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Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Becca Tilly and Tanya red An iHeartRadio podcast.

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Speaker 2: Hello everybody, we are scrubbing in.

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Speaker 3: Scrub what It's just like the way I watch your

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Speaker 3: eyes get ready to do a jingle.

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Speaker 2: I just am like anticipating it.

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Speaker 4: Scarrub dub dub and the dub ub dub.

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Speaker 2: The other night, Haley made me dinner and she made

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Speaker 2: me your Yep, was it delicious? It was delicious.

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Speaker 4: So Robbie's mom made us a bon the other night

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Speaker 4: and hers is so good. And because I got my

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Speaker 4: teeth bleached, I can't eat it because it's like red.

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Speaker 5: God, it's red.

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Speaker 4: Like you can't stay anything red for theatable features, anything

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Speaker 4: colored for five days.

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Speaker 2: Oh oh for five days.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, for five days. You're supposed to just like white.

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Speaker 4: And I'm like, you don't realize it as you don't

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Speaker 4: even know how much color you eat until you're in it.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, sitting on the counter, Could you have spaghetti through

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Speaker 6: a straw?

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Speaker 5: No? I just had chicken.

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Speaker 2: That was really funny. People loved it.

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Speaker 4: By the way, I saw when Haley left that you

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Speaker 4: made her cute little to go breakfast burrito and wrote

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Speaker 4: their names on it. And I was like, whoa Becca

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Speaker 4: is being extra cute these days.

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Speaker 6: I yeah.

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Speaker 3: They they left like super early, Haley and Marla to

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Speaker 3: go to New York, and so I was like, oh,

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Speaker 3: do you want me to make you like a breakfast

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Speaker 3: burrito so you can just heat it up and ticket

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Speaker 3: And then I was like, oh, make Marlon wan too,

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Speaker 3: and so she posted it and Ali wrote me was like,

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Speaker 3: you're like domesticated.

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Speaker 2: Huh.

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Speaker 6: He's like, yeah, breakfast burrito.

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Speaker 3: It's simple. It's really simple. It's scramp soft, scrambled eggs soft.

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Speaker 3: Haley wanted have varty cheese, and then I did mozzarella

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Speaker 3: for a vari I don't really know. It's a little sharp,

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Speaker 3: Like I don't really like it. It's a little strong

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Speaker 3: for me. And then I put it in the burrito

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Speaker 3: that and just cheese an egg, yeah, just SGG and cheese,

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Speaker 3: and then I just like toasted it on the pan.

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Speaker 3: But they were both like this was the best, Like

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Speaker 3: Marlasa was life changing. She's like, what did you put

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Speaker 3: in there? So I guess I make really good So

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Speaker 3: it's a little bit about me.

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Speaker 5: Wow.

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Speaker 2: So yeah, if you ever.

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Speaker 1: Wanted to bring those in for a scrubbing in session,

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Speaker 1: you know, there'd be no complaints.

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Speaker 6: I would be so happy to do that if you

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Speaker 6: don't mind.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, just egg and cheese. Correct, no protein? Let me,

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Speaker 2: I guess eggs are protein.

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Speaker 5: I'll just take the eggs. Maybe little turkey bacon in mine.

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Speaker 6: I could do that.

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Speaker 5: Turkey bacon chopped up in there.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but you have to have it with the tortilla.

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Speaker 5: Fine, okay, gluten free?

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Speaker 2: Did they have a gluten free do you like the cassava? Yes?

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Speaker 5: They have tons of gluten free ki.

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Speaker 3: Okay, okay, okay, Yeah, I would love to do that

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Speaker 3: for you'all. And y'all can let me know how if

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Speaker 3: they're really good or if they just tasted good, because.

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Speaker 6: It sounds like the way you put it on the.

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Speaker 4: Get a little browned, the fine that a breakfast brito.

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Speaker 5: They always put so many tricks.

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Speaker 4: And stuff in there, and it's like it doesn't you

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Speaker 4: know that I would enjoy a little potato in they're that.

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Speaker 5: A hash frown or just a thick potato like whatever.

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Speaker 5: But then they throw in the pico.

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Speaker 4: De gao and the green sauce graandmon like multiple cheeses

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Speaker 4: and like maybe some beans, maybe some rice.

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Speaker 5: I'm like, I don't need any of this.

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Speaker 2: I'm the same.

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Speaker 6: I don't need any of that.

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Speaker 2: Oh really shook right?

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Speaker 3: Well, I'll bring you all a simple ah add some additions,

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Speaker 3: but I'll keep it simple.

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Speaker 5: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's a.

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Speaker 3: Dear Bonnie episode. So let's let's get to the listener.

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Speaker 6: Well, we've got a lot of response to the boudoir shoot.

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Speaker 5: Oh oh yeah, we still have to do that.

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Speaker 1: Like Alyssa, for example, says, listening to Tany talking about

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Speaker 1: giving Robbie a boudoir shoot as a wedding gifts and

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Speaker 1: have a few thoughts.

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Speaker 6: Do it.

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Speaker 1: It's something you'll treasure forever and look back on. It

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Speaker 1: did both my husband. I look back at it often

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Speaker 1: after a baby. It's such a beautiful reminder of how

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Speaker 1: amazing women's bodies are.

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Speaker 6: We just talked about that on Monday and.

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Speaker 1: Will forever bring back the emotions you had while doing it.

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Speaker 1: The modern woman energy is unmatched, and the emotions when

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Speaker 1: you gave it to Robbie. It's expensive, but spend the money.

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Speaker 1: Something you don't realize looking into it is the poses

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Speaker 1: and how it's not natural to pose in lingerie or

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Speaker 1: even nude. That's where a reputable photographer comes in. I

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Speaker 1: was hesitant to spend that much on it, but it's

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Speaker 1: one of the best things I've ever spent money on.

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Speaker 1: I would argue is the best investment made in our wedding. Whoa, Tanya.

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Speaker 1: I also ripped out journal entries of when I first

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Speaker 1: met my husband and put them in there with it.

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Speaker 1: He's a big swiftie, so I also wrote Taylor's lyrics

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Speaker 1: to Wildest Dreams in there. Needless to say, I'm a

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Speaker 1: big advocate for this. Paying someone to give you one

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Speaker 1: of the best and most fulfilling moments of your life

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Speaker 1: as a woman and as as soon to be wife,

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Speaker 1: you will not regret it. I am not rich. I

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Speaker 1: was literally a professional dog walker and saved up a

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Speaker 1: long time to do this. Love you guys a day

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Speaker 1: one scrubber, Alissa, it.

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Speaker 2: Sounds like you need to call them the professionals. I'm

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Speaker 2: feeling intimidated by that.

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Speaker 5: Let me tell you something.

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Speaker 3: I'm just let me tell you, have you ever tried

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Speaker 3: this one kidnap position?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, we'll just take all of Sabrina Carpenter's positions from

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Speaker 4: Taylor and just slap that on a photo.

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Speaker 5: Respectfully. Alyssa, I'm not one.

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Speaker 4: I do not judge anybody on what they want to

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Speaker 4: invest their money in.

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Speaker 5: You know what I mean.

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Speaker 4: If this was what you wanted and you feel strongly

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Speaker 4: about it, go all out and are all in for me.

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Speaker 4: I have so much faith in the world in Becatilly

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Speaker 4: as my photographer. I feel safe in your hands, I

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Speaker 4: feel gorgeous behind your lens, and there's nothing else I

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Speaker 4: need more than that. So why would I have a

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Speaker 4: stranger take a picture of me in a very vulnerable

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Speaker 4: state when one of my best friends will do it.

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Speaker 2: Here's what I'm thinking, And I don't.

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Speaker 5: Want, I don't need.

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Speaker 4: I'm gonna like get white lingerie, maybe throw a pearl

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Speaker 4: necklace on and call it a day.

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Speaker 5: Like I'm not like changing into all.

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Speaker 4: These hoops and tricks and like crotchous panties and stuff.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I think we set a date.

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Speaker 3: I do the photos, and if we're like dying and

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Speaker 3: like laughing over them, and you still want to do

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Speaker 3: it a little more like elevated, then.

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Speaker 2: You do it. But like we do it, we do.

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Speaker 4: Like grision, right, because then we just go to like CBS,

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Speaker 4: yeah and print them. You're gonna help me find a

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Speaker 4: photo album on Etsy?

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Speaker 2: Uh huh? We need to do that fast though.

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Speaker 5: Oh really I think so, Etsy, do be taking time.

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Speaker 2: Do be taking time.

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Speaker 4: A lot of people love Etsy, let me tell you

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Speaker 4: he's great. Had a lot of Etsy recommendations.

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Speaker 3: Because it's it's fun to shop from people who make

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Speaker 3: it part on like a grand scale and not have

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Speaker 3: like amazing talents.

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Speaker 4: I know, and I realized I have had one bad

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Speaker 4: experience with Etsy, so too bad experiences with Etsy. So

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Speaker 4: it has thrown me off of my Etsy game and

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Speaker 4: I have not partaken in Etsy since. But I think

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Speaker 4: I might dip my toe back in.

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Speaker 2: I had a bad experience too.

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Speaker 3: I bought a coffee table but it had termites from Turkey.

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Speaker 5: Wow, termites from Turkey.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: But then Etsy, I just like reported because then I

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Speaker 3: went to I went to like messages a guy and

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Speaker 3: the page wasn't there anymore.

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Speaker 2: So he either blocked me.

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Speaker 3: I don't know what happened, but uh anyways, Etsy was like,

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Speaker 3: we're so sorry.

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Speaker 2: They refund and me gave me a credit.

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Speaker 4: Like all those things we bought, like soapholders on Etsy

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Speaker 4: and my first bathroom they were like the size of

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Speaker 4: like half of the palm of my They're like miniature.

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Speaker 5: They're like.

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Speaker 2: Your fault because the.

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Speaker 4: Measurement soap container that doesn't even hold a bar.

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Speaker 3: So Kanya, All I'm saying is, I know those measurements

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Speaker 3: were listed and one someone chose to ignore and just

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Speaker 5: That was not my fault.

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Speaker 3: Okay, I'm just saying, you can't blame Etsy for a

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Speaker 3: user error.

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Speaker 4: Who is buying a bar of soapholder that can't even

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Speaker 5: From who has mini soap?

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Speaker 2: Maybe it's for like a doll doll.

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Speaker 5: It must have been for a dollhouse. It was crazy.

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Speaker 2: Okay.

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Speaker 3: So we're gonna do a test shoot for the boudoir shoot.

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Speaker 3: Like with me, We're not a test shoot, but like

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Speaker 3: we're gonna I'm gonna put my best foot forward. You're

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Speaker 3: gonna put your best positions forward, and then we'll just

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Speaker 3: if we need to bring in how we'll see how

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Speaker 3: good I am.

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Speaker 6: Listen to Julie.

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Speaker 1: Julie says, I've never emailed in before, but given time

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Speaker 1: its predicament, I thought it was time. I may or

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Speaker 1: may not have given my husband the same gift. It's

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Speaker 1: totally worth it. Such a gift to yourself too. For me,

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Speaker 1: it was a big confidence building something called treasure best

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Speaker 1: ship in my life, same as Alyssa, but she says

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Speaker 1: the professional price was way too much. A twenty five

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Speaker 1: dollars camera tripod ring light went a long way. It

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Speaker 1: was so fun to have a modern woman playlist going,

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Speaker 1: just me and a clicker and the camera tripad posting

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Speaker 1: however I wanted. Because there were no witnesses, I researched

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Speaker 1: more high security picture book websites and found MPIs to

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Speaker 1: be the most recommended. It cost fifty two bucks, delivered

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Speaker 1: within two weeks, and I've not seen any sexy photo

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Speaker 1: of me on the internet yet. Have so much fun

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Speaker 1: with it, having your girls hype you up. It's great,

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Speaker 1: so she says.

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Speaker 4: Okay, So I was inundated with DMS about this last week.

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Speaker 4: Really yeah, And I want to say thank you for

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Speaker 4: the respect of not putting it in the Facebook group

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Speaker 4: because I don't want to spoil it for Robbie.

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Speaker 5: So everybody went straight to my DMS.

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Speaker 2: Listen, one name about our scrubbers.

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Speaker 3: Yes, they love us, love They're gonna they're gonna spoiler.

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Speaker 3: There are girls girls. Yeah, yeah, I was.

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Speaker 4: I appreciated that, but I was inundated with d MS

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Speaker 1: and love you all and the space that you've created.

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Speaker 5: This seems like a no brainer.

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Speaker 2: To I was going to say, you know what to do?

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Speaker 2: You just wanted you.

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Speaker 3: You needed the three of us to say tis time.

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Speaker 4: When you say no room for growth, that is that's

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Speaker 3: I im plateaued, Yeah, it's time, girl.

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Speaker 2: You're about to step out.

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Speaker 3: You're about to get that PTO work from home.

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Speaker 5: Let me tell you what the double the salary.

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Speaker 4: You can maybe find something else that's gonna incite, excite

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Speaker 2: Ye know where life begins outside of your Yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 6: What's the alternative.

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Speaker 1: You're gonna just keep making that salary till you're what

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Speaker 1: Allison, Hi, Beka, Tanya market Nastin First love you All.

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Speaker 1: I'm a day one scrubber. I've been listening. I've been

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Speaker 6: Just for fun.

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Speaker 2: Well, I talked about it on national television.

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Speaker 4: And it's very weird once you make that decision for yourself,

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Speaker 6: You find out who's legit this way.

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Speaker 4: I never felt like he was like trying to change

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Speaker 4: my mind or anything.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Torri has a question about how to talk to girls.

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Speaker 6: Hi, I'm Tory. I'm twenty years old. I've never been

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Speaker 6: in a relationship.

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Speaker 1: I've been out as a lesbian since i was sixteen,

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Speaker 1: but I've still never kissed a girl. I'm confident in

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Speaker 1: my sexuality, but I have no idea how to talk

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Speaker 1: to girls. When I do talk to someone I like,

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Speaker 1: they often turn out to be straight, which is tough

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Speaker 1: because I'm more attracted.

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Speaker 6: To feminine women.

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Speaker 1: Anyone who has listened to Haley Kyoko's curious or He'll

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Speaker 1: never love you know It's how difficult it can be

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Speaker 1: navigating feelings for more feminine or straight looking and quotes

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Speaker 1: women you never know if they're gay or just playing

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Speaker 1: with you. I'm also very shy, which stems from a

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Speaker 1: physical disability. I have a form of muscular dystrophy, meaning

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Speaker 1: I can only walk short distances before getting tired, and

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Speaker 1: I also have breathing issues. I've used a BiPAP machine

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Speaker 1: at night since I was four. I had scoliosis or

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Speaker 1: a back brace for eight years, had surgery for it.

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Speaker 1: At school and longer routings, they use a wheelchair, and

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Speaker 1: I still sometimes use one now. Although I've lived with

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Speaker 1: these challenges my whole life, I've always felt a bit

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Speaker 1: of an outcast, especially in dating. I worry people might

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Speaker 1: judge me or not take me seriously, even though no

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Speaker 1: one has ever made me feel that way directly. Because

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Speaker 1: of these insecurities, I feel like I lack the confidence

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Speaker 1: to talk to girls, and I don't know how to

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Speaker 1: start conversations with someone I'm interested in. I worry about

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Speaker 1: coming off as the weird, awkward, disabled girl or making

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Speaker 1: anyone uncomfortable. Because I'm attracted to straight looking women. I'm

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Speaker 1: also a huge people pleaser, which doesn't help. Whenever I

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Speaker 1: try to talk to a girl I like, I freeze

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Speaker 1: up or find out they're straight. It's hard and it's

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Speaker 1: a somewhat discouraging cycle. I love some advice, I would say, Torri.

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Speaker 2: I would say that sometimes.

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Speaker 3: Like I never went through this, especially dating women, because

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Speaker 3: I met Haley and that was very instant, and that's

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Speaker 3: the only woman I've date, Like, I haven't had to

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Speaker 3: write myself out there I literally don't know how I

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Speaker 3: would date, like.

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Speaker 5: I know, I think I don't even know how to

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Speaker 5: answer this question. I would have no idea.

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Speaker 3: But I also think it's this it would be the

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Speaker 3: same as if, like.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, like dating up, like hitting on a guy and

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Speaker 4: realizing he's married, right yeah, or in a relationship right,

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Speaker 4: So it's a little different.

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Speaker 3: It's a little different, but it's it's basically they're not

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Speaker 3: available to you, correct emotionally, regardless of what the reason

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Speaker 3: is for it. So I wouldn't be embarrassed by finding

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Speaker 3: out that someone's straight. And I think the only way

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Speaker 3: that you keep finding someone is by putting yourself out there.

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Speaker 3: So like when you put yourself in a situation to

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Speaker 3: meet people, that's how you're going to meet someone. And

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Speaker 3: sometimes it might be easier to talk to someone on

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Speaker 3: like a dating app where you're getting to know them

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Speaker 3: and you can especially if you're setting your like settings

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Speaker 3: to women, yeah too like women instead of that way

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Speaker 3: you don't have to question if they're into girls.

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Speaker 5: So the girls, I feel like she's talking more like

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Speaker 5: in real life.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I think in real life, you just shoot your shot,

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Speaker 3: just like a guy like shoots a shot with a girl.

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Speaker 3: And she's like if if a guy shoots a shot

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Speaker 3: with the feminine lesbian, and she's like, I'm not into guys,

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Speaker 3: it's he's still shot, you know, it's still like a

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Speaker 3: respectable action to make a move, just like we would

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Speaker 3: encourage a guy to do with a girl. So I

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Speaker 3: think you keep putting yourself out there and there's no like,

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Speaker 3: with the right person, how you flirt isn't going to.

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Speaker 5: You can say that again, what that was horrible flirt?

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Speaker 3: Well granted you did have people doing it for you

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Speaker 3: for a little bit, I.

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Speaker 4: Know, but like in real life, you can't have anybody else. Yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 4: straight raw dog you.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, sometimes you just got a raw dog the flirt and.

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Speaker 3: The right person the way you flirt, even if it's

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Speaker 3: not like the cool way or the the way like

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Speaker 3: how taun your thought, like the cool girl way of

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Speaker 3: doing it, the right person is going to like the

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Speaker 3: way that you approach things.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, And I.

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Speaker 3: Think that I think if anything, being confident in who

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Speaker 3: you are with all those things that you listed are

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Speaker 3: just a part of you.

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Speaker 2: They're not they're not who you are as a whole.

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Speaker 3: And I think if anything, they make you, I'm like, Wow,

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Speaker 3: she's so strong and amazing.

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Speaker 2: That you have gone through life with.

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Speaker 3: All these health issues and physical disabilities and still put

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Speaker 3: yourself out there is so incredible. So, if anything, I

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Speaker 3: think that is such an attractive quality, and I hope

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Speaker 3: that you keep putting yourself out there. And like I said,

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Speaker 3: I think if you're trying to avoid the being disheartened

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Speaker 3: by someone being straight, go on the dating apps and

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Speaker 3: make sure you're only looking for woman like want something

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Speaker 3: to that.

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Speaker 1: I think that's pretty good advice actually, the dating apps,

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Speaker 1: so now you both know what's going in. Now you

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Speaker 1: can just focus on the connection you make or won't make,

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Speaker 1: but that you don't have to worry about that element

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Speaker 1: of it.

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Speaker 6: It removes it completely.

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Speaker 2: I agree.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it kind of takes away the not knowing and

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Speaker 3: then the fear of being rejected simply based on sexual sexuality.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: All right, I think we should take a break because

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Speaker 1: we have a light one and a heavier one coming up.

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Speaker 2: All right, we are back with two more.

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Speaker 1: All right, First the light one from page. Hey friends,

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Speaker 1: your podcast is saving me during the middle of the

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Speaker 1: wakings of my newborns by keeping me awake and entertained.

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Speaker 6: Bravo. Page We salute you and what you've gone through.

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Speaker 1: I don't know if you're Amanda Stanton or but anyway, Tanya,

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Speaker 1: in episode thirty, you talk about a guy using a

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Speaker 1: straw being a deal breaker.

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Speaker 6: Because Robbie use a straw, Why was it a deal breaker?

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Speaker 4: Did you ever watched a guy drink an alcoholic beverage

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Speaker 4: through a straw?

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Speaker 6: He's still a deal breaker, she gets worked out about.

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Speaker 2: But only uh wait, but only an alcoholic beverage.

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Speaker 4: Yes, So, like Robbie drinks the straw out of his

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Speaker 4: like you know cup that he takes around town Stanley

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Speaker 4: if you will, sure, that's fine. But if he were

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Speaker 4: to be slurping down.

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Speaker 2: His his vodka soda?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, or what's the other one, like the.

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Speaker 2: Skinny margarita? Anything fashion? An old man?

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Speaker 5: If he's slurping that through a straw, he.

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Speaker 1: Is getting the boot that night mobile, so he's kind

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Speaker 1: of chasing it with his mouth.

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Speaker 3: Okay, but does anyone drink an old fashion with a straw?

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Speaker 3: I've never seen anyone.

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Speaker 4: I've never seen anyone drinking with a straw either, But

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Speaker 4: a vodka sodada with a straw so much better.

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Speaker 2: But margarita, because you have the salt.

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Speaker 3: You can't have a strop Oh my gosh. Really, only

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Speaker 3: vodka or tequila soda is okay.

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Speaker 2: With the straw.

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Speaker 4: But to be honest, if Robbie drink anything from a straw,

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Speaker 4: I'm sure I'd be like, OK.

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Speaker 5: Just goes to show you can't do the wrong thing

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Speaker 5: with the right person.

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Speaker 2: That's oh, that's so true.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, all right, Melissa Dear Tanya beca marcron Easton. First off,

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Speaker 1: I want to stand a huge fan of Day One Scrubber.

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Speaker 1: I love the episodes and it's just the four of

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Speaker 1: you laughing together. It's like I'm catching up with my friends.

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Speaker 1: My now fiance, Brandon and I met November twenty nineteen

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Speaker 1: and we got engaged in September twenty four. I was

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Speaker 1: single forever before meeting my fiance, and we always say

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Speaker 1: there was an invisible string tying us together and that

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Speaker 1: we met it exactly the right time. We planned a

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Speaker 1: wedding for September of twenty five. We secured a beautiful

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Speaker 1: venue just outside of Semecula. Sadly, we just had to

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Speaker 1: cancel it because we lost our home in Altadena due

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Speaker 1: to the Eaton fire. We lived with my ninety three

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Speaker 1: year old Japanese grandfather who had been in his home

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Speaker 1: for sixty eight years. We are fortunately all safe, even Grandpa,

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Speaker 1: but we lost everything, my car, all our photos, personal items, documents,

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Speaker 1: my grandmother's urn who passed away in twenty twenty. It

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Speaker 1: is devastating not only for us, but for our beautiful

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Speaker 1: community of Altadena and all those who.

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Speaker 6: Were displaced because of the fires.

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Speaker 1: I'm not necess sssarily looking for this to be public

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Speaker 1: or gather sympathy, because we are fortunate to have a

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Speaker 1: great community surrounding us. Tanya, I saw your video of

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Speaker 1: your bride's maid surprising you, and it reminded me of

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Speaker 1: my best friends, who, the day after losing our home,

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Speaker 1: surprised me and my fiance with brand new clothes, comfort snacks,

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Speaker 1: and replaced some of the things we lost in the fire.

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Speaker 1: I cried uncontrollably over a puffer jacket they replaced. I

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Speaker 1: just wanted you all to know there are people who

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Speaker 1: appreciate what you all do. The morning of the fires,

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Speaker 1: I was out of town, so I didn't know what

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Speaker 1: I was coming home to. I listened to the Year

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Speaker 1: of the Nines that day. I was so excited to

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Speaker 1: be a twenty twenty five bride and that my date

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Speaker 1: was in the month of September, the ninth months Tanya.

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Speaker 1: You recently posted it within All the Wedding Planning US

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Speaker 1: twenty twenty five brides get to marry our best friend.

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Speaker 1: It was a great reminder that while my dream wedding

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Speaker 1: looks different, I still get to spend forever with my

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Speaker 1: number one teammate. Thank you for all you do and

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Speaker 1: the support you have given to the victims of this

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Speaker 1: horrible tragedy.

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Speaker 6: The fire may have.

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Speaker 1: Destroyed my home, but it also ignited my love for

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Speaker 1: this amazing community of Los.

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Speaker 6: Angle, Angelus.

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Speaker 1: Wishing you a true year of the Nines and an

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Speaker 1: amazing twenty twenty five.

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Speaker 6: Full of love. Melissa with a y m hy lsa.

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Speaker 3: Sad just I mean that just puts everything into perspective.

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Speaker 5: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Wow.

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Speaker 4: Something that I like noticed a lot. I feel like

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Speaker 4: with people that lost their homes is this like crazy

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Speaker 4: positivity where I feel like I would sulk and I

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Speaker 4: would be so sad about the things that I lost,

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Speaker 4: and like I feel like if I put myself in

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Speaker 4: their shoes, like I don't think I would handle it,

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Speaker 4: you know. Like she's literally just writing us to like

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Speaker 4: I don't even know who say thank you, and like

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Speaker 4: not even ask for anything, and she just lost everything,

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Speaker 4: and I'm sad that you had to push back your wedding,

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Speaker 4: like it all just sucks.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I think it's such a great like perspective shift

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Speaker 3: of thinking someone who lost everything and still being able

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Speaker 3: to find joy and getting to marry her best friend

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Speaker 3: even though it's not what she expected. And I truly

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Speaker 3: believe that what your wedding ends up being, Melissa, is

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Speaker 3: going to mean even more after this.

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Speaker 2: And I truly I think.

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Speaker 3: Reading that my heart like dropped and also was just

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Speaker 3: like expanded because I was like, what a testament to

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Speaker 3: the type of person she is and who she's surrounded by,

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Speaker 3: and like thinking about even just a puffer jacket, and like, how.

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Speaker 2: Are things are.

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Speaker 3: Valuable to us? And yet the thing that she mentioned

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Speaker 3: was people.

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Speaker 4: You know, you know what's better than nine year Melissa?

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Speaker 4: A ten year Wow, the year of the ten. I

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Speaker 4: don't have on the tip of my fingers what the

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Speaker 4: ten year means, but I know it's gonna be good.

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Speaker 2: It's gonna be really good.

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Speaker 5: It's gonna be really really good.

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Speaker 1: And there's that feeling that with your partner, you can

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Speaker 1: get through anything. Yeah, And you're finding that out now unfortunately,

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Speaker 1: But that's the feeling when you've got that person and

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Speaker 1: you're going to get married, that no matter what life

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Speaker 1: throws at us, we've got each other, no matter what.

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Speaker 6: And that's so comforting.

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Speaker 4: There really is like something I feel like that you

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Speaker 4: don't understand until like you're in a committed.

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Speaker 5: Relationship like that we're in.

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Speaker 4: Is that level of safety, you know, Like I totally agree,

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Speaker 4: Like I feel like anything that came our way, like

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Speaker 4: having Robbie by my side.

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Speaker 5: I could get through it.

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Speaker 2: M h.

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Speaker 4: And it's so powerful. Yeah, And that's really what it's about.

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Speaker 4: And I'm grateful that you found him, and I'm grateful

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Speaker 4: that you have each other.

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Speaker 3: I'm grateful that you're all okay, yeah, your Grandpa's okay,

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Speaker 3: and that y'all have each other to rebuild with. And

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Speaker 3: I'm also so sorry that this happened. It's like there's

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Speaker 3: no words that adequately can justify the sorrow and devastation

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Speaker 3: I feel. But I just hope that you feel surrounded

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Speaker 3: by love.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, and please keep us posted.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, please, because I know like now that you know

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Speaker 3: time has passed, people life moves on and people move on.

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Speaker 3: But I hope that you know that if you ever

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Speaker 3: need anything, whether it's posting to us or the scrubbing

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Speaker 3: In group, like we're here rallying around you.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, we're here for you, and we love you.

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Speaker 2: We love you, and we love all of you.

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Speaker 5: Oh yes, we do.

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Speaker 2: Truly our girls and few guys.

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Speaker 5: I'd be shocked if there is any male listeners.

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Speaker 1: Like I said at our live show I started off,

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Speaker 1: I think ladies and very few gentlemen.

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Speaker 3: Yes, the the loyal committed men to our scrubbing in gals.

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Speaker 4: I can't I still can't believe that our live show

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Speaker 4: in LA I was only dating Robbie for like three

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Speaker 4: months at the time.

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Speaker 3: That's when I met him for the verse yeah ago, yeah,

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Speaker 3: time plus.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, but also like a girthy one to come to

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Speaker 4: throw him into the girthiest of the girl.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: If you ever want to write in to a Dear

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Speaker 3: Bonnie episode, you can message us on Instagram at scrubbing

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Speaker 3: In pod or you can message us at scrubbing In

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Speaker 3: at iHeartMedia dot com.

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Speaker 5: That's right, and we love.

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Speaker 2: You so much and we hope you have a great

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Speaker 2: rest of the week. And we will be back on

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Speaker 2: Monday to be continued. Love you, bye bye