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Speaker 1: First Date follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury Attorneys

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Speaker 1: online at advocatesla dot com.

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Speaker 2: Lucy is on the phone today for a first day

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Speaker 2: follow up and she's getting ghosted by a dude named Josh.

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Speaker 2: So in a few minutes we'll call him and see

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Speaker 2: if he'll tell us why he's ghosting her and maybe

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Speaker 2: get her a second date. But first, Lucy, how long

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Speaker 2: has it been since you heard from Josh?

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Speaker 3: Hey, yeah, it's been about two weeks, A.

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Speaker 4: Good amount of time.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean, I feel like we had such a

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Speaker 3: good vibe and connection. I can't let this go. Yeah.

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Speaker 4: Did you try to get a hold of him in

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Speaker 4: that time? Oh?

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Speaker 3: I definitely have. Yeah.

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Speaker 4: Okay, when was the last time you reached out?

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Speaker 3: I actually reached out yesterday. Then I'm a text but yeah,

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Speaker 3: I haven't heard anything from them.

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Speaker 4: Okay, we'll tell us about the date.

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Speaker 3: Well, okay, I know it sounds really wild, but it

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Speaker 3: honestly felt like it might be something from out of

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Speaker 3: a movie. That's how like magical it felt. We met

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Speaker 3: in Vegas, and I don't know, we just had a

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Speaker 3: really great time. It felt like otherworldly. It was I

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Speaker 3: don't know, I just felt like the universe kind of

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Speaker 3: put us together, and he made me laugh. Like immediately

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Speaker 3: I felt like disconnected to him, and we just like

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Speaker 3: we saw each other at the flat machine and just

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Speaker 3: had a great conversation. And then he got my number

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Speaker 3: and we text NonStop, and when I got back home,

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Speaker 3: he actually asked me out on a real date. And

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Speaker 3: I didn't even let him finish the sentence, like I

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Speaker 3: was like, yes.

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Speaker 4: Yes, so you guys live in the same city. How amazing.

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Speaker 3: I know, it really felt like it was meant to be.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, that's cool.

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Speaker 3: Yeah. So so we ended up going to this really

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Speaker 3: like vibe wine bar with fairy lights and and we

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Speaker 3: shared like a sarcuterie board and like held hands the

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Speaker 3: whole time, and I don't know, like it really just

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Speaker 3: felt like we were falling in love. I know that

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Speaker 3: sounds crazy, but it was just it was.

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Speaker 4: Amazing, okay, and he was feeling the same way you think.

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Speaker 3: Oh my goodness, yeah, like I felt like we were

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Speaker 3: so connected. We were like I don't know, it was

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Speaker 3: just it was it was awesome. He definitely was into me.

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Speaker 2: Okay, Well, then what happened, Like, was there anything off

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Speaker 2: at the end of the day or even during the date,

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Speaker 2: I guess.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, so I thought everything was going well and I

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Speaker 3: felt really like I wanted to be open and honest

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Speaker 3: with him, and so towards the end of the date,

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Speaker 3: I told him that I'm technically married. Oh yeah, but

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Speaker 3: like I'm I'm really working on opening things up with

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Speaker 3: my husband.

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Speaker 2: And did you say opening things up with your husband? Yeah,

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Speaker 2: so like an open relationship type thing.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, like he already knows like I'm a free

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Speaker 3: spirit and he knows like I'm very open minded. I mean,

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Speaker 3: he loves who I am, and so I I you know,

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Speaker 3: I talked to him about it, and I don't know,

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Speaker 3: instead of listening and having a conversation, he just like

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Speaker 3: felt very frantic and just laught and yeah, so like

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Speaker 3: he grabbed his jacket. He didn't even finish his drink.

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Speaker 3: And I haven't heard from intense, So.

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Speaker 4: So we know why you're getting ghosted.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, well, I mean yes, but I don't know. I

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Speaker 3: just I felt like I was being really transparent and

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Speaker 3: I believe in honesty and obviously love and multiple kinds

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Speaker 3: of love. And he said he really liked emotionally intelligent women,

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Speaker 3: and I don't know, I thought that he would be

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Speaker 3: at least willing to have a conversation about it.

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Speaker 4: So, okay, that's what you want, I have a conversation

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Speaker 2: Lucy is on the phone and she's getting ghosted by

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Speaker 2: a guy named Josh. We think we might know why,

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Speaker 2: but we're not sure. So we're about to call him

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Speaker 2: and see if he'll tell us why he's ghostinger and

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Speaker 2: get her a second date. But first, Lucy, why don't

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Speaker 2: you break down your situation.

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Speaker 4: Again real quick?

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Speaker 3: Yeah? So I had a really great connection with Josh.

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Speaker 3: We went on a date and I was honest with

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Speaker 3: him and told him that I'm married, but i'd like to,

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Speaker 3: you know, have an open relationship. And I don't not

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Speaker 3: see this left, so I haven't heard from him since.

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Speaker 4: All right, well, are you ready to call him?

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: Hi, man, I speak to Josh. Please, Hey, Josh, how

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Speaker 2: are you? This is a radio show. It's called The

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Speaker 2: Jewel Show.

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Speaker 3: Hi Josh.

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Speaker 4: I'm Nina, Hi Victoria, and my name is Jewbel. What's up?

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Speaker 3: Uh?

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Speaker 5: What's up? Guys?

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Speaker 3: Look?

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Speaker 4: Have you ever listened to the show?

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Speaker 5: For I have, but just been a minute, and I

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Speaker 5: don't know what I'm doing it.

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Speaker 2: Well, we do a segment called the First day follow up.

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Speaker 2: That's where if you go on a date with somebody

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Speaker 2: and then you ghost them, that person can email us

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Speaker 2: to get you on the phone and ask why you're

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Speaker 2: ghosting them. So we got an email about you, Josh, Okay,

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Speaker 2: any idea who would email us?

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Speaker 5: This is Vanessa?

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Speaker 4: Is it Vanessava?

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Speaker 2: It's not Vanessa, it's Lucy. And that's Lucy. She's actually

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Speaker 2: on the phone and wanted to talk to you.

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Speaker 3: So Lucy, all right? So is Vanessa? I know I

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Speaker 3: freak her up by telling you I'm married, But are

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Speaker 3: you going out with somebody else? We really had a connection?

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Speaker 5: Uh uh Okay, hold on, I'm still trying to process.

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Speaker 5: So all this work? So you thought I ghosted you?

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Speaker 5: So you called a radio station to call me on

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Speaker 5: the on the air.

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Speaker 3: Is that?

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Speaker 5: What's that? What is happening here right now?

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Speaker 3: Yes? I I didn't know what else to do, so

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Speaker 3: I called the radio station, like you've been ghosting me?

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Speaker 3: So what I don't know what to do?

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Speaker 5: Okay, I'm going to break this down in a way

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Speaker 5: that I hopefully you can understand. Lucy, you casually dropped

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Speaker 5: that you're married and you're planning to ask him for

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Speaker 5: permission to date me. So you're asking your husband, how

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Speaker 5: do you think this was gonna go? Like I I, yeah,

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Speaker 5: I do like you, but this is so messy. This

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Speaker 5: is not how I operate, I know.

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Speaker 3: But I mean I was being really vulnerable with you,

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Speaker 3: like I felt like, I don't know, I felt like

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Speaker 3: open up to you in that way and and that

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Speaker 3: I want you to be in my life. I feel

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Speaker 3: like something's really here between us, and I felt like

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Speaker 3: I could tell you the truth and we could like

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Speaker 3: kind of work through this.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, you see, I didn't sign up for a throuble

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Speaker 5: want that. I don't want that. I don't want that.

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Speaker 3: Okay, I don't not a thrupple just me Like, I'm okay.

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Speaker 3: I would still be married, but I would be monogamous

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Speaker 3: with you, So.

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Speaker 5: You wouldn't be with your husband anymore. Is that what

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Speaker 5: you're saying to me?

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Speaker 3: Okay? I well, I would be with him, but but

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Speaker 3: it would just be him and then you and nobody else.

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Speaker 5: That's not monogamous with me? Do you understand what.

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Speaker 4: I know?

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Speaker 3: But like, what if I just I feel like, okay,

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Speaker 3: what if I let you date whoever? You want, but

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Speaker 3: then you're still my boyfriend.

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Speaker 5: Okay, I'm going to refer back to the monogamous. Do

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Speaker 5: you even know what that word means? This is bothering me.

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Speaker 5: Can you tell me what it means? If you know?

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Speaker 3: I mean, what does it mean? No?

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Speaker 5: No, no, no, tell me like, I don't know what

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Speaker 5: I mean. I don't know what it means. So can

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Speaker 5: you expect it to me? Just tell me what it is?

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Speaker 5: What does that mean word means?

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Speaker 3: Yeah? I mean, I think it's going to take more

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Speaker 5: No, no, no, no, I'm just telling you to tell

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Speaker 5: me one thing. You dragged me on the radio. I

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Speaker 5: just want you to define one word. What's monogamous means?

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Speaker 5: What does it mean? You got your phone to google it?

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Speaker 5: You don't know?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean, I just feel like it's to me,

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Speaker 3: it's it's being with my husband and then and then

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Speaker 3: you know, with my boyfriend and then nobody else.

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Speaker 5: That's great, Okay, thank you, that's that's amazing cool. So

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Speaker 5: chairs are bed too in my world? Like, I don't

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Speaker 5: you know you can't just change the definition of a

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Speaker 5: word to suit your application.

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Speaker 3: Do you understand that you at least you willing to

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Speaker 3: maybe like talk to me more about this.

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Speaker 5: Like absolutely at this point, I'm like fascinated with what's

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Speaker 5: going on in your mind. I'll never talk to you

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Speaker 5: from a romantic angle ever again, or that that's that's

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Speaker 5: not happening, that's that's but I want to know. I

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Speaker 5: want to know how crazy you are. I'm being honest.

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Speaker 5: I want to figure out what's going on in your head.

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Speaker 4: No, I don't know that that's you, Josh. Would you

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Speaker 4: like another day with Lucy? Will pay for it?

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Speaker 3: Oh? No? Like, Okay, I get that you think I'm crazy.

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Speaker 3: It's a little unconventional, but I just felt like you

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Speaker 3: would maybe want to see like where our connection could go,

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Speaker 3: Like it might be worth you know, exploring.

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Speaker 4: A little bit more.

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Speaker 5: Well, you know, sometimes we think wrong.

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Speaker 3: Wow, Okay you did say we so.

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Speaker 5: That Yeah okay, yeah that's a hard No. There will

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Speaker 5: never be at you and me we as long as

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Speaker 5: you have a husband.

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Speaker 3: Okay, Okay, Well I feel like it's really unfair that

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Speaker 4: Escalated.

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Speaker 2: Well, yeah, I don't think you're getting another date Lucy,

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Speaker 2: but at least you got to talk to Josh.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, well, thanks guys, I don't I don't know what

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Speaker 4: You'll figure it out, I'm sure. And Josh, thank you

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Speaker 4: for your time.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I still don't know what happened all this time.