 Speaker 4: a good number, very intimate. 230 00:11:42,440 --> 00:11:46,960 Speaker 5: And this is kind of leading us into our our 231 00:11:47,040 --> 00:11:48,680 Speaker 5: call it subject today. 232 00:11:48,760 --> 00:11:52,439 Speaker 3: Well, because before a wedding typically not all the time 233 00:11:52,520 --> 00:11:53,600 Speaker 3: but before a wedding. 234 00:11:53,720 --> 00:11:55,360 Speaker 4: Typically there are. 235 00:11:55,400 --> 00:12:00,800 Speaker 3: Ways in which we have culturally uh celebrated the before 236 00:12:01,480 --> 00:12:05,520 Speaker 3: the wedding, called a bachelor or bachelorette party. 237 00:12:05,679 --> 00:12:10,400 Speaker 4: And in England it's called a hen do can do? 238 00:12:10,640 --> 00:12:14,600 Speaker 4: What's the stag do party? The stag do is the boys. 239 00:12:15,280 --> 00:12:31,439 Speaker 5: Okay, I do love a good bachelorette you know when 240 00:12:31,440 --> 00:12:33,320 Speaker 5: I say that, But that I you know, I don't 241 00:12:33,320 --> 00:12:35,040 Speaker 5: know if I'm I don't know if I'd be into 242 00:12:35,080 --> 00:12:36,640 Speaker 5: it now, I might be a little too tired. 243 00:12:38,360 --> 00:12:43,480 Speaker 3: What would definitely probably be past our bedtimes now one percent. 244 00:12:43,640 --> 00:12:45,840 Speaker 5: If it was like a bachelorette binge watch and it 245 00:12:45,960 --> 00:12:49,600 Speaker 5: was like come over, we'll drink wine and watch you know, Bravo, 246 00:12:49,760 --> 00:12:52,400 Speaker 5: I'd be like, oh my god, best idea ever. That's 247 00:12:52,520 --> 00:12:57,040 Speaker 5: not what is happening. I would that is not what's happening. 248 00:12:58,040 --> 00:13:03,040 Speaker 5: They're out of control. Jessica Capshaw, I've only heard. 249 00:13:03,160 --> 00:13:04,760 Speaker 3: I mean I went to a couple of you know, 250 00:13:05,520 --> 00:13:10,199 Speaker 3: but yeah, for the very select few, the small circle 251 00:13:10,400 --> 00:13:11,360 Speaker 3: of very close people. 252 00:13:11,400 --> 00:13:12,600 Speaker 4: Did I go to a bachelt party? 253 00:13:12,960 --> 00:13:15,120 Speaker 5: I will tell you what's happening right now, because it's 254 00:13:15,120 --> 00:13:18,600 Speaker 5: all over social media. There's a trend which I think 255 00:13:18,679 --> 00:13:24,960 Speaker 5: is kind of strange. I'm gonna be honest, where every 256 00:13:25,200 --> 00:13:29,840 Speaker 5: day and sometimes multiple times through the day there's a theme. 257 00:13:30,679 --> 00:13:33,360 Speaker 5: So what I'm seeing is is like, we're gonna go 258 00:13:33,520 --> 00:13:36,360 Speaker 5: to the beach and we're all gonna wear you know, 259 00:13:37,480 --> 00:13:40,280 Speaker 5: a wrap that has a palm treon, but the bride 260 00:13:40,400 --> 00:13:43,160 Speaker 5: is gonna have sequence. And then there's like we're gonna 261 00:13:43,200 --> 00:13:46,400 Speaker 5: do a tuloom themed night, We're gonna do a pink night, 262 00:13:46,400 --> 00:13:49,120 Speaker 5: We're gonna do a Barbie dinner, and then after that 263 00:13:49,200 --> 00:13:49,840 Speaker 5: it deserts. 264 00:13:49,920 --> 00:13:52,600 Speaker 4: You know, everyone looks like Elmo whatever the's going on. 265 00:13:53,120 --> 00:13:56,280 Speaker 4: The point is is it's it's it's out. 266 00:13:56,160 --> 00:14:01,320 Speaker 5: Of control, and it feels like to me that it's 267 00:14:01,880 --> 00:14:05,400 Speaker 5: for social media as opposed to bonding. It's for the 268 00:14:05,520 --> 00:14:08,640 Speaker 5: aesthetic of it, which is kind of losing what the 269 00:14:08,640 --> 00:14:10,760 Speaker 5: magic of a bachelorette party is all about. 270 00:14:11,840 --> 00:14:14,160 Speaker 3: By the way, a great bachelorette party or a great 271 00:14:14,160 --> 00:14:19,160 Speaker 3: bachelor party should have absolutely no evidences. 272 00:14:19,400 --> 00:14:23,160 Speaker 4: There should be no pictures of that that party. Yeah, 273 00:14:23,200 --> 00:14:28,840 Speaker 4: if it was done well, yeah, this is the performative 274 00:14:28,920 --> 00:14:31,560 Speaker 4: for social media party. 275 00:14:31,720 --> 00:14:34,080 Speaker 5: Yes, And it's like you get on the private jet 276 00:14:34,480 --> 00:14:39,120 Speaker 5: with them and that no private jet people are doing 277 00:14:39,120 --> 00:14:41,880 Speaker 5: the private jet Yeah they are, they're on the steps. 278 00:14:42,720 --> 00:14:46,520 Speaker 4: I don't understand that. Oh it's a line. So this 279 00:14:46,600 --> 00:14:47,560 Speaker 4: is not everybody. 280 00:14:47,600 --> 00:14:49,920 Speaker 3: This is like a very very small group of people 281 00:14:49,960 --> 00:14:51,840 Speaker 3: that have this kind of money to toss around. 282 00:14:52,080 --> 00:14:55,720 Speaker 5: Well, I mean the private jet party, yes, the other part. 283 00:14:56,200 --> 00:14:56,360 Speaker 3: No. 284 00:14:56,480 --> 00:14:58,640 Speaker 5: I think it's becoming more and more common that it's 285 00:14:58,680 --> 00:15:02,320 Speaker 5: like it's a b bunch of shenanigans for social media 286 00:15:03,240 --> 00:15:05,000 Speaker 5: and it's all about the gram. 287 00:15:05,600 --> 00:15:07,080 Speaker 3: That sounds wid okay, So I have a question if 288 00:15:07,120 --> 00:15:08,680 Speaker 3: you were going to plan a bachelorette party. 289 00:15:08,960 --> 00:15:13,040 Speaker 4: Yeah, now, uh huh, what would it be? What are 290 00:15:13,080 --> 00:15:14,840 Speaker 4: we doing? What are we doing? Where are we going? 291 00:15:15,000 --> 00:15:17,520 Speaker 4: What are we doing? Is that the Brava Bench party? 292 00:15:18,080 --> 00:15:19,800 Speaker 4: I do love a Brava Bench party. 293 00:15:20,040 --> 00:15:22,240 Speaker 5: I would not be so selfish as to plan that 294 00:15:22,280 --> 00:15:26,240 Speaker 5: for somebody else. So I envision going to some sort 295 00:15:26,280 --> 00:15:29,520 Speaker 5: of place that's a little RESORTI and very calm, and 296 00:15:29,560 --> 00:15:32,760 Speaker 5: it's all about wellness. So it's like you take the 297 00:15:32,840 --> 00:15:35,680 Speaker 5: mud bath and then you relax in the hot spring. 298 00:15:35,800 --> 00:15:37,680 Speaker 4: And because I want to come out of it. 299 00:15:37,840 --> 00:15:39,880 Speaker 5: At the last time I went to last time I 300 00:15:39,880 --> 00:15:43,360 Speaker 5: went to a bachelorette party, I was so hung over 301 00:15:43,560 --> 00:15:46,200 Speaker 5: by the end of it, and I was like, just 302 00:15:46,400 --> 00:15:49,160 Speaker 5: I hated my life. I think that you should come 303 00:15:49,200 --> 00:15:51,600 Speaker 5: out of the bachelorette party. Well now I feel this 304 00:15:51,680 --> 00:15:56,280 Speaker 5: way glowing, feeling better, rejuvenated, rested. 305 00:15:57,000 --> 00:16:01,280 Speaker 4: What about you a bachelor party? 306 00:16:01,280 --> 00:16:04,720 Speaker 3: Okay, I well, because there's other considerations that come in. 307 00:16:04,960 --> 00:16:09,080 Speaker 3: So I feel that what I remember doing are like 308 00:16:09,520 --> 00:16:12,360 Speaker 3: it depends on how big your bridal party is, because 309 00:16:12,720 --> 00:16:15,640 Speaker 3: it's typically for your bridal party, and then you're you're good, 310 00:16:15,760 --> 00:16:16,520 Speaker 3: you're closest. 311 00:16:17,040 --> 00:16:19,560 Speaker 5: Well, that's the other problem. I'm seeing bridal parties of 312 00:16:19,680 --> 00:16:22,800 Speaker 5: like thirty people. Oh, people are like I don't even 313 00:16:22,920 --> 00:16:24,520 Speaker 5: have that. I don't even know that many people. I 314 00:16:24,720 --> 00:16:29,000 Speaker 5: genuinely don't have that many close friends. Oh okay, okay, 315 00:16:29,120 --> 00:16:31,120 Speaker 5: doing like a fifteen you know, it's like it's a 316 00:16:31,120 --> 00:16:31,600 Speaker 5: whole thing. 317 00:16:33,600 --> 00:16:37,880 Speaker 3: Okay, Well, anyways, your bridal party and your bestest friends. 318 00:16:38,280 --> 00:16:41,200 Speaker 3: Then I would I would think that you also have 319 00:16:41,280 --> 00:16:44,520 Speaker 3: to consider what stage of your life you're in, and 320 00:16:44,840 --> 00:16:48,880 Speaker 3: I think there's like budget concerns, right, Like, not everybody's 321 00:16:48,920 --> 00:16:54,800 Speaker 3: at the same place, and a party ideally makes everyone 322 00:16:54,840 --> 00:16:58,320 Speaker 3: feel good and feels like a celebration, which I'm guessing 323 00:16:58,360 --> 00:17:00,480 Speaker 3: if you can't afford something as probably going to make 324 00:17:00,480 --> 00:17:01,160 Speaker 3: you feel so great. 325 00:17:01,200 --> 00:17:05,200 Speaker 4: So these days, does the does the bride. 326 00:17:04,880 --> 00:17:07,560 Speaker 3: Take care of a bachelor party or does that like, okay, 327 00:17:07,560 --> 00:17:08,560 Speaker 3: get true for the bride? 328 00:17:08,720 --> 00:17:10,280 Speaker 4: How do we do this? Traditionally? 329 00:17:10,960 --> 00:17:15,000 Speaker 5: I am reading that the bride does not and it's 330 00:17:15,040 --> 00:17:17,879 Speaker 5: taken on by the bridesmaids, which is a problem because 331 00:17:17,880 --> 00:17:23,439 Speaker 5: there's more and more destination y type bachelorette party is 332 00:17:23,480 --> 00:17:25,960 Speaker 5: going on again. In my opinion, it might not be 333 00:17:26,000 --> 00:17:30,320 Speaker 5: everyone listening. In my opinion, it's for the esthetic and 334 00:17:30,560 --> 00:17:33,800 Speaker 5: it's costing people a ton of money. And then there's 335 00:17:33,840 --> 00:17:39,080 Speaker 5: that awkward conversation of how do you if you can't 336 00:17:39,119 --> 00:17:42,040 Speaker 5: afford that? Who do you tell? Are you then not 337 00:17:42,160 --> 00:17:45,400 Speaker 5: a bridesmaid if you can't go? We have some crazy 338 00:17:45,480 --> 00:17:47,760 Speaker 5: statistic right now, I'm going to read you from the 339 00:17:47,880 --> 00:17:52,120 Speaker 5: not dot com. The not study from twenty twenty three 340 00:17:52,440 --> 00:17:55,840 Speaker 5: found that the average cost of a bachelorette party is 341 00:17:56,600 --> 00:17:58,040 Speaker 5: thirteen hundred dollars. 342 00:17:58,960 --> 00:18:02,480 Speaker 4: Wow, that's on top of buying your dress. And that's 343 00:18:02,560 --> 00:18:03,720 Speaker 4: just the bachelorette party. 344 00:18:03,720 --> 00:18:07,160 Speaker 5: That's not even you know, the dress part of it, 345 00:18:08,000 --> 00:18:11,520 Speaker 5: which is a six hundred dollars increase since twenty nineteen. 346 00:18:11,640 --> 00:18:12,840 Speaker 4: That's not even that long ago. 347 00:18:13,160 --> 00:18:16,879 Speaker 5: And it's important to note that the majority of bachelorette 348 00:18:16,920 --> 00:18:20,200 Speaker 5: goers spend less than one thousand on attending, but one 349 00:18:20,320 --> 00:18:21,760 Speaker 5: in ten spent over. 350 00:18:21,720 --> 00:18:28,600 Speaker 4: Three thousand dollars. WHOA what that's insane. It's not even 351 00:18:28,640 --> 00:18:29,520 Speaker 4: your own wedding. 352 00:18:32,040 --> 00:18:36,080 Speaker 5: Noah, oh man, just stop it, everybody. Could. 353 00:18:36,119 --> 00:18:37,920 Speaker 4: I be honest, I'm gonna say something so mean. 354 00:18:38,240 --> 00:18:40,560 Speaker 5: No one gives us that much that you're getting married, 355 00:18:41,600 --> 00:18:42,879 Speaker 5: not a three thousand dollars. 356 00:18:43,240 --> 00:18:45,040 Speaker 3: I think that also reminds me of when people are 357 00:18:45,040 --> 00:18:47,520 Speaker 3: pregnant for the first time, which God bless all of 358 00:18:47,600 --> 00:18:49,840 Speaker 3: us that have been pregnant, there's always the first time 359 00:18:49,880 --> 00:18:52,240 Speaker 3: where you're convinced to the only person to ever have 360 00:18:52,280 --> 00:18:55,000 Speaker 3: been pregnant. Yeah, and you're like, oh, and you're reading 361 00:18:55,040 --> 00:18:56,199 Speaker 3: about all of it, and you're like, I'm on the 362 00:18:56,200 --> 00:18:58,679 Speaker 3: forefront of knowing all things about pregnanty. Yeah, No, I 363 00:18:58,720 --> 00:19:00,119 Speaker 3: know you care a lot more about your wedding than 364 00:19:00,160 --> 00:19:02,480 Speaker 3: anyone else does. For sure, Like for sure, that's a 365 00:19:02,480 --> 00:19:03,360 Speaker 3: foregone conclusion. 366 00:19:03,359 --> 00:19:04,000 Speaker 4: It's just a fact. 367 00:19:04,800 --> 00:19:06,240 Speaker 3: Okay, but let's go back to this for a second, 368 00:19:06,240 --> 00:19:10,440 Speaker 3: because if I were having a bachelorette party. Now, I 369 00:19:10,480 --> 00:19:13,399 Speaker 3: think that I'm with you on the I would want 370 00:19:13,440 --> 00:19:16,600 Speaker 3: to feel better after it than before, where like I 371 00:19:16,640 --> 00:19:18,760 Speaker 3: would want there to be like a progressive sense of 372 00:19:19,359 --> 00:19:20,080 Speaker 3: just you know. 373 00:19:20,560 --> 00:19:22,600 Speaker 4: Coziness or connection. 374 00:19:22,560 --> 00:19:25,080 Speaker 3: Or excitement, or there'd have to be like an additive 375 00:19:25,119 --> 00:19:29,760 Speaker 3: and like nutritive value to the celebration. So yeah, I 376 00:19:29,760 --> 00:19:31,680 Speaker 3: think that I would want it to be a beautiful 377 00:19:32,520 --> 00:19:35,560 Speaker 3: dinner party. Which, by the way, I'm not against the aesthetic. 378 00:19:35,640 --> 00:19:38,199 Speaker 3: I mean, I really like a tablescape. You might not 379 00:19:38,280 --> 00:19:42,280 Speaker 3: know this about me. I love like decorating for a party. 380 00:19:42,280 --> 00:19:43,280 Speaker 3: I love little buzzing. 381 00:19:43,560 --> 00:19:45,800 Speaker 4: I don't know that about you. No, I know you 382 00:19:46,119 --> 00:19:50,239 Speaker 4: this joke, but I love that. So I would love that. 383 00:19:50,880 --> 00:19:52,639 Speaker 3: And then I would say, like, you know, kick everybody 384 00:19:52,640 --> 00:19:54,439 Speaker 3: out of the house for that night, right, so you 385 00:19:54,440 --> 00:19:56,440 Speaker 3: could stay up late. And I mean I'm all for 386 00:19:57,480 --> 00:20:02,199 Speaker 3: an impromptu dance party, a sleepover, all of that, or 387 00:20:02,280 --> 00:20:04,160 Speaker 3: I think, yeah, you go away and go to something 388 00:20:04,200 --> 00:20:06,399 Speaker 3: if you can afford a great hotel or you know, 389 00:20:06,560 --> 00:20:08,000 Speaker 3: that was driving driving. 390 00:20:08,080 --> 00:20:10,520 Speaker 4: I'm not flying to a bachelor aut party. That seems 391 00:20:10,600 --> 00:20:11,200 Speaker 4: like too much. 392 00:20:11,880 --> 00:20:13,840 Speaker 5: I think that if you ask people to fly, you 393 00:20:14,000 --> 00:20:18,119 Speaker 5: have to as a bride offer to pay for that. 394 00:20:18,960 --> 00:20:21,920 Speaker 4: Yeah, it seems like I think, I mean not double wedding. 395 00:20:22,000 --> 00:20:24,159 Speaker 5: It's just But what's interesting about what you're saying right 396 00:20:24,200 --> 00:20:28,280 Speaker 5: now is you're talking about an evening that sounds amazing 397 00:20:28,320 --> 00:20:30,040 Speaker 5: and so much fun. By the way, I'm down for 398 00:20:30,119 --> 00:20:34,800 Speaker 5: this evening. However, social media tells me these things last 399 00:20:34,840 --> 00:20:39,160 Speaker 5: more than an evening. There are three or four days. 400 00:20:39,520 --> 00:20:42,720 Speaker 3: Yes, I think that I'm just having Yeah, I had 401 00:20:42,760 --> 00:20:45,600 Speaker 3: this a very very my Bachelorett parties, Like I absolutely 402 00:20:45,600 --> 00:20:47,120 Speaker 3: remember being in the back of a New York City 403 00:20:47,160 --> 00:20:50,120 Speaker 3: cab wearing like a penis headband that had like two 404 00:20:50,119 --> 00:20:51,840 Speaker 3: penises coming out of my Yeah. 405 00:20:51,920 --> 00:20:56,879 Speaker 4: Double pine, yeah, double pain hell. Yeah, you're doing a 406 00:20:56,920 --> 00:20:57,720 Speaker 4: double paine. 407 00:20:57,480 --> 00:21:04,200 Speaker 5: At the back of a cable banger Yeah, double bangers. 408 00:21:05,720 --> 00:21:08,520 Speaker 4: Yeah. And when you shook your head, they moved because 409 00:21:08,520 --> 00:21:12,600 Speaker 4: they got it. They got a jiggle. Fameless steel coils. 410 00:21:12,160 --> 00:21:15,320 Speaker 5: You're getting free shots. You're wearing a penis necklace. 411 00:21:16,160 --> 00:21:17,359 Speaker 4: And I didn't say that. 412 00:21:17,359 --> 00:21:19,240 Speaker 5: I was Again, I might like a mud bath, but 413 00:21:19,280 --> 00:21:20,840 Speaker 5: I want to be wearing a double pean on the 414 00:21:20,840 --> 00:21:21,919 Speaker 5: head while I'm in the bath. 415 00:21:22,240 --> 00:21:24,640 Speaker 4: I'm not against that at all. I'm all for it. 416 00:21:25,640 --> 00:21:28,399 Speaker 4: I'm all fucking for that. Oh god. 417 00:21:28,480 --> 00:21:32,000 Speaker 3: By the way, I definitely know for this particular bachelor 418 00:21:32,080 --> 00:21:34,960 Speaker 3: party that we actually made a very strong rule which 419 00:21:35,000 --> 00:21:37,480 Speaker 3: was that you could not take pictures on a phone. 420 00:21:37,560 --> 00:21:41,880 Speaker 3: So we gave everybody the Insta cameras that you got 421 00:21:41,880 --> 00:21:44,360 Speaker 3: the photos developed, you. 422 00:21:44,320 --> 00:21:46,200 Speaker 4: Know, yeah, back in the day where you take them 423 00:21:46,200 --> 00:21:47,359 Speaker 4: to a place and you got them developed. 424 00:21:47,440 --> 00:21:47,640 Speaker 5: Yeah. 425 00:21:47,680 --> 00:21:50,080 Speaker 4: And by the way, when we got those photos. 426 00:21:49,600 --> 00:21:56,280 Speaker 5: Who yeah, it's like the hangover trying to night. 427 00:21:57,400 --> 00:21:59,600 Speaker 4: Do you think that when you think about your character 428 00:21:59,640 --> 00:22:02,760 Speaker 4: on the show. Oh, Joe Wilson, I don't remember. I 429 00:22:02,760 --> 00:22:05,879 Speaker 4: see you again? Remember memory? Did you have a bachelotte party? 430 00:22:06,600 --> 00:22:08,120 Speaker 4: Joe doesn't how any friends? 431 00:22:08,560 --> 00:22:12,800 Speaker 5: Right, You're just like I say that, and I'm waiting 432 00:22:12,840 --> 00:22:15,240 Speaker 5: for you to be like, no, Joe Wilson does have friends, 433 00:22:15,280 --> 00:22:20,960 Speaker 5: and you're like, Arizona Robins, are you kidding me? She'd 434 00:22:21,000 --> 00:22:26,280 Speaker 5: have the whole would you be a four day bachelorette party? 435 00:22:27,200 --> 00:22:30,480 Speaker 4: She might be? Oh god, she totally is. I think 436 00:22:30,520 --> 00:22:32,840 Speaker 4: she might be. I think she would have been. Does 437 00:22:32,880 --> 00:22:38,320 Speaker 4: she have on the show? No? No, I remember bachelorette 438 00:22:38,320 --> 00:22:41,399 Speaker 4: parties on the show. No, but it's not too late. 439 00:22:41,760 --> 00:22:44,919 Speaker 3: That's fun And could you do a Could you do 440 00:22:44,960 --> 00:22:47,920 Speaker 3: a double pen headband on ABC dot? 441 00:22:48,359 --> 00:22:51,119 Speaker 4: Abc? Can you do it on a network? Can you 442 00:22:51,119 --> 00:22:55,520 Speaker 4: do double penis? Situation? The time slot moved to ten pm, 443 00:22:55,560 --> 00:22:57,000 Speaker 4: and that screams double. 444 00:22:56,720 --> 00:23:05,119 Speaker 2: Pain, double pain ten He m, yeah, yeah, okay, all right, 445 00:23:05,200 --> 00:23:08,399 Speaker 2: Well maybe you need to get married and have a 446 00:23:08,400 --> 00:23:11,879 Speaker 2: bachelor and Arizona will throw your bachelorette party. 447 00:23:13,080 --> 00:23:19,280 Speaker 5: Okay, it's done, it's been pitched, it's been pitched. 448 00:23:21,119 --> 00:23:25,000 Speaker 4: I love it. I do have because why not? 449 00:23:26,080 --> 00:23:30,199 Speaker 5: There is apparently unspoken rules for attending a bachelorette party. 450 00:23:30,680 --> 00:23:32,719 Speaker 5: I knew, I knew for a wedding, but I'm not 451 00:23:32,760 --> 00:23:35,880 Speaker 5: so sure I know what the bachelorette party rules are. 452 00:23:36,640 --> 00:23:41,600 Speaker 4: Okay, apparently are you ready for this? Jess? Don't wear white? 453 00:23:42,280 --> 00:23:45,879 Speaker 4: Why I know? Is it like it is? It is 454 00:23:45,920 --> 00:23:46,359 Speaker 4: what it is? 455 00:23:46,680 --> 00:23:49,879 Speaker 3: Okay, fine, don't wear white, don't get drunker than the 456 00:23:49,960 --> 00:23:52,520 Speaker 3: bride to be. It's her night and you are her babysitter. 457 00:23:52,680 --> 00:23:54,840 Speaker 3: She's allowed to get trashed, but you need to stay 458 00:23:54,880 --> 00:23:57,520 Speaker 3: sober enough to prevent accidents and disasters. 459 00:23:57,800 --> 00:24:01,480 Speaker 5: I my opinion, my opinion on this one is that 460 00:24:02,440 --> 00:24:06,919 Speaker 5: to keep everybody safe, maybe don't get super trashed on 461 00:24:07,000 --> 00:24:09,119 Speaker 5: the bachelorette party night. First off, you're gonna wake up 462 00:24:09,119 --> 00:24:11,080 Speaker 5: with a hangover. And if you're on one of your 463 00:24:11,320 --> 00:24:15,199 Speaker 5: four day bachelorette day vacations, you've got other days to 464 00:24:15,200 --> 00:24:19,600 Speaker 5: be you got yeah, pace, let's pay Now we've we 465 00:24:19,720 --> 00:24:21,080 Speaker 5: learned from the movies. 466 00:24:21,240 --> 00:24:24,360 Speaker 4: The hangover like getting trashed. I just I don't know. 467 00:24:24,520 --> 00:24:28,120 Speaker 4: It doesn't it just doesn't ever end well. I don't 468 00:24:28,119 --> 00:24:31,320 Speaker 4: think it ends up nobody's getting trashed. Maybe nobody gets trased. 469 00:24:31,359 --> 00:24:35,000 Speaker 4: Maybe you help everyone pace themselves and you're in charge. 470 00:24:35,040 --> 00:24:39,359 Speaker 5: You're you're a water girl or boy Yeah some water anyway, 471 00:24:40,119 --> 00:24:43,879 Speaker 5: don't gossip about the events of the night with anyone 472 00:24:44,560 --> 00:24:47,040 Speaker 5: other than the people who were there, duh. 473 00:24:47,720 --> 00:24:48,040 Speaker 4: Okay. 474 00:24:48,080 --> 00:24:51,400 Speaker 3: Don't try to bring your boyfriend or a girlfriend or 475 00:24:51,480 --> 00:24:53,240 Speaker 3: suggest they meet up with you later. 476 00:24:54,200 --> 00:24:55,639 Speaker 4: That's the no brainer. A little bit. 477 00:24:55,720 --> 00:24:58,520 Speaker 5: No, I don't feel like for some people it is 478 00:24:59,040 --> 00:25:01,280 Speaker 5: they're trying to sneak the partner in. 479 00:25:02,040 --> 00:25:04,600 Speaker 3: No, it's like guests of guests may not bring guests 480 00:25:05,000 --> 00:25:05,880 Speaker 3: of course. 481 00:25:05,640 --> 00:25:09,080 Speaker 4: Not no, no, no, no, no, okay. 482 00:25:09,240 --> 00:25:12,879 Speaker 5: And then finally, don't let the bride to be pay 483 00:25:12,960 --> 00:25:13,959 Speaker 5: for anything. 484 00:25:16,640 --> 00:25:18,119 Speaker 4: I don't know about these rules. Let's go on to 485 00:25:18,200 --> 00:25:24,320 Speaker 4: the next one, okay, I'm not I have thoughts gone well. 486 00:25:24,359 --> 00:25:26,520 Speaker 3: This one starts with okay, so the groom and bride 487 00:25:26,520 --> 00:25:28,439 Speaker 3: most of the time never pay for their own bachelor 488 00:25:28,520 --> 00:25:30,600 Speaker 3: or bachelorette party, unless, of course, it's a party that 489 00:25:30,640 --> 00:25:33,240 Speaker 3: requires airfare and or leaving a state, or something that's 490 00:25:33,280 --> 00:25:36,200 Speaker 3: super extravagant or over the top meaning a thousand dollars 491 00:25:36,240 --> 00:25:39,919 Speaker 3: plus per person, or if there's a conversation beforehand on 492 00:25:40,000 --> 00:25:43,600 Speaker 3: how to go about it or clarify monetary expectations as 493 00:25:43,600 --> 00:25:44,040 Speaker 3: a group. 494 00:25:44,960 --> 00:25:47,760 Speaker 4: I agree with that sounds reasonable. Yeah, I don't. I 495 00:25:47,800 --> 00:25:48,240 Speaker 4: don't think. 496 00:25:48,320 --> 00:25:50,919 Speaker 5: Yes, I think that if you you, I think as 497 00:25:50,960 --> 00:25:54,919 Speaker 5: a bride, part of your job is to not be 498 00:25:55,000 --> 00:25:59,480 Speaker 5: a moron too and just to take in everybody's financial 499 00:25:59,480 --> 00:26:03,120 Speaker 5: situation so that if you are, you know, not going 500 00:26:03,160 --> 00:26:06,560 Speaker 5: to be paying for your bachelorette party, you're just cognizant 501 00:26:06,960 --> 00:26:11,080 Speaker 5: of everyone that you're inviting and then hopefully it all 502 00:26:11,160 --> 00:26:11,880 Speaker 5: kind of works out. 503 00:26:12,080 --> 00:26:15,120 Speaker 4: Okay. The best man or made of honor is usually 504 00:26:15,320 --> 00:26:19,800 Speaker 4: tasked with planning it. I think you do need a leader. 505 00:26:20,200 --> 00:26:22,280 Speaker 4: You could have a leader, but I think you can delegate. 506 00:26:22,359 --> 00:26:25,199 Speaker 5: Right. People have their own lives and you know it 507 00:26:25,240 --> 00:26:27,439 Speaker 5: can be a lot. These things can apparently be a 508 00:26:27,440 --> 00:26:29,920 Speaker 5: lot private planes. 509 00:26:31,480 --> 00:26:34,160 Speaker 3: Best Man Made of Honor then talks to the group, 510 00:26:34,240 --> 00:26:36,439 Speaker 3: either via text or in person, and usually telling the 511 00:26:36,440 --> 00:26:40,840 Speaker 3: other members, Hey, this is what I'm thinking, YadA, YadA, YadA, 512 00:26:40,880 --> 00:26:44,080 Speaker 3: and then they usually ask, so is everyone cool with 513 00:26:44,160 --> 00:26:46,359 Speaker 3: taking care of the groom brier and this trip and 514 00:26:46,520 --> 00:26:48,560 Speaker 3: or are there any concerns about price or anything of 515 00:26:48,560 --> 00:26:49,159 Speaker 3: that nature. 516 00:26:49,920 --> 00:26:53,120 Speaker 4: I think you don't group text. 517 00:26:53,640 --> 00:26:56,879 Speaker 5: I think I think you text separately because with the 518 00:26:56,880 --> 00:26:58,960 Speaker 5: group text, I'm going to tell you, I think once 519 00:26:59,000 --> 00:27:03,560 Speaker 5: you decide on thing everyone individually, then you do the 520 00:27:03,600 --> 00:27:06,680 Speaker 5: group text. I think that people might feel uncomfortable being like, hey, 521 00:27:06,760 --> 00:27:09,639 Speaker 5: I don't have the money to do the vegas to 522 00:27:09,720 --> 00:27:13,879 Speaker 5: do the thing yep. And you don't want to be 523 00:27:13,920 --> 00:27:18,000 Speaker 5: in a group text talking about price Nope, nope, no, 524 00:27:18,640 --> 00:27:22,680 Speaker 5: okay if there isn't Usually the grooms men bridesmaids take 525 00:27:22,720 --> 00:27:25,560 Speaker 5: care of the groom bride after all, that's kind of 526 00:27:25,600 --> 00:27:26,040 Speaker 5: what the. 527 00:27:25,960 --> 00:27:27,320 Speaker 4: Party is for. 528 00:27:28,320 --> 00:27:32,120 Speaker 5: I think that, like on the wedding day, they're there 529 00:27:32,200 --> 00:27:34,359 Speaker 5: to help, you know, fix if you're stress, like, oh 530 00:27:34,359 --> 00:27:37,119 Speaker 5: my god, my veil is you know, like need steaming. 531 00:27:37,240 --> 00:27:39,679 Speaker 5: Like I think that they're there for that stuff, and 532 00:27:39,760 --> 00:27:44,520 Speaker 5: I think that, sure, the bachelorette, what are we talking 533 00:27:44,520 --> 00:27:46,560 Speaker 5: about the bachelotte party, you're what do you do? 534 00:27:47,080 --> 00:27:51,480 Speaker 4: Like, what are you taking care of exactly for them? 535 00:27:52,240 --> 00:27:54,520 Speaker 3: Like for mine, I remember there was like hotel, there's 536 00:27:54,600 --> 00:27:56,880 Speaker 3: hotels and then there was you know, there was dinner 537 00:27:56,920 --> 00:27:58,920 Speaker 3: reservations and there was because. 538 00:27:58,680 --> 00:27:59,720 Speaker 4: It was like a two night thing. 539 00:28:00,119 --> 00:28:02,320 Speaker 5: Yeah, so they're taking care of that stuff. They're not 540 00:28:02,359 --> 00:28:06,840 Speaker 5: you know, applying your mscara. There are levels to taking 541 00:28:06,880 --> 00:28:07,879 Speaker 5: care of things. 542 00:28:08,960 --> 00:28:12,160 Speaker 3: If there's any kind of problem money wise or anything else, 543 00:28:12,480 --> 00:28:15,000 Speaker 3: typically that's when a best man or made of honor 544 00:28:15,040 --> 00:28:17,719 Speaker 3: will reach out to involve the brighter groom and tell 545 00:28:17,760 --> 00:28:20,000 Speaker 3: them the situation in either a athem if they're okay 546 00:28:20,000 --> 00:28:22,720 Speaker 3: with chipping in equally or in part for their party, 547 00:28:22,800 --> 00:28:24,360 Speaker 3: or b ask them if they want to make any 548 00:28:24,440 --> 00:28:26,359 Speaker 3: changes to accommodate whatever the issue is. 549 00:28:27,440 --> 00:28:30,440 Speaker 4: Sounds reasonable, Yeah, sounds reasonable. 550 00:28:30,520 --> 00:28:32,880 Speaker 5: I think you've got to be really careful, as made 551 00:28:32,920 --> 00:28:35,520 Speaker 5: of honor, if you are having a conversation on behalf 552 00:28:35,560 --> 00:28:40,160 Speaker 5: of somebody else with the bride, that you're not like, 553 00:28:40,360 --> 00:28:44,800 Speaker 5: oh my god, Barbara can't pay for all the penistras 554 00:28:44,880 --> 00:28:47,640 Speaker 5: e'mara saying yeah, you know, like you got you gotta 555 00:28:47,680 --> 00:28:50,400 Speaker 5: be sensitive because for some people it might be a 556 00:28:50,480 --> 00:28:51,280 Speaker 5: sensitive situation. 557 00:28:51,520 --> 00:28:54,080 Speaker 4: So as a lot, just be cool. Basically, just be 558 00:28:54,320 --> 00:28:55,479 Speaker 4: cool you guys. 559 00:28:57,000 --> 00:28:59,720 Speaker 3: Yeah, I do, and yeah, and all the normal rules 560 00:29:00,400 --> 00:29:02,800 Speaker 3: come into play for this. They will be your best friends, right. 561 00:29:02,880 --> 00:29:05,959 Speaker 3: Don't take things personally. Yeah, it's not all about you 562 00:29:07,400 --> 00:29:10,640 Speaker 3: and this is a celebration, So don't forget your personal 563 00:29:10,720 --> 00:29:14,360 Speaker 3: rules and be your number one fan, advocate for yourself. 564 00:29:14,400 --> 00:29:17,880 Speaker 4: Don't take things personally and carry on. Also, remember it's 565 00:29:17,880 --> 00:29:18,920 Speaker 4: a fucking party. 566 00:29:19,840 --> 00:29:21,640 Speaker 3: Like ye, I can't tell you some of this has 567 00:29:21,640 --> 00:29:25,560 Speaker 3: been a little bit downer, like don't shit on my party. 568 00:29:25,800 --> 00:29:28,400 Speaker 5: I know. To be honest, I think that the essence 569 00:29:28,440 --> 00:29:30,880 Speaker 5: that we're missing a little bit with all the rules 570 00:29:30,920 --> 00:29:32,880 Speaker 5: and the themes and then all the things is that 571 00:29:32,960 --> 00:29:37,480 Speaker 5: like this is about you getting married, making this awesome commitment, 572 00:29:37,920 --> 00:29:41,560 Speaker 5: and your favorite people are with you and you get 573 00:29:41,600 --> 00:29:43,400 Speaker 5: to celebrate with them, and that. 574 00:29:43,520 --> 00:29:45,800 Speaker 4: Is that's I feel like that's what that's what we're 575 00:29:45,800 --> 00:29:46,280 Speaker 4: trying to get it. 576 00:29:46,360 --> 00:29:49,880 Speaker 5: I feel like we're losing the sense of the fun, 577 00:29:50,560 --> 00:29:51,240 Speaker 5: the fun. 578 00:29:51,680 --> 00:29:55,520 Speaker 3: Where's the fucking fun, people? This is time to have fun. 579 00:29:55,960 --> 00:29:59,840 Speaker 3: You're celebrating, you're excited, and you know what, let it 580 00:30:00,000 --> 00:30:02,200 Speaker 3: just be a little duck. Let that water roll right 581 00:30:02,200 --> 00:30:05,200 Speaker 3: off your body. Yeah, be like a little cartoon duck. 582 00:30:05,240 --> 00:30:09,080 Speaker 3: Wiggle your little tush, get that water right off the back. 583 00:30:21,120 --> 00:30:23,560 Speaker 4: Okay, let's get into this. We call it crew questions. 584 00:30:24,000 --> 00:30:26,600 Speaker 3: Great, so Julian wrote in and she said, I am 585 00:30:26,640 --> 00:30:29,080 Speaker 3: a part of a wedding party, and the bachelorette party 586 00:30:29,280 --> 00:30:32,280 Speaker 3: is for four days. Understand that it's definitely not about 587 00:30:32,320 --> 00:30:34,680 Speaker 3: me and my likes. But ah, am I an asshole 588 00:30:34,960 --> 00:30:37,920 Speaker 3: for being upset that I'm spending hundreds, if not thousands 589 00:30:37,960 --> 00:30:40,760 Speaker 3: of dollars and paid time off on a trip in 590 00:30:40,800 --> 00:30:43,120 Speaker 3: a place that's not really my vibe and doing no 591 00:30:43,240 --> 00:30:46,560 Speaker 3: activities that I'm really feeling. I'm sober, and drinking and 592 00:30:46,600 --> 00:30:49,160 Speaker 3: bar hopping is one of the main activities hat making. 593 00:30:49,680 --> 00:30:52,360 Speaker 3: I don't wear hats. I promise I'm not boring nor 594 00:30:52,400 --> 00:30:54,600 Speaker 3: pooping on anyone who likes to do these things. They 595 00:30:54,680 --> 00:30:56,360 Speaker 3: just aren't me. Am I a jerk? 596 00:30:57,240 --> 00:31:00,240 Speaker 5: I actually feel a little bit angry about this. 597 00:31:00,240 --> 00:31:01,840 Speaker 4: This is striking my rage. 598 00:31:02,360 --> 00:31:06,959 Speaker 5: I do think that you're if you're sober and someone's like, hey, 599 00:31:07,040 --> 00:31:07,640 Speaker 5: we're going to be. 600 00:31:07,720 --> 00:31:09,280 Speaker 4: Bar how I feel like there needs to be a 601 00:31:09,280 --> 00:31:09,880 Speaker 4: little bit. 602 00:31:09,720 --> 00:31:15,480 Speaker 5: Of consideration here is ridiculous, it's absurd, and thousands of 603 00:31:15,640 --> 00:31:17,840 Speaker 5: dollars paid time off. 604 00:31:18,360 --> 00:31:21,080 Speaker 4: This is a little much. So not only are you 605 00:31:21,160 --> 00:31:23,320 Speaker 4: not a jerk? And Camilla's and she actually thinks that 606 00:31:23,440 --> 00:31:27,160 Speaker 4: you're you're a truth teller, your sage wise, wise wise woman. 607 00:31:27,280 --> 00:31:31,040 Speaker 3: Jillian. Yeah, I think that this is hard. This one's 608 00:31:31,040 --> 00:31:33,360 Speaker 3: a hard one. And I also think, oh, here's the question. 609 00:31:33,440 --> 00:31:35,680 Speaker 4: You're going to be nice for you. No, I'm not. 610 00:31:35,760 --> 00:31:40,520 Speaker 4: I'm just going to say, can you ask for can 611 00:31:40,560 --> 00:31:41,640 Speaker 4: you ask for a pass? 612 00:31:43,280 --> 00:31:45,480 Speaker 3: I think not going to someone's wedding is a really 613 00:31:45,480 --> 00:31:47,960 Speaker 3: big deal. I've had to go to weddings that were 614 00:31:48,080 --> 00:31:49,680 Speaker 3: very hard for me to go to, and I did 615 00:31:49,720 --> 00:31:52,800 Speaker 3: so because people feel some kind of way about people 616 00:31:52,800 --> 00:31:54,040 Speaker 3: who don't go to their weddings. 617 00:31:54,680 --> 00:31:55,680 Speaker 4: I think that you can. 618 00:31:56,400 --> 00:31:58,640 Speaker 5: I think you go to the wedding and I think 619 00:31:58,680 --> 00:32:02,640 Speaker 5: you say, hey, I can't make the full four days. 620 00:32:03,400 --> 00:32:06,800 Speaker 5: I can come in for I can fly in whatever 621 00:32:06,840 --> 00:32:08,680 Speaker 5: it is. I can come over for the for a 622 00:32:08,800 --> 00:32:10,880 Speaker 5: day and you pick the day. Maybe you pick the 623 00:32:10,920 --> 00:32:13,720 Speaker 5: hat making. I don't know what kind of hats are 624 00:32:13,760 --> 00:32:18,760 Speaker 5: you making you pick whatever day you vibe with the most, 625 00:32:19,040 --> 00:32:21,640 Speaker 5: and you go in for that day. You make yourself seen, 626 00:32:21,760 --> 00:32:23,920 Speaker 5: you wave a little pain of straw, you do the 627 00:32:23,960 --> 00:32:26,120 Speaker 5: whoops whoops, and then you get out of there. 628 00:32:26,520 --> 00:32:28,480 Speaker 4: You do it in and out. 629 00:32:28,880 --> 00:32:30,840 Speaker 3: I think we land on compromise for this one a 630 00:32:30,840 --> 00:32:33,960 Speaker 3: little bit, right, because it's very important, especially if you've 631 00:32:33,960 --> 00:32:35,640 Speaker 3: been invited someone wants you to be a part of 632 00:32:35,640 --> 00:32:40,720 Speaker 3: their celebration. And I think that you can absolutely go 633 00:32:41,000 --> 00:32:44,480 Speaker 3: at the same time that you, you know, hold your line. 634 00:32:44,840 --> 00:32:47,720 Speaker 3: And I also think it's a it's listen, sobriety is 635 00:32:47,760 --> 00:32:50,600 Speaker 3: a big deal and you have to honor that, and however, 636 00:32:50,800 --> 00:32:56,520 Speaker 3: you stay in sobriety. So my guess is that it's 637 00:32:56,560 --> 00:32:59,480 Speaker 3: not actually a very good idea for someone who is 638 00:32:59,600 --> 00:33:02,240 Speaker 3: sober to be bar hopping. 639 00:33:02,920 --> 00:33:03,880 Speaker 4: And that's about you. 640 00:33:04,240 --> 00:33:06,360 Speaker 3: So I think it's a little bit of you know, 641 00:33:06,480 --> 00:33:08,720 Speaker 3: just looking at the itinerary and seeing what it is 642 00:33:08,760 --> 00:33:11,200 Speaker 3: that you can participate in and feel really excited and 643 00:33:11,240 --> 00:33:14,280 Speaker 3: show up with a full heart and excitement for and 644 00:33:14,360 --> 00:33:16,920 Speaker 3: the parts that are going to compromise you on some level, 645 00:33:17,080 --> 00:33:21,120 Speaker 3: or you know, really just not be your jam, which 646 00:33:21,800 --> 00:33:23,760 Speaker 3: hat making is not so no, I don't think you're 647 00:33:23,760 --> 00:33:26,480 Speaker 3: a jerk. Be easy on yourself and find find your 648 00:33:26,520 --> 00:33:30,240 Speaker 3: path while also being able to show up for this friend. 649 00:33:30,680 --> 00:33:31,040 Speaker 4: Agreed. 650 00:33:31,720 --> 00:33:37,160 Speaker 5: Okay, Nadia, she said, I just organized my best friend's bachelorette. 651 00:33:37,720 --> 00:33:39,880 Speaker 5: It took place nearly two months ago, and I am 652 00:33:39,920 --> 00:33:42,840 Speaker 5: still recovering from mean girl feelings. 653 00:33:42,920 --> 00:33:46,560 Speaker 4: It was rough. The bachelorette party didn't know each other. 654 00:33:46,640 --> 00:33:50,440 Speaker 5: Well beforehand, and one girl in particular seemed jealous and 655 00:33:50,480 --> 00:33:53,320 Speaker 5: struggled with the fact that she wasn't in charge. God, 656 00:33:54,480 --> 00:33:57,360 Speaker 5: she questioned every decision we made for six months and 657 00:33:57,400 --> 00:34:00,880 Speaker 5: added just a thought to seem like a team player. 658 00:34:02,080 --> 00:34:05,040 Speaker 4: The wedding was last weekend. The dynamic was the same. 659 00:34:05,080 --> 00:34:07,600 Speaker 5: It's so awkward because she's not my friend, so I'm 660 00:34:07,600 --> 00:34:10,359 Speaker 5: not close enough to say something, and I don't want 661 00:34:10,400 --> 00:34:12,480 Speaker 5: to upset my besties friend. 662 00:34:12,800 --> 00:34:15,920 Speaker 4: Why do we do this? Female relationships can be so tricky. 663 00:34:16,040 --> 00:34:19,239 Speaker 4: Is it just me? Or do men never have these issues? 664 00:34:19,600 --> 00:34:19,839 Speaker 5: Okay? 665 00:34:19,920 --> 00:34:22,359 Speaker 3: So for me on this one, my first instinct is 666 00:34:23,520 --> 00:34:26,279 Speaker 3: you made it through it, and from the sounds of 667 00:34:26,320 --> 00:34:29,719 Speaker 3: this email in the past, leave it there. 668 00:34:30,920 --> 00:34:35,600 Speaker 4: You got through it, it's done. I would let it go. Yeah, 669 00:34:35,600 --> 00:34:37,200 Speaker 4: because if she's not your friend. 670 00:34:37,440 --> 00:34:40,160 Speaker 5: Then you've seen her at the wedding, and now it's 671 00:34:40,280 --> 00:34:43,719 Speaker 5: just bygones, we're going to buy one this one. 672 00:34:44,400 --> 00:34:46,799 Speaker 4: This is hard though, eat no what I did to learn. 673 00:34:47,040 --> 00:34:49,399 Speaker 5: This brings up something that does happen and I think 674 00:34:49,520 --> 00:34:55,120 Speaker 5: is very difficult. And people get a little jealous and 675 00:34:55,280 --> 00:34:58,120 Speaker 5: see their relationship status with the bride. 676 00:34:58,239 --> 00:35:00,839 Speaker 4: As am I made of honor? Maid of honor? Does 677 00:35:00,840 --> 00:35:03,760 Speaker 4: that mean you're more important? And so all of this. 678 00:35:03,640 --> 00:35:08,520 Speaker 5: Stuff starts to creep in. I'm I love the idea 679 00:35:08,960 --> 00:35:11,719 Speaker 5: of not having a maid of honor, even though I'm 680 00:35:11,760 --> 00:35:13,800 Speaker 5: just kind of putting people in charge of different stuff, 681 00:35:13,800 --> 00:35:15,360 Speaker 5: like you can be in charge of this, you're in 682 00:35:15,440 --> 00:35:17,400 Speaker 5: charge of this, but maybe not having a maid of 683 00:35:17,440 --> 00:35:18,480 Speaker 5: honors like the way to go. 684 00:35:20,040 --> 00:35:25,799 Speaker 4: I don't know, Oh, you're thinking that's a I was. 685 00:35:26,280 --> 00:35:30,200 Speaker 3: The The status piece was evidently resonating with me, given 686 00:35:30,239 --> 00:35:34,040 Speaker 3: the earlier story of me stealing a bouquet and posing 687 00:35:34,080 --> 00:35:37,400 Speaker 3: with it. So I know, I'm sorry about that, and 688 00:35:37,440 --> 00:35:39,160 Speaker 3: it was really important to me that I made a toast, 689 00:35:39,320 --> 00:35:40,640 Speaker 3: so uh yeah, no. 690 00:35:40,960 --> 00:35:44,839 Speaker 4: You made it actually a beautiful toast, Nadia, I say, 691 00:35:44,880 --> 00:35:45,720 Speaker 4: leave it in the past. 692 00:35:45,920 --> 00:35:50,800 Speaker 3: And I think that men do have these kinds of issues. 693 00:35:50,840 --> 00:35:54,319 Speaker 3: They just are different about it manifest and it's not 694 00:35:54,680 --> 00:35:57,480 Speaker 3: all or nothing. It's never always or never, but you 695 00:35:57,520 --> 00:36:01,839 Speaker 3: don't hear it as much. It's a tricky, tricky thing. 696 00:36:02,440 --> 00:36:05,319 Speaker 5: I think men peacock. I just think it manifests in 697 00:36:05,320 --> 00:36:07,120 Speaker 5: a different way. 698 00:36:07,239 --> 00:36:10,640 Speaker 4: Yeah. I also think that weddings are you know. 699 00:36:11,239 --> 00:36:14,680 Speaker 3: I feel this way about my birthday because I love, 700 00:36:14,920 --> 00:36:17,560 Speaker 3: I actually do love a party and I wish there 701 00:36:17,560 --> 00:36:22,399 Speaker 3: were more places to go and again dance spontaneously. And 702 00:36:22,600 --> 00:36:24,320 Speaker 3: I sort of missed that part of I missed the 703 00:36:24,360 --> 00:36:26,360 Speaker 3: part of my life where there was like something after dinner. 704 00:36:26,680 --> 00:36:26,879 Speaker 2: Oka. 705 00:36:26,880 --> 00:36:28,839 Speaker 3: It feels like it's just dinner these days, like you 706 00:36:28,880 --> 00:36:30,280 Speaker 3: just if you go out, you have dinner. 707 00:36:30,360 --> 00:36:32,959 Speaker 5: Do you really miss it though, because I'm so tired 708 00:36:33,000 --> 00:36:33,800 Speaker 5: by the end of dinner. 709 00:36:34,440 --> 00:36:36,640 Speaker 4: No, I do, I mean, I do. I really like 710 00:36:36,840 --> 00:36:38,800 Speaker 4: first Yeah, I do you ask anyone? 711 00:36:39,440 --> 00:36:41,439 Speaker 3: No. I like a party. I like to get it going, 712 00:36:41,640 --> 00:36:44,160 Speaker 3: and I do like wanting to be in bed at nine. 713 00:36:44,480 --> 00:36:46,600 Speaker 3: If you get me past nine, if you just keep 714 00:36:46,600 --> 00:36:49,960 Speaker 3: on pushing me, I get there and then I go hard. 715 00:36:50,120 --> 00:36:53,560 Speaker 3: And I love a party, and I missed. 716 00:36:53,320 --> 00:36:55,560 Speaker 4: That piece of life that what happens. 717 00:36:55,200 --> 00:36:57,960 Speaker 3: After dinner another story for another time, But after a 718 00:36:58,000 --> 00:37:02,160 Speaker 3: dinner party, I really did like a major rally cry 719 00:37:02,200 --> 00:37:03,440 Speaker 3: for three of the friends I was with, and I 720 00:37:03,480 --> 00:37:06,040 Speaker 3: was like, we are not fucking going home. We are 721 00:37:06,120 --> 00:37:09,359 Speaker 3: not going home. We are going out. And we went 722 00:37:09,400 --> 00:37:10,759 Speaker 3: out and it felt a lot like. 723 00:37:13,560 --> 00:37:17,680 Speaker 5: This is forty Yeah, like you're the dinosaurs in Jurassic Park, 724 00:37:17,960 --> 00:37:22,800 Speaker 5: Like like like you're you're the t Rex in the club. 725 00:37:22,960 --> 00:37:23,760 Speaker 4: It's just your. 726 00:37:25,120 --> 00:37:28,320 Speaker 3: Your fucking in my short little arms with my tindy 727 00:37:28,320 --> 00:37:29,040 Speaker 3: little arms. 728 00:37:29,120 --> 00:37:33,960 Speaker 4: Yeah. Like kind of cocktails do you have here? Awesome sauce? 729 00:37:34,239 --> 00:37:37,000 Speaker 4: Excuse me in that red amelow cup? Can you please 730 00:37:37,000 --> 00:37:40,799 Speaker 4: pour me some chopin vodka and soda with Jean Real 731 00:37:40,840 --> 00:37:46,400 Speaker 4: lime juice, cool cool beans balls. Thanks. Yeah. Anyways, I 732 00:37:46,520 --> 00:37:47,080 Speaker 4: like a party. 733 00:37:47,280 --> 00:37:49,960 Speaker 3: And I think that for the point that I was 734 00:37:49,960 --> 00:37:52,840 Speaker 3: getting to with my birthday is that weddings are hard 735 00:37:53,480 --> 00:37:58,440 Speaker 3: because any celebration you're asked to call together all the 736 00:37:58,440 --> 00:38:00,600 Speaker 3: people in your life, and not all the people in 737 00:38:00,640 --> 00:38:04,080 Speaker 3: your life know each other very well or get it along. 738 00:38:04,400 --> 00:38:07,520 Speaker 3: And I actually almost find it stressful to have all 739 00:38:07,560 --> 00:38:10,200 Speaker 3: of my friends together because I have friends from I 740 00:38:10,200 --> 00:38:13,880 Speaker 3: don't have one girl, yes or one pack of friends. 741 00:38:14,719 --> 00:38:17,640 Speaker 3: I have friends from everywhere, and while I can tell 742 00:38:17,680 --> 00:38:21,399 Speaker 3: you that the common thread is kindness and fun, it's 743 00:38:21,400 --> 00:38:22,759 Speaker 3: not that I don't know that they'd all get along. 744 00:38:22,800 --> 00:38:24,440 Speaker 3: As a matter of fact, sometimes they haven't, and that's 745 00:38:24,440 --> 00:38:25,800 Speaker 3: a bummer because I don't want to manage it on 746 00:38:25,840 --> 00:38:29,000 Speaker 3: a day that I'm trying to celebrate. So yeah, true, 747 00:38:29,000 --> 00:38:31,319 Speaker 3: even the past. Well, I mean I feel like that 748 00:38:31,480 --> 00:38:35,120 Speaker 3: is That is how I feel about bachelorette parties and 749 00:38:35,200 --> 00:38:41,200 Speaker 3: weddings in general, is that I think it knowledge is power. 750 00:38:41,360 --> 00:38:44,680 Speaker 3: I think you check in with your bridal party and 751 00:38:44,719 --> 00:38:47,879 Speaker 3: see where everyone's at. I think that's kind I think 752 00:38:47,920 --> 00:38:50,960 Speaker 3: that kind of falls on the person who brings all together. 753 00:38:51,000 --> 00:38:52,719 Speaker 3: I think that the bride should be the one that 754 00:38:52,840 --> 00:38:56,520 Speaker 3: she knows the personalities the best, and I think she 755 00:38:56,640 --> 00:38:58,640 Speaker 3: figures out what's going to be, you. 756 00:38:58,600 --> 00:39:01,000 Speaker 4: Know, the best for the group. And then I think 757 00:39:01,000 --> 00:39:03,160 Speaker 4: when you're the guest, I think you just need to 758 00:39:03,200 --> 00:39:04,320 Speaker 4: be along for the ride. 759 00:39:05,239 --> 00:39:07,960 Speaker 3: Again, it's also not about you, you know, Like I mean, 760 00:39:08,320 --> 00:39:09,200 Speaker 3: it's not about you. 761 00:39:09,200 --> 00:39:11,359 Speaker 5: You rally, but you rally in a way that like 762 00:39:11,640 --> 00:39:15,480 Speaker 5: is not gonna break the bank. Yeah, you know, you 763 00:39:15,640 --> 00:39:20,960 Speaker 5: rally away most comfortable. Yes, exactly right, All right. I 764 00:39:21,000 --> 00:39:24,120 Speaker 5: love this Lord bachelor party. See. 765 00:39:24,120 --> 00:39:25,719 Speaker 4: By the way, I actually sort. 766 00:39:25,520 --> 00:39:28,759 Speaker 3: Of feel like maybe this has inspired me to have 767 00:39:28,760 --> 00:39:30,439 Speaker 3: about it. I think you might need to figure out 768 00:39:30,440 --> 00:39:32,680 Speaker 3: how to have a party. You and I party two. 769 00:39:33,880 --> 00:39:34,800 Speaker 4: That's the part. Let's do it. 770 00:39:34,840 --> 00:39:38,040 Speaker 5: Let's do a retreat, honestly, okay, work if we do. 771 00:39:38,239 --> 00:39:39,960 Speaker 5: If we do a retreat, we will make it a 772 00:39:40,000 --> 00:39:43,600 Speaker 5: work retreat quote unquote, and bring you guys with. 773 00:39:43,680 --> 00:39:46,040 Speaker 4: Us tequila shots on the pods. 774 00:39:46,840 --> 00:39:50,359 Speaker 5: Oh yeah, we wear the penis saus tell us if 775 00:39:50,400 --> 00:39:51,200 Speaker 5: you would like to. 776 00:39:51,120 --> 00:39:54,160 Speaker 4: See this happen and maybe we make it up. 777 00:39:54,719 --> 00:39:56,799 Speaker 3: Yes, I call it what it is, retreat. Call it 778 00:39:56,840 --> 00:39:59,920 Speaker 3: what it is, a retreat, a retreat. Okay, well, this 779 00:40:00,000 --> 00:40:03,879 Speaker 3: this has been amazing and I'm so excited to hear 780 00:40:04,000 --> 00:40:07,160 Speaker 3: more about how the first episode goes this season and 781 00:40:08,280 --> 00:40:10,960 Speaker 3: move deeper into this beautiful summer. 782 00:40:11,840 --> 00:40:13,680 Speaker 4: And I just love being with you, so I'll see 783 00:40:13,680 --> 00:40:17,480 Speaker 4: you soon. Okay, let's call it the end of the episode.