Speaker 1: Guess what decision we're about to make a horrible decisions.
Speaker 1: Welcome guys to another episode of horrible decisions. I'm your girl,
Speaker 1: Mandy b a k A full court punk a pet
Speaker 1: stallion bitch. Yes, I'm bat like a motherfucker's single lass
Speaker 1: Hope A k A dad bitch a k A. I'm
Speaker 1: gonna make a do what to do? Baby? Mandy baskets?
Speaker 1: What's up? Baby? What? What's up? Tell him who you is? Bitch?
Speaker 1: This is so embarrassing. My name is Wheezy. Um, that's all.
Speaker 1: I will tell you what it do? Uh, sorry for
Speaker 1: my guest. It's giving love and hip hop today with
Speaker 1: Mandy very much. Really, no, it ain't make it do
Speaker 1: what to do? Baby? Yeah, just giving Jimmy Fox. Why
Speaker 1: is that? Uh huh? Anyways, our friends from a layer here,
Speaker 1: so I really don't know why you did all of that. Yes, guys,
Speaker 1: we are joined today by Erica and Milo, which are
Speaker 1: the host of Good Mom's Bad Choices. We and I
Speaker 1: have been having a lot of parenting conversations for some reason,
Speaker 1: like we spit bitches out of our vaginas and we
Speaker 1: have it next? Did you guys? Who she next? You
Speaker 1: both pushed him out. I cut it out. Okay, I
Speaker 1: cut it off. If I have to pick, I would
Speaker 1: take like scissors. You would do it. You would do it.
Speaker 1: No c section. No, that is not something you do optionally.
Speaker 1: You do it because you absolutely have you have to.
Speaker 1: People do it, but people can you know what, I
Speaker 1: I don't recommend it. Mine was not because I wanted that,
Speaker 1: but that's just what happened. I just want the stork
Speaker 1: to come drop it off at the porch if I
Speaker 1: really like, I don't want to go through nonaday. My
Speaker 1: home girl tell me the other day she was like, girl,
Speaker 1: bit just be having a postpartum. She was like, I
Speaker 1: do not want to kill my baby. I just want
Speaker 1: to have someone else to have it. And she just
Speaker 1: wants to experience the pregnancy and not have the baby. No. No,
Speaker 1: she's like, actually really scared to postpartum. Well like she's
Speaker 1: terrified of like wanting to kill her kid. Did either
Speaker 1: of experience relax? My mom said she wanted to microwave me.
Speaker 1: I mean, whoa what didn't say very specific. I think
Speaker 1: it's I think it's because microwave. She was probably cooking
Speaker 1: food or something, and she was like I looked at you,
Speaker 1: and I almost put you in there, and I said
Speaker 1: I need to call somebody, and then she said, you know,
Speaker 1: I lasted for about three days and then I want
Speaker 1: to kill you. Did y'all experience postpartum at all? I did?
Speaker 1: But I didn't want to kill my baby, Okay, I
Speaker 1: was just I just was sad. Oh um, I did.
Speaker 1: I I didn't think I recognized it in the time,
Speaker 1: but like, you definitely get extremely happy and extremely sad
Speaker 1: and confused. It's a huge life changing what the funk
Speaker 1: am I going to do with you forever? Type of feeling.
Speaker 1: Did you get mad at the baby? I didn't get mad, right,
Speaker 1: got mad? I got mad, but I also just got overwhelmed.
Speaker 1: It was more like, oh shit, this is forever. I
Speaker 1: can't even Like there were times where we're like, walk
Speaker 1: into somewhere and I'm like, oh, should I got a baby?
Speaker 1: Like I would forget be walking around the house cleaning up,
Speaker 1: and I'm like, I'm supposed to be doing something like
Speaker 1: oh the fucking baby, you know, like, m well, you
Speaker 1: know what the good thing about these conversations is like
Speaker 1: people are like, oh, having a baby so joyful, It's
Speaker 1: so beautiful. Nothing ever bad happens, but like, bitch, you
Speaker 1: need to recognize if you are experiencing I want to
Speaker 1: kill my baby, so you could drop that baby off.
Speaker 1: I just told Erica, we just came back from a long,
Speaker 1: long ass jungle trip to the jungle and Costa Rica,
Speaker 1: and I was like, bitch, it should be absolutely required,
Speaker 1: like they talk about baby moons and all this other ship.
Speaker 1: It should be required that after you give birth, you
Speaker 1: drop the baby off for at least two weeks and like,
Speaker 1: do your own thing so you can remember yourself you
Speaker 1: give birth. Do you know what's crazy about you saying that? Um, So,
Speaker 1: my sister just gave gave birth in November. Um, by January,
Speaker 1: my mom had COVID and so my sister everyone that
Speaker 1: was in the house had to leave, and so they
Speaker 1: were at the house for like, I don't know, the
Speaker 1: ten to fourteen days, and my mom said that when
Speaker 1: the baby oh so wait, this is a vacation from
Speaker 1: my mom, not the baby. But it made my sister
Speaker 1: closer to the baby because at that point she was
Speaker 1: actually more dependent on my mom so much so that
Speaker 1: that break from my mom caused her to be closer
Speaker 1: to her baby. It requires both because you're new in
Speaker 1: motherhood and you're like, you're like, oh, what do I
Speaker 1: do if someone else is there to be like, I'll
Speaker 1: do it. I'll take it. I know what to do.
Speaker 1: Then you'll kind of lean on that. Then you'll leave
Speaker 1: if you're alone, you like, I gotta figure this out,
Speaker 1: and I gotta be good at it, and I gotta
Speaker 1: you know, like you'll step into your motherhood better. But
Speaker 1: like I'm not saying immediately after you give a birth,
Speaker 1: like after you breastfeed, whenever you can get away within
Speaker 1: like the first year, I highly recommend new moms drop
Speaker 1: that baby off with that father because he he needs
Speaker 1: to get acclimated, he needs to figure the funk out.
Speaker 1: Should have been in my stone. Yeah, you spent the
Speaker 1: whole last year with the baby. Here you go naked
Speaker 1: by I got shipped to do. I had the baby
Speaker 1: for fucking nine months plus. I've been breastfeeding the baby.
Speaker 1: What the fund have you done? You better take the baby,
Speaker 1: do some skin to skin. I'll be back in two weeks.
Speaker 1: It's really you should do it, amen. I think I'm
Speaker 1: gonna do that when I get my mommy and me makeover. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I want to get you already planning that. How do
Speaker 1: you know that you're not gonna be able to snap back?
Speaker 1: Because apparently all the girls snap back now. I don't really,
Speaker 1: I don't really care about Jim got it right off
Speaker 1: the table. I want the same kind of recovery time
Speaker 1: if Kim got it I needed to. I feel like
Speaker 1: Kim is really I want to be I'm not gonna
Speaker 1: be a Kim Ridge. That's just like stupid rich. But
Speaker 1: like if I could get a little bit close to
Speaker 1: where I could pay for that, mommy me make over
Speaker 1: right on the table. Just give me the new everything, right,
Speaker 1: we come off, just lee, I've already got faked tips.
Speaker 1: Leave them there, hopefully they're still freaky. Are you going
Speaker 1: to be able to breastfeed? Yeah? I did. I got
Speaker 1: them under the muscle. Yeah you care that you can
Speaker 1: breastfeed anatomy, got your science it bit girl, I'm about
Speaker 1: to get nipped and tucto. But that's not a vacation, bitch,
Speaker 1: because you don't be in pain. Yeah, you're gonna be
Speaker 1: like you're not. You're in another vacation after then. But
Speaker 1: I thought I was going to dr with the girls.
Speaker 1: Oh no, it's no girl's girl. You're gonna be the
Speaker 1: recovery house. Yeah, it's recovery house. And they'd be like yeah,
Speaker 1: and then come and wipe your app because you're not
Speaker 1: gonna be able to wipe your own. Wait, first of
Speaker 1: where are your where you getting these surgeries? Why are
Speaker 1: they saying Instagram you're going out the countrybut getting your
Speaker 1: cheese stune while you're there too? Can wait? Can you
Speaker 1: tell us about like is it? Were you ever at
Speaker 1: one point did you feel like I shouldn't be doing
Speaker 1: this off the country? No? So I got like I
Speaker 1: was twenty two years old. Uh no, because at the
Speaker 1: time all of my friends were on his escorts and
Speaker 1: everyone I knew. It was like when I go to
Speaker 1: fucking l A and they're like, hey, we have nothing
Speaker 1: to do today, let's go get both talks and fillers
Speaker 1: that I'm eyeing into. But it was just so natural
Speaker 1: and calm and for everyone that I knew at that
Speaker 1: time to do it, I was like, okay, girl. They
Speaker 1: shared their recovery house with me, They shared their doctor
Speaker 1: with me, they share what's the recovery house? Like, Um,
Speaker 1: it's like a house with many rooms and you can
Speaker 1: either have the room by yourself or split it they
Speaker 1: like double occupancy, and the women just come and help
Speaker 1: you get in and out your fab make sure you
Speaker 1: get your massages, make sure you eat so they cook
Speaker 1: you your meals the whole day. That's the problem. Though.
Speaker 1: There were there were women there fresh fresh off the table,
Speaker 1: ordering Popeyes, and they were literally telling the people like
Speaker 1: this isn't what you should be eating, and it's just
Speaker 1: like this is why it just gotta go back by six,
Speaker 1: moving to different places and share you well, and that too,
Speaker 1: and that's what I noticed too, Like my waist, of
Speaker 1: course has always remained small, but when I started getting
Speaker 1: the way clearly I got up to two, did not
Speaker 1: let me just turn off my waist of course? Best
Speaker 1: maybe send to me your news of course? Did Did
Speaker 1: I not put them? Did I not put them in
Speaker 1: the group chat? I mean, well, I didn't want to
Speaker 1: get back real quick to off the surgery conversation I
Speaker 1: do have because we did just have a dad on
Speaker 1: the show or he's coming up, ya know, we don't
Speaker 1: know when we schedule these ships. Um, but I wanted
Speaker 1: to get into different mom labels because for whatever reason,
Speaker 1: moms just carry a negative connotation with the labels that
Speaker 1: are with them. Unless they're a wife. So I have milf.
Speaker 1: What are y'all's views on the word milk? For sure,
Speaker 1: you're okay with milf. I'm cool with milf. I feel
Speaker 1: like it's very white. Yeah, I feel like it's very white.
Speaker 1: Is there a black version? But see, my only version
Speaker 1: with that is milk. When I look in porn, maybe
Speaker 1: looking like they look older, I feel like you could
Speaker 1: use milf if you're sucking someone like like exceptionally younger
Speaker 1: than you. I think I feel like American pie decide
Speaker 1: did what milf was, and so we associate milk with
Speaker 1: like what I was gonna say. We think about her
Speaker 1: her like the old white lady. But now I think
Speaker 1: to all of us at that point in time, we
Speaker 1: were young when it came out, But now we all
Speaker 1: know a mom, and we all know a hot mom.
Speaker 1: We want to know young moms. You right, you right?
Speaker 1: You know. It's like I feel like it's hard. But
Speaker 1: like for porn, when if I typed in milk, there
Speaker 1: would be a look Lisa, and sure be an older
Speaker 1: woman on porn and maybe a white woman. You wouldn't
Speaker 1: see any black MILFs be sprinkled. Yeah you don't. I
Speaker 1: got to say, I don't think I maybe, but what
Speaker 1: does that t is a tasty black fucking folks person?
Speaker 1: What is tasty black should be pick It's like a
Speaker 1: it's like a website that like basically funnels all the
Speaker 1: black porns I need because I'm not a soul food restaurant.
Speaker 1: But I literally type inside just a warning, you're gonna
Speaker 1: get a lot of pop ups. You will get the
Speaker 1: content you're looking for if slow like that, the surf
Speaker 1: is slow. But I find all the black port because
Speaker 1: I only like to watch that. Do they have gay
Speaker 1: porn every type at all? I love black gate porn, tasty,
Speaker 1: it's aggressive, tasty, not to light, no taste. Black dot
Speaker 1: com has all the black porns and there's no white
Speaker 1: people on there. No is there in a racial Yes,
Speaker 1: so there's white people. Okay people, okay, only if you
Speaker 1: don't trin. What a fucking great website. Oh bit, look
Speaker 1: at all that, Melanie, Yes, that's what I want to watch.
Speaker 1: You maybe be talking sh sh like weaves? I porn?
Speaker 1: You like weaves? I just told you I watched black
Speaker 1: gay porn. I don't care about weaves. Now you said
Speaker 1: that you're on like watching the porn because I don't
Speaker 1: watch straight porn. I watched gay porn. Ain't got weaves
Speaker 1: and gay porn. Some of these are good. Oh they
Speaker 1: got a wrap. Well wait, so in the gay point,
Speaker 1: you're watching two men. Two men, Okay, you don't. You
Speaker 1: don't like to watch to women and three man. No women,
Speaker 1: you don't like watching women at all? Trans women, they
Speaker 1: have short hairporn, Mandy, don't do that. I'm not kidding.
Speaker 1: I've never heard that I was either hair porn. N
Speaker 1: I'm telling you they got they got a lot of crazy.
Speaker 1: Hey mad to her. This is the motion while I'm
Speaker 1: having sex, now to dishevel my fucking hair, as if
Speaker 1: I didn't work hard on the ways when I do
Speaker 1: hold on, wait, I'm confused because they can't grab they
Speaker 1: know poland so now it's a rub like I'm a
Speaker 1: genie like for sex short hair. Short hair is not
Speaker 1: for sex like it just it just gets messed up.
Speaker 1: And then when you get don't look cute at all,
Speaker 1: and it I look a fucking well wait, I gotta fine.
Speaker 1: I carry felm in my purse at all time. Well,
Speaker 1: wig sex is also hard because I definitely fucked with
Speaker 1: a wig on, and that you gotta hold it down.
Speaker 1: I don't feel comfortable come throble walking outside in the wait.
Speaker 1: Can I tell you something? At one time I had
Speaker 1: a threesome with a naked and a bit. It wasn't
Speaker 1: a threesome. I was like reluctant, anyonen't really feeling like
Speaker 1: it that day, any made threesome ish. The bitch removed
Speaker 1: the woman. I'm a woman, I'm a bit girl. Stop
Speaker 1: are you being fucking I was being patty. I was
Speaker 1: being patty. I was being petty righteous term of endearment.
Speaker 1: The bitch took off her wing mid threesome with the
Speaker 1: straight back. I was not me and I'm not even
Speaker 1: I'm not even like I was like in my mind,
Speaker 1: I was like, oh wow. Also, I was like, wow,
Speaker 1: this bitch is confident. There's no way of fucking hell
Speaker 1: with my fine ass when I take first of all,
Speaker 1: I don't feel comfortable even sucking, like, oh, I don't
Speaker 1: really wear weaves, but I just like my edges as
Speaker 1: a track showing she'd removed the whole thing, And I
Speaker 1: was like, why did she do it? Like in the
Speaker 1: moment of it's in the way, like you know, she
Speaker 1: She's like it was like some going on and she
Speaker 1: just was it a lace, No, bitch, it was isn't removable.
Speaker 1: I don't know remota. She just came off and I
Speaker 1: was just like so and the guy I was sucking
Speaker 1: at the time. I had fun her before and afterwards.
Speaker 1: I was like, she got her wig like that. See,
Speaker 1: but I'm gonna be really just gonna slide off. Wouldn't
Speaker 1: you have to take it off? And I'm gonna hold you.
Speaker 1: I apply extra Bobby pants. I put Bobby pants. But
Speaker 1: that ship started. Maybe I'm meant to care. I'm not
Speaker 1: having a threesome with my wig on so that I
Speaker 1: don't even have to think about taking it off. Did
Speaker 1: you know you were? Did y'all know you're gonna have three?
Speaker 1: So that I don't care. I wouldn't even fell into
Speaker 1: it if it was me like she she didn't know,
Speaker 1: but it ended up how she didn't want it to
Speaker 1: fall off of it me personally, I couldn't have done it.
Speaker 1: I've more powered to her. She's still beautiful. It was great.
Speaker 1: I'm eating with a drawsting ponytail on, and I remember
Speaker 1: like when I was in her those are secure though. Yeah,
Speaker 1: But at the same time I was eating at blizzy
Speaker 1: and she was like this, and I was like, way,
Speaker 1: you should know, don't be pulling on hairs. That's really
Speaker 1: insulting me about it, like going to play you was,
Speaker 1: but you got one too, so I don't want me
Speaker 1: to pulling yours like that. My ex Scissors always wore
Speaker 1: like she no, she's like wearing cloths and and ship.
Speaker 1: But when we were sucking beard bay, like, I would
Speaker 1: have braids and she would have her ship, and you know,
Speaker 1: and men want to get really close to your face
Speaker 1: and they might touch your face. I used to always
Speaker 1: say it to a little sword like and then get
Speaker 1: in his neck, and I'd be like, I don't want
Speaker 1: to funk with fake hair, like unless two didn't think
Speaker 1: too much. Just I was talking about talking about fake hair.
Speaker 1: We're wearing braids, it doesn't matter. We're family, we all,
Speaker 1: so you'll be wearing tracks no, alright, Yeah, I was
Speaker 1: about to say, you never see me ward tracks because
Speaker 1: I can't afford him and I'm not rich enough, okay,
Speaker 1: and also I'm not secure enough because if you see
Speaker 1: my track, I'm gonna be feeling away. I'm like girling
Speaker 1: a lot, get my body way about Alley spress people
Speaker 1: be like, is that extensions plus girl? No take days
Speaker 1: to get here, though I always smell like corn. I'll
Speaker 1: get to sell in summer. I'm planning for my cell
Speaker 1: and next summer my titty becoming out. Y'all literally fight close.
Speaker 1: Let's watch because we didn't we be having a removed
Speaker 1: weely titty came out. We had to take down the
Speaker 1: whole goddamn YouTube. I didn't even know the next label.
Speaker 1: I want to know how you guys feel about the
Speaker 1: usage of the term baby mama. So I used to
Speaker 1: have I used to not like that term um. And
Speaker 1: actually it was when I had a partner I didn't
Speaker 1: like the term baby mama. He would he started calling
Speaker 1: me that, and I was like, I don't do that.
Speaker 1: But I don't know, I don't, I don't. I really
Speaker 1: don't give a funk. Now. In fact, I'm wearing my
Speaker 1: baby mama earrings that we're selling on her site. And
Speaker 1: what's the site, good Mom's batua dot com anyway, So
Speaker 1: I just feel like there's been a lot of like
Speaker 1: a bad connotation, especially amongst Black women, when it comes
Speaker 1: to baby mama. Usually it's associated with like a single
Speaker 1: black woman, who does you know it's desolate and Nick
Speaker 1: has left and now she's a baby mama. Three Fantasia
Speaker 1: did try to make it an anthem though, be a
Speaker 1: b Why I did he and this goes out all
Speaker 1: my baby Mama's this. It's not that I don't know
Speaker 1: the song, is that Mandy loves a moment to get
Speaker 1: her song her. What you know, if there's a fucking
Speaker 1: if there's a jingle bit, she be the first one.
Speaker 1: Remember we were talking about you and said, what got
Speaker 1: to do you like? My voice is gone today? I'm
Speaker 1: not lucky. Y'all are lucky my voice has gone today?
Speaker 1: Um okay. So I like to take on that, and yes,
Speaker 1: it did get like just a negatives, a negative connotation.
Speaker 1: And I would say, like, I think people are split
Speaker 1: on that topic because we pulled our audience because you know,
Speaker 1: we have merchants as baby Mama, and we thought it
Speaker 1: was a great idea. We're like, yeah, I gonna get
Speaker 1: baby Mama shirts, get Baby Daddy shirts, and then we're like,
Speaker 1: maybe people don't feel the same way as us, and
Speaker 1: then we did, and it was it was a hard split.
Speaker 1: It was like a lot of black women were like, no,
Speaker 1: we don't work with that. Like I don't want to
Speaker 1: be a baby mama, but a white women were like,
Speaker 1: it's so cute, we love baby. All the white women
Speaker 1: loved it, like every single white person on our ship
Speaker 1: loved the baby mama ship. And some black women were
Speaker 1: triggered specifically by white women using the term, especially if
Speaker 1: they had black baby daddies, which I wish I could understand.
Speaker 1: But wait, why do you understand that? I just I
Speaker 1: just don't feel bad. It's a layered topic. It's layered,
Speaker 1: and I feel like, yeah, like there's a lot more
Speaker 1: stigma being a single mom as a black woman, Like yeah,
Speaker 1: I think of Tyler Perry movies. I think of saving Isaiah.
Speaker 1: I think of like distress and like welfare and ship.
Speaker 1: But even I don't know when I was with my
Speaker 1: baby daddy, like yes, not baby Eddie. I thought it
Speaker 1: was cute and I don't not offended by a baby mama.
Speaker 1: It is what it is. That's my baby's father. I'm
Speaker 1: the baby's mother. I think I would only use that
Speaker 1: term if I was married to the nigg or with
Speaker 1: the nigger, or he's my man. Well that's why you
Speaker 1: were you were okay saying, you know, I didn't I
Speaker 1: didn't like it. Not that's right, you did. I feel
Speaker 1: like I would have to have something that makes me
Speaker 1: feel validated. So if I was like really with the NIGG,
Speaker 1: I'd be like, do you know my baby daddy? But see,
Speaker 1: by then he should be your husband. But I'm telling
Speaker 1: my baby daddy for fun. Yeah, even if you're married,
Speaker 1: but that's not baby daddy. But see, I agree. I
Speaker 1: think I would feel like if I was single, I
Speaker 1: don't know if it would make me feel comfortable because
Speaker 1: I think that it would just make it because you
Speaker 1: made your baby with love, right, like you want to
Speaker 1: think saying baby mama, it's literally what you are, Like
Speaker 1: what what? What? What? What about? That makes it feel
Speaker 1: you are the mama of the baby. It's not in love.
Speaker 1: I think people have always made it seem like, uh,
Speaker 1: like you're nothing to me, which is probably why maybe
Speaker 1: you felt away, right, because that's terms, because it's the
Speaker 1: term of a label of a woman that is nothing
Speaker 1: but you're one of many or like you, there's a
Speaker 1: level of putting back. I think that feels like, uh,
Speaker 1: it's diminished when you use that term, especially if you
Speaker 1: are like for me, it was like, I'm not your
Speaker 1: baby mama, I'm the mother of your child. I carry
Speaker 1: this little baby for nine months and yeah, but but
Speaker 1: I have done a lot of unlearning in my journey
Speaker 1: and motherhood. There's been a lot of things that I
Speaker 1: would have that back then I would have been like,
Speaker 1: hell no, and now I'm like, I really don't give
Speaker 1: a fuck, you know. So, baby mom is one of
Speaker 1: those things where I'm like, I think, I think it's
Speaker 1: a term of endearment. So I would have the men
Speaker 1: to tell me, like when they're talking about their kids,
Speaker 1: like mom um, yeah, my daughter's mom, and I'd be like,
Speaker 1: look at you now. The last term is single mother.
Speaker 1: I wanted to ask that because we know that when
Speaker 1: you refer to someone as a single father, there's normally
Speaker 1: praise associated with that. But single mother again another word
Speaker 1: with a negative connotation. What are y'all's thoughts on how
Speaker 1: single mothers in general and the type of a single
Speaker 1: mother is viewed. I think people have like, I obviously
Speaker 1: we're single moms, but I hear a lots of different
Speaker 1: things like you're not a single mom. If the dad
Speaker 1: takes the baby, you're not a single mom. If you don't,
Speaker 1: I'm saying the child's fathers in the life and the
Speaker 1: baby's like whatsoever, Yes, which I am. I'm a mom
Speaker 1: and I'm single. So single mom always meant to me
Speaker 1: that you were like just not dating or whatever. I
Speaker 1: think women that don't, who's a thought the father's not
Speaker 1: in their child's life get very sensitive about that term
Speaker 1: and they like so I understand, like they they truly
Speaker 1: are the single moms like, but then it's like why
Speaker 1: are we married to the struggle, like why are we
Speaker 1: like why why does that have to be that way
Speaker 1: when you're dating men, Because men are We're always seeing
Speaker 1: on Instagram like, oh, dating a woman with kids, blah
Speaker 1: blah blah. What's something that men you've dated For men
Speaker 1: that are dating women with kids, like, what's a piece
Speaker 1: of advice you to give or something you've appreciated with
Speaker 1: men that have no kids that have dated you? With
Speaker 1: your day for the babysitter. If you want me to
Speaker 1: like that, you want to take me out and you
Speaker 1: really want to see me, then make my life easier
Speaker 1: because guess what I pay for a whole other person's life,
Speaker 1: Pay for my dinner, do the things, do what you're
Speaker 1: supposed to do, because I literally am taking care of
Speaker 1: a whole ass human over here. Pay for the babysitter,
Speaker 1: Pay for the babys That's really good. I like that
Speaker 1: advice a lot. You know, I've definitely had it happened
Speaker 1: to know, but that happened to me. He wasn't older,
Speaker 1: more mature nigga who was wearing a suit. Maybe he wasn't.
Speaker 1: Maybe he was a gentleman. He wasn't gentleman. It was obviously.
Speaker 1: I was talking about a guy in his forties, our
Speaker 1: friend of any of the show. He always goes. I
Speaker 1: was with an older gentleman last night. He wasn't older.
Speaker 1: He is an older gentleman. And I didn't have to ask.
Speaker 1: He just sent it. I'm looking for Arial, Arial to
Speaker 1: watch my arieal is hold. I was trying to get
Speaker 1: sexy because I'm saying, did you guys just get fresh good?
Speaker 1: Mom's bad choices chats? Yeah, that's so cute, cute, and
Speaker 1: we should get bracelets. Mandy, m'm let me get decisions.
Speaker 1: Me and Jamie La and platonic loves. Yeah, we're vibes
Speaker 1: that don't have sex. What did you guys get high?
Speaker 1: When you're in Costa Rica? Do do how you ask
Speaker 1: for anything? Trooms mushrooms yet a little bit. Yeah, is
Speaker 1: that when you're like, we were born to do this podcast.
Speaker 1: We've been born to do the podcast. That was when
Speaker 1: we were like, we should have a baby together. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but you know what, you would have another baby. I
Speaker 1: was because people always ask me and ask us and
Speaker 1: they ask every fucking mom, but you can't have another one?
Speaker 1: Like what do you think about having kids? And I'm like,
Speaker 1: I don't really know that question. I do, but I'm
Speaker 1: just like I don't know, like I'm open to it,
Speaker 1: but like I know too much now. But not only that.
Speaker 1: You gotta like a nigga first. I know so much.
Speaker 1: That's not for you either, Like you don't even gotta
Speaker 1: like them naked. I gotta you gotta have unicorns purples
Speaker 1: coming out your fucking dick. You gotta unicorn spark baby
Speaker 1: Jesus himself, my nag I have. I have postraumatic baby
Speaker 1: daddy disorder. I do great p t D p t
Speaker 1: t D traumatic baby p t b D. What has yet?
Speaker 1: I don't fucking know the fucking the words, but the
Speaker 1: word is post traumatic baby daddy disorder. I'm scared, bitch.
Speaker 1: You got to be connected to this nicket forever, so
Speaker 1: he should be. Jesus, if you're gonna do it now,
Speaker 1: he should be. I got one more dating question with kids. Okay,
Speaker 1: when you're dating a guy and they have kids, is
Speaker 1: it immediately like, because I'm sure when you make friends,
Speaker 1: you're like, oh, we gotta do a play date, they
Speaker 1: don't be at the custody. But when you're dating then girl,
Speaker 1: I hope you would date a n decent with the kids.
Speaker 1: Of course. I would never dated bad dad. I don't
Speaker 1: even I don't even be friend bitches that I think
Speaker 1: are mediocre moms that if you're a shitty to your kid,
Speaker 1: you're definitely not gonna be I hate when I hear
Speaker 1: men like kind of just be whatever. But it's so gross.
Speaker 1: But not only because we're at this age and we
Speaker 1: got friends with kids now, but it's just like, what
Speaker 1: kind of nigger are you? If the kids you shout
Speaker 1: out you can't even calm anyway, how soon for the
Speaker 1: play date? Because I know whenever I have two friends
Speaker 1: and they find other kids the same day, oh yeah,
Speaker 1: we got to do a play date. But when you
Speaker 1: eat man that you're dating, do you do a play
Speaker 1: date or is the two brother and history. That's never
Speaker 1: happened to me, but I would be definitely down for
Speaker 1: the play date because it makes it easier. I recently
Speaker 1: dated briefly someone with a child, and his child was older,
Speaker 1: like probably like seven years older than um. But we did.
Speaker 1: We we had he took me out for Mother's Day
Speaker 1: and he brought his son. Oh sorry, that la not
Speaker 1: her like way, this is a new story. Um. It
Speaker 1: was kind of awkward though. It was like it was awkward,
Speaker 1: like he was like the same my mom was the kid.
Speaker 1: What made it awkward, well because his son is like
Speaker 1: an awkward teenage age so he and then my daughter's
Speaker 1: like six, so she's just goofy and ship and then
Speaker 1: like we're kind of like me and him are kind
Speaker 1: of awkward a little bit because we were like still
Speaker 1: kind of getting to know each other. So I appreciated
Speaker 1: the effort, but it was kind of the age difference
Speaker 1: does it wasn't close enough for them to like really
Speaker 1: like you know, connect um. But I would say, like
Speaker 1: that was the first time I've ever like kind of
Speaker 1: dated someone with a child, and it was appealing to
Speaker 1: me because he really understood my parenting, my schedule, like
Speaker 1: he he is a single father. Um and and I
Speaker 1: mean that like the mother still in his life, but
Speaker 1: his son moved across the country to live with him
Speaker 1: and he's the sole provider for his son right now. UM,
Speaker 1: which was appealing to me because I was like, oh, ship,
Speaker 1: like I've never it was. It was hot, made my
Speaker 1: pussy very wet. Um. Although we didn't have sex, but
Speaker 1: we'll talk about that later. UM. Wrong him because you
Speaker 1: always got a story about some had nothing to do
Speaker 1: with him. It was more me. I was substaining UM,
Speaker 1: but I it was appealing and that was the first
Speaker 1: time I had done that. It didn't work out between us,
Speaker 1: but I'm very much open to the idea of dating
Speaker 1: someone with children. I think that it might be like
Speaker 1: the best thing for me, but I just haven't. I
Speaker 1: don't suggest moms to maybe like seek other deads. I mean,
Speaker 1: it just depends on the situation. Is like what is
Speaker 1: your relationship with your baby mama? Like, is it gonna
Speaker 1: be toxic? Is a drama? Like I don't want to
Speaker 1: deal with that ship, you know, So sometimes it is
Speaker 1: easier to not and you can start your own little life,
Speaker 1: you know, and have your own little babies and ship.
Speaker 1: So I don't really know, um, but I do know
Speaker 1: that I enjoyed that time and it opened up my
Speaker 1: eyes to like, okay, wow, like this person really understands me,
Speaker 1: and like if I cancel thirty minutes before a date,
Speaker 1: like he's not tripping because he knows like ship is.
Speaker 1: And also, you know, kids are the best excuse to
Speaker 1: cancel everything. Girl, I've got to tell my homegirl, you
Speaker 1: better stop using that little girl. Oh my god, I
Speaker 1: use my baby. I can't. She's so sick. You don't
Speaker 1: want to go to check me. Like, nigga, my kid
Speaker 1: is sick. Shut the funk up. Can't come at home washing.
Speaker 1: You really can't check somebody what they kid. It depends
Speaker 1: on close you are to them. But I tell it
Speaker 1: all of this, so we're gonna get into the Vanilla ship.
Speaker 1: The Vanilla Ship is literally us revisiting two of the
Speaker 1: previous vanillitions we've had, and it's because we think I
Speaker 1: gave our opinions on it as nonparents, So I just
Speaker 1: want a parental take on both of these vanillations that
Speaker 1: we talked about. The first one is in regards to
Speaker 1: parents here in New York being enraged over masturbation videos
Speaker 1: being shown to first graders. I wanted to know what
Speaker 1: are your takes on if a masturbation video is shown
Speaker 1: to your children in school without your knowledge or permission
Speaker 1: of the video first, and if you guys think that
Speaker 1: sex being taught that early in school is okay? Um look,
Speaker 1: I think that parents deserve to be in control of
Speaker 1: their of their children's um, you know, exposure, right, But
Speaker 1: I also know that a lot of parents aren't going
Speaker 1: to have the conversations and then and then you grow
Speaker 1: up and then you're you have trauma. You don't understand
Speaker 1: certain ship because mommy and daddy didn't talk to you.
Speaker 1: So I'm kind of I'm kind of torn because for me,
Speaker 1: you know, I'm very sex positive. If that happened, I'd
Speaker 1: be like, oh ship, great, thank you you you know,
Speaker 1: I would be like yes, please, you know, But I
Speaker 1: understand why parents could be uncomfortable because they haven't had
Speaker 1: those conversations, because they didn't have those conversations with their parents,
Speaker 1: and they have no idea even how to begin the
Speaker 1: conversation with their kids. So I mean, I think that
Speaker 1: it's probably something that should have been maybe discussed before.
Speaker 1: But I guarantee you it wouldn't have happened because most
Speaker 1: parents would have said no, like absolutely not, we're not
Speaker 1: showing this, and then it wouldn't have happened. So I
Speaker 1: don't know if the school did it because they knew,
Speaker 1: like if we prefaced this and they're gonna like be pissed,
Speaker 1: new might as well just expose them. And so I
Speaker 1: don't think the school should have that, Like I don't.
Speaker 1: I don't think the school can make the decision in
Speaker 1: that way. I feel like, I feel like you should
Speaker 1: have talked to me first. Um. I'm also a mom
Speaker 1: who's going to have a conversation when it's time to
Speaker 1: have the conversation. I I was masturbating early, like I
Speaker 1: was exposed to like the pleasure and the sensation in
Speaker 1: my body early. And if I would have had guidance
Speaker 1: in a in a in the realm of health in
Speaker 1: a healthy way, I probably would have. I probably would
Speaker 1: have a more healthy relationship with masturbation. As an adult,
Speaker 1: I don't really masturbate that much. I'll use people, but um,
Speaker 1: because okay, I think about my daughter right now, she's
Speaker 1: about to be in Jesus Christum, she's about to be
Speaker 1: in she's about to be six. No, she's about to
Speaker 1: be in first grade. She's not really like, she's not
Speaker 1: really exploring her body in that way. She's just like,
Speaker 1: how would you feel? Okay, how do you? How do you?
Speaker 1: How do you know that? I know that because I'm
Speaker 1: I live with my daughter, like I know my daughter.
Speaker 1: I hid my period from my mom for a year.
Speaker 1: Uh fifth grade? Okay, Okay, when you're when you're six,
Speaker 1: you don't even like if that's the thing. When you're
Speaker 1: introduced to the pleasure the sensation that your body brings you,
Speaker 1: you're not even aware yet that there's anything wrong with it.
Speaker 1: It's not sexual, it's not sexual. It's just genuinely, oh,
Speaker 1: this feels good. So I know, like I would, I
Speaker 1: would notice if my daughter was exploring her body, and
Speaker 1: then we could talk about it, like, oh I do it, Mommy,
Speaker 1: doesn't wash your hands, close your door, do it alone.
Speaker 1: No one else does it now. The only thing I
Speaker 1: fear about, like a school setting, introducing it before I
Speaker 1: do is that like then she'll be like, huh should
Speaker 1: I go try that before it naturally comes? So like
Speaker 1: that's the thing. But I agree with Erica. Most parents
Speaker 1: are not going to have the conversation at all, and
Speaker 1: then when they do, it's gonna be like what are
Speaker 1: you doing? But but and then and then forever you like,
Speaker 1: don't do that. You know I'm saying you'd like that
Speaker 1: trauma that like that first scare is like, Okay, I
Speaker 1: don't need to do that because it already kind of
Speaker 1: feels bad and naughty because like you don't see it,
Speaker 1: you don't talk about it. But I do think it's
Speaker 1: the first time I talked about sex d was at
Speaker 1: school in the fifth grade when I was ten, and
Speaker 1: it was about periods and like it wasn't about pleasure.
Speaker 1: It was about it was about the cycle and women
Speaker 1: don't get enough pleasure talk women don't get enough, Like
Speaker 1: it's about your body. It's about like a sixth year
Speaker 1: old deserve that from another adult. Like that's the thing
Speaker 1: it's not about they do scientifically, and that's like I
Speaker 1: have to come to my teacher about questions and I
Speaker 1: just don't trust other adults in regards to like keeping
Speaker 1: my children safe. And I think that that would be
Speaker 1: the craziest part of it. Like now you gotta ask
Speaker 1: this older woman or a man about your vagina and
Speaker 1: touching it. But's be talking about touching it. I think
Speaker 1: that and not someone else. I think that it wasn't
Speaker 1: done properly. I think that I get what they were
Speaker 1: trying to do, possibly maybe if if I have their
Speaker 1: intentions correctly. But I do also think that it's probably
Speaker 1: caused a lot of trauma for certain kids because their
Speaker 1: parents aren't ready to have those conversations, and so now
Speaker 1: that they're exposed, their parents are going to then put
Speaker 1: up expose them in a way that's shameful or like
Speaker 1: we don't talk about that, like don't worry about that.
Speaker 1: But unfortunately that's all. But everything is frounding set true.
Speaker 1: And I would say, but I would say that I
Speaker 1: don't know. I don't necessarily agree with Jamila as far
Speaker 1: as like kids not masturbating at six, Like I remember
Speaker 1: touching myself very young, and I said I did, I
Speaker 1: said I did. My kid hasn't really like just like
Speaker 1: I did it and my mom wasn't around, but I
Speaker 1: wasn't like mom, mean like like I was alone in
Speaker 1: the room like touching my So what do you think
Speaker 1: the age is both of you for the grade where
Speaker 1: masturbation talk should be had, then yeah, if it's not first,
Speaker 1: I think you have to first like kind of talk
Speaker 1: to your You have to know your kid and be
Speaker 1: in tune with your kid and be like, you know,
Speaker 1: like if if that does that feel good? Because then
Speaker 1: if she'll do ship and I'm like, why are you
Speaker 1: doing that? Does it feel good? Like if you just
Speaker 1: make everything matter? If it's not one conversation, it's it's
Speaker 1: it's an ongoing conversation. I mean, I'm you know, as
Speaker 1: a mother of a daughter, like I've had to teach
Speaker 1: and still teaching my daughter how to properly clean herself, right,
Speaker 1: and we are talking about her vagina and we're show
Speaker 1: I've showed it to her, you know, with a mirror
Speaker 1: at five, you know, like she knows what it looks
Speaker 1: like and like but I can already see that there.
Speaker 1: She's like a little like like shy about it or
Speaker 1: like giggles a little bit. And I don't even know
Speaker 1: where that comes from, Like why is this sillity? Why
Speaker 1: is your body silly to you? And actually could both
Speaker 1: of y'all like being naked like right, So I don't know,
Speaker 1: it's I don't feel like there's one big conversation that happens.
Speaker 1: I think if you are have a child that is
Speaker 1: you know, at the age like our kids are and
Speaker 1: it's not too late, but like teaching them about their
Speaker 1: body parts, talking about it, that's how you open up
Speaker 1: the conversation and like normalized, normalized, like just normalized conversations
Speaker 1: that are usually I haven't been tabooed. I asked Luna, like, oh,
Speaker 1: how are you? How is your day? Anybody touched your
Speaker 1: vagina lately? It's like, no, mom, And I keep asking that.
Speaker 1: I'm like, I just asking, yeah, because like my mom
Speaker 1: would put her hand be like, what would you do
Speaker 1: if someone does this? Well, that's the thing that it's
Speaker 1: all scary, Like, nobody touches you here. You hear me,
Speaker 1: You hear me, look at me. If anyone touches you here,
Speaker 1: you tell me. You know what I mean. That's how
Speaker 1: my mom talked me about it. Actually, no, because a
Speaker 1: lot of people, especially as a child the way you
Speaker 1: don't like to get in trouble. Some children don't want
Speaker 1: to get anyone else in trouble. And so if you
Speaker 1: know that this is something that makes your even parents angry,
Speaker 1: you may keep it to yourself because then you know,
Speaker 1: when that happened to me. I did tell my mom
Speaker 1: same that happened to me too, very young, like three,
Speaker 1: but I remember like, if someone does this, you tell me.
Speaker 1: And then I remember telling you, and I was like,
Speaker 1: you know, I was like this big thing, and honestly,
Speaker 1: I blocked that. I blocked that memory out of my
Speaker 1: mind for like fifteen years. And then when I was
Speaker 1: like sixteen, I was in high school. I was like
Speaker 1: three or four and like an older kid had touched
Speaker 1: my vagina and playing house or some ship, and I
Speaker 1: was like sixteen, I had totally totally blocked that that
Speaker 1: memory out of my mind. And we were in Philly
Speaker 1: because that's where my parents are from, and she's like
Speaker 1: my dad was like, remember your grandma used to live
Speaker 1: right there, And as soon as I looked at the house,
Speaker 1: those memories flooded back. But like as children, when you
Speaker 1: have traumatic things happened to you or things that are
Speaker 1: like such a big deal at that time, your body
Speaker 1: and your subconscious can automatically block that out, you know
Speaker 1: what I mean. So it's just like regulating things so
Speaker 1: that they're normalized and we're having conversations and then you
Speaker 1: can talk to the person down the street and say,
Speaker 1: I like, you know, she she said this to me
Speaker 1: it's just not this huge, big deal. And even if
Speaker 1: it is a big deal, you kind of like guard
Speaker 1: that part from your kids so that you can deal
Speaker 1: with it in an adult manner. But as long as
Speaker 1: the conversation is normal and normalized and calm, just like
Speaker 1: oh you want you want apple jacks or fucking frosted flakes,
Speaker 1: then it's like the kid doesn't feel that energy from you,
Speaker 1: and then there's no fear associated with it, like we're
Speaker 1: having normal conversation, just like when they become teenagers or
Speaker 1: preteens and like, oh Joseph fingerbank me or whatever the
Speaker 1: funk they're doing in these days, we kissed, you know,
Speaker 1: we literally went from them kids to talk to them kids.
Speaker 1: I'm want to talk about really quickly. You really got
Speaker 1: it on my mind. One of my favorite videos, and
Speaker 1: we can cut this part out of you don't want
Speaker 1: to talk about it, But one of my favorite videos
Speaker 1: online is a dude with his nephew, I think or
Speaker 1: his little brother and they're on a pole and exercising,
Speaker 1: and I don't know if anyone remembers it, but it's
Speaker 1: adorable because he jumps on him while he's swinging on
Speaker 1: the pole. The man is dressed like with a shirt,
Speaker 1: like he's not like dressed in appropriately, and they're like
Speaker 1: really having fun on the pole. You had a video
Speaker 1: with Luna where she was playing around, and like three
Speaker 1: people sent that to me, like you follow this bit,
Speaker 1: and I was like, I'm really confused. What the fuck
Speaker 1: we following her? What's the wrong? Because everyone sexualizes everything.
Speaker 1: So here's the thing. Let're talking about this. People sexualized children,
Speaker 1: and it's putting your adult ideas and perspectives and projecting
Speaker 1: them on children. I have a poll at my house.
Speaker 1: Luna is great at it, literally like Mom, look at
Speaker 1: this and like, how did you do that? It's just
Speaker 1: like we go. If you go to the park, there's
Speaker 1: a poll, there's the pole of the park. You go
Speaker 1: to the park, there's a pole, there's poles. Okay, it's
Speaker 1: an apparatus that you you practice on. My daughter dances.
Speaker 1: We dance in my house naked clothes and bitch when
Speaker 1: I tell you that is actually one of the hardest
Speaker 1: forms working out. But it's also gymnastics. Like, my child
Speaker 1: has never been to a strip club. My child is
Speaker 1: not like I'm not putting dollars in her fucking her
Speaker 1: her outfit while she's doing it. She has no perception
Speaker 1: of that this pole means this sexy. She didn't even
Speaker 1: really know what sexual is. I literally heard, I mean Aerica,
Speaker 1: Irene and Lena having a conversation talking about Beyonce and
Speaker 1: like you think she's she's sexy. Huh, And I'm like,
Speaker 1: what the fund are you talking? Like they don't know?
Speaker 1: You know, Like it's it's just we have to really
Speaker 1: stop doing that as like in the black community, and
Speaker 1: and and as as adults period, Like I hate that ship, Like,
Speaker 1: oh she's grown. Oh she's no bitch. She's mimicking her parents.
Speaker 1: She's mimicking TV. We go down the street right now,
Speaker 1: we turn on the TV. Bitches are gonna be doing
Speaker 1: sexy ship because that's what's what about the media? Can
Speaker 1: we call kids grown? Or can we have those moments
Speaker 1: when like I remember there was a video that came
Speaker 1: out of Uh, what's daughters Joey? Or is that his baby? Momay?
Speaker 1: Her and her daughter dance all the time. I really
Speaker 1: love watching them dance. Then there was a video where
Speaker 1: she started shaking her ass. It's let me go a
Speaker 1: station really quick. When kids start she's what ten? When
Speaker 1: there's TikTok's or videos of kids working. At what point
Speaker 1: do you at all find that it's too far? Because
Speaker 1: I think definitely if it was my kid working and
Speaker 1: shaking her ass, I'd be like, I don't want this
Speaker 1: ship on the internet. But see, no, but it's weird
Speaker 1: because in me growing up, me and my cousins would
Speaker 1: literally that was how we would compete during the cookouts.
Speaker 1: We would all have fucking twork contests like doing the
Speaker 1: like vibrating and all that ship like this is how
Speaker 1: we danced in the South. This is like what we did.
Speaker 1: And even if you look at where these type of
Speaker 1: dances come from, they come from an African origin. So
Speaker 1: even the idea of it being again it's sexualized by
Speaker 1: adults because yes, they may do it in the strip club.
Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying. If we can all agree to
Speaker 1: understand it's a dance and we know men may not
Speaker 1: see it that way. Of course, that's a family reunion
Speaker 1: that are in your family. There's creeps on the internet.
Speaker 1: This keeps everywhere. Did you like the adult Yeah, you
Speaker 1: within your kid posting videos on their TikTok? I think
Speaker 1: she's nine of her shaking her has no First of all,
Speaker 1: we're gonna have access to the internet at nine where
Speaker 1: you can post yourself, okay, like you your ship, like
Speaker 1: we can't. We see videos of Luda and I red
Speaker 1: all types of where she's like, hi, am i I'm little,
Speaker 1: Like where they get this, it's going nowhere, It's going
Speaker 1: on nobody's feed. They have their own podcast, but that
Speaker 1: they do. But like, we have to acknowledge that kids
Speaker 1: are literally mimicking what they see. I see a little
Speaker 1: twerk or whatever the fun you wanna call gyrate and
Speaker 1: I'm like, where are you learning that? You true, that's
Speaker 1: how I dance. Would be mad at you. But like
Speaker 1: also it's just like you can't sexualize children, and you
Speaker 1: have to there's a thin line and where our kids
Speaker 1: are only six and we'll get there, you know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying, And there is there is a thin line.
Speaker 1: But one thing is for sure and three things. And
Speaker 1: for certain if you raise a child that is confident
Speaker 1: in their body and I'm like, oh, like, don't touch
Speaker 1: me there, bitch, uh nigger, my mom reel like I
Speaker 1: know my body into my body parts, and I'm confident
Speaker 1: about what I'm doing, So I feel confident in my
Speaker 1: body and self aware that I can tell someone no,
Speaker 1: I have to. The only gift we can give our
Speaker 1: kids is having having like full autonomy of themselves. Period.
Speaker 1: You can't control anybody else. There will be creeps, there
Speaker 1: will be weirdos. We were watching a movie. We're watching,
Speaker 1: like The Craft, the Old Craft, and a part came
Speaker 1: on where a guy was like, my shot the valley,
Speaker 1: that's our ship. But a part came on and a
Speaker 1: boy was trying to like come on to one of
Speaker 1: the teenage girls and she was like no and started
Speaker 1: running and Luna was like, I was like, what happened?
Speaker 1: She was like he was trying to touch her and
Speaker 1: she don't want him to, so she left. I was like, yep,
Speaker 1: I'm like, boys be creepy. Sometimes she gets weird. You know,
Speaker 1: you got to tell people know if you don't want something.
Speaker 1: She's like, but like it's just it's instead of like
Speaker 1: remember when you're little and then like a sex scene
Speaker 1: comes on and your mom's like it covers your whole
Speaker 1: You're like, why do I do? Girl? I remember watching
Speaker 1: and theater Food and I. The first concert I ever
Speaker 1: went to was the Velvet Rope Tour with Janet Jackson Okay,
Speaker 1: I was like seven years old and like literally my
Speaker 1: mom had I don't even know actually wasn't my mom,
Speaker 1: but my mom. I wanted someone else. They had my
Speaker 1: eyes covered like ninety percent of the time, like why
Speaker 1: did you even bring me? But but that in fact
Speaker 1: and tregued me more. I was just like, what is
Speaker 1: that here? I was like I was the middle school.
Speaker 1: I'll go to the fucking yeah, and I'm looking at
Speaker 1: be Th K like you want them? All the things
Speaker 1: that my parents hit for me, I went ten times
Speaker 1: harder to discover. Period. I went, I had to know
Speaker 1: why why are you hiding it? I think, yeah, like
Speaker 1: telling your kids working is bad is one thing. That
Speaker 1: posting it absolutely not. That's the hell. And but here's
Speaker 1: the thing I'm telling them is bad? Would made me
Speaker 1: think like why then I probably wanted But even that,
Speaker 1: like I've posted Luna on the pole, like and on
Speaker 1: the pole? Was she talking on the wall? She's just
Speaker 1: tirling on the pole. The thing is the video I
Speaker 1: saw when I wasn't crazy. It's not crazy because she's six.
Speaker 1: Nothing she does in the pole it's gonna be so crazy.
Speaker 1: She's not wearing a bikini on the pole and that's
Speaker 1: the thing when people come at me or send my
Speaker 1: ship to friends. But I don't know what you're sitting at.
Speaker 1: T wheezy, She's not my mom. Literally, I was like,
Speaker 1: what does this mean? She mark? I sent back and
Speaker 1: then someone unfriendly person wrote me back and put well,
Speaker 1: my bad, y'all cool, like, here's the thing they wanted.
Speaker 1: They wanted to keep key and talk some real quick,
Speaker 1: not up to you. And as a mom, there was
Speaker 1: a time Luna was on the pole and another mom,
Speaker 1: an older mom, hit me up and I was I
Speaker 1: took it down. I got like, I got intimidated. What
Speaker 1: did she say? Just creeps on the internet. Keep in
Speaker 1: mind her daughter, her grown astater, became a stripper. Wait
Speaker 1: wait was this after the video? Watch watch? This was
Speaker 1: like this was years ago and she was on a
Speaker 1: pole and I had posted it like because I thought
Speaker 1: it was funny and cute, and she was like whatever,
Speaker 1: who gives an my business? And another mom, like my
Speaker 1: friend's mom hit me up directly, text me and I
Speaker 1: was doing I did her lash as we were close,
Speaker 1: and then it made me question, like, damn, am I
Speaker 1: putting my child in a position where creeps or predators
Speaker 1: are looking at her and I took it down and
Speaker 1: I felt bad, like I felt away. But her daughter
Speaker 1: was actually had become a stripper in her adulthood and
Speaker 1: actually had married her trick um, so maybe she was like,
Speaker 1: don't let she was triggered, but she was. However, hence
Speaker 1: the bitch being a stripper. It didn't matter if you
Speaker 1: kept her off the pole or on the pole, and
Speaker 1: at one age, bitch did what she wanted to do.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. It's just like you have
Speaker 1: to be I'm clear in my parenthood, and sometimes I
Speaker 1: don't post her because I don't have time for the
Speaker 1: negative energy. But also, bitch, I don't give a funk
Speaker 1: about your opinion. I'm a grown this is my household,
Speaker 1: and my daughter's innocent and a child and fine, and
Speaker 1: I'm not dropping her off at Magic City to make
Speaker 1: her two dollars for the week. The kids on Poles
Speaker 1: videos like I've seen like once that first video came
Speaker 1: out and I'm gonna try to post it like in
Speaker 1: the description. I hope I can remember to do that
Speaker 1: because it was one of my favorite videos. It was
Speaker 1: so cute and the kid was like do it again,
Speaker 1: and do it again, and he would jump on him
Speaker 1: while he around the pole. I do think that we're
Speaker 1: so I don't know if it's someone being cautious or
Speaker 1: too nosy. There's this like weird thin line, right, are
Speaker 1: you really worried about my fucking kid or want to
Speaker 1: shame me? Bored like things? Even our girl Ashley shout
Speaker 1: out to Miss rights Away. She she she got a
Speaker 1: lot of flag a few years ago for being on
Speaker 1: the pole with her baby strapped to her. You know,
Speaker 1: she was doing like beautiful pole work in her house
Speaker 1: and like her baby was strapped to her and people
Speaker 1: were pissed. Either people loved it or they were piste.
Speaker 1: And it's just like, first of all, she wasn't anaked,
Speaker 1: and even if she was, probably she probably is naked.
Speaker 1: And when she does it, when she's breastfeed and beak
Speaker 1: any but your line, I will be the first one
Speaker 1: at soho house and my baby like she likes, oh
Speaker 1: mil yeah, thank you. But you know what, there's just
Speaker 1: so much stigma about women being in tune and in
Speaker 1: touch with their sexuality and their diffemininity and like being
Speaker 1: in control of it. And here I am and here
Speaker 1: on my breast and hey, this is my child, and
Speaker 1: she is aware of herself too. Where you have not
Speaker 1: been taught to own our sexuality. We've been taught that
Speaker 1: be sexy for niggas, but don't be sexual in front
Speaker 1: of by yourself. Comfortable with it, be comfortable with it
Speaker 1: like it's very it's very compouching. Yeah, I pride myself
Speaker 1: that I'm intint with my sexuality enough that my child
Speaker 1: will also be like inevitably understand both sides of the
Speaker 1: coin and like be more confident and more self aware
Speaker 1: because of it. There's nothing you should not sucking, you
Speaker 1: should avoid. Well. I want to get often kids because
Speaker 1: I ain't have none. I just swallow Maam. I had
Speaker 1: another kid question. I want to ask about gays. What
Speaker 1: do you tell your kids about the gates there? They
Speaker 1: love each other, you can love they asked you about
Speaker 1: like boys or not because they've just been around them
Speaker 1: from the beginning, like my my my brother and his
Speaker 1: boyfriend have been around that. She calls him uncle's bash
Speaker 1: and uncle Josh. You know my mom said, I never
Speaker 1: asked her um. Ever, she's like, you never asked me
Speaker 1: about And I wonder you really have to show for
Speaker 1: the getting kids don't care about what you're doing behind
Speaker 1: the bedroom. It's only about if you know, when you
Speaker 1: talk about gay people in front of your kids, just
Speaker 1: like if you talk racist ship in front of your kids,
Speaker 1: they'll be racist. It's the same ship. If you're homophobic,
Speaker 1: then your kids are gonna think that. Bring that up
Speaker 1: because a lot of people out there may not have
Speaker 1: gay friends like all of us, and you know, some
Speaker 1: people may have to have that dialogue with their kids
Speaker 1: just talk about love. It's also now, it's on TV,
Speaker 1: it's in the cartoons. People aren't mad about it him,
Speaker 1: but you know you can't. You can't hide forever. I
Speaker 1: wanted to get into our hoar derve where we can
Speaker 1: enjoy some story times. Again, off them got damned kids.
Speaker 1: So the hoar Derve today um is actually suggested from
Speaker 1: Sophia franklin Um from her episode thirty seven. She talks
Speaker 1: about rub maps dot com. So rub maps dot com
Speaker 1: is actually an app that you can go to to
Speaker 1: find places in different cities where you can get happy
Speaker 1: endings for women. For yeah, for women? Is it just
Speaker 1: for women? Well? Because I feel like happy endings are
Speaker 1: traditionally normally for men, and that was my problem when
Speaker 1: I was over in Asia. Um, it's like maps alright,
Speaker 1: so I found it. It's not rub maps dot com,
Speaker 1: it's rub maps dot c h Um. You have all
Speaker 1: the UH states and cities and ship listed. Um. And
Speaker 1: basically what it looks like is you can find out
Speaker 1: where to get happy endings in your area. It does
Speaker 1: not like differentiate between whether it's woman or man happy endings. Okay, Pine,
Speaker 1: is that what it is? Yeah, it doesn't say whether
Speaker 1: it's man or woman. Yeah, so they always are. So
Speaker 1: I'm glad that. Shout outs to Sophia for bringing this
Speaker 1: to our attention because I ain't know about it, but
Speaker 1: you had a story. Please Erica, please share? Can you share?
Speaker 1: Because as women yet it's hard to find places to
Speaker 1: give happy endings. But you just had a happy ending
Speaker 1: in coast that he got two quick questions, Was he cute?
Speaker 1: And did you come? Uh? He was attracted? It wasn't
Speaker 1: not that attractive and it was I think. She asked me,
Speaker 1: you know, you get if we don't have the same type,
Speaker 1: and we don't, we're not we don't like the same
Speaker 1: type of speaking the bitches line, because I told her,
Speaker 1: do you even know what he remember? We hired him
Speaker 1: again and I did get a good look. At the
Speaker 1: first time, she said, no, I don't evemember to look.
Speaker 1: I didn't because I was it wasn't about him, it
Speaker 1: was about me. So the second time when we brought
Speaker 1: him back, guys, let me get a good look at
Speaker 1: this man and say what the who he is? And
Speaker 1: she asked him all these type of questions and I
Speaker 1: was like, you asked him many questions. I don't want
Speaker 1: to think about the ship. But anyway, so we were.
Speaker 1: We just recently came back from a trip um in
Speaker 1: Costa Rica um a little work cest uh and the
Speaker 1: first night we had a long asked voyage to our house.
Speaker 1: We were in guanacast I don't if anyone's ever been
Speaker 1: to cohostreak is beautiful. But anyway we were. I was like,
Speaker 1: we need to get a massage for this. I got
Speaker 1: We called the airbnb host. I was like, can you
Speaker 1: get up a massage to the house and she was
Speaker 1: seen bitches in the profile pitch. It's like, no problem,
Speaker 1: no problem. So we get the massage. He comes and
Speaker 1: he lays out his table. He pulls out this towel
Speaker 1: because you know, you get a massage normally like you
Speaker 1: have a sheet over you. It was like the tiniest
Speaker 1: towel to cover my whole body. And I told her,
Speaker 1: I was like she was sitting, she was there. I
Speaker 1: was like, bitch, can you put the towel on me?
Speaker 1: Because maybe it was hot? It was hot? Were you naked?
Speaker 1: It was a very small time. What did you wear panties? No? Okay,
Speaker 1: See I wear panties during assage. I don't. I don't.
Speaker 1: Sometimes I do. Sometimes I don't, but like if I've
Speaker 1: been to the person before, I take him off. But
Speaker 1: generally I will put keep just a thong on and
Speaker 1: then they pulled it down to my cheeks. I don't
Speaker 1: even wear only wear draws. When I'm bleeding. I'm bleeding,
Speaker 1: I am, I just tuck it in, tuck the string in. Um.
Speaker 1: But you see I got rid of the string. Look
Speaker 1: a little to tell us. I realized, like I got
Speaker 1: rid of tampons completely. I realized my period. No, bitch,
Speaker 1: just a bad I realized my period. I already have
Speaker 1: a three day period. I have like a two and
Speaker 1: a half day one now, and I don't have the
Speaker 1: the lingering days of brown like the But I think
Speaker 1: that's what tampons do because you keep it plugged up.
Speaker 1: It takes for the oxidized blood. So when it's freebees,
Speaker 1: I'm ready. I'm ready for Dick again. Yeah, like the
Speaker 1: path like link like shortened my path and leaves. I
Speaker 1: hate him too, you know what. I've never used the
Speaker 1: tampon like for real everyone, Like I've had to put
Speaker 1: it on for maybe moments, but like on like on purpose.
Speaker 1: Like no, it's only because like a friend had it.
Speaker 1: I don't like them, but I will say, I don't know.
Speaker 1: We did some research a minute ago or someone told
Speaker 1: me this, but it was about the chemicals in Tampa,
Speaker 1: the chlorine and basically like affecting the length of your cycle.
Speaker 1: It does so that makes your cramps different. Well, they
Speaker 1: probably want want your cycle to be a little bit longer,
Speaker 1: so you have to buy it science. Okay, the bleeding.
Speaker 1: That's his name, No, Jose, Jose, because it was, um,
Speaker 1: I don't know how costa Rican. Well they're sucked up.
Speaker 1: Jose his name is Okay, So I'm starting to get
Speaker 1: the massage and he was how was that his bomb?
Speaker 1: Like he's a really great massus. I was tired as fuck.
Speaker 1: I'm finally unwinding. I've been wrapped up real tight for
Speaker 1: like the last month, just me and her just been
Speaker 1: grinding and I was like, bitch, I need this massage.
Speaker 1: So he's starting to just like decompress my body, and
Speaker 1: I was also wasted a little bit. Yeah, okay, um,
Speaker 1: And so he has me flipped over and he's massaging
Speaker 1: the back of my leg and he was like he's
Speaker 1: like getting it, getting in there, getting in there. And
Speaker 1: I'm like suddenly I'm like getting a horny and I'm like, damn,
Speaker 1: like this is really good. My face is covered at
Speaker 1: this point, but I'm gonna tell you the flip over.
Speaker 1: So he's like grace grazing in the back of my
Speaker 1: leg and he's getting like kind of close to like
Speaker 1: you know that this little line. I was like, huh,
Speaker 1: just like so I'm like, okay, I think I want
Speaker 1: this needs to touch my pussy at this point. So
Speaker 1: I was like and I was like, okay, when I
Speaker 1: turn over, I'm gonna give him all the space he's
Speaker 1: going no. So I turned over with this tiny ast
Speaker 1: towels basically like barely covering my big gass ariolas, and
Speaker 1: he's back to you know, back to my thigh area,
Speaker 1: and so he's really getting in there, and I'm moaning
Speaker 1: louder just so he knows that, like this is where
Speaker 1: it feels good. And I slowly like inching my leg open,
Speaker 1: just started biting my lip, and then finally he starts
Speaker 1: taking the towel and like rubbing my pussy and I'm like, yes,
Speaker 1: thank god. And then finally like put pulls the tower
Speaker 1: off and then just starts rubbing my pussy and then
Speaker 1: he fingers me. And actually it's so funny because my
Speaker 1: friend I told my friend about this, or actually I
Speaker 1: posted about it, and she was like, did you give
Speaker 1: him consent? And I was like, bitch, yes, that that
Speaker 1: was the consent, the mode and the biting the lip
Speaker 1: like and and and um, and so then I think
Speaker 1: jo got a little nervous. Um. So then he kind
Speaker 1: of stopped and then I finished, you can't wait, you
Speaker 1: finished yourself, finished myself, and then he was there, Yeah,
Speaker 1: that was the best thing of the week for him.
Speaker 1: And then he continued to massage me afterwards, really respectfully
Speaker 1: and just like amsuchin and then and then when we
Speaker 1: were done, like I went to get up, and then
Speaker 1: he like I don't know if he was like trying
Speaker 1: to tell me to relax or like I don't know what.
Speaker 1: But he pushed me back down, and I was like,
Speaker 1: what's gonna happen? Like what's he doing over there? And
Speaker 1: I like I heard him like rough, like ruffling some ship.
Speaker 1: And so then I ended up falling asleep for at
Speaker 1: least like ten minutes, and then I woke up and
Speaker 1: he was just standing in this like. First of all,
Speaker 1: I was like, when the fund is taking so long?
Speaker 1: Keep in mind we've traveled for like ten hours for
Speaker 1: the fucking Costa Rican jungle, up a mountain and shipped.
Speaker 1: I'm like, what the fund is taking so long? She
Speaker 1: comes back in the room like I'm like, bitch, what
Speaker 1: the fund looks long? She's like giving me this fucking
Speaker 1: I he keep me happy and I'm like what, no way.
Speaker 1: She's like, I'm bitch, now he's gonna think that's what
Speaker 1: I wanted. I'm tired. She's like, you should did I said,
Speaker 1: I was like, you should do it? It was great.
Speaker 1: I was like, it's completes the massage, I think all.
Speaker 1: I was like, I can't believe that. I can't believe.
Speaker 1: I'm just I just have to say, ladies, if you're listening,
Speaker 1: they're listening. Listen, don't wait any longer. Don't question it,
Speaker 1: don't question, don't question it, just go for it it.
Speaker 1: Compaty said the same thing, said she didn't want it
Speaker 1: though no cutty Cutty was looking for it. She said
Speaker 1: the person was like, may I rub your pussy? Him? Please? Please?
Speaker 1: Are you serious? Though? I don't. I don't remember. I
Speaker 1: just said. She was like, oh my god. The person
Speaker 1: was like begging her to rub her pussy swept. Can
Speaker 1: I rub your pussy? You don't remember this? I would
Speaker 1: love it this, I mean, I wasn't ready for it
Speaker 1: that night. I was in the mood. I was too tired,
Speaker 1: and I was pissed she took so long. Thankfully he
Speaker 1: didn't try me. I did try a little moment because
Speaker 1: I did feel good. I was just I was just testing.
Speaker 1: The water didn't work as well for me. I would be, yo,
Speaker 1: this is a sex in the city. Remember that over
Speaker 1: and bite your look. I didn't by the lip would
Speaker 1: I didn't have 't have energy for that. I didn't
Speaker 1: have to go the longer, not necessarily. I don't like
Speaker 1: to be fing or banged. That was a lesbian I wasn't.
Speaker 1: I wasn't into that. That's why I was like, I
Speaker 1: think I stopped moaning, and he got scared and was like,
Speaker 1: oh ship, did I go too far? And then now
Speaker 1: and now that I've heard I heard this story four
Speaker 1: times now I want to happy ending. It's the best.
Speaker 1: I feel like it should be an add on for
Speaker 1: all massage places I got because I have been turned
Speaker 1: on during massage in a very odd situation. It's just
Speaker 1: like natural, like a nigga. But I was just it
Speaker 1: wasn't even I don't even know when he looked like
Speaker 1: it had nothing to do with him. I mean, it
Speaker 1: has them to do with his hands, but I was
Speaker 1: being nude with your eyes closed and relaxed. I'm always
Speaker 1: thinking about But you know what, it's also distracting because
Speaker 1: I had a massage and they got too close to
Speaker 1: the pussy and I was getting turned on. But then
Speaker 1: he did nothing, and I was pissed. I would have
Speaker 1: been piss literally frustrated me because I was like, my
Speaker 1: pussy was so I know, it was on the sheets,
Speaker 1: and he did nothing. He was just rubbing close to
Speaker 1: my pussy and I was super frustrated. It just made
Speaker 1: me more tense. So now I'm ready, well rub maps
Speaker 1: is here for you, baby. If you ask me, she's ready.
Speaker 1: I'm going to email them so they can specify who
Speaker 1: gives women happy ending and the niggas is all on.
Speaker 1: Would you I'm not gonna lie. Even when I was
Speaker 1: in Thailand, it didn't matter if it was a man
Speaker 1: or a woman massaging me. I wanted a happy ending,
Speaker 1: and I was fine with either one. You want to
Speaker 1: eat my pussy. I don't really want the singer. No,
Speaker 1: I know. I don't want your mouth, your full head.
Speaker 1: I wouldn't either. No, I'm cool with fingers, especially because
Speaker 1: I know they have just but see even the oils
Speaker 1: they if you use peppermint, damn sure, I don't want
Speaker 1: your fingers. Name. Don't go in me, but just around me. Yeah,
Speaker 1: just like click click, like rub me out. I don't
Speaker 1: put your fingers. Did you take to finish yourself? And
Speaker 1: what was he doing? It was quick, he was massaging.
Speaker 1: He was massaging me like the rest of my body, oh,
Speaker 1: like my shoulder, and you were rubbing yourself. And then
Speaker 1: he came back a second time. But and then she
Speaker 1: started asking so many questions like I guess what, Erica,
Speaker 1: she has a three month old baby, and I'm like, great,
Speaker 1: I didn't need to know that. If she's recently married,
Speaker 1: that's her job. I had questions and she was taking
Speaker 1: along from yoga side. She's like, guess wet he has
Speaker 1: a baby. I was like, YEA, should have gave him
Speaker 1: a baby daddy T shirt. I was like, we're mom's too.
Speaker 1: Thank you for helping me. I did try to get mine.
Speaker 1: I was like, it's my birthday. It's compliannossas Campians. But
Speaker 1: he didn't care, apparently just like fucking Eric. Yeah, she
Speaker 1: got all that. She played like did you even need
Speaker 1: to pay him? Did you get an extra? I fell
Speaker 1: asleep after that, so I back in the rembas was
Speaker 1: knocked the funk out. I was like, here's an extra
Speaker 1: from my friend. I know you did good. Wife was
Speaker 1: like you said from my friend. Now, I just tipped
Speaker 1: him because I knew he rubbed her out. Thank you
Speaker 1: for not talking. I would like to know if anyone
Speaker 1: listening has ever specifically a woman has had a successful
Speaker 1: um or actually no, because I've had a good one.
Speaker 1: You've had a good one. I would like the year
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Speaker 1: And the episodes had run out. But I really appreciate
Speaker 1: you guys for watching. And because you guys watched, Fuse
Speaker 1: loves Me and they keep having me do fucking content
Speaker 1: every time I'm there and I'm doing a lot for
Speaker 1: their mouse. I was like, yeah, like these house just
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Speaker 1: FUSE viewers were host Actually, speaking of hosts, Mandy and
Speaker 1: I were walking on the street and a older woman
Speaker 1: older not what do you call her gentlewoman? And she
Speaker 1: was just like somebody on tea. She was like he
Speaker 1: was doing something and I assume, especially when I'm walking
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Speaker 1: and guys, this has been get another episode of horrible decisions.
Speaker 1: We have a lot of We have a lot of
Speaker 1: things that pertains to not only our jobs, but the
Speaker 1: lives that we had prior to our partners, and I
Speaker 1: don't think that we realized they have shown up to
Speaker 1: allow us to be exactly who we are at the
Speaker 1: expense of things that they probably have not allowed in
Speaker 1: previous relationships. Well, I know that the conversation that right
Speaker 1: when it comes to like you're also dating somebody that's
Speaker 1: living a different life from the bishes that she was
Speaker 1: probably with. You know what I'm saying, Like I've had
Speaker 1: conversations with my l a nigga because we're more casual.
Speaker 1: And remember he was like, Yeah, what's wild to me
Speaker 1: how you won't post food or you're where you're at,
Speaker 1: or like like you know and give a funk, like
Speaker 1: you don't always have to post that ship And he
Speaker 1: was talking about a girl he was with. He had
Speaker 1: two hundred followers and acted like she had to report
Speaker 1: to them all the time. And he was like, maybe
Speaker 1: you'd be losing your phone because he as I lock in.
Speaker 1: That's me when i'm with when I'm with my partner,
Speaker 1: like bitch, p y'all know that I'm with my nig
Speaker 1: and I'm gona tell you all now when all y'all
Speaker 1: see on Instagram is like reposts of people posting me,
Speaker 1: I don't put where I'm at, what we're doing, or
Speaker 1: I'll just be off Instagram. And now we know that
Speaker 1: because a crazy baby fucking rolling up on your ass.
Speaker 1: They're talking about I don't I don't put my location
Speaker 1: when you leave. How anyway, all right, love bomb and slash.
Speaker 1: I'm making fun description for this because who knows. Okay,
Speaker 1: we do have to um answer the home mail only
Speaker 1: because I told her we would. Okay, let's do it.
Speaker 1: So this one's interesting. Hi, Wheezy and Mandy love the
Speaker 1: pod and yes I'm a Patreon member, so if you
Speaker 1: choose to use this on a bonus episode, um great.
Speaker 1: I'll get into it. I've been dating a guy for
Speaker 1: a couple of months now and we're both super kinky.
Speaker 1: He likes when I dom him, which is something that's
Speaker 1: new to me, but I'm getting into it. He likes
Speaker 1: being degraded and he wants to be my quote unquote
Speaker 1: slave and wants me to call him that. My last partner,
Speaker 1: who was black and kinky, would always tell me how
Speaker 1: it made him really uncomfortable. How kink generally a very
Speaker 1: white space, has co opted slave slash master to be
Speaker 1: used for pleasure when their words that carry so much
Speaker 1: um race based historical context. Also, after reading slaves Play
Speaker 1: by JEREMYO. Harris, Wheezy has talked about on the pod.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, y'all should check that out. Since then, hearing
Speaker 1: white people throw around the word slaves so easily in
Speaker 1: the bedroom has made me kind of uncomfortable too. Obviously,
Speaker 1: it's not my place to tell my new partner what's
Speaker 1: right or wrong. But at the end of the day,
Speaker 1: I'm white and he's black. But it does make me
Speaker 1: a bit uncomfortable to call him my slave, even though
Speaker 1: I enjoy the actions of making him worship me. Do
Speaker 1: you guys personally think we can separate the historical context
Speaker 1: of slave master and use it for kink and pleasure
Speaker 1: even in interracial relationships, or will it always carry an
Speaker 1: underlying weight like should I ask him if we can
Speaker 1: find a differ a word or just get over it
Speaker 1: and call him what he wants? Thanks in advance, mad
Speaker 1: love to you both. Love this question. I'm gonna post
Speaker 1: in the community more this question. It's a very honest question.
Speaker 1: And you know I won't even talk to my white
Speaker 1: girl ship. So here's the thing. So many words have
Speaker 1: multiple meetings and unfortunately that's just how the English language works.
Speaker 1: But in the times that we are in now, where
Speaker 1: you do second guest, second question, or you feel the
Speaker 1: need to unlearn things. I understand not only why that
Speaker 1: would be uncomfortable, but girl, even in golf, and I'm
Speaker 1: not sure if you know this, they're considering changing the
Speaker 1: Master's tournament because of the word master. Um, even even
Speaker 1: I was having this conversation. I don't even know if
Speaker 1: this was on an episode with us, but the master
Speaker 1: bedroom is not being called the master bedroom in real estate.
Speaker 1: And I'll be honest with you, I think that the
Speaker 1: face of B D S M, what are you gonna
Speaker 1: do with your master's degrees? Like, I'm sorry, but I'm
Speaker 1: not gonna lie, and I was gonna go there. I
Speaker 1: think that it's an overthought, and I trust me. I
Speaker 1: am the girl who's cool with us tearing down statues,
Speaker 1: but there's this part of me that does feel like
Speaker 1: that's a drag. I love the word master for control. However,
Speaker 1: it is interesting to me to use the word slave,
Speaker 1: although uncol with master, I do believe master has more
Speaker 1: of that dynamic. And um, it's a it's a lot
Speaker 1: more definitions. Like right now, I'll just look it up
Speaker 1: really quick. Hold on, just just let's just see how
Speaker 1: many definitions there is for master's male teacher academic degree, ruler, governor,
Speaker 1: person licensed to command a ship, um, the employer of
Speaker 1: a servant, an owner of an animal, one having control.
Speaker 1: A youth or boy too young to be called Mr.
Speaker 1: Used as a title, oh like Master Jeffrey and Master
Speaker 1: Master who was it on fresh prince emiliar m