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Speaker 1: It is time to ask the clo Our Chief Love Officer,

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Speaker 1: Steve Harvey is in the building Kenya in Denver Rights.

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Speaker 1: I'm forty eight years old and I've been married for

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Speaker 1: eighteen years. My husband started sleeping in his man cave

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Speaker 1: because he had a bad back. He has a bad

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Speaker 1: back and our mattress is just too soft. I'm not

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Speaker 1: sure how a recliner is better for his back, but

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Speaker 1: I don't want to argue. Why else would he prefer

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Speaker 1: to sleep in the cold basement alone.

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Speaker 2: Please help this.

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Speaker 3: You got a bad back, He got a bad back,

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Speaker 3: and to all you need to know is where the

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Speaker 3: bad back happened?

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Speaker 2: When did it?

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Speaker 3: Had back happened three years ago? At fifteen? Yeah, ma did.

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Speaker 3: That's when the marriage started going bad at fifteen. It's

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Speaker 3: a combination thing. His back really is hurt, and that's

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Speaker 3: the excuse. Just sleep downstand something about made that bed

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Speaker 3: and got on his nerves.

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Speaker 4: You make his back hurt.

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Speaker 5: It ain't the mattress.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, she said the mattress is too soft, now she.

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Speaker 3: That's what he told her. Could it be the mattresses

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Speaker 3: too tak too soft? Or she is too hard?

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Speaker 2: Mm hmm, Well none of them here all right.

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Speaker 3: Well, but that's why that's why he in the basement,

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Speaker 3: and that's why she'd wrote the letter because the answer.

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Speaker 4: Ain't in now.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, it ain't in the mattress. It ain't in the

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Speaker 5: rec cloud.

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Speaker 2: So what should she do?

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Speaker 5: Want to marriage?

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Speaker 3: She needs help, get a match and recline and go

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Speaker 3: down there and be with your hugs.

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Speaker 4: Okay, a mattress, recline, get a.

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Speaker 1: New mattress, now, he said, a matching recliner.

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Speaker 3: I mean that made sense to get a new mattress.

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Speaker 3: Problem solved. Yeah, but you you're not fit to do

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Speaker 3: that because you're so busy. Want to know why he

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Speaker 3: won't get in this soft matter? But then you prefer

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Speaker 3: the soft mattress over your man next to you.

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Speaker 4: Hello, this new discovery.

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Speaker 2: So this is her fall.

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Speaker 3: No, it ain't fault. It's not her fault at all.

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Speaker 3: But she don't want to be a part of the solution.

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Speaker 4: M hmm.

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Speaker 2: So he didn't even tell her. He just started doing it, he.

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Speaker 5: Said, because the mattress is too tall. Soft.

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Speaker 3: She never even thought to say, well, baby, let's just

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Speaker 3: get a different mattress. Your man husband back hurting, he

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Speaker 3: got to go to work. What's af But there.

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Speaker 4: I got a bunch of hard mattresses. Dude, this called firm.

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Speaker 5: They don't care about their marriage. What they write us

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Speaker 5: for will kill you.

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Speaker 2: Ricky and Saginaw, we're moving on. Rick Saga says.

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Speaker 1: My boyfriend and I are looking at houses and the

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Speaker 1: house will be solely in his name. We're twenty four

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Speaker 1: years old and have been dating for four years. I

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Speaker 1: want my name on the paperwork. And he said I

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Speaker 1: can't be at it. I can be at it if

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Speaker 1: we get married. When he said if it hurt my feelings,

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Speaker 1: does that mean marrying me is optional to him?

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Speaker 5: Yeah?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, it is optional to him. They're doing this backwards.

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Speaker 3: See your name on the house, that's optional, Your man,

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Speaker 3: you is optional.

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Speaker 4: This is backles.

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Speaker 5: You knowing when you're gonna get married is optional.

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Speaker 2: Right?

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Speaker 3: You want your name on the paper on the house

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Speaker 3: is optional? Everything optional on the him. Don't be stupid, y'all.

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Speaker 3: Don't buy the house until you get what you want.

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Speaker 3: When you gonna get what you.

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Speaker 2: Want after four years?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and see everybody now, y'all just doing what y'all

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Speaker 3: want to do when you want to do it. You

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Speaker 3: ain't got no order and nothing, so you know if

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Speaker 3: you do things out of order. Everything gonna appear to

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Speaker 3: be out of order, period.

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Speaker 1: Yeah all right, Brandy and Tulsa says, my mother runs

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Speaker 1: a daycare and I work evenings there. My best friend's

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Speaker 1: dad has picked up a nine month baby boy twice.

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Speaker 1: The baby's mother is five years older than me, and

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Speaker 1: my mom says, I should mind my business? Should I

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Speaker 1: tell my friend about her dad?

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Speaker 3: No, you shouldn't mind, yo, dis This ain't got nothing

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Speaker 3: to do with you.

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Speaker 5: Wow, that's why y'all daycare ain't full.

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Speaker 2: Now why.

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Speaker 5: You want to take care of baby business? You ain't

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Speaker 5: mean to take care of nobody else's business.

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Speaker 3: Okay, what you're talking about?

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Speaker 5: He legally he can pick the baby up. That ain't

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Speaker 5: your business.

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Speaker 2: Listen to your mom and to the clo Brandy and Tulsa.

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Speaker 3: You're gonna mess your money up being nosy. That ain't

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Speaker 3: your business.

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Speaker 2: Wow, mom's daycare? Yeah yep, yeah all right.

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Speaker 5: The baby and the payments is on time. That's your concern.

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Speaker 2: That's your business. Yes, that is her business.

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Speaker 5: All right?

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Speaker 1: Moving on last one, Steve Tanina and Philly Nina says,

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Speaker 1: I'm a modern day cougar and my man is twenty

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Speaker 1: three years younger. I didn't talk him at all last weekend,

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Speaker 1: and he didn't come by for dinner last Sunday. He

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Speaker 1: popped up on Tuesday and asked me to pay his

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Speaker 1: car note. Should I pay it or punish him this month?

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Speaker 2: What?

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Speaker 5: I don't care what you do? You just I don't

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Speaker 5: care what you do.

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Speaker 2: I don't It's crazy, you stupid.

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Speaker 4: He asked this question, cougar.

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Speaker 3: What's the difference between the mona day cougar and the

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Speaker 3: old fashion?

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Speaker 4: He ain't trying to tell us how old she is?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, the word cougar for one thing.

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Speaker 4: Steve Well, he was man Sunday. Why had that question?

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Speaker 4: Not anything?

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Speaker 2: He just popped up.

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Speaker 1: He can just put at your house at any time

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Speaker 1: and need money, and yeah, no boundaries.

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Speaker 5: You know who you are.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, Mama, sugar mama.

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Speaker 5: He'll owe you nothing. He ain't finna give you none.

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Speaker 5: Y'all ain't going nowhere your car note.

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Speaker 2: And marrow?

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Speaker 4: You got some? Yeah?

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Speaker 6: Tim me like, no, he did good twenty sixteen. He

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Speaker 6: got something, all right? So should she pay it or

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Speaker 6: punish him this month? I don't care this month. I

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Speaker 6: don't care. You don't give a dim I don't about

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Speaker 6: him or.

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Speaker 2: Her yeah, but lady, don't pay it, please, don't pay it?

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Speaker 4: Well, have you been paying it? Yeah?

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Speaker 3: Which former stupidity? Do you want to talk about it?

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Speaker 3: New school stupid, old school stupid, because that's the guess.

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Speaker 1: Cougar too, Yeah, both of them, Well they didn't really think. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: they didn't really use that term back in the day,

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Speaker 1: but you know, it is a modern day term, cougar.

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Speaker 1: She calls herself a cougar.

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Speaker 3: Okay, huh, what else y'all want to talk about?

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Speaker 5: Through with that call up? I was through with it.

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Speaker 3: When she first wrote in as soon as she read it, Shirley,

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Speaker 3: I was done. It was nothing to do, I know, yeah,

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Speaker 3: or pay it?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? Yeah, he come up short?

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Speaker 5: That you come up short. She don't know what, Shirley.

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Speaker 2: She doesn't know that she's being stupid.

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Speaker 3: She knows exactly what she is. She can she don

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Speaker 3: call herself a modern day coopie. She knows exactly what

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Speaker 3: she is. Should I pay it or punish him?

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Speaker 5: Either way? Which one? Which one do you benefit from?

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Speaker 5: All right?

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Speaker 6: But he just gonna go where it was last Harvey

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Speaker 6: Morning Show