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Speaker 1: Subject the bathroom in the basement. Dear Stephen Shirley, after

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Speaker 1: four years of marriage, it looks like my husband has

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Speaker 1: lost his mind. He's been feeling himself lately, and I'm

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Speaker 1: so happy for him because he's achieved a lot in.

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Speaker 4: His short twenty nine years.

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Speaker 1: Buying me a home was high on his list, and

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Speaker 1: we just moved into a three level town home six

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Speaker 1: months ago. Our housewarming party was lit and we had

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Speaker 1: people partying on every floor since a party. He fixed

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Speaker 1: up his bar in the basement and he put it.

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Speaker 1: He put in not one, but two huge TV side

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Speaker 1: by side. It's a walkout basement, so when he has

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Speaker 1: his boys over, they enter and exit down there. Sometimes

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Speaker 1: I don't see him all day on the weekends because

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Speaker 1: he even has a kitchenette down there. My nosy mother

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Speaker 1: came to visit and she wanted to go down to

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Speaker 1: bother my husband, and I told her to leave him alone.

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Speaker 1: I explained to her that I text him if I

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Speaker 1: need something, but I normally don't bother him if he's

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Speaker 1: down there with his friends.

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Speaker 4: She didn't like that, and she said.

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Speaker 1: Her intuition told her I needed to pop up down there.

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Speaker 1: Turns out my mother's gossipy friend told her that this

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Speaker 1: hairstyl is named Sandy was bragging about getting drunk as

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Speaker 1: heck at my house. I don't know this woman, and

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Speaker 1: she definitely was not at our housewarming party. Monday, I

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Speaker 1: came home early to let the housekeeper in, and something

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Speaker 1: told me to check the basement out. I found a

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Speaker 1: bar of used dove soap stuck back in the box

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Speaker 1: and a travel sized pack of feminine whites. I didn't

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Speaker 1: buy those, and I buy all of the toilet trees

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Speaker 1: for this house.

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Speaker 4: I also said.

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Speaker 1: I also saw a few strands of hair that looks

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Speaker 1: like someone tried to flush down the toilet. My housekeeper says,

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Speaker 1: there's been evidence before that a woman had been in

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Speaker 1: that bathroom. Do I confront my husband or pop up

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Speaker 1: on him one night?

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Speaker 4: Well, ma'am.

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Speaker 1: Popping up and confronting him both sound good to me.

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Speaker 1: Both of them work all right. But why are you

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Speaker 1: asking Steve and I this that's the issue. He's your

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Speaker 1: husband and it's your house, basement and all.

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Speaker 4: It's your house too. Why have you waited so long

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Speaker 4: to find out what's going on?

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Speaker 1: I mean, your mom was right, and the housekeeper confirmed it.

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Speaker 1: I'm just surprised you haven't gone down there before. Now

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Speaker 1: you went days on the weekends without seeing him.

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Speaker 4: I mean, how why, Yes.

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Speaker 1: Your husband is all the way wrong, but you never

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Speaker 1: went down there to check on him, to see what

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Speaker 1: was what all was going on? Your husband really has

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Speaker 1: some nerve. I mean, this is bold of him to

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Speaker 1: entertain ladies right in his own home, really bold, really

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Speaker 1: stupid on his part too. And the women they have

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Speaker 1: to know you guys are married and they're at another

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Speaker 1: woman's house. They're risking their lives being there, but they

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Speaker 1: probably know that you never go down there. So you know, hey,

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Speaker 1: we'll just go and hang out or do whatever. They're

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Speaker 1: acting as if you don't exist, and so are you.

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Speaker 1: I just I don't know how you could go all

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Speaker 1: that time and not go see about what's happening down there.

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Speaker 1: I mean, you guys are just living two separate lives.

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Speaker 1: You're upstairs, he's downstairs in his basement. I can't wait

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Speaker 1: to see what happens when you do confront him and

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Speaker 1: or pop up on him and his shenanigans. That's when

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Speaker 1: the real truth is going to be told. So let

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Speaker 2: Okay, Steve, this letter stupid. Yeah, this letter is.

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Speaker 3: I don't even I don't. I don't understand the arrangement

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Speaker 3: at all. Nothing in this letter makes sense to me. Look,

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Speaker 3: I have a man cave. I've suggested to everybody that

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Speaker 3: a man who goes to work that's married should have

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Speaker 3: an area, a place like I know a god that's

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Speaker 3: got a smaller home. Right, And he said, man, I

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Speaker 3: don't have no whole room. I can have a man

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Speaker 3: cave in he said, But we got a den, he said,

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Speaker 3: I like to play my video games on my computer.

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Speaker 3: I said, okay, then make that the restricted area. But

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Speaker 3: in a house, a man has to have something that

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Speaker 3: belongs to him because the rest of the house is

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Speaker 3: going to be for the woman. But he's got to

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Speaker 3: have something that's here. So he has this elaborate man

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Speaker 3: cave with two big screen TVs in it. He has

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Speaker 3: an interest in the entrance in the basement, so but

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Speaker 3: nobody has to come through the house, and he down

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Speaker 3: there all weekend with his friends. He had worked. You

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Speaker 3: let him have that. That's y'all's arrangement. The fact that

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Speaker 3: if you want something, you text him so you can

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Speaker 3: communicate with your husband. This is whether the letter starts

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Speaker 3: to lose esteem. The next part, you've never been down there.

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Speaker 2: Get it ever.

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Speaker 3: In your house, and you obviously are feeling some kind

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Speaker 3: of way about down there because you're asking me, is

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Speaker 3: Shirley whether you should go down there, popy in or

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Speaker 3: confront your husband about it?

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Speaker 2: Why is it confronting? I don't underst saying that.

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Speaker 3: Why if you go down in their house, is it

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Speaker 3: popping in? Don't I don't understand this. I don't know

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Speaker 3: what to say to you. I'm gonna say the same

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Speaker 3: thing to you when we come back. Now, I'm gonna

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Speaker 3: use words so don't nobody email me. I'm gonna use

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Speaker 3: words like stupid. I'm gonna probably use a word like.

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Speaker 2: I just don't know. I don't know.

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Speaker 3: This letter don't make no sense to me because everything

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Speaker 3: is so obvious.

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Speaker 1: Try Yeah, we'll have part two of your response coming

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Speaker 1: up at twenty three minutes after the hour. Today's Strawberry

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Speaker 1: letter subject the bathroom and the basement.

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Speaker 4: We'll get back into it right after this.

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Speaker 1: You're listening morning show, All right, Come on, Steve, let's

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Speaker 1: recap today's Strawberry letter. The subject is the bathroom in

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Speaker 1: the basement.

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Speaker 3: The bathroom in the basement ain't the problem.

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Speaker 2: It's the damn basement.

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Speaker 3: That you feel uncomfortable going to, that you don't want

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Speaker 3: to pop into, that your husband uses as a man.

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Speaker 2: Came, which is perfectly fine.

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Speaker 3: I think every man should have a place in the

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Speaker 3: house that's uniquely for him.

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Speaker 2: Not saying nobody else can't come there.

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Speaker 3: I got a cigar spot in my house, but Marjorie's

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Speaker 3: welcome there.

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Speaker 2: I can't don't come over here. What I don't even

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Speaker 2: understand this.

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Speaker 3: So now you your mother came over and said she

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Speaker 3: going down there.

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Speaker 2: You said not too.

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Speaker 3: She'd have went down there anyway, because she knows well

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Speaker 3: what he doing down there where you can't go. Now,

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Speaker 3: she'd have found some evidence of a woman being down there. Uh, anyway,

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Speaker 3: the housekeeper found some evidence.

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Speaker 2: I don't know. It don't make no sense. I didn't

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Speaker 2: even care when somebody found something that you had.

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Speaker 3: The wife that found use feminine product, some hal that

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Speaker 3: ain't yours. And there's some other evidence to let you

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Speaker 3: know what a woman has been over there.

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Speaker 2: Now.

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Speaker 3: The housekeeper said that y'all got housekeeper too, y'all twenty nine,

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Speaker 3: y'all deed, she's found stuff before. So now you're assuming

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Speaker 3: that this man is having company, and you want to

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Speaker 3: know from me and Shirley, should you pop up down

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Speaker 3: there or should you confront him? I don't know how

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Speaker 3: either one of him is a question, right because to

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Speaker 3: confront him about what? Who in your house?

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Speaker 2: I can't. I just can't do this. So let me

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Speaker 2: state the things that I want to say right quickly. Okay,

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Speaker 2: this is your house.

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Speaker 3: You ain't confronting nobody about nothing, and you ain't popping

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Speaker 3: in it's your house. Next statement, I want to know,

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Speaker 3: is he this stupid? Is this man this stupid? How

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Speaker 3: assured is he that you will never come down? Now?

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Speaker 3: How how is this possible? What have you all said

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Speaker 3: And then the last thing I want to say is

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Speaker 3: I've never been that comfortable ever. But you know what

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Speaker 3: you all these letters we get about a woman coming

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Speaker 3: home and a man got another woman in the bed

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Speaker 3: and all like that. I mean, look, man, it's just

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Speaker 3: like if you gonna cheat, there are some rules of.

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Speaker 4: Decency in your house.

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Speaker 3: Are you in rug in your wife's house, in your

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Speaker 3: wife's bed, dog? How you gonna work that out in

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Speaker 3: your mind? I mean, bru, It's just about some decency, man.

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Speaker 3: It's about respect, it's about what y'all built. It's about

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Speaker 3: a lot of stuff. But man, look at him? Is

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Speaker 3: he this stupid? And then I have to ask you,

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Speaker 3: are you this stupid? Because it's not about confront dog.

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Speaker 3: I beating dinner, and all of a sudden that stuff

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Speaker 2: What is this?

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Speaker 3: The hair would be on the saucer, the wrapper from

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Speaker 2: The back of the earring holder would be on the saucer.

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Speaker 2: What is this? Right here?

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Speaker 1: The soap box that does What are you doing?

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Speaker 4: Why hasn't she gone down there?

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Speaker 3: What did he tell you that makes you text him?

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Speaker 2: Are you scared of him?

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Speaker 4: It sounds like it a little bit or something.

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Speaker 2: I just don't know how this letter is.

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Speaker 3: When you was typing this, you didn't see none of

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Speaker 3: this in it, and then come talking about my nosy mother.

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Speaker 3: I want to go down I don't see him all

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Speaker 3: day on weekends because he even got a kitchen net

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Speaker 3: down there, So you don't see.

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Speaker 1: My husband all day on the weekend. What I don't know?

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Speaker 2: And what time they coming in.

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Speaker 3: Down there? You're going, but I don't see I text him,

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Speaker 3: but I don't bother him.

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Speaker 4: No, no, if.

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Speaker 2: He down there with his friend, because.

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Speaker 4: I'll be going down there.

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Speaker 2: What y'all doing?

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Speaker 4: What's going on down here?

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Speaker 2: Where are you at? Hey? Fellas? Y?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Something?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, baby, you're good. Just came down to give you

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Speaker 3: a kiss. Let you know, I'm finn to go out shopping,

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Speaker 3: going out with the.

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Speaker 2: Girls, tellings y'all. I need to think.

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Speaker 3: Everybody enjoying yourself right? Who car blocking the driveway? What

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Speaker 3: I can't call? I've asked you not to roll up

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Speaker 3: on the grass sweetie, all of it, baby.

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Speaker 2: While I'm gone. Caddy's garbage, y'all something, yes, yes, go see.

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Speaker 1: It's like she's afraid to go down there, like she's

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Speaker 1: afraid of him.

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Speaker 1: the smoking coming upstairs?

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Speaker 2: I smell it?

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