Speaker 1: Hello everyone, and welcome back to Bachelor Happy Hour.
Speaker 2: I'm Rachel and I'm Cheerity, and today we have Love
Speaker 2: Is Blind and a Perfect Match.
Speaker 3: Alum A D. Welcome to the podcast.
Speaker 4: Y'all, thanks for having me. These are my girls. I
Speaker 4: can't know literally, I am so excited to have you
Speaker 4: A D.
Speaker 1: Because Charity and I have both been on your podcast
Speaker 1: and you have interviewed us. But I am so excited
Speaker 1: to have you today and give your full story to
Speaker 1: the Bachelor audience. Those who do not know Ad. She
Speaker 1: was the star of Love Is Blind and Perfect Match.
Speaker 4: Let Rachel no, we are on Perfect Match. Rachel, please
Speaker 4: don't pen them me.
Speaker 1: First of all, AD birthed me into the Netflix universe.
Speaker 1: Let that be known, and we will get all into
Speaker 1: Perfect Match because I still have so much to say.
Speaker 1: But let's go back to the beginning.
Speaker 4: Yes, Love is Blind?
Speaker 3: Oh Love is Blind?
Speaker 1: Lock us through the is it blind? Walk us through
Speaker 1: how this came to your desk? What made you say yes?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 4: The full story? Oh my gosh, it's actually kind of chaotic.
Speaker 4: So I was like semi freshly broken up with my
Speaker 4: ex at the time, but I worked We kind of
Speaker 4: worked together still, and so my bio had my job
Speaker 4: description in the bio, and casting agents reached out and
Speaker 4: they called the job and he answered, and we're such
Speaker 4: and such from Love is Blind. We would love to
Speaker 4: talk to a d and see if she's interested. He goes, no,
Speaker 4: she's she's she's in a relationship. He thought it was
Speaker 4: so funny. He's like, she's in a relationship. She would
Speaker 4: never do that. We were so then he calls me
Speaker 4: and he's like, oh, you won't what just happened? I'm
Speaker 4: called and I told them you weren't interested. I said, what.
Speaker 3: How do you watch?
Speaker 4: He's like, I told them you were in a relationship.
Speaker 4: I was like, now, why the hell would you do that.
Speaker 4: I was like, give me your number right now. And
Speaker 4: literally five minutes later I got off the phone with him.
Speaker 4: I called him. I was like, hey, this is eight.
Speaker 4: I heard you were looking for we were, but we
Speaker 4: heard your relationship. I'm like, I'm not. That was just
Speaker 4: my my ex being funny and being weird. And then
Speaker 4: it just snowballs. Yeah. I just kept going from interview
Speaker 4: to interview to interview, and next thing you know, I'm
Speaker 4: blewing out to LA and now I'm in a pod
Speaker 4: and yeah, like.
Speaker 2: Wait, so did you ever watch this show, Like, were
Speaker 2: you familiar with, oh my god, the basis of the
Speaker 2: show and.
Speaker 4: Like the process.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, okay, so you were like intrigued, you were
Speaker 2: like this is perfect for me because I'm like, I
Speaker 2: feel like watching it. I'm like, I always commend people
Speaker 2: who can go on that because I'm like, I do
Speaker 2: feel like it's a very obviously like crazy.
Speaker 3: Environment and we can talk about it. But I'm like, yeah, like.
Speaker 4: A very marriage minded and very optimistic. I'm a huge optimist.
Speaker 4: So I'm like, you know what, why can't why won't
Speaker 4: this work for me? Like I've seen it work. I've
Speaker 4: people that are still married from season one, season two,
Speaker 4: like people are still married, and I'm like, this is
Speaker 4: going to work for me. I knew in my soul, y'all.
Speaker 4: I was like, I'm gonna be married. I'm literally gonna
Speaker 4: find my husband on Love.
Speaker 1: You did manifest because your husband did come from Love
Speaker 1: is mind.
Speaker 3: Yeah, let's talk about it.
Speaker 1: I want to talk about you once you get into
Speaker 1: Perfect Match, because you guys shared this in common. What
Speaker 1: was it like dating behind that screen? Because I know
Speaker 1: you and I see how you flirt and I cannot
Speaker 1: imagine how it is with.
Speaker 4: A wall in between. Yeah, I really can interesting once
Speaker 4: you get because there's no cameras, like no cameramen in
Speaker 4: the pods, like there's you know, I tucked away and
Speaker 4: they're like camouflage very very well unless you're like hyper
Speaker 4: focused on it, but like you really it really is
Speaker 4: just you. And so the first day you're dating, speed
Speaker 4: dating like fifteen men I believe, like for five minutes
Speaker 4: back to back to back. So you really got to
Speaker 4: give your own get like, hey, this is my elevator
Speaker 4: pitch of you know, and you start to hear certain
Speaker 4: things you're like, yeah, like this is this is the
Speaker 4: longest five minute date of my life. And you hear
Speaker 4: a certain voice and you're like, hold up, let me
Speaker 4: see what this boy's talking about. So then you start
Speaker 4: falling like for the voices, and then you start to
Speaker 4: hear a little bit of personality. And I really just
Speaker 4: was I'm such a giggly person. So I think they
Speaker 4: really were just loving that I was so giggly and
Speaker 4: like bubbly and just I really trust the process and
Speaker 4: you could tell like I was like this is gold
Speaker 4: work for me, and I was just I had no
Speaker 4: fear really. I was just like, it's just me and
Speaker 4: here what's going to happen? And I just went fully And.
Speaker 2: Did you feel like obviously when you started the process
Speaker 2: from the first initial like I guess speed dating round
Speaker 2: where you like, I don't know, like if this is
Speaker 2: meant for me?
Speaker 3: Like, did you still have that level of that? She
Speaker 3: was like no, I was like I.
Speaker 4: Knew. I was like, because the pre show stuff is
Speaker 4: so intense, like the applications. I'm sure you guys know,
Speaker 4: like the applications and the interviews. I'm like, surely these
Speaker 4: people are professionals. At this point, we were going into
Speaker 4: my season, which was season six, so I'm like, surely
Speaker 4: they've matched someone here that matched my criteria and I
Speaker 4: matched theirs. I just had to be patient, and I
Speaker 4: was just like yeah. But then it's like the bullshitters
Speaker 4: get through, you know. So it's like, no matter how
Speaker 4: much they match your criteria and how much like there
Speaker 4: are people that lie on their applications, there's people that
Speaker 4: just say whatever just to get through the door, which
Speaker 4: was very obvious in my case. And I'm going in hopeful,
Speaker 4: happy and innocent, and then you have to have different intentions.
Speaker 4: So again I did my best. We'll just leave it
Speaker 4: at that. I did my best.
Speaker 1: Me and Charity know that all too well. So when
Speaker 1: you're in the pods in those initial first days, did
Speaker 1: you feel multiple connections or.
Speaker 3: Were you kind of zeroed in?
Speaker 1: Because I feel like in Perfect Match, you went in
Speaker 1: and you knew exactly what you wanted.
Speaker 4: I had a few connections on Love is Blind Again.
Speaker 4: I am so open and I just trusted the process.
Speaker 4: And when I finally matched and like connected with people
Speaker 4: that were also open to the process, then I found
Speaker 4: myself having like five and six dates a day, like
Speaker 4: to the point where I was like, I can't do this,
Speaker 4: see y'all. I would go in and be like, hey,
Speaker 4: I don't want to date you anymore, Like to the
Speaker 4: point your producers had to pull me aside and was like, hey, ady,
Speaker 4: can you stop breaking up with people?
Speaker 1: Ah, they're all in love behind the wall.
Speaker 4: I was like, I don't want to go on any
Speaker 4: more dates. Can we please stop? And they were like,
Speaker 4: like by the third date that I'd broken up with,
Speaker 4: they were like, hey, can you just like like really
Speaker 4: get to know them and stop breaking up with people?
Speaker 4: Scream I'm screaming.
Speaker 3: She's like this is not it.
Speaker 4: I know, I know they like just some time I
Speaker 4: was like, no, I don't want to do this.
Speaker 2: Oh my goodness.
Speaker 3: Okay, well let's talk about after. So, like, as you.
Speaker 2: Were going through the experience of love is Blind and
Speaker 2: walking away from that experience in your mind, did you
Speaker 2: ever think, Okay, I want to do another dating show?
Speaker 3: Did Perfect Match just kind of fall in your lap?
Speaker 3: Like were you prepare?
Speaker 2: Because obviously it's a I mean, we all saw it
Speaker 2: crazy experience, and I'm sure like after that there's a journey,
Speaker 2: there's there's a time here where you're like, Okay, let
Speaker 2: me just acclimate back to like my normal or you know,
Speaker 2: process what I just experienced and what I went through.
Speaker 3: So how was that like timeframe for you?
Speaker 4: Oh my gosh, it was. I needed a lot of
Speaker 4: processing because you know, with filming, it happened you know,
Speaker 4: a year year before it comes out. Like, so I
Speaker 4: in that time, I did a lot of like self
Speaker 4: development and healing and therapy, and I was I was okay.
Speaker 4: The internet was not okay. The Internet was a very
Speaker 4: very harsh, mean place. And I, like I said earlier,
Speaker 4: I am optimist. So I never thought, like I don't
Speaker 4: deserve love or love is never going to find me
Speaker 4: or blah bah blah blah. Like I was just like
Speaker 4: that just wasn't it. It sucked, But I know my
Speaker 4: person is out here, but the Internet made me want
Speaker 4: to bury myself in like some hole somewhere. So when
Speaker 4: Perfect Match, when people reach out to me for Perfect Match,
Speaker 4: I was like absolutely not, no way, no way am
Speaker 4: I going to put myself through that. And I turned
Speaker 4: down Perfect Match. I think three times.
Speaker 3: Oh wow, I don't think I knew that.
Speaker 4: A few times. And one of my really good friends
Speaker 4: here in La I told him that I turned it
Speaker 4: down and he was like, no, you didn't, and I said, no,
Speaker 4: yes I did, and he said give me your phone
Speaker 4: and he took my phone and he opened the email
Speaker 4: and he said, hey, actually, can we set up a
Speaker 4: time to talk. I would love to reconsider sends it.
Speaker 4: I get a call the next morning like, hey, Athy
Speaker 4: would love to have you if this is what you
Speaker 4: want to do, and I'm just like I said no.
Speaker 1: Casting gets straight to to Loom tomorrow Loom. When you
Speaker 1: were talking to the producers, did you tell them this
Speaker 1: is what I want in a man and for me
Speaker 1: to show up you better have that man there because
Speaker 1: I know you came in and.
Speaker 4: You were focused. Yes, I said, I need a grown man.
Speaker 4: I need a grow hell, I don't want They were like,
Speaker 4: what about features? I said, big black and give me.
Speaker 3: I'm going to scream literally big and black love.
Speaker 1: It was all this season out when we filmed.
Speaker 4: I can't remember. Yeah, I think it was only out
Speaker 4: for a few weeks. A girl like a few weeks
Speaker 4: and he was on the plane. Wow, had you turn
Speaker 4: around very quick? No? I saw clips. I did see clips,
Speaker 4: but I never watched. I still to this day, I
Speaker 4: have not watched his full season.
Speaker 1: I did go back and watch, so I thought it
Speaker 1: was a great season.
Speaker 3: I know, my I did love. I loved it, sweet buddy.
Speaker 3: I had to watch that.
Speaker 4: I had I would. When we were into Loom, I
Speaker 4: called my mom and my sisters and I said, y'all,
Speaker 4: I just matched with this guy. Allie watched the show
Speaker 4: and tell me if I should keep dating him, and
Speaker 4: they watched. They like he's okay, and it's like okay,
Speaker 4: oh keep okay.
Speaker 1: So let's I wasn't there, but day one you walk in,
Speaker 1: you and Sandy in the smoke in the jungle, you
Speaker 1: see Ali, you start talking, what were the feelings? Did
Speaker 1: you know right away?
Speaker 3: I know?
Speaker 4: Did I know he was the one? No? But I
Speaker 4: knew he was the one that was gonna be the
Speaker 4: one in that villain.
Speaker 1: Because you were open to the process. Even once I
Speaker 1: got in there. You guys were locked in, but you
Speaker 1: were still kind of like, I'll go on.
Speaker 4: Dates, I'll see what's out there.
Speaker 1: Yeah, were you still open or did you know it
Speaker 1: was Allie?
Speaker 4: I knew it was him. I knew regardless of who
Speaker 4: was out there, I was always going to come back
Speaker 4: to him. I would always be like, yeah, like I
Speaker 4: want to go on dates. I'm open. I'm opening. He's like,
Speaker 4: shut up.
Speaker 3: But I loved watching you for.
Speaker 4: Yeah, thank you. I'm pretty good at it. No, you
Speaker 4: really are, Like.
Speaker 3: I was terrified. I'm like.
Speaker 2: The eye contact like it just which is why I
Speaker 2: do want to ask about, like be in that environment.
Speaker 2: Obviously it's very drastically different than like love is blind,
Speaker 2: like when you guys see everyone after the fact that
Speaker 2: you've already matched with your person. But it's like this
Speaker 2: is a little bit more of a I mean safe
Speaker 2: to say competitive environment where you kind of have to
Speaker 2: like be on your own but it's like yeah, it's
Speaker 2: like claim what's yours and best of luck to you?
Speaker 4: So like, how are you going home?
Speaker 3: I'm right? So how was it?
Speaker 2: Like?
Speaker 3: You seemed very like comfortable in that? Is that fair
Speaker 3: to say?
Speaker 4: I think because one there was like the age ranges
Speaker 4: were all over the place. I mean, from as young
Speaker 4: as what twenty three I don't know, to like thirty six,
Speaker 4: I think thirty five, I don't know, So the age
Speaker 4: ranges were very different. And I like when I saw
Speaker 4: like Louis come in, I'm like, he's twelve, Like what
Speaker 4: do we do here? Like what what is actually happening?
Speaker 4: Like I by the time only came in, I was
Speaker 4: like very deflated. I was like, fuck, like I'm really
Speaker 4: either gonna have to just play this game to stay
Speaker 4: in the house or I'm I'm gonna have to go.
Speaker 4: He walked in, I was like, not only is he
Speaker 4: gorgeous a grown man, like so strong, so hot, And
Speaker 4: I was like, thank you God, I was gonna have
Speaker 4: to just peace out. There was no really no other
Speaker 4: option for me. And even if there were twelve other
Speaker 4: men that were big, tall, you know, statue es men,
Speaker 4: I still like, I don't know there was something about
Speaker 4: the way we zeroed in on each other that I'm
Speaker 4: just like, oh my god, Like it felt different than
Speaker 4: I'm just here for a show. I was like, wait
Speaker 4: a minute, like why is he lying towards me one?
Speaker 4: And why am I like getting there? Like I remember
Speaker 4: he walked in. I was like, oh, like it was
Speaker 4: so awkward, so weird, but he's so hot.
Speaker 3: I love this so much.
Speaker 1: I love yes watching your love story play out. What
Speaker 1: was the difference between your experience on Love is Blind
Speaker 1: and per Match?
Speaker 4: Oh?
Speaker 1: What's perfect Match like more conducive for a relationship to blossom.
Speaker 4: I don't know if it was more conducive, but it
Speaker 4: was just more fun. And I think, what is blind?
Speaker 4: There's so much pressure to get married and find your
Speaker 4: person and get engaged where it's like matches, like find
Speaker 4: your person, have fun doing it and see where it goes.
Speaker 4: Where it's like love is Blind, It's like you need
Speaker 4: to get engaged in ten days. I'm like, okay, and
Speaker 4: then you need to get married three weeks later. You're like, like,
Speaker 4: it's it is like so much pressure where you can
Speaker 4: be hot and fun and see where it goes on
Speaker 4: Perfect Match And that was like that was my bread
Speaker 4: and butter have fun.
Speaker 2: Yeah, well, speaking of obviously you guys having fun. I
Speaker 2: think it's very obvious that as viewers we can see
Speaker 2: that and like we as we all know, editing plays
Speaker 2: a big role in how these shows and you know,
Speaker 2: the relationships are perceived. So between your experience with both
Speaker 2: Love Is Blind and Perfect Match, how do you feel
Speaker 2: like the difference with like editing if you can speak
Speaker 2: to that was, Yeah, it was different.
Speaker 4: Now, I because kinetic and they created both shows, so
Speaker 4: I'm very aware of the way they edit now, and
Speaker 4: I know they're only gonna show or put up what
Speaker 4: you do and say. There is a level of you know,
Speaker 4: TV the TV, but for the most part, if you
Speaker 4: don't do it and you don't say it, it's not
Speaker 4: going to be on the show. So I think for me,
Speaker 4: everything that I did and said, that's what I did. Think.
Speaker 4: There were some timelines that were kind of mixed up,
Speaker 4: which I mentioned before, and a lot of things that
Speaker 4: were kind of like weird, But for the most part,
Speaker 4: I feel like I was portrayed how I presented myself.
Speaker 4: So I don't I don't have an issue. I've never
Speaker 4: I've never been the bad edit good edit kind of girl,
Speaker 4: because like I said, I'm only going to give them
Speaker 4: what I want the world to see. I mean, for
Speaker 4: the most part, I think it was okay, But to
Speaker 4: each edit, I guess.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 1: So we watched you guys fall in love. We watched
Speaker 1: you get forcibly removed from our villa. We watched you
Speaker 1: come back to the villa, and everyone in the house
Speaker 1: was like, this is our couple. They're gonna run away
Speaker 1: with this. I remember being in the boardroom and I said,
Speaker 1: if they don't get married, I don't know what.
Speaker 4: I would do with myself.
Speaker 1: And then we do not hear your name when they
Speaker 1: say perfect match.
Speaker 3: What was going through your brain?
Speaker 1: Because I could not believe.
Speaker 4: It A girl, I figured as much I figured I figured,
Speaker 4: And you know it was a scheme set up.
Speaker 3: By Hello, a scheme setup by Todd.
Speaker 2: His hands was all on it.
Speaker 1: I swear that they just didn't count our votes, and
Speaker 1: they just.
Speaker 4: No, we don't really get to talk to the people
Speaker 4: that don't come into the villa. So when they did
Speaker 4: come in, it was at the boys party or the
Speaker 4: girls party, and they just kind of saw everybody hooking
Speaker 4: up and being a mess, so they don't really get
Speaker 4: to see what me and Allie's relationship was like outside
Speaker 4: of the drama or outside of people hooking up or
Speaker 4: being a mess. So I don't really I don't even
Speaker 4: fuck if they think I'm the perfect match. I thought
Speaker 4: I was, I said there was like, I don't really
Speaker 4: want to plead my case. I don't know any of you.
Speaker 4: I barely like you people, so like, why am I
Speaker 4: sitting here trying to tell you that, like you don't
Speaker 4: like me? What am I doing? I don't care? So
Speaker 4: I was actually kind of glad that they didn't vote
Speaker 4: because it just showed it just played out in real life.
Speaker 4: So I was like what, I couldn't care less. Me
Speaker 4: and Ali we went to Paris after, like, I don't care.
Speaker 4: We don't need I don't need a trip. We figured
Speaker 4: it out. We're good. We're married with a baby now.
Speaker 3: So hello, hello, Yes, and you said it, you went to.
Speaker 2: Paris married and I had it all happened like so quick,
Speaker 2: but honestly, like I'm like, I wish we got to
Speaker 2: see it all, Like you know, I wish the cameras
Speaker 2: technically I know it never stopped rolling, but like in
Speaker 2: our for what we as viewers saw so obviously you
Speaker 2: guys announced your engagement at the reunion.
Speaker 3: How let talk talk me through the Did you know
Speaker 3: what was coming? Like, like what.
Speaker 4: It was coming? Did I think it was coming that soon? No? So,
Speaker 4: but then I was on my second tip to London,
Speaker 4: visiting him post show and.
Speaker 3: Getting spotted everywhere.
Speaker 4: They're just in public, they do not care.
Speaker 3: I was like, no, it was like they were at
Speaker 3: a perfect match.
Speaker 4: Yeah, live in life and careful. Like we had to
Speaker 4: reach out to pr and we're like hey, we They
Speaker 4: were like, you're only like you guys can hang out
Speaker 4: and be seen together, but the only rule is like
Speaker 4: don't hold hands or don't like be huggy lovy. We're like, okay,
Speaker 4: we didn't do any of that. Pictures in Paris, pictures
Speaker 4: in London, pictures in Mexico, pictures everywhere. And we had
Speaker 4: a call Paria and we're like, listen, we're doing our best.
Speaker 4: She's like, girl, there's nothing you can do at that point.
Speaker 4: So then that's where I think behind the scenes, like
Speaker 4: Ali and like production and everybody started being like, well,
Speaker 4: what are we doing? And he's like I want to
Speaker 4: marry her, Like I want to make her my wife,
Speaker 4: and they concocted this whole thing to make me think
Speaker 4: we were doing perfect Match promo. And Ali's like, yeah,
Speaker 4: I'm coming to LA so we can do this promo.
Speaker 4: Like that's so weird that you're coming here for promo,
Speaker 4: Like that's so weird. But my brain could not connect
Speaker 4: the pieces because yeah, what we come to LA and
Speaker 4: I'm like, we don't even have lines to honey. I
Speaker 4: was like, no one sent us our scripts, Like we
Speaker 4: don't even have anything to practice. He's like, yeah, I
Speaker 4: think it's gonna be like really chill. Like so I'm thinking, well,
Speaker 4: if it's going to be chill, if no one cares,
Speaker 4: then I don't care. Then, Like I think, two nights
Speaker 4: before the engagement, I'm ripping off my nails like I
Speaker 4: am just stripping myself and he's looking like, you know,
Speaker 4: like he's like, I was like, I'm like, well, where
Speaker 4: are we filming? He's like, I think on a beach.
Speaker 4: I was like, okay, I'm just gonna wear like a
Speaker 4: cute tank top and maybe some like cut off shorts.
Speaker 3: He's like, he's like, please don't do that. You'll be
Speaker 3: in white. Please let me.
Speaker 5: Yes, Like this is gonna be the first time the
Speaker 5: world sees us together like doing this, like you might
Speaker 5: want to like do something nicer, and I was like okay,
Speaker 5: So I ended up doing my nails and you know
Speaker 5: how like.
Speaker 4: That feeling of irritation when your man is being weird
Speaker 4: but like yes, and you're just like you're pissing me off.
Speaker 3: More than tell me yeah, or just like let's get
Speaker 3: to the point right, you.
Speaker 4: Get there and like literally the producer she's like, okay, ad,
Speaker 4: these are your lines, like you know, perfect match moble
Speaker 4: and like she made me say like one time and
Speaker 4: she's like okay, I think we got it. And I
Speaker 4: was like this is so fun weird.
Speaker 1: Wonder and he's like, I'm really that good.
Speaker 3: I'm done. She was like they like cut.
Speaker 4: And then that's when you see him like bring me
Speaker 4: up the hill of the Sandy Hill and I'm like,
Speaker 4: oh wait, what is happening? What is going on? And
Speaker 4: then oh my god, yeah he did so he did
Speaker 4: so good. It was so beautiful.
Speaker 1: I'm so glad we got to watch it as viewers.
Speaker 1: But can you establish the timeline for us? Did they
Speaker 1: tell you this was gonna air at Love is Blind?
Speaker 1: You were going to be able to announce your pregnancy.
Speaker 1: How did that timeline go?
Speaker 4: No, so I didn't know. I didn't know anything about
Speaker 4: the Love is Blind part. I think I can remember.
Speaker 4: We just had our engagement and it was just supposed
Speaker 4: to be like some kind of display, and I believe
Speaker 4: the executive producers reached out and I'm like, hey, can
Speaker 4: we play this at the end of the Love is
Speaker 4: Blind reunion? And I was like, oh, okay, yeah, why not.
Speaker 4: So I think that's how that came about. And then
Speaker 4: I think was the pregnancy at the end of Perfect
Speaker 4: Match or No.
Speaker 1: It was before, because didn't we do it like during
Speaker 1: press we like talked about it. Yeah.
Speaker 4: I don't remember the timeline exactly of how they pieced
Speaker 4: it all together, But all I know is once we
Speaker 4: got engaged, I was in a whirl wind, like and
Speaker 4: I couldn't wear my ring for too long, Like it
Speaker 4: was just a mess. Yeah, it was really nice to
Speaker 4: have that moment and to be able to do that
Speaker 4: on Love is Blind. And then that Alex Warren song
Speaker 4: what is it called the Is it ordinary? Yes, it's
Speaker 4: kind of like our little thing, Like I don't know,
Speaker 4: it's just it was such a beautiful time.
Speaker 2: I am in awe of you guys, Like you know
Speaker 2: how much I'm like I really am mom and Dad.
Speaker 3: I look up to you guys truly.
Speaker 2: How was it like nurturing and like building y'all's relationship?
Speaker 2: Obviously once y'all were done filming, so like obviously get
Speaker 2: engaged and there's so much still more to like, you know,
Speaker 2: experience and learn and continue to nurture. So how was
Speaker 2: that time together without like the cameras for y'all?
Speaker 4: It was beautiful, but it was short and it's still
Speaker 4: we're still to this day nurturing our relationship. Yeah, we've
Speaker 4: still only been together for like two years at this point,
Speaker 4: and we have a baby, so we're starting to Like
Speaker 4: I think, once we were starting to learn each other
Speaker 4: for who we were as individuals, then we had to
Speaker 4: learn each other for who we were as a married couple,
Speaker 4: and now we're trying to learn each other for who
Speaker 4: we are as parents. So I think as soon as
Speaker 4: we hit the like, oh I think I know who
Speaker 4: you are, it's like, wait, now I'm a wife. Oh
Speaker 4: I think I know you are. Wait now my mom
Speaker 4: and I don't even know who I am. So we
Speaker 4: are in this constant cycle rediscovering who we are and
Speaker 4: falling in love with each other again and learning new
Speaker 4: corks and seeing new things, and now we live together
Speaker 4: and we have a baby. And now I'm watching him
Speaker 4: not only as my husband but a father and I'm
Speaker 4: just like what, like who is this? Like? Who is
Speaker 4: this man that I met at a villa in Mexico?
Speaker 4: And now you're my baby daddy?
Speaker 3: Oh, it's crazy, the first perfect match. Baby?
Speaker 1: What was it like? So you guys had your wedding
Speaker 1: and the birth of your beautiful baby girl. What are
Speaker 1: you comfortable sharing? What was the birth process? Like?
Speaker 4: What's it been like post baby? How is it with her?
Speaker 4: I still remember? Yeah, very fresh. Pregnancy was beautiful. Pregnancy
Speaker 4: was beautiful. And I'm gonna say this with a disclaimer
Speaker 4: because I feel like when people say and see is beautiful,
Speaker 4: it is not. It was just the fact that I
Speaker 4: was able to do what my body was meant to
Speaker 4: do to me, like was the most beautiful thing. Like
Speaker 4: I went through everything. I felt it all. I had
Speaker 4: the morning sickness, I had the pains, the aches, like,
Speaker 4: I had it all, and I just lived in it,
Speaker 4: like I didn't want to complain any of it away
Speaker 4: because I knew how much of a blessing it was,
Speaker 4: so I just lived in it. I went through all
Speaker 4: of it, and I just like Ollie was such a huge,
Speaker 4: huge support, Like he just I know, he does this
Speaker 4: thing where he gets when he gets nervous, y'all, he
Speaker 4: just stops talking. So I don't think he talks to
Speaker 4: me for like six months.
Speaker 1: He's like, whatever you need, let me know, you know,
Speaker 1: so attentive to you.
Speaker 4: Yeah. And then I was kind of like in like
Speaker 4: pre labor for about two days before I delivered her,
Speaker 4: And that was some shit, y'all. I thought I was
Speaker 4: going to be like some strong warrior like, don't need
Speaker 4: any kind of meds and.
Speaker 3: I give it to me now done.
Speaker 4: It's more question. And then she came out and she's
Speaker 4: just been my human, like, oh, she is literally my
Speaker 4: heartbeat outside of my body, like my world, and she's
Speaker 4: just blooming so perfectly. She's growing, she is just and
Speaker 4: she looks just like her daddy, that is her twin goodness.
Speaker 4: Yeah yeah, yeah, Like it's so funny how much like
Speaker 4: she looks like him. She acts like mommy, Like she's
Speaker 4: such a diva, like she knows she wants she's gonna
Speaker 4: get it every single time, Like there's no if answer
Speaker 4: buts about it, but that is they are like they're
Speaker 4: best friend well like such a daddy's girl.
Speaker 2: I absolutely love it, Like y'all are perfect. So, speaking
Speaker 2: of stepping into motherhood, how has that been, balancing career,
Speaker 2: your work, I mean even you know, transitioning into parenthood together,
Speaker 2: like I know, like there's no surprise it takes an
Speaker 2: impact on your relationship, good and bad.
Speaker 3: So how has that been.
Speaker 4: It's been one hell of a transition. Like I said,
Speaker 4: we're only a few months in and then we're still
Speaker 4: in this continual cycle of getting to know each other.
Speaker 4: So we had to put a pause on the you know, flirty, fun,
Speaker 4: sexy going out couple. Okay, now we got to be
Speaker 4: parents right now, Like she needs us, We have to
Speaker 4: be parents. So I think it's strengthen, Like our partnership
Speaker 4: is so strong because everything we do is for the
Speaker 4: good of our daughter, Like that is, we work hard
Speaker 4: for her, We partner parent together hard for her, like
Speaker 4: and we still love each other obviously, we're still like
Speaker 4: so passionately in love with each other. But right now
Speaker 4: she needs us more than we need to like go, Like,
Speaker 4: right now she needs us more than I need a
Speaker 4: new bag, Like right now, she's our priority, and to
Speaker 4: have a partner that like just ebbs and flows with
Speaker 4: what the household needs is key to success. And he's
Speaker 4: so patient.
Speaker 3: He's so patient, like such a good quality.
Speaker 4: Patient, and like in so many ways, because like your
Speaker 4: body is changing, your change mentally, and there's things that
Speaker 4: we're're just like we would have naturally done that we
Speaker 4: just don't do anymore, or like things that we naturally
Speaker 4: said that we just right now. And he said even
Speaker 4: just like last night, he was just like things are
Speaker 4: different and that's okay. And I'm just.
Speaker 2: Like so beautiful to hear.
Speaker 4: It's so good. But I do have a village. I
Speaker 4: do have a lot of help. Like I think the
Speaker 4: people around me are so supportive. I've been able to
Speaker 4: work and bring her with me. Like every time I
Speaker 4: go to like I get invited to these like pr things,
Speaker 4: I'm like, yeah, that's fine. My plus one is my daughter.
Speaker 2: I love that bye actually so cute, no, no, no,
Speaker 2: so sweet.
Speaker 4: My blessed one. And if she can't come, I'm probably
Speaker 4: not gonna go because I just have I feel so
Speaker 4: lucky and so blessed and fortunate that I'm not in
Speaker 4: a nine to five, and I can't create the life
Speaker 4: and the freedom that I want. And I want to
Speaker 4: be able to bring my daughter. I want her to
Speaker 4: see the things. I want her to experience it. And
Speaker 4: because like, what's the point. If I'm not going to
Speaker 4: tag her along, I might as well just be sitting
Speaker 4: behind a desk and typing away. What's the point. So
Speaker 4: I just I'm so so fortunate, and she loves it.
Speaker 4: She soaks it up, and she's just like waving to everybody.
Speaker 4: You know.
Speaker 1: Oh, speaking of work, ad, you are the face face
Speaker 1: like of Netflix Reality.
Speaker 4: You are the podcast host for What's the Reality?
Speaker 1: What has that been like? Having to manage that balance
Speaker 1: being a host and a mother.
Speaker 4: Easier than I thought, Easier than I thought. Three months postpartum,
Speaker 4: I was on a plane to Atlanta with my baby
Speaker 4: to film Love Is Blind Reunion to help do that
Speaker 4: you know, interview thing, which I thought was so cool.
Speaker 4: And then I came back to film my podcast and
Speaker 4: my team is so accommodating. You guys. They built a
Speaker 4: nursery in the back so I can bring her like.
Speaker 1: Stream room out nursery in Oh my gosh, that's so wonderful, so.
Speaker 4: Truly so, and you know, there's never a time where
Speaker 4: I'm like it's either her or like it's her, it's her,
Speaker 4: and and I think everyone around me has kind of
Speaker 4: fallen in line like if if she's first, everything else
Speaker 4: has to come after. And I think a lot of
Speaker 4: people around me realizing, like I'm not budging on that.
Speaker 4: So it's been easier than I thought. I'm just if
Speaker 4: it's not her, I'm not doing it. I'm not to
Speaker 4: tell you.
Speaker 2: I absolutely love that, Like I think it's such a blessing.
Speaker 2: Like you know, it's like you said, we're so fortunate
Speaker 2: to not have to have like a traditional nine to five,
Speaker 2: like the beauty that like you just have a team
Speaker 2: around you that sees you and your daughter and your
Speaker 2: family and like wants to support you in that. I'm like,
Speaker 2: you know, in America were going through a lot like
Speaker 2: to have that.
Speaker 3: Is it's such a lucky It's a luxury.
Speaker 2: Truly, So I'm so happy for you, Like really, yes,
Speaker 2: thank you.
Speaker 1: Before we transition, I just want to ask what is
Speaker 1: next for you?
Speaker 4: I know people hate this question. Would you do more
Speaker 4: reality TV?
Speaker 3: More babies?
Speaker 1: What can we expect next? No?
Speaker 4: More babies. She's like, ohqua, No, right now, I'm not
Speaker 4: focused on babies. I am just wanting to give her
Speaker 4: all of me and I don't have the time to
Speaker 4: be pregnant and focused on a running around baby. No,
Speaker 4: She's getting everything I have right now. Every extra minute
Speaker 4: is going to her. And we can discuss this in
Speaker 4: you know, ten years if we haven't. Right now, right now,
Speaker 4: it's her something so exciting. I just signed with a
Speaker 4: literary agent and I am working on publishing a book,
Speaker 4: and I am so excited. We are in negotiations right
Speaker 4: now with publishers and editors and trying to get me
Speaker 4: the best deal and trying to get the people the
Speaker 4: best stories. So right now I'm working on that, which
Speaker 4: has been kind of stressful, but so exciting. Y'all. This
Speaker 4: book has been on my heart since like twenty sixteen.
Speaker 4: The fact that it's coming to fruition is like a dream.
Speaker 4: And the fact that I'll have something tangible for my
Speaker 4: daughter be like what mommy you know, went through, or
Speaker 4: she has questions or if I'm not around, she can
Speaker 4: flip to page thirty five and see what we would
Speaker 4: do or what mommy would say. So I'm leaving that
Speaker 4: as a legacy and reality TV I would love to
Speaker 4: do like more like maybe game shows, not like the
Speaker 4: challenge shows or anything, because I'm not that athletic anymore.
Speaker 4: I just want to like be on like is it
Speaker 4: Cake or something like. I'm still pushing for you both
Speaker 4: on Traders.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm like a season I should No, actually I
Speaker 2: love that. I'm like, let's form an alliance and we'll
Speaker 2: be Traders together.
Speaker 3: I don't care.
Speaker 2: Okay, on everybody, Okay, like y'all no idea what's.
Speaker 3: Coming would be so ty.
Speaker 2: But yeah, somebody whoever's listening, you support this dream of
Speaker 2: ours manifesting it today.
Speaker 1: And congratulations Ady, just add author to the list of
Speaker 1: amazing accomplishments. You are so wonderful and we are both
Speaker 1: so lucky to know you and have you here.
Speaker 4: Thank you.
Speaker 2: Yes, Okay, we're gonna do a little bit of a
Speaker 2: game if that's cool with you. We love a little
Speaker 2: quick games. So it's reality TV rapid fire. We're gonna
Speaker 2: give you some rapid fire questions all about dating and
Speaker 2: reality TV. So you just have to like choose, easy enough, Okay,
Speaker 2: I'll do the first one.
Speaker 3: Love is Blood or perfect Match?
Speaker 2: Perfect Match?
Speaker 3: I knew it.
Speaker 4: Pods or paradise O paradise.
Speaker 2: Okay, biggest green flag, kindness, biggest red.
Speaker 4: Flag, Oh, biggest red flag. There's so many like my
Speaker 4: fel opened up. Biggest red flag, biggest red flag. Damn y'all,
Speaker 4: well come back, got back to it.
Speaker 3: Okay, okay.
Speaker 2: One reality dating show you'd love to appear on as
Speaker 2: a guest mentor.
Speaker 4: Ooh, I would love to show up on Love Is
Speaker 4: Blind as a mentor. I think that would be.
Speaker 3: Fun, right.
Speaker 4: I love that you and Ollie like you guys and girls.
Speaker 4: But yeah, give a little tea. I love that.
Speaker 1: The best relationship advice you've ever received?
Speaker 4: Mmmm, probably from my mom, And I mean she's told
Speaker 4: me a lot of things. But I think, listen to
Speaker 4: your heart. I think I as women, we battle and
Speaker 4: we think that our brain knows it all, and really
Speaker 4: it's your heart. Follow follow follow your heart, follow your heart.
Speaker 2: Mm hmm. That's good.
Speaker 3: Okay. The most overrated dating trend right now?
Speaker 4: Okay, what are the people doing? I don't know. Moved right,
Speaker 4: I don't know.
Speaker 3: I couldn't.
Speaker 4: That is the trend.
Speaker 2: Ain't doing enough?
Speaker 3: So that's the most.
Speaker 4: Listening to gurus on TikTok. That'll dingle and lonely for
Speaker 4: the rest of your life and you listen to somebody
Speaker 4: telling you you don't need a man.
Speaker 2: Good come on, come on, come on, come on, come on.
Speaker 2: I can I can get behind that. I truly can't.
Speaker 1: The one thing that fans always assume about you that's
Speaker 1: completely wrong.
Speaker 4: They assume that I care, and I don't. They truly care.
Speaker 4: I really don't. If it's not about what's happening in
Speaker 4: this house, I don't care. I don't care.
Speaker 3: I love that.
Speaker 2: Yep.
Speaker 3: Okay.
Speaker 2: If Netflix called tomorrow for another reality show, what kind
Speaker 2: would actually tempt you to say?
Speaker 4: Yes again? Something fun? Is it Cake? I'm on it
Speaker 4: because I can always.
Speaker 3: Is it Cake? No, I'm.
Speaker 4: No.
Speaker 2: I'm like, I haven't seen enough of it, so I
Speaker 2: gotta go and then tune it.
Speaker 1: Every day eighties on her phone with like is it
Speaker 1: k updates?
Speaker 3: That's her FYP.
Speaker 4: No. Literally, it's changed my brain chemistry because then people
Speaker 4: in real life are doing it. I'm like, I don't
Speaker 4: know if it's cake, I don't know. That is inside
Speaker 4: joke where it's like if somebody's like faith or phony
Speaker 4: or weird, will be like, Okay, well your cake, so
Speaker 4: it doesn't even is it. K we just start calling
Speaker 4: people cake. I love that.
Speaker 2: Okay, we're not gonna let you off the hook.
Speaker 3: We got to go back to the red flag.
Speaker 4: So that's right.
Speaker 5: I forgot.
Speaker 4: I would say someone that's never been in love, que's
Speaker 4: red flag? Okay at this gage? Yeah that's good.
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, yeah, very true. I love that these are
Speaker 3: all good.
Speaker 5: I know.
Speaker 1: Thank you for making my dreams come true and coming
Speaker 1: on this podcast. I am so to know you and I'm.
Speaker 4: So happy for you and all of your accomplishments.
Speaker 1: Thank you everyone else for joining us on Bachelor Happy
Speaker 1: Hour and ad where can people find you if they're
Speaker 1: not already following you?
Speaker 4: Oh, if you're not following me, you can find me
Speaker 4: on Instagram, Amber Desiree or TikTok. It's Amber Desiree and
Speaker 4: What's the Reality every Wednesday on Thank You or wherever
Speaker 4: you find your podcast.
Speaker 2: And we love that.
Speaker 3: I am overdue to come back so very soon.
Speaker 2: Maybe Postway will come listen.
Speaker 3: No, I love that couch. I said, that's a couch
Speaker 3: I want to sit on forever, so I will be back.
Speaker 2: Your name on the bed no, literally reserved for Jarney Lawson.
Speaker 4: That's mel I got the unedited of that.
Speaker 2: No listen, I'm like, if that ever got released from one,
Speaker 2: I'm done. Done, I am done for so next time
Speaker 2: it will be me and Dot and then Allie has
Speaker 2: to be there.
Speaker 3: That's stuff.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 4: Ye, I'm so grateful for you guys. You guys are
Speaker 4: so fun, so so we love you for having me.
Speaker 4: This has been so fun.
Speaker 3: Thank you, We love you.
Speaker 2: And as always, for our listeners, make sure you're keeping
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