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Speaker 2: Yeah? All you do is just watch kids all day?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, what do you even freaking do it?

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Speaker 2: It's not tough at all.

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Speaker 1: And this stands with the question of what thoughts should

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Speaker 1: remain unsaid? Maybe this month so throwaway. Hs Grad says,

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Speaker 1: my wife's making this a bigger deal than it should be.

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Speaker 1: Me forty eight and my wife forty eight, married when

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Speaker 1: we were twenty two and have five kids male female, Wait,

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Speaker 1: male to female twenty five Maybe that's stipe on, I'm

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Speaker 1: not sure. Female twenty two, male nineteen, the fifth female

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Speaker 1: three one was a surprise.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, twenty five, twenty two, nineteen and three. Our other

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Speaker 1: children are adults. For a majority of their lives, I

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Speaker 1: was the stay at home parent. I cooked, cleaned, attended games,

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Speaker 1: But eight months ago my wife comes to me and says,

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Speaker 1: I was skeptical because she had never done it before,

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Speaker 1: I did well. She hasn't been handling it well at

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Speaker 1: so real quick. Op Opie was a stay at home father, gotcha. Ope,

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Speaker 1: when they had their first couple kids, was a stay

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Speaker 1: again when they had their new child, quit his job

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Speaker 1: that now his wife is coming coming to him and saying, hey,

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Speaker 2: Gotcha. Yeah, she has experience.

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Speaker 1: So he has experienced. She doesn't. But now she's saying

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Speaker 1: that I want to switch rolls. Okay, Whenever I came

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Speaker 1: She complains about how being a stay at home mom

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Speaker 1: is hard personally, I think she's lazy, and I voiced

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Speaker 1: she's a stay at home mom and she's lazy. Oh,

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Speaker 1: this is the first time where we've ever gotten one

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Speaker 2: I'm still in the middle of any more context.

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Speaker 3: Really, yeah, because I mean he has experience, he's been

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Speaker 1: It's probably an adjustment. But for her to be like, oh,

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Speaker 1: I think is like she should have just come to

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Speaker 3: It's a first go round. He's breastfeeding. It's eight months, right,

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Speaker 1: No, No, the baby is three. And I think op,

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Speaker 1: he is saying that. OP. He was doing this like

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Speaker 1: it was being a stay at home dad for three years,

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Speaker 1: but eight months ago she came to them and said, hey,

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Speaker 1: Just say hey, this is Breen coming from She's been

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Speaker 1: But how can raising children be so difficult and different

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Speaker 1: I think just nanny's.

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Speaker 2: Nanny's So he had nanny's help. Is she having nanny's help.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it's like a time to say he did have

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Speaker 1: That's an actually excellent point. If she had no help

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Speaker 1: True, that's true, I think it. Yeah, we need to

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Speaker 1: at it. I want everyone to understand that I do

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Speaker 1: She needs it more than she is willing to admit.

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Speaker 1: Calling her out the way I did may have been harsh,

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Speaker 3: Honestly, he does have a point. I have everything. But

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Speaker 2: Oh, i'd't even think about dad.

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Speaker 1: I still away. I'm gonna read the rest of the comment,

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Speaker 1: Ope responds, I was watching our daughter up until eight

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Speaker 1: Is she struggling because she's older from mental health issues?

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Speaker 1: Just got done discussing with my wife on why she

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Speaker 4: rest of your life.

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Speaker 1: I like cooking.

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Speaker 2: I either have a ghost cook for you or clean

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Speaker 2: for you.

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Speaker 4: Clean a ghost cook or clean.

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Speaker 1: I want a ghost to clean for me. I want

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Speaker 1: to come. Just imagine, I get to cook. Honestly, the

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Speaker 1: worst part of cooking, and it's not that bad, but

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Speaker 1: the worst part of cooking is cleaning. I just leave

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Speaker 1: all my dishes boom, ghosts clean it up and I

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Speaker 1: get to enjoy the process of cooking.

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Speaker 2: I say, a ghost to clean until like so then

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Speaker 2: whenever I have.

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Speaker 1: Kids, well, my ghost cleans, then your ghosts can cook.

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Speaker 4: There, we got work together in harmony.

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Speaker 2: We're not going to be doing this forever. What you

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Speaker 2: mean We're not going to be living together forever?

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Speaker 1: What do you mean?

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Speaker 4: Well, you know what we will be doing forever is

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Speaker 4: reading this next story in the same house, in the

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Speaker 4: same house.

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Speaker 1: Together forever.

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Speaker 4: Riley, get married and have your children with all of us.

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Speaker 1: Okay, yeah, I thought that was the plan. I thought

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Speaker 1: we were living in a compound.

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Speaker 3: Dude. Oh boy, Okay, let's have this compound uh in Tennessee.

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Speaker 2: Come on, come on, valley girl, Tennessee's fire.

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Speaker 1: I'm sure. I'm sure it would be.

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Speaker 4: But I'm moving there. I just I like being around

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Speaker 4: the piers of Black Mountains.

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Speaker 1: I don't know, I feel like there's just more stuff

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Speaker 1: going on in La. Yeah.

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Speaker 4: I like being around the activity of in.

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Speaker 1: A city my industry, or just on the outskirts of

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Speaker 1: a city.

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Speaker 2: I want to go be able to like get lost

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Speaker 2: in the woods.

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Speaker 4: If all of our creators move there, that'd be great.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 4: But anyways, what is this next door?

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Speaker 3: You can have a summer home there we go six

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Speaker 3: seventeen summer home that I visit during the summer.

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Speaker 2: My kids are off. Yeah, I guess the summer off

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Speaker 2: John whatever.

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Speaker 4: Like we all have kids?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, wow, kids.

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Speaker 4: In nine months from now, when you have kids in

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Speaker 4: ten years. We figured out a plan, he said. The

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Speaker 4: first fun if we.

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Speaker 1: All collectively got like a like a beach or not

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Speaker 1: a beach house, but like a lake house or something that.

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Speaker 4: Would be very fun and took our kids. That makes

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Speaker 4: it so much more lit to have everyone there. The

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Speaker 4: awesomeness just exponentially increasing.

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Speaker 1: All of our kids are friends, yes kids, Jo.

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Speaker 4: Yes. Of course we are going to have a parenting

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Speaker 4: podcast one day. But anyways, today we're going to talk

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Speaker 4: about this podcast and read the next story forgot Yes,