Speaker 1: Five, rooking Jubels second date update. You know, there's an
Speaker 1: art to dating. When you go out with somebody and
Speaker 1: you enjoy your time together, you kind of hang back
Speaker 1: after the date and don't text right away because you
Speaker 1: don't want to seem over eager. Now I hate that rule. Well,
Speaker 1: it's a rule that people abide by. And Jason, who's
Speaker 1: on the phone to do a second date update today,
Speaker 1: is hardcore at that rule because he hasn't talked to
Speaker 1: the girl he wants to call in two months. Yeah,
Speaker 1: he's doing the two months slow play, which I think
Speaker 1: is a little too long. But Jason, I don't know, man,
Speaker 1: I don't know exactly what your goal is here. But
Speaker 1: you want to call her now for a second date update?
Speaker 1: Why wait two months? Well? Okay, so I think I'm
Speaker 1: in a little bit of a unique situation here. See
Speaker 1: I went out with this girl, Kathy two months ago,
Speaker 1: and we went to a dinner and it was it
Speaker 1: was you know, hey, oh great. So now you're just
Speaker 1: reading that, it's okay. I waited two months, it was okay,
Speaker 1: figured I couldn't find anything better. So now I'm going
Speaker 1: to call Kathy back. Is that in the plan? Oh? No? No. I. Yes, yeah,
Speaker 1: it sounds like that's the plan, Jason. Is that the
Speaker 1: plan is that horrible? Yes? I just think that maybe,
Speaker 1: after you know, all this time, I came to a
Speaker 1: realization that this was actually what a date maybe is
Speaker 1: more supposed to look. Like what does that mean, Jason?
Speaker 1: Because if I didn't call somebody back for two months
Speaker 1: and then I was like, all right, look, I gotta
Speaker 1: get ahold of them. Even though it's been a long time,
Speaker 1: I really liked them. I wouldn't describe them the way
Speaker 1: you just describe the girl that you want to call.
Speaker 1: What's her name, it's Kathy, Kathy. I wouldn't describe them
Speaker 1: the way that you describe Kathy and be like, hey
Speaker 1: it was you know, it's good. Well, let me let
Speaker 1: me tell you about our date. So we go to
Speaker 1: dinner and things are going okay. You know, there were
Speaker 1: no like awkward surprises in the first ten minutes, and
Speaker 1: I'm trying to facilitate conversation and like, you know, talk
Speaker 1: about ourselves, and every single step of the way to
Speaker 1: conversation just dies, you know. And it's not like it's
Speaker 1: the worst date in the world, but it's like that
Speaker 1: there are these long stretches of silence where like you
Speaker 1: just want to squirm in your seat and you don't
Speaker 1: know what you're supposed to do. It sounds like a
Speaker 1: fabulous date, no wonder you want to call her back? Well, see,
Speaker 1: that's sort of what I thought. I thought things were
Speaker 1: not going well because about thirty minutes and she starts
Speaker 1: check on her phone. So it doesn't sound like Kathy
Speaker 1: wants to date you either, So okay, that's what I believed.
Speaker 1: And then the next morning she texts me and says, hey,
Speaker 1: thanks so much for last night. It really meant a
Speaker 1: lot to me. Okay, if you're out with her, there's
Speaker 1: a lot of lulls in the conversation. She's checking her
Speaker 1: phone thirty minutes in, and you find out that she
Speaker 1: actually had a great time. So I mean, I get
Speaker 1: that text and I sort of look at it for
Speaker 1: a few minutes, and then I think, like, no way,
Speaker 1: there's no way I'm going out on another day with
Speaker 1: this Carol Like it was bad, yeah, bad day. It
Speaker 1: was so weird. Yeah, And you're like, if that's your
Speaker 1: definition of fun, we have two different definitions of fun obviously, exactly,
Speaker 1: So what made you change your mind? So It's been
Speaker 1: two months and I've been on dates since then, trying
Speaker 1: to sort of figure out what is actually good for me,
Speaker 1: And every single date has been so much worse than
Speaker 1: that day, so much so you want to call her
Speaker 1: after two months. Not because she was so fantastic, she
Speaker 1: just wasn't a psychopath. Well, she wasn't a psychopath. And
Speaker 1: like I didn't have a bad time, I hadn't. It
Speaker 1: wasn't great, But like, you know, maybe maybe they say that,
Speaker 1: like you know, marriage is like a partnership, sort of
Speaker 1: like the boring married couple, right well, like you know,
Speaker 1: maybe this is that right off the bat, and I
Speaker 1: can know what to expect all the way down the line,
Speaker 1: you know, comfort. Normally I would be really against this,
Speaker 1: but I feel like online dating has given people too
Speaker 1: many choices that you don't ever know what was good.
Speaker 1: Like if it was pre online dating, maybe you would
Speaker 1: have given her a second chance and the second time
Speaker 1: it would have been fantastic. And this date wasn't It
Speaker 1: wasn't a bad date. You know. I enjoyed my meal
Speaker 1: and the company was Okay, this is amazing. No, I'm
Speaker 1: starting to think that okay is what I need, you know,
Speaker 1: And you know, I listen to your show to second
Speaker 1: Date Update, and I've heard some of the people that
Speaker 1: are on here before, and I know how bad things
Speaker 1: can be, and I, you know, this isn't that, you know,
Speaker 1: I think, I think this is this is way better
Speaker 1: than that. Yeah, just a little lagging conversation when you
Speaker 1: guys went out and she didn't like mess her pants
Speaker 1: and throw up on it. Honestly, it could be so
Speaker 1: much worse for me, so much worse. I love that
Speaker 1: our show is like taking a low bar and lowering
Speaker 1: it even further. Yes, well, lets you know it, lets
Speaker 1: you know how bad things can get. But that should
Speaker 1: be our new show slogan. Yeah, brook at Jubil in
Speaker 1: the morning, let's you know how bad things can get.
Speaker 1: But honestly, Jason, she's probably not going to be super
Speaker 1: excited that you haven't called her for two months. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I realize that may be a problem. I did text
Speaker 1: her um like a day ago and said, like, you know,
Speaker 1: long time, no talk, stranger, Like I just trying to
Speaker 1: like ignite like a conversation, and I have not gotten
Speaker 1: a response, which I don't blame her for, but you know,
Speaker 1: I really do want to like reach out and at
Speaker 1: least try to get a second Okay, all right, Well
Speaker 1: we'll play a song come back, and then call Kathy
Speaker 1: and see if she's willing to go out with you again,
Speaker 1: since she's not the worst option. Yeah, all right, thanks guys,
Speaker 1: probably will get your second date update right after this
Speaker 1: brooking jubil in the morning. Second update. If you're just
Speaker 1: tuning in for today's second date update, we have Goldilocks
Speaker 1: on the phone. Goldilocks goes by the name of Jason.
Speaker 1: He's been in the dating world and most of his
Speaker 1: dates have either been too hot or too cold, and
Speaker 1: he wants us to call Kathy for him right now.
Speaker 1: And Kathy is well, she's not even just right, she's
Speaker 1: just okay, and that's why he likes her. He actually
Speaker 1: went out on a date with her two months ago
Speaker 1: and hasn't talked to her since. But now he wants
Speaker 1: to call her to get another date because, according to him,
Speaker 1: all of his other dates have been so bad that
Speaker 1: he's thought about it and he's like, yeah, this one
Speaker 1: was actually probably the most decent date I've had in
Speaker 1: two months, so why not give it a shot and
Speaker 1: see if she'll go out with me? Jason, I feel
Speaker 1: like you should tell her or we should tell her
Speaker 1: that you want to give it another shot, because hey,
Speaker 1: the first one wasn't so great, but first dates are hard,
Speaker 1: and maybe the second date would be better. Yes, I
Speaker 1: think that's part of what I'm hoping. Okay, that's the
Speaker 1: message you're trying to get out, not like, well she
Speaker 1: was good enough, that's a little bit. I mean, I
Speaker 1: think I'm a little worried that it's going to come
Speaker 1: across as because you know, I texted hers two in
Speaker 1: two months. So the fear is that, you know, she'll
Speaker 1: think what I what I said. Yeah, okay, all right,
Speaker 1: she'll understand the truth. But I wouldn't I wouldn't even
Speaker 1: call out how bad the date was. I mean, it
Speaker 1: was on your end, you said it was boring, but
Speaker 1: she texted you the day after, right, Yeah, So I
Speaker 1: think I think I'll say something like I wasn't ready
Speaker 1: at the time. I liked you too much and I
Speaker 1: didn't know how to do it, so I went away
Speaker 1: for two months. Yeah it might work. All right, I'm
Speaker 1: gonna doll her phone of her right now, Jason, here,
Speaker 1: we are you ready? Yeah? Thanks? Good? Hello? How can
Speaker 1: I speak to Kathy please? And this she Hey, what's up, Kathy?
Speaker 1: How are you? This is Jewil from Brook and Jewil
Speaker 1: in the Morning. From what Brook and Jewil in the Morning.
Speaker 1: It's a radio show. A radio show, yeah yeah, like
Speaker 1: the kind that you hear when you're listening to the
Speaker 1: radio and then they're people doing a show on their
Speaker 1: good description. We do one of those. Yeah, okay, and
Speaker 1: I'm calling you today because we actually got an email
Speaker 1: from one of our listeners about you. Oh okay, I
Speaker 1: know this is weird, but we do a segment on
Speaker 1: our show called the second Date Update. That's where if
Speaker 1: you go out on a date with somebody and then
Speaker 1: end up not calling them back after they email us
Speaker 1: to see if we can get you on the phone
Speaker 1: and find out what went wrong. Okay. Your situation is
Speaker 1: a little different though, because the guy that wanted us
Speaker 1: to call you actually kind of blew you off, but
Speaker 1: he's regretting it now. His name is Jason. Jason, like
Speaker 1: a few months ago, Jason. Yep, I think we're talking
Speaker 1: about the same Jason. He's calling to get in touch
Speaker 1: with me now. Yeah. He emailed us and said that
Speaker 1: he really enjoyed your date and he doesn't really know
Speaker 1: why he took so long to get back to you,
Speaker 1: but he tried to actually the other day. Now you
Speaker 1: haven't texted him back, so he thought he didn't. Lest
Speaker 1: our help to see if we can get you on
Speaker 1: the phone and find out if you would like to
Speaker 1: see Jason again or if you enjoyed your time with him.
Speaker 1: That's actually pretty funny. Um, that was actually a pretty
Speaker 1: big night for me. Weirdly enough, the date you had
Speaker 1: with Jason was a big night. Yeah, kind of. It's
Speaker 1: just weird that he's asking now. I mean, like, why wait,
Speaker 1: like two months, that's okay, that's what we said. Well,
Speaker 1: what was so big about that night for you? Um? Well, honestly, uh,
Speaker 1: that night I kind of came to the conclusion that
Speaker 1: I was more interested in women than men. Whoa wow,
Speaker 1: Like you came out of the closet that night. Well,
Speaker 1: I mean that came like, you know, like a week
Speaker 1: or so later, But like I that night I realized,
Speaker 1: you know what it was that I actually wanted good
Speaker 1: for you? Wow, way to find your truth? How did
Speaker 1: that hit you all of a sudden while you're out
Speaker 1: with Jason. I just kind of felt like the whole
Speaker 1: time on our date, I was just kind of bored,
Speaker 1: Like I felt like I was really grasping at things
Speaker 1: to talk about, and they just, you know, nothing was
Speaker 1: really landing. And over the course of the evening, I
Speaker 1: just kind of felt like I was more interested in
Speaker 1: like looking at our waitress than I wasn't Jason, was
Speaker 1: this something you were thinking about like prior or? It was?
Speaker 1: Literally everything happened that night. I think I had some
Speaker 1: a little bit of confusion, But I just had been
Speaker 1: dating men my whole life, and I just, you know,
Speaker 1: I felt like this was what I was supposed to
Speaker 1: be doing, and then it was just that night, I
Speaker 1: was just like, what am I doing clearly and continually
Speaker 1: date guys that I'm not interested in? Why am I
Speaker 1: not interested in them? Maybe because I'm not interested in
Speaker 1: men in general. Good on you, Kathy, But I'm confused though,
Speaker 1: because he said that you texted him the next morning
Speaker 1: like praising your night with him. Well, I honestly just
Speaker 1: wanted to thank him, Like I really woke up that
Speaker 1: next morning just feeling like a whole new person, and
Speaker 1: I wanted to thank him because I feel like that
Speaker 1: was the turning point for my life. Like I feel
Speaker 1: like I know who I am Now, that's amazing. He
Speaker 1: read your text completely wrong. He thought you were texting
Speaker 1: him saying how much fun you had on the date,
Speaker 1: not that your date was so boring it made you
Speaker 1: switch teams. Oh my god, he thought that I meant
Speaker 1: like that I had a good time. Yeah. Yeah, Oh,
Speaker 1: I meant like, thank you for helping me figure out
Speaker 1: my life, right, thank you for helping reveal my truth.
Speaker 1: I'm sure he'd be shocked to know that that's what
Speaker 1: that text meant. And you might be shocked to know
Speaker 1: that he's on the other line listening and wants to
Speaker 1: talk to you. Oh no, Jason, Yeah, shocked. Oh season,
Speaker 1: I'm sorry. I just I can't believe this. You're telling
Speaker 1: me that that I like because you went on a
Speaker 1: date with me, you realize that, you know, I mean,
Speaker 1: if there was anything wrong with you, well there is.
Speaker 1: There's a big thing wrong. Well there's a thing wrong
Speaker 1: with Jason. You've been with guys before, though, I don't
Speaker 1: understand why, you know why it was your night with
Speaker 1: me that changed everything? Like, what was I doing so wrong?
Speaker 1: You didn't do anything wrong. I think it was just
Speaker 1: the culmination of a lot of dating of men and
Speaker 1: realizing that I wasn't enjoying myself, and I guess you
Speaker 1: were just the last date that I didn't enjoy that.
Speaker 1: I kind of went, well, maybe it's because I'm not
Speaker 1: ago men. Yeah, but then why would you text me
Speaker 1: the next morning like that is only something that you
Speaker 1: would do if you were interested in me. If I recall,
Speaker 1: I texted you that, you know, just thanking you for
Speaker 1: a great night. I didn't ask to see you again.
Speaker 1: I mean, you didn't text me back, so I figured, oh, great,
Speaker 1: wrong with your age? Yeah that would still I mean,
Speaker 1: that was still kind of a lie. Then, right, you
Speaker 1: didn't have a great night with me? What, Jason, are
Speaker 1: you actually but her about this? Yeah? Of course I am, Like,
Speaker 1: I was not the reason that it was a boring date.
Speaker 1: I don't buy that as the reason she texted me
Speaker 1: that in the morning. I think she's you know, I
Speaker 1: think you're trying to get back at me. If I'm honest, Jason,
Speaker 1: are you accusing Cathy of lying? I mean, I don't
Speaker 1: believe that that was the night she decided that she was,
Speaker 1: you know, playing for the other team. I don't believe it.
Speaker 1: So Jason, you're saying that you are just God's gift
Speaker 1: to women, And there's absolutely no way that I could
Speaker 1: not be interested in you that I'm saying. I think
Speaker 1: that maybe you're upset that I didn't text you back,
Speaker 1: and so now you're trying to embarrass me on the
Speaker 1: radio and that's the set. How are you turning her
Speaker 1: moment of truth into something that's about you, dude? I
Speaker 1: just think it's it's a pretty good story, you know
Speaker 1: what I mean, Like she was on her phone the
Speaker 1: whole night, and you're telling me that was the turning
Speaker 1: point of her life. No way testing my best friend
Speaker 1: because we had been having this conversation about you know,
Speaker 1: am I interested in women? I don't know, I don't
Speaker 1: know how I feel. And I had, you know, just
Speaker 1: such an epiphany on our date that yeah, I texted
Speaker 1: her and it really still was appropriate to share with you.
Speaker 1: I think would have been if you shared it with him. Like, hey,
Speaker 1: by the way, half an hour into this date with you,
Speaker 1: I just figured out that I am a lesbian. All right,
Speaker 1: let's finish up. Do you want dessert? I mean maybe
Speaker 1: he could have been my wingman for the waitress. I mean,
Speaker 1: I don't know, yeah, Jason, I mean, you guys could
Speaker 1: still be friends. You did help her in a big
Speaker 1: moment of her life. It was very pivotal. Yeah. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I did introduce you some of my friends, like, I'm
Speaker 1: open to that. Well, Kathy, what would you say to
Speaker 1: going out on another date with Jason? We will pay
Speaker 1: for it? Would you go on a second date with Jason?
Speaker 1: I would say, if he wants a wingman to help
Speaker 1: him find women and you guys want to pay for that,
Speaker 1: I would love to help him in that situation. So, Kathy,
Speaker 1: is that a knowe? Or will you go out with
Speaker 1: Jason and help him find chicks? I mean, I do
Speaker 1: have some friends, but I could probably set him up
Speaker 1: with You're saying you might have some straight friends who
Speaker 1: who who would be interested in me to they actually
Speaker 1: go out on a date Jason. No, I mean, honestly,
Speaker 1: at this point, I'll just take any date with anyone
Speaker 1: who wants to go out with me. Oh my gosh, well, congratulations,
Speaker 1: Jason deserves you might have got a second date. I
Speaker 1: just I hope I don't bring anyone else to any
Speaker 1: big realization on my next date. Broken up in the morning,