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Speaker 1: gonna read this one right here, right now, ladies and

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Speaker 1: gentle me. It's time for the Strawberry letter. Well, my

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Speaker 1: good friend Shirley straw thank you, junior. Subject, my husband

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Speaker 1: has vanished. Dear Stephen Shirley. I' and this is not

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Speaker 1: from Milania. Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm Milannia Shrump. I'm a

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