WEBVTT - Ep 232: Good Moms & Rub Maps (Ft. Erica & Milah) 0:00:02.520 --> 0:00:08.480 Guess what decision we're about to make a horrible decisions. 0:00:08.680 --> 0:00:13.600 Welcome guys to another episode of horrible decisions. I'm your girl, 0:00:13.640 --> 0:00:16.000 Mandy b a k A full court punk a pet 0:00:16.160 --> 0:00:18.599 stallion bitch. Yes, I'm bat like a motherfucker's single lass 0:00:18.640 --> 0:00:21.680 Hope A k A dad bitch a k A. I'm 0:00:21.680 --> 0:00:23.480 gonna make a do what to do? Baby? Mandy baskets? 0:00:23.480 --> 0:00:26.639 What's up? Baby? What? What's up? Tell him who you is? Bitch? 0:00:30.040 --> 0:00:34.519 This is so embarrassing. My name is Wheezy. Um, that's all. 0:00:34.560 --> 0:00:38.400 I will tell you what it do? Uh, sorry for 0:00:38.520 --> 0:00:40.479 my guest. It's giving love and hip hop today with 0:00:40.600 --> 0:00:44.280 Mandy very much. Really, no, it ain't make it do 0:00:44.400 --> 0:00:47.400 what to do? Baby? Yeah, just giving Jimmy Fox. Why 0:00:47.520 --> 0:00:52.400 is that? Uh huh? Anyways, our friends from a layer here, 0:00:52.600 --> 0:00:55.080 so I really don't know why you did all of that. Yes, guys, 0:00:55.320 --> 0:00:59.880 we are joined today by Erica and Milo, which are 0:01:00.200 --> 0:01:04.240 the host of Good Mom's Bad Choices. We and I 0:01:04.360 --> 0:01:08.600 have been having a lot of parenting conversations for some reason, 0:01:08.680 --> 0:01:11.200 like we spit bitches out of our vaginas and we 0:01:11.360 --> 0:01:15.720 have it next? Did you guys? Who she next? You 0:01:15.800 --> 0:01:18.680 both pushed him out. I cut it out. Okay, I 0:01:18.800 --> 0:01:21.320 cut it off. If I have to pick, I would 0:01:21.360 --> 0:01:24.120 take like scissors. You would do it. You would do it. 0:01:25.160 --> 0:01:28.320 No c section. No, that is not something you do optionally. 0:01:28.440 --> 0:01:30.240 You do it because you absolutely have you have to. 0:01:30.880 --> 0:01:33.720 People do it, but people can you know what, I 0:01:34.040 --> 0:01:36.760 I don't recommend it. Mine was not because I wanted that, 0:01:36.840 --> 0:01:38.520 but that's just what happened. I just want the stork 0:01:38.560 --> 0:01:40.320 to come drop it off at the porch if I 0:01:40.480 --> 0:01:42.160 really like, I don't want to go through nonaday. My 0:01:42.240 --> 0:01:43.959 home girl tell me the other day she was like, girl, 0:01:44.280 --> 0:01:46.120 bit just be having a postpartum. She was like, I 0:01:46.160 --> 0:01:47.600 do not want to kill my baby. I just want 0:01:47.640 --> 0:01:50.040 to have someone else to have it. And she just 0:01:50.120 --> 0:01:52.720 wants to experience the pregnancy and not have the baby. No. No, 0:01:52.880 --> 0:01:56.400 she's like, actually really scared to postpartum. Well like she's 0:01:56.840 --> 0:02:00.640 terrified of like wanting to kill her kid. Did either 0:02:00.680 --> 0:02:07.920 of experience relax? My mom said she wanted to microwave me. 0:02:08.400 --> 0:02:13.760 I mean, whoa what didn't say very specific. I think 0:02:13.800 --> 0:02:16.720 it's I think it's because microwave. She was probably cooking 0:02:16.760 --> 0:02:18.799 food or something, and she was like I looked at you, 0:02:19.040 --> 0:02:20.680 and I almost put you in there, and I said 0:02:20.760 --> 0:02:24.160 I need to call somebody, and then she said, you know, 0:02:24.200 --> 0:02:25.720 I lasted for about three days and then I want 0:02:25.720 --> 0:02:30.400 to kill you. Did y'all experience postpartum at all? I did? 0:02:30.440 --> 0:02:32.799 But I didn't want to kill my baby, Okay, I 0:02:32.960 --> 0:02:36.480 was just I just was sad. Oh um, I did. 0:02:36.840 --> 0:02:39.160 I I didn't think I recognized it in the time, 0:02:39.440 --> 0:02:43.359 but like, you definitely get extremely happy and extremely sad 0:02:43.440 --> 0:02:46.440 and confused. It's a huge life changing what the funk 0:02:46.480 --> 0:02:49.000 am I going to do with you forever? Type of feeling. 0:02:49.040 --> 0:02:52.160 Did you get mad at the baby? I didn't get mad, right, 0:02:52.840 --> 0:02:56.240 got mad? I got mad, but I also just got overwhelmed. 0:02:56.280 --> 0:02:59.239 It was more like, oh shit, this is forever. I 0:02:59.320 --> 0:03:01.639 can't even Like there were times where we're like, walk 0:03:01.680 --> 0:03:03.400 into somewhere and I'm like, oh, should I got a baby? 0:03:03.760 --> 0:03:05.520 Like I would forget be walking around the house cleaning up, 0:03:05.560 --> 0:03:07.320 and I'm like, I'm supposed to be doing something like 0:03:07.360 --> 0:03:14.959 oh the fucking baby, you know, like, m well, you 0:03:15.000 --> 0:03:16.919 know what the good thing about these conversations is like 0:03:17.120 --> 0:03:19.280 people are like, oh, having a baby so joyful, It's 0:03:19.280 --> 0:03:23.480 so beautiful. Nothing ever bad happens, but like, bitch, you 0:03:23.600 --> 0:03:26.799 need to recognize if you are experiencing I want to 0:03:26.840 --> 0:03:28.880 kill my baby, so you could drop that baby off. 0:03:29.280 --> 0:03:31.160 I just told Erica, we just came back from a long, 0:03:31.360 --> 0:03:35.119 long ass jungle trip to the jungle and Costa Rica, 0:03:35.240 --> 0:03:37.800 and I was like, bitch, it should be absolutely required, 0:03:37.920 --> 0:03:40.240 like they talk about baby moons and all this other ship. 0:03:40.440 --> 0:03:42.440 It should be required that after you give birth, you 0:03:42.680 --> 0:03:46.400 drop the baby off for at least two weeks and like, 0:03:46.960 --> 0:03:49.240 do your own thing so you can remember yourself you 0:03:49.320 --> 0:03:53.920 give birth. Do you know what's crazy about you saying that? Um, So, 0:03:54.160 --> 0:03:59.480 my sister just gave gave birth in November. Um, by January, 0:04:00.200 --> 0:04:03.760 my mom had COVID and so my sister everyone that 0:04:03.880 --> 0:04:06.520 was in the house had to leave, and so they 0:04:06.920 --> 0:04:09.000 were at the house for like, I don't know, the 0:04:09.080 --> 0:04:12.400 ten to fourteen days, and my mom said that when 0:04:13.480 --> 0:04:15.840 the baby oh so wait, this is a vacation from 0:04:15.840 --> 0:04:18.599 my mom, not the baby. But it made my sister 0:04:18.839 --> 0:04:22.000 closer to the baby because at that point she was 0:04:22.040 --> 0:04:25.560 actually more dependent on my mom so much so that 0:04:25.880 --> 0:04:28.560 that break from my mom caused her to be closer 0:04:28.640 --> 0:04:31.120 to her baby. It requires both because you're new in 0:04:31.240 --> 0:04:33.800 motherhood and you're like, you're like, oh, what do I 0:04:33.920 --> 0:04:35.680 do if someone else is there to be like, I'll 0:04:35.680 --> 0:04:36.760 do it. I'll take it. I know what to do. 0:04:37.000 --> 0:04:38.480 Then you'll kind of lean on that. Then you'll leave 0:04:38.560 --> 0:04:40.320 if you're alone, you like, I gotta figure this out, 0:04:40.320 --> 0:04:41.520 and I gotta be good at it, and I gotta 0:04:41.560 --> 0:04:43.360 you know, like you'll step into your motherhood better. But 0:04:43.480 --> 0:04:45.160 like I'm not saying immediately after you give a birth, 0:04:45.320 --> 0:04:47.120 like after you breastfeed, whenever you can get away within 0:04:47.240 --> 0:04:50.640 like the first year, I highly recommend new moms drop 0:04:50.839 --> 0:04:53.360 that baby off with that father because he he needs 0:04:53.360 --> 0:04:55.280 to get acclimated, he needs to figure the funk out. 0:04:56.520 --> 0:04:58.800 Should have been in my stone. Yeah, you spent the 0:04:58.839 --> 0:05:00.760 whole last year with the baby. Here you go naked 0:05:01.000 --> 0:05:03.520 by I got shipped to do. I had the baby 0:05:03.560 --> 0:05:05.720 for fucking nine months plus. I've been breastfeeding the baby. 0:05:05.720 --> 0:05:07.760 What the fund have you done? You better take the baby, 0:05:07.800 --> 0:05:09.360 do some skin to skin. I'll be back in two weeks. 0:05:09.440 --> 0:05:12.200 It's really you should do it, amen. I think I'm 0:05:12.200 --> 0:05:14.960 gonna do that when I get my mommy and me makeover. Yeah, 0:05:15.000 --> 0:05:17.840 I want to get you already planning that. How do 0:05:17.920 --> 0:05:19.720 you know that you're not gonna be able to snap back? 0:05:19.720 --> 0:05:22.520 Because apparently all the girls snap back now. I don't really, 0:05:23.560 --> 0:05:27.440 I don't really care about Jim got it right off 0:05:27.480 --> 0:05:29.920 the table. I want the same kind of recovery time 0:05:30.000 --> 0:05:31.960 if Kim got it I needed to. I feel like 0:05:32.160 --> 0:05:34.040 Kim is really I want to be I'm not gonna 0:05:34.040 --> 0:05:36.080 be a Kim Ridge. That's just like stupid rich. But 0:05:36.160 --> 0:05:37.760 like if I could get a little bit close to 0:05:37.800 --> 0:05:39.280 where I could pay for that, mommy me make over 0:05:39.360 --> 0:05:41.800 right on the table. Just give me the new everything, right, 0:05:41.880 --> 0:05:44.320 we come off, just lee, I've already got faked tips. 0:05:44.400 --> 0:05:47.279 Leave them there, hopefully they're still freaky. Are you going 0:05:47.320 --> 0:05:50.040 to be able to breastfeed? Yeah? I did. I got 0:05:50.080 --> 0:05:53.320 them under the muscle. Yeah you care that you can 0:05:53.400 --> 0:05:57.520 breastfeed anatomy, got your science it bit girl, I'm about 0:05:57.520 --> 0:05:59.719 to get nipped and tucto. But that's not a vacation, bitch, 0:05:59.720 --> 0:06:01.080 because you don't be in pain. Yeah, you're gonna be 0:06:01.120 --> 0:06:04.280 like you're not. You're in another vacation after then. But 0:06:04.360 --> 0:06:06.120 I thought I was going to dr with the girls. 0:06:06.640 --> 0:06:08.520 Oh no, it's no girl's girl. You're gonna be the 0:06:08.560 --> 0:06:13.360 recovery house. Yeah, it's recovery house. And they'd be like yeah, 0:06:14.600 --> 0:06:16.440 and then come and wipe your app because you're not 0:06:16.480 --> 0:06:18.200 gonna be able to wipe your own. Wait, first of 0:06:18.279 --> 0:06:20.440 where are your where you getting these surgeries? Why are 0:06:20.480 --> 0:06:26.640 they saying Instagram you're going out the countrybut getting your 0:06:26.680 --> 0:06:28.680 cheese stune while you're there too? Can wait? Can you 0:06:28.800 --> 0:06:31.800 tell us about like is it? Were you ever at 0:06:31.880 --> 0:06:34.360 one point did you feel like I shouldn't be doing 0:06:34.400 --> 0:06:39.120 this off the country? No? So I got like I 0:06:39.160 --> 0:06:43.880 was twenty two years old. Uh no, because at the 0:06:43.960 --> 0:06:47.200 time all of my friends were on his escorts and 0:06:48.400 --> 0:06:50.840 everyone I knew. It was like when I go to 0:06:50.960 --> 0:06:54.120 fucking l A and they're like, hey, we have nothing 0:06:54.160 --> 0:06:56.000 to do today, let's go get both talks and fillers 0:06:56.400 --> 0:06:59.480 that I'm eyeing into. But it was just so natural 0:06:59.560 --> 0:07:01.720 and calm and for everyone that I knew at that 0:07:01.800 --> 0:07:04.200 time to do it, I was like, okay, girl. They 0:07:04.240 --> 0:07:06.400 shared their recovery house with me, They shared their doctor 0:07:06.480 --> 0:07:09.240 with me, they share what's the recovery house? Like, Um, 0:07:10.880 --> 0:07:14.760 it's like a house with many rooms and you can 0:07:14.840 --> 0:07:16.760 either have the room by yourself or split it they 0:07:16.880 --> 0:07:20.600 like double occupancy, and the women just come and help 0:07:20.680 --> 0:07:22.640 you get in and out your fab make sure you 0:07:22.680 --> 0:07:26.280 get your massages, make sure you eat so they cook 0:07:26.320 --> 0:07:28.800 you your meals the whole day. That's the problem. Though. 0:07:29.280 --> 0:07:33.000 There were there were women there fresh fresh off the table, 0:07:33.480 --> 0:07:36.680 ordering Popeyes, and they were literally telling the people like 0:07:36.800 --> 0:07:39.200 this isn't what you should be eating, and it's just 0:07:39.320 --> 0:07:41.680 like this is why it just gotta go back by six, 0:07:42.680 --> 0:07:45.120 moving to different places and share you well, and that too, 0:07:45.240 --> 0:07:47.720 and that's what I noticed too, Like my waist, of 0:07:47.800 --> 0:07:50.360 course has always remained small, but when I started getting 0:07:50.360 --> 0:07:52.520 the way clearly I got up to two, did not 0:07:52.840 --> 0:07:56.840 let me just turn off my waist of course? Best 0:07:58.920 --> 0:08:04.560 maybe send to me your news of course? Did Did 0:08:04.600 --> 0:08:06.120 I not put them? Did I not put them in 0:08:06.160 --> 0:08:10.120 the group chat? I mean, well, I didn't want to 0:08:10.120 --> 0:08:13.080 get back real quick to off the surgery conversation I 0:08:13.200 --> 0:08:15.360 do have because we did just have a dad on 0:08:15.440 --> 0:08:17.480 the show or he's coming up, ya know, we don't 0:08:17.480 --> 0:08:20.120 know when we schedule these ships. Um, but I wanted 0:08:20.160 --> 0:08:23.440 to get into different mom labels because for whatever reason, 0:08:24.360 --> 0:08:29.320 moms just carry a negative connotation with the labels that 0:08:29.440 --> 0:08:33.720 are with them. Unless they're a wife. So I have milf. 0:08:34.240 --> 0:08:38.840 What are y'all's views on the word milk? For sure, 0:08:39.679 --> 0:08:41.760 you're okay with milf. I'm cool with milf. I feel 0:08:41.760 --> 0:08:43.600 like it's very white. Yeah, I feel like it's very white. 0:08:44.840 --> 0:08:47.880 Is there a black version? But see, my only version 0:08:47.920 --> 0:08:50.480 with that is milk. When I look in porn, maybe 0:08:50.559 --> 0:08:54.080 looking like they look older, I feel like you could 0:08:54.120 --> 0:08:57.400 use milf if you're sucking someone like like exceptionally younger 0:08:57.480 --> 0:08:59.960 than you. I think I feel like American pie decide 0:09:00.000 --> 0:09:02.520 did what milf was, and so we associate milk with 0:09:02.640 --> 0:09:04.360 like what I was gonna say. We think about her 0:09:04.480 --> 0:09:08.280 her like the old white lady. But now I think 0:09:08.320 --> 0:09:10.240 to all of us at that point in time, we 0:09:10.360 --> 0:09:12.439 were young when it came out, But now we all 0:09:12.520 --> 0:09:14.080 know a mom, and we all know a hot mom. 0:09:14.200 --> 0:09:16.600 We want to know young moms. You right, you right? 0:09:16.760 --> 0:09:19.480 You know. It's like I feel like it's hard. But 0:09:19.640 --> 0:09:22.040 like for porn, when if I typed in milk, there 0:09:22.080 --> 0:09:25.800 would be a look Lisa, and sure be an older 0:09:25.840 --> 0:09:28.600 woman on porn and maybe a white woman. You wouldn't 0:09:28.600 --> 0:09:32.880 see any black MILFs be sprinkled. Yeah you don't. I 0:09:33.120 --> 0:09:36.520 got to say, I don't think I maybe, but what 0:09:36.679 --> 0:09:42.480 does that t is a tasty black fucking folks person? 0:09:42.679 --> 0:09:45.000 What is tasty black should be pick It's like a 0:09:45.360 --> 0:09:47.880 it's like a website that like basically funnels all the 0:09:47.960 --> 0:09:52.280 black porns I need because I'm not a soul food restaurant. 0:09:52.800 --> 0:09:56.680 But I literally type inside just a warning, you're gonna 0:09:56.720 --> 0:09:58.360 get a lot of pop ups. You will get the 0:09:58.440 --> 0:10:01.360 content you're looking for if slow like that, the surf 0:10:01.559 --> 0:10:04.200 is slow. But I find all the black port because 0:10:04.200 --> 0:10:05.920 I only like to watch that. Do they have gay 0:10:05.960 --> 0:10:10.439 porn every type at all? I love black gate porn, tasty, 0:10:10.960 --> 0:10:15.120 it's aggressive, tasty, not to light, no taste. Black dot 0:10:15.200 --> 0:10:17.840 com has all the black porns and there's no white 0:10:17.880 --> 0:10:20.720 people on there. No is there in a racial Yes, 0:10:21.200 --> 0:10:24.480 so there's white people. Okay people, okay, only if you 0:10:24.520 --> 0:10:32.760 don't trin. What a fucking great website. Oh bit, look 0:10:32.760 --> 0:10:35.640 at all that, Melanie, Yes, that's what I want to watch. 0:10:36.400 --> 0:10:38.760 You maybe be talking sh sh like weaves? I porn? 0:10:39.160 --> 0:10:41.240 You like weaves? I just told you I watched black 0:10:41.280 --> 0:10:43.760 gay porn. I don't care about weaves. Now you said 0:10:43.800 --> 0:10:45.600 that you're on like watching the porn because I don't 0:10:45.600 --> 0:10:47.600 watch straight porn. I watched gay porn. Ain't got weaves 0:10:47.640 --> 0:10:49.400 and gay porn. Some of these are good. Oh they 0:10:49.480 --> 0:10:51.800 got a wrap. Well wait, so in the gay point, 0:10:51.840 --> 0:10:54.199 you're watching two men. Two men, Okay, you don't. You 0:10:54.200 --> 0:10:57.360 don't like to watch to women and three man. No women, 0:10:57.400 --> 0:10:59.520 you don't like watching women at all? Trans women, they 0:10:59.559 --> 0:11:03.240 have short hairporn, Mandy, don't do that. I'm not kidding. 0:11:03.640 --> 0:11:06.800 I've never heard that I was either hair porn. N 0:11:07.160 --> 0:11:09.800 I'm telling you they got they got a lot of crazy. 0:11:09.880 --> 0:11:14.480 Hey mad to her. This is the motion while I'm 0:11:14.559 --> 0:11:18.360 having sex, now to dishevel my fucking hair, as if 0:11:18.440 --> 0:11:20.439 I didn't work hard on the ways when I do 0:11:21.000 --> 0:11:24.160 hold on, wait, I'm confused because they can't grab they 0:11:24.960 --> 0:11:27.160 know poland so now it's a rub like I'm a 0:11:27.240 --> 0:11:30.160 genie like for sex short hair. Short hair is not 0:11:30.320 --> 0:11:32.960 for sex like it just it just gets messed up. 0:11:33.040 --> 0:11:35.160 And then when you get don't look cute at all, 0:11:35.200 --> 0:11:39.439 and it I look a fucking well wait, I gotta fine. 0:11:39.840 --> 0:11:41.640 I carry felm in my purse at all time. Well, 0:11:41.679 --> 0:11:43.800 wig sex is also hard because I definitely fucked with 0:11:43.800 --> 0:11:47.520 a wig on, and that you gotta hold it down. 0:11:47.800 --> 0:11:51.439 I don't feel comfortable come throble walking outside in the wait. 0:11:51.480 --> 0:11:53.920 Can I tell you something? At one time I had 0:11:53.960 --> 0:11:56.760 a threesome with a naked and a bit. It wasn't 0:11:56.880 --> 0:11:58.800 a threesome. I was like reluctant, anyonen't really feeling like 0:11:58.880 --> 0:12:04.199 it that day, any made threesome ish. The bitch removed 0:12:04.360 --> 0:12:08.760 the woman. I'm a woman, I'm a bit girl. Stop 0:12:10.320 --> 0:12:12.719 are you being fucking I was being patty. I was 0:12:12.800 --> 0:12:17.320 being patty. I was being petty righteous term of endearment. 0:12:18.120 --> 0:12:23.319 The bitch took off her wing mid threesome with the 0:12:23.400 --> 0:12:29.360 straight back. I was not me and I'm not even 0:12:29.440 --> 0:12:31.520 I'm not even like I was like in my mind, 0:12:31.559 --> 0:12:33.559 I was like, oh wow. Also, I was like, wow, 0:12:33.600 --> 0:12:37.080 this bitch is confident. There's no way of fucking hell 0:12:37.360 --> 0:12:39.680 with my fine ass when I take first of all, 0:12:39.720 --> 0:12:41.720 I don't feel comfortable even sucking, like, oh, I don't 0:12:41.760 --> 0:12:44.800 really wear weaves, but I just like my edges as 0:12:44.800 --> 0:12:47.640 a track showing she'd removed the whole thing, And I 0:12:47.840 --> 0:12:50.040 was like, why did she do it? Like in the 0:12:50.120 --> 0:12:51.839 moment of it's in the way, like you know, she 0:12:52.440 --> 0:12:54.079 She's like it was like some going on and she 0:12:54.240 --> 0:12:57.720 just was it a lace, No, bitch, it was isn't removable. 0:12:57.800 --> 0:13:02.480 I don't know remota. She just came off and I 0:13:02.679 --> 0:13:05.079 was just like so and the guy I was sucking 0:13:05.120 --> 0:13:06.880 at the time. I had fun her before and afterwards. 0:13:06.920 --> 0:13:09.280 I was like, she got her wig like that. See, 0:13:09.280 --> 0:13:13.280 but I'm gonna be really just gonna slide off. Wouldn't 0:13:13.280 --> 0:13:15.199 you have to take it off? And I'm gonna hold you. 0:13:15.360 --> 0:13:17.920 I apply extra Bobby pants. I put Bobby pants. But 0:13:17.960 --> 0:13:23.559 that ship started. Maybe I'm meant to care. I'm not 0:13:23.720 --> 0:13:25.559 having a threesome with my wig on so that I 0:13:25.600 --> 0:13:27.200 don't even have to think about taking it off. Did 0:13:27.320 --> 0:13:28.960 you know you were? Did y'all know you're gonna have three? 0:13:28.960 --> 0:13:31.280 So that I don't care. I wouldn't even fell into 0:13:31.360 --> 0:13:33.319 it if it was me like she she didn't know, 0:13:33.480 --> 0:13:34.880 but it ended up how she didn't want it to 0:13:34.960 --> 0:13:40.360 fall off of it me personally, I couldn't have done it. 0:13:40.480 --> 0:13:43.000 I've more powered to her. She's still beautiful. It was great. 0:13:43.000 --> 0:13:45.959 I'm eating with a drawsting ponytail on, and I remember 0:13:46.000 --> 0:13:48.480 like when I was in her those are secure though. Yeah, 0:13:48.760 --> 0:13:52.200 But at the same time I was eating at blizzy 0:13:52.640 --> 0:13:56.520 and she was like this, and I was like, way, 0:13:56.559 --> 0:13:58.960 you should know, don't be pulling on hairs. That's really 0:13:59.000 --> 0:14:01.839 insulting me about it, like going to play you was, 0:14:02.720 --> 0:14:05.000 but you got one too, so I don't want me 0:14:05.040 --> 0:14:09.320 to pulling yours like that. My ex Scissors always wore 0:14:09.480 --> 0:14:12.319 like she no, she's like wearing cloths and and ship. 0:14:13.360 --> 0:14:16.400 But when we were sucking beard bay, like, I would 0:14:16.400 --> 0:14:18.679 have braids and she would have her ship, and you know, 0:14:18.760 --> 0:14:20.360 and men want to get really close to your face 0:14:20.440 --> 0:14:22.000 and they might touch your face. I used to always 0:14:22.000 --> 0:14:24.560 say it to a little sword like and then get 0:14:24.600 --> 0:14:27.080 in his neck, and I'd be like, I don't want 0:14:27.080 --> 0:14:29.320 to funk with fake hair, like unless two didn't think 0:14:29.320 --> 0:14:31.920 too much. Just I was talking about talking about fake hair. 0:14:32.200 --> 0:14:34.920 We're wearing braids, it doesn't matter. We're family, we all, 0:14:35.040 --> 0:14:37.920 so you'll be wearing tracks no, alright, Yeah, I was 0:14:37.960 --> 0:14:39.760 about to say, you never see me ward tracks because 0:14:39.840 --> 0:14:43.960 I can't afford him and I'm not rich enough, okay, 0:14:44.200 --> 0:14:46.480 and also I'm not secure enough because if you see 0:14:46.520 --> 0:14:49.120 my track, I'm gonna be feeling away. I'm like girling 0:14:49.160 --> 0:14:51.280 a lot, get my body way about Alley spress people 0:14:51.280 --> 0:14:54.920 be like, is that extensions plus girl? No take days 0:14:54.960 --> 0:14:59.280 to get here, though I always smell like corn. I'll 0:14:59.320 --> 0:15:02.760 get to sell in summer. I'm planning for my cell 0:15:02.800 --> 0:15:06.280 and next summer my titty becoming out. Y'all literally fight close. 0:15:06.800 --> 0:15:08.720 Let's watch because we didn't we be having a removed 0:15:08.920 --> 0:15:10.600 weely titty came out. We had to take down the 0:15:10.640 --> 0:15:14.400 whole goddamn YouTube. I didn't even know the next label. 0:15:14.600 --> 0:15:16.440 I want to know how you guys feel about the 0:15:16.600 --> 0:15:20.800 usage of the term baby mama. So I used to 0:15:20.880 --> 0:15:23.360 have I used to not like that term um. And 0:15:23.400 --> 0:15:27.000 actually it was when I had a partner I didn't 0:15:27.040 --> 0:15:29.320 like the term baby mama. He would he started calling 0:15:29.360 --> 0:15:31.080 me that, and I was like, I don't do that. 0:15:32.240 --> 0:15:34.520 But I don't know, I don't, I don't. I really 0:15:34.560 --> 0:15:36.400 don't give a funk. Now. In fact, I'm wearing my 0:15:36.440 --> 0:15:39.600 baby mama earrings that we're selling on her site. And 0:15:39.720 --> 0:15:43.680 what's the site, good Mom's batua dot com anyway, So 0:15:43.920 --> 0:15:45.640 I just feel like there's been a lot of like 0:15:45.720 --> 0:15:48.200 a bad connotation, especially amongst Black women, when it comes 0:15:48.240 --> 0:15:51.160 to baby mama. Usually it's associated with like a single 0:15:51.280 --> 0:15:53.800 black woman, who does you know it's desolate and Nick 0:15:53.840 --> 0:15:57.520 has left and now she's a baby mama. Three Fantasia 0:15:57.640 --> 0:16:00.800 did try to make it an anthem though, be a 0:16:01.840 --> 0:16:07.200 b Why I did he and this goes out all 0:16:07.320 --> 0:16:10.560 my baby Mama's this. It's not that I don't know 0:16:10.640 --> 0:16:12.760 the song, is that Mandy loves a moment to get 0:16:12.840 --> 0:16:18.920 her song her. What you know, if there's a fucking 0:16:19.240 --> 0:16:22.560 if there's a jingle bit, she be the first one. 0:16:26.120 --> 0:16:32.200 Remember we were talking about you and said, what got 0:16:32.280 --> 0:16:34.800 to do you like? My voice is gone today? I'm 0:16:34.800 --> 0:16:38.840 not lucky. Y'all are lucky my voice has gone today? 0:16:39.440 --> 0:16:42.160 Um okay. So I like to take on that, and yes, 0:16:42.240 --> 0:16:45.280 it did get like just a negatives, a negative connotation. 0:16:45.320 --> 0:16:48.000 And I would say, like, I think people are split 0:16:48.080 --> 0:16:51.080 on that topic because we pulled our audience because you know, 0:16:51.200 --> 0:16:53.640 we have merchants as baby Mama, and we thought it 0:16:53.720 --> 0:16:55.120 was a great idea. We're like, yeah, I gonna get 0:16:55.120 --> 0:16:57.840 baby Mama shirts, get Baby Daddy shirts, and then we're like, 0:16:57.920 --> 0:16:59.680 maybe people don't feel the same way as us, and 0:16:59.720 --> 0:17:03.120 then we did, and it was it was a hard split. 0:17:03.280 --> 0:17:05.280 It was like a lot of black women were like, no, 0:17:05.400 --> 0:17:06.840 we don't work with that. Like I don't want to 0:17:06.840 --> 0:17:09.040 be a baby mama, but a white women were like, 0:17:09.080 --> 0:17:13.080 it's so cute, we love baby. All the white women 0:17:13.160 --> 0:17:15.320 loved it, like every single white person on our ship 0:17:15.480 --> 0:17:17.760 loved the baby mama ship. And some black women were 0:17:17.800 --> 0:17:21.080 triggered specifically by white women using the term, especially if 0:17:21.119 --> 0:17:25.000 they had black baby daddies, which I wish I could understand. 0:17:25.240 --> 0:17:31.000 But wait, why do you understand that? I just I 0:17:31.080 --> 0:17:33.639 just don't feel bad. It's a layered topic. It's layered, 0:17:33.720 --> 0:17:35.359 and I feel like, yeah, like there's a lot more 0:17:35.400 --> 0:17:39.280 stigma being a single mom as a black woman, Like yeah, 0:17:39.320 --> 0:17:42.639 I think of Tyler Perry movies. I think of saving Isaiah. 0:17:42.680 --> 0:17:45.880 I think of like distress and like welfare and ship. 0:17:46.320 --> 0:17:48.480 But even I don't know when I was with my 0:17:48.520 --> 0:17:50.960 baby daddy, like yes, not baby Eddie. I thought it 0:17:51.000 --> 0:17:53.600 was cute and I don't not offended by a baby mama. 0:17:53.640 --> 0:17:56.840 It is what it is. That's my baby's father. I'm 0:17:56.920 --> 0:17:59.200 the baby's mother. I think I would only use that 0:17:59.359 --> 0:18:01.080 term if I was married to the nigg or with 0:18:01.119 --> 0:18:02.879 the nigger, or he's my man. Well that's why you 0:18:02.960 --> 0:18:05.680 were you were okay saying, you know, I didn't I 0:18:05.720 --> 0:18:08.280 didn't like it. Not that's right, you did. I feel 0:18:08.280 --> 0:18:09.920 like I would have to have something that makes me 0:18:09.960 --> 0:18:11.640 feel validated. So if I was like really with the NIGG, 0:18:11.640 --> 0:18:14.480 I'd be like, do you know my baby daddy? But see, 0:18:14.560 --> 0:18:17.320 by then he should be your husband. But I'm telling 0:18:17.359 --> 0:18:19.520 my baby daddy for fun. Yeah, even if you're married, 0:18:19.560 --> 0:18:22.920 but that's not baby daddy. But see, I agree. I 0:18:23.000 --> 0:18:27.960 think I would feel like if I was single, I 0:18:28.000 --> 0:18:30.560 don't know if it would make me feel comfortable because 0:18:30.600 --> 0:18:32.840 I think that it would just make it because you 0:18:32.960 --> 0:18:34.879 made your baby with love, right, like you want to 0:18:35.320 --> 0:18:39.159 think saying baby mama, it's literally what you are, Like 0:18:39.240 --> 0:18:41.640 what what? What? What? What about? That makes it feel 0:18:41.680 --> 0:18:43.359 you are the mama of the baby. It's not in love. 0:18:43.440 --> 0:18:46.439 I think people have always made it seem like, uh, 0:18:47.480 --> 0:18:49.400 like you're nothing to me, which is probably why maybe 0:18:49.440 --> 0:18:52.480 you felt away, right, because that's terms, because it's the 0:18:52.640 --> 0:18:55.840 term of a label of a woman that is nothing 0:18:55.920 --> 0:19:00.520 but you're one of many or like you, there's a 0:19:00.600 --> 0:19:04.040 level of putting back. I think that feels like, uh, 0:19:04.359 --> 0:19:07.639 it's diminished when you use that term, especially if you 0:19:07.720 --> 0:19:09.359 are like for me, it was like, I'm not your 0:19:09.400 --> 0:19:11.440 baby mama, I'm the mother of your child. I carry 0:19:11.480 --> 0:19:14.879 this little baby for nine months and yeah, but but 0:19:16.040 --> 0:19:18.359 I have done a lot of unlearning in my journey 0:19:18.400 --> 0:19:20.119 and motherhood. There's been a lot of things that I 0:19:20.240 --> 0:19:22.200 would have that back then I would have been like, 0:19:22.359 --> 0:19:24.880 hell no, and now I'm like, I really don't give 0:19:24.880 --> 0:19:27.280 a fuck, you know. So, baby mom is one of 0:19:27.320 --> 0:19:29.919 those things where I'm like, I think, I think it's 0:19:29.960 --> 0:19:32.360 a term of endearment. So I would have the men 0:19:32.400 --> 0:19:34.200 to tell me, like when they're talking about their kids, 0:19:34.240 --> 0:19:36.240 like mom um, yeah, my daughter's mom, and I'd be like, 0:19:36.320 --> 0:19:42.320 look at you now. The last term is single mother. 0:19:42.800 --> 0:19:46.040 I wanted to ask that because we know that when 0:19:46.119 --> 0:19:49.040 you refer to someone as a single father, there's normally 0:19:49.160 --> 0:19:53.680 praise associated with that. But single mother again another word 0:19:54.040 --> 0:19:57.440 with a negative connotation. What are y'all's thoughts on how 0:19:57.960 --> 0:20:00.640 single mothers in general and the type of a single 0:20:00.720 --> 0:20:05.240 mother is viewed. I think people have like, I obviously 0:20:05.280 --> 0:20:07.200 we're single moms, but I hear a lots of different 0:20:07.240 --> 0:20:09.000 things like you're not a single mom. If the dad 0:20:09.160 --> 0:20:12.200 takes the baby, you're not a single mom. If you don't, 0:20:12.200 --> 0:20:14.000 I'm saying the child's fathers in the life and the 0:20:14.040 --> 0:20:16.920 baby's like whatsoever, Yes, which I am. I'm a mom 0:20:17.000 --> 0:20:20.480 and I'm single. So single mom always meant to me 0:20:20.560 --> 0:20:25.280 that you were like just not dating or whatever. I 0:20:25.359 --> 0:20:27.520 think women that don't, who's a thought the father's not 0:20:27.680 --> 0:20:30.040