WEBVTT - Naked Grandmas: Episode 11 with Joe Gatto and Steve Byrne 0:00:00.280 --> 0:00:06.680 If there was a problem, where to your mother. 0:00:09.280 --> 0:00:11.000 We'll let you know. We're ready, We'll let you. 0:00:14.480 --> 0:00:19.799 I'm so very dropped an F. I'm sorry. 0:00:19.880 --> 0:00:21.000 We can't put it on YouTube. 0:00:21.000 --> 0:00:21.600 That's a record. 0:00:21.640 --> 0:00:23.200 We can't put it on YouTube. I have to beat that. 0:00:23.239 --> 0:00:24.120 And you just gave me work. 0:00:24.880 --> 0:00:25.680 Well you know where it is. 0:00:25.880 --> 0:00:28.600 Well, you know what. We don't have a thing. I say, sorry, 0:00:28.640 --> 0:00:31.080 we can actually stop start again. You have to do 0:00:31.160 --> 0:00:31.520 there first. 0:00:31.520 --> 0:00:33.839 All right, let's do it start again? Good you not? 0:00:39.200 --> 0:00:41.400 It's your two cool moms. I am Joe Gatto. How 0:00:41.760 --> 0:00:45.080 are you there? He is? You gotta remember you can't 0:00:45.080 --> 0:00:45.960 do the F right away. 0:00:46.000 --> 0:00:47.680 I can't do it. Okay, let's start again. 0:00:47.720 --> 0:00:50.840 Then no, because I know what's gonna happen. What you're 0:00:50.840 --> 0:00:55.080 just gonna say fss. I don't have to. 0:00:55.720 --> 0:00:57.200 You said that when you were a kids. 0:00:57.480 --> 0:01:01.080 He said the apps, I said, mom, Genie said the f's. 0:01:01.400 --> 0:01:03.680 Yeah, I would say the fs the is. 0:01:03.960 --> 0:01:06.360 I remember, I remember, I remember the first time. 0:01:06.360 --> 0:01:08.320 I do you remember the first time your parents said, 0:01:08.360 --> 0:01:10.280 like every parent does this where they make it okay 0:01:10.280 --> 0:01:11.679 for your to say a curse word. 0:01:11.840 --> 0:01:12.959 Yeah, because it's so funny. 0:01:13.120 --> 0:01:14.840 So I remember, I remember the first time like my 0:01:14.840 --> 0:01:16.399 parents were messing with me because I heard I heard 0:01:16.440 --> 0:01:18.080 them say a bad word and I was like, I 0:01:18.080 --> 0:01:18.759 can't say that word. 0:01:18.760 --> 0:01:21.080 It's a bad word. And and my dad was like 0:01:21.120 --> 0:01:21.800 what was the word. 0:01:22.000 --> 0:01:24.960 I was like, it's a bad one, and he's like, well, 0:01:25.000 --> 0:01:25.640 what is it? 0:01:25.760 --> 0:01:28.319 And it was it was frig. And in my mind 0:01:28.440 --> 0:01:30.640 it was like, I was like, it was frig. 0:01:31.720 --> 0:01:34.880 I remember that moment, Yeah, I remember it, like laughter, Yeah, 0:01:35.400 --> 0:01:37.680 every lost it because I thought freg was a bad word. 0:01:38.360 --> 0:01:41.959 My my wife does work online where she's talking to 0:01:42.240 --> 0:01:47.039 people online, like couples and she's helping them. And my 0:01:47.240 --> 0:01:50.280 kids know that when she's on the call, they've got 0:01:50.320 --> 0:01:52.920 to keep it quiet and go on your iPad, you 0:01:52.920 --> 0:01:55.800 can go whatever, you just please keep a quiet. Mom's working, right, 0:01:56.360 --> 0:02:00.920 I wasn't home, so of course, you know, she gets 0:02:01.040 --> 0:02:03.080 knock on the door and she's talking and she's just 0:02:03.160 --> 0:02:05.640 ignoring it and you know, powering through, and then all 0:02:05.640 --> 0:02:08.440 of a sudden, the door creaks open. These poor people 0:02:08.520 --> 0:02:11.000 must see like this little this little six year old 0:02:11.000 --> 0:02:13.760 boy sneaking in like wide eyed, and he's got a 0:02:13.800 --> 0:02:15.760 note and he hands it to my wife and. 0:02:15.720 --> 0:02:17.880 Then he sneaks back out and SLINKs out. She's like, 0:02:17.919 --> 0:02:18.520 I'm so sorry. 0:02:18.560 --> 0:02:22.960 And then and then uh she reads the note and 0:02:23.639 --> 0:02:29.680 it says, uh, Livvy said shit and he misspelled. 0:02:29.720 --> 0:02:33.160 Livvy misspelled said said shit was right. 0:02:33.280 --> 0:02:34.679 Yeah, boy, shit was right. 0:02:34.760 --> 0:02:36.760 So and she kept it on him, like you got 0:02:36.760 --> 0:02:39.000 to keep that because that's one of those things we'll 0:02:39.000 --> 0:02:39.600 always look at it. 0:02:39.639 --> 0:02:41.239 I mean, that should be framed on the wall. 0:02:41.520 --> 0:02:45.080 My son's first swear words that he said publicly, like 0:02:45.160 --> 0:02:49.400 out loud was after watching your movie when sal when 0:02:49.440 --> 0:02:51.560 the Tiger came into the hotel room and he had 0:02:51.560 --> 0:02:52.800 to say, I'm a baby bitch boy. 0:02:53.480 --> 0:02:54.600 I laughed so hard. 0:02:54.760 --> 0:02:57.440 My son heard me laughing hard, so he thought, oh, 0:02:57.440 --> 0:03:01.560 that must be funny. So he he burned in the 0:03:01.560 --> 0:03:04.080 hard drive and it was like, Daddy, I go wed. 0:03:04.160 --> 0:03:06.840 He goes, I'm a baby bitch boy, and I'm dying laughing, 0:03:07.040 --> 0:03:07.720 just like you can't. 0:03:07.800 --> 0:03:08.880 You can't say that. 0:03:09.000 --> 0:03:11.200 But every now and then he goes, he'll like pull 0:03:11.280 --> 0:03:12.640 me aside at lunch or he'll tell me. 0:03:12.720 --> 0:03:14.160 He goes that, can I say it? I go, you 0:03:14.200 --> 0:03:15.040 can say it around me. 0:03:15.120 --> 0:03:18.880 He goes, I'm a baby bitch boy, Like that's my boy. Yeah. 0:03:19.000 --> 0:03:22.760 My daughter, my daughter is very nonchalant on saying the 0:03:22.800 --> 0:03:25.160 F word because she knows she can't say it, but 0:03:25.320 --> 0:03:25.880 she's saying it. 0:03:25.919 --> 0:03:27.919 In a scenario where she knows she'd be able. 0:03:27.720 --> 0:03:30.040 To say it, she would be like, uh, she'd be 0:03:30.080 --> 0:03:31.880 like if she telling me story, she's like, you know, mom, 0:03:32.360 --> 0:03:33.800 you know said a bad word. 0:03:33.800 --> 0:03:36.000 I heard her before. She was like, Hey, what the 0:03:36.000 --> 0:03:36.520 fuck is that? 0:03:36.600 --> 0:03:38.400 And I was like, we know, we can't say that word. 0:03:38.520 --> 0:03:41.040 Like just to just say it is more of the story. 0:03:41.680 --> 0:03:43.240 And she was like, and I know I can't say that, 0:03:43.960 --> 0:03:44.800 you know, like one of those. 0:03:44.840 --> 0:03:47.840 It was so fully Hilary is seeing an angel, Yes, 0:03:48.120 --> 0:03:48.720 drop a f bo. 0:03:48.840 --> 0:03:51.320 It's so great. But she's never two front teeth right 0:03:51.320 --> 0:03:54.119 now too. So it's the fun is that it's really funny. 0:03:54.480 --> 0:03:57.040 I Uh, my family always grew up cursing. Now. 0:03:57.080 --> 0:03:58.520 My mom, well, my mom was like I said, but 0:03:58.560 --> 0:04:02.640 I always grew up a round cursing. And I remember, 0:04:02.640 --> 0:04:04.320 there is a time in your life when you're in 0:04:04.360 --> 0:04:08.560 your late teens where it's all right, kind of becomes alright. 0:04:08.280 --> 0:04:09.680 To curse, it's okay to say. 0:04:09.800 --> 0:04:10.520 And it's such a. 0:04:10.440 --> 0:04:13.000 Weird thing because my oldest nephews and nieces are now 0:04:13.080 --> 0:04:15.600 like eighteen, you know, seventeen and twenty three. 0:04:15.640 --> 0:04:19.279 So it's like they're adults. And I still when they curse, it's. 0:04:19.120 --> 0:04:22.960 Like, feels weird to me see a fourteen or fifteen, 0:04:23.000 --> 0:04:23.640 sixteen year old. 0:04:23.720 --> 0:04:26.200 I still remember my mother. My sister came home from 0:04:26.200 --> 0:04:26.679 her first. 0:04:26.560 --> 0:04:28.560 Year not around them all the time, like the parent, 0:04:28.640 --> 0:04:29.120 the parents. 0:04:29.279 --> 0:04:31.640 Yes, she used to seeing them, and you're still picturing 0:04:31.680 --> 0:04:33.120 maybe yes, the little. 0:04:33.080 --> 0:04:34.520 The five year old on your lap or whatever. 0:04:34.560 --> 0:04:37.400 Yeah, my sister was a freshman in college. She came 0:04:37.400 --> 0:04:40.440 home when my grandparents were over, and she's telling the 0:04:40.480 --> 0:04:43.160 story and she says, she drops an F and when 0:04:43.200 --> 0:04:46.839 she says it, my mother stands up and smacks her 0:04:46.920 --> 0:04:49.000 nineteen year old daughter in the mouth and don't say 0:04:49.000 --> 0:04:50.080 that around your grandfather. 0:04:50.800 --> 0:04:52.240 Wow, isn't that crazy? 0:04:52.520 --> 0:04:53.480 There's old school, right. 0:04:53.680 --> 0:04:53.920 Yes. 0:04:54.680 --> 0:04:56.719 Meanwhile, when my grandfather wasn't there, they're dropping f bombs 0:04:56.720 --> 0:04:57.520 back and forth to each other. 0:04:58.480 --> 0:04:59.719 It's like it's Nagasaki. 0:05:00.800 --> 0:05:04.440 And she she was like, just because she's in front 0:05:04.440 --> 0:05:06.400 of her father, my mom was like, do you say that? 0:05:06.400 --> 0:05:07.920 Like it made her feel like she was a bad parent. 0:05:08.080 --> 0:05:09.640 Meanwhile, back in the day, like when our kids say 0:05:09.640 --> 0:05:12.120 we're high five and I'm like, yeah, my son's called 0:05:12.120 --> 0:05:12.680 you a bitch boy. 0:05:12.720 --> 0:05:15.520 That's right, maybe bitch boy. Yeah. 0:05:15.560 --> 0:05:17.520 I don't know where that stigma comes from. I guess 0:05:17.600 --> 0:05:18.640 maybe it's an old school thing. 0:05:19.000 --> 0:05:19.200 Yeah. 0:05:19.200 --> 0:05:22.120 I try to around my kids. They know what I 0:05:22.160 --> 0:05:24.960 do for a living. They've heard and I'm not going 0:05:24.960 --> 0:05:25.760 to pretend that those. 0:05:25.640 --> 0:05:26.520 Sports don't exist. 0:05:26.839 --> 0:05:29.280 But I'm like, you know, you have to earn the 0:05:29.360 --> 0:05:30.760 right to be able to say those things. When that 0:05:30.800 --> 0:05:33.039 comes with times, Just relax, we'll be able to. 0:05:33.279 --> 0:05:36.719 Down that ship. That ship's coming. You ever read that 0:05:36.760 --> 0:05:37.720 note out loud? Pretty soon? 0:05:38.680 --> 0:05:39.719 Okay, well, let's get into it. 0:05:39.720 --> 0:05:41.080 Here we go, Let's help some people. 0:05:41.920 --> 0:05:44.960 That's why we're here. We're two cool moms, and today 0:05:44.960 --> 0:05:46.839 I think we're feeling a little extra cool. 0:05:47.040 --> 0:05:51.360 I think we were dropping some cursed Yeah, get us 0:05:51.360 --> 0:05:52.359 some box wine after this. 0:05:52.480 --> 0:05:55.800 We are blue right now too, we're popping the blues. You. 0:05:56.120 --> 0:05:56.800 I went for it. 0:05:57.000 --> 0:06:02.080 You look like you just solve the crime on casual Friday. 0:06:03.240 --> 0:06:03.880 That's what you do. 0:06:04.279 --> 0:06:06.479 You like to I have some questions I'd like to 0:06:06.480 --> 0:06:07.600 ask you, Steve, where were you? 0:06:10.640 --> 0:06:10.839 Yeah? 0:06:11.120 --> 0:06:13.159 I look like you know, you look like right now 0:06:13.240 --> 0:06:17.000 literally literally, Okay, if that's what I look like you 0:06:17.040 --> 0:06:20.360 look like in movies when a little kid like wishes 0:06:20.400 --> 0:06:22.279 to be a grown up and all of a sudden 0:06:22.279 --> 0:06:25.080 they turn into one like that when he's still like, yeah. 0:06:25.080 --> 0:06:26.120 Hold my hat, what for me? 0:06:26.240 --> 0:06:28.120 Maybe that's exactly what you look like right now. 0:06:28.279 --> 0:06:29.080 Like it's like he's like. 0:06:29.080 --> 0:06:30.719 I want to be grown up so I can eat 0:06:30.720 --> 0:06:32.800 a hot dog, and when he's like, grew up, and 0:06:32.800 --> 0:06:34.520 you're like a little fat kid that grew up. 0:06:34.400 --> 0:06:37.920 And I just ate all the hot dogs, doesn't he? 0:06:37.960 --> 0:06:40.400 Look? What do you put a hat and a T 0:06:40.480 --> 0:06:43.080 shirt on? You look like a young and that's old. 0:06:43.160 --> 0:06:48.599 You're looking at olden? You do? You're a golden olden. 0:06:49.240 --> 0:06:51.240 I had to did the double take on you, like wait, 0:06:51.279 --> 0:06:53.080 hold the way, not in a bad. 0:06:52.880 --> 0:06:54.919 Way, but you look like a little kid that's playing adult. 0:06:55.040 --> 0:06:56.200 Yeah, okay, I'll take it. 0:06:56.440 --> 0:06:58.360 I guess like one of those movies, like like I 0:06:58.400 --> 0:06:59.880 could be I could be the bait on to catch 0:06:59.880 --> 0:07:01.159 a creditor exactly right. 0:07:01.320 --> 0:07:03.640 Hey, I just made some lemonade cookies. Why'd you get 0:07:03.640 --> 0:07:04.200 in the hot tub? 0:07:04.400 --> 0:07:05.640 Why are you talking like a newsy? 0:07:08.240 --> 0:07:09.800 But they always hired those though, you know what I mean, 0:07:09.840 --> 0:07:11.520 the thirty old that's the fifteen year old. 0:07:11.640 --> 0:07:13.680 You look like like thirteen going on thirty or big 0:07:14.000 --> 0:07:14.840 you know, Tom Hanks. 0:07:14.840 --> 0:07:15.640 But you know what I'm saying. 0:07:16.280 --> 0:07:20.080 Base goes down down baby dwn Yeah, sweetweet, baby Sweetweet'll 0:07:20.120 --> 0:07:22.560 let me go shim shimmy, Coco, sh sh rack him, 0:07:22.680 --> 0:07:24.120 shy go go Bob Shamy, sham me. 0:07:24.120 --> 0:07:25.960 Roh my Dad's Friday. I don't know. 0:07:26.240 --> 0:07:27.880 Oh yeah, I thought you know the rest of it. 0:07:27.960 --> 0:07:32.120 I don't. I ended shimmy, shimmy, rock shomy, shimmy, rong. 0:07:32.240 --> 0:07:33.080 That's all I'll stand for. 0:07:33.760 --> 0:07:36.040 Man A girlfriend, A trisk it, she said. A tris 0:07:36.360 --> 0:07:39.960 a biscuit ice cream vanilla on the top. Shelina walking down 0:07:40.000 --> 0:07:41.840 the street ten times a week. I said it, I'm 0:07:41.880 --> 0:07:43.960 in it. I saw Milmo's credit. I'm cool, I'm hot. 0:07:44.120 --> 0:07:47.920 Suck me the stomach one more time. Wow, I remembered it. 0:07:48.360 --> 0:07:49.440 That's I still love Big. 0:07:49.600 --> 0:07:52.280 If you listened quietly you quit, you could hear everyone 0:07:52.280 --> 0:07:53.000 tuning out. 0:07:53.920 --> 0:07:56.920 Here we go, well, well here, okay, let's sen you 0:07:56.920 --> 0:07:57.720 want to that whole thing. 0:07:57.720 --> 0:07:58.280 That's crazy. 0:07:58.360 --> 0:08:00.280 I just remembered. I used to love that movie your 0:08:00.280 --> 0:08:01.840 favorite face when I was a kid. 0:08:01.840 --> 0:08:04.160 I've seen a bunch and I don't remember that like that. 0:08:04.240 --> 0:08:05.000 What was your go to. 0:08:04.960 --> 0:08:06.120 As a kiddies? 0:08:06.200 --> 0:08:06.840 Goodies for sure? 0:08:06.880 --> 0:08:11.200 Yeah, yeah, kid. 0:08:11.080 --> 0:08:13.040 I mean everybody knows kung Fu after that movie in 0:08:13.040 --> 0:08:13.520 the park a lot. 0:08:14.000 --> 0:08:16.480 See, everybody's going off for everybody wanted to be Everybody 0:08:16.520 --> 0:08:17.560 wanted touch mister Mayogi. 0:08:19.640 --> 0:08:21.320 Yeah, touch me Mayagi. 0:08:21.360 --> 0:08:24.200 It hurts. That was so weird he does that by 0:08:24.240 --> 0:08:25.480 the way he massages. 0:08:26.440 --> 0:08:30.080 You're old a twelve year old boy and everybody he 0:08:30.120 --> 0:08:30.600 was an olden. 0:08:30.640 --> 0:08:32.640 He was an olden. He was like you were thirty 0:08:32.640 --> 0:08:35.360 on him. You're the mister, cool moms, I'm Ralph Machi 0:08:36.679 --> 0:08:41.319 because Ralph Macha was like thirty when he was the Machi. 0:08:41.640 --> 0:08:46.880 H great form man. 0:08:47.440 --> 0:08:50.280 That's I also hit my elbow and hurt myself. 0:08:52.240 --> 0:08:54.960 Like Jason Stathum Bruce Willis. They're like on the poster 0:08:55.040 --> 0:08:57.400 and got all right, here we go. 0:08:57.480 --> 0:08:58.959 You want some of this fresh biscuit. 0:09:01.000 --> 0:09:03.760 It is coming to us from Owen Owen high. Cool moms. 0:09:04.440 --> 0:09:06.600 I was just going through some feelings and I have a. 0:09:06.480 --> 0:09:10.160 Bad habit where when I get quiet, when I get nervous, 0:09:10.240 --> 0:09:12.719 when I get nervous or something, I think that my 0:09:12.840 --> 0:09:15.640 friend who was really close with read this wrong and 0:09:15.679 --> 0:09:18.000 thought I was ignoring her, but I couldn't bring myself 0:09:18.040 --> 0:09:19.480 to completely tell her what was going on. 0:09:19.640 --> 0:09:21.000 I really want to get back to. 0:09:20.960 --> 0:09:22.920 The relationship we had, but I'm not sure the best 0:09:22.960 --> 0:09:25.800 way to apologize. I've told her about how I'm trying 0:09:25.800 --> 0:09:28.760 to be better, but there is something special I can do. 0:09:29.280 --> 0:09:30.839 Is there something as special I can do for her 0:09:31.040 --> 0:09:32.920 to let her know I never wanted to hurt her. 0:09:33.160 --> 0:09:34.520 I'm a huge fan of the show and I love 0:09:34.559 --> 0:09:37.280 you guys so much. Oh and that's very nice, So 0:09:37.679 --> 0:09:40.040 hold on, Just let me get I was going through 0:09:40.040 --> 0:09:42.680 some feelings and I have a bad habit where when 0:09:42.720 --> 0:09:44.959 I get quiet, when I get nervous or something, he 0:09:45.000 --> 0:09:45.440 gets quiet. 0:09:45.440 --> 0:09:47.080 When it gets nervous, he gets So he was going 0:09:47.080 --> 0:09:50.400 through his feelings, he got quiet. She read it as 0:09:50.440 --> 0:09:51.560 he was ignoring her. 0:09:51.800 --> 0:09:53.360 How does he apologize to this behavior? 0:09:53.559 --> 0:09:57.520 Yes, well, if it's your friend, just explain what happened. 0:09:58.720 --> 0:09:59.760 But that's going to bring up. 0:10:00.000 --> 0:10:02.160 Why I get it, So that's gonna bring up ah well, 0:10:02.200 --> 0:10:03.240 while be quiet while. 0:10:03.360 --> 0:10:05.960 That he has to get into explaining his feelings. That 0:10:06.040 --> 0:10:07.520 seems to be the path that he's going down. 0:10:07.920 --> 0:10:10.160 So this is like a double whammy. Yeah, he's processing 0:10:10.160 --> 0:10:13.280 the feelings and then he's also like he's got a 0:10:13.280 --> 0:10:15.120 tough time expressing the feeling because. 0:10:14.880 --> 0:10:16.600 Once you do that, that's that's a really hard thing 0:10:16.600 --> 0:10:17.960 that people don't think about. It is once you take 0:10:17.960 --> 0:10:20.320 your shot with your friend, that friendship has changed forever. 0:10:20.640 --> 0:10:23.199 Yep, it's it's becomes something new. 0:10:23.240 --> 0:10:25.160 It either becomes a romantic thing, or it becomes a 0:10:25.160 --> 0:10:28.400 different type of a different type of relationship, or it's 0:10:28.440 --> 0:10:30.320 just gets somebody's like this is too weird. I think 0:10:30.320 --> 0:10:31.319 he was that and they're gone. 0:10:31.679 --> 0:10:34.840 So there is a big risk factor there. 0:10:35.040 --> 0:10:37.959 And you always hear just tell people how you feel 0:10:38.040 --> 0:10:40.760 or you know, you can't hold that stuff in. And 0:10:40.760 --> 0:10:42.880 and I'm normally on that side of the camp. But 0:10:42.920 --> 0:10:45.240 there is something to be said of if you really 0:10:45.320 --> 0:10:49.920 enjoy the relationship you have with somebody, do you really 0:10:49.960 --> 0:10:53.680 want to risk it and lose it completely? Do you 0:10:53.679 --> 0:10:56.680 want to risk it a biscuit? I called the risk 0:10:56.720 --> 0:10:59.400 it a trisk it. And that's what I'm afraid of about. 0:10:59.160 --> 0:11:01.360 Ice cream soda vanilla on the top. 0:11:01.440 --> 0:11:05.120 Shimmy, shimmy. Rock is rarely what we're telling him. So 0:11:05.200 --> 0:11:07.160 I get what he's saying. It really is. 0:11:07.400 --> 0:11:09.520 He's opening a Pandora's box here if he gets into 0:11:09.520 --> 0:11:10.520 the why he was quiet. 0:11:10.840 --> 0:11:14.520 This is a lot more complicated than would let on. 0:11:14.600 --> 0:11:17.880 And now you understand why somebody would be a little 0:11:17.880 --> 0:11:19.280 more recluse to the situation. 0:11:19.520 --> 0:11:20.280 Yes, but. 0:11:22.200 --> 0:11:25.360 Yeah, look I would It's almost like i'd want to 0:11:25.360 --> 0:11:25.800 know more. 0:11:26.400 --> 0:11:29.839 You know, have you found in your experience that when 0:11:30.080 --> 0:11:33.880 you had to apologize to a friend right that it's gone. 0:11:33.679 --> 0:11:39.880 Well, well, look, accountability is key in that situation, but he. 0:11:40.720 --> 0:11:43.280 Didn't do anything wrong. Let's read of a situation. 0:11:44.160 --> 0:11:48.000 Yeah, I would be as forthcoming as possible. Yeah, And 0:11:48.000 --> 0:11:50.679 I would say, look, the president is the friendship. 0:11:50.720 --> 0:11:53.120 You know, I want to remain friends with you. 0:11:53.160 --> 0:11:56.600 Obviously, it's it's somebody special to him, So you'd want 0:11:56.640 --> 0:11:59.280 that to be the president the most important aspect of 0:11:59.320 --> 0:12:01.960 it all. But I think it's also like, look, you know, 0:12:02.800 --> 0:12:04.800 maybe you know me, maybe you don't know this about me, 0:12:04.840 --> 0:12:07.800 but when a situation, you know. 0:12:07.920 --> 0:12:10.360 Bubbles up, I just get quiet. 0:12:10.480 --> 0:12:13.520 I need to process this, and I'm not ignoring you, 0:12:13.559 --> 0:12:16.000 but you know, sometimes that could be a day, Sometimes 0:12:16.000 --> 0:12:17.319 it could be a little bit long. 0:12:17.480 --> 0:12:19.000 I don't know. I'm just trying to get inside this 0:12:19.559 --> 0:12:21.160 Owen's head, but I would. 0:12:21.320 --> 0:12:24.720 I'll say too that if you get okay. 0:12:24.760 --> 0:12:27.280 So, like, I'm the type of friend that if I'm 0:12:27.280 --> 0:12:29.560 with my friends and I feel like something's wrong with 0:12:29.559 --> 0:12:30.760 a friend of mine, I'd be like, what's the matter, 0:12:30.760 --> 0:12:32.040 wh what are you mean at me about? 0:12:32.080 --> 0:12:35.000 You're very intuitive, yeah, and I and I'll ask the question. 0:12:35.400 --> 0:12:37.040 So you could use that as a jumping off point. 0:12:37.040 --> 0:12:38.600 He'd be like, look are you mad at me? Because 0:12:38.600 --> 0:12:39.760 you also need to do a gut check. You might 0:12:39.800 --> 0:12:41.160 be doing this, You might be making this whole story 0:12:41.200 --> 0:12:41.720 up in your head. 0:12:41.800 --> 0:12:43.360 You don't know, but like, are you mad at me 0:12:43.400 --> 0:12:45.880 about something? Start the conversation and take it from there. 0:12:45.920 --> 0:12:48.160 I think the first part is to have a conversation 0:12:48.200 --> 0:12:50.000 because if you don't address it now, it's just going 0:12:50.040 --> 0:12:51.240 to get harder to address him. 0:12:51.400 --> 0:12:52.640 Yeah, it's a smart entry point. 0:12:52.679 --> 0:12:54.800 Yeah, start a commo, like you met him about something name. 0:12:54.920 --> 0:12:56.440 She says, Well, you got quiet, Like, look, it was 0:12:56.559 --> 0:12:58.360 nothing about you. I was just doing with something. And 0:12:58.679 --> 0:12:59.920 you don't have to come all the way out and 0:13:00.080 --> 0:13:01.480 like I have feelings or whatever. You just be like, 0:13:01.640 --> 0:13:03.079 you know, I was just dealings with something that day, 0:13:03.080 --> 0:13:04.680 and I feel bad that I was like that, but 0:13:04.880 --> 0:13:05.160 you know. 0:13:05.080 --> 0:13:06.600 How much I care about you, right, well, you're one 0:13:06.600 --> 0:13:07.199 of my best friends. 0:13:07.360 --> 0:13:09.520 Yeah, and you can be done with it there, sure, Yeah, 0:13:09.559 --> 0:13:11.320 but I think you should address it because you'll feel better. 0:13:11.880 --> 0:13:15.360 And it's also how big of a deal you make it? 0:13:15.520 --> 0:13:18.480 Right, It's everything, everything is how big a deal you 0:13:18.480 --> 0:13:18.760 make it? 0:13:18.880 --> 0:13:22.200 Yeah, it's like, are you willing to make this that 0:13:22.280 --> 0:13:25.400 big of an issue? And to your point, the longer 0:13:25.440 --> 0:13:28.600 you let it situate and sit there, the longer it's 0:13:28.600 --> 0:13:31.000 going to snowball, and then it's going to become some 0:13:31.200 --> 0:13:33.920 unbearable thing where neither person wants to address it. So 0:13:33.960 --> 0:13:38.280 I think the quicker sometimes you nip it in the butt. Usually, 0:13:38.520 --> 0:13:41.800 I've been in so many situations where I'm harboring this 0:13:41.960 --> 0:13:44.200 guilt like, ah, fuck, I shouldn't have done that. It's 0:13:44.240 --> 0:13:45.840 like anytime I drink and I wake up the next 0:13:45.920 --> 0:13:49.120 day and I go through the night before and I'm like, ah, fuck, 0:13:49.160 --> 0:13:50.200 I can't believe I did that. 0:13:50.480 --> 0:13:51.120 Rrect you an idiot. 0:13:51.400 --> 0:13:52.760 Then I am talking to my friends the next day, 0:13:52.760 --> 0:13:54.320 I'm like, look, I'm so sorry. They're like, no, it 0:13:54.320 --> 0:13:55.120 wasn't even that bade. 0:13:55.360 --> 0:13:55.560 Yeah. 0:13:55.600 --> 0:14:00.560 Sometimes it's always always yeah, yeah, think that makes sense. 0:14:00.559 --> 0:14:02.160 So I would just start a combo and see where 0:14:02.160 --> 0:14:05.520 you're at to get a read the room, take a age. 0:14:05.559 --> 0:14:07.319 I didn't mean to bang your cat like I just 0:14:07.440 --> 0:14:08.839 you know, just fuck I. 0:14:08.800 --> 0:14:10.120 Told you, buddy, I don't even remember that. 0:14:10.280 --> 0:14:11.360 Yeah, it's not a big deal. 0:14:11.440 --> 0:14:13.200 That's not a big deal because I don't even remember it. Also, 0:14:13.240 --> 0:14:14.480 I don't have a cat, so we should find out 0:14:14.480 --> 0:14:15.199 whose cat was. 0:14:18.640 --> 0:14:21.960 That's a cool all right here, Uh, here's our next question. 0:14:22.360 --> 0:14:23.680 I think it gets right to the point. 0:14:25.160 --> 0:14:28.360 Is it me or is that crazy Shane? 0:14:28.600 --> 0:14:30.000 That's that's it. 0:14:30.040 --> 0:14:33.400 Is it me or is that crazy Shane? Shane's asking 0:14:34.040 --> 0:14:34.640 this is. 0:14:34.840 --> 0:14:36.560 That's one hundred percent of the message that came in? 0:14:36.800 --> 0:14:38.400 Is it mirror? Is that crazy? 0:14:39.680 --> 0:14:43.440 I find most of the time, Yeah, it's you, that's 0:14:43.440 --> 0:14:44.120 not that crazy. 0:14:45.400 --> 0:14:47.000 I think it's I think it's you, Shane. 0:14:48.280 --> 0:14:51.080 I think I go on the other side of Shaane. 0:14:51.120 --> 0:14:52.000 I think it's fucking crazy. 0:14:52.000 --> 0:14:52.720 I think it's that crazy. 0:14:52.760 --> 0:14:54.920 I think it's that crazy. I mean, it wasn't that crazy, 0:14:55.080 --> 0:14:57.480 but you know it's Shane. Yeah, you're right. 0:14:57.520 --> 0:14:59.680 You know Shane is Oh, I might flip. I might 0:14:59.720 --> 0:14:59.960 come to you. 0:15:00.920 --> 0:15:02.880 I don't know. I mean, we all know Shane. 0:15:02.560 --> 0:15:07.960 And Shane can Shane like what's normal for us ain't normal. 0:15:07.720 --> 0:15:09.640 For Shane's operating at an eleven. 0:15:09.800 --> 0:15:10.440 Shane takes it. 0:15:10.440 --> 0:15:11.240 To another elevel. 0:15:11.640 --> 0:15:19.239 So it's like Shane crazy. It's like, oh, you're right. 0:15:20.360 --> 0:15:21.600 I'm gonna need a little more info. 0:15:27.280 --> 0:15:28.640 Well I appreciated that. 0:15:29.880 --> 0:15:31.280 A right, here we go. 0:15:31.560 --> 0:15:35.800 This is coming to us from oh cass Hey, guys, 0:15:35.960 --> 0:15:38.240 just wondering what I should do to make my sister 0:15:38.320 --> 0:15:38.960 get a job. 0:15:39.160 --> 0:15:41.120 I've been here before. She's lived with me for over 0:15:41.160 --> 0:15:41.480 a year. 0:15:41.560 --> 0:15:42.440 I've been here before. 0:15:42.800 --> 0:15:44.640 It has only worked three months out of that time. 0:15:44.680 --> 0:15:46.600 And I would struggle so much to pay the rent 0:15:46.680 --> 0:15:48.800 on my own and pay all the bills and support 0:15:49.360 --> 0:15:51.920 support uh, to support me and her. 0:15:52.080 --> 0:15:52.840 And she's my sister. 0:15:52.920 --> 0:15:54.640 We're close and I love her, so I kick her out, 0:15:54.760 --> 0:15:56.760 kick her out, but it's like she doesn't want to work. 0:15:56.880 --> 0:15:59.600 But all my savings are gone and I'm always in 0:15:59.760 --> 0:16:02.280 over draft and I can't even afford groceries. 0:16:02.280 --> 0:16:05.360 What should I do? Have you been in this situation? 0:16:05.480 --> 0:16:05.720 Never? 0:16:05.880 --> 0:16:11.480 You have my little brother William Byrne live with me. 0:16:11.640 --> 0:16:15.080 Bill billy Burn Billy Burns never called him Billy Burn. 0:16:16.080 --> 0:16:19.560 Poopsie is what he hates, and that's like a fine 0:16:19.560 --> 0:16:21.360 wine I bring him from the cellar ever since he 0:16:21.440 --> 0:16:25.080 was six, like little kids and poopsy he's like, but 0:16:25.200 --> 0:16:27.760 will live with me off and on over the years 0:16:27.920 --> 0:16:30.280 as he's getting his life situated. He's in a good 0:16:30.280 --> 0:16:33.160 place now, very happy for him. But for sure I 0:16:33.280 --> 0:16:36.800 was in this situation where, you know, my brother. 0:16:38.000 --> 0:16:38.640 Did have an. 0:16:38.560 --> 0:16:42.760 Excuse because he was suffering from PTSD post war, so 0:16:43.440 --> 0:16:47.360 you know, there was he was finding himself locked up 0:16:47.440 --> 0:16:49.760 in a room, and I think out of fear and 0:16:49.800 --> 0:16:53.520 for safety for himself, but there's also like like even 0:16:53.560 --> 0:16:55.520 as I'm saying this, it's like, oh my god, that's horrible. 0:16:55.640 --> 0:16:56.360 Yeah, it's horrible. 0:16:56.520 --> 0:16:58.760 For like three months it's horrible, and then like the 0:16:58.760 --> 0:17:02.200 fourth month, you're like, get the fuck out, go do something, 0:17:02.320 --> 0:17:05.119 get a job, get on with your life, go see help. 0:17:05.640 --> 0:17:10.120 And so for me, it comes down to getting down 0:17:10.119 --> 0:17:12.399 to the root of the problem of what is it wrong? 0:17:12.480 --> 0:17:13.880 What's wrong with your sister, What. 0:17:13.880 --> 0:17:16.520 Is preventing her from getting out there and having some 0:17:16.560 --> 0:17:19.160 gumption right, Because you want to be supportive, you want 0:17:19.160 --> 0:17:21.480 to be loving. Everybody wants to hurt their family out 0:17:21.520 --> 0:17:24.520 but at the same time, you also want to make 0:17:24.560 --> 0:17:28.760 sure that you know it's not her contributing to your rent, 0:17:29.040 --> 0:17:31.960 it's her being self sufficient on her own to know 0:17:32.040 --> 0:17:34.960 at some point we're not going to live together. This 0:17:35.000 --> 0:17:37.080 is not Laverne and Shirley. You know, this is You're 0:17:37.080 --> 0:17:38.800 gonna have to get out there and get on the horse. 0:17:38.840 --> 0:17:42.760 So I would hone in on and maybe it's something 0:17:42.840 --> 0:17:45.560 that she needs to speak to somebody professionally, or maybe 0:17:45.560 --> 0:17:49.120 she's just lazy as as hell and knows that you're 0:17:49.119 --> 0:17:51.119 going to be paying this stuff, but it's taking a 0:17:51.160 --> 0:17:55.000 toll on you. So self preservation for her, of course, 0:17:55.080 --> 0:17:58.439 you want her to feel appreciated respected, which she's not. 0:17:58.640 --> 0:17:59.800 Nobody's winning in the situation. 0:17:59.880 --> 0:18:01.200 Nobody's winning in a situation. 0:18:01.840 --> 0:18:05.359 For me, it's the biggest problem out of all of 0:18:05.400 --> 0:18:10.359 this is that the relationship will be destroyed. 0:18:10.160 --> 0:18:13.920 By the burden she becomes. So once somebody becomes a burden. 0:18:13.640 --> 0:18:16.680 To you, you don't see them any other way, but 0:18:17.680 --> 0:18:20.520 you have that kind of of that's the states the relationship. 0:18:20.600 --> 0:18:22.320 That's the first step you're taking on that journey. 0:18:22.359 --> 0:18:25.080 It's like, oh god, oh like even you know so, 0:18:26.480 --> 0:18:29.040 and the other thing like you feel like you're helping them, 0:18:29.160 --> 0:18:30.639 but the real way to help them is to make 0:18:30.680 --> 0:18:34.080 themselves sufficient, is to really like help them help themselves. 0:18:34.800 --> 0:18:37.480 So of course there's a recovery perioder this thing is 0:18:37.480 --> 0:18:40.040 like something tragic happens short. You know, you circle the wagons, 0:18:40.080 --> 0:18:41.880 you're with somebody. You know, we've all been there where 0:18:41.880 --> 0:18:43.720 you've leaned on your family for things like that. 0:18:43.920 --> 0:18:46.679 But I think more so you need to be like, Okay, 0:18:46.760 --> 0:18:48.680 let's do this. And I think the main thing to 0:18:48.760 --> 0:18:49.399 do is make. 0:18:49.359 --> 0:18:52.920 Not make her feel like she's alone, because a lot 0:18:53.000 --> 0:18:55.680 of it, people do so much more when they. 0:18:55.560 --> 0:18:57.840 Feel like they have a cheerleader. They feel like they 0:18:57.880 --> 0:18:58.600 have so much more. 0:18:58.600 --> 0:19:00.680 They'll get that touchdown when somebody scream from the sidelines, 0:19:00.720 --> 0:19:02.120 you know, because they know that people are in there. 0:19:02.200 --> 0:19:02.880 Not always the case. 0:19:05.080 --> 0:19:09.880 I have many broken furniture as evidence to show that 0:19:09.880 --> 0:19:11.200 that's not always the cage. 0:19:11.240 --> 0:19:12.639 Ye, But I agree with you. 0:19:12.720 --> 0:19:15.960 I think nine times out of ten in most healthy 0:19:16.040 --> 0:19:18.480 dynamics for sure. And that's why when I hear this, 0:19:18.600 --> 0:19:20.879 it's like that's not normal behavior. 0:19:20.960 --> 0:19:21.160 Yeh. 0:19:21.400 --> 0:19:24.639 Ninety percent of people want to go and stay with 0:19:24.680 --> 0:19:26.200 somebody and go, Okay, I'm gonna get my shit together. 0:19:26.200 --> 0:19:27.560 I'm gonna I'm gonna figure this out. I've got to 0:19:27.600 --> 0:19:30.040 get a job, right, That's always where it starts. 0:19:30.200 --> 0:19:31.080 I gotta get a job. 0:19:31.440 --> 0:19:34.760 That's normal human beings the world. 0:19:34.800 --> 0:19:36.960 You need money to exist. How am I getting money? 0:19:37.040 --> 0:19:38.119 That's literally the answer. 0:19:38.200 --> 0:19:41.720 That's the first like to me, it's very curious to go, well, 0:19:41.880 --> 0:19:44.040 why why is she not working? 0:19:44.119 --> 0:19:45.600 Why does she not have the gum shot? 0:19:45.840 --> 0:19:50.280 And that's there's something back in the recesses that's preventing 0:19:50.320 --> 0:19:53.639 her from doing this. It's something more than just laziness, 0:19:53.840 --> 0:19:56.760 I think. So I would try to hone in on that, 0:19:56.800 --> 0:19:59.119 and maybe you need support from your folks, maybe you 0:19:59.160 --> 0:20:00.680 need support from her best friends. 0:20:00.880 --> 0:20:02.520 I don't know what it is, but you need. 0:20:02.440 --> 0:20:07.720 To crack that case first, and you know dependent how 0:20:07.760 --> 0:20:11.080 serious that is. I think then you slowly unpack it. 0:20:11.200 --> 0:20:13.560 Or it's one of those situations where it's the complete opposite. 0:20:13.640 --> 0:20:17.199 If this person's just lazy, it's like, go, you're not 0:20:17.200 --> 0:20:20.119 taking advantage of because you want to feel respected in 0:20:20.160 --> 0:20:20.720 that situation. 0:20:20.800 --> 0:20:22.280 I think you're right. I think you need to find 0:20:22.280 --> 0:20:24.840 out the root of it. Why is this the situation? 0:20:24.880 --> 0:20:26.160 And then you could figure out your next step. 0:20:26.800 --> 0:20:29.680 I do wonder though, would Shane think this is crazy 0:20:29.880 --> 0:20:30.720 or would Shane. 0:20:30.560 --> 0:20:32.600 Think it might be her? She thinks it's her in 0:20:32.600 --> 0:20:33.200 this situation. 0:20:33.240 --> 0:20:34.200 I don't know, Shane. 0:20:34.720 --> 0:20:37.800 Shane is like, you're right, that is that crazy? You're right, Shane. Again, 0:20:37.840 --> 0:20:39.600 Shane is off the Shane unchained. 0:20:40.600 --> 0:20:42.280 But to cast, what do you say to Cass? 0:20:42.760 --> 0:20:44.879 I think I say, start the convo to get to 0:20:44.880 --> 0:20:46.760 the root. Why is the reason she's living? 0:20:46.840 --> 0:20:49.000 Because this girl's savings are drained. 0:20:49.119 --> 0:20:52.000 Yeah, she's got to do something here. She can't eve afford. Yeah, 0:20:52.000 --> 0:20:53.520 like she's overdrafted. Like that's not right. 0:20:53.680 --> 0:20:55.280 Yeah, she needs to do something here to correct her, 0:20:55.760 --> 0:20:57.119 to correct her course. 0:20:57.359 --> 0:21:03.000 Yeah, okay, this comes to us Emma, Emma rights. Hey guys, 0:21:03.040 --> 0:21:05.560 I turned twenty one this week and I still don't 0:21:05.600 --> 0:21:06.520 know what to do with my life. 0:21:06.800 --> 0:21:08.000 I've been taking. 0:21:07.800 --> 0:21:11.560 General education courses online since the fall of twenty twenty, 0:21:11.760 --> 0:21:13.720 but I don't know what to major in. My first 0:21:13.720 --> 0:21:17.120 loves are music in theater, but they're such unstable careers. 0:21:20.160 --> 0:21:23.200 I love animals, but couldn't stomach being a vet. I'm 0:21:23.240 --> 0:21:27.760 scared and discouraged. Any suggestions. PS, love you, Joe. 0:21:27.920 --> 0:21:29.359 That's from Emma. That's very nice. 0:21:29.400 --> 0:21:29.639 Thank you. 0:21:30.760 --> 0:21:31.920 There's two moms. 0:21:32.200 --> 0:21:36.440 It's a podcast and now you only get one answers 0:21:36.520 --> 0:21:42.560 from and it's real, I need to earn your loves. No, 0:21:42.640 --> 0:21:44.159 that's a that's a tough place. 0:21:43.880 --> 0:21:45.600 To be, right, I mean that is when you feel 0:21:45.640 --> 0:21:48.720 like you have nowhere to go. That's hard. That's hard 0:21:48.760 --> 0:21:50.440 for sure. Yeah. 0:21:50.560 --> 0:21:53.359 Yeah, and it sounds like look who doesn't look. 0:21:53.640 --> 0:21:57.240 I think that there is that conundrum right of tipping 0:21:57.280 --> 0:22:01.600 the scales of you know, music, theater or something real 0:22:01.840 --> 0:22:02.840 and practical. 0:22:03.520 --> 0:22:05.040 You want to get paid or you want to you 0:22:05.040 --> 0:22:05.960 want to get paid, or you want to do what 0:22:06.000 --> 0:22:06.439 your love is. 0:22:06.440 --> 0:22:08.920 Like really, always at the essence of everything in lies 0:22:08.960 --> 0:22:11.639 the answer. I think sometimes because the people that know 0:22:11.760 --> 0:22:14.720 they want to do it again. I'll always go the 0:22:14.800 --> 0:22:16.480 people I know that are. 0:22:16.480 --> 0:22:18.880 Professional stand up comedians, professional actors. 0:22:18.920 --> 0:22:21.879 There was never question. It was like, no, I'm doing that. 0:22:22.240 --> 0:22:24.240 I will find a way to do that. 0:22:24.640 --> 0:22:25.240 Absolutely. 0:22:26.200 --> 0:22:28.479 It comes from the joy too, right, Like if it's 0:22:28.520 --> 0:22:31.359 what it's what makes you happy, and it's you're not 0:22:31.400 --> 0:22:33.040 doing it to get famous or do whatever like that. 0:22:33.119 --> 0:22:36.680 Always those are always the people that find success, right, 0:22:36.760 --> 0:22:38.440 that's the big thing, right to find success? What is 0:22:38.480 --> 0:22:40.320 it the money in your bank or is it being 0:22:40.359 --> 0:22:40.840 able not to. 0:22:40.760 --> 0:22:41.640 Hate where you're going to work? 0:22:41.760 --> 0:22:43.679 Well, to answer your first part, it's definitely not the 0:22:43.720 --> 0:22:44.040 money in the. 0:22:44.040 --> 0:22:46.720 Bank for sure. 0:22:47.520 --> 0:22:52.720 Uh I would I would probably just say and we 0:22:52.760 --> 0:22:54.480 get this is like a theme that gets covered a 0:22:54.480 --> 0:22:56.679 lot with us. But the big thing really is like, 0:22:57.640 --> 0:22:59.920 if you could do anything, what would you do, right, 0:23:00.359 --> 0:23:02.080 And if money's on an issue, that's what you want 0:23:02.080 --> 0:23:03.600 to do. Okay, So then you find that one thing, 0:23:03.880 --> 0:23:05.280 is it possible to live by doing that? 0:23:05.680 --> 0:23:06.520 Yes? Or no? 0:23:06.840 --> 0:23:09.800 If it's not, forget it and do something else. If 0:23:09.800 --> 0:23:12.960 it was, you know, go go try to make it happen. 0:23:14.080 --> 0:23:15.000 I gotta be well. 0:23:15.040 --> 0:23:20.240 I mean, this is kind of unpacking within our frame 0:23:20.320 --> 0:23:23.360 of reference because as I've gone on as a stand up, 0:23:23.680 --> 0:23:25.840 I started as a stand up, right, but doors have 0:23:25.920 --> 0:23:28.320 open and every time a door is open for me, 0:23:28.480 --> 0:23:31.159 I just said, all right, well, let me make the 0:23:31.160 --> 0:23:33.840 most of this opportunity to see what happens and per 0:23:33.920 --> 0:23:38.400 those opportunities. You know, I've written feature films and scripted. 0:23:38.680 --> 0:23:41.800 You're starting show and then you directed a movie as 0:23:41.840 --> 0:23:44.240 a starting as a stand up. That's three major different 0:23:44.320 --> 0:23:45.960 that's three different paths right there. 0:23:46.200 --> 0:23:48.920 And exactly each one of those would be a path 0:23:49.119 --> 0:23:52.119 on its own. But I was always open to a 0:23:52.240 --> 0:23:56.840 door opening. Now, now that's selfish to say, because it 0:23:56.880 --> 0:24:00.520 was within the realm or under the umbrella of entertain right. 0:24:01.160 --> 0:24:03.960 So per this individual, I would I would think that 0:24:04.040 --> 0:24:06.120 if you are kind of a blank slate, I would 0:24:06.200 --> 0:24:10.040 lean into maybe your strengths or your your true interest 0:24:10.160 --> 0:24:12.440 because then it won't feel as much of a job 0:24:12.680 --> 0:24:14.960 as it would be normally but you want to. 0:24:15.040 --> 0:24:17.239 You'll also be more comfortable in your skin if you're 0:24:17.240 --> 0:24:18.600 doing something enjoy genuinely. 0:24:18.680 --> 0:24:19.520 Yeah, I think so. 0:24:19.680 --> 0:24:20.400 But also like. 0:24:20.359 --> 0:24:23.880 Maybe there is that opportunity that bubbles up where you're like, oh, 0:24:23.960 --> 0:24:25.600 I don't know about that, but you show up, and 0:24:25.800 --> 0:24:29.160 maybe that turns into the thing that you're really really 0:24:29.160 --> 0:24:29.560 great at it. 0:24:29.680 --> 0:24:31.679 Yeah, but I'll say this, the kind of person that 0:24:31.720 --> 0:24:33.639 writes this in though, is already you could already tell 0:24:33.680 --> 0:24:35.879 those prominles, because she knows that two people are reading this, 0:24:35.960 --> 0:24:37.719 and she only says chooses to tell one of them 0:24:37.760 --> 0:24:39.639 that she loves them. 0:24:39.720 --> 0:24:42.720 Right, So if you love we just. 0:24:44.320 --> 0:24:46.960 This is one cool mom and the other one and 0:24:47.040 --> 0:24:48.480 the other one, but put the other one. 0:24:48.520 --> 0:24:52.000 I do think that if you're if you're writing into somebody, 0:24:52.000 --> 0:24:56.160 you should just at least say it, like or even 0:24:56.200 --> 0:24:59.040 address the other mom like, love you Joe, and you're 0:24:59.080 --> 0:25:00.000 pretty cool too, stee. 0:25:00.119 --> 0:25:02.320 I guess, like, why isn't that in there? 0:25:02.400 --> 0:25:04.560 It's only a couple more things, like you know the 0:25:04.600 --> 0:25:07.280 words she used leaving you out is not It's not 0:25:07.320 --> 0:25:08.159 the right way to do that. 0:25:08.240 --> 0:25:09.600 Can we read the love you Joe party? 0:25:09.720 --> 0:25:13.680 Yeah, p s, I love you Joe exclamation points and 0:25:14.000 --> 0:25:18.159 a purple heart like I'm a veteran stolen valor. 0:25:19.240 --> 0:25:25.600 I'll tell you may never have defended our country, but 0:25:25.680 --> 0:25:26.680 you defended our friendship. 0:25:26.800 --> 0:25:27.240 That's right. 0:25:27.720 --> 0:25:28.399 And you. 0:25:31.720 --> 0:25:32.040 Got you. 0:25:34.600 --> 0:25:39.280 Emma, you sound you're still in college. Yeah, this is 0:25:39.280 --> 0:25:43.480 another thing. Go backpacking Europe. Yeah, you're supposed to be lost, Like, yeah, 0:25:43.600 --> 0:25:46.320 you're supposed to be exactly. I really, I don't know. 0:25:46.320 --> 0:25:48.240 Maybe it's a recurring theme I always bring up, maybe 0:25:48.320 --> 0:25:50.520 because I travel so much as a comic. But I 0:25:50.640 --> 0:25:55.639 find solace in getting out there and trying to like. 0:25:55.840 --> 0:25:59.720 Not nobody can hear it, but you. 0:25:59.880 --> 0:26:02.520 Just open to Seltzer and it was squeezing out the 0:26:02.520 --> 0:26:05.000 carbonation and he did a slow. 0:26:06.440 --> 0:26:08.840 He moved it away from the mic, but closer to us. 0:26:09.119 --> 0:26:12.680 And did like a squirrel behind a tree when you try. 0:26:12.480 --> 0:26:12.760 To get it. 0:26:12.840 --> 0:26:14.840 Yes, I get I guess our I guess our conversation 0:26:14.960 --> 0:26:17.159 was so gripping that he was like, I gotta, I 0:26:17.160 --> 0:26:21.000 gotta high, I gotta help these guys out here. That's 0:26:21.040 --> 0:26:22.960 the next questions. 0:26:22.960 --> 0:26:23.800 I seen one. 0:26:24.240 --> 0:26:26.920 We wish you luck, but I uh, I think, look, 0:26:26.920 --> 0:26:29.040 you got time, you got, you got plenty of time. 0:26:29.200 --> 0:26:31.399 You know, plenty of gass bowls in the soda bottle. 0:26:31.760 --> 0:26:36.080 Just squeeze it out slowly and it won't really disrupt anyone. 0:26:37.200 --> 0:26:40.199 But your twenties are all about discovery, they really are. 0:26:40.920 --> 0:26:42.840 I wouldn't feel too much pressure. 0:26:42.480 --> 0:26:44.399 To don't put that pressure on yourself. Get out there 0:26:44.400 --> 0:26:45.160 and make some mistakes. 0:26:45.359 --> 0:26:47.840 Have fun. Okay, this is kind of coming to us 0:26:47.840 --> 0:26:48.359 from Tina. 0:26:48.800 --> 0:26:49.119 Tina. 0:26:49.240 --> 0:26:53.440 Can twenty one year old women experience male patterned baldness? 0:26:54.400 --> 0:26:58.040 Serious question? Can twenty one year old women experience male 0:26:58.160 --> 0:26:58.960 pattern baldness? 0:26:58.960 --> 0:27:01.760 That depends on what you're doing with the man. I 0:27:01.760 --> 0:27:02.760 mean if he's like. 0:27:03.040 --> 0:27:06.320 Oh you see means himself I was saying, yeah, I 0:27:06.320 --> 0:27:07.639 mean if you're running your fingers through his hair and 0:27:07.640 --> 0:27:08.639 all of a sudden you feel scalp. 0:27:08.840 --> 0:27:13.000 You're experiencing it. You get something that male pattern baldness 0:27:13.040 --> 0:27:15.600 right in your fingertips. Yeah, girl, get it. 0:27:19.400 --> 0:27:22.159 Well as two gentlemen with Uh, I got quite the 0:27:22.200 --> 0:27:22.840 forehead here. 0:27:23.640 --> 0:27:26.040 Yeah, but you don't have any other problems elsewhere, do you? 0:27:26.080 --> 0:27:27.679 No, it's it's all pretty in the back. 0:27:27.760 --> 0:27:29.160 You don't have like the Saint Anthony. 0:27:28.840 --> 0:27:30.080 Like I got to get the St. Anthony. 0:27:30.160 --> 0:27:31.880 No St Anthony they call that. 0:27:32.160 --> 0:27:33.879 Never had the reverse. 0:27:34.800 --> 0:27:37.440 Yeah, but always had a big always had a big forehead. 0:27:37.480 --> 0:27:40.000 But it's as the years ago, you know. You you 0:27:40.400 --> 0:27:43.240 just see like a lone soldier in there and they're like, oh, that's. 0:27:43.119 --> 0:27:43.720 Where it used to be. 0:27:44.359 --> 0:27:47.880 Is a male pattern boldness the same as a receding hairline? 0:27:47.880 --> 0:27:49.520 But or is male pattern baldness something else? 0:27:49.560 --> 0:27:52.920 Because isn't male pattern baldness what I had what I'm experiencing. 0:27:52.440 --> 0:27:54.320 Like this hand, Maybe I have a receding hairline and 0:27:54.359 --> 0:27:57.040 you have maleness? What is Yeah, I don't know the 0:27:57.119 --> 0:27:58.919 exact difference. I think I would I would go to 0:27:58.960 --> 0:28:01.040 you on this one. I will not to be Oh, 0:28:01.200 --> 0:28:02.080 I know I. 0:28:02.040 --> 0:28:04.800 Know what I would go to you to solve a 0:28:04.800 --> 0:28:05.640 math problem. 0:28:05.680 --> 0:28:08.240 So let's get my dad on my dad's is it? 0:28:08.320 --> 0:28:08.520 You know? 0:28:08.560 --> 0:28:10.200 I think male pattern boldness is where you lose it 0:28:10.200 --> 0:28:14.920 in different places. So I coupled with a pattern of this, 0:28:14.920 --> 0:28:15.840 this is probably. 0:28:17.080 --> 0:28:17.119 You. 0:28:17.200 --> 0:28:18.520 I feel it because there's a not the preator to 0:28:18.520 --> 0:28:18.919 protect me. 0:28:18.960 --> 0:28:21.119 You got enough to I could fake it. 0:28:21.520 --> 0:28:22.359 Yeah, the right angle. 0:28:22.359 --> 0:28:23.400 Look how robust I look? 0:28:26.840 --> 0:28:31.440 And now look, okay, when you're in a convenience store 0:28:31.440 --> 0:28:33.520 and you see the is that the is that the 0:28:33.520 --> 0:28:34.320 most deflating one? 0:28:34.280 --> 0:28:35.440 That is the worst where you look? 0:28:35.520 --> 0:28:37.040 And when I was on TV, I used to be 0:28:37.160 --> 0:28:39.080 because I'd be like, guys, like, guys, don't what are 0:28:39.080 --> 0:28:39.320 you doing? 0:28:39.880 --> 0:28:41.880 Take that? Change that angle? Like what are you doing? 0:28:42.440 --> 0:28:43.400 Like help me out? 0:28:43.720 --> 0:28:45.240 Like we'd have the high angle from the back when 0:28:45.240 --> 0:28:47.200 we were working at the register when it's ever it's 0:28:47.200 --> 0:28:47.440 my turn. 0:28:47.440 --> 0:28:48.480 You would never see that angle. 0:28:48.520 --> 0:28:51.640 Ever I'd been the edit baby, like switch that angle, 0:28:51.680 --> 0:28:53.080 switch that angle, switch that angle. 0:28:53.640 --> 0:28:54.640 Yeah, what do you got for it? 0:28:54.960 --> 0:28:56.040 I have the answer for you. 0:28:56.200 --> 0:28:56.480 Yeah. 0:28:56.560 --> 0:29:00.560 Male pattern boldness is what you have, Joe, which crown 0:29:00.680 --> 0:29:01.600 and receding hair. 0:29:02.040 --> 0:29:04.280 It's a d it's a crown, and then. 0:29:04.160 --> 0:29:05.240 You have a receding hair. 0:29:05.320 --> 0:29:06.120 I have a receding hair. 0:29:06.320 --> 0:29:08.720 So basically just means I'm a king because my crown 0:29:08.800 --> 0:29:11.440 is I have a crown and you don't have a crown. 0:29:11.520 --> 0:29:13.920 I don't have a I don't want that crowd keep 0:29:13.960 --> 0:29:15.040 a crown the. 0:29:18.680 --> 0:29:22.160 Yeah, yeah, I think then, so can you experience it 0:29:22.160 --> 0:29:23.320 as a one as a woman. 0:29:24.040 --> 0:29:28.200 That's my grandmother, My grandmother was buldish it. What's your neddy? Grandma? 0:29:28.240 --> 0:29:32.400 And Eddie my grandma daddy had come on, Yeah. 0:29:32.520 --> 0:29:38.400 Really Grandma Eddie had full blown hairs missing swear God, she. 0:29:38.560 --> 0:29:41.480 Just did she have cancer or something or just nope? 0:29:41.520 --> 0:29:45.080 She had male So why don't you just be female 0:29:45.120 --> 0:29:48.440 pattern boldness like females? What is female pattern boldness? 0:29:48.440 --> 0:29:52.200 I think alopecia calls by hormones and it's just like 0:29:52.320 --> 0:29:55.200 right thinning, like from the the middle, got it like 0:29:55.280 --> 0:29:56.760 right up here in the middle and then out. 0:29:57.040 --> 0:29:58.719 Yeah, yeah, I've seen so they do. 0:29:58.960 --> 0:30:01.560 Like my grandmother, my grandmother did have like was would 0:30:02.200 --> 0:30:04.720 I would consider more than thin hair because I've seen 0:30:04.720 --> 0:30:05.600 people with thin hair too. 0:30:05.840 --> 0:30:07.760 It's but I was also a child, and your grandmother 0:30:07.840 --> 0:30:09.720 is a monster. When you were little, she used to 0:30:09.760 --> 0:30:11.440 wear glasses that hurt me when she kissed me a 0:30:11.440 --> 0:30:12.440 lot when she was a big a talent. 0:30:12.440 --> 0:30:14.840 She's like g and kissed me and hurt me with 0:30:14.960 --> 0:30:16.760 it glass And I said to my dad, so I 0:30:16.800 --> 0:30:17.320 had to kiss you? 0:30:17.480 --> 0:30:19.280 Do I have to kiss grandma although she hurts me. 0:30:19.560 --> 0:30:24.640 And my dad was like, yes, you do. So that's why. 0:30:24.640 --> 0:30:26.959 Maybe she was just a bold kissing monster. Maybe that's 0:30:26.960 --> 0:30:28.400 the way I put her on my head. She could 0:30:28.440 --> 0:30:30.360 have had a full locks And I wasn't even realized. 0:30:30.600 --> 0:30:33.280 I saw my step grandmother butt naked when I was 0:30:33.360 --> 0:30:34.080 like six. 0:30:34.520 --> 0:30:37.720 It scarred me. I'll tell you, scarred me for life. 0:30:37.800 --> 0:30:39.680 Don't even get me started on how I show my. 0:30:39.840 --> 0:30:44.720 Put on like like caked on makeup. And that was 0:30:44.720 --> 0:30:45.320 always daring. 0:30:45.360 --> 0:30:47.360 When you see like a seven year old with like 0:30:47.840 --> 0:30:50.640 full on, like clown makeup on it. 0:30:50.640 --> 0:30:51.840 Always that was scary. 0:30:52.080 --> 0:30:53.560 But then one day I was going on the bathroom 0:30:53.560 --> 0:30:56.080 and I walked past her bedroom and she looked at 0:30:56.080 --> 0:30:57.760 me and choice had these kind of like white eyes 0:30:57.840 --> 0:31:00.600 like this, and she looked at me and it was like, 0:31:01.800 --> 0:31:03.360 oh god, it was it. 0:31:03.320 --> 0:31:05.200 Was uh, I've never gotten over it. 0:31:05.200 --> 0:31:13.040 It was scary. It was like like there were I'm 0:31:13.080 --> 0:31:14.160 with you, you ready to throw up? 0:31:14.240 --> 0:31:17.040 No, I'm with you because I saw my grandmother drying 0:31:17.040 --> 0:31:17.840 her under carriage. 0:31:17.920 --> 0:31:20.440 Excuse me, in Atlantic City. 0:31:20.560 --> 0:31:23.360 In Atlantic City, my grandmother was riding ridding the towel 0:31:23.560 --> 0:31:26.360 to dry her under carriage. I was I was twenty 0:31:26.400 --> 0:31:30.240 six years old. 0:31:30.480 --> 0:31:32.360 We went to put Grandma to bed. She doesn't have 0:31:32.440 --> 0:31:33.360 hearing it. She still didn't know. 0:31:33.440 --> 0:31:34.920 Until the days you died that I saw her doing 0:31:34.920 --> 0:31:36.760 the full over on the you know, the whole thing, 0:31:36.960 --> 0:31:40.480 driving me on the carriage. Right, I'm in Atlantic City. Okay, 0:31:40.520 --> 0:31:42.320 I forget my wallet. I go upstairs, put Grandma on 0:31:42.320 --> 0:31:45.200 the bed. She did the clan parm she yeah, she's 0:31:45.200 --> 0:31:47.720 doing the she's flossing before it was cool. She's doing 0:31:47.720 --> 0:31:50.760 to blow it, right, my grandma. I go to put 0:31:50.800 --> 0:31:51.120 it in bed. 0:31:51.160 --> 0:31:52.480 She takes a shower at night, right, I go put 0:31:52.480 --> 0:31:53.880 it in a bed. I go downstairs. 0:31:53.920 --> 0:31:55.840 About five minutes later, like, oh shit, I forgot my money. 0:31:55.840 --> 0:31:57.760 Clip upstairs because we're like, say, we're going to gamble. 0:31:57.920 --> 0:32:01.760 I go upstairs and I go, I go in my room. 0:32:01.840 --> 0:32:06.080 Forgot your money clicked. Nana's taking a shower. Okay, sure 0:32:06.200 --> 0:32:07.040 this got really. 0:32:06.840 --> 0:32:08.640 Weird right now. Why would I want to see my 0:32:08.640 --> 0:32:13.920 grandmother naked again? I'm so, I go, I go by. 0:32:14.000 --> 0:32:16.200 We have adjoining rooms, and my grandmother's deaf, and shit, 0:32:16.280 --> 0:32:17.760 she had her hearing aids out, so she doesn't know 0:32:17.800 --> 0:32:18.400 I came through. 0:32:18.600 --> 0:32:20.040 I come through, and I walk and I see it 0:32:20.080 --> 0:32:20.840 at the pariffs. 0:32:20.880 --> 0:32:24.239 I see her fucking doing the come on ride the 0:32:24.280 --> 0:32:29.160 train and dry and she's doing the Benga bus right there. 0:32:29.640 --> 0:32:32.200 And she was just covered in powder. She just always 0:32:32.240 --> 0:32:34.680 had powder. She was a chubby woman. She's like missus Claws, 0:32:34.720 --> 0:32:36.560 so she was freshly covered in powder and she was 0:32:36.560 --> 0:32:40.160 doing the whole fucking undercarriage dry. And I stopped like 0:32:40.240 --> 0:32:41.840 the I did like the walk past the door, and 0:32:41.840 --> 0:32:45.840 I was like like Bigfoot, I did the and then 0:32:45.880 --> 0:32:47.280 I then I continued all my way and I went 0:32:47.320 --> 0:32:48.720 downstairs and I couldn't even gamble. 0:32:48.840 --> 0:32:51.959 Of course, no, I was cooler. 0:32:52.800 --> 0:32:55.800 That's God's ways saying, not tonight, the house winds. The 0:32:55.840 --> 0:32:56.280 house winds. 0:32:57.640 --> 0:32:59.280 Oh my god, that's terrible. 0:33:00.360 --> 0:33:02.440 So what were we talking about? I don't know, but please, 0:33:03.800 --> 0:33:05.480 I think we answered. I think we should. 0:33:06.840 --> 0:33:07.360 I'll tell you. 0:33:08.800 --> 0:33:12.000 For a guy to received or go bald, it's like 0:33:12.080 --> 0:33:14.800 it's still acceptable for a woman to do that. There's 0:33:14.840 --> 0:33:18.040 the psychological aspect of like, ah, that's that's really it's 0:33:18.080 --> 0:33:18.360 like a. 0:33:18.360 --> 0:33:20.480 Double whammy when a girl experiences it. 0:33:20.520 --> 0:33:23.959 But I know that they have like you know, hers 0:33:24.080 --> 0:33:26.880 or whatever, like the opposite of hymns and stuff for that. 0:33:26.920 --> 0:33:27.280 I don't know. 0:33:27.280 --> 0:33:30.960 I mean, there's definitely like medicinal things you could do 0:33:31.080 --> 0:33:33.960 to help maybe spur on. But alopecia I think is 0:33:34.600 --> 0:33:37.160 a recession. I don't know that it's full on, like 0:33:37.200 --> 0:33:39.200 you're gonna lose all your hair though, I don't know. 0:33:39.480 --> 0:33:42.479 I don't know, but I I mean, we used Google 0:33:42.480 --> 0:33:43.760 to try to figure this out, so I would tell 0:33:43.800 --> 0:33:45.200 our friend to probably try to do the same thing. 0:33:45.360 --> 0:33:48.840 Yeah, if you have the wherewithal to rule us the question, 0:33:49.240 --> 0:33:50.840 I think that maybe you can use the device in 0:33:50.880 --> 0:33:52.040 your hands. 0:33:51.160 --> 0:33:52.640 To maybe talk to a doctor. 0:33:52.680 --> 0:33:54.480 I don't I don't know if you again, but I 0:33:54.480 --> 0:33:56.920 would say it's probably not called male pot and baldness. 0:33:56.920 --> 0:33:58.120 That's probably I'm pretty sure that. 0:33:58.360 --> 0:34:03.120 Yeah, And shame thinks that your my Grandma's more story. 0:34:02.840 --> 0:34:04.200 Is crazy crazy, that's crazy. 0:34:04.240 --> 0:34:06.080 That's crazy for sure. Okay, this is coming to us 0:34:06.120 --> 0:34:10.840 from Nigel Oh, a European. I hope, So I haven't 0:34:10.920 --> 0:34:12.080 I don't know what American Nigel. 0:34:12.120 --> 0:34:14.080 Do you oh, that's a great title. 0:34:14.239 --> 0:34:15.360 You guys know an American Nigel. 0:34:15.560 --> 0:34:18.320 American Nigel. No American Nigel in London. 0:34:19.360 --> 0:34:20.799 They'd be the sequel to American two. 0:34:20.960 --> 0:34:21.120 Yep. 0:34:21.400 --> 0:34:23.480 I recently off my job as a police officer to 0:34:23.480 --> 0:34:25.880 start my own robotic distribution company. 0:34:25.920 --> 0:34:26.759 That sounds pretty cool. 0:34:26.760 --> 0:34:30.080 Do you know European Nigel? I don't even know Nigel. 0:34:30.080 --> 0:34:31.640 I don't I don't know a Nigel. There's not one 0:34:31.719 --> 0:34:34.920 Nigel on my phone. This is our first Nigel until 0:34:34.960 --> 0:34:39.160 this one adds it all right, robotic distribution company. It's 0:34:39.200 --> 0:34:44.000 primarily focused on B two B sales, business to business. Okay, 0:34:45.480 --> 0:34:48.520 no clue what that meant? Even eight here's a shark tank. 0:34:48.560 --> 0:34:53.080 I was still would not. However, with coming up on 0:34:53.200 --> 0:34:57.040 eight months and I haven't had a single sale, sell 0:34:57.239 --> 0:35:00.680 or sale sell, I think he typed in sell as 0:35:00.760 --> 0:35:03.080 sale butt and I have four more months to go 0:35:04.000 --> 0:35:07.279 back to law enforcement before my certification expires. Do you 0:35:07.320 --> 0:35:09.040 think it would be wise for me to go back 0:35:09.080 --> 0:35:12.879 to law enforcement and not pursue the entrepreneurial world. It's 0:35:12.960 --> 0:35:16.239 been eight months, he has hasn't had one single. 0:35:16.000 --> 0:35:19.080 Sale, so it's it's not a it's not a B 0:35:19.200 --> 0:35:20.520 to B, it's a beat to nobody. 0:35:20.680 --> 0:35:24.040 It's primarily focus on B to B sales, right, but 0:35:24.080 --> 0:35:25.879 he's doing a beat to nobody sale right now, he's 0:35:25.920 --> 0:35:27.880 not selling, so it's a beat to no B. 0:35:29.920 --> 0:35:31.839 So well, here's the thing, Niger. You took a shot 0:35:31.840 --> 0:35:33.399 and you missed. I mean, I don't know what we've 0:35:33.400 --> 0:35:35.239 got to tell you. Like, you tried it, it didn't work out. 0:35:36.120 --> 0:35:37.520 That's always a thing like how long do you give 0:35:37.560 --> 0:35:38.080 you months? 0:35:38.120 --> 0:35:40.600 Not one sale? That's that's that's tough. 0:35:40.680 --> 0:35:42.680 That is tough. But sometimes in B to B, all 0:35:42.680 --> 0:35:43.920 it takes is that one sale. 0:35:44.480 --> 0:35:45.920 Yeah, when you going B to B, that's a big 0:35:46.120 --> 0:35:47.600 because that those people are like, sure, we'll take ten 0:35:47.640 --> 0:35:48.400 thousand units. 0:35:48.800 --> 0:35:50.239 You know, it's not like you're trying to sell one. 0:35:50.200 --> 0:35:53.440 Vacuum to a to a house mom on Maple Avenue. 0:35:53.600 --> 0:35:55.480 I mean you're trying to you're trying to sell all 0:35:55.560 --> 0:35:55.759 of them. 0:35:55.880 --> 0:35:58.640 But you would think coming in on a year, yeah, 0:35:58.680 --> 0:36:02.919 and you've gotta be you gotta you gotta have. Even 0:36:02.920 --> 0:36:04.879 if he hasn't had one sale, there's got to be. 0:36:06.480 --> 0:36:08.840 I would think there's got to be something that gives 0:36:08.880 --> 0:36:13.640 him some tailwinds. You know, I don't know. Just eight 0:36:13.680 --> 0:36:15.040 months that that that's. 0:36:14.880 --> 0:36:18.800 A long time time to go without any having a sale, 0:36:18.960 --> 0:36:19.719 anything coming in. 0:36:19.880 --> 0:36:21.920 I would say, you know, maybe and I don't know 0:36:21.920 --> 0:36:25.200 how you get into the robotics thing as a law 0:36:25.280 --> 0:36:27.640 enforcement person, So maybe it's something that you just enjoyed 0:36:27.640 --> 0:36:28.800 and want and took a shot. 0:36:29.800 --> 0:36:31.240 I will say this, though you took the shot. 0:36:31.719 --> 0:36:34.760 Now you just have to decide how if it doesn't 0:36:34.800 --> 0:36:36.759 work out, how devastating that shot will be. 0:36:36.719 --> 0:36:38.000 Right, because that's the thing for a person. 0:36:38.239 --> 0:36:40.880 You could take a shot and stumble and not fall, 0:36:41.560 --> 0:36:43.080 or you could take a shot and fall flat on 0:36:43.120 --> 0:36:46.760 your face and then for I have to get back up. Oh, 0:36:47.280 --> 0:36:49.319 I say honestly, for me if I'm doing it, If 0:36:49.320 --> 0:36:51.359 I'm doing it, eight months is enough time I can 0:36:51.400 --> 0:36:51.960 make up my mind. 0:36:51.960 --> 0:36:54.600 That didn't work. I tryed it for eight months, didn't 0:36:54.600 --> 0:36:57.399 work out for me? That that that that's a good 0:36:57.400 --> 0:36:58.960 if I know. I gave him my something, my. 0:36:58.920 --> 0:37:01.399 All for eight months and didn't work didn't work out 0:37:01.480 --> 0:37:02.399 for me, that's enough time. 0:37:02.880 --> 0:37:05.359 He's got a year. Basically, he gave himself a year 0:37:05.600 --> 0:37:05.960 until the. 0:37:05.880 --> 0:37:08.480 Certification expired because he said he has four months left. 0:37:08.520 --> 0:37:12.160 So I think, boy, are you going another two? 0:37:12.280 --> 0:37:13.400 I like it? I like it, deadline? 0:37:13.440 --> 0:37:15.160 Do you go another two? And then say, you know what, 0:37:15.239 --> 0:37:17.520 I'm gonna give myself ten months. It's almost a year, 0:37:17.840 --> 0:37:20.600 and then dip out and renew the certificate and get 0:37:20.600 --> 0:37:22.399 back in the LA enforcement because he knows he has 0:37:23.040 --> 0:37:24.799 stable income. But we all got to eat at some 0:37:24.840 --> 0:37:25.239 point too. 0:37:25.320 --> 0:37:26.800 He's thinking about well, he's thinking about it. 0:37:26.800 --> 0:37:28.640 If he's thinking about it now, he's thinking, he might 0:37:28.640 --> 0:37:30.160 be hitting the point where he's like, oh, I gotta 0:37:30.160 --> 0:37:30.520 do something. 0:37:30.560 --> 0:37:32.359 Well, you know what you do is what you do? 0:37:32.640 --> 0:37:34.759 You create a robot to make the sale. 0:37:36.760 --> 0:37:39.200 I mean, all we do is solve problems here, always 0:37:39.239 --> 0:37:43.240 do sol proms. You make a business to business buying robot. 0:37:45.040 --> 0:37:45.720 It's that easy. 0:37:45.760 --> 0:37:46.640 It's just that easy. 0:37:46.840 --> 0:37:47.560 So figure it out. 0:37:47.880 --> 0:37:48.799 I think that's yeah. 0:37:48.840 --> 0:37:53.040 I think I I think that's pretty much solved. 0:37:53.760 --> 0:37:55.439 So Steve says, you're welcome. 0:37:55.480 --> 0:37:56.200 That's why we're here. 0:37:56.440 --> 0:37:59.000 The next the follow up text of the followup message 0:37:59.000 --> 0:37:59.880 are going to be love. 0:37:59.760 --> 0:38:04.719 You Okay you ready? 0:38:04.800 --> 0:38:05.080 Ready? 0:38:05.960 --> 0:38:09.960 C J says I need help with my noisy rude 0:38:10.480 --> 0:38:15.280 in laws three exclamation points noisy and rude. 0:38:15.719 --> 0:38:18.960 You hate your one? Do you hate your inords really bad. 0:38:19.560 --> 0:38:28.320 No, No, I actually really get along with my wife's 0:38:29.160 --> 0:38:30.120 fortunate too. 0:38:30.280 --> 0:38:31.719 Yeah, very sweet. 0:38:31.400 --> 0:38:35.960 And uh the father Ken, her father is very similar 0:38:36.000 --> 0:38:36.640 to my father. 0:38:36.719 --> 0:38:41.839 They're both army vets. Uh, both ripped. 0:38:43.840 --> 0:38:46.319 Mass of wags. 0:38:46.360 --> 0:38:51.799 Just faara hawks on these guys. Oh they got they're 0:38:51.840 --> 0:38:52.840 like divers scallops. 0:38:55.160 --> 0:38:58.000 That's what you're gonna say, right, no O. 0:39:03.960 --> 0:39:08.880 Sometime somebody refers to Avance as a hog. A hog 0:39:08.960 --> 0:39:10.560 will always. 0:39:09.400 --> 0:39:17.080 Be it's so stupid, so dumb. You're talking about my father. 0:39:17.200 --> 0:39:19.080 My dad. 0:39:20.600 --> 0:39:22.360 Context. It's context. 0:39:23.200 --> 0:39:25.080 Uh. 0:39:24.719 --> 0:39:29.680 I will say this though, I will say if. 0:39:30.280 --> 0:39:33.560 Bubbles, if you're in laws, wangs. 0:39:33.520 --> 0:39:40.040 Come on not sup Uh yeah, I honestly haven't experienced that. 0:39:40.120 --> 0:39:42.719 I will say that. I'm it's very interesting to me. 0:39:42.800 --> 0:39:46.319 And I think my uh my, my my children's mother 0:39:46.480 --> 0:39:51.319 definitely lucked out because my mom died before we were married. 0:39:51.320 --> 0:39:52.799 Because I feel like my mom would have been. 0:39:52.719 --> 0:39:55.440 A handful of really yeah, like I really think that 0:39:55.440 --> 0:39:56.399 would have been like a thing. 0:39:56.480 --> 0:40:00.799 Like my mom was super protective and her baby, you know, yeah, 0:40:00.960 --> 0:40:01.799 super opinionated. 0:40:02.080 --> 0:40:04.160 So I think it'd be interesting for I would have 0:40:04.200 --> 0:40:06.520 loved to see that dynamic and I think it would 0:40:06.520 --> 0:40:08.520 have been hard her. You know, her parents are fine, 0:40:08.640 --> 0:40:12.280 like lived with us everything and we're always great, same deal, quiet, 0:40:12.640 --> 0:40:13.640 huge hogs. 0:40:16.280 --> 0:40:16.919 That which is fine. 0:40:16.920 --> 0:40:18.319 So I didn't ever experience this, but I know some 0:40:18.400 --> 0:40:20.440 nightmare ones, right, there's some nightmare ones out there. 0:40:20.440 --> 0:40:25.480 There's in law's run around with tiny hogs out there. 0:40:25.920 --> 0:40:27.520 How are you gonna eat dinner with that a huge hogs? 0:40:28.800 --> 0:40:30.680 There? Also people you hear these stories about people hate 0:40:30.680 --> 0:40:32.960 their in laws, they're ruined, ruined marriages. 0:40:33.680 --> 0:40:35.160 Yeah, that's the time. 0:40:35.400 --> 0:40:37.920 I think that's when you've got to lean into your 0:40:38.840 --> 0:40:42.000 partner in life and be a little more dependent, to. 0:40:41.960 --> 0:40:45.280 Be the conduit of like rectifying the situation. 0:40:45.800 --> 0:40:48.640 It's like you can only do so much, but I 0:40:48.680 --> 0:40:52.960 think it's up to you to you know, relegate duties, 0:40:53.000 --> 0:40:55.640 to be like, hey, look I'm trying my damn this here, 0:40:55.680 --> 0:40:56.880 but you need to help me out here. 0:40:56.960 --> 0:40:59.120 Yes, that's it gets. 0:40:58.880 --> 0:41:00.319 Weird because the dynamic. 0:41:00.080 --> 0:41:01.960 There's almost like a chain of command right right, it's 0:41:02.000 --> 0:41:02.200 like one. 0:41:02.160 --> 0:41:04.000 Hundred percent, it's it's the in law is the part. 0:41:04.080 --> 0:41:06.160 It's your partner's parents, so they need to deal with them. 0:41:06.239 --> 0:41:09.600 But when it gets murky for me is when it's 0:41:10.120 --> 0:41:13.600 affects the kids because those are your kids, right, So 0:41:13.800 --> 0:41:15.960 something is happening with your kids that you're the in 0:41:16.040 --> 0:41:18.200 laws are doing, you need to step up to take 0:41:18.200 --> 0:41:20.799 care of your children. Sure, say something there, but if 0:41:20.840 --> 0:41:23.000 it's something that's going on that doesn't evolve. 0:41:22.760 --> 0:41:23.439 That, it's weird. 0:41:23.480 --> 0:41:25.040 It's kind of like I'm kind of pass the buck 0:41:25.080 --> 0:41:26.360 like an elbow, like you see what's going on here 0:41:26.400 --> 0:41:28.040 to take care of his please, right, because you don't 0:41:28.040 --> 0:41:28.880 want to be out of line, you know. 0:41:29.360 --> 0:41:32.719 There there have been one or two occasions where uh 0:41:32.880 --> 0:41:37.239 uh a parent in law has said something to my 0:41:37.360 --> 0:41:41.000 kids where I'm like, eh, we can, we can handle that. 0:41:41.040 --> 0:41:43.560 But but there's also part of me it's like is 0:41:43.600 --> 0:41:47.560 this worth this situation where it's just like it's fine, 0:41:47.560 --> 0:41:49.719 it's you know, you're here for day and by the 0:41:49.719 --> 0:41:51.799 way that that goes both ways. I've heard my father 0:41:51.920 --> 0:41:54.600 say something where I didn't agree with it with the kids, 0:41:54.680 --> 0:41:56.359 but I just kind of take a step back because I, 0:41:56.640 --> 0:41:58.240 you know, you want to be respectful. 0:41:57.800 --> 0:41:58.239 To my father. 0:41:58.320 --> 0:42:01.840 And ye also there's that as well, but uh, you know, 0:42:01.880 --> 0:42:05.080 it's always like what when is it worth it? Yeah, 0:42:05.160 --> 0:42:07.680 what battle is worth fighting for? But it sounds like 0:42:07.719 --> 0:42:10.880 they're rude and noisy. I would definitely go to my 0:42:10.920 --> 0:42:12.560 wife on that one and say, look, you got to 0:42:12.560 --> 0:42:15.319 help me out here, help me out with your despicable parents. 0:42:15.680 --> 0:42:17.719 Before we end up on dateline. Yes, that's right, it's 0:42:17.719 --> 0:42:19.640 gonna be blood bath at a barbecue. 0:42:21.880 --> 0:42:23.399 For one more? Yeah, what how long are we going? 0:42:23.600 --> 0:42:25.839 What is the what time is it? Okay? We got 0:42:25.880 --> 0:42:26.160 talking more? 0:42:26.400 --> 0:42:26.560 One more? 0:42:26.600 --> 0:42:29.160 Okay, this is coming to us from Erica. This is 0:42:29.280 --> 0:42:31.880 pretty right to the point. How do I be nice 0:42:32.040 --> 0:42:34.680 to people who are rude? It's the hardest stay out 0:42:34.680 --> 0:42:35.200 of New York City. 0:42:35.280 --> 0:42:37.919 It's the hardest thing in the world to do. It's 0:42:37.920 --> 0:42:40.600 the hardest thing in the world. It's a constant battle too. 0:42:40.800 --> 0:42:42.600 Especially the I feel like it's gotten worse. 0:42:42.680 --> 0:42:44.640 Do you id to I do? 0:42:44.920 --> 0:42:47.799 There was a woman today and this is what I do. 0:42:47.880 --> 0:42:50.160 I I I don't. I'm not rude back. I just 0:42:50.200 --> 0:42:54.080 try to be creative. So I'm boarding my flight and 0:42:54.160 --> 0:42:57.360 as I'm walking towards Group one, because I'm executive Platinum, 0:42:57.400 --> 0:42:57.920 I don't want to break. 0:42:58.239 --> 0:42:59.600 I don't want to bring it towards I don't want 0:42:59.600 --> 0:42:59.880 bring it. 0:43:00.080 --> 0:43:01.799 It's just guys, if you need me in the eggs were. 0:43:01.800 --> 0:43:03.440 I'll go there and versatile, but I'll probably be up 0:43:03.440 --> 0:43:04.680 in the cabin. I'll draw the curt behind you. 0:43:04.800 --> 0:43:05.000 Whatever. 0:43:05.040 --> 0:43:06.600 It's fine. If you want my peanuts, to ask for them, 0:43:06.600 --> 0:43:07.239 I'll give it to you. 0:43:07.320 --> 0:43:10.719 So I'm drawing towards group one, and you know, it's 0:43:10.719 --> 0:43:11.480 a clusterfuck. 0:43:11.560 --> 0:43:14.040 It's never like people are respectful and whatever. 0:43:14.160 --> 0:43:17.759 So it's just a glom of individuals. And when you're 0:43:17.800 --> 0:43:21.120 merging on a highway, there's a sense of decorm. It's like, okay, 0:43:21.200 --> 0:43:25.879 you then, and this was what was happening. And this 0:43:26.760 --> 0:43:29.759 bitch would not let it go. And she had the 0:43:30.160 --> 0:43:33.560 gucchiap belt and the high heels to first class, you 0:43:33.600 --> 0:43:36.920 know the type. And she's coming in and she is 0:43:37.000 --> 0:43:41.600 now like literally in this guy's personal space, behind like 0:43:41.680 --> 0:43:44.480 on his six breatheing on some neck. And I'd be 0:43:44.480 --> 0:43:46.880 pissed if I was the guy. But she closed me off. 0:43:47.480 --> 0:43:50.120 And I looked at her, and you want to say something. 0:43:50.160 --> 0:43:53.400 I go, well, you obviously have important things to do today. 0:43:53.920 --> 0:43:56.000 She goes, I'm late. I go, well, we're all going 0:43:56.040 --> 0:43:57.600 to be late because we're all on. 0:43:57.560 --> 0:43:58.160 The same flat. 0:43:58.960 --> 0:44:01.680 It's not like you can't the easy thing to be 0:44:01.719 --> 0:44:04.840 like fus, you know, but you can't. So I just 0:44:04.920 --> 0:44:07.080 try to take like a little subtle jab and then 0:44:07.880 --> 0:44:10.800 and then the justice. I always feel like there's harmic 0:44:11.000 --> 0:44:14.920 justice as we're going, she was told because she was 0:44:14.960 --> 0:44:17.160 in seat one, she couldn't put her bag up. She 0:44:17.160 --> 0:44:18.719 had to put her bag up top. There was no room, 0:44:18.920 --> 0:44:21.720 so she had to put her bag back behind first class. 0:44:22.520 --> 0:44:25.919 So as I'm leaving, I just gave her the old, 0:44:26.160 --> 0:44:29.480 the old stinky on the way out. No, I know, no, 0:44:29.680 --> 0:44:33.160 Now you know those three seconds, bitch, those three seconds 0:44:33.200 --> 0:44:33.640 you caught. 0:44:33.760 --> 0:44:34.879 Fuck you, this is what you get. 0:44:35.040 --> 0:44:36.960 You got to wait, she was, And what she's thinking 0:44:37.080 --> 0:44:38.560 is like, shit, I should have cut two people so 0:44:38.560 --> 0:44:40.080 they would have still been room in the overhead. 0:44:40.800 --> 0:44:41.879 Not crazy, that's what she's thinking. 0:44:41.920 --> 0:44:43.239 She's like, Oh, I finally want to cut to the 0:44:43.239 --> 0:44:44.799 front of the line. Yeah, I could have put my 0:44:44.800 --> 0:44:45.680 bag right above me. 0:44:46.080 --> 0:44:46.640 This is what I love. 0:44:46.840 --> 0:44:48.680 My buddy Gary does this all the time with like 0:44:48.800 --> 0:44:52.279 rude customer service, because airlines these days is comics note 0:44:52.480 --> 0:44:55.919 the worst. And what he always does is they don't 0:44:55.920 --> 0:44:58.680 want to help, They rarely help, they don't want to 0:44:58.680 --> 0:45:00.920 do I think he was says, uh, could I get 0:45:00.920 --> 0:45:03.160 your dress? Why do you need my I want to 0:45:03.200 --> 0:45:04.240 know where to send the flowers? 0:45:04.680 --> 0:45:06.799 Thank you? I go get out of here. 0:45:06.960 --> 0:45:09.440 And I just thought that's such a great way of 0:45:09.560 --> 0:45:11.359 just trumping it instead of going you know, I had 0:45:11.360 --> 0:45:12.360 a horrible experience. 0:45:12.600 --> 0:45:13.680 They're not going to do anything. 0:45:13.840 --> 0:45:16.400 Just I think you can creatively come up with some 0:45:16.520 --> 0:45:18.160 fun jack. 0:45:18.000 --> 0:45:20.120 Because that stuff is for you. You walk away feeling your 0:45:20.120 --> 0:45:22.279 hair like you get some of the dand like, yeah, yeah, 0:45:22.360 --> 0:45:24.480 that's yeah. I think. Uh. 0:45:24.880 --> 0:45:27.799 I will say I've never driven with you before this 0:45:27.840 --> 0:45:29.640 past a couple of weeks back when we were leaving 0:45:29.680 --> 0:45:31.640 a club and. 0:45:30.800 --> 0:45:32.080 It would come up at some point. 0:45:32.200 --> 0:45:34.200 And you are angry driver. 0:45:35.440 --> 0:45:39.239 Asian but a guy remember the guy cut you off 0:45:39.239 --> 0:45:40.440 and I had to get in front of you because 0:45:40.560 --> 0:45:43.480 so you cut a guy off and no. 0:45:43.560 --> 0:45:45.480 No, no, no, won't let you in. 0:45:46.000 --> 0:45:49.520 My turn signal was off and the people behind me 0:45:49.560 --> 0:45:51.359 were being let in and I'm like, oh, I got 0:45:51.360 --> 0:45:53.040 real estate, he'll let me in, right, And he didn't 0:45:53.120 --> 0:45:53.319 let me. 0:45:53.360 --> 0:45:54.719 Because you were breaking the rule that you were just 0:45:54.719 --> 0:45:56.680 speaking of what the one and one? 0:45:57.200 --> 0:46:02.279 No, no, no, there were I I pictured that, I 0:46:02.320 --> 0:46:02.640 know it. 0:46:03.080 --> 0:46:05.160 I know it. You tried to sneak in on the tail. 0:46:05.480 --> 0:46:06.880 No, I said, I said, you're not gonna let me 0:46:06.880 --> 0:46:08.480 in and fuck you, and I wedged. 0:46:08.239 --> 0:46:11.000 Him exactly exactly. You and the woman went to Gucci belt. 0:46:11.160 --> 0:46:13.520 No no no no no no no no beg. 0:46:13.360 --> 0:46:18.680 Isn't no no no no no no. 0:46:18.680 --> 0:46:19.879 Now I'm going to show your magic trick. 0:46:21.160 --> 0:46:22.719 My point though, is I didn't really I didn't think 0:46:22.719 --> 0:46:23.839 you'd be that angry with a driver. 0:46:24.640 --> 0:46:25.920 But it was that one incident. 0:46:26.160 --> 0:46:28.200 There's a couple when the other. 0:46:28.080 --> 0:46:30.080 One was on the highway when we were driving. That 0:46:30.200 --> 0:46:32.359 was in Nashville when we were driving around. We were 0:46:32.440 --> 0:46:35.239 driving back from uh we were driving in between. 0:46:35.520 --> 0:46:39.920 U uh Louis Louisville and going to Nashville on the 0:46:40.000 --> 0:46:41.600 road on the expressway. 0:46:42.160 --> 0:46:43.839 Do you remember this what happened? I don't remember. 0:46:44.000 --> 0:46:45.000 Ji was in the car with this. 0:46:45.000 --> 0:46:45.480 What happened? 0:46:45.600 --> 0:46:46.440 Uh you? 0:46:46.800 --> 0:46:48.680 Uh so this is when I go to our guests 0:46:48.680 --> 0:46:49.920 and you start whispering to each other, you. 0:46:49.840 --> 0:46:51.399 Try to merge, going on no, this is the way 0:46:51.400 --> 0:46:53.560 I'm telling you right to your face on podcast. 0:46:53.600 --> 0:46:54.360 Okay, what happened? 0:46:54.960 --> 0:46:58.120 Uh you? You were trying to you were trying to merge. 0:46:58.400 --> 0:47:00.279 Your merging is really, when your worst comes out, you 0:47:00.560 --> 0:47:02.000 really might take awa. When you were trying to merge 0:47:02.000 --> 0:47:05.239 onto six eighty four whatever the expressway is, and you 0:47:05.320 --> 0:47:06.880 tried to merge on the guy wouldn't let you in. 0:47:06.960 --> 0:47:09.239 Yeah, and you fucking gunned it, and you're like, well, 0:47:09.239 --> 0:47:13.440 it's happening, and you like, you know that you do 0:47:13.480 --> 0:47:13.839 that stuff. 0:47:14.239 --> 0:47:15.880 But I didn't think that because you are like one 0:47:15.920 --> 0:47:17.719 of the nicest, kindest people I know. We said this 0:47:17.719 --> 0:47:20.080 all time about our good friend Mark Jiggy aka Jiggy, 0:47:20.200 --> 0:47:21.960 who is like one of the nicest, kindest people that 0:47:22.000 --> 0:47:23.759 when he's off stage, but when he's on stage. 0:47:23.520 --> 0:47:26.360 He turns into this animal. But we love that Jiggy, 0:47:26.360 --> 0:47:29.240 We love that Aboue. But like, I did not expect 0:47:29.239 --> 0:47:30.080 you to be that type of driver. 0:47:31.200 --> 0:47:32.200 I'm normally not. 0:47:32.520 --> 0:47:35.399 I'm be honest with you, but I find it when 0:47:35.960 --> 0:47:38.399 no I have accountability for it. And that's why even 0:47:38.440 --> 0:47:41.799 when when that person and Jiggy saw it where I 0:47:41.800 --> 0:47:44.360 had to merge again, the road got cut off and 0:47:44.360 --> 0:47:48.120 then I merged again and then the guy let me in, 0:47:48.320 --> 0:47:49.520 and then I gave my thumbs up. 0:47:49.640 --> 0:47:54.880 Yeah, the thing it wasn't but it was you, and 0:47:54.920 --> 0:47:56.160 you did a slow rise. 0:47:56.640 --> 0:47:59.440 You did a I did not slow rise like a 0:47:59.600 --> 0:48:02.719 lighting nineteen forties filmed. 0:48:05.840 --> 0:48:08.600 I just went like that because I found, well, what's worse. 0:48:08.680 --> 0:48:09.160 That's worse. 0:48:09.200 --> 0:48:12.680 It's like, this is the worst to give somebody. I'm 0:48:12.680 --> 0:48:13.520 disappointed in you. 0:48:13.680 --> 0:48:16.080 This is you have not this is maybe maybe disappointed. 0:48:16.120 --> 0:48:17.759 You should think about what you've done, because it could 0:48:17.760 --> 0:48:18.600 have been this, it could have been that. 0:48:18.719 --> 0:48:21.000 Yeah, this is par for the course, everybody. This is 0:48:21.040 --> 0:48:23.879 the go to. Anybody can do that. This sting that 0:48:24.000 --> 0:48:25.680 is that hurts. This thing is to go what. 0:48:25.640 --> 0:48:26.520 Are your films down? 0:48:26.640 --> 0:48:27.319 Yeah? 0:48:27.600 --> 0:48:30.600 I think there was also a windows Yes, you put 0:48:30.600 --> 0:48:32.600 the window down, put your to put my thumb out, 0:48:32.680 --> 0:48:34.600 Yeah for sure, Yeah, yeah, one hundred percent. 0:48:34.719 --> 0:48:36.960 So this is all. This is exactly my point. I 0:48:37.040 --> 0:48:39.600 think you're way nicer when you're not driving. That's my takeaway. 0:48:39.920 --> 0:48:41.960 Guys, if you want to drive to Kentucky, you're more than. 0:48:42.719 --> 0:48:43.880 Take your way. Shock and I'll drive it. 0:48:43.960 --> 0:48:45.279 Fine, It's okay, you guys can do it. 0:48:45.280 --> 0:48:45.640 I'll be good. 0:48:46.040 --> 0:48:51.879 I I find what I'm driving. I still feel there's 0:48:51.920 --> 0:48:54.279 a sense of decorum, Like you wouldn't do that if 0:48:54.320 --> 0:48:56.480 you were walking on a sidewalk. Why would you do 0:48:56.560 --> 0:48:59.920 that in a car and this whole like cancel culture. 0:49:00.080 --> 0:49:02.560 People want to get canceled because they said something that 0:49:02.640 --> 0:49:05.960 like hurt your feelings. It's like if you cut somebody 0:49:06.000 --> 0:49:09.680 off on a highway, like you literally physically endangered somebody. 0:49:09.760 --> 0:49:15.960 That's fucking crazy, like total thumbs down, you should get 0:49:16.000 --> 0:49:18.319 canceled driving for like this is not a bit. 0:49:18.360 --> 0:49:20.360 By the way, give me your license. This is happening 0:49:20.400 --> 0:49:21.240 to you and your license. 0:49:22.480 --> 0:49:24.560 But how do you how are you? How are you nice? 0:49:24.840 --> 0:49:27.520 Or how do you deal with rude people? How are 0:49:27.560 --> 0:49:29.400 you still nice to people that are rude? 0:49:30.360 --> 0:49:30.400 That? 0:49:31.360 --> 0:49:31.680 I think? 0:49:31.800 --> 0:49:34.000 I think you have to it would be nice. See 0:49:34.040 --> 0:49:35.960 it's here, here we go, Erica. This is this is 0:49:35.960 --> 0:49:38.040 the great thing about Erica. Ready, how do I be 0:49:38.120 --> 0:49:40.279 nice to people who are rude? She could go, how 0:49:40.280 --> 0:49:41.280 do I deal with rude people? 0:49:41.360 --> 0:49:44.600 Exactly? She says, she's coming from a place of kindness. 0:49:44.880 --> 0:49:46.279 That's a very sweet way to start that. 0:49:46.320 --> 0:49:48.600 Over that, And here's the thing. You have to do 0:49:48.680 --> 0:49:50.960 it to what you feel comfortable with. But know that 0:49:51.000 --> 0:49:53.319 you don't owe anybody anything right, So if someone's being 0:49:53.360 --> 0:49:55.480 rude to you about it, you don't owe them kindness. 0:49:55.520 --> 0:49:57.799 Kindness is something that you extend to people, and it's 0:49:57.840 --> 0:49:58.680 a way that you act. 0:49:58.760 --> 0:49:59.239 That's fine. 0:49:59.280 --> 0:50:01.000 But if you you don't have to win someone over 0:50:01.040 --> 0:50:04.200 with kindness or kill them with kindnesses, as the saying goes, I. 0:50:04.120 --> 0:50:07.160 Think it's just you should. You should feel good after 0:50:07.200 --> 0:50:07.600 an interruest. 0:50:07.640 --> 0:50:10.200 She's already in the in the right mind, and she'll 0:50:10.480 --> 0:50:13.080 instinctively do the right things because you don't have to 0:50:13.080 --> 0:50:14.840 think about it. You are a nice person because of 0:50:14.880 --> 0:50:15.840 the way you frame the question. 0:50:16.120 --> 0:50:17.799 She would have she would have let you in by 0:50:17.800 --> 0:50:19.040 the way she would have let you murge. 0:50:18.840 --> 0:50:21.440 When when I'm driving you see me let people in. 0:50:21.440 --> 0:50:26.880 One thank you and this is for you. 0:50:27.000 --> 0:50:28.840 Well, that's all the time we have this week on 0:50:28.960 --> 0:50:39.480 Two Cool Moms. Everybody, I really appreciate you. 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