WEBVTT - "The Immigrant Parent Expert" with Garrick Bernard

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<v Speaker 1>Forever.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh, hello, hello Marie. Oh wow, the voice and you

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<v Speaker 2>have every year. Once a year your voice changes very deep.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh is that just the season?

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<v Speaker 2>Tis the season? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 3>Well no, this is this is not seasonal. This is

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<v Speaker 3>you know. I just I was out the other day

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<v Speaker 3>screaming at me and it's okay, So me and Sydney went

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<v Speaker 3>to we outside, okay, we went to a rooftop thing

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<v Speaker 3>where everybody was very hot. All the men were tall

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<v Speaker 3>and their beards connected all the way around.

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<v Speaker 2>Marie couldn't believe it. I text her at me. I said, Marie,

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<v Speaker 2>you need to get here right now. She's like, Sis,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm ten minutes away. I was like, everybody's cute. Every

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<v Speaker 2>single person was hot.

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<v Speaker 3>Right forty eight minutes later I arrived right and everybody

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<v Speaker 3>was so attractive and like young and the skin. It

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<v Speaker 3>was like it was like I said to Sydney, I

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<v Speaker 3>think I'm gonna write my number on the wall and

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<v Speaker 3>whoever calls me, you just can't call me.

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<v Speaker 2>Man, woman or child.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, well no children, but there.

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<v Speaker 2>Were some kids on the roof too, and they were

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<v Speaker 2>cute kids.

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<v Speaker 3>But yes, there were kids on the roof, and it

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<v Speaker 3>was like people really just be bringing their kids with

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<v Speaker 3>them to stuff.

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<v Speaker 2>Me as a as a childless woman, you don't understand.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't have to have children to understand that kids

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<v Speaker 3>don't need to be nowhere. Actually, me being childless, I

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<v Speaker 3>understand it better. I understand it better.

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<v Speaker 2>But sometimes it's sometimes it's hard to get a nanny.

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<v Speaker 2>Sometimes it's hard to get a babysitter. Sometimes you don't.

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<v Speaker 3>Have the Sydney also a childless woman, what's you talking about?

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<v Speaker 2>The cats? It's yo. You'd be surprised how many people

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<v Speaker 2>are like, I'm allergic. I'm not gonna be in town.

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<v Speaker 2>I can't do it. I could do one cat, I

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<v Speaker 2>can't do both. So like I feel for the women

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<v Speaker 2>who have to bring their animals or children to a party.

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<v Speaker 3>Mm hmm, Sidney, if you ever pull up to any

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<v Speaker 3>place that I'm at and you got the cats in

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<v Speaker 3>a little bass in it, I'm gonna roast you until

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<v Speaker 3>you go home. I'm gonna roast you until you leave.

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<v Speaker 3>I was. I just read this thing today. This girl

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<v Speaker 3>was like, my sister doesn't want my newborn baby at

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<v Speaker 3>her wedding. Should I be upset? And because her sister's

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<v Speaker 3>having a no a childless wedding and she was so upset,

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<v Speaker 3>and it was like, girl, you gonna have a newborn

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<v Speaker 3>at a six month old at a wedding. We definitely

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<v Speaker 3>don't want that.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, what's the return policy on a six month

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<v Speaker 2>old baby? It's still brand new you. I don't think you.

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<v Speaker 2>Babies are so unpredictable. Unpredictable, so like people could be

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<v Speaker 2>doing that vows and everything and then they're just like screaming.

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<v Speaker 3>Babies are predictable. They crying, they're sleeping, they're pooping, that's it.

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<v Speaker 2>But you don't know when they're gonna cry.

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<v Speaker 3>It could be right when she's doing her her vows,

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<v Speaker 3>she got tears in her eyes and she's like, right,

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<v Speaker 3>you know, I never and now your baby is teething

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<v Speaker 3>or whatever. I don't know what babies do with.

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<v Speaker 2>Something annoying or or if the pastors, like, does anybody

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<v Speaker 2>object to them getting there? I mean, I understand when

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<v Speaker 2>you're saying, Marie, but the kids were fine on the roof.

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<v Speaker 2>I was too busy looking at everybody's moisturized foreheads and

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<v Speaker 2>beautiful hairlines. M hm hmm.

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<v Speaker 3>It's the summer of the hairline, I think. So if

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<v Speaker 3>you're listening to this, get them plugs, get them sharpies,

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<v Speaker 3>get the that brown lip liner pencil. Just do what

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<v Speaker 3>you need to do to get the edges to look

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<v Speaker 3>how we want them to look.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, they and they have lace fronts beards for men,

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<v Speaker 2>so y'all could try those out as well. Do what

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<v Speaker 2>you need to do, honey.

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<v Speaker 3>If you gotta do that, then make sure you use

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<v Speaker 3>the gorilla glue to really hold it to the face.

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<v Speaker 2>Because imagine, Marie, you take a guy back and if

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<v Speaker 2>the lights are off and he's like busy taking his

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<v Speaker 2>beard off and laying it on the.

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<v Speaker 3>Side, he's folding it. Oh my god, I got it

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<v Speaker 3>to pee in the middle of the night and I

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<v Speaker 3>see it and I think it's a mouse and I

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<v Speaker 3>step on it.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, because that's happened with me with my lashes or

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<v Speaker 2>my wig, so it could definitely happen to a lace front.

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<v Speaker 3>You stepped on your wig, Yeah, yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>Sometimes it just slides off because I don't have a

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<v Speaker 2>like a little mannequin head.

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<v Speaker 3>So it just Sidney takes her wig off and she

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<v Speaker 3>folds it and she puts it on the couch and

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<v Speaker 3>jam Be sitting on it.

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<v Speaker 2>Speaking of Jam, our our guest today is my jam

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<v Speaker 2>One of my favorite, one of my favorite people in

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<v Speaker 2>the whole wide world. So special all the way on

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<v Speaker 2>the West West coast, thriving mare, we would say, thriving,

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<v Speaker 2>living and thriving.

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<v Speaker 3>The skin looks good. I see the stainless steel refrigerator

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<v Speaker 3>in the back. The beard is fully connected all the

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<v Speaker 3>way around.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, yeah, he's he's one of my most successful friends.

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<v Speaker 2>That is very humble, and I think it's because of

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<v Speaker 2>his background. Give it up for Garrick Bernard and he

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<v Speaker 2>is child of an immigrant or child of immigrant parents, child.

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<v Speaker 3>Of we can just say immigrant parent. Experts Like what word.

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<v Speaker 4>Am I writing?

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<v Speaker 1>Internet parent? Sorry?

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<v Speaker 3>Immigrant parent? Immigrant parent? He Hi, how you doing, Grek?

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<v Speaker 1>I'm good? How are you up chilling?

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<v Speaker 3>We're good? Your teeth are very white? What what's that

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<v Speaker 3>this is?

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<v Speaker 1>I use baking soda. I use what is that?

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<v Speaker 5>Three D white, the cress or Colgate D white.

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<v Speaker 2>The strips. You don't use the strips to you, No.

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<v Speaker 5>I don't use the strips, just the brush because.

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<v Speaker 2>They take off they take off the.

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<v Speaker 1>Enamel, the enamel. Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, But he really needs,

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<v Speaker 1>you know what I mean, all of it. Honestly, you

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<v Speaker 1>need every single like every drop gram, every drop I'm

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<v Speaker 1>sorry her baking soda, and I was like, oh, let

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<v Speaker 1>me put in like the Grams drug.

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<v Speaker 3>We get it.

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<v Speaker 2>He's a very smart guy. He's a very smart guy. Now, Garret,

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<v Speaker 2>do you have anything to say about like men wearing

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<v Speaker 2>lace front beards air lines connecting?

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<v Speaker 1>All right? Hey, guys, stop it, don't do it, chill out.

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<v Speaker 1>Don't just just embrace the baldness. Embrace the fact that

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<v Speaker 1>your beard doesn't connect. I don't have those problems, but

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<v Speaker 1>I will say, if you know, if my hair goes

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<v Speaker 1>and all that stuff, I'm gonna get those plugs.

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<v Speaker 5>Probably I'm gonna get like ten grand or some shit.

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<v Speaker 1>Get that.

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<v Speaker 3>You wanna let them go and let them put pubes

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<v Speaker 3>on your hairline.

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<v Speaker 5>It's the back of your head.

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<v Speaker 1>It's they take they take hair from the back of

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<v Speaker 1>your head, put it on the top and you just

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<v Speaker 1>you're chilling. Why not?

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<v Speaker 3>But I feel like you would look good as a

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<v Speaker 3>bald person because you could look the fact that you

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<v Speaker 3>have facial hair. You could be completely bald and just

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<v Speaker 3>get like a red rouse just like yeah, yeah, yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>James Harden well moisturized moment.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I don't want to find out if I'm being honest,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't want to. I just want to.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, Grek, you're also very young, so you're fine, Like

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<v Speaker 2>you're not even thirty yet.

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<v Speaker 1>Right, No, I turned thirty in September. September what fifth?

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, happy birthday.

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<v Speaker 5>I'm sorry. I apologize.

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<v Speaker 3>Birthday is on the twenty third. I don't know why

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<v Speaker 3>I got so September. Wow, yeah, somebody else that was

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<v Speaker 3>conceived in January.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay at the beginning the beginning.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, go ahead. Sorry.

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<v Speaker 2>I was gonna say, so, you guys have never met

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<v Speaker 2>each other in real life. This is your first time speaking.

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<v Speaker 2>But I was, like, I told Yerk, like, oh, you

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<v Speaker 2>and Marie are going to get along very well because

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<v Speaker 2>you have some of the same uh backgrounds in terms

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<v Speaker 2>of immigrant parents, except she's Haitian and your Nigerian Timid daddy.

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<v Speaker 3>And I was also going to guess Nigerian Sydney night Yearian.

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<v Speaker 3>Well his name is Bernard, Yeah, Bernard, I guess that's

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<v Speaker 3>not Nigerian cist. It would have more sorry consonants and vowels.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah. Everybody's like, hey, you Nigeria, you darkest fun like

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<v Speaker 1>it's it's it all goes there, and I'm like, hey, man,

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<v Speaker 1>you need to reevaluate your biases or whatever.

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<v Speaker 3>I would not have Trinidadian you know, neither. Yeah, I've

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<v Speaker 3>canceled Trinidadians in my life numerous times.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh oh wow, okay, what happened? Well, if you don't mind.

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<v Speaker 3>Me as Trinidadian men being Trinidadian men, and that's okay,

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<v Speaker 3>all right, And that's basically it.

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<v Speaker 2>So I can't say I can't say anything specific, but

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<v Speaker 2>I just know that Caribbean men men from the West

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<v Speaker 2>Indies there, it's too much ego involved, too much ego,

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<v Speaker 2>too much cheating. I just I can't be bothered. Also,

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<v Speaker 2>they're men, so I just also can't be bothered with

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<v Speaker 2>that as well.

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<v Speaker 1>Fair enough, Yeah, fair enough. I think I lucked out

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<v Speaker 1>a little bit. My dad has been married to my

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<v Speaker 1>mom for I don't know, thirty years plus, so he was,

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<v Speaker 1>I guess, quote unquote one of the better ones. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know if he's one of the good ones, but

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<v Speaker 1>he's one of the better ones.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know if they have a side family in Trinida.

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<v Speaker 1>He doesn't have a side family. I'm hoping he doesn't

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<v Speaker 1>have a side family. And if he does, kudos for

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<v Speaker 1>keeping that a secret.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, Honestly, you can't be mad at a dad that

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<v Speaker 2>was able to keep a whole family secret for the

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<v Speaker 2>whole duration of having a Yes you can. You can.

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<v Speaker 3>You have a funeral and you're like, who are these

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<v Speaker 3>other people? These must be cousins with the same exact

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<v Speaker 3>faces us. You can fully be mad at a dad

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<v Speaker 3>that has family on the side.

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<v Speaker 2>The only time I would be mad at a dad

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<v Speaker 2>for not telling you about their other family is if

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<v Speaker 2>I just so happened to meet, you know, a daughter

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<v Speaker 2>of his, and I'm like, damn, she find his fuck

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<v Speaker 2>and we meet up and we link up and now

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<v Speaker 2>we dating, and now I'm like, wait, that's my stepsister, right,

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<v Speaker 2>that's doing up?

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<v Speaker 3>Since this sounds like the plot line of all the

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<v Speaker 3>soap operas.

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<v Speaker 1>That have ever existed, Yeah, truly with.

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<v Speaker 3>The gay twist, with a twist. So Garrick tell us

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<v Speaker 3>about growing up as Trinidaddian America. Are you first generation?

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<v Speaker 5>First generation? Yeah, born and raised in LA.

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<v Speaker 1>It was weird because a lot of a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>them go to New York.

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<v Speaker 3>Say Trinidadians are in l a A.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I never heard of that when I.

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<v Speaker 3>When I lived in LA, I was one of two

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<v Speaker 3>Haitian people who lived there.

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<v Speaker 1>And I was like, wow, yeah, there's no West Indians

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<v Speaker 1>out here. I think like the only ones we really

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<v Speaker 1>met were like through church, so you know, big church

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<v Speaker 1>family LA.

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<v Speaker 2>I would never go to.

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<v Speaker 1>Congratulations congratulations on that. Don't do it. There's there's not

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<v Speaker 1>enough praise dancing, you know. But yeah, like it was.

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<v Speaker 1>It was normal ish. You know, you don't really know

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<v Speaker 1>anything different, you know, so like I went Seventh day

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<v Speaker 1>Adventist church. Uh went to church on Saturdays. That was

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<v Speaker 1>the first like off thing I would. I remember bringing

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<v Speaker 1>curry go to school and I want to say like

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<v Speaker 1>third grade and I got destroyed.

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<v Speaker 3>You just bought like a plate of curry.

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<v Speaker 1>Go a plate a curry goat and they're like, oh

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<v Speaker 1>what is that? That looks great. I'm like, let's goat

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<v Speaker 1>and they're like, nigga, you weird, like for the rest

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<v Speaker 1>of my life because because you know, you go to

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<v Speaker 1>you go to an A any L A U.

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<v Speaker 4>S D.

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<v Speaker 1>School and most of them you know, know each other.

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<v Speaker 1>There's about like, you know, the sixth degrees of separation there.

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<v Speaker 1>So like that was you know, I was goat boy

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<v Speaker 1>for years.

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<v Speaker 3>No, yeah, boy, So that's why you.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, you do stand up and try to become

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<v Speaker 1>famous so you can be like, who's got boy now, nigga,

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<v Speaker 1>the gonna be like, oh my.

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<v Speaker 3>God, still you?

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<v Speaker 1>Still you? Yeah, it's still you.

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<v Speaker 2>So you're telling me that they didn't even try the goat.

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<v Speaker 1>No, they didn't even try it, because it's excellent. It's

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<v Speaker 1>fucking incredible, curry goat.

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<v Speaker 2>It's delicious. But that has it.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't love it. I don't love goat.

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<v Speaker 1>That's fair.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, well, they have to make it, they have to

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<v Speaker 2>make it right. It's not always if it's made, you.

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<v Speaker 1>Know, relax, yeah, and if it's like real hard and

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<v Speaker 1>whatnot and not. You don't want that. You don't want

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<v Speaker 1>a tough piece of goat. You want it to be succulent,

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<v Speaker 1>you know.

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<v Speaker 2>And you also don't want it gummy. You don't want

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<v Speaker 2>to like, you don't want a gummy.

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<v Speaker 5>That's one of the worst I go, right, yes, exactly

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<v Speaker 5>did you?

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<v Speaker 3>I was talking to somebody about this the other day.

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<v Speaker 3>Did you go to school ever? And people would say

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<v Speaker 3>you smell like your house?

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<v Speaker 1>No? So we didn't have that problem, thank got because uh,

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<v Speaker 1>middle class, that's I think that's it. We errated the

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<v Speaker 1>home very often.

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<v Speaker 3>I just like, sometimes my mom would cook stuff, like

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<v Speaker 3>she'd like fry fish, or she'd like cook something that

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<v Speaker 3>was like really and it would be like in my coat,

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<v Speaker 3>and I'd go to school and people be like, what

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<v Speaker 3>is that smell? And I'd be like, what smell? Because

0:14:10.200 --> 0:14:16.359
<v Speaker 3>you don't you smell it. It's all your nose hairs, right.

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<v Speaker 2>People would say that I smelled like my home, But

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<v Speaker 2>my home smelled like larks cigarettes. My mom would smoke

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<v Speaker 2>a whole pack like a day, So I always smell

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<v Speaker 2>like cigarettes and hair grease. So I don't know if

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<v Speaker 2>that's a cultural thing or just I mean, my mom thing.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>I would just call you sick as fuck honestly smoking already. Damn,

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<v Speaker 1>that's pretty dope, that's pretty wow.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>But like if you come if you come in the

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<v Speaker 1>house like smelling like curry, are you coming to school

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<v Speaker 1>coming smelling like curry? That's you know, that's a big

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<v Speaker 1>that's a big problem, I think, because that's a very

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<v Speaker 1>pungent smell, you know. But luckily my family only did

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<v Speaker 1>that on the weekends. They only cooked like wowd spicy

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<v Speaker 1>stuff on the weekends or at night to where you know,

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<v Speaker 1>the smell would dissipate by the time we woke up

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<v Speaker 1>in the morning.

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<v Speaker 3>For scores looking at night and the windows not open.

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<v Speaker 3>It's in the sheets.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, it's literally in you.

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<v Speaker 3>It's in your poor yes, the cloth, it's on the

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<v Speaker 3>bath man, it's on that little rug that goes on

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<v Speaker 3>the back of the toilet. In old black.

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<v Speaker 5>Homes, it's oh my god, it's.

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<v Speaker 3>In the daytime. They like have the cross breeze.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, mm hmmm.

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<v Speaker 2>Here's your personal question. So what did your mom and

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<v Speaker 2>dad do for a living.

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<v Speaker 1>So my mom was a PA, a physician's assistant, and

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<v Speaker 1>then my dad was a contractor. So, uh, bottom hills

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<v Speaker 1>were up there, you know.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh, for those that are not in the know, that's

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<v Speaker 3>like black people. That was the hills for black folks.

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<v Speaker 5>It was a hills with black black people. Laguna Beach

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<v Speaker 5>or like that was like their their take on it.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, Garret, so it sound like I mean you you

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<v Speaker 2>you said immigrant parents, but I mean it seems real

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<v Speaker 2>simply black to me.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know, It's okay. So this is where this

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<v Speaker 1>is where the explanation must come. Yes, we were still

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<v Speaker 1>poor for the most part. They got the house they

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<v Speaker 1>got the house up there because they're just like, oh, well,

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<v Speaker 1>let's put all of our funds into this thing to

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<v Speaker 1>keep our kids from the surrounding areas. And then we

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<v Speaker 1>would get sent home or sent to school with like

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<v Speaker 1>hand me downs or with fucking all of the regular

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<v Speaker 1>There was a whole year where I wore a uniform

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<v Speaker 1>when the school didn't require a uniform, just because.

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<v Speaker 3>Paying for these days.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not paying for these clothes, you know, we gotta

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<v Speaker 1>we got a mortgage to the uniform.

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<v Speaker 2>Still looks good, and she is she's sewing, she's imming

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<v Speaker 2>the stuff, making sure all the tattered shorts are still

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<v Speaker 2>like looking neat what.

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<v Speaker 1>Was then a white shirt with a navy bottom.

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<v Speaker 3>And in the winter time it was like slacks, and

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<v Speaker 3>in the summer time it was like little school uniform

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<v Speaker 3>booty shorts.

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<v Speaker 5>No, no, no booty shorts.

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<v Speaker 1>It was pretty much la It's the same temperature the

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<v Speaker 1>whole time, right right, Yeah, yeah, thats a weird thing.

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<v Speaker 2>Was there a lot so seasons there wasn't a lot

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<v Speaker 2>of Trinidadians in your school?

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<v Speaker 1>Absolutely not. I was the only one.

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<v Speaker 2>You were the only for.

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<v Speaker 5>My entire life, probably the entire school career.

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<v Speaker 2>What any other ethnicities just.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean there were there were a couple of Nigerians,

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<v Speaker 1>I guess, and like Persian folks, uh.

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<v Speaker 3>Pers a couple of Persian folks in l A.

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<v Speaker 1>Couple, yeah, mostly yeah, and in high school. Yeah, but honestly,

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<v Speaker 1>I was the only Caribbean kid in school for sure.

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<v Speaker 3>When you came home from your first day of school,

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<v Speaker 3>would your mom ask you about the kids in your class?

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<v Speaker 5>No, she don't give a fuck.

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<v Speaker 3>That was my mom, My mother's go to anytime I

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<v Speaker 3>came home from school, she'd be like, how many black

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<v Speaker 3>kids in your class? How many? How many that? And

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<v Speaker 3>I would I would, I would count. I'd be like,

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<v Speaker 3>it's me Jazz Maine, Like I would count them out,

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<v Speaker 3>and she'd be like, okay, okay, okay, it's black kids

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<v Speaker 3>in the class. And it was like, there's always gonna

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<v Speaker 3>be black kids in the class. This is New York.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, yeah, yeah, so there was.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, they were very adamant about putting us in black

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<v Speaker 1>schools up until high school, like all black schools pretty

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<v Speaker 1>much until ninth grade, when they shipped me out to

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<v Speaker 1>fucking Palisades to go to school there.

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<v Speaker 2>Why did they do that?

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<v Speaker 3>College reasons?

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<v Speaker 5>College reasons.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, you get into better colleges and I didn't, so

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<v Speaker 1>it didn't work. All of my friends that stayed in

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<v Speaker 1>like black high schools got into better schools than I did.

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<v Speaker 1>And I was like, why didn't you just keep me

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<v Speaker 1>with my friends? Kept shifting me around?

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<v Speaker 3>You should have stayed at east Side High with Morgan Freeman.

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<v Speaker 2>But.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, yeah, I should have. Marie. What did you did

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<v Speaker 1>you move schools a lot? Did you like switch? No?

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<v Speaker 2>Not really.

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<v Speaker 3>And my parents were like, the bus runs right here,

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<v Speaker 3>You're gonna take that bus to that school?

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<v Speaker 1>Okay.

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<v Speaker 3>It was like, no, that's it, I'm going to I

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<v Speaker 3>know they knew the route for the parent teacher conference,

0:19:38.080 --> 0:19:40.840
<v Speaker 3>that's where they were going, all right. But my parents

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<v Speaker 3>were big on parent teacher conferences. Like my dad as

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<v Speaker 3>as an immigrant, you know, everything that he wears is

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<v Speaker 3>tucked into his pants. Yes, I don't know if you

0:19:51.119 --> 0:19:52.720
<v Speaker 3>have one of those dads, but like he'll took a

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<v Speaker 3>sweater into some swim pants and on a.

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<v Speaker 2>Dress shoe, put a hard bottom on with the bottom.

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<v Speaker 3>But my dad, I home a couple of months ago.

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<v Speaker 3>He still like buffs and shines his shoes. He is

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<v Speaker 3>like a brush and a polish and he is shining

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<v Speaker 3>them to go. It's like you want an errands, like

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<v Speaker 3>you can't throw a dad new balance on No, because

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<v Speaker 3>they always.

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<v Speaker 2>Want to look good they I think, I don't know,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know if it's just like immigrant parents, but

0:20:23.359 --> 0:20:26.200
<v Speaker 2>it's also just like older parents. They always want to

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<v Speaker 2>make sure that they're looking their best, even when it's like,

0:20:30.920 --> 0:20:34.159
<v Speaker 2>is it I think your best? But like I understand

0:20:34.200 --> 0:20:37.240
<v Speaker 2>the notion of like polishing your shoes, but I don't

0:20:37.240 --> 0:20:38.520
<v Speaker 2>get that. I don't get that.

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<v Speaker 1>This is this is why Monique is coming for you

0:20:42.800 --> 0:20:46.200
<v Speaker 1>with the hair, with the hair ship. It's just like, yo, chill, Monique, chill.

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<v Speaker 1>Let me wear my fucking hat. You know. I'm sorry.

0:20:52.119 --> 0:20:52.960
<v Speaker 2>It's a bondy.

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<v Speaker 3>Same thing. But Monique is from a different time as well.

0:20:58.320 --> 0:20:59.719
<v Speaker 1>She's there, you know.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, I don't know how old Onnique is, but

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<v Speaker 3>she is from a time when people actually cared about

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<v Speaker 3>what they looked like, and people were tucking in things

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<v Speaker 3>and ironing.

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<v Speaker 2>Things, ironing things such thing as steaming. They were having

0:21:13.160 --> 0:21:15.960
<v Speaker 2>an ironing board and iron the fucking I mean, they

0:21:15.960 --> 0:21:17.360
<v Speaker 2>would hit those corners so.

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<v Speaker 3>Fucking the pleats on the pants be.

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<v Speaker 1>Christy Christy, Yeah, I can iron the fuck out of

0:21:25.080 --> 0:21:28.960
<v Speaker 1>some clothes, honestly, just from learning from my parents, just

0:21:29.000 --> 0:21:31.119
<v Speaker 1>from them being like, you're not going outside with the

0:21:31.119 --> 0:21:35.080
<v Speaker 1>wrinkley shirt. Absolutely not. I remember when I started wearing

0:21:37.400 --> 0:21:41.480
<v Speaker 1>I started wearing like straighter suits, you know, like more

0:21:41.520 --> 0:21:45.520
<v Speaker 1>slim fitting suits, and they immediately were just like, what's

0:21:45.560 --> 0:21:49.440
<v Speaker 1>going on, boss, Like are you okay? The whole they

0:21:49.440 --> 0:21:51.800
<v Speaker 1>wanted to have a whole conversation just because I was

0:21:51.840 --> 0:21:52.720
<v Speaker 1>wearing tighter bluffs.

0:21:52.760 --> 0:21:53.600
<v Speaker 2>They thought you were gay.

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<v Speaker 5>They thought I was gay, Yeah, hundred percent.

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<v Speaker 1>They sat you down and though, uh huh yeah, it's

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<v Speaker 1>just like so your your your clothes are fitting a

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<v Speaker 1>little bit more nicely snug. It's more snug, yeah, right,

0:22:07.200 --> 0:22:10.159
<v Speaker 1>And I was like, come on, you guys, can we

0:22:10.200 --> 0:22:11.480
<v Speaker 1>can do better?

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<v Speaker 3>Like it's the European cut. They're like the.

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<v Speaker 1>European cut, right, Okay, Okay.

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<v Speaker 2>That's the style. It's a truly style. But I have

0:22:20.680 --> 0:22:24.760
<v Speaker 2>to understand that, like they have been through so much,

0:22:25.160 --> 0:22:27.760
<v Speaker 2>and so if they want to be really particular about

0:22:27.800 --> 0:22:32.119
<v Speaker 2>what we're wearing, I'll let it slide. Sometimes. Like me,

0:22:32.240 --> 0:22:36.240
<v Speaker 2>growing up, my skirts had to be so long, yes,

0:22:36.480 --> 0:22:39.879
<v Speaker 2>because my arms were long. They're like, no lady should

0:22:39.960 --> 0:22:43.000
<v Speaker 2>have a skirt. And you know, my family is not immigrants,

0:22:43.040 --> 0:22:47.480
<v Speaker 2>but they are very like old fashioned and very church going.

0:22:47.920 --> 0:22:51.440
<v Speaker 2>You know, no lady should have a skirt shorter than

0:22:51.520 --> 0:22:55.439
<v Speaker 2>where her her middle finger hits on the leg. And

0:22:55.520 --> 0:22:57.800
<v Speaker 2>I was the one had long as I could hit

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<v Speaker 2>the top of a shelf, so long.

0:23:02.280 --> 0:23:05.520
<v Speaker 1>They weren't encounting. They weren't accounting for the reach.

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<v Speaker 3>No Sydney, because Sydney can dunk. I've seen it.

0:23:08.359 --> 0:23:10.080
<v Speaker 5>Yeah, I believe it.

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<v Speaker 2>They had me looking like a Mormon every single day.

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, why is the skirt? This is not

0:23:14.880 --> 0:23:16.800
<v Speaker 2>a skirt. You might as well put me in pants.

0:23:17.040 --> 0:23:20.359
<v Speaker 2>Oh no, no, no, No lady would wear pants. No, no, no,

0:23:20.480 --> 0:23:22.480
<v Speaker 2>young ladies should wear pants. That's for the men.

0:23:23.480 --> 0:23:26.280
<v Speaker 3>So your your great aunts and stuff didn't wear pants.

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<v Speaker 2>No, she never wore pants. She always wore skirts. It

0:23:29.200 --> 0:23:32.080
<v Speaker 2>didn't matter what the weather was, It didn't matter if

0:23:32.119 --> 0:23:37.680
<v Speaker 2>her like vericose veins were popping and she was wearing

0:23:37.720 --> 0:23:39.960
<v Speaker 2>her skirts and they she would hit. They would be

0:23:40.040 --> 0:23:45.680
<v Speaker 2>so fucking long. I'm like auntie gowns and the beautiful

0:23:45.720 --> 0:23:49.000
<v Speaker 2>girl she would have, she would have a slip underneath

0:23:49.040 --> 0:23:51.720
<v Speaker 2>the skirt. She would never wear a dress without a.

0:23:51.680 --> 0:23:53.359
<v Speaker 3>Slip and you could see the slip.

0:23:53.880 --> 0:23:55.840
<v Speaker 1>Yeah. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>When I was little, my mother wore skirts, and I

0:23:58.200 --> 0:24:00.800
<v Speaker 3>remember when she shifted back to pants, because I have

0:24:00.840 --> 0:24:03.600
<v Speaker 3>pictures of her in like Europe in short ash jeans

0:24:03.640 --> 0:24:07.119
<v Speaker 3>and booty shorts. But when we were young, she only

0:24:07.119 --> 0:24:09.760
<v Speaker 3>would wear dresses or skirts, and I used to complain

0:24:09.800 --> 0:24:12.479
<v Speaker 3>about it because she will put me in them for school. Like,

0:24:12.920 --> 0:24:15.639
<v Speaker 3>my mom's big thing was the first day of school

0:24:15.680 --> 0:24:18.720
<v Speaker 3>every year, right, So on the first day of school,

0:24:18.760 --> 0:24:22.440
<v Speaker 3>we had to wear a skirt or a dress, no pants. Yeah,

0:24:22.920 --> 0:24:26.000
<v Speaker 3>And that was until I got I think until I

0:24:26.040 --> 0:24:30.359
<v Speaker 3>got to high school. It was like, Babe, I'm putting

0:24:30.359 --> 0:24:34.080
<v Speaker 3>on these jeans today, and you gotta let me wear

0:24:34.080 --> 0:24:34.840
<v Speaker 3>these jeans.

0:24:35.560 --> 0:24:41.080
<v Speaker 1>You gotta let me fly, let me put these jeans,

0:24:41.359 --> 0:24:41.720
<v Speaker 1>all that.

0:24:41.960 --> 0:24:44.880
<v Speaker 3>But she wasn't picking my clothes out. I think after

0:24:44.960 --> 0:24:47.000
<v Speaker 3>kindergarten I told her I wanted to dress myself and

0:24:47.040 --> 0:24:48.960
<v Speaker 3>she let me, but it had to be a skirt

0:24:49.000 --> 0:24:51.159
<v Speaker 3>on the first day. That was like, yeah, there was

0:24:51.280 --> 0:24:54.880
<v Speaker 3>no negotiating that. Yeah, And now.

0:24:54.760 --> 0:24:58.639
<v Speaker 1>So I will I will say I just started wearing

0:24:58.760 --> 0:25:05.399
<v Speaker 1>shorts three years ago. Really like, yeah, because of because

0:25:05.400 --> 0:25:08.679
<v Speaker 1>of like, wearing like that was the move. You gotta

0:25:09.080 --> 0:25:13.640
<v Speaker 1>have it either longer or under your knees, uh, your

0:25:13.640 --> 0:25:17.320
<v Speaker 1>shorts under your knees, or just wear pants or whatever,

0:25:17.480 --> 0:25:21.040
<v Speaker 1>because parents would always be like, well, what's going on here?

0:25:21.160 --> 0:25:25.439
<v Speaker 1>Your shorts are a little high recently? Yes, yes, it was.

0:25:25.640 --> 0:25:29.560
<v Speaker 1>It's masculinity. Ship is so toxic, dog, I can't even

0:25:30.040 --> 0:25:32.960
<v Speaker 1>I can't even lie. I've been I've been hating humidity

0:25:33.280 --> 0:25:36.359
<v Speaker 1>my entire life. And then I just realized I just

0:25:36.400 --> 0:25:39.600
<v Speaker 1>needed to wear shorts. That's all I needed. Just wear

0:25:39.600 --> 0:25:41.760
<v Speaker 1>shorts and you'd be fine. I'm out. I'm out here

0:25:41.760 --> 0:25:43.280
<v Speaker 1>in that letter right now, and I'm just like, oh,

0:25:43.320 --> 0:25:45.639
<v Speaker 1>this is nice. What the fuck? I'm moving through the

0:25:45.800 --> 0:25:47.360
<v Speaker 1>you know, moving through the humidity.

0:25:47.400 --> 0:25:48.560
<v Speaker 3>Fine, you got shorts?

0:25:48.960 --> 0:25:50.520
<v Speaker 1>Really realizing I got short.

0:25:52.440 --> 0:25:56.800
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, Garrett, Garrett has good legs, he's got a good vie.

0:25:57.960 --> 0:26:01.200
<v Speaker 1>I gotta I gotta high, I gotta high fucking high

0:26:01.280 --> 0:26:01.920
<v Speaker 1>thigh short on.

0:26:02.080 --> 0:26:05.919
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, Grek is solid, Like you know, he's not that tall,

0:26:06.160 --> 0:26:07.520
<v Speaker 2>but body.

0:26:07.280 --> 0:26:09.359
<v Speaker 5>Is not tall at all. You can say I'm not tall.

0:26:09.440 --> 0:26:10.639
<v Speaker 2>I didn't want to, you know, I wanted to give

0:26:10.680 --> 0:26:13.040
<v Speaker 2>you the benefit of the babe. You know I didn't

0:26:13.080 --> 0:26:15.320
<v Speaker 2>want to sell you under Yeah, that's not it.

0:26:15.760 --> 0:26:19.480
<v Speaker 3>You did kind of anyway. You said he's solid, he's

0:26:19.520 --> 0:26:20.399
<v Speaker 3>not that tall.

0:26:21.160 --> 0:26:23.159
<v Speaker 1>You're right right, you didn't even as soon as you

0:26:23.200 --> 0:26:24.840
<v Speaker 1>bring it up. It's just like, all right, I gotta

0:26:25.000 --> 0:26:25.920
<v Speaker 1>I gotta mention it.

0:26:26.600 --> 0:26:29.399
<v Speaker 2>He's he's a long five eight, that's what he is.

0:26:33.720 --> 0:26:36.480
<v Speaker 3>He's a long longer than the skirts we had to wear.

0:26:36.600 --> 0:26:42.360
<v Speaker 2>We love Oh god baby. Okay, so let's get into finances.

0:26:43.160 --> 0:26:47.840
<v Speaker 2>Did you have an allowance? And immigrants immigrant parents are

0:26:48.160 --> 0:26:55.320
<v Speaker 2>very about saving but also super cheaper, not cheap, not cheap, frugal.

0:26:55.240 --> 0:27:02.280
<v Speaker 1>Bogle frugal. Absolutely not absolutely. I didn't get an allowance

0:27:03.040 --> 0:27:05.560
<v Speaker 1>at all. I didn't know what that meant. I kept

0:27:05.600 --> 0:27:08.199
<v Speaker 1>on hearing the kids at school saying like, oh, what

0:27:08.240 --> 0:27:11.919
<v Speaker 1>are you spending your allowance on? And I got that

0:27:12.000 --> 0:27:15.440
<v Speaker 1>whole like corny conversation about like you want an allowance,

0:27:15.480 --> 0:27:17.200
<v Speaker 1>I allow you to live under my roof and blah

0:27:17.200 --> 0:27:23.320
<v Speaker 1>blah blah blah blah. Yeah, classic classic, but not never

0:27:23.720 --> 0:27:28.240
<v Speaker 1>never in life. I think I would get like one

0:27:28.320 --> 0:27:31.359
<v Speaker 1>hundred dollars to get close at the beginning of the

0:27:31.359 --> 0:27:33.400
<v Speaker 1>school year in high.

0:27:33.200 --> 0:27:38.320
<v Speaker 3>School, Wow, that's actually kind of guess I think. Yeah, yeah,

0:27:38.960 --> 0:27:40.760
<v Speaker 3>I mean they were giving you the money and you

0:27:40.760 --> 0:27:41.679
<v Speaker 3>could buy what you wanted.

0:27:41.920 --> 0:27:42.800
<v Speaker 1>You can buy it you want it.

0:27:42.880 --> 0:27:45.879
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, what can you get with one hundred dollars?

0:27:46.200 --> 0:27:49.159
<v Speaker 1>I think you can buy a gene? Like one gene.

0:27:49.200 --> 0:27:53.159
<v Speaker 3>No, listen, you go to Pretty Girl, you go to Strawberry,

0:27:53.240 --> 0:27:55.119
<v Speaker 3>you go to Jimmy Jazz, you go to v IM.

0:27:55.280 --> 0:27:57.040
<v Speaker 3>These are I don't know if those are in La.

0:27:57.160 --> 0:27:59.959
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, none of those places I knew you were in LA.

0:28:00.359 --> 0:28:02.399
<v Speaker 3>You can get more than one pair of jeans for

0:28:02.400 --> 0:28:04.520
<v Speaker 3>one hundred dollars. I mean, you can't get no shoes.

0:28:05.440 --> 0:28:06.959
<v Speaker 3>You can get a pair of sneakers.

0:28:07.040 --> 0:28:09.399
<v Speaker 1>So I'm just I'm just the jeans nigga at this point,

0:28:09.560 --> 0:28:12.040
<v Speaker 1>you know, just walking around with like three pairs of jeans,

0:28:12.119 --> 0:28:12.640
<v Speaker 1>I guess.

0:28:12.760 --> 0:28:14.560
<v Speaker 3>But they're they're ironed.

0:28:15.480 --> 0:28:18.760
<v Speaker 5>They're very ironed, smooth, very very crisp.

0:28:19.119 --> 0:28:19.320
<v Speaker 3>You know.

0:28:21.400 --> 0:28:23.200
<v Speaker 1>No, I never I never got an allowance. I started

0:28:23.200 --> 0:28:26.840
<v Speaker 1>working at like sixteen, Yeah, and just went from there.

0:28:27.440 --> 0:28:29.919
<v Speaker 3>I was at the pool yesterday and this lady was

0:28:29.920 --> 0:28:31.480
<v Speaker 3>talking to her kid, and she said she gets her

0:28:31.520 --> 0:28:34.560
<v Speaker 3>twenty dollars a week in allowance. I said, are y'all

0:28:34.680 --> 0:28:39.400
<v Speaker 3>rich twenty dollars a week. I didn't even have many

0:28:39.480 --> 0:28:44.239
<v Speaker 3>dollars a week in college. That is crazy to me. Yeah,

0:28:44.560 --> 0:28:46.160
<v Speaker 3>but yeah, I think my parents try to give us

0:28:46.160 --> 0:28:49.640
<v Speaker 3>an allowance, like for like a summer, and it lasted

0:28:49.680 --> 0:28:51.920
<v Speaker 3>like three weeks or maybe less than that. Probably we

0:28:51.920 --> 0:28:54.880
<v Speaker 3>were getting five dollars right, and then it was I'm.

0:28:54.720 --> 0:28:59.320
<v Speaker 1>Still getting if if I ever gave or if I

0:28:59.360 --> 0:29:01.880
<v Speaker 1>ever asked mom for money, like once I moved out

0:29:01.920 --> 0:29:05.360
<v Speaker 1>of the house, she's still hounding me for that, like

0:29:05.640 --> 0:29:08.960
<v Speaker 1>two hundred dollars that I might have borrowed a couple

0:29:08.920 --> 0:29:09.520
<v Speaker 1>of years ago.

0:29:09.760 --> 0:29:13.560
<v Speaker 2>Give your mother her money back. You're making so much money, Garrett,

0:29:13.600 --> 0:29:15.000
<v Speaker 2>give her your mother her money back.

0:29:15.600 --> 0:29:16.880
<v Speaker 5>I'm never giving it back.

0:29:17.120 --> 0:29:19.080
<v Speaker 1>She owed me this two hundred dollars.

0:29:21.040 --> 0:29:26.400
<v Speaker 3>What's your mother's name? Don don Right.

0:29:27.200 --> 0:29:30.120
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, one strikes fear in a weird way.

0:29:30.720 --> 0:29:31.400
<v Speaker 5>She wasn't nice.

0:29:31.480 --> 0:29:36.720
<v Speaker 1>Neither of my parents were nice. That's the other course. No, no, no, no,

0:29:36.600 --> 0:29:36.880
<v Speaker 1>no no.

0:29:37.200 --> 0:29:39.480
<v Speaker 2>They just started like, did you get hugs, I love

0:29:39.520 --> 0:29:40.440
<v Speaker 2>you kisses?

0:29:40.840 --> 0:29:44.240
<v Speaker 1>No no no, no, no, I mean I told you

0:29:44.280 --> 0:29:45.080
<v Speaker 1>this over the phone.

0:29:45.960 --> 0:29:47.520
<v Speaker 5>My dad and I just started saying I love you

0:29:47.560 --> 0:29:48.000
<v Speaker 5>to each other.

0:29:48.120 --> 0:29:51.640
<v Speaker 2>Last year. W Why why is that?

0:29:52.920 --> 0:29:55.720
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I don't know. I think I just started saying

0:29:55.760 --> 0:29:58.880
<v Speaker 1>it in conjunction with when I was saying it to

0:29:59.000 --> 0:30:02.160
<v Speaker 1>my mom. I would be like, love you guys, and

0:30:02.200 --> 0:30:08.200
<v Speaker 1>then he would be like he would like or whatever.

0:30:08.360 --> 0:30:10.560
<v Speaker 3>He'd be like what. They sat you back there. They

0:30:10.600 --> 0:30:12.560
<v Speaker 3>were like, we need to talk about this. Your clothes

0:30:12.600 --> 0:30:13.040
<v Speaker 3>are tight?

0:30:15.040 --> 0:30:19.160
<v Speaker 1>You you saying I love gods? What is alright? Alright,

0:30:19.200 --> 0:30:24.320
<v Speaker 1>Hollywood didn't change immediately that way.

0:30:24.560 --> 0:30:27.440
<v Speaker 3>We need to have another intervention here. This is crazy.

0:30:27.720 --> 0:30:30.320
<v Speaker 2>Oh my god, Derek, was that so hard for you?

0:30:30.400 --> 0:30:32.640
<v Speaker 2>Like it's just saying I love you to your friends

0:30:32.760 --> 0:30:36.480
<v Speaker 2>or your girlfriends, Like because Chrius Marie is who she's

0:30:36.520 --> 0:30:38.840
<v Speaker 2>a tough cookie, I mean, my god, tough.

0:30:40.040 --> 0:30:46.600
<v Speaker 1>I mean, I mean my genuinely my friends, Uh, try

0:30:46.680 --> 0:30:49.400
<v Speaker 1>to come up with a theory that I was gay

0:30:49.520 --> 0:30:52.000
<v Speaker 1>because of how hard it was for me to say

0:30:52.040 --> 0:30:54.560
<v Speaker 1>I love you to my friends. They're like, what's going

0:30:54.600 --> 0:30:56.880
<v Speaker 1>on there? Why? Why do you? Why do you hesitate

0:30:56.920 --> 0:30:58.040
<v Speaker 1>in all this stuff? And it was just like a

0:30:58.080 --> 0:31:00.720
<v Speaker 1>really wild situation. And then I had to like look

0:31:00.760 --> 0:31:02.280
<v Speaker 1>back and it was like, I don't think I've ever

0:31:02.360 --> 0:31:05.360
<v Speaker 1>said I love you to my dad before. Which is

0:31:05.360 --> 0:31:07.280
<v Speaker 1>the first man you should say I love you too.

0:31:07.880 --> 0:31:10.719
<v Speaker 1>And then I just went to my home left one

0:31:10.800 --> 0:31:12.640
<v Speaker 1>day and I was like yelling out, oh, I love

0:31:12.640 --> 0:31:16.240
<v Speaker 1>you Dad, and he's like, oh, I love you too.

0:31:16.640 --> 0:31:19.480
<v Speaker 1>And then it's just it's just been like that ever.

0:31:19.360 --> 0:31:22.480
<v Speaker 3>Since I said to my dad, Poppy, I love you.

0:31:22.640 --> 0:31:32.400
<v Speaker 3>He would say, all right, all right, close the door.

0:31:32.800 --> 0:31:36.720
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I love you. Turns every immigrant father into Steve Harvey.

0:31:36.800 --> 0:31:44.200
<v Speaker 1>He's just like, oh right, yeah right, where's your accent?

0:31:45.800 --> 0:31:46.360
<v Speaker 3>Okay?

0:31:46.560 --> 0:31:50.360
<v Speaker 2>Well, interesting, Well you have no problem now saying I

0:31:50.400 --> 0:31:52.840
<v Speaker 2>love you. I mean, I think maybe it just rolls

0:31:52.880 --> 0:31:56.320
<v Speaker 2>off my tongue too much. But I've definitely said I

0:31:56.360 --> 0:31:58.719
<v Speaker 2>love you before to Gerk and I don't know if

0:31:58.760 --> 0:32:00.600
<v Speaker 2>you said it back, but I felt I felt that

0:32:00.680 --> 0:32:03.160
<v Speaker 2>you felt you felt it.

0:32:02.560 --> 0:32:05.480
<v Speaker 1>I gave I give you a strong pat on the back. Yeah,

0:32:05.520 --> 0:32:10.960
<v Speaker 1>that's there, it is. Yeah, it's just.

0:32:10.920 --> 0:32:12.720
<v Speaker 3>Now, Sidney. Did people say I love you to you

0:32:12.840 --> 0:32:15.400
<v Speaker 3>a lot or do you a lot?

0:32:15.640 --> 0:32:20.920
<v Speaker 2>No? Not? Not rarely really, Like my Auntie would like

0:32:21.480 --> 0:32:24.800
<v Speaker 2>late night, like right before we're going to bed, before

0:32:25.040 --> 0:32:28.840
<v Speaker 2>like she has nodded off reading the Bible and stuff

0:32:28.880 --> 0:32:33.080
<v Speaker 2>like that. But she said whenever she would feel like

0:32:33.240 --> 0:32:38.040
<v Speaker 2>I got in trouble and I was internalizing how bad

0:32:38.080 --> 0:32:41.000
<v Speaker 2>I am. She's like, now you know I love you.

0:32:40.880 --> 0:32:43.480
<v Speaker 2>You know you know I love you. That that's when

0:32:43.480 --> 0:32:47.240
<v Speaker 2>she would reassure me that she loves me. But she

0:32:47.480 --> 0:32:50.680
<v Speaker 2>wasn't just saying I love you, not like not before.

0:32:50.680 --> 0:32:53.840
<v Speaker 2>I would leave the house to go, you know, to school,

0:32:54.920 --> 0:32:57.080
<v Speaker 2>or leave the house at all, and I think.

0:32:56.920 --> 0:33:00.320
<v Speaker 3>That's foreign to me. You would be eating yourself up,

0:33:00.360 --> 0:33:01.840
<v Speaker 3>and she would say, now you know, I love you.

0:33:01.920 --> 0:33:05.160
<v Speaker 3>My mother would just let me sit there, shut.

0:33:04.920 --> 0:33:07.080
<v Speaker 1>There in the closet with my arms.

0:33:06.960 --> 0:33:10.520
<v Speaker 3>Throng, and I couldn't. I remember one day I got

0:33:10.520 --> 0:33:12.600
<v Speaker 3>in trouble and I wrote on the wall next to

0:33:12.640 --> 0:33:15.160
<v Speaker 3>my bed I hate mummy, like I hate my mom,

0:33:15.720 --> 0:33:17.920
<v Speaker 3>and I forgot about it. I wrote it in pencil.

0:33:18.200 --> 0:33:21.440
<v Speaker 3>I walked through it like and she found it and

0:33:21.480 --> 0:33:23.520
<v Speaker 3>she was like, oh what is this? And I was like,

0:33:23.920 --> 0:33:28.320
<v Speaker 3>I don't even know. Everything's misspelled. It's height level with

0:33:28.360 --> 0:33:32.800
<v Speaker 3>my pillow. But I'm like I don't Yeah, yeah, damn

0:33:32.840 --> 0:33:35.840
<v Speaker 3>sis All right, well look.

0:33:35.680 --> 0:33:38.000
<v Speaker 2>I said I say it. I say it a lot.

0:33:38.200 --> 0:33:41.240
<v Speaker 2>I say it a lot because you know, you never

0:33:41.360 --> 0:33:45.680
<v Speaker 2>know what's gonna happen. But also it's it's okay to

0:33:45.760 --> 0:33:48.440
<v Speaker 2>say that if that's what you really feel, you know,

0:33:49.160 --> 0:33:51.600
<v Speaker 2>but what is too much?

0:33:51.800 --> 0:33:55.720
<v Speaker 1>Because yeah, what if it loses it's me? What if

0:33:55.760 --> 0:33:58.360
<v Speaker 1>you don't even know what you're saying, just doing a

0:33:58.400 --> 0:33:59.080
<v Speaker 1>call and repeat.

0:33:59.120 --> 0:34:02.680
<v Speaker 2>It's well, I am thirty six years old, so I

0:34:02.720 --> 0:34:05.200
<v Speaker 2>know what the fuck love is. I've been in love,

0:34:05.320 --> 0:34:08.440
<v Speaker 2>I have. I have tons of friends, you know, but

0:34:08.560 --> 0:34:11.360
<v Speaker 2>I do know that the love that I have, I

0:34:11.400 --> 0:34:13.879
<v Speaker 2>have abundance of it. I know that I'm good at

0:34:14.160 --> 0:34:17.480
<v Speaker 2>I'm great at giving. And when I say something, I

0:34:17.560 --> 0:34:20.560
<v Speaker 2>mean it, you know, unless I'm being shady and talking

0:34:20.600 --> 0:34:21.800
<v Speaker 2>to Marie about somebody.

0:34:21.840 --> 0:34:24.400
<v Speaker 3>But other than that, when you're being shady, you mean that.

0:34:24.440 --> 0:34:27.200
<v Speaker 3>Two sis, don't do that.

0:34:27.320 --> 0:34:29.400
<v Speaker 1>But what do you mean when you say you mean it?

0:34:29.600 --> 0:34:31.359
<v Speaker 1>Like you're just like, oh, I just mean it, you know,

0:34:31.480 --> 0:34:33.160
<v Speaker 1>Like can you put that into words?

0:34:33.160 --> 0:34:35.120
<v Speaker 5>Can you describe the love in the words?

0:34:35.560 --> 0:34:39.920
<v Speaker 2>Yes? If if you needed something, I would try to

0:34:40.080 --> 0:34:44.600
<v Speaker 2>do what I can to provide. Yeah, somebody that if

0:34:44.600 --> 0:34:49.000
<v Speaker 2>something happened to you, I would be very affected. Yeah,

0:34:49.120 --> 0:34:53.160
<v Speaker 2>even though very affected, I would I would absolutely be

0:34:53.440 --> 0:34:56.040
<v Speaker 2>affected if something happened to geth Right.

0:34:55.800 --> 0:34:57.880
<v Speaker 5>Now, yes, exactly.

0:34:57.960 --> 0:34:59.600
<v Speaker 3>It would be very affected.

0:35:00.440 --> 0:35:03.040
<v Speaker 2>Oh God, like me and Garrick. I met him when

0:35:03.080 --> 0:35:06.279
<v Speaker 2>I went to when we were at San Francisco for

0:35:06.400 --> 0:35:10.320
<v Speaker 2>the up Next Comedy Central, and me and Garrick talked

0:35:10.400 --> 0:35:13.440
<v Speaker 2>at the after party for most of the time and

0:35:13.480 --> 0:35:16.440
<v Speaker 2>we just like clicked or whatever. And then I always

0:35:16.480 --> 0:35:19.759
<v Speaker 2>made sure I kept in contact with him, and you know,

0:35:20.560 --> 0:35:23.520
<v Speaker 2>I felt like, oh man, I'm really good at keeping

0:35:23.560 --> 0:35:25.960
<v Speaker 2>in contact with people. But he could have been shady

0:35:26.000 --> 0:35:29.120
<v Speaker 2>and been like, I'm busy. You know, I'm in these writers' rooms.

0:35:29.640 --> 0:35:32.200
<v Speaker 2>I don't have time. But he was always cool and

0:35:32.239 --> 0:35:34.600
<v Speaker 2>he took me out to lunch, got me ramen.

0:35:34.920 --> 0:35:39.200
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, soak, I think Okay, So I think that the

0:35:39.239 --> 0:35:44.000
<v Speaker 1>barometer for me is if someone were to kill you

0:35:45.120 --> 0:35:48.600
<v Speaker 1>and I saw them in a courtroom and I didn't

0:35:48.680 --> 0:35:51.000
<v Speaker 1>go like fucking crazy or buck while like in like

0:35:51.040 --> 0:35:54.320
<v Speaker 1>those SBU episodes, that means.

0:35:54.040 --> 0:35:55.600
<v Speaker 5>That I love you or that means that I don't

0:35:55.640 --> 0:35:56.000
<v Speaker 5>love you.

0:35:56.040 --> 0:35:58.680
<v Speaker 1>If I can just watch them walk past and be like, oh, yeah,

0:35:58.680 --> 0:36:00.879
<v Speaker 1>that's crazy that they killed my friend. But I mean

0:36:00.920 --> 0:36:02.520
<v Speaker 1>I got to be a witness, you know.

0:36:03.120 --> 0:36:03.480
<v Speaker 2>Well, if you.

0:36:03.520 --> 0:36:05.319
<v Speaker 3>Happened in front of you, I think maybe you would

0:36:05.320 --> 0:36:08.919
<v Speaker 3>be more emotional. But my thing is this. We hung

0:36:08.960 --> 0:36:12.480
<v Speaker 3>out in San Francisco. We've had ramen together a couple

0:36:12.520 --> 0:36:14.200
<v Speaker 3>of times. I'm saying I love you.

0:36:14.360 --> 0:36:16.439
<v Speaker 4>Wait, yeah, Sidney, did you say I love you after

0:36:16.440 --> 0:36:19.480
<v Speaker 4>that first meeting at the end of that first no, no, no, no.

0:36:19.920 --> 0:36:22.759
<v Speaker 2>This is like years later, that's that's been hours ago.

0:36:23.520 --> 0:36:23.800
<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

0:36:24.840 --> 0:36:27.239
<v Speaker 2>I probably said I love you, like you know, two

0:36:27.360 --> 0:36:29.200
<v Speaker 2>years after our friends.

0:36:29.360 --> 0:36:32.759
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, it's still it's weird to me, babe. I mean

0:36:32.840 --> 0:36:34.919
<v Speaker 3>I would watch sid Can Cook and you would say

0:36:34.960 --> 0:36:36.919
<v Speaker 3>love you to everything.

0:36:38.000 --> 0:36:40.200
<v Speaker 1>Everything. You can't do that. It was like, you can't

0:36:40.239 --> 0:36:40.600
<v Speaker 1>do that.

0:36:41.680 --> 0:36:44.400
<v Speaker 4>You brought me, you brought me on for a second

0:36:44.440 --> 0:36:46.360
<v Speaker 4>for sid Can Cook, and at the end of it,

0:36:46.440 --> 0:36:49.239
<v Speaker 4>you say I love you and I just left. I

0:36:49.320 --> 0:36:51.560
<v Speaker 4>was like, and then people in the chat were like,

0:36:51.640 --> 0:36:53.880
<v Speaker 4>he didn't say it back, and I was like, I don't.

0:36:54.040 --> 0:36:56.600
<v Speaker 4>I don't know, I don't know what to do, right,

0:36:56.680 --> 0:36:59.880
<v Speaker 4>But like that's I'm kind of stuck in a bye.

0:37:00.320 --> 0:37:02.960
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, but it's very funny.

0:37:02.640 --> 0:37:05.160
<v Speaker 3>Pressure on other people to say it back, and it's like,

0:37:06.520 --> 0:37:11.120
<v Speaker 3>that's not that Andrew. I don't know what your background is,

0:37:11.160 --> 0:37:12.840
<v Speaker 3>but I feel like you got one of those moms

0:37:12.880 --> 0:37:16.160
<v Speaker 3>that didn't say it a lot, or she didn't say

0:37:16.200 --> 0:37:19.800
<v Speaker 3>it yeah right, So like everybody is not as free

0:37:19.840 --> 0:37:22.879
<v Speaker 3>with saying the words I love you. But it's also

0:37:22.960 --> 0:37:25.640
<v Speaker 3>different when you say love you as opposed to I

0:37:25.800 --> 0:37:29.120
<v Speaker 3>love you, right, or sometimes somebody throw back like a

0:37:29.440 --> 0:37:31.920
<v Speaker 3>love you, and then you be like love you, and

0:37:31.920 --> 0:37:33.240
<v Speaker 3>you're like love you.

0:37:33.320 --> 0:37:37.440
<v Speaker 1>But it's very nice. I don't want to sound unappreciative.

0:37:37.800 --> 0:37:41.120
<v Speaker 2>All your niggas about you.

0:37:41.480 --> 0:37:44.040
<v Speaker 1>Next next time you say love you, I'm just gonna

0:37:44.040 --> 0:37:44.840
<v Speaker 1>say why.

0:37:46.040 --> 0:37:48.640
<v Speaker 3>I'm going to say, prove it.

0:37:47.960 --> 0:37:52.080
<v Speaker 1>Prove it I did right?

0:37:52.160 --> 0:37:54.680
<v Speaker 5>Now, would you avenge me? It's a real question.

0:37:55.360 --> 0:37:58.200
<v Speaker 3>How much would you set the limit to my goal fundme?

0:38:00.400 --> 0:38:04.920
<v Speaker 2>Well, I would want it to be realistic, So I

0:38:04.960 --> 0:38:08.520
<v Speaker 2>don't want to say, you know, one hundred thousand dollars

0:38:08.560 --> 0:38:12.040
<v Speaker 2>if I know, if I know, your followers ain't got

0:38:12.160 --> 0:38:16.400
<v Speaker 2>it like that. But Maria is you know, very verified,

0:38:16.440 --> 0:38:18.239
<v Speaker 2>and she has people who are obsessed, so I know

0:38:18.320 --> 0:38:20.480
<v Speaker 2>that she would get the money. And Garrick, I mean,

0:38:20.560 --> 0:38:24.959
<v Speaker 2>you know nothing but successful people in LA, so they.

0:38:24.840 --> 0:38:30.920
<v Speaker 1>Would would still not give one hundred thousand dollars to my.

0:38:31.040 --> 0:38:34.279
<v Speaker 3>Let's set at the thirty six thirty six fields so.

0:38:34.880 --> 0:38:38.560
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, enough, because it's enough to cover.

0:38:39.160 --> 0:38:42.080
<v Speaker 5>The funeral costs. You know, we like that's all I need.

0:38:42.120 --> 0:38:44.279
<v Speaker 3>We hold that casket? Is how much? How much is

0:38:44.320 --> 0:38:44.680
<v Speaker 3>a casket?

0:38:45.320 --> 0:38:48.080
<v Speaker 2>I want my friend. I want my friends going home,

0:38:48.520 --> 0:38:51.960
<v Speaker 2>going away party, dope, Okay. I don't want to skim.

0:38:52.200 --> 0:38:53.560
<v Speaker 2>I don't want to be cheap. I don't want to

0:38:53.560 --> 0:38:55.920
<v Speaker 2>get you a regular old box. You know what I'm saying.

0:38:56.200 --> 0:38:57.960
<v Speaker 2>I want you to get to get you nice flowers.

0:38:57.960 --> 0:38:59.560
<v Speaker 2>I want to be a good funeral.

0:38:59.200 --> 0:39:01.000
<v Speaker 3>Home top shell, embodied fluid.

0:39:01.320 --> 0:39:03.880
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I want that. I want the embombing fluid to

0:39:03.920 --> 0:39:05.359
<v Speaker 2>have dul Say in it, you know what I mean?

0:39:05.440 --> 0:39:09.080
<v Speaker 1>Like I just put put me in the ground raw,

0:39:09.880 --> 0:39:10.720
<v Speaker 1>like I don't need.

0:39:13.360 --> 0:39:16.440
<v Speaker 3>Garbage bags?

0:39:17.640 --> 0:39:20.080
<v Speaker 2>Are you serious? No way No.

0:39:20.120 --> 0:39:21.520
<v Speaker 3>I think I want to be cremated.

0:39:22.640 --> 0:39:28.040
<v Speaker 1>But that's expensive too, isn't they up the.

0:39:27.960 --> 0:39:29.280
<v Speaker 2>Car thousands of dollars?

0:39:30.800 --> 0:39:32.680
<v Speaker 3>I want to be I want to be cremated, and

0:39:32.719 --> 0:39:34.560
<v Speaker 3>I want people to be able to follow along with

0:39:34.600 --> 0:39:37.399
<v Speaker 3>the body's journey like a Domino's pizza. Like I want

0:39:37.400 --> 0:39:43.799
<v Speaker 3>them to be like they putting they putting the toppings on,

0:39:43.840 --> 0:39:47.560
<v Speaker 3>the the lashes on, like I want yeah to be

0:39:47.640 --> 0:39:50.719
<v Speaker 3>like Davante is working on the booty neck, like just

0:39:52.160 --> 0:39:52.839
<v Speaker 3>that's what I want.

0:39:55.280 --> 0:39:58.760
<v Speaker 2>His funeral is a big deal in like like parents

0:39:58.760 --> 0:39:59.759
<v Speaker 2>who are immigrants.

0:40:01.320 --> 0:40:03.399
<v Speaker 3>I'll tell you, I'll tell you what a big deal

0:40:03.600 --> 0:40:10.480
<v Speaker 3>was for me. Church school, That was it. Church and school, Church,

0:40:10.640 --> 0:40:15.879
<v Speaker 3>church and school, school, church, family, that's it.

0:40:16.239 --> 0:40:19.000
<v Speaker 1>Yeah. Yeah, I've never seen a group of people more

0:40:19.080 --> 0:40:22.719
<v Speaker 1>upset about the separation of church and state than immigrants,

0:40:22.800 --> 0:40:25.840
<v Speaker 1>you know, like they want they want church to govern

0:40:26.120 --> 0:40:28.240
<v Speaker 1>the rest of everybody else's lives.

0:40:29.920 --> 0:40:32.040
<v Speaker 5>So like church was the biggest deal.

0:40:32.200 --> 0:40:33.880
<v Speaker 3>I feel like you guys went to Sunday school.

0:40:34.640 --> 0:40:38.000
<v Speaker 2>No, you went to school on Saturday, Saturday, Saturday school,

0:40:38.160 --> 0:40:38.960
<v Speaker 2>Saturday school.

0:40:39.880 --> 0:40:43.880
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, it sucks, I'm sorry. Like it called it Sabbath school.

0:40:43.920 --> 0:40:47.680
<v Speaker 1>So we observed the Sabbath like Jewish people do. So

0:40:47.880 --> 0:40:52.400
<v Speaker 1>Friday nights everything had to be cut off. No secular

0:40:52.520 --> 0:40:58.800
<v Speaker 1>activity until suns It was secular noun, secular, no fun, nothing,

0:40:59.200 --> 0:41:03.239
<v Speaker 1>nothing at all until Saturday night. So that period of

0:41:03.320 --> 0:41:06.799
<v Speaker 1>time sunset to sunset, we were just.

0:41:08.360 --> 0:41:08.880
<v Speaker 5>Miserable.

0:41:08.920 --> 0:41:16.360
<v Speaker 1>Honestly, y'all were reading what just anything, watching TBN, watching

0:41:16.760 --> 0:41:23.720
<v Speaker 1>children's uh fucking Christian activity movies or whatever that details.

0:41:24.080 --> 0:41:26.759
<v Speaker 1>Mister bean, we couldn't even watch mister Bean though. I like,

0:41:26.840 --> 0:41:28.239
<v Speaker 1>we couldn't do anything.

0:41:28.800 --> 0:41:30.640
<v Speaker 2>And when did y'all when were you able to.

0:41:30.680 --> 0:41:33.200
<v Speaker 1>Escape Saturday night?

0:41:33.640 --> 0:41:35.840
<v Speaker 2>No? I mean, I mean like when you didn't have

0:41:35.880 --> 0:41:40.360
<v Speaker 2>to do you didn't have to observe any sun down.

0:41:40.520 --> 0:41:46.320
<v Speaker 1>I was out, I was gone. I stopped going fucking

0:41:46.440 --> 0:41:49.200
<v Speaker 1>when I moved out twenty three, So all.

0:41:49.080 --> 0:41:52.120
<v Speaker 3>Through high school to go to parties on Friday nights.

0:41:52.520 --> 0:41:54.799
<v Speaker 1>No Friday night parties. So like when everybody was like,

0:41:54.840 --> 0:41:56.360
<v Speaker 1>oh man, I can't wait for the weekend, you know,

0:41:56.440 --> 0:41:59.800
<v Speaker 1>all that shit, nothing that I was not even excited.

0:42:00.000 --> 0:42:01.840
<v Speaker 3>It was just like, well, I got to buy candlelight.

0:42:02.239 --> 0:42:06.120
<v Speaker 1>I've gotta be yes exactly, just like reading the Bible

0:42:06.160 --> 0:42:08.200
<v Speaker 1>and just trying not to get the candle on the

0:42:08.239 --> 0:42:10.240
<v Speaker 1>page and so just burst into flames.

0:42:10.360 --> 0:42:13.640
<v Speaker 2>Derek, how are you so cool now? Like you I'm not.

0:42:14.320 --> 0:42:17.799
<v Speaker 2>I am not. You've only had a short period to

0:42:17.920 --> 0:42:21.800
<v Speaker 2>like get your swag together, get close like you have style,

0:42:22.600 --> 0:42:27.000
<v Speaker 2>you know how. I'm sure you lost your virginity late

0:42:27.040 --> 0:42:27.520
<v Speaker 2>in the game.

0:42:28.080 --> 0:42:33.479
<v Speaker 1>Late in the game. Oh god, I was twenty one, but.

0:42:33.400 --> 0:42:35.080
<v Speaker 3>You were so you were still so but you lost

0:42:35.080 --> 0:42:36.960
<v Speaker 3>your virginity on Thursday because.

0:42:38.640 --> 0:42:41.840
<v Speaker 1>I couldn't. Yeah, I couldn't go out right, I couldn't

0:42:41.880 --> 0:42:42.640
<v Speaker 1>go out, So.

0:42:42.560 --> 0:42:45.400
<v Speaker 2>You were losing your virginity like during the working.

0:42:46.520 --> 0:42:50.960
<v Speaker 1>It sucks. Yeah. It wasn't even like a party situation.

0:42:51.080 --> 0:42:54.520
<v Speaker 1>It was like in a park, fucking I was upset.

0:42:55.719 --> 0:42:56.440
<v Speaker 3>You were upset?

0:42:56.840 --> 0:42:59.279
<v Speaker 1>Was she? She was upset as well.

0:42:59.400 --> 0:43:01.360
<v Speaker 2>She didn't have a bed to land. What was this

0:43:01.440 --> 0:43:02.280
<v Speaker 2>on a park bench?

0:43:02.600 --> 0:43:03.360
<v Speaker 1>What this was?

0:43:03.440 --> 0:43:03.520
<v Speaker 4>Like?

0:43:03.560 --> 0:43:06.520
<v Speaker 1>We're we're both at home, so it was either her

0:43:06.560 --> 0:43:09.480
<v Speaker 1>place or my place, or her parents place or my

0:43:09.600 --> 0:43:10.400
<v Speaker 1>parents place.

0:43:11.000 --> 0:43:12.560
<v Speaker 5>We were just like, what about this park?

0:43:13.200 --> 0:43:16.239
<v Speaker 1>And in a in our car, and it's like, let's

0:43:16.239 --> 0:43:18.719
<v Speaker 1>make this as special as possible. And she wasn't. She

0:43:18.800 --> 0:43:19.319
<v Speaker 1>wasn't a virgin.

0:43:19.400 --> 0:43:22.919
<v Speaker 2>I was so so a thirty five year old woman?

0:43:25.360 --> 0:43:25.680
<v Speaker 2>Were you?

0:43:27.640 --> 0:43:31.080
<v Speaker 3>I was taking an I was Oh did she know

0:43:31.239 --> 0:43:33.200
<v Speaker 3>you were a virgin before?

0:43:33.440 --> 0:43:38.520
<v Speaker 1>I mean I mean yeah, yeah she did. After she

0:43:38.600 --> 0:43:40.960
<v Speaker 1>was just like, oh, why are you? Why are you

0:43:41.040 --> 0:43:45.040
<v Speaker 1>moving like that? Why are you so robotic? What's going on?

0:43:45.960 --> 0:43:48.360
<v Speaker 3>Because we're in a Toyota Corolla. That's why I'm moving.

0:43:51.400 --> 0:43:54.839
<v Speaker 1>To use the car as an excuse with.

0:43:54.840 --> 0:43:57.400
<v Speaker 2>The seat all the way back, so like that's moving

0:43:57.480 --> 0:43:58.360
<v Speaker 2>weird m.

0:43:58.520 --> 0:43:59.800
<v Speaker 3>Hm in their acted.

0:44:00.080 --> 0:44:05.000
<v Speaker 1>Please just think there's a backseat of a Pontiac G five.

0:44:05.520 --> 0:44:08.239
<v Speaker 1>So it was a two door and we both had

0:44:08.239 --> 0:44:12.239
<v Speaker 1>to like scrunch into the back and just like that

0:44:12.280 --> 0:44:15.279
<v Speaker 1>sounds try try hard.

0:44:14.560 --> 0:44:18.160
<v Speaker 2>You are odd. I'm gonna say that you're odd.

0:44:18.280 --> 0:44:21.359
<v Speaker 1>I I'm glad you're I'm glad you're getting to know me.

0:44:22.960 --> 0:44:25.799
<v Speaker 2>Every time I like have hung out with you, or

0:44:25.920 --> 0:44:27.600
<v Speaker 2>like I see the stuff that you post him, Like

0:44:27.920 --> 0:44:32.560
<v Speaker 2>you know, he's a very reserve person but fun, but

0:44:32.600 --> 0:44:35.600
<v Speaker 2>like nobody knows your business like that and then they

0:44:35.640 --> 0:44:39.480
<v Speaker 2>know it now, well that's listen to this. Yeah, but

0:44:39.840 --> 0:44:42.440
<v Speaker 2>I think that makes you human. I don't like people

0:44:42.440 --> 0:44:45.319
<v Speaker 2>who are too secretive and make things like such a

0:44:45.320 --> 0:44:48.600
<v Speaker 2>big deal. And I think that's the problem with like parents.

0:44:48.600 --> 0:44:52.400
<v Speaker 2>Sometimes they're like they keep things so secretive. So I

0:44:52.560 --> 0:44:55.839
<v Speaker 2>know nothing about my mom. I know nothing nothing, how

0:44:55.880 --> 0:44:59.560
<v Speaker 2>she grew up, barely know how my grandmother like came

0:44:59.640 --> 0:45:02.960
<v Speaker 2>about of even getting pregnant and having my mom. It's like,

0:45:03.880 --> 0:45:06.360
<v Speaker 2>tell your story. Your story is important.

0:45:06.480 --> 0:45:10.520
<v Speaker 3>Honestly, I don't know. Before you said that, I never

0:45:10.640 --> 0:45:13.320
<v Speaker 3>even thought about my pregnant.

0:45:17.239 --> 0:45:21.239
<v Speaker 1>Yeah. Wow, I just had to sit here and think

0:45:21.320 --> 0:45:25.319
<v Speaker 1>about what my grandma's first name. Was like, it's like,

0:45:26.080 --> 0:45:27.480
<v Speaker 1>what is it? Is it?

0:45:27.480 --> 0:45:28.080
<v Speaker 5>It's Elaine.

0:45:28.280 --> 0:45:33.040
<v Speaker 2>I was like, Oh, it's beautiful and she's Trinidadian. Yeah,

0:45:33.560 --> 0:45:36.399
<v Speaker 2>do you speak Trinidadian to your it?

0:45:37.719 --> 0:45:41.200
<v Speaker 1>The sing the sing song comes out when I'm at home.

0:45:41.280 --> 0:45:42.600
<v Speaker 2>Can you give us an example?

0:45:43.080 --> 0:45:48.760
<v Speaker 3>Absolutely, Pretend you're talking about the garret to the store.

0:45:48.880 --> 0:45:50.680
<v Speaker 1>I'm not gonna I'm not gonna do that for my

0:45:51.080 --> 0:45:53.040
<v Speaker 1>your fucking thousands of followers.

0:45:53.360 --> 0:45:57.040
<v Speaker 3>It's not for you. It's actually it's for us.

0:45:58.160 --> 0:46:02.200
<v Speaker 1>I'm so sorry, undreds of thousands of followers. I can't

0:46:02.239 --> 0:46:04.560
<v Speaker 1>do this. I'm so sorry. I can't be that guy.

0:46:04.680 --> 0:46:05.760
<v Speaker 1>I can't be that person.

0:46:06.680 --> 0:46:10.680
<v Speaker 2>I just I don't know any Triadian people. So I

0:46:11.200 --> 0:46:11.919
<v Speaker 2>just want to know.

0:46:12.160 --> 0:46:14.440
<v Speaker 1>I mean, I mean, you can google it.

0:46:15.080 --> 0:46:17.960
<v Speaker 5>You gotta know trities. I think, well, they'll let you

0:46:18.000 --> 0:46:20.440
<v Speaker 5>know if they're also any.

0:46:20.360 --> 0:46:23.120
<v Speaker 2>Well you didn't, you didn't, you didn't. This is the

0:46:23.120 --> 0:46:23.600
<v Speaker 2>first time.

0:46:23.640 --> 0:46:27.279
<v Speaker 1>I mean, well, if they're if they're from there, I'm

0:46:27.280 --> 0:46:31.160
<v Speaker 1>from I'm born Los Angeles, so like, I'm not. I'm

0:46:31.160 --> 0:46:32.799
<v Speaker 1>not going to come out here and be like, yo,

0:46:32.920 --> 0:46:35.759
<v Speaker 1>I'm dad. I've been in the fucking bad lands all

0:46:35.760 --> 0:46:39.520
<v Speaker 1>that ship. It just doesn't work. It doesn't work. It's

0:46:39.600 --> 0:46:42.759
<v Speaker 1>like you're you're a coon. Do that, you know, say

0:46:42.800 --> 0:46:45.279
<v Speaker 1>you're from where you're from and then let people have,

0:46:46.120 --> 0:46:48.000
<v Speaker 1>uh have their origin. You know.

0:46:48.080 --> 0:46:49.040
<v Speaker 3>Do you have siblings?

0:46:49.960 --> 0:46:50.200
<v Speaker 1>I do.

0:46:50.360 --> 0:46:54.760
<v Speaker 5>I'm the youngest of three of an older sister, older brother. Yeah.

0:46:55.440 --> 0:46:57.680
<v Speaker 2>Oh and they're proud of you, they have to.

0:46:58.480 --> 0:47:00.880
<v Speaker 1>Yeah. Yeah, they're the ones who were like you should

0:47:00.880 --> 0:47:02.600
<v Speaker 1>probably I dropped out of school. I dropped out a.

0:47:04.239 --> 0:47:06.800
<v Speaker 5>Yeah, I know that was a big.

0:47:06.680 --> 0:47:12.480
<v Speaker 3>Tim that was trinidaddy, And you dropped a seven day advances.

0:47:11.960 --> 0:47:17.640
<v Speaker 2>You Yes, Okay. We're forty seven minutes in the podcast

0:47:17.800 --> 0:47:20.759
<v Speaker 2>and Garrett just dropped the bomb on us that he

0:47:20.800 --> 0:47:22.560
<v Speaker 2>did not finish school.

0:47:22.760 --> 0:47:24.479
<v Speaker 5>Didn't finish from an.

0:47:25.320 --> 0:47:28.720
<v Speaker 1>College, from an immigrant home. Kept it a secret until

0:47:28.760 --> 0:47:30.040
<v Speaker 1>I moved out.

0:47:30.239 --> 0:47:31.800
<v Speaker 2>What happened?

0:47:31.960 --> 0:47:37.120
<v Speaker 1>So I was I was going to school for two

0:47:37.200 --> 0:47:39.680
<v Speaker 1>years doing like mechanical engineering, and that's like you know,

0:47:39.760 --> 0:47:42.120
<v Speaker 1>the thing that can get your parents love or whatever.

0:47:42.360 --> 0:47:47.000
<v Speaker 3>Yes, yes, yes, doctor lawyer, engineer.

0:47:46.760 --> 0:47:47.799
<v Speaker 1>That's engineering.

0:47:48.120 --> 0:47:51.320
<v Speaker 5>That's it's only the three Yeah.

0:47:50.920 --> 0:47:51.359
<v Speaker 3>Doing that.

0:47:51.920 --> 0:47:55.560
<v Speaker 1>Went to the Improv and just like sat there at

0:47:55.719 --> 0:47:58.680
<v Speaker 1>their open mics on Tuesdays and I was just like,

0:47:58.719 --> 0:48:02.200
<v Speaker 1>maybe I should fucking try doing this and I would

0:48:02.200 --> 0:48:05.680
<v Speaker 1>just go every Tuesday. And then one time I remember

0:48:05.719 --> 0:48:07.920
<v Speaker 1>bringing up that maybe I wanted to switch to be

0:48:07.960 --> 0:48:10.040
<v Speaker 1>a lip major so that I can get like, you know,

0:48:10.080 --> 0:48:12.520
<v Speaker 1>the pen game down and all that shit, and they

0:48:12.560 --> 0:48:15.719
<v Speaker 1>were like no, and so I uh, I was like,

0:48:15.760 --> 0:48:17.160
<v Speaker 1>all right, let me go back to school. And then

0:48:17.200 --> 0:48:20.480
<v Speaker 1>they were like, you have to apply for loans now

0:48:20.560 --> 0:48:23.120
<v Speaker 1>because you're about to declare a major and all that stuff.

0:48:23.520 --> 0:48:24.600
<v Speaker 1>And I was like, I don't think I want to

0:48:24.600 --> 0:48:26.840
<v Speaker 1>do that, and I left and then I lied about

0:48:26.840 --> 0:48:29.560
<v Speaker 1>it for two or three years.

0:48:30.520 --> 0:48:34.919
<v Speaker 3>Not two or three years. Yeah, yeah, so how long

0:48:34.960 --> 0:48:37.040
<v Speaker 3>were you in school? For a year?

0:48:38.080 --> 0:48:39.080
<v Speaker 1>No, like two years?

0:48:40.280 --> 0:48:43.439
<v Speaker 2>It's fine, that's fine. It took me four years to realize, Yeah,

0:48:43.440 --> 0:48:45.759
<v Speaker 2>this shit ain't for me. I mean, my school kicked

0:48:45.760 --> 0:48:46.319
<v Speaker 2>me out, but.

0:48:46.280 --> 0:48:49.919
<v Speaker 1>It took me four years, fair enough.

0:48:50.719 --> 0:48:52.560
<v Speaker 2>And it took me four years, and we're like, you know,

0:48:52.640 --> 0:48:54.319
<v Speaker 2>maybe this is not really for me at all.

0:48:54.480 --> 0:48:56.400
<v Speaker 3>You got a doubt for your last semester.

0:48:58.000 --> 0:49:02.360
<v Speaker 2>No, I got kicked out. No, not my last semester.

0:49:02.440 --> 0:49:05.279
<v Speaker 2>It was the first semester of my senior year. But

0:49:05.360 --> 0:49:07.640
<v Speaker 2>I don't even know if I had enough credits to

0:49:07.680 --> 0:49:11.120
<v Speaker 2>be a senior. But I got kicked out for plagiarism.

0:49:11.600 --> 0:49:12.719
<v Speaker 5>Oh shit, yeah.

0:49:12.520 --> 0:49:14.520
<v Speaker 3>Everybody plagiarizes, but you got caught.

0:49:14.719 --> 0:49:16.320
<v Speaker 2>I got caught. I was so bad at it. I

0:49:17.400 --> 0:49:20.000
<v Speaker 2>had never plagiarized before. This was my first time out

0:49:20.000 --> 0:49:24.239
<v Speaker 2>the gate, out in the game of plagiarizing, and I

0:49:24.239 --> 0:49:27.319
<v Speaker 2>immediately got caught. And my professor was furious. He's like,

0:49:27.320 --> 0:49:29.560
<v Speaker 2>what do you think I'm fucking stupid? Then he said

0:49:29.600 --> 0:49:33.160
<v Speaker 2>I was like. I was like, I said, I hope

0:49:33.200 --> 0:49:34.960
<v Speaker 2>I can go to the dean and let them know

0:49:35.040 --> 0:49:38.239
<v Speaker 2>and maybe this will let me stay here. But no,

0:49:38.360 --> 0:49:40.040
<v Speaker 2>they were like, it doesn't matter that he cursed at

0:49:40.040 --> 0:49:41.040
<v Speaker 2>you have you have to get the.

0:49:41.040 --> 0:49:44.600
<v Speaker 3>Fun curse because you did something wrong. Yeah, that is

0:49:44.680 --> 0:49:48.000
<v Speaker 3>so wild. Plagiarizing. You know, you gotta switch some words around.

0:49:48.080 --> 0:49:53.640
<v Speaker 3>You gotta look up synonyms and antonyms, and then if

0:49:53.680 --> 0:49:55.520
<v Speaker 3>you google something, you can't go to the first page,

0:49:55.520 --> 0:49:57.360
<v Speaker 3>first result. You gotta squaw.

0:49:58.600 --> 0:50:03.319
<v Speaker 2>First result. Bitch. Just I was desperate. I just needed

0:50:03.320 --> 0:50:04.319
<v Speaker 2>to turn something in.

0:50:04.719 --> 0:50:06.319
<v Speaker 3>You know how many people have turned in that exact

0:50:06.360 --> 0:50:07.239
<v Speaker 3>paper that you turned in.

0:50:07.640 --> 0:50:09.440
<v Speaker 2>That's what he said. He said, I've been doing this

0:50:09.480 --> 0:50:12.640
<v Speaker 2>for twenty years. You think I don't know about this,

0:50:12.800 --> 0:50:16.920
<v Speaker 2>I said, sir, I've I was in a really bad place.

0:50:17.000 --> 0:50:19.800
<v Speaker 2>I was like, I'm depressed. And that was the first

0:50:19.800 --> 0:50:23.440
<v Speaker 2>time a white person just had no response to depression.

0:50:23.440 --> 0:50:31.080
<v Speaker 3>They were like, that is insane. So, Garrett, where were

0:50:31.080 --> 0:50:33.160
<v Speaker 3>you going for those three years you were leaving the

0:50:33.200 --> 0:50:35.280
<v Speaker 3>house to pretend to go to school. Where was you going?

0:50:35.360 --> 0:50:38.880
<v Speaker 1>Yeah? I was working at j C. Penny trying to get.

0:50:38.840 --> 0:50:43.000
<v Speaker 5>Enough money to fucking bove out and wine.

0:50:43.640 --> 0:50:45.920
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, so you heeded, but you were still going to

0:50:46.080 --> 0:50:46.719
<v Speaker 3>You were going to work.

0:50:46.840 --> 0:50:49.439
<v Speaker 1>Yeah. I was like, I was like, oh, mom, I'm

0:50:49.560 --> 0:50:53.279
<v Speaker 1>i'm'a fucking work just to like get enough for the

0:50:53.440 --> 0:50:56.320
<v Speaker 1>for school and all this stuff and to live and

0:50:56.760 --> 0:51:01.759
<v Speaker 1>buy clothes and any excuse I could think of. And

0:51:01.800 --> 0:51:03.719
<v Speaker 1>then I was just doing like hell of shifts at

0:51:03.800 --> 0:51:09.680
<v Speaker 1>jac Fenny or Cole's or anything that would hire me

0:51:09.760 --> 0:51:12.239
<v Speaker 1>for like the season or something like that. A seasonal

0:51:12.280 --> 0:51:16.520
<v Speaker 1>work ac seasonal? Yes, Yes, well, absolutely.

0:51:16.120 --> 0:51:19.680
<v Speaker 2>Well, from j C Pennies to shooting a freaking pilot

0:51:19.800 --> 0:51:24.080
<v Speaker 2>in Atlanta. You're like, you're doing great.

0:51:24.440 --> 0:51:28.080
<v Speaker 1>I looked out. Yeah, yeah, yeah, what are you working

0:51:28.080 --> 0:51:28.359
<v Speaker 1>on now?

0:51:28.400 --> 0:51:29.719
<v Speaker 3>And how your parents feel about it?

0:51:30.760 --> 0:51:37.960
<v Speaker 1>They feel great right now? They're They definitely have brought

0:51:38.040 --> 0:51:42.440
<v Speaker 1>up that I should have stayed in engineering school. I mean,

0:51:42.480 --> 0:51:44.080
<v Speaker 1>you would have been great at it, right, And I

0:51:44.120 --> 0:51:47.480
<v Speaker 1>was like, Mom, I'm I could buy the house right now,

0:51:47.520 --> 0:51:49.840
<v Speaker 1>like I can, I can finish the more you like,

0:51:49.880 --> 0:51:51.319
<v Speaker 1>we can't listen, But.

0:51:51.560 --> 0:51:53.040
<v Speaker 2>Is that so garys okay?

0:51:53.080 --> 0:51:55.080
<v Speaker 1>Well no, no, no, no, no, not at all.

0:51:55.160 --> 0:51:55.440
<v Speaker 3>I was.

0:51:55.480 --> 0:51:57.160
<v Speaker 1>I was one hundred percent trying to flex on my

0:51:57.320 --> 0:51:59.319
<v Speaker 1>on my mom and she's like, I don't give a fuck.

0:52:01.280 --> 0:52:03.400
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I don't know why school is so important to

0:52:03.640 --> 0:52:06.920
<v Speaker 3>our parents. I don't know they from a different time.

0:52:07.000 --> 0:52:10.120
<v Speaker 3>But like I was talking to my dad about I

0:52:10.120 --> 0:52:14.200
<v Speaker 3>think Beyonce didn't finish high school and my dad was like, unbelievable,

0:52:14.360 --> 0:52:16.239
<v Speaker 3>she should go back and finished. And I was like,

0:52:16.600 --> 0:52:19.239
<v Speaker 3>she's worth half a billion dollars and he was like,

0:52:19.680 --> 0:52:21.600
<v Speaker 3>she don't know nothing, and I was like, whoa to

0:52:21.719 --> 0:52:23.279
<v Speaker 3>be high? He's gonna come catch it up.

0:52:23.840 --> 0:52:27.959
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, they're coming, and now that they know that, they're

0:52:27.960 --> 0:52:29.240
<v Speaker 1>coming hard.

0:52:29.360 --> 0:52:31.560
<v Speaker 2>But like, good, it's a good thing that she doesn't

0:52:31.600 --> 0:52:34.680
<v Speaker 2>know anything because she doesn't say much either, So she's fine.

0:52:34.960 --> 0:52:36.759
<v Speaker 2>Y'all really left me out there to drive.

0:52:37.600 --> 0:52:41.040
<v Speaker 3>Y'all about to drive? I mean, lots of people didn't

0:52:41.040 --> 0:52:45.319
<v Speaker 3>finish school, and they're they're all richer than us. They're

0:52:45.360 --> 0:52:47.719
<v Speaker 3>richer than most of the population. Actually, they're smarter than

0:52:47.760 --> 0:52:51.160
<v Speaker 3>most of the population. Because staying in school and taking

0:52:51.200 --> 0:52:54.520
<v Speaker 3>out unnecessary loans and stuff that you're paying until you're

0:52:54.560 --> 0:52:58.600
<v Speaker 3>fifty sixty seventy years old is dumb. Which is why that,

0:52:58.840 --> 0:53:01.000
<v Speaker 3>which is why I do not pay. I ignore them

0:53:01.000 --> 0:53:04.960
<v Speaker 3>every I got them on the do not call list.

0:53:07.680 --> 0:53:09.840
<v Speaker 2>Well, before we get out of here, Garrick, if you

0:53:09.880 --> 0:53:14.560
<v Speaker 2>have like three things that are like misconceptions about like

0:53:14.800 --> 0:53:18.000
<v Speaker 2>immigrant parents or children of immigrant parents, I would love

0:53:18.040 --> 0:53:21.200
<v Speaker 2>to hear misconceptions.

0:53:22.640 --> 0:53:27.080
<v Speaker 1>Now, y'all got it right for the most part. You

0:53:27.120 --> 0:53:28.879
<v Speaker 1>guys got it right. It's fine.

0:53:30.280 --> 0:53:33.600
<v Speaker 5>No, I uh, gold is great, it's real good.

0:53:34.120 --> 0:53:41.680
<v Speaker 1>Go eat it ship. We're not lame. I guess do

0:53:41.760 --> 0:53:42.239
<v Speaker 1>y'all cheat?

0:53:42.280 --> 0:53:44.279
<v Speaker 2>Do they cheat? Y'all cheat a lot. Stop it.

0:53:45.719 --> 0:53:48.880
<v Speaker 5>My niggas cheat. I don't, I don't, he said his nigga.

0:53:49.400 --> 0:53:51.160
<v Speaker 3>Well, you know you are the company.

0:53:50.600 --> 0:53:51.880
<v Speaker 5>My career be niggas.

0:53:52.400 --> 0:53:58.080
<v Speaker 3>Oh, oh, here's I have a question for you before

0:53:58.120 --> 0:54:04.239
<v Speaker 3>you go. Yeah, as as the child of immigrants, did

0:54:04.239 --> 0:54:05.920
<v Speaker 3>you get money from the tooth fairy and how much

0:54:05.960 --> 0:54:08.440
<v Speaker 3>were they giving you because these white kids and some

0:54:08.440 --> 0:54:12.480
<v Speaker 3>of these black kids are getting like they.

0:54:12.239 --> 0:54:16.480
<v Speaker 1>Cannot I cannot believe that that ship is still going

0:54:16.520 --> 0:54:21.920
<v Speaker 1>on they were immediately or that's just fake. God is

0:54:21.920 --> 0:54:24.759
<v Speaker 1>the only thing that's real, Santa Claus, all of it.

0:54:24.840 --> 0:54:30.880
<v Speaker 1>I remember my dad because he's in construction. He made

0:54:30.880 --> 0:54:34.680
<v Speaker 1>me take a tape measure, go to the chimney, measure

0:54:35.600 --> 0:54:39.279
<v Speaker 1>the chimney and say do you think a man could

0:54:39.320 --> 0:54:42.160
<v Speaker 1>fit down there? He put you on the roof and

0:54:42.160 --> 0:54:48.359
<v Speaker 1>its just no, no, no, no underneath yeah, yeah.

0:54:47.239 --> 0:54:48.000
<v Speaker 3>You on the roof.

0:54:52.280 --> 0:54:54.879
<v Speaker 1>He's like, nobody could fit in here. So of course

0:54:54.920 --> 0:54:55.319
<v Speaker 1>that's not.

0:54:57.400 --> 0:54:58.239
<v Speaker 3>Too fat to fist.

0:54:58.360 --> 0:55:02.640
<v Speaker 1>It was nine. It was nine asking for cookies. So

0:55:02.880 --> 0:55:05.200
<v Speaker 1>to you know, it's like I bought this ship, you know,

0:55:05.280 --> 0:55:05.960
<v Speaker 1>I bought all of this.

0:55:06.360 --> 0:55:08.440
<v Speaker 3>Yo, that's funny. So you didn't get any money. You

0:55:08.440 --> 0:55:10.120
<v Speaker 3>didn't get like a quarter under the pillow or nothing

0:55:10.160 --> 0:55:10.520
<v Speaker 3>like that like that.

0:55:10.640 --> 0:55:12.719
<v Speaker 1>I didn't get a quarter. I didn't get any of that.

0:55:12.800 --> 0:55:14.640
<v Speaker 1>And a lot of my teeth fell out at the

0:55:14.680 --> 0:55:18.120
<v Speaker 1>same time. So they were going to give you a

0:55:18.239 --> 0:55:20.480
<v Speaker 1>quarter for anyway.

0:55:20.880 --> 0:55:22.759
<v Speaker 3>They said that looked like that, like at least a

0:55:22.800 --> 0:55:25.200
<v Speaker 3>dollar fifty right there, yeah, right right.

0:55:26.800 --> 0:55:29.200
<v Speaker 5>Now, that's going to the mortgage again.

0:55:31.200 --> 0:55:33.200
<v Speaker 3>With my tooth under the pillow. And I woke up,

0:55:33.239 --> 0:55:34.680
<v Speaker 3>the tooth was still.

0:55:38.239 --> 0:55:41.279
<v Speaker 1>That's real ship like, that's exactly what yo.

0:55:42.800 --> 0:55:49.400
<v Speaker 3>They give me nothing. I was like, ohh and I

0:55:49.400 --> 0:55:50.799
<v Speaker 3>think they had that move where she looked at my

0:55:50.880 --> 0:55:52.400
<v Speaker 3>dad and he looked at her. But both of them

0:55:52.440 --> 0:55:55.160
<v Speaker 3>knew they weren't going to give me money, so nobody

0:55:55.200 --> 0:55:56.160
<v Speaker 3>went into the room to take the.

0:55:56.120 --> 0:55:59.520
<v Speaker 2>Tooth I got. I got money from like my great

0:55:59.560 --> 0:56:04.000
<v Speaker 2>aunt and uncles, but the quarters were so dingy. It

0:56:04.040 --> 0:56:06.799
<v Speaker 2>was like it was like it had been in their

0:56:06.880 --> 0:56:10.799
<v Speaker 2>pockets for years. It was no new money, no new

0:56:10.800 --> 0:56:12.839
<v Speaker 2>money at all. It's just like if they did give

0:56:12.880 --> 0:56:15.400
<v Speaker 2>me a dollar, it was something that had written numbers

0:56:15.480 --> 0:56:19.839
<v Speaker 2>written on it, maybe somebody's address, just real fucked up.

0:56:21.920 --> 0:56:24.879
<v Speaker 2>They would have like their medication prescription on there. It's

0:56:24.920 --> 0:56:28.760
<v Speaker 2>just real messy with the with the coinage and the dollars.

0:56:28.800 --> 0:56:30.640
<v Speaker 2>But at least I got more money than y'all.

0:56:30.800 --> 0:56:32.359
<v Speaker 1>So that's very true.

0:56:33.960 --> 0:56:36.839
<v Speaker 3>And that's why you're able to live in the lap

0:56:36.840 --> 0:56:40.359
<v Speaker 3>of luxury now, sis, and you can afford all those

0:56:40.400 --> 0:56:43.239
<v Speaker 3>cats that live in your house and for that, I'm

0:56:43.239 --> 0:56:44.200
<v Speaker 3>proud of you. Sis.

0:56:44.520 --> 0:56:49.640
<v Speaker 2>Thank you here, thank you, thank you Grek for being

0:56:49.719 --> 0:56:53.560
<v Speaker 2>such an amazing guess if you have anything a plug

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<v Speaker 2>plug plug away where people can catch your ass.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, Sam okay, booked, busy, blessed, blick, Okay. Well, I

0:57:19.320 --> 0:57:20.840
<v Speaker 3>think it's time for you to go to work, so

0:57:20.920 --> 0:57:24.120
<v Speaker 3>I guess we'll let you go. What do we say

0:57:24.120 --> 0:57:25.240
<v Speaker 3>to Garret before he leaves?

0:57:26.560 --> 0:57:28.240
<v Speaker 1>Thank you?

0:57:28.240 --> 0:57:29.440
<v Speaker 3>No, Andrew, that's the wrong answer.

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