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Speaker 1: Buggle up, hold on tight. We got it for you. Subject,

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Speaker 1: The size really matter? Now we're gonna do this Strawberry

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Speaker 1: a little bit different because Shirley has to answer this one.

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna chime it does size really madam? Good morning

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Speaker 1: Stephen family. I'm a thirty year old female with no kids,

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Speaker 1: a great job, and do pretty well for myself. I'm

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Speaker 1: engaged to a great man who proposed to me on

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Speaker 1: Valentine's Day this year. He has two kids with someone

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Speaker 1: else and takes very good care of his children, which

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Speaker 1: is just one of the things I respect about him.

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Speaker 1: Here's my question to you, Does size really matter? I'm

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Speaker 1: talking about diamonds in my ring when he proposed. When

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Speaker 1: he proposed, I was so excited and responded right away.

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Speaker 1: I have no regrets on saying yes because I do

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Speaker 1: love him. The ring that he got is really small,

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Speaker 1: to the point where I can barely see the diamond myself,

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Speaker 1: so I know other people can't see it. It looks

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Speaker 1: diamond cut. I don't want to hurt his feelings regarding

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Speaker 1: the size of the ring, but this is bothering me.

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Speaker 1: Should I say something to him and re sounding selfish

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Speaker 1: and jeopardizing our relationship or should I just wear with

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Speaker 1: pride every day like I have been doing since he proposed? Wow,

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Speaker 1: I wanted to read this first to let Shirley answer this,

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Speaker 1: cause I don't know about that. I do know how

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Speaker 1: he will respond, but go ahead, Well you know what,

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna just gonna be totally honest with you, Steve.

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Speaker 1: It depends on the intent behind the ring. That is. Uh.

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Speaker 1: You know, if if this is all he can do

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Speaker 1: right now financially, and he did it with love, he

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Speaker 1: did it with real love, you know, then yes, we're

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Speaker 1: it with pride every day like you like are doing

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Speaker 1: because at the end of the day, it is about

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Speaker 1: the love. It is about the commitment. It is about

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Speaker 1: the marriage, nothing else. And the ring should reflect that. Okay. Um,

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Speaker 1: you know you say in the letter that here, okay, okay,

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Speaker 1: you mean the ring should symbolize yeah, yeah, well yeah yeah,

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Speaker 1: and it should. Um. You said he was a great man,

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Speaker 1: you said he was a very good dad. That's what's

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Speaker 1: really important here, It really is. Somehow the ring, how

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Speaker 1: big the diamond is, you know, has become the symbol

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Speaker 1: of how much your man loves you or how much

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Speaker 1: money your and your man has, so you know, if

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Speaker 1: the ring is small, then the perception is your man

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Speaker 1: is brokeer, you know, something like that. But but having

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Speaker 1: said all that, I do know how you feel. I

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Speaker 1: do know how you feel. When your girls here that

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Speaker 1: you're engaged. The first thing they say is, oh girl,

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Speaker 1: let me see the ring. That's what they say, you know,

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Speaker 1: that's what they say. And you feel what a little

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Speaker 1: embarrassed or something. You know, your hand out, you know,

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Speaker 1: you do? You do well, I say, you know, don't

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Speaker 1: feel like that. You've been wearing your ring proudly, wear

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Speaker 1: your ring proudly. You know. Um, you too, work on

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Speaker 1: building a strong foundation, a strong marriage. And then the

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Speaker 1: next year or so then you can say something add

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Speaker 1: you know, add to your range, change the setting, get

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Speaker 1: some more diamonds in their trade up, if you will,

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Speaker 1: a lot of people do that because at some point

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Speaker 1: it's got to be about the real things in life.

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Speaker 1: It's got to be about that, the love, the commitment,

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Speaker 1: the marriage. All right. Don't sound like it's a setting

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Speaker 1: on this, well, you know that's how that's my honest

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Speaker 1: opinion on it. Steve good No, I want to talk

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Speaker 1: to time before second. Is this your segment? I just

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Speaker 1: two months. Okay, just checking. We had arranged how he

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Speaker 1: was going to do this. I love you man. We

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Speaker 1: have part two. We have part two of Steve's response

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Speaker 1: coming up at get to part you of today's response

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Speaker 1: to the Strawberry Letter. Let's go. Yeah, this topic is

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Speaker 1: a hot one at the straw To Letter today, doesn't Yes, sir,

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Speaker 1: I was going to say. I read that it's supposed

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Speaker 1: to be two months of the man's salary. That's what

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Speaker 1: it says on Google. Then you hear three moms. Some

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Speaker 1: people say six moms. No, that's too much. That's too much. Man,

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Speaker 1: you know what I think? Uh here, let me let

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Speaker 1: me help you understand something here. I cannot dispute that

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Speaker 1: the problem that I've seen. They girls, Yeah, that's what

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Speaker 1: One of the problems is some of the women that

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Speaker 1: hardly see that little thing. Don't have one their own self, absolutely,

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Speaker 1: So you're gonna run into that situation. Then you've got

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Speaker 1: hate again. The real deal is, is this man proposed

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Speaker 1: to you and wants you to be his wife. Now,

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Speaker 1: in the letter, the lady said he has two kids

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Speaker 1: that he takes very good care of, which is one

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Speaker 1: of the things I respect about him. Well, now you've

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Speaker 1: what they may be planning on the house, got a house,

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Speaker 1: saving for a house? You never know. The man may

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Speaker 1: have did the very best that he could do with

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Speaker 1: the money that he had. Right in that regard, ladies,

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Speaker 1: you have to be appreciative of the thought and the gesture. Now,

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Speaker 1: let me help you with this side. From the male perspective,

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Speaker 1: she says, it looks like a diamond cut. I don't

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Speaker 1: want to hurt his feelings regarding the size of the ring,

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Speaker 1: but this is bothering me. Should I say something to

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Speaker 1: him and resounding selfish and jeopardizing our relationship or should

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Speaker 1: I just wear it with the pride every day like

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Speaker 1: I have been doing since he proposed so So, so

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Speaker 1: here's the deal. If you take the ring back a man,

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Speaker 1: it's going to be hurt. He is going to be

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Speaker 1: hurt because in his mind he may have said, man,

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Speaker 1: this is all I got, this the best I can

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Speaker 1: and could have maybe be maybe even extended himself quite

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Speaker 1: because I got a friend of mine who did it,

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Speaker 1: bought his girl a ring. She tripped. He was livid

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Speaker 1: because guess what he had did the best he could do,

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Speaker 1: and she didn't like the ring and she told him

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Speaker 1: now she that's another ring. But he brings it up

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Speaker 1: all the time because it hurt him. So now know

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Speaker 1: that this is gonna hurt the guy. But if you're

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Speaker 1: gonna do it, here is a slick way to do it.

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Speaker 1: Here is a slick way to do it if you

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Speaker 1: could be smart enough about it and keep the setting.

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Speaker 1: Say to your fiance, you know what, this is absolutely gorgeous.

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Speaker 1: You know what I've I've saved force for wedding. You know,

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Speaker 1: I've been working on my wedding and stuff, and I

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Speaker 1: got a little money aside. How would you feel if

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Speaker 1: we just took the diamond, the center diamond, which is

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Speaker 1: what's comprised of an engagement ring? Am I correct? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: What if we put a little money when it and

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Speaker 1: traded in and just said that because I love the ring.

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Speaker 1: I think the ring is gorgeous, and I want this

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Speaker 1: ring because this is the one you proposed to be with,

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Speaker 1: and I don't want to lose that right there. But

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Speaker 1: how would you feel if I had saved up some

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Speaker 1: money and I put a little bit with it and

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Speaker 1: we traded the diamond in for a bigger diamond with

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Speaker 1: that bother you. But I want to keep the ring

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Speaker 1: is so beautiful and it means so much to me.

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Speaker 1: That would be the slickest way, I think. And once again,

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Speaker 1: it's just my opinion. Okay, let me ask you, yes, sir, well,

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Speaker 1: it help if you also change the cut of it.

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Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying that, like if it's a

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Speaker 1: princess cut, And she says, why don't we get around

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Speaker 1: when I'm I really like, what does that help to

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Speaker 1: change the cut of it? Because you're changing the ring,

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Speaker 1: you're changing the diamond that he gave you, you know,

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Speaker 1: so you could change I say, you can upgrade or

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Speaker 1: change the setting like you say, yeah, Now, what you

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Speaker 1: can do is when you go to look, let it

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Speaker 1: be his idea to pick out the stone. See, let

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Speaker 1: it be him if he wants to change it to

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Speaker 1: a marquee, which is going to give you a bigger look. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: you're talking about after she wants. I'm talking about if

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Speaker 1: you want to upgrade it. That's just to suggest you

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Speaker 1: of mine, you may want to do it next, all right, Steve,

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Speaker 1: you know we gotta go email us or Instagram. That's

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Speaker 1: your thoughts on today's letter at My Girl Shirley. Okay,