1 00:00:12,400 --> 00:00:19,479 Speaker 1: Okay, a dating myth totally debunked. I have evidence, I 2 00:00:19,600 --> 00:00:20,840 Speaker 1: have actual receipts. 3 00:00:20,960 --> 00:00:21,360 Speaker 2: Okay. 4 00:00:21,720 --> 00:00:24,520 Speaker 1: So since I started the Core, I've learned so much 5 00:00:24,560 --> 00:00:27,840 Speaker 1: about alignment. And I always say having cameras on both 6 00:00:27,880 --> 00:00:31,080 Speaker 1: parties meaning I've alway understood a woman's perspective and then yes, 7 00:00:31,200 --> 00:00:34,519 Speaker 1: some men sharing things with me. But like now, really, 8 00:00:35,360 --> 00:00:39,600 Speaker 1: with apples to apples, I could see the differences between 9 00:00:39,640 --> 00:00:43,000 Speaker 1: men and women in dating and also all the stereotypes 10 00:00:43,600 --> 00:00:46,839 Speaker 1: that are true and untrue. And I've talked before about 11 00:00:47,200 --> 00:00:49,360 Speaker 1: many people saying there are no great men out there 12 00:00:49,760 --> 00:00:53,840 Speaker 1: categorically false. Men think that all women are gold diggers, 13 00:00:53,840 --> 00:00:56,280 Speaker 1: like there are a lot a lot, and women do 14 00:00:56,360 --> 00:00:59,920 Speaker 1: want a man with money, but false meaning gold diggers 15 00:01:00,120 --> 00:01:03,280 Speaker 1: not allowed in here. And it's such a broad term anyway, 16 00:01:03,320 --> 00:01:05,720 Speaker 1: like what a gold digger means. There are many women 17 00:01:05,840 --> 00:01:09,759 Speaker 1: in the CORES that would like someone who has quote unquote. 18 00:01:09,319 --> 00:01:10,200 Speaker 2: A big program. 19 00:01:10,480 --> 00:01:14,360 Speaker 1: But if these women don't bring anything to the table 20 00:01:15,160 --> 00:01:19,080 Speaker 1: and just have their hands out and are expecting, then 21 00:01:19,319 --> 00:01:21,280 Speaker 1: they're not a good fit. So what do I mean, Like, 22 00:01:21,880 --> 00:01:23,520 Speaker 1: if I want to be with someone who's at a 23 00:01:23,560 --> 00:01:26,560 Speaker 1: certain success level, which does shift by the way, you 24 00:01:26,600 --> 00:01:28,320 Speaker 1: go in wanting the apartment you want, and then you 25 00:01:28,440 --> 00:01:30,920 Speaker 1: end up giving up on a ceiling or a floor 26 00:01:31,040 --> 00:01:33,479 Speaker 1: or a location or something because God doesn't give you everything, 27 00:01:33,480 --> 00:01:37,200 Speaker 1: and choices are so big now. I was talking to 28 00:01:37,200 --> 00:01:40,240 Speaker 1: someone last night about the fact that I talk about 29 00:01:40,280 --> 00:01:42,520 Speaker 1: if the little corner is bent on, the puzzle piece 30 00:01:42,600 --> 00:01:45,360 Speaker 1: doesn't fit. There are so many more puzzle pieces now 31 00:01:45,400 --> 00:01:50,440 Speaker 1: than years ago Gilded Age there would four giant ropper room. 32 00:01:50,440 --> 00:01:51,720 Speaker 2: Children's puzzle pieces. 33 00:01:51,760 --> 00:01:55,360 Speaker 1: You just sort of pick someone who was aligned in society, 34 00:01:55,440 --> 00:01:57,640 Speaker 1: and that's kind of what you did. So if I 35 00:01:57,680 --> 00:02:00,080 Speaker 1: want to be with someone who's successful, also, it's how 36 00:02:00,120 --> 00:02:02,800 Speaker 1: do you define success? Like can they afford to take 37 00:02:02,800 --> 00:02:05,440 Speaker 1: you out to dinner or a nice Vacasian or buy 38 00:02:05,520 --> 00:02:08,400 Speaker 1: you a nice Christmas gift? Do they have an island, 39 00:02:08,440 --> 00:02:11,240 Speaker 1: a private plane, a boat? Like for me, I have 40 00:02:11,280 --> 00:02:15,480 Speaker 1: a secure future, present and career and I don't need 41 00:02:15,520 --> 00:02:18,680 Speaker 1: a man to support me to buy a house, to 42 00:02:19,760 --> 00:02:22,200 Speaker 1: have a plane and a boat. If I meet someone 43 00:02:22,280 --> 00:02:24,360 Speaker 1: like that, that's great. But that type of person comes 44 00:02:24,360 --> 00:02:28,880 Speaker 1: with their own sort of program and they want everything 45 00:02:29,160 --> 00:02:31,960 Speaker 1: their way. In many cases, moguls are used to getting 46 00:02:31,960 --> 00:02:34,320 Speaker 1: what they want. They run the show they need someone 47 00:02:34,320 --> 00:02:36,360 Speaker 1: who just sort of follows suit. And I've spoken to 48 00:02:36,440 --> 00:02:39,200 Speaker 1: many people who are married to billionaires who they don't 49 00:02:39,200 --> 00:02:41,639 Speaker 1: really get to have their own voice and opinion. And 50 00:02:41,960 --> 00:02:44,639 Speaker 1: I don't want or need that. I don't want to 51 00:02:44,639 --> 00:02:47,679 Speaker 1: be somebody's plus one. And also I have my own 52 00:02:47,720 --> 00:02:50,200 Speaker 1: specific set of needs, like I don't want someone with 53 00:02:50,240 --> 00:02:53,480 Speaker 1: four children. That just wouldn't be the right dynamic for 54 00:02:53,520 --> 00:02:55,600 Speaker 1: me for a very specific reason that I won't want 55 00:02:55,639 --> 00:02:57,800 Speaker 1: to get into, but that would not work for me. 56 00:02:58,680 --> 00:03:00,799 Speaker 1: So that's where the apartment comes in. Let's say that 57 00:03:00,840 --> 00:03:03,640 Speaker 1: I met someone who had eight kids, who was smart 58 00:03:03,680 --> 00:03:06,240 Speaker 1: and entrepreneurial and had a lot of the things that 59 00:03:06,280 --> 00:03:09,519 Speaker 1: I thought I wanted, that dynamic might not work. Let's 60 00:03:09,560 --> 00:03:12,000 Speaker 1: say that someone had one kid and it worked great 61 00:03:12,000 --> 00:03:15,520 Speaker 1: with my dynamic, but they were a strict religious Jewish 62 00:03:15,560 --> 00:03:19,840 Speaker 1: person that didn't go out on Saturdays and kept a 63 00:03:19,880 --> 00:03:20,520 Speaker 1: kosher house. 64 00:03:20,680 --> 00:03:21,640 Speaker 2: Maybe I wouldn't want that. 65 00:03:21,720 --> 00:03:24,440 Speaker 1: Like, everybody's allowed to want what they want within reason, 66 00:03:25,120 --> 00:03:28,280 Speaker 1: unless they're totally pricing themselves out of the market. But 67 00:03:28,400 --> 00:03:31,600 Speaker 1: one of the things that is the biggest myth debunked 68 00:03:31,600 --> 00:03:36,040 Speaker 1: that I've seen so far is that men who have 69 00:03:36,280 --> 00:03:40,440 Speaker 1: not gotten married or had kids by the age of 70 00:03:40,720 --> 00:03:44,640 Speaker 1: forty or fifty. Like forties or fifties, it's a red flag. 71 00:03:45,160 --> 00:03:47,760 Speaker 1: It is not a red flag. I thought so too, 72 00:03:47,800 --> 00:03:50,320 Speaker 1: because people have told me this for so long. I 73 00:03:50,400 --> 00:03:55,400 Speaker 1: have literally met and connected five men within the core 74 00:03:56,400 --> 00:04:00,800 Speaker 1: that are over fifty or at fifty, have never been 75 00:04:00,840 --> 00:04:03,920 Speaker 1: married and don't have kids. And the weirdest thing, this 76 00:04:04,040 --> 00:04:09,720 Speaker 1: most surprising thing, is that these men want their life partner. 77 00:04:10,520 --> 00:04:15,960 Speaker 1: These men all believe that either they were working so much, 78 00:04:16,600 --> 00:04:19,200 Speaker 1: or more importantly, this is really more common, they didn't 79 00:04:19,200 --> 00:04:21,680 Speaker 1: find their person. They've always wanted to find their person. 80 00:04:22,320 --> 00:04:24,320 Speaker 1: And maybe they didn't find their person because they were 81 00:04:24,360 --> 00:04:27,279 Speaker 1: working so hard. Maybe they just didn't luckily find their person. 82 00:04:27,640 --> 00:04:29,640 Speaker 1: How many of the people in all the world have 83 00:04:29,720 --> 00:04:31,440 Speaker 1: been your person, the one that got away, the one 84 00:04:31,520 --> 00:04:32,719 Speaker 1: you were madly in love with, the one that you 85 00:04:32,720 --> 00:04:35,560 Speaker 1: loved more than anything else. So if you're a man 86 00:04:35,720 --> 00:04:39,039 Speaker 1: who didn't want to settle and just do what most 87 00:04:39,080 --> 00:04:41,800 Speaker 1: men do, which is grab the girl that's closest to 88 00:04:41,839 --> 00:04:43,520 Speaker 1: you when you're ready, that's a common thing. 89 00:04:43,800 --> 00:04:44,160 Speaker 2: They say. 90 00:04:44,240 --> 00:04:45,960 Speaker 1: Women marry the men that they fall in love with. 91 00:04:46,360 --> 00:04:49,280 Speaker 1: Men marry the woman who's right there. So if these 92 00:04:49,400 --> 00:04:52,000 Speaker 1: men a woman being right there was not enough for them. 93 00:04:52,760 --> 00:04:55,559 Speaker 1: And if these men were not willing to just grab 94 00:04:55,600 --> 00:04:57,719 Speaker 1: the women closest to them just to have a kid. 95 00:04:57,760 --> 00:05:00,320 Speaker 1: When the clock and the timeline in society said so, 96 00:05:00,960 --> 00:05:04,400 Speaker 1: then they lost their window. Okay, then they lost their window. 97 00:05:04,520 --> 00:05:06,880 Speaker 1: And then they're maybe in their fifties and they're like, wait, 98 00:05:07,080 --> 00:05:09,720 Speaker 1: I still want my person. And years ago when I 99 00:05:09,760 --> 00:05:11,480 Speaker 1: had a talk show, and even now when I talk 100 00:05:11,560 --> 00:05:14,880 Speaker 1: to people, I remember asking people, if you had the choice, 101 00:05:14,920 --> 00:05:16,960 Speaker 1: you could only choose one to find your person or 102 00:05:17,000 --> 00:05:18,560 Speaker 1: have a child, what would it be. I was in 103 00:05:18,560 --> 00:05:21,000 Speaker 1: my thirties. I thought everyone would say have a child. 104 00:05:21,040 --> 00:05:24,719 Speaker 1: I literally did. Everyone said find my person. I was 105 00:05:24,760 --> 00:05:26,760 Speaker 1: like wait, and I didn't feel that way, Like I 106 00:05:26,760 --> 00:05:28,560 Speaker 1: would love to find my person, but I don't think 107 00:05:28,600 --> 00:05:30,400 Speaker 1: I would have given up having a child, and it 108 00:05:30,440 --> 00:05:32,840 Speaker 1: would have been having a child would have been my choice. 109 00:05:33,000 --> 00:05:35,600 Speaker 1: The point is, all of these men that I've met 110 00:05:35,920 --> 00:05:40,080 Speaker 1: are so dedicated, so intentional, and so committed, like they 111 00:05:40,120 --> 00:05:42,400 Speaker 1: know what they want. They have more of a free 112 00:05:42,440 --> 00:05:46,240 Speaker 1: life now they've made some money, or they've realized who 113 00:05:46,279 --> 00:05:49,480 Speaker 1: they are, or their parents have passed away, or one 114 00:05:49,520 --> 00:05:52,640 Speaker 1: parent has passed away, it has changed them, or they 115 00:05:52,640 --> 00:05:55,880 Speaker 1: know where they ultimately want to live, or who knows, 116 00:05:56,279 --> 00:05:59,880 Speaker 1: they know what they want. And these men with no 117 00:06:00,240 --> 00:06:02,760 Speaker 1: kids that have never been married, and some of them 118 00:06:02,760 --> 00:06:07,080 Speaker 1: have been engaged, they've been engaged, they've never actually gotten married. 119 00:06:07,640 --> 00:06:11,159 Speaker 1: They really want a relationship and a life partner, and 120 00:06:11,240 --> 00:06:12,960 Speaker 1: some of them already have found that, some of them 121 00:06:13,000 --> 00:06:15,760 Speaker 1: have already committed. But I just think it is such 122 00:06:15,960 --> 00:06:20,320 Speaker 1: a false stereotype or dangerous fake news to spread the 123 00:06:20,360 --> 00:06:24,440 Speaker 1: fact that someone who's at a certain age as a 124 00:06:24,520 --> 00:06:28,280 Speaker 1: man women too. Women too, By the way, same thing 125 00:06:28,320 --> 00:06:30,680 Speaker 1: for women. I don't know why it's a double standard, 126 00:06:30,720 --> 00:06:33,520 Speaker 1: but it's always talked about with men that it's a 127 00:06:33,520 --> 00:06:35,960 Speaker 1: red flag for men. It's not a red flag for 128 00:06:36,000 --> 00:06:37,680 Speaker 1: a woman either, Like men will make up these things 129 00:06:37,720 --> 00:06:39,039 Speaker 1: like she doesn't have a lot of friends, it's a 130 00:06:39,040 --> 00:06:40,760 Speaker 1: red flag. Or she didn't get married by a certain 131 00:06:40,760 --> 00:06:43,200 Speaker 1: time or get engaged by a certain time, red flag. 132 00:06:43,279 --> 00:06:45,400 Speaker 1: It's not a red flag for a man or a woman. 133 00:06:45,760 --> 00:06:47,800 Speaker 1: It may be a function of who they have or 134 00:06:47,880 --> 00:06:50,480 Speaker 1: haven't met at that stage in their life. And also 135 00:06:50,520 --> 00:06:53,760 Speaker 1: these men also feel, oh wait, so over sixty percent 136 00:06:53,880 --> 00:06:55,960 Speaker 1: of marriages end up in divorced, So I'm supposed to 137 00:06:56,080 --> 00:06:58,480 Speaker 1: check a box to then get a divorce and be miserable. 138 00:06:58,720 --> 00:07:02,160 Speaker 1: Have a miserable divorce. It's like people's worst experience of 139 00:07:02,200 --> 00:07:04,279 Speaker 1: their life. In some cases that feels like a death. 140 00:07:04,440 --> 00:07:06,600 Speaker 1: I'm supposed to do that as a rite of passage, 141 00:07:06,680 --> 00:07:09,120 Speaker 1: just to check the box that I got married, just 142 00:07:09,160 --> 00:07:12,920 Speaker 1: so women don't think that I'm a red flag, like 143 00:07:13,080 --> 00:07:16,000 Speaker 1: marry someone I don't really love, don't actually think is 144 00:07:16,040 --> 00:07:18,160 Speaker 1: the one, but think is convenient and right there at 145 00:07:18,160 --> 00:07:21,560 Speaker 1: the time I'm supposed to be getting married, But knowing 146 00:07:21,920 --> 00:07:25,280 Speaker 1: institutional knowledge from all of my friends and society and data, 147 00:07:25,320 --> 00:07:29,040 Speaker 1: and maybe being a logical analytical person, I don't want 148 00:07:29,120 --> 00:07:31,440 Speaker 1: to have a miserable divorce because I've seen so many 149 00:07:31,480 --> 00:07:35,120 Speaker 1: people I know and mothers and sisters and friends get 150 00:07:35,160 --> 00:07:39,600 Speaker 1: divorced and it be traumatic and rip families apart and 151 00:07:40,320 --> 00:07:44,120 Speaker 1: do damage to children. Like I'm team man who's never 152 00:07:44,200 --> 00:07:47,560 Speaker 1: been married and never had kids, being true to himself 153 00:07:47,600 --> 00:07:50,640 Speaker 1: and to that and ultimately wanting to find a life 154 00:07:50,640 --> 00:07:53,200 Speaker 1: partner and saying I'd rather do that than just have 155 00:07:53,320 --> 00:07:57,800 Speaker 1: kids just to fill a quota. And if I hadn't 156 00:07:57,880 --> 00:08:00,440 Speaker 1: met so many of these men, I wouldn't believe it 157 00:08:00,480 --> 00:08:04,680 Speaker 1: myself so many And I like that because for me, 158 00:08:04,760 --> 00:08:05,760 Speaker 1: I have one daughter. 159 00:08:06,120 --> 00:08:06,960 Speaker 2: I roll like. 160 00:08:07,720 --> 00:08:10,520 Speaker 1: I like someone who hasn't had children yet who wants 161 00:08:10,560 --> 00:08:12,440 Speaker 1: to feel like they can be part of my daughter's 162 00:08:12,480 --> 00:08:15,960 Speaker 1: life as a family member for many reasons. I think 163 00:08:15,960 --> 00:08:18,000 Speaker 1: that would be good for me and for her. And 164 00:08:18,520 --> 00:08:22,200 Speaker 1: I like that because someone can like travel and go 165 00:08:22,280 --> 00:08:25,120 Speaker 1: with me to Pairispassion Week or come with me to something, 166 00:08:25,160 --> 00:08:27,320 Speaker 1: and I can go with them to things like they're 167 00:08:27,320 --> 00:08:30,360 Speaker 1: not that bogged down and they're super intentional and I 168 00:08:30,400 --> 00:08:33,040 Speaker 1: don't know, I don't have an ex wife that's torturing 169 00:08:33,080 --> 00:08:35,199 Speaker 1: them and some bad divorce that you have to hear 170 00:08:35,200 --> 00:08:37,760 Speaker 1: about because mine was a nightmare. Like I think there 171 00:08:37,760 --> 00:08:39,960 Speaker 1: are a lot of positives to men who have never 172 00:08:40,000 --> 00:08:42,840 Speaker 1: been married and don't have kids if you're divorced, okay, 173 00:08:43,000 --> 00:08:45,920 Speaker 1: because they also might want the feeling of having some 174 00:08:46,080 --> 00:08:49,000 Speaker 1: version of like a family unit, and someone like me 175 00:08:49,120 --> 00:08:50,160 Speaker 1: might be able to give it to them. 176 00:08:50,240 --> 00:08:51,000 Speaker 2: I like it. 177 00:08:51,240 --> 00:09:07,840 Speaker 1: I think it's a complete misrepresentation of a situation in 178 00:09:07,920 --> 00:09:10,560 Speaker 1: life and in dating. Everyone has something wrong, Okay, I'm 179 00:09:10,640 --> 00:09:15,360 Speaker 1: just realizing this. Men have sleazy sides, like I see 180 00:09:15,360 --> 00:09:17,960 Speaker 1: men have sleezy sides. They play the short game. They 181 00:09:18,040 --> 00:09:20,240 Speaker 1: just want to get laid. They make it so apparent 182 00:09:20,280 --> 00:09:24,520 Speaker 1: they can't control themselves. Women want money, not every woman, 183 00:09:24,559 --> 00:09:27,040 Speaker 1: and this is not blanket statements. There are wonderful, class 184 00:09:27,120 --> 00:09:30,200 Speaker 1: yellgant men, and there are wonderful women. I'm saying that 185 00:09:30,280 --> 00:09:33,240 Speaker 1: I'm seeing this especially in the dating community. Women they 186 00:09:33,360 --> 00:09:36,720 Speaker 1: just are like so nitpicky, or they just want money, 187 00:09:36,800 --> 00:09:39,040 Speaker 1: or they criticize the way someone texts. 188 00:09:39,040 --> 00:09:40,440 Speaker 2: They think nothing's wrong with them. 189 00:09:40,880 --> 00:09:45,440 Speaker 1: They judge every single comma and shoe that someone wears, 190 00:09:45,480 --> 00:09:49,520 Speaker 1: and shirt that someone chooses, and receding hairline that someone has. 191 00:09:49,760 --> 00:09:52,440 Speaker 1: I'm just going to tell you every single person is 192 00:09:52,440 --> 00:09:56,160 Speaker 1: fucked up. There are very successful, very famous people in here. 193 00:09:57,160 --> 00:10:00,040 Speaker 1: The men are so much easier. The other day a 194 00:10:00,240 --> 00:10:02,280 Speaker 1: video talking about how every man between forty five and 195 00:10:02,320 --> 00:10:05,120 Speaker 1: sixty five is talking about longevity and peptides and all 196 00:10:05,120 --> 00:10:07,280 Speaker 1: this shit. But that's just what they're doing. They're kind 197 00:10:07,320 --> 00:10:10,160 Speaker 1: of keeping it to themselves. They're not up your ass women. 198 00:10:10,520 --> 00:10:13,440 Speaker 1: I am pro women. I love women. In the world 199 00:10:13,520 --> 00:10:17,720 Speaker 1: of dating, I will tell you women are a nightmare. 200 00:10:18,120 --> 00:10:21,960 Speaker 1: Men are so logical and so patient and so open 201 00:10:22,480 --> 00:10:24,560 Speaker 1: and will go out with someone like yes, if they 202 00:10:24,559 --> 00:10:25,960 Speaker 1: don't want to go out with someone that looks a 203 00:10:25,960 --> 00:10:28,160 Speaker 1: certain way that they don't like, or has kids that 204 00:10:28,200 --> 00:10:30,520 Speaker 1: they don't want, or whatever, they're like, I don't think, 205 00:10:30,559 --> 00:10:33,960 Speaker 1: so they don't give you an over explanation, a criticism, 206 00:10:34,040 --> 00:10:37,560 Speaker 1: a dramatization, and many of them will just be open. 207 00:10:38,120 --> 00:10:39,680 Speaker 2: They will just be more open. 208 00:10:40,040 --> 00:10:43,480 Speaker 1: Women that have less going for them in many cases 209 00:10:43,480 --> 00:10:45,000 Speaker 1: than the men. We'll be like no, not for me, 210 00:10:45,400 --> 00:10:48,680 Speaker 1: not for me, and women will turn down the men 211 00:10:48,840 --> 00:10:53,120 Speaker 1: and stop dating the men that are like so much 212 00:10:53,160 --> 00:10:55,720 Speaker 1: more desirable than the women, Like I only have one 213 00:10:55,840 --> 00:10:59,400 Speaker 1: situation and one man here where he has overvalued himself 214 00:10:59,640 --> 00:11:03,240 Speaker 1: because a lot of times a man is a big 215 00:11:03,280 --> 00:11:06,719 Speaker 1: fish in their market. So let's say it's like New 216 00:11:06,800 --> 00:11:10,439 Speaker 1: York versus like Cleveland or Des Moines or some area 217 00:11:10,520 --> 00:11:12,319 Speaker 1: like I'm not gonna say the actual area because it 218 00:11:12,360 --> 00:11:16,120 Speaker 1: would be too bullseye, but like, some men are a 219 00:11:16,160 --> 00:11:19,240 Speaker 1: big deal in their area, like big fish, small pond, 220 00:11:19,760 --> 00:11:24,120 Speaker 1: and they have such a distorted and delusional opinion of 221 00:11:24,160 --> 00:11:28,240 Speaker 1: themselves because they're marginally attractive, have a little bit of money, 222 00:11:28,320 --> 00:11:32,679 Speaker 1: and they're not that tall, not that interesting, not that smart, 223 00:11:32,679 --> 00:11:36,400 Speaker 1: like marginal success, and they'll be so crazy picky with 224 00:11:36,440 --> 00:11:39,560 Speaker 1: the women that will be like, are you fucking okay? 225 00:11:40,320 --> 00:11:41,400 Speaker 2: And then there'll be men. 226 00:11:41,240 --> 00:11:44,720 Speaker 1: That are so much more successful and interesting that are open. 227 00:11:44,800 --> 00:11:48,120 Speaker 1: So you get one or two bad apples. And I 228 00:11:48,160 --> 00:11:53,200 Speaker 1: am literally thinking of a specific person, but by and large, 229 00:11:53,200 --> 00:11:58,800 Speaker 1: men are much more open, logical, easier, and lower maintenance 230 00:11:58,920 --> 00:12:02,200 Speaker 1: in the world of day. So women take note. Don't 231 00:12:02,240 --> 00:12:04,160 Speaker 1: be a pain in the ass, try to be open, 232 00:12:04,240 --> 00:12:07,480 Speaker 1: try to be patient, because the men are so much 233 00:12:07,520 --> 00:12:10,280 Speaker 1: more easy to set up, and. 234 00:12:10,320 --> 00:12:12,160 Speaker 2: Men want to pay for it. 235 00:12:12,679 --> 00:12:14,400 Speaker 1: They want to pay for it, they want to invest 236 00:12:14,440 --> 00:12:18,199 Speaker 1: in it, and men don't bother you to get it, 237 00:12:18,720 --> 00:12:24,960 Speaker 1: and therefore you give them more. The men are constructive, logical, open, patient, 238 00:12:25,840 --> 00:12:27,680 Speaker 1: and make you want to help them more, and you 239 00:12:27,760 --> 00:12:30,200 Speaker 1: end up helping the women more because you're helping the 240 00:12:30,280 --> 00:12:34,000 Speaker 1: women by connecting these men with amazing women. But you 241 00:12:34,040 --> 00:12:36,840 Speaker 1: know we are here for both. We help both. But 242 00:12:36,880 --> 00:12:39,240 Speaker 1: I will tell you women give you a run for 243 00:12:39,320 --> 00:12:42,080 Speaker 1: their money. So whatever you want to say to that 244 00:12:42,480 --> 00:12:46,400 Speaker 1: hate me, cancel me. These are actual facts. 245 00:12:49,320 --> 00:12:49,640 Speaker 2: Okay. 246 00:12:49,679 --> 00:12:52,679 Speaker 1: So Lily Allen is a singer and a songwriter, and 247 00:12:52,920 --> 00:12:57,080 Speaker 1: I guess she was married to Hopper from Stranger Things, 248 00:12:57,480 --> 00:13:02,040 Speaker 1: So stranger things have never happened then this, So she 249 00:13:02,320 --> 00:13:05,720 Speaker 1: wore a revenge dress. Now, traditionally a revenge dress is 250 00:13:05,760 --> 00:13:11,040 Speaker 1: a sexy, hot, black, little hoe bag Miami or Vegas dress. 251 00:13:11,160 --> 00:13:13,760 Speaker 2: Right, that's a revenge dress. You're wearing it, you're showing it. 252 00:13:13,760 --> 00:13:15,640 Speaker 1: It's gonna end up on social media, your ex is 253 00:13:15,679 --> 00:13:18,760 Speaker 1: gonna see it. It's my sports illustrated walk, which was 254 00:13:18,800 --> 00:13:21,680 Speaker 1: not a revenge walk. I didn't even know I was landing, 255 00:13:21,679 --> 00:13:23,240 Speaker 1: and I thought I was shitting the bed, which is 256 00:13:23,240 --> 00:13:25,320 Speaker 1: why if I'm ever asked to do it again, I'm 257 00:13:25,360 --> 00:13:26,800 Speaker 1: sure I will shit the bed because now will be 258 00:13:26,800 --> 00:13:29,560 Speaker 1: in my head. But anyway, her version of a revenge 259 00:13:29,640 --> 00:13:33,120 Speaker 1: dress has receipts on it. So she like married the 260 00:13:33,200 --> 00:13:37,520 Speaker 1: traditional revenge dress with a housewives reunion, and she showed 261 00:13:37,640 --> 00:13:41,439 Speaker 1: up with receipts, So I guess her guy, her man 262 00:13:41,679 --> 00:13:44,640 Speaker 1: cheated on her, and she had literal receipts that she 263 00:13:45,040 --> 00:13:46,320 Speaker 1: printed onto a dress. 264 00:13:46,600 --> 00:13:49,960 Speaker 2: He had bought presents, bought meals. She came. 265 00:13:50,240 --> 00:13:53,320 Speaker 1: She like rolled her dress out on stage to let 266 00:13:53,360 --> 00:13:57,120 Speaker 1: everyone know. I'm not letting this motherfucker get away with it. 267 00:13:57,240 --> 00:13:59,240 Speaker 1: I once saw him on an app too, So I 268 00:13:59,240 --> 00:14:01,760 Speaker 1: don't know how long they been together because I saw 269 00:14:01,840 --> 00:14:03,520 Speaker 1: him not once, many times on an app and I 270 00:14:03,520 --> 00:14:05,440 Speaker 1: don't think it was more than a year ago. So 271 00:14:05,520 --> 00:14:07,160 Speaker 1: I don't know how long they've been together. I can't 272 00:14:07,160 --> 00:14:09,440 Speaker 1: imagine he's going and maybe I can't imagine. Maybe he 273 00:14:09,440 --> 00:14:12,120 Speaker 1: was on apps trying to meet friends quote unquote. I 274 00:14:12,120 --> 00:14:14,320 Speaker 1: don't know, but I've seen him on those apps before, 275 00:14:14,920 --> 00:14:31,560 Speaker 1: so they probably met on the celeb app. Okay, so 276 00:14:32,680 --> 00:14:34,880 Speaker 1: I know a guy who was dating a younger woman. 277 00:14:34,920 --> 00:14:37,240 Speaker 1: I know many men who have dated younger women. Okay, 278 00:14:37,560 --> 00:14:41,640 Speaker 1: men who have dated younger women and they're hot, they're sexy, 279 00:14:41,880 --> 00:14:45,560 Speaker 1: and maybe they're twenty years younger, fifteen years younger. They're 280 00:14:45,600 --> 00:14:48,360 Speaker 1: the hot young piece, and then it doesn't work out 281 00:14:48,640 --> 00:14:51,880 Speaker 1: because they're dating a significantly younger, hot young piece, and 282 00:14:51,920 --> 00:14:54,640 Speaker 1: if they have kids, they don't relate, and the woman 283 00:14:54,680 --> 00:14:57,280 Speaker 1: doesn't relate, and if the woman likes to go out 284 00:14:57,400 --> 00:15:00,920 Speaker 1: and travel and party and they don't like it's the alignment. 285 00:15:00,960 --> 00:15:04,040 Speaker 1: It's the music, it's the references, it's the alignment, it's 286 00:15:04,040 --> 00:15:07,120 Speaker 1: the lifestyle. You're not supposed to date people, for the 287 00:15:07,240 --> 00:15:11,000 Speaker 1: most part more than fifteen years difference. I don't even 288 00:15:11,080 --> 00:15:14,120 Speaker 1: love more than ten, but fifteen you lose me. For 289 00:15:14,160 --> 00:15:18,080 Speaker 1: me personally, I feel like five years younger is like 290 00:15:18,280 --> 00:15:21,760 Speaker 1: okay and slightly ideal because I vibe young. I didn't 291 00:15:21,800 --> 00:15:24,200 Speaker 1: realize that, Like I've gone out with men that are 292 00:15:25,000 --> 00:15:28,600 Speaker 1: thirteen years older and it feels old, which again means 293 00:15:28,640 --> 00:15:31,880 Speaker 1: I'm old. Eight years younger is like pushing it, and 294 00:15:31,960 --> 00:15:35,080 Speaker 1: five years younger is okay, Like two three years older 295 00:15:35,200 --> 00:15:36,440 Speaker 1: is bullseye ideal. 296 00:15:36,640 --> 00:15:38,640 Speaker 2: My age is fine, et cetera. 297 00:15:39,280 --> 00:15:41,520 Speaker 1: So they saw the girls before, they see the hot pictures, 298 00:15:41,520 --> 00:15:43,640 Speaker 1: they see the hot outfits, they get turned on by it. 299 00:15:43,680 --> 00:15:44,560 Speaker 2: They want to go out with them. 300 00:15:44,600 --> 00:15:47,480 Speaker 1: They're either insecure, it makes them feel younger, they just 301 00:15:47,560 --> 00:15:49,640 Speaker 1: want to have sex with them. It just makes them 302 00:15:49,680 --> 00:15:51,480 Speaker 1: feel good, look good. I can get a girl like this. 303 00:15:51,560 --> 00:15:54,240 Speaker 1: I want women younger. A lot of the men say 304 00:15:54,280 --> 00:15:57,240 Speaker 1: they want women significantly younger. They give their age range. 305 00:15:57,280 --> 00:15:59,720 Speaker 1: And there have actually been people that I've connected to 306 00:15:59,840 --> 00:16:02,280 Speaker 1: one app but not another because on the other app, 307 00:16:02,720 --> 00:16:05,520 Speaker 1: it didn't give me to them because it's stricter about 308 00:16:05,560 --> 00:16:08,080 Speaker 1: the age, so it doesn't feed them people and they 309 00:16:08,160 --> 00:16:09,640 Speaker 1: might not have said they want to be with. 310 00:16:09,640 --> 00:16:12,160 Speaker 2: Someone who's five years younger. But then on another app 311 00:16:12,200 --> 00:16:13,280 Speaker 2: it's a little more lenient. 312 00:16:13,320 --> 00:16:15,440 Speaker 1: They see my picture and they're like, all right, because 313 00:16:15,480 --> 00:16:17,960 Speaker 1: you go to get the apartment that you think you want, 314 00:16:18,000 --> 00:16:20,560 Speaker 1: and then you end up being flexible on things on 315 00:16:20,640 --> 00:16:23,800 Speaker 1: ceiling height, on baptob on view because in the beginning, 316 00:16:23,840 --> 00:16:26,080 Speaker 1: of course you're going with your ideal, you start to 317 00:16:26,200 --> 00:16:27,440 Speaker 1: stretch your standards. 318 00:16:27,440 --> 00:16:28,640 Speaker 2: It doesn't mean you're settling. 319 00:16:28,960 --> 00:16:31,840 Speaker 1: It means you might get one apartment in your price 320 00:16:31,920 --> 00:16:33,840 Speaker 1: range for what you really want, so then you have 321 00:16:33,880 --> 00:16:37,000 Speaker 1: to adjust. You might get one person serve to you 322 00:16:37,200 --> 00:16:39,680 Speaker 1: on an algorithm for what you want, so you have 323 00:16:39,760 --> 00:16:42,080 Speaker 1: to adjust. So I might not be in someone's quote 324 00:16:42,120 --> 00:16:47,520 Speaker 1: unquote ideal fantasy unicorn search, but in real life, shit happens. 325 00:16:47,640 --> 00:16:49,680 Speaker 1: Everybody has a planet, so they get punched in the face. 326 00:16:50,080 --> 00:16:52,160 Speaker 1: So these men go for these women and they're like, 327 00:16:52,200 --> 00:16:54,240 Speaker 1: I want someone. I know I'm sixty, but I want 328 00:16:54,240 --> 00:16:57,080 Speaker 1: someone thirty eight. Okay, then you break up with them. 329 00:16:57,480 --> 00:16:59,800 Speaker 1: Then you start to see these young hawk girls with 330 00:16:59,840 --> 00:17:01,920 Speaker 1: the other guys. They might have more money than you, 331 00:17:02,000 --> 00:17:05,040 Speaker 1: as much money, or they are going out with guys 332 00:17:05,080 --> 00:17:07,480 Speaker 1: that are taking them to Coachella, taking them on planes, 333 00:17:07,520 --> 00:17:11,680 Speaker 1: taking them to tou Loom to you know, award shows, 334 00:17:11,680 --> 00:17:14,720 Speaker 1: Beverly Hills, shopping, air Mez. You're seeing that they're buying, 335 00:17:15,080 --> 00:17:19,360 Speaker 1: and then you're judging that these girls have sponsors. Now 336 00:17:19,400 --> 00:17:23,920 Speaker 1: everyone talks about men as sponsors. She has a sponsor, 337 00:17:24,400 --> 00:17:27,520 Speaker 1: and people talk about women that are with men who 338 00:17:27,520 --> 00:17:30,240 Speaker 1: are cheating on their wives, and it's like, what level 339 00:17:30,320 --> 00:17:32,919 Speaker 1: of sponsorship, what type of membership do they have? 340 00:17:33,320 --> 00:17:34,960 Speaker 2: Are they the exclusive fuck. 341 00:17:34,760 --> 00:17:36,960 Speaker 1: Around with the guy, then they have a higher level 342 00:17:37,080 --> 00:17:41,320 Speaker 1: of sponsorship membership. Okay, if the guy fucks around with 343 00:17:41,400 --> 00:17:45,080 Speaker 1: many women, they're one of many sponsored women. And it 344 00:17:45,160 --> 00:17:47,480 Speaker 1: happens with tech billionaires where they've got a couple of 345 00:17:47,480 --> 00:17:51,440 Speaker 1: people in their stable on their roster. Many of these 346 00:17:51,480 --> 00:17:54,960 Speaker 1: women have tried to come into the Core because they 347 00:17:55,040 --> 00:17:57,359 Speaker 1: know the type of men we have, and we don't 348 00:17:57,440 --> 00:17:59,439 Speaker 1: let them into the Core because we know they have 349 00:17:59,480 --> 00:18:02,359 Speaker 1: a sponsor program and we don't respect that. We're not 350 00:18:02,560 --> 00:18:05,440 Speaker 1: judging that. I'm not judging that. You want to go out, 351 00:18:05,480 --> 00:18:08,200 Speaker 1: you want to get your literal bag, your figurative bag. 352 00:18:08,600 --> 00:18:10,080 Speaker 1: You want to go out to dinner, you want to 353 00:18:10,119 --> 00:18:12,440 Speaker 1: be part of it, you want to go to the clubs, 354 00:18:12,440 --> 00:18:14,159 Speaker 1: you want to end up your asset mar a Lago. 355 00:18:14,320 --> 00:18:16,480 Speaker 1: You do what you want to do. You want to 356 00:18:16,520 --> 00:18:20,640 Speaker 1: go to Yellowstone the billionaire community. You want to date billionaire. 357 00:18:20,640 --> 00:18:21,600 Speaker 1: You want to do what you want to do. You 358 00:18:21,600 --> 00:18:24,080 Speaker 1: want to fly private with these people for the weekend. 359 00:18:24,160 --> 00:18:28,159 Speaker 1: As the fuck around find out, we had a woman 360 00:18:28,200 --> 00:18:32,640 Speaker 1: who has gone out with a sports team owner multiple billionaires, 361 00:18:33,080 --> 00:18:36,200 Speaker 1: then got a reputation with the other billionaires who do 362 00:18:36,280 --> 00:18:39,480 Speaker 1: want a life partner, the successful men, and they flag 363 00:18:39,520 --> 00:18:41,520 Speaker 1: these people being like, look, this person may be hot 364 00:18:41,560 --> 00:18:44,359 Speaker 1: and amazing, but this is the deal. We choose to 365 00:18:44,359 --> 00:18:47,520 Speaker 1: not have that because we choose to have people who 366 00:18:47,600 --> 00:18:49,640 Speaker 1: want a life partner, and we don't want to set 367 00:18:49,720 --> 00:18:52,040 Speaker 1: up a man with a woman who's stunning, who's going 368 00:18:52,080 --> 00:18:53,840 Speaker 1: to go out to dinner, but the woman's a semi 369 00:18:53,840 --> 00:18:56,160 Speaker 1: pro because the man's going to go out to dinner 370 00:18:56,200 --> 00:18:58,080 Speaker 1: with them, think he could possibly get her fall in 371 00:18:58,119 --> 00:18:59,960 Speaker 1: love with her. He wants a life partner, he wants 372 00:19:00,160 --> 00:19:03,520 Speaker 1: real relationship. It's not a line because we know that 373 00:19:03,600 --> 00:19:06,919 Speaker 1: she prefers to be sponsored. She may be a great person. 374 00:19:06,960 --> 00:19:08,639 Speaker 1: That's why you have to be careful as a woman 375 00:19:09,080 --> 00:19:11,280 Speaker 1: with what you do in your track record, because you 376 00:19:11,280 --> 00:19:14,160 Speaker 1: may be playing the short game. You may be hot, stunning, 377 00:19:14,200 --> 00:19:16,920 Speaker 1: et cetera. And you may be going for the big 378 00:19:16,960 --> 00:19:19,800 Speaker 1: game hunt on the short term. But if you are 379 00:19:19,840 --> 00:19:21,960 Speaker 1: the girl that's gonna go with the married man, you're 380 00:19:21,960 --> 00:19:24,240 Speaker 1: gonna get a reputation. And then when the real man 381 00:19:24,320 --> 00:19:26,959 Speaker 1: comes along, he's gonna know that that's on your resume 382 00:19:27,040 --> 00:19:28,560 Speaker 1: and he's not gonna like it. And you might have 383 00:19:28,600 --> 00:19:31,240 Speaker 1: been a good person, you just played the short game. 384 00:19:31,840 --> 00:19:35,159 Speaker 1: So you need to not play the short game. You 385 00:19:35,200 --> 00:19:38,160 Speaker 1: need to play the long game and be patient. Even 386 00:19:38,200 --> 00:19:40,200 Speaker 1: in your neighborhood. It doesn't mean even if you don't 387 00:19:40,280 --> 00:19:43,320 Speaker 1: dabble with these types of billionaires, it doesn't mean that 388 00:19:43,440 --> 00:19:46,200 Speaker 1: I'm just giving you an example of how you fuck around. 389 00:19:46,280 --> 00:19:49,680 Speaker 1: You find out you play the short game, you get 390 00:19:49,680 --> 00:19:56,119 Speaker 1: the short prize. So we've maintained a strictness. Now even 391 00:19:56,280 --> 00:19:58,280 Speaker 1: like apps like the league that used to be all 392 00:19:58,359 --> 00:19:59,520 Speaker 1: Ivy League. 393 00:19:59,320 --> 00:20:01,000 Speaker 2: They've opened it. You have a lot of people that 394 00:20:01,040 --> 00:20:01,880 Speaker 2: aren't Ivy League. 395 00:20:01,880 --> 00:20:04,560 Speaker 1: You have people that used to be super successful and 396 00:20:04,600 --> 00:20:09,040 Speaker 1: now it's some super successful and some marginally successful or 397 00:20:09,520 --> 00:20:13,000 Speaker 1: just employed. So we have stayed strict because, like I've 398 00:20:13,040 --> 00:20:15,119 Speaker 1: told you many times, I don't know how far I 399 00:20:15,160 --> 00:20:16,840 Speaker 1: take this business. I could take it all the way 400 00:20:17,400 --> 00:20:22,720 Speaker 1: I could take it where it's just justifying the risk 401 00:20:22,880 --> 00:20:26,879 Speaker 1: and cost of doing business and employing these people. That 402 00:20:26,960 --> 00:20:28,560 Speaker 1: it does take some bandwidth that I do have to 403 00:20:28,560 --> 00:20:30,760 Speaker 1: answer questions and my team does have to use some 404 00:20:30,880 --> 00:20:33,879 Speaker 1: of its bandwidth on this, but it is doing a 405 00:20:34,000 --> 00:20:37,640 Speaker 1: service because people are really connecting a meeting. So I'm 406 00:20:37,720 --> 00:20:41,560 Speaker 1: just saying the sponsorship program is real. And don't hate 407 00:20:41,600 --> 00:20:45,280 Speaker 1: the player, hate the game, but be very discerning. Remember 408 00:20:45,880 --> 00:20:49,200 Speaker 1: everything you do, everyone you go out with, it's getting 409 00:20:49,280 --> 00:20:52,320 Speaker 1: added to your resume. Everyone talks, everyone has social media, 410 00:20:52,720 --> 00:21:09,159 Speaker 1: and people will find out per to do to a 411 00:21:12,080 --> 00:21:12,359 Speaker 1: pers