1 00:00:01,760 --> 00:00:03,800 Speaker 1: What's up? What's up is lip service? I'm Manti La Yee, 2 00:00:03,880 --> 00:00:12,800 Speaker 1: I'm McGuire, I'm Stephanie Santiago, I'm Loial, I'm Trisia clark Stone. Yes, 3 00:00:12,920 --> 00:00:16,279 Speaker 1: so we are. The twins are on this side. So 4 00:00:16,520 --> 00:00:19,960 Speaker 1: Tricia and Antoinette have a book called Double Down and clearly, 5 00:00:19,960 --> 00:00:22,119 Speaker 1: as you can see, their twins five minutes apart, and 6 00:00:22,160 --> 00:00:24,520 Speaker 1: it's all about business advice for women because you guys 7 00:00:24,520 --> 00:00:26,439 Speaker 1: are both successful in your own rights. So before we 8 00:00:26,480 --> 00:00:30,120 Speaker 1: get to the fun talk, let's just give everybody a 9 00:00:30,160 --> 00:00:31,920 Speaker 1: little bit of background and who you guys are, what 10 00:00:32,000 --> 00:00:33,720 Speaker 1: you've done, and then we're going to delve into some 11 00:00:33,800 --> 00:00:39,320 Speaker 1: relationship experiences. Cool. So she's the long winded one, so 12 00:00:39,360 --> 00:00:45,120 Speaker 1: I'll go first. Um. I'm an entrepreneur. I started my 13 00:00:45,159 --> 00:00:47,320 Speaker 1: career in media in radio so back in the day 14 00:00:47,360 --> 00:00:51,400 Speaker 1: at hot Nany seven and built up the digital department 15 00:00:51,479 --> 00:00:54,120 Speaker 1: for MS Communications, and then I went to go work 16 00:00:54,120 --> 00:00:57,640 Speaker 1: for Russell Simmons. I ran his digital company, made it profitable, 17 00:00:57,760 --> 00:00:59,080 Speaker 1: got it to a place where we could sell it. 18 00:00:59,120 --> 00:01:02,240 Speaker 1: We sold it. When we sold it, he partnered with me. 19 00:01:02,640 --> 00:01:04,760 Speaker 1: He gave me the c capital to start my creative 20 00:01:04,760 --> 00:01:08,199 Speaker 1: and technology agency called narrative and we want a bunch 21 00:01:08,240 --> 00:01:12,080 Speaker 1: of awards. Are kind of a mass, tons of clients 22 00:01:12,120 --> 00:01:17,680 Speaker 1: like under Armour, Samsung, Cody Fragrances, Showtime won a bunch 23 00:01:17,720 --> 00:01:21,080 Speaker 1: of awards. And then Will Packer bought the agency from 24 00:01:21,200 --> 00:01:26,920 Speaker 1: us about two years ago. Nice, congratulations so quick. And 25 00:01:26,920 --> 00:01:29,880 Speaker 1: then and then because I joked, she always says I'm 26 00:01:29,920 --> 00:01:32,919 Speaker 1: long winded, So that's why I tried to I'll be shorter. 27 00:01:33,880 --> 00:01:37,119 Speaker 1: So I started in production as a production assistant, worked 28 00:01:37,160 --> 00:01:38,959 Speaker 1: my way up through producer. I say, I was like 29 00:01:39,000 --> 00:01:42,240 Speaker 1: with the whore of Daytime. I've been on every Daytime show. Um. 30 00:01:42,280 --> 00:01:45,800 Speaker 1: I worked at Monto, Williams, Tara Banks, Rachel Ray, Nate Burkas. 31 00:01:45,840 --> 00:01:49,240 Speaker 1: I won two Emmy's UM doing the Tyra Show. Then 32 00:01:49,280 --> 00:01:52,160 Speaker 1: I switched over to the Brandon Entertainment side, worked for 33 00:01:52,240 --> 00:01:55,840 Speaker 1: Martha Stewart and ran ran her Brandon Entertainment Division. Now 34 00:01:55,960 --> 00:01:59,760 Speaker 1: work at cbs M s VP of Branded Entertainment there. Nice. 35 00:02:01,840 --> 00:02:05,640 Speaker 1: So we are on a DA book is amazing, just 36 00:02:05,680 --> 00:02:08,960 Speaker 1: so y'all know, just because to see how they became 37 00:02:09,520 --> 00:02:12,800 Speaker 1: entrepreneurs and at a young age, just knowing what it 38 00:02:12,880 --> 00:02:14,200 Speaker 1: is that they wanted to do, and how close you 39 00:02:14,240 --> 00:02:17,160 Speaker 1: guys are and we call each other a built in 40 00:02:18,280 --> 00:02:19,800 Speaker 1: and it's so too because you see how they finish 41 00:02:19,840 --> 00:02:22,640 Speaker 1: each other's sentences and no, they say the same things 42 00:02:22,639 --> 00:02:25,280 Speaker 1: at the same time sometimes, so you know we're not 43 00:02:25,400 --> 00:02:28,360 Speaker 1: lying what we say. So let me ask you this, 44 00:02:28,400 --> 00:02:31,239 Speaker 1: have you ever not like somebody like that? The other 45 00:02:31,280 --> 00:02:33,480 Speaker 1: one has dated and been like, I'm not with that, 46 00:02:35,360 --> 00:02:39,360 Speaker 1: so probably too much because she has horrible tastes and men. 47 00:02:40,600 --> 00:02:44,120 Speaker 1: I go for the bad guys, so we know who yes, sorry, 48 00:02:44,120 --> 00:02:47,240 Speaker 1: so answer that has really bad tasting guys like they're 49 00:02:47,320 --> 00:02:50,320 Speaker 1: nice and cute and cool, but they're just not ready 50 00:02:50,400 --> 00:02:53,639 Speaker 1: for commitment, and she just tends to go towards that. 51 00:02:54,120 --> 00:02:57,079 Speaker 1: So I feel super protective of her once she starts 52 00:02:57,160 --> 00:03:00,600 Speaker 1: dating them, because I want better for her, probably that 53 00:03:00,680 --> 00:03:04,120 Speaker 1: I want for myself. And to see her continuously getting 54 00:03:04,160 --> 00:03:06,840 Speaker 1: into these bad relationships where they're not about it, it 55 00:03:06,919 --> 00:03:08,880 Speaker 1: makes me sad. How do you know somebody's not ready 56 00:03:08,880 --> 00:03:12,480 Speaker 1: for a commitment when they don't show up when they're 57 00:03:12,480 --> 00:03:18,440 Speaker 1: supposed to show up. I think that's a big, big sign. 58 00:03:18,560 --> 00:03:21,480 Speaker 1: And then too, when they're in and out, And what 59 00:03:21,520 --> 00:03:23,680 Speaker 1: I mean by that is they're all about it on 60 00:03:23,800 --> 00:03:27,280 Speaker 1: like Monday, and then by Saturday or like two weeks later. 61 00:03:28,280 --> 00:03:32,520 Speaker 1: So like the lack of consistency um and I feel 62 00:03:32,560 --> 00:03:35,280 Speaker 1: like I am able to see it, probably before her 63 00:03:35,360 --> 00:03:37,960 Speaker 1: because I'm in it, so she's on the outskirt. But 64 00:03:38,040 --> 00:03:40,920 Speaker 1: then I probably need to handle her a little bit 65 00:03:40,920 --> 00:03:43,320 Speaker 1: more with kid gloves because we're so close. I'm just like, 66 00:03:43,400 --> 00:03:45,680 Speaker 1: are you crazy? Like what's wrong with She's harsh. I 67 00:03:45,800 --> 00:03:49,080 Speaker 1: come at her too aggressive, probably because once I was 68 00:03:49,200 --> 00:03:51,520 Speaker 1: dating a guy and we used to throw a party 69 00:03:51,560 --> 00:03:53,840 Speaker 1: at two or five Christie on the Lower East Side, 70 00:03:54,400 --> 00:03:56,560 Speaker 1: and she was like, you should not be dating him. 71 00:03:56,600 --> 00:03:58,960 Speaker 1: There are all these crazy rumors about him. I'm like whatever. 72 00:03:59,040 --> 00:04:01,120 Speaker 1: He came to pick me up from the party. We 73 00:04:01,200 --> 00:04:03,720 Speaker 1: shared a car back then she jumped in the car 74 00:04:03,920 --> 00:04:08,640 Speaker 1: and followed to his apartment. He dropped me off, and 75 00:04:08,640 --> 00:04:10,560 Speaker 1: I didn't know she was following me. He dropped me 76 00:04:10,640 --> 00:04:13,160 Speaker 1: off to go park in the garage, and I see 77 00:04:13,200 --> 00:04:15,560 Speaker 1: her and my cousin coming out and dragging me in 78 00:04:15,600 --> 00:04:20,880 Speaker 1: the car. They took me away right at that kind 79 00:04:20,960 --> 00:04:25,320 Speaker 1: of she was. You know, it's interesting because sometimes the 80 00:04:25,360 --> 00:04:27,560 Speaker 1: more somebody tries to make you stay away from somebody 81 00:04:27,600 --> 00:04:29,160 Speaker 1: and tell you someone's no good for me for you, 82 00:04:29,200 --> 00:04:30,719 Speaker 1: the more you try to prove them wrong, right you 83 00:04:30,880 --> 00:04:32,640 Speaker 1: and you have to learn at your own pace, so 84 00:04:32,720 --> 00:04:35,320 Speaker 1: you have to be done for yourself. You can't just 85 00:04:35,360 --> 00:04:37,680 Speaker 1: listen to everybody. I agree, you know how Sometimes somebody 86 00:04:37,720 --> 00:04:40,200 Speaker 1: tries to tell you no, girl, he's no good, he's this, 87 00:04:40,279 --> 00:04:42,039 Speaker 1: and we can see it, but you're in it, and 88 00:04:42,080 --> 00:04:44,040 Speaker 1: you're like, I gotta prove that wrong. I'm gonna make 89 00:04:44,080 --> 00:04:46,039 Speaker 1: this happen. I have to make it work. And I 90 00:04:46,080 --> 00:04:48,680 Speaker 1: feel like sometimes that messes up your relationship with the 91 00:04:48,720 --> 00:04:51,880 Speaker 1: person because if that's what they have their mind set on, 92 00:04:52,080 --> 00:04:55,200 Speaker 1: either they're gonna hide it from you or they're gonna 93 00:04:55,240 --> 00:04:57,920 Speaker 1: start looking at you different, like, wow, I love this person, 94 00:04:58,080 --> 00:05:00,600 Speaker 1: so if she's not gonna understand, and it's kind of 95 00:05:00,640 --> 00:05:04,200 Speaker 1: just like you start separating yourself from your friend instead 96 00:05:04,240 --> 00:05:06,520 Speaker 1: of the guy because you're not as open with that. 97 00:05:07,120 --> 00:05:09,680 Speaker 1: I feel like if we were friends, I might have 98 00:05:09,720 --> 00:05:13,000 Speaker 1: stopped because you know that friend when they keep dating 99 00:05:13,040 --> 00:05:15,400 Speaker 1: the wrong guy or the guy's cheating and you tell 100 00:05:15,440 --> 00:05:18,240 Speaker 1: them and then they don't do anything about it. So 101 00:05:18,279 --> 00:05:22,600 Speaker 1: then you stopped telling them because you're like you because 102 00:05:22,640 --> 00:05:25,120 Speaker 1: you's gonna be mad at me. So then we're gonna 103 00:05:25,200 --> 00:05:28,960 Speaker 1: have strife, Sonny. That is so true because there's people 104 00:05:29,040 --> 00:05:31,560 Speaker 1: that you're like, listen, she knows what it is. I 105 00:05:31,600 --> 00:05:33,320 Speaker 1: heard these stories. I know these things. I'm not even 106 00:05:33,360 --> 00:05:34,960 Speaker 1: gonna buy the same anything because she's not gonna do 107 00:05:34,960 --> 00:05:38,719 Speaker 1: nothing anyway. She's gonna stay about way. So you gotta 108 00:05:38,880 --> 00:05:40,600 Speaker 1: don't think you should still tell them. I think I 109 00:05:40,600 --> 00:05:44,080 Speaker 1: would still tell them after you've told someone like five 110 00:05:44,160 --> 00:05:46,720 Speaker 1: times and they don't do anything about it, especially when 111 00:05:46,720 --> 00:05:48,200 Speaker 1: it's somebody and you tell them and then they go 112 00:05:48,240 --> 00:05:49,960 Speaker 1: back to the guy and they don't they stay with them, 113 00:05:50,000 --> 00:05:53,120 Speaker 1: but then they tell them that you told them, and 114 00:05:51,640 --> 00:05:55,800 Speaker 1: they all together, And I think I think a lot 115 00:05:55,839 --> 00:05:58,520 Speaker 1: of girls do that, Like it's like they confront the guy, 116 00:05:59,040 --> 00:06:01,000 Speaker 1: but I don't think they got it, like, oh well, 117 00:06:01,080 --> 00:06:03,000 Speaker 1: let me tell all my friend. It's like, let me 118 00:06:03,080 --> 00:06:05,240 Speaker 1: confront the guy. But then it's also like now he 119 00:06:05,320 --> 00:06:07,440 Speaker 1: hates you, but you still with him, and now he 120 00:06:07,480 --> 00:06:10,040 Speaker 1: hates your friend so that you can't hang out all together. 121 00:06:10,160 --> 00:06:12,520 Speaker 1: But he's only hating your friend for looking out for you. 122 00:06:12,560 --> 00:06:17,919 Speaker 1: It's yourself stupid. Still, Yeah, like, listen, that many circumstances 123 00:06:18,200 --> 00:06:21,080 Speaker 1: that we've had where you tell somebody something and then 124 00:06:21,120 --> 00:06:22,960 Speaker 1: they confront the guy, and now you'll both hate the 125 00:06:22,960 --> 00:06:26,800 Speaker 1: girl that told. That's why when I have relationship problems, 126 00:06:26,800 --> 00:06:29,600 Speaker 1: I don't even tell anybody because I know I'm gonna stay. So, yeah, 127 00:06:30,720 --> 00:06:33,159 Speaker 1: you keep it. That's what I started doing too. I 128 00:06:33,240 --> 00:06:38,080 Speaker 1: just keep it. I'm just string relationships, just being with 129 00:06:38,120 --> 00:06:44,440 Speaker 1: this guy relationships. But where's your release? What? What if 130 00:06:44,480 --> 00:06:48,120 Speaker 1: you want a backhand off somebody? No, um, you find 131 00:06:48,120 --> 00:06:51,279 Speaker 1: I have a best friend who also stays in bad relationships, 132 00:06:52,200 --> 00:06:58,720 Speaker 1: so the two That's why I said, it messes up 133 00:06:58,760 --> 00:07:00,719 Speaker 1: your relationship because it's like, now you can't even go 134 00:07:00,760 --> 00:07:03,520 Speaker 1: to your friend and talk to your friend because you loki, 135 00:07:03,600 --> 00:07:06,560 Speaker 1: that's judging your friend. Like I feel like if you 136 00:07:06,600 --> 00:07:09,520 Speaker 1: can't come, like, you gotta let people live their own lives, 137 00:07:09,640 --> 00:07:12,119 Speaker 1: but you also have to care. Yeah yeah, that doesn't 138 00:07:12,120 --> 00:07:15,160 Speaker 1: mean you don't care, but you you like, you can't. 139 00:07:15,160 --> 00:07:18,200 Speaker 1: You can't stop them from getting hurt. Ever, it doesn't 140 00:07:18,240 --> 00:07:21,720 Speaker 1: matter what the situation is. But I think, imagine if 141 00:07:21,760 --> 00:07:24,320 Speaker 1: she kept coming to me and complaining or being sad 142 00:07:24,360 --> 00:07:27,400 Speaker 1: and upset, then after a while, I'm like, you can't 143 00:07:27,440 --> 00:07:31,720 Speaker 1: keep complaining to me something about you? Right, and especially 144 00:07:31,720 --> 00:07:34,000 Speaker 1: if you feel like it's, oh, we got to you, Okay, 145 00:07:34,320 --> 00:07:40,760 Speaker 1: thank you, I forgot straight. You know what that makes 146 00:07:40,800 --> 00:07:42,680 Speaker 1: me think of? So we're gonna flash back to when 147 00:07:42,680 --> 00:07:44,920 Speaker 1: Snoop Dog did that post, right, I'm sure you're all 148 00:07:44,960 --> 00:07:48,000 Speaker 1: about Gucci Mane and it said everyone wants this, but 149 00:07:48,080 --> 00:07:50,600 Speaker 1: y'all forgot she was with Wild Guti on drugs, Gucci, 150 00:07:50,680 --> 00:07:53,360 Speaker 1: cheat and Gucci and jail, Gucci, publicity with other women Guti. 151 00:07:53,640 --> 00:07:55,760 Speaker 1: This is a writer who knew what she signed up for. 152 00:07:56,440 --> 00:07:58,960 Speaker 1: So what do you all think about being a writer 153 00:07:59,120 --> 00:08:01,800 Speaker 1: like that? Being with somebody who does all of those 154 00:08:01,800 --> 00:08:03,960 Speaker 1: things to you, but you stay Because sometimes I feel 155 00:08:03,960 --> 00:08:06,080 Speaker 1: like people act like that's a woman's responsibility. I have 156 00:08:06,160 --> 00:08:07,560 Speaker 1: to forgive all of that and then don't feel like 157 00:08:07,600 --> 00:08:09,080 Speaker 1: they have to do that for us. It's so true. 158 00:08:09,080 --> 00:08:13,120 Speaker 1: Men will be out being a writer, you're taking a 159 00:08:13,400 --> 00:08:16,400 Speaker 1: you're taking a chance. It's it's you're gambling because he 160 00:08:16,480 --> 00:08:19,920 Speaker 1: may change or he may not. I also think there's 161 00:08:19,920 --> 00:08:22,320 Speaker 1: a fine line. You could be a writer, but if 162 00:08:22,360 --> 00:08:26,200 Speaker 1: it disrespects you over and over and over again, you've 163 00:08:26,240 --> 00:08:28,280 Speaker 1: reached your limit. Like I get if you've been with 164 00:08:28,320 --> 00:08:30,680 Speaker 1: someone for like five years and you find out they're cheating. 165 00:08:30,840 --> 00:08:33,719 Speaker 1: You're You've have this relationship and you don't want to 166 00:08:33,800 --> 00:08:35,559 Speaker 1: let it go, so you want to figure out a 167 00:08:35,600 --> 00:08:37,520 Speaker 1: way to make it work. But if someone is doing 168 00:08:37,559 --> 00:08:41,120 Speaker 1: that ship all the time, right, he's never gonna's not 169 00:08:41,200 --> 00:08:45,160 Speaker 1: a mistake at that point, do you care about me? Right? 170 00:08:45,200 --> 00:08:47,480 Speaker 1: And more often than not, let's be clear, Like we 171 00:08:47,600 --> 00:08:49,760 Speaker 1: hear these stories where they stayed and worked it out, 172 00:08:49,760 --> 00:08:52,000 Speaker 1: but I think more often than that it doesn't work. 173 00:08:52,400 --> 00:08:55,920 Speaker 1: I've never heard a story where someone continuously does that 174 00:08:56,400 --> 00:08:58,200 Speaker 1: and then one day they wake up in there, Like 175 00:08:58,679 --> 00:09:00,760 Speaker 1: I think you have to do something. I think if 176 00:09:00,800 --> 00:09:02,600 Speaker 1: you do it for a couple of years and then 177 00:09:02,600 --> 00:09:05,440 Speaker 1: one day you get up and leave, then it's like 178 00:09:05,559 --> 00:09:07,679 Speaker 1: men have to feel they have to feel that level 179 00:09:07,679 --> 00:09:10,800 Speaker 1: of loss. I think if you leave, then if it's 180 00:09:10,800 --> 00:09:13,040 Speaker 1: really meant to be, he'll come back. But I do, like, 181 00:09:13,120 --> 00:09:15,920 Speaker 1: I'm not gonna say I agree with what with Snoop 182 00:09:15,920 --> 00:09:19,280 Speaker 1: was saying. But I understand why a man could look 183 00:09:19,280 --> 00:09:21,760 Speaker 1: at a woman and be like, all right, I've been 184 00:09:21,840 --> 00:09:24,679 Speaker 1: through all this stuff for her. She really loves me, 185 00:09:25,040 --> 00:09:28,840 Speaker 1: so that therefore let me change my ways or whatever 186 00:09:29,080 --> 00:09:31,760 Speaker 1: after a certain age and stuff like that. So he 187 00:09:31,840 --> 00:09:34,600 Speaker 1: went to like this guy he went to jail or 188 00:09:34,720 --> 00:09:37,520 Speaker 1: he was broke, and she's still still by his side. 189 00:09:37,920 --> 00:09:39,680 Speaker 1: And then when he got out, she's supposed to be 190 00:09:39,679 --> 00:09:41,439 Speaker 1: brought him a car, what or whatever. So I can 191 00:09:41,480 --> 00:09:45,360 Speaker 1: see in that instance being the man and being like Dann, 192 00:09:45,400 --> 00:09:47,240 Speaker 1: she really loved me because I did all this ship 193 00:09:47,320 --> 00:09:49,760 Speaker 1: to her. So but I don't think that that means 194 00:09:49,760 --> 00:09:53,240 Speaker 1: you should go through all that. But you want your 195 00:09:53,280 --> 00:09:58,559 Speaker 1: daughter to go through that, right. But I think to 196 00:09:58,679 --> 00:10:01,040 Speaker 1: what you pointed out, someth times they have this big 197 00:10:01,080 --> 00:10:04,840 Speaker 1: defining moment or this moment of change where you then 198 00:10:05,000 --> 00:10:06,880 Speaker 1: kind of wake up and you're like, well, wait, she 199 00:10:07,000 --> 00:10:09,040 Speaker 1: has been there for me and she's not right or 200 00:10:09,080 --> 00:10:12,280 Speaker 1: die but you how long? What if they never have that? 201 00:10:12,520 --> 00:10:15,000 Speaker 1: What's your expiration date? How are you gonna wait? Or 202 00:10:15,120 --> 00:10:17,760 Speaker 1: by that time, the woman might feel like, well they 203 00:10:17,840 --> 00:10:20,680 Speaker 1: took you this long to notice that I was a 204 00:10:20,720 --> 00:10:23,480 Speaker 1: good woman for you, It's like fuck you now. And 205 00:10:23,480 --> 00:10:25,839 Speaker 1: that's usually how it ends up happening. But I think 206 00:10:25,880 --> 00:10:27,680 Speaker 1: some woman get used to it and that becomes the 207 00:10:27,720 --> 00:10:30,320 Speaker 1: norm and that's the problem to get and they think 208 00:10:30,400 --> 00:10:33,400 Speaker 1: that's what love is. Like love is you're treating me 209 00:10:33,440 --> 00:10:35,920 Speaker 1: like ship, and I'm supposed to still be exactly right, 210 00:10:36,000 --> 00:10:38,079 Speaker 1: and guys make you feel like I'm supposed to You're 211 00:10:38,080 --> 00:10:40,520 Speaker 1: supposed to stay through all of that, or else you're 212 00:10:40,600 --> 00:10:43,840 Speaker 1: not right or die. I tell you right now, they 213 00:10:43,880 --> 00:10:52,839 Speaker 1: say I'm not right or die? Hella hard right, because 214 00:10:52,880 --> 00:10:55,640 Speaker 1: I don't think that guys like for me, I feel like, 215 00:10:55,679 --> 00:10:57,760 Speaker 1: if you keep on sucking up and disrespecting me, I 216 00:10:57,800 --> 00:10:59,920 Speaker 1: am out like I just can't do that to my 217 00:11:00,040 --> 00:11:02,600 Speaker 1: So it's just like a kid, right, If a kid 218 00:11:02,760 --> 00:11:05,760 Speaker 1: keeps going to school and getting in trouble and then 219 00:11:05,800 --> 00:11:08,199 Speaker 1: you put the kid on punishment, but then he keeps 220 00:11:08,240 --> 00:11:10,440 Speaker 1: doing it. You have to change the environment and change 221 00:11:10,520 --> 00:11:14,480 Speaker 1: up the situation otherwise it's going to keep happening. It's cheating, 222 00:11:14,520 --> 00:11:19,680 Speaker 1: a deal breaker. You think it depends. I don't. I 223 00:11:19,720 --> 00:11:25,720 Speaker 1: think I'd rather a one night stand cheat here and there. 224 00:11:25,880 --> 00:11:28,800 Speaker 1: But having a relationship with someone that you're talking to, 225 00:11:29,160 --> 00:11:37,000 Speaker 1: you having just sleep with them, Yeah, I feel better 226 00:11:37,160 --> 00:11:41,480 Speaker 1: one night stands opposed to one time one person. No, 227 00:11:41,720 --> 00:11:44,080 Speaker 1: this can't be an ongoing thing. But if it happened 228 00:11:44,120 --> 00:11:46,920 Speaker 1: like once and he happened to do it, I would 229 00:11:46,960 --> 00:11:49,600 Speaker 1: be open to But I'll tell you I'd rather have 230 00:11:50,559 --> 00:11:52,520 Speaker 1: two or three one night stands and like a two 231 00:11:52,640 --> 00:11:55,640 Speaker 1: or three year relationship because that means you're connected and 232 00:11:55,800 --> 00:11:59,320 Speaker 1: you're emotionally connected with someone else, So then that means 233 00:11:59,600 --> 00:12:01,960 Speaker 1: we have change just because if you're that connected to 234 00:12:02,000 --> 00:12:04,720 Speaker 1: somebody else, then that's taken away from our connect Exactly. 235 00:12:04,880 --> 00:12:07,320 Speaker 1: You're too busy putting which should be going into us 236 00:12:07,679 --> 00:12:13,960 Speaker 1: into that about having a connection. So not want sex 237 00:12:14,000 --> 00:12:16,280 Speaker 1: doesn't compare it to a full loown relationship because you 238 00:12:16,320 --> 00:12:18,120 Speaker 1: get matter when they had sex. If they say they 239 00:12:18,160 --> 00:12:19,440 Speaker 1: te and you had sex, do you want to know 240 00:12:19,480 --> 00:12:22,319 Speaker 1: what they did? Like, did you either out? No, I 241 00:12:22,360 --> 00:12:28,720 Speaker 1: don't like you think they're going to be honest and 242 00:12:28,720 --> 00:12:31,319 Speaker 1: be like, no funking, I went wrong. No, they're not 243 00:12:31,320 --> 00:12:33,920 Speaker 1: gonna until she popped up pregnant and then they're like, 244 00:12:33,960 --> 00:12:39,640 Speaker 1: I don't know how right, But I think the whole 245 00:12:39,640 --> 00:12:42,480 Speaker 1: thing it comes down to intimacy. Right, So if you're 246 00:12:42,559 --> 00:12:45,320 Speaker 1: having sex and it's there's a level of intimacy there, 247 00:12:45,400 --> 00:12:49,040 Speaker 1: then there's a bigger connection, um, and that I would 248 00:12:49,080 --> 00:12:52,120 Speaker 1: be worried about. Would you want to talk to the girl? Yeah, 249 00:12:52,160 --> 00:12:55,000 Speaker 1: I'm that girl, Like I wanna because I want to 250 00:12:55,040 --> 00:12:56,840 Speaker 1: see because he's not going to tell you the truth. 251 00:12:56,880 --> 00:12:58,480 Speaker 1: Look what he's doing. He's not going to tell you 252 00:12:58,480 --> 00:13:00,640 Speaker 1: the truth. So I would want to get at her sense. 253 00:13:00,760 --> 00:13:03,920 Speaker 1: And I would also be a little curious, like why, 254 00:13:04,640 --> 00:13:07,480 Speaker 1: what who this girl is and what she has to 255 00:13:07,559 --> 00:13:10,440 Speaker 1: offer that he's going stepping out on me with her. 256 00:13:10,679 --> 00:13:12,600 Speaker 1: So you would want to talk to the woman as well, 257 00:13:13,240 --> 00:13:18,920 Speaker 1: or at least different ways, it seems though. Yeah, I 258 00:13:19,240 --> 00:13:21,840 Speaker 1: know I wouldn't want to talk to it, like talk 259 00:13:21,880 --> 00:13:26,720 Speaker 1: about what the problem, right, but you might want to 260 00:13:26,720 --> 00:13:29,040 Speaker 1: be that did you know about me? I would I 261 00:13:29,080 --> 00:13:32,200 Speaker 1: would want because she want to let you know, and 262 00:13:32,240 --> 00:13:34,160 Speaker 1: I feel like I can. It's more inspect her, gadget. 263 00:13:34,400 --> 00:13:35,800 Speaker 1: I feel like I want to get to the bottom 264 00:13:35,800 --> 00:13:37,880 Speaker 1: of it. So the more I just feel like the 265 00:13:37,920 --> 00:13:41,160 Speaker 1: truth is he's a cheating Say it's on the other foot, right, 266 00:13:41,240 --> 00:13:43,520 Speaker 1: Let's say you're the other check and he cheated on 267 00:13:43,600 --> 00:13:46,680 Speaker 1: his girl with you and his girl calls you, would 268 00:13:46,720 --> 00:13:48,960 Speaker 1: you tell her did you down? If she wanted to know, 269 00:13:49,080 --> 00:13:53,040 Speaker 1: like if she asked you questions. So this happened to 270 00:13:53,040 --> 00:13:59,600 Speaker 1: me a couple of months ago. Hit you on YO, 271 00:14:00,120 --> 00:14:05,280 Speaker 1: and I her. So I was dating this dude a 272 00:14:05,440 --> 00:14:09,080 Speaker 1: year ago and we saw each other out in l A. 273 00:14:09,080 --> 00:14:10,800 Speaker 1: I split my time between New York and l A. 274 00:14:11,160 --> 00:14:13,240 Speaker 1: And we ran into each other and hung out, but 275 00:14:13,440 --> 00:14:18,320 Speaker 1: nothing happened. His girl deemed me two days later, saying, oh, 276 00:14:18,440 --> 00:14:22,000 Speaker 1: I heard their unresolved feelings between you and blah blah blah. 277 00:14:22,320 --> 00:14:24,080 Speaker 1: You did hit off for me, so clearly your man 278 00:14:24,160 --> 00:14:27,160 Speaker 1: has unresolved feelings for me, and said this whole thing. 279 00:14:27,320 --> 00:14:30,840 Speaker 1: Gave me a timeline of their relationship and said, did 280 00:14:30,840 --> 00:14:32,880 Speaker 1: you see him during this time? Did you see him 281 00:14:33,080 --> 00:14:35,680 Speaker 1: during that time? She went off, because now you look 282 00:14:35,760 --> 00:14:39,240 Speaker 1: crazy for your lines within that timeline, No, no blurred lines. 283 00:14:39,760 --> 00:14:42,920 Speaker 1: But I kind of had when I saw him, I 284 00:14:43,000 --> 00:14:45,880 Speaker 1: realized I still had feelings for him, So he probably 285 00:14:45,920 --> 00:14:49,360 Speaker 1: felt the same. And I never responded to her because 286 00:14:49,440 --> 00:14:52,000 Speaker 1: because he came at me, because how she came at me. 287 00:14:52,160 --> 00:14:53,960 Speaker 1: But did that stop you? If you see, if he 288 00:14:54,000 --> 00:14:56,000 Speaker 1: calls you right now, you're not gonna well, they're not 289 00:14:56,040 --> 00:14:59,320 Speaker 1: together anymore, because that girl is crazy. But that's for you, 290 00:14:59,640 --> 00:15:02,440 Speaker 1: of cour She's gonna answer exactly did he tell you 291 00:15:02,480 --> 00:15:04,080 Speaker 1: about her when you guys were hanging out? And he said, like, 292 00:15:04,080 --> 00:15:06,000 Speaker 1: I'm in a relationship now, Yes, he said, I'm in 293 00:15:06,000 --> 00:15:11,200 Speaker 1: a relationship now, but I still have feelings for you. 294 00:15:12,040 --> 00:15:13,840 Speaker 1: What are you talking to her for? There's nothing to 295 00:15:13,960 --> 00:15:16,880 Speaker 1: talk about to her, That's what I'm saying. Like you know, 296 00:15:17,480 --> 00:15:19,840 Speaker 1: so I did not talk about Do you judge a 297 00:15:19,840 --> 00:15:23,440 Speaker 1: guy by who he dated? Yes? Because I totally see 298 00:15:23,520 --> 00:15:27,320 Speaker 1: him in a different light. I think I could do 299 00:15:27,400 --> 00:15:31,760 Speaker 1: better because you do be thinking that what you're making 300 00:15:31,760 --> 00:15:33,680 Speaker 1: a drink over this? Why you one? All right? Now? 301 00:15:33,720 --> 00:15:35,760 Speaker 1: Let me ask you this. This is a question that 302 00:15:35,880 --> 00:15:38,680 Speaker 1: I saw on this website. What'd you help pay for 303 00:15:38,720 --> 00:15:42,000 Speaker 1: your own engagement ring? Let's just say you're dating somebody 304 00:15:42,640 --> 00:15:45,160 Speaker 1: and he's doing all right, but he ain't got it 305 00:15:45,240 --> 00:15:47,720 Speaker 1: like that, and you have this ring that you really 306 00:15:47,720 --> 00:15:49,320 Speaker 1: want to get, but you know it's out of his 307 00:15:49,360 --> 00:15:53,520 Speaker 1: price range. Would you help pay for it? No? No, 308 00:15:55,040 --> 00:15:58,480 Speaker 1: I rather a more basic ring than have to pay 309 00:15:58,520 --> 00:16:01,920 Speaker 1: for a ring that isn't head that I want. I rather, 310 00:16:02,880 --> 00:16:05,200 Speaker 1: I'm a big believer in it coming from the heart. 311 00:16:05,560 --> 00:16:07,360 Speaker 1: So if it's not where it needs to be at 312 00:16:07,400 --> 00:16:12,400 Speaker 1: that point, I could get an upgrade. Okay, I totally agree. 313 00:16:12,720 --> 00:16:16,040 Speaker 1: I think though it depends if I'm in a situation. 314 00:16:16,320 --> 00:16:24,240 Speaker 1: Totally agree. I totally that way agree because I think 315 00:16:25,120 --> 00:16:28,360 Speaker 1: if we're in it and if he's like, um, I 316 00:16:28,400 --> 00:16:30,280 Speaker 1: wish I could get you the ring that you wanted, 317 00:16:30,800 --> 00:16:33,400 Speaker 1: and we go shopping for rings and in this particular 318 00:16:33,480 --> 00:16:38,240 Speaker 1: ring I want and he's like, for like three thousand. 319 00:16:38,760 --> 00:16:42,640 Speaker 1: If you look at it like that, I might be like, yeah, 320 00:16:43,440 --> 00:16:45,960 Speaker 1: like my money is your money? Yeah, that's not bad. 321 00:16:46,080 --> 00:16:47,600 Speaker 1: What if I do with the ring and you don't 322 00:16:47,640 --> 00:16:52,800 Speaker 1: like it at all? I'm telling him, I'm saying I 323 00:16:52,840 --> 00:16:58,360 Speaker 1: love you, but yeah, but your every day how are 324 00:16:58,360 --> 00:17:01,080 Speaker 1: you going to work? Because too your ring, you wanted 325 00:17:01,120 --> 00:17:03,920 Speaker 1: to feel like you and it's it's it's supposed to 326 00:17:04,200 --> 00:17:07,040 Speaker 1: like exude your personality and the connection that you have 327 00:17:07,119 --> 00:17:09,320 Speaker 1: with him. So I would be I would come at 328 00:17:09,320 --> 00:17:12,280 Speaker 1: it like that, like this is the representation of our 329 00:17:12,359 --> 00:17:15,880 Speaker 1: love and it just doesn't feel like something that I 330 00:17:15,880 --> 00:17:18,159 Speaker 1: would wear every day, and I want to rep for 331 00:17:18,240 --> 00:17:29,280 Speaker 1: our love. So that one of her brands. But what 332 00:17:29,320 --> 00:17:31,880 Speaker 1: if it was that his great grandmother's ring that he got, 333 00:17:35,160 --> 00:17:39,040 Speaker 1: And then I say, on our fatherly anniversary, but let's 334 00:17:39,960 --> 00:17:44,119 Speaker 1: you got to wear what is the sentimental value that 335 00:17:44,200 --> 00:17:48,720 Speaker 1: means the most? And that so far the twins, she's 336 00:17:48,760 --> 00:17:52,480 Speaker 1: not that I would take that. Yeah, all right, now 337 00:17:52,560 --> 00:17:55,440 Speaker 1: let's talk about marriage, right. Do you think your relationship 338 00:17:55,520 --> 00:17:59,520 Speaker 1: changes after marriage? Well, she was married, Well she's still married. 339 00:18:00,000 --> 00:18:03,920 Speaker 1: We're we're not divorced yet, but they're separated. Um, so 340 00:18:05,880 --> 00:18:08,760 Speaker 1: the relationship change. I feel like when we were dating, 341 00:18:09,080 --> 00:18:12,280 Speaker 1: it was, um, it was more of an adventure, like 342 00:18:12,359 --> 00:18:16,360 Speaker 1: it was like, uh, we're discovering and we're and we were. 343 00:18:16,680 --> 00:18:19,680 Speaker 1: We dated for seven years before we got married. I 344 00:18:19,720 --> 00:18:21,560 Speaker 1: feel like when we got married, he was like, you're 345 00:18:21,600 --> 00:18:26,440 Speaker 1: my wife now, So there wasn't he wasn't as freaky 346 00:18:26,720 --> 00:18:29,120 Speaker 1: when they got married. So and I remember he looked 347 00:18:29,119 --> 00:18:33,320 Speaker 1: at her like, you're my wife, so we can't say yes. 348 00:18:34,080 --> 00:18:36,359 Speaker 1: So I was like, hold up, if we're not doing 349 00:18:36,359 --> 00:18:39,280 Speaker 1: that anymore, then are you going to get it from 350 00:18:39,320 --> 00:18:42,000 Speaker 1: somewhere else? Or do we need to have a conversation? 351 00:18:42,240 --> 00:18:44,760 Speaker 1: But do you stop doing though? Like what stops? It? 352 00:18:45,000 --> 00:18:50,879 Speaker 1: Just it just there wasn't as much spontaneity, um, even 353 00:18:51,040 --> 00:18:53,879 Speaker 1: our positions like it was just there was more of 354 00:18:53,960 --> 00:18:58,080 Speaker 1: a gentle field. It was. It was like you like, 355 00:18:58,480 --> 00:19:03,880 Speaker 1: you're not gonna slap me because yeah, when the first met, 356 00:19:03,920 --> 00:19:06,480 Speaker 1: when I first met, when I first met my boyfriend, 357 00:19:06,600 --> 00:19:09,199 Speaker 1: like he used to like we used to do the 358 00:19:09,280 --> 00:19:11,600 Speaker 1: nastiest ship and after you found in love with me, 359 00:19:11,720 --> 00:19:15,199 Speaker 1: that's it. You do you And I think that's like 360 00:19:15,240 --> 00:19:17,320 Speaker 1: an old school way of thinking. They put you in 361 00:19:17,400 --> 00:19:21,040 Speaker 1: this box. Yeah. I always like kisses on the forehead. Yeah, 362 00:19:22,359 --> 00:19:27,400 Speaker 1: slow growing, so crazy because when I get more theorious 363 00:19:27,480 --> 00:19:30,240 Speaker 1: in my well, I've never been married, but more serious 364 00:19:30,280 --> 00:19:35,960 Speaker 1: in my relationship, nasty, I'm saying, more comfortable, so my 365 00:19:36,080 --> 00:19:40,720 Speaker 1: inhibitions go away, so I'm willing to do much more. 366 00:19:41,600 --> 00:19:43,919 Speaker 1: I wanted to. He was just but then we had 367 00:19:43,960 --> 00:19:47,240 Speaker 1: a conversation and we kind of got back. But it 368 00:19:47,280 --> 00:19:49,320 Speaker 1: took a little while because at first I didn't know 369 00:19:49,359 --> 00:19:52,199 Speaker 1: how to say it um and then I was like, 370 00:19:52,320 --> 00:19:59,040 Speaker 1: suck me like that. But then I was like, is 371 00:19:59,119 --> 00:20:01,760 Speaker 1: this a transition into marriage? So I was trying to 372 00:20:01,840 --> 00:20:04,440 Speaker 1: play it. But then we got back to where we were, 373 00:20:04,480 --> 00:20:06,480 Speaker 1: but we had to have a few conversations about it. 374 00:20:07,160 --> 00:20:09,680 Speaker 1: But the relation I was saying, we were talking about 375 00:20:09,680 --> 00:20:12,120 Speaker 1: this earlier when I got married. That was the first 376 00:20:12,119 --> 00:20:15,640 Speaker 1: time we both born in the same spot in our 377 00:20:15,680 --> 00:20:19,240 Speaker 1: same lives. So our mom was like, be very conscious 378 00:20:19,280 --> 00:20:22,040 Speaker 1: of net. They called me net because she's not getting 379 00:20:22,040 --> 00:20:24,159 Speaker 1: married and you're getting married and she's going to be 380 00:20:24,240 --> 00:20:25,960 Speaker 1: kind of by herself. So that was the first time 381 00:20:26,000 --> 00:20:28,720 Speaker 1: that we went through a big life moment where it 382 00:20:28,800 --> 00:20:31,520 Speaker 1: wasn't both of us experiencing at the same time. But 383 00:20:31,560 --> 00:20:34,080 Speaker 1: I was always all up in their ship about in 384 00:20:34,080 --> 00:20:36,359 Speaker 1: your virginity? Did you guys do that around the same time? 385 00:20:36,880 --> 00:20:41,800 Speaker 1: So I was who was the fast twin? It's always 386 00:20:41,800 --> 00:20:45,360 Speaker 1: when I did it? I don't remember, but I think 387 00:20:45,359 --> 00:20:50,560 Speaker 1: I did it first. Yeah, Yeah, she more fast. Well, 388 00:20:50,600 --> 00:20:54,159 Speaker 1: I always say I like to discover. I was like, 389 00:20:54,240 --> 00:20:56,080 Speaker 1: let me see what this is. So I feel like 390 00:20:56,119 --> 00:20:58,159 Speaker 1: it was within the same year, but maybe she was 391 00:20:58,200 --> 00:20:59,960 Speaker 1: a couple of months before me. Did he tell you 392 00:21:00,119 --> 00:21:03,760 Speaker 1: right away? Yeah? And I get yes, And then I 393 00:21:03,760 --> 00:21:05,680 Speaker 1: told her. I was like, well, how you do it? 394 00:21:05,920 --> 00:21:10,399 Speaker 1: So we weren't Yeah, So I was like, well, wait 395 00:21:10,440 --> 00:21:13,480 Speaker 1: what And obviously we're twins, so we were. We were 396 00:21:13,600 --> 00:21:16,880 Speaker 1: all in it, and you corrupted her mind. It's gonna 397 00:21:16,920 --> 00:21:20,280 Speaker 1: be a good girl. She laid the road map room. 398 00:21:22,560 --> 00:21:23,680 Speaker 1: Did you know what you were doing in the first 399 00:21:23,720 --> 00:21:27,160 Speaker 1: time at all? My first time, it hurt so bad 400 00:21:27,240 --> 00:21:30,320 Speaker 1: and I never wanted to do it again. Yeah, said 401 00:21:30,359 --> 00:21:32,199 Speaker 1: the first time. I waited two years after that, I 402 00:21:32,240 --> 00:21:35,040 Speaker 1: was like it's like I was kind of traumatized. I 403 00:21:35,080 --> 00:21:37,520 Speaker 1: wanted I was like after my first time, I was like, 404 00:21:37,600 --> 00:21:39,400 Speaker 1: it has to be better than this, so I wanted 405 00:21:39,440 --> 00:21:42,800 Speaker 1: to try again, like to make sure that this type 406 00:21:42,840 --> 00:21:45,520 Speaker 1: of Yeah, and like wait, as much as people love 407 00:21:45,640 --> 00:21:48,719 Speaker 1: this thing and talk about and how they there's no 408 00:21:48,760 --> 00:21:51,440 Speaker 1: way to it's like this horrible, like you gotta be better. Yeah, 409 00:21:51,680 --> 00:21:55,679 Speaker 1: let me do it, gus first experience. Let they just 410 00:21:57,640 --> 00:22:01,720 Speaker 1: guys might have a bad first experience. Uncircumcised guys might 411 00:22:01,760 --> 00:22:05,159 Speaker 1: have a bad experience. What is it because half of 412 00:22:05,200 --> 00:22:12,480 Speaker 1: their skin is there, So that's you think they have 413 00:22:12,480 --> 00:22:15,240 Speaker 1: a bad experience. I'm not a man, but I wouldn't. 414 00:22:15,440 --> 00:22:17,560 Speaker 1: I would amagine, you know, they still feels good to 415 00:22:17,640 --> 00:22:20,960 Speaker 1: them that person. Imagine that theirl not knowing what to 416 00:22:21,000 --> 00:22:23,520 Speaker 1: do with that skin. I wonder though if and I 417 00:22:23,560 --> 00:22:26,600 Speaker 1: also feel like they're not as clean because they well 418 00:22:26,640 --> 00:22:28,439 Speaker 1: they have to just do Actually, they got to roll 419 00:22:28,520 --> 00:22:31,760 Speaker 1: the turn on next and one man is staying in 420 00:22:31,800 --> 00:22:34,879 Speaker 1: the shower that long to be rolling it back. I 421 00:22:36,640 --> 00:22:39,320 Speaker 1: don't think it's probably bad for the young girl. She's 422 00:22:39,320 --> 00:22:42,520 Speaker 1: probably like, what is but if there is? And so 423 00:22:42,680 --> 00:22:44,600 Speaker 1: is he? You don't even know anything but that you 424 00:22:44,760 --> 00:22:53,480 Speaker 1: watch you see borne, maybe you're like, let's try something 425 00:22:53,480 --> 00:22:58,280 Speaker 1: new with this sex. Would you not want to be 426 00:22:58,320 --> 00:23:01,239 Speaker 1: with somebody if they weren't circum sized that can give 427 00:23:01,280 --> 00:23:03,600 Speaker 1: you a lot of yeast infections? Yeah, I feel like 428 00:23:03,640 --> 00:23:07,720 Speaker 1: I would be a little worried about just because bacteria 429 00:23:08,119 --> 00:23:10,680 Speaker 1: that builds up in that because the regular dick will 430 00:23:10,680 --> 00:23:22,960 Speaker 1: give you, will give you regular even with the festering 431 00:23:23,000 --> 00:23:27,600 Speaker 1: words that word. Alright, So earlier we were talking about 432 00:23:27,640 --> 00:23:29,679 Speaker 1: some of the cliches that we hate, right, you know 433 00:23:29,720 --> 00:23:32,640 Speaker 1: how people and something's going wrong, you know, they say 434 00:23:32,720 --> 00:23:37,560 Speaker 1: things like I only blessed babies and foods everybody. I'll 435 00:23:37,560 --> 00:23:43,399 Speaker 1: bet the food. So like, for instance, you miss one 436 00:23:44,040 --> 00:23:46,320 Speaker 1: of the shots that you don't take. That's something that 437 00:23:46,320 --> 00:23:48,560 Speaker 1: people always say. It's true. Oh my god, I was 438 00:23:48,640 --> 00:23:52,560 Speaker 1: sorry about that, but cliche. I have a crazy story 439 00:23:52,600 --> 00:23:55,280 Speaker 1: of recent and something that just happened. So last night 440 00:23:55,320 --> 00:23:58,840 Speaker 1: I couldn't sleep. You're like, even last just happened. So 441 00:23:58,960 --> 00:24:01,280 Speaker 1: last night I couldn't eep and I was up it 442 00:24:01,320 --> 00:24:03,239 Speaker 1: was like six in the morning. I was just I 443 00:24:03,359 --> 00:24:05,399 Speaker 1: was following like a whole bunch of people. I was 444 00:24:05,440 --> 00:24:07,400 Speaker 1: just following everybody, you know, how you go on Instagram 445 00:24:07,400 --> 00:24:09,880 Speaker 1: and you follow somebody that suggests more people like them. 446 00:24:10,280 --> 00:24:12,680 Speaker 1: So I was just going on and on, and so 447 00:24:12,760 --> 00:24:15,199 Speaker 1: I ended up coming across this guy. I had a 448 00:24:15,240 --> 00:24:18,159 Speaker 1: big crush on him back in the days, like I 449 00:24:18,560 --> 00:24:20,639 Speaker 1: used to see him. He was a football player. I 450 00:24:20,720 --> 00:24:22,320 Speaker 1: used to see him play and be like, oh my god, 451 00:24:22,400 --> 00:24:26,640 Speaker 1: he's so fine. Right, So I followed him last night 452 00:24:26,680 --> 00:24:29,320 Speaker 1: for the first time, and can't you believe he DM 453 00:24:29,400 --> 00:24:32,399 Speaker 1: me the next morning. I swear he wasn't even following me, 454 00:24:32,440 --> 00:24:35,320 Speaker 1: and he has a lot of followers and he dumed me. 455 00:24:35,400 --> 00:24:41,520 Speaker 1: But he's married now, Like he's not damage good, he's married, 456 00:24:43,520 --> 00:24:46,679 Speaker 1: you know what? So that what was his DM? He 457 00:24:46,760 --> 00:24:49,239 Speaker 1: sent me a DM, the casual DM, like, hey, you know, 458 00:24:49,600 --> 00:24:52,720 Speaker 1: thanks following me. Asked me about this service. But the 459 00:24:52,760 --> 00:24:55,239 Speaker 1: reason I bring it up is back when I liked him, 460 00:24:55,280 --> 00:24:57,840 Speaker 1: he didn't have a wife, you know what I mean. 461 00:24:57,880 --> 00:25:01,440 Speaker 1: He was a single guy. Yeah, like you say, you 462 00:25:02,200 --> 00:25:07,639 Speaker 1: if you, if you you could, if I wasn't acting, 463 00:25:09,560 --> 00:25:12,320 Speaker 1: I'm not gonna fly exactly, and then the wife would 464 00:25:12,359 --> 00:25:16,040 Speaker 1: have been d M him. Yes, yeah, he would have 465 00:25:18,359 --> 00:25:22,800 Speaker 1: missed every shot. Don't take man my mind, Like man, 466 00:25:22,880 --> 00:25:26,800 Speaker 1: I shot and I like the sentiment of it, but 467 00:25:26,840 --> 00:25:29,359 Speaker 1: I think we need to figure out different way, like 468 00:25:29,520 --> 00:25:32,440 Speaker 1: bring it, make it more current. Yeah, the clichees and 469 00:25:32,520 --> 00:25:39,800 Speaker 1: the same you got it, tell us this differently current thing. 470 00:25:40,000 --> 00:25:41,480 Speaker 1: But I think we need to make them are current 471 00:25:41,520 --> 00:25:44,040 Speaker 1: because then it will have more residents. I feel like 472 00:25:44,240 --> 00:25:46,440 Speaker 1: because you almost have to think about a little bit, 473 00:25:47,280 --> 00:25:50,000 Speaker 1: I'll think of it. Okay. I think that Lee took 474 00:25:50,040 --> 00:25:52,560 Speaker 1: it too literal because he like a ballhog. Yeah, just 475 00:25:52,560 --> 00:25:59,359 Speaker 1: shoot all the shots. Another level about this man, you 476 00:25:59,400 --> 00:26:01,200 Speaker 1: have to kiss a out of frogs before you find 477 00:26:01,200 --> 00:26:08,880 Speaker 1: your prince. Well, I've experienced that frogs so on your princess. Yeah, 478 00:26:10,920 --> 00:26:13,480 Speaker 1: they were still kiss and frogs. We are princesses. Yeah, 479 00:26:14,800 --> 00:26:30,760 Speaker 1: just like frogs and before. But I also feel like 480 00:26:30,800 --> 00:26:33,280 Speaker 1: it's the sentiment of finding the right fit for you. 481 00:26:33,359 --> 00:26:35,840 Speaker 1: It may not be a bad guy, but finding your 482 00:26:36,040 --> 00:26:38,679 Speaker 1: person right. So I feel like it takes because you know, 483 00:26:38,760 --> 00:26:41,080 Speaker 1: we all have multiple soul mates in a lifetime. It's 484 00:26:41,080 --> 00:26:44,480 Speaker 1: not one, so it's getting to that one for that 485 00:26:44,560 --> 00:26:47,000 Speaker 1: five year mark or maybe in your twenties you have 486 00:26:47,040 --> 00:26:49,400 Speaker 1: a certain one, So you have to get to kiss 487 00:26:49,440 --> 00:26:51,040 Speaker 1: a couple of them to get to the right one. 488 00:26:51,119 --> 00:26:54,800 Speaker 1: But let's update that one. How can we update that phrase? Um, 489 00:26:54,880 --> 00:26:56,520 Speaker 1: you have to funk a lot of frogs before you 490 00:26:58,480 --> 00:27:02,760 Speaker 1: got to a lot of Yeah, you gotta pop on 491 00:27:02,800 --> 00:27:17,159 Speaker 1: a lot of frogs or are we going to are 492 00:27:17,200 --> 00:27:22,240 Speaker 1: all one? Practice makes perfect? Yeah? Right now? True city. 493 00:27:22,359 --> 00:27:25,440 Speaker 1: So you're separated? Now? Can you date while you're separated? Yeah? 494 00:27:25,520 --> 00:27:32,440 Speaker 1: Because we're Yeah, yes, because we've been separated almost three years. 495 00:27:32,440 --> 00:27:35,359 Speaker 1: They should be divorced. I don't understand what's happening, the 496 00:27:35,440 --> 00:27:40,040 Speaker 1: hold that politics, paperwork, and I think we have such 497 00:27:40,080 --> 00:27:43,920 Speaker 1: a good friendship and connection like he's my he's my boy, 498 00:27:44,320 --> 00:27:46,800 Speaker 1: like he's family. We're still a lot of group text together. 499 00:27:49,880 --> 00:27:53,640 Speaker 1: Do you have children, No, but it's almost like the kids. 500 00:27:53,720 --> 00:27:55,960 Speaker 1: It's almost like we have kids, not for the kids, 501 00:27:56,000 --> 00:27:59,080 Speaker 1: not for the profuse. They sold our place, no pets, 502 00:27:59,720 --> 00:28:08,280 Speaker 1: so because we were together with it anymore. But we 503 00:28:08,280 --> 00:28:11,800 Speaker 1: were together for fifteen years, so they're like family. It's 504 00:28:11,840 --> 00:28:15,199 Speaker 1: a familial love. Now Yeah, I would be kind of 505 00:28:15,240 --> 00:28:19,800 Speaker 1: say no. I would have a conversation, and I think too, 506 00:28:19,840 --> 00:28:22,680 Speaker 1: I haven't met anyone where I'm like, okay, iget divorce 507 00:28:22,720 --> 00:28:27,479 Speaker 1: not right. You can see what I said to her 508 00:28:27,520 --> 00:28:29,560 Speaker 1: the other day, what happens when he meets someone that 509 00:28:29,680 --> 00:28:32,160 Speaker 1: he wants to settle down with. So I think initially 510 00:28:32,520 --> 00:28:36,560 Speaker 1: I would come out the group check. I think it 511 00:28:36,680 --> 00:28:40,040 Speaker 1: suddenly I might feel away, only because I have a 512 00:28:40,120 --> 00:28:42,800 Speaker 1: level of access to him, like we have this shorthand. 513 00:28:42,880 --> 00:28:45,320 Speaker 1: So I think if he got into another relationship, I 514 00:28:45,360 --> 00:28:49,000 Speaker 1: would want to be respectful of the new chick, So 515 00:28:49,160 --> 00:28:52,239 Speaker 1: I would miss kind of that connection that we do 516 00:28:52,320 --> 00:28:56,400 Speaker 1: have and it'll be easier. Yeah, and went about vice versa. 517 00:28:57,280 --> 00:28:59,000 Speaker 1: If you meet this guy who your head over his 518 00:28:59,160 --> 00:29:01,320 Speaker 1: help and he's keep you off your feet, and then 519 00:29:01,840 --> 00:29:03,880 Speaker 1: he knows that you're still in communication with your ex 520 00:29:03,920 --> 00:29:05,960 Speaker 1: and feels they have a way about its NET gonna 521 00:29:06,000 --> 00:29:08,400 Speaker 1: kick him on the group jack, you gotta cut off 522 00:29:08,400 --> 00:29:15,760 Speaker 1: that extra skin. But he's like my brother, So I 523 00:29:15,760 --> 00:29:18,920 Speaker 1: feel like him and NET have such a short relationship. 524 00:29:19,000 --> 00:29:21,360 Speaker 1: Like when we first start a few years into us dating, 525 00:29:21,840 --> 00:29:24,480 Speaker 1: it was the holiday, so we went shopping and he 526 00:29:24,560 --> 00:29:26,120 Speaker 1: was like, what bag do you want? We were at Channel, 527 00:29:26,200 --> 00:29:27,520 Speaker 1: so I was like that one and he was like, 528 00:29:27,560 --> 00:29:29,360 Speaker 1: we have to get your sister gift. I'm like, okay, 529 00:29:29,400 --> 00:29:32,200 Speaker 1: we could get our purse, but I wallet for being 530 00:29:32,200 --> 00:29:37,560 Speaker 1: in a bag for her, like change because I don't 531 00:29:37,560 --> 00:29:41,440 Speaker 1: want to be a key change. And he was like, nah, 532 00:29:41,640 --> 00:29:44,480 Speaker 1: she's not dating anyone. Now, we'll get her a bag. 533 00:29:46,360 --> 00:29:49,680 Speaker 1: He sold me. You don't think that I ever get 534 00:29:49,680 --> 00:29:52,480 Speaker 1: back down, I keep saying, because it's like y'all making 535 00:29:52,520 --> 00:29:57,600 Speaker 1: a linger for a reason. I say, you never say never. Um, 536 00:29:57,640 --> 00:30:03,760 Speaker 1: and we have such a so I could even said, 537 00:30:04,320 --> 00:30:05,920 Speaker 1: but I think we would have to. We would have 538 00:30:06,000 --> 00:30:10,480 Speaker 1: to reimagine and like kind of start a new It 539 00:30:10,560 --> 00:30:14,920 Speaker 1: couldn't it couldn't be like oh, I think maybe. And 540 00:30:14,960 --> 00:30:18,280 Speaker 1: he doesn't live here anymore. He lives in California. Um, 541 00:30:18,320 --> 00:30:20,480 Speaker 1: so I think we would have to like start from scratch, 542 00:30:20,600 --> 00:30:22,840 Speaker 1: so to speak. Did you all have like, Okay, this 543 00:30:22,880 --> 00:30:26,320 Speaker 1: is our last time having sex before you agree to separate. No, 544 00:30:26,480 --> 00:30:30,400 Speaker 1: because we had sex after we were separated. This might 545 00:30:30,440 --> 00:30:32,840 Speaker 1: work out right, And That's what I'm thinking. And I 546 00:30:32,880 --> 00:30:36,040 Speaker 1: think it's because you have that connection. And it's not 547 00:30:36,120 --> 00:30:38,240 Speaker 1: like he did something wrong. I did something wrong. I 548 00:30:38,240 --> 00:30:40,960 Speaker 1: feel like we just grew hard. Did this sex get 549 00:30:41,000 --> 00:30:44,200 Speaker 1: better after you separated? Yeah? Yeah? Yeah? Because he wasn't 550 00:30:44,240 --> 00:30:50,520 Speaker 1: his wife, I wonder was in his mind that makes 551 00:30:50,600 --> 00:30:52,480 Speaker 1: him be like all right, I can't be there because 552 00:30:52,480 --> 00:30:57,680 Speaker 1: you're the same person, so it's just the title change. Yeah, wow, 553 00:30:58,000 --> 00:31:01,200 Speaker 1: that you would think it would be the opposite. You 554 00:31:01,400 --> 00:31:03,080 Speaker 1: think that like, once she's my wife, I can trust 555 00:31:03,120 --> 00:31:04,960 Speaker 1: to do these things with her, or you know, I 556 00:31:05,000 --> 00:31:07,320 Speaker 1: can trust that we have this level of intimacy with 557 00:31:07,440 --> 00:31:09,840 Speaker 1: repull us out of each other, versus now that she's 558 00:31:09,840 --> 00:31:12,400 Speaker 1: my wife. I could get because I feel like some 559 00:31:12,480 --> 00:31:17,600 Speaker 1: people save things for marriage too, because they're like, yeah, yeah, 560 00:31:17,800 --> 00:31:19,520 Speaker 1: Like I do you think that are there things that 561 00:31:19,600 --> 00:31:21,200 Speaker 1: y'all haven't done that You're like, I'm gonna save this 562 00:31:21,240 --> 00:31:24,240 Speaker 1: till I get married. I guess I don't think a 563 00:31:24,240 --> 00:31:30,520 Speaker 1: bit like save it from getting married, you said, because, 564 00:31:32,840 --> 00:31:34,640 Speaker 1: but I feel like when you meet the right person, 565 00:31:34,720 --> 00:31:37,200 Speaker 1: you're like, oh, I wouldn't maybe do that with the 566 00:31:37,280 --> 00:31:39,640 Speaker 1: right person. I feel like that stuff I ain't even 567 00:31:39,920 --> 00:31:45,120 Speaker 1: realized I didn't do it too. Maybe not start. Yeah, 568 00:31:45,480 --> 00:31:51,880 Speaker 1: they're like, okay, maybe role playing, Yes, I never did that. 569 00:31:51,160 --> 00:31:53,720 Speaker 1: Ye do that? I asked a couple of guys if 570 00:31:53,760 --> 00:31:58,360 Speaker 1: they want to do and they're like that down to it. 571 00:31:58,480 --> 00:32:07,160 Speaker 1: I'm like, my bab, but you're thick and I'm a 572 00:32:07,160 --> 00:32:11,680 Speaker 1: guy with a dick. I think I feel like you 573 00:32:11,680 --> 00:32:14,640 Speaker 1: have to be creative, and role playing ads a level 574 00:32:14,680 --> 00:32:18,560 Speaker 1: of creative and I feel like I'm a creative person, 575 00:32:19,000 --> 00:32:23,720 Speaker 1: Like I have a crazy imagination. So I'm like one 576 00:32:23,720 --> 00:32:25,840 Speaker 1: time I was watching Sex in the City and she 577 00:32:26,040 --> 00:32:28,880 Speaker 1: was like a secret detective and they met at a restaurant, 578 00:32:29,440 --> 00:32:36,800 Speaker 1: like like, okay, I used I used to do a guy. 579 00:32:36,960 --> 00:32:40,040 Speaker 1: We called him doctor because he wore all white, all 580 00:32:40,120 --> 00:32:46,880 Speaker 1: white and and white T shirt. So I would show what. 581 00:32:47,000 --> 00:32:49,360 Speaker 1: I showed up at his house in a nurse's outfit. 582 00:32:49,680 --> 00:32:52,640 Speaker 1: So every every new so I would I would get 583 00:32:53,000 --> 00:32:55,600 Speaker 1: different nurses outfits to show up at his apartment. That's 584 00:32:55,600 --> 00:32:59,480 Speaker 1: so cute that I feel like I got terrorized in 585 00:32:59,640 --> 00:33:08,400 Speaker 1: time whatever the word is, because I so you're like 586 00:33:06,600 --> 00:33:11,680 Speaker 1: you exactly when she did so she did she looked 587 00:33:11,680 --> 00:33:15,520 Speaker 1: me up. Not the one day I went to the 588 00:33:15,600 --> 00:33:18,400 Speaker 1: sex the Little Sex Story and I was like, let 589 00:33:18,400 --> 00:33:21,400 Speaker 1: me get like some kind of oils and oils and 590 00:33:21,440 --> 00:33:24,200 Speaker 1: stuff like that. So I get this. They convinced me 591 00:33:24,240 --> 00:33:27,360 Speaker 1: to buy this fucking candle with my goofy ass. So 592 00:33:27,520 --> 00:33:29,480 Speaker 1: she's like, you know, you light the candle and it 593 00:33:29,520 --> 00:33:35,200 Speaker 1: turns into like you burned him. Oh my god, I 594 00:33:35,320 --> 00:33:38,160 Speaker 1: want to go for She was on fire. No, he 595 00:33:38,320 --> 00:33:42,320 Speaker 1: started going crazy, like what the funk are you doing? Wax? 596 00:33:43,720 --> 00:33:45,720 Speaker 1: Like when you should have warned him, because imagine the 597 00:33:45,840 --> 00:33:48,600 Speaker 1: dude and you're like, let me, I didn't listen. I 598 00:33:48,640 --> 00:33:50,840 Speaker 1: didn't even know he was paying attention. You need to 599 00:33:51,720 --> 00:33:57,840 Speaker 1: know what Why would you haven't had somebody for a 600 00:33:57,880 --> 00:34:02,640 Speaker 1: guy from the cattle trun oil. Yeah, it turns yes, 601 00:34:03,000 --> 00:34:05,680 Speaker 1: but it's not even hot. It's just right. But he 602 00:34:06,040 --> 00:34:10,680 Speaker 1: had no idea, Like, you gotta let somebody know what's 603 00:34:10,719 --> 00:34:13,040 Speaker 1: going on. You support to kids that I don't even 604 00:34:13,160 --> 00:34:19,400 Speaker 1: try no funny stan, but I'm just something in there. 605 00:34:23,400 --> 00:34:27,120 Speaker 1: You get from experience. When you pour hot wax and 606 00:34:27,160 --> 00:34:31,640 Speaker 1: it lands on your skin, it's no longer hot. It's 607 00:34:31,640 --> 00:34:34,600 Speaker 1: a little like cools off and then you rip your 608 00:34:34,600 --> 00:34:36,799 Speaker 1: hair out when you pull it on back. Yeah, so 609 00:34:36,840 --> 00:34:39,080 Speaker 1: it's not like it's gonna burn you. Anybody out there 610 00:34:39,120 --> 00:34:43,640 Speaker 1: that's scared of what I'm sexy shipped with wax? Yes's 611 00:34:44,320 --> 00:34:47,399 Speaker 1: I to It's like if you it hits your skin 612 00:34:47,440 --> 00:34:52,120 Speaker 1: and it's like but the video to get gets real fast? 613 00:34:52,560 --> 00:35:02,120 Speaker 1: What gets hers the way a lot of things get everything. Guitar, Yeah, 614 00:35:03,480 --> 00:35:05,440 Speaker 1: if you if you got the right guy in the 615 00:35:05,520 --> 00:35:12,280 Speaker 1: right mood. Yeah right, candle guy, I was I always 616 00:35:12,280 --> 00:35:14,920 Speaker 1: wanted to be an FBI agent, like when I was younger. 617 00:35:15,600 --> 00:35:19,840 Speaker 1: So so she showed up in a trench, nothing underneath? 618 00:35:19,920 --> 00:35:22,919 Speaker 1: Come on? I was like, and he was like, what's 619 00:35:22,920 --> 00:35:26,239 Speaker 1: going on? And I was a private detective. I was talking. Wait, 620 00:35:26,560 --> 00:35:28,160 Speaker 1: so when I showed up in my trench called my 621 00:35:28,239 --> 00:35:30,000 Speaker 1: thigh high boots? Can I say I want to be 622 00:35:30,040 --> 00:35:31,759 Speaker 1: a detective? Where am I just being a freak because 623 00:35:31,800 --> 00:35:35,920 Speaker 1: I do it all the time? Yeah, double duty? Okay, 624 00:35:36,000 --> 00:35:44,120 Speaker 1: yeah you can't come. Just episode kick the door if 625 00:35:44,120 --> 00:35:48,239 Speaker 1: you want her. My purpose this one, I've gone to 626 00:35:48,320 --> 00:35:53,359 Speaker 1: dinner and just the colt to dinner and nothing your Yeah, 627 00:35:56,360 --> 00:35:59,239 Speaker 1: so you said it on. But the cold was like 628 00:35:59,360 --> 00:36:02,560 Speaker 1: a sluper. It's a silky ch it looks like a dress, 629 00:36:02,719 --> 00:36:04,879 Speaker 1: it looks like a crass. But it was a cold 630 00:36:05,480 --> 00:36:07,800 Speaker 1: he know? Did he know you have nothing underneath? He 631 00:36:07,920 --> 00:36:12,239 Speaker 1: realized it like after a while through like, no, yeah, 632 00:36:12,400 --> 00:36:15,680 Speaker 1: he definitely didn't. What if he came dressed up? Would 633 00:36:15,719 --> 00:36:19,520 Speaker 1: that be weird? Because I feel very weird if your 634 00:36:19,560 --> 00:36:22,279 Speaker 1: boyfriends your apartment dressed as a cop. You're like, I 635 00:36:22,360 --> 00:36:30,319 Speaker 1: feel like that's corey. Ye are like like, man, I'm 636 00:36:30,360 --> 00:36:35,680 Speaker 1: responding to a noise complaint. Man, just like a plastic gun. Well, 637 00:36:35,719 --> 00:36:39,800 Speaker 1: because it just feels like we don't want to you 638 00:36:39,840 --> 00:36:47,640 Speaker 1: don't want to get a copy job. That's what the males. 639 00:36:47,960 --> 00:36:49,520 Speaker 1: I think it can't seem cheesy because that's what the 640 00:36:49,560 --> 00:36:55,680 Speaker 1: male strippers do. What right, What would be sexy for 641 00:36:55,800 --> 00:37:00,560 Speaker 1: a guy to come up just as a billionaire exactly 642 00:37:01,000 --> 00:37:07,799 Speaker 1: money exactly, come dress that already feel, comes just as 643 00:37:09,760 --> 00:37:13,120 Speaker 1: I would like. Oh maybe uh, I would like anything 644 00:37:13,239 --> 00:37:16,759 Speaker 1: that's not his norm because I feel like like if 645 00:37:16,840 --> 00:37:18,960 Speaker 1: he doesn't work out that much but he comes out, 646 00:37:19,200 --> 00:37:27,359 Speaker 1: but he shows up like Jersey get out of shape? Yeah, 647 00:37:30,680 --> 00:37:41,919 Speaker 1: school see you feel me yet effect as Yeah, you're sick. 648 00:37:42,280 --> 00:37:47,360 Speaker 1: If they love the he she wants her like a 649 00:37:47,440 --> 00:37:57,240 Speaker 1: baby maybe for New Year's New Year's baby you recite, 650 00:37:57,360 --> 00:37:59,759 Speaker 1: you know, and he'd be like, let me stick that rap. 651 00:38:02,000 --> 00:38:06,960 Speaker 1: She got to change. I think a diaper's like my pacifier. 652 00:38:09,520 --> 00:38:17,680 Speaker 1: You have to pacifier. I think, y'all. I write about 653 00:38:17,719 --> 00:38:20,560 Speaker 1: the suits though, like I love him. He's really cast. 654 00:38:20,600 --> 00:38:22,680 Speaker 1: You always see him like really cat and then he's 655 00:38:22,680 --> 00:38:24,920 Speaker 1: like baby, let's get dressed up and he shows up. Yeah, 656 00:38:25,160 --> 00:38:27,560 Speaker 1: I think it's because I always dressed up a lot. 657 00:38:27,600 --> 00:38:29,279 Speaker 1: So I feel like the guys that I date and 658 00:38:29,560 --> 00:38:31,960 Speaker 1: with my husband, he would be like he would love 659 00:38:32,000 --> 00:38:36,040 Speaker 1: one I wore Jordan's and like, so it's just different. 660 00:38:36,160 --> 00:38:40,400 Speaker 1: It just seems new. All right. Now, let's talk about 661 00:38:41,120 --> 00:38:44,000 Speaker 1: rise and grind. That's another cliche that I feel like, 662 00:38:44,160 --> 00:38:51,480 Speaker 1: I am. I hate that tired. Yeah, because it means 663 00:38:51,640 --> 00:38:57,560 Speaker 1: inspirational quotes, inspirational cults, and inspirational means on Instagram and 664 00:38:57,680 --> 00:39:00,840 Speaker 1: everyone we posted, I mean I had to see that. 665 00:39:01,000 --> 00:39:04,600 Speaker 1: Then some cities and should give me some inspiration. I 666 00:39:06,520 --> 00:39:09,080 Speaker 1: like the ones that are more spiritual. And you're like, oh, 667 00:39:12,280 --> 00:39:17,799 Speaker 1: like that's we're gonna be like in the background, right, Yeah, 668 00:39:18,440 --> 00:39:23,360 Speaker 1: I didn't follow like the Jesus ones. You don't like Jesus. Jesus. 669 00:39:23,600 --> 00:39:30,080 Speaker 1: I don't Jesus. We all follow him everywhere. I really 670 00:39:30,120 --> 00:39:32,480 Speaker 1: think we should cancel that term. No, let's come up 671 00:39:32,520 --> 00:39:35,640 Speaker 1: with something right the funk now, Okay, so no more, 672 00:39:36,560 --> 00:39:43,279 Speaker 1: we're canceling it up. Work that's a good one I like. 673 00:39:45,760 --> 00:39:50,640 Speaker 1: And then hustle up is a clean version version. Look 674 00:39:50,680 --> 00:39:57,920 Speaker 1: at that, right, clients, le up is Loki fire. We 675 00:39:58,040 --> 00:40:00,000 Speaker 1: need to do that because this rise and ground should 676 00:40:00,040 --> 00:40:04,880 Speaker 1: now hustle up is better than and grind up? Yeah? Okay, 677 00:40:04,920 --> 00:40:10,239 Speaker 1: So so guys tomorrow what we posting? Yeah us bitch 678 00:40:15,000 --> 00:40:17,560 Speaker 1: and we got to be musically. We already talked dirty enough, 679 00:40:20,160 --> 00:40:23,680 Speaker 1: hustle up all right. Now. Being in the industry that 680 00:40:23,760 --> 00:40:27,720 Speaker 1: you guys are both in, right, TV, film, marketing, branding, 681 00:40:28,080 --> 00:40:30,120 Speaker 1: have you ever had a crush on somebody that you 682 00:40:30,440 --> 00:40:34,279 Speaker 1: had to work with and what did you do about it? Yes, 683 00:40:35,080 --> 00:40:40,160 Speaker 1: so as long as it's not the client. I feel 684 00:40:40,200 --> 00:40:42,440 Speaker 1: like I had a little thing with someone that was 685 00:40:42,520 --> 00:40:46,200 Speaker 1: on a team. So a company that I was working for, 686 00:40:46,719 --> 00:40:48,719 Speaker 1: he was on the team, but he was a consultant, 687 00:40:48,800 --> 00:40:52,920 Speaker 1: so he wasn't on their payroll. Um, and we had something. 688 00:40:53,320 --> 00:40:55,839 Speaker 1: I would never do it with a client because I'm 689 00:40:55,880 --> 00:40:59,600 Speaker 1: not having anyone messing with my paper for your emotional 690 00:40:59,640 --> 00:41:04,320 Speaker 1: feeling like, no, I messed up your money. Yeah, what 691 00:41:04,400 --> 00:41:06,759 Speaker 1: if he's so perfect and he just wants to take 692 00:41:06,800 --> 00:41:09,680 Speaker 1: you out, can't you just take it slow and see 693 00:41:10,480 --> 00:41:16,879 Speaker 1: I've done that of course, and I feel like it's 694 00:41:16,920 --> 00:41:19,720 Speaker 1: worth a try just to see and if you feel 695 00:41:19,880 --> 00:41:22,320 Speaker 1: early on, but I feel like you need to candle 696 00:41:22,360 --> 00:41:25,000 Speaker 1: it with kid gloves when it's someone in the workplace. 697 00:41:25,360 --> 00:41:27,600 Speaker 1: So if you feel like there's really really no vibe 698 00:41:27,640 --> 00:41:31,080 Speaker 1: after one day, then you're like, it's not gonna work list. 699 00:41:31,200 --> 00:41:33,759 Speaker 1: But I'd say give it a try. You only love once, 700 00:41:36,080 --> 00:41:40,120 Speaker 1: so did you initiate it? He was putting out feelers, 701 00:41:40,360 --> 00:41:42,120 Speaker 1: So then I said, oh, we should just go for 702 00:41:42,200 --> 00:41:46,080 Speaker 1: drinks because in production you work late hours. Let's go 703 00:41:46,200 --> 00:41:48,279 Speaker 1: get a drink. It's like ten o'clock already. And then 704 00:41:48,320 --> 00:41:50,480 Speaker 1: we went, do you guys remember Tillman's back in the 705 00:41:50,560 --> 00:42:00,080 Speaker 1: day sandwiches and the music is amazing? What happened was 706 00:42:00,239 --> 00:42:04,439 Speaker 1: two like that was so that was across the street 707 00:42:04,480 --> 00:42:06,560 Speaker 1: from my office, so I was like, let's go to Tillman's. 708 00:42:07,040 --> 00:42:09,319 Speaker 1: So we ended up going to Tillman's, had a girl, 709 00:42:09,440 --> 00:42:11,680 Speaker 1: cheese and some cocktails. That went to a strip club 710 00:42:11,760 --> 00:42:20,680 Speaker 1: afterated escalated and but there was no vibe between us. 711 00:42:21,719 --> 00:42:25,040 Speaker 1: So it was good to try it out, and then 712 00:42:25,080 --> 00:42:26,920 Speaker 1: we moved on. Now, what if on the first date 713 00:42:26,960 --> 00:42:28,719 Speaker 1: with somebody, I'll go to the strip club and he 714 00:42:29,000 --> 00:42:31,520 Speaker 1: is getting lap dances and everything. Are you cool with that? 715 00:42:32,800 --> 00:42:39,600 Speaker 1: I'm cool with that. Okay, would you get a lap dance? Yeah? Okay, 716 00:42:40,320 --> 00:42:43,239 Speaker 1: I want to see because they're strip club etiquette that 717 00:42:43,480 --> 00:42:47,279 Speaker 1: they're so childish. I'm like, I can't. I don't want 718 00:42:47,280 --> 00:42:52,400 Speaker 1: I don't want my man to get it, but I 719 00:42:52,440 --> 00:42:59,239 Speaker 1: don't want girl, you're just dating, yeah, because like I 720 00:42:59,400 --> 00:43:02,080 Speaker 1: put it out fun, let's do it. I feel like 721 00:43:02,160 --> 00:43:08,000 Speaker 1: the first partellation. Yeah, that in the chair, in that moment, 722 00:43:08,160 --> 00:43:11,040 Speaker 1: it's not going home. Now. What if you went on 723 00:43:11,080 --> 00:43:12,400 Speaker 1: a day with a guy and he says to you, 724 00:43:13,480 --> 00:43:15,360 Speaker 1: do you ever have three sums? Do you like women? 725 00:43:15,400 --> 00:43:17,120 Speaker 1: Because I don't think I could be with a woman 726 00:43:17,200 --> 00:43:22,560 Speaker 1: who doesn't all the time because they're like, they're like 727 00:43:22,719 --> 00:43:29,080 Speaker 1: so much. So like people that were friends with they 728 00:43:29,120 --> 00:43:31,000 Speaker 1: would be like when either rust didn't have a man, 729 00:43:31,040 --> 00:43:33,600 Speaker 1: they would be like, so we should all go out 730 00:43:34,480 --> 00:43:36,440 Speaker 1: to see if. I'm like, I will never be in 731 00:43:36,480 --> 00:43:41,840 Speaker 1: the same bed like like with her and touch her vagina. 732 00:43:42,239 --> 00:43:44,359 Speaker 1: It's so weird because it's twins that do that ship 733 00:43:44,480 --> 00:43:49,120 Speaker 1: like that's part you can get paid a left. Yeah, 734 00:43:49,400 --> 00:43:52,120 Speaker 1: that's what. We used to work at a restaurant called 735 00:43:52,160 --> 00:43:54,880 Speaker 1: Twins back of the day in the city. Only twins 736 00:43:54,920 --> 00:43:57,400 Speaker 1: could work there. So the hostess is the waitresses and 737 00:43:57,520 --> 00:44:02,600 Speaker 1: you could only work with your twins. Everyone, right, so 738 00:44:02,760 --> 00:44:09,279 Speaker 1: they're like, that's a lawsuit waiting. So we were the hope. 739 00:44:09,520 --> 00:44:13,359 Speaker 1: All of the busses and Playboy came in and they 740 00:44:13,440 --> 00:44:17,839 Speaker 1: were basically scouting, and the owners of the restaurant was like, oh, 741 00:44:18,040 --> 00:44:19,759 Speaker 1: because we were the only black twins in there was 742 00:44:19,800 --> 00:44:22,480 Speaker 1: all white people and they were like, oh, they're interested 743 00:44:22,560 --> 00:44:28,560 Speaker 1: in having you guys. Like, yeah, so we were twins. 744 00:44:28,800 --> 00:44:31,440 Speaker 1: We're probably nineteen or twenty, so this issue. Can we 745 00:44:31,480 --> 00:44:36,800 Speaker 1: still get it? Oh my god, wherever Jamaican Mom that 746 00:44:36,880 --> 00:44:39,080 Speaker 1: she was not happening? Do you kind of wish you 747 00:44:39,160 --> 00:44:43,480 Speaker 1: did it? That be honest? No at all, not at 748 00:44:43,480 --> 00:44:47,719 Speaker 1: all as a tasteful picture, Like no, yeah, but I 749 00:44:47,800 --> 00:44:51,080 Speaker 1: feel like now but because now the magazine has shaped Yeah, 750 00:44:51,800 --> 00:44:55,160 Speaker 1: before they used to have it was different. This was 751 00:44:55,239 --> 00:44:57,320 Speaker 1: early two thousands, so this was what it was. It 752 00:44:57,400 --> 00:44:59,960 Speaker 1: was starting to chang. Yeah, yeah, it was starting to change. 753 00:45:00,000 --> 00:45:03,560 Speaker 1: That ever liked the same guy. We have such different tastes, 754 00:45:03,600 --> 00:45:11,120 Speaker 1: only once and I got him in a relationship. That's 755 00:45:11,160 --> 00:45:14,480 Speaker 1: why she got We both like that was the only 756 00:45:14,880 --> 00:45:17,320 Speaker 1: the only ones. And I have different tastes, We have 757 00:45:17,400 --> 00:45:19,759 Speaker 1: totally different tastes. But we rolled up and I was like, 758 00:45:19,960 --> 00:45:21,480 Speaker 1: he's cute. She was like he's good. I was like 759 00:45:21,560 --> 00:45:23,239 Speaker 1: he's mine, and then I like went over to him. 760 00:45:23,360 --> 00:45:25,680 Speaker 1: Oh it was I was like, Rendie, the boy is 761 00:45:26,000 --> 00:45:30,920 Speaker 1: my did it caused a little tension because I was 762 00:45:31,000 --> 00:45:33,600 Speaker 1: with someone anyway, with someone, so it might have played 763 00:45:33,640 --> 00:45:35,640 Speaker 1: out differently, right, and if I wasn't with some But 764 00:45:35,719 --> 00:45:37,879 Speaker 1: we don't have the same taste, so we've never thought 765 00:45:37,920 --> 00:45:41,040 Speaker 1: of a guy's but but when we were in high school, no, oh, 766 00:45:41,320 --> 00:45:50,640 Speaker 1: college right after. So right after we graduated one brad. 767 00:45:52,680 --> 00:45:54,880 Speaker 1: So right after we graduated college, we gotta leave as 768 00:45:54,920 --> 00:45:57,840 Speaker 1: commercial and we go to set and they have a 769 00:45:57,880 --> 00:46:00,239 Speaker 1: script and they're like, let's add libs. So we just start. 770 00:46:00,960 --> 00:46:05,760 Speaker 1: They're asking us random questions. The same dude like random. 771 00:46:05,840 --> 00:46:08,920 Speaker 1: So right after, right before going to college, I started 772 00:46:09,000 --> 00:46:11,640 Speaker 1: dating this dude that was in the army. He had 773 00:46:11,680 --> 00:46:14,000 Speaker 1: gone away to the army, and then when he came 774 00:46:14,040 --> 00:46:17,399 Speaker 1: back he started calling her not her. So my mom 775 00:46:17,560 --> 00:46:20,320 Speaker 1: was like, I thought, you know, she like patricks on 776 00:46:20,440 --> 00:46:25,560 Speaker 1: the line, but not for Tricia odd. So we were 777 00:46:25,640 --> 00:46:28,440 Speaker 1: telling that story in the ad limb of the commercial. 778 00:46:29,440 --> 00:46:33,520 Speaker 1: You know, we didn't use his we didn't use his name, 779 00:46:33,680 --> 00:46:38,359 Speaker 1: and then he called us. I was like, yo, y're 780 00:46:38,400 --> 00:46:43,800 Speaker 1: talking about me. I'm like, you shouldn't have done that up, Dougans. 781 00:46:49,120 --> 00:46:51,239 Speaker 1: So ladies, I gotta ask her, how is everything going 782 00:46:51,320 --> 00:46:54,839 Speaker 1: with the book though, because I think it is very inspirational. Yeah, 783 00:46:54,960 --> 00:46:56,719 Speaker 1: for a lot of people, just to see like the 784 00:46:56,880 --> 00:46:59,920 Speaker 1: different paths that you guys have gone down to get 785 00:47:00,000 --> 00:47:02,120 Speaker 1: to where you are today, to be so successful, to 786 00:47:02,239 --> 00:47:04,200 Speaker 1: be sisters, to be so supportive of each other, to 787 00:47:04,280 --> 00:47:06,640 Speaker 1: have a whole crew of people that to support and 788 00:47:06,680 --> 00:47:08,600 Speaker 1: the support to to. I think it's good and it's 789 00:47:08,640 --> 00:47:10,839 Speaker 1: been resonating because the reason why we wrote the book 790 00:47:10,920 --> 00:47:13,719 Speaker 1: was to democratize success for for people who look like us. 791 00:47:14,280 --> 00:47:21,480 Speaker 1: So just like there's more black women, it's a kind 792 00:47:21,520 --> 00:47:23,680 Speaker 1: of level the playing field because if you think about it, 793 00:47:24,840 --> 00:47:27,440 Speaker 1: when you look at the landscape, there are we women 794 00:47:27,520 --> 00:47:31,560 Speaker 1: make up close to the workforce, but we're highly underrepresented 795 00:47:31,680 --> 00:47:35,560 Speaker 1: in female executive roles. And then last year, I think 796 00:47:35,600 --> 00:47:39,600 Speaker 1: there was twenty four fortune out of the fortune companies, 797 00:47:39,640 --> 00:47:43,000 Speaker 1: only twenty four were led by female CEO and one women. 798 00:47:44,160 --> 00:47:46,680 Speaker 1: So it's when we started seeing those stats and then 799 00:47:47,000 --> 00:47:50,600 Speaker 1: we looked at where we've where We've got into Pathala, 800 00:47:50,719 --> 00:47:52,239 Speaker 1: So we were like, well, what did both of us 801 00:47:52,280 --> 00:47:53,839 Speaker 1: do to get to where we are. We were like, oh, 802 00:47:53,920 --> 00:47:56,800 Speaker 1: we double down. So we were like, let's put a 803 00:47:56,840 --> 00:47:59,839 Speaker 1: book together to try to remix the rules so women 804 00:48:00,040 --> 00:48:02,000 Speaker 1: understand that they don't have to conform to the status 805 00:48:02,080 --> 00:48:04,399 Speaker 1: quo and they can find success on their own terms 806 00:48:04,440 --> 00:48:07,640 Speaker 1: and really design their own blueprint. Which I think we're 807 00:48:07,800 --> 00:48:11,000 Speaker 1: as women and just as humans, were conditioned to think 808 00:48:11,080 --> 00:48:13,920 Speaker 1: that there's only one path or here's the blueprint that 809 00:48:14,000 --> 00:48:17,520 Speaker 1: you have to follow. And I'm an entrepreneur, she's an entrepreneur, 810 00:48:17,680 --> 00:48:21,000 Speaker 1: So we're it's proof that you can follow different paths 811 00:48:21,080 --> 00:48:23,000 Speaker 1: and still get to the level of success that you 812 00:48:23,080 --> 00:48:25,920 Speaker 1: hope for. How do you deal with say things like 813 00:48:25,920 --> 00:48:27,440 Speaker 1: I say, you have to work with somebody and you 814 00:48:27,560 --> 00:48:30,360 Speaker 1: can't stand them, but you know that you have to 815 00:48:31,120 --> 00:48:33,640 Speaker 1: do this just because like this is my job, this 816 00:48:33,840 --> 00:48:36,480 Speaker 1: is my client. I don't like them personally, but I 817 00:48:36,560 --> 00:48:38,640 Speaker 1: have to work with them. I kill them with kindness 818 00:48:38,680 --> 00:48:41,400 Speaker 1: because it makes them super uncomfortable, and then they start 819 00:48:41,480 --> 00:48:44,440 Speaker 1: being nicer because they feel bad the worst they are 820 00:48:45,239 --> 00:48:50,280 Speaker 1: UM and I limit my interactions where usually with clients 821 00:48:50,400 --> 00:48:53,360 Speaker 1: I build a really strong rapport and you do stuff 822 00:48:53,400 --> 00:48:56,000 Speaker 1: outside of kind of the day to day with that, 823 00:48:56,400 --> 00:48:59,239 Speaker 1: it's kind of black and white. And so I'm I 824 00:48:59,400 --> 00:49:03,000 Speaker 1: limit my strictly business when we speak when necessary and 825 00:49:03,080 --> 00:49:04,960 Speaker 1: handled things, because then I don't I don't want to 826 00:49:04,960 --> 00:49:06,640 Speaker 1: be uncomfortable and I don't want to be put in 827 00:49:06,719 --> 00:49:10,799 Speaker 1: a situation where I compromise what's happening on the business side. 828 00:49:11,760 --> 00:49:13,480 Speaker 1: All right, well, listen, I want to thank you for 829 00:49:13,600 --> 00:49:15,600 Speaker 1: joining us. I was really excited to have you guys. Know, 830 00:49:16,120 --> 00:49:17,400 Speaker 1: I had him on the Breakfast Club. It was a 831 00:49:17,480 --> 00:49:19,040 Speaker 1: lot of business talk, but it was nice to have 832 00:49:19,160 --> 00:49:21,920 Speaker 1: you guys here to talk. Yeah, so fun hanging out 833 00:49:21,960 --> 00:49:29,040 Speaker 1: and like, yes, you guys are first twins. Oh yeah, 834 00:49:30,000 --> 00:49:33,360 Speaker 1: so we were excited about that as well. I love that. 835 00:49:33,640 --> 00:49:35,359 Speaker 1: And don't forget you had some homework to do too, 836 00:49:35,400 --> 00:49:37,120 Speaker 1: because you're supposed to come up with the new phrase. 837 00:49:38,480 --> 00:49:40,520 Speaker 1: I'll come up with it. Oh and we have twice 838 00:49:40,560 --> 00:49:44,759 Speaker 1: for you. Oh listen, we got preasents. Do you guys 839 00:49:44,800 --> 00:49:54,799 Speaker 1: like toys? Yes, yes, So we have this I vibe twin. 840 00:49:57,040 --> 00:50:00,919 Speaker 1: I love this, Oh twin things for you guys. Oh 841 00:50:01,560 --> 00:50:06,680 Speaker 1: but plugs. I don't know who wants the black like 842 00:50:06,800 --> 00:50:11,839 Speaker 1: the darker a little plug. So I have this set, 843 00:50:13,080 --> 00:50:17,560 Speaker 1: I have that I can't do it. Yeah, yeah, I've 844 00:50:17,600 --> 00:50:22,640 Speaker 1: never done this. Well, here you try this with you? Definitely, 845 00:50:24,480 --> 00:50:27,200 Speaker 1: I can't listen now. The little one, the little one, 846 00:50:27,239 --> 00:50:30,319 Speaker 1: of course, is where you start right and even yes, 847 00:50:30,600 --> 00:50:33,120 Speaker 1: but even if you aren't into anal, like you know 848 00:50:33,200 --> 00:50:35,480 Speaker 1: how it feels when he like sticks his thumb and yes, 849 00:50:36,080 --> 00:50:38,719 Speaker 1: that's the little one. You know. I know that you 850 00:50:38,880 --> 00:50:43,600 Speaker 1: and your feel experimenting that like get you back to 851 00:50:43,680 --> 00:50:46,520 Speaker 1: the track. Maybe this could help this situation. Maybe this 852 00:50:46,640 --> 00:50:52,640 Speaker 1: gets us back to the bump track. That's your wife tonight, 853 00:50:54,800 --> 00:51:00,840 Speaker 1: always tonight. I'm a dirty little hoe tonight. I'm I'm kidding. 854 00:51:03,239 --> 00:51:06,600 Speaker 1: Wait wait, wait that just gave me so what what 855 00:51:06,760 --> 00:51:08,759 Speaker 1: would you do in that case? If you're dating a 856 00:51:08,840 --> 00:51:10,680 Speaker 1: guy and he's like, can you can we role play? 857 00:51:10,920 --> 00:51:15,360 Speaker 1: And you, like your sister, I felt we ever dated, 858 00:51:15,760 --> 00:51:18,359 Speaker 1: are creeped out because the dude I'm dating now, I'm like, oh, 859 00:51:19,000 --> 00:51:21,000 Speaker 1: look at Trish and he was like I don't want 860 00:51:21,040 --> 00:51:24,799 Speaker 1: to look at Trash, yeah, because it's like she's all over. Yeah, 861 00:51:25,760 --> 00:51:29,399 Speaker 1: he feels weird. I feel like they probably wouldn't ask 862 00:51:29,520 --> 00:51:31,560 Speaker 1: us to roll, but I feel like when with Rit 863 00:51:31,680 --> 00:51:36,120 Speaker 1: with her, ex'm like her soon to be X. All 864 00:51:36,200 --> 00:51:38,120 Speaker 1: of his friends were like, oh, what's up with your 865 00:51:38,160 --> 00:51:41,680 Speaker 1: sister at lawn? He was like, do you find attractive 866 00:51:41,760 --> 00:51:46,960 Speaker 1: like that? Like questions? Yeah, the conidation. Don't mind if 867 00:51:47,000 --> 00:51:49,600 Speaker 1: like somebody you're dating like double taps on trishes on 868 00:51:49,800 --> 00:51:52,320 Speaker 1: on nets. Do you mind if they double tap those pictures? 869 00:51:52,400 --> 00:51:55,359 Speaker 1: Don't They're like I like that because did you see 870 00:51:55,760 --> 00:51:57,920 Speaker 1: what your ship house? Did you see this? I like that? 871 00:51:58,440 --> 00:52:00,880 Speaker 1: But I think it's because we're so close, right, so 872 00:52:01,120 --> 00:52:05,360 Speaker 1: we're not knowing is gonna go now like you go 873 00:52:05,560 --> 00:52:15,359 Speaker 1: like yeah, like like like like my lens like, oh 874 00:52:15,440 --> 00:52:18,520 Speaker 1: look what Tristress did and you're like, oh, I didn't see. 875 00:52:18,719 --> 00:52:22,040 Speaker 1: You were like you never replied, So she never went 876 00:52:22,040 --> 00:52:23,680 Speaker 1: through a period of time when you guys just didn't 877 00:52:23,719 --> 00:52:26,160 Speaker 1: talk to each other, like had a phoning out. We 878 00:52:26,520 --> 00:52:28,959 Speaker 1: fight a lot, especially when we were writing the book, 879 00:52:29,239 --> 00:52:33,000 Speaker 1: because cursing each other out and but then we're friends 880 00:52:33,040 --> 00:52:35,239 Speaker 1: the next minute, so no grudges. So when she first 881 00:52:35,239 --> 00:52:38,680 Speaker 1: started dating, when she first got married, we had this 882 00:52:38,840 --> 00:52:40,960 Speaker 1: blowout and I was like you piece of ship, and 883 00:52:41,080 --> 00:52:43,920 Speaker 1: I'm don't don't call me back. Five minutes later, our 884 00:52:43,960 --> 00:52:47,160 Speaker 1: cultured her husband was like, wait, you just cursed trout. 885 00:52:47,239 --> 00:52:50,360 Speaker 1: You want to talk to her, but it's like, and 886 00:52:50,520 --> 00:52:52,520 Speaker 1: that's why I think we don't hold grudges with p 887 00:52:52,640 --> 00:52:56,160 Speaker 1: people outside of our trinity because we've grown accustomed to 888 00:52:56,840 --> 00:52:59,040 Speaker 1: just letting it go, like deal with it, like I 889 00:52:59,239 --> 00:53:04,480 Speaker 1: never now were you we used to fight and you know, 890 00:53:04,680 --> 00:53:07,040 Speaker 1: then get along after like twenty minutes. Yeah you know, 891 00:53:07,080 --> 00:53:18,640 Speaker 1: because it's yeah, we were there and she was getting 892 00:53:18,640 --> 00:53:20,800 Speaker 1: me angry, so I like she pitched her pinched me, 893 00:53:20,920 --> 00:53:26,040 Speaker 1: but like skin off my body, and I was like, 894 00:53:26,719 --> 00:53:28,719 Speaker 1: we're on the fight. I'm like, look what you did, 895 00:53:29,239 --> 00:53:31,239 Speaker 1: not Mark, I was like, stop showing it to me, 896 00:53:31,320 --> 00:53:33,880 Speaker 1: stop showing up bad. So have you guys have a biocle? 897 00:53:33,960 --> 00:53:38,960 Speaker 1: Butter oh, we were in no No and guys but 898 00:53:39,120 --> 00:53:41,480 Speaker 1: he they were like the neighborhood twins, so everyone we 899 00:53:41,560 --> 00:53:43,640 Speaker 1: grew up in Brooklyn and Flapbush, so we were like 900 00:53:43,719 --> 00:53:47,160 Speaker 1: it was so I really did that because I wanted 901 00:53:47,200 --> 00:53:51,040 Speaker 1: to see because everyone was like the twins. The twins 902 00:53:51,280 --> 00:53:53,359 Speaker 1: could be with the twins. So it was like those 903 00:53:53,400 --> 00:53:57,360 Speaker 1: Peanut and Nah probably weren't for the wrong ones. You 904 00:53:57,400 --> 00:54:01,080 Speaker 1: guys to slip and it might have worked. That a 905 00:54:01,120 --> 00:54:05,160 Speaker 1: good point. Well, now we really appreciate This was really 906 00:54:05,239 --> 00:54:07,359 Speaker 1: fun and I'm sure we'll have you back again. Double down. 907 00:54:07,440 --> 00:54:11,239 Speaker 1: Make sure y'all get this but her Antwineta thank you'all 908 00:54:11,280 --> 00:54:14,480 Speaker 1: so much. Appreciate you guys, pat On with those toys 909 00:54:14,760 --> 00:54:20,040 Speaker 1: we will I'm gonna turn into amazing