WEBVTT - Bailey Brown: Public Misconceptions and Never-Before-Seen Moments from ‘Paradise’ | Happy Hour 0:00:03.200 --> 0:00:05.840 Hello everyone, and welcome back to Bachelor Happy Hour. 0:00:05.920 --> 0:00:09.600 I'm Rachel and I'm Cheerity, and today we have a 0:00:09.800 --> 0:00:12.960 very special guest from a grant season of The Bachelor 0:00:13.080 --> 0:00:17.440 and last season of Bachelor and Paradise. Everybody, welcome bay 0:00:17.600 --> 0:00:19.000 Lead to our podcast. 0:00:19.640 --> 0:00:22.680 Hially, I miss you guys. You guys look so beautiful. 0:00:23.079 --> 0:00:25.320 I miss you. I'm like, I'm sad that you're not 0:00:25.360 --> 0:00:26.840 in New York, but we want to talk about it. 0:00:26.960 --> 0:00:30.520 I know it's sadness, but like I will, we will 0:00:30.600 --> 0:00:32.120 be back, you know, visiting. 0:00:32.360 --> 0:00:36.960 Yeah, in due time. In Bailey. 0:00:37.080 --> 0:00:40.480 You look so beautiful and we have so many questions. 0:00:40.840 --> 0:00:44.400 But let's get into I mean life post Paradise. You 0:00:45.440 --> 0:00:48.400 came into the Bachelor world, you were already a social 0:00:48.400 --> 0:00:52.040 media influencer. How has that changed since Paradise. 0:00:53.280 --> 0:00:56.160 It's very funny because I feel like, actually since Paradise, 0:00:56.200 --> 0:00:57.920 I have almost like barely posted. 0:00:59.200 --> 0:01:01.279 I feel that I'm sometimes. 0:01:00.880 --> 0:01:04.440 It happens that I think and maybe a lot of 0:01:04.440 --> 0:01:06.680 people can attest this that have like gone on the show. 0:01:06.760 --> 0:01:08.399 But after I like kind of. 0:01:08.319 --> 0:01:11.480 Needed just like a mental break and like a mental crush, 0:01:11.520 --> 0:01:15.200 and I think it got so overwhelming. I think just 0:01:15.240 --> 0:01:17.560 having a lot of opinions, a lot of voices, a 0:01:17.560 --> 0:01:18.520 lot of things to. 0:01:18.520 --> 0:01:19.560 Kind of like keep up with. 0:01:20.080 --> 0:01:22.959 So I'm getting back into like posting again, which is 0:01:22.959 --> 0:01:25.640 really nice because it's always just like been a huge 0:01:25.680 --> 0:01:28.479 passion of mine and something I've like genuinely very much 0:01:28.760 --> 0:01:32.959 loved doing. So now I'm back getting back into pre 0:01:33.120 --> 0:01:36.479 Bachelor world of where I was like posting every single day, 0:01:36.640 --> 0:01:39.160 and it's been nice. Like I feel like it's a 0:01:39.160 --> 0:01:41.559 big part of like finding yourself, finding like a really 0:01:41.560 --> 0:01:46.000 good creative outlet that you enjoy so lowly but surely 0:01:46.800 --> 0:01:49.360 you know, we. 0:01:48.760 --> 0:01:49.560 We get it. 0:01:49.560 --> 0:01:53.120 It is crazy how they It of course is amazing 0:01:53.120 --> 0:01:55.200 for the platform, and you do so many things with 0:01:55.240 --> 0:01:58.040 your platform, but it does stifle your creativity in a 0:01:58.040 --> 0:02:01.280 way just because it could be so much. 0:02:01.080 --> 0:02:01.640 All the time. 0:02:02.240 --> 0:02:04.720 Yeah, what do you feel like is like probably the 0:02:04.720 --> 0:02:07.800 biggest misconception that you probably felt like you either had 0:02:07.800 --> 0:02:10.799 to defend or just like you wish people understood more 0:02:10.840 --> 0:02:13.560 about just like social media in general, because I do 0:02:13.680 --> 0:02:18.000 remember specifically like on Grant season when you were like, oh, 0:02:18.280 --> 0:02:20.040 just kidding, take the Sofia and me like it was 0:02:20.080 --> 0:02:21.720 so cute. I thought it was a cute bit but 0:02:21.800 --> 0:02:24.000 like you know, in this day and age, everyone's so 0:02:24.080 --> 0:02:25.200 sensitive to certain things. 0:02:26.240 --> 0:02:29.400 Yeah, I was like, oh, okay, I like. 0:02:29.480 --> 0:02:32.000 To like, clearly there's so much take a picture. 0:02:32.080 --> 0:02:35.440 Right, but like clearly there's some like you know, misunderstanding 0:02:35.520 --> 0:02:38.919 or misconceptions about you know, being an influencer whatever. 0:02:39.040 --> 0:02:41.360 So give us a little testament to that. 0:02:42.040 --> 0:02:44.560 Yeah, it's so funny that you asked that, because I 0:02:44.600 --> 0:02:47.480 feel like that's literally what was on my mind, Like 0:02:48.000 --> 0:02:51.560 after coming off of like Grand Season. Everyone I think 0:02:51.639 --> 0:02:55.360 kind of interpreted, especially episode one, of me as like 0:02:55.440 --> 0:03:01.480 being someone that's overly confident, very self absorbed. I don't 0:03:01.520 --> 0:03:03.480 think they really like got my sense of humor. I 0:03:03.520 --> 0:03:06.360 think they kind of like it maybe went over people's 0:03:06.360 --> 0:03:08.680 heads a little bit because I was like, oh, that's 0:03:08.680 --> 0:03:10.760 not what I was giving at all, because every single 0:03:10.760 --> 0:03:13.000 person in my life that has known me, like even 0:03:13.040 --> 0:03:15.240 people from like elementary school, were like, no, this is. 0:03:15.200 --> 0:03:16.160 Like very much Bailey. 0:03:16.240 --> 0:03:19.720 Like I've always been very much been like unapologetically myself. 0:03:20.120 --> 0:03:22.560 But I think sometimes when it feels like you have 0:03:22.600 --> 0:03:25.119 like a very hard exterior or like you don't really 0:03:25.160 --> 0:03:28.680 have depth, yeah, like and then you're very quickly shown 0:03:28.800 --> 0:03:31.880 like crying it's like a very unbalanced, you know, emotional 0:03:32.040 --> 0:03:33.960 state in that way. So I think going from Grant 0:03:34.000 --> 0:03:36.600 season coming off people being like, oh, she's very conceited, 0:03:36.680 --> 0:03:39.720 she's like very self absorbed, or like kind of even 0:03:39.760 --> 0:03:43.440 interpreting it as like I was in it for you know, 0:03:43.720 --> 0:03:46.800 the platform, when like everyone has a different reason of 0:03:46.920 --> 0:03:49.240 how the show finds them, or like if they apply 0:03:49.360 --> 0:03:51.600 for the show. I'm like, guys, I didn't apply, like 0:03:51.880 --> 0:03:54.360 they found me, and I like really thought long and 0:03:54.400 --> 0:03:56.440 hard about it, and I didn't even find a contract 0:03:56.480 --> 0:04:00.400 until like a night the literally the night before I 0:04:00.440 --> 0:04:02.760 agree to go, So it was like very last minute. 0:04:02.800 --> 0:04:05.040 There wasn't like all this thought put into it of 0:04:05.120 --> 0:04:07.480 like you know, oh this is going to do, you know, 0:04:07.560 --> 0:04:09.040 whatever it's going to be. And then I think coming 0:04:09.120 --> 0:04:12.360 up of Paradise, it was kind of it like flipped 0:04:12.360 --> 0:04:13.040 a switch. 0:04:12.760 --> 0:04:15.080 In that way of people interpreting. 0:04:14.480 --> 0:04:18.240 It as like I have low self esteem or I'm 0:04:18.279 --> 0:04:20.760 like very wishy washy, or and like, I think that's 0:04:20.800 --> 0:04:24.119 a very hard thing sometimes when both kind of feel 0:04:24.279 --> 0:04:26.480 very incorrect about who you are. 0:04:27.480 --> 0:04:29.640 And I think that's also kind of the beauty. 0:04:29.320 --> 0:04:31.760 Of where I'm like finding my own voice on my 0:04:32.240 --> 0:04:34.880 platforms now of where I'm like trying to show more 0:04:35.240 --> 0:04:37.320 of who I am because I feel like sometimes when 0:04:37.560 --> 0:04:39.400 people kind of like put a label on you where 0:04:39.400 --> 0:04:42.039 you're like, wait, that's literally not me at all, Like 0:04:42.560 --> 0:04:43.720 but actually I'm like the. 0:04:43.720 --> 0:04:45.680 Complete opposite of low self esteem in that way. 0:04:45.720 --> 0:04:47.840 Like my mom would like literally smack me if she 0:04:47.920 --> 0:04:50.880 thought I had low self esteem because she literally like, girl, 0:04:51.000 --> 0:04:53.880 you can't do anything if you're people like. 0:04:53.880 --> 0:04:54.880 Decide who you are. 0:04:54.960 --> 0:04:56.599 And I mean, and that's a big thing like about 0:04:56.600 --> 0:04:58.320 the show, Like you really don't want to come on 0:04:58.360 --> 0:05:01.600 this show. Obviously, you I think do in a way 0:05:01.640 --> 0:05:03.280 get a little bit of low self esteem because you're 0:05:03.320 --> 0:05:06.320 not used to having all these people's opinions about you. Absolutely, 0:05:06.320 --> 0:05:08.600 but I think it is also nice because you have 0:05:08.680 --> 0:05:10.640 friends that are also going through that, so it's a 0:05:10.680 --> 0:05:13.240 really good support system in that way too. But like 0:05:13.360 --> 0:05:15.000 you don't want to go on the show if you're 0:05:15.120 --> 0:05:16.400 kind of feeling insecured. 0:05:16.440 --> 0:05:18.360 I think that sometimes people translate it. 0:05:18.400 --> 0:05:21.839 And I hate when people like say horrible things about 0:05:21.839 --> 0:05:25.360 contestants because I'm like, you just like don't know anything 0:05:25.480 --> 0:05:29.040 and you're totally interpreting their Even when I feel like 0:05:29.080 --> 0:05:32.440 people are shown correctly. It's very interesting to like see 0:05:32.440 --> 0:05:34.800 how other people just completely interpret it that in a 0:05:34.800 --> 0:05:37.240 different way of like how you kind of saw it. 0:05:37.240 --> 0:05:39.120 And maybe that's because I'm like reading into it more 0:05:39.160 --> 0:05:41.279 now that I've been on the show. I'm like, no, 0:05:41.440 --> 0:05:43.760 I see this in this, I see why this was highlighted, 0:05:43.880 --> 0:05:46.479 Like I see why this goes along with their story 0:05:46.520 --> 0:05:48.080 and how it is very valuable. 0:05:48.080 --> 0:05:51.080 And I think I also, like, do see the jokes 0:05:51.120 --> 0:05:51.520 of it too. 0:05:51.600 --> 0:05:53.960 I think sometimes people are scared to like be like, 0:05:54.000 --> 0:05:55.800 oh no, that's like a silly joke, and you know, 0:05:55.880 --> 0:05:58.760 take things very seriously, and I think sometimes like life 0:05:58.839 --> 0:06:00.880 is fun and like the show is fun, you know 0:06:00.880 --> 0:06:02.960 what I mean. And so yeah, I think that was 0:06:03.000 --> 0:06:05.640 like a very interesting misconception for me at least because 0:06:05.640 --> 0:06:07.720 I was just like, oh I didn't that. 0:06:08.680 --> 0:06:12.080 Yeah am I missing? Am I watching something else? 0:06:12.200 --> 0:06:15.800 But yeah, we're always watching something else. 0:06:16.120 --> 0:06:20.200 We we're in two separate worlds from these people, like. 0:06:21.720 --> 0:06:25.120 Even when like you look amazing and they'd be like no, 0:06:25.200 --> 0:06:26.120 I'm like, what do you mean? 0:06:26.920 --> 0:06:28.800 Yeah, yeah, yeah yeah. 0:06:28.800 --> 0:06:31.240 Coming off of Paradise, you said that you saw a 0:06:31.240 --> 0:06:34.719 bunch of comments you are going from watching yourself back 0:06:34.920 --> 0:06:37.520 straight into navigating a public relationship. 0:06:37.640 --> 0:06:38.520 What was that like. 0:06:38.880 --> 0:06:42.480 Post Paradise and seeing all the comments. 0:06:43.120 --> 0:06:46.080 Yeah, I feel like and I mean, I know just 0:06:46.120 --> 0:06:48.560 like you guys probably have also dealt with this. 0:06:48.600 --> 0:06:49.599 I know everyone has. 0:06:49.680 --> 0:06:54.280 Like the comments really get to you accidentally, even if 0:06:54.320 --> 0:06:56.120 you are very strong, and I feel like I do 0:06:56.200 --> 0:06:59.600 have a very like tough exterior to like handle those 0:06:59.680 --> 0:07:02.719 kinds of things, because like if you've posted before, even 0:07:02.720 --> 0:07:04.600 if you haven't, like you've had like I don't know, 0:07:04.720 --> 0:07:06.640 you get online hate no matter what, even if you 0:07:06.680 --> 0:07:09.920 literally have one hundred followers, It doesn't matter what number 0:07:09.920 --> 0:07:12.080 of followers, there's always someone that's like hating on you. 0:07:12.760 --> 0:07:16.360 And so I feel like just navigating those comments and 0:07:16.400 --> 0:07:19.720 seeing things I think feel so different than what is 0:07:19.760 --> 0:07:23.320 like really happening in. 0:07:22.040 --> 0:07:23.080 In like real life. 0:07:23.120 --> 0:07:26.560 And I do like also slightly understand sometimes where people 0:07:26.600 --> 0:07:29.480 are coming from. I think like people feel really connected 0:07:29.520 --> 0:07:32.320 to you and whether they you know, have however they 0:07:32.400 --> 0:07:35.280 personally like understood that or like took that information in. 0:07:35.640 --> 0:07:39.320 They're also then you know, like they I get it, 0:07:39.320 --> 0:07:41.760 because like their voice deserves be heard, Like you're you know, 0:07:41.800 --> 0:07:44.080 you're interacting with me like you're keeping up with my life, 0:07:44.120 --> 0:07:48.120 like you're I guess maybe concerned about things or you know, 0:07:48.280 --> 0:07:50.360 wanting this for me or wanting that for me. But 0:07:50.400 --> 0:07:54.360 I think also like when you choose to like somebody, 0:07:55.320 --> 0:07:57.720 whether it's on a show or you know, even on 0:07:57.760 --> 0:07:59.680 social media, doesn't matter, doesn't have to always be like 0:07:59.680 --> 0:08:01.800 the bad. But I think you also have to trust 0:08:01.880 --> 0:08:03.920 like who they are, and like why you like that person, 0:08:04.040 --> 0:08:07.480 and just like feel confident and that they wouldn't purposely 0:08:07.520 --> 0:08:11.120 put themselves in like a bad situation. And I think 0:08:11.160 --> 0:08:14.280 also what maybe you think, I think obviously even with 0:08:14.320 --> 0:08:17.240 social media, like you're never really getting the full story. 0:08:17.280 --> 0:08:18.920 So whether you've like seen a clip and you're like, 0:08:18.960 --> 0:08:21.160 oh this is this, is this and this, like even 0:08:21.200 --> 0:08:24.160 going back from Grancys and people interpreting multiple things a 0:08:24.200 --> 0:08:26.880 certain way, you don't really have the full story because 0:08:26.880 --> 0:08:27.560 there's not really. 0:08:27.440 --> 0:08:29.320 Enough time to have the full story. 0:08:29.640 --> 0:08:32.040 So I think that is a really important thing for 0:08:32.160 --> 0:08:33.920 people to really keep. 0:08:33.679 --> 0:08:36.720 In mind with these things. And so yeah, it's been hard. 0:08:36.760 --> 0:08:39.800 I think everyone that's taken a relationship off the show 0:08:39.880 --> 0:08:43.600 or even taking their relationship publicly just on social media, 0:08:43.679 --> 0:08:46.640 like it is a lot to process and it is 0:08:46.679 --> 0:08:49.160 a lot to take in, and I think the biggest 0:08:49.160 --> 0:08:51.640 thing is to really like listen to your partner and 0:08:51.679 --> 0:08:53.760 like listen to the people that are around you that 0:08:53.800 --> 0:08:56.679 you trust. And I'm like, Okay, if I like him, 0:08:57.040 --> 0:08:59.680 if my mom likes him, if my best friends like him, 0:08:59.840 --> 0:09:01.760 Like that's really what matters. 0:09:02.280 --> 0:09:04.720 Not necessarily, I'm like, people. 0:09:04.520 --> 0:09:08.200 Will kind of taken information as you give it to them, 0:09:08.320 --> 0:09:09.920 and then they'll kind of just be like, oh, it 0:09:09.960 --> 0:09:13.120 actually wasn't that deep, or like it didn't things, this 0:09:13.160 --> 0:09:16.320 didn't matter, or like, and you know, there's always cases where. 0:09:16.080 --> 0:09:16.840 Sometimes it does. 0:09:16.880 --> 0:09:20.119 And I can't speak to every single circumstance and relationship, 0:09:20.160 --> 0:09:22.680 but it is obviously hard, Like it's hard navigating your 0:09:22.720 --> 0:09:25.079 own life outside of the show, it's also hard navigating 0:09:25.240 --> 0:09:27.679 kind of a more public relationship. It's like, yeah, we've 0:09:27.679 --> 0:09:29.679 been away from each other for two months, and because 0:09:29.760 --> 0:09:32.400 he's been traveling, I've been you know, I'm dealing with 0:09:32.400 --> 0:09:34.559 my stuff like I'm doing therapy, like I'm getting my 0:09:34.600 --> 0:09:36.640 life in order, and people. 0:09:36.400 --> 0:09:37.640 Always like what's going. 0:09:37.440 --> 0:09:40.240 On, and I'm like, guys, it's really ridiculous. It is 0:09:40.480 --> 0:09:42.400 like it's so ridiculous, guys. 0:09:42.480 --> 0:09:44.280 Can I just like do a little therapy and like 0:09:44.360 --> 0:09:47.520 get maybe the first to tell you it's ridiculous, Like 0:09:47.720 --> 0:09:49.199 it's so crazy. 0:09:48.840 --> 0:09:50.679 To me is my page? 0:09:50.760 --> 0:09:52.480 So like right, hello, did. 0:09:52.360 --> 0:09:52.800 You forget it? 0:09:55.520 --> 0:09:55.840 Wait? 0:09:55.880 --> 0:09:59.240 Okay, So I'm curious to know because I'm like obviously 0:09:59.240 --> 0:10:01.880 with Rachel asked that, and like we all have gone 0:10:01.960 --> 0:10:06.960 through different moments of like where comments or just social 0:10:07.000 --> 0:10:10.640 media in general has like affected us, especially with being 0:10:10.720 --> 0:10:13.120 in a relationship and coming out of like The Bachelor 0:10:13.120 --> 0:10:17.000 in a relationship, it's like tenfold. I feel like it's insane. 0:10:17.400 --> 0:10:20.040 How do you feel like you and Jeremy support each other? Like, 0:10:20.320 --> 0:10:22.960 especially coming right off of Paradise, I'm sure it was 0:10:23.000 --> 0:10:26.040 like very intense. And then obviously over time, people like 0:10:26.720 --> 0:10:28.760 they just they get the picture. It's like okay, like 0:10:28.760 --> 0:10:29.520 we're doing. 0:10:29.320 --> 0:10:32.199 What we need to do for ourselves. Yeah this this works. 0:10:32.280 --> 0:10:35.120 Like yeah, that's a good question too. 0:10:35.160 --> 0:10:37.800 I feel like the way that we really support each other, 0:10:37.880 --> 0:10:40.240 I mean especially I think during when the show is 0:10:40.280 --> 0:10:44.559 airing and after, I really did take things a little 0:10:44.559 --> 0:10:48.640 more personally than like I expected to. And I think 0:10:48.679 --> 0:10:50.800 I was also just like processing all of it, like 0:10:50.840 --> 0:10:52.559 it was just a lot to process and that's fine, 0:10:52.600 --> 0:10:55.240 and I think that's when I was really super thankful 0:10:55.280 --> 0:10:58.720 for him, because he really wasn't like really worried about 0:10:59.040 --> 0:11:01.440 his comments. He was more worried about like how I 0:11:01.559 --> 0:11:04.880 was processing my comments, and like I mean, I think, 0:11:05.040 --> 0:11:06.679 you know, you got to give your partner what they 0:11:06.720 --> 0:11:08.200 need in that moment. I think a lot of the 0:11:08.240 --> 0:11:09.840 times like I was like all right, let me like 0:11:09.880 --> 0:11:12.839 take myself out of this, and like, yeah, try to 0:11:12.840 --> 0:11:16.120 support him. I think he really focused in that moment 0:11:16.200 --> 0:11:18.600 just making sure that like I felt supported, that like 0:11:19.040 --> 0:11:22.240 I wasn't feeling like, you know, alone, and like that 0:11:22.400 --> 0:11:25.079 I just you know, we obviously we had a lot 0:11:25.120 --> 0:11:29.120 of really honest, open conversations after like leaving Paradise, which 0:11:29.120 --> 0:11:31.080 I think is really important as to why. And I 0:11:31.080 --> 0:11:34.559 think I don't know if every Bachelor couple necessarily does this, 0:11:34.720 --> 0:11:37.120 but like you know, when you go off the show, 0:11:37.160 --> 0:11:40.360 I think it's sometimes really important to restart your relationship 0:11:40.800 --> 0:11:43.960 and yeah, real life, not from show life, because like 0:11:44.640 --> 0:11:46.120 as much as we would love for it to be 0:11:46.240 --> 0:11:49.080 like the relationship you formed in the show, it's like 0:11:49.120 --> 0:11:50.640 you don't have a phone, you're with each other twenty 0:11:50.640 --> 0:11:53.760 four years different, you don't really have real issues and 0:11:53.800 --> 0:11:56.720 real problems, and so I think like being able to 0:11:56.760 --> 0:11:59.320 come into the real world and be able to process that, 0:11:59.480 --> 0:12:03.440 have those conversations, watch the show, handle the comments, and 0:12:03.480 --> 0:12:07.440 I think that also was a really tough time where 0:12:07.559 --> 0:12:10.760 I feel like now we're like in this really easy 0:12:10.800 --> 0:12:14.079 smooth sailing because like even if something big does happen, 0:12:14.240 --> 0:12:16.440 or like there's times where like I miss my dad 0:12:16.520 --> 0:12:18.079 so much, or like whatever it is, you know, I 0:12:18.080 --> 0:12:22.480 feel like he really understands how I like operate emotionally 0:12:22.559 --> 0:12:24.800 and like how to calm me down or how to 0:12:25.080 --> 0:12:27.080 help me feel more level headed. I feel like God 0:12:27.120 --> 0:12:29.839 is also really important and he does a really good 0:12:30.000 --> 0:12:32.520 I mean, we are both touruses, so I feel. 0:12:32.240 --> 0:12:35.760 Like we kind of understand how each other works. 0:12:35.800 --> 0:12:38.199 And he's very big on communication, where sometimes like I'm 0:12:38.240 --> 0:12:40.040 an April tours he's a main tourist, and there's like 0:12:40.080 --> 0:12:43.480 a difference because I'm like no and his daughter. So 0:12:43.520 --> 0:12:45.560 I feel like, yeah, there's a difference, Like I think 0:12:45.600 --> 0:12:48.640 sometimes like depending on the hierarchy of your family or whatever. 0:12:48.800 --> 0:12:51.280 Like I think these women want to like keep things 0:12:51.320 --> 0:12:53.840 in and we want to process them, and he's just 0:12:53.880 --> 0:12:55.880 like he doesn't operate that way. He's a middle child, 0:12:56.200 --> 0:12:58.559 and he's like, no, like we need to talk about it, 0:12:58.600 --> 0:13:01.120 like we need to like process this now because he 0:13:01.160 --> 0:13:04.120 doesn't want me holding on like animosity or things like 0:13:04.360 --> 0:13:06.719 even if it's something small, Like I think it has 0:13:06.760 --> 0:13:09.040 been good for me because it forces me to be 0:13:09.080 --> 0:13:11.760 a better communicator, Whereas like there's times where I think 0:13:11.760 --> 0:13:13.719 in past relationships, I've been like, no, I need to 0:13:13.800 --> 0:13:15.600 keep this in. I need to process it and then 0:13:15.640 --> 0:13:17.680 we can speak about it where it's like kind of 0:13:17.720 --> 0:13:19.000 handling it in the moment. 0:13:19.120 --> 0:13:21.040 Because like I am. And that's the thing about a. 0:13:20.960 --> 0:13:24.240 Taurus, like we will literally hold on to things like 0:13:24.320 --> 0:13:26.319 I hold on to grudges, like I still have grudges 0:13:26.360 --> 0:13:27.360 from middle school that I have. 0:13:27.440 --> 0:13:33.559 Literally Taurus are stubborn. Yeah, yes, yes, and I think 0:13:33.840 --> 0:13:37.199 not I'm like, I gotta let that go. 0:13:38.559 --> 0:13:43.760 It's crazy, Like I'm like sometimes there's things where I'm 0:13:43.760 --> 0:13:47.640 like and he's like let that go, and I'm like, 0:13:47.640 --> 0:13:50.840 all right, fine, whatever you say. 0:13:50.880 --> 0:13:52.199 But he has done a really good job. 0:13:52.240 --> 0:13:54.920 I feel like I'm supporting me and giving me what 0:13:54.960 --> 0:13:56.720 I need in that moment, and you know, I really 0:13:56.720 --> 0:13:58.880 hope that I'm also like giving him that. 0:13:58.760 --> 0:14:00.520 When he needs it. As well, but it's been a 0:14:00.520 --> 0:14:02.400 lot of like good support, and I honestly. 0:14:02.040 --> 0:14:05.240 Can't imagine like even coming off of getting I guess 0:14:05.320 --> 0:14:09.800 maybe hate or comments or whatever. Yeah, Grant season, I 0:14:09.880 --> 0:14:12.800 was really grateful to have, like my friends from Grant season. 0:14:12.960 --> 0:14:16.200 I feel like it's even more support, like being able 0:14:16.240 --> 0:14:18.880 to have your partner, and I honestly like probably wouldn't 0:14:18.880 --> 0:14:21.360 survive both without like the girls that I met, and 0:14:21.560 --> 0:14:23.840 also like without him, I feel like it does just 0:14:23.880 --> 0:14:25.600 like get on you a lot, you know what I mean, 0:14:25.640 --> 0:14:27.680 And also like I think a lot of other like 0:14:28.320 --> 0:14:30.520 cast members, like they reach out to you, they check 0:14:30.520 --> 0:14:31.840 on you, and I feel like that was also like 0:14:31.920 --> 0:14:33.960 so important for me too of just like you know, 0:14:33.960 --> 0:14:37.320 knowing that I was supported and yeah, it was really nice. 0:14:37.360 --> 0:14:38.680 So I feel like I got a lot of good 0:14:38.840 --> 0:14:40.560 love and support, and he did a really good job 0:14:40.560 --> 0:14:41.440 of making sure you. 0:14:41.440 --> 0:14:50.720 Know, yeah, I was gonna say, because he did find 0:14:50.800 --> 0:14:53.720 himself obviously in some drama during the season, So I 0:14:53.720 --> 0:14:56.200 think it is so important that he was able to 0:14:56.360 --> 0:15:01.080 reassure you and support you throughout watching that back. Obviously, 0:15:01.080 --> 0:15:03.400 you guys got through that and now you're in this 0:15:03.480 --> 0:15:06.520 new season of life. So what is it learning him 0:15:06.560 --> 0:15:08.760 outside of the show. What have you fallen in love 0:15:08.800 --> 0:15:11.000 with since you guys have been in the real world. 0:15:12.000 --> 0:15:14.680 Yeah, it's so funny because I was like, uh, like 0:15:14.800 --> 0:15:15.280 I can't. 0:15:15.640 --> 0:15:17.200 I think when you're there sometimes you're like, I don't 0:15:17.240 --> 0:15:20.000 know what this is gonna look like outside of this, and. 0:15:20.280 --> 0:15:22.680 I'm sure you have no idea what was happening. 0:15:22.960 --> 0:15:24.720 Oh I had no idea. I mean, like I really 0:15:24.760 --> 0:15:26.920 went into Paradise and I was like, like, I'll be 0:15:26.960 --> 0:15:28.360 there for two weeks. 0:15:27.960 --> 0:15:31.000 Like I wasn't expecting to be there for the entire time. 0:15:31.960 --> 0:15:34.160 So I think that was like a process in my head. 0:15:34.520 --> 0:15:37.240 But really like getting to know him in the real 0:15:37.280 --> 0:15:39.880 world has made me like love him so much more 0:15:39.960 --> 0:15:42.920 than the person that, like, you know, I was really 0:15:42.960 --> 0:15:45.720 like really liking when we were there, but getting to 0:15:45.800 --> 0:15:49.680 know him in the real world has just made it 0:15:49.880 --> 0:15:51.080 so much better. 0:15:50.800 --> 0:15:52.080 And so much more real. 0:15:52.360 --> 0:15:55.520 And he really is just I know sometimes like I 0:15:55.560 --> 0:15:57.840 think the way he is shown or the way he 0:15:57.880 --> 0:16:00.680 looks even on social media, like it's more like a like, 0:16:00.880 --> 0:16:04.640 you know, very serious, a harder exterior, and he is 0:16:04.680 --> 0:16:06.240 like a very much a teddy bear. 0:16:06.600 --> 0:16:08.320 And no, I was gonna say, jare Bear. 0:16:09.320 --> 0:16:12.040 He's literally actually Jare Bear, and like I try to 0:16:12.240 --> 0:16:14.920 give him Jin's nickname, but he really is, you know, 0:16:15.080 --> 0:16:16.080 he is Jare Bear. 0:16:16.200 --> 0:16:19.480 And I'm like, you're actually like very sweet and very enduring. 0:16:19.520 --> 0:16:21.480 And I knew he was a good listener, but he's 0:16:21.680 --> 0:16:24.560 very thoughtful and he puts a lot of thought into 0:16:24.640 --> 0:16:26.480 like the things that he does for me and the 0:16:26.480 --> 0:16:28.400 things that we talk about and the things that we 0:16:28.520 --> 0:16:32.840 prioritize are like if I mentioned something, like he remembers it. 0:16:32.880 --> 0:16:35.480 And I have the worst memory ever, so like when 0:16:35.520 --> 0:16:37.120 he mentioned something, I'm like, all right, I'm gonna write 0:16:37.120 --> 0:16:38.640 that down for I don't know what. 0:16:38.680 --> 0:16:44.360 I'm like, I have to start doing that to. 0:16:43.680 --> 0:16:46.680 Remember that or like anything I tell him, he holds 0:16:46.760 --> 0:16:49.520 on to that information. And I feel like that goes 0:16:49.560 --> 0:16:52.720 into a lot of like I I don't maybe have 0:16:52.840 --> 0:16:56.760 never really experienced thoughtfulness in that way of someone like worrying. 0:16:56.440 --> 0:16:58.720 About you and just getting to know him. 0:16:58.760 --> 0:17:01.640 I feel like he's actually genuinely made me a better person. 0:17:02.040 --> 0:17:04.120 I mean physically because I've actually. 0:17:03.760 --> 0:17:06.560 Been drinking water every single day and like eating protein. 0:17:09.320 --> 0:17:11.680 I mean, like he literally works out. 0:17:11.880 --> 0:17:13.440 I'm like, you know, he has to move his body 0:17:13.480 --> 0:17:15.960 every single day. He has to eat his protein and 0:17:15.960 --> 0:17:18.280 he has to do all these things. But I think 0:17:18.600 --> 0:17:20.680 in a way I was kind of missing that structure 0:17:20.720 --> 0:17:23.359 that he has and the way how disciplined he is. 0:17:23.400 --> 0:17:26.320 And I feel like that has like really been good 0:17:26.359 --> 0:17:28.159 for me because I feel like, you know, your partner 0:17:28.160 --> 0:17:30.199 really should like make you a better person or like 0:17:30.320 --> 0:17:32.120 inspire you to want to be a better person. 0:17:32.119 --> 0:17:34.000 I don't know make you a better person's the right word. 0:17:33.840 --> 0:17:37.000 But inspire you to want to be better, and they 0:17:37.000 --> 0:17:40.920 should really like add value and add I think goodness 0:17:40.920 --> 0:17:42.280 to your life. And I feel like in so many 0:17:42.320 --> 0:17:44.879 ways he has not just like emotionally, but you know 0:17:44.960 --> 0:17:47.320 it all aspects of just like the way I view things. 0:17:47.359 --> 0:17:50.760 And he also is really a person like I'm going 0:17:50.840 --> 0:17:52.959 to say, like I'm definitely a materialistic person. 0:17:53.320 --> 0:17:55.080 I've always have been. I'm a Taurus. 0:17:55.119 --> 0:17:57.639 Again, It's like a thing like I just like I 0:17:57.680 --> 0:18:01.760 love that, and it's really nice having somebody that is 0:18:01.840 --> 0:18:02.679 like it doesn't. 0:18:02.480 --> 0:18:05.080