1 00:00:15,880 --> 00:00:18,840 Speaker 1: Yes, Yes, I am Dramas and this is the Street 2 00:00:19,040 --> 00:00:22,520 Speaker 1: Stoic Podcast, bring to your daily dose of timeless stoic 3 00:00:22,600 --> 00:00:27,160 Speaker 1: philosophy remix for the hip hop generation. Now, with that 4 00:00:27,200 --> 00:00:30,160 Speaker 1: in mind, let's get things started with your daily shot 5 00:00:30,320 --> 00:00:40,200 Speaker 1: of inspiration. Now today we are going to be focusing 6 00:00:40,280 --> 00:00:46,239 Speaker 1: all around the stoic idea of practicing resilience when faced 7 00:00:46,240 --> 00:00:51,920 Speaker 1: with obstacles, failure, or tragedy. And immediately what came to 8 00:00:51,960 --> 00:00:54,920 Speaker 1: my mind as I was thinking about today's show was 9 00:00:54,960 --> 00:00:57,160 Speaker 1: the book by Jeez that he had just put out 10 00:00:57,160 --> 00:01:01,840 Speaker 1: recently called Adversity for Sale. And Gezi had been on 11 00:01:01,920 --> 00:01:03,960 Speaker 1: you know, press run doing interviews and things like that, 12 00:01:04,000 --> 00:01:07,200 Speaker 1: and I'd caught the Breakfast Club interview that he had 13 00:01:07,240 --> 00:01:09,800 Speaker 1: done in promotion for the book, and one of the 14 00:01:09,800 --> 00:01:12,160 Speaker 1: things that stood out to me was was him kind 15 00:01:12,200 --> 00:01:15,720 Speaker 1: of discussing the idea of adversity and why he wrote 16 00:01:15,720 --> 00:01:18,920 Speaker 1: a book about it, and on the Breakfast Club he said, quote, 17 00:01:19,160 --> 00:01:21,840 Speaker 1: Losing taught me so much. Every time I lost, I 18 00:01:21,880 --> 00:01:24,800 Speaker 1: ask myself what did I learn? I would sit and 19 00:01:24,840 --> 00:01:27,440 Speaker 1: break down how I was learning, And every time I 20 00:01:27,520 --> 00:01:32,600 Speaker 1: realized it was basically through all my losses. And I 21 00:01:32,640 --> 00:01:37,639 Speaker 1: think this is obviously nothing profound in terms of stuff 22 00:01:37,640 --> 00:01:41,280 Speaker 1: we've never heard before, but I think it's important to 23 00:01:41,360 --> 00:01:44,440 Speaker 1: kind of keep reiterating it and sort of keep ingraining 24 00:01:44,440 --> 00:01:48,440 Speaker 1: it in our minds because it is such a truth, right, 25 00:01:48,440 --> 00:01:50,880 Speaker 1: and such an essential part of our growth. I mean, 26 00:01:51,000 --> 00:01:53,240 Speaker 1: at the end of the day, growth it comes from 27 00:01:53,320 --> 00:01:58,200 Speaker 1: trial and error because it allows you to just take 28 00:01:58,640 --> 00:02:01,120 Speaker 1: a step back and see how much you don't know, right, 29 00:02:01,320 --> 00:02:05,200 Speaker 1: And if you allow yourself, you know, to sit back 30 00:02:05,240 --> 00:02:08,400 Speaker 1: and see failure as an opportunity to get better those 31 00:02:08,520 --> 00:02:12,880 Speaker 1: mistakes that you've made, they will inevitably become your greatest teachers. 32 00:02:13,400 --> 00:02:16,519 Speaker 1: And this leads directly into one of the quotes from 33 00:02:16,639 --> 00:02:19,800 Speaker 1: one of the stoics, Epictetus, and he says the true 34 00:02:19,880 --> 00:02:25,120 Speaker 1: man is revealed in difficult times. And I think for 35 00:02:25,160 --> 00:02:28,400 Speaker 1: this he's saying, it's like, what type of person will 36 00:02:28,440 --> 00:02:30,919 Speaker 1: you be when you're staring at an l right, when 37 00:02:30,919 --> 00:02:33,680 Speaker 1: you're staring face to face with a loss, a mistake, 38 00:02:33,840 --> 00:02:36,720 Speaker 1: or even just face to face with a difficult decision, 39 00:02:36,880 --> 00:02:39,959 Speaker 1: will you gladly take it on, knowing that it's only 40 00:02:39,960 --> 00:02:42,040 Speaker 1: going to make you better, or will you hide, you know, 41 00:02:42,120 --> 00:02:45,000 Speaker 1: inside of your bubble doing what's comfortable or even worse, 42 00:02:45,480 --> 00:02:48,320 Speaker 1: just sort of using this moment as another excuse to 43 00:02:48,440 --> 00:02:51,160 Speaker 1: blame someone else for how your life is going, right, 44 00:02:51,840 --> 00:02:54,880 Speaker 1: like it's the idea. Of of course, none of us 45 00:02:55,000 --> 00:02:58,560 Speaker 1: want to have a loss, none of us want our 46 00:02:58,600 --> 00:03:00,960 Speaker 1: ideas to not pan out as we would have hoped. 47 00:03:01,000 --> 00:03:03,799 Speaker 1: Of course, we wish everything would be going according to plan, 48 00:03:03,880 --> 00:03:06,120 Speaker 1: but that's just not how life works out right. And 49 00:03:06,360 --> 00:03:10,360 Speaker 1: I mean, honestly, I relate to this on such a 50 00:03:10,400 --> 00:03:12,160 Speaker 1: deep level, Like I feel like I could have written 51 00:03:12,160 --> 00:03:15,920 Speaker 1: the book on adversity, right, because that's been the entirety 52 00:03:15,960 --> 00:03:18,080 Speaker 1: of my career for the most part, right, And a 53 00:03:18,080 --> 00:03:20,200 Speaker 1: lot of things that were promised and ever came to fruition, 54 00:03:20,560 --> 00:03:22,560 Speaker 1: a lot of things that I planned and put my 55 00:03:22,639 --> 00:03:24,320 Speaker 1: heart into and thought they were going to work out 56 00:03:24,320 --> 00:03:27,440 Speaker 1: in a particular way, only for them to go completely left, 57 00:03:27,520 --> 00:03:31,400 Speaker 1: right and along the way. Of course, I'm upset, I 58 00:03:31,440 --> 00:03:34,920 Speaker 1: am depressed at times, I am licking my wounds. But 59 00:03:35,040 --> 00:03:38,520 Speaker 1: I always would refer back to those moments and try 60 00:03:38,520 --> 00:03:41,160 Speaker 1: and find the lesson in them. What is the silver lining? 61 00:03:41,200 --> 00:03:43,480 Speaker 1: You know? When I now am getting ready to embark 62 00:03:43,520 --> 00:03:46,680 Speaker 1: on a new project, I can look back out all 63 00:03:46,720 --> 00:03:49,960 Speaker 1: of those losses that I had, and those things allow 64 00:03:50,040 --> 00:03:52,120 Speaker 1: me to sort of build a blueprint of what I 65 00:03:52,160 --> 00:03:54,880 Speaker 1: don't want to do. Right. Those losses, they taught me 66 00:03:55,000 --> 00:03:57,520 Speaker 1: more about myself, right. They taught me more about my 67 00:03:57,560 --> 00:04:00,360 Speaker 1: own personal strengths and then my weakness is right. And 68 00:04:00,400 --> 00:04:02,400 Speaker 1: they taught me what are the things I actually enjoy 69 00:04:02,520 --> 00:04:05,360 Speaker 1: doing and what are the things that I absolutely hate 70 00:04:05,360 --> 00:04:07,400 Speaker 1: doing that just don't come naturally to me? Right. And 71 00:04:07,680 --> 00:04:10,480 Speaker 1: even in those examples, like I'm at a point now 72 00:04:10,600 --> 00:04:13,160 Speaker 1: in my life where i have, you know, multiple things 73 00:04:13,240 --> 00:04:15,560 Speaker 1: kind of going on, multiple businesses that I'm running, and 74 00:04:15,640 --> 00:04:18,719 Speaker 1: I've now embraced the idea of having a business partner. 75 00:04:19,200 --> 00:04:22,600 Speaker 1: And the beauty of that is I can now look 76 00:04:22,640 --> 00:04:24,680 Speaker 1: back on all the times that I try to do 77 00:04:24,760 --> 00:04:26,920 Speaker 1: it by myself, be it, you know, because I was 78 00:04:26,960 --> 00:04:29,160 Speaker 1: being hard headed or just because I had nobody else 79 00:04:29,160 --> 00:04:31,680 Speaker 1: to lean on. All of that taught me a lesson 80 00:04:31,760 --> 00:04:33,960 Speaker 1: to now know what is the type of person that 81 00:04:34,040 --> 00:04:36,240 Speaker 1: I need to sort of have on my team that 82 00:04:36,279 --> 00:04:39,360 Speaker 1: will then allow me to elevate to my best self. Right, 83 00:04:39,560 --> 00:04:41,720 Speaker 1: And those lessons taught me these are things that I 84 00:04:41,760 --> 00:04:44,200 Speaker 1: am not great at, These are things that don't come 85 00:04:44,279 --> 00:04:46,760 Speaker 1: naturally to me, these are the aspects of running a 86 00:04:46,800 --> 00:04:51,160 Speaker 1: business that I absolutely despise. So now I have all 87 00:04:51,240 --> 00:04:54,120 Speaker 1: of that identified. The goal then is take all that 88 00:04:54,160 --> 00:04:56,000 Speaker 1: off my plate. So now I know what to look 89 00:04:56,040 --> 00:04:59,560 Speaker 1: for in a potential business partner, somebody who actually enjoys 90 00:04:59,680 --> 00:05:02,680 Speaker 1: and is naturally gifted and good and skilled at doing 91 00:05:02,720 --> 00:05:04,960 Speaker 1: all of those different things. But I wouldn't know that 92 00:05:05,040 --> 00:05:07,560 Speaker 1: about myself unless I hadn't gone through all of the 93 00:05:07,680 --> 00:05:10,159 Speaker 1: ups and downs and all the failures along the way. 94 00:05:10,520 --> 00:05:12,480 Speaker 1: Now we have heard from of course, Jez you we've 95 00:05:12,480 --> 00:05:14,479 Speaker 1: heard from Epicitet. It's one of the stokes I've given 96 00:05:14,520 --> 00:05:17,480 Speaker 1: you some insight into my own life on this topic 97 00:05:17,640 --> 00:05:22,839 Speaker 1: of practicing a resilience and more specifically allowing yourself to 98 00:05:23,400 --> 00:05:26,000 Speaker 1: learn from your mistakes and the adversity that's happened in 99 00:05:26,040 --> 00:05:28,760 Speaker 1: your life. Now let's talk about how you can make 100 00:05:28,800 --> 00:05:31,760 Speaker 1: it your mantra for today. But first's take a quick 101 00:05:31,760 --> 00:05:42,240 Speaker 1: break and then we'll be right back. All right, So 102 00:05:42,800 --> 00:05:45,880 Speaker 1: we've talked a lot about adversity today, right, and of 103 00:05:45,960 --> 00:05:47,680 Speaker 1: course we're doing it through the lens of the stoic 104 00:05:47,760 --> 00:05:52,840 Speaker 1: idea of practicing resilience, you know, through obstacles, failure, and tragedy, 105 00:05:53,240 --> 00:05:57,280 Speaker 1: and Jez literally wrote a book on adversity, right, Adversity 106 00:05:57,320 --> 00:06:01,120 Speaker 1: for Sale, and talking all about how those losses ended 107 00:06:01,200 --> 00:06:04,239 Speaker 1: up being his greatest lessons, you know. And of course 108 00:06:04,279 --> 00:06:07,039 Speaker 1: epicitetis and the stoics talk about, you know, just sort 109 00:06:07,040 --> 00:06:10,200 Speaker 1: of embracing anything that happens. And I think that's something 110 00:06:10,279 --> 00:06:12,280 Speaker 1: I've adapted into my life and it's allowed me to 111 00:06:12,520 --> 00:06:14,760 Speaker 1: be where I am today. Now let's talk about how 112 00:06:14,760 --> 00:06:17,000 Speaker 1: you can make it your mantra for today. Now, I 113 00:06:17,040 --> 00:06:20,880 Speaker 1: think you know, first and foremost, as with anything, it 114 00:06:20,920 --> 00:06:24,240 Speaker 1: all starts with your mindset, right, the intention that you 115 00:06:24,320 --> 00:06:26,719 Speaker 1: set out for yourself. And you have to ask yourself 116 00:06:26,760 --> 00:06:30,000 Speaker 1: a very important question, Right, you have to ask yourself 117 00:06:30,480 --> 00:06:33,839 Speaker 1: what type of person do you want to be? Right? 118 00:06:33,880 --> 00:06:35,800 Speaker 1: Do you want to be the type of person who 119 00:06:35,839 --> 00:06:39,960 Speaker 1: sees the opportunity in everything, even some of the dark moments, 120 00:06:40,560 --> 00:06:43,479 Speaker 1: or are you trying to be or accepting, you know, 121 00:06:43,520 --> 00:06:47,080 Speaker 1: to be or embracing being the type of person who 122 00:06:47,200 --> 00:06:49,760 Speaker 1: just accepts failure, right, who says, oh, that's just how 123 00:06:49,800 --> 00:06:52,600 Speaker 1: life is, and chooses not to actually have any real 124 00:06:52,640 --> 00:06:55,680 Speaker 1: reflection or or chooses not to learn a lesson from it. Right, 125 00:06:56,360 --> 00:06:58,320 Speaker 1: You have to determine what type of person you want 126 00:06:58,360 --> 00:07:01,400 Speaker 1: to be. And I think anybody listen to this type 127 00:07:01,400 --> 00:07:04,080 Speaker 1: of podcast is trying to better themselves. So we probably 128 00:07:04,120 --> 00:07:07,080 Speaker 1: all are falling on the side of wanting to see 129 00:07:07,120 --> 00:07:10,520 Speaker 1: the opportunity in everything, right, And I think once you 130 00:07:10,640 --> 00:07:13,880 Speaker 1: begin to sort of open your mind to understanding that 131 00:07:14,160 --> 00:07:18,640 Speaker 1: in loss, in failure, in tragedy, there is an opportunity somewhere, 132 00:07:18,680 --> 00:07:21,840 Speaker 1: whether it's a lesson, whether it's you know, showing you 133 00:07:21,880 --> 00:07:24,520 Speaker 1: a different vantage point, there is something to be learned. 134 00:07:24,520 --> 00:07:27,360 Speaker 1: There is something that can provide you with growth, you know, 135 00:07:27,640 --> 00:07:30,679 Speaker 1: out of whatever negative moment you're going through right now, right. 136 00:07:30,720 --> 00:07:33,480 Speaker 1: And once you tell your mind that and train it 137 00:07:33,520 --> 00:07:35,920 Speaker 1: to look for those things, it's going to make those 138 00:07:35,960 --> 00:07:37,920 Speaker 1: moments far easier to get through, and you're going to 139 00:07:37,960 --> 00:07:41,480 Speaker 1: get back on your feet far quicker and far easier. Right. 140 00:07:42,000 --> 00:07:44,280 Speaker 1: So to recap all we talked about today, you have 141 00:07:44,640 --> 00:07:50,240 Speaker 1: Jez talking about his his greatest lessons, right, the moments 142 00:07:50,240 --> 00:07:54,080 Speaker 1: that he realized he was learning those moments all came 143 00:07:54,440 --> 00:07:58,640 Speaker 1: from his losses. Right. The losses were the greatest teacher 144 00:07:58,920 --> 00:08:01,560 Speaker 1: that allowed him to become who he is today. And 145 00:08:01,600 --> 00:08:04,200 Speaker 1: we hear from epititis, one of the stoics talking about 146 00:08:04,240 --> 00:08:06,880 Speaker 1: how the true man is revealed in difficult times. Right, 147 00:08:07,520 --> 00:08:10,480 Speaker 1: when something difficult happens, it shows you what kind of 148 00:08:10,520 --> 00:08:12,600 Speaker 1: person you are, right, And if you're gonna be the 149 00:08:12,640 --> 00:08:16,280 Speaker 1: type of person who decides to find the opportunity or 150 00:08:16,320 --> 00:08:19,240 Speaker 1: the lesson in whatever difficult situation you find yourself in, 151 00:08:19,600 --> 00:08:21,400 Speaker 1: or you're gonna be the type of person who passes 152 00:08:21,440 --> 00:08:23,240 Speaker 1: the blame on someone else or just sticks to what 153 00:08:23,280 --> 00:08:27,760 Speaker 1: makes you comfortable. Right. But that is the idea of life, right, 154 00:08:27,800 --> 00:08:31,040 Speaker 1: It's how you choose to react to difficult moments. It's 155 00:08:31,080 --> 00:08:33,920 Speaker 1: you practicing that resilience that we're talking about. And in 156 00:08:33,960 --> 00:08:37,040 Speaker 1: my story, right, literally my entire career has been based 157 00:08:37,040 --> 00:08:39,880 Speaker 1: off of the idea of just bouncing back from adversity 158 00:08:39,920 --> 00:08:44,960 Speaker 1: after adversity. And it's now become a point where I 159 00:08:45,080 --> 00:08:48,000 Speaker 1: literally will have a negative moment, I'll have a failure, 160 00:08:48,160 --> 00:08:50,840 Speaker 1: and I can just tell myself, Okay, this is a 161 00:08:51,000 --> 00:08:53,559 Speaker 1: gonna be leading towards something else, and be what can 162 00:08:53,600 --> 00:08:55,559 Speaker 1: I learn from this situation that I can apply to 163 00:08:55,600 --> 00:08:59,080 Speaker 1: the next one, Right, And that's what I can hope 164 00:08:59,080 --> 00:09:01,480 Speaker 1: for anybody listening to this. The goal would be to 165 00:09:01,559 --> 00:09:04,400 Speaker 1: create that mindset ingrain it into your brain so deeply 166 00:09:04,440 --> 00:09:07,080 Speaker 1: that every time you have a loss, or a hard moment, 167 00:09:07,160 --> 00:09:10,840 Speaker 1: or suffer some sort of tragedy, your mind instinctively goes to, 168 00:09:11,280 --> 00:09:14,000 Speaker 1: what can I learn from this moment that can be 169 00:09:14,040 --> 00:09:17,000 Speaker 1: applied to my life to make me better. Now, with 170 00:09:17,120 --> 00:09:18,959 Speaker 1: that said, thank you so much for checking out the 171 00:09:18,960 --> 00:09:22,080 Speaker 1: Street Stoic podcast. Do your best to apply these concepts 172 00:09:22,080 --> 00:09:24,280 Speaker 1: that we discussed into your everyday life, and I will 173 00:09:24,360 --> 00:09:31,640 Speaker 1: catch you next time. 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