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Speaker 1: Buckle up and hold on tight. We got it for

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Speaker 1: you to straw every letter. I don't know for some reason,

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Speaker 1: I love this subject. Whose is it? Uh? Dear Stephen Shirley.

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Speaker 1: This past Valentine's Day started out as the most amazing

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Speaker 1: day with the man of my dreams. We planned to

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Speaker 1: go out to dinner, so after work I went to

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Speaker 1: moment he walked through the door, we got busy quick

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Speaker 1: and wild style. Afterwards, we pulled ourselves together and went

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Speaker 1: out to dinner. He gave me the bottle of perfume

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Speaker 1: that I had always wanted, so the night was going great.

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Speaker 1: After dinner, we went back to his condo and had

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Speaker 1: some drinks, listen to some music, and ended up getting

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Speaker 1: intimate again. The love making was so intense and passionate

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Speaker 1: this time until he abruptly jumped up and yelled, what

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Speaker 1: did you say? It took me a couple of seconds

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Speaker 1: and then I realized, Oh my goodness, I just whispered

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Speaker 1: my ex's name. How did this happen? I've been divorced

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Speaker 1: for ten years and I have no contact whatsoever with

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Speaker 1: my ex. My man looked at me with this hurt, angry,

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Speaker 1: disgusted look and left the bedroom. This is the second

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Speaker 1: time it's happened. I did the same thing a few

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Speaker 1: years ago. He eventually forgave me the first time and

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Speaker 1: we got back on track. But this time, I don't

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Speaker 1: think it's going to be that's going to happen. I've

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Speaker 1: apologized over and over, but we've only spoken twice since then.

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Speaker 1: I'm so mad at myself. I'm heartbroken and confused. What

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Speaker 1: me again? Or is it best to just leave it

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Speaker 1: alone and walk away? By the way, we're in our

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Speaker 1: mid fifties, both divorced, and we've been together for the

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Speaker 1: past seven years. I don't want to lose him. Please help. Wow,

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Speaker 1: what a way to mess up for a really good evening, girl,

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Speaker 1: What were you thinking? Uh? I mean, I can I

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Speaker 1: can hear breathe. You guys had a great night. You

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Speaker 1: say this is a man of your dreams. You guys

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Speaker 1: have been together for seven years, you've been divorced for ten.

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Speaker 1: Where did this come from? I mean, did you have

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Speaker 1: too much to drink? Where you drunk? You know? Maybe

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Speaker 1: you can blame it on that, but yeah, this is

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Speaker 1: this is kind of crazy. And you you heard his ego,

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Speaker 1: you know, not just one time, this is the second

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Speaker 1: time you've done that. How do you think he's supposed

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Speaker 1: to feel? Uh? It makes him think. I guess from

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Speaker 1: a man's point of view that you're thinking during the

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Speaker 1: most intimate time, not about him, but about your ex.

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Speaker 1: And that's not cool. I don't know how you did that.

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Speaker 1: You slipped up really badly. He forgave of you the

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Speaker 1: second time, the first time, I mean, eventually, I don't

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Speaker 1: know if he's gonna forgive you this time. I don't know.

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Speaker 1: It depends on you, know, how you make it up

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Speaker 1: to him, if he allows you to make it up

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Speaker 1: to him. I don't think that you should just leave

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Speaker 1: But you're in your mid fifties, you're both divorced. I mean,

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Speaker 1: it sounds like you have a good thing going. You

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Speaker 1: just messed it up. You're just gonna have to I

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Speaker 1: don't know, really, you know, plead and appeal your case

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Speaker 1: to him. Maybe he'll forgive you a second time. I

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Speaker 1: don't know, Steve, Well, I don't need to how much

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Speaker 1: time I got, how many minutes you've got plenty of

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Speaker 1: time because I could do this three minutes. I can

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Speaker 1: get all this seen in one time. Come on, let's

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Speaker 1: just let me explain something. What happened was has happened

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Speaker 1: to a lot of men before. But the title of

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Speaker 1: the letter is whose is it? So obviously he asked

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Speaker 1: And he said it because he knew he would put

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Speaker 1: me in work. He had had this thing, Oh moaning

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Speaker 1: this round to y'all back. You walk in the door,

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Speaker 1: is passionate a hell and broke blue? Then bit your

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Speaker 1: buttons off? That's when you know question right there? Buttons.

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Speaker 1: He couldn't just ripple lout. I'm gonna need two times

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Speaker 1: to do this because I forgot. I got to set up.

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Speaker 1: What the hell happened? Y'all came in the room, tan

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Speaker 1: at each other. The anticipation was incredible. He gave you

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Speaker 1: perfume that you always wanted. Y'all will walk through the door.

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Speaker 1: Y'all got busy, she says in like quick and wild style. Lord,

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Speaker 1: you know what wild style this all this? When you

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Speaker 1: explain how the hell has got the refrigerator handle in

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Speaker 1: that other kitchen chill. You don't even know where the

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Speaker 1: hell why is the kitchen chill outside? He just got

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Speaker 1: three now, yeah, and who told the hot water handle off?

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Speaker 1: The speech? That's pretty wild, Steppen. All the cushions on

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Speaker 1: the couch is wicked. Come. You can't explain none of this.

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Speaker 1: And it's a crack in the flash screen TV. That's

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Speaker 1: how wild it got at the fireplace don't work no more,

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Speaker 1: it just popped off. This is quick and wild style.

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Speaker 1: When you're in there, you can't explain nothing. People coming on?

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Speaker 1: What is aly need prints in this car? Girl? Is

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Speaker 1: your knees bleeding? He got a zipper print on his cheek?

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Speaker 1: That's how wild it got up in there. Now, when

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Speaker 1: I come back, I'm explain to you. Right in the

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Speaker 1: middle of this wild style, while he was performing at

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Speaker 1: his high level ever before, he asked the proverbial question

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Speaker 1: whose is it? There's a word missing in there, but

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Speaker 1: we all know what he meant. You said, whose is it?

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Speaker 1: When I come back, we will go down the list

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Speaker 1: of things you could have said, and then a list

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Speaker 1: of things that you probably said. Right after this all

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Speaker 1: hell breaks? All right, Steve, come on, let's get to

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Speaker 1: part two of your response to today's Strawberry letter subject

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Speaker 1: whose is it? You had some lists. Yeah, Tommy, you're certain.

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Speaker 1: Now for the first time, I'm gonna play the role

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Speaker 1: of her. I'm Tommy's not gonna be okay. I want

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Speaker 1: you to do Tommy, it's say Who's is it? Okay?

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Speaker 1: Then this first list it's because she said something wrong,

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Speaker 1: because in the letter she said the Tyler letters, whose

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Speaker 1: is it? In the middle of the letters, she said,

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Speaker 1: he jumped up and said, what did you say? So

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Speaker 1: now after he jumped up and said to avoid the

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Speaker 1: what did you say? Let me give you, ladies, a

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Speaker 1: list of things that you can say if you're unsure

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Speaker 1: of whose it is? So, Tommy, go ahead, whose is it? Oh? Shay,

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Speaker 1: see that's easy. Like a bear? That's all right? He

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Speaker 1: like a bear? Whose is it? Who is you? Daddy?

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Speaker 1: Come on? Is you're dead? You're not a good girl?

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Speaker 1: How you gotta be? I'm just trying to save your marriage.

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Speaker 1: Whose is it? Big down? Any of these would have worked?

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Speaker 1: Whose is it? Look? At me. Whose is it? Who

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Speaker 1: you think? Whose is it? You better know it? All

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Speaker 1: of those would have worked one more, Thomas, Who's this it? What?

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Speaker 1: That's my favorite? Those are a list of things that

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Speaker 1: you can use to keep yourself out of trouble, that

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Speaker 1: would keep a man working hard, giving his all. Now,

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Speaker 1: here's what you can't say. When he asked you, now,

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Speaker 1: his name is Nathaniel. Name is my name? It's Nathan.

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Speaker 1: It's quick name. I forgot that. That was on driving like, so,

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Speaker 1: come on, Tommy, whose is it? Oh? Harold? What what?

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Speaker 1: I don't know? What? Baby? What I say? Listening? You

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Speaker 1: have to be calling me Harold? I said, Nathan? You no, no, no,

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Speaker 1: you said hair Nathaniel? Why would I come? Okay, go again,

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Speaker 1: let's go one baby? Okay, whose is it? Oh? What

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Speaker 1: what you're doing? What's your name? Did you say? Go

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Speaker 1: ahead and talk to do again? All right? Baby? Whose

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Speaker 1: is it? Okay? Okay, okay, let me think, tom you

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Speaker 1: gotta go go. What did you say you got to

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Speaker 1: keep doing that? What did you just say? What did

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Speaker 1: you say? Do it again? Go ahead? Whose is it? Baby?

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Speaker 1: I don't know what did you say? You're doing? Good? Joke?

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Speaker 1: You don't know, Come on, baby, whose is it? Baby? Maybe?

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Speaker 1: I said, who's is it? Configued? Why are you asking me? What?

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Speaker 1: What's you're talking about? You? I asked you, whose is it?

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Speaker 1: Last one? Baby? Baby? Whose is it? Mus? What did

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Speaker 1: you say? What did you anybody? Last one? Time? Talk

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Speaker 1: to me baby? Talk to me baby? Whose is it? Baby?

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Speaker 1: Who's is it? What? Your name is? Thank you? My name?

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Speaker 1: They thank you? That's what do you mean? Fill it in? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Classic a fun Steven oh Man, close your face. Thank

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Speaker 1: you for letting me be the word. Sorry, that's just

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Speaker 1: cod ah tell me so meth Huh. He was really

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Speaker 1: into it. I forgot a part. Yeah, reading hard. It's

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Speaker 1: just a reenactment, but he got that part down. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: put your shirt back on. We don't know you like that?

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Speaker 1: All right, listen, we gotta get out of here. Guys.

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Speaker 1: You can email us or instagram us your thought on

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Speaker 1: Today's Strawberry Letter at my Girl Shirley and please join

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Speaker 1: me today. It is today for the Strawberry Letter Live

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