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Speaker 3: My relationship is being strained because my boyfriend is a

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Speaker 3: poor sport. Oh what a sore loser. Boy friend. Fifty

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Speaker 3: Mail and I fifty female are at an impasse over numbers.

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Speaker 3: Not those numbers lol, but together eighteen months not living

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Speaker 3: together in ages a little loose for usual reasons. By

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Speaker 3: the way, this comes from outspoken person And if you

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Speaker 3: slash Okay story Time.

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Speaker 4: Separate it.

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Speaker 3: So we bonded over the love of a very difficult sport.

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Speaker 3: He introduced me to rugby the community and opened a

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Speaker 3: lot of doors for me. The first nine months to

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Speaker 3: a year was fabulous. We worked so hard to level up,

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Speaker 3: so many great days, weeks, weekends, so much mutual support

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Speaker 3: and joy. So what's the problem. He's always disappointed by

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Speaker 3: his competition results despite a lot of hard work and

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Speaker 3: money invested, and gets super grumpy. He's disappointed even when

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Speaker 3: he actually did quite well. He always beats me, but

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Speaker 3: I'm closing ground if I try to talk at all

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Speaker 3: about the results, rankings, numbers to gain insight and help

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Speaker 3: us train smarter. He gets annoyed and shays I'm violating

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Speaker 3: his boundary of not discussing numbers. But that means I

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Speaker 3: also can't talk about my own results, my own wins,

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Speaker 3: my own progress, without running the risk of violating whose boundary.

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Speaker 3: I feel like I'm seeing sides of him now that

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Speaker 3: I really don't like. He's insecure and unpredictable. He's blown

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Speaker 3: up a few times at me, but later he doesn't

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Speaker 3: even seem to remember, so trying to talk through them

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Speaker 3: doesn't happen. He likes to remind me that he's the

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Speaker 3: member at the expensive clubs, and Loki threatens to exclude

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Speaker 3: me when he's mad at me about something. I've put

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Speaker 3: in a lot of work to build our social circle

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Speaker 3: and community, and that is both scary and appalling to

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Speaker 3: me that he can so easily exclude me from the

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Speaker 3: clubs where social events happen. A few months ago, I

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Speaker 3: placed highly in my division in a really big competition,

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Speaker 3: my first big award. He missed the awards ceremony to

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Speaker 3: hang out with a friend. He acted like my disappointment

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Speaker 3: in him not being there to celebrate with me was unreasonable.

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Speaker 3: He's currently stonewalling me. Yesterday he brought up his disappointing

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Speaker 3: performance at a recent event. I made the mistake of

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Speaker 3: looking up a number in the post results and shared

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Speaker 3: it with him. He got irritated and said he was

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Speaker 3: tired of telling me to stop talking about the numbers

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Speaker 3: care that he was the one that brought it up.

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Speaker 3: He hung up on me. I sent a short apology

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Speaker 3: text no response of any kind. That was twenty four

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Speaker 3: hours ago. He usually reappears after a few days and

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Speaker 3: pretends like nothing happened. I don't think he's upset that

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Speaker 3: I'm improving much faster than he is. I think he's

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Speaker 3: grappling with his own disappointment and feeling like he might

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Speaker 3: not be able to do as well as he wants,

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Speaker 3: no matter how hard he works. He's someone who's been

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Speaker 3: good at almost everything he's ever done. I've tried PEP talks,

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Speaker 3: offered to help in any way with tactical training support.

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Speaker 3: I've tried just listening and empathizing, but it's getting old.

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Speaker 3: I think he's a bit delusional. We're competing against guys

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Speaker 3: who are much younger, twenty to thirty years younger, and

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Speaker 3: he keeps injuring himself with overtraining and ignoring the advice

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Speaker 3: of literally everyone, including his idols. It's exhausting, and I'm

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Speaker 3: tired of trying to manage his moodiness flashes of anger

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Speaker 3: and trying to offer support. Reddit lay it on me.

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Speaker 3: How would you characterize or interpret his behavior? Am I

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Speaker 3: promoting it by violating his boundary? Is that even a boundary?

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Speaker 3: It feels like a rule? What would you do if

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Speaker 3: you were me? And there are some releman comments, but

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Speaker 3: what would you do if you were op Ah?

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Speaker 5: Like it's hard because I would want to just try

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Speaker 5: to talk to him and be like, hey, so it's

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Speaker 5: really difficult for me, Like I don't want to cross

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Speaker 5: your boundaries. But it's difficult when like this is how

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Speaker 5: people talk about this. Yeah, but it seems like he's

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Speaker 3: Oh yeah, yeah, I think you have that conversation, you say,

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Speaker 3: I don't really appreciate how you've been talking to me

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Speaker 3: about this, And honestly, I feel like you guys, I mean,

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Speaker 3: if you can't communicate and play this game in a

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Speaker 3: Maybe. I mean like it's I feel like you guys

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Speaker 3: your relationship ending because he's not listening to you. He's

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Speaker 3: been kind of rude. Yeah, and I feel like, if

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Speaker 3: you want to protect your relationship, I don't know if

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Speaker 3: five says childish. He should be supportive and encouraging and

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Speaker 3: happy he has found a partner he can play a

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Speaker 3: sport with a common interest is awesome. I don't want

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Speaker 3: to know what sport, just to see if he's being

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Speaker 3: extra childish or not not throwing a temper tantrum like

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Speaker 3: a year old that lost a race at school. Opie says.

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Speaker 3: It's scored on both points accuracy and speed. He pitched

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Speaker 3: temper tantrums at two matches last year. He did apologize

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Speaker 3: profusely for those, and I told him if he ever

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Speaker 3: does that again we are done so, Dan says, evidence

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Speaker 3: based thinking clears this up fast. It teaches us not

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Speaker 3: to guess at motives, not to justify bad behavior, and

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Speaker 3: not to argue over labels like boundary or rule. We

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Speaker 3: focus on patterns. We watch what people do, not what

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Speaker 3: they say. Here's what he does. He shuts you down

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Speaker 3: when you try to celebrate or grow. He explodes at you,

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Speaker 3: forgets and refuses to talk it through. He threatens to

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Speaker 3: Ebt would teach you this. Those are not signs of

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Speaker 3: someone protecting a boundary. Those are signs of someone protecting control.

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Speaker 3: A boundary what you set for yourself to say calm

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Speaker 3: and safe. A rule is what you force on someone

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Speaker 3: else to say in power. You're not violating a boundary,

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Speaker 3: You're violating the story. He wants to live in, one

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Speaker 3: where he's the mentor, the center, the champion you growth.

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Speaker 3: Your growth threatens that story, so he punishes you for it.

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Speaker 3: If this is what it looks like when you're winning,

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Speaker 3: what will it look like when you're losing. Let the

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Speaker 3: evidence lead the way Opie says, OMG, thank you so much.

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Speaker 3: I really needed to hear that. He does talk about

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Speaker 3: my successes a lot to others. He likes the association

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Speaker 3: of being there to watch mouthsaying open. He says and

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Speaker 3: does a lot of encouraging, supportive things, but he definitely

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Speaker 3: has to exert control. He'll invite me to train with

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Speaker 3: him at a very nice range, but he insists we

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Speaker 3: want to do something different. He tells me I'm training wrong.

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Speaker 3: He'll invite others at the last minute and then be mad.

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Speaker 3: I'm refrustrated at driving hours round trips to get in

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Speaker 3: very little training time. He also lied to me about

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Speaker 3: wanting to train alone one weekend when he was actually

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Speaker 3: going out of state to train with some really cool people.

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Speaker 3: I did place higher than him at a very big

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Speaker 3: event last year, but we were both injured and neither

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Speaker 3: Someone else did, and it put him in such a

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Speaker 3: bad move. He spent the next day correcting my behavior

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Speaker 3: in such weird ways, like I was an incompetent child.

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Speaker 3: He did not like it when I called him out

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Speaker 3: I mean, like, what's this sounds like a bad relationship.

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Speaker 5: It sounds like he just has these personal issues that

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Speaker 5: he needs to work on.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and like I don't know.

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Speaker 5: I mean I if Obi really wants to put an

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Speaker 5: effort to make this work, maybe maybe she can talk

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Speaker 5: to him and be like, hey, like, we I joined

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Speaker 5: this because it looked like you had a lot of fun,

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Speaker 5: but it doesn't seem like you're having fun with it anymore?

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Speaker 3: Like, yeah, how can I help you have.

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Speaker 5: More fun with it without just like ignoring what's happening?

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Speaker 4: You know?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I think you say, hey, can't talk to me

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Speaker 4: Is that?

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Speaker 3: Okay? I feel disrespected? Call it, yeah, call out his behavior,

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Speaker 3: which it seems like you've have been doing again. I really,

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Speaker 3: I really don't think that you guys, as of now,

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Speaker 3: can continue to play this game together and also be

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Speaker 3: in a relationship. Soak Dan again. Is support that disappears

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Speaker 3: the moment you grow stronger. Real support you asked earlier

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Speaker 3: if you were promoting this by violating his boundary. In

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Speaker 3: my opinion, no, have you ever sat him down calmly

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Speaker 3: and asked him straight up, why do you get so

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Speaker 3: upset when I improve or bring up numbers, because if

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Speaker 3: you have not, that is the next step before making

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Speaker 3: a final call, not to fix him, but to gather

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Speaker 3: one last piece of evidence about whether he can even

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Speaker 3: have that conversation without deflecting, attacking, or stonewalling. Yeah, if

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Speaker 3: know the answer. Hope, he says, thank you. I have

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Speaker 3: asked him about the over the top reaction to the numbers.

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Speaker 3: He says he doesn't understand them. He's not good at map.

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Speaker 3: His idols will tell him to work on something and

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Speaker 3: tell him why the numbers they are tracking for him.

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Speaker 3: He is grateful to them and doesn't blow up them.

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Speaker 3: He'd get blackballed if he did. But he insists, I'm

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Speaker 3: violating his boundary, this absolute prohibition against talking about any

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Speaker 3: When I try to broach topic with him, he twists

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Speaker 3: it all around. He insists, I tell him when something

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Speaker 3: I'm wrong. I rarely bring up anything. It's too exhausting

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Speaker 3: to go round and round around on the straw man,

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Speaker 3: he throws out. So Dan says, in your opinion, what

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Speaker 3: will the next eighteen months look like? And are you

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Speaker 3: willing to endure them? Ope, he says, good question. You've

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Speaker 3: really helped me unpack how damaging the behavior patterns are.

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Speaker 3: Obviously I didn't share the long list of positive behavior,

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Speaker 3: but I'm not sure that list actually matters. He has

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Speaker 3: previously expressed a very high desire to remain friends no

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Speaker 3: matter what I think. If I break up with him, however,

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Speaker 3: he will exclude me and malign me in subtle ways

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Speaker 3: from the community. I've seen him try to squeeze out

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Speaker 3: other people. I'm starting to think that maybe it would

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Speaker 3: be good if he just keeps stonewalling me. I've already

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Speaker 3: cried most of the tears. If he doesn't reach out,

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Speaker 3: it seems pointless to even try to have a breakup conversation.

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Speaker 3: As the hours tick by, the silence is deafening. But

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Speaker 3: We've been here before, and he SLINKs back after a

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Speaker 3: few days, and each time I'm more wary, less open,

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Speaker 3: less engaged, less enthusiastic. He's unaliving the relationship one outburst

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Speaker 3: at a time. If he does reach out, if the

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Speaker 3: cycle holds that I need a response. I don't think

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Speaker 3: he'll apologize or acknowledge the damage that stonewalling me does.

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Speaker 3: He will feel justified since I violated his boundary. M

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Speaker 3: Bosu says, eighteen months together, you're closing in on him.

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Speaker 3: He stonewalls you and refuses to celebrate your wins even

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Speaker 3: when he does perform. Well, girl, leave him literally in

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Speaker 3: the dust behind you. You did the work for the

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Speaker 3: I think she goes. I think you talk all about

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Speaker 3: I can see so many petty ways he exerts control

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Speaker 5: All you can do is just focus on yourself. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: In war Craft. This is like what like a cat

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Speaker 4: Leave him?

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Speaker 3: to live that way, and you coming here and saying

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Speaker 3: you need to work is offensive.

435
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Speaker 5: It just goes against my in my internal and spiritual

436
00:21:40,600 --> 00:21:45,240
Speaker 5: beliefs to be locked down in a confined.

437
00:21:44,800 --> 00:21:47,080
Speaker 3: Job all day to kill ry a king.

438
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Speaker 5: He told me that he'd rather actually pass away than

439
00:21:50,040 --> 00:21:52,120
Speaker 5: be employed, and he said that it's due to how

440
00:21:52,200 --> 00:21:54,959
Speaker 5: much of your time it takes, how it's only necessary

441
00:21:55,040 --> 00:21:58,160
Speaker 5: to due to the status quo of capitalism, et cetera.

442
00:21:58,320 --> 00:22:00,920
Speaker 5: I kind of lost my cool and asked him, isn't

443
00:22:00,960 --> 00:22:03,080
Speaker 5: saying all of that kind of hypocritical when you're just

444
00:22:03,160 --> 00:22:05,679
Speaker 5: intending to live off of everyone else that does it,

445
00:22:06,160 --> 00:22:08,720
Speaker 5: and then he got pretty pissed. Anyway, I guess I

446
00:22:08,840 --> 00:22:11,320
Speaker 5: just realized that if I were anyone else reading this,

447
00:22:11,440 --> 00:22:13,520
Speaker 5: I have given into the what the ef for you?

448
00:22:13,600 --> 00:22:16,200
Speaker 5: Doing this is stupid idea by now. So if you've

449
00:22:16,280 --> 00:22:18,920
Speaker 5: made it this far, I appreciate it. All aspects of

450
00:22:18,960 --> 00:22:21,200
Speaker 5: the relationship are great except for this, but I guess

451
00:22:21,240 --> 00:22:24,440
Speaker 5: it's a pretty large portion, and it's pretty much me saying, man,

452
00:22:24,560 --> 00:22:26,880
Speaker 5: this house is fully furnished and the curtains are beautiful,

453
00:22:27,119 --> 00:22:28,960
Speaker 5: but the whole place is on fire, so that kind

454
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Speaker 5: of sucks.

455
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Speaker 3: Yeah, exactly, great example, you have a pet. He doesn't

456
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Speaker 3: want to work, he doesn't believe in work.

457
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Speaker 5: So I guess are there any suggestions for how to

458
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Speaker 5: make him see that this is going to end us?

459
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Speaker 5: Because I'm honestly feeling pretty selfish right now, and in

460
00:22:44,880 --> 00:22:47,680
Speaker 5: his head, I think I'm attacking him, and I don't

461
00:22:47,720 --> 00:22:50,880
Speaker 5: want to be sorry if this is disjointed, as heck,

462
00:22:51,000 --> 00:22:53,440
Speaker 5: it's been a long worked in there is an update.

463
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Speaker 3: But I have a really really good solution for a

464
00:22:55,560 --> 00:22:58,960
Speaker 3: p Yeah breakup. Yeah, that that'll really show him that

465
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Speaker 3: this is going to be the end of us. I'm

466
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Speaker 3: sorry he needs a freaking wake up call. Yeah. If

467
00:23:06,000 --> 00:23:09,200
Speaker 3: if you do not want your life to be about work,

468
00:23:09,480 --> 00:23:12,239
Speaker 3: that's fine. There are some people who don't want to

469
00:23:12,320 --> 00:23:16,080
Speaker 3: like find a career and like really work super hard

470
00:23:16,080 --> 00:23:19,159
Speaker 3: on that career and you work their way up the

471
00:23:19,240 --> 00:23:21,760
Speaker 3: ladder and stuff. You don't have to do that. If

472
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Speaker 3: you just want to do like a work in a

473
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Speaker 3: restaurant all your life, get tips, quit when you want,

474
00:23:27,520 --> 00:23:30,960
Speaker 3: go on trave you know, that's fine. Yeah, this though,

475
00:23:31,320 --> 00:23:35,159
Speaker 3: this is your free loading off of your girlfriend. Absolutely

476
00:23:35,240 --> 00:23:37,840
Speaker 3: because it's so interesting because I don't know, maybe I'll

477
00:23:37,920 --> 00:23:39,639
Speaker 3: start to ramble, but I just have a lot of

478
00:23:39,720 --> 00:23:41,639
Speaker 3: thoughts on this because at one point I fell into

479
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Speaker 3: like I saw a lot of videos on TikTok and

480
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Speaker 3: I was like, yeah, we we aren't meant to work.

481
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Speaker 5: This sucks that like we have to do this and

482
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Speaker 5: we have to like you know, go to school and

483
00:23:51,080 --> 00:23:51,560
Speaker 5: all this stuff.

484
00:23:51,600 --> 00:23:53,120
Speaker 3: Like we're just meant to hang out have fun.

485
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Speaker 5: But I honestly don't think that we are, Like biologically,

486
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Speaker 5: I don't think we are anymore.

487
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Speaker 3: I mean it's I don't think that we were supposed

488
00:24:02,000 --> 00:24:06,160
Speaker 3: to work five days a week for eight hours on

489
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Speaker 3: you know, on computers per se. But we all we've

490
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Speaker 3: always worked.

491
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Speaker 5: We've worked to get food exactly like that, you know,

492
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Speaker 5: That's how I think of it. It's like, it's like

493
00:24:16,200 --> 00:24:18,879
Speaker 5: if we were not working, if we were just like

494
00:24:19,000 --> 00:24:21,280
Speaker 5: on our own, it's like survival style.

495
00:24:21,600 --> 00:24:23,360
Speaker 3: Aid doing so much more work.

496
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Speaker 5: You were just you would spend all day looking for

497
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Speaker 5: food and looking for all this stuff. And now that

498
00:24:28,480 --> 00:24:30,840
Speaker 5: we have like grocery stores, we don't do that anymore.

499
00:24:30,920 --> 00:24:33,240
Speaker 5: So it's like we still, I think, are like meant

500
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Speaker 5: to be busy.

501
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Speaker 3: Maybe not yeah, on a computer all day? Yeah, but yeah,

502
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Speaker 3: I mean I was definitely totally different type of work.

503
00:24:40,800 --> 00:24:41,960
Speaker 3: But anyway, there is an update.

504
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Speaker 5: I brought up a lot of the points that you

505
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Speaker 5: guys brought up in the last thread, including how would

506
00:24:46,320 --> 00:24:48,520
Speaker 5: you feel if I stopped working? And I actually threw

507
00:24:48,600 --> 00:24:51,200
Speaker 5: out an ultimatum of if you had to choose between

508
00:24:51,200 --> 00:24:53,520
Speaker 5: getting a job and being with me, which would it be.

509
00:24:54,080 --> 00:24:57,080
Speaker 5: I wish I could tell you I took the calm, rational,

510
00:24:57,160 --> 00:24:59,760
Speaker 5: mature route and just walked out to a new life.

511
00:25:00,119 --> 00:25:02,480
Speaker 3: I decided to have a tiny bit of fun instead.

512
00:25:02,600 --> 00:25:04,920
Speaker 5: I've got a decent amount of money saved up since

513
00:25:04,960 --> 00:25:06,640
Speaker 5: his dad didn't charge me rent and.

514
00:25:06,600 --> 00:25:08,800
Speaker 3: That was the entire purpose of me staying here.

515
00:25:08,920 --> 00:25:11,560
Speaker 5: Lee's notes, I prefer to carry my own weight and

516
00:25:11,600 --> 00:25:14,520
Speaker 5: still contributed as far as preparing meals, buying food, and

517
00:25:14,560 --> 00:25:17,200
Speaker 5: buying drinks. I put my notice in at my previous

518
00:25:17,240 --> 00:25:20,440
Speaker 5: job without informing my boyfriend. Once the notice period was up,

519
00:25:20,560 --> 00:25:24,439
Speaker 5: I stayed home every day. Look at you wake up

520
00:25:24,480 --> 00:25:26,560
Speaker 5: in the morning and he says, don't you have work today?

521
00:25:26,720 --> 00:25:28,720
Speaker 5: And I'd be like, eh, I don't feel like it. Wait,

522
00:25:29,200 --> 00:25:31,320
Speaker 5: did she say that she had like a time off

523
00:25:31,400 --> 00:25:34,000
Speaker 5: or something that she could take. No, she's just she

524
00:25:34,400 --> 00:25:36,719
Speaker 5: has money saved up, so she's just like quitting her

525
00:25:36,800 --> 00:25:37,400
Speaker 5: job right now.

526
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Speaker 3: I know this is commitment. Commitments A bit love that.

527
00:25:41,600 --> 00:25:42,040
Speaker 2: Okay.

528
00:25:42,160 --> 00:25:44,480
Speaker 5: The first few days he was like, awesome, and we

529
00:25:44,520 --> 00:25:47,200
Speaker 5: sat around playing games. After the first week, he starts

530
00:25:47,200 --> 00:25:50,160
Speaker 5: getting a little anxious and he's like, so, what's up

531
00:25:50,200 --> 00:25:52,919
Speaker 5: with work? And I tell him, oh, you know, just

532
00:25:52,960 --> 00:25:55,560
Speaker 5: not feeling like it. After the second week, he says,

533
00:25:55,720 --> 00:25:58,920
Speaker 5: what's going on? And I tell him that I thought

534
00:25:59,000 --> 00:25:59,880
Speaker 5: that what he said.

535
00:26:00,119 --> 00:26:01,120
Speaker 3: I really agree with him.

536
00:26:01,280 --> 00:26:04,320
Speaker 5: Yes, I don't feel like working and contributing to the

537
00:26:04,320 --> 00:26:05,080
Speaker 5: machine either.

538
00:26:05,280 --> 00:26:08,800
Speaker 3: So I'll just stay here with him, and he flipped out.

539
00:26:09,240 --> 00:26:12,080
Speaker 5: He started telling me how irresponsible that is, how I

540
00:26:12,160 --> 00:26:15,520
Speaker 5: have to work, basically the entire diatribe. And I should

541
00:26:15,520 --> 00:26:18,360
Speaker 5: have been screaming at this kid the entire time we

542
00:26:18,359 --> 00:26:19,240
Speaker 5: were together.

543
00:26:19,480 --> 00:26:22,840
Speaker 3: Except at me. Uh. Because I didn't go to work

544
00:26:22,880 --> 00:26:24,439
Speaker 3: for two weeks.

545
00:26:24,200 --> 00:26:26,160
Speaker 5: I kind of figured that would happen, and I wanted

546
00:26:26,200 --> 00:26:29,159
Speaker 5: something drastic to point out to him that, as I

547
00:26:29,160 --> 00:26:31,280
Speaker 5: said before, he is a hypocrite.

548
00:26:31,440 --> 00:26:32,640
Speaker 3: Because he is.

549
00:26:33,359 --> 00:26:34,879
Speaker 5: I have to admit that a small part of me

550
00:26:35,000 --> 00:26:36,840
Speaker 5: was kind of hoping that this would be a revelation

551
00:26:36,920 --> 00:26:38,360
Speaker 5: to him and helping him change.

552
00:26:38,600 --> 00:26:40,800
Speaker 3: But no, he just couldn't fathom how I.

553
00:26:40,720 --> 00:26:45,040
Speaker 5: Could possibly do something so ridiculous and blah blah blah. Anyway,

554
00:26:45,119 --> 00:26:48,000
Speaker 5: what I actually did after leaving my job was find

555
00:26:48,040 --> 00:26:50,200
Speaker 5: a part time job and go down to the local

556
00:26:50,240 --> 00:26:52,640
Speaker 5: community college to pull the trigger on something I've wanted

557
00:26:52,680 --> 00:26:54,919
Speaker 5: to do for a couple of years now, enroll in

558
00:26:54,960 --> 00:26:56,000
Speaker 5: a welding program.

559
00:26:56,040 --> 00:26:56,800
Speaker 3: I also found a.

560
00:26:56,800 --> 00:26:59,080
Speaker 5: Roommate in the area who's cool with my animals, and

561
00:26:59,119 --> 00:27:01,040
Speaker 5: that way I can split my bills and not be

562
00:27:01,280 --> 00:27:04,480
Speaker 5: strapped for cash. Plus, I sometimes drive for Uber and

563
00:27:04,520 --> 00:27:06,680
Speaker 5: this is an okay market with a decent bar scene

564
00:27:06,680 --> 00:27:08,720
Speaker 5: on the weekend, so if I need a little extra,

565
00:27:08,920 --> 00:27:11,960
Speaker 5: there's that. So I've moved out and moved on, and

566
00:27:12,040 --> 00:27:14,399
Speaker 5: you know, I'm not even that sad because I got

567
00:27:14,480 --> 00:27:17,840
Speaker 5: closure of that whole event. I'm also pursuing the cliche

568
00:27:17,880 --> 00:27:20,920
Speaker 5: of hitting the gym more slash at all and hoping

569
00:27:20,960 --> 00:27:23,400
Speaker 5: to lose a little weight, though I did just lose

570
00:27:23,440 --> 00:27:27,280
Speaker 5: one to eighty useless pounds, so maybe that's enough for now.

571
00:27:27,760 --> 00:27:28,119
Speaker 3: Nice.

572
00:27:28,400 --> 00:27:30,359
Speaker 5: Anyway, I know I didn't go about it in the

573
00:27:30,440 --> 00:27:32,080
Speaker 5: right way, but I thought that if any of you

574
00:27:32,160 --> 00:27:35,000
Speaker 5: were curious to know, here's how it went. Thanks Reddit,

575
00:27:35,200 --> 00:27:38,399
Speaker 5: and there isn't edit. Sweet Jesus, this exploded and you

576
00:27:38,440 --> 00:27:41,359
Speaker 5: are all very kind and amazing. Lots of people pming

577
00:27:41,400 --> 00:27:45,399
Speaker 5: me and commenting about his actual reaction, But to be honest,

578
00:27:45,480 --> 00:27:47,400
Speaker 5: I feel like I'd have to be a trained.

579
00:27:47,080 --> 00:27:48,600
Speaker 3: Therapist to even figure it out.

580
00:27:48,720 --> 00:27:50,359
Speaker 5: There is a little bit more into the story, but

581
00:27:51,119 --> 00:27:53,959
Speaker 5: uh yeah, I'm so glad. I really hope that what

582
00:27:54,040 --> 00:27:55,680
Speaker 5: she does is just like he's like yelling all this

583
00:27:55,720 --> 00:27:58,240
Speaker 5: stuff and she just goes to like bedroom wistling that

584
00:27:58,400 --> 00:28:00,959
Speaker 5: grabs a mirror and just let places it right in

585
00:28:00,960 --> 00:28:01,480
Speaker 5: front of him.

586
00:28:01,640 --> 00:28:04,919
Speaker 3: That's you keep going, keep going, you're looking at the

587
00:28:04,960 --> 00:28:06,639
Speaker 3: man in the mirror. Yeah.

588
00:28:06,680 --> 00:28:09,360
Speaker 5: Exactly after he flipped out of me, I pointed out

589
00:28:09,400 --> 00:28:11,879
Speaker 5: that it really was just say what's good for the

590
00:28:11,920 --> 00:28:15,320
Speaker 5: goose scenario. He got kind of quiet and said that

591
00:28:15,440 --> 00:28:17,880
Speaker 5: I was being mean. I told him that it had

592
00:28:17,920 --> 00:28:20,520
Speaker 5: become pretty obvious that trying to talk to him about

593
00:28:20,520 --> 00:28:23,280
Speaker 5: everything wasn't doing me much good, so I had decided

594
00:28:23,320 --> 00:28:26,240
Speaker 5: to actively show him. He told me that it doesn't

595
00:28:26,320 --> 00:28:28,880
Speaker 5: change anything about the way he feels about not working.

596
00:28:29,000 --> 00:28:30,960
Speaker 5: I told him that he's got to find some way

597
00:28:31,000 --> 00:28:33,480
Speaker 5: to contribute or I walk. He told me that it

598
00:28:33,520 --> 00:28:36,920
Speaker 5: would be my decision. So it was basically to this day.

599
00:28:36,920 --> 00:28:39,280
Speaker 5: He still believes that he's right, or at the very least,

600
00:28:39,320 --> 00:28:42,240
Speaker 5: he hasn't done anything wrong. There's some sort of disconnect

601
00:28:42,240 --> 00:28:44,000
Speaker 5: in his brain where he can't connect the part of

602
00:28:44,040 --> 00:28:45,840
Speaker 5: him that loves me and wants to take care of

603
00:28:45,880 --> 00:28:48,080
Speaker 5: me with the part of him that doesn't want to

604
00:28:48,120 --> 00:28:50,600
Speaker 5: work and wants to live off his parents forever.

605
00:28:50,720 --> 00:28:54,400
Speaker 3: He's got to have pretty parents. Yeah, and that is

606
00:28:54,440 --> 00:28:57,240
Speaker 3: the end of that story. Well, Okay, this man is rich,

607
00:28:57,400 --> 00:29:01,080
Speaker 3: doesn't want to work, and thinks that he thinks that

608
00:29:01,160 --> 00:29:04,440
Speaker 3: he can put that mindset on everyone. Yeah, I'm glad.

609
00:29:04,440 --> 00:29:06,240
Speaker 3: I hope that you got closure for this.

610
00:29:06,600 --> 00:29:09,080
Speaker 5: Sometimes with these people, I feel like that wouldn't even

611
00:29:09,120 --> 00:29:10,760
Speaker 5: be closure enough for me because I'd still be just

612
00:29:10,800 --> 00:29:12,320
Speaker 5: so enraged that that.

613
00:29:12,320 --> 00:29:14,479
Speaker 3: Isn't even no. It's like the type of mindset of

614
00:29:14,520 --> 00:29:16,560
Speaker 3: like someone's in a bad living space and the rich

615
00:29:16,600 --> 00:29:17,840
Speaker 3: person's like, just sit it out.

616
00:29:19,040 --> 00:29:19,280
Speaker 4: Sam.

617
00:29:19,320 --> 00:29:21,120
Speaker 1: Here, we're gonna get back to the stories. But here's

618
00:29:21,120 --> 00:29:23,880
Speaker 1: three of it's bads from our sponsors. My girlfriend and

619
00:29:23,920 --> 00:29:27,120
Speaker 1: I are working on our relationship, but my parents demand

620
00:29:27,720 --> 00:29:31,920
Speaker 1: we split up. Demand you not, demand you not take

621
00:29:31,960 --> 00:29:34,840
Speaker 1: get demand and shove it up. You're In December twenty

622
00:29:34,880 --> 00:29:38,640
Speaker 1: twenty three, my girlfriend twenty one female, and I twenty

623
00:29:38,640 --> 00:29:41,640
Speaker 1: one male, had been together at the time two years.

624
00:29:41,960 --> 00:29:44,800
Speaker 1: My family was hosting my dad's side for Christmas and

625
00:29:44,880 --> 00:29:48,720
Speaker 1: she was invited. However, we had my mom's side Christmas

626
00:29:48,880 --> 00:29:51,080
Speaker 1: right after this, and my girlfriend was not invited to

627
00:29:51,120 --> 00:29:54,120
Speaker 1: that one. My mom's side is just very private with

628
00:29:54,200 --> 00:29:56,920
Speaker 1: the family, and that's just always how it's been. By

629
00:29:56,920 --> 00:29:59,880
Speaker 1: the way, this comes from Big Yoshi five forty two.

630
00:30:00,000 --> 00:30:01,200
Speaker 1: If you want some of your own stories. Go to

631
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Speaker 1: the r slash Okay storytime Stell reread it. So what

632
00:30:03,560 --> 00:30:07,520
Speaker 1: happened is my dad's side stayed later than we all anticipated,

633
00:30:07,760 --> 00:30:09,600
Speaker 1: and when they left, we had to get ready to

634
00:30:09,680 --> 00:30:11,800
Speaker 1: leave pretty quick. We couldn't just shoot them out at

635
00:30:11,800 --> 00:30:14,920
Speaker 1: a certain time because that would be rude. Anyways, my

636
00:30:15,000 --> 00:30:18,120
Speaker 1: girlfriend had a more private Christmas gift for my mom

637
00:30:18,200 --> 00:30:20,840
Speaker 1: because she wanted to show her respect and admiration for

638
00:30:20,880 --> 00:30:23,640
Speaker 1: her because she didn't have a mom because she passed.

639
00:30:23,360 --> 00:30:27,600
Speaker 4: Away when she was young. Oh that is so sweet.

640
00:30:28,720 --> 00:30:31,920
Speaker 1: But that didn't happen because my mom was in go

641
00:30:31,920 --> 00:30:34,480
Speaker 1: go go mode, and I essentially had to punt out

642
00:30:34,480 --> 00:30:38,000
Speaker 1: my girlfriend, which kind of sucks. She was blocking my

643
00:30:38,080 --> 00:30:40,200
Speaker 1: car and so she had to leave so I could leave.

644
00:30:40,280 --> 00:30:42,800
Speaker 1: So she does and we didn't hug her anything.

645
00:30:42,880 --> 00:30:43,560
Speaker 4: She just left.

646
00:30:43,680 --> 00:30:46,280
Speaker 1: She was upset and stressed and I was too. She

647
00:30:46,360 --> 00:30:49,680
Speaker 1: left but ended up having a panic attack and called me.

648
00:30:50,200 --> 00:30:52,200
Speaker 1: I calmed her down as best I could, and then

649
00:30:52,320 --> 00:30:55,000
Speaker 1: went to the Christmas after my mom could tell I

650
00:30:55,080 --> 00:30:58,120
Speaker 1: was upset, and I told her she blew up. You

651
00:30:58,200 --> 00:31:02,200
Speaker 1: saw her actions as attention sy thinking and disrespectful to

652
00:31:02,320 --> 00:31:05,120
Speaker 1: do in her own home. She should have been gracious

653
00:31:05,160 --> 00:31:08,120
Speaker 1: she was invited and just left and thought my girlfriend

654
00:31:08,160 --> 00:31:11,760
Speaker 1: was fishing for an invite through the Christmas because like,

655
00:31:12,240 --> 00:31:15,280
Speaker 1: basically they wanted an only family Christmas. And so when

656
00:31:15,280 --> 00:31:19,720
Speaker 1: the girlfriend was rushed out, the mom's like, Oh, she's

657
00:31:19,720 --> 00:31:21,520
Speaker 1: just faking a panic attack so she could hang out

658
00:31:21,560 --> 00:31:21,920
Speaker 1: some more.

659
00:31:22,160 --> 00:31:23,040
Speaker 4: She just wants to.

660
00:31:22,960 --> 00:31:25,240
Speaker 3: Give you a gift because she doesn't have a mama.

661
00:31:25,640 --> 00:31:28,000
Speaker 1: This was the worst moment I had ever seen my girlfriend,

662
00:31:28,000 --> 00:31:30,720
Speaker 1: and partly because she was so upset, but also because

663
00:31:30,760 --> 00:31:33,560
Speaker 1: she had just suffered a severe ankle injury and she's

664
00:31:33,640 --> 00:31:36,760
Speaker 1: still recovering from that. Curly at this point, my parents

665
00:31:36,800 --> 00:31:40,720
Speaker 1: told me I needed to break up with her. Oh

666
00:31:41,040 --> 00:31:45,600
Speaker 1: oh yeah, for what happened. I refuse and we stayed together,

667
00:31:45,680 --> 00:31:47,880
Speaker 1: but she was not allowed at the house and has

668
00:31:47,920 --> 00:31:51,280
Speaker 1: not seen my family and talked to them since goodness.

669
00:31:51,560 --> 00:31:54,040
Speaker 1: That was the initial problem that started this whole mess.

670
00:31:54,280 --> 00:31:56,280
Speaker 1: We would go out on dates and hang out at school.

671
00:31:56,480 --> 00:32:00,200
Speaker 1: We went to the same community college some throughout the situation,

672
00:32:00,360 --> 00:32:02,080
Speaker 1: trying to make it work, but every time I went

673
00:32:02,120 --> 00:32:05,160
Speaker 1: home and something made out of been perfect, they blew

674
00:32:05,280 --> 00:32:07,400
Speaker 1: up on me. Every time I tried to help it,

675
00:32:07,440 --> 00:32:09,200
Speaker 1: they said they did not want to talk to her,

676
00:32:09,520 --> 00:32:11,800
Speaker 1: so I told my girlfriend not too, because I was

677
00:32:11,840 --> 00:32:14,400
Speaker 1: afraid it would make it worse. Eventually, May came and

678
00:32:14,440 --> 00:32:17,840
Speaker 1: we were set to graduate from community college. On graduation day,

679
00:32:18,000 --> 00:32:21,040
Speaker 1: I myself had some sort of anxiety attack because I

680
00:32:21,080 --> 00:32:23,600
Speaker 1: was stressed with my girlfriend being there and my family

681
00:32:23,680 --> 00:32:25,719
Speaker 1: being there and trying to keep them apart did not

682
00:32:25,800 --> 00:32:28,959
Speaker 1: cause drama, and I was giving a speech I was

683
00:32:28,960 --> 00:32:32,520
Speaker 1: nervous for it. All went fine, though, but oh my god,

684
00:32:32,560 --> 00:32:34,360
Speaker 1: this family is crazy.

685
00:32:34,760 --> 00:32:38,080
Speaker 2: They literally suck, like literally here she is like so sweet,

686
00:32:38,160 --> 00:32:40,280
Speaker 2: like I want to give her a present because like,

687
00:32:40,960 --> 00:32:42,680
Speaker 2: you know, I don't I don't have a mom. And

688
00:32:42,720 --> 00:32:47,160
Speaker 2: then she's like, get out of your gods gud, like

689
00:32:47,560 --> 00:32:48,520
Speaker 2: are you a human?

690
00:32:48,920 --> 00:32:50,080
Speaker 4: Yeah? Hello, it is.

691
00:32:50,960 --> 00:32:55,400
Speaker 1: It's crazy that this is sparked by someone, this this

692
00:32:55,440 --> 00:32:58,280
Speaker 1: girlfriend that just wanted to have a good relationship with

693
00:32:58,640 --> 00:33:02,200
Speaker 1: who she saw as a mother figure, and that mother

694
00:33:03,000 --> 00:33:07,360
Speaker 1: is casting her out because she had a misplaced panic attack,

695
00:33:07,440 --> 00:33:07,680
Speaker 1: you know.

696
00:33:07,720 --> 00:33:10,520
Speaker 4: Like so so whack.

697
00:33:11,760 --> 00:33:13,640
Speaker 1: And all went fine them and then we spent the

698
00:33:13,640 --> 00:33:15,680
Speaker 1: summer on a few dates and stuff, and my parents

699
00:33:15,680 --> 00:33:19,520
Speaker 1: still very much disapproved, and then it got ugly. Basically,

700
00:33:19,520 --> 00:33:21,800
Speaker 1: little things would happen like I feel like they do

701
00:33:21,920 --> 00:33:24,760
Speaker 1: in relationships, and they would say how awful she is.

702
00:33:25,120 --> 00:33:28,040
Speaker 1: They would not budge at all that anything they said

703
00:33:28,160 --> 00:33:30,920
Speaker 1: or claimed was wrong or maybe not one hundred percent correct.

704
00:33:31,080 --> 00:33:34,400
Speaker 1: And then my girlfriend and I were transferring to different

705
00:33:34,400 --> 00:33:36,959
Speaker 1: four year universities and prepared to do long distance two

706
00:33:36,960 --> 00:33:39,680
Speaker 1: and a half hours away, but my parents made it

707
00:33:39,880 --> 00:33:41,800
Speaker 1: clear they did not want me to go to her

708
00:33:41,880 --> 00:33:44,320
Speaker 1: and her to go to me. So I respected their request.

709
00:33:44,480 --> 00:33:47,239
Speaker 1: What during my first semester, I did not drive to her.

710
00:33:47,600 --> 00:33:50,000
Speaker 1: I ended up rushing a fraternity as a junior, and

711
00:33:50,040 --> 00:33:52,680
Speaker 1: she came to my semi formal but that was it.

712
00:33:53,240 --> 00:33:55,600
Speaker 1: I saw her for my birthday in October back at home,

713
00:33:55,880 --> 00:33:59,200
Speaker 1: and the semi formerle in November, but that was it.

714
00:33:59,520 --> 00:34:01,760
Speaker 1: Also at this point, we've been together three and a

715
00:34:01,800 --> 00:34:04,120
Speaker 1: half years. Oh, so I feel like the parents are

716
00:34:04,160 --> 00:34:06,840
Speaker 1: kind of winning. During Christmas time in twenty twenty four,

717
00:34:07,240 --> 00:34:09,479
Speaker 1: it was the same old, same old. My parents wanted

718
00:34:09,480 --> 00:34:11,680
Speaker 1: me to end things with her. I would not give

719
00:34:11,880 --> 00:34:14,239
Speaker 1: at all and made it a whole thing. When I

720
00:34:14,239 --> 00:34:16,280
Speaker 1: wanted to go see here for Christmas and her birthday

721
00:34:16,560 --> 00:34:20,000
Speaker 1: it's in December. I remember the comment, oh, you're still together?

722
00:34:20,360 --> 00:34:22,279
Speaker 1: And you're still doing that.

723
00:34:23,120 --> 00:34:23,279
Speaker 2: God.

724
00:34:23,320 --> 00:34:25,400
Speaker 1: And at this point my mom made comments about me

725
00:34:25,480 --> 00:34:27,960
Speaker 1: putting a ring on her finger and if I am

726
00:34:28,000 --> 00:34:31,880
Speaker 1: prepared to tear up the family over this. I thought

727
00:34:32,120 --> 00:34:33,879
Speaker 1: she was about to turn a new leaf. I'm like, oh,

728
00:34:33,960 --> 00:34:35,080
Speaker 1: she wants him.

729
00:34:34,960 --> 00:34:36,640
Speaker 4: To marry her. Yeah, And I was like, no, no, no,

730
00:34:36,760 --> 00:34:39,240
Speaker 4: if you marry her, this family is done.

731
00:34:39,280 --> 00:34:41,640
Speaker 2: So you're really going to do this, Pa, You're really

732
00:34:41,719 --> 00:34:42,200
Speaker 2: going to do that?

733
00:34:42,520 --> 00:34:45,279
Speaker 4: He this is ridiculous. Why are you letting your parents win?

734
00:34:45,480 --> 00:34:50,719
Speaker 1: Also, like you probably should put boundaries in distance yourselves

735
00:34:51,080 --> 00:34:53,400
Speaker 1: from this kind of family dynamic.

736
00:34:53,640 --> 00:34:56,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm worried, Like I don't know if this is

737
00:34:56,160 --> 00:34:59,040
Speaker 2: what it is, but he's twenty one and he's probably

738
00:34:59,120 --> 00:35:03,040
Speaker 2: still so like, okay, I'm under the parents or whatever

739
00:35:03,200 --> 00:35:05,239
Speaker 2: that he's just like, oh, well, I have to like

740
00:35:05,520 --> 00:35:09,640
Speaker 2: obey my parents. Basically, Yeah, this isn't freaking high school, dude.

741
00:35:09,680 --> 00:35:11,960
Speaker 2: This is you're you're a big boy now and it's

742
00:35:11,960 --> 00:35:14,440
Speaker 2: okay and your parents are not on the right. You

743
00:35:14,480 --> 00:35:16,759
Speaker 2: have every reason to Your girlfriend was trying to do

744
00:35:16,800 --> 00:35:17,399
Speaker 2: a sweet thing.

745
00:35:17,600 --> 00:35:23,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, goh, ridiculous, ridiculous. Well, over the semester, my mom

746
00:35:23,239 --> 00:35:26,319
Speaker 1: had made comments and things about me being away, and

747
00:35:26,360 --> 00:35:28,160
Speaker 1: I know it was hard on her and there was

748
00:35:28,200 --> 00:35:30,920
Speaker 1: a constant poll to go home, it felt like. However,

749
00:35:31,520 --> 00:35:34,600
Speaker 1: home is only an hour away from my university, so doable.

750
00:35:34,960 --> 00:35:36,960
Speaker 1: We called almost every day and checked in and still

751
00:35:36,960 --> 00:35:40,040
Speaker 1: wemaining close. Okay, so they're still talking, but again, the

752
00:35:40,040 --> 00:35:42,080
Speaker 1: transition to moving out in a way was tough. But

753
00:35:42,160 --> 00:35:44,840
Speaker 1: coming home from winter break opened up the girlfriend's situation

754
00:35:44,960 --> 00:35:47,840
Speaker 1: again and I couldn't handle it. I just wanted to

755
00:35:47,880 --> 00:35:50,239
Speaker 1: break from her, from my family, from all of it.

756
00:35:50,680 --> 00:35:52,920
Speaker 1: Looking back on it, maybe it was uncalled for for

757
00:35:53,040 --> 00:35:54,880
Speaker 1: some context. At this point, my parents looked at my

758
00:35:54,920 --> 00:35:58,720
Speaker 1: phone call records between me and or her What the helly?

759
00:35:59,320 --> 00:36:02,480
Speaker 1: And had me read my text between me and her

760
00:36:02,680 --> 00:36:03,520
Speaker 1: in the past.

761
00:36:04,800 --> 00:36:10,040
Speaker 2: What soon? Okay, mom, Mom's I'm as soon. That is diabolical, Mom,

762
00:36:10,040 --> 00:36:10,839
Speaker 2: I'm taking to court.

763
00:36:11,160 --> 00:36:13,080
Speaker 1: So I did not see her for Christmas, her birthday,

764
00:36:13,160 --> 00:36:14,960
Speaker 1: or New Year's and I know it hurt her, but

765
00:36:15,040 --> 00:36:17,200
Speaker 1: she sucked it up and took it because she knew

766
00:36:17,239 --> 00:36:20,200
Speaker 1: I needed this. We texted minimally and did not call.

767
00:36:20,440 --> 00:36:22,200
Speaker 1: When I got back to campus, I started talking to

768
00:36:22,200 --> 00:36:24,520
Speaker 1: her again slowly and kind of got back, but I

769
00:36:24,600 --> 00:36:27,120
Speaker 1: was so busy and still unhappy. There was a lot

770
00:36:27,239 --> 00:36:31,000
Speaker 1: with classes and fraternity things, plus extracurriculars, so I did

771
00:36:31,080 --> 00:36:32,759
Speaker 1: not have a lot of time to call and text,

772
00:36:32,840 --> 00:36:35,000
Speaker 1: and I pulled away from her. She also made some

773
00:36:35,080 --> 00:36:37,960
Speaker 1: bad choices for our relationship by going to other people

774
00:36:38,080 --> 00:36:41,840
Speaker 1: instead of me and hiding her feelings and not communicating. Eventually,

775
00:36:41,880 --> 00:36:45,680
Speaker 1: she did a few things that upset me, and I snapped, Oh, no,

776
00:36:46,920 --> 00:36:48,440
Speaker 1: it sounds like that sounds like cheating.

777
00:36:48,520 --> 00:36:51,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, I guess, I guess.

778
00:36:51,600 --> 00:36:54,600
Speaker 4: So that sounds a little cheaty to me. Yeah, a

779
00:36:54,600 --> 00:36:55,440
Speaker 4: little cheaty to me.

780
00:36:55,719 --> 00:36:58,760
Speaker 1: But this is such a hard relationship to make work. Yeah,

781
00:36:58,800 --> 00:37:02,240
Speaker 1: Like I'm not a her of any you know, stuff

782
00:37:02,280 --> 00:37:03,080
Speaker 1: that she did.

783
00:37:03,560 --> 00:37:04,719
Speaker 4: But I feel like.

784
00:37:05,200 --> 00:37:07,160
Speaker 2: He's like, oh, I just basically didn't see her for

785
00:37:07,160 --> 00:37:08,640
Speaker 2: a year. She knew she had to suck it up,

786
00:37:08,680 --> 00:37:09,920
Speaker 2: and it's like, no, she didn't.

787
00:37:10,120 --> 00:37:12,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, it's like it's just you're I feel

788
00:37:12,520 --> 00:37:14,840
Speaker 1: like he's not making the right choices to nurture the

789
00:37:14,920 --> 00:37:18,000
Speaker 1: relationship into a healthy space. And what she should have

790
00:37:18,040 --> 00:37:20,760
Speaker 1: done is she should have probably ended things with him

791
00:37:20,960 --> 00:37:23,520
Speaker 1: instead of you know, seeking out other people.

792
00:37:25,040 --> 00:37:28,160
Speaker 4: But like, this is not fertile ground. It's for a

793
00:37:28,160 --> 00:37:28,880
Speaker 4: good relationship.

794
00:37:28,920 --> 00:37:30,040
Speaker 2: I can't grow nothing on this.

795
00:37:31,480 --> 00:37:34,680
Speaker 1: After I did, I initially felt fine, but I had

796
00:37:34,719 --> 00:37:38,479
Speaker 1: this nagging feeling that wouldn't go away. It was so sad,

797
00:37:38,520 --> 00:37:40,520
Speaker 1: and I really missed her. I feel like, looking back,

798
00:37:40,600 --> 00:37:42,360
Speaker 1: I made a mistake and I gave up too quickly.

799
00:37:42,760 --> 00:37:45,040
Speaker 1: I feel like I cracked into the pressure of everything

800
00:37:45,080 --> 00:37:48,040
Speaker 1: and broke up with her because everyone wanted me to

801
00:37:48,160 --> 00:37:51,200
Speaker 1: sew Ope did break up. After talking with my roommate,

802
00:37:51,200 --> 00:37:53,520
Speaker 1: I texted her if my girlfriend had time to talk

803
00:37:54,040 --> 00:37:56,160
Speaker 1: after about three weeks.

804
00:37:56,200 --> 00:37:59,840
Speaker 2: Still he still has to wait three weeks. He's like, yeah,

805
00:37:59,840 --> 00:38:01,600
Speaker 2: like I'm seeing my mom and like doing all this stuff,

806
00:38:01,640 --> 00:38:03,560
Speaker 2: So yeah, I.

807
00:38:03,040 --> 00:38:05,360
Speaker 1: Just to talk about our hurt and try to feel better.

808
00:38:05,640 --> 00:38:08,440
Speaker 1: It was an amazing conversation, and we both realized what

809
00:38:08,480 --> 00:38:10,120
Speaker 1: we went wrong. We miss each other and we still

810
00:38:10,120 --> 00:38:12,360
Speaker 1: love each other. We both want to try again.

811
00:38:12,880 --> 00:38:14,960
Speaker 4: I don't know. I feel like these both of them

812
00:38:15,000 --> 00:38:16,160
Speaker 4: are not mature.

813
00:38:16,200 --> 00:38:16,719
Speaker 3: Call it.

814
00:38:17,719 --> 00:38:19,560
Speaker 1: The few people I'd talked to you were apprehensive but

815
00:38:19,600 --> 00:38:20,319
Speaker 1: supportive of it.

816
00:38:20,800 --> 00:38:21,719
Speaker 4: My parents were not.

817
00:38:22,200 --> 00:38:24,000
Speaker 1: My mom knew I was upset when I called her

818
00:38:24,000 --> 00:38:25,680
Speaker 1: one night and pushed me hard to tell her. So

819
00:38:25,719 --> 00:38:29,040
Speaker 1: I told her my girlfriend and I had talked and

820
00:38:29,160 --> 00:38:32,399
Speaker 1: considered getting back together. She did not take it well.

821
00:38:32,719 --> 00:38:35,000
Speaker 1: She was more upset than mad. I went home that

822
00:38:35,000 --> 00:38:36,959
Speaker 1: weekend and talked to my parents for about three hours

823
00:38:36,960 --> 00:38:41,160
Speaker 1: about it, and they would not budget all. Your parents

824
00:38:41,200 --> 00:38:43,719
Speaker 1: are way too involved in this relationship. They think I

825
00:38:43,719 --> 00:38:45,960
Speaker 1: should stay broken up. This is a mistake to go back.

826
00:38:46,080 --> 00:38:48,560
Speaker 1: She doesn't care about me. She's manipulating me, and not

827
00:38:48,680 --> 00:38:51,200
Speaker 1: one good thing about her and not one bad thing

828
00:38:51,239 --> 00:38:53,920
Speaker 1: they have done. I would feel differently if they admitted

829
00:38:53,920 --> 00:38:56,400
Speaker 1: some fault or backed up some, but they will not.

830
00:38:56,600 --> 00:38:58,080
Speaker 1: I told them I want to go back to campus

831
00:38:58,160 --> 00:39:01,880
Speaker 1: and talk to my fraternity brothers before I decide. Then

832
00:39:02,160 --> 00:39:04,719
Speaker 1: they got upset because I act like I care more

833
00:39:04,719 --> 00:39:11,800
Speaker 1: about Stranger's opinions others. I care more about stange his

834
00:39:11,880 --> 00:39:15,319
Speaker 1: opinions than theirs. I went back, like I said, apprehensive

835
00:39:15,520 --> 00:39:20,240
Speaker 1: but supportive. This guy doesn't have good role models.

836
00:39:20,640 --> 00:39:23,440
Speaker 2: That is so correct. Oh my goodness.

837
00:39:23,719 --> 00:39:26,680
Speaker 1: I called my parents to definitely tell them this was happening,

838
00:39:26,760 --> 00:39:29,799
Speaker 1: but they got really mad and flipped on me. They

839
00:39:29,880 --> 00:39:34,279
Speaker 1: respectfully requested that I not do this. It's either her

840
00:39:34,400 --> 00:39:37,920
Speaker 1: or them, so weird, and I am choosing her as

841
00:39:37,960 --> 00:39:41,440
Speaker 1: what they believe. I hate being put in an ultimatum decision,

842
00:39:41,640 --> 00:39:43,840
Speaker 1: and I feel like that's where I'm at. It is

843
00:39:43,880 --> 00:39:45,719
Speaker 1: not about picking one or another the other. I just

844
00:39:45,760 --> 00:39:47,440
Speaker 1: want to be happy. They said a lot of hurtful

845
00:39:47,440 --> 00:39:49,400
Speaker 1: things and would not listen to me when I would speak.

846
00:39:49,560 --> 00:39:52,080
Speaker 1: They said they would no longer support this financially, and

847
00:39:52,120 --> 00:39:54,319
Speaker 1: initially I thought it would make me pay for my

848
00:39:54,360 --> 00:39:57,239
Speaker 1: own phone plan and things was fine, so during this

849
00:39:57,320 --> 00:39:59,960
Speaker 1: time I paid for those things. I spent the spring

850
00:40:00,120 --> 00:40:02,560
Speaker 1: pretty happy. Honestly. I was with the girl I love

851
00:40:02,600 --> 00:40:04,600
Speaker 1: and had a great group of friends around me, my

852
00:40:04,680 --> 00:40:07,600
Speaker 1: frat bros. I came home for summer and things were

853
00:40:07,600 --> 00:40:10,360
Speaker 1: pretty good for the most part until I wanted to

854
00:40:10,400 --> 00:40:14,359
Speaker 1: go see my girlfriend. It was a whole ordeal and

855
00:40:14,560 --> 00:40:17,719
Speaker 1: my parents will not allow her in my vehicle at

856
00:40:17,760 --> 00:40:21,400
Speaker 1: all to go places. This is ridiculous. This is There

857
00:40:21,400 --> 00:40:24,719
Speaker 1: are helicopter moms and then there's this. My mom was

858
00:40:24,719 --> 00:40:26,319
Speaker 1: a helicopter mom. She never did this.

859
00:40:26,560 --> 00:40:31,120
Speaker 2: No, Like, I mean, think about the ludicrous decision of

860
00:40:32,239 --> 00:40:35,000
Speaker 2: going to your kid and being again for a girl

861
00:40:35,000 --> 00:40:37,680
Speaker 2: who was trying to give them a present, Like basically,

862
00:40:37,719 --> 00:40:41,200
Speaker 2: for all we know, has done negative one hundred percent

863
00:40:41,239 --> 00:40:44,640
Speaker 2: anything wrong, and they're like, hey, it's either you're with

864
00:40:44,719 --> 00:40:48,880
Speaker 2: your like college girlfriend or you lose us as parents.

865
00:40:49,520 --> 00:40:50,400
Speaker 4: That's ridiculous.

866
00:40:50,920 --> 00:40:55,920
Speaker 2: Wow, that's that is all I can say. Wow, congratulations,

867
00:40:55,960 --> 00:40:59,680
Speaker 2: you've made the worst parenting decision ever. You did it

868
00:41:00,120 --> 00:41:02,400
Speaker 2: you bravo, bravo.

869
00:41:03,120 --> 00:41:06,880
Speaker 1: Yeah, they'll ask about her and be like, how's her

870
00:41:06,920 --> 00:41:09,080
Speaker 1: summer classes and work going. And I'm trying to be

871
00:41:09,120 --> 00:41:11,960
Speaker 1: a little more open because I became very close off

872
00:41:12,360 --> 00:41:15,320
Speaker 1: and wouldn't talk about her anymore. So I was confused

873
00:41:15,320 --> 00:41:17,839
Speaker 1: when it blew it up and they wanted to see her.

874
00:41:18,239 --> 00:41:20,440
Speaker 1: Now they want to see her. And also they haven't

875
00:41:20,480 --> 00:41:22,520
Speaker 1: been taking the money out of my phone plan and

876
00:41:22,560 --> 00:41:24,760
Speaker 1: those few expenses while I've been home for the summer,

877
00:41:24,760 --> 00:41:26,600
Speaker 1: and when I talked about it, they said they were

878
00:41:26,600 --> 00:41:29,040
Speaker 1: going to stop. So when I was talking to my

879
00:41:29,160 --> 00:41:31,480
Speaker 1: dad and he was like, and I figured we'd do

880
00:41:31,560 --> 00:41:35,040
Speaker 1: that again, I was like, Okay, then there's another relevant updates.

881
00:41:35,080 --> 00:41:35,319
Speaker 2: Wow.

882
00:41:35,760 --> 00:41:38,320
Speaker 4: But man, it just feels.

883
00:41:37,960 --> 00:41:42,960
Speaker 1: Like these parents are so ridiculously involved to an insane degree,

884
00:41:44,719 --> 00:41:48,759
Speaker 1: and OP needs to I think. I mean, you're old enough, OP,

885
00:41:49,040 --> 00:41:57,160
Speaker 1: like grow some some go honess and and rule your

886
00:41:57,160 --> 00:42:02,040
Speaker 1: own life. Well, finish up this story, and you're I've

887
00:42:02,080 --> 00:42:04,319
Speaker 1: worked all summer to have enough money to pay for

888
00:42:04,360 --> 00:42:07,359
Speaker 1: school and enjoy my last full year as an undergraduates

889
00:42:07,400 --> 00:42:09,680
Speaker 1: doing it. But if they're going to take money out,

890
00:42:09,800 --> 00:42:12,000
Speaker 1: then that's all I'm going to be worried about. I'm

891
00:42:12,040 --> 00:42:13,760
Speaker 1: just kind of lost at the moment and super frustrated

892
00:42:13,800 --> 00:42:16,000
Speaker 1: because I can't even have an honest conversation without it

893
00:42:16,040 --> 00:42:18,919
Speaker 1: becoming a big deal and everyone getting upset, and I.

894
00:42:18,840 --> 00:42:21,160
Speaker 4: Just have to take it on the chin, so to speak.

895
00:42:21,239 --> 00:42:23,239
Speaker 1: I love my girlfriend and I don't want to end

896
00:42:23,280 --> 00:42:25,440
Speaker 1: things at all, but this is just a lot on

897
00:42:25,480 --> 00:42:29,839
Speaker 1: the familiar side of things. All advice is appreciated. It's

898
00:42:29,880 --> 00:42:32,960
Speaker 1: just a complicated situation that I'm trying my absolute best

899
00:42:33,000 --> 00:42:35,360
Speaker 1: in and that here's.

900
00:42:35,200 --> 00:42:38,960
Speaker 2: The end of that story. Oh boy, oh boy, oh boy.

901
00:42:39,160 --> 00:42:42,040
Speaker 2: Whole whole cast of characters in that one.

902
00:42:42,080 --> 00:42:43,400
Speaker 4: The whole cast of characters.

903
00:42:43,520 --> 00:42:46,440
Speaker 1: I mean, I think, oh, I think you gotta, you

904
00:42:46,440 --> 00:42:49,200
Speaker 1: gotta Maybe I don't know of no contact, but I

905
00:42:49,320 --> 00:42:51,400
Speaker 1: definitely think you gotta go low contact.

906
00:42:51,560 --> 00:42:55,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, with this person, something too, with the parents. Something

907
00:42:55,719 --> 00:42:58,919
Speaker 2: to send the message, because I think it will take

908
00:42:58,960 --> 00:43:02,480
Speaker 2: a lot for the to get through there. Oh, like

909
00:43:02,800 --> 00:43:04,960
Speaker 2: monster parents who brains.

910
00:43:05,040 --> 00:43:08,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, Pata, says low contact. I'm I'm on board.

911
00:43:10,040 --> 00:43:12,280
Speaker 2: I don't want my mom to bring her dogs on vacation.

912
00:43:12,560 --> 00:43:13,400
Speaker 2: Now she's upset.

913
00:43:13,719 --> 00:43:15,439
Speaker 4: Get those dogs out of here.

914
00:43:15,680 --> 00:43:18,520
Speaker 2: My mom has two half Yorky, half Malt. These dogs,

915
00:43:18,640 --> 00:43:21,759
Speaker 2: these dogs are my mom's world. The problem is they

916
00:43:21,800 --> 00:43:24,240
Speaker 2: are obsessed with food. They will go to any lengths

917
00:43:24,280 --> 00:43:26,440
Speaker 2: to get human food. It started with the bag of

918
00:43:26,480 --> 00:43:30,080
Speaker 2: barbecue potato chips on my kitchen counter, ripped open and devoured,

919
00:43:30,200 --> 00:43:33,000
Speaker 2: leaving a huge barbecue dust mess. By the way, this

920
00:43:33,040 --> 00:43:35,200
Speaker 2: comes from parking ratio one fifty five and if you

921
00:43:35,239 --> 00:43:36,719
Speaker 2: want to submit your own stories, go to the r

922
00:43:36,800 --> 00:43:41,240
Speaker 2: slash Okay storytime Cebreda. Next Time was an entire pizza

923
00:43:41,360 --> 00:43:43,879
Speaker 2: that was snatched off the table the moment I went

924
00:43:43,920 --> 00:43:44,960
Speaker 2: to grab sodas.

925
00:43:44,640 --> 00:43:46,280
Speaker 4: From the kitchen, those dogs.

926
00:43:46,600 --> 00:43:48,560
Speaker 2: In the span of less than a minute. When I returned,

927
00:43:48,600 --> 00:43:51,200
Speaker 2: half the pizza was gone. The dogs were standing in

928
00:43:51,239 --> 00:43:53,240
Speaker 2: the other half of the pizza, and there was pizza

929
00:43:53,239 --> 00:43:57,040
Speaker 2: sauce all over my carpets. Next get Together, they found

930
00:43:57,080 --> 00:43:59,480
Speaker 2: their way inside. Even though I asked my mom to

931
00:43:59,560 --> 00:44:01,960
Speaker 2: keep them in the backyard, they got into my kitchen

932
00:44:01,960 --> 00:44:04,520
Speaker 2: and tore open two bags of my hamburger buns and

933
00:44:04,760 --> 00:44:09,200
Speaker 2: ate about forty dollars worth of seasoned raw hamburger meat

934
00:44:09,520 --> 00:44:11,840
Speaker 2: and a block of cheddar cheese.

935
00:44:12,120 --> 00:44:17,480
Speaker 4: Those dogs must be fatigue. Those are some chok or not?

936
00:44:17,920 --> 00:44:18,320
Speaker 2: Holy.

937
00:44:18,640 --> 00:44:19,879
Speaker 4: I also love other a team.

938
00:44:19,960 --> 00:44:22,600
Speaker 1: It's like body and God like they're breaking it all

939
00:44:22,600 --> 00:44:24,280
Speaker 1: these like golly.

940
00:44:24,920 --> 00:44:27,160
Speaker 2: So at this point I told my mother her dogs

941
00:44:27,160 --> 00:44:29,319
Speaker 2: were not allowed in my home.

942
00:44:29,760 --> 00:44:34,759
Speaker 1: Yeah freaking grolling to the food demons.

943
00:44:35,800 --> 00:44:40,680
Speaker 2: Just God. She has stopped coming by altogether, which does

944
00:44:40,760 --> 00:44:43,200
Speaker 2: hurt my feelings because if it's a choice between her

945
00:44:43,280 --> 00:44:47,000
Speaker 2: kid and the dogs, she will always pick the dogs.

946
00:44:47,360 --> 00:44:48,680
Speaker 4: Wait her own child.

947
00:44:48,880 --> 00:44:52,560
Speaker 2: Yes, who is op. I'm planning a family vacation, booked

948
00:44:52,560 --> 00:44:54,400
Speaker 2: a nice cabin for the whole family to stay in.

949
00:44:54,520 --> 00:44:57,319
Speaker 2: My sister is bringing her dog, well behaved family pit,

950
00:44:58,080 --> 00:45:00,040
Speaker 2: so I know it's going to be an issue, and

951
00:45:00,120 --> 00:45:02,080
Speaker 2: I tell my mom her dogs are not allowed to

952
00:45:02,080 --> 00:45:04,120
Speaker 2: come with us. I don't want to spend the whole

953
00:45:04,160 --> 00:45:06,920
Speaker 2: weekend making sure not a single scrap of food is

954
00:45:07,000 --> 00:45:10,319
Speaker 2: left out for even a second, otherwise her dogs will

955
00:45:10,360 --> 00:45:13,160
Speaker 2: tear it apart and potentially make a huge mess in

956
00:45:13,200 --> 00:45:16,440
Speaker 2: the cabin that I paid the deposit on. My sister

957
00:45:16,520 --> 00:45:18,359
Speaker 2: told me to just tell my mom that she has

958
00:45:18,400 --> 00:45:20,520
Speaker 2: to keep a close eye on the dogs. But I've

959
00:45:20,719 --> 00:45:23,560
Speaker 2: tried that before and she has proven time and time

960
00:45:23,600 --> 00:45:27,920
Speaker 2: again that she's either unable or unwilling control her dog's behavior.

961
00:45:28,000 --> 00:45:29,759
Speaker 1: I don't know, Like I feel like we kind of

962
00:45:29,800 --> 00:45:33,800
Speaker 1: got like a situation of a normal human person.

963
00:45:33,960 --> 00:45:37,920
Speaker 2: And just like high iq dastardly dogs.

964
00:45:37,600 --> 00:45:40,279
Speaker 1: That they are, they are like they are like the

965
00:45:41,120 --> 00:45:46,120
Speaker 1: Houdini of stealing food. Yeah, you know, he's seeking seeking bobs,

966
00:45:46,160 --> 00:45:51,960
Speaker 1: going directly to wherever there's some some hamburgers to gnob on.

967
00:45:52,360 --> 00:45:55,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, would I mean the ahole if I tell my

968
00:45:56,040 --> 00:45:59,400
Speaker 2: mom her food crazed dogs are not allowed on family vacation,

969
00:45:59,600 --> 00:46:02,200
Speaker 2: even though another dog will be there. We have some

970
00:46:02,239 --> 00:46:06,040
Speaker 2: relevant comments, but let's quickly answer the question. Ah.

971
00:46:07,120 --> 00:46:11,000
Speaker 1: I think these dogs have proven themselves to be absolute,

972
00:46:11,360 --> 00:46:16,000
Speaker 1: just like menaces. So I feel like, I don't know,

973
00:46:16,000 --> 00:46:19,160
Speaker 1: I feel like I would almost send a dog altimatum.

974
00:46:19,239 --> 00:46:22,400
Speaker 1: It's like, Hey, if you come to this thing and

975
00:46:22,520 --> 00:46:26,600
Speaker 1: these dogs eat my food, you cannot bring them anymore.

976
00:46:26,800 --> 00:46:28,440
Speaker 1: I feel like you kind of have to like set

977
00:46:28,480 --> 00:46:31,399
Speaker 1: the boundary in that way.

978
00:46:31,960 --> 00:46:34,200
Speaker 2: Even for the good dog the innocent pup.

979
00:46:34,600 --> 00:46:37,520
Speaker 1: Yeah even for the yeah, yeah, like for for all

980
00:46:37,600 --> 00:46:40,040
Speaker 1: dogs that but I like, but honestly, it's been it

981
00:46:40,080 --> 00:46:43,640
Speaker 1: happened so many times. I wouldn't fall op for being like,

982
00:46:44,200 --> 00:46:47,040
Speaker 1: your dogs have ruined every kind of dinner I've ever

983
00:46:47,200 --> 00:46:48,080
Speaker 1: tried to put together.

984
00:46:48,280 --> 00:46:49,239
Speaker 2: Yeah they have.

985
00:46:49,560 --> 00:46:53,479
Speaker 1: They have eaten full pizzas that are that are big

986
00:46:53,600 --> 00:46:57,520
Speaker 1: enough for four grown men, let alone two tiny, little

987
00:46:57,840 --> 00:46:59,280
Speaker 1: little shitsu dogs.

988
00:47:00,960 --> 00:47:05,040
Speaker 2: Oh they were shing all right, dude, after.

989
00:47:04,800 --> 00:47:11,919
Speaker 4: All that raw am me? Would you ban those dogs? Yeah?

990
00:47:11,920 --> 00:47:13,800
Speaker 2: But I do think you brought up a good point

991
00:47:13,800 --> 00:47:17,000
Speaker 2: of like do you do you do you ban all

992
00:47:17,040 --> 00:47:19,319
Speaker 2: dogs to make it fair and equal. The problem is

993
00:47:19,719 --> 00:47:22,719
Speaker 2: it's her dogs that are the problem. Like, if we're

994
00:47:22,719 --> 00:47:25,000
Speaker 2: being real here, it's like, hey, I would love to

995
00:47:25,000 --> 00:47:28,600
Speaker 2: have your dogs in if they didn't suck every molecule

996
00:47:28,640 --> 00:47:31,120
Speaker 2: of food in a one mile radius that they have

997
00:47:31,239 --> 00:47:35,240
Speaker 2: access to, that would be awesome. But no, I can't.

998
00:47:35,920 --> 00:47:40,640
Speaker 2: I can't. But Opie has a comment. Opie says, my

999
00:47:40,719 --> 00:47:43,240
Speaker 2: mom has bragged that her dogs ate half a box

1000
00:47:43,280 --> 00:47:48,560
Speaker 2: of chocolate covered cordial cherries and didn't get sick. I'm

1001
00:47:48,560 --> 00:47:51,920
Speaker 2: worried she thinks that they can't get sick. Another comment

1002
00:47:52,040 --> 00:47:55,000
Speaker 2: info create the dogs when food is in play. Question

1003
00:47:55,080 --> 00:47:57,760
Speaker 2: Mark and Opie says mom will either have a temper

1004
00:47:57,800 --> 00:48:01,040
Speaker 2: tantrum about her dogs being created, let them out, or

1005
00:48:01,120 --> 00:48:03,719
Speaker 2: both come to Number three says not the a hole,

1006
00:48:03,800 --> 00:48:06,200
Speaker 2: but just say no dogs to avoid hurt feelings. Is

1007
00:48:06,239 --> 00:48:07,759
Speaker 2: that an option? Opie says.

1008
00:48:07,800 --> 00:48:07,880
Speaker 4: So.

1009
00:48:07,920 --> 00:48:11,480
Speaker 2: My sister's dog, Lola the beautiful Pity gets pretty horrible

1010
00:48:11,480 --> 00:48:14,400
Speaker 2: separation anxiety. Last time my sister left her at a kennel,

1011
00:48:14,600 --> 00:48:17,360
Speaker 2: she was banned from the establishment for her behavior problems

1012
00:48:17,680 --> 00:48:20,040
Speaker 2: other than that she's a saint. I don't want her

1013
00:48:20,040 --> 00:48:22,840
Speaker 2: to be punished because of my mom's dogs behavior. And

1014
00:48:22,960 --> 00:48:24,840
Speaker 2: we have the updates.

1015
00:48:25,120 --> 00:48:26,840
Speaker 4: Maybe with the update Johnny.

1016
00:48:26,520 --> 00:48:29,800
Speaker 2: Let's go uh so packing up at the end of vacation,

1017
00:48:30,040 --> 00:48:33,000
Speaker 2: A few of you asked me to update on what happened.

1018
00:48:33,320 --> 00:48:35,120
Speaker 2: I don't know how to copy link, so I guess

1019
00:48:35,160 --> 00:48:36,080
Speaker 2: click on my profile to.

1020
00:48:36,080 --> 00:48:36,720
Speaker 4: Read the old post.

1021
00:48:36,840 --> 00:48:38,480
Speaker 2: I don't know how right it works, y'all smart enough

1022
00:48:38,520 --> 00:48:41,719
Speaker 2: to figure it out. Took the cowards way out and

1023
00:48:41,880 --> 00:48:43,920
Speaker 2: asked my dad to break it to her that her

1024
00:48:43,960 --> 00:48:47,360
Speaker 2: dogs weren't invited. He wasn't happy about it, but he

1025
00:48:47,400 --> 00:48:49,800
Speaker 2: said he gets it. Then he told me some mildly

1026
00:48:49,840 --> 00:48:53,600
Speaker 2: disturbing stuff that he was just laughing off, like what

1027
00:48:53,800 --> 00:48:58,520
Speaker 2: like what like? They had a locked bread box for

1028
00:48:58,640 --> 00:49:02,040
Speaker 2: pastries on the counter that had been chewed to pieces

1029
00:49:02,080 --> 00:49:04,839
Speaker 2: in order to get to the sentin rolls inside. So

1030
00:49:05,239 --> 00:49:10,440
Speaker 2: just to clarify la gentlemen, they purchased a locked like

1031
00:49:10,680 --> 00:49:16,520
Speaker 2: bread box device to lock the pastries in safety. But

1032
00:49:16,600 --> 00:49:19,400
Speaker 2: it was no, it did not stand.

1033
00:49:19,719 --> 00:49:20,360
Speaker 4: You know, it's screwed.

1034
00:49:20,480 --> 00:49:24,400
Speaker 1: I love these dogs. These dogs are crazy. These dogs

1035
00:49:24,400 --> 00:49:28,840
Speaker 1: are psycho their psycho like it's like they're not being fed,

1036
00:49:28,880 --> 00:49:30,840
Speaker 1: but you know they're being fed. On top of this,

1037
00:49:31,080 --> 00:49:38,080
Speaker 1: a hundred these are these are lethal, intelligent, never like

1038
00:49:38,080 --> 00:49:40,959
Speaker 1: like dogs with a never ending hunger.

1039
00:49:41,000 --> 00:49:43,319
Speaker 2: And showed me a picture of the bottom of their

1040
00:49:43,360 --> 00:49:47,960
Speaker 2: fridge that had been extensively chewed like the dogs were

1041
00:49:48,040 --> 00:49:53,920
Speaker 2: desperately biting and clawing to get inside. He stated he

1042
00:49:54,040 --> 00:49:57,440
Speaker 2: loved the dogs too, but could understand why someone wouldn't

1043
00:49:57,440 --> 00:50:03,480
Speaker 2: want them around during the vacation. Yeah yeah, yeah, say wow,

1044
00:50:03,719 --> 00:50:07,240
Speaker 2: oh my god. Now, Dad reported Mom took it well

1045
00:50:07,280 --> 00:50:09,400
Speaker 2: and the dogs would stay over at the neighbors who

1046
00:50:09,440 --> 00:50:10,239
Speaker 2: they are good friends with.

1047
00:50:10,440 --> 00:50:15,160
Speaker 4: Okay, I was relieved as to it too quiet. I

1048
00:50:15,160 --> 00:50:15,759
Speaker 4: don't believe it.

1049
00:50:16,080 --> 00:50:19,040
Speaker 2: Everyone showed up and started unpacking, set my mom, who

1050
00:50:19,080 --> 00:50:21,200
Speaker 2: said my dad was tying things up at the house

1051
00:50:21,239 --> 00:50:23,600
Speaker 2: and that she would be by later. Mom didn't show

1052
00:50:23,680 --> 00:50:26,160
Speaker 2: up that night, and I missed her the next day.

1053
00:50:26,239 --> 00:50:30,000
Speaker 2: Mom did show up, as many commenters suspected, brought.

1054
00:50:29,680 --> 00:50:31,839
Speaker 4: Her dogs with her.

1055
00:50:32,160 --> 00:50:34,680
Speaker 2: So try to play it off as nothing, giving out

1056
00:50:34,760 --> 00:50:37,919
Speaker 2: hugs and smiles, but I was upset. I also tried

1057
00:50:37,960 --> 00:50:39,880
Speaker 2: to play cool, but I told her that her dogs

1058
00:50:39,960 --> 00:50:42,200
Speaker 2: were not to enter the cabin and they could not

1059
00:50:42,360 --> 00:50:45,360
Speaker 2: stay the night. She waved me off. Yeah, yeah, okay,

1060
00:50:45,480 --> 00:50:47,640
Speaker 2: I get it. It was fine for a few hours,

1061
00:50:47,680 --> 00:50:50,440
Speaker 2: but then I noticed some dirty napkins were floating around

1062
00:50:50,520 --> 00:50:55,160
Speaker 2: in the breeze. They sensed it, the little rags, you know,

1063
00:50:55,239 --> 00:50:57,120
Speaker 2: the little remnants of their.

1064
00:50:57,040 --> 00:50:59,040
Speaker 4: Oh no, so they've already done something.

1065
00:50:59,800 --> 00:51:04,279
Speaker 2: Oh no, maybe I discovered that the garbage bag we

1066
00:51:04,320 --> 00:51:08,160
Speaker 2: had tied to the picnic table had the bottom ripped

1067
00:51:08,280 --> 00:51:13,680
Speaker 2: out and paper plates had been shredded and licked clean.

1068
00:51:15,480 --> 00:51:25,600
Speaker 6: Oh these dogs are great.

1069
00:51:28,080 --> 00:51:32,640
Speaker 2: I never this is this is? I mean, at this point,

1070
00:51:32,680 --> 00:51:34,560
Speaker 2: we might have to like put them in some sort

1071
00:51:34,600 --> 00:51:38,600
Speaker 2: of like a Stranger Thing Superhero lab and just study them.

1072
00:51:39,160 --> 00:51:42,280
Speaker 4: What are these likes the devils?

1073
00:51:42,480 --> 00:51:45,120
Speaker 1: I mean, like put some muzzles on these things or

1074
00:51:45,160 --> 00:51:46,799
Speaker 1: something like them.

1075
00:51:47,200 --> 00:51:51,399
Speaker 2: They would they would that part, they would eat them.

1076
00:51:51,440 --> 00:51:52,880
Speaker 2: They're like this is leather.

1077
00:51:52,880 --> 00:51:53,359
Speaker 4: Like all right?

1078
00:51:53,640 --> 00:51:57,880
Speaker 1: I think, yes, the mom needs a controller dogs. But

1079
00:51:58,000 --> 00:52:05,480
Speaker 1: also these dogs, he's like uncontrollable. They ate through a

1080
00:52:05,719 --> 00:52:09,200
Speaker 1: locked bread box. I don't know what that is, but

1081
00:52:09,280 --> 00:52:11,560
Speaker 1: it sounds like it's hard to get through.

1082
00:52:11,920 --> 00:52:14,560
Speaker 2: They almost ate through a refrigerator.

1083
00:52:15,160 --> 00:52:20,080
Speaker 1: Just yeah, just a metal freaking refried. These dogs are

1084
00:52:20,200 --> 00:52:21,240
Speaker 1: super dogs.

1085
00:52:21,719 --> 00:52:25,320
Speaker 2: Wow. So I cleaned up the mess furious and confronted

1086
00:52:25,360 --> 00:52:27,560
Speaker 2: my mother and told her this is exactly why her

1087
00:52:27,600 --> 00:52:30,880
Speaker 2: dogs weren't invited. My mom tried to blame my sister's

1088
00:52:30,920 --> 00:52:33,040
Speaker 2: dog for the mess. You didn't see what happened. It

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00:52:33,040 --> 00:52:35,319
Speaker 2: could have been her. I told her that there was

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00:52:35,480 --> 00:52:37,719
Speaker 2: no way I would blame Lola for the mess, since

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00:52:37,760 --> 00:52:40,000
Speaker 2: her dogs are known for doing this kind of thing.

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00:52:40,440 --> 00:52:42,839
Speaker 2: My mom clanned up and just said fine, I would

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00:52:42,920 --> 00:52:45,440
Speaker 2: just take them home and left with the dog. We

1094
00:52:45,600 --> 00:52:50,040
Speaker 2: have a actually a pretty We've got a lot left

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00:52:50,040 --> 00:52:52,759
Speaker 2: to go. This is a juicy ending, Okay, hit it.

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00:52:53,160 --> 00:52:55,360
Speaker 2: My dad wasn't happy after that. Saying I didn't have

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00:52:55,400 --> 00:52:57,640
Speaker 2: any proof and I went too hard on her. My

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00:52:57,800 --> 00:52:59,920
Speaker 2: uncle thought it was funny, and he said he was

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00:53:00,120 --> 00:53:03,200
Speaker 2: glad to not have those little beasters trying to steal

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00:53:03,239 --> 00:53:05,239
Speaker 2: his hot dog. It just put a damper on the

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00:53:05,239 --> 00:53:07,120
Speaker 2: whole trip. I just feel like an idiot for trying

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00:53:07,160 --> 00:53:09,080
Speaker 2: to make this work in the first place. I missed

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00:53:09,080 --> 00:53:11,600
Speaker 2: my mom and I wanted to make family memories. But

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00:53:11,719 --> 00:53:13,919
Speaker 2: it really does feel like the dogs and my mom

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00:53:14,000 --> 00:53:17,200
Speaker 2: are a package deal now, and asking her to leave them,

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00:53:17,239 --> 00:53:20,279
Speaker 2: even for a short time, was never an option. A

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00:53:20,320 --> 00:53:22,919
Speaker 2: lot of people said this in the comments. I don't

1108
00:53:22,960 --> 00:53:25,560
Speaker 2: think I was ready to hear it yet. Thanks for

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00:53:25,600 --> 00:53:27,920
Speaker 2: being so responsive, and the comments really did help me

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Speaker 2: see the reality of situation that I'm in.

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Speaker 1: Ban those dogs. Those dogs are absolutely just like spawns

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Speaker 1: of Satan.

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Speaker 2: Hey, y'all, it's John og Host here. We're gonna get

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Speaker 2: back to the story. So but here's a quick three

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Speaker 2: minute break from as for more sponsors.

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Speaker 1: My father traded my car to a dealership without my permission. Oh,

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00:53:49,440 --> 00:53:51,480
Speaker 1: just trying to get a good deal. I thirty four female.

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00:53:51,520 --> 00:53:54,520
Speaker 1: I have a twenty fourteen Ford Focus I got from

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00:53:54,520 --> 00:53:56,640
Speaker 1: my dad when we bought him a new car. I

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00:53:56,680 --> 00:53:59,759
Speaker 1: took his old car and gave my Toyota Corolla to

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00:53:59,800 --> 00:54:02,640
Speaker 1: my brother so he would have a way to get around.

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00:54:02,840 --> 00:54:05,440
Speaker 1: My family doesn't believe in leasing cars, as it holds

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00:54:05,480 --> 00:54:07,680
Speaker 1: no value at the end of the day, so whenever

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00:54:07,719 --> 00:54:09,640
Speaker 1: we get a new car, the old one is either

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00:54:09,680 --> 00:54:12,399
Speaker 1: handed down or sold to help pay the new car.

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Speaker 1: By the way, this comes from Motormouth fifty six to

1127
00:54:15,239 --> 00:54:17,279
Speaker 1: twenty on the Charlotte Debray YouTube Still wrote it, so

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00:54:17,320 --> 00:54:18,600
Speaker 1: if you want to smit your own stories, go to

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00:54:18,600 --> 00:54:21,080
Speaker 1: the r slash Okay story Time Still wrote it, so,

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00:54:21,160 --> 00:54:24,279
Speaker 1: my father is a kind hearted man that tends to

1131
00:54:24,320 --> 00:54:27,160
Speaker 1: do things out of kindness without thinking them all the

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00:54:27,160 --> 00:54:30,400
Speaker 1: way through. There have also been times where he's just

1133
00:54:30,520 --> 00:54:33,880
Speaker 1: donated the old car to someone who really needs it.

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00:54:33,920 --> 00:54:37,200
Speaker 1: For example, several years ago, my dad was a contractor

1135
00:54:37,320 --> 00:54:40,879
Speaker 1: for a building project in the area and noticed one

1136
00:54:40,920 --> 00:54:44,359
Speaker 1: of his workers who would walk seven miles to get

1137
00:54:44,360 --> 00:54:47,280
Speaker 1: to work every day, so my father started driving him.

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00:54:47,400 --> 00:54:49,759
Speaker 1: One day, he found out that the young man was

1139
00:54:49,760 --> 00:54:54,120
Speaker 1: supporting three small kids, all under six, on a single

1140
00:54:54,200 --> 00:54:57,040
Speaker 1: salary and couldn't afford a car. Being the sweet man

1141
00:54:57,120 --> 00:54:58,960
Speaker 1: he is, he picked up the worker one day, but

1142
00:54:59,000 --> 00:55:01,719
Speaker 1: instead of driving him to the job site, he went

1143
00:55:01,760 --> 00:55:04,960
Speaker 1: with him the vehicle registration office and then signed the

1144
00:55:05,040 --> 00:55:08,080
Speaker 1: car to his name as it was fully paid off.

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00:55:08,520 --> 00:55:13,440
Speaker 4: Dang wow, that is kind dude, that's amazing as a

1146
00:55:13,520 --> 00:55:14,520
Speaker 4: kind hearted man.

1147
00:55:14,800 --> 00:55:15,600
Speaker 2: Freaking sweetheart.

1148
00:55:15,880 --> 00:55:18,480
Speaker 1: Now, before anyone goes thinking my forward was a gift,

1149
00:55:18,800 --> 00:55:22,480
Speaker 1: think again. I do graphic design and photography for a

1150
00:55:22,520 --> 00:55:25,399
Speaker 1: living and also manage my dad's business without getting paid.

1151
00:55:25,440 --> 00:55:27,640
Speaker 1: As at the same time, my father was struggling financially

1152
00:55:27,719 --> 00:55:30,720
Speaker 1: due to having to bail out my brother from trouble

1153
00:55:30,760 --> 00:55:33,960
Speaker 1: and getting scammed by a digital advertising company the cut costs.

1154
00:55:33,960 --> 00:55:36,880
Speaker 1: We decided I would take over the websites and advertisements

1155
00:55:36,880 --> 00:55:40,000
Speaker 1: for free in exchange for a car. I already knew

1156
00:55:40,040 --> 00:55:42,160
Speaker 1: I would get. That way, my father could feel like

1157
00:55:42,160 --> 00:55:44,680
Speaker 1: he wasn't manipulating my time in business hours, and I

1158
00:55:44,680 --> 00:55:47,480
Speaker 1: could make sure no one ripped him off ever again.

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00:55:47,880 --> 00:55:51,560
Speaker 1: So here we come yesterday. I've been working for my

1160
00:55:51,600 --> 00:55:54,120
Speaker 1: father without pay for around six years.

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00:55:54,200 --> 00:55:55,680
Speaker 4: Now, that's a while.

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00:55:55,840 --> 00:55:58,319
Speaker 2: Maybe he should take a little bit of that generosity

1163
00:55:58,360 --> 00:55:59,560
Speaker 2: to his own children.

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00:55:59,760 --> 00:56:02,320
Speaker 1: Yeah, we have gotten to a point where my father

1165
00:56:02,440 --> 00:56:05,319
Speaker 1: is more stable financially yesterday, my dad's car was in

1166
00:56:05,320 --> 00:56:07,560
Speaker 1: the shop and he asked to take mine, as I

1167
00:56:07,600 --> 00:56:10,120
Speaker 1: would be at home all day doing a photo shoot

1168
00:56:10,239 --> 00:56:13,040
Speaker 1: or a client and working on his new website. Free

1169
00:56:13,040 --> 00:56:15,439
Speaker 1: of charge of course. Oh but you're working too much

1170
00:56:15,440 --> 00:56:16,160
Speaker 1: free of charge.

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00:56:16,520 --> 00:56:17,160
Speaker 2: Yeah.

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00:56:17,239 --> 00:56:20,320
Speaker 1: I warned him how the ace was not working. Summer

1173
00:56:20,360 --> 00:56:24,719
Speaker 1: here is forty five degree fahrenheit minimum.

1174
00:56:24,200 --> 00:56:27,680
Speaker 2: Got to be celsius. That's cold.

1175
00:56:27,719 --> 00:56:31,920
Speaker 4: That's freaking cold. But celsius is a warm too hot.

1176
00:56:32,040 --> 00:56:35,160
Speaker 1: That's too hot, And that the radio didn't work due

1177
00:56:35,160 --> 00:56:38,440
Speaker 1: to the heat pretty much frying the system and couldn't

1178
00:56:38,440 --> 00:56:40,600
Speaker 1: be replaced since they don't make that pardon anymore. He

1179
00:56:40,600 --> 00:56:42,279
Speaker 1: said it was fine and if he had time, he

1180
00:56:42,280 --> 00:56:44,000
Speaker 1: would get it fixed for me. I thank Tim and

1181
00:56:44,040 --> 00:56:47,320
Speaker 1: got back to work. After driving my car for two hours,

1182
00:56:47,560 --> 00:56:50,239
Speaker 1: my father found it unbearable and called to tell me

1183
00:56:50,360 --> 00:56:52,479
Speaker 1: I need a new car and that we should sell

1184
00:56:52,520 --> 00:56:55,120
Speaker 1: the Ford or trade it in. I said fine, as

1185
00:56:55,120 --> 00:56:57,799
Speaker 1: long as the new car had an automatic transmission. I'm

1186
00:56:57,840 --> 00:57:01,000
Speaker 1: good with anything. Less than an hour, a car trading

1187
00:57:01,000 --> 00:57:03,279
Speaker 1: company calls to inform me that my father wants to

1188
00:57:03,280 --> 00:57:07,120
Speaker 1: trade in my automatic board of Focus to a Hyundai

1189
00:57:07,480 --> 00:57:11,440
Speaker 1: with a trip tronic transmission. For those who don't know,

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00:57:11,640 --> 00:57:15,640
Speaker 1: tripchronic transmission, cars have this crappy feature that if you

1191
00:57:15,680 --> 00:57:18,800
Speaker 1: don't press on the brakes while you're in traffic uphill,

1192
00:57:19,120 --> 00:57:22,480
Speaker 1: the car will start going down backwards. It was dangerous

1193
00:57:22,520 --> 00:57:24,920
Speaker 1: in an area that most of the traffic is on

1194
00:57:25,080 --> 00:57:27,280
Speaker 1: uphill road. Yeah, that sucks.

1195
00:57:27,760 --> 00:57:31,280
Speaker 4: What I told the man on the phone.

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00:57:31,120 --> 00:57:33,720
Speaker 1: I didn't want the car and to please hand the

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00:57:33,720 --> 00:57:35,400
Speaker 1: phone to my father. I explained to him that I

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00:57:35,400 --> 00:57:37,840
Speaker 1: don't want that car as it was not comfortable for

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00:57:37,880 --> 00:57:40,640
Speaker 1: me to drive, and would prefer a Ford Focus with

1200
00:57:40,720 --> 00:57:43,440
Speaker 1: no AC over a death trap that drives horribly and

1201
00:57:43,480 --> 00:57:45,600
Speaker 1: can put me at risk. He tried to convince me

1202
00:57:45,680 --> 00:57:47,600
Speaker 1: that I was overreacting and then I just need to

1203
00:57:47,640 --> 00:57:49,840
Speaker 1: learn how to drive it. How about it's my car,

1204
00:57:49,880 --> 00:57:51,720
Speaker 1: I can do what I want. I said no, thank

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00:57:51,720 --> 00:57:53,680
Speaker 1: you and hung up. Today I am in my office

1206
00:57:53,720 --> 00:57:56,360
Speaker 1: at the company I work for when my father calls

1207
00:57:56,400 --> 00:57:59,520
Speaker 1: me up and tells me come downstairs as he needs

1208
00:57:59,520 --> 00:58:02,160
Speaker 1: me to see something important. I leave my office and

1209
00:58:02,200 --> 00:58:04,680
Speaker 1: go downstairs to see what my father needs. I'm sure

1210
00:58:04,760 --> 00:58:07,760
Speaker 1: enough he's sitting in the car I didn't want, and

1211
00:58:07,840 --> 00:58:11,920
Speaker 1: my Ford is nowhere to be found. I was beyond upset.

1212
00:58:12,160 --> 00:58:15,720
Speaker 1: Why fix a problem that didn't need to be fixed

1213
00:58:16,200 --> 00:58:16,760
Speaker 1: like this, you.

1214
00:58:16,680 --> 00:58:21,600
Speaker 2: Know, because we have to make it complicate. It cannot

1215
00:58:21,600 --> 00:58:22,440
Speaker 2: be simple.

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00:58:22,960 --> 00:58:24,000
Speaker 4: This is ridiculous.

1217
00:58:24,360 --> 00:58:26,360
Speaker 1: I told him that I had just one request, that

1218
00:58:26,400 --> 00:58:29,560
Speaker 1: it was automatic, just like the car I had, and

1219
00:58:29,600 --> 00:58:31,440
Speaker 1: I didn't want the car that was before me.

1220
00:58:31,680 --> 00:58:32,080
Speaker 4: He tried to.

1221
00:58:32,080 --> 00:58:33,960
Speaker 1: Convince me that my car was old and this one

1222
00:58:34,040 --> 00:58:36,720
Speaker 1: was brand new and better, but I wasn't having it.

1223
00:58:36,760 --> 00:58:40,320
Speaker 1: My Forward Focus is a solid and strong minivan with

1224
00:58:40,480 --> 00:58:44,560
Speaker 1: plenty of space, good horsepower, and might of great material

1225
00:58:44,640 --> 00:58:48,520
Speaker 1: compared to the Hundai Trap the salesperson convinced him would

1226
00:58:48,560 --> 00:58:50,360
Speaker 1: be better for me. I got in the car and

1227
00:58:50,400 --> 00:58:53,040
Speaker 1: asked my father to drive me to the dealership asap

1228
00:58:53,360 --> 00:58:55,360
Speaker 1: as I was extremely upset and needed to take the

1229
00:58:55,400 --> 00:58:57,840
Speaker 1: anger out in someone. So when I got to the dealership,

1230
00:58:57,880 --> 00:58:59,960
Speaker 1: I took the keys from my father and looked around

1231
00:59:00,120 --> 00:59:03,400
Speaker 1: see who the salesperson was who convinced him that this

1232
00:59:03,480 --> 00:59:05,960
Speaker 1: was a good idea. When the man walked up to us,

1233
00:59:06,000 --> 00:59:07,680
Speaker 1: I handed him the keys and told him I want

1234
00:59:07,680 --> 00:59:10,360
Speaker 1: my four back now. He tried to convince me I

1235
00:59:10,440 --> 00:59:12,240
Speaker 1: was better off with this car and that I would

1236
00:59:12,320 --> 00:59:13,880
Speaker 1: learn how to drive it.

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00:59:14,200 --> 00:59:20,600
Speaker 7: Here I lost sets uh oh and yell listen here

1238
00:59:21,000 --> 00:59:25,800
Speaker 7: man and listen close ye little greaseball snake oil salesman

1239
00:59:25,920 --> 00:59:28,320
Speaker 7: of a car, Taylor, you have.

1240
00:59:28,960 --> 00:59:32,080
Speaker 1: Thirty seconds to take this piece of crap you're trying

1241
00:59:32,120 --> 00:59:35,080
Speaker 1: to push me and go get my car before I

1242
00:59:35,200 --> 00:59:37,880
Speaker 1: call the police and say that you accepted a stolen

1243
00:59:38,080 --> 00:59:44,200
Speaker 1: car in for trade. And am I Claire Crystal?

1244
00:59:44,800 --> 00:59:45,280
Speaker 2: My god?

1245
00:59:45,720 --> 00:59:47,920
Speaker 1: Then I turned to my dad, walked him outside a

1246
00:59:47,960 --> 00:59:52,360
Speaker 1: moment and continued, what part of I want an automatic

1247
00:59:52,360 --> 00:59:55,280
Speaker 1: transcision was so hard to understand, not.

1248
00:59:55,280 --> 00:59:59,520
Speaker 4: A manual, not a pronic and automatic?

1249
01:00:00,000 --> 01:00:03,640
Speaker 1: Why is it that my own father can't just listen

1250
01:00:03,920 --> 01:00:08,160
Speaker 1: to what I asked instead of undermain and me Because

1251
01:00:08,240 --> 01:00:11,000
Speaker 1: some idiot who knows nothing about cars is trying to

1252
01:00:11,040 --> 01:00:14,280
Speaker 1: sell him a piece of ten file shaped like a car,

1253
01:00:14,960 --> 01:00:17,720
Speaker 1: my dad, Opie is going scorged.

1254
01:00:17,440 --> 01:00:20,280
Speaker 2: Earth well away with words, away with words.

1255
01:00:20,880 --> 01:00:23,240
Speaker 1: My dad tried to explain that the salesman was trying

1256
01:00:23,280 --> 01:00:25,880
Speaker 1: to help and give him a good price, which made

1257
01:00:25,960 --> 01:00:30,800
Speaker 1: me even angrier as the car was not worth half

1258
01:00:30,840 --> 01:00:33,760
Speaker 1: of mine, yet they wanted me to add more money

1259
01:00:33,800 --> 01:00:36,760
Speaker 1: to get the piece of crap car. I ignored my

1260
01:00:36,880 --> 01:00:38,920
Speaker 1: dad and walked back into the dealership and asked to

1261
01:00:38,920 --> 01:00:42,480
Speaker 1: speak to a manager. The manager, who ord heard everything already,

1262
01:00:42,480 --> 01:00:44,360
Speaker 1: had my keys in his hand and asked to speak

1263
01:00:44,520 --> 01:00:47,120
Speaker 1: to me in his office for a moment. I walked

1264
01:00:47,120 --> 01:00:49,480
Speaker 1: into his office for The manager also tried to explain

1265
01:00:49,520 --> 01:00:51,360
Speaker 1: to me that even if my car is worth more,

1266
01:00:51,760 --> 01:00:54,000
Speaker 1: the dealership will only give me this amount, and that

1267
01:00:54,080 --> 01:00:56,200
Speaker 1: I am getting a great deal and shouldn't walk away.

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01:00:56,600 --> 01:00:58,479
Speaker 1: What do you think Opie's gonna do, John, I.

1269
01:00:58,400 --> 01:01:03,560
Speaker 2: Think we're gonna get the WI like. Honestly, I'm just

1270
01:01:03,720 --> 01:01:07,640
Speaker 2: curious to see if Opie just calls the cops over in.

1271
01:01:07,600 --> 01:01:13,160
Speaker 4: This give me my car, give it to me.

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01:01:13,440 --> 01:01:15,439
Speaker 1: Since I was getting sick of all the people trying

1273
01:01:15,440 --> 01:01:17,240
Speaker 1: to convince me to take something I don't want, I

1274
01:01:17,320 --> 01:01:20,080
Speaker 1: decided to teach them all a bit about cars.

1275
01:01:20,440 --> 01:01:23,800
Speaker 4: So I started comparing my FOD to the Hyundai in

1276
01:01:23,960 --> 01:01:25,240
Speaker 4: every possible way.

1277
01:01:25,360 --> 01:01:28,560
Speaker 1: Here we go from horsepower to reaction time, to the

1278
01:01:28,600 --> 01:01:32,040
Speaker 1: type of metal the car is made, how sturdy it is.

1279
01:01:32,560 --> 01:01:36,000
Speaker 1: At some point the manager realized he is talking to

1280
01:01:36,040 --> 01:01:39,680
Speaker 1: someone who actually knows cars, and I'd worked on them before.

1281
01:01:40,200 --> 01:01:42,520
Speaker 1: When I was done explaining the difference between cars, I

1282
01:01:42,560 --> 01:01:48,200
Speaker 1: held out my hand and said, keys, please, keys, please, money,

1283
01:01:48,280 --> 01:01:52,240
Speaker 1: please give me, please give it back. He reluctantly gave

1284
01:01:52,440 --> 01:01:55,360
Speaker 1: me back my car, keys, and I walked outside furious,

1285
01:01:55,440 --> 01:01:57,840
Speaker 1: as I was in the middle of my workday and

1286
01:01:57,880 --> 01:02:00,480
Speaker 1: my boss was extremely upset that I was late meeting.

1287
01:02:00,800 --> 01:02:03,000
Speaker 1: My dad called me about an hour ago, telling me

1288
01:02:03,080 --> 01:02:06,120
Speaker 1: my behavior was not appropriate and that he was just

1289
01:02:06,160 --> 01:02:08,080
Speaker 1: trying to help. My friend also said I was being

1290
01:02:08,080 --> 01:02:10,400
Speaker 1: an a hole and I should have just taken the

1291
01:02:10,440 --> 01:02:11,240
Speaker 1: newer car.

1292
01:02:11,280 --> 01:02:15,040
Speaker 4: But I didn't want it. Am I the a hole? John?

1293
01:02:15,600 --> 01:02:17,240
Speaker 1: There's a little bit more of the story, But what

1294
01:02:17,360 --> 01:02:20,240
Speaker 1: do you think is OP the a hole?

1295
01:02:20,920 --> 01:02:24,040
Speaker 2: Definitely not for wanting to get her car back, because

1296
01:02:24,040 --> 01:02:26,920
Speaker 2: she literally said, hey, I don't want this.

1297
01:02:26,920 --> 01:02:29,600
Speaker 4: This is I don't want it. I get it away

1298
01:02:29,600 --> 01:02:29,960
Speaker 4: from me.

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01:02:30,040 --> 01:02:35,520
Speaker 8: I was specific, yeah, and uh, you know, yeah, I

1300
01:02:35,560 --> 01:02:40,160
Speaker 8: think just overall not the OP was just letting him

1301
01:02:40,160 --> 01:02:40,960
Speaker 8: know what time it was.

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01:02:41,360 --> 01:02:43,960
Speaker 1: OPI is not the a hole by any means. But

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Speaker 1: we do have a little bit more of this story updates.

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Speaker 1: So this morning, I was supposed to have breakfast with

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Speaker 1: my father as we do every Tuesday morning to check

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Speaker 1: in on each other, but instead his girlfriend, Monica came

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Speaker 1: and told me my dad was busy closing it to

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Speaker 1: acknowledge my feelings about being upset with my father, and

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Speaker 1: then told me something I didn't know. Oh, my father

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Speaker 1: has dyslexia and hypothyroidism, which sometimes makes him forgetful. He explained,

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Speaker 1: my dad hasn't told me because he didn't want to

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Speaker 1: worry me. And then Monica showed me a bank account

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Speaker 1: in the name where my dad had been transferring money

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Speaker 1: every month for the past six years. Turns out, while

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Speaker 1: I thought I'd been working for free, my dad was

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Speaker 1: quietly saving me to buy a house one day without

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Speaker 1: needing a mortgage. I tear aw au, I teared up

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Speaker 1: when I realized what he'd done. He told me that

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Speaker 1: my father grew up for had to leave school to

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Speaker 1: support his mother and sisters, and promise himself I'd never

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Speaker 1: go through what he did. That made me realize how

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Speaker 1: much he tries to protect me, even as an adult.

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Speaker 1: I called my dad and apologized for how it acted.

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Speaker 4: That's so cute.

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Speaker 2: I have to say it.

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Speaker 4: I have to say say it, John.

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Speaker 2: Why hide the money for six years? Why not just

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Speaker 2: tell give the money or at least be like, hey,

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Speaker 2: I'm I'm setting aside to like buy you a house, I.

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Speaker 4: Like, or why not just pay opie?

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Speaker 2: That that's what I'm like. It's such a weird.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, it's it is sweet. No, you're you are right,

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Speaker 4: You are right, it is it is sweet.

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Speaker 1: I feel like it's it's like I'm I mean, basically,

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Speaker 1: the father's like, I'm not going to pay you for

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Speaker 1: six years, but I'm secretly gonna pay you for six years,

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Speaker 1: and probably not as much as it would be worth

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Speaker 1: to actually pay you.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know.

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Speaker 1: I'm thinking it's a little sus but I do like

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Speaker 1: the sentiment of like, oh, I don't wanna I don't

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Speaker 1: want you to have to go through the things that

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Speaker 1: I went through, so let me get you a house.

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Speaker 2: Well, then pay me for six years.

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Speaker 4: Am I am? I crazy? I don't know.

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Speaker 2: I I think it's a little heat tried, but he

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Speaker 2: missed the mark.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I think.

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Speaker 1: I called my dad and apologized for how I acted.

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Speaker 1: He told me he needed to apologize too, because he

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Speaker 1: went to the dealership. He ran to my mother, who

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Speaker 1: I rarely speak to. She convinced him to get the

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Speaker 1: tip Pronic car, claiming it would be the best for me,

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Speaker 1: even after all these years, my dad still takes her

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Speaker 1: his opinion into account simply because she's my mother.

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Speaker 4: There's another re elevant updates. But what do you think?

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Speaker 2: Uh again, I think it's a little weird, but I

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Speaker 2: think it was, you know, nice for Opie to apologize,

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Speaker 2: and good for the dad to recognize, like, hey, I

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Speaker 2: you know, shouldn't have shouldn't have done that. Yeah, I

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Speaker 2: think we're coming to come in to common grounds, coming.

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Speaker 4: To common grounds.

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Speaker 1: You know, it is nice to know that he like

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Speaker 1: saved for Opie.

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Speaker 2: I mean, he's trying, but we.

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Speaker 4: Got a little bit more. So.

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Speaker 1: I called my mom and she blamed my dad, saying

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Speaker 1: it wasn't her fault.

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Speaker 4: He still listens to her.

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Speaker 1: I hung up and asked Monica why she hadn't told

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Speaker 1: me sooner, and she said the only thing that would

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Speaker 1: break my dad's heart more than me being mad at him,

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Speaker 1: was me cutting off my mom completely, because he still

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Speaker 1: misses his own mother every day. I ended up crying,

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Speaker 1: and Monica comforted me like she used to when I

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Speaker 1: was a teen. He asked me not to tell my dad.

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Speaker 1: She showed me the account because it was meant to

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Speaker 1: be a surprise for my thirty fifth birthday later, I

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Speaker 1: met my dad at construction site, hugged him, and he

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Speaker 1: told me to get my car's AC fixed. He also said,

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Speaker 1: next time I want a new car, I can pick

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Speaker 1: it out and he'll pay for it, though I won't

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Speaker 1: let him. At the end of the day, I had

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Speaker 1: a right to be upset, but I realized I should

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Speaker 1: have asked for more details and seen where my dad

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Speaker 1: was coming from. Turns out we were both a bit

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Speaker 1: of the a hole and that's where that story ends.

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Speaker 4: I mean, I guess it ended well.

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Speaker 1: I still think a little bit of whack whacky whack

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Speaker 1: a doodleness, but hey, I mean, all is well, that

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Speaker 1: ends well.

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Speaker 2: I think we can chalk it up to a nice

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Speaker 2: little as well. That ends well.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I think so, not too bad. I think so.

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Speaker 4: I like it