WEBVTT - Episode 423: Relationship Deposits (Feat. Cocktales Dirty Discussions) 0:00:02.160 --> 0:00:03.239 What's up a slip service. 0:00:03.240 --> 0:00:03.840 I'm into the ye. 0:00:04.040 --> 0:00:06.239 I'm Maguire, I'm Stephanie Santiago. 0:00:07.160 --> 0:00:10.360 Oh and I'm Kiki set So Gina Monroe and we're 0:00:10.400 --> 0:00:10.960 in cocktail. 0:00:11.119 --> 0:00:14.640 Okay, we're ready to have some dirty discussions now. Listen. 0:00:14.680 --> 0:00:17.079 I saw somewhere where y'all said, well, you know, we're 0:00:17.079 --> 0:00:20.479 trying to, you know, tame it down and clean up 0:00:20.520 --> 0:00:22.920 your act. That's just her, you know what. 0:00:22.960 --> 0:00:25.480 I keep slipping and failing because I'll be trying and 0:00:25.640 --> 0:00:28.040 she's like, what I think about it might not be 0:00:28.080 --> 0:00:28.520 that clean. 0:00:28.960 --> 0:00:31.880 Okay, all right, fair enough turned down for what I know. 0:00:32.200 --> 0:00:37.400 I'm both of y'all just have birthdays too, Yeah, oh wow, 0:00:37.600 --> 0:00:38.760 have youthday. 0:00:39.120 --> 0:00:40.840 Or Virgo and Nebro Virgo. 0:00:40.520 --> 0:00:43.720 And Libro though, because I'm on the cuts. Yeah, so 0:00:43.800 --> 0:00:49.960 you steel you're Virgo again, that's cud. Yeah. 0:00:49.960 --> 0:00:51.800 So first of all, I love that you guys are 0:00:51.800 --> 0:00:53.760 in New York and I know you had said you 0:00:53.760 --> 0:00:55.480 were going to start taking the train and you did. 0:00:55.720 --> 0:00:58.720 Yes, you did, I did, he said, you did. 0:01:00.120 --> 0:01:01.840 I've done the train in New York before, and I 0:01:01.880 --> 0:01:03.920 went to Howard and so when I was at Howard, 0:01:03.960 --> 0:01:06.200 I used to train all the time. I don't like 0:01:06.240 --> 0:01:08.560 being down there under there with the turtles and the 0:01:08.680 --> 0:01:12.640 rats and the people could Yeah, that's what I was 0:01:12.640 --> 0:01:13.120 thinking about. 0:01:14.440 --> 0:01:16.640 I'm super excited to be here in New York kicking 0:01:16.680 --> 0:01:20.759 off our third tour. We were at Sony Hall last 0:01:20.840 --> 0:01:22.960 night and it was a flood but exciting. 0:01:23.360 --> 0:01:24.240 Well still made it out. 0:01:24.319 --> 0:01:26.200 I was surprised, and that's the ready show up. 0:01:26.440 --> 0:01:29.000 That's dedication. And I know I'm sure some people couldn't 0:01:29.040 --> 0:01:31.560 because you couldn't even get an uber the train was 0:01:31.600 --> 0:01:35.280 shut down. But like I was saying, that's memorable for 0:01:35.319 --> 0:01:37.440 the people who were there to be like remember when 0:01:37.440 --> 0:01:39.119 they had that big flood and right, and. 0:01:39.080 --> 0:01:41.200 Y'all still came out to listen to talk whole shit, 0:01:41.360 --> 0:01:42.280 Like it's amazing. 0:01:43.720 --> 0:01:46.120 It's so funny to me because I think, like the 0:01:46.160 --> 0:01:48.160 way we started lip service and then what you guys 0:01:48.160 --> 0:01:51.080 do with cocktails, people sometimes have like a judgment against 0:01:51.160 --> 0:01:53.600 depending on who it is, you know, some people love 0:01:53.640 --> 0:01:56.440 it and then some people be like why is that 0:01:56.560 --> 0:01:58.480 all y'all talk about? Like we talk about a lot. 0:01:58.320 --> 0:02:00.400 Of never going to get married, who would ever want 0:02:00.400 --> 0:02:01.840 to watch people net? 0:02:04.360 --> 0:02:05.400 Well, how do you think you got here? 0:02:05.480 --> 0:02:05.720 Girl? 0:02:06.040 --> 0:02:06.360 Right? 0:02:06.720 --> 0:02:07.960 You got here seven. 0:02:08.000 --> 0:02:11.959 It's like when Bag and your dad okay and he's 0:02:11.960 --> 0:02:13.200 slipped up, and. 0:02:13.120 --> 0:02:14.799 It's like, this is a show, and we do talk 0:02:14.840 --> 0:02:17.000 about sex. So if you want to watch something else 0:02:17.120 --> 0:02:19.480 or listen to something else, there's plenty of other shows. 0:02:19.840 --> 0:02:22.680 There's millions of podcasts out there, change it. You don't 0:02:22.720 --> 0:02:23.440 have to listen to us. 0:02:23.680 --> 0:02:25.920 Why do y'all think that people feel so shameful when 0:02:25.960 --> 0:02:26.760 it comes to sex. 0:02:27.680 --> 0:02:30.400 I don't know. I try to figure that out. It's like, 0:02:30.440 --> 0:02:32.800 what is it? It's just like something that people have 0:02:32.919 --> 0:02:35.440 been taught for so long, but it's crazy because people 0:02:35.480 --> 0:02:38.920 have to have sex for society to continue. So it's like, 0:02:39.000 --> 0:02:43.600 why why be ashamed of finding pleasure and happiness in 0:02:43.720 --> 0:02:46.120 sex and exploring it and figuring out what you like? 0:02:46.520 --> 0:02:47.280 What's wrong with that? 0:02:47.360 --> 0:02:50.000 Sometimes I also think it's it's it looks like they 0:02:50.160 --> 0:02:53.280 are ashamed of it, but you really are jealous because 0:02:53.320 --> 0:02:56.320 you wish that you were having your best blown out. 0:02:57.360 --> 0:02:59.960 It's kind of like when senators have issues but gabe 0:03:00.040 --> 0:03:01.960 people in gay marriage but secretly they gay. 0:03:02.080 --> 0:03:06.400 Yeah, exactly, have you got a problem with thee but 0:03:06.400 --> 0:03:07.520 you got to see your whole inside? 0:03:08.320 --> 0:03:10.600 You don't know how you want to try some stuff, 0:03:10.600 --> 0:03:13.720 and you don't have the confidence to try certain things 0:03:13.800 --> 0:03:14.720 or say what you want. 0:03:15.080 --> 0:03:17.400 Let me ask you something because I had thought about this, right, 0:03:17.639 --> 0:03:20.799 but everybody talking about AI and things that could happen. 0:03:21.160 --> 0:03:23.400 If it was a potential that like, let's just say, 0:03:23.960 --> 0:03:27.639 an AI robot could automatically make you like come multiple 0:03:27.760 --> 0:03:30.760 or I guess right, let's just say, and they could 0:03:30.960 --> 0:03:34.040 you know and see like exactly what you like, how 0:03:34.120 --> 0:03:34.760 much your spot is? 0:03:34.800 --> 0:03:35.480 Would you try it? 0:03:35.640 --> 0:03:35.839 Hell? 0:03:35.960 --> 0:03:38.520 Yeah, I use a vibrator like daily, So I mean 0:03:38.560 --> 0:03:41.440 that's like the next step I think I would do it. 0:03:41.480 --> 0:03:45.680 I'm not going to really want to give you. Also 0:03:45.800 --> 0:03:47.480 really like like what I love most. 0:03:47.360 --> 0:03:50.560 About sex is touching bodies, like feeling all those things 0:03:50.600 --> 0:03:51.800 leading up to the orgasm. 0:03:51.840 --> 0:03:53.880 But if he looked real and he was like touching you. 0:03:53.920 --> 0:03:54.480 That's weird. 0:03:55.440 --> 0:03:59.040 Speaking we always I've always. 0:03:58.760 --> 0:04:00.520 Been living in the Jetsons, but I don't want to 0:04:00.520 --> 0:04:02.080 live there. For when I. 0:04:02.120 --> 0:04:04.760 Pictured a robot, not that what I was thinking of, 0:04:04.840 --> 0:04:07.760 Like an EI intelligence vibrator. It would be like a 0:04:07.840 --> 0:04:10.960 vibrator bok like knows you you're like connected to your phone, 0:04:11.360 --> 0:04:13.120 you put your finger print or some ship. 0:04:13.160 --> 0:04:14.480 That's what I'm pictured. 0:04:15.760 --> 0:04:20.880 Exactly like squirting today or a regular. 0:04:22.839 --> 0:04:25.760 It's crazy you would try it. 0:04:25.839 --> 0:04:27.400 I would try, but I don't want the one that 0:04:27.480 --> 0:04:29.120 looks like a person. I would just want it to 0:04:29.160 --> 0:04:32.000 be like a toy, you know, but it just but 0:04:32.040 --> 0:04:34.520 not a person. Yeah, more like a vibrator where it 0:04:34.640 --> 0:04:37.159 already knows. I don't have to keep pushing the button 0:04:37.200 --> 0:04:38.680 to get to the setting that I like, like I 0:04:38.720 --> 0:04:39.520 currently have to do. 0:04:39.839 --> 0:04:43.599 It's just program, you know, when you get in the 0:04:43.600 --> 0:04:46.239 car and it has automatic setting on the seat. 0:04:46.560 --> 0:04:52.800 Yeah, exactly. I don't know to be onto something. 0:04:52.600 --> 0:04:54.600 With that teating Like if you were with the guy 0:04:55.120 --> 0:04:57.960 and he had a robot that could make him do 0:04:58.040 --> 0:04:59.680 that and he used it. It was a robot, It 0:04:59.720 --> 0:05:01.760 wasn't real person. Would you look at that as cheating? 0:05:02.520 --> 0:05:04.840 The robot looks like a person though, Yes, because why 0:05:04.839 --> 0:05:07.000 do you have that? And now wrong? 0:05:07.240 --> 0:05:08.279 Like like who it looked like? 0:05:08.560 --> 0:05:10.960 Right? Is it like your celebrity crushes? It look like 0:05:10.960 --> 0:05:16.200 your ex girlfriend, your baby mama. 0:05:17.160 --> 0:05:17.800 It's cheating? 0:05:18.040 --> 0:05:20.240 Yeah, now none of the timely. Thing that just happened, 0:05:20.760 --> 0:05:23.880 And I wanted to get everybody's opinion on this. 0:05:24.040 --> 0:05:25.880 The Travis Kelsey Tailors swift. 0:05:25.560 --> 0:05:28.200 Thing with Maya been Bury right, that's the woman that 0:05:28.279 --> 0:05:31.520 he used to date that she is now like warning 0:05:31.600 --> 0:05:34.360 till a swift he cheated. You know he's not good. 0:05:34.440 --> 0:05:37.479 She's like, I see him talking about this relationship publicly, 0:05:37.760 --> 0:05:40.280 and he's a narcissist. And I dated him. I thought 0:05:40.320 --> 0:05:42.320 we were going to get married. All of these things. 0:05:42.720 --> 0:05:45.359 If you had dated a guy and you felt like 0:05:45.440 --> 0:05:47.840 he was terrible, you know as a human being, he 0:05:47.880 --> 0:05:50.280 was a narcissist, He did all of those things. Would 0:05:50.279 --> 0:05:53.400 you want to warn the next woman or no? 0:05:54.600 --> 0:05:56.080 Because at the end of the day, it's like you 0:05:56.080 --> 0:05:58.200 you kind of look like you kind of wanted back. 0:05:58.279 --> 0:06:00.320 Still you want to just right, because why do you 0:06:01.000 --> 0:06:02.960 It's not your business no more. And I don't know 0:06:03.600 --> 0:06:06.480 unless it was something we're like, maybe he was physically abusive. 0:06:06.880 --> 0:06:08.880 Maybe then you might warn somebody, But I'm not sure 0:06:08.880 --> 0:06:10.400 I would go out of my way to be like, 0:06:10.400 --> 0:06:12.760 hey girl, this is what he did to me. Watch out, 0:06:12.920 --> 0:06:14.840 we're looking corny. We are old women. 0:06:15.040 --> 0:06:19.560 Yeah, I mean, I mess you vibe I want with 0:06:19.680 --> 0:06:23.240 one person is not always You're not always right that 0:06:23.480 --> 0:06:25.840 people can be different. He wasn't working with you, and 0:06:25.839 --> 0:06:27.719 that's why he did that and sometimes got to let 0:06:27.720 --> 0:06:28.280 a sasquatch. 0:06:28.320 --> 0:06:31.640 I mean, sometimes you just gotta let it wreck. 0:06:32.680 --> 0:06:35.440 Sometimes this is personal. 0:06:35.720 --> 0:06:38.320 Yeah, you think you want girl. 0:06:38.120 --> 0:06:40.880 But maybe that focused on you. You're so worried about 0:06:40.920 --> 0:06:41.680 trying to mess up with. 0:06:41.720 --> 0:06:43.040 You, you're too worried about trying to be me and 0:06:43.080 --> 0:06:48.839 you can't never and you're looking very let's. 0:06:48.160 --> 0:06:51.520 Yeah, that's funny though, because like she's been doing interviews 0:06:51.560 --> 0:06:54.200 and everything, and I don't think anybody's like, yes this, 0:06:54.520 --> 0:06:55.480 thanks for warning him. 0:06:55.560 --> 0:06:56.880 Everybody's like, girl, like. 0:06:58.680 --> 0:07:01.080 Do you have coming up? Do you have some business? 0:07:01.279 --> 0:07:02.839 But let me ask you all this, have you ever 0:07:02.880 --> 0:07:05.240 done that? You know how you always you grow, you grow. 0:07:05.320 --> 0:07:07.719 We've all been young and dumb and did some things 0:07:07.760 --> 0:07:09.880 we maybe regret. Have you ever done anything like that? 0:07:09.880 --> 0:07:11.880 Like I'm going to contact the girl and tell her how. 0:07:12.200 --> 0:07:17.200 Well, I contacted a girl. So my boyfriend, my ex 0:07:17.280 --> 0:07:20.440 ex ex boyfriend, cheated on me, and I contacted the 0:07:20.480 --> 0:07:23.960 girl's fiance who he cheated with and sent him like 0:07:24.040 --> 0:07:27.360 the evidence, so they both got put Yeah, but he 0:07:27.440 --> 0:07:29.320 still married her after that. But I just did that 0:07:29.400 --> 0:07:31.600 and then I never said nothing else again. And then 0:07:31.640 --> 0:07:35.160 he responded like oh, you know, like I could tell you. 0:07:35.160 --> 0:07:37.000 You know, I don't know what ended up happening with them, 0:07:37.320 --> 0:07:38.680 but I just put it out there and I broke 0:07:38.760 --> 0:07:40.320 up with him, So it wasn't like I was gonna 0:07:40.320 --> 0:07:42.240 stay with him after that. But I did have a 0:07:42.280 --> 0:07:44.160 guy who cheated on me with the girl and then 0:07:44.240 --> 0:07:46.120 ended up being with the girl because I broke up 0:07:46.120 --> 0:07:48.800 with him, and then kept still trying to talk to me, 0:07:49.080 --> 0:07:50.920 but I never contacted her. I actually thought it was 0:07:50.960 --> 0:07:54.120 amazing that because I was like, this is what you get, Like, 0:07:54.520 --> 0:07:57.560 who knows who else this man is contacting. He ain't shit. 0:07:57.840 --> 0:07:59.320 She ended up having a kid with him, and he 0:07:59.320 --> 0:08:01.640 still ain't shit, And I think they broke up now, 0:08:01.680 --> 0:08:03.680 But I knew it all along. But I would actually 0:08:03.720 --> 0:08:06.200 prefer to not tell you because you get what. 0:08:06.240 --> 0:08:08.840 You because sometimes like looking at it with a different eye, 0:08:08.960 --> 0:08:12.120 I've done. It wasn't the same exact situation, but there 0:08:12.120 --> 0:08:14.160 was a guy I was dealing with and he was 0:08:14.160 --> 0:08:14.720 my boyfriend. 0:08:14.760 --> 0:08:16.000 Let him tell it. He wasn't, but he was. 0:08:16.760 --> 0:08:19.320 Anyway, we were supposed to be exclusive with each other 0:08:19.320 --> 0:08:21.440 and he was dealing with this other person. 0:08:21.480 --> 0:08:23.080 It ended up coming out on my birthday. He broke 0:08:23.200 --> 0:08:24.520 with me. It was really sad. 0:08:24.560 --> 0:08:27.720 I was so and I was I couldn't believe that 0:08:27.800 --> 0:08:29.520 he did what he did, and he was like someone 0:08:29.560 --> 0:08:31.360 who he would contact my mom, take my mom out 0:08:31.400 --> 0:08:33.480 to dinner. He was just doing all these extra things 0:08:33.520 --> 0:08:35.520 to show that he was this great man and everybody 0:08:35.600 --> 0:08:38.720 was believing him, and I needed people to know you, actually, 0:08:38.760 --> 0:08:41.560 he's he is crazy. So I contacted the girl. My 0:08:41.640 --> 0:08:43.960 friends found the girl that he had cheated on me with. 0:08:44.520 --> 0:08:47.680 I contacted her, not messy, not anything. I was like, 0:08:47.760 --> 0:08:49.280 I would love to talk to you because there's some 0:08:49.320 --> 0:08:51.800 missing pieces to this puzzle and I just needed to know, 0:08:52.040 --> 0:08:53.920 like did she know? He said she knew about me, 0:08:54.200 --> 0:08:56.080 and she was okay with being the side chick, but 0:08:56.120 --> 0:08:58.640 it just wasn't It didn't feel right. Said, if you 0:08:58.679 --> 0:09:00.360 don't want to talk, it's totally fine, but he one Mber, 0:09:00.360 --> 0:09:00.880 I would love to talk. 0:09:00.880 --> 0:09:01.480 She ended up calling me. 0:09:01.480 --> 0:09:03.840 We had an amazing conversation and we actually did a 0:09:03.840 --> 0:09:05.360 bonus episode on Cocktails with. 0:09:05.440 --> 0:09:07.280 Her and I talked about our experience with this man. 0:09:07.400 --> 0:09:09.160 He ended up doing something really dirty to her, and 0:09:09.200 --> 0:09:11.080 she was like, I never knew about you at all. 0:09:11.160 --> 0:09:13.360 That's a lie. He told me you were a family friend. 0:09:13.800 --> 0:09:17.520 A family family friend, And I was just like, I 0:09:17.559 --> 0:09:19.480 had to contact the girl because I was just like, 0:09:19.520 --> 0:09:20.760 I need to know you. 0:09:25.360 --> 0:09:30.280 You definitely contacted somebody twice. 0:09:29.320 --> 0:09:32.920 I got to know a situation where you did this. 0:09:33.000 --> 0:09:35.840 When I standing in the girl and sent her all kinds. 0:09:36.960 --> 0:09:37.959 She's had voice. 0:09:37.720 --> 0:09:41.920 Recording everything because he took you there. But that ain't 0:09:41.920 --> 0:09:44.920 even what I thought about. I thought about the other one. 0:09:45.240 --> 0:09:45.400 Oh. 0:09:46.160 --> 0:09:48.320 I thought about the other one because he told her 0:09:48.320 --> 0:09:50.760 that we was just friends. See, and you'd be like something, 0:09:50.840 --> 0:09:52.679 don't but you got to keep to my house, you 0:09:52.679 --> 0:09:56.800 got acquire my garage. Friends, we exchange. I love you. 0:09:57.040 --> 0:09:57.880 Let me tell you the truth. 0:09:58.160 --> 0:10:02.920 We have graw sex. We're friend and it was like 0:10:03.040 --> 0:10:04.920 four years we're friend now? 0:10:05.120 --> 0:10:05.920 Were we exclusive? 0:10:05.920 --> 0:10:08.040 Were we ever in a relationship now? But we're just 0:10:08.040 --> 0:10:09.760 doing all the relationship shit. We're friends. 0:10:10.640 --> 0:10:13.160 Yeah, yeah, there are some things that push you to 0:10:13.240 --> 0:10:14.679 like you playing with me And I'm not even trying 0:10:14.679 --> 0:10:15.640 to mess up with y'all got going. 0:10:15.720 --> 0:10:17.520 But I do need you to know I'm not a 0:10:17.559 --> 0:10:18.120 family friend. 0:10:18.160 --> 0:10:20.559 So this is why I told her, because he allegedly 0:10:20.559 --> 0:10:23.240 came to my city to visit and brought her with him. 0:10:23.760 --> 0:10:26.920 And like his whole he moved just different than he 0:10:26.960 --> 0:10:29.440 normally did, and I knew something was wrong. And the 0:10:29.480 --> 0:10:31.160 reason why he didn't tell me about this girl they 0:10:31.200 --> 0:10:33.320 were in a relationship, and the reason why he didn't 0:10:33.320 --> 0:10:34.800 tell me is because he knew that I knew her, 0:10:34.920 --> 0:10:36.800 and I wouldn't about to do that, Like I'm not 0:10:36.840 --> 0:10:38.480 about to be fake smiling this girl face knowing I'm 0:10:38.480 --> 0:10:40.400 fucking her. Niggas what I don't know, don't hurt me. 0:10:40.640 --> 0:10:42.600 But now that I notice, now I know that that's 0:10:42.600 --> 0:10:45.560 your girlfriend, it's right. No, So me and the girl, 0:10:45.559 --> 0:10:49.040 we aren't friends, but we know each other. And I 0:10:49.360 --> 0:10:52.280 definitely slid in her dms like girl resided into the 0:10:52.280 --> 0:10:54.319 picture of them when I knew they were together, like girl. 0:10:54.480 --> 0:10:56.400 A lot of the times when you do that, the girl, 0:10:56.520 --> 0:10:57.559 the girl don't leave or nothing. 0:10:57.600 --> 0:10:58.040 She didn't. 0:10:58.160 --> 0:10:59.080 Yeah, they don't leave. 0:10:59.240 --> 0:11:01.880 She told me she was it. Yeah, she told me 0:11:01.920 --> 0:11:03.480 she wasn't. And I'm like, well, I'm good. 0:11:03.600 --> 0:11:05.320 Like, have you ever had a girl contact you about 0:11:05.320 --> 0:11:07.400 somebody you were dating? You really left this guy alone? 0:11:07.400 --> 0:11:08.680 Because she it? 0:11:08.760 --> 0:11:13.440 Never Girls contact me about almost every guy that I dated, 0:11:14.679 --> 0:11:15.439 no contact. 0:11:19.240 --> 0:11:21.240 I had a woman contacting me about a guy that 0:11:21.240 --> 0:11:22.640 I was in, but I actually did leave him alone 0:11:22.640 --> 0:11:24.520 because it was it was crazy, like his at home 0:11:24.559 --> 0:11:27.520 situation was horrible, like he was spending all this money 0:11:27.559 --> 0:11:28.880 on everything else but his family. 0:11:28.920 --> 0:11:29.720 I didn't know he had a wife. 0:11:29.720 --> 0:11:31.640 I didn't know he had kids well, and it was 0:11:31.720 --> 0:11:33.480 just a thing where I was like, I can't do this. 0:11:33.559 --> 0:11:35.960 These guys about his name. 0:11:36.160 --> 0:11:39.760 Oh my god, he just made. 0:11:40.520 --> 0:11:43.160 And she told me he played basketball for some school 0:11:43.200 --> 0:11:46.080 in Texas. And when all this started coming out and 0:11:46.080 --> 0:11:47.960 this woman kept calling me, we looked up the roster 0:11:48.040 --> 0:11:49.719 and I was like, you're not on there. And then 0:11:49.720 --> 0:11:52.440 she when I talked to his wife, she was like, 0:11:53.360 --> 0:11:55.920 grooms to go. And he does this all the time. 0:11:55.920 --> 0:11:58.160 He said his name was Kobe because he loves Kobe Bryant. 0:11:58.160 --> 0:11:59.280 That is not that niggas name. 0:11:59.320 --> 0:12:06.199 And I was like, names Kobe and. 0:12:04.840 --> 0:12:17.720 Was Calvin, Wow, still working McDonald's. You can move up 0:12:17.760 --> 0:12:18.720 the rooms. 0:12:19.000 --> 0:12:21.040 But you know something interesting you had said before. It 0:12:21.160 --> 0:12:23.920 was about like standards, right, and realizing that, like you 0:12:24.000 --> 0:12:27.440 have to have higher standards when it comes to who 0:12:27.480 --> 0:12:30.719 you're dating. So what made you come to that realization? 0:12:31.040 --> 0:12:34.120 So I don't necessarily think you have to have higher standards. 0:12:34.280 --> 0:12:36.280 I think that a lot of women who are in 0:12:36.400 --> 0:12:39.000 situations where you don't like how you're being treated, or 0:12:39.040 --> 0:12:39.559 you might not. 0:12:39.720 --> 0:12:42.160 Like what types of dates you're going on, you just won't. 0:12:42.320 --> 0:12:44.360 You're dating and you're sad and you don't know why, 0:12:44.400 --> 0:12:48.360 and it's because whatever you're attracting, you're attracting. 0:12:47.760 --> 0:12:49.880 That your standards might be low and you just might 0:12:49.920 --> 0:12:51.719 not realize you. 0:12:51.720 --> 0:12:54.280 Not have any standards and you need to have had them. Yea, 0:12:54.360 --> 0:12:57.000 you have these men some women might. 0:12:58.720 --> 0:13:01.200 Some women be okay, But if you yourself complaining a lot, 0:13:01.360 --> 0:13:02.440 then clearly you don't. 0:13:02.480 --> 0:13:04.439 You need to maybe raise up a little bit. 0:13:05.480 --> 0:13:07.800 I think far too often people will just accept whatever 0:13:08.280 --> 0:13:10.839 is your lonely or you feel like that's going to 0:13:10.920 --> 0:13:13.360 give you some sort of validation to be attached to somebody. 0:13:13.360 --> 0:13:17.400 But if you're unhappy and the attachment was the point when. 0:13:17.240 --> 0:13:19.800 You're dating someone, do you recommend that they listen? 0:13:20.440 --> 0:13:23.480 Oh no, wait, what listen to your I was like, 0:13:23.480 --> 0:13:27.160 what the stide? I get nervous about it. 0:13:27.200 --> 0:13:29.079 Please don't listen, because. 0:13:28.800 --> 0:13:30.480 It can help them understand you better too. 0:13:31.840 --> 0:13:35.120 You're talking drinking tequiba, something might come out. They just 0:13:35.240 --> 0:13:35.920 was loose. 0:13:35.679 --> 0:13:38.240 Lipped and I just told the man he might learn 0:13:38.280 --> 0:13:40.240 a little thing or two about watching lip services going 0:13:40.280 --> 0:13:42.320 to come to me because I'm open book watch. 0:13:42.120 --> 0:13:45.880 Lip service, don't watch listen to other women. But it's 0:13:46.000 --> 0:13:48.640 it's kind of like unfair too, because it's like you 0:13:48.640 --> 0:13:50.480 can hear all of these things and I'm just having 0:13:50.480 --> 0:13:53.680 a conversation with my friends and I'm speaking very raw 0:13:53.800 --> 0:13:55.520 and honest, and then you're listening to that, but then 0:13:55.520 --> 0:13:59.440 you get mad about you figure it out, or you're 0:14:00.120 --> 0:14:02.839 questioning certain situations that have happened with me and somebody 0:14:02.880 --> 0:14:04.920 else and I never you would never would have known, 0:14:05.160 --> 0:14:06.840 And it's not your business. It has nothing to do 0:14:06.920 --> 0:14:08.920 with you. It wasn't during the time that I was 0:14:08.960 --> 0:14:11.320 dealing with you. And there's nowhere that I can go 0:14:11.600 --> 0:14:13.360 and hear all these things about you, like I'm not. 0:14:13.280 --> 0:14:16.280 Reading a diary, and it's like a guy that you're 0:14:16.320 --> 0:14:18.120 talking about them, but you're talking about somebody else. 0:14:18.080 --> 0:14:21.080 Right, And you're a good person for even explaining it 0:14:21.200 --> 0:14:21.400 like that. 0:14:21.480 --> 0:14:28.080 I just be telling them, like listen, I'm lying, I'm lie. 0:14:26.600 --> 0:14:28.800 Lies the whole time. Why are you listening to. 0:14:29.160 --> 0:14:31.640 But you know, and even when. 0:14:33.440 --> 0:14:37.560 I'm so mad, I've had problems in every single relationship 0:14:37.560 --> 0:14:40.400 I've been in since I've done this show, every relationship 0:14:40.400 --> 0:14:42.080 I've been in, they have a problem with me being 0:14:42.120 --> 0:14:42.600 on this show. 0:14:42.720 --> 0:14:43.800 What is their problem? 0:14:43.960 --> 0:14:44.840 Their problem is that. 0:14:44.800 --> 0:14:48.680 I'm sitting on the show talking about having sex next 0:14:48.680 --> 0:14:50.440 to celeries. 0:14:51.080 --> 0:14:53.440 Yeah, next to men. 0:14:54.120 --> 0:14:56.080 What if a guy you were dating was had his 0:14:56.120 --> 0:14:59.280 own show and was like talking about. 0:15:00.480 --> 0:15:04.800 I'm I would never date somebody who's doing this, that's 0:15:04.840 --> 0:15:07.320 what you think I think I could Like. There have 0:15:07.320 --> 0:15:09.320 been times when like, wait, cute, and I'm like, I 0:15:09.360 --> 0:15:11.440 don't think we should both be in the same industry 0:15:11.440 --> 0:15:11.680 doing this. 0:15:11.760 --> 0:15:13.400 It's like, really, I don't think I might. 0:15:13.360 --> 0:15:14.880 Make it kind of fun. Then you'll end up doing 0:15:14.920 --> 0:15:17.600 a couple of little cross marketing episodes. 0:15:18.080 --> 0:15:21.520 Then we break up and everybody's now everybody's talking about it. 0:15:21.600 --> 0:15:24.440 Yeah, I didn't know if you show like this will 0:15:24.440 --> 0:15:27.080 definitely bring out the insecurities and a man, But. 0:15:27.000 --> 0:15:29.960 What to like for you if your man was doing 0:15:30.320 --> 0:15:32.080 a podcast that I think. 0:15:31.920 --> 0:15:33.720 It's more acceptable for me because I do. 0:15:33.920 --> 0:15:36.600 I don't think I would be upset. I understand this 0:15:36.680 --> 0:15:38.720 is a job, especially when you take it to certain levels. 0:15:38.720 --> 0:15:42.000 It's like, I actually commend you for taking talking about 0:15:42.120 --> 0:15:44.640 fucking to a level of success. 0:15:44.880 --> 0:15:47.760 Yeah, I love that. That's amazing. I don't need to 0:15:47.840 --> 0:15:48.320 listen to I. 0:15:48.400 --> 0:15:51.280 Never thought about getting a guy who's on a podcast, 0:15:51.320 --> 0:15:53.600 but maybe I need that because then he can understand 0:15:53.600 --> 0:15:54.480 my life, like be. 0:15:54.480 --> 0:15:58.120 Like I'm lying to and exactly and you hear me exactly. 0:15:58.480 --> 0:16:00.840 But like literally, we do the show, Angel and you 0:16:00.880 --> 0:16:03.200 know this, are sitting in the corner, like all the 0:16:03.200 --> 0:16:05.320 way in the corner, and then as soon as we're done, 0:16:05.560 --> 0:16:08.880 I run out the door. It's just not this is 0:16:08.880 --> 0:16:09.960 a fact for years. 0:16:10.400 --> 0:16:16.000 Sometimes you might get some flowers or something. Okay, would you. 0:16:15.680 --> 0:16:16.720 Didn't come to your. 0:16:16.600 --> 0:16:21.520 Life showing. 0:16:25.120 --> 0:16:25.760 The live show? 0:16:26.000 --> 0:16:30.080 Yeah, yeah, I've. 0:16:28.760 --> 0:16:32.880 Invited I don't care a guy to come like here incident, 0:16:33.000 --> 0:16:33.920 but it hasn't happened. 0:16:34.160 --> 0:16:35.440 But as a matter, that's ex. 0:16:35.360 --> 0:16:38.240 Boyfriend wanted her to do this show when I first started. 0:16:38.320 --> 0:16:41.520 He was like, that's how when I first started this, 0:16:41.800 --> 0:16:45.800 I I met because I knew her ex. And then 0:16:45.840 --> 0:16:48.040 he was like, I went, you know, let's let's put 0:16:48.040 --> 0:16:48.720 G on there. 0:16:48.760 --> 0:16:49.240 You know what I'm saying. 0:16:49.240 --> 0:16:51.280 I'm like, okay, I'm cool with that. And I was like, 0:16:51.320 --> 0:16:53.480