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Speaker 1: Hey, God, you want to go here, but wax with me.

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Speaker 2: Let's do that.

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Speaker 1: No, I'm not doing that for me. Some things I

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Speaker 3: More better, more, a little more better more.

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Speaker 2: Welcome to More Better with Stephanie and Melissa, a podcast

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Speaker 2: where we stop pretending to have it all together and

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Speaker 2: embrace the journey of becoming a little more better every day,

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Speaker 2: or at least trying to. That's Mossa Mrrow and that's

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Speaker 2: Stephanie Beatrice. Hey, welcome back, welcome back.

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Speaker 3: Hi.

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Speaker 2: How are you?

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Speaker 3: I'm good?

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Speaker 2: How are you friends?

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Speaker 1: I'm pretty good. I'm on like a lot of caffeine

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Speaker 1: right now. Maybe we have a caffeine problem. What do

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Speaker 1: you think you know?

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Speaker 2: No, I think it's a way of life, and we're

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Speaker 2: just part of the club alive.

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Speaker 1: It's a way alive, it is. It is a pretty

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Speaker 1: cool club to be a part of. I have a

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Speaker 1: I have a lifelong membership. It's never gonna run out.

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Speaker 2: Same card carrying card carrying card carrying card carrying caffeine addict.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, man, what have you done lately? That's a little

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Speaker 1: bit more better.

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Speaker 2: Oh you know what I've been doing lately, Stephanie. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: I'm I'm just coming out of this crazy marathon of

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Speaker 2: working time and it's something small, but I'm just getting

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Speaker 2: back to like taking my supplements and my vitamins.

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, and.

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Speaker 2: Like, uh just starting there, you know, advice, because what

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Speaker 2: do you take?

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Speaker 1: Because I don't take jack shit I take.

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Speaker 2: I take a multi. I take Vitamin D, which is

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Speaker 2: really important. I take many.

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Speaker 1: Who's it?

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Speaker 2: What's it's a Vita D. I'd have to look and

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Speaker 2: I'd send it to you later. I take a few things,

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Speaker 2: and then I take like some womanly things and then

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Speaker 2: what I do do though, One tip is I got

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Speaker 1: I have that for my anti anxiety and anti depression Bokay.

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Speaker 2: So I bought my supplements.

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Speaker 2: I bought one for my vitamins, and then every Sunday

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Speaker 2: I'm going through bottles, I'm never gonna fucking do it

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Speaker 2: like it has to be easy in a thing, like

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Speaker 2: you know, people get those like packs, those pre made packs,

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Speaker 2: Like I get it. So I kind of do like

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Speaker 2: But I do feel a little better when I'm like

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Speaker 2: jump starts like other healthier habits, like you know, I

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Speaker 2: Like I'm just starting there. You know that's pretty good.

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Speaker 2: Have you been doing anything lately? It's a little more better.

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Speaker 1: I took the TikTok off my phone. I took the

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Speaker 2: I love the TikTok. You love the TikTok? My god,

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Speaker 2: I love the TikTok.

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Speaker 2: So what happened? You needed you needed a break?

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Speaker 1: I found that like I was spending a lot. I mean, listen,

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Speaker 2: I miss a TikTok.

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Speaker 2: I feel like you're holding a boundary with yourself? Is

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Speaker 1: That is I don't know, yes, oh God, holding a

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Speaker 3: More better.

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Speaker 1: This is a podcast where we talk about stuff that

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Speaker 1: we're interested in, and we're interested in trying to be

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Speaker 1: better people.

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Speaker 2: Kind of.

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Speaker 1: One of the things we wanted to talk about was

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Speaker 1: how to get more better at making friends as an adult.

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Speaker 2: So you know, what does that mean exactly?

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Speaker 1: Well, I would Webster's Dictionary defines adult as gross. I

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Speaker 1: think adult is like, you know, anybody that's not in

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Speaker 2: You, or maybe maybe because listen, yes, listen, you might

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Speaker 1: Yeah, But it's more like when you are grown up

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Speaker 1: might not be your people, but you want to find

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Speaker 2: How do you find your people? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: And how do you meet new people as opposed to

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Speaker 2: Out for you? You know.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, So that's kind of what we wanted to talk

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Speaker 1: about today.

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Speaker 2: Because it's really hard, guys, It's so hard. I literally

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Speaker 2: try to make friends as an adult. Oh my god,

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Speaker 2: cause it's just different. It's really different. I feel like

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Speaker 2: just like do they like me? Are we becoming friends?

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: What was making friends like when you were younger, Like

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Speaker 1: At like eighteen, I mean, well, a lot of it

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Speaker 1: Brooklyn n where it was pretty good.

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Speaker 2: Nerd time. No, no, no, nerd time, nerd time.

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Speaker 2: that had had kids around the same time. And but

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00:22:44,680 --> 00:22:48,399
Speaker 2: I just felt like exactly where you are in that moment,

442
00:22:48,480 --> 00:22:50,359
Speaker 2: you know what I mean of, Like step By, I

443
00:22:50,400 --> 00:22:52,640
Speaker 2: was like me, I could use some more mom friends.

444
00:22:52,880 --> 00:22:56,600
Speaker 2: I ended up making like one of them is become

445
00:22:56,640 --> 00:22:59,679
Speaker 2: like one of my closest friends, and like there's a

446
00:22:59,720 --> 00:23:02,920
Speaker 2: couple other that I still like. I became really good

447
00:23:02,960 --> 00:23:05,600
Speaker 2: friends with a few of the women from that class, And.

448
00:23:05,640 --> 00:23:07,720
Speaker 1: Yeah, I remember you talking about this and being like, yeah,

449
00:23:07,720 --> 00:23:09,440
Speaker 1: this is some of my like core mom friends.

450
00:23:09,480 --> 00:23:12,439
Speaker 2: Yeah, my little like mom group, baby, and yeah we

451
00:23:12,520 --> 00:23:15,159
Speaker 2: have dinner and like all our kids are the same age,

452
00:23:15,240 --> 00:23:18,320
Speaker 2: and so every time I feel crazy like what is

453
00:23:18,359 --> 00:23:20,480
Speaker 2: going on with him? And I check in with them

454
00:23:20,520 --> 00:23:23,679
Speaker 2: and they're like, oh yeah, same over here, Like it's

455
00:23:23,800 --> 00:23:26,840
Speaker 2: amazing and and it's sort of you know, and it

456
00:23:26,880 --> 00:23:28,399
Speaker 2: was like the same kind of experience where like it

457
00:23:28,440 --> 00:23:29,960
Speaker 2: was a big class, it was a lot of people.

458
00:23:30,000 --> 00:23:32,440
Speaker 2: We tried to do these like big get togethers, and

459
00:23:32,520 --> 00:23:36,040
Speaker 2: like it slowly got like smaller and smaller and like.

460
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Speaker 1: Little, you know what I mean, And then you sort

461
00:23:38,680 --> 00:23:40,800
Speaker 1: of just separate the wheat from the chest.

462
00:23:41,080 --> 00:23:47,439
Speaker 2: Yeah, your week, right, Yeah this is a match. This

463
00:23:47,520 --> 00:23:51,600
Speaker 2: is not a match. Oh that you know, and you

464
00:23:51,640 --> 00:23:54,919
Speaker 2: know and now you know, Enzo just turned eight, so

465
00:23:55,119 --> 00:23:57,359
Speaker 2: eight years later, it's like it's come down to this

466
00:23:57,400 --> 00:23:59,920
Speaker 2: little core group. But it's great and you know, yeah,

467
00:24:00,040 --> 00:24:01,600
Speaker 2: we went to Hawaii with one of the moms, like

468
00:24:01,600 --> 00:24:04,600
Speaker 2: with that family. Oh my god, that's like how close

469
00:24:04,640 --> 00:24:07,800
Speaker 2: we become and our sons are dusties and it's great.

470
00:24:08,400 --> 00:24:10,360
Speaker 1: But like, honestly, that makes me feel like I need

471
00:24:10,400 --> 00:24:13,439
Speaker 1: to join some kind of like mom group or something,

472
00:24:13,560 --> 00:24:16,959
Speaker 1: because I don't have any friends. I mean you right,

473
00:24:17,000 --> 00:24:19,080
Speaker 1: but your kids are both older older than yours, and

474
00:24:19,080 --> 00:24:21,760
Speaker 1: I really don't have any Yeah, you don't have anybody

475
00:24:21,760 --> 00:24:24,680
Speaker 1: that's going through what I'm going through right now, which.

476
00:24:24,480 --> 00:24:29,160
Speaker 2: Is like, yeah, it's huge. I think when you start

477
00:24:29,320 --> 00:24:32,800
Speaker 2: over here, yeah, when you start like any type of

478
00:24:32,880 --> 00:24:36,000
Speaker 2: school or anything too, like that's I feel like that

479
00:24:36,160 --> 00:24:37,920
Speaker 2: was the next time that I was like, oh here.

480
00:24:38,040 --> 00:24:39,600
Speaker 1: If I was like, we don't believe in school, which

481
00:24:39,640 --> 00:24:41,399
Speaker 1: I don't believe in it, so we're not doing that.

482
00:24:42,560 --> 00:24:44,560
Speaker 2: Well, good luck.

483
00:24:46,480 --> 00:24:47,320
Speaker 1: No school at all, no.

484
00:24:47,320 --> 00:24:51,919
Speaker 2: Learning, nothing, no book, go to the same park at

485
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Speaker 2: the same time every day.

486
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Speaker 1: I do need some though, like I need some I

487
00:24:59,480 --> 00:25:03,600
Speaker 1: need some or I need like a new I need

488
00:25:03,720 --> 00:25:05,840
Speaker 1: like a new hobby or something.

489
00:25:06,040 --> 00:25:06,639
Speaker 2: I don't know.

490
00:25:07,040 --> 00:25:09,040
Speaker 1: This is you know what I need to do. Also,

491
00:25:09,080 --> 00:25:12,520
Speaker 1: I just need to like text people, because I have

492
00:25:12,800 --> 00:25:15,639
Speaker 1: met women who I think are really really cool and

493
00:25:15,680 --> 00:25:18,320
Speaker 1: then I get their numbers and then I don't. I'm like,

494
00:25:18,359 --> 00:25:19,760
Speaker 1: I don't know if she wants to hear from me.

495
00:25:19,920 --> 00:25:21,840
Speaker 1: Maybe she just gave me her number out of pity,

496
00:25:22,160 --> 00:25:22,440
Speaker 1: you know.

497
00:25:22,640 --> 00:25:24,760
Speaker 2: Like part well, that's like the hardest thing I think

498
00:25:24,800 --> 00:25:27,320
Speaker 2: about making friends as an adult, because yeah, it's like

499
00:25:27,359 --> 00:25:30,199
Speaker 2: this weird like should I ask them to coffee? Like

500
00:25:30,280 --> 00:25:32,320
Speaker 2: shouldn't that? Do you think they want to go out

501
00:25:32,359 --> 00:25:35,159
Speaker 2: with me? And like it brings up all of those feelings.

502
00:25:35,200 --> 00:25:37,879
Speaker 2: But when I was saying about that like lonely period

503
00:25:37,960 --> 00:25:41,399
Speaker 2: I had after Brooklyn and it was a lot of

504
00:25:41,400 --> 00:25:43,560
Speaker 2: it was like what you're just saying, Like I was like, Oh,

505
00:25:43,600 --> 00:25:45,679
Speaker 2: I just have to like make more of an effort

506
00:25:45,720 --> 00:25:48,280
Speaker 2: to like call the people I like, you know, or

507
00:25:48,359 --> 00:25:51,359
Speaker 2: like these couple friends that I'm like, I think friends

508
00:25:51,400 --> 00:25:54,919
Speaker 2: with I think they like me, like just put myself

509
00:25:54,960 --> 00:25:58,280
Speaker 2: out there that we live close to each other. So yeah,

510
00:25:58,359 --> 00:26:03,680
Speaker 2: proximity is key and just like take that little leap

511
00:26:03,720 --> 00:26:06,080
Speaker 2: of faith and hope it works out. But it is

512
00:26:06,160 --> 00:26:08,639
Speaker 2: so nerve wracking just talking about it. Just like my

513
00:26:08,760 --> 00:26:10,600
Speaker 2: voice just keeps like pitching up.

514
00:26:11,119 --> 00:26:13,560
Speaker 1: That's why there's like shirts and hats that say no

515
00:26:13,600 --> 00:26:14,440
Speaker 1: new friends.

516
00:26:14,119 --> 00:26:15,640
Speaker 2: Because it's really hard.

517
00:26:16,160 --> 00:26:19,240
Speaker 1: It's so hard to make them. It feels very like

518
00:26:20,640 --> 00:26:24,720
Speaker 1: I mean, I'll say this the the time. Investment is

519
00:26:24,760 --> 00:26:28,000
Speaker 1: one thing, right, but like setting that aside, it is

520
00:26:28,119 --> 00:26:32,600
Speaker 1: like the nervy feeling I think is something that as

521
00:26:32,600 --> 00:26:35,360
Speaker 1: we get as we get a little older, it's it's

522
00:26:35,400 --> 00:26:38,280
Speaker 1: hard to like, you know, you go, like, I have

523
00:26:38,320 --> 00:26:40,240
Speaker 1: my friends, I have the things that I like to do.

524
00:26:40,320 --> 00:26:42,240
Speaker 1: I don't want to try anything new. I don't want

525
00:26:42,240 --> 00:26:46,600
Speaker 1: to be uncomfortable. And that's the part that's.

526
00:26:46,400 --> 00:26:57,880
Speaker 2: Hard more more Yeah, I also find what's hard too

527
00:26:57,960 --> 00:27:01,520
Speaker 2: is like getting to know so one Oh oh god,

528
00:27:02,440 --> 00:27:05,399
Speaker 2: worse right, It's like I wish I could just plug

529
00:27:05,480 --> 00:27:08,600
Speaker 2: my history and like my weird things and my quirks,

530
00:27:08,680 --> 00:27:10,520
Speaker 2: just like into your brain and be like, oh no,

531
00:27:10,640 --> 00:27:12,800
Speaker 2: do you like it? You think this will worship and.

532
00:27:12,720 --> 00:27:15,280
Speaker 1: Then yeah, like oh my god, not me being like

533
00:27:15,320 --> 00:27:17,560
Speaker 1: have you seen that TikTok? What am I talking about?

534
00:27:17,560 --> 00:27:20,840
Speaker 1: Like not, there's this TikTok that has this great sound,

535
00:27:21,040 --> 00:27:24,640
Speaker 1: and it's like how many brothers and sisters do you have?

536
00:27:26,080 --> 00:27:26,920
Speaker 1: What do you do for work?

537
00:27:27,240 --> 00:27:28,520
Speaker 2: Do you like? Be like that.

538
00:27:29,480 --> 00:27:34,040
Speaker 1: It's like it's so boring getting to know people because

539
00:27:34,200 --> 00:27:36,400
Speaker 1: we all ask the same dumb questions and we all

540
00:27:36,480 --> 00:27:39,320
Speaker 1: you know, for me, it's like, ah, the time investment

541
00:27:39,440 --> 00:27:41,840
Speaker 1: is I know I said I wasn't. It's a different thing,

542
00:27:42,000 --> 00:27:43,000
Speaker 1: but it's tricky.

543
00:27:43,119 --> 00:27:44,360
Speaker 2: It's really tricky.

544
00:27:44,280 --> 00:27:47,800
Speaker 1: Because to get myself out of the house, to get dressed,

545
00:27:47,840 --> 00:27:51,280
Speaker 1: to have a babysitter watching my kid, or my ask

546
00:27:51,359 --> 00:27:54,880
Speaker 1: my husband to do it, to drive somewhere to like boot.

547
00:27:55,320 --> 00:27:58,680
Speaker 1: But it's like bro, I don't bro, even though like

548
00:27:58,760 --> 00:28:02,760
Speaker 1: during the pandemic, honestly I would have killed Yeah, yeah,

549
00:28:03,240 --> 00:28:05,440
Speaker 1: I try to think about that sometimes. I try to think,

550
00:28:05,480 --> 00:28:08,720
Speaker 1: like during the pandemic, would you have paid to have

551
00:28:08,760 --> 00:28:12,600
Speaker 1: been able to sit with you?

552
00:28:12,600 --> 00:28:15,960
Speaker 2: You know what I mean? And like probably yes, yeah,

553
00:28:15,960 --> 00:28:19,159
Speaker 2: well I so I also have an interesting article that

554
00:28:19,200 --> 00:28:26,359
Speaker 2: I read. It was in teen Vote Friendship Coach recommends

555
00:28:26,400 --> 00:28:28,919
Speaker 2: these tips to make friends. Are you ready?

556
00:28:29,040 --> 00:28:31,639
Speaker 1: Oh my god, I'm gonna vote. I'm going to vote

557
00:28:31,880 --> 00:28:33,359
Speaker 1: a scale of one to ten whether or not I

558
00:28:33,359 --> 00:28:34,160
Speaker 1: think these are good.

559
00:28:34,160 --> 00:28:34,520
Speaker 2: I love it.

560
00:28:34,680 --> 00:28:36,800
Speaker 1: Let's do it. You can also vote as you listen.

561
00:28:37,040 --> 00:28:40,320
Speaker 2: Here we go show up a friend people who share

562
00:28:40,360 --> 00:28:45,080
Speaker 2: your hobbies, like the gym, pottery, class, et cetera.

563
00:28:45,720 --> 00:28:51,080
Speaker 1: So like, maybe, for first of all, I'm not making

564
00:28:51,080 --> 00:28:54,280
Speaker 1: friends at the gym. Yoga pilates maybe, but the gym.

565
00:28:54,440 --> 00:28:56,000
Speaker 2: I don't want to talk to anybody at the gym.

566
00:28:56,200 --> 00:29:00,560
Speaker 2: He wants to wants to stop having homer stations at

567
00:29:00,560 --> 00:29:03,560
Speaker 2: the gym. Can we just like all collectively as society

568
00:29:03,680 --> 00:29:04,320
Speaker 2: agree to that.

569
00:29:05,200 --> 00:29:07,239
Speaker 1: I feel like Pilatates is different because like you just

570
00:29:07,320 --> 00:29:09,200
Speaker 1: did the thing altogether.

571
00:29:08,880 --> 00:29:12,160
Speaker 2: Because there was a little tang and the lobby. Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah,

572
00:29:12,160 --> 00:29:15,000
Speaker 2: I'm with you on that. Yeah. Okay, okay, okay, well yeah,

573
00:29:15,080 --> 00:29:18,480
Speaker 2: all right, okay, next second one, take risks, let people

574
00:29:18,520 --> 00:29:21,000
Speaker 2: know that you like them and make plans. That's a

575
00:29:21,080 --> 00:29:24,480
Speaker 2: big guy. I hear, yes, and good.

576
00:29:24,640 --> 00:29:27,800
Speaker 1: I will give this one a seven, because no, I

577
00:29:27,840 --> 00:29:31,040
Speaker 1: will take it up too. On eight because our mutual

578
00:29:31,040 --> 00:29:35,400
Speaker 1: friend Lauren Ash I met her at an event and

579
00:29:35,440 --> 00:29:37,800
Speaker 1: I had been looking at her Instagram and I was like,

580
00:29:37,840 --> 00:29:38,960
Speaker 1: I know I have things in common.

581
00:29:39,000 --> 00:29:40,280
Speaker 2: She likes Disney. I like Disney.

582
00:29:40,600 --> 00:29:42,480
Speaker 1: She likes comedy. I like comedy. So I went up

583
00:29:42,480 --> 00:29:43,880
Speaker 1: to her at the event and I was like, hey,

584
00:29:43,960 --> 00:29:46,800
Speaker 1: I think you're so cool. I have been following you.

585
00:29:46,880 --> 00:29:48,600
Speaker 1: I know you love Disney. I would love to go

586
00:29:48,640 --> 00:29:50,719
Speaker 1: to Disney with you sometimes. Like I straight up told her.

587
00:29:50,760 --> 00:29:54,280
Speaker 1: I was like I think you're cool. Yeah, and she

588
00:29:54,440 --> 00:29:55,680
Speaker 1: was like, oh my god, thank you.

589
00:29:55,800 --> 00:29:57,120
Speaker 2: And I was like, I did too much. I did

590
00:29:57,120 --> 00:29:57,520
Speaker 2: too much.

591
00:29:57,560 --> 00:30:00,760
Speaker 1: And then we had a couple drinks and I was great,

592
00:30:00,760 --> 00:30:03,080
Speaker 1: and now we're friends. Now we're like real friends, you're

593
00:30:03,120 --> 00:30:05,000
Speaker 1: like really, yeah.

594
00:30:04,360 --> 00:30:06,600
Speaker 2: That's a big one because it is so nerve wracking

595
00:30:06,640 --> 00:30:09,120
Speaker 2: to be like, hey, I like you, let's like get

596
00:30:09,960 --> 00:30:12,840
Speaker 2: get lunch or let's hang out, like even just saying that,

597
00:30:13,080 --> 00:30:14,360
Speaker 2: like can we hang out?

598
00:30:15,440 --> 00:30:18,840
Speaker 1: I do feel like you need to give space yeah,

599
00:30:18,880 --> 00:30:23,160
Speaker 1: between the like you know, or like we should get

600
00:30:23,160 --> 00:30:24,560
Speaker 1: dinner sometime, not.

601
00:30:24,480 --> 00:30:28,120
Speaker 2: Be as thirsty as I just was. Well, but then

602
00:30:28,200 --> 00:30:30,480
Speaker 2: you know what I worry about is like people say

603
00:30:30,520 --> 00:30:31,560
Speaker 2: that all the time.

604
00:30:31,360 --> 00:30:35,360
Speaker 1: And no, no, no, I think, like tag on this sometime. Yeah,

605
00:30:35,480 --> 00:30:37,400
Speaker 1: but then I feel like I get to follow up

606
00:30:37,400 --> 00:30:40,680
Speaker 1: with the text. You have to follow up, yes, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah,

607
00:30:40,720 --> 00:30:43,200
Speaker 1: you have to follow up. Okay, So okay, we like

608
00:30:43,280 --> 00:30:45,200
Speaker 1: that one. Okay, we like that one.

609
00:30:46,560 --> 00:30:50,520
Speaker 2: Tell your circle you're looking for new friends, meet your

610
00:30:50,560 --> 00:30:52,440
Speaker 2: friend's friends. That's a good one.

611
00:30:52,320 --> 00:30:57,160
Speaker 4: That I've never really good right, what I didn't I've

612
00:30:57,240 --> 00:31:01,080
Speaker 4: never thought to say, like to you, for example, like

613
00:31:01,160 --> 00:31:02,480
Speaker 4: I'm actually looking for new friends.

614
00:31:02,520 --> 00:31:04,840
Speaker 1: If you have people that you think that I would like,

615
00:31:04,880 --> 00:31:07,080
Speaker 1: I'd love to like do a three three.

616
00:31:06,880 --> 00:31:08,720
Speaker 2: Hang and see if we hit it off.

617
00:31:08,800 --> 00:31:10,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, because that's kind of safe because then you have

618
00:31:10,720 --> 00:31:12,080
Speaker 1: a mutual in common.

619
00:31:12,360 --> 00:31:16,800
Speaker 2: Yes, and I've actually like, yeah, I've even been thinking

620
00:31:16,920 --> 00:31:20,440
Speaker 2: lately too of like we should combine some like you know, sometimes,

621
00:31:20,560 --> 00:31:22,520
Speaker 2: especially in LA because it's such a driving city, you

622
00:31:22,560 --> 00:31:24,440
Speaker 2: sort of have I feel like I very like separate

623
00:31:24,440 --> 00:31:28,680
Speaker 2: groups of friends and trying to like orchestrate like more

624
00:31:28,840 --> 00:31:32,960
Speaker 2: group hangs with people I think would get along because

625
00:31:33,080 --> 00:31:37,479
Speaker 2: I want that like group kind of community thing that

626
00:31:37,520 --> 00:31:40,840
Speaker 2: we had in New York, and I just think is good,

627
00:31:40,920 --> 00:31:42,800
Speaker 2: especially when you have kids and stuff, you know, Like

628
00:31:43,560 --> 00:31:47,080
Speaker 2: I like a group hang. I like like community.

629
00:31:47,320 --> 00:31:49,800
Speaker 1: I like that. I like, tell your this is good.

630
00:31:49,880 --> 00:31:51,120
Speaker 1: This gets an eight?

631
00:31:51,600 --> 00:31:51,800
Speaker 2: Yeah?

632
00:31:51,920 --> 00:31:53,880
Speaker 1: Me, well let's give it a seven because we haven't

633
00:31:53,880 --> 00:31:54,480
Speaker 1: tried it yet.

634
00:31:54,560 --> 00:31:57,240
Speaker 2: That's true. Might Yeah, what's the next one? Okay? And

635
00:31:57,280 --> 00:32:00,240
Speaker 2: the last one is invite people to things you usually

636
00:32:00,240 --> 00:32:02,760
Speaker 2: do alone.

637
00:32:02,160 --> 00:32:08,040
Speaker 1: Like getting your biki. Hey, you want to go here,

638
00:32:08,080 --> 00:32:08,760
Speaker 1: but wax with me?

639
00:32:09,200 --> 00:32:12,200
Speaker 2: No, that's not for me.

640
00:32:12,720 --> 00:32:14,800
Speaker 1: Some things I want to do alone, like I want

641
00:32:14,840 --> 00:32:17,080
Speaker 1: to get my manicure alone because well honestly, because I

642
00:32:17,080 --> 00:32:18,920
Speaker 1: want to talk to my manicurist, who I would say

643
00:32:19,040 --> 00:32:26,400
Speaker 1: is a friend. Yeah, gnails in Highland Park, Go, she's amazing, loope, ip.

644
00:32:29,520 --> 00:32:32,760
Speaker 2: I really like to hike alone, but I do enjoy

645
00:32:32,800 --> 00:32:35,360
Speaker 2: a hike with someone else, and I should ask somebody

646
00:32:35,400 --> 00:32:36,800
Speaker 2: to hike with me more often.

647
00:32:37,280 --> 00:32:40,520
Speaker 1: Not me, girl, No, hike is not for me, that's

648
00:32:40,640 --> 00:32:45,040
Speaker 1: not it's not no, I would go. I would go

649
00:32:45,160 --> 00:32:47,200
Speaker 1: on a hike with you. I think it would be nice.

650
00:32:47,680 --> 00:32:51,760
Speaker 2: Or we could just do like walk, Yeah, I could do.

651
00:32:51,880 --> 00:32:56,400
Speaker 2: That's at my level. I love a walk, you know,

652
00:32:56,560 --> 00:32:57,560
Speaker 2: I love a walk.

653
00:33:00,160 --> 00:33:00,480
Speaker 3: Better.

654
00:33:02,240 --> 00:33:07,040
Speaker 1: Okay, let's discuss and digest. I feel like one thing

655
00:33:07,080 --> 00:33:11,400
Speaker 1: that I came away with from today was I should tell.

656
00:33:11,120 --> 00:33:14,120
Speaker 2: My friends that I'm looking for new friends. And I'm glad.

657
00:33:14,120 --> 00:33:15,280
Speaker 2: I'm also I mean, I know.

658
00:33:15,240 --> 00:33:17,200
Speaker 1: We've talked about this a little bit before, but I

659
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Speaker 1: am glad to hear that it's as hard for me

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Speaker 1: as it is for you.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: You strike me as somebody that's like so friendly and

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Speaker 1: so outgoing. So it's like very calming to me to

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Speaker 1: hear that you are, like it's hard, thanks, friend.

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Speaker 2: But yeah, I think I think that that's what I'm

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Speaker 2: digesting as well, is like this comfort and that like

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Speaker 2: it's fucking awkward and hard I think for everyone. And yeah,

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Speaker 2: I think I like initially like I'm okay kind of

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Speaker 2: getting along with people. It's like taking it to that

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Speaker 2: next step of like friendship, right where it's like you're revealing.

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Speaker 2: Why did I like next step like the French kiss

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Speaker 2: kids with your friends, because until you feel their tongue,

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Speaker 2: how do you know they're going to be a good friend?

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Speaker 2: How do you know?

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Speaker 1: That's how I make friends? Obviously? Obviously do you feel Melissa,

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Speaker 1: do you feel a little more better?

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Speaker 3: Uh?

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Speaker 2: You know, I'm gonna say like half sie'es on this

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Speaker 2: one because just talking about it game anxiety. Do you

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Speaker 2: feel more better? I?

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Speaker 1: I do. Actually, I'm kind of excited by the tell

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Speaker 1: your friends you're looking for friends, because yeah, I don't know,

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Speaker 1: it's set me up with some of your cool friends.

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Speaker 1: I feel like I could even if I do that

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Speaker 1: with one person, I might meet one more person that

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Speaker 1: I like, which is totally kind of exciting. Anyway, I'm

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Speaker 1: glad we're friends. I am so glad that we're friends.

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Speaker 1: It's pretty good.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, And to whoever's listening to this, you know, maybe

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Speaker 2: put yourself out there or don't.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, you know, Oh maybe one day we'll

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Speaker 1: have a little pod party and you can come and

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Speaker 1: we can all meet in person and be friends friends.

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Speaker 2: How cute? I love it. Okay, all right?

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Speaker 1: Cool? So if if you're also you know, living your

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Speaker 1: life trying to be more better, we appreciate you listening

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Speaker 1: to us talk about.

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Speaker 2: It for a little while, and we'll see you next

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Speaker 2: week from More Shit Talking, See yahye.

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Speaker 1: future episode?

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Speaker 2: Can you relate to our struggles or have you tried

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