Speaker 1: If there was a problem, where to your mother.
Speaker 2: We'll let you know. We're ready, We'll let you.
Speaker 1: I'm so very dropped an F. I'm sorry.
Speaker 2: We can't put it on YouTube.
Speaker 1: That's a record.
Speaker 2: We can't put it on YouTube. I have to beat that.
Speaker 2: And you just gave me work.
Speaker 1: Well you know where it is.
Speaker 2: Well, you know what. We don't have a thing. I say, sorry,
Speaker 2: we can actually stop start again. You have to do
Speaker 2: there first.
Speaker 1: All right, let's do it start again? Good you not?
Speaker 2: It's your two cool moms. I am Joe Gatto. How
Speaker 2: are you there? He is? You gotta remember you can't
Speaker 2: do the F right away.
Speaker 1: I can't do it. Okay, let's start again.
Speaker 2: Then no, because I know what's gonna happen. What you're
Speaker 2: just gonna say fss. I don't have to.
Speaker 1: You said that when you were a kids.
Speaker 2: He said the apps, I said, mom, Genie said the f's.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I would say the fs the is.
Speaker 2: I remember, I remember, I remember the first time.
Speaker 3: I do you remember the first time your parents said,
Speaker 3: like every parent does this where they make it okay
Speaker 3: for your to say a curse word.
Speaker 2: Yeah, because it's so funny.
Speaker 3: So I remember, I remember the first time like my
Speaker 3: parents were messing with me because I heard I heard
Speaker 3: them say a bad word and I was like, I
Speaker 3: can't say that word.
Speaker 2: It's a bad word. And and my dad was like
Speaker 2: what was the word.
Speaker 3: I was like, it's a bad one, and he's like, well,
Speaker 3: what is it?
Speaker 2: And it was it was frig. And in my mind
Speaker 2: it was like, I was like, it was frig.
Speaker 3: I remember that moment, Yeah, I remember it, like laughter, Yeah,
Speaker 3: every lost it because I thought freg was a bad word.
Speaker 4: My my wife does work online where she's talking to
Speaker 4: people online, like couples and she's helping them. And my
Speaker 4: kids know that when she's on the call, they've got
Speaker 4: to keep it quiet and go on your iPad, you
Speaker 4: can go whatever, you just please keep a quiet. Mom's working, right,
Speaker 4: I wasn't home, so of course, you know, she gets
Speaker 4: knock on the door and she's talking and she's just
Speaker 4: ignoring it and you know, powering through, and then all
Speaker 4: of a sudden, the door creaks open. These poor people
Speaker 4: must see like this little this little six year old
Speaker 4: boy sneaking in like wide eyed, and he's got a
Speaker 4: note and he hands it to my wife and.
Speaker 1: Then he sneaks back out and SLINKs out. She's like,
Speaker 1: I'm so sorry.
Speaker 4: And then and then uh she reads the note and
Speaker 4: it says, uh, Livvy said shit and he misspelled.
Speaker 1: Livvy misspelled said said shit was right.
Speaker 2: Yeah, boy, shit was right.
Speaker 4: So and she kept it on him, like you got
Speaker 4: to keep that because that's one of those things we'll
Speaker 4: always look at it.
Speaker 2: I mean, that should be framed on the wall.
Speaker 4: My son's first swear words that he said publicly, like
Speaker 4: out loud was after watching your movie when sal when
Speaker 4: the Tiger came into the hotel room and he had
Speaker 4: to say, I'm a baby bitch boy.
Speaker 1: I laughed so hard.
Speaker 4: My son heard me laughing hard, so he thought, oh,
Speaker 4: that must be funny. So he he burned in the
Speaker 4: hard drive and it was like, Daddy, I go wed.
Speaker 4: He goes, I'm a baby bitch boy, and I'm dying laughing,
Speaker 4: just like you can't.
Speaker 1: You can't say that.
Speaker 4: But every now and then he goes, he'll like pull
Speaker 4: me aside at lunch or he'll tell me.
Speaker 2: He goes that, can I say it? I go, you
Speaker 2: can say it around me.
Speaker 1: He goes, I'm a baby bitch boy, Like that's my boy. Yeah.
Speaker 3: My daughter, my daughter is very nonchalant on saying the
Speaker 3: F word because she knows she can't say it, but
Speaker 3: she's saying it.
Speaker 2: In a scenario where she knows she'd be able.
Speaker 3: To say it, she would be like, uh, she'd be
Speaker 3: like if she telling me story, she's like, you know, mom,
Speaker 3: you know said a bad word.
Speaker 2: I heard her before. She was like, Hey, what the
Speaker 2: fuck is that?
Speaker 3: And I was like, we know, we can't say that word.
Speaker 3: Like just to just say it is more of the story.
Speaker 3: And she was like, and I know I can't say that,
Speaker 3: you know, like one of those.
Speaker 1: It was so fully Hilary is seeing an angel, Yes,
Speaker 1: drop a f bo.
Speaker 2: It's so great. But she's never two front teeth right
Speaker 2: now too. So it's the fun is that it's really funny.
Speaker 2: I Uh, my family always grew up cursing. Now.
Speaker 3: My mom, well, my mom was like I said, but
Speaker 3: I always grew up a round cursing. And I remember,
Speaker 3: there is a time in your life when you're in
Speaker 3: your late teens where it's all right, kind of becomes alright.
Speaker 1: To curse, it's okay to say.
Speaker 2: And it's such a.
Speaker 3: Weird thing because my oldest nephews and nieces are now
Speaker 3: like eighteen, you know, seventeen and twenty three.
Speaker 2: So it's like they're adults. And I still when they curse, it's.
Speaker 1: Like, feels weird to me see a fourteen or fifteen,
Speaker 1: sixteen year old.
Speaker 2: I still remember my mother. My sister came home from
Speaker 2: her first.
Speaker 1: Year not around them all the time, like the parent,
Speaker 1: the parents.
Speaker 4: Yes, she used to seeing them, and you're still picturing
Speaker 4: maybe yes, the little.
Speaker 1: The five year old on your lap or whatever.
Speaker 3: Yeah, my sister was a freshman in college. She came
Speaker 3: home when my grandparents were over, and she's telling the
Speaker 3: story and she says, she drops an F and when
Speaker 3: she says it, my mother stands up and smacks her
Speaker 3: nineteen year old daughter in the mouth and don't say
Speaker 3: that around your grandfather.
Speaker 2: Wow, isn't that crazy?
Speaker 1: There's old school, right.
Speaker 2: Yes.
Speaker 3: Meanwhile, when my grandfather wasn't there, they're dropping f bombs
Speaker 3: back and forth to each other.
Speaker 2: It's like it's Nagasaki.
Speaker 3: And she she was like, just because she's in front
Speaker 3: of her father, my mom was like, do you say that?
Speaker 2: Like it made her feel like she was a bad parent.
Speaker 3: Meanwhile, back in the day, like when our kids say
Speaker 3: we're high five and I'm like, yeah, my son's called
Speaker 3: you a bitch boy.
Speaker 2: That's right, maybe bitch boy. Yeah.
Speaker 3: I don't know where that stigma comes from. I guess
Speaker 3: maybe it's an old school thing.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 4: I try to around my kids. They know what I
Speaker 4: do for a living. They've heard and I'm not going
Speaker 4: to pretend that those.
Speaker 1: Sports don't exist.
Speaker 4: But I'm like, you know, you have to earn the
Speaker 4: right to be able to say those things. When that
Speaker 4: comes with times, Just relax, we'll be able to.
Speaker 2: Down that ship. That ship's coming. You ever read that
Speaker 2: note out loud? Pretty soon?
Speaker 1: Okay, well, let's get into it.
Speaker 2: Here we go, Let's help some people.
Speaker 1: That's why we're here. We're two cool moms, and today
Speaker 1: I think we're feeling a little extra cool.
Speaker 3: I think we were dropping some cursed Yeah, get us
Speaker 3: some box wine after this.
Speaker 2: We are blue right now too, we're popping the blues. You.
Speaker 2: I went for it.
Speaker 4: You look like you just solve the crime on casual Friday.
Speaker 1: That's what you do.
Speaker 2: You like to I have some questions I'd like to
Speaker 2: ask you, Steve, where were you?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 3: I look like you know, you look like right now
Speaker 3: literally literally, Okay, if that's what I look like you
Speaker 3: look like in movies when a little kid like wishes
Speaker 3: to be a grown up and all of a sudden
Speaker 3: they turn into one like that when he's still like, yeah.
Speaker 1: Hold my hat, what for me?
Speaker 2: Maybe that's exactly what you look like right now.
Speaker 1: Like it's like he's like.
Speaker 3: I want to be grown up so I can eat
Speaker 3: a hot dog, and when he's like, grew up, and
Speaker 3: you're like a little fat kid that grew up.
Speaker 1: And I just ate all the hot dogs, doesn't he?
Speaker 2: Look? What do you put a hat and a T
Speaker 2: shirt on? You look like a young and that's old.
Speaker 2: You're looking at olden? You do? You're a golden olden.
Speaker 4: I had to did the double take on you, like wait,
Speaker 4: hold the way, not in a bad.
Speaker 2: Way, but you look like a little kid that's playing adult.
Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, I'll take it.
Speaker 4: I guess like one of those movies, like like I
Speaker 4: could be I could be the bait on to catch
Speaker 4: a creditor exactly right.
Speaker 1: Hey, I just made some lemonade cookies. Why'd you get
Speaker 1: in the hot tub?
Speaker 2: Why are you talking like a newsy?
Speaker 4: But they always hired those though, you know what I mean,
Speaker 4: the thirty old that's the fifteen year old.
Speaker 3: You look like like thirteen going on thirty or big
Speaker 3: you know, Tom Hanks.
Speaker 2: But you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 4: Base goes down down baby dwn Yeah, sweetweet, baby Sweetweet'll
Speaker 4: let me go shim shimmy, Coco, sh sh rack him,
Speaker 4: shy go go Bob Shamy, sham me.
Speaker 2: Roh my Dad's Friday. I don't know.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I thought you know the rest of it.
Speaker 2: I don't. I ended shimmy, shimmy, rock shomy, shimmy, rong.
Speaker 2: That's all I'll stand for.
Speaker 1: Man A girlfriend, A trisk it, she said. A tris
Speaker 1: a biscuit ice cream vanilla on the top. Shelina walking down
Speaker 1: the street ten times a week. I said it, I'm
Speaker 1: in it. I saw Milmo's credit. I'm cool, I'm hot.
Speaker 1: Suck me the stomach one more time. Wow, I remembered it.
Speaker 1: That's I still love Big.
Speaker 3: If you listened quietly you quit, you could hear everyone
Speaker 3: tuning out.
Speaker 1: Here we go, well, well here, okay, let's sen you
Speaker 1: want to that whole thing.
Speaker 2: That's crazy.
Speaker 1: I just remembered. I used to love that movie your
Speaker 1: favorite face when I was a kid.
Speaker 2: I've seen a bunch and I don't remember that like that.
Speaker 1: What was your go to.
Speaker 2: As a kiddies?
Speaker 1: Goodies for sure?
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, kid.
Speaker 1: I mean everybody knows kung Fu after that movie in
Speaker 1: the park a lot.
Speaker 3: See, everybody's going off for everybody wanted to be Everybody
Speaker 3: wanted touch mister Mayogi.
Speaker 2: Yeah, touch me Mayagi.
Speaker 1: It hurts. That was so weird he does that by
Speaker 1: the way he massages.
Speaker 2: You're old a twelve year old boy and everybody he
Speaker 2: was an olden.
Speaker 1: He was an olden. He was like you were thirty
Speaker 1: on him. You're the mister, cool moms, I'm Ralph Machi
Speaker 1: because Ralph Macha was like thirty when he was the Machi.
Speaker 1: H great form man.
Speaker 2: That's I also hit my elbow and hurt myself.
Speaker 1: Like Jason Stathum Bruce Willis. They're like on the poster
Speaker 1: and got all right, here we go.
Speaker 2: You want some of this fresh biscuit.
Speaker 1: It is coming to us from Owen Owen high. Cool moms.
Speaker 1: I was just going through some feelings and I have a.
Speaker 4: Bad habit where when I get quiet, when I get nervous,
Speaker 4: when I get nervous or something, I think that my
Speaker 4: friend who was really close with read this wrong and
Speaker 4: thought I was ignoring her, but I couldn't bring myself
Speaker 4: to completely tell her what was going on.
Speaker 1: I really want to get back to.
Speaker 4: The relationship we had, but I'm not sure the best
Speaker 4: way to apologize. I've told her about how I'm trying
Speaker 4: to be better, but there is something special I can do.
Speaker 4: Is there something as special I can do for her
Speaker 4: to let her know I never wanted to hurt her.
Speaker 4: I'm a huge fan of the show and I love
Speaker 4: you guys so much. Oh and that's very nice, So
Speaker 4: hold on, Just let me get I was going through
Speaker 4: some feelings and I have a bad habit where when
Speaker 4: I get quiet, when I get nervous or something, he
Speaker 4: gets quiet.
Speaker 3: When it gets nervous, he gets So he was going
Speaker 3: through his feelings, he got quiet. She read it as
Speaker 3: he was ignoring her.
Speaker 2: How does he apologize to this behavior?
Speaker 3: Yes, well, if it's your friend, just explain what happened.
Speaker 3: But that's going to bring up.
Speaker 2: Why I get it, So that's gonna bring up ah well,
Speaker 2: while be quiet while.
Speaker 3: That he has to get into explaining his feelings. That
Speaker 3: seems to be the path that he's going down.
Speaker 4: So this is like a double whammy. Yeah, he's processing
Speaker 4: the feelings and then he's also like he's got a
Speaker 4: tough time expressing the feeling because.
Speaker 3: Once you do that, that's that's a really hard thing
Speaker 3: that people don't think about. It is once you take
Speaker 3: your shot with your friend, that friendship has changed forever.
Speaker 2: Yep, it's it's becomes something new.
Speaker 3: It either becomes a romantic thing, or it becomes a
Speaker 3: different type of a different type of relationship, or it's
Speaker 3: just gets somebody's like this is too weird. I think
Speaker 3: he was that and they're gone.
Speaker 2: So there is a big risk factor there.
Speaker 3: And you always hear just tell people how you feel
Speaker 3: or you know, you can't hold that stuff in. And
Speaker 3: and I'm normally on that side of the camp. But
Speaker 3: there is something to be said of if you really
Speaker 3: enjoy the relationship you have with somebody, do you really
Speaker 3: want to risk it and lose it completely? Do you
Speaker 3: want to risk it a biscuit? I called the risk
Speaker 3: it a trisk it. And that's what I'm afraid of about.
Speaker 1: Ice cream soda vanilla on the top.
Speaker 2: Shimmy, shimmy. Rock is rarely what we're telling him. So
Speaker 2: I get what he's saying. It really is.
Speaker 3: He's opening a Pandora's box here if he gets into
Speaker 3: the why he was quiet.
Speaker 4: This is a lot more complicated than would let on.
Speaker 4: And now you understand why somebody would be a little
Speaker 4: more recluse to the situation.
Speaker 2: Yes, but.
Speaker 1: Yeah, look I would It's almost like i'd want to
Speaker 1: know more.
Speaker 3: You know, have you found in your experience that when
Speaker 3: you had to apologize to a friend right that it's gone.
Speaker 4: Well, well, look, accountability is key in that situation, but he.
Speaker 2: Didn't do anything wrong. Let's read of a situation.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I would be as forthcoming as possible. Yeah, And
Speaker 4: I would say, look, the president is the friendship.
Speaker 1: You know, I want to remain friends with you.
Speaker 4: Obviously, it's it's somebody special to him, So you'd want
Speaker 4: that to be the president the most important aspect of
Speaker 4: it all. But I think it's also like, look, you know,
Speaker 4: maybe you know me, maybe you don't know this about me,
Speaker 4: but when a situation, you know.
Speaker 1: Bubbles up, I just get quiet.
Speaker 4: I need to process this, and I'm not ignoring you,
Speaker 4: but you know, sometimes that could be a day, Sometimes
Speaker 4: it could be a little bit long.
Speaker 1: I don't know. I'm just trying to get inside this
Speaker 1: Owen's head, but I would.
Speaker 2: I'll say too that if you get okay.
Speaker 3: So, like, I'm the type of friend that if I'm
Speaker 3: with my friends and I feel like something's wrong with
Speaker 3: a friend of mine, I'd be like, what's the matter,
Speaker 3: wh what are you mean at me about?
Speaker 2: You're very intuitive, yeah, and I and I'll ask the question.
Speaker 2: So you could use that as a jumping off point.
Speaker 2: He'd be like, look are you mad at me? Because
Speaker 2: you also need to do a gut check. You might
Speaker 2: be doing this, You might be making this whole story
Speaker 2: up in your head.
Speaker 3: You don't know, but like, are you mad at me
Speaker 3: about something? Start the conversation and take it from there.
Speaker 3: I think the first part is to have a conversation
Speaker 3: because if you don't address it now, it's just going
Speaker 3: to get harder to address him.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's a smart entry point.
Speaker 3: Yeah, start a commo, like you met him about something name.
Speaker 3: She says, Well, you got quiet, Like, look, it was
Speaker 3: nothing about you. I was just doing with something. And
Speaker 3: you don't have to come all the way out and
Speaker 3: like I have feelings or whatever. You just be like,
Speaker 3: you know, I was just dealings with something that day,
Speaker 3: and I feel bad that I was like that, but
Speaker 3: you know.
Speaker 2: How much I care about you, right, well, you're one
Speaker 2: of my best friends.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and you can be done with it there, sure, Yeah,
Speaker 3: but I think you should address it because you'll feel better.
Speaker 1: And it's also how big of a deal you make it?
Speaker 2: Right, It's everything, everything is how big a deal you
Speaker 2: make it?
Speaker 4: Yeah, it's like, are you willing to make this that
Speaker 4: big of an issue? And to your point, the longer
Speaker 4: you let it situate and sit there, the longer it's
Speaker 4: going to snowball, and then it's going to become some
Speaker 4: unbearable thing where neither person wants to address it. So
Speaker 4: I think the quicker sometimes you nip it in the butt. Usually,
Speaker 4: I've been in so many situations where I'm harboring this
Speaker 4: guilt like, ah, fuck, I shouldn't have done that. It's
Speaker 4: like anytime I drink and I wake up the next
Speaker 4: day and I go through the night before and I'm like, ah, fuck,
Speaker 4: I can't believe I did that.
Speaker 1: Rrect you an idiot.
Speaker 4: Then I am talking to my friends the next day,
Speaker 4: I'm like, look, I'm so sorry. They're like, no, it
Speaker 4: wasn't even that bade.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 4: Sometimes it's always always yeah, yeah, think that makes sense.
Speaker 3: So I would just start a combo and see where
Speaker 3: you're at to get a read the room, take a age.
Speaker 1: I didn't mean to bang your cat like I just
Speaker 1: you know, just fuck I.
Speaker 2: Told you, buddy, I don't even remember that.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's not a big deal.
Speaker 2: That's not a big deal because I don't even remember it. Also,
Speaker 2: I don't have a cat, so we should find out
Speaker 2: whose cat was.
Speaker 4: That's a cool all right here, Uh, here's our next question.
Speaker 4: I think it gets right to the point.
Speaker 1: Is it me or is that crazy Shane?
Speaker 2: That's that's it.
Speaker 1: Is it me or is that crazy Shane? Shane's asking
Speaker 1: this is.
Speaker 2: That's one hundred percent of the message that came in?
Speaker 1: Is it mirror? Is that crazy?
Speaker 3: I find most of the time, Yeah, it's you, that's
Speaker 3: not that crazy.
Speaker 2: I think it's I think it's you, Shane.
Speaker 1: I think I go on the other side of Shaane.
Speaker 1: I think it's fucking crazy.
Speaker 2: I think it's that crazy.
Speaker 1: I think it's that crazy. I mean, it wasn't that crazy,
Speaker 1: but you know it's Shane. Yeah, you're right.
Speaker 2: You know Shane is Oh, I might flip. I might
Speaker 2: come to you.
Speaker 1: I don't know. I mean, we all know Shane.
Speaker 4: And Shane can Shane like what's normal for us ain't normal.
Speaker 2: For Shane's operating at an eleven.
Speaker 1: Shane takes it.
Speaker 2: To another elevel.
Speaker 1: So it's like Shane crazy. It's like, oh, you're right.
Speaker 2: I'm gonna need a little more info.
Speaker 1: Well I appreciated that.
Speaker 2: A right, here we go.
Speaker 4: This is coming to us from oh cass Hey, guys,
Speaker 4: just wondering what I should do to make my sister
Speaker 4: get a job.
Speaker 1: I've been here before. She's lived with me for over
Speaker 1: a year.
Speaker 2: I've been here before.
Speaker 4: It has only worked three months out of that time.
Speaker 4: And I would struggle so much to pay the rent
Speaker 4: on my own and pay all the bills and support
Speaker 4: support uh, to support me and her.
Speaker 1: And she's my sister.
Speaker 4: We're close and I love her, so I kick her out,
Speaker 4: kick her out, but it's like she doesn't want to work.
Speaker 4: But all my savings are gone and I'm always in
Speaker 4: over draft and I can't even afford groceries.
Speaker 1: What should I do? Have you been in this situation?
Speaker 2: Never?
Speaker 1: You have my little brother William Byrne live with me.
Speaker 4: Bill billy Burn Billy Burns never called him Billy Burn.
Speaker 4: Poopsie is what he hates, and that's like a fine
Speaker 4: wine I bring him from the cellar ever since he
Speaker 4: was six, like little kids and poopsy he's like, but
Speaker 4: will live with me off and on over the years
Speaker 4: as he's getting his life situated. He's in a good
Speaker 4: place now, very happy for him. But for sure I
Speaker 4: was in this situation where, you know, my brother.
Speaker 1: Did have an.
Speaker 4: Excuse because he was suffering from PTSD post war, so
Speaker 4: you know, there was he was finding himself locked up
Speaker 4: in a room, and I think out of fear and
Speaker 4: for safety for himself, but there's also like like even
Speaker 4: as I'm saying this, it's like, oh my god, that's horrible.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's horrible.
Speaker 4: For like three months it's horrible, and then like the
Speaker 4: fourth month, you're like, get the fuck out, go do something,
Speaker 4: get a job, get on with your life, go see help.
Speaker 1: And so for me, it comes down to getting down
Speaker 1: to the root of the problem of what is it wrong?
Speaker 1: What's wrong with your sister, What.
Speaker 4: Is preventing her from getting out there and having some
Speaker 4: gumption right, Because you want to be supportive, you want
Speaker 4: to be loving. Everybody wants to hurt their family out
Speaker 4: but at the same time, you also want to make
Speaker 4: sure that you know it's not her contributing to your rent,
Speaker 4: it's her being self sufficient on her own to know
Speaker 4: at some point we're not going to live together. This
Speaker 4: is not Laverne and Shirley. You know, this is You're
Speaker 4: gonna have to get out there and get on the horse.
Speaker 4: So I would hone in on and maybe it's something
Speaker 4: that she needs to speak to somebody professionally, or maybe
Speaker 4: she's just lazy as as hell and knows that you're
Speaker 4: going to be paying this stuff, but it's taking a
Speaker 4: toll on you. So self preservation for her, of course,
Speaker 4: you want her to feel appreciated respected, which she's not.
Speaker 2: Nobody's winning in the situation.
Speaker 1: Nobody's winning in a situation.
Speaker 3: For me, it's the biggest problem out of all of
Speaker 3: this is that the relationship will be destroyed.
Speaker 2: By the burden she becomes. So once somebody becomes a burden.
Speaker 3: To you, you don't see them any other way, but
Speaker 3: you have that kind of of that's the states the relationship.
Speaker 2: That's the first step you're taking on that journey.
Speaker 3: It's like, oh god, oh like even you know so,
Speaker 3: and the other thing like you feel like you're helping them,
Speaker 3: but the real way to help them is to make
Speaker 3: themselves sufficient, is to really like help them help themselves.
Speaker 3: So of course there's a recovery perioder this thing is
Speaker 3: like something tragic happens short. You know, you circle the wagons,
Speaker 3: you're with somebody. You know, we've all been there where
Speaker 3: you've leaned on your family for things like that.
Speaker 2: But I think more so you need to be like, Okay,
Speaker 2: let's do this. And I think the main thing to
Speaker 2: do is make.
Speaker 3: Not make her feel like she's alone, because a lot
Speaker 3: of it, people do so much more when they.
Speaker 2: Feel like they have a cheerleader. They feel like they
Speaker 2: have so much more.
Speaker 3: They'll get that touchdown when somebody scream from the sidelines,
Speaker 3: you know, because they know that people are in there.
Speaker 2: Not always the case.
Speaker 4: I have many broken furniture as evidence to show that
Speaker 4: that's not always the cage.
Speaker 1: Ye, But I agree with you.
Speaker 4: I think nine times out of ten in most healthy
Speaker 4: dynamics for sure. And that's why when I hear this,
Speaker 4: it's like that's not normal behavior.
Speaker 2: Yeh.
Speaker 4: Ninety percent of people want to go and stay with
Speaker 4: somebody and go, Okay, I'm gonna get my shit together.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna I'm gonna figure this out. I've got to
Speaker 1: get a job, right, That's always where it starts.
Speaker 2: I gotta get a job.
Speaker 1: That's normal human beings the world.
Speaker 2: You need money to exist. How am I getting money?
Speaker 2: That's literally the answer.
Speaker 4: That's the first like to me, it's very curious to go, well,
Speaker 4: why why is she not working?
Speaker 1: Why does she not have the gum shot?
Speaker 4: And that's there's something back in the recesses that's preventing
Speaker 4: her from doing this. It's something more than just laziness,
Speaker 4: I think. So I would try to hone in on that,
Speaker 4: and maybe you need support from your folks, maybe you
Speaker 4: need support from her best friends.
Speaker 1: I don't know what it is, but you need.
Speaker 4: To crack that case first, and you know dependent how
Speaker 4: serious that is. I think then you slowly unpack it.
Speaker 4: Or it's one of those situations where it's the complete opposite.
Speaker 4: If this person's just lazy, it's like, go, you're not
Speaker 4: taking advantage of because you want to feel respected in
Speaker 4: that situation.
Speaker 3: I think you're right. I think you need to find
Speaker 3: out the root of it. Why is this the situation?
Speaker 3: And then you could figure out your next step.
Speaker 1: I do wonder though, would Shane think this is crazy
Speaker 1: or would Shane.
Speaker 2: Think it might be her? She thinks it's her in
Speaker 2: this situation.
Speaker 1: I don't know, Shane.
Speaker 2: Shane is like, you're right, that is that crazy? You're right, Shane. Again,
Speaker 2: Shane is off the Shane unchained.
Speaker 1: But to cast, what do you say to Cass?
Speaker 3: I think I say, start the convo to get to
Speaker 3: the root. Why is the reason she's living?
Speaker 1: Because this girl's savings are drained.
Speaker 3: Yeah, she's got to do something here. She can't eve afford. Yeah,
Speaker 3: like she's overdrafted. Like that's not right.
Speaker 2: Yeah, she needs to do something here to correct her,
Speaker 2: to correct her course.
Speaker 4: Yeah, okay, this comes to us Emma, Emma rights. Hey guys,
Speaker 4: I turned twenty one this week and I still don't
Speaker 4: know what to do with my life.
Speaker 1: I've been taking.
Speaker 4: General education courses online since the fall of twenty twenty,
Speaker 4: but I don't know what to major in. My first
Speaker 4: loves are music in theater, but they're such unstable careers.
Speaker 4: I love animals, but couldn't stomach being a vet. I'm
Speaker 4: scared and discouraged. Any suggestions. PS, love you, Joe.
Speaker 1: That's from Emma. That's very nice.
Speaker 2: Thank you.
Speaker 1: There's two moms.
Speaker 4: It's a podcast and now you only get one answers
Speaker 4: from and it's real, I need to earn your loves. No,
Speaker 4: that's a that's a tough place.
Speaker 2: To be, right, I mean that is when you feel
Speaker 2: like you have nowhere to go. That's hard. That's hard
Speaker 2: for sure. Yeah.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and it sounds like look who doesn't look.
Speaker 4: I think that there is that conundrum right of tipping
Speaker 4: the scales of you know, music, theater or something real
Speaker 4: and practical.
Speaker 3: You want to get paid or you want to you
Speaker 3: want to get paid, or you want to do what
Speaker 3: your love is.
Speaker 4: Like really, always at the essence of everything in lies
Speaker 4: the answer. I think sometimes because the people that know
Speaker 4: they want to do it again. I'll always go the
Speaker 4: people I know that are.
Speaker 1: Professional stand up comedians, professional actors.
Speaker 4: There was never question. It was like, no, I'm doing that.
Speaker 4: I will find a way to do that.
Speaker 1: Absolutely.
Speaker 3: It comes from the joy too, right, Like if it's
Speaker 3: what it's what makes you happy, and it's you're not
Speaker 3: doing it to get famous or do whatever like that.
Speaker 3: Always those are always the people that find success, right,
Speaker 3: that's the big thing, right to find success? What is
Speaker 3: it the money in your bank or is it being
Speaker 3: able not to.
Speaker 2: Hate where you're going to work?
Speaker 1: Well, to answer your first part, it's definitely not the
Speaker 1: money in the.
Speaker 2: Bank for sure.
Speaker 3: Uh I would I would probably just say and we
Speaker 3: get this is like a theme that gets covered a
Speaker 3: lot with us. But the big thing really is like,
Speaker 3: if you could do anything, what would you do, right,
Speaker 3: And if money's on an issue, that's what you want
Speaker 3: to do. Okay, So then you find that one thing,
Speaker 3: is it possible to live by doing that?
Speaker 2: Yes? Or no?
Speaker 3: If it's not, forget it and do something else. If
Speaker 3: it was, you know, go go try to make it happen.
Speaker 1: I gotta be well.
Speaker 4: I mean, this is kind of unpacking within our frame
Speaker 4: of reference because as I've gone on as a stand up,
Speaker 4: I started as a stand up, right, but doors have
Speaker 4: open and every time a door is open for me,
Speaker 4: I just said, all right, well, let me make the
Speaker 4: most of this opportunity to see what happens and per
Speaker 4: those opportunities. You know, I've written feature films and scripted.
Speaker 3: You're starting show and then you directed a movie as
Speaker 3: a starting as a stand up. That's three major different
Speaker 3: that's three different paths right there.
Speaker 4: And exactly each one of those would be a path
Speaker 4: on its own. But I was always open to a
Speaker 4: door opening. Now, now that's selfish to say, because it
Speaker 4: was within the realm or under the umbrella of entertain right.
Speaker 4: So per this individual, I would I would think that
Speaker 4: if you are kind of a blank slate, I would
Speaker 4: lean into maybe your strengths or your your true interest
Speaker 4: because then it won't feel as much of a job
Speaker 4: as it would be normally but you want to.
Speaker 3: You'll also be more comfortable in your skin if you're
Speaker 3: doing something enjoy genuinely.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think so.
Speaker 1: But also like.
Speaker 4: Maybe there is that opportunity that bubbles up where you're like, oh,
Speaker 4: I don't know about that, but you show up, and
Speaker 4: maybe that turns into the thing that you're really really
Speaker 4: great at it.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but I'll say this, the kind of person that
Speaker 3: writes this in though, is already you could already tell
Speaker 3: those prominles, because she knows that two people are reading this,
Speaker 3: and she only says chooses to tell one of them
Speaker 3: that she loves them.
Speaker 2: Right, So if you love we just.
Speaker 4: This is one cool mom and the other one and
Speaker 4: the other one, but put the other one.
Speaker 3: I do think that if you're if you're writing into somebody,
Speaker 3: you should just at least say it, like or even
Speaker 3: address the other mom like, love you Joe, and you're
Speaker 3: pretty cool too, stee.
Speaker 2: I guess, like, why isn't that in there?
Speaker 3: It's only a couple more things, like you know the
Speaker 3: words she used leaving you out is not It's not
Speaker 3: the right way to do that.
Speaker 2: Can we read the love you Joe party?
Speaker 4: Yeah, p s, I love you Joe exclamation points and
Speaker 4: a purple heart like I'm a veteran stolen valor.
Speaker 1: I'll tell you may never have defended our country, but
Speaker 1: you defended our friendship.
Speaker 2: That's right.
Speaker 3: And you.
Speaker 2: Got you.
Speaker 1: Emma, you sound you're still in college. Yeah, this is
Speaker 1: another thing. Go backpacking Europe. Yeah, you're supposed to be lost, Like, yeah,
Speaker 1: you're supposed to be exactly. I really, I don't know.
Speaker 4: Maybe it's a recurring theme I always bring up, maybe
Speaker 4: because I travel so much as a comic. But I
Speaker 4: find solace in getting out there and trying to like.
Speaker 1: Not nobody can hear it, but you.
Speaker 3: Just open to Seltzer and it was squeezing out the
Speaker 3: carbonation and he did a slow.
Speaker 2: He moved it away from the mic, but closer to us.
Speaker 1: And did like a squirrel behind a tree when you try.
Speaker 2: To get it.
Speaker 3: Yes, I get I guess our I guess our conversation
Speaker 3: was so gripping that he was like, I gotta, I
Speaker 3: gotta high, I gotta help these guys out here. That's
Speaker 3: the next questions.
Speaker 2: I seen one.
Speaker 4: We wish you luck, but I uh, I think, look,
Speaker 4: you got time, you got, you got plenty of time.
Speaker 2: You know, plenty of gass bowls in the soda bottle.
Speaker 3: Just squeeze it out slowly and it won't really disrupt anyone.
Speaker 4: But your twenties are all about discovery, they really are.
Speaker 4: I wouldn't feel too much pressure.
Speaker 2: To don't put that pressure on yourself. Get out there
Speaker 2: and make some mistakes.
Speaker 1: Have fun. Okay, this is kind of coming to us
Speaker 1: from Tina.
Speaker 2: Tina.
Speaker 4: Can twenty one year old women experience male patterned baldness?
Speaker 4: Serious question? Can twenty one year old women experience male
Speaker 4: pattern baldness?
Speaker 2: That depends on what you're doing with the man. I
Speaker 2: mean if he's like.
Speaker 3: Oh you see means himself I was saying, yeah, I
Speaker 3: mean if you're running your fingers through his hair and
Speaker 3: all of a sudden you feel scalp.
Speaker 2: You're experiencing it. You get something that male pattern baldness
Speaker 2: right in your fingertips. Yeah, girl, get it.
Speaker 4: Well as two gentlemen with Uh, I got quite the
Speaker 4: forehead here.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but you don't have any other problems elsewhere, do you?
Speaker 1: No, it's it's all pretty in the back.
Speaker 2: You don't have like the Saint Anthony.
Speaker 1: Like I got to get the St. Anthony.
Speaker 2: No St Anthony they call that.
Speaker 1: Never had the reverse.
Speaker 4: Yeah, but always had a big always had a big forehead.
Speaker 4: But it's as the years ago, you know. You you
Speaker 4: just see like a lone soldier in there and they're like, oh, that's.
Speaker 2: Where it used to be.
Speaker 3: Is a male pattern boldness the same as a receding hairline?
Speaker 2: But or is male pattern baldness something else?
Speaker 3: Because isn't male pattern baldness what I had what I'm experiencing.
Speaker 4: Like this hand, Maybe I have a receding hairline and
Speaker 4: you have maleness? What is Yeah, I don't know the
Speaker 4: exact difference. I think I would I would go to
Speaker 4: you on this one. I will not to be Oh,
Speaker 4: I know I.
Speaker 2: Know what I would go to you to solve a
Speaker 2: math problem.
Speaker 1: So let's get my dad on my dad's is it?
Speaker 1: You know?
Speaker 3: I think male pattern boldness is where you lose it
Speaker 3: in different places. So I coupled with a pattern of this,
Speaker 3: this is probably.
Speaker 4: You.
Speaker 2: I feel it because there's a not the preator to
Speaker 2: protect me.
Speaker 1: You got enough to I could fake it.
Speaker 2: Yeah, the right angle.
Speaker 1: Look how robust I look?
Speaker 4: And now look, okay, when you're in a convenience store
Speaker 4: and you see the is that the is that the
Speaker 4: most deflating one?
Speaker 1: That is the worst where you look?
Speaker 3: And when I was on TV, I used to be
Speaker 3: because I'd be like, guys, like, guys, don't what are
Speaker 3: you doing?
Speaker 2: Take that? Change that angle? Like what are you doing?
Speaker 1: Like help me out?
Speaker 3: Like we'd have the high angle from the back when
Speaker 3: we were working at the register when it's ever it's
Speaker 3: my turn.
Speaker 2: You would never see that angle.
Speaker 3: Ever I'd been the edit baby, like switch that angle,
Speaker 3: switch that angle, switch that angle.
Speaker 2: Yeah, what do you got for it?
Speaker 5: I have the answer for you.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 5: Male pattern boldness is what you have, Joe, which crown
Speaker 5: and receding hair.
Speaker 2: It's a d it's a crown, and then.
Speaker 5: You have a receding hair.
Speaker 1: I have a receding hair.
Speaker 3: So basically just means I'm a king because my crown
Speaker 3: is I have a crown and you don't have a crown.
Speaker 1: I don't have a I don't want that crowd keep
Speaker 1: a crown the.
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, I think then, so can you experience it
Speaker 3: as a one as a woman.
Speaker 2: That's my grandmother, My grandmother was buldish it. What's your neddy? Grandma?
Speaker 2: And Eddie my grandma daddy had come on, Yeah.
Speaker 3: Really Grandma Eddie had full blown hairs missing swear God, she.
Speaker 1: Just did she have cancer or something or just nope?
Speaker 2: She had male So why don't you just be female
Speaker 2: pattern boldness like females? What is female pattern boldness?
Speaker 5: I think alopecia calls by hormones and it's just like
Speaker 5: right thinning, like from the the middle, got it like
Speaker 5: right up here in the middle and then out.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I've seen so they do.
Speaker 3: Like my grandmother, my grandmother did have like was would
Speaker 3: I would consider more than thin hair because I've seen
Speaker 3: people with thin hair too.
Speaker 2: It's but I was also a child, and your grandmother
Speaker 2: is a monster. When you were little, she used to
Speaker 2: wear glasses that hurt me when she kissed me a
Speaker 2: lot when she was a big a talent.
Speaker 3: She's like g and kissed me and hurt me with
Speaker 3: it glass And I said to my dad, so I
Speaker 3: had to kiss you?
Speaker 2: Do I have to kiss grandma although she hurts me.
Speaker 2: And my dad was like, yes, you do. So that's why.
Speaker 2: Maybe she was just a bold kissing monster. Maybe that's
Speaker 2: the way I put her on my head. She could
Speaker 2: have had a full locks And I wasn't even realized.
Speaker 4: I saw my step grandmother butt naked when I was
Speaker 4: like six.
Speaker 1: It scarred me. I'll tell you, scarred me for life.
Speaker 2: Don't even get me started on how I show my.
Speaker 1: Put on like like caked on makeup. And that was
Speaker 1: always daring.
Speaker 4: When you see like a seven year old with like
Speaker 4: full on, like clown makeup on it.
Speaker 1: Always that was scary.
Speaker 4: But then one day I was going on the bathroom
Speaker 4: and I walked past her bedroom and she looked at
Speaker 4: me and choice had these kind of like white eyes
Speaker 4: like this, and she looked at me and it was like,
Speaker 4: oh god, it was it.
Speaker 1: Was uh, I've never gotten over it.
Speaker 2: It was scary. It was like like there were I'm
Speaker 2: with you, you ready to throw up?
Speaker 3: No, I'm with you because I saw my grandmother drying
Speaker 3: her under carriage.
Speaker 2: Excuse me, in Atlantic City.
Speaker 3: In Atlantic City, my grandmother was riding ridding the towel
Speaker 3: to dry her under carriage. I was I was twenty
Speaker 3: six years old.
Speaker 2: We went to put Grandma to bed. She doesn't have
Speaker 2: hearing it. She still didn't know.
Speaker 3: Until the days you died that I saw her doing
Speaker 3: the full over on the you know, the whole thing,
Speaker 3: driving me on the carriage. Right, I'm in Atlantic City. Okay,
Speaker 3: I forget my wallet. I go upstairs, put Grandma on
Speaker 3: the bed. She did the clan parm she yeah, she's
Speaker 3: doing the she's flossing before it was cool. She's doing
Speaker 3: to blow it, right, my grandma. I go to put
Speaker 3: it in bed.
Speaker 2: She takes a shower at night, right, I go put
Speaker 2: it in a bed. I go downstairs.
Speaker 3: About five minutes later, like, oh shit, I forgot my money.
Speaker 3: Clip upstairs because we're like, say, we're going to gamble.
Speaker 3: I go upstairs and I go, I go in my room.
Speaker 1: Forgot your money clicked. Nana's taking a shower. Okay, sure
Speaker 1: this got really.
Speaker 2: Weird right now. Why would I want to see my
Speaker 2: grandmother naked again? I'm so, I go, I go by.
Speaker 3: We have adjoining rooms, and my grandmother's deaf, and shit,
Speaker 3: she had her hearing aids out, so she doesn't know
Speaker 3: I came through.
Speaker 2: I come through, and I walk and I see it
Speaker 2: at the pariffs.
Speaker 3: I see her fucking doing the come on ride the
Speaker 3: train and dry and she's doing the Benga bus right there.
Speaker 3: And she was just covered in powder. She just always
Speaker 3: had powder. She was a chubby woman. She's like missus Claws,
Speaker 3: so she was freshly covered in powder and she was
Speaker 3: doing the whole fucking undercarriage dry. And I stopped like
Speaker 3: the I did like the walk past the door, and
Speaker 3: I was like like Bigfoot, I did the and then
Speaker 3: I then I continued all my way and I went
Speaker 3: downstairs and I couldn't even gamble.
Speaker 1: Of course, no, I was cooler.
Speaker 2: That's God's ways saying, not tonight, the house winds. The
Speaker 2: house winds.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, that's terrible.
Speaker 2: So what were we talking about? I don't know, but please,
Speaker 2: I think we answered. I think we should.
Speaker 1: I'll tell you.
Speaker 4: For a guy to received or go bald, it's like
Speaker 4: it's still acceptable for a woman to do that. There's
Speaker 4: the psychological aspect of like, ah, that's that's really it's
Speaker 4: like a.
Speaker 1: Double whammy when a girl experiences it.
Speaker 4: But I know that they have like you know, hers
Speaker 4: or whatever, like the opposite of hymns and stuff for that.
Speaker 1: I don't know.
Speaker 4: I mean, there's definitely like medicinal things you could do
Speaker 4: to help maybe spur on. But alopecia I think is
Speaker 4: a recession. I don't know that it's full on, like
Speaker 4: you're gonna lose all your hair though, I don't know.
Speaker 3: I don't know, but I I mean, we used Google
Speaker 3: to try to figure this out, so I would tell
Speaker 3: our friend to probably try to do the same thing.
Speaker 4: Yeah, if you have the wherewithal to rule us the question,
Speaker 4: I think that maybe you can use the device in
Speaker 4: your hands.
Speaker 2: To maybe talk to a doctor.
Speaker 3: I don't I don't know if you again, but I
Speaker 3: would say it's probably not called male pot and baldness.
Speaker 2: That's probably I'm pretty sure that.
Speaker 4: Yeah, And shame thinks that your my Grandma's more story.
Speaker 1: Is crazy crazy, that's crazy.
Speaker 4: That's crazy for sure. Okay, this is coming to us
Speaker 4: from Nigel Oh, a European. I hope, So I haven't
Speaker 4: I don't know what American Nigel.
Speaker 2: Do you oh, that's a great title.
Speaker 1: You guys know an American Nigel.
Speaker 2: American Nigel. No American Nigel in London.
Speaker 1: They'd be the sequel to American two.
Speaker 2: Yep.
Speaker 4: I recently off my job as a police officer to
Speaker 4: start my own robotic distribution company.
Speaker 1: That sounds pretty cool.
Speaker 2: Do you know European Nigel? I don't even know Nigel.
Speaker 4: I don't I don't know a Nigel. There's not one
Speaker 4: Nigel on my phone. This is our first Nigel until
Speaker 4: this one adds it all right, robotic distribution company. It's
Speaker 4: primarily focused on B two B sales, business to business. Okay,
Speaker 4: no clue what that meant? Even eight here's a shark tank.
Speaker 4: I was still would not. However, with coming up on
Speaker 4: eight months and I haven't had a single sale, sell
Speaker 4: or sale sell, I think he typed in sell as
Speaker 4: sale butt and I have four more months to go
Speaker 4: back to law enforcement before my certification expires. Do you
Speaker 4: think it would be wise for me to go back
Speaker 4: to law enforcement and not pursue the entrepreneurial world. It's
Speaker 4: been eight months, he has hasn't had one single.
Speaker 3: Sale, so it's it's not a it's not a B
Speaker 3: to B, it's a beat to nobody.
Speaker 1: It's primarily focus on B to B sales, right, but
Speaker 1: he's doing a beat to nobody sale right now, he's
Speaker 1: not selling, so it's a beat to no B.
Speaker 3: So well, here's the thing, Niger. You took a shot
Speaker 3: and you missed. I mean, I don't know what we've
Speaker 3: got to tell you. Like, you tried it, it didn't work out.
Speaker 2: That's always a thing like how long do you give
Speaker 2: you months?
Speaker 1: Not one sale? That's that's that's tough.
Speaker 2: That is tough. But sometimes in B to B, all
Speaker 2: it takes is that one sale.
Speaker 3: Yeah, when you going B to B, that's a big
Speaker 3: because that those people are like, sure, we'll take ten
Speaker 3: thousand units.
Speaker 2: You know, it's not like you're trying to sell one.
Speaker 3: Vacuum to a to a house mom on Maple Avenue.
Speaker 2: I mean you're trying to you're trying to sell all
Speaker 2: of them.
Speaker 1: But you would think coming in on a year, yeah,
Speaker 1: and you've gotta be you gotta you gotta have. Even
Speaker 1: if he hasn't had one sale, there's got to be.
Speaker 1: I would think there's got to be something that gives
Speaker 1: him some tailwinds. You know, I don't know. Just eight
Speaker 1: months that that that's.
Speaker 4: A long time time to go without any having a sale,
Speaker 4: anything coming in.
Speaker 3: I would say, you know, maybe and I don't know
Speaker 3: how you get into the robotics thing as a law
Speaker 3: enforcement person, So maybe it's something that you just enjoyed
Speaker 3: and want and took a shot.
Speaker 2: I will say this, though you took the shot.
Speaker 3: Now you just have to decide how if it doesn't
Speaker 3: work out, how devastating that shot will be.
Speaker 2: Right, because that's the thing for a person.
Speaker 3: You could take a shot and stumble and not fall,
Speaker 3: or you could take a shot and fall flat on
Speaker 3: your face and then for I have to get back up. Oh,
Speaker 3: I say honestly, for me if I'm doing it, If
Speaker 3: I'm doing it, eight months is enough time I can
Speaker 3: make up my mind.
Speaker 2: That didn't work. I tryed it for eight months, didn't
Speaker 2: work out for me? That that that that's a good
Speaker 2: if I know. I gave him my something, my.
Speaker 3: All for eight months and didn't work didn't work out
Speaker 3: for me, that's enough time.
Speaker 1: He's got a year. Basically, he gave himself a year
Speaker 1: until the.
Speaker 4: Certification expired because he said he has four months left.
Speaker 4: So I think, boy, are you going another two?
Speaker 2: I like it? I like it, deadline?
Speaker 4: Do you go another two? And then say, you know what,
Speaker 4: I'm gonna give myself ten months. It's almost a year,
Speaker 4: and then dip out and renew the certificate and get
Speaker 4: back in the LA enforcement because he knows he has
Speaker 4: stable income. But we all got to eat at some
Speaker 4: point too.
Speaker 2: He's thinking about well, he's thinking about it.
Speaker 3: If he's thinking about it now, he's thinking, he might
Speaker 3: be hitting the point where he's like, oh, I gotta
Speaker 3: do something.
Speaker 4: Well, you know what you do is what you do?
Speaker 4: You create a robot to make the sale.
Speaker 2: I mean, all we do is solve problems here, always
Speaker 2: do sol proms. You make a business to business buying robot.
Speaker 1: It's that easy.
Speaker 2: It's just that easy.
Speaker 1: So figure it out.
Speaker 2: I think that's yeah.
Speaker 3: I think I I think that's pretty much solved.
Speaker 2: So Steve says, you're welcome.
Speaker 1: That's why we're here.
Speaker 3: The next the follow up text of the followup message
Speaker 3: are going to be love.
Speaker 1: You Okay you ready?
Speaker 2: Ready?
Speaker 4: C J says I need help with my noisy rude
Speaker 4: in laws three exclamation points noisy and rude.
Speaker 2: You hate your one? Do you hate your inords really bad.
Speaker 4: No, No, I actually really get along with my wife's
Speaker 4: fortunate too.
Speaker 1: Yeah, very sweet.
Speaker 4: And uh the father Ken, her father is very similar
Speaker 4: to my father.
Speaker 1: They're both army vets. Uh, both ripped.
Speaker 2: Mass of wags.
Speaker 3: Just faara hawks on these guys. Oh they got they're
Speaker 3: like divers scallops.
Speaker 2: That's what you're gonna say, right, no O.
Speaker 1: Sometime somebody refers to Avance as a hog. A hog
Speaker 1: will always.
Speaker 2: Be it's so stupid, so dumb. You're talking about my father.
Speaker 1: My dad.
Speaker 2: Context. It's context.
Speaker 1: Uh.
Speaker 3: I will say this though, I will say if.
Speaker 2: Bubbles, if you're in laws, wangs.
Speaker 3: Come on not sup Uh yeah, I honestly haven't experienced that.
Speaker 3: I will say that. I'm it's very interesting to me.
Speaker 3: And I think my uh my, my my children's mother
Speaker 3: definitely lucked out because my mom died before we were married.
Speaker 2: Because I feel like my mom would have been.
Speaker 3: A handful of really yeah, like I really think that
Speaker 3: would have been like a thing.
Speaker 2: Like my mom was super protective and her baby, you know, yeah,
Speaker 2: super opinionated.
Speaker 3: So I think it'd be interesting for I would have
Speaker 3: loved to see that dynamic and I think it would
Speaker 3: have been hard her. You know, her parents are fine,
Speaker 3: like lived with us everything and we're always great, same deal, quiet,
Speaker 3: huge hogs.
Speaker 2: That which is fine.
Speaker 3: So I didn't ever experience this, but I know some
Speaker 3: nightmare ones, right, there's some nightmare ones out there.
Speaker 2: There's in law's run around with tiny hogs out there.
Speaker 1: How are you gonna eat dinner with that a huge hogs?
Speaker 3: There? Also people you hear these stories about people hate
Speaker 3: their in laws, they're ruined, ruined marriages.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's the time.
Speaker 4: I think that's when you've got to lean into your
Speaker 4: partner in life and be a little more dependent, to.
Speaker 1: Be the conduit of like rectifying the situation.
Speaker 4: It's like you can only do so much, but I
Speaker 4: think it's up to you to you know, relegate duties,
Speaker 4: to be like, hey, look I'm trying my damn this here,
Speaker 4: but you need to help me out here.
Speaker 1: Yes, that's it gets.
Speaker 2: Weird because the dynamic.
Speaker 1: There's almost like a chain of command right right, it's
Speaker 1: like one.
Speaker 3: Hundred percent, it's it's the in law is the part.
Speaker 3: It's your partner's parents, so they need to deal with them.
Speaker 3: But when it gets murky for me is when it's
Speaker 3: affects the kids because those are your kids, right, So
Speaker 3: something is happening with your kids that you're the in
Speaker 3: laws are doing, you need to step up to take
Speaker 3: care of your children. Sure, say something there, but if
Speaker 3: it's something that's going on that doesn't evolve.
Speaker 2: That, it's weird.
Speaker 3: It's kind of like I'm kind of pass the buck
Speaker 3: like an elbow, like you see what's going on here
Speaker 3: to take care of his please, right, because you don't
Speaker 3: want to be out of line, you know.
Speaker 4: There there have been one or two occasions where uh
Speaker 4: uh a parent in law has said something to my
Speaker 4: kids where I'm like, eh, we can, we can handle that.
Speaker 4: But but there's also part of me it's like is
Speaker 4: this worth this situation where it's just like it's fine,
Speaker 4: it's you know, you're here for day and by the
Speaker 4: way that that goes both ways. I've heard my father
Speaker 4: say something where I didn't agree with it with the kids,
Speaker 4: but I just kind of take a step back because I,
Speaker 4: you know, you want to be respectful.
Speaker 2: To my father.
Speaker 4: And ye also there's that as well, but uh, you know,
Speaker 4: it's always like what when is it worth it? Yeah,
Speaker 4: what battle is worth fighting for? But it sounds like
Speaker 4: they're rude and noisy. I would definitely go to my
Speaker 4: wife on that one and say, look, you got to
Speaker 4: help me out here, help me out with your despicable parents.
Speaker 1: Before we end up on dateline. Yes, that's right, it's
Speaker 1: gonna be blood bath at a barbecue.
Speaker 2: For one more? Yeah, what how long are we going?
Speaker 2: What is the what time is it? Okay? We got
Speaker 2: talking more?
Speaker 1: One more?
Speaker 4: Okay, this is coming to us from Erica. This is
Speaker 4: pretty right to the point. How do I be nice
Speaker 4: to people who are rude? It's the hardest stay out
Speaker 4: of New York City.
Speaker 2: It's the hardest thing in the world to do. It's
Speaker 2: the hardest thing in the world. It's a constant battle too.
Speaker 1: Especially the I feel like it's gotten worse.
Speaker 2: Do you id to I do?
Speaker 4: There was a woman today and this is what I do.
Speaker 4: I I I don't. I'm not rude back. I just
Speaker 4: try to be creative. So I'm boarding my flight and
Speaker 4: as I'm walking towards Group one, because I'm executive Platinum,
Speaker 4: I don't want to break.
Speaker 2: I don't want to bring it towards I don't want
Speaker 2: bring it.
Speaker 1: It's just guys, if you need me in the eggs were.
Speaker 1: I'll go there and versatile, but I'll probably be up
Speaker 1: in the cabin. I'll draw the curt behind you.
Speaker 2: Whatever.
Speaker 1: It's fine. If you want my peanuts, to ask for them,
Speaker 1: I'll give it to you.
Speaker 4: So I'm drawing towards group one, and you know, it's
Speaker 4: a clusterfuck.
Speaker 1: It's never like people are respectful and whatever.
Speaker 4: So it's just a glom of individuals. And when you're
Speaker 4: merging on a highway, there's a sense of decorm. It's like, okay,
Speaker 4: you then, and this was what was happening. And this
Speaker 4: bitch would not let it go. And she had the
Speaker 4: gucchiap belt and the high heels to first class, you
Speaker 4: know the type. And she's coming in and she is
Speaker 4: now like literally in this guy's personal space, behind like
Speaker 4: on his six breatheing on some neck. And I'd be
Speaker 4: pissed if I was the guy. But she closed me off.
Speaker 4: And I looked at her, and you want to say something.
Speaker 4: I go, well, you obviously have important things to do today.
Speaker 1: She goes, I'm late. I go, well, we're all going
Speaker 1: to be late because we're all on.
Speaker 2: The same flat.
Speaker 4: It's not like you can't the easy thing to be
Speaker 4: like fus, you know, but you can't. So I just
Speaker 4: try to take like a little subtle jab and then
Speaker 4: and then the justice. I always feel like there's harmic
Speaker 4: justice as we're going, she was told because she was
Speaker 4: in seat one, she couldn't put her bag up. She
Speaker 4: had to put her bag up top. There was no room,
Speaker 4: so she had to put her bag back behind first class.
Speaker 4: So as I'm leaving, I just gave her the old,
Speaker 4: the old stinky on the way out. No, I know, no,
Speaker 4: Now you know those three seconds, bitch, those three seconds
Speaker 4: you caught.
Speaker 1: Fuck you, this is what you get.
Speaker 3: You got to wait, she was, And what she's thinking
Speaker 3: is like, shit, I should have cut two people so
Speaker 3: they would have still been room in the overhead.
Speaker 2: Not crazy, that's what she's thinking.
Speaker 3: She's like, Oh, I finally want to cut to the
Speaker 3: front of the line. Yeah, I could have put my
Speaker 3: bag right above me.
Speaker 1: This is what I love.
Speaker 4: My buddy Gary does this all the time with like
Speaker 4: rude customer service, because airlines these days is comics note
Speaker 4: the worst. And what he always does is they don't
Speaker 4: want to help, They rarely help, they don't want to
Speaker 4: do I think he was says, uh, could I get
Speaker 4: your dress? Why do you need my I want to
Speaker 4: know where to send the flowers?
Speaker 1: Thank you? I go get out of here.
Speaker 4: And I just thought that's such a great way of
Speaker 4: just trumping it instead of going you know, I had
Speaker 4: a horrible experience.
Speaker 1: They're not going to do anything.
Speaker 4: Just I think you can creatively come up with some
Speaker 4: fun jack.
Speaker 2: Because that stuff is for you. You walk away feeling your
Speaker 2: hair like you get some of the dand like, yeah, yeah,
Speaker 2: that's yeah. I think. Uh.
Speaker 3: I will say I've never driven with you before this
Speaker 3: past a couple of weeks back when we were leaving
Speaker 3: a club and.
Speaker 1: It would come up at some point.
Speaker 2: And you are angry driver.
Speaker 3: Asian but a guy remember the guy cut you off
Speaker 3: and I had to get in front of you because
Speaker 3: so you cut a guy off and no.
Speaker 2: No, no, no, won't let you in.
Speaker 4: My turn signal was off and the people behind me
Speaker 4: were being let in and I'm like, oh, I got
Speaker 4: real estate, he'll let me in, right, And he didn't
Speaker 4: let me.
Speaker 2: Because you were breaking the rule that you were just
Speaker 2: speaking of what the one and one?
Speaker 1: No, no, no, there were I I pictured that, I
Speaker 1: know it.
Speaker 2: I know it. You tried to sneak in on the tail.
Speaker 1: No, I said, I said, you're not gonna let me
Speaker 1: in and fuck you, and I wedged.
Speaker 2: Him exactly exactly. You and the woman went to Gucci belt.
Speaker 1: No no no no no no no no beg.
Speaker 4: Isn't no no no no no no.
Speaker 1: Now I'm going to show your magic trick.
Speaker 2: My point though, is I didn't really I didn't think
Speaker 2: you'd be that angry with a driver.
Speaker 1: But it was that one incident.
Speaker 2: There's a couple when the other.
Speaker 3: One was on the highway when we were driving. That
Speaker 3: was in Nashville when we were driving around. We were
Speaker 3: driving back from uh we were driving in between.
Speaker 2: U uh Louis Louisville and going to Nashville on the
Speaker 2: road on the expressway.
Speaker 1: Do you remember this what happened? I don't remember.
Speaker 2: Ji was in the car with this.
Speaker 1: What happened?
Speaker 4: Uh you?
Speaker 1: Uh so this is when I go to our guests
Speaker 1: and you start whispering to each other, you.
Speaker 3: Try to merge, going on no, this is the way
Speaker 3: I'm telling you right to your face on podcast.
Speaker 1: Okay, what happened?
Speaker 2: Uh you? You were trying to you were trying to merge.
Speaker 3: Your merging is really, when your worst comes out, you
Speaker 3: really might take awa. When you were trying to merge
Speaker 3: onto six eighty four whatever the expressway is, and you
Speaker 3: tried to merge on the guy wouldn't let you in.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and you fucking gunned it, and you're like, well,
Speaker 2: it's happening, and you like, you know that you do
Speaker 2: that stuff.
Speaker 3: But I didn't think that because you are like one
Speaker 3: of the nicest, kindest people I know. We said this
Speaker 3: all time about our good friend Mark Jiggy aka Jiggy,
Speaker 3: who is like one of the nicest, kindest people that
Speaker 3: when he's off stage, but when he's on stage.
Speaker 2: He turns into this animal. But we love that Jiggy,
Speaker 2: We love that Aboue. But like, I did not expect
Speaker 2: you to be that type of driver.
Speaker 1: I'm normally not.
Speaker 4: I'm be honest with you, but I find it when
Speaker 4: no I have accountability for it. And that's why even
Speaker 4: when when that person and Jiggy saw it where I
Speaker 4: had to merge again, the road got cut off and
Speaker 4: then I merged again and then the guy let me in,
Speaker 4: and then I gave my thumbs up.
Speaker 2: Yeah, the thing it wasn't but it was you, and
Speaker 2: you did a slow rise.
Speaker 4: You did a I did not slow rise like a
Speaker 4: lighting nineteen forties filmed.
Speaker 1: I just went like that because I found, well, what's worse.
Speaker 2: That's worse.
Speaker 1: It's like, this is the worst to give somebody. I'm
Speaker 1: disappointed in you.
Speaker 2: This is you have not this is maybe maybe disappointed.
Speaker 3: You should think about what you've done, because it could
Speaker 3: have been this, it could have been that.
Speaker 1: Yeah, this is par for the course, everybody. This is
Speaker 1: the go to. Anybody can do that. This sting that
Speaker 1: is that hurts. This thing is to go what.
Speaker 2: Are your films down?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 3: I think there was also a windows Yes, you put
Speaker 3: the window down, put your to put my thumb out,
Speaker 3: Yeah for sure, Yeah, yeah, one hundred percent.
Speaker 2: So this is all. This is exactly my point. I
Speaker 2: think you're way nicer when you're not driving. That's my takeaway.
Speaker 1: Guys, if you want to drive to Kentucky, you're more than.
Speaker 2: Take your way. Shock and I'll drive it.
Speaker 1: Fine, It's okay, you guys can do it.
Speaker 2: I'll be good.
Speaker 4: I I find what I'm driving. I still feel there's
Speaker 4: a sense of decorum, Like you wouldn't do that if
Speaker 4: you were walking on a sidewalk. Why would you do
Speaker 4: that in a car and this whole like cancel culture.
Speaker 4: People want to get canceled because they said something that
Speaker 4: like hurt your feelings. It's like if you cut somebody
Speaker 4: off on a highway, like you literally physically endangered somebody.
Speaker 4: That's fucking crazy, like total thumbs down, you should get
Speaker 4: canceled driving for like this is not a bit.
Speaker 2: By the way, give me your license. This is happening
Speaker 2: to you and your license.
Speaker 4: But how do you how are you? How are you nice?
Speaker 4: Or how do you deal with rude people? How are
Speaker 4: you still nice to people that are rude?
Speaker 1: That?
Speaker 2: I think?
Speaker 4: I think you have to it would be nice. See
Speaker 4: it's here, here we go, Erica. This is this is
Speaker 4: the great thing about Erica. Ready, how do I be
Speaker 4: nice to people who are rude? She could go, how
Speaker 4: do I deal with rude people?
Speaker 2: Exactly? She says, she's coming from a place of kindness.
Speaker 1: That's a very sweet way to start that.
Speaker 3: Over that, And here's the thing. You have to do
Speaker 3: it to what you feel comfortable with. But know that
Speaker 3: you don't owe anybody anything right, So if someone's being
Speaker 3: rude to you about it, you don't owe them kindness.
Speaker 3: Kindness is something that you extend to people, and it's
Speaker 3: a way that you act.
Speaker 2: That's fine.
Speaker 3: But if you you don't have to win someone over
Speaker 3: with kindness or kill them with kindnesses, as the saying goes, I.
Speaker 2: Think it's just you should. You should feel good after
Speaker 2: an interruest.
Speaker 4: She's already in the in the right mind, and she'll
Speaker 4: instinctively do the right things because you don't have to
Speaker 4: think about it. You are a nice person because of
Speaker 4: the way you frame the question.
Speaker 2: She would have she would have let you in by
Speaker 2: the way she would have let you murge.
Speaker 4: When when I'm driving you see me let people in.
Speaker 4: One thank you and this is for you.
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