1 00:00:02,600 --> 00:00:06,399 Speaker 1: Hello, Chip, Hello, well, welcome back to Nashville. 2 00:00:06,880 --> 00:00:08,000 Speaker 2: Thank you. 3 00:00:07,880 --> 00:00:09,360 Speaker 1: Do you want to tell the listeners where you were 4 00:00:09,400 --> 00:00:09,840 Speaker 1: this weekend? 5 00:00:11,000 --> 00:00:16,320 Speaker 2: I was in Key West. I don't just go right 6 00:00:16,320 --> 00:00:18,560 Speaker 2: ahead and let y'all know I was Max and a relaxing. 7 00:00:18,600 --> 00:00:21,239 Speaker 2: Actually there was very little relaxing going on. 8 00:00:21,280 --> 00:00:23,920 Speaker 1: I was chilling out, max and relaxed. Wait, how does 9 00:00:23,920 --> 00:00:26,880 Speaker 1: it go? Chilling out Max and relaxing? Not cool? Shooting 10 00:00:26,920 --> 00:00:29,800 Speaker 1: some beoble outside of school? Name that tune? 11 00:00:29,920 --> 00:00:31,960 Speaker 2: I don't know that one. It sounds like it's like 12 00:00:32,000 --> 00:00:35,040 Speaker 2: a something from a new edition or something. 13 00:00:35,520 --> 00:00:39,320 Speaker 1: It's the fresh Prince bel Air very game song. Okay, 14 00:00:39,360 --> 00:00:43,919 Speaker 1: go ahead. I talked at REESI all of what basically 15 00:00:43,960 --> 00:00:44,800 Speaker 1: you were in Key West? 16 00:00:44,880 --> 00:00:46,640 Speaker 2: I was in Key West, and I said I was 17 00:00:46,680 --> 00:00:49,879 Speaker 2: max and relaxing, but I really was not relaxing. I 18 00:00:49,920 --> 00:00:52,160 Speaker 2: was down there for a songwriter festival with the band 19 00:00:52,240 --> 00:00:55,440 Speaker 2: Lula and hit a bunch of stuff and running around 20 00:00:55,440 --> 00:00:57,080 Speaker 2: and lots of people to hang out with and all 21 00:00:57,120 --> 00:00:59,000 Speaker 2: of the things. And we did a lot of karaoke, 22 00:00:59,080 --> 00:01:03,120 Speaker 2: which is always on the docket when you're in Key West. 23 00:01:03,400 --> 00:01:04,720 Speaker 1: What's your song? 24 00:01:05,040 --> 00:01:06,920 Speaker 2: Oh my god? There were so many a couple of 25 00:01:06,959 --> 00:01:08,720 Speaker 2: years ago. I was down there with Ellen. We found 26 00:01:08,720 --> 00:01:11,160 Speaker 2: this like it was a former stroke club because you 27 00:01:11,200 --> 00:01:12,960 Speaker 2: can tell by the way the stage is designed. There's 28 00:01:12,959 --> 00:01:15,520 Speaker 2: like there's a ledge around the stage and they've got 29 00:01:15,600 --> 00:01:18,560 Speaker 2: chairs up against it, you know, and no other karaoke 30 00:01:18,680 --> 00:01:21,319 Speaker 2: place has that. Yeah, and it's like in the back 31 00:01:21,400 --> 00:01:23,920 Speaker 2: room of another bar. We found it. It was like 32 00:01:24,040 --> 00:01:26,760 Speaker 2: dead and so we just like took over the place 33 00:01:26,840 --> 00:01:28,839 Speaker 2: the first night, and then we went back the next place, 34 00:01:28,880 --> 00:01:30,840 Speaker 2: and like word had gotten out and just got bigger 35 00:01:30,840 --> 00:01:33,240 Speaker 2: and bigger every night. So I took the Bandludua of 36 00:01:33,240 --> 00:01:34,600 Speaker 2: this year, and I was like, this is the place. 37 00:01:34,640 --> 00:01:36,560 Speaker 2: And on Thursday night it was the same sort of thing. 38 00:01:36,560 --> 00:01:39,240 Speaker 2: It was kind of dead, and then sorry not I 39 00:01:39,280 --> 00:01:41,320 Speaker 2: wasn't there Thursday night. Friday night it was kind of dead, 40 00:01:41,360 --> 00:01:45,360 Speaker 2: and then Saturday it was packed again. But the DJ newest, 41 00:01:45,400 --> 00:01:47,120 Speaker 2: so like we got would get priority and we got 42 00:01:47,160 --> 00:01:49,200 Speaker 2: to sing a lot, but we did don't dream it's over. 43 00:01:49,960 --> 00:01:54,240 Speaker 2: I did what's up buy four non buns? You know. 44 00:01:54,280 --> 00:01:56,280 Speaker 2: The thing is like there were a lot of good 45 00:01:56,320 --> 00:01:59,680 Speaker 2: singers in town, so you would, you know, my go 46 00:01:59,760 --> 00:02:01,960 Speaker 2: to his friends in love places, but someone had already 47 00:02:01,960 --> 00:02:03,000 Speaker 2: signed up for it. So it's. 48 00:02:04,880 --> 00:02:06,720 Speaker 1: That's such a that's a good karaoke one. 49 00:02:06,800 --> 00:02:09,240 Speaker 2: That's a really good one because the whole room joins in. 50 00:02:09,400 --> 00:02:11,960 Speaker 2: So I got some new ideas. 51 00:02:11,600 --> 00:02:13,560 Speaker 1: Foray some. 52 00:02:16,400 --> 00:02:18,480 Speaker 2: That's like someone did Addicted to Love by. 53 00:02:18,440 --> 00:02:20,200 Speaker 1: Robert Oh, that's a good one. 54 00:02:20,360 --> 00:02:21,480 Speaker 2: That's a really good carry. 55 00:02:22,120 --> 00:02:25,040 Speaker 1: And the words are not like super close together fast 56 00:02:25,280 --> 00:02:27,799 Speaker 1: like those are always the really hard ones. I've got 57 00:02:27,800 --> 00:02:29,320 Speaker 1: to say. The last time that I was at a 58 00:02:29,400 --> 00:02:32,520 Speaker 1: karaoke bar with you, I said to one of our friends, like, 59 00:02:32,639 --> 00:02:35,040 Speaker 1: I feel like this is where ship really lives out 60 00:02:35,040 --> 00:02:35,919 Speaker 1: his theater degree. 61 00:02:36,639 --> 00:02:39,360 Speaker 2: I mean, I also like was thinking about you know, 62 00:02:39,440 --> 00:02:41,400 Speaker 2: whenever I travel, the first thing I do is look 63 00:02:41,440 --> 00:02:43,120 Speaker 2: at properly, you know, I get on Zilla to be 64 00:02:43,160 --> 00:02:44,919 Speaker 2: like what's for sale? How much the shit costs here? 65 00:02:45,320 --> 00:02:45,840 Speaker 1: Uh huh? 66 00:02:45,919 --> 00:02:48,640 Speaker 2: I Q West is not cheap, but you know you 67 00:02:48,680 --> 00:02:50,760 Speaker 2: fantasize about like where you might live later in life. 68 00:02:50,800 --> 00:02:53,280 Speaker 2: And I was like, maybe move here in open karaoke bar, 69 00:02:53,639 --> 00:02:57,120 Speaker 2: like just it's like by the water and there you go, 70 00:02:57,280 --> 00:03:01,080 Speaker 2: or just work at that one. Yeah, so interesting. 71 00:03:01,320 --> 00:03:05,320 Speaker 1: Always well you seem like you're halfway here, halfway asleep, 72 00:03:05,440 --> 00:03:06,240 Speaker 1: or somewhere else. 73 00:03:06,080 --> 00:03:10,679 Speaker 2: In Yeah, I'm a little foggy, but I'm here. 74 00:03:10,840 --> 00:03:13,400 Speaker 1: Yeah, well we'll see how this convo goes. Is because 75 00:03:13,520 --> 00:03:15,600 Speaker 1: I have been running on fumes. Work has been so 76 00:03:15,760 --> 00:03:18,520 Speaker 1: busy lately, and I feel like every time I say that, 77 00:03:18,560 --> 00:03:21,160 Speaker 1: I'm like, don't jinx yourself. You know, that's the like 78 00:03:21,200 --> 00:03:24,560 Speaker 1: the life of a freelancer, is it? When it's coming in, 79 00:03:24,639 --> 00:03:26,280 Speaker 1: you just want to say yes to everything, and then 80 00:03:26,320 --> 00:03:28,480 Speaker 1: you're you get in and you're like, oh my god, 81 00:03:28,520 --> 00:03:31,080 Speaker 1: I can't even breathe. There's so much going on. But 82 00:03:31,120 --> 00:03:33,960 Speaker 1: I'm really grateful. But it's been really fun. But yeah, 83 00:03:34,160 --> 00:03:37,240 Speaker 1: just kind of running on fumes, which kind of leads 84 00:03:37,280 --> 00:03:40,880 Speaker 1: into our topic, which is really interesting because had we 85 00:03:40,960 --> 00:03:43,760 Speaker 1: not come up with talking about this, or have been 86 00:03:43,800 --> 00:03:46,160 Speaker 1: faced with talking about this, I think that I would 87 00:03:46,640 --> 00:03:49,760 Speaker 1: probably fall susceptible to doing all of the things that 88 00:03:49,800 --> 00:03:52,960 Speaker 1: are anti this at this moment because I am so busy, 89 00:03:52,960 --> 00:03:54,640 Speaker 1: and I think you're kind of the same way, just 90 00:03:54,720 --> 00:03:58,040 Speaker 1: travel and all the things. And so we were going 91 00:03:58,080 --> 00:04:00,760 Speaker 1: to talk about tourist energy, which is is what if 92 00:04:00,800 --> 00:04:02,880 Speaker 1: you guys listen to the podcast on Wednesday with Marv 93 00:04:03,120 --> 00:04:05,720 Speaker 1: This is the month of Taurists. I'm a tourist rising, 94 00:04:05,840 --> 00:04:08,280 Speaker 1: so I feel it even bigger and I'm like happy 95 00:04:08,280 --> 00:04:11,960 Speaker 1: about it. But Taurus is this very grounded energy, and 96 00:04:12,000 --> 00:04:17,880 Speaker 1: it's like all about comfort and pleasure and sensuality and 97 00:04:18,560 --> 00:04:21,520 Speaker 1: enjoying the nicer or finer things in life, whatever that 98 00:04:21,560 --> 00:04:23,839 Speaker 1: means to you, Like it doesn't have to be actually 99 00:04:23,880 --> 00:04:26,919 Speaker 1: that you're some billionaire that gets to go do all 100 00:04:27,000 --> 00:04:32,200 Speaker 1: these like lavish, luxurious things. It's whatever luxury feels like 101 00:04:32,279 --> 00:04:36,400 Speaker 1: to you. And that's what the energy is this month. 102 00:04:36,480 --> 00:04:38,680 Speaker 1: And we're really supposed to lean into that, which means 103 00:04:38,880 --> 00:04:43,080 Speaker 1: slowing down a little bit, which is very much. 104 00:04:42,960 --> 00:04:45,000 Speaker 2: Like this summer. Not easy to do. 105 00:04:45,480 --> 00:04:47,599 Speaker 1: Yeah, no, it's not easy to do this time of year. 106 00:04:47,640 --> 00:04:49,880 Speaker 1: But it's also just if you have kids, this is 107 00:04:49,960 --> 00:04:53,080 Speaker 1: always a hectic time of year, you know, the wrap 108 00:04:53,160 --> 00:04:57,080 Speaker 1: up of schools. So it's really interesting that the universe 109 00:04:57,400 --> 00:05:00,599 Speaker 1: plants this at this time of year. Really kind of 110 00:05:00,640 --> 00:05:04,960 Speaker 1: invites us to just try to enjoy life and really 111 00:05:05,040 --> 00:05:09,680 Speaker 1: like receive almost like look at the beautiful things around us, 112 00:05:09,960 --> 00:05:13,400 Speaker 1: look at what makes us happy, find the pleasure, and 113 00:05:13,640 --> 00:05:17,479 Speaker 1: just lean in. And you know, we were talking about this. 114 00:05:17,520 --> 00:05:19,080 Speaker 1: I was telling you what I talked about with Marv 115 00:05:19,120 --> 00:05:21,640 Speaker 1: and just sort of what the energy is inviting, and 116 00:05:21,680 --> 00:05:22,359 Speaker 1: we were both. 117 00:05:22,200 --> 00:05:26,159 Speaker 2: Like, ooh, I think the universe forgot about me this month. 118 00:05:26,400 --> 00:05:28,920 Speaker 1: Well, I don't know if the universe forgot. I think 119 00:05:29,040 --> 00:05:32,600 Speaker 1: I forgot. Like it's more like your choice to either 120 00:05:33,279 --> 00:05:36,520 Speaker 1: embrace the energy or fight it. And you had such 121 00:05:36,520 --> 00:05:39,479 Speaker 1: an interesting point about what happens when you fight it though, 122 00:05:39,520 --> 00:05:41,600 Speaker 1: And so since we know this is what the universe 123 00:05:42,080 --> 00:05:44,120 Speaker 1: is inviting us to do, I thought that was a 124 00:05:44,120 --> 00:05:47,479 Speaker 1: really good place to start. If you've had experiences, have 125 00:05:47,560 --> 00:05:50,720 Speaker 1: you had experiences where you really try to avoid what 126 00:05:50,760 --> 00:05:53,440 Speaker 1: you're being told to do as far like energetically from 127 00:05:53,440 --> 00:05:57,080 Speaker 1: the universe, I mean, I mean my whole life basically, yeah, everything. 128 00:05:57,200 --> 00:05:59,440 Speaker 2: I mean it's also fun, like this is a time 129 00:05:59,520 --> 00:06:02,440 Speaker 2: too where like you know, spring has sprung, Like you 130 00:06:02,520 --> 00:06:04,800 Speaker 2: want to be out and about and getting cocktails with 131 00:06:04,839 --> 00:06:07,479 Speaker 2: your friends and you don't want to slow down. It's 132 00:06:07,520 --> 00:06:09,839 Speaker 2: like the wind has broken. You want to be out 133 00:06:09,880 --> 00:06:12,599 Speaker 2: of your house. You're doing things. But it is a 134 00:06:12,640 --> 00:06:15,480 Speaker 2: self sort of fulfilling prophecy. The more you ignore it, 135 00:06:15,800 --> 00:06:19,320 Speaker 2: the more tired you get, the more overwhelmed you become. 136 00:06:19,839 --> 00:06:24,120 Speaker 2: And you know, health is wealth, and if you ignore it, 137 00:06:24,200 --> 00:06:26,080 Speaker 2: that's when you end up sick. At the beginning of 138 00:06:26,080 --> 00:06:31,320 Speaker 2: the summer, you're overwhelmed, you are in bad moods, you're 139 00:06:31,360 --> 00:06:35,000 Speaker 2: just completely burnt out. And you know, with the summer 140 00:06:35,040 --> 00:06:38,520 Speaker 2: approaching too. I don't know that this is necessarily the 141 00:06:38,560 --> 00:06:42,320 Speaker 2: case for everyone, but in our business, the summer touring 142 00:06:42,400 --> 00:06:44,719 Speaker 2: thing picks up, which becomes hectic because it kind of 143 00:06:44,720 --> 00:06:49,200 Speaker 2: sucks away your weekends. But people kind of dissipate a 144 00:06:49,240 --> 00:06:51,839 Speaker 2: little bit in our business too, and it's harder to 145 00:06:51,880 --> 00:06:54,000 Speaker 2: reach them and they're doing you know, they're at their 146 00:06:54,040 --> 00:06:55,279 Speaker 2: beach houses or whatever. 147 00:06:55,800 --> 00:06:59,360 Speaker 1: So I feel like, I problem. I know they're at 148 00:06:59,360 --> 00:06:59,960 Speaker 1: their beach house. 149 00:07:00,040 --> 00:07:04,159 Speaker 2: The beach houses. Yeah, I mean, that's not everyone in 150 00:07:04,200 --> 00:07:05,120 Speaker 2: our business. 151 00:07:04,760 --> 00:07:06,000 Speaker 1: But it's not us. 152 00:07:06,160 --> 00:07:10,400 Speaker 2: It's not me. I'll be right here going to Wave Country. 153 00:07:10,640 --> 00:07:14,480 Speaker 1: The people you need answers from are at their beaches. 154 00:07:14,160 --> 00:07:16,320 Speaker 2: And so it just seems like, you know, summer Fridays 155 00:07:16,360 --> 00:07:19,280 Speaker 2: come about, so it's like there is there's like this 156 00:07:19,480 --> 00:07:24,000 Speaker 2: weird relaxation slash you know, hecticness that bumps up against 157 00:07:24,080 --> 00:07:26,480 Speaker 2: each other. So I guess maybe you know, for me 158 00:07:26,880 --> 00:07:29,040 Speaker 2: in our business, like I can look at this like 159 00:07:29,160 --> 00:07:31,800 Speaker 2: lead up when everyone's here, is that okay? Relax for 160 00:07:31,840 --> 00:07:33,080 Speaker 2: a minute so that you have the. 161 00:07:33,680 --> 00:07:36,920 Speaker 1: Interesting you're saying through. All of our listeners obviously come 162 00:07:36,960 --> 00:07:39,360 Speaker 1: from different walks of life, and so I'm sure everyone 163 00:07:39,440 --> 00:07:43,560 Speaker 1: has their version of right summer craziness. Like, again, we're 164 00:07:43,560 --> 00:07:46,840 Speaker 1: not parents, but if you have kids, sometimes summer can 165 00:07:46,880 --> 00:07:50,280 Speaker 1: be more stressful than when they're in school, depending on 166 00:07:50,600 --> 00:07:54,680 Speaker 1: you know, whatever your kid's energy or if you have 167 00:07:54,760 --> 00:07:56,960 Speaker 1: work to get done or whatever. Because it's like they're 168 00:07:57,000 --> 00:07:58,080 Speaker 1: not in school. 169 00:07:58,080 --> 00:08:00,040 Speaker 2: It's almost like someone to watch them. 170 00:08:00,560 --> 00:08:04,600 Speaker 1: Right, So if you are a working parent, that could 171 00:08:04,640 --> 00:08:06,120 Speaker 1: be tricky, like what do you do with your kids 172 00:08:06,120 --> 00:08:08,240 Speaker 1: all summer? And then also they're off more, you have 173 00:08:08,280 --> 00:08:10,440 Speaker 1: to keep them entertained. Like there's just all these different 174 00:08:10,480 --> 00:08:14,840 Speaker 1: factors for summer. But speaking of the energy right now, 175 00:08:14,960 --> 00:08:18,680 Speaker 1: I do feel like what you said about if you 176 00:08:18,760 --> 00:08:22,040 Speaker 1: fight it, it can really like come back to bite 177 00:08:22,040 --> 00:08:24,040 Speaker 1: you in the ass kind of thing. And that's typically 178 00:08:24,080 --> 00:08:27,000 Speaker 1: how I've lived my entire life, like I will go go, go, 179 00:08:27,000 --> 00:08:29,720 Speaker 1: go go until I get sick and then I still 180 00:08:29,760 --> 00:08:31,920 Speaker 1: have to stop. Or I go go, go, go go 181 00:08:32,000 --> 00:08:34,120 Speaker 1: until I hit such burnout that I want to stop. 182 00:08:34,200 --> 00:08:37,240 Speaker 1: You know, It's like I don't necessarily have the best 183 00:08:37,320 --> 00:08:41,200 Speaker 1: on an off switch, and my body is also one 184 00:08:41,240 --> 00:08:43,839 Speaker 1: that's like pretty sensitive because I'm absorbing so much energy 185 00:08:43,880 --> 00:08:46,559 Speaker 1: all the time. And so it's just like this battle 186 00:08:46,640 --> 00:08:49,720 Speaker 1: I've been in my whole entire life, and I really 187 00:08:50,120 --> 00:08:53,800 Speaker 1: am trying to be intentional to do better at balance. 188 00:08:54,400 --> 00:08:57,760 Speaker 1: So I was grateful for this reminder of Taurus season 189 00:08:58,360 --> 00:09:01,600 Speaker 1: and just the energy that Taurus is and knowing specifically 190 00:09:01,600 --> 00:09:03,720 Speaker 1: that I'm a tourist rising, so I'm supposed to lean 191 00:09:03,720 --> 00:09:06,480 Speaker 1: into that even more so than others as like my 192 00:09:06,600 --> 00:09:09,160 Speaker 1: growth pattern goes. And that's so that's what I'm doing, 193 00:09:09,200 --> 00:09:11,679 Speaker 1: Like I'm thinking through right now. Okay, you're so busy 194 00:09:11,720 --> 00:09:14,640 Speaker 1: with work. So then on the flip side, like not 195 00:09:14,880 --> 00:09:17,480 Speaker 1: letting myself only work, which would be really easy for 196 00:09:17,520 --> 00:09:20,360 Speaker 1: me to do right now, just to work, work, work, work, work, 197 00:09:20,360 --> 00:09:22,760 Speaker 1: and work until like wake up, work, go until I 198 00:09:22,840 --> 00:09:25,000 Speaker 1: go to sleep, work, you know. And I know where 199 00:09:25,040 --> 00:09:27,000 Speaker 1: that's led me in the past, and so I'm really 200 00:09:27,040 --> 00:09:30,200 Speaker 1: trying not to do that while still doing well at 201 00:09:30,280 --> 00:09:34,360 Speaker 1: my job, making my clients happy and taking care of myself. 202 00:09:34,400 --> 00:09:36,199 Speaker 1: It's like, you know, such a balancing as. 203 00:09:36,360 --> 00:09:37,600 Speaker 2: Just a few jobs right there. 204 00:09:37,840 --> 00:09:40,560 Speaker 1: Yeah, So is there a part of tourist energy that 205 00:09:40,600 --> 00:09:43,320 Speaker 1: you feel like you naturally vibe with. Are you like 206 00:09:43,400 --> 00:09:45,320 Speaker 1: me where it's more of a battle. 207 00:09:45,760 --> 00:09:48,360 Speaker 2: It's definitely more of a battle for me because when 208 00:09:48,400 --> 00:09:52,360 Speaker 2: I rest, I feel lazy. Rest is so important for 209 00:09:52,480 --> 00:09:55,880 Speaker 2: a million reasons. But you're much better at your job 210 00:09:55,920 --> 00:09:59,280 Speaker 2: if you've got a clear head. You know, you appreciate 211 00:09:59,280 --> 00:10:01,520 Speaker 2: your time, your friend and the people around you if 212 00:10:01,559 --> 00:10:03,760 Speaker 2: you miss them a little bit too. So spending time 213 00:10:03,800 --> 00:10:06,360 Speaker 2: with yourself is really important. And in the same way 214 00:10:06,360 --> 00:10:08,160 Speaker 2: that you know you miss your friends if you're not 215 00:10:08,200 --> 00:10:10,280 Speaker 2: seeing them, if you're not tuned into yourself, then you're 216 00:10:10,280 --> 00:10:13,679 Speaker 2: missing yourself. And then you feel when you're pouring it 217 00:10:13,720 --> 00:10:16,319 Speaker 2: all into everyone else's cup, you feel like you've done 218 00:10:16,360 --> 00:10:18,720 Speaker 2: nothing for yourself and it makes you feel alone and 219 00:10:18,760 --> 00:10:20,840 Speaker 2: all of those things y. But I mean, the thing 220 00:10:20,840 --> 00:10:22,959 Speaker 2: that I struggle with the most is the guilt of rest. 221 00:10:23,840 --> 00:10:25,520 Speaker 1: Isn't that wild that we have. 222 00:10:26,320 --> 00:10:30,160 Speaker 2: I think it's a very uniquely American cultural thing because 223 00:10:30,240 --> 00:10:33,760 Speaker 2: we're just told to work our asses off, and you know, 224 00:10:34,080 --> 00:10:37,600 Speaker 2: in other cultures they take months. In France, they take 225 00:10:38,120 --> 00:10:40,520 Speaker 2: like the country basically shuts down for the month of 226 00:10:40,559 --> 00:10:44,320 Speaker 2: August and everyone gets a real break and we just 227 00:10:44,320 --> 00:10:47,360 Speaker 2: don't have that in our society. So I think it's 228 00:10:47,360 --> 00:10:49,160 Speaker 2: a learned behavior for sure. You know. 229 00:10:49,960 --> 00:10:52,360 Speaker 1: Yeah, it's so interesting to think about, and I wonder 230 00:10:52,360 --> 00:10:55,360 Speaker 1: if it's gotten worse. We always talk about social media, 231 00:10:55,360 --> 00:10:58,559 Speaker 1: but like with social media and everyone posting constantly, it 232 00:10:58,920 --> 00:11:02,440 Speaker 1: makes it even harder to feel like you're not letting 233 00:11:02,440 --> 00:11:04,600 Speaker 1: some balls drop if you just take a minute, Like 234 00:11:04,640 --> 00:11:06,560 Speaker 1: if you take a beat and you're not working or 235 00:11:06,559 --> 00:11:10,560 Speaker 1: you're not striving or driving or doing all the things, 236 00:11:11,120 --> 00:11:13,760 Speaker 1: everyone else is going to outrun you and they're gonna 237 00:11:13,760 --> 00:11:16,800 Speaker 1: win the race or whatever. Like that's the mentality that 238 00:11:17,200 --> 00:11:20,920 Speaker 1: it feels like that, like it's almost panic inducing. To 239 00:11:21,000 --> 00:11:23,480 Speaker 1: tie it back to astrology, it's really interesting though, because 240 00:11:23,520 --> 00:11:26,440 Speaker 1: if you know anything about your personal chart, like I 241 00:11:26,480 --> 00:11:28,880 Speaker 1: have a south note in Capricorn, so I knew how 242 00:11:28,920 --> 00:11:31,320 Speaker 1: to work like that. I came to this lifetime really 243 00:11:31,360 --> 00:11:34,160 Speaker 1: knowing how to work, and I've almost had to like 244 00:11:34,280 --> 00:11:37,720 Speaker 1: unlearn certain disciplines because I think when you have certain 245 00:11:37,760 --> 00:11:41,120 Speaker 1: parts of your chart tied, and I don't know what 246 00:11:41,160 --> 00:11:42,520 Speaker 1: it would be for you guys, but there could be 247 00:11:42,559 --> 00:11:45,960 Speaker 1: a much many different placements that could mean this. But 248 00:11:46,160 --> 00:11:50,280 Speaker 1: if they're tied, to these like really driven energies. It 249 00:11:50,320 --> 00:11:52,280 Speaker 1: can feel like what you described, like I'll have to 250 00:11:52,320 --> 00:11:53,760 Speaker 1: go look at your chart ship and see if there's 251 00:11:53,760 --> 00:11:57,439 Speaker 1: anything in there. But it's almost like we have this 252 00:11:57,640 --> 00:12:00,839 Speaker 1: knowing in us of how to do it, and maybe 253 00:12:00,840 --> 00:12:03,440 Speaker 1: we even came into this lifetime to unlearn that a 254 00:12:03,440 --> 00:12:05,600 Speaker 1: little bit and like have a better balance. Like I 255 00:12:05,640 --> 00:12:08,320 Speaker 1: know I did for sure in this lifetime. But what 256 00:12:08,440 --> 00:12:12,200 Speaker 1: I know how to do innately easily is the work. 257 00:12:12,440 --> 00:12:15,280 Speaker 1: So the relaxing is harder for me to learn how 258 00:12:15,280 --> 00:12:17,679 Speaker 1: to do, which sounds crazy, Like when I say it 259 00:12:17,679 --> 00:12:20,920 Speaker 1: out loud, I'm like, what would be wrong with enjoying 260 00:12:20,920 --> 00:12:25,160 Speaker 1: your life and relaxing? And usually I can now, but 261 00:12:25,360 --> 00:12:28,280 Speaker 1: like if I feel like there's stuff I should be doing, 262 00:12:28,280 --> 00:12:30,200 Speaker 1: and I think that's probably the case for most people, 263 00:12:30,760 --> 00:12:32,760 Speaker 1: there's always a list of stuff to be done. As 264 00:12:32,760 --> 00:12:34,840 Speaker 1: an adult, there's just always. 265 00:12:34,559 --> 00:12:37,000 Speaker 2: I'm sitting in front of like six sheets of to 266 00:12:37,080 --> 00:12:40,120 Speaker 2: do list that I'm trying to combine down. And yes, 267 00:12:40,679 --> 00:12:42,959 Speaker 2: well you know it's funny. I like you you brought 268 00:12:43,040 --> 00:12:45,360 Speaker 2: up the social media piece, and obviously that is a 269 00:12:45,400 --> 00:12:48,319 Speaker 2: huge distraction and it's a huge sort of it has 270 00:12:48,360 --> 00:12:50,760 Speaker 2: a lot of influence on how we feel in general. 271 00:12:51,360 --> 00:12:54,120 Speaker 2: But even when I'm relaxing, I've got my fucking phone 272 00:12:54,120 --> 00:12:56,439 Speaker 2: in my hand and I'm looking at all the stuff 273 00:12:56,480 --> 00:12:58,719 Speaker 2: that other people are getting done and it causes a 274 00:12:58,760 --> 00:13:11,080 Speaker 2: stress thing. So it's like, even relaxing, I'm looking at 275 00:13:11,120 --> 00:13:13,240 Speaker 2: all the stuff that other people are getting done and 276 00:13:13,280 --> 00:13:15,320 Speaker 2: it causes a stress thing. So it's like I'm not 277 00:13:15,520 --> 00:13:17,040 Speaker 2: even relaxing. 278 00:13:16,960 --> 00:13:18,680 Speaker 1: Right, And so it's almost like you have to set 279 00:13:18,720 --> 00:13:21,360 Speaker 1: boundaries with yourself even about your relaxing, like what does 280 00:13:21,400 --> 00:13:24,959 Speaker 1: your relaxing actually look like? Like what refuels you? And 281 00:13:25,000 --> 00:13:28,640 Speaker 1: what is taking away from your relaxing to fully let 282 00:13:28,640 --> 00:13:31,559 Speaker 1: you relax? Like it's this battle. My boyfriend and I 283 00:13:31,640 --> 00:13:33,640 Speaker 1: are long distance, right, and he lives in Charleston and 284 00:13:33,679 --> 00:13:36,760 Speaker 1: I live here, and when each of us is in 285 00:13:36,800 --> 00:13:41,560 Speaker 1: the other's city or house, that person that's you know, 286 00:13:41,720 --> 00:13:45,360 Speaker 1: out of town sleeps like ten hours a night, like 287 00:13:45,400 --> 00:13:47,920 Speaker 1: he was here last week and he literally I've never 288 00:13:47,960 --> 00:13:50,680 Speaker 1: seen him sleep more. And it's just like we don't 289 00:13:50,679 --> 00:13:53,200 Speaker 1: really we can. The only thing we can think of 290 00:13:53,559 --> 00:13:56,320 Speaker 1: is that when you're at your house, you feel like 291 00:13:56,920 --> 00:13:58,679 Speaker 1: there's the to do list, Like you said, you have 292 00:13:58,800 --> 00:14:01,520 Speaker 1: all this shit all the time, but if you're out 293 00:14:01,559 --> 00:14:04,160 Speaker 1: of the city that you live in, you kind of 294 00:14:04,200 --> 00:14:06,000 Speaker 1: can't do all of it. So it's just a little 295 00:14:06,040 --> 00:14:07,959 Speaker 1: bit more out of side, out of mind, and then 296 00:14:08,160 --> 00:14:11,120 Speaker 1: you can actually let yourself relax. Like when I go 297 00:14:11,160 --> 00:14:13,480 Speaker 1: to Charleston, it is so hard for me to work 298 00:14:13,480 --> 00:14:17,520 Speaker 1: at all because I just genuinely feel like, Okay, now 299 00:14:17,679 --> 00:14:19,360 Speaker 1: is the time for me to enjoy. And then I 300 00:14:19,400 --> 00:14:21,480 Speaker 1: go back to Nashville and do the grind, you know, 301 00:14:22,040 --> 00:14:23,520 Speaker 1: and I need to find a little bit of a 302 00:14:23,520 --> 00:14:25,600 Speaker 1: better balance with that. But that's why I've enjoyed splitting 303 00:14:25,600 --> 00:14:27,960 Speaker 1: my time so much, is because when I go there, 304 00:14:28,000 --> 00:14:30,480 Speaker 1: I can like truly shut down. And I think it's 305 00:14:30,480 --> 00:14:32,440 Speaker 1: because my brain feels like, oh, well, you can't do 306 00:14:32,560 --> 00:14:35,920 Speaker 1: that here, right because you're here, You're not in Nashville, 307 00:14:35,960 --> 00:14:38,960 Speaker 1: you're not in your house, you're not at work. 308 00:14:39,240 --> 00:14:42,800 Speaker 2: All the things well, and honestly, you've earned that time, 309 00:14:43,200 --> 00:14:45,080 Speaker 2: and I think it's a really important thing that you 310 00:14:45,120 --> 00:14:47,880 Speaker 2: have to remind yourself of and you come back refreshed, 311 00:14:48,280 --> 00:14:51,160 Speaker 2: right excited about the job. It's not, you know, like 312 00:14:51,280 --> 00:14:53,560 Speaker 2: it feels like less of a job when it's something 313 00:14:53,600 --> 00:14:57,080 Speaker 2: that you're excited about and that's the guilt creeping in 314 00:14:57,200 --> 00:14:59,160 Speaker 2: on you, being like, oh god, I need to be 315 00:14:59,160 --> 00:15:00,240 Speaker 2: better about that. No, oh. 316 00:15:02,680 --> 00:15:07,480 Speaker 1: Right, It's just sometimes not realistic because like even sometimes 317 00:15:07,480 --> 00:15:10,280 Speaker 1: when we're recording, I'm like, I really try not to 318 00:15:10,360 --> 00:15:13,760 Speaker 1: have to or try not to plan recordings when I'm there, 319 00:15:13,960 --> 00:15:17,920 Speaker 1: or I try not to schedule, you know, calls or 320 00:15:17,960 --> 00:15:20,200 Speaker 1: anything like O. There's sometimes I'll have to do work, 321 00:15:20,240 --> 00:15:22,440 Speaker 1: but there are things that I really try not to 322 00:15:22,520 --> 00:15:25,640 Speaker 1: do because I really want to regain my energy, and 323 00:15:25,720 --> 00:15:27,960 Speaker 1: like you pointed out earlier, when I come back, I'm 324 00:15:28,000 --> 00:15:30,880 Speaker 1: so ready to do it. It's so interesting how that works. 325 00:15:31,320 --> 00:15:33,840 Speaker 1: But I find it really odd how my body is 326 00:15:33,880 --> 00:15:36,600 Speaker 1: starting to know, Like when I land in Charles and 327 00:15:36,680 --> 00:15:40,680 Speaker 1: it's like I go, I don't know. It's just interesting 328 00:15:40,720 --> 00:15:43,600 Speaker 1: to me and wonder why we can't build that into 329 00:15:43,640 --> 00:15:46,200 Speaker 1: our normal day to day lives and not feel guilty 330 00:15:46,280 --> 00:15:49,840 Speaker 1: about it, because the reality is is we're all better 331 00:15:50,120 --> 00:15:53,239 Speaker 1: when we take the rest, when we pour into ourselves 332 00:15:53,320 --> 00:15:56,240 Speaker 1: when we do all that stuff. But I don't know 333 00:15:56,280 --> 00:15:58,640 Speaker 1: if it's learning or our culture or whatever it is, this 334 00:15:58,720 --> 00:16:02,160 Speaker 1: competition thing, this feeling less than thing. I think it's 335 00:16:02,160 --> 00:16:05,880 Speaker 1: like an inside job ultimately to really work on that stuff. 336 00:16:06,400 --> 00:16:09,280 Speaker 2: I mean, it really is. It's I think inherently we 337 00:16:09,400 --> 00:16:12,760 Speaker 2: all feel like there's this double edged sword when you 338 00:16:12,760 --> 00:16:15,160 Speaker 2: go on vacation, because you're like, all right, this is 339 00:16:15,200 --> 00:16:17,520 Speaker 2: my break, I'm putting up my out of office. Nobody 340 00:16:17,520 --> 00:16:20,240 Speaker 2: fucking call me, nobody email me. But then you're like, 341 00:16:21,040 --> 00:16:23,480 Speaker 2: but if something comes, something really important comes up, like 342 00:16:23,520 --> 00:16:26,040 Speaker 2: feel free to hit me up. And that's you telling 343 00:16:26,080 --> 00:16:28,800 Speaker 2: yourself that, like you're so important that the job can 344 00:16:28,920 --> 00:16:32,320 Speaker 2: get done without you, which you want to believe, because 345 00:16:32,400 --> 00:16:34,720 Speaker 2: if the job can get done without you, then are 346 00:16:34,760 --> 00:16:39,400 Speaker 2: you necessary? And it's this weird psychological thing that I 347 00:16:39,400 --> 00:16:42,400 Speaker 2: don't know if it's corporate America or we've just told ourselves, 348 00:16:42,480 --> 00:16:45,440 Speaker 2: but it is. I mean, every time I've gone away 349 00:16:45,440 --> 00:16:49,040 Speaker 2: on vacation, inevitably something comes up and it gets people 350 00:16:49,080 --> 00:16:52,200 Speaker 2: solve it like they're fine, it's gonna and no one's like, well, 351 00:16:52,600 --> 00:16:56,280 Speaker 2: we don't need you anymore. You know, everyone likes they're 352 00:16:56,360 --> 00:17:00,000 Speaker 2: special attributes. Yeah, but there is in the back of room, 353 00:17:00,240 --> 00:17:03,640 Speaker 2: that little devil on your shoulder that says you're not. 354 00:17:03,880 --> 00:17:06,400 Speaker 2: It's and it's you know, I think it's just an 355 00:17:06,600 --> 00:17:09,200 Speaker 2: ingredient of imposter syndrome that says that you don't deserve 356 00:17:09,240 --> 00:17:12,560 Speaker 2: what you have. And the truth is is, not only 357 00:17:12,600 --> 00:17:14,879 Speaker 2: do people who work really hard at their jobs deserve 358 00:17:14,960 --> 00:17:17,680 Speaker 2: the job that they have, they also deserve the time 359 00:17:17,720 --> 00:17:20,639 Speaker 2: to like let their brain rest for a second so 360 00:17:20,680 --> 00:17:22,800 Speaker 2: they can come back and be even better at their job. 361 00:17:23,040 --> 00:17:25,040 Speaker 1: I don't know if I've learned this as I've gotten older, 362 00:17:25,119 --> 00:17:27,160 Speaker 1: or if I've learned this through some of my own 363 00:17:27,240 --> 00:17:30,760 Speaker 1: crashes with burnout, but like, I do think it's hard 364 00:17:30,880 --> 00:17:34,240 Speaker 1: because this scenario you just described, like if you're the 365 00:17:34,280 --> 00:17:36,640 Speaker 1: one that's like, Okay, I'm gonna go on vacation, there's 366 00:17:36,680 --> 00:17:39,960 Speaker 1: always the one who's not going to go on vacation, right, right, 367 00:17:40,080 --> 00:17:42,760 Speaker 1: And so your security gets threatened. And I do think 368 00:17:42,800 --> 00:17:46,640 Speaker 1: that becomes a psychological issue of like okay, well no, no, no, 369 00:17:46,680 --> 00:17:50,200 Speaker 1: you can access me at all times, and so we've 370 00:17:50,240 --> 00:17:52,600 Speaker 1: all because one person's doing it, then we've all kind 371 00:17:52,600 --> 00:17:54,520 Speaker 1: of started doing it, and that's become the way. And 372 00:17:54,520 --> 00:17:56,520 Speaker 1: we also have cell phones now, like we didn't used 373 00:17:56,520 --> 00:17:59,119 Speaker 1: to have this kind of access, right or you know, 374 00:17:59,160 --> 00:18:01,760 Speaker 1: you could not be accessed as easily, and now we 375 00:18:01,800 --> 00:18:05,119 Speaker 1: can be accessed twenty four hours a day at all times. 376 00:18:05,400 --> 00:18:07,840 Speaker 1: One thing I definitely do is turn my phone on silent, 377 00:18:08,000 --> 00:18:10,040 Speaker 1: like I just I never have my ringer on, but 378 00:18:10,160 --> 00:18:13,720 Speaker 1: specifically at night, like I have it on complete silent, 379 00:18:13,800 --> 00:18:17,520 Speaker 1: no vibration, know nothing. That's the only way my brain 380 00:18:17,520 --> 00:18:20,680 Speaker 1: will stop, because if I'm getting pinged in any sort 381 00:18:20,680 --> 00:18:23,320 Speaker 1: of capacity, I'm back in it. But yeah, Like I 382 00:18:23,359 --> 00:18:27,960 Speaker 1: do think there's some sort of confidence and I've had 383 00:18:27,960 --> 00:18:29,720 Speaker 1: it a little bit through the last couple of years, 384 00:18:29,720 --> 00:18:31,800 Speaker 1: and this is why I'm referring to it this way. 385 00:18:32,240 --> 00:18:36,199 Speaker 1: And also just acceptance peace like this almost like this 386 00:18:36,359 --> 00:18:39,480 Speaker 1: certainty that if you can get to it makes it 387 00:18:39,520 --> 00:18:42,000 Speaker 1: a little bit easier with that of just stepping away, 388 00:18:42,320 --> 00:18:44,800 Speaker 1: trusting my job is still going to be here and 389 00:18:44,840 --> 00:18:47,439 Speaker 1: if it's not, it's not meant for me. Like just 390 00:18:47,520 --> 00:18:51,320 Speaker 1: those kind of mentalities, you know, versus oh my god, 391 00:18:51,920 --> 00:18:55,280 Speaker 1: what was gonna happen if it goes away? Like the panic, 392 00:18:55,359 --> 00:18:57,160 Speaker 1: Like I've lived in that place so much, but that 393 00:18:57,240 --> 00:19:00,000 Speaker 1: only drives me to keep striving and get to the place. 394 00:19:00,200 --> 00:19:03,520 Speaker 1: Burnout and then I can't do shit for anybody. 395 00:19:03,040 --> 00:19:04,960 Speaker 2: And you're no good. Yeah, no good. 396 00:19:05,080 --> 00:19:07,920 Speaker 1: Also, I do think there's a movement a little bit 397 00:19:08,200 --> 00:19:10,320 Speaker 1: of what we're talking about, Like, I know this is 398 00:19:10,359 --> 00:19:14,159 Speaker 1: specific to this month, but have you noticed I know, 399 00:19:14,320 --> 00:19:17,879 Speaker 1: for the Girl Boss Conversation, Like I definitely started to 400 00:19:17,880 --> 00:19:20,800 Speaker 1: feel this, and then I've posted about it just saying 401 00:19:20,880 --> 00:19:23,000 Speaker 1: like I'm done being trying to be a girl boss. 402 00:19:23,040 --> 00:19:24,560 Speaker 1: Like I don't even know what that means. We've talked 403 00:19:24,560 --> 00:19:26,640 Speaker 1: about it on the podcast. I think it's kind of bullshit, 404 00:19:26,680 --> 00:19:29,000 Speaker 1: but it's this huge pressure that women keep putting on 405 00:19:29,040 --> 00:19:33,120 Speaker 1: themselves to be everything to everybody all the time, and 406 00:19:33,160 --> 00:19:35,840 Speaker 1: no human being is capable of that, and no human 407 00:19:35,880 --> 00:19:38,359 Speaker 1: being is capable of doing well at all things at 408 00:19:38,359 --> 00:19:40,480 Speaker 1: all times. Like we're just not built that way. We're 409 00:19:40,520 --> 00:19:44,000 Speaker 1: not robots. So I do think that era is ending. 410 00:19:44,000 --> 00:19:48,280 Speaker 1: But I'm noticing more people talking about how unsexy this 411 00:19:48,600 --> 00:19:54,000 Speaker 1: constant going and drive and whatever is becoming. And I'm grateful, 412 00:19:54,000 --> 00:19:56,280 Speaker 1: Like I do think that conversation is starting. Have you 413 00:19:56,359 --> 00:19:56,760 Speaker 1: noticed that? 414 00:19:57,160 --> 00:20:00,280 Speaker 2: Mm hm, Well it's funny too, because I think that 415 00:20:00,280 --> 00:20:05,320 Speaker 2: that movement was born out of necessity because women weren't 416 00:20:05,359 --> 00:20:08,520 Speaker 2: given the respect in the workplace that they deserved. Because 417 00:20:08,960 --> 00:20:13,160 Speaker 2: I mean, from my perspective, most of the places I've worked, 418 00:20:13,200 --> 00:20:15,480 Speaker 2: the leadership has been women and they fucking kick ass 419 00:20:15,480 --> 00:20:18,119 Speaker 2: and they deserve to be there, and it's where I learned, 420 00:20:18,400 --> 00:20:21,760 Speaker 2: you know, most of what I know. But still societally, 421 00:20:21,920 --> 00:20:25,000 Speaker 2: it's like, yeah, women still had so much that they 422 00:20:25,000 --> 00:20:29,040 Speaker 2: felt like they had to prove, and I think that 423 00:20:29,080 --> 00:20:32,320 Speaker 2: it took getting there where it was like part of 424 00:20:32,520 --> 00:20:34,639 Speaker 2: sort of that you could feel that it was a 425 00:20:34,640 --> 00:20:38,160 Speaker 2: cultural thing, like finally women were getting their due. We 426 00:20:38,160 --> 00:20:41,440 Speaker 2: were seeing all these like amazing female leaders doing amazing things. 427 00:20:42,200 --> 00:20:44,159 Speaker 2: But I think now that we step back from that, 428 00:20:44,200 --> 00:20:46,080 Speaker 2: we're like, we were doing it for the wrong reasons, 429 00:20:46,359 --> 00:20:49,440 Speaker 2: Like it was it was happening because it was more 430 00:20:49,480 --> 00:20:52,840 Speaker 2: about the recognition than actual loving and doing what you 431 00:20:52,880 --> 00:20:56,199 Speaker 2: wanted to do and getting to where you were because 432 00:20:56,240 --> 00:20:58,800 Speaker 2: of that, or feeling like you had to match some 433 00:20:58,880 --> 00:21:01,119 Speaker 2: other girls energy that was just kick an ass. You're like, 434 00:21:01,119 --> 00:21:03,800 Speaker 2: I'm not enough of a girl boss. But I do 435 00:21:03,840 --> 00:21:05,919 Speaker 2: think that I've seen it pull back a little bit 436 00:21:06,080 --> 00:21:09,359 Speaker 2: because when you pour all of your energy into that 437 00:21:09,440 --> 00:21:12,520 Speaker 2: area of your life, every other part of your life suffers, 438 00:21:13,119 --> 00:21:16,879 Speaker 2: and that should not be necessary just because you're a woman. 439 00:21:17,600 --> 00:21:20,320 Speaker 1: Well, your health suffers. Like, yeah, I think that's such 440 00:21:20,359 --> 00:21:22,480 Speaker 1: a good point you just made. I don't know why, 441 00:21:22,480 --> 00:21:25,359 Speaker 1: I've never thought about it this way, but because women 442 00:21:25,440 --> 00:21:28,840 Speaker 1: weren't respected or we had to work to be paid 443 00:21:28,880 --> 00:21:30,760 Speaker 1: the same, and when we're still having. 444 00:21:30,560 --> 00:21:31,720 Speaker 2: To it's still a problem. 445 00:21:31,880 --> 00:21:35,359 Speaker 1: Yes, it almost is approve your worth kind of thing, 446 00:21:35,680 --> 00:21:38,359 Speaker 1: and I don't even know if that has to be 447 00:21:38,400 --> 00:21:41,280 Speaker 1: external praise. It's like that is the thing that I 448 00:21:41,280 --> 00:21:43,400 Speaker 1: think women are so pissed about a lot of times 449 00:21:43,400 --> 00:21:46,919 Speaker 1: in the conversation, is feeling like you're not judged on 450 00:21:46,960 --> 00:21:50,399 Speaker 1: the same merits or the same qualifications or whatever it is, 451 00:21:50,440 --> 00:21:52,679 Speaker 1: and so you do have to work harder. But then 452 00:21:52,520 --> 00:21:54,600 Speaker 1: on the flip side, it was weird to see that, 453 00:21:54,680 --> 00:21:57,960 Speaker 1: like women almost surpassed men in a lot of different areas, 454 00:21:58,040 --> 00:22:02,919 Speaker 1: like in cycle logical growth or you know, working on yourself, 455 00:22:02,960 --> 00:22:05,640 Speaker 1: like the therapeutic worlds. Like I think men are having 456 00:22:05,720 --> 00:22:08,280 Speaker 1: to play catch up right now because we've been working 457 00:22:08,400 --> 00:22:12,720 Speaker 1: so hard to make a name for ourselves in some way, 458 00:22:13,080 --> 00:22:15,560 Speaker 1: you know, shape or form, and that included all areas 459 00:22:15,600 --> 00:22:19,160 Speaker 1: of like really working on that stuff. We expect ourselves 460 00:22:19,160 --> 00:22:22,640 Speaker 1: to be good at all things at all times, and 461 00:22:22,720 --> 00:22:25,560 Speaker 1: like even if you are really trying to do that, 462 00:22:25,960 --> 00:22:28,359 Speaker 1: then your body starts to quit on you because your 463 00:22:28,359 --> 00:22:33,119 Speaker 1: body's like, yo, hello, remember me? You know, right, that 464 00:22:33,200 --> 00:22:35,520 Speaker 1: we're supposed to rest is the whole gist of all 465 00:22:35,520 --> 00:22:38,120 Speaker 1: this stuff. We're supposed to take time for ourselves. We're 466 00:22:38,160 --> 00:22:42,359 Speaker 1: supposed to receive and feel good and feel nice and 467 00:22:42,440 --> 00:22:46,040 Speaker 1: feel the pleasure aspects of life. That is why our 468 00:22:46,040 --> 00:22:48,680 Speaker 1: soul is here too, Like, it's not supposed to all 469 00:22:48,720 --> 00:22:54,520 Speaker 1: be work in misery and anxiety and stress. Like there 470 00:22:54,560 --> 00:22:57,080 Speaker 1: are all these beautiful things and part of being in 471 00:22:57,119 --> 00:22:59,439 Speaker 1: the present moment, which we are in tourist season, so 472 00:22:59,440 --> 00:23:02,359 Speaker 1: that's perfect. Being in the present moment is enjoying the 473 00:23:02,359 --> 00:23:03,480 Speaker 1: things around. 474 00:23:03,119 --> 00:23:07,879 Speaker 2: You, right, And look, I think too, it's feeling things 475 00:23:07,920 --> 00:23:12,160 Speaker 2: and accepting things for the way that they are around 476 00:23:12,200 --> 00:23:14,840 Speaker 2: you in the present moment. Might have a little misery, 477 00:23:15,119 --> 00:23:16,399 Speaker 2: you know, there could be grief. 478 00:23:16,440 --> 00:23:20,639 Speaker 1: Oh that's a good point there, especially, Yeah, there could 479 00:23:20,640 --> 00:23:24,119 Speaker 1: be those things that like, you know, I've known plenty. 480 00:23:23,840 --> 00:23:26,639 Speaker 2: Of people who have had really close relatives pass away, 481 00:23:26,720 --> 00:23:29,359 Speaker 2: and it's like they only allow themselves to grief for 482 00:23:29,400 --> 00:23:31,000 Speaker 2: a brief moment because you got to get back on 483 00:23:31,000 --> 00:23:34,399 Speaker 2: the horse, you know, right, And grief is a really 484 00:23:34,840 --> 00:23:38,520 Speaker 2: long road, you know, especially when it's your mother, your father, 485 00:23:38,720 --> 00:23:42,360 Speaker 2: a sibling, someone who's really close to your husband, wife, whatever. 486 00:23:42,800 --> 00:23:46,000 Speaker 2: It's a really long journey and it's different for everybody, 487 00:23:46,600 --> 00:23:52,040 Speaker 2: and we often don't allow ourselves the presence to grieve properly. 488 00:23:52,600 --> 00:23:56,120 Speaker 2: So I just wanted to add that because it isn't relaxation, 489 00:23:56,240 --> 00:24:01,640 Speaker 2: isn't just about enjoying necessarily, but it's about being present. 490 00:24:01,880 --> 00:24:05,239 Speaker 2: And if the present for you is sitting on the 491 00:24:05,240 --> 00:24:09,480 Speaker 2: couch with your phone turned off reading a book, that's great. 492 00:24:09,680 --> 00:24:12,840 Speaker 2: If the present is grieving the loss of a loved 493 00:24:12,840 --> 00:24:15,879 Speaker 2: one and thinking about them and reading through old journals 494 00:24:15,880 --> 00:24:19,520 Speaker 2: and looking through photo albums, and it's a heavier moment, great, 495 00:24:19,640 --> 00:24:22,439 Speaker 2: But like the point is to tune out the stuff 496 00:24:22,440 --> 00:24:24,679 Speaker 2: that isn't necessary for you in that moment. 497 00:24:25,280 --> 00:24:28,920 Speaker 1: So I said, grief takes so much energy. Oh, I 498 00:24:28,920 --> 00:24:31,480 Speaker 1: don't know if anyone's listening and they've ever gone through 499 00:24:31,760 --> 00:24:36,480 Speaker 1: a deep grief process, But it's exhausting. It's just exhausting. 500 00:24:36,520 --> 00:24:39,000 Speaker 1: It's a lot of feelings. It's like you wake up 501 00:24:39,040 --> 00:24:42,040 Speaker 1: every morning and just feel heavy, like you're carrying a 502 00:24:42,080 --> 00:24:44,840 Speaker 1: weighted vest is kind of what it feels like. But 503 00:24:44,880 --> 00:24:46,879 Speaker 1: that's a great point that it doesn't always have to 504 00:24:46,880 --> 00:24:49,840 Speaker 1: be or it can't always be that life is just 505 00:24:50,040 --> 00:24:56,360 Speaker 1: great and so resting is just this beautiful, lavish, luxurious thing. 506 00:24:56,480 --> 00:24:59,120 Speaker 1: It could mean that you need to rest, but it's 507 00:24:59,160 --> 00:25:01,720 Speaker 1: all forms of self care. It's like the resting to 508 00:25:01,880 --> 00:25:05,199 Speaker 1: take care of yourself because you're going through something. And 509 00:25:05,280 --> 00:25:07,399 Speaker 1: I mean, there's so many things that you could be 510 00:25:07,440 --> 00:25:10,080 Speaker 1: going through right now because the world feels wild. 511 00:25:10,840 --> 00:25:13,320 Speaker 2: Yes, yeah, a lot of emotion for all experiencing. 512 00:25:13,760 --> 00:25:16,359 Speaker 1: I will say I have found a couple new things 513 00:25:16,400 --> 00:25:18,680 Speaker 1: I've been posting about this on my Instagram that I'm 514 00:25:18,760 --> 00:25:22,959 Speaker 1: doing that are really just my moments that I'm taking 515 00:25:23,000 --> 00:25:26,159 Speaker 1: for myself, regardless of how busy, and they're really filling 516 00:25:26,160 --> 00:25:28,480 Speaker 1: my cup in this weird way because they're so simple. 517 00:25:28,760 --> 00:25:30,840 Speaker 1: But do you have any of those things? I'll share 518 00:25:30,880 --> 00:25:32,760 Speaker 1: mine after, but I was gonna ask you. 519 00:25:42,240 --> 00:25:46,159 Speaker 2: I mean, I was just thinking about two examples more 520 00:25:46,480 --> 00:25:51,360 Speaker 2: based on sort of taking vacation and how to protect 521 00:25:51,400 --> 00:25:56,040 Speaker 2: yourself on that vacation that I learned through friends. One well, 522 00:25:56,040 --> 00:25:58,560 Speaker 2: one I learned through my first boss. She would come 523 00:25:58,600 --> 00:26:03,119 Speaker 2: back from vacation and do select all delete on her inbox, 524 00:26:03,359 --> 00:26:08,240 Speaker 2: which I thought was crazy, but she was like, most 525 00:26:08,280 --> 00:26:09,959 Speaker 2: of these things have been solved. Why am I going 526 00:26:10,000 --> 00:26:11,879 Speaker 2: to spend the next three days reading all these emails? 527 00:26:11,920 --> 00:26:12,440 Speaker 1: Oh my god? 528 00:26:12,600 --> 00:26:15,480 Speaker 2: And if there's anything that's important, someone's going to follow up. 529 00:26:15,960 --> 00:26:18,280 Speaker 2: And granted, like she was the head of a department, 530 00:26:18,359 --> 00:26:20,080 Speaker 2: so she had a lot of people under her making 531 00:26:20,119 --> 00:26:22,800 Speaker 2: sure things were happening. So I get that, but I 532 00:26:22,840 --> 00:26:24,760 Speaker 2: mean it's also like, I know how I feel when 533 00:26:24,760 --> 00:26:26,239 Speaker 2: I get through all of my emails in a day 534 00:26:26,240 --> 00:26:27,760 Speaker 2: and I'm like, I'm a fucking boss, you know what 535 00:26:27,800 --> 00:26:30,439 Speaker 2: I mean, Like I've done it. So it's like a 536 00:26:30,600 --> 00:26:33,639 Speaker 2: it's a magnified version of that, Like yeah, because she 537 00:26:33,680 --> 00:26:35,600 Speaker 2: could then step into what she needed to get done 538 00:26:35,680 --> 00:26:38,280 Speaker 2: right away instead of like sitting there sifting through thousands 539 00:26:38,320 --> 00:26:40,720 Speaker 2: of emails that she hadn't looked at. I think that's 540 00:26:40,760 --> 00:26:43,760 Speaker 2: a really bold thing to do. The other one, I 541 00:26:43,840 --> 00:26:46,040 Speaker 2: had a friend that every time he would go on vacation, 542 00:26:46,640 --> 00:26:48,520 Speaker 2: I'm just going to make up a name, Mark Williams. 543 00:26:48,560 --> 00:26:51,560 Speaker 2: That's not his rerwn name, Okay. He had a Gmail 544 00:26:51,600 --> 00:26:54,919 Speaker 2: account that was Mark Williams is on vacation at gmail 545 00:26:54,960 --> 00:26:58,480 Speaker 2: dot com and he would put his out of office 546 00:26:58,560 --> 00:27:01,639 Speaker 2: on his work thing and say, hey, I'm on vacation 547 00:27:01,760 --> 00:27:04,359 Speaker 2: with my family. I'm, you know, going to focus on them. 548 00:27:04,800 --> 00:27:07,600 Speaker 2: If you have an emergency, send me an email at 549 00:27:07,680 --> 00:27:10,639 Speaker 2: Mark Williams's on vacation at gmail dot com and I 550 00:27:10,680 --> 00:27:14,280 Speaker 2: will respond. And he removed his work emails from his 551 00:27:14,400 --> 00:27:16,800 Speaker 2: phone and the only email he had on his phone 552 00:27:17,200 --> 00:27:20,840 Speaker 2: was that vacation one. Everyone feel like a fucking asshole 553 00:27:20,840 --> 00:27:21,960 Speaker 2: if they had to email him. 554 00:27:22,040 --> 00:27:26,160 Speaker 1: Yes, you know, so unless it was super re urgent, 555 00:27:26,480 --> 00:27:26,920 Speaker 1: he was. 556 00:27:26,880 --> 00:27:28,479 Speaker 2: Not going to get it. He wouldn't He wouldn't even 557 00:27:28,480 --> 00:27:30,400 Speaker 2: see the emails because he took it off his phone. 558 00:27:30,560 --> 00:27:32,800 Speaker 1: That is. I think it's just like, it's. 559 00:27:32,640 --> 00:27:37,600 Speaker 2: So smart because it reminds those who are disrespecting your 560 00:27:37,720 --> 00:27:42,960 Speaker 2: joy and your your rest that it's it's essential, and 561 00:27:43,000 --> 00:27:45,800 Speaker 2: it makes people think about whether something's in emergency or not. 562 00:27:46,200 --> 00:27:49,280 Speaker 1: Well, we do all have an urgency that sometimes or 563 00:27:49,320 --> 00:27:51,440 Speaker 1: a lot of times is probably not real. 564 00:27:51,600 --> 00:27:54,120 Speaker 2: It's a false urgency, yeah, and I think it exists 565 00:27:54,119 --> 00:27:56,520 Speaker 2: with all of us. So it's it takes little things 566 00:27:56,560 --> 00:27:59,880 Speaker 2: like that to remind us. So those are two little tactic. 567 00:28:00,560 --> 00:28:04,280 Speaker 2: I think for me, it's really just staying home, not 568 00:28:04,320 --> 00:28:07,600 Speaker 2: doing anything like sitting on the couch with my dogs 569 00:28:07,600 --> 00:28:11,119 Speaker 2: cuddled up is the pinnacle of the relaxation for me, 570 00:28:11,680 --> 00:28:15,680 Speaker 2: or going to the local wavepool and just you. 571 00:28:15,640 --> 00:28:19,000 Speaker 1: Know, laying the first mention of Wave Country this year. 572 00:28:19,640 --> 00:28:21,400 Speaker 2: Well it's opening at the end of the month. 573 00:28:21,200 --> 00:28:23,840 Speaker 1: For those anyone who's a new listener. Chip has a 574 00:28:24,119 --> 00:28:28,239 Speaker 1: membership to this place in Nashville called Wave Country. He 575 00:28:28,359 --> 00:28:30,520 Speaker 1: likes to call it Wave Country Club, but it's not. 576 00:28:31,080 --> 00:28:33,399 Speaker 2: Just it is far from a country club. 577 00:28:33,880 --> 00:28:35,959 Speaker 1: And he goes and sits in the wavepool and just 578 00:28:36,040 --> 00:28:37,520 Speaker 1: floats all. 579 00:28:37,520 --> 00:28:39,800 Speaker 2: Day and have my phone. I can't. You know. 580 00:28:39,840 --> 00:28:42,160 Speaker 1: It's like, you never think that anyone thinks you're creepy. 581 00:28:42,200 --> 00:28:46,040 Speaker 2: I always wonder that one hundred and I hope they do. Okay, 582 00:28:46,280 --> 00:28:48,680 Speaker 2: I hope they do. They listen to Jack FM. I 583 00:28:48,680 --> 00:28:51,080 Speaker 2: mean all the lifeguards are fourteen fifteen. 584 00:28:51,040 --> 00:28:53,680 Speaker 1: Yeah, and they're like, you know, this is a serial guy, 585 00:28:54,080 --> 00:28:55,440 Speaker 1: the old guy. 586 00:28:55,240 --> 00:29:01,680 Speaker 2: By himself, just singing along. Yeah. So those are my things. 587 00:29:01,800 --> 00:29:04,120 Speaker 2: Or going taking my dogs for a walk. I love 588 00:29:04,160 --> 00:29:05,440 Speaker 2: a really long walk. 589 00:29:05,840 --> 00:29:12,440 Speaker 1: Long walk is so healing. Zone out. Well, I've been 590 00:29:12,480 --> 00:29:14,520 Speaker 1: posting about this on my instagram s. Chip you might 591 00:29:14,560 --> 00:29:18,720 Speaker 1: already know, but I decided I'm going to call myself 592 00:29:18,720 --> 00:29:23,080 Speaker 1: this summer the girl who gardens and girls. I have 593 00:29:23,200 --> 00:29:26,120 Speaker 1: become obsessed with grilling. I don't know who I am. 594 00:29:27,080 --> 00:29:30,200 Speaker 1: I mean, I've always loved like meat to me or 595 00:29:30,200 --> 00:29:34,160 Speaker 1: any sort of proteins, actually everything, even veteran. I just 596 00:29:34,160 --> 00:29:37,120 Speaker 1: think everything's better on the grill. And you know, I've 597 00:29:37,240 --> 00:29:40,560 Speaker 1: only typically in the past been a person that, if 598 00:29:40,600 --> 00:29:43,680 Speaker 1: I'm in a relationship, has a grill situation set up 599 00:29:43,720 --> 00:29:48,000 Speaker 1: because my boyfriend would do it. But this year, I mean, 600 00:29:48,040 --> 00:29:50,680 Speaker 1: my boyfriend does girl, but he doesn't live here. See, 601 00:29:50,720 --> 00:29:52,800 Speaker 1: so this is where I started to be, like, I 602 00:29:52,840 --> 00:29:55,080 Speaker 1: need to get my own girl. So when he was here, 603 00:29:55,200 --> 00:29:58,320 Speaker 1: he found me the cutest little I wanted to charcoal, 604 00:29:58,360 --> 00:30:00,600 Speaker 1: which is a little more work, but I think it's 605 00:30:00,640 --> 00:30:03,480 Speaker 1: well worth it for two reasons. One, the food tastes 606 00:30:03,480 --> 00:30:06,880 Speaker 1: better like it just I love that like charcoal over 607 00:30:06,920 --> 00:30:09,800 Speaker 1: the fire flavor, which you don't really get from a 608 00:30:09,840 --> 00:30:14,280 Speaker 1: gas girl. But second of all, the process of like 609 00:30:14,520 --> 00:30:18,920 Speaker 1: building the fire and really getting the girls set up 610 00:30:19,840 --> 00:30:22,120 Speaker 1: doing the meat, like all the ways the meat needs 611 00:30:22,160 --> 00:30:26,600 Speaker 1: to be cooked differently, that is so therapeutic for me. 612 00:30:26,960 --> 00:30:27,160 Speaker 2: Huh. 613 00:30:27,400 --> 00:30:29,080 Speaker 1: It's just like I don't know if it's using my 614 00:30:29,160 --> 00:30:31,360 Speaker 1: hands or it's because I put my phone down, I'll 615 00:30:31,360 --> 00:30:33,560 Speaker 1: like check out, like I don't know where my phone is. 616 00:30:33,560 --> 00:30:36,480 Speaker 1: Typically other than it's playing music, like I'll put on music, 617 00:30:36,960 --> 00:30:39,800 Speaker 1: especially when it's a nice day. Recently in Nashville, I 618 00:30:39,880 --> 00:30:41,959 Speaker 1: just sit out there and I like watch the fire. 619 00:30:42,200 --> 00:30:44,240 Speaker 1: And it's the same reason I love building a fire 620 00:30:44,240 --> 00:30:46,720 Speaker 1: and a fire pit, like I love the act of 621 00:30:46,760 --> 00:30:50,520 Speaker 1: doing tangible things with my hands. And gardening has been 622 00:30:50,560 --> 00:30:52,920 Speaker 1: another thing I've really wanted to get into. And I 623 00:30:53,040 --> 00:30:54,800 Speaker 1: think I told you guys about my gardening injury a 624 00:30:54,800 --> 00:30:57,760 Speaker 1: couple weeks ago, so I took a second to heal. 625 00:30:58,040 --> 00:31:00,200 Speaker 1: But I had a issue with a rosebush that a 626 00:31:00,280 --> 00:31:03,360 Speaker 1: thorn got lodged into my finger. It's still swollen. I'm 627 00:31:03,360 --> 00:31:05,280 Speaker 1: gonna have to go have some issues done. I can't 628 00:31:05,280 --> 00:31:08,120 Speaker 1: close my finger still all the way. But anyway, I 629 00:31:08,160 --> 00:31:10,880 Speaker 1: planted a bunch of flowers, which there's something in that 630 00:31:10,880 --> 00:31:14,200 Speaker 1: that is very therapeutic for me because esthetically it's pleasing. 631 00:31:14,240 --> 00:31:16,520 Speaker 1: It's just similar to you with powerwashing, Like it's very 632 00:31:16,640 --> 00:31:19,800 Speaker 1: satisfying for me. But also it's the same thing where 633 00:31:19,800 --> 00:31:22,120 Speaker 1: I'm using my hands. I put my phone away. I 634 00:31:22,240 --> 00:31:25,360 Speaker 1: just don't. I don't know. It's the only time I 635 00:31:25,400 --> 00:31:28,040 Speaker 1: have found that I'm really able to check out and 636 00:31:28,080 --> 00:31:30,880 Speaker 1: not feel like I need to check and see who 637 00:31:30,920 --> 00:31:33,640 Speaker 1: text me or look at you know, what emails are 638 00:31:33,680 --> 00:31:36,080 Speaker 1: coming in, or look at social media or anything like that. 639 00:31:36,840 --> 00:31:40,680 Speaker 1: And I also up the ante because I planted spinach 640 00:31:40,920 --> 00:31:44,080 Speaker 1: and a tomato plant. Oh wow, my tomato plant is 641 00:31:44,120 --> 00:31:46,680 Speaker 1: really thriving. My spinach not so much. But that's something 642 00:31:46,760 --> 00:31:47,160 Speaker 1: you know who. 643 00:31:47,160 --> 00:31:47,760 Speaker 2: Working on that. 644 00:31:48,240 --> 00:31:52,200 Speaker 1: But anyway, again, it's just satisfying. And they sound so simple, 645 00:31:52,320 --> 00:31:55,640 Speaker 1: but it's like we do all these things in our day, right, 646 00:31:55,720 --> 00:31:58,320 Speaker 1: Like we think you have to go build this massive 647 00:31:58,400 --> 00:32:01,800 Speaker 1: business and be online and be this big presence and 648 00:32:01,920 --> 00:32:04,680 Speaker 1: do all these big things and that's what makes you successful. 649 00:32:05,080 --> 00:32:08,680 Speaker 1: And the older I get, the more I'm thinking, No, 650 00:32:08,800 --> 00:32:11,200 Speaker 1: it's like, what does my little world look like? Like? 651 00:32:11,240 --> 00:32:13,480 Speaker 1: What does my house feel like? To me? What is 652 00:32:14,280 --> 00:32:16,320 Speaker 1: what are the things that bring me joy? And they're 653 00:32:16,360 --> 00:32:19,440 Speaker 1: not found on my phone typically, they're found me doing 654 00:32:19,560 --> 00:32:23,760 Speaker 1: tangible things in my day to day life, using my hands, 655 00:32:23,880 --> 00:32:27,160 Speaker 1: being outside, going on walks and enjoying the sunshine like 656 00:32:27,200 --> 00:32:29,240 Speaker 1: all of those things. I sound like a fucking old lady, 657 00:32:29,280 --> 00:32:33,560 Speaker 1: I know, retire, Yes, I mean I'm not. I'm the 658 00:32:33,680 --> 00:32:35,560 Speaker 1: Grandma who gardens and girls? 659 00:32:35,640 --> 00:32:39,280 Speaker 2: But you remember the quote from Do you remember the 660 00:32:39,360 --> 00:32:42,480 Speaker 2: quote from the Did you watch the Martha Stewart documentary? 661 00:32:42,880 --> 00:32:44,360 Speaker 1: I loved that documentary. 662 00:32:44,400 --> 00:32:46,880 Speaker 2: This is my favorite quote from it. She said, if 663 00:32:46,920 --> 00:32:49,320 Speaker 2: you want to be happy for a year, get married. 664 00:32:49,440 --> 00:32:51,600 Speaker 2: If you want to be happy for a decade, get 665 00:32:51,640 --> 00:32:53,480 Speaker 2: a dog. If you want to be happy for the 666 00:32:53,480 --> 00:32:55,320 Speaker 2: rest of your life, make a garden. 667 00:32:55,760 --> 00:32:58,760 Speaker 1: She is not wrong. She's like an expert gardener, and you. 668 00:32:58,720 --> 00:33:01,600 Speaker 2: See it in that back garden is unbelievable, fascinating. 669 00:33:02,560 --> 00:33:04,920 Speaker 1: I think Martha would be really hard to work for 670 00:33:05,400 --> 00:33:08,160 Speaker 1: personal so true. Yeah, I think so too, But I 671 00:33:08,240 --> 00:33:11,800 Speaker 1: love I loved the documentary and I love I actually 672 00:33:11,880 --> 00:33:14,880 Speaker 1: enjoy her like and I have so much respect for her. 673 00:33:15,000 --> 00:33:17,800 Speaker 1: But she seems very tough because she knows what she 674 00:33:17,840 --> 00:33:20,440 Speaker 1: wants and it's very specific. She's a virgo, so it's 675 00:33:20,480 --> 00:33:21,880 Speaker 1: like over the top. 676 00:33:22,200 --> 00:33:24,800 Speaker 2: But also too, it's like, look out, how amazing she 677 00:33:24,880 --> 00:33:29,400 Speaker 2: became at gardening while also building an empire. So that 678 00:33:29,560 --> 00:33:34,560 Speaker 2: should speak to the idea of like disconnecting and folks 679 00:33:34,600 --> 00:33:38,040 Speaker 2: and like not having your brain be so worried about 680 00:33:38,040 --> 00:33:40,280 Speaker 2: the things that are on your to do list when 681 00:33:40,320 --> 00:33:43,680 Speaker 2: you're doing something that is tactile, and you know she's 682 00:33:43,800 --> 00:33:46,480 Speaker 2: it's you're still building something like you create. 683 00:33:46,600 --> 00:33:49,600 Speaker 1: That's what's so satisfying about it is building something like 684 00:33:49,640 --> 00:33:53,360 Speaker 1: we're in your life. Do you really feel that nowadays? 685 00:33:53,400 --> 00:33:58,000 Speaker 1: Because it's everything we do is orderable within twenty four hours. 686 00:33:58,040 --> 00:33:59,800 Speaker 1: You know, it's like get on Amazon, you get it 687 00:33:59,800 --> 00:34:03,280 Speaker 1: to liver, go to get on Postmates. We barely do 688 00:34:03,400 --> 00:34:07,520 Speaker 1: any of the things that I think people did back 689 00:34:07,560 --> 00:34:10,360 Speaker 1: in the day that brought a sense of satisfaction to 690 00:34:10,560 --> 00:34:13,640 Speaker 1: them or a sense of small success. That's kind of 691 00:34:13,640 --> 00:34:15,960 Speaker 1: what it feels like to me. And maybe I'm late 692 00:34:16,000 --> 00:34:17,759 Speaker 1: to the game and everyone else has this figured out, 693 00:34:17,840 --> 00:34:20,640 Speaker 1: but I do feel like I was operating so much 694 00:34:21,200 --> 00:34:23,160 Speaker 1: in the way our culture moves now, you know, this 695 00:34:23,280 --> 00:34:27,200 Speaker 1: like sense of urgency, this instant gratification kind of thing, 696 00:34:27,239 --> 00:34:31,600 Speaker 1: and this is this slow process like checking on my 697 00:34:31,680 --> 00:34:35,560 Speaker 1: tomatoes every day. It's so satisfying because I'm watching, like 698 00:34:35,640 --> 00:34:37,879 Speaker 1: right now, I'm watching a couple of them turn red 699 00:34:37,920 --> 00:34:40,680 Speaker 1: from green. So I go out every day like so excited, 700 00:34:40,719 --> 00:34:42,279 Speaker 1: like how red are they today? You know? 701 00:34:42,680 --> 00:34:45,040 Speaker 2: Are they protected from deer and stuff? 702 00:34:45,239 --> 00:34:46,440 Speaker 1: I haven't had any issues. 703 00:34:46,680 --> 00:34:48,760 Speaker 2: I want some of your tomatoes when they're grown, because. 704 00:34:48,640 --> 00:34:53,279 Speaker 1: Okay, deal, I'll pack you a little bag anyway. So 705 00:34:53,360 --> 00:34:55,200 Speaker 1: I guess all of that is to say. I put 706 00:34:55,200 --> 00:34:57,160 Speaker 1: into chat shebt, and I was like, if you had 707 00:34:57,160 --> 00:35:01,319 Speaker 1: to sum up one quote of tour is season, what 708 00:35:01,360 --> 00:35:03,520 Speaker 1: would it be? And I told him what we were talking 709 00:35:03,520 --> 00:35:08,720 Speaker 1: about today, or told it she no, literally my best friend. 710 00:35:11,800 --> 00:35:17,360 Speaker 1: I wish, I really wish people are like she's back on. 711 00:35:18,880 --> 00:35:21,600 Speaker 2: Word. She has no friends left except for her keyboard. 712 00:35:23,560 --> 00:35:27,799 Speaker 1: Anyway, it said tourists inspired encouragement. Okay, here we go. 713 00:35:28,360 --> 00:35:33,360 Speaker 1: Rest is productive, beauty is healing, and slowing down is sexy. 714 00:35:34,200 --> 00:35:34,840 Speaker 1: That is good. 715 00:35:35,200 --> 00:35:37,160 Speaker 2: I mean it's all very true. 716 00:35:37,600 --> 00:35:39,040 Speaker 1: Slowing down is sexy. 717 00:35:39,840 --> 00:35:40,239 Speaker 2: Mm hmm. 718 00:35:40,360 --> 00:35:40,840 Speaker 1: I like it. 719 00:35:41,360 --> 00:35:44,480 Speaker 2: Yeah. I mean even think about it in terms of sex. 720 00:35:45,239 --> 00:35:49,680 Speaker 1: Oh, you're right, Yeah, is better for sure. And you 721 00:35:49,680 --> 00:35:54,399 Speaker 1: don't learn that so you're older either, right, slowing down 722 00:35:54,400 --> 00:35:58,480 Speaker 1: a sexy beauty is healing. Rest is productive. That's what 723 00:35:58,520 --> 00:36:01,080 Speaker 1: you need to say to yourself. Rest is productive, deductive. 724 00:36:01,200 --> 00:36:03,680 Speaker 2: Yeah, it's a good one. And think about like even 725 00:36:03,760 --> 00:36:08,720 Speaker 2: the beauty is healing your flowers. I was watching something 726 00:36:08,719 --> 00:36:11,359 Speaker 2: the other day or maybe it was we were talking here. 727 00:36:11,440 --> 00:36:15,680 Speaker 2: I can't remember, but someone mentioned that. They said I 728 00:36:15,920 --> 00:36:17,960 Speaker 2: actually maybe this was in the book that I just finished, 729 00:36:18,040 --> 00:36:21,120 Speaker 2: but they were talking about floral design and someone being like, 730 00:36:21,880 --> 00:36:24,440 Speaker 2: I mean, I love flowers, I just wish they lasted longer. 731 00:36:24,880 --> 00:36:29,120 Speaker 2: And the florist responded was like, flowers only come here 732 00:36:29,160 --> 00:36:31,520 Speaker 2: to do what they're meant to do. The beauty is 733 00:36:31,560 --> 00:36:32,600 Speaker 2: in that they don't last. 734 00:36:32,920 --> 00:36:36,600 Speaker 1: Yeah, because if they lasted all all the time they 735 00:36:36,600 --> 00:36:37,880 Speaker 1: were amazing, it wouldn't make you. 736 00:36:38,480 --> 00:36:41,359 Speaker 2: They're like, it's kind of a good thing that they die, 737 00:36:41,600 --> 00:36:41,799 Speaker 2: you know. 738 00:36:41,840 --> 00:36:44,960 Speaker 1: There's something about joy. Yeah, there's something about the temporary 739 00:36:45,040 --> 00:36:47,040 Speaker 1: nature of it that makes you really enjoy it more. 740 00:36:47,080 --> 00:36:49,680 Speaker 1: I feel, Yeah, that's really interesting. 741 00:36:50,360 --> 00:36:52,319 Speaker 2: So it'll be interesting to see if you can, like 742 00:36:52,920 --> 00:36:55,520 Speaker 2: with this gardening, if it really becomes a thing, if 743 00:36:55,560 --> 00:36:57,920 Speaker 2: you if it becomes a seasonal thing for you, or 744 00:36:58,040 --> 00:37:01,040 Speaker 2: you're like even gardening in the winter to prime the 745 00:37:01,040 --> 00:37:01,920 Speaker 2: stuff for the spring. 746 00:37:02,160 --> 00:37:03,759 Speaker 1: Well, I want to get better about that because I 747 00:37:03,800 --> 00:37:06,400 Speaker 1: waited a little late this year, and it's always unpredictable 748 00:37:06,400 --> 00:37:09,000 Speaker 1: in Nashville because we'll have these cold snaps, and so 749 00:37:09,080 --> 00:37:13,160 Speaker 1: I think I get scared. But what I want to do, Yeah, 750 00:37:13,239 --> 00:37:15,280 Speaker 1: what I want to do next year is do better 751 00:37:15,360 --> 00:37:19,799 Speaker 1: at getting started early in winter, prepping, knowing what I'm 752 00:37:19,840 --> 00:37:23,200 Speaker 1: gonna do, and learning to like when the season is 753 00:37:23,239 --> 00:37:25,520 Speaker 1: that I need to start, because I definitely started late 754 00:37:25,560 --> 00:37:28,400 Speaker 1: this year, but just enjoying it. 755 00:37:28,480 --> 00:37:29,680 Speaker 2: So enjoy it. 756 00:37:29,760 --> 00:37:33,879 Speaker 1: Mind your garden and girl sitch rest and beauty. Rest 757 00:37:33,960 --> 00:37:37,840 Speaker 1: is productive, Beauty is healing, It's slowing down as sexy. 758 00:37:37,880 --> 00:37:38,640 Speaker 1: Don't you forget it. 759 00:37:38,800 --> 00:37:39,640 Speaker 2: I'm a sexy. 760 00:37:40,239 --> 00:37:42,800 Speaker 1: If you guys have any sort of tourist energy that 761 00:37:42,840 --> 00:37:45,240 Speaker 1: you're leaning into, email us at the Edge at velvet 762 00:37:45,320 --> 00:37:47,359 Speaker 1: edge dot com. Give us some ideas. I mean, Chip 763 00:37:47,400 --> 00:37:49,080 Speaker 1: and I can both get really wrapped up in the 764 00:37:49,080 --> 00:37:52,600 Speaker 1: go go go, So I'm always open to hearing our love, 765 00:37:52,680 --> 00:37:55,759 Speaker 1: hearing about what everyone else is doing to slow down 766 00:37:55,800 --> 00:38:00,120 Speaker 1: and kind of your tangible garden and grill situations. You 767 00:38:00,160 --> 00:38:02,680 Speaker 1: can also slide into my DMS. I'm at Velvet's Edge 768 00:38:02,680 --> 00:38:03,280 Speaker 1: on Instagram. 769 00:38:03,360 --> 00:38:05,920 Speaker 2: Chip, I'm at chipdor she it's c H I P 770 00:38:06,560 --> 00:38:07,920 Speaker 2: D O R S c H. 771 00:38:08,320 --> 00:38:09,920 Speaker 1: And as you guys are go into the weekend and 772 00:38:09,960 --> 00:38:12,280 Speaker 1: you're living on the edge, I hope you always remember 773 00:38:12,360 --> 00:38:12,440 Speaker 1: to 774 00:38:13,320 --> 00:38:15,880 Speaker 2: A casual bye