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Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Bea Tilly and Tanya rad and iHeartRadio

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Speaker 1: and two times People's Choice Award winning podcast.

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Speaker 2: Hello everybody rubbing it?

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Speaker 3: It's Tills and yeah and the scrubbing and pad helloll.

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Speaker 4: She's still not used to the opening line.

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Speaker 1: No, she's taking off with puffer and getting comfortable and

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Speaker 1: puffing her through it. Why are you guys all staring

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Speaker 1: at me?

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Speaker 2: Because we're on and we're on ding Ding our first

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Speaker 2: podcast of the week.

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Speaker 3: Somebody's home. She's home, She's home. How you doing dang great?

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Speaker 4: How ding ding in being great?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 4: I'm backing. I started up therapy again. All right, Yeah,

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Speaker 4: thank you.

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Speaker 3: I love that for you.

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Speaker 4: It's been great. But it's a new therapist.

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Speaker 2: I love her, but she makes me cry, Like my

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Speaker 2: sessions have been just like crying.

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Speaker 3: Why did you get a new one?

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Speaker 2: I just wasn't feeling like I felt like the other

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Speaker 2: ones I had.

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Speaker 4: They were wonderful for the.

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Speaker 2: Time that I had them and when I needed them,

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Speaker 2: but I felt like it was just me talking for

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Speaker 2: a long time, like for an hour, and there wasn't

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Speaker 2: a lot of like, uh, feedback in terms of things

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Speaker 2: I could do or you know, there wasn't just like

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Speaker 2: it was just me talking for like an hour.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, so I feel like I do that on the podcast.

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Speaker 2: And not with the same topics, but you know, I

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Speaker 2: just was like looking for a little more like feedback.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I feel like it's intimidating.

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Speaker 5: Like I've only had one therapist, and I'm like, I

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Speaker 5: just want to keep her forever because the thought of

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Speaker 5: like giving a new one all the background, I'm so daunting,

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Speaker 5: and I'm like, she already knows so much.

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Speaker 4: I know, but.

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Speaker 5: I feel the same way, like I just feel like

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Speaker 5: it's always this, it always comes back to the same thing,

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Speaker 5: and I'm like, it's not that well it might.

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Speaker 3: Be, it's not that.

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Speaker 4: It really might be.

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Speaker 2: But yeah, so that's something new in my life. And

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Speaker 2: I was I wasn't like resistant towards it at all.

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Speaker 2: I was just kind of like, oh, do it when

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Speaker 2: I'm when I'm ready, when I'm ready. And that's one

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Speaker 2: of those things where like you don't feel ready to

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Speaker 2: bear your soul and to hear things that are tough, tough.

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Speaker 5: That's why I like therapy though, because I'm like, I

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Speaker 5: feel all the time that we think our ideas, our

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Speaker 5: opinions the way that we do things is always right,

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Speaker 5: do you know what I mean? Like we just think

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Speaker 5: our opinions and our stuff is always right, but that's

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Speaker 5: not the case. There's no right and wrong. There's just

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Speaker 5: like different ways to do the same thing.

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Speaker 4: So I like that.

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Speaker 3: I like that challenge.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I'm I'm excited. But she's she's learning about

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Speaker 2: me right now.

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Speaker 3: So we're in that face feeling her in.

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Speaker 4: She read me a poem the other.

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Speaker 2: Day, but she started the first it was a Mary

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Speaker 2: Oliver poem in the first instance, is like, you don't

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Speaker 2: have to be good, and I just like burst into tears.

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Speaker 2: I was like just staring at her while she was reading,

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Speaker 2: like solving. But anyways, I'm it feels good.

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Speaker 3: Everything's good here, everything, everything's fine worth arriving.

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Speaker 2: But it is one of those things where like if

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Speaker 2: you've considered therapy and you're like I'm not ready, I'm

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Speaker 2: not ready, just you just have to go for it.

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Speaker 2: If you're feeling like I need therapy, you're not gonna

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Speaker 2: feel like ready for therapy, if that makes sense.

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Speaker 5: So I I've been reading The Universe Has Your Back

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Speaker 5: by Gabrielle Bernstein. We've had her on the podcast before Yeah,

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Speaker 5: it's an amazing book, and I'd love to have her

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Speaker 4: Let's get her back.

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Speaker 3: I doubt she'll come in studio. She's a busy gal.

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Speaker 4: Maybe she will.

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Speaker 3: Maybe she will.

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Speaker 4: That's not the attitude.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, that's right, Like Patrick Dempsey were ill. Wait is open.

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Speaker 2: Patrick, whenever you're just feeling a need to come on

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Speaker 2: and hang with the gals and guys, We're ready, We're ready.

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Speaker 2: It is a dear Bonia episode. It's been a minute

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Speaker 1: Should we rotate who reads the emails? Because I feel

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Speaker 1: like I might be hogging the email reading. You're so

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Speaker 1: good at that. I appreciate that, Easton, but I also

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Speaker 1: feel a little guilty sometimes that I'm doing all the reading.

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Speaker 3: I don't Why do you feel guilty.

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Speaker 6: If you get tired?

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Speaker 1: Alternate banyas today?

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Speaker 6: Okay, I like that?

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Speaker 1: All right, great, lovely.

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Speaker 3: It's a really weird thing.

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Speaker 1: Look, I just want the show to be great.

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Speaker 3: Are people saying they don't like you reading the I

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Speaker 3: don't think so.

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Speaker 1: I just feel like I always read the emails and

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Speaker 1: that can get old, my voice can get old. I

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Speaker 1: don't want to hog anything. I don't want to take

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Speaker 4: Wait before you start.

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Speaker 2: I was watching old episodes of Ben's season of the Bachelor.

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Speaker 4: I never do.

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Speaker 2: I was trying to find I was trying to find

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Speaker 2: these old clips of me and Jojo for a video. Ever,

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Speaker 2: so I was like just skimming through them. I wasn't

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Speaker 2: like sitting, but I could not watch my scene. I

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Speaker 2: It is so strange seeing that version of myself. But

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Speaker 2: also watching I remember watching it live and being like, God,

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Speaker 2: this is brutal watching yourself on TV like that. But wow,

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Speaker 2: what a time my outfits everything. I was like, this

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Speaker 2: I remember watching this and being like devastated for Jojo

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Speaker 2: when he didn't choose her.

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Speaker 3: Oh my gosh.

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Speaker 6: I forgot about that.

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Speaker 2: But I was thinking about like while hearing my voice

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Speaker 2: is so crazy and I can't believe people listen every

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Speaker 1: Their own voice. That's a fascinating thing.

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Speaker 1: So and maybe that's part of it. I hear it

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Speaker 1: you know. Anyway about us, no because it's not you're

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Speaker 3: It's giving weird.

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Speaker 2: It's really considering the things that are brought up on

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Speaker 1: Trying to always always be evolving, Tanya, never get complacent,

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Speaker 1: h from Nicole, what why.

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Speaker 4: Are you staring at me?

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Speaker 6: Read that?

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Speaker 1: Mark, de Becca, Tanya Easton and Mark. I've been here

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Speaker 1: since Becca's bachelor days and seeing her happiness with Haley

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Speaker 1: has been the best journey and I wish them forever happiness.

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Speaker 1: This question is for Tanya. I am also in my

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Speaker 1: TTC trying to conceive era. My question is what are

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Speaker 1: we doing in this era? Are we drinking? Are we

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Speaker 1: eating raw fish and deli meat? Are we doing these

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Speaker 1: modern woman approach? Love you all?

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Speaker 2: Uh?

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Speaker 5: I think, in my personal opinion, you should just do

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Speaker 5: there's so much out there that I've been reading about

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Speaker 5: shouldn't do, and it's like, if you're doing all the things,

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Speaker 5: they say in this era. That's why I'm trying to

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Speaker 5: be like calm and chill and you're not supposed to stress.

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Speaker 5: And I feel like if you're stressing about eating raw

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Speaker 5: everything that you're eating or drinking, it's gonna add stress,

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Speaker 5: which I think is probably the worst thing.

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Speaker 3: So if you want to eat some.

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Speaker 5: Raw fish, I'm eating raw fish, I'm eating I don't

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Speaker 5: really eat Deli meat, so I'm not eating Deli meat.

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Speaker 5: I'm not drinking. And that's just my personal approach. But

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Speaker 5: I feel like, whatever, if you eat Deli meat all

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Speaker 2: I'm not a doctor, so it's not is just this

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Speaker 2: is I think that's good advice, though, because I think

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Speaker 5: Somebody was like somebody was like, don't drink coffee. I'm like,

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Speaker 5: I'll be a horrible human being. And I so I've

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Speaker 5: tried to cut it down, so like I take the

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Speaker 5: trying to just like be mindful without like going so extreme.

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Speaker 2: Right, because I think the more relaxed you are without

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Speaker 4: Yeah, but everyone's on their own journey.

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Speaker 3: Everyone's on their own journey.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, congrats to Jojo and Jordan's.

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Speaker 2: So exciting, so so just beyond happy.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, everyone's just popping them out.

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Speaker 5: And I don't know if it's because I'm no, I

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Speaker 5: don't know if it's because I'm in this era, but

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Speaker 5: like I swear, I'm constantly seeing pregnant people cross our

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Speaker 5: And I don't know if it's like I'm like this

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Speaker 5: I'm aware of it, do you know what I mean?

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Speaker 2: Because that Murphy's law, or like you start seeing like

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Speaker 2: there's things that have always been there, but you're like.

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Speaker 4: Aware of them now. It's not Murphy's always mess it up.

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Speaker 4: It's something Murphy's laws.

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Speaker 1: Anything that can can go wrong will go wrong.

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Speaker 3: Okay, not that, definitely, not that.

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Speaker 1: Whatever bias it recently.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, It's it's like when you buy a new car

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Speaker 6: and then you see that you see four fusions everywhere.

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Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, yeah, Oh, y'all's kid is just gonna be

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Speaker 2: so cute.

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Speaker 3: Thank you.

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Speaker 5: It's definitely like emotional, Like I was saying, I got

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Speaker 5: my period and I just like ball, Yeah, like it

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Speaker 5: and I like cried multiple days.

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Speaker 2: You know what it is though, what I was saying,

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Speaker 2: because Ali and I were talking about this where I

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Speaker 2: feel like growing up, you hear about people getting pregnant

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Speaker 2: and like some people it's such a it's a surprise

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Speaker 2: and they had no idea and so you go, of course,

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Speaker 2: it's just we're gonna do it. Sex, It's gonna happen. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: And it's like there are so many things that have

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Speaker 3: Yeah, all of it, all of us miracles. True.

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Speaker 2: But yeah, it's everyone's journey, and I think you've handled

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Speaker 3: Thanks.

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Speaker 5: But yeah, I think it's just doing what makes you happy,

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Speaker 3: Yeah, this fill is bad couple therapy. Maybe that's his

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Speaker 2: I can tell you that I think I have really

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Speaker 4: That's a start.

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Speaker 4: Really sorry you're going through that. That's really hard.

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Speaker 1: Let's take a break, but we'll tease it. Oh, coming

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Speaker 1: up next on scrubbing in with the tills and rad

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Speaker 1: yad from the scrubbing impat My boyfriend's mom bribed him

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Speaker 5: All right, we're back, back back, baby, Yeah, we're back.

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Speaker 3: I'm in the spelling thing today. Really, what else you Yeah?

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Speaker 5: Oh these things of the day.

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Speaker 1: Thank you, Hi, Bega in Tanya. I love you guys

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Speaker 1: so much. This might be more for Tanya, but I

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Speaker 3: I would take it too.

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Speaker 1: We were literally looking at rings weeks before this happened.

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Speaker 1: I love him so much. He moved across the country

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Speaker 1: My question, can I ever take someone back after they've

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Speaker 1: the feeling that I'm worth less than fifty thousand dollars

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Speaker 1: to him, and his mom will always come first. Help Well,

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Speaker 1: one question I have is nowhere in this does it

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Speaker 6: Right?

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Speaker 1: He moved away, he took the fifty grand, he pieced down,

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Speaker 4: It made like a noise.

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Speaker 3: It not in here.

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Speaker 4: What do you have to say she said it for you?

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Speaker 3: Well, I would tend to agree with Mark.

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Speaker 5: Nowhere in here did she did she say he's coming

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Speaker 5: past it. You can't hold it over his head forever, Like, oh,

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Speaker 5: but you broke up with me in twenty nineteen, you

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Speaker 3: So it's like, if you do.

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Speaker 5: then just you're going to have to move past it.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and here's the thing, unless he breaks the chain

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Speaker 1: And she doesn't like you in the slightest, I think

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Speaker 6: Yeah, this is going to be a rough future together.

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Speaker 1: Yes, yeah, you know what your future is? Your future

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Speaker 3: Ago, I know.

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Speaker 5: And then what if, like you guys get back together,

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Speaker 5: and then his mom bribes him with one hundred thousand dollars.

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Speaker 1: Right audio to get that number up high, right.

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Speaker 5: Right, I'll show my mom and get her up to

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but even those little nasty comments like you were

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Speaker 2: it wasn't enough for him to respect you enough to stay.

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Speaker 5: Maybe it's like the dog the bear ate his phone,

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Speaker 5: that's why he didn't text you act.

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Speaker 3: But maybe he's like hard for cash.

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Speaker 5: And he like if you guys were looking at rings,

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Speaker 1: Tell her that put it.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, you're right, you're right, you're right. But what if Okay,

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Speaker 3: you're right.

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Speaker 2: I would think, yeah, and that would be a horrible

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Speaker 3: He's like, you thought we broke up. That's right.

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Speaker 4: Is worth for Yeah, Yeah, I think you move on.

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Speaker 2: But I do agree with the sentiment of like, if

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Speaker 5: Yeah, and then you're just playing like you're just you

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Speaker 5: keep what is it hitting the dead horse? Beating a

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Speaker 5: dead horse, and it's just like it's not productive.

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Speaker 1: It's a terrible phrase, by the way, I know.

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Speaker 6: All right, here's this one from jen Hey Scrubbing and Crew.

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Speaker 6: You guys are the best and always answer the hard

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Speaker 6: hitting questions with great advice. Here's a funny one for you.

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Speaker 6: Is it wrong to not have a major event pinned

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Speaker 6: so that it appears at the top of your Instagram feed.

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Speaker 6: My boyfriend has the day he got his dog and

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Speaker 6: when he won his college basketball championships pinned, but not

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Speaker 6: a about our new home that we just bought together.

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Speaker 6: He laughs it off, but it irks me. Am I

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Speaker 6: overthinking this. I recall one episode when you were talking

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Speaker 6: some laughs and advice on this one. Congrat'speck on the

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Speaker 6: studying engagement and ring and Tanya on such a beautiful wedding.

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Speaker 6: Please stop never doing this podcast. Thanks Jan I agree.

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Speaker 1: Please never stop doing this podcast.

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Speaker 6: Please stop never, Oh man, please stop doing this podcast.

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Speaker 2: Sorry, this sounds like something you would care about more

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Speaker 3: When I discovered Robbie unpinned our wedding day was like,

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Speaker 5: I can't remember when I noticed it, but I like

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Speaker 3: He was like last week? Why I got to keep

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Speaker 3: that up for a year. It's like why, It's not

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Speaker 3: like you have to scroll far, you know what I mean?

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Speaker 5: Like his his explanation was like, everything's basically just on

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Speaker 5: it's it's still there. It's not like it's moving down,

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Speaker 5: whereas like if I unpinned mine, it would just be lost.

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Speaker 1: Nothing is pinned correct, it was replaced.

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Speaker 3: No, no, no, he has no pins.

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Speaker 5: But still I can sympathize the gen because I do,

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Speaker 5: Like I was shook when I realized he unpinned our

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Speaker 5: They say, get married and then they just unpinned the

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Speaker 5: wedding day.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, gin, I can tell him.

446
00:21:45,400 --> 00:21:48,040
Speaker 3: No, I'm kidding. But maybe the only reason.

447
00:21:48,000 --> 00:21:51,359
Speaker 5: He's not putting pinning your house is because, like, for

448
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Speaker 5: security purposes, you're not supposed to post like photos of

449
00:21:56,320 --> 00:21:57,680
Speaker 5: keys and things like that.

450
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Speaker 2: He should ends up laughing at all. He should just say, hey,

451
00:22:00,760 --> 00:22:03,520
Speaker 2: it's for security purposes, right.

452
00:22:03,600 --> 00:22:05,199
Speaker 5: But I also do feel like it's just not that

453
00:22:05,280 --> 00:22:07,760
Speaker 5: deep to guys, like he's probably just like I don't know,

454
00:22:08,160 --> 00:22:10,200
Speaker 5: you know, Like I just think it's a totally different mindset.

455
00:22:10,240 --> 00:22:11,679
Speaker 3: And I truly do believe that.

456
00:22:12,359 --> 00:22:13,280
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, me too.

457
00:22:13,560 --> 00:22:15,320
Speaker 3: It's like Venus and Mars.

458
00:22:16,800 --> 00:22:21,240
Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, there's something that you and Haley were doing.

459
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Speaker 5: I have to remember now I'm gonna have to think

460
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Speaker 5: about it and get back to you. But then I

461
00:22:24,960 --> 00:22:27,000
Speaker 5: was like, beck and Haley do this, and he was like,

462
00:22:27,080 --> 00:22:29,840
Speaker 5: there are two women. And I was like, you're right,

463
00:22:30,160 --> 00:22:33,720
Speaker 5: that does make a difference. Oh was it whatever, I'll

464
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Speaker 5: think about it.

465
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Speaker 4: All right, let me know.

466
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Speaker 2: Yeah, I think you just laugh it off. I don't

467
00:22:39,720 --> 00:22:41,000
Speaker 2: think it's anything personal.

468
00:22:41,280 --> 00:22:42,240
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's not that deep.

469
00:22:42,400 --> 00:22:47,800
Speaker 2: Yeah, if he like doesn't post you on his Instagram period,

470
00:22:47,960 --> 00:22:51,560
Speaker 2: right the flag, there's some suspicion there, But if you're

471
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Speaker 2: if you're regular regular in the feed, no stress.

472
00:22:55,600 --> 00:22:57,040
Speaker 4: Yeah, he's protecting you'll.

473
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Speaker 6: I mean to me, this means like he pinned posts

474
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Speaker 6: when you got that feature. He just was like, oh,

475
00:23:03,119 --> 00:23:05,160
Speaker 6: when I got you know, champ and when I won

476
00:23:05,240 --> 00:23:08,880
Speaker 6: my championship, and he just pinned them both and never

477
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Speaker 6: revisited the feature. Again, That's what it sounds like to me,

478
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Speaker 6: Like my, I have one pin post and it's the

479
00:23:14,640 --> 00:23:15,879
Speaker 6: day I'm at the Beach Boys, And that was just

480
00:23:15,920 --> 00:23:18,240
Speaker 6: because that was that's what came to mind when you

481
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Speaker 6: could pin things, and I have not pinned anything else since.

482
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Speaker 5: Yeah, I had three pins for my wedding and once

483
00:23:23,440 --> 00:23:25,760
Speaker 5: he took his off, I was like, I'm taking two off.

484
00:23:27,520 --> 00:23:28,200
Speaker 3: Yeah.

485
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Speaker 2: But here's my question, because this does go into the

486
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Speaker 2: topic of.

487
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Speaker 4: Showing up in a way.

488
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Speaker 2: If it's even if it's not important to him, it's important.

489
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Speaker 2: So if he has if he didn't have anything pinned,

490
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Speaker 2: I'd be like, well, that's just not his saying like

491
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Speaker 2: I don't.

492
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Speaker 4: I've never had anything penned, So.

493
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Speaker 3: Like, you don't have your engagement pen.

494
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Speaker 4: I don't have anything. Shyley has pins.

495
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Speaker 3: You don't have your engagement anything.

496
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Speaker 2: I've never pinned anything on my page. Why I just don't.

497
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Speaker 2: I just don't do it. But so anyways, but if

498
00:24:00,240 --> 00:24:03,760
Speaker 2: Haley came to me and said, hey, I would really

499
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Speaker 2: like for our engagement to be pinned, then I'd be like,

500
00:24:08,080 --> 00:24:10,679
Speaker 2: oh my gosh, and a thousand percent I'll do that

501
00:24:10,720 --> 00:24:14,240
Speaker 2: because it doesn't it doesn't affect me either way, but

502
00:24:14,280 --> 00:24:16,199
Speaker 2: if it's important to her, then I'm gonna do it.

503
00:24:16,600 --> 00:24:19,960
Speaker 2: So even though I think it's a non issue, there

504
00:24:20,040 --> 00:24:23,119
Speaker 2: is a part of me that goes, Okay, she's communicating

505
00:24:23,160 --> 00:24:26,800
Speaker 2: and he has other pins. So if it's something other

506
00:24:26,840 --> 00:24:29,520
Speaker 2: than safety issues and he's not giving her a reason

507
00:24:29,560 --> 00:24:31,639
Speaker 2: for it, then why won't he pin it?

508
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Speaker 5: It's giving controlling from her, no from him, like she wants.

509
00:24:37,240 --> 00:24:39,680
Speaker 4: This and I'm not going to her. It's like I'm

510
00:24:39,680 --> 00:24:40,440
Speaker 4: gonna laugh at all.

511
00:24:40,520 --> 00:24:44,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, instead of being like it's another If it's important

512
00:24:44,160 --> 00:24:47,000
Speaker 2: to her and I have these other pins of important moments,

513
00:24:47,080 --> 00:24:49,440
Speaker 2: then why not pin it for a week or whatever?

514
00:24:50,320 --> 00:24:53,360
Speaker 3: Yeah, So jeh, you're right, Beca, You're right.

515
00:24:53,320 --> 00:24:55,560
Speaker 2: Because there are things that I think are important, and

516
00:24:55,600 --> 00:24:58,639
Speaker 2: Haley's like babe, but because it's important to me, she

517
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Speaker 2: will do things that she thinks are maybe like a

518
00:25:02,200 --> 00:25:02,720
Speaker 2: non issue.

519
00:25:02,800 --> 00:25:04,159
Speaker 3: Yeah, and my compromise.

520
00:25:05,080 --> 00:25:06,200
Speaker 4: So that's my take on it.

521
00:25:07,040 --> 00:25:08,600
Speaker 3: Do I like Becca's take better than my own?

522
00:25:08,880 --> 00:25:11,320
Speaker 1: Wow? Very generous of you to say that.

523
00:25:12,000 --> 00:25:12,320
Speaker 3: I do.

524
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Speaker 1: We have one more fun one, but first.

525
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Speaker 4: Oh a break.

526
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Speaker 1: Indeed, we're back from Cammi Hi, Tanya, Becca Market easton

527
00:25:38,720 --> 00:25:42,480
Speaker 1: greeting from South Dakota. Yes, people live here. I've been

528
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Speaker 1: to South Dakota. Me too, Really, I visited Mount Rushmore

529
00:25:46,240 --> 00:25:47,840
Speaker 1: when I was a lad on The Bachelor.

530
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Speaker 4: Oh look at that one on one date was deadwood?

531
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Speaker 1: Dead with South Dakota. Anyone else been to South Dakota?

532
00:25:54,040 --> 00:25:56,040
Speaker 1: But still half the team has been there, So that's

533
00:25:56,040 --> 00:25:59,159
Speaker 1: pretty good. Cami. On a not so serious note, what

534
00:25:59,280 --> 00:26:02,119
Speaker 1: is everyone's talk? I want you to be as specific

535
00:26:02,160 --> 00:26:05,040
Speaker 1: as possible, and then I'd like you to rank your

536
00:26:05,040 --> 00:26:08,040
Speaker 1: top five fast food restaurants. Love the pod and thanks

537
00:26:08,040 --> 00:26:09,359
Speaker 1: for keeping me entertained at work.

538
00:26:09,920 --> 00:26:12,280
Speaker 6: I mean I got the both these answers.

539
00:26:13,320 --> 00:26:14,359
Speaker 1: You go ahead, both of you.

540
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Speaker 5: I weirdly know mine too. I mean I don't want

541
00:26:18,800 --> 00:26:20,440
Speaker 5: to talk about often but I know my order.

542
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Speaker 6: Okay, Well, my order is I get a cheesy Gordy

543
00:26:23,560 --> 00:26:26,000
Speaker 6: to crunch, I get a crunch Wrap supreme with three

544
00:26:26,040 --> 00:26:28,440
Speaker 6: cheese instead of nacho cheese, and then I get a

545
00:26:28,520 --> 00:26:30,600
Speaker 6: large wild cherry PEPSI wow.

546
00:26:31,720 --> 00:26:34,600
Speaker 2: The thing about Taco Bell is that I switch it

547
00:26:34,680 --> 00:26:36,040
Speaker 2: up because the menu is so good.

548
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Speaker 4: So I would say.

549
00:26:37,480 --> 00:26:42,920
Speaker 2: My current order lately has been a Mexican pizza with beans,

550
00:26:43,119 --> 00:26:47,480
Speaker 2: no meat, beans, cheese, tomato, and then I add sour

551
00:26:47,560 --> 00:26:50,840
Speaker 2: cream on top, and then the chips and cheese nachos

552
00:26:50,880 --> 00:26:53,119
Speaker 2: because that cheese is like the best cheese in the world.

553
00:26:53,119 --> 00:26:56,960
Speaker 2: And then I get a Baja Blast mountain what's it

554
00:26:56,960 --> 00:26:58,280
Speaker 2: called Mountain dew, Baja Blast.

555
00:26:58,160 --> 00:26:58,919
Speaker 4: Zero or whatever.

556
00:27:00,400 --> 00:27:03,960
Speaker 2: But I've also really been into a just like a

557
00:27:04,000 --> 00:27:07,480
Speaker 2: soft taco, just like a classic soft taco delicious.

558
00:27:10,040 --> 00:27:14,960
Speaker 5: My order is a bean and cheese burrito with no onions,

559
00:27:15,440 --> 00:27:20,399
Speaker 5: extra sauce, two orders of nacho's so like, you know,

560
00:27:20,880 --> 00:27:22,560
Speaker 5: the chips and cheese because I like to dip the

561
00:27:22,640 --> 00:27:23,960
Speaker 5: chips into.

562
00:27:23,720 --> 00:27:27,960
Speaker 3: The britos of theo. And then I get a double

563
00:27:27,960 --> 00:27:28,560
Speaker 3: decker taco.

564
00:27:29,000 --> 00:27:30,720
Speaker 4: They don't have that anymore.

565
00:27:30,840 --> 00:27:34,160
Speaker 3: Since when well it's been a long time.

566
00:27:34,440 --> 00:27:37,760
Speaker 2: Damn, I know I have been chasing the hive of

567
00:27:37,760 --> 00:27:38,360
Speaker 2: a double deck.

568
00:27:39,840 --> 00:27:41,280
Speaker 4: They brought it back for a second, and then they

569
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Speaker 4: got rid.

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00:27:41,680 --> 00:27:43,479
Speaker 3: Of it again. Well that's my order, and then I

571
00:27:43,760 --> 00:27:44,160
Speaker 3: a water.

572
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Speaker 1: It's great.

573
00:27:46,440 --> 00:27:51,840
Speaker 3: I can't forget the cinnamon twist.

574
00:27:51,880 --> 00:27:53,760
Speaker 1: And throw me some cinnamon twist. But I'm not really

575
00:27:53,840 --> 00:27:55,560
Speaker 1: a guy who goes with the taco bell because I

576
00:27:55,600 --> 00:27:58,320
Speaker 1: got cheese issues. So whatever I get would be without cheese.

577
00:27:58,680 --> 00:28:00,120
Speaker 3: Mark, it's not real cheese.

578
00:28:00,760 --> 00:28:03,000
Speaker 1: It's a three cheese blend, one of those cheese is.

579
00:28:03,080 --> 00:28:06,160
Speaker 1: Chances are it's a problem. I can't risk my life

580
00:28:06,160 --> 00:28:07,280
Speaker 1: on a three cheese blend.

581
00:28:07,680 --> 00:28:09,480
Speaker 4: You could do a lot of stuff without cheese there.

582
00:28:09,560 --> 00:28:10,719
Speaker 3: Yeah, and cheese burrito.

583
00:28:10,800 --> 00:28:16,200
Speaker 4: Oh they have like avocado. Now you could get rice.

584
00:28:17,240 --> 00:28:19,399
Speaker 1: I would do a chicken burrito. I would do it.

585
00:28:19,440 --> 00:28:23,040
Speaker 1: Definitely do a breakfast burrito if I made it there

586
00:28:23,200 --> 00:28:25,840
Speaker 1: before the time and say no cheese, That's what I

587
00:28:25,840 --> 00:28:27,480
Speaker 1: would do. I like a cinnamon twist.

588
00:28:27,880 --> 00:28:32,480
Speaker 3: Oh, cinnamon twist. Top five fast food places in and out?

589
00:28:32,800 --> 00:28:34,160
Speaker 1: I would say, I also say in and out.

590
00:28:34,240 --> 00:28:36,880
Speaker 4: I would say in and out, in and out, okay.

591
00:28:36,960 --> 00:28:37,440
Speaker 1: On our list?

592
00:28:37,480 --> 00:28:37,840
Speaker 3: What else?

593
00:28:37,880 --> 00:28:38,760
Speaker 1: Any other nominees?

594
00:28:38,760 --> 00:28:40,400
Speaker 4: I would say Taco Bell is in my list.

595
00:28:40,520 --> 00:28:42,920
Speaker 1: Not on my list, but anyone else.

596
00:28:43,520 --> 00:28:44,640
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'd say it's on my list.

597
00:28:44,680 --> 00:28:46,640
Speaker 1: Okay, what's up.

598
00:28:46,760 --> 00:28:49,240
Speaker 6: Oh I'm taco is not on my list.

599
00:28:49,320 --> 00:28:50,960
Speaker 4: Okay, let's get your top five.

600
00:28:51,000 --> 00:28:53,560
Speaker 3: I think Sonic has got to be a I love Sonic.

601
00:28:53,720 --> 00:28:56,160
Speaker 5: Yeah, I'm shocked that you love Sonic. It was that

602
00:28:56,320 --> 00:28:58,560
Speaker 5: like really fun thing for me to do in college.

603
00:28:58,800 --> 00:29:04,760
Speaker 4: Yeah, me too, I have like very nostalgiic. Okay, uh, actually.

604
00:29:04,520 --> 00:29:06,000
Speaker 6: Talk about it was on my listpits at the bottom.

605
00:29:06,400 --> 00:29:10,320
Speaker 6: It's in and out. Wendy's. Wendy's good one, raising Cane's

606
00:29:10,800 --> 00:29:12,280
Speaker 6: McDonald's Taco Bell.

607
00:29:13,280 --> 00:29:15,200
Speaker 5: Wendy's is a good one because you really can't get

608
00:29:15,200 --> 00:29:17,160
Speaker 5: that fry's and milkshake combo anywhere else.

609
00:29:17,240 --> 00:29:20,520
Speaker 1: I think Wendy's has the best fries. Oh interesting, I do.

610
00:29:21,160 --> 00:29:23,920
Speaker 1: I believe that where the McDonald's that's right for.

611
00:29:23,960 --> 00:29:28,000
Speaker 5: You to Wendy's fry like plane like virgin like with

612
00:29:28,040 --> 00:29:30,560
Speaker 5: nothing like only in the frosty.

613
00:29:30,680 --> 00:29:32,920
Speaker 1: Yes, okay, but still just the fact that you could

614
00:29:32,920 --> 00:29:34,680
Speaker 1: put it in the frosty hints at a certain amount of

615
00:29:34,680 --> 00:29:36,280
Speaker 1: structural integrity that French.

616
00:29:36,360 --> 00:29:39,720
Speaker 3: Yes like a McDonald's one is gonna be crumbled up there.

617
00:29:41,320 --> 00:29:41,920
Speaker 4: That's not true.

618
00:29:41,920 --> 00:29:43,880
Speaker 3: But I like a McDonald's fry better than a Wendy's fry.

619
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Speaker 2: That okay, I'll go these actually can they change depending

620
00:29:49,800 --> 00:29:52,560
Speaker 2: on just my life and where I'm out in life.

621
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Speaker 2: But I'll give you my top five in and out McDonald's, Taco, Bell, Sonic, and.

622
00:30:00,880 --> 00:30:02,360
Speaker 4: I'm gonna go raising kids, all.

623
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Speaker 5: Right, Okay, I'm gonna go in and Out's my number one,

624
00:30:06,240 --> 00:30:12,520
Speaker 5: Sonics my number two. I guess Tacobo would my three

625
00:30:14,640 --> 00:30:18,760
Speaker 5: Jack in the box? Interesting because I love the tacos

626
00:30:18,840 --> 00:30:26,000
Speaker 5: and the curly fry. I'm gonna go Carls Junior. Wow, Yeah, okay,

627
00:30:26,120 --> 00:30:26,600
Speaker 5: that's right.

628
00:30:27,200 --> 00:30:30,120
Speaker 3: That's I'm gonna say. Oh, shake shack, okay, honorable mentions.

629
00:30:31,920 --> 00:30:34,960
Speaker 1: All right. I'm going in and out on the top

630
00:30:35,600 --> 00:30:39,120
Speaker 1: McDonald's for purely nostalgic reasons. I loved it growing up,

631
00:30:39,160 --> 00:30:43,280
Speaker 1: always hung that was the high school hangout was McDonald's, Wendy's.

632
00:30:43,680 --> 00:30:48,080
Speaker 1: Love the fries. Uh, I'm putting on Dairy Queen. I'm

633
00:30:48,080 --> 00:30:49,360
Speaker 1: a big fan of the Dairy Queen.

634
00:30:49,400 --> 00:30:51,560
Speaker 3: That's not really like it is.

635
00:30:51,680 --> 00:30:54,200
Speaker 1: It's fast food. It's a chain like they even have

636
00:30:54,280 --> 00:30:57,080
Speaker 1: burgers and stuff there which I don't get. But on

637
00:30:57,120 --> 00:30:59,200
Speaker 1: my first day with my wife, we went after the

638
00:30:59,240 --> 00:31:00,960
Speaker 1: baseball game, went to til We went to a dairy

639
00:31:01,000 --> 00:31:06,360
Speaker 1: Quinn and I love it independent of that feeling anyway.

640
00:31:06,480 --> 00:31:08,600
Speaker 1: And uh and then a number five of putting culvers

641
00:31:08,600 --> 00:31:11,880
Speaker 1: because it's a Wisconsin company. Shout out to culvers.

642
00:31:12,040 --> 00:31:13,880
Speaker 4: My parents love culvers.

643
00:31:14,200 --> 00:31:15,840
Speaker 1: Culvers have some obsessive fans.

644
00:31:15,960 --> 00:31:18,160
Speaker 6: Yeah, it's I had it one time in Utah.

645
00:31:18,320 --> 00:31:19,080
Speaker 1: It was so good.

646
00:31:19,680 --> 00:31:21,000
Speaker 6: They had a they had a burger and it was

647
00:31:21,040 --> 00:31:23,480
Speaker 6: made of a giant cheese curd. It was so cool.

648
00:31:23,600 --> 00:31:25,959
Speaker 4: Wait, does culvers have custard? Frozen custard?

649
00:31:26,040 --> 00:31:28,760
Speaker 2: Yes, okay, yeah, that's what my parents always go get burgers.

650
00:31:28,760 --> 00:31:32,520
Speaker 4: And you would love the frozen custard.

651
00:31:32,600 --> 00:31:33,480
Speaker 3: It sounds like it.

652
00:31:33,840 --> 00:31:36,400
Speaker 1: You would love it. By the way, I'm good with

653
00:31:36,440 --> 00:31:38,040
Speaker 1: all of it. You get your ice cream, you got

654
00:31:38,040 --> 00:31:40,560
Speaker 1: your custard, you got your frozen yogurt, you got your gelato.

655
00:31:41,760 --> 00:31:42,560
Speaker 1: I love it all. Wait.

656
00:31:42,640 --> 00:31:43,800
Speaker 4: I also love Freddy's.

657
00:31:44,320 --> 00:31:49,520
Speaker 6: Freddy's Freddy there's more Freddy's coming out Southern California. Yeah,

658
00:31:49,560 --> 00:31:50,480
Speaker 6: we're we're in for a tree.

659
00:31:51,720 --> 00:31:53,800
Speaker 4: That would be my honorable mention because I don't get

660
00:31:53,840 --> 00:31:59,040
Speaker 4: it often. Well, that was I loved that conversation. That

661
00:31:59,160 --> 00:31:59,800
Speaker 4: was so fun.

662
00:32:00,000 --> 00:32:01,680
Speaker 3: I love a being and cheese burried up from tacobot.

663
00:32:01,760 --> 00:32:03,440
Speaker 4: Yeah, I feel like I learned a lot about you

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Speaker 4: just now.

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