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Speaker 3: Hey wake up.

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Speaker 2: We did Kiki have to do Pauline his promise for

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Speaker 2: the ring?

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Speaker 4: No, maybe that's why it taks alone.

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Speaker 2: Spread show is it's important that we start the show

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Speaker 2: with something significant this morning.

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Speaker 1: It's a lot going on in the world, and I

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Speaker 1: would agree.

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Speaker 2: If you go to a football game, it's not just

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Speaker 2: where any jersey day. It's not just where any jersey

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Speaker 2: from any team day.

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Speaker 1: It's not there are rules. There are rules.

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Speaker 2: If you go to a football game, it is not

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Speaker 2: wear any jersey day. You wear the clothing of one

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Speaker 2: of the teams playing in the event that you're attending.

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Speaker 2: So it's not just like if I go to, you know,

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Speaker 2: the Panthers game, I don't just wear a jets jersey.

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Speaker 2: If they're playing the Dolphins, you don't wear a jet jersey.

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Speaker 1: It's just no.

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Speaker 2: What would you do in this situation, Probably what this

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Speaker 2: woman did. If you're gonna want a date, okay, and

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Speaker 2: you're gonna drop off your date and you're gonna be

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Speaker 2: upset about how the date went or about how the

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Speaker 2: date is ending. I don't recommend that you say anything

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Speaker 2: once the door is closed in front of your date's house.

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Speaker 2: Why well, because there's such a thing as a ring

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Speaker 2: camera and people are watching and recording you here.

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Speaker 5: Listen to this for talking me off and stuff? Sure, sure,

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Speaker 5: sure you don't want me to come inside there a drink?

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Speaker 5: I'm an excellent partender.

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Speaker 1: First of all, it's so cringey, so cringey.

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Speaker 2: Sure you don't want me to come in and a

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Speaker 2: drink of an excellent bartender?

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Speaker 1: Hurt?

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Speaker 2: Like if I had any inclination to do so, then

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Speaker 2: I just lost my boner.

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Speaker 6: But a lot of fun.

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Speaker 5: No me too, Thanks again for dropping me off and stuff.

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Speaker 1: Sure sure.

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Speaker 5: Sure you don't want me to come inside for a drink?

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Speaker 5: I'm an excellent bartenders. Some new girl very nick from

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Speaker 5: New Girl code that have been told tempting. I'm so

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Speaker 5: kind of tired.

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Speaker 3: Maybe next time I'm tired.

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Speaker 2: Okay, tickets worse. Okay, she clop. He chooses to just

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Speaker 2: stand there.

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Speaker 1: Oh oh, and thanks for paying for dinner, by the way.

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Speaker 5: By the way, Oh but you can't come aside?

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Speaker 1: Why not? Why not? Catside? Because you were next to

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Speaker 1: me all day?

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Speaker 7: You see, he's got something going on, something like there's

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Speaker 7: a screw.

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Speaker 1: In the ring camera. I mean, what are you doing?

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Speaker 8: Like?

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Speaker 2: First of all, first of all, the game is weak,

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Speaker 2: and and that's coming from a guy that doesn't have

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Speaker 2: much game. But I mean, if I'm like dropping you

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Speaker 2: off and I'm getting all the hands that you don't

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Speaker 2: want me to come in unless you say to me,

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Speaker 2: like would you like to come in, I'm not gonna

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Speaker 2: ask you if you're sure, Like I'm gonna drop you off.

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna walk you to the door, and I'm gonna

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Speaker 2: leave because I'm not. I'm not going to beg anyone

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Speaker 2: let me in their home. Second of all, like he

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Speaker 2: doesn't even take no for an answer, Like he keeps going.

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Speaker 3: Telling himself, I'm very nick from New Girl Coded.

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Speaker 1: I think good with my hands.

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Speaker 2: It's just so cringey and then and then the whole

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Speaker 2: little little uh you know routine when she closes the door,

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Speaker 2: and then this expectation that because you were nice or

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Speaker 2: something that and because you paid, that you should be

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Speaker 2: invited into someone's home.

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Speaker 3: This is why we'd rather be with a bear in

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Speaker 3: the woods. Do you see that?

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Speaker 2: I'm like, we're still codd worse, still of that mindset

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Speaker 2: that if I pay for a date, that I should

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Speaker 2: get to come in Like, that's still the mindset greatly.

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Speaker 2: That should be the expectation if I asked you on

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Speaker 2: a date, as in this case, I'm a dude asking

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Speaker 2: him if it don't even matter, doesn't even matter. Well,

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Speaker 2: we can get into genial gender roles and all this, whatever.

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Speaker 2: My point is, I if I ask you out, whoever

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Speaker 2: I am to you romantically, if I ask you out,

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Speaker 2: then I should be expected to pay, in my opinion,

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Speaker 2: because I extended the invitation.

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Speaker 1: Yes, that's it.

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Speaker 2: That's that, and I should have no expectation. Now I

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Speaker 2: realize that that's not that. There are a lot of

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Speaker 2: dumb enough to believe that somehow they're owed something if

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Speaker 2: they treat you well, now, is there anything to the

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Speaker 2: nice guy thing? Is there anything to the nice guy

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Speaker 2: being too nice versus the edgy dude maybe getting some

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Speaker 2: advantages because he's more exciting. Is there anything to that?

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Speaker 9: No, I think being nice as the bare man a moment,

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Speaker 9: I'm in a human being, but I think the bar

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Speaker 9: is just so low. But I do think that the

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Speaker 9: whole edgy bad boy thing, and that was never like

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Speaker 9: my thing. Maybe when I was eight with my drug

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Speaker 9: other boyfriend for like an hour that was that was cool,

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Speaker 9: But I don't know as an adult, like being nice

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Speaker 9: to be expected, like you said, the expectation like I'm

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Speaker 9: nice to you guys are my coworkers.

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Speaker 3: I want to look to every I want to be

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Speaker 3: nice to everybody.

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Speaker 2: But I think I think you're I think you're healed. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: well that could be. I also think you I think

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Speaker 2: that's what you're supposed to say. But I do think

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Speaker 2: there's something to being unavailable for sure and edgy. And

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Speaker 2: I'm not saying rude or disrespectful, certainly not lecherrous or whatever,

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Speaker 2: but I mean, but like, I think there's something to

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Speaker 2: be to being unavailable that that does lend itself to

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Speaker 2: having people believe they're attracted to you in ways that they're.

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Speaker 9: Not totally okay, I can see that, or like the

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Speaker 9: nice guy finishes last, right, So like if you're a

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Speaker 9: pushold where I can see that not going well in

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Speaker 9: your dating life, right, And nobody should be a pushover

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Speaker 9: or be pushed over. But you're right, maybe I am

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Speaker 9: semi healed, right because like, yeah, I to go for

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Speaker 9: like the one thing you are too, you're with a

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Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, So like I think we're getting there just

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Speaker 9: I love it, go June, But like, I don't know,

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Speaker 9: I just think it's like it's got me, not like.

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Speaker 3: Just goes with maturity.

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Speaker 10: I feel like when you're immature and young and like

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Speaker 10: I don't know, I think you get caught up in

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Speaker 10: like a chase or trying to make someone like you

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Speaker 10: they're like, oh, I'm gonna make her like me because

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Speaker 10: I'm going to preturn like I'm not interested. Like an

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Speaker 10: imature way to look at it. But I feel like

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Speaker 10: at some point you grow out of it. You have

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Speaker 10: to eat too, or else you're just going to treat

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Speaker 10: like crap your entire life, or you're gonna treat people like.

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Speaker 2: Crap you're entire It's hard to know though it's a guy.

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Speaker 2: It's hard to know who wants what because like, there

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Speaker 2: are times when I've tried to be like the proactive, nice,

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Speaker 2: and and I don't know, doing doing all the things

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Speaker 2: that are traditionally good guy stuff, and then that backfires.

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Speaker 2: And then there's times when I've completely ignored people or whatever.

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Speaker 2: And then I do think the ignoring I hate to

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Speaker 2: say this, not for the right reasons, but the ignoring

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Speaker 2: has a higher probability of working in the short term

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Speaker 2: than being the nice guy overall over the course of

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Speaker 2: like if you look to it like one hundred different situations,

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Speaker 2: because it's I think psychological. Why doesn't this person like me?

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Speaker 2: How do I get them to like me?

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Speaker 1: Why am I? You know what I mean?

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Speaker 2: Like people I think are for whatever reason, you're praying

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Speaker 2: on a part of them that it's not good. You

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Speaker 2: may not wind up with anything long term going about

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Speaker 2: it that way, like somebody that's unhealthy to begin with.

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Speaker 2: But yeah, I think if you go out with someone

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Speaker 2: and it's like, huh, it's a whole waiting by the

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Speaker 2: phone theory. It's like why is this person not calling me?

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Speaker 2: And it starts to bug you, and then it's somehow

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Speaker 2: they have like an they're living rent free in your head,

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Speaker 2: and they have a little bit of an edge as

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Speaker 2: opposed to the person that you know you can get.

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Speaker 1: I think the truth is it's true the other way

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Speaker 1: around too.

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Speaker 2: I think that that women who are a little bit

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Speaker 2: the one who's and this isn't right, probably shouldn't be

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Speaker 2: this way. But the person who's just straight up hey,

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Speaker 2: I'm here, I'm available, what's going on? It's almost like, oh,

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Speaker 2: I don't know, Like why is this? Why does this

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Speaker 2: seem so easy? I see you're saying, but it's not

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Speaker 2: necessarily easy. It's healthy. People confuse the two things though, No, that's.

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Speaker 9: Fair, Like maybe there's just it it's getting older, it's

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Speaker 9: it's healing. Maybe there's just parts to it, because yeah,

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Speaker 9: if you're talking to me, you know, ten years ago,

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Speaker 9: I'm sure there's be a whole different conversation.

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Speaker 3: And I was probably going for the wrong guys. One

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Speaker 9: I know that I was I was missed too available.

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Speaker 9: I feel like I, you know, let my guard down alive.

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Speaker 9: I feel like I let people treat me like crap,

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Speaker 9: like men that I was dating or seeing or whatever.

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Speaker 9: But now I'm married. But if I ever was not

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Speaker 9: not married, first I wouldn't date again. But number two,

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Speaker 9: you were not married, that would make you married. If

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Speaker 9: you were not not married, then you're still married. So

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Speaker 9: you want to be not married to this example.

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Speaker 3: In this example, I was not married.

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Speaker 5: I know what.

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Speaker 2: You For a second, I'm like, wait a minute, I

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Speaker 2: were not not that I am married, right, just got it?

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Speaker 3: Got it. I don't know. I just feel like I

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Speaker 3: don't know.

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Speaker 9: I'd be a different person in this dating world because

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Speaker 9: I've been what married or been with the same person

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Speaker 9: for five years. I think today i'd be different. I'm

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Speaker 9: thirty three years old. Tomorrow like it, it's gonna be different.

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Speaker 9: Like I can't keep the same you know what I mean,

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Speaker 9: the same patterns.

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Speaker 3: Like I just wouldn't work with it.

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Speaker 2: Hopefully the patterns have been over for some time now,

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Speaker 2: I hope since you're not not married. A recent peace

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Speaker 2: in British Vogue, I think actually I think you will

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Speaker 2: agree with this. Maybe you should listen before you tell

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Speaker 2: me if you agree or not disagree. I actually I

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Speaker 2: think you wrote this. Oh I got that, then do it.

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Speaker 1: Then do it. You're on spirit and you could do

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Speaker 1: whatever you want.

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Speaker 3: I don't know.

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Speaker 1: You want to take it on spirit and you.

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Speaker 2: Could do whatever you want. Yes, it's a wild world

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Speaker 1: I hear the whole sentence.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it is embarrassing to have a boyfriend.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, many women, women, the many memenmen. Many women reference

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Speaker 1: Isn't that embarrassing too?

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Speaker 11: Like?

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Speaker 3: I mean, no, it's absolutely not.

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Speaker 2: Is embarrassing Paulina based on this argument, based on the

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Speaker 9: Well, Fred, I don't like that part that whole, like

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Speaker 1: Friendship any different?

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Speaker 9: No, Like I'll lead a friendship like that doesn't matter

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Speaker 1: You play Sidoku again, you're always playing.

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Speaker 3: I love this article. I'm actually writing something very similar

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Speaker 9: No, I am like, Hull say, we'll see if I

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Speaker 9: pick it up.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, catch me outside, but we'll see if they pick

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Speaker 9: But I'm writing one about how I'll never get remarried again,

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Speaker 3: Not like gonna take it a step forward.

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Speaker 2: But my point is in this argument, it says, yes,

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Speaker 2: a partnership defind their identity also something that could happen

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Speaker 9: I hear you, breaking up can be embarrassing. I think

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Speaker 9: it's article that I've read this article over and over

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Speaker 9: what she's saying is like, having a boyfriend is a

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Speaker 3: Well, on c Fred Hayter Lauren saying more man passing.

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Speaker 2: Eight three five if you have because this isn't talking

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Speaker 2: it applies to any relationship, Nick, I think that I

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Speaker 3: Well, I should embarrass you too, I hear you on that.

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Speaker 2: And the article is more about independent self identity outside

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Speaker 2: but I get I guess if I'm independent and I

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Speaker 4: Yes.

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Speaker 2: So this, in my opinion, this whole thing, it contradicts

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Speaker 3: I think, yes and no.

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Speaker 9: I think a lot of times when women get into relationships,

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Speaker 9: and like I know her content's a little more watered down,

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Speaker 9: I feel like a lot of people change when they

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Speaker 9: get into a relationship or they get married. Now, making

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Speaker 9: your whole identity, that's annoying. And she said it in

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Speaker 9: I don't know, on the beaches doing this and that,

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Speaker 9: I think she's just pointing that out as far as

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Speaker 9: And it's like, I see what she's saying in terms

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Speaker 9: And I think that's like what she's pointing out too,

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Speaker 2: Does that apply to just a boyfriend versus a husband too.

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Speaker 2: I shouldn't be embarrassed to have a boyfriend or a

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Speaker 1: You got a gimmick.

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Speaker 2: Gim you got a gimmick, this whole arm single until

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Speaker 2: I don't need him to claim me. But in order

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Speaker 4: Need to have some stake in the game, because it

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Speaker 4: Like so that level of risk that, yeah, that's embarrassing

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Speaker 1: Why are we framing it?

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Speaker 2: And I agree society does this, but why aren't we

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Speaker 3: I don't think friend, I don't think it has anything

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Speaker 4: Now I'll say that, I just think it's embarrassing because

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Speaker 1: You know.

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Speaker 4: It's not about my value, my value say what it

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Speaker 3: You know all that. Now, Now you want come.

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Speaker 1: And so and so, you got it.

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Speaker 2: You got it about three quarters right, and so then

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Speaker 4: By and I find that it's bad once I found

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, Jesus, it's not right, Taylor.

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Speaker 2: This article, this article just goes left and right and

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Speaker 2: it's all over the place, and it says two different things. Hi,

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Speaker 2: what did you want to say, having a boyfriend's embarrassing?

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Speaker 3: Why it's just embarrassing? What my boyfriend is my boyfriend?

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Speaker 11: That right? Just embarrassing.

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Speaker 4: I don't know, it's just come off with annoying.

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Speaker 2: I feel it so so saying your husband's your husband

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Speaker 3: Sounds different?

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Speaker 12: I don't know.

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Speaker 11: More adults, let me.

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Speaker 1: Tell you something. I'm gonna make a counter argument, Taylor.

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Speaker 2: I might argue that having a husband can be embarrassing,

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Speaker 2: where you may stop choosing.

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Speaker 1: Each other pucket.

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Speaker 2: But you've got lives intertwined legally and otherwise, and as

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Speaker 2: But I can tell you it would be such a

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Speaker 12: That's a good point, but I sometimes relationship every day.

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Speaker 2: And I hate using my parents as an example because

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Speaker 2: they do love each other, and they wouldn't I don't

444
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Speaker 2: think either one of them. Well, my dad wouldn't live

445
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Speaker 2: without my mom, like he physically wouldn't survive. I love him,

446
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Speaker 2: but he's gotten to a place in his life where

447
00:19:26,680 --> 00:19:29,280
Speaker 2: he physically would not survive without my mother. He doesn't

448
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Speaker 2: know how to wash his chonies. He has no idea,

449
00:19:31,600 --> 00:19:34,200
Speaker 2: no clue. He doesn't even where the chonees, no where

450
00:19:34,200 --> 00:19:36,680
Speaker 2: to buy newones. He don't know nothing about the chones. Okay,

451
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Speaker 2: so this man walk around with no chonies and it would.

452
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Speaker 3: Be awful for society with your mom no, and and.

453
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Speaker 2: Frankly, I think my mom needs him too. That she's

454
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Speaker 2: going to listen to this at about the little my

455
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Speaker 2: phone is gonna ring it. She's gonna say, I need

456
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Speaker 2: him but nothing. I've hid all the money everywhere.

457
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Speaker 1: He's broke. Think you Taylor had a good.

458
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Speaker 7: Day, See what, He's a good example.

459
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Speaker 9: Folk should have called me instead. I mean, I love

460
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Speaker 9: this author. She's gram and really like, I'm really invested

461
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Speaker 9: in her, in this whole thing. I wish they would

462
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Speaker 9: have called me because I've been saying which exactly what

463
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Speaker 9: you're saying. It's like, I think you can take us

464
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Speaker 9: up further and say husbands can be embarrassing too. Do

465
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Speaker 9: you know how many moms have to do this alone

466
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Speaker 9: even though they're legally married and the man's actually physically

467
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Speaker 9: in the house, But like, won't wash a dish.

468
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Speaker 1: I want women to have the power here.

469
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Speaker 2: But that's what she's saying on one hand, bright and

470
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Speaker 2: she on the other hand, So I don't know. Hey, Ashley,

471
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Speaker 2: good morning, Good morning. So you're saying it thirty five

472
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Speaker 2: to say you have a boyfriend is embarrassing. I see,

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Speaker 2: I think that's just social Well what are you saying

474
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Speaker 2: so like that? That's what my blurb said. Okay, that's

475
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Speaker 2: what that's what your pre interview said. All right, So

476
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Speaker 2: if we got the pre interview wrong, then I need

477
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Speaker 2: you to correct that.

478
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Speaker 3: No, that's the hunter Bird.

479
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Speaker 13: Like at thirty five, when you're just introducing someone being like,

480
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Speaker 13: this is my boyfriend, it just sounds so immature because

481
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Speaker 13: there's so many people at that stage of life that

482
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Speaker 13: is like married.

483
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Speaker 3: Mind you, I've already been married and divorce. Go oh

484
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Speaker 3: you're good, right, you need it right now.

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Speaker 13: Fortunately enough, we are engaged and we're getting married in December.

486
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Speaker 13: But when I was introducing him at thirty five and

487
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Speaker 13: thirty eight as my boyfriend, it just feels like a

488
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Speaker 13: step back in life because you know, I'm approaching that

489
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Speaker 13: forty mark ye saying I have a boyfriend.

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Speaker 2: No, and I hear you no, I hear what you're saying, Ashley,

491
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Speaker 2: and that's fair and that's honest, and you're being transparent.

492
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Speaker 2: But I'm going to write a piece for British Vogue

493
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Speaker 2: where I say, yeah, that is a social construct. Yes,

494
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Speaker 2: what you're saying, what you're saying is what other people

495
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Speaker 2: are putting onto you, Like, that's what the world's putting

496
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Speaker 2: onto you. And I can say this from the perspective

497
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Speaker 2: of a forty four year old man who's never been

498
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Speaker 2: married and may never get married because people look at

499
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Speaker 2: me like I'm a weirdo, people on the dating apps,

500
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Speaker 2: people in real life, people my friends, who introduce me

501
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Speaker 2: to people. It's like, what do you mean, He's forty

502
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Speaker 2: four and never been married. There must be something wrong

503
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Speaker 2: with him, as opposed to what if I choose this life.

504
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Speaker 3: That's true.

505
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Speaker 2: So you shouldn't be embarrassed. I'm telling you. That's my

506
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Speaker 2: whole point here. You should not be embarrassed about that

507
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Speaker 2: whatsoever you made that choice.

508
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Speaker 3: Hould your head high.

509
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Speaker 2: And if a guy doesn't want to propose to you

510
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Speaker 2: then and and you're self aware and it's not you know,

511
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Speaker 2: and and you're and you're good with yourself, then I

512
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Speaker 2: guess that's his loss.

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Speaker 13: That's true, But doesn't don't you think the title boyfriend

514
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Speaker 13: instead of like you.

515
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Speaker 3: Know, it sounds immature.

516
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Speaker 1: Fourteen year olds have boyfriend.

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Speaker 2: Okay, so we can change the word man friend, right,

518
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Speaker 2: college little guy dude?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, fair enough. I hear that.

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Speaker 3: But but if you're thinking it, no, no, no, I.

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Speaker 2: Think what you've said is what the part that makes

522
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Speaker 2: you embarrassed, in my opinion, shouldn't make you embarrassed. It's

523
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Speaker 2: it's your embarrassed because other people. You think other people

524
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Speaker 2: think that. So it's a little bit of projection that

525
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Speaker 2: i'd like to correct.

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Speaker 3: Fortunately enough, we are getting married in December.

527
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Speaker 1: He's my fiance now, so we don't got to say boyfriend.

528
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Speaker 1: No mo.

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Speaker 3: Congratulations?

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Speaker 14: Yeah, all right, thank you too.

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Speaker 1: You there you go.

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Speaker 2: See, you wouldn't have bet a big tim could have

533
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Speaker 2: said that, he could have walked. You would have been

534
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Speaker 2: devastated because that's a that's a crappy thing to do.

535
00:23:04,280 --> 00:23:07,480
Speaker 2: You would have been sad. But then guess what next? O, Marion,

536
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Speaker 2: what's up?

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Speaker 4: That's what I'm saying. That's why you don't put out

538
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Speaker 4: a boyfriend. Because my bench is watching.

539
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Speaker 1: We're so late and we got to go.

540
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Speaker 2: But the other part of this is that we're judging

541
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Speaker 2: things based on social media content, which is outrageous.

542
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Speaker 3: I hate that.

543
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Speaker 2: I do not care no part of your actual life.

544
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Speaker 2: You got to live your life. And if that and

545
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Speaker 2: if you want to live a separate life, that's for

546
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Speaker 2: everybody else. I guess fine. But like the fact that

547
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Speaker 2: we're now we're now meshing and meshing the two where

548
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Speaker 2: my social media life and how I'm judged on social

549
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Speaker 2: media it plays into my actual identity. That's the worst

550
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Speaker 2: place on earth. Why would you want that to be

551
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Speaker 2: the barometer of how you're doing in life? The Internet's

552
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Speaker 2: the worst place on earth.

553
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Speaker 7: The longer the caption, the more the problems. I stand

554
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Speaker 7: by that girl. Oh yeah, Like if it's wordy.

555
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Speaker 3: And oh two souls combine, what are all going?

556
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Speaker 1: Don't take something?

557
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Speaker 2: If we don't win a Marconi Awards for this hour radio,

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Speaker 2: we never eight five, nine, one one o three five.

559
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Speaker 2: In context, the same number Bellahamine operators is standing by

560
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Speaker 2: aka Bellahamine is standing by your proudest parenting moment yours

561
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Speaker 2: happened over the weekend. Oh sure, she's crawling around.

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Speaker 9: Now, she's crawling around, which is funny because she wasn't crawling,

563
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Speaker 9: like she was starting to show signs of walking, and

564
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Speaker 9: then all of a sudden, I looked over, like, I

565
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Speaker 9: don't know, two weeks ago, and she's crawling across the room.

566
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Speaker 3: So I was like, okay, we're more you.

567
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Speaker 1: We're gonna skip the crawling phase the right to walk.

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Speaker 9: In I guess they say that could happen, and I

569
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Speaker 9: was like, well, that's advanced.

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Speaker 15: But she.

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Speaker 2: I feel like there's the kind of story that parents

572
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Speaker 2: tell about their kids, but that they're lying, yeah, oh

573
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Speaker 2: you know my kid, My kid was running marathons before

574
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Speaker 2: she could crawls.

575
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Speaker 1: Like what because everybody I know, I have very few.

576
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Speaker 2: I have a couple friends who say their kids are

577
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Speaker 2: kind of dumb, but the rest but they're like they

578
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Speaker 2: keep it real, like they know their kids like this

579
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Speaker 2: one here is going to be the one who's going

580
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Speaker 2: to make us all the money, and this one here,

581
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Speaker 2: you know, we love her but or him, but like,

582
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Speaker 2: uh really not.

583
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Speaker 3: Sure that is keeping you real, but otherwise you.

584
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Speaker 2: Got every aren't going you know, oh my god, my kid.

585
00:25:03,080 --> 00:25:06,120
Speaker 2: The teacher said that my kid is is brilliant, has

586
00:25:06,320 --> 00:25:10,040
Speaker 2: perfect IQ, and it probably is has the cure for cancer,

587
00:25:10,200 --> 00:25:13,320
Speaker 2: you know, locked inside of his head. Like every parent

588
00:25:13,359 --> 00:25:15,600
Speaker 2: says that about there. I feel like my kids, Yeah, yeah,

589
00:25:15,680 --> 00:25:19,000
Speaker 2: very few parents keep it real like this one. Here.

590
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Speaker 2: We're just hoping that he or she will like get

591
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Speaker 2: out of the house someday, Like that's realistic. Nonetheless, Gigi

592
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Speaker 2: is crawling around.

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Speaker 9: She's crawling around, which means I had to put like

594
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Speaker 9: gates up and like we got to get those little.

595
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Speaker 3: Things that close cabinets now.

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Speaker 9: So I looked over and because I heard her in

597
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Speaker 9: Benzo and those two are my dog Benzo. They are

598
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Speaker 9: just in Shenanigans all the time, you know. When I

599
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Speaker 9: cook for her, she's throwing food whatever she wants to

600
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Speaker 9: grab them and all these things. So I look over

601
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Speaker 9: and she's next to Benzol's bowl. I'm like, well, that

602
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Speaker 9: can't be good. I look over and in her hand

603
00:25:52,160 --> 00:25:54,640
Speaker 9: her is like one thing about baby's hands. When they

604
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Speaker 9: grab something like that is the quickest reflux you'll ever see.

605
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Speaker 9: Like whatever it is, they grab it. She's got kimble

606
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Speaker 9: in her hands and one in her mouth. So I

607
00:26:03,840 --> 00:26:06,440
Speaker 9: was like, okay, we're eating Kimmel. I see what we're doing.

608
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Speaker 9: And I also heard that they drink out on the

609
00:26:08,480 --> 00:26:10,080
Speaker 9: water bowl once they get a little bigger too.

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, you know, it's self.

611
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Speaker 9: Serve like whenever you please, you know, whenever you're thirsty,

612
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Speaker 9: go ahead, and it's just right there. So now I'm like,

613
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Speaker 9: we I gotta put the dog food somewhere because so

614
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Speaker 9: crawl to it, you know, and I want her to crawl.

615
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Speaker 3: I want her to explore. But it's it's hard.

616
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Speaker 9: Now I'm like trying to watch everything of what else

617
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Speaker 9: you can get into.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, like the.

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Speaker 2: Tummy time phase looked kind of cool. That was the

620
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Speaker 2: cool thing my niece may have. Like you know, you

621
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Speaker 2: just kind of they just kind of lay there on

622
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Speaker 2: their back of their stomach, and then they're not going anywhere.

623
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Speaker 2: So like my sister's running around the house doing stuff

624
00:26:38,600 --> 00:26:41,000
Speaker 2: because baby like you know, obviously popping back in like

625
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Speaker 2: you know, quite regularly. But the baby's not going anywhere

626
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Speaker 2: if there's nothing in her reach exactly. You know.

627
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Speaker 9: Yeah, tell me time I missed that I missed when

628
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Speaker 9: they were swaddled up and you can just hold them

629
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Speaker 9: for hours and watch TV and they just doze off,

630
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Speaker 9: you know, in and out of sleep. That was a

631
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Speaker 9: fun phase too, So you caught your kid eating dog

632
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Speaker 9: food the kibble. Yeah.

633
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Speaker 3: Yeah, so that's gonna be really fun. I'm nervous. I'm

634
00:27:03,000 --> 00:27:03,800
Speaker 3: really nervous. Guys.

635
00:27:04,040 --> 00:27:06,800
Speaker 2: Is that is that your proudest parenting moment? And I

636
00:27:06,840 --> 00:27:09,879
Speaker 2: mean that sarcastically or are there other things that have

637
00:27:09,920 --> 00:27:11,720
Speaker 2: happened that you're like, I really hope nobody saw that.

638
00:27:12,359 --> 00:27:12,520
Speaker 11: No.

639
00:27:12,600 --> 00:27:13,480
Speaker 3: I think it's like about it.

640
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Speaker 9: We were at dinner, like what last month, and she

641
00:27:16,000 --> 00:27:18,840
Speaker 9: grabbed somebody had like a drink, a cocktail, and she

642
00:27:19,040 --> 00:27:21,159
Speaker 9: was her aunt, Ariel, so she grabbed it.

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Speaker 3: And my little girl, she's strong, I'll say that about her.

644
00:27:23,880 --> 00:27:24,359
Speaker 3: She's strong.

645
00:27:24,520 --> 00:27:26,520
Speaker 9: And the next thing, you know, she's holding this drink

646
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Speaker 9: up like like fist like everything, just clenching it and

647
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Speaker 9: it's just.

648
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Speaker 3: Like we're all looking and I'm like, that's that's the drink.

649
00:27:31,760 --> 00:27:34,480
Speaker 3: That's that's Ariel's drink. So I'm thinking, like's that's gonna

650
00:27:34,520 --> 00:27:35,119
Speaker 3: drop in a second.

651
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Speaker 9: It didn't, thank god, but I'm like, those hands just

652
00:27:37,359 --> 00:27:40,880
Speaker 9: grab everything now, yeah quick, because she wants a cocktail.

653
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Speaker 3: Clearly, I feel her.

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Speaker 2: You know, how often were you in charge of your

655
00:27:45,480 --> 00:27:47,200
Speaker 2: of your nephews at a young age, like at a

656
00:27:47,240 --> 00:27:49,560
Speaker 2: really young age, Because now they're like sixteen asking you

657
00:27:49,600 --> 00:27:50,879
Speaker 2: for two thousand dollars pants.

658
00:27:51,000 --> 00:27:51,760
Speaker 1: Yeah, I have one.

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Speaker 4: I have a nephew at every stage in life right now.

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Speaker 4: So there is a toddler and he is wild like

661
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Speaker 4: he is like the Tasmanian devil, like he eats it

662
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Speaker 4: every time you see him. But I know those little

663
00:28:02,840 --> 00:28:06,240
Speaker 4: hands they move very quick and when you go like

664
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Speaker 4: when you go to snatch, it's already in their mouth yea,

665
00:28:08,480 --> 00:28:10,879
Speaker 4: in their stomach like it's done. You can't you can't

666
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Speaker 4: take it back.

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Speaker 3: That's a wrap.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Yes, it just makes me nervous, Like I don't know

670
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Speaker 2: at what point, probably somewhere around twenty three is when

671
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Speaker 2: I would be comfortable taking my nieces somewhere. And I

672
00:28:22,080 --> 00:28:24,119
Speaker 2: feel like if they if I broke them somehow, they

673
00:28:24,119 --> 00:28:26,480
Speaker 2: wouldn't be Like honestly, I gets too much pressure to

674
00:28:26,560 --> 00:28:28,320
Speaker 2: drive with them in the car, makes it It makes

675
00:28:28,359 --> 00:28:31,479
Speaker 2: me too nervous. I just I don't know, Like my sister,

676
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Speaker 2: you know, if the kid falls and like bumps her

677
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Speaker 2: head or something and whatever, then whatever if it happens

678
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Speaker 2: on my watch, Oh yeah, we're going to the hospital.

679
00:28:39,280 --> 00:28:42,560
Speaker 2: We're getting neurologists involved. There's a brain surgery. I'm sure

680
00:28:42,920 --> 00:28:44,640
Speaker 2: I broke the kid and she'll never be the same.

681
00:28:44,680 --> 00:28:46,520
Speaker 2: And my sister, would you know, just own me for

682
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Speaker 2: the rest of my life. But I see some stuff

683
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Speaker 2: happen with my sister and the kid, like, oh, I

684
00:28:51,480 --> 00:28:53,080
Speaker 2: don't even look at that skinder knee, and no big

685
00:28:53,120 --> 00:28:55,480
Speaker 2: deal if it happens on my watch, we got a

686
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Speaker 2: real problem.

687
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Speaker 3: It's different. It's different.

688
00:28:57,600 --> 00:28:59,080
Speaker 2: It makes me, It just makes me nervous, and it

689
00:28:59,120 --> 00:29:01,400
Speaker 2: makes me just like I'll just I'll just sit here

690
00:29:02,000 --> 00:29:06,280
Speaker 2: and throw money or something. Now, Laura, Laura, hold on

691
00:29:06,280 --> 00:29:07,600
Speaker 2: a second, Lord, good morning, how are you.

692
00:29:08,680 --> 00:29:09,160
Speaker 1: I'm fine?

693
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Speaker 2: How are you?

694
00:29:09,600 --> 00:29:09,840
Speaker 1: Laura?

695
00:29:09,840 --> 00:29:11,560
Speaker 2: You're about to tell me an actual Is this a

696
00:29:11,600 --> 00:29:14,440
Speaker 2: real proud moment? Because I was being sarcastic, But tell me,

697
00:29:14,720 --> 00:29:16,360
Speaker 2: tell me the real proud moment of you of your

698
00:29:16,480 --> 00:29:19,160
Speaker 2: child because I was talking more about kids eating dog food.

699
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Speaker 1: But what is the real proud moment you'd like to share?

700
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Speaker 8: My watching my two sons beat dads to their kids

701
00:29:27,880 --> 00:29:29,440
Speaker 8: really cool to watch.

702
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Speaker 1: What is it that resonates with you? Is it the care?

703
00:29:34,480 --> 00:29:36,440
Speaker 1: Is it the is it the patience?

704
00:29:36,680 --> 00:29:38,720
Speaker 2: Is it is something you maybe didn't expect to side

705
00:29:38,720 --> 00:29:39,760
Speaker 2: of them, that you've never seen this.

706
00:29:39,800 --> 00:29:43,960
Speaker 8: Helping them, helping just and just in general being being

707
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Speaker 8: a present dad, you know, like taking two boys to

708
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Speaker 8: the grocery store while the mom stays.

709
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Speaker 1: Home and clean.

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Speaker 8: Love it, you know, yeah, yeah, I mean actually being

711
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Speaker 8: a dad, not just you know, being the donor to

712
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Speaker 8: this thing. Actually doing that. Parenting is really cool to see.

713
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Speaker 2: It is cool to see like my sister, you know,

714
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Speaker 2: watching her be a mom. She's so good at it.

715
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Speaker 2: It is it is cool to see. It's like I

716
00:30:09,560 --> 00:30:11,760
Speaker 2: remember when you were crawling around and now look at you.

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Speaker 1: You're responsible for human lives. Thank you, Laura, have a

718
00:30:14,160 --> 00:30:14,600
Speaker 1: good day.

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Speaker 3: That's so sweet.

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Speaker 1: You're too glad you called on.

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Speaker 2: Let's get back to what we really went here a Ruben, Hi, Reuben,

722
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Speaker 2: that was a nice touching moment.

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Speaker 1: But Reuben, yes, how old is your good morning? How

724
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Speaker 1: old is your niece?

725
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Speaker 11: My niece is four?

726
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Speaker 1: Okay? And what happened?

727
00:30:30,600 --> 00:30:33,920
Speaker 11: And yesterday she was crawling around doing her thing? And

728
00:30:33,960 --> 00:30:36,240
Speaker 11: then before I could look and see where she's at,

729
00:30:36,680 --> 00:30:39,760
Speaker 11: she's eating two big handfuls of kitty food.

730
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Speaker 1: Flavor?

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Speaker 11: Was it?

732
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Speaker 2: Was it?

733
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Speaker 1: The tuna was at the chicken? I mean, I mean,

734
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Speaker 1: come on, you know, yeah, was it the salmon.

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Speaker 11: It was. It was the tuna with the famine.

736
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Speaker 2: No, I mean you know when you're hungry. Okay, so

737
00:30:55,360 --> 00:30:57,840
Speaker 2: so you grabviously you grabbed her.

738
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Speaker 1: The food or whatever.

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00:31:00,000 --> 00:31:02,200
Speaker 11: Then I wash her hands, make sure she's okay, give

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Speaker 11: her a little water to wash it down.

741
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Speaker 1: I guess yeah, like doubt her in mouth washed.

742
00:31:07,640 --> 00:31:09,400
Speaker 2: So the parents will never know that it happened on

743
00:31:09,440 --> 00:31:10,680
Speaker 2: your watch and everything exactly.

744
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Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, thank you, Reuben, have a good day.

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Speaker 11: I have a great day.

746
00:31:16,160 --> 00:31:17,320
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, cat.

747
00:31:17,240 --> 00:31:20,920
Speaker 2: Food, it happens. I was gonna say, have you ever

748
00:31:20,920 --> 00:31:23,720
Speaker 2: felt like you broke her all the time? Because that

749
00:31:23,720 --> 00:31:26,120
Speaker 2: would be my concern. Is this I would be asking

750
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Speaker 2: myself as a person with anxiety, I'd be asking myself

751
00:31:28,800 --> 00:31:31,160
Speaker 2: every day, is this normal? Is this normal? Like is

752
00:31:31,160 --> 00:31:32,800
Speaker 2: this is this supposed to be happening? Is this normal?

753
00:31:32,880 --> 00:31:35,120
Speaker 2: Or like was that too hard or too soft?

754
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Speaker 9: You're like, yeah, I know, because right now, like she

755
00:31:36,880 --> 00:31:38,800
Speaker 9: stands right and she falls and I'm always grabbing her arm,

756
00:31:38,840 --> 00:31:40,280
Speaker 9: and my biggest fear is like I pull it too

757
00:31:40,320 --> 00:31:42,920
Speaker 9: hard because her babies are delicate, but they're also very resilient.

758
00:31:43,000 --> 00:31:44,080
Speaker 3: I'm hearing that too.

759
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Speaker 9: She's fallen, hidden her head already, Like we're in that

760
00:31:46,280 --> 00:31:48,920
Speaker 9: face too. But doctor said, rule of thumb is if

761
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Speaker 9: the fall is I think, like shorter than they are

762
00:31:51,520 --> 00:31:53,800
Speaker 9: or something, they're okay, like they're height and shorter. Now

763
00:31:53,800 --> 00:31:55,560
Speaker 9: she fell from like I don't know, seven ft up

764
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Speaker 9: the it's a different story.

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Speaker 3: But if she just fell on her butt, whatever, that

766
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Speaker 3: would be concerning.

767
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Speaker 9: Yeah, it would be very con But I'm not gonna

768
00:32:00,720 --> 00:32:02,480
Speaker 9: lie you, guys. I call a doctor for every little thing.

769
00:32:02,760 --> 00:32:05,720
Speaker 9: I know what the latest one was. Yeah, so I

770
00:32:05,720 --> 00:32:07,840
Speaker 9: felt like her diaper wasn't wet enough, like she didn't

771
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Speaker 9: be enough, So I called.

772
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Speaker 3: It because I was like, is that normal?

773
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Speaker 1: I don't know she hydrated. I think that's probably a

774
00:32:13,680 --> 00:32:14,520
Speaker 1: reasonable question.

775
00:32:14,760 --> 00:32:16,320
Speaker 3: No, because there'd be signs of dehydration.

776
00:32:16,720 --> 00:32:18,600
Speaker 9: She just woke up from a nap and didn't pee,

777
00:32:18,760 --> 00:32:21,040
Speaker 9: So like, I freak out because I don't know. It's

778
00:32:21,080 --> 00:32:22,959
Speaker 9: my first time here. I'm the first tand parents. If

779
00:32:23,000 --> 00:32:25,120
Speaker 9: you can't tell that makes sense, yeah, I get it.

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Speaker 9: Any any little thing, Shelley, Hi, good morning, Shelley. Hello,

781
00:32:32,760 --> 00:32:35,280
Speaker 9: I hear a car. Hello.

782
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Speaker 11: Oh Shelley or Kelly.

783
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Speaker 1: Says Shelly is your name? Kelly?

784
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Speaker 11: Oh?

785
00:32:40,280 --> 00:32:45,000
Speaker 1: Yes, Kelly? Okay, well, anyway, if I call you anyway.

786
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Speaker 16: I've been called worse. So when my son was six,

787
00:32:52,120 --> 00:32:55,280
Speaker 16: he came into the house from the backyard. He's like mom, Mom, Mom,

788
00:32:55,640 --> 00:32:58,080
Speaker 16: like what's wrong. He goes, there's a bear in the

789
00:32:58,080 --> 00:33:01,240
Speaker 16: backyard and he pooped back there. And I'm like what

790
00:33:01,560 --> 00:33:04,200
Speaker 16: And he's like, mom, there's a brier that pooped in

791
00:33:04,240 --> 00:33:06,960
Speaker 16: the backyard. And so I went back there. No, it

792
00:33:07,160 --> 00:33:09,760
Speaker 16: was my son, in front of all the neighbors, decided

793
00:33:09,840 --> 00:33:13,000
Speaker 16: to drop his pants and poop in the backyard and claimed.

794
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Speaker 3: That it was a bear.

795
00:33:13,960 --> 00:33:18,720
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, blame the mayor.

796
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Speaker 1: I'm going to use that one.

797
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Speaker 3: He blamed the mayor.

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Speaker 16: I mean, for the record, he is twenty now, he

799
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Speaker 16: is in college.

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Speaker 11: He's an excellent.

801
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Speaker 16: Student and a good kid. But you know, yeah, now

802
00:33:31,120 --> 00:33:33,360
Speaker 16: we give him toilet paper.

803
00:33:33,160 --> 00:33:33,440
Speaker 12: And I.

804
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Speaker 2: Mean, but yeah, don't, hey, Kelly Shelley, don't pretend like

805
00:33:39,400 --> 00:33:40,920
Speaker 2: you know, we don't see the bears just pooping in

806
00:33:40,960 --> 00:33:42,080
Speaker 2: people's front yards all the time.

807
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Speaker 1: It's a very common occurrence. I belave him.

808
00:33:45,680 --> 00:33:47,840
Speaker 16: You know, you gotta wash themselves suburbs there, they got

809
00:33:47,880 --> 00:33:48,640
Speaker 16: a lot of bears out.

810
00:33:49,120 --> 00:33:52,720
Speaker 2: You got to be very concerned about this. Yeah, thank you, Shelly, Kelly,

811
00:33:52,800 --> 00:33:59,360
Speaker 2: have a good day more Fredshell. Next, someone tell the

812
00:33:59,440 --> 00:34:02,200
Speaker 2: suits to get these guys more days off either they're

813
00:34:02,320 --> 00:34:05,720
Speaker 2: still drunk from the long vaca. But yeah, let these

814
00:34:05,880 --> 00:34:08,400
Speaker 2: dogs off the lease for a bit and they're feeling

815
00:34:08,480 --> 00:34:09,720
Speaker 2: themselves this morning.

816
00:34:09,920 --> 00:34:10,320
Speaker 1: Lol.

817
00:34:10,400 --> 00:34:10,680
Speaker 11: Love it.

818
00:34:10,920 --> 00:34:11,919
Speaker 1: Who's the drunk one?

819
00:34:12,120 --> 00:34:12,319
Speaker 8: Yes?

820
00:34:12,719 --> 00:34:16,320
Speaker 1: Okay? Freads show is a TSA is issued statement.

821
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Speaker 2: They're begging travelers stop hiding animals in weird spots on

822
00:34:19,239 --> 00:34:22,200
Speaker 2: your body at airport security. Another day and another thing

823
00:34:22,239 --> 00:34:24,920
Speaker 2: they actually have to say, a woman tried to smuggle

824
00:34:24,960 --> 00:34:27,720
Speaker 2: two live turtles trapped to her chest. In another incident,

825
00:34:27,800 --> 00:34:30,080
Speaker 2: a guy can steal the five inch turtle in his pants.

826
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Speaker 2: A newer to TSA agents are urging people to stop

827
00:34:33,840 --> 00:34:36,719
Speaker 2: this behavior. It's not only inappropriate, but also risky for

828
00:34:36,760 --> 00:34:38,560
Speaker 2: the animals. I get an idea, I let me put

829
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Speaker 2: my turtle in my pants. Ever been left waiting by

830
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Speaker 2: the phone. It's the Fred Show. Christian, good morning, Welcome

831
00:34:49,680 --> 00:34:50,120
Speaker 2: to the show.

832
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Speaker 17: Hi, good morning, how are you very well?

833
00:34:52,600 --> 00:34:54,399
Speaker 2: We call this waiting by the phone, of course, trying

834
00:34:54,440 --> 00:34:56,480
Speaker 2: to figure out if you got ghosted?

835
00:34:57,160 --> 00:34:57,880
Speaker 1: What happened?

836
00:34:57,960 --> 00:35:01,120
Speaker 2: Why don't you explain how you met Ellen and about

837
00:35:01,160 --> 00:35:04,359
Speaker 2: any dates that you've been on and what's happening right now?

838
00:35:04,680 --> 00:35:08,680
Speaker 17: Yeah, of course. So I actually met Ellen on Bumble,

839
00:35:08,800 --> 00:35:10,080
Speaker 17: you know the dating.

840
00:35:09,840 --> 00:35:15,000
Speaker 2: App, and uh, familiar with the Bumble Yeah it's okay

841
00:35:15,040 --> 00:35:16,320
Speaker 2: cool timer two Yeah.

842
00:35:16,120 --> 00:35:18,560
Speaker 1: Okay, yeah, so you met her there, So so I

843
00:35:18,640 --> 00:35:19,160
Speaker 1: met her on there.

844
00:35:19,200 --> 00:35:21,480
Speaker 18: I asked her out to grab drinks at one of

845
00:35:21,520 --> 00:35:25,799
Speaker 18: the like this speakeasy nearby my place, and I love

846
00:35:25,840 --> 00:35:28,960
Speaker 18: that It's got like a good atmosphere. But they have

847
00:35:29,040 --> 00:35:30,960
Speaker 18: these wild cocktails and you know, they end up having

848
00:35:31,040 --> 00:35:32,759
Speaker 18: too and you end up getting pretty loaded. So we

849
00:35:32,840 --> 00:35:34,719
Speaker 18: were defunded by the end of the night, and we

850
00:35:34,920 --> 00:35:37,960
Speaker 18: walked back over to my place and you know, get intimate.

851
00:35:38,120 --> 00:35:41,479
Speaker 17: Do what do an adults to I don't know that's

852
00:35:41,560 --> 00:35:43,879
Speaker 17: how explicit I can be with you, but I think

853
00:35:43,880 --> 00:35:46,279
Speaker 17: feel free to use your imagination pretty over all.

854
00:35:46,320 --> 00:35:48,520
Speaker 1: Right, Yeah, I think everybody knows what you're talking about.

855
00:35:48,560 --> 00:35:50,680
Speaker 1: So that that happened exactly.

856
00:35:50,920 --> 00:35:53,200
Speaker 12: Yeah, So I just want to get that out better, right,

857
00:35:53,600 --> 00:35:57,320
Speaker 12: So she wrats over and he uh, you know, she

858
00:35:57,400 --> 00:35:59,680
Speaker 12: starts ghost to me. I thought we had a good night,

859
00:35:59,880 --> 00:36:01,719
Speaker 12: you know, and now suck wondering if she only hooked

860
00:36:01,760 --> 00:36:03,279
Speaker 12: up with me because she was drunk, and I would

861
00:36:03,280 --> 00:36:04,680
Speaker 12: really hate for that to be the case, because I

862
00:36:04,680 --> 00:36:06,360
Speaker 12: actually liked her. I had a good time with her.

863
00:36:06,400 --> 00:36:09,360
Speaker 12: A conversation was easy flow, and she's very attractive, and

864
00:36:09,560 --> 00:36:11,920
Speaker 12: you know, I kind of felt this this romantic connection,

865
00:36:12,000 --> 00:36:14,359
Speaker 12: a bit of chemistry, and you know, if it wasn't

866
00:36:14,640 --> 00:36:15,520
Speaker 12: she didn't feel the same way.

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Speaker 17: Was it reciprocated?

868
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Speaker 11: It was fine?

869
00:36:16,920 --> 00:36:18,440
Speaker 17: I just you know, I want I don't. I want

870
00:36:18,480 --> 00:36:19,600
Speaker 17: to know. I just don't want to get gone.

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Speaker 2: I mean, sometimes male female, whatever. Maybe I don't know

872
00:36:22,680 --> 00:36:25,080
Speaker 2: if it matters the gender. Sometimes when people drink too

873
00:36:25,160 --> 00:36:28,920
Speaker 2: much and then things happened, it's like, well, did I

874
00:36:29,520 --> 00:36:31,080
Speaker 2: Is this how I wanted things to start?

875
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Speaker 1: Did I give off the right impression?

876
00:36:32,800 --> 00:36:36,280
Speaker 2: Some people have anxiety where they're you know, they're hungover,

877
00:36:36,360 --> 00:36:38,120
Speaker 2: and like, ah, I can't believe I did that. I

878
00:36:38,200 --> 00:36:40,920
Speaker 2: know that's happened to me. So it's possible that she

879
00:36:41,080 --> 00:36:43,120
Speaker 2: just kind of thought maybe it was fun, but not

880
00:36:43,360 --> 00:36:46,200
Speaker 2: necessarily the way she wanted to start the relationship. But

881
00:36:46,239 --> 00:36:48,840
Speaker 2: I suppose that's a conversation you could have unless you

882
00:36:48,920 --> 00:36:51,120
Speaker 2: wanted to just disappear, which is maybe what she's doing.

883
00:36:51,560 --> 00:36:53,799
Speaker 12: You're exactly right, I want to have that conversation at

884
00:36:53,880 --> 00:36:55,840
Speaker 12: least let me know. You know, I'm man enough to

885
00:36:55,960 --> 00:36:59,000
Speaker 12: take that kind of rejection, but it's unusual for me

886
00:36:59,080 --> 00:37:01,399
Speaker 12: to not even get to follow up and be like, hey,

887
00:37:01,400 --> 00:37:01,880
Speaker 12: do you want.

888
00:37:01,760 --> 00:37:02,439
Speaker 17: To try this again?

889
00:37:02,760 --> 00:37:02,960
Speaker 1: Yeah?

890
00:37:03,120 --> 00:37:04,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, or you could look at it as Wow, we

891
00:37:04,719 --> 00:37:06,560
Speaker 2: really hit it off. The chemistry was great, Like, why

892
00:37:06,600 --> 00:37:08,880
Speaker 2: don't we keep going in this direction? So let me

893
00:37:08,960 --> 00:37:11,719
Speaker 2: call Ellen. You'll be on the phone. I want to

894
00:37:11,760 --> 00:37:13,279
Speaker 2: see if we can get her on the line and

895
00:37:13,560 --> 00:37:15,560
Speaker 2: ask some questions and figure out what's going on. At

896
00:37:15,640 --> 00:37:17,040
Speaker 2: some point, you're welcome to jump in on the call

897
00:37:17,040 --> 00:37:18,840
Speaker 2: and hopefully we can straighten this out and set you

898
00:37:18,880 --> 00:37:20,560
Speaker 2: guys up on another date that we pay for.

899
00:37:20,680 --> 00:37:22,160
Speaker 1: Okay, So right, this is.

900
00:37:22,160 --> 00:37:23,800
Speaker 17: The part where I get to be like sneaky and

901
00:37:23,840 --> 00:37:25,240
Speaker 17: I don't say anything.

902
00:37:25,080 --> 00:37:27,120
Speaker 2: Right right right, because you've obviously heard this before. So

903
00:37:27,239 --> 00:37:30,480
Speaker 2: just follow my lead on this and let's see what happens. Yeah,

904
00:37:30,520 --> 00:37:32,960
Speaker 2: I'm gonna play one song. We'll come back and do it. Okay, cool,

905
00:37:33,239 --> 00:37:35,759
Speaker 2: Hey Christian, Yeah, all right, let's call Ellen. You guys

906
00:37:35,840 --> 00:37:38,719
Speaker 2: met on Bumble, you went out, you thought there was

907
00:37:38,719 --> 00:37:41,160
Speaker 2: a lot of chemistry, had a great date. I wanted

908
00:37:41,239 --> 00:37:45,040
Speaker 2: poking up, except you've reached out since that date trying

909
00:37:45,080 --> 00:37:47,960
Speaker 2: to set up date number two, and she's not responding

910
00:37:48,000 --> 00:37:48,719
Speaker 2: to you at all.

911
00:37:49,120 --> 00:37:51,640
Speaker 17: Exactly exactly. Yeah, we had a good time. We had

912
00:37:51,680 --> 00:37:53,640
Speaker 17: a good time, and I'm looking forward to a day two.

913
00:37:54,040 --> 00:37:55,680
Speaker 2: You just at least you want to know, you know,

914
00:37:55,960 --> 00:37:58,160
Speaker 2: why she's not calling or if something happened or whatever.

915
00:37:58,239 --> 00:38:14,600
Speaker 2: So let's call her now. Good luck, Christian him hiasus Ellen, Yeah, Ellen, Hey,

916
00:38:14,640 --> 00:38:16,319
Speaker 2: good morning Fred from the Fred's Show. The whole crew

917
00:38:16,400 --> 00:38:17,719
Speaker 2: is here. I have to tell you that we are

918
00:38:17,880 --> 00:38:20,160
Speaker 2: on the radio right now, and I would you, I

919
00:38:20,200 --> 00:38:22,840
Speaker 2: would thank you. Woh my god. I don't know if

920
00:38:22,880 --> 00:38:24,520
Speaker 2: that's a compliment. I don't know if that was an

921
00:38:24,520 --> 00:38:26,640
Speaker 2: oh my guide, like I love the show, and notice

922
00:38:26,640 --> 00:38:28,640
Speaker 2: I just say thank you right away, like that's what

923
00:38:28,800 --> 00:38:32,480
Speaker 2: that meant. I love the show, genuinely surprised. Okay, well

924
00:38:32,520 --> 00:38:34,600
Speaker 2: then you know the rest of the deal. So you're

925
00:38:34,640 --> 00:38:36,000
Speaker 2: on waiting by the phone right now.

926
00:38:36,760 --> 00:38:37,239
Speaker 1: I got him.

927
00:38:37,320 --> 00:38:39,160
Speaker 2: Christian reached out to us so that you guys met

928
00:38:39,239 --> 00:38:41,200
Speaker 2: on bumble and went out. Do you remember this guy?

929
00:38:42,320 --> 00:38:42,560
Speaker 11: Yeah?

930
00:38:42,920 --> 00:38:43,120
Speaker 17: You do?

931
00:38:43,440 --> 00:38:46,680
Speaker 2: Okay, so he called us, and if you listen to

932
00:38:46,719 --> 00:38:48,160
Speaker 2: the show before then you know why he called. He

933
00:38:48,200 --> 00:38:50,800
Speaker 2: wants to know why you are calling him back. He

934
00:38:50,960 --> 00:38:53,200
Speaker 2: described to us what he thought was a very successful date.

935
00:38:53,640 --> 00:38:56,680
Speaker 2: He did mention that you guys got intimate, and it's like,

936
00:38:56,800 --> 00:38:58,560
Speaker 2: why did all that happen if you weren't interested?

937
00:38:58,640 --> 00:39:00,480
Speaker 1: So what's your side of the story.

938
00:39:01,719 --> 00:39:04,480
Speaker 6: Well, I would bet that he didn't actually tell you

939
00:39:04,560 --> 00:39:08,640
Speaker 6: the whole story. Yeah, we went up for drinks and

940
00:39:08,719 --> 00:39:13,440
Speaker 6: then we like had to sleep over, right, and I

941
00:39:13,480 --> 00:39:15,160
Speaker 6: don't know whatever, Like I would have hooked up with

942
00:39:15,200 --> 00:39:17,600
Speaker 6: him even if we hadn't had drinks, just because.

943
00:39:17,440 --> 00:39:21,400
Speaker 1: Like I don't know, maybe we weren't like so he

944
00:39:21,520 --> 00:39:22,080
Speaker 1: was worried about that.

945
00:39:22,120 --> 00:39:23,640
Speaker 2: He was like, well maybe it was maybe this whole

946
00:39:23,680 --> 00:39:25,759
Speaker 2: thing is because everybody had too much to drink and

947
00:39:25,880 --> 00:39:27,800
Speaker 2: now people are regretting things. But you're saying that's not

948
00:39:27,960 --> 00:39:29,080
Speaker 2: the reason you're not calling him.

949
00:39:29,160 --> 00:39:31,960
Speaker 6: Well, well, I mean, like I would have hooked up

950
00:39:31,960 --> 00:39:36,960
Speaker 6: with him either way, but because of the drinking, we

951
00:39:37,040 --> 00:39:42,719
Speaker 6: weren't like as safe as probably should have been.

952
00:39:42,880 --> 00:39:45,319
Speaker 1: Okay, we'll leave it at that, Okay, yep.

953
00:39:45,920 --> 00:39:48,320
Speaker 6: And then in the morning he asked me if I

954
00:39:48,440 --> 00:39:50,920
Speaker 6: was on birth control, and I was like no, So

955
00:39:51,560 --> 00:39:53,920
Speaker 6: we were like, okay, you know, we decided together we

956
00:39:53,960 --> 00:39:57,480
Speaker 6: should go get a plan B and I like leave

957
00:39:57,640 --> 00:40:01,200
Speaker 6: to go buy it, and he just keeps like blowashed

958
00:40:01,200 --> 00:40:04,480
Speaker 6: out my phone, demanding that I send him a video

959
00:40:04,880 --> 00:40:07,200
Speaker 6: of me opening the package and putting the tilt.

960
00:40:07,080 --> 00:40:09,960
Speaker 3: In my mouth and swallowing it to make sure you

961
00:40:10,080 --> 00:40:10,320
Speaker 3: get it.

962
00:40:10,560 --> 00:40:10,719
Speaker 1: Yeah.

963
00:40:10,840 --> 00:40:13,680
Speaker 2: I wasn't convinced exactly that you're going to buy it.

964
00:40:13,920 --> 00:40:17,000
Speaker 2: Meant that you were going to utilize the product. So

965
00:40:17,160 --> 00:40:19,560
Speaker 2: he needed proof that you were going to do it.

966
00:40:19,680 --> 00:40:22,239
Speaker 6: Oh and he needed like the date somewhere shown in

967
00:40:22,360 --> 00:40:25,800
Speaker 6: the video, completely insulting. He didn't trust me, and he

968
00:40:25,960 --> 00:40:28,160
Speaker 6: thinks that she's so great that I would like want

969
00:40:28,200 --> 00:40:29,120
Speaker 6: to have his daba.

970
00:40:31,160 --> 00:40:31,839
Speaker 3: What is wrong?

971
00:40:31,960 --> 00:40:34,560
Speaker 2: So you know, the Christians here, Christian, what's your side

972
00:40:34,600 --> 00:40:36,759
Speaker 2: of the story. I mean, it wasn't good enough for

973
00:40:36,840 --> 00:40:39,080
Speaker 2: you guys just to make that decision and to let

974
00:40:39,239 --> 00:40:41,640
Speaker 2: you know, let her say what she said she was

975
00:40:41,680 --> 00:40:43,240
Speaker 2: going to do, or do what she said.

976
00:40:43,040 --> 00:40:43,520
Speaker 1: She was going to do.

977
00:40:44,280 --> 00:40:46,680
Speaker 12: Yeah, no, no, no, I just kind of what I

978
00:40:46,760 --> 00:40:48,560
Speaker 12: wanted to cut you off because you're really like putting

979
00:40:48,680 --> 00:40:50,480
Speaker 12: all of all of my business out there.

980
00:40:50,520 --> 00:40:53,319
Speaker 6: Okay, So just like oh and you when you called

981
00:40:53,360 --> 00:40:54,040
Speaker 6: a radio station.

982
00:40:54,239 --> 00:40:55,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, what did you think?

983
00:40:55,800 --> 00:40:55,840
Speaker 12: What?

984
00:40:56,520 --> 00:40:58,360
Speaker 2: I mean, you knew you had the story. You're on

985
00:40:58,400 --> 00:41:00,279
Speaker 2: the radio now, of course he's gonna put your right.

986
00:41:00,360 --> 00:41:01,160
Speaker 1: But I didn't think that this.

987
00:41:01,320 --> 00:41:02,600
Speaker 17: I didn't think that she would go on.

988
00:41:02,800 --> 00:41:05,000
Speaker 12: We were talking about the night before, not the morning after.

989
00:41:05,080 --> 00:41:05,880
Speaker 17: I didn't think anything that.

990
00:41:07,760 --> 00:41:11,160
Speaker 12: I'm just asking you for a little bit of a No,

991
00:41:11,520 --> 00:41:15,040
Speaker 12: it's after the date, Ellen, and I just wanted to

992
00:41:15,160 --> 00:41:15,799
Speaker 12: know if, like.

993
00:41:16,000 --> 00:41:18,040
Speaker 17: You wanted to go out again. But here you are

994
00:41:18,640 --> 00:41:20,680
Speaker 17: accusing me of like.

995
00:41:20,960 --> 00:41:25,120
Speaker 1: Some sort of like phone harassment, like I just.

996
00:41:25,320 --> 00:41:25,640
Speaker 8: I don't know.

997
00:41:25,800 --> 00:41:27,560
Speaker 12: I just I wanted to call you to see if

998
00:41:27,600 --> 00:41:29,120
Speaker 12: you wantn't go out again. And the whole thing that

999
00:41:29,200 --> 00:41:31,640
Speaker 12: happened like after the again, after the date.

1000
00:41:31,880 --> 00:41:34,799
Speaker 17: Okay, well that's great, I guess.

1001
00:41:34,920 --> 00:41:37,840
Speaker 2: Okay, so you guys don't know each other and this

1002
00:41:38,040 --> 00:41:40,799
Speaker 2: all goes down, and I mean, you haven't developed any

1003
00:41:40,840 --> 00:41:42,799
Speaker 2: form of trust. You don't probably even know each other's

1004
00:41:42,880 --> 00:41:44,399
Speaker 2: last names or middle names or whatever.

1005
00:41:44,480 --> 00:41:45,160
Speaker 1: And that's okay.

1006
00:41:45,280 --> 00:41:48,800
Speaker 2: Things happened, but it wasn't good enough Christian for you

1007
00:41:49,239 --> 00:41:51,560
Speaker 2: and Ellen to just decide that you were going to

1008
00:41:51,800 --> 00:41:55,160
Speaker 2: take this path to be extra safe. The fact.

1009
00:41:56,880 --> 00:41:59,040
Speaker 6: I also was like, hell, yeah, we need to get

1010
00:41:59,040 --> 00:41:59,840
Speaker 6: something done about this.

1011
00:42:00,280 --> 00:42:03,680
Speaker 12: Yeah, but great, I also need to protect myself, So

1012
00:42:03,680 --> 00:42:04,839
Speaker 12: I'm just asking for a seat.

1013
00:42:05,239 --> 00:42:05,839
Speaker 1: Listen to Ellen.

1014
00:42:05,880 --> 00:42:07,759
Speaker 17: All I'm saying is that I think my request is

1015
00:42:07,880 --> 00:42:10,400
Speaker 17: well within my right. I told you that my family

1016
00:42:10,440 --> 00:42:11,759
Speaker 17: has a lot of money and I have to go

1017
00:42:11,840 --> 00:42:14,720
Speaker 17: to like extra lank. I don't want to be taking advantage.

1018
00:42:14,280 --> 00:42:16,640
Speaker 11: Of that, right.

1019
00:42:17,000 --> 00:42:19,640
Speaker 1: How does that come up on the day I'm extremely rich?

1020
00:42:19,760 --> 00:42:21,200
Speaker 2: I mean, once you do that, I can see why

1021
00:42:21,239 --> 00:42:23,719
Speaker 2: you're paranoid now because you're tell everybody how rich you are.

1022
00:42:24,040 --> 00:42:24,960
Speaker 2: I'm not telling every.

1023
00:42:26,800 --> 00:42:29,000
Speaker 6: I'm not trying to procreate with a douche like you,

1024
00:42:29,560 --> 00:42:30,640
Speaker 6: Amd Bret.

1025
00:42:30,800 --> 00:42:32,920
Speaker 2: You both made this decision, but you're out here willing,

1026
00:42:33,040 --> 00:42:36,320
Speaker 2: really knowing that, feeling as though.

1027
00:42:36,280 --> 00:42:38,080
Speaker 1: You could be exposed at any time. But you're not

1028
00:42:38,280 --> 00:42:39,200
Speaker 1: taking any precaution.

1029
00:42:40,160 --> 00:42:42,239
Speaker 12: Not that night, no, which is why I'm trying to

1030
00:42:42,320 --> 00:42:44,640
Speaker 12: do the next morning again, not part of the day.

1031
00:42:44,840 --> 00:42:45,759
Speaker 1: We're past the date.

1032
00:42:45,840 --> 00:42:48,080
Speaker 17: We're into the next phase of whatever this was going

1033
00:42:48,160 --> 00:42:48,279
Speaker 17: to be.

1034
00:42:49,040 --> 00:42:52,520
Speaker 2: Okay, And so for you, Ellen, that's too much in

1035
00:42:52,640 --> 00:42:56,360
Speaker 2: a word, yet because of that, and because of a

1036
00:42:56,480 --> 00:42:58,600
Speaker 2: lack of trust, and you just thought the whole thing

1037
00:42:58,760 --> 00:42:59,399
Speaker 2: was not cool.

1038
00:42:59,480 --> 00:43:01,000
Speaker 1: So you're ever going to talk to him again?

1039
00:43:01,040 --> 00:43:02,520
Speaker 2: I mean, the video was a little much, But I

1040
00:43:02,560 --> 00:43:04,560
Speaker 2: guess I can see I mean, can you guys see

1041
00:43:04,600 --> 00:43:08,200
Speaker 2: the paranoia maybe that that there was no follow up.

1042
00:43:08,360 --> 00:43:10,160
Speaker 2: I mean it's kind of the decision that you make

1043
00:43:10,239 --> 00:43:11,800
Speaker 2: when you were grown up and you put yourself in

1044
00:43:11,880 --> 00:43:14,360
Speaker 2: that position that like you relinquished a little bit of

1045
00:43:14,440 --> 00:43:16,280
Speaker 2: power by not being thoughtful.

1046
00:43:16,640 --> 00:43:18,279
Speaker 3: Yeah, he made that decision, though I don't think he

1047
00:43:18,360 --> 00:43:19,040
Speaker 3: can demand that.

1048
00:43:19,320 --> 00:43:20,879
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't know about the video and the rest

1049
00:43:20,920 --> 00:43:21,040
Speaker 1: of it.

1050
00:43:21,080 --> 00:43:22,920
Speaker 7: If you're doing too much, yeah, you know you made

1051
00:43:22,920 --> 00:43:24,640
Speaker 7: the mistake and you're gonna have to just trust.

1052
00:43:24,719 --> 00:43:26,840
Speaker 2: But so did she If you want to call it

1053
00:43:26,920 --> 00:43:30,080
Speaker 2: in the control, I mean devil's advocate. You know, there's

1054
00:43:30,120 --> 00:43:32,360
Speaker 2: no basis for him to believe what she's saying. So,

1055
00:43:32,480 --> 00:43:33,799
Speaker 2: I mean, I'm not saying I agree with him.

1056
00:43:33,800 --> 00:43:35,480
Speaker 7: I think he really wants to be one hundred percent

1057
00:43:35,560 --> 00:43:37,440
Speaker 7: sure that he doesn't have a baby, then he shouldn't

1058
00:43:37,440 --> 00:43:37,600
Speaker 7: do that.

1059
00:43:37,719 --> 00:43:39,880
Speaker 1: Well, I agree, I agree with that. I agree with that.

1060
00:43:40,040 --> 00:43:42,840
Speaker 7: So it's not on him anymore, like it's not in

1061
00:43:42,920 --> 00:43:43,480
Speaker 7: his control.

1062
00:43:44,040 --> 00:43:47,040
Speaker 2: Okay, So basically she didn't like the approach. Thought it

1063
00:43:47,120 --> 00:43:50,520
Speaker 2: was insensitive, thought it was uncool and Christian. There you go,

1064
00:43:50,640 --> 00:43:52,239
Speaker 2: that's why she's not calling and there's not going to

1065
00:43:52,239 --> 00:43:52,839
Speaker 2: be a second date.

1066
00:43:53,480 --> 00:43:56,239
Speaker 17: Yeah, obviously I can't. I didn't think I was being

1067
00:43:57,400 --> 00:43:58,600
Speaker 17: insensitive at all, just.

1068
00:44:00,080 --> 00:44:00,400
Speaker 12: Trying to.

1069
00:44:01,080 --> 00:44:03,040
Speaker 17: I don't know, I'll get some bases of trust going.

1070
00:44:03,200 --> 00:44:04,120
Speaker 12: I don't know, I don't know.

1071
00:44:04,320 --> 00:44:05,280
Speaker 17: It's her lost.

1072
00:44:05,520 --> 00:44:07,400
Speaker 1: Okay, well there it's your loss. You hear that.

1073
00:44:08,719 --> 00:44:09,040
Speaker 6: Whatever.

1074
00:44:09,440 --> 00:44:11,640
Speaker 2: Okay, guys, thank you for your time, best elected both

1075
00:44:11,640 --> 00:44:13,879
Speaker 2: of you. It's a fread show.

1076
00:44:14,000 --> 00:44:14,479
Speaker 1: Good morning.

1077
00:44:14,520 --> 00:44:16,360
Speaker 2: Thanks for having us on the radio, on the iHeart

1078
00:44:16,480 --> 00:44:18,920
Speaker 2: app Live and anytime. Search for the Fresh Show on demand.

1079
00:44:19,080 --> 00:44:24,160
Speaker 2: A Reddit poster boarded the plane with the backpack. Now

1080
00:44:24,640 --> 00:44:28,480
Speaker 2: they checked their bag. They had a backpack and a bag.

1081
00:44:28,800 --> 00:44:32,120
Speaker 2: They checked their bag because they wanted to be able

1082
00:44:32,160 --> 00:44:35,279
Speaker 2: to put their backpack in the overhead bin and have

1083
00:44:35,440 --> 00:44:36,719
Speaker 2: more leg room in economy.

1084
00:44:37,640 --> 00:44:37,799
Speaker 12: Now.

1085
00:44:38,040 --> 00:44:42,040
Speaker 2: Now, I didn't realize this was like a law of

1086
00:44:42,160 --> 00:44:45,680
Speaker 2: the world or something, but supposedly you're supposed to put

1087
00:44:45,719 --> 00:44:49,000
Speaker 2: your carry on item like you know, backpack, purse, whatever,

1088
00:44:49,160 --> 00:44:51,239
Speaker 2: under your seat in front of you, and then a

1089
00:44:51,360 --> 00:44:53,480
Speaker 2: suitcase would go in the overhead bin. Now I'll be

1090
00:44:53,560 --> 00:44:55,520
Speaker 2: honest with you, I'd put both of them there because

1091
00:44:55,560 --> 00:44:59,040
Speaker 2: I'm six five, and so if there's room, I will

1092
00:44:59,080 --> 00:45:00,640
Speaker 2: put both up there and I'll just see if I

1093
00:45:00,640 --> 00:45:01,040
Speaker 2: can get away.

1094
00:45:01,080 --> 00:45:01,480
Speaker 1: I mean, I don't know.

1095
00:45:01,600 --> 00:45:03,600
Speaker 2: No one's ever said anything to me about it, because

1096
00:45:03,719 --> 00:45:06,360
Speaker 2: I don't have any place put my legs otherwise. So

1097
00:45:06,520 --> 00:45:09,000
Speaker 2: this person was thoughtful enough to say, I will pay

1098
00:45:09,120 --> 00:45:11,600
Speaker 2: to check my bag, but then I'm going to use

1099
00:45:11,680 --> 00:45:13,560
Speaker 2: the space that should be allotted to me for my

1100
00:45:13,760 --> 00:45:19,400
Speaker 2: suitcase to put my backpack. Well that was a problem

1101
00:45:19,920 --> 00:45:23,239
Speaker 2: because another passenger then flag. A flight attendant told on

1102
00:45:23,400 --> 00:45:26,920
Speaker 2: that person and complained that they put a backpack in

1103
00:45:26,960 --> 00:45:30,759
Speaker 2: a space generally reserved for suitcases. The poster explained that

1104
00:45:30,800 --> 00:45:33,319
Speaker 2: they had pay to check their suitcase to enjoy extra

1105
00:45:33,440 --> 00:45:35,480
Speaker 2: leg room. Despite this, the other passenger went on a

1106
00:45:35,560 --> 00:45:39,080
Speaker 2: rant about respecting other people who needed the room overhead

1107
00:45:39,960 --> 00:45:42,239
Speaker 2: a lot of debate in the comment. It turned out, though,

1108
00:45:42,320 --> 00:45:44,480
Speaker 2: that the flat attendant said, Look, if there's no space

1109
00:45:44,640 --> 00:45:46,680
Speaker 2: left for bags, then you're going to have to take

1110
00:45:46,680 --> 00:45:48,400
Speaker 2: your backpack out of there and put it under the

1111
00:45:48,440 --> 00:45:48,719
Speaker 2: seat in.

1112
00:45:48,719 --> 00:45:49,160
Speaker 1: Front of you.

1113
00:45:50,239 --> 00:45:53,520
Speaker 2: I am of the I am of the opinion that

1114
00:45:53,600 --> 00:45:56,080
Speaker 2: this person was thoughtful enough to pay to check their

1115
00:45:56,120 --> 00:45:58,480
Speaker 2: bag to then be able to put their backpack and

1116
00:45:58,560 --> 00:46:00,640
Speaker 2: the overhead bin, and then they can have the leg

1117
00:46:00,719 --> 00:46:02,600
Speaker 2: room because technically they could have brought both.

1118
00:46:02,960 --> 00:46:04,560
Speaker 1: In theory, they.

1119
00:46:04,520 --> 00:46:07,680
Speaker 2: Could have had a backpag under the seat and a

1120
00:46:07,760 --> 00:46:09,840
Speaker 2: bag up in the thing. So that would have negated

1121
00:46:09,920 --> 00:46:12,600
Speaker 2: this whole argument, right because if I had brought a

1122
00:46:12,680 --> 00:46:14,120
Speaker 2: bag and put it up there, well, then you don't

1123
00:46:14,120 --> 00:46:15,400
Speaker 2: have anything to say I took the space.

1124
00:46:15,680 --> 00:46:17,120
Speaker 1: Space is gone, you can't have it.

1125
00:46:17,800 --> 00:46:19,640
Speaker 2: So what difference does it make how I use this

1126
00:46:19,719 --> 00:46:22,279
Speaker 2: space if it's allotted to me as a passenger, if

1127
00:46:22,320 --> 00:46:23,560
Speaker 2: I'm within the regulations.

1128
00:46:23,880 --> 00:46:25,680
Speaker 7: I don't think it's your right as a passenger to

1129
00:46:25,760 --> 00:46:27,600
Speaker 7: have a certain amount of space, though it's based on

1130
00:46:27,800 --> 00:46:31,200
Speaker 7: like so many other factors, like if other people have

1131
00:46:31,360 --> 00:46:33,399
Speaker 7: bags and you're really not supposed to put carry ons

1132
00:46:33,480 --> 00:46:36,239
Speaker 7: up there if there's not room. So I don't think

1133
00:46:36,320 --> 00:46:38,080
Speaker 7: it's like my right as a passage I get this

1134
00:46:38,200 --> 00:46:39,759
Speaker 7: allotted amount of space in there, and like.

1135
00:46:39,800 --> 00:46:41,600
Speaker 2: No, but it is my right as a passenger to

1136
00:46:41,680 --> 00:46:45,640
Speaker 2: carry a carry on and a personal item that is allowed.

1137
00:46:45,719 --> 00:46:48,520
Speaker 2: That is my right, it is stated as such, So

1138
00:46:48,680 --> 00:46:51,920
Speaker 2: then I so then if I don't bring one of

1139
00:46:52,000 --> 00:46:54,720
Speaker 2: those items, because if I had brought both, I'm filling

1140
00:46:54,800 --> 00:46:56,880
Speaker 2: up both spaces and there's nothing to be said about it.

1141
00:46:57,000 --> 00:46:58,919
Speaker 7: But I bring both all the time and they tell me, sorry,

1142
00:46:58,960 --> 00:47:00,560
Speaker 7: you're gonna have to check that there's no more room,

1143
00:47:00,800 --> 00:47:02,440
Speaker 7: and so I'm not, like, it's not my right that

1144
00:47:02,560 --> 00:47:03,120
Speaker 7: it stays with me.

1145
00:47:03,280 --> 00:47:04,919
Speaker 2: Right, But when she got on the plane, there was room,

1146
00:47:05,080 --> 00:47:07,360
Speaker 2: and there's a passenger who's now saying, no, you can't

1147
00:47:07,440 --> 00:47:09,800
Speaker 2: have that, because because this is how it's supposed to

1148
00:47:09,840 --> 00:47:12,880
Speaker 2: go down. It wasn't like she carried that both the

1149
00:47:12,920 --> 00:47:14,880
Speaker 2: bags on there was no room in anything, and they

1150
00:47:14,920 --> 00:47:17,680
Speaker 2: said sorry, she she was on the plane, there was

1151
00:47:17,800 --> 00:47:18,520
Speaker 2: room for everything.

1152
00:47:18,640 --> 00:47:19,080
Speaker 1: She did it.

1153
00:47:19,560 --> 00:47:21,520
Speaker 2: She put her bag in the ear, she put her backpack,

1154
00:47:21,560 --> 00:47:23,759
Speaker 2: and you over had been sat down. It was a

1155
00:47:23,800 --> 00:47:26,560
Speaker 2: passenger who came along later, who was later on in

1156
00:47:26,640 --> 00:47:29,239
Speaker 2: the flight process, who there was no room for her,

1157
00:47:29,719 --> 00:47:31,759
Speaker 2: who said, no, you have to move that down there

1158
00:47:31,840 --> 00:47:33,640
Speaker 2: so I can have the room to put it up there.

1159
00:47:33,640 --> 00:47:34,880
Speaker 3: You have a suitcase or a carry on that she

1160
00:47:34,960 --> 00:47:35,680
Speaker 3: was trying to put up there.

1161
00:47:35,719 --> 00:47:38,040
Speaker 1: I guess it was a suitcase is something.

1162
00:47:37,880 --> 00:47:40,800
Speaker 7: To carry on, because that's like, yeah, you're not supposed

1163
00:47:40,800 --> 00:47:43,080
Speaker 7: to put carry They ask any flight attendant, They'll say,

1164
00:47:43,320 --> 00:47:45,560
Speaker 7: you should not put stuff like that up there if

1165
00:47:45,600 --> 00:47:46,239
Speaker 7: there's not that r.

1166
00:47:46,400 --> 00:47:47,799
Speaker 2: That's the whole point of the debate is I only

1167
00:47:47,840 --> 00:47:49,800
Speaker 2: had one item. So if I only had one item,

1168
00:47:49,880 --> 00:47:51,719
Speaker 2: then why can't I put that up there? Because if

1169
00:47:51,719 --> 00:47:53,040
Speaker 2: I'd had two, I could put.

1170
00:47:52,960 --> 00:47:54,719
Speaker 7: Something out because all carry ons have to be able

1171
00:47:54,760 --> 00:47:56,640
Speaker 7: to fit under your seat in case this happens.

1172
00:47:58,280 --> 00:47:58,800
Speaker 11: I like it.

1173
00:47:59,080 --> 00:48:01,280
Speaker 1: What do you think you were saying something?

1174
00:48:01,360 --> 00:48:04,799
Speaker 4: I was just asking for clarity because I've always thought

1175
00:48:04,880 --> 00:48:07,720
Speaker 4: that you have to put your carry on, backpack, whatever

1176
00:48:07,760 --> 00:48:10,239
Speaker 4: it is, under your seat. Yes, and then if you

1177
00:48:10,360 --> 00:48:13,080
Speaker 4: have something with wheels or luggage or whatever, eight goes

1178
00:48:13,160 --> 00:48:15,360
Speaker 4: in the overhead, that's what I If you.

1179
00:48:15,480 --> 00:48:17,360
Speaker 1: Have both, I completely agree.

1180
00:48:17,440 --> 00:48:20,080
Speaker 2: But if you only had the one, right, and you

1181
00:48:20,480 --> 00:48:23,439
Speaker 2: also paid money so that you would only have one,

1182
00:48:24,560 --> 00:48:26,439
Speaker 2: then I don't know why I can't use this face

1183
00:48:26,480 --> 00:48:29,400
Speaker 2: that should be allotted for my suitcase, for my backpack

1184
00:48:29,640 --> 00:48:31,000
Speaker 2: so I can stretch my legs out.

1185
00:48:31,080 --> 00:48:32,759
Speaker 4: So I would have told her, looks you want to

1186
00:48:32,800 --> 00:48:34,759
Speaker 4: put yourself your luggae jumped there and put it up there,

1187
00:48:34,840 --> 00:48:36,680
Speaker 4: and my carry on you're gonna sit with it.

1188
00:48:37,440 --> 00:48:41,319
Speaker 3: You're gonna hold it during the last for two seconds.

1189
00:48:41,000 --> 00:48:42,920
Speaker 4: Says you want to move my stuff so that you're

1190
00:48:42,920 --> 00:48:45,080
Speaker 4: stuff can go updated though, I got on the was

1191
00:48:45,160 --> 00:48:47,880
Speaker 4: group B and you were group C, and my luggage

1192
00:48:47,920 --> 00:48:49,840
Speaker 4: with my little carry on was already in the overhead.

1193
00:48:50,040 --> 00:48:52,239
Speaker 4: So if you want to take it down, take it down.

1194
00:48:52,320 --> 00:48:54,839
Speaker 4: It's gonna see what you and put it under your seat.

1195
00:48:55,160 --> 00:48:56,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, why don't we cram it in there next to

1196
00:48:56,960 --> 00:48:58,000
Speaker 1: your Yeah, yeah, there you go.

1197
00:48:58,400 --> 00:49:00,600
Speaker 7: I don't even say it during the announcement, like Karens

1198
00:49:00,640 --> 00:49:02,360
Speaker 7: have to be able to go under in case the

1199
00:49:02,440 --> 00:49:03,320
Speaker 7: situation happens.

1200
00:49:03,320 --> 00:49:06,919
Speaker 3: And suitcases always trump carry ons, Yeah, I always. Yeah,

1201
00:49:06,920 --> 00:49:08,120
Speaker 3: they say during the announcement.

1202
00:49:08,120 --> 00:49:11,319
Speaker 1: It's like, if you have a backpack, don't put it above.

1203
00:49:11,040 --> 00:49:11,960
Speaker 17: This, right.

1204
00:49:12,000 --> 00:49:14,320
Speaker 2: But I think they're assuming that you have both, is

1205
00:49:14,400 --> 00:49:18,600
Speaker 2: my point. I think they're assuming that you have the

1206
00:49:19,320 --> 00:49:22,080
Speaker 2: Everyone is allowed a carry on in a person item, right,

1207
00:49:22,320 --> 00:49:23,960
Speaker 2: So I think that they're assuming you have both. And

1208
00:49:24,040 --> 00:49:26,040
Speaker 2: if that's the case, you can't put both up there,

1209
00:49:26,080 --> 00:49:28,359
Speaker 2: because if everybody put both up there and nothing under

1210
00:49:28,360 --> 00:49:30,440
Speaker 2: the seat, then it wouldn't work. But my point is,

1211
00:49:30,520 --> 00:49:33,520
Speaker 2: you only have one. So if I'm allowed to have

1212
00:49:33,800 --> 00:49:36,239
Speaker 2: each then, and I only have one of the two,

1213
00:49:36,680 --> 00:49:39,200
Speaker 2: then why can't I then choose? Especially if I made

1214
00:49:39,200 --> 00:49:41,000
Speaker 2: the effort to make sure that I only had one

1215
00:49:41,080 --> 00:49:43,720
Speaker 2: when I really have two, then why can't I choose

1216
00:49:43,760 --> 00:49:46,600
Speaker 2: where the one goes? Because if everybody on the plane

1217
00:49:46,880 --> 00:49:49,520
Speaker 2: is in fact a lot of space in both, well,

1218
00:49:49,560 --> 00:49:51,960
Speaker 2: then that's a you problem if you get.

1219
00:49:51,840 --> 00:49:52,279
Speaker 1: On the plane.

1220
00:49:52,719 --> 00:49:55,200
Speaker 7: I don't think everybody's allotted space for both. There's so

1221
00:49:55,280 --> 00:49:57,760
Speaker 7: many times where there's not room for everybody's stuff.

1222
00:49:57,840 --> 00:50:00,400
Speaker 2: But that's the point of what you were saying, is

1223
00:50:00,480 --> 00:50:02,759
Speaker 2: the under the seat and the overhead bind. If I

1224
00:50:02,880 --> 00:50:05,000
Speaker 2: don't have anything to put in under my seat, that

1225
00:50:05,040 --> 00:50:06,880
Speaker 2: I can put an overhead bin, right, But it's not.

1226
00:50:07,080 --> 00:50:09,120
Speaker 3: It doesn't work like that. There's not room for both

1227
00:50:09,200 --> 00:50:10,839
Speaker 3: all the time, and there's not room for one all

1228
00:50:10,880 --> 00:50:11,120
Speaker 3: the time.

1229
00:50:11,200 --> 00:50:12,840
Speaker 7: If one can go under your seat, it has to

1230
00:50:12,920 --> 00:50:14,360
Speaker 7: go on your seat if there's not room.

1231
00:50:14,680 --> 00:50:15,840
Speaker 1: Because it takes up space.

1232
00:50:15,920 --> 00:50:18,600
Speaker 10: Like your backpack is smaller than a suitcase, so now

1233
00:50:18,640 --> 00:50:21,040
Speaker 10: you're taking up space where a suitcase could go that

1234
00:50:21,200 --> 00:50:23,799
Speaker 10: doesn't fit under someone's seat because you want to put.

1235
00:50:23,680 --> 00:50:25,640
Speaker 2: Your backpack up there. Well, then what I should have

1236
00:50:25,719 --> 00:50:27,759
Speaker 2: done under the seat. I should have brought both, not

1237
00:50:27,880 --> 00:50:29,959
Speaker 2: paid for one, and then you would have been completely.

1238
00:50:29,640 --> 00:50:32,440
Speaker 7: Screwed because looking at an individual person, it's like a

1239
00:50:32,480 --> 00:50:34,520
Speaker 7: group already.

1240
00:50:35,280 --> 00:50:35,560
Speaker 11: You know what.

1241
00:50:38,520 --> 00:50:38,840
Speaker 3: Together.

1242
00:50:40,680 --> 00:50:42,759
Speaker 2: Honestly, cayleb when you pack your bags that you're thinking

1243
00:50:42,800 --> 00:50:44,240
Speaker 2: about working together in the cabin.

1244
00:50:44,480 --> 00:50:47,200
Speaker 1: No, you're not. You're bringing on the airplane what you're

1245
00:50:47,200 --> 00:50:48,240
Speaker 1: allowed to bring on the airplane.

1246
00:50:48,400 --> 00:50:49,680
Speaker 3: About the way to the airplane.

1247
00:50:54,080 --> 00:50:57,480
Speaker 2: Thing you're thinking about your bag is if Sally from

1248
00:50:57,600 --> 00:50:59,160
Speaker 2: Toledo is going to be able to get.

1249
00:50:59,040 --> 00:51:00,560
Speaker 3: Hurt in the suitcase.

1250
00:51:00,560 --> 00:51:02,520
Speaker 7: I will always move my stuff because that's what the

1251
00:51:02,560 --> 00:51:03,719
Speaker 7: flight attendants asked me to do.

1252
00:51:03,960 --> 00:51:12,400
Speaker 3: Yes, but you don't think about the strollers to get

1253
00:51:12,400 --> 00:51:12,759
Speaker 3: on the slate.

1254
00:51:18,640 --> 00:51:21,560
Speaker 2: If I have two things and then I'm gonna and

1255
00:51:21,600 --> 00:51:24,080
Speaker 2: I insist I'm putting both of my things up there

1256
00:51:24,239 --> 00:51:25,160
Speaker 2: so that I have leg room.

1257
00:51:25,280 --> 00:51:26,880
Speaker 1: That's not okay. You can't do that.

1258
00:51:27,160 --> 00:51:30,600
Speaker 2: If I only have one thing, then in theory I

1259
00:51:30,719 --> 00:51:33,200
Speaker 2: could have two, and then I take up more space

1260
00:51:33,320 --> 00:51:37,920
Speaker 2: that way. So I guess what I'm saying is it

1261
00:51:37,960 --> 00:51:40,799
Speaker 2: would be rude if I had two items and there's

1262
00:51:40,840 --> 00:51:42,560
Speaker 2: no space for other people's bags, then I need to

1263
00:51:42,600 --> 00:51:44,719
Speaker 2: put something under the seat. But if I took the

1264
00:51:44,840 --> 00:51:47,280
Speaker 2: if I made the effort to get rid of an item,

1265
00:51:47,880 --> 00:51:50,440
Speaker 2: then I am no longer taking up two spaces. I'm

1266
00:51:50,480 --> 00:51:52,279
Speaker 2: only taking up one, And I guess in theory, I'm

1267
00:51:52,280 --> 00:51:54,719
Speaker 2: taking up the same amount of space because I could

1268
00:51:54,800 --> 00:51:57,040
Speaker 2: have something in the overhead bin and I could have

1269
00:51:57,160 --> 00:52:05,960
Speaker 2: something under my seat. What's under my seat or my feet? Sorry, morning, hey,

1270
00:52:06,000 --> 00:52:06,439
Speaker 2: good morning.

1271
00:52:07,800 --> 00:52:10,200
Speaker 15: One of the things I think, well, one of the

1272
00:52:10,239 --> 00:52:12,600
Speaker 15: things I think we're missing here is is also having

1273
00:52:12,719 --> 00:52:13,880
Speaker 15: status on an airline.

1274
00:52:14,000 --> 00:52:17,000
Speaker 1: Oh, Thomas Brook, come.

1275
00:52:18,400 --> 00:52:19,920
Speaker 3: Hang on, hang on, hang on.

1276
00:52:20,719 --> 00:52:23,320
Speaker 1: So if your Zone one.

1277
00:52:23,360 --> 00:52:26,800
Speaker 15: Or Group one or Executive Platinum on American Airlines, you

1278
00:52:26,960 --> 00:52:29,759
Speaker 15: are allowed to board the plane first. Part of a

1279
00:52:29,920 --> 00:52:35,040
Speaker 15: perk to boarding the plane first is having available space. So,

1280
00:52:35,160 --> 00:52:38,880
Speaker 15: in my opinion, having status on American I get to

1281
00:52:39,000 --> 00:52:42,480
Speaker 15: use wherever space I want, provided I'm not breaking any

1282
00:52:42,600 --> 00:52:45,480
Speaker 15: rule as far as the two carry ons, right, whether

1283
00:52:45,520 --> 00:52:49,080
Speaker 15: it's a suitcase, a carry on, whatever. So I mean,

1284
00:52:49,200 --> 00:52:51,279
Speaker 15: if you're in Zone nine, you're always going to have

1285
00:52:51,360 --> 00:52:54,400
Speaker 15: to check your bag generally anyway. So I guess I

1286
00:52:54,560 --> 00:52:57,799
Speaker 15: just sort of miss what's the value of being able

1287
00:52:57,880 --> 00:53:01,400
Speaker 15: to board the plane first If you can't use whatever

1288
00:53:01,480 --> 00:53:02,360
Speaker 15: space is available.

1289
00:53:02,560 --> 00:53:05,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, and to your point, Jasus, someone says, I fred

1290
00:53:05,760 --> 00:53:07,400
Speaker 2: is wrong. I hate being forced to gate check my

1291
00:53:07,520 --> 00:53:11,000
Speaker 2: carry on because people put backpacks in the overhead been.

1292
00:53:11,120 --> 00:53:14,160
Speaker 1: I understand that, except I hate to tell you this.

1293
00:53:14,400 --> 00:53:16,879
Speaker 2: If you're the last person on the plane, then you're

1294
00:53:16,920 --> 00:53:19,640
Speaker 2: out of options like that's like, it's just is like

1295
00:53:19,719 --> 00:53:23,640
Speaker 2: if you're in group Z, you know, and and there's

1296
00:53:23,680 --> 00:53:26,160
Speaker 2: nothing left like in fact, some of those tickets even

1297
00:53:26,239 --> 00:53:28,120
Speaker 2: cost less. And I'm not suggesting that you should get

1298
00:53:28,200 --> 00:53:31,560
Speaker 2: less safety or less you know anything quality of service,

1299
00:53:31,640 --> 00:53:33,440
Speaker 2: but like, if you're the last person on the plane,

1300
00:53:33,760 --> 00:53:35,359
Speaker 2: you might have to gate check your bag.

1301
00:53:36,480 --> 00:53:37,120
Speaker 11: It just is.

1302
00:53:37,800 --> 00:53:40,400
Speaker 1: Now I agree with you. Then here's the thing. I

1303
00:53:40,560 --> 00:53:41,120
Speaker 1: agree with you.

1304
00:53:41,239 --> 00:53:43,640
Speaker 2: If there's no room for your suitcase because some person

1305
00:53:43,800 --> 00:53:46,200
Speaker 2: used all the space in the overhead been for both

1306
00:53:46,239 --> 00:53:48,880
Speaker 2: of their items, then I would say that's rude and

1307
00:53:49,000 --> 00:53:51,239
Speaker 2: that's wrong. But if I only have one item, I

1308
00:53:51,280 --> 00:53:52,600
Speaker 2: should be able to put it wherever I want.

1309
00:53:53,040 --> 00:53:55,080
Speaker 1: I only have one. I don't have two. You have too,

1310
00:53:55,200 --> 00:53:59,040
Speaker 1: I have one, So why don't you get down to one?

1311
00:53:59,280 --> 00:53:59,400
Speaker 8: You know?

1312
00:54:00,360 --> 00:54:01,000
Speaker 1: I just agree.

1313
00:54:01,080 --> 00:54:04,200
Speaker 15: I think I think a value of being a frequent

1314
00:54:04,320 --> 00:54:06,560
Speaker 15: flyer is you on the airplane.

1315
00:54:06,640 --> 00:54:10,920
Speaker 1: It gets your airplane. Jason gets a fly the airlines

1316
00:54:11,120 --> 00:54:15,120
Speaker 1: the plane. As far as I'm concerned, Thank you man,

1317
00:54:15,200 --> 00:54:15,759
Speaker 1: have a good day.

1318
00:54:15,800 --> 00:54:16,520
Speaker 3: I appreciate you.

1319
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Speaker 1: Yeah, thanks so much.

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Speaker 5: Thank you.

1321
00:54:18,480 --> 00:54:19,759
Speaker 1: No, I totally agree with this.

1322
00:54:19,880 --> 00:54:22,400
Speaker 2: If you have two items, I think it's selfish you

1323
00:54:22,520 --> 00:54:24,960
Speaker 2: only have one, though I could have had two, and

1324
00:54:25,040 --> 00:54:26,560
Speaker 2: then you would have been asked it well, because then

1325
00:54:26,719 --> 00:54:28,480
Speaker 2: I do have something under my seat, and I do

1326
00:54:28,600 --> 00:54:29,560
Speaker 2: have something in the overhead.

1327
00:54:29,600 --> 00:54:31,719
Speaker 1: Man, there's still no room, sorry for you.

1328
00:54:33,320 --> 00:54:36,040
Speaker 3: So always bring two no matter what bag is empty.

1329
00:54:36,080 --> 00:54:39,120
Speaker 2: Stand based on all of your logic, there's no benefit

1330
00:54:39,239 --> 00:54:41,839
Speaker 2: to me then paying to check a bag because you're

1331
00:54:41,880 --> 00:54:43,920
Speaker 2: gonna complain about it, so I may as well just

1332
00:54:44,000 --> 00:54:45,960
Speaker 2: bring too, and then you're completely stuck.

1333
00:54:46,560 --> 00:54:47,640
Speaker 1: Honestly, I took.

1334
00:54:47,440 --> 00:54:49,800
Speaker 10: A bag every single time because I am afraid that

1335
00:54:49,920 --> 00:54:52,879
Speaker 10: it will not fed. Even if I'm groupe, I still

1336
00:54:52,960 --> 00:54:54,799
Speaker 10: check a bag because I'm like, what if it doesn't

1337
00:54:54,840 --> 00:54:55,200
Speaker 10: fit in there?

1338
00:54:55,239 --> 00:54:56,080
Speaker 1: What if there's not enough room?

1339
00:54:56,120 --> 00:54:58,120
Speaker 3: What if everyone takes up the room with their suitcases.

1340
00:54:58,680 --> 00:54:59,800
Speaker 1: I argue, if you have two.

1341
00:54:59,680 --> 00:55:01,680
Speaker 2: Items, you don't you don't have any You can't say

1342
00:55:01,680 --> 00:55:03,600
Speaker 2: anything about this. If you have two items, then you

1343
00:55:03,680 --> 00:55:05,080
Speaker 2: have to follow the rules if you have one.

1344
00:55:05,040 --> 00:55:07,560
Speaker 3: Item, yeah, but don't think they checked the bag for

1345
00:55:07,680 --> 00:55:09,480
Speaker 3: free though. If the flight is full and like your.

1346
00:55:09,440 --> 00:55:11,239
Speaker 9: Little Carrian doesn't fit anywhere, you know they'll take it

1347
00:55:11,320 --> 00:55:11,839
Speaker 9: check you for free.

1348
00:55:11,920 --> 00:55:13,440
Speaker 2: But then you have to go and like stand in

1349
00:55:13,520 --> 00:55:15,560
Speaker 2: wait for the baggage flame or whatever, and people don't

1350
00:55:15,560 --> 00:55:16,120
Speaker 2: want to have to do that.

1351
00:55:16,200 --> 00:55:19,879
Speaker 1: The free is free, Hey, bridge in how you doing good?

1352
00:55:19,960 --> 00:55:20,279
Speaker 4: How are you?

1353
00:55:20,480 --> 00:55:22,520
Speaker 1: Bridges? So you're you're upset about my stance on this.

1354
00:55:24,719 --> 00:55:27,080
Speaker 3: I think it's hilarious because you're a pilot, like you

1355
00:55:27,200 --> 00:55:27,880
Speaker 3: got rules.

1356
00:55:28,520 --> 00:55:31,640
Speaker 4: But I also think you're upset because you would have

1357
00:55:31,800 --> 00:55:34,040
Speaker 4: probably paid for it too, and now you got screwed.

1358
00:55:34,200 --> 00:55:35,680
Speaker 1: I think it's an encouragement.

1359
00:55:36,080 --> 00:55:39,160
Speaker 2: I don't believe it's an FAA regulation that you have

1360
00:55:39,280 --> 00:55:40,759
Speaker 2: to put something under the seat in front of you,

1361
00:55:40,880 --> 00:55:43,080
Speaker 2: And if flight attendant could correct me, I think that's

1362
00:55:43,120 --> 00:55:45,400
Speaker 2: what they want you to do for space saving.

1363
00:55:45,719 --> 00:55:47,040
Speaker 1: I don't think that's the law.

1364
00:55:48,719 --> 00:55:50,640
Speaker 3: So what if the shoe is on the other foot

1365
00:55:50,680 --> 00:55:52,920
Speaker 3: and you didn't have room for yourself.

1366
00:55:52,640 --> 00:55:54,600
Speaker 1: Up top, I would be annoyed.

1367
00:55:54,640 --> 00:55:56,320
Speaker 2: But if I'm the last person on the plane, I

1368
00:55:56,360 --> 00:55:57,959
Speaker 2: don't think I get to say a whole lot about

1369
00:55:58,000 --> 00:55:59,920
Speaker 2: it because either I was late, or I didn't buy

1370
00:56:00,080 --> 00:56:03,120
Speaker 2: a good ticket, or I'm just or it's just how

1371
00:56:03,200 --> 00:56:03,600
Speaker 2: it goes.

1372
00:56:03,680 --> 00:56:04,880
Speaker 1: Sometimes I've had to do that.

1373
00:56:05,000 --> 00:56:06,600
Speaker 2: I've been on a plane late and they're like, sorry,

1374
00:56:06,640 --> 00:56:08,160
Speaker 2: there's no room, and then they take my bag and

1375
00:56:08,200 --> 00:56:09,839
Speaker 2: they check it and then I got to go get

1376
00:56:09,880 --> 00:56:10,200
Speaker 2: it later.

1377
00:56:10,719 --> 00:56:13,000
Speaker 1: But I think that's a lot of because people.

1378
00:56:12,840 --> 00:56:15,640
Speaker 2: Had two or three items, you know, or they didn't

1379
00:56:15,680 --> 00:56:18,600
Speaker 2: put their bag in the right way they spread They

1380
00:56:18,719 --> 00:56:21,359
Speaker 2: man spreaded their bag, you know, as opposed to doing

1381
00:56:21,400 --> 00:56:23,839
Speaker 2: it the way that it's the picture is depicted. But again,

1382
00:56:23,960 --> 00:56:26,719
Speaker 2: like if you got two items, fine, you can't put

1383
00:56:26,760 --> 00:56:29,240
Speaker 2: both up there. If you got one A la carte.

1384
00:56:30,920 --> 00:56:35,200
Speaker 2: Thank you, Thank you, Bridget have a nice day. Not

1385
00:56:35,360 --> 00:56:40,960
Speaker 2: everybody thinks I'm crazy. Not everybody thinks I'm crazy, So

1386
00:56:41,920 --> 00:56:45,239
Speaker 2: we do. Good morning. Thanks for having us on the radio,

1387
00:56:45,280 --> 00:56:47,640
Speaker 2: on the iHeart app Live and anytime search for The

1388
00:56:47,680 --> 00:56:50,840
Speaker 2: Fresh Show on demand. Half of Americans fifty three percent

1389
00:56:50,880 --> 00:56:53,759
Speaker 2: of Americans, so that they would endure the long lines

1390
00:56:53,800 --> 00:56:57,520
Speaker 2: in paperwork for their loved ones at the DMV to

1391
00:56:57,640 --> 00:57:00,399
Speaker 2: get a real idea for them. Half of Americans would

1392
00:57:00,480 --> 00:57:03,879
Speaker 2: do that for someone else if they could, would any

1393
00:57:03,960 --> 00:57:07,560
Speaker 2: of you actually wait in line for someone else's real ID.

1394
00:57:08,200 --> 00:57:10,440
Speaker 1: I'm not even doing it for myself. Yeah I knew

1395
00:57:10,480 --> 00:57:10,840
Speaker 1: the answer.

1396
00:57:11,080 --> 00:57:13,839
Speaker 3: Yeah for you probably. Yeah, so he had a good

1397
00:57:13,880 --> 00:57:15,040
Speaker 3: reason why they couldn't do it.

1398
00:57:15,320 --> 00:57:16,520
Speaker 1: I don't think you have to have a good reason.

1399
00:57:16,520 --> 00:57:18,360
Speaker 2: I think it's just fifty three percent of people would

1400
00:57:18,480 --> 00:57:21,200
Speaker 2: endure the long lines in paperwork for their loved ones

1401
00:57:22,600 --> 00:57:23,320
Speaker 2: for the real ID.

1402
00:57:23,560 --> 00:57:24,000
Speaker 11: What no?

1403
00:57:24,680 --> 00:57:25,120
Speaker 1: Right that?

1404
00:57:25,320 --> 00:57:25,560
Speaker 12: I mean?

1405
00:57:26,440 --> 00:57:27,840
Speaker 2: Holly woke up this morning. I know you don't have

1406
00:57:27,920 --> 00:57:32,360
Speaker 2: a You never got one, now I know. And he said, hey, honey,

1407
00:57:32,400 --> 00:57:34,720
Speaker 2: I need a real ID. He does too, Yeah, okay,

1408
00:57:34,960 --> 00:57:36,760
Speaker 2: and so and so you can only get one. So

1409
00:57:36,880 --> 00:57:39,440
Speaker 2: it's for him or for you. The only hell you

1410
00:57:39,520 --> 00:57:43,840
Speaker 2: have one per per session? Oh okay, per line waiting session. No,

1411
00:57:44,000 --> 00:57:44,960
Speaker 2: he's gonna go and get his own.

1412
00:57:45,000 --> 00:57:46,520
Speaker 9: He's gonna tell me how that line was and the

1413
00:57:46,600 --> 00:57:48,840
Speaker 9: experience he had, because then I have to plan around that, like.

1414
00:57:48,920 --> 00:57:50,080
Speaker 3: Do I want to go at that same time?

1415
00:57:50,120 --> 00:57:50,560
Speaker 9: You know what I mean?

1416
00:57:50,720 --> 00:57:52,640
Speaker 2: The guy's a firefighter, can he like pull a fire

1417
00:57:52,680 --> 00:57:54,160
Speaker 2: alarm and get everybody out of there and then be

1418
00:57:54,240 --> 00:57:55,880
Speaker 2: like ap dah, my bad and then reset it?

1419
00:57:55,880 --> 00:57:57,120
Speaker 1: Because he knows how to do that and then get

1420
00:57:57,120 --> 00:57:57,520
Speaker 1: a real I D.

1421
00:57:57,600 --> 00:57:59,000
Speaker 9: I think you should show up with his uniform and

1422
00:57:59,040 --> 00:58:01,720
Speaker 9: an axe and everything like the acts.

1423
00:58:01,880 --> 00:58:04,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, you know, bring it yeah and everything and just

1424
00:58:05,120 --> 00:58:06,720
Speaker 2: be like, I'm here. You know, I need real ID.

1425
00:58:07,400 --> 00:58:09,720
Speaker 2: I mean I would, Okay, so you would?

1426
00:58:09,760 --> 00:58:10,200
Speaker 1: You would not.

1427
00:58:10,320 --> 00:58:12,600
Speaker 2: You're not waiting in line for your husband? Absolutely not, now, Carolin,

1428
00:58:12,640 --> 00:58:13,360
Speaker 2: that doesn't surprise me.

1429
00:58:13,400 --> 00:58:14,680
Speaker 1: You would wait in line for someone else.

1430
00:58:15,160 --> 00:58:17,040
Speaker 3: Yeah, but I would need like a reason. I mean,

1431
00:58:17,160 --> 00:58:20,600
Speaker 3: let's not you take my kindness, you know, advantage of it.

1432
00:58:20,760 --> 00:58:23,520
Speaker 1: But no, I don't want to do it. So will

1433
00:58:23,520 --> 00:58:24,080
Speaker 1: you do it for me?

1434
00:58:25,360 --> 00:58:25,400
Speaker 12: No?

1435
00:58:25,560 --> 00:58:28,480
Speaker 1: I don't think so. I already have one since time.

1436
00:58:28,680 --> 00:58:31,160
Speaker 3: Yeah, I know, one since twenty twenty, so you.

1437
00:58:31,200 --> 00:58:34,080
Speaker 1: Guys, wow, early early after.

1438
00:58:34,480 --> 00:58:37,120
Speaker 3: I don't have a real idea. I have an enhanced license,

1439
00:58:37,320 --> 00:58:38,080
Speaker 3: so different.

1440
00:58:38,280 --> 00:58:40,840
Speaker 1: Pardon me? Yeah, pardon me. Well I have a triple

1441
00:58:40,880 --> 00:58:45,880
Speaker 1: A card, So so do I I have? Yeah, sizen, No,

1442
00:58:46,000 --> 00:58:48,120
Speaker 1: that's a RP wish.

1443
00:58:48,160 --> 00:58:50,800
Speaker 2: I don't have one yet, but I should, like I

1444
00:58:50,880 --> 00:58:53,320
Speaker 2: should have an AARP card because the way I'm living

1445
00:58:53,400 --> 00:58:55,240
Speaker 2: is yeah, I've got it several years ago, but I

1446
00:58:55,360 --> 00:58:56,680
Speaker 2: also live like I should have.

1447
00:58:56,760 --> 00:58:57,640
Speaker 3: One one too.

1448
00:59:00,120 --> 00:59:02,720
Speaker 2: Funny, two and five say they would donate an organ

1449
00:59:02,920 --> 00:59:05,960
Speaker 2: to friends and family two and five, So only two

1450
00:59:06,040 --> 00:59:06,560
Speaker 2: and five.

1451
00:59:08,040 --> 00:59:09,440
Speaker 1: Now that's that.

1452
00:59:09,560 --> 00:59:12,280
Speaker 2: Actually, so half of people would go wait in line

1453
00:59:12,280 --> 00:59:15,760
Speaker 2: to get a real ID for I guess anybody, just

1454
00:59:15,840 --> 00:59:18,640
Speaker 2: for loved ones. But only two of those same five

1455
00:59:19,040 --> 00:59:20,800
Speaker 2: five of those people, only two of them would give

1456
00:59:20,800 --> 00:59:23,720
Speaker 2: an organ to save someone. Well, but they're different, right,

1457
00:59:23,920 --> 00:59:26,959
Speaker 2: But you're saving someone's life. So if I have something

1458
00:59:27,000 --> 00:59:30,280
Speaker 2: that would save my niece's life, I'm more likely to

1459
00:59:30,360 --> 00:59:32,320
Speaker 2: wait in line to get her a real ID than

1460
00:59:32,360 --> 00:59:33,600
Speaker 2: I am to save her life.

1461
00:59:34,120 --> 00:59:36,080
Speaker 3: Well, one is surgery, so there's a lot more that

1462
00:59:36,120 --> 00:59:37,240
Speaker 3: you got to think about and stuff.

1463
00:59:37,320 --> 00:59:39,880
Speaker 1: So it's death, that's a lot more to think about.

1464
00:59:39,880 --> 00:59:42,120
Speaker 7: Right, But when somebody needs an organ, you're not the

1465
00:59:42,280 --> 00:59:44,360
Speaker 7: only person that can give that organ. I mean there's

1466
00:59:44,400 --> 00:59:45,680
Speaker 7: a lot of stuff you have to go through and

1467
00:59:45,800 --> 00:59:47,880
Speaker 7: you need to obviously, if your niece needs an organ,

1468
00:59:47,920 --> 00:59:49,920
Speaker 7: you're going to try and give her one. But like,

1469
00:59:50,040 --> 00:59:51,960
Speaker 7: you can't compare that to waiting in line for an ID.

1470
00:59:53,160 --> 00:59:56,400
Speaker 1: Well, but I don't. I mean if they came to

1471
00:59:56,480 --> 00:59:59,280
Speaker 1: me and said you're a match, and I go, no,

1472
01:00:00,080 --> 01:00:01,760
Speaker 1: I don't want to do that, but I'll get her

1473
01:00:01,760 --> 01:00:03,600
Speaker 1: a real ID. That surprises me.

1474
01:00:03,680 --> 01:00:05,760
Speaker 2: I guess I would think people would answer more affirmatively,

1475
01:00:05,840 --> 01:00:08,000
Speaker 2: like you can save someone's life and it won't kill

1476
01:00:08,040 --> 01:00:12,600
Speaker 2: you probably, so then I don't know. Well, no, I

1477
01:00:12,680 --> 01:00:14,520
Speaker 2: mean it still a surgery to Caitlin's point, but like

1478
01:00:14,680 --> 01:00:16,960
Speaker 2: more than likely you're going to live through giving someone

1479
01:00:17,000 --> 01:00:17,439
Speaker 2: an organ.

1480
01:00:18,000 --> 01:00:18,320
Speaker 11: I don't know.

1481
01:00:18,440 --> 01:00:19,440
Speaker 1: That surprised me a little bit.

1482
01:00:19,680 --> 01:00:21,080
Speaker 2: I guess I would think more people would be like,

1483
01:00:21,160 --> 01:00:23,000
Speaker 2: if I could save my loved one's life, I would

1484
01:00:23,040 --> 01:00:23,160
Speaker 2: do it.

1485
01:00:23,280 --> 01:00:24,520
Speaker 1: If I'm the one who could do it, I would

1486
01:00:24,520 --> 01:00:24,720
Speaker 1: do it.

1487
01:00:24,760 --> 01:00:27,280
Speaker 3: Absolutely if I can still live, right, like if they

1488
01:00:27,400 --> 01:00:29,320
Speaker 3: need a kidney or something. There's always a risk.

1489
01:00:29,600 --> 01:00:31,440
Speaker 2: There is, but if some ready as easy as other

1490
01:00:31,480 --> 01:00:33,720
Speaker 2: people can do it. Because people sit on lists forever

1491
01:00:33,800 --> 01:00:35,520
Speaker 2: and ever and ever never and ever, and some people

1492
01:00:35,600 --> 01:00:37,600
Speaker 2: don't even make it. So you're telling me I would

1493
01:00:37,640 --> 01:00:39,800
Speaker 2: make my niece, God, I don't even like us. Example,

1494
01:00:40,320 --> 01:00:42,600
Speaker 2: I would make my third cousin who I don't have

1495
01:00:42,720 --> 01:00:44,400
Speaker 2: so I can. It's an easy example. I would make

1496
01:00:44,440 --> 01:00:46,040
Speaker 2: them sit on the list for years when I could

1497
01:00:46,040 --> 01:00:47,560
Speaker 2: save them. But I'm not going to do that, but

1498
01:00:47,600 --> 01:00:48,520
Speaker 2: I will get them an id.

1499
01:00:48,600 --> 01:00:49,520
Speaker 3: That's your third cause?

1500
01:00:50,080 --> 01:00:56,400
Speaker 1: Right, Yes, I'm somebody else. I guess. Let me see.

1501
01:00:56,400 --> 01:00:59,160
Speaker 2: Eighty two percent would share a surprise one hundred thousand

1502
01:00:59,200 --> 01:00:59,920
Speaker 2: dollars lottery win.

1503
01:01:01,000 --> 01:01:01,840
Speaker 3: Yeah, one hundred percent.

1504
01:01:01,840 --> 01:01:06,880
Speaker 2: I would do that easy, share again, life with death

1505
01:01:07,040 --> 01:01:09,919
Speaker 2: or share share. I'm more likely to intervene in life

1506
01:01:10,040 --> 01:01:12,520
Speaker 2: or death than I am to give you part of

1507
01:01:12,560 --> 01:01:15,360
Speaker 2: my one hundred grand because I can live with you

1508
01:01:15,520 --> 01:01:18,160
Speaker 2: not getting ten grand. I can't live with you dying

1509
01:01:18,280 --> 01:01:19,360
Speaker 2: because I was selfish?

1510
01:01:19,680 --> 01:01:21,400
Speaker 3: Why are you the only one that can save the person?

1511
01:01:21,480 --> 01:01:24,800
Speaker 2: Though, But Caitlin, people sit on organ donation lists for years,

1512
01:01:24,880 --> 01:01:26,840
Speaker 2: so it's not as though it's that easy. It's not

1513
01:01:26,960 --> 01:01:28,240
Speaker 2: like if I don't give it to you that you'll

1514
01:01:28,360 --> 01:01:31,600
Speaker 2: just the next guy can because it likes as very specialized.

1515
01:01:31,720 --> 01:01:31,840
Speaker 12: Right.

1516
01:01:31,920 --> 01:01:33,400
Speaker 7: But to know you're a match, you have to be

1517
01:01:33,520 --> 01:01:36,560
Speaker 7: willing to give your organ to even find out if

1518
01:01:36,600 --> 01:01:37,080
Speaker 7: you're a match.

1519
01:01:37,240 --> 01:01:39,280
Speaker 2: Right, But I would I'm saying like, I would like

1520
01:01:39,360 --> 01:01:40,960
Speaker 2: if somebody came to me and they were like, there's

1521
01:01:41,000 --> 01:01:43,760
Speaker 2: a very good likelihood because of this genetic link that

1522
01:01:43,920 --> 01:01:46,200
Speaker 2: you could save someone's life, I wouldn't say no.

1523
01:01:46,440 --> 01:01:47,800
Speaker 1: I don't know how you get away, don't know how

1524
01:01:47,800 --> 01:01:48,600
Speaker 1: you could live that way.

1525
01:01:48,680 --> 01:01:50,280
Speaker 4: So you give me your kidney, but you don't want

1526
01:01:50,280 --> 01:01:52,160
Speaker 4: to give me twenty grand of you one hundred.

1527
01:01:51,880 --> 01:01:53,640
Speaker 3: Thousand dollars more.

1528
01:01:53,720 --> 01:01:59,439
Speaker 14: Fread show next is different than drinking people juicing coke.

1529
01:01:59,680 --> 01:02:06,120
Speaker 14: Yeah sounds good to me. Honestly, I'm sorry, I can't.

1530
01:02:06,400 --> 01:02:06,720
Speaker 11: I can't.

1531
01:02:06,920 --> 01:02:07,320
Speaker 1: I can't.

1532
01:02:07,920 --> 01:02:11,200
Speaker 3: So you don't want to try it, person, I don't.

1533
01:02:11,040 --> 01:02:11,600
Speaker 1: Have to try it.

1534
01:02:11,640 --> 01:02:13,480
Speaker 2: I don't have to put everything in my mouth to

1535
01:02:13,560 --> 01:02:20,240
Speaker 2: know that it's disgusting. Yeah, Fred Show is Spencer's back

1536
01:02:20,280 --> 01:02:22,360
Speaker 2: in the day when the mall was the mall. You know,

1537
01:02:22,680 --> 01:02:24,640
Speaker 2: it's a little different now. I don't even know span

1538
01:02:24,720 --> 01:02:26,600
Speaker 2: sure it still exists, but it's there. It was a

1539
01:02:26,640 --> 01:02:28,640
Speaker 2: little leedgie Spencer's. You know, you go like towards the

1540
01:02:28,720 --> 01:02:31,200
Speaker 2: back and it was like this is a little little spoor.

1541
01:02:31,880 --> 01:02:34,200
Speaker 2: Yeah right, there's like, you know, I'm mad head back

1542
01:02:34,240 --> 01:02:39,680
Speaker 2: there and you know, like like like go in the

1543
01:02:39,760 --> 01:02:42,840
Speaker 2: dark grateful dead posters and it's like, whoa what are

1544
01:02:42,840 --> 01:02:45,320
Speaker 2: you doing back? It was a whole new world in

1545
01:02:45,400 --> 01:02:48,080
Speaker 2: the fact that Spencer my childhood. I got a hot take,

1546
01:02:48,200 --> 01:02:50,240
Speaker 2: and I've said it before, I got a hot take. Honestly,

1547
01:02:50,360 --> 01:02:53,040
Speaker 2: you're in a public restroom. Let Jesus take the wheel.

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01:02:52,840 --> 01:02:53,840
Speaker 3: Let's put our cheeks together.

1549
01:02:53,920 --> 01:02:56,760
Speaker 2: You can, you can cover, you can cover all the

1550
01:02:56,840 --> 01:02:59,200
Speaker 2: toilet seat you want. But then you touch your stall,

1551
01:02:59,600 --> 01:03:02,720
Speaker 2: you touch the door, you touched, the sink, you touched,

1552
01:03:03,520 --> 01:03:06,200
Speaker 2: you touched. Honestly, there's there really is no avoiding of

1553
01:03:06,320 --> 01:03:08,400
Speaker 2: all the places on my body. They're gonna get nasty.

1554
01:03:08,640 --> 01:03:11,080
Speaker 2: It may as well be my booty, because I'm not

1555
01:03:11,240 --> 01:03:12,040
Speaker 2: touching my booty.

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01:03:12,360 --> 01:03:16,120
Speaker 3: You put your raw clap us on that toilet, I do,

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01:03:16,440 --> 01:03:16,600
Speaker 3: I do?

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01:03:17,120 --> 01:03:17,920
Speaker 1: You know, hotel room.

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01:03:17,960 --> 01:03:21,760
Speaker 2: And if we're in a situation where I'm in public

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01:03:21,800 --> 01:03:23,040
Speaker 2: and I'm having to do that, and you know, I

1561
01:03:23,200 --> 01:03:25,280
Speaker 2: try and avoid that at all costs. You know, if

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01:03:25,320 --> 01:03:27,680
Speaker 2: there's any chance of that happening, I cancel my plans.

1563
01:03:28,160 --> 01:03:30,280
Speaker 2: I try, and I'll plan out my whole day based

1564
01:03:30,360 --> 01:03:32,840
Speaker 2: on making sure that I don't have to do there's

1565
01:03:32,840 --> 01:03:35,040
Speaker 2: not a situation like that on the go. I really

1566
01:03:35,080 --> 01:03:36,840
Speaker 2: don't like public rest restrooms at all.

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01:03:37,000 --> 01:03:37,520
Speaker 3: I don't either.

1568
01:03:37,560 --> 01:03:38,760
Speaker 1: I don't even like to breathe in them.

1569
01:03:38,880 --> 01:03:39,640
Speaker 11: I just don't.

1570
01:03:40,400 --> 01:03:40,720
Speaker 1: I don't.

1571
01:03:40,800 --> 01:03:42,360
Speaker 2: But then then I'll go get on an airplane and

1572
01:03:42,400 --> 01:03:45,200
Speaker 2: sit down and you know, just PLoP down here we go,

1573
01:03:45,400 --> 01:03:47,600
Speaker 2: because you know what, I've lost control at that point,

1574
01:03:48,000 --> 01:03:50,600
Speaker 2: I've lost control of the germs, like they're everywhere, there's

1575
01:03:50,680 --> 01:03:52,600
Speaker 2: nothing you can do. And I feel the same way

1576
01:03:52,600 --> 01:03:55,480
Speaker 2: about a public restroom, like, honestly, the bottom of my

1577
01:03:55,760 --> 01:03:57,480
Speaker 2: booty is I'm.

1578
01:03:57,360 --> 01:03:59,680
Speaker 1: Never going to touch. That goes right back in my pants.

1579
01:04:00,320 --> 01:04:03,080
Speaker 1: The thread show is on Bread's Fun fact.

1580
01:04:03,720 --> 01:04:04,800
Speaker 3: Breads fun.

1581
01:04:10,760 --> 01:04:14,439
Speaker 1: So much. Learn so much. Let's learn so much, guys.

1582
01:04:15,320 --> 01:04:19,440
Speaker 2: We've probably all experienced phantom phone vibrations where you think

1583
01:04:19,520 --> 01:04:21,600
Speaker 2: your phone's going off but it's really not going off,

1584
01:04:21,640 --> 01:04:24,120
Speaker 2: as a phenomena where individuals perceive that their phone is

1585
01:04:24,200 --> 01:04:27,120
Speaker 2: vibrating or ringing when there's actually no notification. This can

1586
01:04:27,160 --> 01:04:33,280
Speaker 2: occur due to sensory misinterpretation, where the brain misinterprets muscles, spasms,

1587
01:04:33,400 --> 01:04:38,360
Speaker 2: or others stimuli as phone vibrations, which can be influenced

1588
01:04:38,400 --> 01:04:42,760
Speaker 2: by habit and expectations. Studies indicate that nearly ninety percent

1589
01:04:42,800 --> 01:04:45,360
Speaker 2: of people reported experiencing this at least one time a week,

1590
01:04:45,440 --> 01:04:48,720
Speaker 2: highlighting its relevance among smartphone users. The phenomenon is linked

1591
01:04:48,760 --> 01:04:53,480
Speaker 2: to tech induced anxiety and the increasing reliance on technology,

1592
01:04:53,760 --> 01:04:57,880
Speaker 2: suggesting that our brains might now be conditioned to anticipate

1593
01:04:58,000 --> 01:05:00,760
Speaker 2: the phone alerts even when they're not, as it is

1594
01:05:00,840 --> 01:05:04,760
Speaker 2: not a medical condition, but increased stress levels and excessive

1595
01:05:04,800 --> 01:05:07,080
Speaker 2: smartphone usage have been found to be associated with higher

1596
01:05:07,280 --> 01:05:09,760
Speaker 2: phantom vibration sensations.

1597
01:05:10,480 --> 01:05:10,960
Speaker 3: That's real.

1598
01:05:11,440 --> 01:05:12,760
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

1599
01:05:12,800 --> 01:05:16,160
Speaker 4: I have that with email too, like just steady refreshing

1600
01:05:16,280 --> 01:05:18,800
Speaker 4: emails because I'm expecting emails to come.

1601
01:05:19,040 --> 01:05:20,000
Speaker 1: You think they're going to come in.

1602
01:05:20,360 --> 01:05:22,720
Speaker 2: You're waiting for Oprah to email you, yeah, and tell

1603
01:05:22,760 --> 01:05:25,919
Speaker 2: you about that show on the own network, right, Yeah.

1604
01:05:25,960 --> 01:05:27,440
Speaker 2: Sometimes I think about that too, to be honest, Like

1605
01:05:27,480 --> 01:05:29,600
Speaker 2: it'll be Saturday, It'll be like four in the afternoon,

1606
01:05:29,600 --> 01:05:32,080
Speaker 2: and I'll realize only my mom has texted me that day. Yeah,

1607
01:05:32,120 --> 01:05:33,880
Speaker 2: and I'll be like this, no, like no one loved

1608
01:05:33,920 --> 01:05:37,040
Speaker 2: me actually, or like it's you know, like is it normal?

1609
01:05:37,200 --> 01:05:40,640
Speaker 2: Would people have normally received many text messages of use

1610
01:05:40,800 --> 01:05:42,880
Speaker 2: by that time of the day or it's snow maybe

1611
01:05:42,920 --> 01:05:43,240
Speaker 2: I don't know.

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