WEBVTT - Why is Ruby ghosting Evan?

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<v Speaker 1>First Date follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury Attorneys

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<v Speaker 1>online at Advocateslaw dot com.

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<v Speaker 2>Evan is on the phone today for our first Day

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<v Speaker 2>follow up and he's getting ghosted by Ruby. So in

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<v Speaker 2>a few minutes we'll call her and see if she'll

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<v Speaker 2>tell us why she's ghosting him and maybe get him

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<v Speaker 2>a second date. But first, Evan, how long has it

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<v Speaker 2>vin since you heard from Ruby?

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<v Speaker 3>It's been about four days?

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, that's too bad. Yeah, have you hit her up

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<v Speaker 4>a bunch in that time?

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<v Speaker 3>I did try a couple of times. Yeah, I don't

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<v Speaker 3>want to overdo it, but reached out and definitely got nothing back.

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<v Speaker 5>Okay, And you feel like that's weird, Like you feel

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<v Speaker 5>like four days is a long time?

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<v Speaker 4>Did not hear from her?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, we're kind of hitting it off, so it is

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<v Speaker 3>it's out of the ordinary.

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<v Speaker 4>Well, tell us about your date.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, Ruby and I went to Rooftop Bar and you know,

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<v Speaker 3>it had the best view of the city. It was

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<v Speaker 3>it's her idea. Actually it was super cool. Well, you know,

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<v Speaker 3>I can't really beat it for our first daid. Just great,

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<v Speaker 3>great place to grab drinks, shared a charcoterie board, and

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<v Speaker 3>you know our conversation was just really easy, natural. The

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<v Speaker 3>vibe was laid back and plenty of kind of flirty moments.

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<v Speaker 3>She's hilarious, you know, we're making each other laugh the

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<v Speaker 3>whole night, and they were just sparked, you know, the

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<v Speaker 3>kind of can't bake. We ended up taking a walk

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<v Speaker 3>after and because we were both a little buzzed, and

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<v Speaker 3>before we said good night, there are a few kisses

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<v Speaker 3>and yeah, you know, it's just a kind of date

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<v Speaker 3>you'd never want to stop.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, well, why do you think you're hitting? Ghosted?

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<v Speaker 3>Then? Honestly really confused. You know, we were texting NonStop

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<v Speaker 3>for two days after, so things are you know, they

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<v Speaker 3>felt promising and then nothing, it just stopped.

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<v Speaker 4>So wait, you went on the date and you ended

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<v Speaker 4>up hearing from her after the date.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, after the date for about two days and.

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<v Speaker 4>Then it stopped.

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<v Speaker 2>Right Could it be something you texted?

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<v Speaker 3>I don't think so. I mean I don't think it was.

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<v Speaker 3>I did text her a pick of me, like in

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<v Speaker 3>the bathroom with a towel on as a tease, like

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<v Speaker 3>I thought it would be harmless.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, is that the last time you heard from her?

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<v Speaker 3>I believe so.

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<v Speaker 4>Hard trip and if I got ghosted after that.

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<v Speaker 3>She was teasing me about having ABS, so I just

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<v Speaker 3>decided to show her. You know, I don't know, maybe

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<v Speaker 3>it was too much. It wasn't like a pick or anything.

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<v Speaker 4>You know, do you have abs?

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<v Speaker 2>Or was joking around me and like check out mine,

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<v Speaker 2>but you don't have them?

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<v Speaker 3>You know I have abs? Yeah, I mean I just

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<v Speaker 3>wanted to prove myself.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, that could be it. So was a selfie, yeah, I.

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<v Speaker 2>Mean if you stop talking to you right after that,

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<v Speaker 2>then that probably it probably has something to do with that.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know. I mean, I don't think it was

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<v Speaker 3>that bad or racy or anything.

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<v Speaker 5>But what did you say when you send the picture

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<v Speaker 5>of yourself in a towel?

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<v Speaker 3>Nothing much, just I think it's put like a little

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<v Speaker 3>blurble like you know, here proved or something like along

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<v Speaker 3>those lines.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, well we'll see if we can help you out

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<v Speaker 2>with then then. I mean, it just kind of strange

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<v Speaker 2>that wild stop talking to you right after that, so

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<v Speaker 2>that might be the reason. But we'll play a song

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<v Speaker 2>come back and see if we can get you a

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<v Speaker 2>second date. In your first day follow up.

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<v Speaker 1>Next first Date follow Up Powered by the Advocates Injury

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<v Speaker 2>Right in the middle of today's first day follow up,

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<v Speaker 2>if you're just joining us, Evan is on the phone

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<v Speaker 2>and he's getting ghosted by Ruby. So we're about to

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<v Speaker 2>call her and see if she tell us why she's

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<v Speaker 2>ghosting him and hopefully get him a second date. But first, Evan,

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<v Speaker 2>why don't you break down your date for us one

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<v Speaker 2>more time.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, we had a lot of great moments on our dates.

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<v Speaker 3>Barks flew, everything was perfect, sought, we had a connection,

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<v Speaker 3>and you know, two days after the date, I've not

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<v Speaker 3>heard from her.

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<v Speaker 5>And the last thing that you sent her was, let's

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<v Speaker 5>not forget this part, a picture of yourself in the

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<v Speaker 5>bathroom and a towel.

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<v Speaker 3>I did send her my ab.

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<v Speaker 2>All right, Well, are you ready to see if that's

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<v Speaker 2>the reason you're getting ghosted?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, let's do it.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, here we go. I'm gonna call her right now. Hi,

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<v Speaker 2>Mas speak to Ruby. Please, Hey Ruby, how are you?

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<v Speaker 2>This is a radio show. It's called the Jubil Show.

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<v Speaker 4>Hi Ruby, my name is Nina.

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<v Speaker 2>Hi, I'm Victoria and I'm Jubeil. How are you.

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<v Speaker 6>Okay?

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<v Speaker 7>I'm good.

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<v Speaker 2>Have you ever listened to the show? Before I have dope.

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<v Speaker 2>Thank you? Well, what if I told you that you

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<v Speaker 2>were the star of a first eight follow up? Right now?

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<v Speaker 6>Oh god?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, we got an email about you from somebody that

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<v Speaker 2>you're ghosting, and they don't know why. You know, who

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<v Speaker 2>would emails.

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<v Speaker 6>I'm pretty sure it's probably Evan.

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<v Speaker 2>You're a very smart ruby. Evan told us about your date,

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<v Speaker 2>said that he really liked you, thought you guys had

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<v Speaker 2>an awesome time, but you texted for a little while

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<v Speaker 2>after and then you just ghosted him, and he wants

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<v Speaker 2>to know what's up? Would you mind telling us?

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<v Speaker 7>I mean, like, look, I really I thought Evan was

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<v Speaker 7>great and we had an amazing time. But then after

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<v Speaker 7>my date, my friend showed me something and it just

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<v Speaker 7>it kind of killed the vibe for me.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, what was it?

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<v Speaker 6>Okay?

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<v Speaker 7>So I tested my friend a picture of Evan when

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<v Speaker 7>we were on the base because she wanted to look

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<v Speaker 7>like And then the next night she sends me a

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<v Speaker 7>picture of him with some other girl, like literally the

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<v Speaker 7>night after we went on the date, and then she

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<v Speaker 7>was at another bar and they were making out.

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<v Speaker 3>No, no, no, no, you've got it wrong.

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<v Speaker 2>That's Evan. He's actually on the phone and wants to

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<v Speaker 2>talk to you.

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<v Speaker 6>Oh my god. I mean, like, yeah, okay, I knew.

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<v Speaker 6>I guess I knew this was coming. Oh man, hi.

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<v Speaker 3>Hi, Uh look you've got it all wrong.

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<v Speaker 6>It's not no, no, no, Evan. You are literally in

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<v Speaker 6>the picture.

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<v Speaker 7>I mean, it's not hard to recognize someone when you

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<v Speaker 7>were just right there, you know.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh okay, Yeah it happened, but it's not what you think.

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<v Speaker 3>Like she's she's someone I've been cooking up with for

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<v Speaker 3>a while, and I was I was going to tell

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<v Speaker 3>her it was over because I wanted to focus on

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<v Speaker 3>you that night, and I just I didn't get to

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<v Speaker 3>it yet.

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<v Speaker 2>So you were, oh with someone else right after your

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<v Speaker 2>date making out with her?

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<v Speaker 3>Technically, yeah, Egan, you were just with.

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<v Speaker 6>Me and then you just go and make out with

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<v Speaker 6>someone else.

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<v Speaker 7>I mean, I understand people date multiple people, but it

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<v Speaker 7>just it felt.

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<v Speaker 6>Wrong to me.

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<v Speaker 3>I swear, I swear I'm done with her. I'm not

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<v Speaker 3>seeing anyone else. I like you. I was going to

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<v Speaker 3>tell her that the next day, but it was like,

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<v Speaker 3>it wasn't like that anymore, Like you're the one that

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<v Speaker 3>I want to date.

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<v Speaker 4>Did you tell her that?

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<v Speaker 3>I told her?

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<v Speaker 5>I mean, I wouldn't want to see a picture of

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<v Speaker 5>the dude that I just want to date with, mixed

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<v Speaker 5>like messing around with somebody else again, Like she said,

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<v Speaker 5>I get people are dating other people, but if I

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<v Speaker 5>don't know, I wouldn't feel good about that either.

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<v Speaker 4>I just would have too many questions.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, like are you just saying that like you want

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<v Speaker 6>to date me? Or like did you hook up with

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<v Speaker 6>her that night? You know, that's just how it ful

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<v Speaker 6>to me.

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<v Speaker 3>Did you hook up her? Yeah, but it was it

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<v Speaker 3>was just like a last like last round type of thing.

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<v Speaker 3>I swear I told her about you at that point,

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<v Speaker 3>and that was the last time.

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<v Speaker 2>You told her after you hooked up.

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<v Speaker 8>You're not hooked up with her after you told her

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<v Speaker 8>about me, Like seriously, No, I told her about you

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<v Speaker 8>after I hooked up with Herful Okay, so you hooked

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<v Speaker 8>up with her after you told her about me?

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<v Speaker 3>Like seriously, No, I hooked up with her and then

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<v Speaker 3>I told her about you, like it's but but that's

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<v Speaker 3>because things felt so different with you, Like we've been

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<v Speaker 3>on one date. It's a like I cheated on you

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<v Speaker 3>or anything. I was just I was trying to do

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<v Speaker 3>the right thing.

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<v Speaker 7>I mean, it would have been her if you told

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<v Speaker 7>her before and didn't.

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<v Speaker 6>Hook up the way.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, I get that, but it was, you know, it

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<v Speaker 3>was just kind of desperate. Instead, I didn't get to

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<v Speaker 3>see you, and you know, I was just trying to

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<v Speaker 3>break things off and it didn't go as smoothly as

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<v Speaker 3>I hoped it would.

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<v Speaker 7>I mean, if we were to date and you didn't

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<v Speaker 7>see me, you can't hook up with other people.

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<v Speaker 3>Like, I'm not trying to do that. I swear.

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<v Speaker 5>It's kind of tricky because he kind of does have

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<v Speaker 5>a point. He is trying to do the right thing,

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<v Speaker 5>like he didn't cheat on anybody, and she's out of

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<v Speaker 5>the picture now.

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<v Speaker 2>Ruby, would you like to go on a second date

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<v Speaker 2>with Evan? We'll pay for it.

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<v Speaker 7>I mean, Evan, are there any other people I need

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<v Speaker 7>to know about?

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, yeah, well yes, but I want to text

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<v Speaker 3>them and let them know I'm not available via text.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm not going to meet up with them. I will

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<v Speaker 3>show you the text.

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<v Speaker 2>What do you think, Ruby, It sounds like serious?

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<v Speaker 7>I mean, like honestly, we did just go in one

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<v Speaker 7>date and it was like a really really good date.

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<v Speaker 7>But I swear to God, Evan, if any of my

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<v Speaker 7>friends send me more pictures of you out with other women.

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<v Speaker 6>You're gonna wish that I was just ghosting you.

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<v Speaker 3>It will be very promise you'll never see that again.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't want to to ever meet that side of

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<v Speaker 3>you again.

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<v Speaker 6>Okay, sure, all right, we'll go out again.

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<v Speaker 4>Are you happy?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah? Thank you, You're welcome.

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<v Speaker 6>You wise.

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<v Speaker 2>First date, fallow up