WEBVTT - “I’M ENTERING A NEW ERA” 0:00:00.240 --> 0:00:01.240 Hi. What's your name? 0:00:01.560 --> 0:00:03.880 My name is Let's go with Dave. 0:00:04.680 --> 0:00:07.160 Dave. What's up, Dave? How you doing? 0:00:08.360 --> 0:00:11.360 I'm doing pretty good. I'm just hanging out waiting by 0:00:11.760 --> 0:00:16.159 my window because I'm getting an important package today. But 0:00:17.079 --> 0:00:20.960 my apartment doesn't have a buzzer, so he's hanging out 0:00:21.920 --> 0:00:22.920 waiting for the mailman. 0:00:23.120 --> 0:00:28.720 And if you're like a wife at the pier waiting 0:00:28.720 --> 0:00:30.640 for her sailor husband to return to. 0:00:30.640 --> 0:00:36.080 Her, yeah, it feels very wistful, kind of like that. 0:00:36.840 --> 0:00:39.920 Yeah, yeah, may that. May I ask what's in the 0:00:39.960 --> 0:00:41.159 package that you're waiting for? 0:00:42.600 --> 0:00:45.920 It is the title to my car because it's it 0:00:46.040 --> 0:00:49.159 was my parents' carbet we're transferring it, but they live 0:00:49.200 --> 0:00:52.360 out of state, so just hanging out. 0:00:54.480 --> 0:00:58.680 Okay, that's nice. That's quite an adult because I remember 0:00:58.680 --> 0:01:00.400 when I was a kid and I was waiting for package, 0:01:00.440 --> 0:01:03.480 it was usually like a toy or a game or something. 0:01:03.520 --> 0:01:06.160 And now where now that we're old, we're waiting for 0:01:06.200 --> 0:01:08.640 the title to our car, which is and we're just 0:01:08.680 --> 0:01:14.920 as excited because it feels good to complete the navigation 0:01:15.040 --> 0:01:25.560 of bureaucracy in a competent way. Yes, hopefully it's well, Weave, Dave, 0:01:25.640 --> 0:01:28.680 I assume that, and by the way, totally fine if 0:01:28.680 --> 0:01:32.039 it was. But is there a particular thing that you 0:01:32.080 --> 0:01:35.720 called in to want to talk about. 0:01:36.040 --> 0:01:38.199 I mean, I've been watching your show for a while 0:01:38.640 --> 0:01:42.480 and I feel like over the months there have been 0:01:42.520 --> 0:01:45.600 different things that I've wanted to call in for, but 0:01:45.959 --> 0:01:48.760 at this stage in my life, like it's it's I 0:01:48.760 --> 0:01:51.600 don't know this the past couple of months, it's been 0:01:52.840 --> 0:01:58.680 a lot of changes, new job, just feeling different in general. 0:01:59.280 --> 0:02:03.400 At my previous job, I was super underworked, which was 0:02:03.440 --> 0:02:08.400 like a weird feeling. I wanted to tell him about 0:02:08.400 --> 0:02:09.800 that before. 0:02:10.560 --> 0:02:17.320 You were feeling underworked? Yes, what what was that job? 0:02:18.840 --> 0:02:23.480 I was doing? Like events for a nonprofit? 0:02:25.520 --> 0:02:30.919 Okay, how many events does a nonprofit have per quarter? 0:02:32.840 --> 0:02:41.200 Like you could do? Probably you could. You could do 0:02:41.280 --> 0:02:46.160 one a week if you wanted to, but you I 0:02:46.200 --> 0:02:49.679 wanted to have weekends. Like yeah, it's yeah. 0:02:49.760 --> 0:02:58.400 You okay, all right? So over the huh See, it 0:02:58.480 --> 0:03:01.000 sounds like you had a lot of things that were 0:03:01.000 --> 0:03:05.480 stressing you out, but now this happens to sometimes it's 0:03:05.480 --> 0:03:06.920 like you have a lot of things that are stressing 0:03:06.960 --> 0:03:09.520 you out, but then you let a little bit of 0:03:09.560 --> 0:03:12.320 time pass and then you realize that it fucking didn't 0:03:12.320 --> 0:03:15.519 matter at all. You know you were gonna be fine. 0:03:16.320 --> 0:03:18.480 Is that what's happening right now? Or am I making 0:03:18.480 --> 0:03:19.000 an a leap? 0:03:22.720 --> 0:03:25.480 I guess you could say that somewhat of a leap, 0:03:28.919 --> 0:03:34.880 Like I'm still adjusting to my new situation and adjusting 0:03:34.920 --> 0:03:37.320 to a new state. I've been here for a year. 0:03:37.400 --> 0:03:37.720 Now. 0:03:38.280 --> 0:03:39.680 What's the new state? 0:03:40.920 --> 0:03:41.880 Massachusetts? 0:03:42.360 --> 0:03:45.360 Massachusetts? What you're doing in Massachusetts? 0:03:46.840 --> 0:03:54.880 I'm living my life, just walking around and walking in 0:03:54.880 --> 0:04:02.520 the woods and cooking. Learned how to cook mochi the 0:04:02.560 --> 0:04:03.040 other day. 0:04:04.520 --> 0:04:06.400 That's great, that's good. 0:04:06.720 --> 0:04:07.760 I'm not being a get go. 0:04:08.640 --> 0:04:13.080 What what are you is the adjustment? What are you 0:04:13.120 --> 0:04:15.640 adjusting to? What do you feel like there is left 0:04:15.640 --> 0:04:16.200 to adjust to? 0:04:18.279 --> 0:04:21.080 You can't always say that's what's weird. 0:04:21.200 --> 0:04:21.520 Is like. 0:04:23.440 --> 0:04:27.799 When you start a new grade or a new school 0:04:27.960 --> 0:04:31.600 when you're growing up, it's it's very clear what there 0:04:31.680 --> 0:04:33.760 is that you need to adjust to your like, oh, yeah, 0:04:33.800 --> 0:04:37.120 I feel this way because I need friends, or I 0:04:37.160 --> 0:04:40.520 feel which if it's like all of the above, and 0:04:41.800 --> 0:04:43.839 you know, it's kind of hard to pinpoint one thing. 0:04:44.400 --> 0:04:47.240 But I switched over to a new job that I 0:04:47.360 --> 0:04:53.000 like more so that helped I've made a few friends now, 0:04:53.680 --> 0:04:57.240 so it's pretty good. 0:04:56.880 --> 0:04:58.000 How old are. 0:04:57.920 --> 0:05:01.080 You I just turned twenty four? 0:05:02.080 --> 0:05:09.719 Very cool? Yeah, that's good. Friends are the most important 0:05:09.720 --> 0:05:14.000 thing in life. I do feel. I do feel friends 0:05:14.040 --> 0:05:16.799 are the most important thing in life. Nothing really matters 0:05:16.800 --> 0:05:25.719 if you if you don't have friends. Nothing about that? 0:05:26.560 --> 0:05:27.920 Yeah, because not nothing. 0:05:28.279 --> 0:05:30.000 What do you hold on when you so when you 0:05:30.000 --> 0:05:32.320 think about when you said you think about that sometimes, 0:05:32.320 --> 0:05:34.160 what do you think about when you're thinking about that? 0:05:36.080 --> 0:05:42.159 I mean, I guess I think do I need to 0:05:42.240 --> 0:05:45.880 spend more time with my friends and my peers or 0:05:45.920 --> 0:05:49.520 do I need to spend more time by myself? 0:05:51.880 --> 0:05:53.520 Oh that's an interesting question. 0:05:55.120 --> 0:05:58.080 I feel like at this stage of life, since I'm 0:05:58.120 --> 0:06:00.680 new here, I really only know my girlfriend and so 0:06:00.800 --> 0:06:05.520 we hang out together every day. But I feel like 0:06:06.120 --> 0:06:12.800 your communication style kind of evolves in tandem with one person. 0:06:12.839 --> 0:06:15.200 If you're only hanging out with one person every day, 0:06:15.360 --> 0:06:17.920 you don't get all the new ideas, Like you don't 0:06:17.960 --> 0:06:23.520 get definite Yeah, like I want to hear people say 0:06:23.560 --> 0:06:27.920 like interesting novel things to me that it's like, where 0:06:27.960 --> 0:06:30.520 did you get that? I was talking with my one 0:06:30.560 --> 0:06:34.640 of my new friends about this guy was friends with 0:06:35.040 --> 0:06:35.680 who had all. 0:06:35.560 --> 0:06:37.440 These really all the time. 0:06:37.760 --> 0:06:41.560 That is a really funny. So just I'm sorry, I 0:06:41.560 --> 0:06:43.240 want to let you finish, but that's a really really 0:06:43.400 --> 0:06:48.440 funny way to talk about wanting new friends, because there 0:06:48.520 --> 0:06:53.719 is truth to its total. I absolutely want to be 0:06:53.800 --> 0:06:59.360 around people who are saying interesting novel things. That's one 0:06:59.400 --> 0:07:05.359 of the exciting things about being around new people. Uh So, 0:07:05.480 --> 0:07:08.480 I like the way you phrased that, So go ahead. 0:07:08.520 --> 0:07:10.520 You met somebody who's a conspiracy theorist. 0:07:13.160 --> 0:07:18.880 Oh that was that was some friends I had. Well 0:07:19.240 --> 0:07:21.880 I've met a few different conspiracy purities in my life. 0:07:22.000 --> 0:07:26.240 But okay, so you just so, you just are hanging 0:07:26.280 --> 0:07:27.920 out with your girlfriend, and where would you if you 0:07:27.960 --> 0:07:29.760 wanted to meet new people? Where would you go? 0:07:30.760 --> 0:07:35.720 M So, this is something I wanted to tell you. Yeah, 0:07:36.280 --> 0:07:40.320 because it's I came up with this plot and I 0:07:40.400 --> 0:07:43.840 call it like the old fashioned way of making friends, okay, 0:07:43.880 --> 0:07:46.559 and it's you go to the bar once a week, 0:07:46.960 --> 0:07:48.600 you go to the gym once a week, and you 0:07:48.680 --> 0:07:52.920 go to church or whatever religious organization you go to 0:07:53.000 --> 0:07:57.680 once a week. Look at and that's the old that's 0:07:57.680 --> 0:07:58.360 how they did it. 0:07:58.360 --> 0:08:02.480 In the whenever the thing, look at this guy, look 0:08:02.480 --> 0:08:05.920 at this guy, he has a plan. This guy is 0:08:06.360 --> 0:08:06.680 I did not. 0:08:06.880 --> 0:08:08.800 I came up with that like a year ago and 0:08:08.840 --> 0:08:10.920 I never really followed through. 0:08:11.640 --> 0:08:14.000 No, that's a great plan. I like that plan. 0:08:15.720 --> 0:08:19.080 Yeah, I don't know. I mean the gym. 0:08:18.720 --> 0:08:21.000 The gym, well, I mean the gym's the gym is 0:08:21.040 --> 0:08:24.040 good because it just makes you feel better, but it's 0:08:24.120 --> 0:08:27.800 not I've never particularly saw saw the gym as a 0:08:27.840 --> 0:08:30.800 social activity. I mean, I have a friend or two 0:08:30.880 --> 0:08:32.920 that I'll go to the gym with, but it's not 0:08:33.080 --> 0:08:36.160 a situation where I've ever met new people doing it. 0:08:36.400 --> 0:08:39.600 You could do like there's you know, classes, or like 0:08:39.840 --> 0:08:41.760 you could you could file that, you know what instead 0:08:41.800 --> 0:08:44.520 of the gym. You could file it under like fucking 0:08:44.760 --> 0:08:49.960 physical activity, right, like do a fucking soccer or whatever 0:08:50.120 --> 0:08:54.280 thing or you know, go bouldering or some shit like that. 0:08:55.080 --> 0:08:57.200 You know. I like that plan. You go to the 0:08:57.280 --> 0:09:00.319 church once a week, you go to the what was 0:09:00.400 --> 0:09:03.560 the fucking other one though? Uh, the bar, go to 0:09:03.600 --> 0:09:05.880 the bar once a week, and you go to the 0:09:08.440 --> 0:09:10.480 do a physical activity once a week. That's like three 0:09:10.559 --> 0:09:14.400 days a week that you're Yeah, and then when you're 0:09:14.440 --> 0:09:16.400 in while you're there, you got to challenge yourself to 0:09:16.440 --> 0:09:18.720 talk to some new people. 0:09:18.679 --> 0:09:23.400 You know. Yeah, I don't know how to approach strangers. 0:09:24.320 --> 0:09:27.360 I never really learned. I mean I was the kid 0:09:27.360 --> 0:09:30.040 in high school who would walk around and say hi 0:09:30.120 --> 0:09:32.800 to every single person in the hallway that I possibly could, 0:09:33.280 --> 0:09:36.880 and I got to know like half the school. But 0:09:37.000 --> 0:09:42.760 then you go to and you're just the weirdo. So 0:09:42.920 --> 0:09:45.680 I stopped. Yeah, it was like the friendly kid. 0:09:45.760 --> 0:09:48.600 Wait a minute, really, when you say, can you tell 0:09:48.600 --> 0:09:52.400 me more about this? You went up to everyone around 0:09:52.440 --> 0:09:53.439 you and said hello. 0:09:55.760 --> 0:10:01.800 Yeah. It was like my whole thing was I got so. 0:10:02.720 --> 0:10:10.600 I studied sociology in college, among other things, but I 0:10:10.640 --> 0:10:13.240 did that partly because in high school I was super 0:10:13.280 --> 0:10:19.520 into making these surveys and like going around to everyone 0:10:19.559 --> 0:10:24.600 in the school and like asking them, you know, a 0:10:24.679 --> 0:10:28.800 multiple choice question and then like getting all that information. 0:10:32.440 --> 0:10:34.520 You would ask people multiple choice questions. 0:10:35.640 --> 0:10:38.439 Yeah, that was like what I did during lunch every day. 0:10:38.600 --> 0:10:40.520 What kind of like just for fun, Like this wasn't 0:10:40.520 --> 0:10:41.960 an assignment. You just did this for fun. 0:10:43.440 --> 0:10:45.560 Yeah, questions. 0:10:45.640 --> 0:10:47.040 Can I hear some of the questions that you might 0:10:47.080 --> 0:10:47.800 have asked? 0:10:48.800 --> 0:10:55.440 It was like, I mean, one of them it was 0:10:55.480 --> 0:11:00.440 anything from like where would you land your spaceship. If 0:11:00.480 --> 0:11:04.240 you were a Martian invading Earth and you want to 0:11:04.280 --> 0:11:07.880 set up like a new capital city, okay, and everyone 0:11:07.920 --> 0:11:09.680 would choose that and then. 0:11:11.200 --> 0:11:13.600 Or some of them would be effect Was this effective 0:11:13.640 --> 0:11:15.200 for you? Do you feel like you do you feel 0:11:15.240 --> 0:11:18.680 more integrated into the larger community as a result of 0:11:18.720 --> 0:11:19.960 your surveys? 0:11:21.320 --> 0:11:24.559 I think I did. I think people saw me. I 0:11:24.679 --> 0:11:28.920 was like a familiar face, even if I didn't have 0:11:29.080 --> 0:11:33.400 a lot of super close friends. 0:11:35.000 --> 0:11:37.400 And then you tried this again in college and people 0:11:37.440 --> 0:11:38.280 thought you were weird. 0:11:39.960 --> 0:11:41.760 Oh I didn't. I didn't do that in college. 0:11:41.840 --> 0:11:44.320 But but you, but you alluded to that you said 0:11:44.360 --> 0:11:46.320 something that you felt weird. 0:11:47.440 --> 0:11:49.880 Yeah, just like saying hi to everyone you pass and 0:11:50.000 --> 0:11:54.960 like because it's not normal to stay hi to everyone. 0:11:55.760 --> 0:11:57.640 Yeah, but I learned that. 0:11:59.000 --> 0:11:59.240 Yeah. 0:11:59.320 --> 0:12:03.160 So if someone could you imagine that guy where like 0:12:03.240 --> 0:12:05.600 you walk past you walk past them and you say hello, 0:12:06.280 --> 0:12:08.120 and then they go, look at that fuck their fucking 0:12:08.160 --> 0:12:10.559 asshole saying hello to me. It's like, you know, screw 0:12:10.600 --> 0:12:13.959 that guy. That's not Yeah even if that, even if 0:12:13.960 --> 0:12:16.320 that is a guy that you imagine in your head, 0:12:16.360 --> 0:12:18.760 the guy who when you say hi to them, he 0:12:18.800 --> 0:12:23.040 goes what a fucking horrible man saying hi to everyone. Yea, 0:12:23.440 --> 0:12:25.280 even if that is the guy, even if the guy 0:12:25.320 --> 0:12:28.640 you have in your head exists, that's that, you know, 0:12:28.880 --> 0:12:30.839 it doesn't matter because you were never going to reach 0:12:30.920 --> 0:12:32.560 him anyway, and I don't know if you wanted to 0:12:33.360 --> 0:12:34.520 even talk to that person. 0:12:35.080 --> 0:12:41.000 You know. See, I've noticed I have less social anxiety 0:12:41.160 --> 0:12:46.360 just walking around in the mornings here and then because 0:12:46.400 --> 0:12:49.160 there's something to say. You say good morning when you 0:12:49.200 --> 0:12:54.959 watch and like I went to Mexico recently and you 0:12:55.480 --> 0:12:59.920 have good morning, good afternoon, good evening, all in your toolbox. 0:13:02.840 --> 0:13:04.760 You say good afternoon. 0:13:04.960 --> 0:13:09.600 What's good? Buenos dias, buenos tardes, buenos nochez. 0:13:10.920 --> 0:13:14.400 Yeah, it's very reassuring. And one time I said all 0:13:14.480 --> 0:13:16.320 up to someone I passed on the street and they 0:13:16.360 --> 0:13:18.240 looked at me like I was crazy. So you have 0:13:18.240 --> 0:13:20.600 should start those three you should. 0:13:20.720 --> 0:13:25.079 Yeah, you should start just around your around uh Boston, 0:13:25.400 --> 0:13:28.640 being just saying buenos to people and see what happens. 0:13:29.520 --> 0:13:34.760 That could be kind of fun Yeah, that is that 0:13:34.880 --> 0:13:38.480 is funny. That is funny that when you like walk 0:13:38.520 --> 0:13:41.880 around in the mornings because there's something to talk about, 0:13:41.960 --> 0:13:45.200 which is the fact that it's morning. It's like, you 0:13:45.200 --> 0:13:49.440 don't have to scramble for something to connect with others on. 0:13:50.120 --> 0:13:53.199 You can just connect with them on the simple level 0:13:53.400 --> 0:13:57.920 that that it is morning slash afternoons slash evening. That's good, 0:13:58.280 --> 0:14:05.880 that's good. Uh yeah, do you Okay, so you were 0:14:05.920 --> 0:14:08.000 just hanging out with your girlfriend, but do you have friends? 0:14:08.720 --> 0:14:10.839 In Massachusetts already? 0:14:12.040 --> 0:14:15.680 I met the very It took like a year to 0:14:15.840 --> 0:14:21.720 make to start making friends, which I think I could 0:14:21.760 --> 0:14:26.560 have done it in less than that. But we're here now, 0:14:27.080 --> 0:14:29.840 and yeah, I hung out with two friends in the 0:14:29.840 --> 0:14:30.400 past week. 0:14:32.080 --> 0:14:35.280 Two friends is good. Two friends is good. There's some 0:14:35.480 --> 0:14:38.040 I was watching some stupid YouTube video and it said 0:14:38.040 --> 0:14:42.680 something like most Americans haven't have Americans have an average 0:14:42.720 --> 0:14:48.120 of two friends. So but an average is not Like, 0:14:48.160 --> 0:14:50.640 so there's a lot of lonely people who have no friends, 0:14:50.680 --> 0:14:52.120 and then a lot of socialites so have a lot 0:14:52.160 --> 0:14:55.400 of friends. You add them all together and divide it 0:14:55.440 --> 0:14:58.240 by whatever, and you get to you get two friends 0:14:58.400 --> 0:15:00.800 a pop. So if you got to at least two friends, 0:15:00.800 --> 0:15:04.320 you're doing good. You're better than the national average. 0:15:04.680 --> 0:15:04.920 Yeah. 0:15:07.040 --> 0:15:11.040 Yeah, it's weird when you have friends you can't see 0:15:11.120 --> 0:15:15.120 too much in different time zone, different part of the country, 0:15:17.040 --> 0:15:21.280 because you feel like you can feel yourself like growing apart. 0:15:25.040 --> 0:15:35.000 Yeah, what's your name again, Dave? Dave? Well, let's see 0:15:36.120 --> 0:15:38.560 do we have any you know what? I want to 0:15:38.600 --> 0:15:40.720 take some questions from the chat. I don't know why 0:15:41.680 --> 0:15:44.120 I like taking questions from the Actually I do know why. 0:15:44.120 --> 0:15:46.120 I don't know why I said, I don't know why. 0:15:47.200 --> 0:15:49.200 Actually I do know why. I said. I don't know why. 0:15:49.240 --> 0:15:51.640 I said I don't know why because I lacked confidence 0:15:51.680 --> 0:15:57.760 in my decision. M hm, and so I'm gonna have 0:15:57.880 --> 0:16:01.760 confidence in my decision. Sorry, I'm acting like a lunatic. 0:16:01.760 --> 0:16:05.200 All right, Let's get some questions from the chat. If 0:16:05.200 --> 0:16:08.360 the chat has any questions for Dave. Someone wants to 0:16:08.440 --> 0:16:11.920 know what car are you waiting for the title. 0:16:11.640 --> 0:16:15.880 To It's a Honda Odyssey Van. 0:16:17.200 --> 0:16:18.520 Oh that's pretty cool. 0:16:19.680 --> 0:16:22.640 Mm hmmm uh yes. 0:16:23.520 --> 0:16:29.840 Someone said, do you think I'm going to survive during 0:16:29.880 --> 0:16:34.720 this hurricane in Florida? 0:16:35.000 --> 0:16:41.320 Well? I think so, someone asked. 0:16:42.120 --> 0:16:45.160 Someone asked, if if you have if you're gonna have 0:16:45.280 --> 0:16:46.240 sex in the van? 0:16:49.160 --> 0:16:51.280 Am I am I going to? 0:16:53.880 --> 0:16:55.800 I guess we have? Have you? 0:16:56.360 --> 0:16:56.680 Have you? 0:17:00.160 --> 0:17:00.880 Yes and no? 0:17:02.560 --> 0:17:04.880 How can it be yes and yes? And no, no, no. 0:17:05.359 --> 0:17:11.399 The first question yes, the second question no, because I 0:17:11.520 --> 0:17:14.280 now use it as a second closet because we don't 0:17:14.280 --> 0:17:15.400 have any closets here. 0:17:16.160 --> 0:17:22.679 Wait will buzzer, wait wait wait wait wait, the question is, well, 0:17:22.960 --> 0:17:27.560 let me see the question where does it say? Uh wait, 0:17:27.680 --> 0:17:29.359 let me actually see what the actual question was. The 0:17:29.440 --> 0:17:37.399 question was, yeah, have you he said, oh wait, the 0:17:37.520 --> 0:17:41.520 question he said he he finna get niaky in the van. 0:17:41.560 --> 0:17:43.240 And now someone just said, do you fucking it? I 0:17:43.280 --> 0:17:45.960 think that was the question, so I guess whatever they 0:17:45.960 --> 0:17:47.040 answer that question. 0:17:46.920 --> 0:17:52.480 Is no, I use it for storage. Okay, I have 0:17:53.720 --> 0:17:54.840 so much stuff in there. 0:17:55.359 --> 0:17:59.080 Okay, somebody No, somebody said, he's trying to say he 0:17:59.200 --> 0:18:01.919 has had sex in the van already, but he is 0:18:01.960 --> 0:18:05.200 not going to in the future. Yeah, you got it, 0:18:05.200 --> 0:18:08.639 all right, okay, all right, that's what I thought. All Right, 0:18:08.680 --> 0:18:12.480 we'll take one more question from the chat. Let's see, 0:18:15.280 --> 0:18:18.280 uh oh, what is your what's your favorite band? 0:18:20.920 --> 0:18:22.840 I don't I don't have one anymore. 0:18:24.840 --> 0:18:29.560 Everything is so cryptic with you, I see. 0:18:29.720 --> 0:18:33.040 I feel like I don't think. 0:18:32.960 --> 0:18:35.760 That's such a cryptic answer. No, no, no, because that is 0:18:35.760 --> 0:18:38.200 an answer, right you You said I don't have one. 0:18:38.200 --> 0:18:41.840 Anymore which used to have but and you but you 0:18:41.880 --> 0:18:45.040 did that on is the leading things? But it's okay, 0:18:45.080 --> 0:18:47.959 what's the What was the band that you had? Had 0:18:47.960 --> 0:18:48.600 a favorite one? 0:18:51.480 --> 0:18:57.160 In college? I really liked like eighties Scottish rock based 0:18:57.960 --> 0:19:00.880 and for some reason, so I listened to a lot 0:19:00.920 --> 0:19:09.160 of the Water Boys and Big Country and that other one. 0:19:09.640 --> 0:19:14.400 I can't remember, but yeah, that's cool eighties Scottish rock. 0:19:15.720 --> 0:19:18.040 Is there a fucking do they have a what's the 0:19:18.119 --> 0:19:20.600 name of that instrument? What's the name of the come on? 0:19:20.640 --> 0:19:25.360 What's the name of the hurdy gurdy? No, they're what harmonica? 0:19:25.600 --> 0:19:28.959 The bagpipes? Do they play bagpipes in the Scottish rock bands? 0:19:30.200 --> 0:19:35.800 No, they but they would so they would modify their 0:19:35.880 --> 0:19:39.160 guitars to kind of sound like bad bagpipes, a little 0:19:39.160 --> 0:19:47.760 bit like the electric guitars. Yeah, electric Scottish. 0:19:47.800 --> 0:19:51.359 Well, Dave, was this was this conversation? Did you enjoy 0:19:51.440 --> 0:19:52.440 having this conversation? 0:19:54.920 --> 0:19:57.920 I think so. I know that's cryptic. 0:19:59.480 --> 0:20:01.119 I was. I expected nothing less. 0:20:01.440 --> 0:20:04.360 I would like to ask you for some advice though, 0:20:07.080 --> 0:20:09.760 just to get I need to I need to think 0:20:09.800 --> 0:20:28.119 of what is the most pressing thing right now? Mm hmm, Okay, 0:20:29.000 --> 0:20:46.920 I guess mm hmm. So I'm pretty I'm pretty not antisocial. 0:20:47.160 --> 0:20:49.840 But I used to be a lot more social, as 0:20:49.880 --> 0:20:56.360 I said, you know, high school, college, and then now 0:20:56.400 --> 0:20:59.840 I kind of I feel like and I feel like 0:20:59.880 --> 0:21:02.120 a lot of people feel like since COVID, we've kind 0:21:02.119 --> 0:21:07.400 of just been un learning, like all of our social 0:21:07.440 --> 0:21:15.280 skills that we had built up. I would you learn them? 0:21:15.280 --> 0:21:19.160 Want to? How would how would you get those back? 0:21:19.720 --> 0:21:21.400 How'd I re learn social skills? 0:21:21.800 --> 0:21:25.879 Mm hmmm that you had at one point that stage 0:21:25.880 --> 0:21:26.480 in your life. 0:21:26.600 --> 0:21:28.359 But you know, let you know, I don't want to 0:21:28.400 --> 0:21:30.639 give you advice because you don't really need my advice. 0:21:30.720 --> 0:21:32.640 You had it down pretty well. You were like, I'm 0:21:32.640 --> 0:21:35.000 going to go to the I'm going to do my 0:21:35.040 --> 0:21:37.280 physical activity. I'm going to go to the church, and 0:21:37.320 --> 0:21:41.320 I'm going to go to what's the fucking third one? 0:21:41.440 --> 0:21:45.480 Damn it? The bar? At the bar, there's no you 0:21:45.600 --> 0:21:47.760 just just go just go to them and talk to 0:21:47.800 --> 0:21:52.960 people and try your best. There's no there's no magic, 0:21:53.000 --> 0:21:56.320 don't know. Don't do it for me, do it for you, man. No, 0:21:56.400 --> 0:22:02.440 you're right, there's uh yeah, yeah, I have I have 0:22:02.800 --> 0:22:04.800 no ad But you had it down great. I loved 0:22:04.800 --> 0:22:07.520 the plan. You had a plan. I loved the plan. 0:22:07.720 --> 0:22:08.400 Go to your plan. 0:22:11.240 --> 0:22:11.640 M hmm. 0:22:14.200 --> 0:22:16.440 I'll see you at a church. I guess I won't 0:22:16.480 --> 0:22:20.360 because Jewish. 0:22:21.320 --> 0:22:24.600 But you know, maybe you're ever gonna come to Hampshire. 0:22:25.000 --> 0:22:26.920 Am I ever gonna come to New Hampshire. I'm gonna 0:22:26.920 --> 0:22:30.440 be so honest with you. I don't think I'll ever 0:22:30.520 --> 0:22:38.800 come to New Hampshire. Yeah, I don't. I don't like. 0:22:40.720 --> 0:22:43.320 I don't like to promise. I try not. I'm not 0:22:43.400 --> 0:22:47.560 always successful, but I try not to. I don't want 0:22:47.560 --> 0:22:49.280 to just be like, yeah, no, man, totally going to go. 0:22:49.880 --> 0:22:50.760 I don't see a reason. 0:22:51.520 --> 0:22:52.680 It's a pretty rare Hampshire. 0:22:52.760 --> 0:22:55.520 Well I don't. I I might. I don't know if 0:22:55.560 --> 0:22:59.440 I will. I might die having never gone to New Hampshire. 0:23:02.680 --> 0:23:07.520 It's somewhat unfortunate, but you're not. There's other similar places 0:23:07.520 --> 0:23:08.080 to see. 0:23:08.640 --> 0:23:12.520 Yeah, there's other places I'm sure that I'll probably go to. 0:23:12.760 --> 0:23:15.800 But Dave, is there anything else you want to say 0:23:15.800 --> 0:23:19.960 to the people of the computer before we go? See? 0:23:20.000 --> 0:23:21.760 I haven't prepared for this, but. 0:23:21.960 --> 0:23:26.040 You don't need to prepare whatever is in your head, Dave. 0:23:28.400 --> 0:23:33.520 I guess just speak from the heart, even if it's cryptic. 0:23:34.080 --> 0:23:34.680 It's okay. 0:23:36.000 --> 0:23:37.520 Already knew it was going to be I was prepared 0:23:37.520 --> 0:23:38.800 for it to be cryptic. Please. 0:23:39.200 --> 0:23:41.560 Yeah, no, that was my advice. 0:23:42.440 --> 0:23:47.040 Oh oh oh shit. All right, Well thank you, Dave, 0:23:47.600 --> 0:23:49.840 good luck, good luck. Stick with the plan. All right, 0:23:49.880 --> 0:23:50.560 it's a good plan. 0:23:51.560 --> 0:23:54.560 All right, I'll try my best. Nice talking. 0:23:56.040 --> 0:23:57.760 Crap. I hung up on him. Well I didn't really. 0:23:57.760 --> 0:23:59.240 It was the end of the call. But it was 0:23:59.359 --> 0:24:01.879 nice talking to you, to Dave. It's nice talking to 0:24:01.920 --> 0:24:04.840 you too. I liked that plan. This you gotta do stuff. 0:24:04.880 --> 0:24:07.439 This is the thing. There's no secret. I don't have 0:24:07.520 --> 0:24:10.400 advice for him. My advice for him would have been 0:24:10.760 --> 0:24:12.840 probably guess to go out and do stuff. But he 0:24:12.920 --> 0:24:18.240 already knew that there was no He wasn't missing any information. 0:24:19.240 --> 0:24:24.960 He was not of lack of info. There's like certain 0:24:25.080 --> 0:24:28.960 I think certain times, when you have like a problem, 0:24:29.680 --> 0:24:32.040 you try to convince yourself that you just don't have 0:24:32.160 --> 0:24:37.679 enough information to solve your problem because you're procrastinating on 0:24:37.800 --> 0:24:42.399 taking any actual action to solve your problem. I know 0:24:42.520 --> 0:24:46.800 this from a lot of lived experience and a lot 0:24:46.800 --> 0:24:50.439 of experience. I continue to live where I'm like on 0:24:51.040 --> 0:24:54.720 chatchy bit your Google being like how do I lose weight? 0:24:55.440 --> 0:24:59.320 Or how do I do this? Or whatever? And it's like, 0:24:59.640 --> 0:25:01.359 or how do I talk to people? What do I like? 0:25:01.440 --> 0:25:04.000 You know? You know what? You just do it. I 0:25:04.040 --> 0:25:10.240 guess maybe maybe I'm wrong, God I don't. This is 0:25:10.280 --> 0:25:12.680 one thing I hate about having a podcast is you 0:25:12.720 --> 0:25:16.239 say stuff and then it becomes like you're right, but 0:25:16.480 --> 0:25:18.720 you're not. Just because you say something in your podcast 0:25:18.760 --> 0:25:21.199 doesn't mean you're right. I just want everyone to know 0:25:21.240 --> 0:25:27.600 that I might be wrong. I might be wrong about everything, don't. 0:25:28.520 --> 0:25:29.960 I just want to I'm just That's why I like 0:25:30.000 --> 0:25:31.920 talking to other people. This is why I like talking 0:25:31.960 --> 0:25:34.439