Speaker 1: What's up a slip service.
Speaker 2: I'm into the ye.
Speaker 3: I'm Maguire, I'm Stephanie Santiago.
Speaker 1: Oh and I'm Kiki set So Gina Monroe and we're
Speaker 1: in cocktail.
Speaker 2: Okay, we're ready to have some dirty discussions now. Listen.
Speaker 2: I saw somewhere where y'all said, well, you know, we're
Speaker 2: trying to, you know, tame it down and clean up
Speaker 2: your act. That's just her, you know what.
Speaker 4: I keep slipping and failing because I'll be trying and
Speaker 4: she's like, what I think about it might not be
Speaker 4: that clean.
Speaker 1: Okay, all right, fair enough turned down for what I know.
Speaker 2: I'm both of y'all just have birthdays too, Yeah, oh wow,
Speaker 2: have youthday.
Speaker 3: Or Virgo and Nebro Virgo.
Speaker 1: And Libro though, because I'm on the cuts. Yeah, so
Speaker 1: you steel you're Virgo again, that's cud. Yeah.
Speaker 2: So first of all, I love that you guys are
Speaker 2: in New York and I know you had said you
Speaker 2: were going to start taking the train and you did.
Speaker 5: Yes, you did, I did, he said, you did.
Speaker 1: I've done the train in New York before, and I
Speaker 1: went to Howard and so when I was at Howard,
Speaker 1: I used to train all the time. I don't like
Speaker 1: being down there under there with the turtles and the
Speaker 1: rats and the people could Yeah, that's what I was
Speaker 1: thinking about.
Speaker 4: I'm super excited to be here in New York kicking
Speaker 4: off our third tour. We were at Sony Hall last
Speaker 4: night and it was a flood but exciting.
Speaker 1: Well still made it out.
Speaker 6: I was surprised, and that's the ready show up.
Speaker 2: That's dedication. And I know I'm sure some people couldn't
Speaker 2: because you couldn't even get an uber the train was
Speaker 2: shut down. But like I was saying, that's memorable for
Speaker 2: the people who were there to be like remember when
Speaker 2: they had that big flood and right, and.
Speaker 1: Y'all still came out to listen to talk whole shit,
Speaker 1: Like it's amazing.
Speaker 2: It's so funny to me because I think, like the
Speaker 2: way we started lip service and then what you guys
Speaker 2: do with cocktails, people sometimes have like a judgment against
Speaker 2: depending on who it is, you know, some people love
Speaker 2: it and then some people be like why is that
Speaker 2: all y'all talk about? Like we talk about a lot.
Speaker 5: Of never going to get married, who would ever want
Speaker 5: to watch people net?
Speaker 6: Well, how do you think you got here?
Speaker 7: Girl?
Speaker 2: Right?
Speaker 1: You got here seven.
Speaker 6: It's like when Bag and your dad okay and he's
Speaker 6: slipped up, and.
Speaker 1: It's like, this is a show, and we do talk
Speaker 1: about sex. So if you want to watch something else
Speaker 1: or listen to something else, there's plenty of other shows.
Speaker 1: There's millions of podcasts out there, change it. You don't
Speaker 1: have to listen to us.
Speaker 6: Why do y'all think that people feel so shameful when
Speaker 6: it comes to sex.
Speaker 1: I don't know. I try to figure that out. It's like,
Speaker 1: what is it? It's just like something that people have
Speaker 1: been taught for so long, but it's crazy because people
Speaker 1: have to have sex for society to continue. So it's like,
Speaker 1: why why be ashamed of finding pleasure and happiness in
Speaker 1: sex and exploring it and figuring out what you like?
Speaker 1: What's wrong with that?
Speaker 4: Sometimes I also think it's it's it looks like they
Speaker 4: are ashamed of it, but you really are jealous because
Speaker 4: you wish that you were having your best blown out.
Speaker 2: It's kind of like when senators have issues but gabe
Speaker 2: people in gay marriage but secretly they gay.
Speaker 6: Yeah, exactly, have you got a problem with thee but
Speaker 6: you got to see your whole inside?
Speaker 4: You don't know how you want to try some stuff,
Speaker 4: and you don't have the confidence to try certain things
Speaker 4: or say what you want.
Speaker 2: Let me ask you something because I had thought about this, right,
Speaker 2: but everybody talking about AI and things that could happen.
Speaker 2: If it was a potential that like, let's just say,
Speaker 2: an AI robot could automatically make you like come multiple
Speaker 2: or I guess right, let's just say, and they could
Speaker 2: you know and see like exactly what you like, how
Speaker 2: much your spot is?
Speaker 1: Would you try it?
Speaker 2: Hell?
Speaker 1: Yeah, I use a vibrator like daily, So I mean
Speaker 1: that's like the next step I think I would do it.
Speaker 5: I'm not going to really want to give you. Also
Speaker 5: really like like what I love most.
Speaker 4: About sex is touching bodies, like feeling all those things
Speaker 4: leading up to the orgasm.
Speaker 2: But if he looked real and he was like touching you.
Speaker 6: That's weird.
Speaker 1: Speaking we always I've always.
Speaker 6: Been living in the Jetsons, but I don't want to
Speaker 6: live there. For when I.
Speaker 7: Pictured a robot, not that what I was thinking of,
Speaker 7: Like an EI intelligence vibrator. It would be like a
Speaker 7: vibrator bok like knows you you're like connected to your phone,
Speaker 7: you put your finger print or some ship.
Speaker 1: That's what I'm pictured.
Speaker 2: Exactly like squirting today or a regular.
Speaker 5: It's crazy you would try it.
Speaker 1: I would try, but I don't want the one that
Speaker 1: looks like a person. I would just want it to
Speaker 1: be like a toy, you know, but it just but
Speaker 1: not a person. Yeah, more like a vibrator where it
Speaker 1: already knows. I don't have to keep pushing the button
Speaker 1: to get to the setting that I like, like I
Speaker 1: currently have to do.
Speaker 2: It's just program, you know, when you get in the
Speaker 2: car and it has automatic setting on the seat.
Speaker 6: Yeah, exactly. I don't know to be onto something.
Speaker 2: With that teating Like if you were with the guy
Speaker 2: and he had a robot that could make him do
Speaker 2: that and he used it. It was a robot, It
Speaker 2: wasn't real person. Would you look at that as cheating?
Speaker 1: The robot looks like a person though, Yes, because why
Speaker 1: do you have that? And now wrong?
Speaker 5: Like like who it looked like?
Speaker 1: Right? Is it like your celebrity crushes? It look like
Speaker 1: your ex girlfriend, your baby mama.
Speaker 3: It's cheating?
Speaker 2: Yeah, now none of the timely. Thing that just happened,
Speaker 2: And I wanted to get everybody's opinion on this.
Speaker 1: The Travis Kelsey Tailors swift.
Speaker 2: Thing with Maya been Bury right, that's the woman that
Speaker 2: he used to date that she is now like warning
Speaker 2: till a swift he cheated. You know he's not good.
Speaker 2: She's like, I see him talking about this relationship publicly,
Speaker 2: and he's a narcissist. And I dated him. I thought
Speaker 2: we were going to get married. All of these things.
Speaker 2: If you had dated a guy and you felt like
Speaker 2: he was terrible, you know as a human being, he
Speaker 2: was a narcissist, He did all of those things. Would
Speaker 2: you want to warn the next woman or no?
Speaker 4: Because at the end of the day, it's like you
Speaker 4: you kind of look like you kind of wanted back.
Speaker 4: Still you want to just right, because why do you
Speaker 4: It's not your business no more. And I don't know
Speaker 4: unless it was something we're like, maybe he was physically abusive.
Speaker 4: Maybe then you might warn somebody, But I'm not sure
Speaker 4: I would go out of my way to be like,
Speaker 4: hey girl, this is what he did to me. Watch out,
Speaker 4: we're looking corny. We are old women.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, I mess you vibe I want with
Speaker 1: one person is not always You're not always right that
Speaker 1: people can be different. He wasn't working with you, and
Speaker 1: that's why he did that and sometimes got to let
Speaker 1: a sasquatch.
Speaker 6: I mean, sometimes you just gotta let it wreck.
Speaker 2: Sometimes this is personal.
Speaker 6: Yeah, you think you want girl.
Speaker 5: But maybe that focused on you. You're so worried about
Speaker 5: trying to mess up with.
Speaker 8: You, you're too worried about trying to be me and
Speaker 8: you can't never and you're looking very let's.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's funny though, because like she's been doing interviews
Speaker 2: and everything, and I don't think anybody's like, yes this,
Speaker 2: thanks for warning him.
Speaker 1: Everybody's like, girl, like.
Speaker 5: Do you have coming up? Do you have some business?
Speaker 4: But let me ask you all this, have you ever
Speaker 4: done that? You know how you always you grow, you grow.
Speaker 4: We've all been young and dumb and did some things
Speaker 4: we maybe regret. Have you ever done anything like that?
Speaker 4: Like I'm going to contact the girl and tell her how.
Speaker 2: Well, I contacted a girl. So my boyfriend, my ex
Speaker 2: ex ex boyfriend, cheated on me, and I contacted the
Speaker 2: girl's fiance who he cheated with and sent him like
Speaker 2: the evidence, so they both got put Yeah, but he
Speaker 2: still married her after that. But I just did that
Speaker 2: and then I never said nothing else again. And then
Speaker 2: he responded like oh, you know, like I could tell you.
Speaker 2: You know, I don't know what ended up happening with them,
Speaker 2: but I just put it out there and I broke
Speaker 2: up with him, So it wasn't like I was gonna
Speaker 2: stay with him after that. But I did have a
Speaker 2: guy who cheated on me with the girl and then
Speaker 2: ended up being with the girl because I broke up
Speaker 2: with him, and then kept still trying to talk to me,
Speaker 2: but I never contacted her. I actually thought it was
Speaker 2: amazing that because I was like, this is what you get, Like,
Speaker 2: who knows who else this man is contacting. He ain't shit.
Speaker 2: She ended up having a kid with him, and he
Speaker 2: still ain't shit, And I think they broke up now,
Speaker 2: But I knew it all along. But I would actually
Speaker 2: prefer to not tell you because you get what.
Speaker 4: You because sometimes like looking at it with a different eye,
Speaker 4: I've done. It wasn't the same exact situation, but there
Speaker 4: was a guy I was dealing with and he was
Speaker 4: my boyfriend.
Speaker 5: Let him tell it. He wasn't, but he was.
Speaker 4: Anyway, we were supposed to be exclusive with each other
Speaker 4: and he was dealing with this other person.
Speaker 5: It ended up coming out on my birthday. He broke
Speaker 5: with me. It was really sad.
Speaker 4: I was so and I was I couldn't believe that
Speaker 4: he did what he did, and he was like someone
Speaker 4: who he would contact my mom, take my mom out
Speaker 4: to dinner. He was just doing all these extra things
Speaker 4: to show that he was this great man and everybody
Speaker 4: was believing him, and I needed people to know you, actually,
Speaker 4: he's he is crazy. So I contacted the girl. My
Speaker 4: friends found the girl that he had cheated on me with.
Speaker 4: I contacted her, not messy, not anything. I was like,
Speaker 4: I would love to talk to you because there's some
Speaker 4: missing pieces to this puzzle and I just needed to know,
Speaker 4: like did she know? He said she knew about me,
Speaker 4: and she was okay with being the side chick, but
Speaker 4: it just wasn't It didn't feel right. Said, if you
Speaker 4: don't want to talk, it's totally fine, but he one Mber,
Speaker 4: I would love to talk.
Speaker 5: She ended up calling me.
Speaker 4: We had an amazing conversation and we actually did a
Speaker 4: bonus episode on Cocktails with.
Speaker 5: Her and I talked about our experience with this man.
Speaker 4: He ended up doing something really dirty to her, and
Speaker 4: she was like, I never knew about you at all.
Speaker 5: That's a lie. He told me you were a family friend.
Speaker 4: A family family friend, And I was just like, I
Speaker 4: had to contact the girl because I was just like,
Speaker 4: I need to know you.
Speaker 6: You definitely contacted somebody twice.
Speaker 2: I got to know a situation where you did this.
Speaker 2: When I standing in the girl and sent her all kinds.
Speaker 1: She's had voice.
Speaker 6: Recording everything because he took you there. But that ain't
Speaker 6: even what I thought about. I thought about the other one.
Speaker 8: Oh.
Speaker 6: I thought about the other one because he told her
Speaker 6: that we was just friends. See, and you'd be like something,
Speaker 6: don't but you got to keep to my house, you
Speaker 6: got acquire my garage. Friends, we exchange. I love you.
Speaker 5: Let me tell you the truth.
Speaker 6: We have graw sex. We're friend and it was like
Speaker 6: four years we're friend now?
Speaker 2: Were we exclusive?
Speaker 6: Were we ever in a relationship now? But we're just
Speaker 6: doing all the relationship shit. We're friends.
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, there are some things that push you to
Speaker 4: like you playing with me And I'm not even trying
Speaker 4: to mess up with y'all got going.
Speaker 5: But I do need you to know I'm not a
Speaker 5: family friend.
Speaker 6: So this is why I told her, because he allegedly
Speaker 6: came to my city to visit and brought her with him.
Speaker 6: And like his whole he moved just different than he
Speaker 6: normally did, and I knew something was wrong. And the
Speaker 6: reason why he didn't tell me about this girl they
Speaker 6: were in a relationship, and the reason why he didn't
Speaker 6: tell me is because he knew that I knew her,
Speaker 6: and I wouldn't about to do that, Like I'm not
Speaker 6: about to be fake smiling this girl face knowing I'm
Speaker 6: fucking her. Niggas what I don't know, don't hurt me.
Speaker 6: But now that I notice, now I know that that's
Speaker 6: your girlfriend, it's right. No, So me and the girl,
Speaker 6: we aren't friends, but we know each other. And I
Speaker 6: definitely slid in her dms like girl resided into the
Speaker 6: picture of them when I knew they were together, like girl.
Speaker 2: A lot of the times when you do that, the girl,
Speaker 2: the girl don't leave or nothing.
Speaker 6: She didn't.
Speaker 1: Yeah, they don't leave.
Speaker 6: She told me she was it. Yeah, she told me
Speaker 6: she wasn't. And I'm like, well, I'm good.
Speaker 2: Like, have you ever had a girl contact you about
Speaker 2: somebody you were dating? You really left this guy alone?
Speaker 2: Because she it?
Speaker 7: Never Girls contact me about almost every guy that I dated,
Speaker 7: no contact.
Speaker 4: I had a woman contacting me about a guy that
Speaker 4: I was in, but I actually did leave him alone
Speaker 4: because it was it was crazy, like his at home
Speaker 4: situation was horrible, like he was spending all this money
Speaker 4: on everything else but his family.
Speaker 5: I didn't know he had a wife.
Speaker 4: I didn't know he had kids well, and it was
Speaker 4: just a thing where I was like, I can't do this.
Speaker 5: These guys about his name.
Speaker 6: Oh my god, he just made.
Speaker 4: And she told me he played basketball for some school
Speaker 4: in Texas. And when all this started coming out and
Speaker 4: this woman kept calling me, we looked up the roster
Speaker 4: and I was like, you're not on there. And then
Speaker 4: she when I talked to his wife, she was like,
Speaker 4: grooms to go. And he does this all the time.
Speaker 4: He said his name was Kobe because he loves Kobe Bryant.
Speaker 4: That is not that niggas name.
Speaker 1: And I was like, names Kobe and.
Speaker 6: Was Calvin, Wow, still working McDonald's. You can move up
Speaker 6: the rooms.
Speaker 2: But you know something interesting you had said before. It
Speaker 2: was about like standards, right, and realizing that, like you
Speaker 2: have to have higher standards when it comes to who
Speaker 2: you're dating. So what made you come to that realization?
Speaker 4: So I don't necessarily think you have to have higher standards.
Speaker 4: I think that a lot of women who are in
Speaker 4: situations where you don't like how you're being treated, or
Speaker 4: you might not.
Speaker 5: Like what types of dates you're going on, you just won't.
Speaker 4: You're dating and you're sad and you don't know why,
Speaker 4: and it's because whatever you're attracting, you're attracting.
Speaker 5: That your standards might be low and you just might
Speaker 5: not realize you.
Speaker 6: Not have any standards and you need to have had them. Yea,
Speaker 6: you have these men some women might.
Speaker 4: Some women be okay, But if you yourself complaining a lot,
Speaker 4: then clearly you don't.
Speaker 5: You need to maybe raise up a little bit.
Speaker 1: I think far too often people will just accept whatever
Speaker 1: is your lonely or you feel like that's going to
Speaker 1: give you some sort of validation to be attached to somebody.
Speaker 1: But if you're unhappy and the attachment was the point when.
Speaker 2: You're dating someone, do you recommend that they listen?
Speaker 6: Oh no, wait, what listen to your I was like,
Speaker 6: what the stide? I get nervous about it.
Speaker 1: Please don't listen, because.
Speaker 2: It can help them understand you better too.
Speaker 5: You're talking drinking tequiba, something might come out. They just
Speaker 5: was loose.
Speaker 6: Lipped and I just told the man he might learn
Speaker 6: a little thing or two about watching lip services going
Speaker 6: to come to me because I'm open book watch.
Speaker 1: Lip service, don't watch listen to other women. But it's
Speaker 1: it's kind of like unfair too, because it's like you
Speaker 1: can hear all of these things and I'm just having
Speaker 1: a conversation with my friends and I'm speaking very raw
Speaker 1: and honest, and then you're listening to that, but then
Speaker 1: you get mad about you figure it out, or you're
Speaker 1: questioning certain situations that have happened with me and somebody
Speaker 1: else and I never you would never would have known,
Speaker 1: And it's not your business. It has nothing to do
Speaker 1: with you. It wasn't during the time that I was
Speaker 1: dealing with you. And there's nowhere that I can go
Speaker 1: and hear all these things about you, like I'm not.
Speaker 6: Reading a diary, and it's like a guy that you're
Speaker 6: talking about them, but you're talking about somebody else.
Speaker 3: Right, And you're a good person for even explaining it
Speaker 3: like that.
Speaker 7: I just be telling them, like listen, I'm lying, I'm lie.
Speaker 3: Lies the whole time. Why are you listening to.
Speaker 6: But you know, and even when.
Speaker 7: I'm so mad, I've had problems in every single relationship
Speaker 7: I've been in since I've done this show, every relationship
Speaker 7: I've been in, they have a problem with me being
Speaker 7: on this show.
Speaker 5: What is their problem?
Speaker 6: Their problem is that.
Speaker 7: I'm sitting on the show talking about having sex next
Speaker 7: to celeries.
Speaker 3: Yeah, next to men.
Speaker 2: What if a guy you were dating was had his
Speaker 2: own show and was like talking about.
Speaker 4: I'm I would never date somebody who's doing this, that's
Speaker 4: what you think I think I could Like. There have
Speaker 4: been times when like, wait, cute, and I'm like, I
Speaker 4: don't think we should both be in the same industry
Speaker 4: doing this.
Speaker 5: It's like, really, I don't think I might.
Speaker 2: Make it kind of fun. Then you'll end up doing
Speaker 2: a couple of little cross marketing episodes.
Speaker 4: Then we break up and everybody's now everybody's talking about it.
Speaker 7: Yeah, I didn't know if you show like this will
Speaker 7: definitely bring out the insecurities and a man, But.
Speaker 2: What to like for you if your man was doing
Speaker 2: a podcast that I think.
Speaker 5: It's more acceptable for me because I do.
Speaker 4: I don't think I would be upset. I understand this
Speaker 4: is a job, especially when you take it to certain levels.
Speaker 4: It's like, I actually commend you for taking talking about
Speaker 4: fucking to a level of success.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I love that. That's amazing. I don't need to
Speaker 5: listen to I.
Speaker 7: Never thought about getting a guy who's on a podcast,
Speaker 7: but maybe I need that because then he can understand
Speaker 7: my life, like be.
Speaker 6: Like I'm lying to and exactly and you hear me exactly.
Speaker 7: But like literally, we do the show, Angel and you
Speaker 7: know this, are sitting in the corner, like all the
Speaker 7: way in the corner, and then as soon as we're done,
Speaker 7: I run out the door. It's just not this is
Speaker 7: a fact for years.
Speaker 2: Sometimes you might get some flowers or something. Okay, would you.
Speaker 5: Didn't come to your.
Speaker 1: Life showing.
Speaker 4: The live show?
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I've.
Speaker 6: Invited I don't care a guy to come like here incident,
Speaker 6: but it hasn't happened.
Speaker 1: But as a matter, that's ex.
Speaker 2: Boyfriend wanted her to do this show when I first started.
Speaker 2: He was like, that's how when I first started this,
Speaker 2: I I met because I knew her ex. And then
Speaker 2: he was like, I went, you know, let's let's put
Speaker 2: G on there.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2: I'm like, okay, I'm cool with that. And I was like,
Speaker 2: but if you all break up, I don't want to
Speaker 2: hear and I was like, no, no, blah blah blah.
Speaker 2: And then Stephanie I met through Sean Malcolm. Yes, it
Speaker 2: used to be the editor in chief of King Magazine,
Speaker 2: and I was like, who else do you think would
Speaker 2: be good? So that's how and that's from the first episode.
Speaker 1: Yea, we are.
Speaker 3: Yeah relations.
Speaker 4: But I also wanted to add in about like men
Speaker 4: having a problem with women that do shows like this.
Speaker 4: I do think if you meet somebody that you really
Speaker 4: do care about the concern I do understand the concerns.
Speaker 4: It's like we are I don't know about y'all, But
Speaker 4: sometimes Keik and I really go there to some of
Speaker 4: the levels, like I could see where somebody would see
Speaker 4: this floating around on a clip, or maybe their sister
Speaker 4: sees it or their mom, and they want to talk
Speaker 4: to you about certain things. If I really care about
Speaker 4: you and I respect you, I'm okay with discussing certain things.
Speaker 2: Right.
Speaker 4: It's not I don't always look at it like you're insecure.
Speaker 4: It's like my booty hall is cussing you.
Speaker 1: Want to talk.
Speaker 6: I agree with that, you know what I meant to me.
Speaker 2: But at the end of the day, we usually speak
Speaker 2: about experiences, which we know is the pay right, and
Speaker 2: then we speak about just likes and you know, needs
Speaker 2: once and things that we're interested in educational and it's
Speaker 2: very education So why down me for expressing. But you're
Speaker 2: right about the fact that a clip that circulates online.
Speaker 4: That when we're putting the show together, they don't know
Speaker 4: if it's a lie or not. So you know, if
Speaker 4: it's somebody that you want to be in a you're
Speaker 4: in a serious relationship with, I'm just saying it doesn't
Speaker 4: have to be an argument if they were just like,
Speaker 4: can we talk about it?
Speaker 5: Because I do kind of want to. When did happen?
Speaker 2: Are you at the and your relationships?
Speaker 6: Right?
Speaker 2: Mediki? Who's more of the I need to talk? Can
Speaker 2: we talk about this person?
Speaker 1: You are? Usually okay?
Speaker 8: Wait, can we talk about our issue which is more
Speaker 8: likely to be like, you know, can we talk Can
Speaker 8: we talk about this like the disgusting Yeah, me.
Speaker 4: In our relationship our relationship with men, but men, oh
Speaker 4: me and my boyfriend are both like that. And say,
Speaker 4: because I told myself the next relationship I was in,
Speaker 4: I really wanted to aim for healthy relationships and for that,
Speaker 4: it's a lot of communication. A lot of communication around
Speaker 4: things that you didn't even think was going to have
Speaker 4: to be an issue. And so like we do therapy.
Speaker 4: We're not married, but that's the goal, but it's like
Speaker 4: we communication is really important to me and to him.
Speaker 5: So we both are constantly like, do we.
Speaker 4: Need to talk about that? Do we take that joke
Speaker 4: too far? Did you get upset the way I had? Like,
Speaker 4: I just want to make sure we're good. A lot
Speaker 4: of times in relationships, people just harbor on feelings and
Speaker 4: it might be small, but now that's growing.
Speaker 3: And you mad.
Speaker 2: So that's something you learned because you didn't do that
Speaker 2: in your previous relationship.
Speaker 5: I didn't do it a lot.
Speaker 4: It would be something small that bothered me, and I'm
Speaker 4: just like, I'm not gonna bring it up because this
Speaker 4: is stupid.
Speaker 6: But at least that's everything.
Speaker 5: Yeah, we need to talk about everything. Why do you
Speaker 5: keep no?
Speaker 2: For me?
Speaker 1: It's usually they're bringing an issue to me, and I'm
Speaker 1: okay with talking about it if it's going to be
Speaker 1: a discussion. But what I don't like is when somebody's
Speaker 1: like just running down a list of all the things
Speaker 1: that you're not doing right because you chose to hold
Speaker 1: on to it, I'm okay with talking about it, And
Speaker 1: I find that usually I'm okay with a lot more
Speaker 1: things than he is, and so he's usually the one
Speaker 1: and it's usually the show that's a big part of it.
Speaker 1: And it's like when I say something. I also don't
Speaker 1: like repeating myself too many times. So if I've brought
Speaker 1: up an issue, I'll bring it up if it's an issue,
Speaker 1: and if I bring it up three times after that,
Speaker 1: well I'm moving on. Ran Yeah, I don't like doing
Speaker 1: that because I feel like, Okay, we're doing all of
Speaker 1: this talking, but we're talking in circles. Why do we
Speaker 1: need to keep having a discussion about the same issue.
Speaker 1: And the things that I'm asking for that I'm bringing
Speaker 1: up is not a big deal. Like a guy I
Speaker 1: was seeing recently something was I was like, you keep
Speaker 1: trying to do like these big, grand things for me,
Speaker 1: and I never asked that. I don't know if my
Speaker 1: friends are putting that in your ear. I don't know
Speaker 1: if you're spending too much time on Instagram. I literally
Speaker 1: need you to help me with little things, like on
Speaker 1: a daily basis, like take some of the load off
Speaker 1: of me. I have a lot to do every day,
Speaker 1: if you could do like something small. You're at my
Speaker 1: house and you see I did some laundry and the
Speaker 1: towels aren't folded.
Speaker 6: Fold them right, Okay. It's very simple.
Speaker 1: And it's like if I'm saying, if I brought this
Speaker 1: up to you already, and I've said it three times now,
Speaker 1: don't be mad when I'm done, But.
Speaker 2: They wouldn't be over just you don't like the big
Speaker 2: grand gestures like.
Speaker 1: I don't mind them. But it's like the grand gesture
Speaker 1: doesn't make me forget that you won't do the small
Speaker 1: thing that I actually ask for, okay, Because it's the
Speaker 1: little things that really matter. It's the little things that
Speaker 1: make me appreciate somebody and make somebody stand out, then
Speaker 1: the big stuff, because the big stuff, while it might
Speaker 1: be pricier to me, that's easier, it takes It's very
Speaker 1: easy to spend money, it's so much easier to do that.
Speaker 1: It takes time. That's why I didn't fold the damn towels.
Speaker 1: So can you help me out now, you know?
Speaker 2: Would you say that in your experience in relationships, opposites
Speaker 2: attract or you like somebody that's similar to you.
Speaker 4: For me, I think it depends on at the moment,
Speaker 4: like what I'm dating for. Because now since a little
Speaker 4: bit more serious and I want a family and I
Speaker 4: want a husband, I look at those family values. So
Speaker 4: it's like, I like, I needn't opposite. Yeah, it can't
Speaker 4: be opposite. It needs to be like we have this
Speaker 4: at our core. We want the same things for kids,
Speaker 4: we want the same thing for a household.
Speaker 5: That's really important.
Speaker 4: A lot of times I look at people's relationships now,
Speaker 4: and that's normally like where people end up falling out
Speaker 4: over things. It's like like core values, core values, or
Speaker 4: it's like you're looking at somebody it's like could you
Speaker 4: be the could you be somebody's father?
Speaker 5: Because I'm like, oh.
Speaker 6: My god, oh my god, what doing single.
Speaker 3: Baby like?
Speaker 5: And that's your dad, Yetta, tell my kids that's.
Speaker 2: Your dad, your daddy's face on this child.
Speaker 1: Day. I like somebody who kind of balances me out.
Speaker 1: So maybe where I'm weak at you can be good
Speaker 1: at that. But we do need to have a lot
Speaker 1: of similarities. Okay, I think that having somebody that's laid back.
Speaker 1: I've dated guys who want to go go all the time.
Speaker 1: I don't like that you're gonna annoy me and be stressed.
Speaker 1: I don't want to do stuff all the time. I
Speaker 1: like being able to be comfortable around somebody enough where
Speaker 1: we can just be at home and chill. Sometimes everything
Speaker 1: doesn't have to be a party, it doesn't have to
Speaker 1: be a big day, it doesn't have to be all
Speaker 1: of that.
Speaker 6: Like, can I actually enjoy your company without all of the.
Speaker 1: Things at it? Because if it's all about these experience,
Speaker 1: I can do that with somebody else. It's not really
Speaker 1: about you.
Speaker 5: Then, so that's not really real life.
Speaker 4: Instagram will really have you creating a whole dream life
Speaker 4: that is not your real life. To be with somebody
Speaker 4: married and every day we find the turks. There's gonna
Speaker 4: be some days where we are just having a normal life.
Speaker 5: We're going to the grocery store right.
Speaker 1: To do that.
Speaker 4: The makeup is gone, lashes ain't done. Ray can we
Speaker 4: sit down and be regular?
Speaker 2: And sometimes people relationships look so perfect and then you
Speaker 2: find out they get a divorce, like they put up
Speaker 2: stuff and it's like this is amazing this person And
Speaker 2: the next thing you know is like what the fuck happens?
Speaker 5: Because everybody some shit going on, even healthy relationships.
Speaker 4: Everybody has there's like an underlying continuous argument about something.
Speaker 4: You either learn how to work it out or you
Speaker 4: get the people where it's like we've been faking it
Speaker 4: for too long and we got to let this go.
Speaker 2: Have you ever argued about sex in a relationship, like
Speaker 2: not enough sex or not like being able to orgasm
Speaker 2: or not like has that ever been a situation?
Speaker 5: I had an argument in one of them.
Speaker 4: I wouldn't say an argument, but it was an uncomfortable talk,
Speaker 4: like all the time, to the point where I just
Speaker 4: ended up. I was like, I'm just not going to
Speaker 4: be having sex with you. And we lived in the.
Speaker 3: Same and.
Speaker 5: I was going to say so much was the issue.
Speaker 4: It was just I started I wasn't attracted to him anymore,
Speaker 4: and I feel so bad. But again, these are some
Speaker 4: of those conversations you have to have them. I was like,
Speaker 4: I don't want to offend anybody, and this was my situation.
Speaker 5: He had just gained entirely too much weight.
Speaker 4: I'm like, I'm dying under here, like I can't even
Speaker 4: he's sweat dripping sweat in my nose.
Speaker 6: This is sweat dripped in I'm trying.
Speaker 5: Here, but it's like I can't do this anymore, like,
Speaker 5: do you know who? I could be fucking like? I
Speaker 5: didn't say that, but it was just like, yeah, you.
Speaker 4: Don't say mean things, but there were moments where it
Speaker 4: doesn't seem like you like it. I was like, I don't,
Speaker 4: I'm sorry, and I felt so could be a great guy.
Speaker 4: But the sex part just wasn't.
Speaker 2: Was he just eating too like had it? Or was
Speaker 2: there anything going on?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 4: I do think there was maybe like some depression going on.
Speaker 4: He had been through a lot in life, but that
Speaker 4: was another and nothing. You don't have to go through
Speaker 4: those things with people like this sounds really hard somebody
Speaker 4: listening to bitch is real. But I just at the
Speaker 4: moment in my life, I wasn't the I'm not I
Speaker 4: didn't love him enough to be like I'm gonna rock
Speaker 4: this out with you.
Speaker 5: I don't want to. I was young and happy and
Speaker 5: free and like, I don't really want.
Speaker 1: To be a professional. Like you're not profession you're not
Speaker 1: the lady. Okay, you need to go talk to the
Speaker 1: lady because what can you really do? And then that's
Speaker 1: just gonna bring you down that herd.
Speaker 2: That's a burden when somebody is not happy. I told you,
Speaker 2: I dated this guy and he lost his job and
Speaker 2: it was kind of early on and he was so
Speaker 2: depressed and like angry all the time, and I was like,
Speaker 2: I can't do this. I would do I was like,
Speaker 2: cause it's one thing if like you fall in some
Speaker 2: hard times, but you're working on it and at least
Speaker 2: we're still having a good time. But he was not
Speaker 2: fun at all. I mean it was every time I
Speaker 2: was around him, it was like my spirit was like, yeah,
Speaker 2: And it's one thing.
Speaker 4: Also when you I think that's when you also realize
Speaker 4: that I don't really care about you. I care about you,
Speaker 4: but I don't care about you enough to want to
Speaker 4: do these things. Because I could see it where it's
Speaker 4: like you love somebody to the point where.
Speaker 5: Will you will go?
Speaker 1: But then it's like it's the thing gonna get thinner
Speaker 1: and thinner? Is it ever gonna get back thick? Because
Speaker 1: sometimes I think that people like to just stay in
Speaker 1: that place or they won't do the things that they
Speaker 1: need to do to get out of it. And it's like,
Speaker 1: how long do you expect me to ride?
Speaker 6: Yeah, while you're like this.
Speaker 4: If you're not going to anything trying to But I
Speaker 4: also you've got to try those types of so people
Speaker 4: they show you that they don't fix problems before you
Speaker 4: marry them, Like, there are so many different signs. Whe're like,
Speaker 4: we already know if we probably if you go through
Speaker 4: some hardshap when we get married, you've been not accomplishing anything,
Speaker 4: So you don't be shocked when he fall on hard
Speaker 4: You still married and you still continue to do this
Speaker 4: relationship him and you saw him not checking off not
Speaker 4: nam boxes.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I can't do it, okay.
Speaker 2: So how important is sex in a relationship?
Speaker 1: Very okay, I mean it's not the most important, but
Speaker 1: it's very important.
Speaker 2: You know, they act like women like we're not. You know,
Speaker 2: that's always secondary to us. Have you ever been with
Speaker 2: somebody who you only like them because of sex?
Speaker 7: Oh?
Speaker 1: Yeah? To me, sex is like the easiest part of
Speaker 1: the relationship.
Speaker 6: It's the other stuff that becomes the issue.
Speaker 1: Sore. I've definitely held on to way too many people
Speaker 1: because the sex was great, and it's like I don't
Speaker 1: even really want to talk to him because when he
Speaker 1: starts talking, I'm annoyed. Or having sex, I'm in love again.
Speaker 5: Have you ever known that someone was only with you
Speaker 5: for sex?
Speaker 1: Yeah, because they didn't like when I was talking you
Speaker 1: know what, you know, it's like it was a mutual
Speaker 1: decision and it's fine, like you just discuss it.
Speaker 2: I don't know if I like, I feel like every
Speaker 2: guy that I've been with at least acts like they
Speaker 2: like to be around you.
Speaker 1: Disrespect Yeah, like nice, but you can just tell, like
Speaker 1: when the conversations are not ever really having any substance,
Speaker 1: and it's just like little things, you know, like if
Speaker 1: they're not taking you out to eat and we'll eat,
Speaker 1: like ask me about my future, asking about my family,
Speaker 1: checking in on people, or asking what I want out
Speaker 1: of life. It's just like we can go, we can eat,
Speaker 1: we can do the things. You can drink and after this.
Speaker 2: Yeah, what makes sex great to you?
Speaker 1: Oh? The passion, the eye contact. I just like the
Speaker 1: smell of a man.
Speaker 2: Are pasturbating right now?
Speaker 5: Use my best friend?
Speaker 1: I almost warm mind today. But yeah, I think it's
Speaker 1: that and just being able to look at somebody and
Speaker 1: just every sexual experience is different and the people that
Speaker 1: you're with is different. But when you can really connect
Speaker 1: with somebody and both of you are pleasing each other
Speaker 1: and it's not like one sided, it's great.
Speaker 2: Have you ever had sex with somebody who didn't even
Speaker 2: really like, like as a person.
Speaker 6: Yeah, I stopped doing that.
Speaker 5: But sex was good or the sex was bad, or
Speaker 5: you're like, don't you.
Speaker 2: Know, like the sex is good? Person, Yeah, I.
Speaker 5: Don't want where's my stuff.
Speaker 3: For a person I didn't like?
Speaker 7: But I used to like them and then I ended
Speaker 7: up having sex with them later and didn't like them.
Speaker 3: My thoughts on right the feeling one away.
Speaker 2: Like if you circle back, like it was good at
Speaker 2: first and then you like, let me revisit that years later, and.
Speaker 1: Then you like, I think I raised my standards because
Speaker 1: I thought it.
Speaker 2: Was there you go, there was this. This happened to
Speaker 2: me one time. This is so embarrassing as I learned
Speaker 2: not to do this. But this guy was at my
Speaker 2: house and he was really good at like in and pussy.
Speaker 2: That was all that I really I didn't really like
Speaker 2: him that much. And then one day he just would
Speaker 2: not leave, and I was like, oh my god, if
Speaker 2: he Because you know when somebody's at your house and
Speaker 2: you don't really like them and you can't wait for
Speaker 2: them to leave and you don't want to be rude
Speaker 2: and you don't know how to be like this is
Speaker 2: before Ubers existed, so you can't.
Speaker 4: This is why women are so great, because women we
Speaker 4: all like, I don't want to be rude.
Speaker 6: Oh man, out of here?
Speaker 5: What you want to go to work?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 6: I got, I got, I got moved the man.
Speaker 4: I got.
Speaker 5: Worried about that.
Speaker 2: Finally he left right and I closed the door behind him,
Speaker 2: and I was like, oh my god, thank god he
Speaker 2: left and he heard me, but I closed the doors.
Speaker 6: I didn't know he terrified.
Speaker 2: He called me and was like, wow, you couldn't wait
Speaker 2: for me to leave, and I was like.
Speaker 6: Wow, I really, I'm sorry.
Speaker 5: Did he still come up with each.
Speaker 2: I think after that I probably was too bad. But
Speaker 2: I also just didn't like him any I didn't even
Speaker 2: really like him. I don't even know why.
Speaker 4: I was like, when you feel that way about man, like,
Speaker 4: what is normally like the underlying factor that you don't like?
Speaker 4: Because for me, it could be something like slight like you,
Speaker 4: maybe you when you swallow it's too.
Speaker 5: Loud and it's like, well, I don't understand why you.
Speaker 6: So it was a guy that I didn't like. I
Speaker 6: couldn't really just get into because he was like highly unintelligent.
Speaker 6: Yeah that's a deal break because I like everything was
Speaker 6: so cool.
Speaker 1: But he.
Speaker 7: Think I was somebody for a long time whose sex
Speaker 7: was just incredible.
Speaker 3: It was just really whole. You know, everything sucks mm hm.
Speaker 1: But he was a little girl.
Speaker 6: Yeah, and see I never had like you didn't even
Speaker 6: get there.
Speaker 7: And like I, he and I almost every time we
Speaker 7: spoke it was like if we had a long conversation,
Speaker 7: we were either like having a jokey conversation or I
Speaker 7: was teaching him something.
Speaker 6: You're like beat alone with men, it out with it.
Speaker 4: It was the sex was great and he was fine,
Speaker 4: but he just I'm not even like a health freak.
Speaker 5: I'm really not. I do the normals.
Speaker 4: I'll do my vitamins, I drink a lot of water,
Speaker 4: I have my vegetables all that stuff.
Speaker 5: I'm normal healthy. He was like, I don't like water,
Speaker 5: and I was.
Speaker 1: Like, oh.
Speaker 6: Coming out fried.
Speaker 5: It was drowning the lettuce and ranch.
Speaker 2: I can't so I know he didn't taste good.
Speaker 6: That's the steps.
Speaker 3: Have a good diet. I couldn't get.
Speaker 1: With no water.
Speaker 6: Like, no, I don't like water. You don't like yourself.
Speaker 6: You don't like water. That's the body is what happened.
Speaker 2: Okay, I don't know anybody who doesn't drink water. I
Speaker 2: don't think. I have no idea.
Speaker 6: I don't drink.
Speaker 1: They were.
Speaker 5: Always look unhealthy, something look like, yeah, I don't like water.
Speaker 2: So maybe what is overrated?
Speaker 6: No, it's not.
Speaker 1: I have the question, y'all.
Speaker 6: This didn't happen to me, but it happened to a
Speaker 6: close friend of mine, and I want to get y'all's
Speaker 6: opinion on it. So imagine your day in the sky
Speaker 6: and things are getting serious and you invite him over.
Speaker 6: He's from out of town, and you're like, when you visit,
Speaker 6: you can just stay at my house and he goes, Now,
Speaker 6: I'm ready to get a hotel because I don't know
Speaker 6: who slept in that bed. How would you react to that?
Speaker 4: Okay, my reaction will be I can't believe you said
Speaker 4: to me, But I also get it. So then I'm
Speaker 4: looking at whoever he said that to you? Will Is
Speaker 4: there a reason why he do a lot of.
Speaker 6: Well, so personally because I know the guy and not
Speaker 6: the girl. So personally for him, he just feels like
Speaker 6: he don't want to sleep in the bed that she
Speaker 6: another man fucked her. But changing the mattress don't change
Speaker 6: her pussy. You're still gonna sit on the toilet. You
Speaker 6: still want to eat off the forks in the place.
Speaker 6: You're still in the house.
Speaker 3: Excuse first, right.
Speaker 5: Now, there have been times when I don't want to stay.
Speaker 2: I was gonna say if you did he had never
Speaker 2: even been to her time that you go like visit him.
Speaker 2: I wouldn't want to stay in his house either. I'd
Speaker 2: rather get a hotel and maybe go to your house.
Speaker 6: It was the worst time they were. They were getting
Speaker 6: serious and she's like, you no longer have to get hotels.
Speaker 6: You can start staying with me, and he's like not.
Speaker 6: He said, I'll buy you a new mattress first, but
Speaker 6: not well, I mean, but that's just oh you know
Speaker 6: I I told him he was being ridiculous, and he's
Speaker 6: like the real nigga before, because the real nigga go
Speaker 6: swap out your mattress. You might out every DWN, but
Speaker 6: you can't swap out as the pussy. Yeah, I mean,
Speaker 6: I can see like a new pillows.
Speaker 2: But she's okay with you, then you know if she's.
Speaker 6: This, this is what I want to know. And I'm
Speaker 6: gonna ask him because I just thought of this in
Speaker 6: this moment when your break up because eventually you're probably
Speaker 6: gonna break up with her. You'll might not make it.
Speaker 6: You're taking the mattress or you letting her keep it
Speaker 6: for the next nigga.
Speaker 3: So she.
Speaker 5: Trying to carry out mattress.
Speaker 2: You want to hear something crazy. I dated this guy.
Speaker 2: This is the only person before that I ever very
Speaker 2: briefly lived with for like two months, you know, And
Speaker 2: when we broke up, he tried to take the mattress
Speaker 2: with him. Like wrong, He's like, but he had no
Speaker 2: place to go with it. I was like, if you
Speaker 2: don't just take this.
Speaker 6: Wait, it's a video flirting the round of a guy
Speaker 6: trying to look the mattress onto the train here in
Speaker 6: New York. I just saw it today.
Speaker 2: And I had just graduated from college. So it wasn't
Speaker 2: like a good mattress. It was from a Kia, so
Speaker 2: he was extra petty.
Speaker 1: Yeah, he liked try to take it.
Speaker 2: And he was like trying to take it and drag
Speaker 2: it down, and I was like, I mean, I don't hear. No,
Speaker 2: he didn't because he didn't really have nowhere to go.
Speaker 2: He couldn't get it down the steps. But I think
Speaker 2: he was just that is so embarrassing.
Speaker 1: Imagine you're struggling with the mattress, you can't eat, and
Speaker 1: I was looking like, are you just stuck this clown
Speaker 1: right here?
Speaker 5: We sit here and talk about clown ass niggas.
Speaker 4: There used to be a dude that I was fucking
Speaker 4: with and he he wasn't even my boyfriend.
Speaker 5: We were just like dating for a moment. He was crazy.
Speaker 5: I will never date another Libraman ever again.
Speaker 6: In my life.
Speaker 1: That's my brother.
Speaker 2: He's a Libra.
Speaker 5: I'm a lib to, but the brother.
Speaker 6: Brian cool.
Speaker 4: He ended up writing a Google doc, a six page
Speaker 4: Google doc about me, and it had like an intro
Speaker 4: and heading, and he wrote this Google doc about everything
Speaker 4: that he didn't like that I did, and he put
Speaker 4: bullet points. When we were out, you could have suggested
Speaker 4: that you were going to pay for the extra, the
Speaker 4: extra who could call? Or hey baby, I'm going to
Speaker 4: pick you up from the airport this week. It was
Speaker 4: so detailed. I'll show you all after the show.
Speaker 5: It was crazy.
Speaker 4: He made a Google doc. Not only did he make
Speaker 4: the Google doc, he got on Instagram, found my mom,
Speaker 4: found my older brother, my older sister, and my best friend,
Speaker 4: and he sent them the Google doc. I didn't even
Speaker 4: know it had been created. My sister calls me like
Speaker 4: eight am on a Sunday morning. I'm like, what's going on?
Speaker 4: She was like, I just sent a Google doc and
Speaker 4: he sent it to mom.
Speaker 5: He sent it to you.
Speaker 4: I was like, oh my god, I go to my email.
Speaker 4: He emailed it to me because I had blocked him.
Speaker 4: I was so embarrassed the depths that these men will
Speaker 4: go I'm gonna show you.
Speaker 5: I'm gonna show you.
Speaker 2: I was.
Speaker 4: I couldn't believe that he did this. And it was detailed.
Speaker 4: It was like a dissertation. He had all these details.
Speaker 4: Every date, he put dates what I should have said,
Speaker 4: examples of what I should have said.
Speaker 2: Was any of this in your opinion? Maybe he was right?
Speaker 3: You know, so.
Speaker 4: You in the moment because he came like he really
Speaker 4: give me to the point where now and I date,
Speaker 4: I guess I should look at it as a positive.
Speaker 4: I'm hyper sensitive to like how I treat people because
Speaker 4: I had no idea he felt this way.
Speaker 5: But this was ignorant. I couldn't believe he did this.
Speaker 2: God, you know, I'm not gonna lie. When you break
Speaker 2: up with somebody, would you like a Google doc of
Speaker 2: like what you could have done.
Speaker 6: Talk to me when it happening, how you diegue everything?
Speaker 1: And you like about time? I would like it a thing.
Speaker 2: You should create a document for people to fill out.
Speaker 1: Yeah, like a little.
Speaker 3: Because a Google document of what he wants me to do.
Speaker 1: Yeah, like, let's be because we would You said it's
Speaker 1: perfect at the end, when it's over.
Speaker 2: Maybe it would be good to have, like some feedback.
Speaker 1: I would like to do that, because you know, I
Speaker 1: would my mom.
Speaker 6: What your mom said almost like baby.
Speaker 5: I just want you to know I did not open
Speaker 5: it and read it, and I always she read it.
Speaker 1: She said, she did.
Speaker 2: You know what she?
Speaker 4: He titled it, Hey, smiley face, Why would you do
Speaker 4: this to someone utterly embarrassed?
Speaker 1: That is ridiculous.
Speaker 2: I think this is not a bad idea. I don't
Speaker 2: think we should really create sometimes. I would like and
Speaker 2: it's six pages. May enjoyed your week?
Speaker 1: I like that.
Speaker 2: He said, it's currently Friday, No.
Speaker 6: Five thirty timestamps.
Speaker 2: He actually, it's it's well written. From experience, I've noticed
Speaker 2: you don't do well with constructive feedback. So I'm also
Speaker 2: helping you curate your cantability cluster. Hence why he's the
Speaker 2: where hens while others in your personal circle are included.
Speaker 2: We often say feedback is the breakfast of champions, and
Speaker 2: without accountability, there's liability.
Speaker 1: I've never seen it.
Speaker 2: Okay, I've noticed position he forgot an s here. I've
Speaker 2: noticed position you've taken on social media as quote being
Speaker 2: stood up or quote wanting.
Speaker 5: Over those particular situations that happen.
Speaker 2: So here's some factual critique to truly add validity to
Speaker 2: the narrative as well as share best practices in dating
Speaker 2: so you don't continue fumbling.
Speaker 6: Good man, what does this man do for a living?
Speaker 4: You use a financial advisor? He made to the point
Speaker 4: where I'll never date a financial advisor ever again.
Speaker 2: And even if not with me, I genuinely want and
Speaker 2: wish the best for you and your love life because
Speaker 2: I believe you're an amazing woman that may just need
Speaker 2: a little coaching or a glimpse from another perspective besides
Speaker 2: your I'm so far it's not bad a one personal
Speaker 2: accountability and communication made. It wasn't until Friday October twenty nine,
Speaker 2: at three forty five that you finally share logistics about
Speaker 2: the party that evening. Not to mention, I am the
Speaker 2: one that had to reach out to you at that
Speaker 2: time when you finally texted be at your house at
Speaker 2: six pm, I called immediately to let you know i'd
Speaker 2: be running behind something.
Speaker 4: That's a whole issue with this is y'all won't undertand
Speaker 4: because it's a whole situation and he didn't be to it.
Speaker 2: Okay, Oh yeah, he drove out of Alpharetta. See. I
Speaker 2: thought back to the week prior where a similar situation happened.
Speaker 2: It was Sunday. He has a date, so he has
Speaker 2: a diary.
Speaker 3: He has he has.
Speaker 2: Started telling me in the moment it's like a contract.
Speaker 1: All right, comment relation moment.
Speaker 2: I got to tell you how he starts up to
Speaker 2: a as aforementioned.
Speaker 6: Let's remain ur my last email, right ooh, he said.
Speaker 2: Purpose of this interaction was to express my concerned with
Speaker 2: the relationship deposits or lack thereof. I felt we're being
Speaker 2: made on your end during the discussion. You took that
Speaker 2: as me saying you don't spend money on me. That's
Speaker 2: not at all what I look exactly what he said.
Speaker 2: I'll share some examples of what we mean by relationship deposits.
Speaker 2: I haven't never heard.
Speaker 1: Of relationship relationship therapist, right, I.
Speaker 4: Know we go out of home, so we were not
Speaker 4: in a relationship that I'm this man for one girl.
Speaker 4: I knew him for one Did you guys describe knew
Speaker 4: him for one month?
Speaker 2: He would have described your cooking skills.
Speaker 4: No, he's sort of saying he wanted me to cook
Speaker 4: for him, and I was like, Okay, one day I
Speaker 4: was making some chicken wings and I was like, you
Speaker 4: could come over it.
Speaker 5: Again, he's not my boyfriend.
Speaker 2: Okay, you did make him wings that one time. He
Speaker 2: said they were good.
Speaker 4: He was playing, he was I was really looking at
Speaker 4: this email to my brother.
Speaker 6: You got it, girl.
Speaker 2: He wanted you to just say this hookah cole refill.
Speaker 4: Is on me now we start. But you talk about
Speaker 4: it wasn't about.
Speaker 2: How much ten dollars I want you to be like,
Speaker 2: I got us a shot.
Speaker 4: He left out everything that I actually did do for
Speaker 4: him that was financial, which is crazy to me. That's
Speaker 4: why this accountability thing, it's like put in your part
Speaker 4: in it also.
Speaker 3: Though, But what did you do that he's not mentioned.
Speaker 4: He's not mentioning the Dior cologne for his birthday. Again,
Speaker 4: I knew him for one month, and I was like, oh,
Speaker 4: he's really sweet.
Speaker 1: Surprised. That's a sugar.
Speaker 2: You're not good at listening, he.
Speaker 4: Said, I did a scavenger hunt around his place, like
Speaker 4: I was like a rob romantic.
Speaker 6: On this.
Speaker 2: This is amazing by listening is number three and the
Speaker 2: book Never Split the Difference author describes listening as the
Speaker 2: greatest form of currency you can give a person. I
Speaker 2: don't believe it's productive to list the countless examples of
Speaker 2: where I told you something and you just flat out
Speaker 2: forget or attempt to explain to me that I never
Speaker 2: said it.
Speaker 1: That's so mean.
Speaker 2: I will forget some ship now, okay.
Speaker 4: Especially and told me that I need to allow him
Speaker 4: to spend the night in my house during the week
Speaker 4: days because I live in the city and his office
Speaker 4: was in the city and he lived in bumba.
Speaker 2: Fuck.
Speaker 6: I don't know how much how much you have to drive,
Speaker 6: so you're paying my rent and right, And he started
Speaker 6: really having me believed that.
Speaker 5: I was doing they so I was like, okay, maybe
Speaker 5: you should. I was dumb.
Speaker 2: Was the last question?
Speaker 1: Did you call him corny? I did good.
Speaker 6: I lived from the airport and my boyfriend at the
Speaker 6: hour and a half from the airport, so he would
Speaker 6: come to my house and like use my house as
Speaker 6: to jump off point to go to the airport when
Speaker 6: he had to travel. And after a while I was
Speaker 6: just like, is this the only time I'm going to
Speaker 6: see you?
Speaker 1: Right? Yeah?
Speaker 2: Well he did say you're amazing. Okay, after all that,
Speaker 2: he said, YO, always attractive man.
Speaker 6: He said he was a good woman.
Speaker 2: You even shared or insinuated with me over text that
Speaker 2: you haven't moved on, go speed racer.
Speaker 6: You know what? So was there anything that she was like,
Speaker 6: did you from this constructive criticism?
Speaker 5: There was.
Speaker 1: There anything?
Speaker 2: Quote, let me just do this quote. I've been called
Speaker 2: a lot of things in my days, but never corny.
Speaker 5: I should have had a big booty. He also had
Speaker 5: a big old block.
Speaker 6: I'm not like.
Speaker 1: Big, like like you can have a little football.
Speaker 4: And he better be glad that I didn't take my
Speaker 4: platform and really rip them apart.
Speaker 5: I could have happened. I was like, I'm not even
Speaker 5: gonna do that. He wasn't a little bit.
Speaker 1: I wish she would. I wish you would have.
Speaker 2: I would.
Speaker 5: Booty anybody. Glad I didn't contact his company.
Speaker 4: There's just so much that could have been done, because
Speaker 4: now it turned into harassment.
Speaker 5: Like what are you doing.
Speaker 4: He didn't stop contact together. Yeah, it's like, bro, what
Speaker 4: are you doing? Take the L and move on.
Speaker 1: Period. That was a lot.
Speaker 2: It was about a couple of grammdical errors. I'm an
Speaker 2: English major. But other than that, it was but I
Speaker 2: take that.
Speaker 4: You know what, I'm not gonna I did because it
Speaker 4: made me think about and when he was talking about like, oh,
Speaker 4: like you're not offering things, you're not things and you're
Speaker 4: not doing relationship deposits. First of all, I didn't really
Speaker 4: like him like that, so I thought that was wek
Speaker 4: I knew him for months. I was still getting to
Speaker 4: know you, and so it made me realize that, Yeah,
Speaker 4: but for me, if I really do care about somebody
Speaker 4: making sure I am offering certain things and at least
Speaker 4: even if you don't want me to. But he gave me,
Speaker 4: like literally he made me be like super high hyper
Speaker 4: sensitive to where like even in my relationship now, I'm
Speaker 4: always like do.
Speaker 5: You want me to get this? Do you want me
Speaker 5: to get my way?
Speaker 1: And you like trying.
Speaker 2: To ladies, let's talk about that for a second, because
Speaker 2: you've already had to cope with this in me, Dina,
Speaker 2: But Kiki, do you do relationship deposits.
Speaker 1: If I like you, Okay, if I care, I have
Speaker 1: no problem doing it. But sometimes I think that men
Speaker 1: get confused and they think that we like them more
Speaker 1: than we do, and it's like, this is just a
Speaker 1: good time right now, So don't expect me to give
Speaker 1: a lot. But I have no problem giving. I find
Speaker 1: that really I give too much sometimes if.
Speaker 2: I like I saw on TikTok this went viral where
Speaker 2: a woman was filming herself. She was on a date
Speaker 2: and the guy I guess didn't have enough money to
Speaker 2: pay for dinner dishes yeah, and he was like, I
Speaker 2: can wash the dishes, and she was just kind of
Speaker 2: like she.
Speaker 1: Was just filming.
Speaker 2: People were like, why didn't she offer? What did you
Speaker 2: think about that.
Speaker 6: Didn't have it to offer?
Speaker 1: That's what I saw herself.
Speaker 2: To pay for herself, at least, because I've always been
Speaker 2: to it since I was young. Don't go out with
Speaker 2: the guy if you don't have money to take care
Speaker 2: of yourself in case something happens.
Speaker 1: I was taught that.
Speaker 6: I didn't always do that. Yeah, but yeah, this is
Speaker 6: definitely where I was talking.
Speaker 1: I would think that if she had it, she would
Speaker 1: be like, well, I can at least pay my part,
Speaker 1: but it seems also you wanted to have a moment
Speaker 1: she tried to do. But then I'm like, well, why
Speaker 1: were you all ordering if you had the money, what
Speaker 1: is that point? Yeah, and if it's none, it was
Speaker 1: ninety seven dollars.
Speaker 2: Yeah, they were times in my life they probably didn't
Speaker 2: have ninety.
Speaker 6: Dollars either, But I'm not about to be.
Speaker 2: Sick and crazy. I this time when I first when
Speaker 2: I was working at Serious And I don't think he'll
Speaker 2: mind me telling this story because I've he's discussed it before.
Speaker 2: But when Bob first signed to Atlantic Records, he was
Speaker 2: managed by b Rich member be Rich and him and
Speaker 2: TJ they were managing Bob. They were like, you know,
Speaker 2: after they had did my show, they were like, let's
Speaker 2: go get something to eat. And I was like okay,
Speaker 2: And they told me way later that when I ordered
Speaker 2: a second drink, they didn't have enough money to even
Speaker 2: pay because they had just signed a deal and they
Speaker 2: were like, look, we had spent all of our money
Speaker 2: like trying to get all this done. And then that's
Speaker 2: why no one else got a drink but me, because
Speaker 2: they were like, oh, you know, we're going to take
Speaker 2: you out and I was like, okay, cool. You know,
Speaker 2: we went a couple of blocks from the station as serious,
Speaker 2: and they just didn't have it at that time. And
Speaker 2: clearly things got better after that, but they in retrospect
Speaker 2: were looking back and they were like, I just remember
Speaker 2: being like, oh my god, how are we going to
Speaker 2: pay for this?
Speaker 5: How they paid for it?
Speaker 2: They managed. They just didn't get drinks either, like they
Speaker 2: realized they had just enough.
Speaker 4: Like they definitely been in situations like that, especially when
Speaker 4: it's like you tend to be a guy.
Speaker 5: Yeah, it's any situation.
Speaker 4: It's tough because even if it's not like a romantic situation,
Speaker 4: if you are like in the entertainment industry, and you
Speaker 4: meet somebody that you do look up through you want
Speaker 4: to work with and you maybe need a moment with
Speaker 4: him and you want to take them out, you're not
Speaker 4: going to be like, I really don't have any money
Speaker 4: to take you out, but I want to take you
Speaker 4: outcause I wanted to maybe like pick your brain about
Speaker 4: something we all know, like the protocols you're supposed to
Speaker 4: do and the points's I've done that before, and it's
Speaker 4: like I I hope.
Speaker 5: This don't I hope she don't be trying to order
Speaker 5: too much, right.
Speaker 2: We saw that on thesod The Happiness. Remember in the
Speaker 2: movie The Happiness where his boss was like he was
Speaker 2: entered in and he borrows some money from him. He
Speaker 2: was like, shit, that was a lot for him. I
Speaker 2: think we got to call this episode of relationship deposit no.
Speaker 7: Seeing of relationship deposits. I feel like I made too
Speaker 7: many relationship deposits. I'd be spending money on my boyfriend.
Speaker 7: I deposit the whole relationship when i'm but I'm in
Speaker 7: a relationship. When I go shopping, I buy my man's
Speaker 7: shoes and clothes, and I bring them food.
Speaker 5: But I don't.
Speaker 7: One thing I have to say is that I have
Speaker 7: not ever been I've sat at the table with a
Speaker 7: man who made me pay for my food.
Speaker 3: Ever happened.
Speaker 4: And what I do want people to take but I
Speaker 4: would if I had to, I would I pay for
Speaker 4: both of us.
Speaker 3: I'm I'm trick, mama.
Speaker 4: The relationship deposits don't have don't always have money, right,
Speaker 4: because I will say there are some there. Sometimes it's
Speaker 4: just like sometimes a man just wants you to People
Speaker 4: just want you to know. I want to know, like
Speaker 4: you care about my well being man. It's you walk
Speaker 4: me to the door at night, or you walk me
Speaker 4: to the car, you open my car door, Like there
Speaker 4: are just certain things you don't you talk about what
Speaker 4: you need and what you want to take out my
Speaker 4: trash and fold the town for me. Yeah, Like it's
Speaker 4: not always so if somebody's listening, they're like, dang, I
Speaker 4: only got seven dollars.
Speaker 2: It's nice for a guy to cook for you, because
Speaker 2: especially guys, you don't know how to guy except it
Speaker 2: might be a nasty but a nice gesture.
Speaker 1: It's a nice gesture. I had a man I remember
Speaker 1: in college, but he was bragging about his cooking skills.
Speaker 1: So when I got to this, it was not there,
Speaker 1: and I was like, this is truly a college struggle meal.
Speaker 1: And why why did you invite me all the way
Speaker 1: out here to come do this? Because he didn't go
Speaker 1: to school with me. He was at like University of Maryland.
Speaker 1: So I drove my ass down to Maryland from DC.
Speaker 1: But it probably got the ticket on the way. Craft
Speaker 1: mac and cheese. It wasn't even real.
Speaker 6: Spaghetti mac and cheese you're discussing it was.
Speaker 1: It was pasta. I thought it was gonna be like
Speaker 1: real spaghetti, but it was like some pasta noodles and
Speaker 1: like a jar of sauce that he didn't even hook up.
Speaker 6: I saw him sprinkle a dobo in it, and that.
Speaker 1: Was it, and I'm like, that's the play. It probably was,
Speaker 1: and I was just like moving. I said, I can't
Speaker 1: do this. It's buffalo while wing still open. I'm hungry.
Speaker 1: We need to eat something I can't like order he
Speaker 1: did and his films were.
Speaker 6: But I'm like, I'm hungry.
Speaker 2: Hear what type of letter he had written about you?
Speaker 6: You should have appreciated the fact that I opened up
Speaker 6: the jar and I don't have any food, but I
Speaker 6: gave you my last year. I gave you my last jars.
Speaker 7: Yeah, and I did not shouldn't have been bragging about
Speaker 7: that cooking.
Speaker 2: That was the part where he before guys who like
Speaker 2: think they can cook, but can't. They cannot make tacos
Speaker 2: and spaghetti. Those are like the breakfast.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 3: Usually my father he made me steak and baked potatoes.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 3: I gave him a baby after that.
Speaker 2: Now did you see Tarall Owens talking with Sinko on
Speaker 2: on Live and he was.
Speaker 6: Saying that I was talking about it this morning.
Speaker 2: Yeah, so He was saying that he basically had stopped
Speaker 2: dating black his experiences dating black women wasn't so good,
Speaker 2: and that they were kind of like did you see it?
Speaker 6: He was saying that when he was younger that the
Speaker 6: black girls didn't like him. They talked about him being
Speaker 6: too dark, and they just he wasn't attractive, and that
Speaker 6: kind of pushed him more towards other races women especially,
Speaker 6: and he's like, you know me now and he gets
Speaker 6: shunned upond because that's what he prefers. But it's just
Speaker 6: like back then, you ain't want me. Now I'm hot,
Speaker 6: y'all me Like, what am I supposed to do? I mean,
Speaker 6: to each their own.
Speaker 4: I mean, when people are honest and they're not, you're
Speaker 4: not trying to like just offend somebody with your words.
Speaker 5: That's his honest story.
Speaker 1: You lie.
Speaker 2: Have you had experiences dating like outside your race?
Speaker 1: Yea, No. I tried one time and I was like,
Speaker 1: I just I can't.
Speaker 6: Relationship with a Caucasian man. I've been in a relationship
Speaker 6: with an Indian man, and I've been in a relationship
Speaker 6: with some what are Jamaican.
Speaker 2: But did any of them make you feel like I
Speaker 2: would never date this whatever.
Speaker 1: Dan, I felt like he was kind of having a
Speaker 1: little bit of a fetish because he it was always
Speaker 1: about black stuff, and it's like, I don't talk about
Speaker 1: black shit all day every day. We don't have to
Speaker 1: just have a conversation.
Speaker 6: I would date a white man. I feel like that
Speaker 6: I will probably eventually end up marrying. Really, yeah, just
Speaker 6: from past experiences that I've always I've always had the
Speaker 6: best times when I was in those relationships. They just
Speaker 6: treat you better. It's weird.
Speaker 1: Did it feel any type of fetishization at all?
Speaker 6: Did it feel like fetish to me?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 4: No, I've dated the rainbow, and it all comes down to,
Speaker 4: like how we were talking about earlier, I have got
Speaker 4: to feel like my favorite way to be looking in
Speaker 4: the house is ugly, Like I like being in my
Speaker 4: hair looking crazy, and I just I have learned that
Speaker 4: when I've dated outside of my race, I don't feel
Speaker 4: not that they did anything to me, it's just the
Speaker 4: cultural differences.
Speaker 5: I don't want those in my household.
Speaker 4: I want you to understand that I might look totally
Speaker 4: different tomorrow, and I don't want you ask.
Speaker 2: Some questions like.
Speaker 5: What are we doing.
Speaker 4: I've got great experiences dating outside of my race. So
Speaker 4: when it comes down to that, that core again the family
Speaker 4: values I don't want to have. I don't want to
Speaker 4: have to explain to your white mother why she can't
Speaker 4: say the N word.
Speaker 5: You know what, I don't want to like, I just
Speaker 5: don't want.
Speaker 4: To have why she's I just don't want to have
Speaker 4: to deal with that.
Speaker 6: I just knew it wasn't the future with him, Like
Speaker 6: after a while, I was just like, this isn't going
Speaker 6: to go past where it is now. And he was
Speaker 6: telling cheep, he had a lot of money, but he
Speaker 6: always want to get something on discount, and some relationships
Speaker 6: I always wanted, like.
Speaker 1: I was gonna forget that. I like that.
Speaker 4: I want us all to go home to tonight and
Speaker 4: do some relationship deposits somebody you love or like.
Speaker 5: Already for all of us.
Speaker 2: To be able to do things like that. I'm not
Speaker 2: mad at it.
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna lie.
Speaker 6: You know, relationship deposits.
Speaker 2: Now, let me ask you this. Let's just say you
Speaker 2: were in love, you've been in love before, like he
Speaker 2: was going to get married.
Speaker 1: Maybe I thought that and I shouldn't have thought that,
Speaker 1: but yes, I have okay, and not good at first,
Speaker 1: I didn't last.
Speaker 2: But yeah, what happened.
Speaker 1: He cheated, he had a baby with somebody else, He
Speaker 1: had a whole another girlfriend.
Speaker 7: So how did you find out?
Speaker 1: His best friend's wife came to me and told me what.
Speaker 1: She was like, I really hit me up on it
Speaker 1: was like Facebook, you need to know and.
Speaker 6: She was like I know that.
Speaker 1: Yeah. She was like you need to know this, and
Speaker 1: I was like I need to know what. She was like,
Speaker 1: call me. So I called because I want to know,
Speaker 1: like what's going on? You have anything to do with anything?
Speaker 1: Like what's going on? So when I called her, she
Speaker 1: was like, he's having a baby and he hasn't told you,
Speaker 1: but they were talking about it last night. Yes, And
Speaker 1: I loved her message. Yeah, And she's like they're talking
Speaker 1: about it and I want you to know. I did
Speaker 1: say you need to tell her and if you don't
Speaker 1: tell her, I will. And I don't seem like he
Speaker 1: told you because I appreciate.
Speaker 5: You every Sunday, so.
Speaker 1: Like I appreciated that, and I'm glad she told me.
Speaker 1: I did leave Alona for that, because like, this is
Speaker 1: many you're all to have a life with. And it
Speaker 1: just made me wake up and realize this is not
Speaker 1: your person. Well one, he's not trying to be your person.
Speaker 1: He's trying to be everybody's person. And it's not gonna
Speaker 1: match up because you're gonna be mad at that baby. Like,
Speaker 1: I don't know how people are able to stay in
Speaker 1: relationships with somebody when they have a baby with somebody else,
Speaker 1: like to eat their own. And if you love that
Speaker 1: man real bad and you can do it, but I
Speaker 1: know I would be mad every day looking at that
Speaker 1: child and the child didn't do anything.
Speaker 2: To do so, And then also have to know that
Speaker 2: you have to deal with the mom.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and I still have to deal with you. And
Speaker 1: then I'm always gonna wonder I couldn't.
Speaker 3: I couldn't do it.
Speaker 5: Why is Natasha in the corner not eating with everyone else?
Speaker 5: Were differently?
Speaker 6: No, I was put on a pedestal. I was the
Speaker 6: you got extra child. I was I was the golden
Speaker 6: ticket child.
Speaker 2: You know, when you're in that situation when they come
Speaker 2: into a little baby, if the other mom can be okay,
Speaker 2: you can grow to love and be like okay.
Speaker 1: But because that's the.
Speaker 2: Other mom is a crazy person, then that's a that's
Speaker 2: the real obstacle.
Speaker 5: Yeah, you can't because you're now a part of my life.
Speaker 1: And I think it's also different if like you had
Speaker 1: a baby with somebody you were in another relationship with,
Speaker 1: or if it was just like a y'all were having
Speaker 1: sex and this girl got broke, Yeah, that's different, but
Speaker 1: you got a whole another relationship.
Speaker 2: Now, Like what if you started dating somebody you really
Speaker 2: liked them, and then they had a baby on the
Speaker 2: way with somebody they weren't with, could you continue to
Speaker 2: pursue that relationship.
Speaker 1: I mean, I might be able to do that.
Speaker 7: I have, I've got that, I've been what I've started
Speaker 7: with a guy who has a baby on the way.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and we still.
Speaker 4: Because there's already so much that goes into again, a
Speaker 4: healthy relationship. If you're not worried about that, then cool,
Speaker 4: the same for you. But like if you are, it's.
Speaker 5: Like, now we have a whole other dynamically.
Speaker 3: But like you said, I was, I feel like it
Speaker 3: was in my younger years.
Speaker 7: And yeah, and my younger years, I wasn't even the
Speaker 7: furthest I was thinking about the future was maybe the
Speaker 7: next twenty minute.
Speaker 5: What are we eating?
Speaker 7: But you know, I don't I don't know.
Speaker 2: If sometimes we stayed way too long and we got
Speaker 2: those signs really on it, but like I know, baby
Speaker 2: on me.
Speaker 6: We was in an open relationship and he got the
Speaker 6: next girl pregnant and I found out because his best
Speaker 6: friend thought I knew and was like something something something,
Speaker 6: the baby, and I'm like, what baby. You know what's
Speaker 6: hard for guys too, because sometimes they be thinking they
Speaker 6: don't know if it's theirs or not until.
Speaker 2: That's what he tried to tell Sometimes they try to wait.
Speaker 6: And they'd be like, that was an excuse. When I
Speaker 6: asked him, I guess what he said, Well, guess guess
Speaker 6: what was happening. The baby had a name, his name no,
Speaker 6: but very close to his name because he already had
Speaker 6: a junior. The baby had a name that started with
Speaker 6: the same initial, and he was transforming the library across
Speaker 6: the hall to a nursery. So how are you doing
Speaker 6: all this and.
Speaker 5: The baby and you don't you know?
Speaker 1: I would rather like tell me that you think you
Speaker 1: might have a baby, but you don't know, and let's
Speaker 1: get to damn test communication not getting DNA tests like
Speaker 1: you said, No.
Speaker 3: I'm not gonna lie.
Speaker 7: After the baby came, there was a little problem in
Speaker 7: between time and the meantime that we had to get over.
Speaker 3: We had to move on from out.
Speaker 4: Because there's so many Because then you look at it like, Okay,
Speaker 4: I'm with you, you have the baby.
Speaker 5: You have to be president in the baby.
Speaker 1: I can't be.
Speaker 3: You know, I can't be mad because I knew it
Speaker 3: was coming.
Speaker 6: So what if he was like, I really want you
Speaker 6: to also like step in.
Speaker 1: Step mama.
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's a different thing.
Speaker 2: There, Like what if the guy wanted to meet his baby.
Speaker 4: That's happened that guy that sent that Google doc. That
Speaker 4: was one of the reasons why I had to leave
Speaker 4: on because he kept trying to force his kid on me.
Speaker 3: Child.
Speaker 5: I don't want to The baby was five. I didn't
Speaker 5: want to meet him though, so I was like, I
Speaker 5: don't need to meet him. Why do I need to
Speaker 5: meet your child? I personally don't think that's appropriate when
Speaker 5: anybody has a baby. You just everybody do you dating
Speaker 5: is meeting a child?
Speaker 4: Do?
Speaker 1: I don't.
Speaker 5: I'm not comfortable with it.
Speaker 6: I don't know that littlenigga Bye, I don't even want
Speaker 6: to meet your kid unless I know we're about to
Speaker 6: get married.
Speaker 1: That's a big stead.
Speaker 5: Because why we're going to do that to the kids
Speaker 5: and I love kids. I'm good with kids. I play
Speaker 5: with na I'm gonna.
Speaker 3: Happen after that. You don't know where Stephanie, She's gone.
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, And you created.
Speaker 5: A little monster for someone's daughter to meet and Mary
Speaker 5: one day. No, I don't need to meet the baby.
Speaker 1: Or I was glad that I met him with the kid,
Speaker 1: and I met everybody, and now I see how you
Speaker 1: are with the kids, so I can really see, like
Speaker 1: how you really are. I can't just listen to what
Speaker 1: you say, and.
Speaker 6: You might complain about your baby mama, and you might
Speaker 6: complain about.
Speaker 1: Things, But then what I can see, and I can
Speaker 1: speak to him myself or speak to her myself, I
Speaker 1: can really get my own opinion. But I need to
Speaker 1: know you well and I need to a feeling that
Speaker 1: it's more solid than just somebody. I'm just stating. I'm
Speaker 1: at a dude's mama and his son. They came down
Speaker 1: one time. We had only been talking for a little while,
Speaker 1: and I'm like, why are we on a family outing?
Speaker 6: I did not know so crazy?
Speaker 1: Why are we doing this? This is weird? And it's like,
Speaker 1: do you introduce your son to every woman that you
Speaker 1: deal with?
Speaker 4: But then again that goes back to the whole again,
Speaker 4: if that's something that you don't think needs to be communicated.
Speaker 4: Now in my adult years, I realized I can't be
Speaker 4: with somebody that doesn't think a conversation needs to be
Speaker 4: had about meeting something your whole offspring.
Speaker 6: Right right, and your mother and your man.
Speaker 2: When I was in college, this guy I was with
Speaker 2: he had a kid. His kid was was only like
Speaker 2: three years old, and him and the mom were not
Speaker 2: on good terms. And I was living in a dorm
Speaker 2: in Manhattan. This is when I was at school at
Speaker 2: Barnard and I was thought I was going to be
Speaker 2: a teacher, so I was taking these classes at thanks
Speaker 2: She College and Education. He left his son with me
Speaker 2: one day, becau because the mom left a note and
Speaker 2: was like I can't take it anymore. Yeah, she didn't
Speaker 2: want to be a mother. She was like I can't
Speaker 2: handle it. Left the kid home alone with the note,
Speaker 2: and then he went over there. I guess she called
Speaker 2: or had somebody to call to tell him. Nobody knew
Speaker 2: where she went, and so he went to go pick
Speaker 2: up his son. But then he was like, man, he
Speaker 2: played in like some little basketball league that was like
Speaker 2: some It was no real one. Yeah, some recreational thing
Speaker 2: with his parents, and he left the kid with me
Speaker 2: for like overnight day yeah, And I was like, this
Speaker 2: is the time for you to be spending some time
Speaker 2: with your child, the mom.
Speaker 4: You're a good person, and it's like you're just like,
Speaker 4: I'm gonna leave you with this stranger.
Speaker 1: In my dorm room. That's weird.
Speaker 2: And then he was like, he goes to me, man,
Speaker 2: I'm not I'm gonna take him to a foster home.
Speaker 2: He was like, I'm not doing this. I Am not
Speaker 2: with a person who even thinks like that. Yeah, even
Speaker 2: not like he was like, I can't handle this. I'm
Speaker 2: taking to a fus at home. And I get that
Speaker 2: he was mad at the mind for just up and
Speaker 2: leaving like that, but it was really hard for her,
Speaker 2: Like I don't know what.
Speaker 6: He was ready to take the baby to the foster
Speaker 6: home from day one, and that means he already wouldn't
Speaker 6: doing his job as if.
Speaker 1: And then he already wasn't playing Angel was.
Speaker 2: I'm in the dorm room, but he was.
Speaker 1: The baby.
Speaker 2: I don't even I remember I took him to the park.
Speaker 2: I just remember walking with him in the park and
Speaker 2: then being like what am I don't know what to do.
Speaker 1: About That's study that right.
Speaker 7: I feel like at this point in my life, I
Speaker 7: don't want to be with a man that has a
Speaker 7: small child, right, yeah I will.
Speaker 3: I don't mind kids, but I like them grown like mine.
Speaker 1: Okay, like a little adult.
Speaker 7: Yeah, I think I'm old enough to date a man
Speaker 7: who has a twenty year old kid.
Speaker 6: Yeah, you know what I mean.
Speaker 7: Be and your son be like cool, we go to
Speaker 7: dinner all of us.
Speaker 2: Do you think that you're more like in a relationship,
Speaker 2: you're more maternal to your man or he's more paternal
Speaker 2: to you?
Speaker 6: Like, are you more of the person that he's definitely
Speaker 6: the me too.
Speaker 7: I think I'm more maternal towards my boyfriend. But then
Speaker 7: when I get into like my mode if I'm crying,
Speaker 7: I want to be like rock to sleep rod turn
Speaker 7: into a baby.
Speaker 3: So I don't know.
Speaker 6: Maybe I'm a mix switch back and forth.
Speaker 4: What do you Me and my boyfriend are like, He's
Speaker 4: what I need a man to be for me as
Speaker 4: a woman, and I am I'm definitely the maternal Like
Speaker 4: what do you need? What can we do in the
Speaker 4: house to make things more comfortable for both of us?
Speaker 6: Okay, yeah, what about you.
Speaker 1: I'm more maternal. Yeah, and that's why I say I
Speaker 1: give too much sometimes. But I think I would like
Speaker 1: somebody who is more paternal. I guess I would like
Speaker 1: try that a few times.
Speaker 2: Be taking care of like I like that.
Speaker 4: Knows how to lead. And it's not like me too.
Speaker 4: He just knows, like because a.
Speaker 1: Lot of men will stream about it, you don't listen,
Speaker 1: but it's like you don't leave. What am I listening to?
Speaker 6: An idiot?
Speaker 3: Like mind?
Speaker 7: You know, being the boss of things that men are
Speaker 7: a little when like I could take care of banking
Speaker 7: and things in the house and you know, keeping up
Speaker 7: with the tissue and the napkins and the normal womanly
Speaker 7: things in the in the home, doing.
Speaker 3: That exactly.
Speaker 2: The times Like I can't tell my man this is
Speaker 2: because he's going to be so mad that he might
Speaker 2: like wild out, you know, like about somebody else, like
Speaker 2: if somebody did something to you, and you like, if
Speaker 2: I tell my man, is he about to.
Speaker 6: Be I like that I still haven't.
Speaker 7: Any of my personal relationship business because he gets in
Speaker 7: his feelings.
Speaker 3: I got to be like, oh, it's trying right.
Speaker 1: Let's this.
Speaker 2: I've been talking to all right, ladies, some cocktails, dirty
Speaker 2: discussions and by the way, they are on tour right now,
Speaker 2: so make sure you check them out because you got
Speaker 2: y'all kicked it off in New York. So we came
Speaker 2: in on a SAT today and she's flying back out
Speaker 2: tonight to be able to sit thank you, you know,
Speaker 2: to be able to be here for for this episode today. Okay, So,
Speaker 2: what is one thing that you have to hide and
Speaker 2: do from your significant other in the house and you
Speaker 2: don't want him to know that you do this? Besides
Speaker 2: taking the ship, if that is one thing, what is
Speaker 2: one thing that you don't want a man to know
Speaker 2: that you do?
Speaker 4: Right?
Speaker 1: Always?
Speaker 5: No, I'm thinking I.
Speaker 6: Don't want them to know every time I'm master every
Speaker 6: time I think, yeah, I don't want.
Speaker 2: Yeah a couple, have you ever masturbated while he's there?
Speaker 1: But like if you won't leave, you don't live, You
Speaker 1: gotta go. I mean I got to.
Speaker 6: Be when he was watching football, Yeah, like in this.
Speaker 7: Sport exciting about that anyway, Like, oh, let me see
Speaker 7: it's like this is my personal moment.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't want you to.
Speaker 3: Give me a blanket.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm hiding under the cover.
Speaker 4: Mine would be this is so embarrassing. I sometimes act
Speaker 4: out these random scenes that are not real. It's just
Speaker 4: like I'll think of something and be like, I'm gonna
Speaker 4: fake cry, but I have to obviously be by myself,
Speaker 4: and I'll be like acting like something dramatic happening really
Speaker 4: like I'm in a movie, and I.
Speaker 5: Just do it at random.
Speaker 4: Most like I might be in the shower and be like,
Speaker 4: oh my gosh, he really did that to me, and
Speaker 4: like acting out this whole lie of a scene. If
Speaker 4: he ever walked in on me doing that, would be embarrassed.
Speaker 5: We have to break up.
Speaker 2: He can't hear you though, Okay, yeah they can't.
Speaker 6: At least if he walks in, he won't be surprised.
Speaker 6: He won't be You don't know what you're doing.
Speaker 2: You would say masturbation absolutely, okay, I see. For me,
Speaker 2: I wouldn't think you would say that. I would think
Speaker 2: you would be like, what, I'm masturbating?
Speaker 6: Well, no, because I do it a lot, so it's like,
Speaker 6: damn again, you're still in there. So yeah, there's been
Speaker 6: times when I like would be on the phone with
Speaker 6: my guy and be like, Okay, I'm gonna go back
Speaker 6: to eat.
Speaker 2: What about you?
Speaker 3: Stephanie for me waxing my mustache.
Speaker 7: Like imagine you wax your mustache and then your boyfriend
Speaker 7: comes in and you got like the redding like that, or.
Speaker 5: Like you're trimming you need a wax, but you can't
Speaker 5: make it there trimming the head.
Speaker 3: See me like all in my box with the razor.
Speaker 1: I don't, I don't.
Speaker 7: I gotta really be comfortable with a man to smoke
Speaker 7: around them, Okay, Like I have to be really really
Speaker 7: comfortable because after I smoke weed, I look at everything differently.
Speaker 7: I'll start noticing ship, like what is that mark his nose?
Speaker 7: Like why does he breathe like that? Why is he talking?
Speaker 7: I gotta go, So I don't like like smoking weed
Speaker 7: and I smoke. You know, I smoke pretty much every day,
Speaker 7: he knows a lot of times.
Speaker 5: So that's what.
Speaker 2: I was thinking about that met when somebody was like,
Speaker 2: they were like, your boyfriend leaves you alone in his
Speaker 2: his apartment. What are you doing? And they were like,
Speaker 2: I'm fighting and shipping and hilarious. Don't do when he's there.
Speaker 2: But he's there, right, That's when you know you get
Speaker 2: to a good place in your relationship.
Speaker 1: Before you get there, I'm definitely waiting till you. Yeah,
Speaker 1: questions there.
Speaker 2: And you'd be like's not here yet, Harry, do you
Speaker 2: want me to call one for you? All right, well listen, ladies,
Speaker 2: thank y'all so much for coming through. We had a
Speaker 2: really great time and chill, and we are definitely gonna
Speaker 2: do it again in Atlanta. All right, that's a plan
Speaker 2: because Gj's in Atlanta too, So yes, I am in Atlanta.
Speaker 3: Oh, I got my companion pass so I can fly
Speaker 3: everywhere everywhere?
Speaker 1: Are you?
Speaker 5: I just want to say thank you.
Speaker 4: We have been able to this time in New York
Speaker 4: check off a bunch of goals. Sony was one of them.
Speaker 4: That's where our life show was, and coming on lip
Speaker 4: Service was directly after it. So we're really happy to
Speaker 4: be taking a train, taking the train.
Speaker 1: When I was in college, my one of my best
Speaker 1: friends Nia, she put me onto lip Service when it
Speaker 1: was on serious Oh yep, and lip Service. Honestly, listening
Speaker 1: to it in college and all this stuff, I was like,
Speaker 1: I should do a show like this but with real people,
Speaker 1: well not real people, but regularly regular and it kind
Speaker 1: of inspired and so I was like, this is a
Speaker 1: full service moment. Can you drive faster and the uber
Speaker 1: we got to I love it. You know.
Speaker 2: When I started lip service, it wasn't with celebrities. It
Speaker 2: was actually a segment on serious Costs sled it out.
Speaker 2: It was once a week and on the show that
Speaker 2: Cipher Sounds had, I was his host, his co host,
Speaker 2: and so I had a little segment. But the segment
Speaker 2: did so well and it was like regular people. It
Speaker 2: was like the receptionist. We had a doctor on one time,
Speaker 2: and then they gave me my own show because the
Speaker 2: segment did so well, and that's how people.
Speaker 1: Want to know.
Speaker 4: People like talking about set. Yeah, I also wanted to
Speaker 4: and I came out with a card game. It's called
Speaker 4: I'm Curious to Me. We should have we were both
Speaker 4: rushing around. I was like, when you go out in
Speaker 4: New York, you really don't have time to go back to.
Speaker 8: Yeah.
Speaker 4: I was like, so we will definitely like whenever we
Speaker 4: meet again, or maybe we can send you one of
Speaker 4: the games. So we would love to see the description
Speaker 4: so that your listeners can purchase.
Speaker 5: It has a cookbook. We're on tour and thank you
Speaker 5: so much, so much.
Speaker 1: You got to put in the cookbook too.
Speaker 2: It relationship, but ladies, I appreciate it, and I love
Speaker 2: the entrepreneurship that y'all have going on to I think
Speaker 2: it's amazing. You know, we fully support that up here,
Speaker 2: absolutely all right, it is lipserviyes