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Speaker 1: Welcome to We Talk Back Podcast, the production of iHeartRadio

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Speaker 1: and the Black Effect Network.

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Speaker 2: We're just two unapologetically black women with an opinion who

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Speaker 2: talks back.

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Speaker 1: What's up, y'all, it's a girl a j holiday.

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Speaker 2: What's up Tandam y'all it's Tandavam.

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Speaker 1: Y'all know, y'all know. I love y'all. Y'all know, y'all

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Speaker 1: know what. Y'all know? What the fuck going on? I love?

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Speaker 1: How's your weekend? Oh? I did go outside just one day, bitch.

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Speaker 1: I still did Costco and I just I still did

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Speaker 1: TJ Max and Marshalls. It's the holidays, Okay, I've been

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Speaker 1: neating shit. You just you don't meet ship. Ain't no

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Speaker 1: way you mean I'm doing. I'll be trying to, Okay.

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Speaker 1: So I literally went to every single TJ Max and

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Speaker 1: every single Marshals and every single Home Goods. So it's

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Speaker 1: like two to three of each in the city. Why

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Speaker 1: is I trying to do my betting? Anyway, y'all? I

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Speaker 1: met our boyfriend, okay, our boyfriend or Friday? Okay, David Banner.

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Speaker 1: Bitch made her best, bitch win. Remember I have a

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Speaker 1: little inchie closerent. You wrong now, Dale where you met

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Speaker 1: him at so he actually was speaking the Avery Institute

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Speaker 1: here in Charleston. He was speaking at the They had

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Speaker 1: him speaking at the African American Museum International. You have

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Speaker 1: him to come on the show, No, I didn't a

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Speaker 1: j I get. I'm going to though. Okay, we're gonna

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Speaker 1: see all right, that nigga. When I got up to

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Speaker 1: him to take the picture, I was like, you need

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Speaker 1: some eighty h you need something at Aerall. He was like,

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Speaker 1: I don't need nothing. That motherfucker does not keep still.

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Speaker 1: You hearing me like a kid, just bing bang bing

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Speaker 1: bang bang, like even their in an interview. You told

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Speaker 1: that man he needs adder all, that you need a

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Speaker 1: cople that. You know, I'm always saying, what the fuck?

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Speaker 1: You Remember how Drake daddy was mad because I asked

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Speaker 1: that nigga. He was sleepy, h sleeping? You sleep, you

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Speaker 1: go to sleep. Yeah, he was mad at you. I

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Speaker 1: hear he was so angry. He was big man. I

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Speaker 1: was like, oh my god, why did she say that

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Speaker 1: to this man? I said, Drake, come get your son, right,

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Speaker 1: come get your fucking daddy and all these twenty year

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Speaker 1: old faces. You like her speaking in trouble right here yeah,

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Speaker 1: but that nigga was ping ponging around. He is so fine. Okay,

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Speaker 1: he know he is sexy, but like he like literally

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Speaker 1: kept talking about how like that's a part of his

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Speaker 1: whole thing, like now being a sex now being a

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Speaker 1: sex nobody. I want him to get his gray hair

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Speaker 1: back though, because I did not like that black hair

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Speaker 1: on top. I like you, but that man fine, y'all

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Speaker 1: with nice looking man okay, fifty one years old, aries,

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Speaker 1: no kids, no wife? What the fuck you got going

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Speaker 1: on in life?

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Speaker 3: Right?

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Speaker 1: I want to know? And he was all in his

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Speaker 1: life because now I started fucking stalking a little bit afterwards.

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Speaker 1: But ain't you didn't for me? Chocolate girl? I don't know?

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Speaker 1: He all in the lives saying how he had a

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Speaker 1: good time in Charleston, like aside from the museum, and

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Speaker 1: he locking his lips like I gotta lock it and

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Speaker 1: throw away the key? Who you been smashing? And like

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Speaker 1: four bitches here? I want to know, and you want

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Speaker 1: to who is who?

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Speaker 2: The three?

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Speaker 1: Who? Who? I want to know?

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Speaker 2: I want to know too, And why wasn't it me?

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Speaker 1: And he is a video.

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Speaker 4: Y'all.

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Speaker 2: Let me tell you about my weekend and this is

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Speaker 2: me being totally candid, So y'all know, I was like,

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Speaker 2: they net whyyen And I was liking him, and it

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Speaker 2: was his birthday this weekend, and y'all, I tricked off.

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Speaker 2: I didn't typically trick you off on a nigga, right,

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Speaker 2: But I got him a plane ticket to New Orleans

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Speaker 2: and tickets good seats to the Pelican game Repelicans game.

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Speaker 2: And then I ended up not taking that nigga because

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Speaker 2: please don't play with me, y'all. Feel the temperature outside.

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Speaker 2: That's how col I am on the nigga when they

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Speaker 2: play with me. So I did not take him.

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Speaker 1: I took another nigga play.

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Speaker 2: With it, but oh my gosh, I was like, I

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Speaker 2: did not enjoy the other nigga, y'all.

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Speaker 1: This nigga was Chase smoking cigarettes. I was like, oh, yuck,

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Speaker 1: smoking cigarettes? Is that that shit is fucking wild? Okay,

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Speaker 1: that's a nasty ass habit. Oh. I was so miserable.

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Speaker 1: Another lifen knowing nigga who smokes you knowing nigga who

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Speaker 1: smokes cigarettes? And I asked him why the fuck he

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Speaker 1: smoked cigarette all the time? But I you know, they

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Speaker 1: don't go yeah, why how how you know a nigga

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Speaker 1: that I smoked cigarettes, that you're going out of town with. Bruh.

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Speaker 1: It was so bad. It was so bad. Ugh, I go,

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Speaker 1: my hair stink right now.

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Speaker 2: I just got back to that, know my hair is stink.

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Speaker 2: Then he kept on complaining about the bill at the

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Speaker 2: restaurant's bruh, you were ordering to entrees every time we

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Speaker 2: go somewhere and then complaining about the bill. Oh y'all,

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Speaker 2: it was just not I was glad. I was just

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Speaker 2: the one day, like he's cool as a friend but

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Speaker 2: nothing more. And I was just like missing my waii

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Speaker 2: in the whole time.

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Speaker 1: I was missing him.

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Speaker 2: But still the window, Oh all right, they're like all right,

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Speaker 2: all right, no shade to people with autism, but okay,

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Speaker 2: but listen.

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Speaker 1: Because he careful like talking like this, so I don't know.

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Speaker 1: I just was like, huh, I guess. I was like,

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Speaker 1: you have an do you have autumn? He's like whoa.

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Speaker 1: I was like, have you been tested?

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Speaker 3: Because what the fuck going on? I can't hear your

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Speaker 3: motherfucking ass. I just saw hug motherfucking tickets.

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Speaker 1: Hold on, why was he whispering? It's like he I

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Speaker 1: do not know, like his voice got mbre or something

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Speaker 1: like you just go up and come down, like I think.

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Speaker 2: Listen, I think he take some drugs behind my back

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Speaker 2: and then say that because he was smoking a boot cigarette.

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Speaker 1: No, that would make you loud. I think I think

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Speaker 1: he was like propping peels or something like that. I

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Speaker 1: don't know. It was wow, y'all. I was like, yo,

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Speaker 1: where did you find this guy? Last minute? Right? It

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Speaker 1: was some last Man and shit, I know. I took

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Speaker 1: the Wii in like this, like you just listen. All

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Speaker 1: that should is okay, okay, like you just gotta stop

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Speaker 1: getting mad about ship though, because he obviously is just

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Speaker 1: for fun. No, I listen, I have fun together, like

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Speaker 1: just hang out.

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Speaker 2: I should have just took him. I should have just

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Speaker 2: took him while I had paid for it. I should

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Speaker 2: have just took that nigga because maybe that.

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Speaker 1: Was music another new Port bro need a patch. He

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Speaker 1: should have get that nigga pa, get him a patch

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Speaker 1: for his birthday.

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Speaker 2: I sent him a message like you know, all jokes aside,

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Speaker 2: like you really need to like do something about the smoking,

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Speaker 2: like it's out of control. I was like, I want

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Speaker 2: you to be here a long time. He said, Okay, back,

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Speaker 2: that's all he said.

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Speaker 1: But it was okay, yep, that nigga. No, but that

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Speaker 1: ain't got too many bills that get stressed out, Like

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Speaker 1: he's not about to stop smoking today or tomorrow. Damn Jeane,

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Speaker 1: Damn jan If you still smoking cigarettes, man, get your

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Speaker 1: life together. That is so nasty, it is gross. Yeah, yuck,

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Speaker 1: all right, all right, y'all. So yah, y'all said he's

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Speaker 1: tyty y'all old hags. Okay, hydy y'all old ladies. Oh,

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Speaker 1: she didn't really say that, but ya ya. Mayweather, Floyd

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Speaker 1: Mayweather's daughter says she would like to see, you know,

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Speaker 1: people in her age group on Love and Hip Hop

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Speaker 1: and Real Housewives of Atlanta and she like that, like

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Speaker 1: she would prefer to see some more familiar faces. I

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Speaker 1: guess because it is our generation. I would think, you know,

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Speaker 1: but maybe y'all gotta come up with y'a own shit.

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Speaker 2: That's what I'm thinking, Like, maybe shit. You gotta have

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Speaker 2: money and the connections produce some shit, help produce some shit,

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Speaker 2: because these shows have cult followings, you know, like they

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Speaker 2: want to see these people as they progress. That's why

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Speaker 2: they're the same people for the most part. Like you

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Speaker 2: think of your Housewives of Atlanta we don't want to

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Speaker 2: see a whole cast of new bitches, Like, no, you

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Speaker 2: want to see the same.

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Speaker 1: People, new young bitches at that. So she said, I

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Speaker 1: want to I want to see basketball, wives and Love

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Speaker 1: and hip Hop with young ladies from my generation. Much

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Speaker 1: respect to the older women, but they had their time

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Speaker 1: to shine. I think it's time to pass the torch.

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Speaker 1: So she just wants to revamp the existing camp. No,

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Speaker 1: these kids love type shit type shit. You don't make

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Speaker 1: that show right, And you know, people in the comments

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Speaker 1: was like, oh, we don't want to see her, and

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Speaker 1: she's not talking about herself. She's not saying she wants

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Speaker 1: to do her Realize that celebrities watch TV too, right,

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Speaker 1: I mean, if you're going to consider a celebrity, yes,

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Speaker 1: she watches TV too, So she just wants to see

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Speaker 1: somebody else on. Who would you.

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Speaker 2: Cast for love and hip Hop type shit type shit.

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Speaker 1: That's like the younger generation love and hip hop? I

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Speaker 1: don't know who are the younger?

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Speaker 2: Who are the younger you know who I would want

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Speaker 2: to see on it. I would want to see Mona Leo,

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Speaker 2: I would coiler ray for sure. Go ahead and throw

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Speaker 2: Lady London on there.

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Speaker 1: I think they're a little bit too like popping for

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Speaker 1: you know. Usually like the people who end up on

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Speaker 1: our shows are like trying to get their music their star.

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Speaker 2: But yeah, but I mean I don't know, like I

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Speaker 2: don't know anybody. This is who I would want to

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Speaker 2: see and they actually are hip hop artists. Lady London, Mona,

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Speaker 2: Leo coiler Ray And for the guys, we could put

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Speaker 2: Justin Laboy because you know him and Coilerrere are dating. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: I think though Drew Ski ass on there for funny man.

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Speaker 1: When you think about that, you think.

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Speaker 2: They would be good on their high.

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, any yeah, okay, that would be a good show.

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Speaker 1: I would watch that, but that'll never happen. But throw

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Speaker 1: Chrishan Rocking and the Baby Daddy on it.

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Speaker 2: Is gonna all No, that's they already got it. I

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Speaker 2: don't want to see them no more.

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Speaker 1: Been trying to reset their timeline and get them niggas

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Speaker 1: out there. This is that I do.

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Speaker 2: My guilty pleasure is I watched baddies on the stair climber.

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Speaker 1: Bitch bitch hope bench that keep me going? Y'all motherfuckers

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Speaker 1: would do that stair climb? What are y'all training? For it?

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Speaker 1: What are you training for? That's my favorite machine? Really,

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Speaker 1: I like the a MT machine adaptive motion, so it's

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Speaker 1: like an elliptical slash okay, elliptical slash step so you're

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Speaker 1: kind kind of run on that ship, you know what

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Speaker 1: I'm saying that I'll lifting your foot up. Yeah, I

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Speaker 1: like that instead like that that's their crime, be making

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Speaker 1: you poor sweat though, Like, but how much calories? Can't?

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Speaker 1: Because I feel like, okay, how many calais can you

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Speaker 1: burn it an hour on a stair climber. I don't.

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Speaker 2: I haven't done the research, but I just know it's

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Speaker 2: like a really good cardio and I like being on

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Speaker 2: that motherfucker. It'd be like a young bitch beside me

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Speaker 2: and I'd be like working her ass.

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Speaker 1: But you got to build up to a thousand calories.

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Speaker 1: A thousand calories and an hour on the AMT oh

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Speaker 1: really yes? And I feel like it's not as bad

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Speaker 2: Oh no, it is, That's exactly what it.

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Speaker 1: So it's just it doesn't feel like you're doing that

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Speaker 2: I gotta try it. I've never been on that one.

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Speaker 1: It's hard to find them, you know what I'm saying.

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Speaker 1: I literally want everybody pick a gym. I I'll call

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Speaker 1: They probably got something similar to it. Yeah, I'm pretty

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Speaker 2: A North Carolina jury has all ordered TikTok influencer Brenne

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Speaker 2: Montacue's marriage, a case only possible in a handful of states.

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Speaker 2: So Montacues lawsuit, filed in Durham County Superior Court, accused

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Speaker 2: Canard of alienation of affection and criminal conversation, two legal

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Speaker 2: I hear we're paying another bitch one point seventy five

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Speaker 1: And that's fucking crazy. Okay, she actually went to court

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Speaker 2: Man, she might have said that too, shit, and that's

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Speaker 2: one point seventy five million. Listen, anytime somebody man is

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna send him to the court case you got

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Speaker 1: you married first of all, either you're gonna have to

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Speaker 2: I wonder because she sue the husband now, like for

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Speaker 2: the money. Oh the side she was looking it for him.

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Speaker 2: They about to have a baby together.

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Speaker 1: Oh the girl was up in the course saying she

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Speaker 1: they weren't legally divorced, ma'am. Okay, maybe I would have

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Speaker 1: posted up online with this woman's husband. They had over

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Speaker 1: seven thousand pieces of evidence? Wow, I was out here

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Speaker 1: recogram cell phone like then you did that? And then

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Speaker 2: That's y'all nobody husband, and y'all dial is just I'm

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Speaker 2: a court case and send it to the SA. It's like,

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Speaker 2: the state of North Carolina, honestly, right.

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Speaker 1: So I thought this is really funny. I saw earlier

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Speaker 1: really was going back. I don't know. So finessic Times

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Speaker 1: was like, nigger, you a bitch. You you suing your

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Speaker 1: baby mama. I'm over here begging my kids, mama to

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Speaker 1: you suing your Offset response like, nigga, I'm not arguing

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Speaker 1: what a bbl I have a bad belt dyke like

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Speaker 1: what he is? Kicked up? He is, said, I don't know.

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Speaker 1: I listen that dude got too much hips and asked, man,

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Speaker 1: he is very hippie. It's the diet. Because while you

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Speaker 2: There is this guy in Charlotte, y'all, and I think

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Speaker 2: he just would have made me the perfect husband. He's

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Speaker 2: the same bookie as me.

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Speaker 1: Hey, no way, I can't do this. How you gripping

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Speaker 1: that ass? Yea? He was so good, he was so

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Speaker 1: nic His ass was fat as mine.

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Speaker 2: Like he was standing at my kitchen seek and I

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Speaker 2: was looking at him I was like, man, he looked

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Speaker 2: like a bad bitch for behinde I cannot do.

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Speaker 1: Is he like choky or like just like you just had?

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Speaker 2: But he was fit, but he just had a big

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Speaker 1: I ain't like that. I had to let that go,

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Speaker 1: all right, held listen.

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Speaker 2: It is a woman finally met her online boyfriend in

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Speaker 2: person but never told him she uses a wheelchair and

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Speaker 1: And it's a video, y'all. He looked up set then

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Speaker 1: he was so happy. She looks so happy.

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Speaker 2: She smiled, and he looking like, what the fuck going on?

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Speaker 1: You gotta get that convenient ass pussy. She ain't got

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Speaker 1: like he was talking about, I feel like that disclose though, No, absolutely,

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Speaker 1: I don't know what I would do if I pull up,

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Speaker 1: a nigga and no legs? Right, but what if he

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Speaker 1: had a third one? Right, you're gonna get the nigga go?

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Speaker 1: That's not right? Can run? I know if it was

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Speaker 1: nice with a bag, you got disability check. I know

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Speaker 2: No, you know what I don't want to say, like

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Speaker 2: I wouldn't date somebody who has a disability because that

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Speaker 2: because I was diagnosed with him. An, what's somebody you know,

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Speaker 2: I don't want people like, Oh, I don't want to

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Speaker 2: date her because what the potential is was, Yeah, the

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Speaker 2: potential of what could happen, you know.

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Speaker 1: Got a damn mss man. The people misdiagnosed. That's what

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Speaker 2: I feel misdiagnosed honestly because I'll be healthy for the

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Speaker 1: And y'all know di these starting to mind, man, I

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Speaker 2: I haven't believed this diagnos me and I don't feel it.

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Speaker 2: But so that's why i'd be like, I don't want

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Speaker 2: mention you ain't got no legs, man, you can't just

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Speaker 2: leave that out. I remember I had this tender date, y'all,

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Speaker 2: this nigga I made him.

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Speaker 1: At what's that?

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Speaker 2: What's that restaurant? Like, it's an Italian restaurant at South Park.

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Speaker 1: Ma.

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Speaker 2: Giano's brouh. I walked into Ma Gianos. This motherfucker was

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Speaker 2: sitting at the bar and his legs was swinging, y'all.

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Speaker 1: I was like, this nigga short as fucked. That's my

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Speaker 2: No, I'm talking about swinging. And he had to jump

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Speaker 2: this is the littlest nigga showed you here.

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Speaker 1: Really tripping.

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Speaker 2: No, he was he like he might have been like

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Speaker 1: He was like just like, yeah, he had your arms,

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Speaker 1: he had short everything.

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Speaker 2: He was so little. But when I tell y'all had

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Speaker 2: so much fun with him. He was so funny.

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Speaker 1: He ain't got no choice. He was so funny.

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Speaker 2: But yeah, no, that was the last time of song,

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Speaker 2: and he took all his pictures on tender like from

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Speaker 2: the bottom up. I should have knew something was wrong

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Speaker 2: with that because he made hissel like he had height and.

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Speaker 1: He was going, y'all, y'all, y'all niggas getting kind of sneaky.

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Speaker 1: I can seeing you hall think some of y'all heels behes.

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Speaker 1: And he had like a little insert you could put

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Speaker 1: I know a few niggas there's there's.

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Speaker 2: A whole surgery to extend the lift of your legs

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I've seen that. That is so crazy. Man. I

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Speaker 1: am the owner and CEO of nonprofit. I'm an advocate

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Speaker 1: for short niggas. Okay, I love y'all you nigga now? Man, No,

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Speaker 1: he's like six foot five, look five eleven, but nigga

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Speaker 1: five eleven. That's so like average height for a man.

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Speaker 1: It is like five six five eight nowadays, like for

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Speaker 1: average height for a man. Yeah, it's like over six

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Speaker 1: two that that is not the majority of men, black white, whoever.

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Speaker 1: guess pappoos must have hit the lottery chat because Clarissa Clarissa,

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Speaker 1: she was just signed an eight million dollar deal with

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Speaker 1: Salita Promotions and Win Records, And this is like a

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Speaker 1: so total value at least eight at least eight million

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Speaker 1: over two years from minimum four fights. Signing bonus three

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Speaker 1: And then something else got to do with music, and

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Speaker 1: I think that's where Pat Pooss comes in at. But

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Speaker 1: she was celebrating and there's a video on social media

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Speaker 1: right now with Pat Poo's saying I love you to death.

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Speaker 1: He said, let me repeat that. I'm playing on the mic.

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Speaker 1: Let me repeat that, I love you to death?

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Speaker 2: Right, eight million dollars.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, exactly like you my bitch for life. We locked in.

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Speaker 1: I ain't mad. She bad be careful, she bad be careful,

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Speaker 1: but I love you.

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Speaker 2: I like I watched her the movie about her life,

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Speaker 2: and I was just in love with her based on

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Speaker 2: the movie, Like, I was just so proud of her.

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Speaker 2: But some of the stuff, the some of the stuff

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Speaker 2: that she be saying on LI, she just be coming

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Speaker 2: off like a mean girl. And I know, like boxers

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Speaker 2: are supposed to be arrogant and cocky, and that's part

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Speaker 2: of the persona like you gotta be if you a fighter,

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Speaker 2: you know. But sometimes it's just be like, like I

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Speaker 2: didn't like, I don't appreciate her, like how she comes

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Speaker 2: at Leila Ali. Are you supposed to respect her? She

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Speaker 2: is so unproblematic she is. Yeah, and then she she

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Speaker 2: came out with a dissertation about this bitch.

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Speaker 1: Did you see that? I mean she had like receipts

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Speaker 1: for days again. Yeah. Yeah, this bitch is like a

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Speaker 1: fan turn and hater basic. Yeah, that's what Carissa Shields did.

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Speaker 1: I mean, this is you are, this is your senior essentially,

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Speaker 1: like I'm not getting in the ring of give you

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Speaker 1: no money. That's that's basically what lately Laila Ali said,

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Speaker 1: You're not making no money off of me, right with

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Speaker 1: your nasty ass, and I'm not. I don't fight no more.

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Speaker 2: I don't fight. I'm a wife and a mother and

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Speaker 2: that's what I do now, and I prove it myself.

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Speaker 2: I don't have to prove anything to anybody anymore.

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Speaker 1: So girl, yes, especially to Clarissa. Right.

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Speaker 2: So I don't like that, but I'm having her congratulations

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Speaker 2: because from nothing, I'll tell you, like her story, like

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Speaker 2: and how hard she worked to be where she is.

430
00:24:18,000 --> 00:24:19,760
Speaker 2: I'm proud of her for that because she did work

431
00:24:19,800 --> 00:24:23,680
Speaker 2: hard and she came from the trenches, y'all. Flint, Michigan.

432
00:24:24,840 --> 00:24:30,080
Speaker 2: I think it was Flint. Yeah, she struggled.

433
00:24:30,119 --> 00:24:34,400
Speaker 1: So I don't know. I didn't watch the wass Not documentary,

434
00:24:34,400 --> 00:24:37,960
Speaker 1: but it's I guess. I guess it's a biopic. Yeah,

435
00:24:38,040 --> 00:24:40,679
Speaker 1: I didn't. I've never seen it. Yeah, watched your interview

436
00:24:40,680 --> 00:24:43,240
Speaker 1: in the Breakfast Club, but I didn't watch the movie.

437
00:24:43,440 --> 00:24:45,679
Speaker 2: It was good, it was good. She's from Flint and

438
00:24:45,720 --> 00:24:50,439
Speaker 2: she came up in very poverty, very poor situation. And

439
00:24:50,760 --> 00:24:53,359
Speaker 2: what's that Ryan Destiny played her. She did a good job.

440
00:24:53,960 --> 00:24:57,719
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, yeah, I saw that. I saw few. All right,

441
00:24:57,800 --> 00:25:00,439
Speaker 1: y'allso listen, So today we want to talk about self

442
00:25:00,440 --> 00:25:08,720
Speaker 1: proclaimed nice guy, good guy, nice guy, good guys, right right?

443
00:25:08,960 --> 00:25:15,600
Speaker 1: The self proclaimed good guy? Is he really? All right?

444
00:25:15,680 --> 00:25:16,439
Speaker 2: Let's get into it.

445
00:25:16,560 --> 00:25:23,480
Speaker 1: We'll be right back, all right. So I know y'all,

446
00:25:23,520 --> 00:25:28,080
Speaker 1: maybe maybe not, but have you guys seen this clip

447
00:25:28,240 --> 00:25:32,919
Speaker 1: from the TV show, the reality TV show Love Is Blind.

448
00:25:33,119 --> 00:25:34,800
Speaker 1: I know a lot of y'all watch it. I don't

449
00:25:34,840 --> 00:25:38,720
Speaker 1: watch TV like that, especially reality TV, but I do

450
00:25:38,800 --> 00:25:44,760
Speaker 1: remember seeing this particular clip and that shit. I've always

451
00:25:44,760 --> 00:25:48,680
Speaker 1: been saying this for years, that them self proclaimed good niggas,

452
00:25:49,920 --> 00:25:52,880
Speaker 1: I'm a good nigga, I'm a good dude. You got

453
00:25:52,880 --> 00:25:55,720
Speaker 1: to be careful with them. It's certain.

454
00:25:55,840 --> 00:25:58,320
Speaker 2: It's certain things that I don't like when people self

455
00:25:58,359 --> 00:26:01,080
Speaker 2: proclaim it, like you need to allow other people to

456
00:26:01,080 --> 00:26:02,040
Speaker 2: say that about.

457
00:26:01,760 --> 00:26:07,440
Speaker 1: You exactly, you know, right? So Edmund Harvey and how

458
00:26:07,440 --> 00:26:09,520
Speaker 1: do you do you watch that show? Is it Calibra?

459
00:26:09,680 --> 00:26:10,720
Speaker 1: Is that her name? Calibra?

460
00:26:10,840 --> 00:26:12,760
Speaker 2: KB don't get me the lie I don't watch it,

461
00:26:13,840 --> 00:26:16,359
Speaker 2: none of I can't just hand none of it. And

462
00:26:16,359 --> 00:26:18,080
Speaker 2: the crazy party that I tried to be on one

463
00:26:18,119 --> 00:26:18,440
Speaker 2: of them.

464
00:26:18,800 --> 00:26:20,800
Speaker 1: Remember, yeah, I would.

465
00:26:21,000 --> 00:26:23,720
Speaker 2: I auditioned for Love is Blind season nine and I

466
00:26:23,720 --> 00:26:26,199
Speaker 2: almost made it, but they chose a divergin instead of me.

467
00:26:27,080 --> 00:26:33,720
Speaker 1: Shame. Yeah. So Calibra KB Haskin and Edmund Harvey. They

468
00:26:33,920 --> 00:26:37,600
Speaker 1: were on the most recent episode of Love Is Blind

469
00:26:37,640 --> 00:26:42,040
Speaker 1: season nine, and KB states she has chosen to wait

470
00:26:42,119 --> 00:26:45,359
Speaker 1: for sex and why and was clear about her boundaries.

471
00:26:45,400 --> 00:26:47,680
Speaker 1: This is what she's telling her now fiance because y'all

472
00:26:47,680 --> 00:26:49,840
Speaker 1: know in those TV shows like you don't really meet

473
00:26:49,840 --> 00:26:52,359
Speaker 1: the person until I guess you choose them, right, is

474
00:26:52,480 --> 00:26:56,600
Speaker 1: how it works on there. So now they're engaged, right,

475
00:26:56,960 --> 00:26:59,320
Speaker 1: So she's telling him like she wants to wait until

476
00:26:59,320 --> 00:27:02,000
Speaker 1: you get actually to get married to have sex. So

477
00:27:02,320 --> 00:27:08,359
Speaker 1: Edmund becomes upset and starts crying in bed. Okay, and

478
00:27:08,440 --> 00:27:11,360
Speaker 1: partly because his fiance is choosing a weight and he

479
00:27:11,440 --> 00:27:15,840
Speaker 1: frames his frustration around feeling like the nice guy who

480
00:27:16,000 --> 00:27:20,200
Speaker 1: is being taken advantage of. Right, So the whole discussion

481
00:27:20,240 --> 00:27:24,080
Speaker 1: online is about what is it online? No, it's about

482
00:27:24,119 --> 00:27:26,800
Speaker 1: it's not even an online discussion, Well.

483
00:27:26,720 --> 00:27:31,280
Speaker 2: There was one about it. Yeah, yeah, people were talking about.

484
00:27:31,080 --> 00:27:34,359
Speaker 1: This that that ship was fucking scary to me that

485
00:27:34,400 --> 00:27:35,720
Speaker 1: he busted out crying like that.

486
00:27:36,160 --> 00:27:37,560
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, that was manipulation.

487
00:27:37,640 --> 00:27:41,280
Speaker 1: That is minus. Yes, you are trying to why do

488
00:27:41,320 --> 00:27:45,119
Speaker 1: you why is why would anybody want pity pussy? Because

489
00:27:45,119 --> 00:27:47,960
Speaker 1: that's essentially what it would be. But I'm not here.

490
00:27:48,720 --> 00:27:52,520
Speaker 1: I know who like he like pity pussy? You know

491
00:27:52,640 --> 00:27:53,040
Speaker 1: him too.

492
00:27:55,680 --> 00:27:58,920
Speaker 2: Oh he expressed that to me like he don't mind

493
00:27:58,960 --> 00:27:59,879
Speaker 2: pitty pissy open wi.

494
00:28:03,240 --> 00:28:10,960
Speaker 1: He told you that name on you pussy is terror, Like,

495
00:28:11,000 --> 00:28:13,880
Speaker 1: why would you want some man nigga here pussy? Why

496
00:28:13,920 --> 00:28:18,560
Speaker 1: would you want that? Right? Is that good? No? That

497
00:28:18,720 --> 00:28:21,440
Speaker 1: is borderline. That's what we be talking about sometimes when

498
00:28:21,440 --> 00:28:23,600
Speaker 1: you do some shit because you really don't want to

499
00:28:23,600 --> 00:28:24,720
Speaker 1: do it, and you just hear.

500
00:28:25,080 --> 00:28:29,680
Speaker 2: Here man, damn, I hear some here a damn pussy.

501
00:28:30,280 --> 00:28:35,600
Speaker 1: Hey. Yeah, So it's scary to me that he started

502
00:28:35,800 --> 00:28:40,200
Speaker 1: crying on national television because the woman would't give him

503
00:28:40,200 --> 00:28:43,360
Speaker 1: no gucci? Are you that sexually frustrated?

504
00:28:43,480 --> 00:28:46,560
Speaker 2: But then I tried to put myself in a man's shoes,

505
00:28:46,600 --> 00:28:51,040
Speaker 2: not particularly him, because he seemed like very manipulative, But

506
00:28:51,080 --> 00:28:54,520
Speaker 2: what if it is not really all you think about

507
00:28:54,520 --> 00:28:55,840
Speaker 2: the type of man that's going to go on the

508
00:28:55,880 --> 00:28:56,880
Speaker 2: show like this one?

509
00:28:57,400 --> 00:28:59,080
Speaker 1: Right, that part.

510
00:29:01,200 --> 00:29:04,480
Speaker 2: Is a particular type of man that's going to audition

511
00:29:04,760 --> 00:29:09,520
Speaker 2: to marry a stranger. Right, I think with women women

512
00:29:10,640 --> 00:29:12,920
Speaker 2: because men give access to marriage, right, not women?

513
00:29:13,800 --> 00:29:19,720
Speaker 1: So I partially agree with that, Why yeah, because I

514
00:29:19,760 --> 00:29:22,200
Speaker 1: know that's the whole thing. Like women give access to sex,

515
00:29:22,280 --> 00:29:24,440
Speaker 1: men give access to marriage. But once you ask a

516
00:29:24,480 --> 00:29:26,480
Speaker 1: woman to marry you, like, I still got to decide

517
00:29:26,760 --> 00:29:28,680
Speaker 1: to walk down an island nod, Like I still have

518
00:29:28,720 --> 00:29:34,760
Speaker 1: a decision in that process, right, So I really don't.

519
00:29:34,480 --> 00:29:37,840
Speaker 1: I don't believe that anymore, you know what I'm saying.

520
00:29:38,440 --> 00:29:39,480
Speaker 2: No, I get what you're saying.

521
00:29:39,520 --> 00:29:43,040
Speaker 1: But people got to execute on the thing one day, right, right.

522
00:29:43,120 --> 00:29:46,000
Speaker 1: But I just think I hate when I see a

523
00:29:46,000 --> 00:29:50,840
Speaker 1: woman proposing. I hate it. That's not your person. That

524
00:29:50,880 --> 00:29:53,479
Speaker 1: man doesn't like you. You cannot a man is going

525
00:29:53,560 --> 00:29:56,400
Speaker 1: to do exactly what he wants to do, right, And

526
00:29:56,480 --> 00:29:58,600
Speaker 1: you don't want a man who does some shit because

527
00:29:58,680 --> 00:30:01,960
Speaker 1: you've harassed the men to do. You don't want that. Ultimately,

528
00:30:02,000 --> 00:30:03,840
Speaker 1: he doesn't want to be in that relationship and he's

529
00:30:03,880 --> 00:30:06,320
Speaker 1: just hey, man, hit a ring. You don't want no

530
00:30:06,400 --> 00:30:09,880
Speaker 1: type that type of ship, right, But I tried to

531
00:30:09,880 --> 00:30:12,160
Speaker 1: throw yeah, period settling.

532
00:30:12,680 --> 00:30:15,440
Speaker 2: Never if I wish I would see a bitch down

533
00:30:15,480 --> 00:30:19,040
Speaker 2: on one knee, I'm like accidentally accidental.

534
00:30:20,360 --> 00:30:25,720
Speaker 1: Oh I'm sorry, get up and rob them. I'm gonna

535
00:30:25,720 --> 00:30:30,160
Speaker 1: snatch the ring and run. Okay.

536
00:30:30,400 --> 00:30:33,240
Speaker 2: I try to think about a really a nice guy,

537
00:30:33,360 --> 00:30:36,440
Speaker 2: right who just never get no pussy. That could be

538
00:30:36,600 --> 00:30:41,760
Speaker 2: very frustrating, like because for whatever reason he just can't

539
00:30:41,760 --> 00:30:44,160
Speaker 2: close he can't close the deal.

540
00:30:46,040 --> 00:30:47,719
Speaker 1: Everybody, You're not supposed to get pussy.

541
00:30:47,880 --> 00:30:49,120
Speaker 2: That's the that's that's what.

542
00:30:49,120 --> 00:30:51,480
Speaker 1: The world has fucked up. Right, And I know I've

543
00:30:51,520 --> 00:30:55,280
Speaker 1: said this before. If we were in the wild as animals,

544
00:30:55,280 --> 00:31:02,320
Speaker 1: if women really like measured the things that are required

545
00:31:02,320 --> 00:31:04,720
Speaker 1: to have a family, right, because that is an ultimate

546
00:31:04,760 --> 00:31:07,920
Speaker 1: goal when you're when you are procreating and dating and

547
00:31:07,920 --> 00:31:10,800
Speaker 1: all that stuff just take away like laws and religion.

548
00:31:10,840 --> 00:31:13,080
Speaker 1: Just we looking like we animals. Right, It's a lot

549
00:31:13,080 --> 00:31:15,760
Speaker 1: of is that would die having never had sex, just

550
00:31:15,800 --> 00:31:18,920
Speaker 1: like animals do. Not even gets cooch, you know what

551
00:31:18,960 --> 00:31:23,240
Speaker 1: I'm saying. So it is natural selection essentially that you're

552
00:31:23,240 --> 00:31:27,280
Speaker 1: gonna die because nobody sees you as a suitable mate.

553
00:31:27,320 --> 00:31:29,280
Speaker 1: It's just and it could happen to women also. I'm

554
00:31:29,280 --> 00:31:32,040
Speaker 1: not saying that, but women look at other things like

555
00:31:32,080 --> 00:31:34,360
Speaker 1: men look at the physical. Right. A lot of times

556
00:31:34,760 --> 00:31:37,560
Speaker 1: women we the ship that we like and men like

557
00:31:37,640 --> 00:31:40,560
Speaker 1: it's sometimes it's not it's not physical physical, it's like

558
00:31:40,600 --> 00:31:43,320
Speaker 1: some genesi qua you know what I'm saying. It's the

559
00:31:43,400 --> 00:31:46,880
Speaker 1: aura of the man like that, just that.

560
00:31:47,000 --> 00:31:53,240
Speaker 2: Masculine, like Likew's elbow. I don't think Elbow was like

561
00:31:54,000 --> 00:31:56,880
Speaker 2: the finest in the face, like he's very handsome, don't

562
00:31:56,920 --> 00:32:00,200
Speaker 2: get me wrong, but it was that viril manness out

563
00:32:00,240 --> 00:32:05,320
Speaker 2: him that Jonathan Major's had, that masculin that was just like, WHOA,

564
00:32:05,600 --> 00:32:06,200
Speaker 2: take me down.

565
00:32:06,320 --> 00:32:08,160
Speaker 1: I've been crying a little bit too lately now I've

566
00:32:08,200 --> 00:32:12,720
Speaker 1: been took them off my vision board. Yeah, I said,

567
00:32:12,720 --> 00:32:14,440
Speaker 1: I shivered that white woman out. Oh yeah.

568
00:32:14,480 --> 00:32:16,560
Speaker 2: After I see her chasing him down the street, I

569
00:32:16,600 --> 00:32:17,880
Speaker 2: was like, oh no.

570
00:32:18,240 --> 00:32:20,480
Speaker 1: He better run girl ship. He was running for his

571
00:32:20,560 --> 00:32:21,640
Speaker 1: life literally.

572
00:32:21,560 --> 00:32:24,760
Speaker 2: Yeah, but still got fucked up. But that just kind

573
00:32:24,760 --> 00:32:31,080
Speaker 2: of turned me off. But yeah, yeah, but when you

574
00:32:31,120 --> 00:32:33,240
Speaker 2: feel sorry for a man like that, though, I feel

575
00:32:33,240 --> 00:32:36,960
Speaker 2: sad for them, like they just clo okay.

576
00:32:36,760 --> 00:32:40,280
Speaker 1: Because oftentimes those men they can get pussy, they just

577
00:32:40,280 --> 00:32:42,480
Speaker 1: can't get the pussy from the women that they think

578
00:32:42,560 --> 00:32:45,040
Speaker 1: they should get the pussy from. Right, So that's when

579
00:32:45,080 --> 00:32:48,600
Speaker 1: I see, like perfect example, because we haven't talked about this,

580
00:32:48,840 --> 00:32:52,040
Speaker 1: that the hate that you got online on Good Mom's

581
00:32:52,080 --> 00:32:56,080
Speaker 1: Bad Choices podcast, just because you're choosing to let this

582
00:32:56,440 --> 00:32:59,720
Speaker 1: why in waste your fucking time instead it is supposed

583
00:33:00,080 --> 00:33:03,560
Speaker 1: these nice those are the good guys that were talking crazy.

584
00:33:03,880 --> 00:33:09,400
Speaker 2: Oh they were so mad if after some point because

585
00:33:09,400 --> 00:33:13,920
Speaker 2: it was like the anger that I received from men

586
00:33:14,600 --> 00:33:17,800
Speaker 2: shot stranger m hm shocked me so bad.

587
00:33:17,840 --> 00:33:20,440
Speaker 1: Because why are y'all so mad at this? They don't

588
00:33:20,440 --> 00:33:24,360
Speaker 1: have nothing to do with you because you have a choice.

589
00:33:24,840 --> 00:33:27,880
Speaker 1: Your choice was to let this y in play in

590
00:33:27,920 --> 00:33:32,680
Speaker 1: your face and not them.

591
00:33:31,000 --> 00:33:33,200
Speaker 2: And they were big married. No I'm talking how dare

592
00:33:33,280 --> 00:33:34,680
Speaker 2: you big mad?

593
00:33:35,240 --> 00:33:37,480
Speaker 1: How dare you not give me a chance over here

594
00:33:37,600 --> 00:33:39,560
Speaker 1: some nigga I don't know, to play in my face?

595
00:33:39,920 --> 00:33:43,600
Speaker 1: That is why they're upset. They men get mad because

596
00:33:43,640 --> 00:33:45,680
Speaker 1: they can't have access to the pussy they think they

597
00:33:45,720 --> 00:33:50,240
Speaker 1: should have access to. That's it, right, why that's where

598
00:33:50,280 --> 00:33:51,720
Speaker 1: that hate is stemming from.

599
00:33:51,800 --> 00:33:56,160
Speaker 2: Because if I was sitting there unattractive, and they wouldn't

600
00:33:56,160 --> 00:33:56,720
Speaker 2: even comment.

601
00:33:56,760 --> 00:34:00,239
Speaker 1: They wouldn't care it, just like they scroll past. Get

602
00:34:00,320 --> 00:34:01,600
Speaker 1: what you're supposed to, what you're getting.

603
00:34:02,040 --> 00:34:04,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, but they I'm talking about they tried to eat

604
00:34:04,560 --> 00:34:07,000
Speaker 2: me up and I was cussing the niggas out to Oh.

605
00:34:07,200 --> 00:34:08,680
Speaker 1: I had fun with it for a little while, but

606
00:34:08,680 --> 00:34:11,920
Speaker 1: then it was like, all right, Well I finally went

607
00:34:11,960 --> 00:34:13,680
Speaker 1: and looked on it. I'm like, yo, what the fuck

608
00:34:13,920 --> 00:34:17,960
Speaker 1: is happening? Those are clearly in sales. Real men are

609
00:34:18,000 --> 00:34:20,640
Speaker 1: not in those. And this is why y'all not getting

610
00:34:20,680 --> 00:34:23,960
Speaker 1: kucci because real men are not in the comments attacking

611
00:34:24,000 --> 00:34:27,160
Speaker 1: women like that. They're fucking them right, Okay, eve been

612
00:34:27,200 --> 00:34:30,520
Speaker 1: fucking them since high school. So really y'all need to

613
00:34:30,520 --> 00:34:33,200
Speaker 1: go like they do need a Kevin Samuel's type nigga

614
00:34:33,239 --> 00:34:36,120
Speaker 1: back right, because once Kevin Samue's first came out, his

615
00:34:36,200 --> 00:34:39,879
Speaker 1: thing was more geared towards men and image and getting there.

616
00:34:40,239 --> 00:34:42,839
Speaker 1: What is it? A sex value up and all this things? Like,

617
00:34:43,000 --> 00:34:45,399
Speaker 1: there's a lot of things. It's just some some men

618
00:34:45,440 --> 00:34:47,799
Speaker 1: can wake up and get new box. Not all men

619
00:34:47,840 --> 00:34:50,360
Speaker 1: can do that. So you have men who get money,

620
00:34:50,640 --> 00:34:54,279
Speaker 1: because money gives you instant swag. You add money for

621
00:34:54,400 --> 00:34:57,600
Speaker 1: instant swag, right, but swag is the ability to bag

622
00:34:57,680 --> 00:35:01,839
Speaker 1: bitches when no money, right, Okay, just some niggas got

623
00:35:01,840 --> 00:35:02,680
Speaker 1: it and some don't.

624
00:35:03,000 --> 00:35:05,720
Speaker 2: Oh I would listen they say they little nasty comment

625
00:35:05,920 --> 00:35:07,960
Speaker 2: under the comments, and baby, I will go to their

626
00:35:07,960 --> 00:35:10,120
Speaker 2: page and comment under the picture.

627
00:35:11,600 --> 00:35:16,600
Speaker 4: Oh and eat them up. Baby, I know you ain't

628
00:35:16,640 --> 00:35:19,240
Speaker 4: fucking talking shit to me. Look at you, you cling

629
00:35:19,320 --> 00:35:22,080
Speaker 4: in on them. Oh yes, it was fun.

630
00:35:23,520 --> 00:35:26,320
Speaker 1: But we had those guys would really think that they're

631
00:35:26,360 --> 00:35:30,080
Speaker 1: good guys. And you are now allowing a yian to

632
00:35:30,080 --> 00:35:32,839
Speaker 1: play with you instead of dating one of dating one

633
00:35:32,880 --> 00:35:36,479
Speaker 1: of us because we're good, which you're really not. You're

634
00:35:36,520 --> 00:35:38,799
Speaker 1: really not good. And then the thing is is that

635
00:35:40,280 --> 00:35:42,879
Speaker 1: let me tell you if you're good, right, I by

636
00:35:42,960 --> 00:35:45,480
Speaker 1: you just telling me, oh, I'm a good guy, and

637
00:35:45,520 --> 00:35:50,319
Speaker 1: then we actually get into a relationship or whatever, and

638
00:35:50,400 --> 00:35:55,160
Speaker 1: you spawn from the fucking devil A lot of them,

639
00:35:55,400 --> 00:35:59,239
Speaker 1: a lot of them. So let me talk to your ex,

640
00:35:59,360 --> 00:36:02,560
Speaker 1: Let me talk to your first baby mama. Right, No,

641
00:36:02,760 --> 00:36:03,799
Speaker 1: if you're a nice guy or not.

642
00:36:04,480 --> 00:36:07,880
Speaker 2: The last self proclaimed nice guy that I was dating,

643
00:36:08,280 --> 00:36:10,239
Speaker 2: and I was just like, oh, this is gonna be

644
00:36:10,280 --> 00:36:10,800
Speaker 2: my husband.

645
00:36:10,840 --> 00:36:13,400
Speaker 1: He's so nice, he's so sweet. He's that.

646
00:36:13,520 --> 00:36:15,960
Speaker 2: Nigga was all married to a traveling nurse and she

647
00:36:16,080 --> 00:36:18,759
Speaker 2: was out of town and she was about to come home.

648
00:36:18,800 --> 00:36:21,480
Speaker 2: He ghosted me after like three months. I like my

649
00:36:21,600 --> 00:36:26,680
Speaker 2: intuition was on gee because I just would never give

650
00:36:26,760 --> 00:36:29,880
Speaker 2: him no buns. I just wouldn't take it there. And

651
00:36:29,920 --> 00:36:33,960
Speaker 2: then right before I did, I like said something that

652
00:36:34,080 --> 00:36:36,399
Speaker 2: I made him develop a conscious and he just kind

653
00:36:36,400 --> 00:36:38,239
Speaker 2: of just I don't even know if that's what really

654
00:36:38,280 --> 00:36:41,319
Speaker 2: happened or the baby. The wife was coming back from

655
00:36:41,320 --> 00:36:43,880
Speaker 2: wherever she was traveling to, but he ghosted me.

656
00:36:44,040 --> 00:36:45,960
Speaker 1: I realized he couldn't play with you like that, and

657
00:36:45,960 --> 00:36:47,600
Speaker 1: he just cut a short. Some people just like to

658
00:36:47,640 --> 00:36:50,040
Speaker 1: frighten us, you know what I'm saying. They're not really

659
00:36:50,040 --> 00:36:52,640
Speaker 1: actually gonna ever do the things. They just want to

660
00:36:52,719 --> 00:36:56,400
Speaker 1: feel like they can. People who in relationships sometimes you

661
00:36:56,600 --> 00:36:59,000
Speaker 1: just want to feel like they still got it a

662
00:36:59,000 --> 00:37:02,160
Speaker 1: little bit will actually be out here cheating certain whole

663
00:37:02,160 --> 00:37:04,600
Speaker 1: relationships with other women and other men.

664
00:37:06,200 --> 00:37:08,279
Speaker 2: And I'm talking about this. Nigga was like, I'm ready

665
00:37:08,280 --> 00:37:11,440
Speaker 2: for I'm ready for a wife. You ready for a wife?

666
00:37:11,560 --> 00:37:17,200
Speaker 1: Tripping? Oh No, he's a liar. He was the worst liar,

667
00:37:17,640 --> 00:37:19,640
Speaker 1: and he probably you probably said some shit that made

668
00:37:19,719 --> 00:37:22,040
Speaker 1: him think that, man, she's gonna be a problem. Just bit,

669
00:37:22,080 --> 00:37:24,120
Speaker 1: you gonna come to my house, This is you gonna

670
00:37:24,120 --> 00:37:24,880
Speaker 1: call my wife?

671
00:37:25,400 --> 00:37:29,120
Speaker 2: This vin whole motherfucking shit out. Please, you got free

672
00:37:29,200 --> 00:37:32,719
Speaker 2: with me. I remember as you And before he goes

673
00:37:32,719 --> 00:37:34,640
Speaker 2: to me, I remember thanking him for being a good

674
00:37:34,680 --> 00:37:37,040
Speaker 2: person and telling him how I meet so many men

675
00:37:37,080 --> 00:37:40,120
Speaker 2: who try to manipulate and take advantage, and I just

676
00:37:40,160 --> 00:37:44,120
Speaker 2: want to thank you for like being so good. That's

677
00:37:44,160 --> 00:37:46,080
Speaker 2: the last time I saw this motherfucker.

678
00:37:47,880 --> 00:37:52,080
Speaker 1: But that was good of him to disappear, right but right,

679
00:37:52,120 --> 00:37:52,879
Speaker 1: It was good of him.

680
00:37:52,960 --> 00:37:54,600
Speaker 2: But then he came back and told me the truth.

681
00:37:54,719 --> 00:37:57,040
Speaker 2: Like maybe two months later, he sent me a message

682
00:37:57,040 --> 00:37:59,560
Speaker 2: saying like, I just you know, I didn't know that

683
00:37:59,719 --> 00:38:03,200
Speaker 2: you were how you are, and I just didn't feel

684
00:38:03,239 --> 00:38:05,520
Speaker 2: like I didn't want to do you like that. You were,

685
00:38:05,680 --> 00:38:07,680
Speaker 2: you are a good woman. I just didn't want to

686
00:38:07,719 --> 00:38:11,440
Speaker 2: do you like that. And I'm married, and and I

687
00:38:11,440 --> 00:38:14,399
Speaker 2: guess he thought, because I'm listening, I'm sweet as poet

688
00:38:14,480 --> 00:38:17,799
Speaker 2: to I ain't. So he thought I was gonna respond like, well,

689
00:38:17,840 --> 00:38:20,799
Speaker 2: thank you for telling me the truth. I was like, bitch,

690
00:38:20,880 --> 00:38:22,799
Speaker 2: I'll spit in your face if I see you. That's

691
00:38:22,800 --> 00:38:23,279
Speaker 2: what I told.

692
00:38:28,200 --> 00:38:30,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, because what he thought, he didn't think he was

693
00:38:30,800 --> 00:38:32,399
Speaker 1: was gonna have to drag that ship up for three

694
00:38:32,480 --> 00:38:34,319
Speaker 1: fucking months. He thought he was going to smash your

695
00:38:34,360 --> 00:38:37,400
Speaker 1: ass for the first couple of fucking weeks, That's what happened,

696
00:38:38,080 --> 00:38:40,799
Speaker 1: and he realized that I wasn't going nowhere and he

697
00:38:40,880 --> 00:38:43,160
Speaker 1: gonna really have to put some work in. I bitch,

698
00:38:43,160 --> 00:38:45,360
Speaker 1: A'm married or just is playing? I was just playing.

699
00:38:45,400 --> 00:38:51,440
Speaker 1: I'll get right back right. I hate you, motherfucker. So

700
00:38:51,800 --> 00:38:55,120
Speaker 1: I believe we've all dated that good guys. Me. I'm

701
00:38:55,120 --> 00:38:57,600
Speaker 1: trying to think if I ever so, I feel like

702
00:38:57,640 --> 00:39:00,840
Speaker 1: all of them, all everybody who have ever done Okay,

703
00:39:00,880 --> 00:39:04,880
Speaker 1: I can say like, right now, I'm actually dating a

704
00:39:04,920 --> 00:39:11,560
Speaker 1: good guy. This is probably the only good guy that

705
00:39:11,640 --> 00:39:14,520
Speaker 1: I have chosen. I'll say that, right, Because we run

706
00:39:14,520 --> 00:39:17,600
Speaker 1: into people and we may not like them for whatever reason, right,

707
00:39:18,520 --> 00:39:20,920
Speaker 1: and you you think back, like, damn, he might have

708
00:39:21,000 --> 00:39:23,839
Speaker 1: been good for me, but for whatever reason, you just

709
00:39:23,840 --> 00:39:24,520
Speaker 1: didn't feel them.

710
00:39:24,840 --> 00:39:31,520
Speaker 2: Was it feeling him like that, that big ass boy?

711
00:39:31,800 --> 00:39:34,680
Speaker 1: So that happens too, maybe weeks. Sometimes women, as women,

712
00:39:34,719 --> 00:39:38,080
Speaker 1: we overlook the good guys, right because you're you're wrapped

713
00:39:38,160 --> 00:39:42,080
Speaker 1: up with this damn demon demon dick. You can't even

714
00:39:42,200 --> 00:39:44,839
Speaker 1: see the good guy in front of you. That happens too.

715
00:39:46,080 --> 00:39:48,520
Speaker 2: I met another guy that was a really, really good guy,

716
00:39:48,680 --> 00:39:52,120
Speaker 2: no kids, never been married, very successful looking forward that

717
00:39:52,880 --> 00:39:55,719
Speaker 2: and we had a good thing. But I just did

718
00:39:55,760 --> 00:40:04,320
Speaker 2: not like the fact that he didn't have any black friends.

719
00:40:05,600 --> 00:40:07,279
Speaker 1: Like where did he grow up?

720
00:40:08,239 --> 00:40:09,799
Speaker 2: And that was his thing. He was like, you know,

721
00:40:09,960 --> 00:40:15,840
Speaker 2: I've grown up in upper suburbia and this is the

722
00:40:15,840 --> 00:40:17,880
Speaker 2: people I was around my whole life. I went to

723
00:40:17,920 --> 00:40:19,640
Speaker 2: this is the people I went to school with. This

724
00:40:19,719 --> 00:40:22,120
Speaker 2: is this is always been. I was like, I'm twelve

725
00:40:22,160 --> 00:40:24,840
Speaker 2: years old. What I'm supposed to do, Like I'm hanging

726
00:40:24,880 --> 00:40:26,960
Speaker 2: out with the people I go to school with. I

727
00:40:27,000 --> 00:40:27,400
Speaker 2: hang out with.

728
00:40:27,480 --> 00:40:31,120
Speaker 1: He went to like predominantly white colleges too, Like.

729
00:40:32,000 --> 00:40:35,560
Speaker 2: He's just matriculated through white spaces his entire life.

730
00:40:36,480 --> 00:40:41,840
Speaker 1: And had he only dated white girls? Were you going

731
00:40:41,920 --> 00:40:43,560
Speaker 1: to be his first black? No?

732
00:40:43,719 --> 00:40:47,400
Speaker 2: I wasn't his first black, but he did have like

733
00:40:47,400 --> 00:40:52,160
Speaker 2: like the last girlfriend was white. Well, he was like

734
00:40:52,239 --> 00:40:53,239
Speaker 2: she was Argentina.

735
00:40:54,920 --> 00:41:03,520
Speaker 1: What this Hispanic and white? Hispanic? I just said Argentinan.

736
00:41:03,760 --> 00:41:05,200
Speaker 1: What all right?

737
00:41:05,320 --> 00:41:11,160
Speaker 2: So that's not white? Okay, I mean to be she

738
00:41:11,320 --> 00:41:13,880
Speaker 2: look white, but y'all, don't be bad. I'm not being racist.

739
00:41:13,880 --> 00:41:16,319
Speaker 1: She just look white to me. But okay, yeah, I

740
00:41:16,320 --> 00:41:19,399
Speaker 1: mean a lot of the Spaniards are fair complexed for sure.

741
00:41:20,000 --> 00:41:21,960
Speaker 1: So if she's from Argentina.

742
00:41:21,600 --> 00:41:23,560
Speaker 2: I don't just say that she was not a black woman.

743
00:41:23,640 --> 00:41:25,080
Speaker 2: I'll say that she was not black.

744
00:41:26,520 --> 00:41:30,680
Speaker 1: Yeah. So and then I'm a real nigga. You know

745
00:41:30,680 --> 00:41:32,040
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. I'm like, what do you like? You

746
00:41:32,200 --> 00:41:32,440
Speaker 1: like me?

747
00:41:33,040 --> 00:41:36,480
Speaker 2: Because I'm not what you're used to baby, you know,

748
00:41:36,719 --> 00:41:39,879
Speaker 2: like so I don't know, but not and that kind

749
00:41:39,880 --> 00:41:43,759
Speaker 2: of like.

750
00:41:41,320 --> 00:41:44,319
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, like what did he talk

751
00:41:44,360 --> 00:41:50,320
Speaker 1: like a white man? Was he like? Was he stuffy?

752
00:41:51,920 --> 00:41:54,919
Speaker 1: All right? So y'all, so there are I mean, maybe

753
00:41:54,960 --> 00:41:56,719
Speaker 1: we can go over like the a few types of

754
00:41:56,960 --> 00:42:02,840
Speaker 1: like self proclaimed good guy okay, types of people I

755
00:42:02,920 --> 00:42:07,400
Speaker 1: don't know, all right. So I think one of the

756
00:42:07,480 --> 00:42:10,720
Speaker 1: major things is like good guys they want like major

757
00:42:10,800 --> 00:42:19,319
Speaker 1: reward for minute small bullshit. Right, So just because you

758
00:42:19,440 --> 00:42:24,239
Speaker 1: open doors for people, you think I'm supposed to suck

759
00:42:24,280 --> 00:42:28,759
Speaker 1: you dick, right, you know what I'm saying. And They

760
00:42:28,840 --> 00:42:35,240
Speaker 1: kind of think that chivalry equals moral superiority, and it doesn't. Okay,

761
00:42:35,280 --> 00:42:37,880
Speaker 1: There's a whole lot of other things that goes into

762
00:42:37,960 --> 00:42:41,520
Speaker 1: actually being a good guy, good human. One of my

763
00:42:41,600 --> 00:42:46,720
Speaker 1: homegirls is married, and when she picked her current partner,

764
00:42:48,320 --> 00:42:52,520
Speaker 1: she said that she basically, you know, because of her

765
00:42:53,280 --> 00:42:57,960
Speaker 1: how terrible her her previous relationship was. She basically just

766
00:42:58,040 --> 00:43:00,680
Speaker 1: was looking for somebody who did not exempt by those

767
00:43:00,719 --> 00:43:03,839
Speaker 1: particular qualities. She find about all the other shit. And

768
00:43:03,880 --> 00:43:06,360
Speaker 1: I think that's why wating is so important, right because

769
00:43:06,360 --> 00:43:09,959
Speaker 1: you have you actually need like a collection. You need

770
00:43:10,000 --> 00:43:12,640
Speaker 1: to experience a few people to actually know that you

771
00:43:12,800 --> 00:43:15,160
Speaker 1: like and don't like in your boundaries, you know what

772
00:43:15,200 --> 00:43:17,759
Speaker 1: I'm saying, Because like say, for instance, like this guy

773
00:43:17,800 --> 00:43:21,479
Speaker 1: beats you, right, so you go get the next guy

774
00:43:21,520 --> 00:43:24,360
Speaker 1: who just doesn't beat you, but he still be crazy

775
00:43:24,400 --> 00:43:25,360
Speaker 1: and he don't work.

776
00:43:25,520 --> 00:43:26,000
Speaker 3: Or.

777
00:43:27,880 --> 00:43:29,480
Speaker 1: Or some shit like you know what I'm saying. So

778
00:43:29,520 --> 00:43:33,680
Speaker 1: it's it's always there's more. It's there's always different things.

779
00:43:34,000 --> 00:43:37,279
Speaker 1: It's more shit, okay. And in order for you to

780
00:43:37,320 --> 00:43:40,799
Speaker 1: know what your your likes or dislikes are, you kind

781
00:43:40,800 --> 00:43:43,279
Speaker 1: of got experience different people. You kind of have to

782
00:43:43,280 --> 00:43:44,880
Speaker 1: go through it to know you don't fuck with that,

783
00:43:45,120 --> 00:43:47,560
Speaker 1: or at least you know. I think I'm the time

784
00:43:47,600 --> 00:43:50,279
Speaker 1: that kind of can learn from other people's experiences, Like

785
00:43:50,480 --> 00:43:52,279
Speaker 1: I ain't fuck with that. So that's like one of

786
00:43:52,280 --> 00:43:57,759
Speaker 1: the things I put on my list. Yeah, like I'm

787
00:43:57,760 --> 00:44:00,480
Speaker 1: looking for a man that has this thing or does

788
00:44:00,560 --> 00:44:01,960
Speaker 1: not do this right.

789
00:44:02,320 --> 00:44:05,160
Speaker 2: So you kind of got What about the nice guy narcissist?

790
00:44:05,440 --> 00:44:10,239
Speaker 2: He uses nicest niceness as a pr campaign, melts down,

791
00:44:10,239 --> 00:44:13,360
Speaker 2: will reject it, and feels that women are unfair for

792
00:44:13,440 --> 00:44:15,560
Speaker 2: not choosing him. That's that guy from the show.

793
00:44:17,640 --> 00:44:23,040
Speaker 1: All day long. That so that is narcissistic behavior, like crying,

794
00:44:23,960 --> 00:44:27,919
Speaker 1: trying to manipulate her emotionally to get some couchie. It's

795
00:44:27,920 --> 00:44:30,759
Speaker 1: fucking crazy. But you better take this hand job of

796
00:44:30,880 --> 00:44:35,440
Speaker 1: these kisses and be done with it. I'm not gonna lie.

797
00:44:35,880 --> 00:44:39,120
Speaker 1: I I probably would have snatched him. You about to

798
00:44:39,160 --> 00:44:40,960
Speaker 1: get married, like I need to see what the dick

799
00:44:41,080 --> 00:44:44,640
Speaker 1: is like before we get married. Like I don't really

800
00:44:44,680 --> 00:44:46,680
Speaker 1: want to get married and then see what the dick

801
00:44:46,800 --> 00:44:48,799
Speaker 1: is like. That's why I don't agree with like people

802
00:44:48,920 --> 00:44:51,600
Speaker 1: not living together before like I even know how you went.

803
00:44:53,200 --> 00:44:53,759
Speaker 1: I need to know.

804
00:44:54,160 --> 00:44:55,560
Speaker 2: I probably wouldn't have fucked the master.

805
00:44:55,640 --> 00:45:01,759
Speaker 1: That yeah, that should open after after him crying that

806
00:45:02,040 --> 00:45:07,799
Speaker 1: it's overwet. You can't even stand the pressure of no kuchie, like,

807
00:45:07,840 --> 00:45:13,239
Speaker 1: what's going to happen right and you crying about some boosy. Yeah,

808
00:45:13,680 --> 00:45:16,080
Speaker 1: that ship is scared the funk out of me. They didn't.

809
00:45:16,120 --> 00:45:18,719
Speaker 2: They end up not getting married, but.

810
00:45:18,719 --> 00:45:19,439
Speaker 1: She really tried.

811
00:45:19,520 --> 00:45:21,960
Speaker 2: I felt bad because it seemed like she was trying

812
00:45:22,000 --> 00:45:23,839
Speaker 2: her based on what I saw. You know, I didn't

813
00:45:23,840 --> 00:45:26,520
Speaker 2: watch the show, but based on the clips I saw,

814
00:45:26,560 --> 00:45:28,880
Speaker 2: it seemed like she was just, you know, very open

815
00:45:28,920 --> 00:45:34,239
Speaker 2: minded and really wanted a husband because she was going

816
00:45:34,239 --> 00:45:36,520
Speaker 2: for the ship. That I would be like, nigga, is

817
00:45:36,560 --> 00:45:37,520
Speaker 2: you crying right now?

818
00:45:37,600 --> 00:45:43,040
Speaker 1: I know you fucking like you would popped him. I

819
00:45:43,080 --> 00:45:46,520
Speaker 1: would have popped him. This is why I always say adults,

820
00:45:46,800 --> 00:45:49,919
Speaker 1: you would not hitting that man because he needed it.

821
00:45:50,360 --> 00:45:53,160
Speaker 1: He needed to get a pop pop. I would giving

822
00:45:53,160 --> 00:45:58,440
Speaker 1: yourself to cry about, to ask exactly you want you

823
00:45:58,440 --> 00:46:01,120
Speaker 1: don't want this? That's how I would have done it

824
00:46:01,200 --> 00:46:03,600
Speaker 1: with my hand, just like you want this. I would

825
00:46:03,600 --> 00:46:07,040
Speaker 1: have got a belt. You cannot be getting no belt

826
00:46:07,080 --> 00:46:13,120
Speaker 1: and no grown man. If you don't stop on crying,

827
00:46:13,160 --> 00:46:16,880
Speaker 1: I'm gonna give you something to cry about. Yes, he

828
00:46:16,960 --> 00:46:20,799
Speaker 1: needed as ask what the martyr? Good guy? I treat

829
00:46:20,840 --> 00:46:24,480
Speaker 1: women right and still get hurt, always a victim in

830
00:46:24,560 --> 00:46:29,600
Speaker 1: every story, never accountable. Always it's a bunch of trauma. Right.

831
00:46:29,960 --> 00:46:33,160
Speaker 1: So I do know I have some guy friends who

832
00:46:33,160 --> 00:46:35,560
Speaker 1: I feel like like they all these stories that sound

833
00:46:35,640 --> 00:46:44,359
Speaker 1: like a scorn black woman. I do have some guy

834
00:46:44,440 --> 00:46:47,759
Speaker 1: friends like, like, God, you ain't have no good experiences women? Ever,

835
00:46:51,560 --> 00:46:58,879
Speaker 1: what are you? How are you doing your niggas broke picker. Yeah,

836
00:46:59,000 --> 00:47:02,000
Speaker 1: like so, I don't know. I need to see your

837
00:47:02,239 --> 00:47:03,759
Speaker 1: your first if you got kids, I need to talk

838
00:47:03,800 --> 00:47:06,200
Speaker 1: to your first being mama. And I need to talk

839
00:47:06,239 --> 00:47:09,600
Speaker 1: to your mama. Okay, I need to see how you

840
00:47:09,640 --> 00:47:12,480
Speaker 1: be treating your mama. If your mama tell me you good,

841
00:47:12,520 --> 00:47:13,359
Speaker 1: then you might be good.

842
00:47:14,320 --> 00:47:19,200
Speaker 2: I'm not like these other dudes. Guy, you are indeed

843
00:47:19,800 --> 00:47:24,200
Speaker 2: like these other niggas. You're just like them. Anytime somebody

844
00:47:24,239 --> 00:47:27,440
Speaker 2: say that they typically are one of them, niggas, just

845
00:47:27,480 --> 00:47:32,000
Speaker 2: like all the rest of them.

846
00:47:32,280 --> 00:47:34,800
Speaker 1: I mean, a god might say the same thing about

847
00:47:35,440 --> 00:47:37,560
Speaker 1: a woman. Because I like to think that I'm not

848
00:47:37,719 --> 00:47:38,800
Speaker 1: like all other women.

849
00:47:39,239 --> 00:47:41,520
Speaker 2: I like, I tell niggas, I'm just like the rest

850
00:47:41,520 --> 00:47:43,319
Speaker 2: of them. I want some money too. The fuck you're

851
00:47:43,320 --> 00:47:43,840
Speaker 2: talking about?

852
00:47:43,920 --> 00:47:48,480
Speaker 1: Like, no, no, that part. Yeah, Like I don't.

853
00:47:48,320 --> 00:47:50,000
Speaker 2: Think you could come over here and don't do nothing.

854
00:47:51,719 --> 00:47:55,480
Speaker 2: I just like these bitches, don't get it twisted. You're

855
00:47:55,480 --> 00:48:00,440
Speaker 2: gonna make you have to make me feel special, right,

856
00:48:01,040 --> 00:48:01,600
Speaker 2: So no.

857
00:48:07,560 --> 00:48:11,520
Speaker 1: Oil or okay? So why do self proclaim good guy?

858
00:48:11,640 --> 00:48:16,080
Speaker 1: Why are self proclaimed good guy so dangerous? I think

859
00:48:16,120 --> 00:48:19,280
Speaker 1: the self proclaimed good guy. Oh, I got another friend

860
00:48:19,640 --> 00:48:22,279
Speaker 1: who was dating a self proclaimed good guy. And this guy,

861
00:48:22,400 --> 00:48:25,239
Speaker 1: like everybody knew him in the city, you know what

862
00:48:25,280 --> 00:48:29,080
Speaker 1: I'm saying. Like he was actually a trainer, right, so

863
00:48:29,120 --> 00:48:30,960
Speaker 1: a lot of girlies was working out with him. He

864
00:48:31,000 --> 00:48:33,480
Speaker 1: started like with the outside workouts first and then he

865
00:48:33,719 --> 00:48:37,640
Speaker 1: eventually was in a gym working out highlow here in Charleston.

866
00:48:37,760 --> 00:48:42,920
Speaker 1: And he's been in jail right now since, Yeah, for

867
00:48:43,080 --> 00:48:48,920
Speaker 1: abusing my friends. Yes, and this imagine me right, you

868
00:48:49,000 --> 00:48:51,920
Speaker 1: know me right, So imagine you know the type of

869
00:48:51,920 --> 00:48:54,200
Speaker 1: shit I don't been through in relationships, But imagine me

870
00:48:54,360 --> 00:48:58,520
Speaker 1: right now with somebody who putting a hand on me. Yes,

871
00:48:58,719 --> 00:49:02,680
Speaker 1: he'd be like shocked. I was shocked that she was

872
00:49:02,760 --> 00:49:06,120
Speaker 1: experiencing that. And this is a self proclaimed good guy

873
00:49:06,160 --> 00:49:09,160
Speaker 1: when they first met. But how she explained it is that,

874
00:49:09,280 --> 00:49:15,080
Speaker 1: you know, his abuse started like small, gradually, like passionate

875
00:49:15,200 --> 00:49:18,000
Speaker 1: kissing while choking you in the wall, Right, I like them. Right.

876
00:49:18,040 --> 00:49:21,680
Speaker 1: You might think that's like you like it until it

877
00:49:21,719 --> 00:49:24,920
Speaker 1: comes with a punch next in the next couple of months, right,

878
00:49:24,960 --> 00:49:29,400
Speaker 1: So it just gradually escalates. They basically condition you for

879
00:49:29,480 --> 00:49:32,239
Speaker 1: the asshole. I like a little choke, but no ever

880
00:49:32,320 --> 00:49:37,480
Speaker 1: punch slowly happens. Yeah, I love a little choke. Okay,

881
00:49:37,640 --> 00:49:39,680
Speaker 1: I only like to get bullied in the bedroom. Now

882
00:49:40,200 --> 00:49:44,080
Speaker 1: you started bullying we in Walmart, in public, right in

883
00:49:44,120 --> 00:49:49,399
Speaker 1: the car. It's a problem, like we out at an

884
00:49:49,440 --> 00:49:52,200
Speaker 1: event or something like that, and you're trying to punk me.

885
00:49:52,600 --> 00:49:59,719
Speaker 1: Like I love a bedroom bully, but not nowhere else. Yes, yeah,

886
00:50:00,480 --> 00:50:05,719
Speaker 1: so yeah, he started off as a nice guy, nice kid.

887
00:50:05,760 --> 00:50:06,839
Speaker 1: You beat your ass up.

888
00:50:08,080 --> 00:50:10,680
Speaker 2: And then nobody know, the world's still out here thinking

889
00:50:10,680 --> 00:50:14,040
Speaker 2: he a nice guy. Meanwhile he's abusive.

890
00:50:16,840 --> 00:50:19,160
Speaker 1: Right, another one of my friends, I hope these bitches

891
00:50:19,160 --> 00:50:21,320
Speaker 1: don't listen. They're like this girl, nobody knows, y'all.

892
00:50:22,000 --> 00:50:28,279
Speaker 4: Like another one not like that, right, they know what

893
00:50:28,280 --> 00:50:28,880
Speaker 4: the hell I mean.

894
00:50:29,480 --> 00:50:34,719
Speaker 1: But another one of my friends, her her guy always

895
00:50:34,840 --> 00:50:39,719
Speaker 1: compares himself as a problem X because he knows the

896
00:50:39,800 --> 00:50:43,960
Speaker 1: treatment that she received from him. Right, So it's almost like,

897
00:50:44,080 --> 00:50:47,520
Speaker 1: while lisain doing this to you, like like you're like

898
00:50:47,640 --> 00:50:50,359
Speaker 1: basically like your baby daddy ain't a ship just a

899
00:50:50,360 --> 00:50:53,839
Speaker 1: little bit better, this much better than him, So need

900
00:50:53,920 --> 00:50:56,920
Speaker 1: to be grateful. That's type shit. And you know what

901
00:50:56,960 --> 00:50:59,920
Speaker 1: I told her. I said, bitch, you can do as

902
00:51:00,160 --> 00:51:00,600
Speaker 1: But that's.

903
00:51:00,440 --> 00:51:03,759
Speaker 2: Why I tell y'all, never tell the current nigga that

904
00:51:03,840 --> 00:51:10,120
Speaker 2: the last nigga treated you bad. Always, yeah, always, because

905
00:51:10,120 --> 00:51:12,120
Speaker 2: you gonna have you set in the standard for how

906
00:51:12,400 --> 00:51:15,280
Speaker 2: this nigga think you should be treated, honestly.

907
00:51:15,400 --> 00:51:21,279
Speaker 1: So, and it's I think it's it might just be subconscious.

908
00:51:21,320 --> 00:51:24,000
Speaker 1: I don't think that the next man intentionally does it,

909
00:51:24,680 --> 00:51:27,840
Speaker 1: but I do think it's like a subconscious thing where

910
00:51:27,880 --> 00:51:30,720
Speaker 1: she can take it. She don't been through the ship before.

911
00:51:31,160 --> 00:51:33,440
Speaker 1: And I know I'm an oversharer. We got a whole

912
00:51:33,480 --> 00:51:37,120
Speaker 1: podcast where we oversharing bullshit. So I know that I

913
00:51:37,160 --> 00:51:41,399
Speaker 1: have definitely spoken at nauseum with a new partner about

914
00:51:41,400 --> 00:51:43,520
Speaker 1: shit that I've been through with somebody else. And I

915
00:51:43,600 --> 00:51:47,440
Speaker 1: just feel like I want to be able to do that, right.

916
00:51:47,440 --> 00:51:49,200
Speaker 1: I don't want it held against me. I don't want

917
00:51:49,239 --> 00:51:52,879
Speaker 1: you to subconsciously be mistreating me because somebody else did it, right,

918
00:51:55,760 --> 00:51:58,080
Speaker 1: But you just you really just can't tell men everything

919
00:51:58,120 --> 00:52:00,560
Speaker 1: about you. That's just it. And if you're gonna tell

920
00:52:00,600 --> 00:52:04,880
Speaker 1: them anything, everything is positive. And your baby daddy's actually dead,

921
00:52:05,239 --> 00:52:11,680
Speaker 1: he does not live twenty No, don't say that a

922
00:52:11,840 --> 00:52:16,160
Speaker 1: one is better than a baby mama. And in these niggas, okay,

923
00:52:16,560 --> 00:52:19,040
Speaker 1: but then your kid got to seek like your kids

924
00:52:19,040 --> 00:52:23,239
Speaker 1: still gotta see his daddy, like her daddy. I'm saying,

925
00:52:23,760 --> 00:52:27,480
Speaker 1: if your kid ever sees the dad, why would you

926
00:52:27,600 --> 00:52:29,719
Speaker 1: say that I have a child for this man who

927
00:52:29,719 --> 00:52:31,640
Speaker 1: hasn't seen his son in five years? Why would you

928
00:52:31,640 --> 00:52:34,280
Speaker 1: tell a new man now his dad died.

929
00:52:35,040 --> 00:52:39,800
Speaker 2: Girl, y'all, y'all listen to if y'all want to, because

930
00:52:39,840 --> 00:52:42,439
Speaker 2: officially this nigga might come around. And then now your boy,

931
00:52:42,520 --> 00:52:45,160
Speaker 2: your husband, new husband or boyfriend gonna be like you

932
00:52:45,239 --> 00:52:46,400
Speaker 2: told me, he was dead.

933
00:52:49,120 --> 00:52:51,680
Speaker 1: By that time, his kid gonna have this man last

934
00:52:51,760 --> 00:52:57,759
Speaker 1: name who is that he faked his death, y'all go,

935
00:52:58,560 --> 00:52:59,040
Speaker 1: he faked.

936
00:52:59,400 --> 00:53:06,000
Speaker 2: Don't be telling these lies. First of all, you have

937
00:53:06,000 --> 00:53:08,680
Speaker 2: to come up with all kind of aside lines to

938
00:53:08,760 --> 00:53:09,680
Speaker 2: keep up with that shit.

939
00:53:10,200 --> 00:53:15,759
Speaker 1: No, don't do that. Yeah, like everything, you know, we

940
00:53:15,880 --> 00:53:18,400
Speaker 1: just didn't work out. He was a great guy, you know,

941
00:53:18,480 --> 00:53:20,560
Speaker 1: everything was good. It just didn't work out. This is

942
00:53:20,600 --> 00:53:23,440
Speaker 1: how you should actually tell the next or don't ever

943
00:53:23,520 --> 00:53:26,680
Speaker 1: tell somebody that you've just mistreated. I agree, made that

944
00:53:26,719 --> 00:53:32,960
Speaker 1: mistake for sure. Yeah. Entitlement disguise is kindness. They expect

945
00:53:33,360 --> 00:53:38,320
Speaker 1: return on emotional investment. Acts of service is super transactional.

946
00:53:38,440 --> 00:53:42,920
Speaker 1: So how does that work for Christmas? The good guys

947
00:53:42,960 --> 00:53:45,880
Speaker 1: probably expect you to spend the exact same amount of

948
00:53:45,920 --> 00:53:48,880
Speaker 1: money that he spent on you. At that point, we

949
00:53:48,960 --> 00:53:53,520
Speaker 1: might write our own fucking gifts. I agree.

950
00:53:54,160 --> 00:53:57,720
Speaker 2: I mean I do think, like I don't mind tricking

951
00:53:57,719 --> 00:54:00,279
Speaker 2: off all my guys, but I just want you to

952
00:54:00,320 --> 00:54:01,479
Speaker 2: trick bigger, that's all.

953
00:54:04,560 --> 00:54:07,719
Speaker 1: Damn. I know a lot of people in relationships will

954
00:54:07,760 --> 00:54:11,319
Speaker 1: have situations with nice guys. Like another one of my

955
00:54:11,400 --> 00:54:14,920
Speaker 1: friends had a baby with a very nice guy. The

956
00:54:14,960 --> 00:54:18,480
Speaker 1: whole community thinks he's a nice guy. But how he

957
00:54:18,560 --> 00:54:22,319
Speaker 1: mishandled her her pregnancy, all these things. He's not a

958
00:54:22,320 --> 00:54:28,680
Speaker 1: good person whatsoever. And everybody thinks he's a good guy.

959
00:54:29,120 --> 00:54:32,200
Speaker 1: You know what, I'm saying like you can't. You're not

960
00:54:32,200 --> 00:54:35,560
Speaker 1: gonna find only the people who have experienced him. I

961
00:54:35,600 --> 00:54:37,839
Speaker 1: think like maybe like his ex wife or something like that,

962
00:54:37,880 --> 00:54:43,320
Speaker 1: and then now my homegirl haven't had a child with him.

963
00:54:43,400 --> 00:54:45,560
Speaker 1: Those are probably the only people who have experienced him

964
00:54:45,600 --> 00:54:48,720
Speaker 1: in that way that will have a different story because

965
00:54:48,760 --> 00:54:53,360
Speaker 1: he's different people outside of relationships. He's different in a

966
00:54:53,400 --> 00:54:54,759
Speaker 1: public life.

967
00:54:54,520 --> 00:54:57,359
Speaker 2: Because many like you'll find like men who are like saying,

968
00:54:57,760 --> 00:55:02,520
Speaker 2: exceptional fathers, but just terrible partners. So they're like, oh,

969
00:55:02,520 --> 00:55:05,600
Speaker 2: he he's a good dad, he's a good guy, but

970
00:55:05,719 --> 00:55:08,400
Speaker 2: as a partner he's abusive.

971
00:55:09,280 --> 00:55:12,880
Speaker 1: You know, yeah, that's not a good guy. You know

972
00:55:12,920 --> 00:55:15,360
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. I think that we oftentimes give people

973
00:55:15,440 --> 00:55:19,920
Speaker 1: passes based on shit. Maybe you did experience worse than

974
00:55:19,920 --> 00:55:22,120
Speaker 1: in other relationships, so now this person getting the past

975
00:55:22,160 --> 00:55:25,920
Speaker 1: because he's tiny bit better. These are still none of

976
00:55:25,920 --> 00:55:29,560
Speaker 1: these people are good people. I just feel like, like

977
00:55:29,800 --> 00:55:32,960
Speaker 1: you really you treat people how you want to be treated.

978
00:55:33,000 --> 00:55:36,040
Speaker 1: That the ship that women allow men to do, men

979
00:55:36,160 --> 00:55:39,000
Speaker 1: will never allow it to happen to them. Your ass

980
00:55:39,000 --> 00:55:41,000
Speaker 1: would be ic the first time they say the ship,

981
00:55:41,040 --> 00:55:43,520
Speaker 1: they don't fucking like or you do some sideway shit,

982
00:55:43,600 --> 00:55:46,719
Speaker 1: you cheat on them. I don't know. Bitches be having men,

983
00:55:46,760 --> 00:55:47,640
Speaker 1: that's stealing from them.

984
00:55:48,239 --> 00:55:52,360
Speaker 2: Shit going on with your baby mama behind your bag and.

985
00:55:58,040 --> 00:56:00,399
Speaker 1: Right, yeah, you let you go on vacation with your

986
00:56:00,400 --> 00:56:05,400
Speaker 1: baby daddy. Nigga's not what.

987
00:56:04,120 --> 00:56:04,960
Speaker 2: What it's right?

988
00:56:05,160 --> 00:56:08,359
Speaker 1: That is unheard of. So why so now, that's how

989
00:56:08,360 --> 00:56:11,560
Speaker 1: you got to look at things right as a woman,

990
00:56:12,200 --> 00:56:14,640
Speaker 1: that's how you have to look at it. If if

991
00:56:14,680 --> 00:56:16,680
Speaker 1: this were you. I remember my ex, the one who

992
00:56:16,719 --> 00:56:20,480
Speaker 1: was in who did time, and he he had a

993
00:56:20,520 --> 00:56:24,120
Speaker 1: baby right out here, and I asked him. I was like,

994
00:56:24,200 --> 00:56:26,200
Speaker 1: so if I if I were to have a baby

995
00:56:27,840 --> 00:56:29,480
Speaker 1: and not with the guy, like, by the time you

996
00:56:29,520 --> 00:56:32,040
Speaker 1: come home, we're gonna so be together. That nigga straight

997
00:56:32,160 --> 00:56:34,800
Speaker 1: up told me no. Niggas said it was my choice

998
00:56:34,840 --> 00:56:41,000
Speaker 1: that I stayed with him. Absolutely right, You are absolutely right,

999
00:56:41,200 --> 00:56:44,680
Speaker 1: And from that point, the bitch got a ghost. I

1000
00:56:44,880 --> 00:56:48,239
Speaker 1: was intentionally looking for a new relationship because what it's

1001
00:56:48,280 --> 00:56:51,400
Speaker 1: the truth. Though, you know, you can't expect you exactly

1002
00:56:51,520 --> 00:56:54,360
Speaker 1: out of somebody else. Everybody ain't going for it, so

1003
00:56:54,400 --> 00:56:59,000
Speaker 1: why are you for it? That's why I heard it that.

1004
00:56:58,640 --> 00:57:00,720
Speaker 2: That's why I didn't take that ain't on the trip,

1005
00:57:01,440 --> 00:57:07,960
Speaker 2: but I was sad the whole trip. Oh goodness, all right,

1006
00:57:08,840 --> 00:57:11,399
Speaker 2: how do I identify a genuinely good man?

1007
00:57:12,600 --> 00:57:12,960
Speaker 1: All right?

1008
00:57:13,000 --> 00:57:18,560
Speaker 2: So actions not adjectives. He shows you his values consistently,

1009
00:57:18,880 --> 00:57:22,280
Speaker 2: not just says them, because niggas will like say I'm

1010
00:57:22,280 --> 00:57:24,160
Speaker 2: gonna do this, and I talk to the lady and

1011
00:57:24,480 --> 00:57:26,560
Speaker 2: I'm chad like, and they'll just talk your head off

1012
00:57:26,600 --> 00:57:28,440
Speaker 2: and say all the right things, but the action is

1013
00:57:28,680 --> 00:57:32,360
Speaker 2: never alie mm hm hm.

1014
00:57:33,240 --> 00:57:44,600
Speaker 1: Next one is accountability is sexy. He apologizes with specificity. Whatsficity?

1015
00:57:46,520 --> 00:57:51,000
Speaker 1: He apologizes with specificity and change. You know how I

1016
00:57:51,080 --> 00:57:54,440
Speaker 1: always be saying I'm not into holding other people accountable, right,

1017
00:57:54,520 --> 00:57:58,440
Speaker 1: everybody should hold themselves accountable. What I've realized lately is

1018
00:57:58,480 --> 00:58:04,360
Speaker 1: that people think accountability is you agreeing with them, and

1019
00:58:04,400 --> 00:58:08,840
Speaker 1: that's not what accountability is. Accountability is just literally having empathy,

1020
00:58:09,000 --> 00:58:12,640
Speaker 1: right and seeing that person's point of view. Just because

1021
00:58:13,920 --> 00:58:16,520
Speaker 1: I still disagree with you does not mean I'm not

1022
00:58:16,560 --> 00:58:18,680
Speaker 1: taking I agree there.

1023
00:58:18,760 --> 00:58:28,920
Speaker 2: But if that you are in fact wrong and you apologize.

1024
00:58:25,040 --> 00:58:29,200
Speaker 1: For, that's subjective. You see what I'm saying, Like, what

1025
00:58:29,240 --> 00:58:33,120
Speaker 1: if you feel wrong? That's subjective? So what you're apologizing

1026
00:58:33,160 --> 00:58:36,360
Speaker 1: for is maybe how that person felt in that moment.

1027
00:58:36,440 --> 00:58:39,560
Speaker 1: But is that a genuine apology? You know, I got

1028
00:58:39,600 --> 00:58:41,439
Speaker 1: a problem with those type of apologies, and I don't

1029
00:58:41,440 --> 00:58:46,120
Speaker 1: want those type apologies. You're like a nigga nobody ever got.

1030
00:58:46,400 --> 00:58:47,360
Speaker 1: I want. I want both.

1031
00:58:47,440 --> 00:58:50,080
Speaker 2: I want you to apologize to me and then change

1032
00:58:50,120 --> 00:58:53,480
Speaker 2: the behavior. You know, if you believe that what you

1033
00:58:53,560 --> 00:58:56,240
Speaker 2: did was wrong, Because if you don't, then don't just

1034
00:58:56,280 --> 00:58:58,440
Speaker 2: don't apologize all the hell. Don't tell me sorry for

1035
00:58:58,480 --> 00:58:59,280
Speaker 2: something that you don't.

1036
00:59:00,320 --> 00:59:03,760
Speaker 1: Yeah, because some people can say sorry so easily because

1037
00:59:03,760 --> 00:59:06,240
Speaker 1: they don't right though, they gonna do that same shit again.

1038
00:59:06,920 --> 00:59:09,720
Speaker 1: So if you can easily tell me sorry, and I

1039
00:59:09,760 --> 00:59:13,400
Speaker 1: know you gonna, I don't want to behavior some people

1040
00:59:13,400 --> 00:59:15,400
Speaker 1: be like this, mag gonna take you sorry every time

1041
00:59:15,440 --> 00:59:22,560
Speaker 1: you cheat? Sorry? How many times you're gonna bounce a pattern? Yeah,

1042
00:59:22,720 --> 00:59:24,800
Speaker 1: now it's a pattern, and this is just what you do.

1043
00:59:25,160 --> 00:59:29,920
Speaker 2: Boundaries respected without attitude. That's a huge one for me.

1044
00:59:30,000 --> 00:59:32,480
Speaker 2: I hate a nigga like, Damn, I'm gonna get to

1045
00:59:32,560 --> 00:59:37,520
Speaker 2: the flowers. Nobody wants a Damn I'm gonna get you

1046
00:59:37,560 --> 00:59:38,000
Speaker 2: the flowers.

1047
00:59:38,080 --> 00:59:42,920
Speaker 1: Ask nigga. Yeah, I'm not talking no more. If I

1048
00:59:42,960 --> 00:59:45,480
Speaker 1: get a response like that about anything I'm asking about,

1049
00:59:45,520 --> 00:59:48,560
Speaker 1: because when somebody asks me for something, I do it immediately.

1050
00:59:50,040 --> 00:59:52,160
Speaker 1: So if I if I got to ask a partner

1051
00:59:52,200 --> 00:59:54,200
Speaker 1: in more than one time and do some shit, that

1052
00:59:54,240 --> 00:59:56,439
Speaker 1: shit overweight because it's already hard for me to ask

1053
00:59:56,440 --> 00:59:59,360
Speaker 1: the motherfucker to do some shit. And if I actually

1054
00:59:59,480 --> 01:00:03,000
Speaker 1: must up the strength to ask you to do some shit,

1055
01:00:03,120 --> 01:00:09,080
Speaker 1: you acting like I'm annoying you. Guys, can't cut the fucking.

1056
01:00:09,840 --> 01:00:14,200
Speaker 2: What about integrity in the dark? Quiet character over loud

1057
01:00:14,240 --> 01:00:18,000
Speaker 2: claims same thing as like a nigga doing what he

1058
01:00:18,120 --> 01:00:21,440
Speaker 2: said he gonna do instead of just talking, you.

1059
01:00:21,400 --> 01:00:29,000
Speaker 1: Know, integrity in the dark. I don't get that one.

1060
01:00:28,680 --> 01:00:33,360
Speaker 2: Like he being the same person that he says out

1061
01:00:33,360 --> 01:00:37,320
Speaker 2: loud when nobody can see it.

1062
01:00:41,320 --> 01:00:49,520
Speaker 1: Uh, okay, yeah I get it now. No pr campaign,

1063
01:00:49,760 --> 01:00:53,880
Speaker 1: actual good dudes are usually too busy being decent to

1064
01:00:54,120 --> 01:00:58,920
Speaker 1: advertise it. That's facts. Okay.

1065
01:00:59,000 --> 01:01:01,520
Speaker 2: So that goes to Yeah, like when I see people

1066
01:01:01,520 --> 01:01:04,320
Speaker 2: doing a lot of chitable things, sometimes sometimes I be

1067
01:01:04,320 --> 01:01:09,920
Speaker 2: feeling like is it because you really like care about

1068
01:01:09,960 --> 01:01:13,520
Speaker 2: these things? Or sometimes it be feeling like.

1069
01:01:17,120 --> 01:01:23,360
Speaker 1: Yeah, pandering, attention seeking. M Yeah, it's a lot of characters,

1070
01:01:23,440 --> 01:01:26,480
Speaker 1: I mean, especially with Instagram and stuff like that. Those

1071
01:01:26,520 --> 01:01:30,160
Speaker 1: people's pages are geared towards that type of content. You

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01:01:30,240 --> 01:01:33,000
Speaker 1: gotta know it's not genuine like every day this is

1073
01:01:33,120 --> 01:01:35,720
Speaker 1: just that that's their niche, right, So if you got

1074
01:01:35,720 --> 01:01:39,400
Speaker 1: a man that's saying y'all, y'all, if they pander into women,

1075
01:01:39,480 --> 01:01:41,640
Speaker 1: like talking shit about other men, like that is their

1076
01:01:41,720 --> 01:01:44,120
Speaker 1: niche on that page. If it's a woman talking shit

1077
01:01:44,160 --> 01:01:48,040
Speaker 1: to other women, they're pandering to men. That's the niche.

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01:01:48,480 --> 01:01:51,560
Speaker 1: These motherfuckers is not living these lives. Okay. You know

1079
01:01:51,640 --> 01:01:53,520
Speaker 1: that one girl, I don't know her page. She talks

1080
01:01:53,600 --> 01:01:57,280
Speaker 1: really really hard though, brown skinned girl, and she'd be

1081
01:01:57,280 --> 01:02:00,320
Speaker 1: talking crazy to she'd be saying talking talk shit to

1082
01:02:00,360 --> 01:02:04,440
Speaker 1: women basically, and like I guess putting men on point

1083
01:02:04,840 --> 01:02:08,919
Speaker 1: about women. You know what I'm talking about. It's really

1084
01:02:08,920 --> 01:02:10,800
Speaker 1: weird because the niggas be in the comments like yes,

1085
01:02:10,920 --> 01:02:14,840
Speaker 1: sis tell him they just love and beating the woman up.

1086
01:02:15,440 --> 01:02:20,640
Speaker 1: They just love it. Really weird. I don't even know that,

1087
01:02:22,240 --> 01:02:25,000
Speaker 1: And I just feel like I just feel like men

1088
01:02:25,120 --> 01:02:27,880
Speaker 1: know the niggas be talking about like you know some

1089
01:02:27,960 --> 01:02:30,400
Speaker 1: of your homeboys is like this, Like one of my

1090
01:02:30,640 --> 01:02:33,600
Speaker 1: one of my good friends, his cousin fucked around and

1091
01:02:33,640 --> 01:02:37,840
Speaker 1: went to jail this past weekend on some DV shit, right,

1092
01:02:38,320 --> 01:02:40,800
Speaker 1: And I'm always like, I don't like none of his friends.

1093
01:02:41,720 --> 01:02:43,760
Speaker 1: I don't like none of your friends. I'll be telling

1094
01:02:43,840 --> 01:02:45,640
Speaker 1: him those are not your fucking friends. And when a

1095
01:02:45,680 --> 01:02:50,320
Speaker 1: woman tells you how, don't your friends believe them? Okay,

1096
01:02:50,760 --> 01:02:53,120
Speaker 1: we just have insight, Like I remember one of the

1097
01:02:53,200 --> 01:02:56,000
Speaker 1: niggas asked me essentially, let me not even go into

1098
01:02:56,040 --> 01:02:59,600
Speaker 1: that shit on here, but those are not his fucking friends.

1099
01:02:59,600 --> 01:03:02,560
Speaker 1: And this this, this guy, this cousin of his, I mean,

1100
01:03:02,560 --> 01:03:05,480
Speaker 1: that's his family, so he can't. But aside from the cousin,

1101
01:03:05,680 --> 01:03:09,880
Speaker 1: the other homeboys is whack as nitties too. I saw

1102
01:03:09,960 --> 01:03:11,880
Speaker 1: that shit coming from in all a way that he'd

1103
01:03:11,920 --> 01:03:15,560
Speaker 1: be and some DV shit at some point, I saw

1104
01:03:15,560 --> 01:03:18,080
Speaker 1: it a lot of the in cells and niggas who

1105
01:03:18,160 --> 01:03:22,480
Speaker 1: don't get the They be abusive, They be abusive, they

1106
01:03:22,520 --> 01:03:28,640
Speaker 1: be mad, they be angry, angry sort dangerous. Yeah, I mean,

1107
01:03:28,640 --> 01:03:30,600
Speaker 1: because I guess they got a butt lot of frustration.

1108
01:03:32,320 --> 01:03:35,280
Speaker 1: You know. Yeah, they need to release. But you better

1109
01:03:35,320 --> 01:03:37,520
Speaker 1: go pay for some coucie, get you a dollar or

1110
01:03:37,560 --> 01:03:38,120
Speaker 1: something like that.

1111
01:03:38,680 --> 01:03:41,400
Speaker 2: All Right, here's some tips to protect yourself against the

1112
01:03:42,240 --> 01:03:50,880
Speaker 2: self proclaimed good guy all right, believe behavior not branding, right,

1113
01:03:50,880 --> 01:03:55,720
Speaker 2: because niggas will appear to be the good guy present

1114
01:03:55,960 --> 01:03:56,840
Speaker 2: as the good guy.

1115
01:03:57,400 --> 01:04:02,080
Speaker 1: What is it though? Is it witchcraft? Is it witchcraft

1116
01:04:02,120 --> 01:04:04,320
Speaker 1: that a man can be telling us one thing and

1117
01:04:04,400 --> 01:04:07,440
Speaker 1: literally doing something else and we believe what he's saying.

1118
01:04:08,800 --> 01:04:15,360
Speaker 1: He didn't start especially or I think I'm just the

1119
01:04:15,360 --> 01:04:17,640
Speaker 1: benefit of a doubt queen, And I think I just

1120
01:04:17,760 --> 01:04:21,240
Speaker 1: understand humans so much. Just like how I fuck with

1121
01:04:21,240 --> 01:04:24,120
Speaker 1: people is I will see how you are and decide

1122
01:04:24,120 --> 01:04:25,520
Speaker 1: if that's what I want to fuck with or not.

1123
01:04:26,000 --> 01:04:29,880
Speaker 1: So if you liar, a cheater, a thief or whatever,

1124
01:04:30,080 --> 01:04:33,280
Speaker 1: I for what a reason, I do things to me

1125
01:04:33,520 --> 01:04:37,120
Speaker 1: at some point, so I just then that's where that

1126
01:04:37,160 --> 01:04:38,880
Speaker 1: person is. As long as I know who you are,

1127
01:04:38,960 --> 01:04:40,520
Speaker 1: I could fuck with you. It's when you start doing

1128
01:04:40,520 --> 01:04:43,800
Speaker 1: the shit to me. I got a problem with it, okay,

1129
01:04:44,320 --> 01:04:46,960
Speaker 1: But I got a high tolerance for bullshit too. Like

1130
01:04:47,040 --> 01:04:49,240
Speaker 1: I'll just let shit go on and fester until I

1131
01:04:49,320 --> 01:04:50,880
Speaker 1: just wake up one day and be like, I'm not

1132
01:04:50,960 --> 01:04:53,440
Speaker 1: fucking with it. Funk around your some shrooms and do

1133
01:04:53,560 --> 01:04:56,120
Speaker 1: some introspective work over the weekend.

1134
01:04:56,000 --> 01:05:00,760
Speaker 2: Is over, I'll be letting the fun outweigh like be like, oh,

1135
01:05:00,800 --> 01:05:03,200
Speaker 2: I having so much fun, you know, I really I'm

1136
01:05:03,280 --> 01:05:06,320
Speaker 2: enjoying this nigga so much that I be ignoring the

1137
01:05:06,400 --> 01:05:12,440
Speaker 2: red flag until until I wake up one day and

1138
01:05:12,480 --> 01:05:14,840
Speaker 2: I'll be a cold, like straight cold on the nigga

1139
01:05:14,880 --> 01:05:17,120
Speaker 2: and they like don't even see it coming, because I'll

1140
01:05:17,160 --> 01:05:21,040
Speaker 2: go from sweetest pie to how do you?

1141
01:05:21,320 --> 01:05:22,000
Speaker 1: I blocked you?

1142
01:05:22,040 --> 01:05:23,840
Speaker 2: Why are you calling me from your mama's phone?

1143
01:05:24,280 --> 01:05:31,160
Speaker 1: Like right, I don't get this one. Don't confuse consistency

1144
01:05:31,600 --> 01:05:38,760
Speaker 1: with convenience. So someone being consistent, I'm trying to see

1145
01:05:38,760 --> 01:05:39,400
Speaker 1: the correlation.

1146
01:05:40,640 --> 01:05:46,960
Speaker 2: Oh, Like, basically you might see him, he's always around,

1147
01:05:47,240 --> 01:05:51,240
Speaker 2: he's making himself available, but only because it's convenient. It's

1148
01:05:51,360 --> 01:05:55,600
Speaker 2: not it is consistent, but only because you are of

1149
01:05:55,720 --> 01:05:58,920
Speaker 2: convenience to him. So you have to make sure like

1150
01:05:58,960 --> 01:06:02,600
Speaker 2: this person is being consistent because they are being intentional

1151
01:06:03,200 --> 01:06:07,720
Speaker 2: or because it's easy.

1152
01:06:07,200 --> 01:06:10,080
Speaker 1: As you're making it. Okay, So I have another friend

1153
01:06:13,320 --> 01:06:15,560
Speaker 1: somebody to woul be family. I just keep saying friend,

1154
01:06:16,080 --> 01:06:18,480
Speaker 1: But I'm like, dog, these niggas only coming through because

1155
01:06:18,480 --> 01:06:21,240
Speaker 1: you got you got free pussy over there. If you

1156
01:06:21,600 --> 01:06:25,520
Speaker 1: was charging over there, then niggas ain't coming through, so

1157
01:06:25,120 --> 01:06:27,600
Speaker 1: put a price tag on it. If you already fucking

1158
01:06:27,840 --> 01:06:31,040
Speaker 1: ain't you like sex that much, just put a price

1159
01:06:31,080 --> 01:06:32,439
Speaker 1: on it. See if you can get a one foote.

1160
01:06:32,520 --> 01:06:36,000
Speaker 1: Remember that that challenge online. Remember that challenge online. They

1161
01:06:36,080 --> 01:06:38,000
Speaker 1: was challenging bitches to call the man that they having

1162
01:06:38,000 --> 01:06:40,000
Speaker 1: sex with and see if you'll buy them a winter

1163
01:06:40,080 --> 01:06:41,040
Speaker 1: coat and niggas.

1164
01:06:41,120 --> 01:06:43,800
Speaker 2: But you having sex with him? Man gonna freeze.

1165
01:06:46,040 --> 01:06:51,040
Speaker 1: Mm for the free Okay, you're giving that. I guess

1166
01:06:51,040 --> 01:06:56,280
Speaker 1: good box handed it out. Girl through the web and

1167
01:07:02,960 --> 01:07:04,880
Speaker 1: your i'm cad is listen here and that take me

1168
01:07:04,920 --> 01:07:07,040
Speaker 1: through there? Because I am not with a nigga taking

1169
01:07:07,040 --> 01:07:07,560
Speaker 1: me through shit.

1170
01:07:07,640 --> 01:07:10,120
Speaker 2: I think it's just sexually take me through there. I

1171
01:07:10,120 --> 01:07:11,440
Speaker 2: thought that's what that man nothing.

1172
01:07:14,200 --> 01:07:16,360
Speaker 1: But that's see. The sex is how you get wrapped

1173
01:07:16,440 --> 01:07:18,960
Speaker 1: up in going through ship. The sex is how it

1174
01:07:19,040 --> 01:07:21,160
Speaker 1: fucking how you just randomly just.

1175
01:07:21,200 --> 01:07:23,680
Speaker 2: That's how you end up in New Orleans with a

1176
01:07:23,760 --> 01:07:26,040
Speaker 2: nigga local cigarette.

1177
01:07:29,880 --> 01:07:32,600
Speaker 1: Oh tweet ass smoking cigarette?

1178
01:07:32,720 --> 01:07:42,400
Speaker 2: Hair'll our hair stank. It. Don't owe a man of

1179
01:07:42,480 --> 01:07:47,560
Speaker 2: relationship because he's not terrible? What what this nigga said?

1180
01:07:47,680 --> 01:07:50,280
Speaker 2: A piece of man is better than no man at all.

1181
01:07:51,320 --> 01:07:56,920
Speaker 1: That's a lie because he's not terrible. I don't know,

1182
01:07:56,960 --> 01:07:59,600
Speaker 1: because that's that sounds like settling, right, Like he's just

1183
01:07:59,680 --> 01:08:02,439
Speaker 1: better than the last You really don't like him like that,

1184
01:08:03,760 --> 01:08:06,360
Speaker 1: you're still settling. I think women sat in a settle often.

1185
01:08:06,800 --> 01:08:10,800
Speaker 1: That's another episode I've been wanting to do versus.

1186
01:08:11,360 --> 01:08:14,440
Speaker 2: But you know, like so, I think you do have

1187
01:08:14,480 --> 01:08:18,040
Speaker 2: to compromise some things. Nobody's gonna come perfect, right, you

1188
01:08:18,120 --> 01:08:20,320
Speaker 2: just gotta figure out what that's a good topic we

1189
01:08:20,360 --> 01:08:22,280
Speaker 2: can talk about that, you know.

1190
01:08:24,040 --> 01:08:31,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, if he repeats I'm a good guy, ask that's

1191
01:08:31,439 --> 01:08:34,840
Speaker 1: a good one because you know, the relationships I've been in,

1192
01:08:34,960 --> 01:08:38,439
Speaker 1: I realized when the nigga really like this is me

1193
01:08:38,560 --> 01:08:41,200
Speaker 1: figuratively putting my coat on and putting my shoes on

1194
01:08:41,280 --> 01:08:42,840
Speaker 1: and getting the fuck up out of there. Once they

1195
01:08:42,920 --> 01:08:46,080
Speaker 1: realize like I'm really readying to end the relationship, they

1196
01:08:46,080 --> 01:08:48,840
Speaker 1: start being good guys. I mean, I'm getting all all

1197
01:08:48,880 --> 01:08:52,160
Speaker 1: you can, all you want, head, all the shit is

1198
01:08:52,240 --> 01:08:55,000
Speaker 1: going on, right, But I'm like, you're changing not for me,

1199
01:08:55,479 --> 01:08:57,960
Speaker 1: You're changing for the next woman. You know.

1200
01:08:58,080 --> 01:09:01,080
Speaker 2: That's a good one because I remember this was years ago.

1201
01:09:02,520 --> 01:09:04,960
Speaker 2: I was dealing with this guy. I was like crazy

1202
01:09:05,000 --> 01:09:06,800
Speaker 2: about him. I was like, he's such a good guy.

1203
01:09:06,840 --> 01:09:10,440
Speaker 2: He's so good to his mother. He's such a good grandson.

1204
01:09:10,520 --> 01:09:13,120
Speaker 2: He goes and does all this thing, and he's a

1205
01:09:13,160 --> 01:09:16,080
Speaker 2: good dad. He's such a good guy. But he was

1206
01:09:16,120 --> 01:09:18,479
Speaker 2: good to all those people, but he wasn't good to me.

1207
01:09:18,800 --> 01:09:20,760
Speaker 2: You know, he was like I just saw how he

1208
01:09:20,840 --> 01:09:23,599
Speaker 2: treated all the people he loved in his life. I mean,

1209
01:09:23,600 --> 01:09:25,360
Speaker 2: he wasn't bad. I won't make it seem like he

1210
01:09:25,479 --> 01:09:28,320
Speaker 2: was bad to me because he was good financially to me.

1211
01:09:28,680 --> 01:09:35,240
Speaker 1: But that was it. I know a guy who is

1212
01:09:35,280 --> 01:09:38,559
Speaker 1: community dick. And when I tell you, like girl, he's

1213
01:09:38,600 --> 01:09:41,680
Speaker 1: opening the door for everybody. He's painting all the checks

1214
01:09:42,000 --> 01:09:45,400
Speaker 1: like he's but he's not committing. He's gonna try to

1215
01:09:45,400 --> 01:09:49,639
Speaker 1: smash it all. Also, he is not committing, but.

1216
01:09:50,280 --> 01:09:52,960
Speaker 2: He honest, because if he's honest, he is.

1217
01:09:55,040 --> 01:09:59,120
Speaker 1: So one day we had this conversation. Right, because his

1218
01:09:59,320 --> 01:10:02,439
Speaker 1: dad has been married a lot of times. His daddy

1219
01:10:02,479 --> 01:10:05,400
Speaker 1: never married his mom though, Right, his dad has been

1220
01:10:05,439 --> 01:10:10,679
Speaker 1: married to four different women, never actually married his mom. Right,

1221
01:10:10,920 --> 01:10:15,120
Speaker 1: So his dad is also a womanizer. So you get married,

1222
01:10:15,120 --> 01:10:17,439
Speaker 1: but you also cheat on every wife you have, right,

1223
01:10:18,280 --> 01:10:21,080
Speaker 1: I think in his mind if he never commits and

1224
01:10:21,120 --> 01:10:24,040
Speaker 1: if he's one hundred percent honest with women, right, he

1225
01:10:24,080 --> 01:10:26,200
Speaker 1: doesn't ever want to get married. He said he doesn't

1226
01:10:26,240 --> 01:10:28,519
Speaker 1: want any kids, but he gonna fuck the shit out

1227
01:10:28,520 --> 01:10:32,639
Speaker 1: there raw. Okay, he thinks he's better than his dad.

1228
01:10:34,160 --> 01:10:36,719
Speaker 1: I believe subconscious he never said that, but I think

1229
01:10:36,800 --> 01:10:39,840
Speaker 1: subconsciously he thinks he's better than his dad because he's

1230
01:10:39,880 --> 01:10:45,400
Speaker 1: not getting into relationships with women. But sex is a relationship, ah,

1231
01:10:45,720 --> 01:10:48,000
Speaker 1: especially having sex without a condom.

1232
01:10:48,479 --> 01:10:50,479
Speaker 2: Why do you want to have fuck people raw and

1233
01:10:50,560 --> 01:10:53,000
Speaker 2: don't want no relationship with them? It's crazy.

1234
01:10:55,479 --> 01:10:58,320
Speaker 1: And because that's how women go crazy? Right, women ain't

1235
01:10:58,360 --> 01:11:00,880
Speaker 1: really studying the condem dick. You don't agree with that

1236
01:11:00,960 --> 01:11:04,000
Speaker 1: because you we used condoms all the time. But listen,

1237
01:11:05,360 --> 01:11:09,719
Speaker 1: no harm, no foul, some rubber between us. It didn't happen. Actually,

1238
01:11:10,040 --> 01:11:12,320
Speaker 1: I like I just sleep better at night with rubber.

1239
01:11:13,880 --> 01:11:16,599
Speaker 1: So y'all you know how you avoid the self proclaimed

1240
01:11:17,120 --> 01:11:22,439
Speaker 1: good guy, good man? It all starts with you, actually, right,

1241
01:11:23,040 --> 01:11:29,280
Speaker 1: self awareness? Okay, know your boundaries, stick to them, trust

1242
01:11:29,280 --> 01:11:33,519
Speaker 1: your intuition. Right, it will throw intuition at the window.

1243
01:11:34,280 --> 01:11:37,639
Speaker 1: Have your ass confused. You know what time it is?

1244
01:11:37,720 --> 01:11:40,439
Speaker 1: If you got a little ich about a nigga, you're

1245
01:11:40,600 --> 01:11:42,160
Speaker 1: probably onto something.

1246
01:11:42,080 --> 01:11:45,360
Speaker 2: And use condos. I'm gonna advocate for that every time

1247
01:11:47,960 --> 01:11:52,559
Speaker 2: because you you, I don't be telling people not to, yeah,

1248
01:11:52,960 --> 01:11:53,760
Speaker 2: but not no more.

1249
01:11:53,840 --> 01:11:59,559
Speaker 1: You don't tell them not to. But I be talking

1250
01:11:59,560 --> 01:12:01,120
Speaker 1: about my like, why don't talk about yours?

1251
01:12:01,120 --> 01:12:07,720
Speaker 5: You might not be as lucky because you're living no

1252
01:12:08,520 --> 01:12:11,200
Speaker 5: like I've been outside like that. Now I'm just saying like,

1253
01:12:11,720 --> 01:12:15,840
Speaker 5: usually those are people I end up in relationships with oftimes.

1254
01:12:16,040 --> 01:12:19,280
Speaker 1: That's why the relationship starts. Because if you smash me raw,

1255
01:12:20,240 --> 01:12:23,080
Speaker 1: you mind? What are we talking about? Y'all been looking

1256
01:12:23,120 --> 01:12:28,080
Speaker 1: at me? I'm dead at all you you mind? So fasically,

1257
01:12:28,160 --> 01:12:30,120
Speaker 1: what you're trying to say is out that smash community

1258
01:12:30,200 --> 01:12:30,639
Speaker 1: d raw.

1259
01:12:31,360 --> 01:12:35,559
Speaker 2: I ain't saying you smash community d raw. But you

1260
01:12:36,000 --> 01:12:50,240
Speaker 2: have had some niggas that were your nigga. Okay, but.

1261
01:12:52,040 --> 01:12:54,000
Speaker 1: I had a nigga wind but my nigga in a

1262
01:12:54,000 --> 01:12:58,400
Speaker 1: long time talking a lot of my twenties. Bitch, that

1263
01:12:58,400 --> 01:13:04,040
Speaker 1: shouldn't even count. First, they don't count. Who else, Chelsea Booze,

1264
01:13:05,880 --> 01:13:08,519
Speaker 1: that was my fucking nigga. He just didn't want to.

1265
01:13:12,560 --> 01:13:16,160
Speaker 1: That type of ship don't count like situationships. Of course

1266
01:13:16,160 --> 01:13:19,479
Speaker 1: you smash and raw situations. That's how your ass got

1267
01:13:19,479 --> 01:13:23,440
Speaker 1: into that situation. That is how you got in a situationship.

1268
01:13:23,479 --> 01:13:26,400
Speaker 1: Shit got lies, got blurred when you let him hit

1269
01:13:26,400 --> 01:13:30,679
Speaker 1: that pussy raw. Okay, And he's he in his nasty

1270
01:13:30,720 --> 01:13:35,400
Speaker 1: ass mind. He's not in a relationship, right, But like

1271
01:13:35,479 --> 01:13:38,360
Speaker 1: I said, you hit this kouchie raw? You my boyfriend?

1272
01:13:38,439 --> 01:13:41,759
Speaker 1: What were we talking about? We actually married per the Bible.

1273
01:13:42,920 --> 01:13:45,400
Speaker 1: Let's go head out, let's get go on here out

1274
01:13:54,680 --> 01:13:58,760
Speaker 1: all right, y'all, maya minda mind okay, And.

1275
01:13:58,920 --> 01:14:00,800
Speaker 2: When a guy tells you he he's a nice guy,

1276
01:14:01,800 --> 01:14:02,560
Speaker 2: keep your eyes on.

1277
01:14:03,600 --> 01:14:07,519
Speaker 1: Watch that nigga. Yeah, I'm just a nice guy. Okay.

1278
01:14:08,560 --> 01:14:11,040
Speaker 1: Put him on that rewards program. Remember we we came

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