1 00:00:18,760 --> 00:00:21,760 Speaker 1: Hey, you're back with We're back with I do Part 2 00:00:21,800 --> 00:00:25,279 Speaker 1: two and it's your favorites, Susan and Kathy from The 3 00:00:25,320 --> 00:00:29,319 Speaker 1: Golden Bachelor. We are here to do part two with 4 00:00:29,520 --> 00:00:33,560 Speaker 1: the one and only Brandy Glamville. We covered so much 5 00:00:33,640 --> 00:00:35,520 Speaker 1: the first time, but now we're going to dig deep. 6 00:00:36,040 --> 00:00:38,600 Speaker 1: So let's dive back into our conversation. 7 00:00:39,200 --> 00:00:41,199 Speaker 2: So you've got to give me some good advice. You 8 00:00:41,280 --> 00:00:43,320 Speaker 2: got to give listeners. You've learned so much. 9 00:00:43,400 --> 00:00:46,720 Speaker 3: What's your colonel, what's your neuggative advice to people that 10 00:00:46,840 --> 00:00:47,720 Speaker 3: might be going through this. 11 00:00:47,720 --> 00:00:48,159 Speaker 2: Kind of thing. 12 00:00:48,680 --> 00:00:50,920 Speaker 4: I mean, honestly, I. 13 00:00:52,840 --> 00:00:57,560 Speaker 3: Don't die, don't give up? How about don't give up? 14 00:00:57,640 --> 00:00:59,040 Speaker 3: Better days are coming well? 15 00:00:59,120 --> 00:01:01,760 Speaker 4: I mean I had a dark days, Like I was like, 16 00:01:01,840 --> 00:01:05,600 Speaker 4: what is my purpose? Like, yes, you know why am 17 00:01:05,640 --> 00:01:08,440 Speaker 4: I here? I stay in bed all day. I've just 18 00:01:08,440 --> 00:01:11,600 Speaker 4: spent all my money on my savings on doctors, Like 19 00:01:12,120 --> 00:01:16,600 Speaker 4: I can't work at the moment, Like what is why? 20 00:01:17,120 --> 00:01:17,400 Speaker 2: Why? 21 00:01:17,560 --> 00:01:21,679 Speaker 4: In my ear? So now I'm like, I'm hosting dinners 22 00:01:21,720 --> 00:01:26,440 Speaker 4: for my son and his girlfriend. I would not you know, baby, baby, 23 00:01:26,880 --> 00:01:30,080 Speaker 4: it's gonna be I'm excited, Like I was excited to 24 00:01:30,080 --> 00:01:32,479 Speaker 4: put on a pair of type jeans because I've been 25 00:01:32,520 --> 00:01:34,199 Speaker 4: like roaming around in my COVID gear. 26 00:01:34,760 --> 00:01:37,840 Speaker 2: So I'm just like, are you exercising? 27 00:01:37,959 --> 00:01:40,240 Speaker 1: Can you actually get two weeks? 28 00:01:40,319 --> 00:01:43,000 Speaker 4: No? I haven't. But like, I don't want people to 29 00:01:43,040 --> 00:01:45,080 Speaker 4: hate me, but I'm just really naturally. 30 00:01:45,680 --> 00:01:47,440 Speaker 2: I do hate you right now. 31 00:01:48,160 --> 00:01:51,000 Speaker 4: I don't know. I'm like, I hate saying that, but 32 00:01:51,560 --> 00:01:54,440 Speaker 4: the doctor actually told me this. He's like, normally I 33 00:01:54,440 --> 00:01:58,080 Speaker 4: would want you to gain some weight first, but you're 34 00:01:58,280 --> 00:02:00,840 Speaker 4: so thin that we we don't have like we if 35 00:02:00,880 --> 00:02:03,560 Speaker 4: we took fat from an area, it would deform that 36 00:02:03,640 --> 00:02:04,880 Speaker 4: area to put fat. 37 00:02:05,000 --> 00:02:06,080 Speaker 1: Yeah, you can't do that. 38 00:02:06,080 --> 00:02:08,440 Speaker 2: Bab Yeah, do you want some of my fat? Brandy, 39 00:02:08,440 --> 00:02:09,519 Speaker 2: I've got plenty of share. 40 00:02:09,600 --> 00:02:12,079 Speaker 1: I would love she does friends. Have you seen her? 41 00:02:12,120 --> 00:02:12,919 Speaker 1: She's like a stick? 42 00:02:13,160 --> 00:02:16,760 Speaker 4: Yeah, I don't, wouldn't. Whenever anyone says I'm fat, I'm like. 43 00:02:16,840 --> 00:02:20,360 Speaker 3: Hooker Ready, I used to wait two hundred pounds. Trust me, 44 00:02:20,760 --> 00:02:22,720 Speaker 3: Now I look like a sharp pay It's tragic. 45 00:02:23,320 --> 00:02:25,880 Speaker 1: Oh my god, Well don't tell me. 46 00:02:25,960 --> 00:02:29,640 Speaker 4: I feel like I like I'm ready to like. I 47 00:02:29,760 --> 00:02:33,760 Speaker 4: did get a text last night from an old boyfriend. Ha, yes, 48 00:02:34,600 --> 00:02:38,640 Speaker 4: randomly he ran into my son. Because the guy is 49 00:02:38,680 --> 00:02:39,919 Speaker 4: thirteen years younger than me. 50 00:02:40,440 --> 00:02:43,280 Speaker 2: So you go, girl, Yeah, no, I mean there's. 51 00:02:43,120 --> 00:02:45,480 Speaker 4: Still the only guys that asked me out are younger guys. 52 00:02:45,680 --> 00:02:49,520 Speaker 4: Good like I don't like everyone my age is dating 53 00:02:49,639 --> 00:02:51,720 Speaker 4: like a twenty year old. 54 00:02:51,320 --> 00:02:52,680 Speaker 2: So trust me. 55 00:02:52,800 --> 00:02:55,840 Speaker 3: Can I just tell you, Brandy, it doesn't change shed 56 00:02:56,240 --> 00:02:57,200 Speaker 3: just fault there. 57 00:02:57,480 --> 00:02:58,280 Speaker 4: I'm very aware. 58 00:02:58,720 --> 00:03:01,160 Speaker 3: I keep telling all the gold Olden's who are like, 59 00:03:01,280 --> 00:03:03,720 Speaker 3: you know, fifty eight sixty. If you want to get 60 00:03:03,760 --> 00:03:06,120 Speaker 3: married or you want to launch a relationship, luck it 61 00:03:06,200 --> 00:03:08,919 Speaker 3: down now because you know the five years they're dating 62 00:03:08,960 --> 00:03:09,880 Speaker 3: thirty year olds, right. 63 00:03:10,000 --> 00:03:13,720 Speaker 4: Or move to the Midwest, you like, move like somewhere 64 00:03:13,760 --> 00:03:16,280 Speaker 4: where they're I watched like a lot of true crime 65 00:03:16,360 --> 00:03:19,919 Speaker 4: and a lot of these cops are hot. 66 00:03:18,520 --> 00:03:25,440 Speaker 3: And you move to Queens. Move to Queens, Brandy, you'll 67 00:03:25,480 --> 00:03:26,920 Speaker 3: have your you know, you can have all your pick 68 00:03:26,960 --> 00:03:27,520 Speaker 3: of cops. 69 00:03:28,600 --> 00:03:30,480 Speaker 4: I don't really. My brother is a cop. I don't 70 00:03:30,520 --> 00:03:32,120 Speaker 4: want to date a cop because he's kind of a dick. 71 00:03:33,840 --> 00:03:35,480 Speaker 1: I would never date it police. 72 00:03:35,640 --> 00:03:36,440 Speaker 4: No, No, be either. 73 00:03:36,720 --> 00:03:37,520 Speaker 2: A firefighter. 74 00:03:38,360 --> 00:03:40,160 Speaker 4: I did date a firefighter that was hot. 75 00:03:40,480 --> 00:03:42,120 Speaker 2: My son's a firefighter. He's hot. 76 00:03:42,200 --> 00:03:44,800 Speaker 4: Yeah, they're hot, like they don't but they're like frat boys. 77 00:03:44,920 --> 00:03:47,839 Speaker 4: They're like, Hi, I love you, and they're going back 78 00:03:47,840 --> 00:03:50,360 Speaker 4: to the frat house to do for sure and watch 79 00:03:50,360 --> 00:03:52,520 Speaker 4: football until there's a fire, hang. 80 00:03:52,400 --> 00:03:56,000 Speaker 1: With the boys, right, what type of guy would you want? 81 00:03:56,080 --> 00:04:01,480 Speaker 1: You have a particular look, you know, honestly like self confident. 82 00:04:01,840 --> 00:04:06,120 Speaker 4: I need the fun police because I am a little wild, 83 00:04:06,760 --> 00:04:09,560 Speaker 4: so I need someone to kind of pull me back. 84 00:04:10,160 --> 00:04:13,640 Speaker 4: So and I've had that in the past, and my 85 00:04:13,720 --> 00:04:16,240 Speaker 4: friends were like, you know what, Yeah, you do need 86 00:04:17,360 --> 00:04:18,320 Speaker 4: a little bit of. 87 00:04:19,880 --> 00:04:24,440 Speaker 3: You know what, they say, opposite to track, opposites of track, brandy, 88 00:04:24,720 --> 00:04:25,680 Speaker 3: but not too. 89 00:04:25,520 --> 00:04:27,279 Speaker 4: Much of an I like, you need to be able 90 00:04:27,320 --> 00:04:30,200 Speaker 4: to have a good time, not take yourself so seriously, 91 00:04:30,760 --> 00:04:34,120 Speaker 4: take a joke. I love, I love funny people. It's 92 00:04:34,120 --> 00:04:37,600 Speaker 4: all about chemistry for me. I mean, I've mostly dated 93 00:04:38,160 --> 00:04:42,359 Speaker 4: very attractive men, but but not a comedian. No. God, 94 00:04:42,440 --> 00:04:45,160 Speaker 4: I did date a comedian and that was the hell. 95 00:04:45,760 --> 00:04:49,040 Speaker 2: It was so dark. I thought comedians aren't very funny 96 00:04:49,080 --> 00:04:49,599 Speaker 2: in real life. 97 00:04:49,640 --> 00:04:52,640 Speaker 1: They're right, And I always think they're big drinkers. Are 98 00:04:52,640 --> 00:04:54,480 Speaker 1: they big drinkers? Yes? 99 00:04:54,880 --> 00:04:58,720 Speaker 2: I mean not that we're generalizing here at all, of course, no, no, no. 100 00:04:58,760 --> 00:05:02,240 Speaker 4: But I mean stereotops to cite our stereotypes for our reason. 101 00:05:02,320 --> 00:05:05,159 Speaker 4: I mean that sounds horrible, but yes, like a lot 102 00:05:05,200 --> 00:05:08,240 Speaker 4: of comedians are dark, you know, like when they're not 103 00:05:08,320 --> 00:05:12,240 Speaker 4: on stage, they yeah, because they have to be They 104 00:05:12,279 --> 00:05:14,799 Speaker 4: feel like they have to be funny all of the time, 105 00:05:15,200 --> 00:05:18,920 Speaker 4: and so they do isolate, you know. Yes, then they're 106 00:05:19,000 --> 00:05:20,920 Speaker 4: like in a bad mood because or do you think 107 00:05:20,920 --> 00:05:22,640 Speaker 4: this is funny? Do you think you know? And it 108 00:05:22,800 --> 00:05:26,000 Speaker 4: wasn't fun. I mean, he was very funny, but it 109 00:05:26,080 --> 00:05:28,600 Speaker 4: wasn't fun when he wasn't on stage. 110 00:05:28,880 --> 00:05:32,080 Speaker 3: All right, So here's what we know so far. Yeah, 111 00:05:32,120 --> 00:05:34,200 Speaker 3: you want tall so you can wear your heels. 112 00:05:34,360 --> 00:05:36,880 Speaker 4: I don't care about tall. I don't need tall. I 113 00:05:36,920 --> 00:05:40,880 Speaker 4: need sense of humor. I need them to be able 114 00:05:40,920 --> 00:05:42,960 Speaker 4: to pay for dinner because I'm sicking, a sick of 115 00:05:43,000 --> 00:05:46,480 Speaker 4: picking up a check. Like I've dated waiters and uber 116 00:05:46,560 --> 00:05:50,919 Speaker 4: drivers like I don't you know, like what's the word? Like, 117 00:05:50,960 --> 00:05:53,360 Speaker 4: I don't discriminate, Like if you don't, like as long 118 00:05:53,400 --> 00:05:57,960 Speaker 4: as you're working in hustling, it's fine. But then you know, 119 00:05:58,200 --> 00:06:01,840 Speaker 4: I dated a guy that was, you know, looking for 120 00:06:01,880 --> 00:06:05,080 Speaker 4: a job, you know, and you know. 121 00:06:04,839 --> 00:06:05,760 Speaker 1: I go out. 122 00:06:05,880 --> 00:06:08,720 Speaker 4: I wouldn't eat a nice restaurant, So I'm d Once 123 00:06:08,800 --> 00:06:11,240 Speaker 4: you start picking up the bill. It never ends, and. 124 00:06:11,160 --> 00:06:13,160 Speaker 3: You don't want to go where the guy says, can 125 00:06:13,200 --> 00:06:15,320 Speaker 3: we go to happy hour and split an appetizer? 126 00:06:15,400 --> 00:06:16,840 Speaker 4: Oh yeah, that's not happening. 127 00:06:17,160 --> 00:06:20,960 Speaker 1: What about actors? Are they off the table since your ex? 128 00:06:21,680 --> 00:06:23,960 Speaker 4: Oh? Yeah, done, I'm done and done. I mean I 129 00:06:24,080 --> 00:06:27,279 Speaker 4: dated a few and that was before him, and I 130 00:06:27,320 --> 00:06:29,240 Speaker 4: dated a couple after him that happened to be his 131 00:06:29,279 --> 00:06:30,240 Speaker 4: friends on purpose. 132 00:06:33,000 --> 00:06:34,560 Speaker 2: That's called retribution right now. 133 00:06:34,720 --> 00:06:37,839 Speaker 3: Wait, I read an article recently, Susan, I think you 134 00:06:37,880 --> 00:06:39,599 Speaker 3: and I talked about this that women are going to 135 00:06:39,760 --> 00:06:42,800 Speaker 3: like medieval themed dinners so they can date the nights. 136 00:06:43,520 --> 00:06:44,680 Speaker 2: Would you do that kind of thing? 137 00:06:45,240 --> 00:06:50,640 Speaker 4: No, that sounds let's be on desperate to me, like 138 00:06:50,920 --> 00:06:54,640 Speaker 4: what I mean the nights, Like, what do they look like? 139 00:06:55,320 --> 00:06:57,719 Speaker 1: Yeah, you can't tell under the costume. 140 00:06:59,080 --> 00:07:00,360 Speaker 2: Oh so now we're down to that. 141 00:07:00,839 --> 00:07:02,479 Speaker 1: It look smatter to do You have to have a 142 00:07:02,480 --> 00:07:03,919 Speaker 1: physical attraction. 143 00:07:03,880 --> 00:07:05,280 Speaker 4: No, I have to have chemistry. 144 00:07:05,680 --> 00:07:05,880 Speaker 1: Yes. 145 00:07:06,560 --> 00:07:10,480 Speaker 4: I met a guy and he at first I was 146 00:07:10,520 --> 00:07:13,520 Speaker 4: like I saw him, I'm like nope, I'm out, And 147 00:07:13,560 --> 00:07:16,280 Speaker 4: then I sat through the dinner. I've never like left 148 00:07:16,280 --> 00:07:18,760 Speaker 4: a date like I'm not that girl. I think that's 149 00:07:18,800 --> 00:07:24,280 Speaker 4: just so horrible but the more we talked, I was like, Okay, 150 00:07:24,640 --> 00:07:27,320 Speaker 4: you're really you know, he's really smart. Then I found 151 00:07:27,360 --> 00:07:30,200 Speaker 4: out he happened to have a private plane. I'm like, 152 00:07:30,440 --> 00:07:32,400 Speaker 4: and you're my boyfriend. 153 00:07:32,280 --> 00:07:33,880 Speaker 2: And how did that work for you? 154 00:07:34,240 --> 00:07:36,480 Speaker 4: It was great for a year, and I loved him, 155 00:07:36,520 --> 00:07:42,040 Speaker 4: but I wasn't in love. But he literally he saved 156 00:07:42,040 --> 00:07:45,800 Speaker 4: my life. It was the year after my divorce, and 157 00:07:45,880 --> 00:07:49,120 Speaker 4: he was like so fun. We went to he had 158 00:07:49,120 --> 00:07:52,080 Speaker 4: properties everywhere, we were on planes, He's like, bring all 159 00:07:52,120 --> 00:07:52,960 Speaker 4: your friends. 160 00:07:53,400 --> 00:07:55,840 Speaker 2: I was like, he talked his number. 161 00:07:56,120 --> 00:08:01,280 Speaker 4: Yeah, I think he's dating a twenty year old. Oh god, yeah, so, 162 00:08:01,360 --> 00:08:03,400 Speaker 4: I mean, but he was the first. He was like 163 00:08:03,560 --> 00:08:06,680 Speaker 4: thirteen years older than me. And he's the only guy 164 00:08:06,720 --> 00:08:09,240 Speaker 4: I've dated that was older than me. I mean my 165 00:08:09,400 --> 00:08:13,320 Speaker 4: husband was the same, the same exact age, actually six 166 00:08:13,360 --> 00:08:15,840 Speaker 4: months younger. So he always like to throw that out there. 167 00:08:16,320 --> 00:08:17,720 Speaker 1: My ex husband did the same thing. 168 00:08:18,000 --> 00:08:21,160 Speaker 4: Yeah, like six months, but I was actually. 169 00:08:20,880 --> 00:08:21,800 Speaker 1: A few months. 170 00:08:22,240 --> 00:08:23,880 Speaker 2: That's a rounding air, but he. 171 00:08:23,800 --> 00:08:25,560 Speaker 1: Would yeah, he would say, that's. 172 00:08:25,440 --> 00:08:27,960 Speaker 2: A rounding air. That's like, you know, they got the 173 00:08:28,040 --> 00:08:31,160 Speaker 2: dates wrong in the pregnancy test. I mean, who cares. 174 00:08:31,520 --> 00:08:34,600 Speaker 4: I told him, like his mom had trouble like getting pregnant, 175 00:08:34,800 --> 00:08:37,360 Speaker 4: and so she was on hormones, and so she gave 176 00:08:37,360 --> 00:08:41,640 Speaker 4: birth to this like god, and they're like tiny little people. 177 00:08:41,679 --> 00:08:45,360 Speaker 4: And he's like six to one, perfect looking. And I'm like, 178 00:08:45,400 --> 00:08:48,000 Speaker 4: you know, you're not real. You're like a hormone baby. 179 00:08:48,600 --> 00:08:49,960 Speaker 1: It's like that makes it real. 180 00:08:50,080 --> 00:08:50,520 Speaker 2: Not real? 181 00:08:50,880 --> 00:08:51,840 Speaker 1: Yeah, the real. 182 00:08:52,240 --> 00:08:52,320 Speaker 4: No. 183 00:08:52,480 --> 00:08:54,920 Speaker 2: I just like for him because he's tooken like a 184 00:08:55,000 --> 00:08:58,520 Speaker 2: woman scorned. Yeah, no, he is not real yep. 185 00:08:58,600 --> 00:09:03,240 Speaker 4: And I told him his dimples were deformities. What if 186 00:09:03,240 --> 00:09:08,800 Speaker 4: you look Nonetheless, simples are like deformities, and so I 187 00:09:08,840 --> 00:09:10,199 Speaker 4: had to keep them down to keep them. 188 00:09:10,280 --> 00:09:13,680 Speaker 3: You know what I have to say, Brandy, If that 189 00:09:13,840 --> 00:09:18,040 Speaker 3: is the case, I love me a deformed many. 190 00:09:18,960 --> 00:09:22,000 Speaker 4: Hello. I married one and both my boys have dimples. 191 00:09:22,280 --> 00:09:25,319 Speaker 4: My son does too, like a dimple, Like I am 192 00:09:25,360 --> 00:09:29,439 Speaker 4: a sucker for a dimple, but I I yeah. 193 00:09:29,160 --> 00:09:32,880 Speaker 3: Okay, Susan, Brandy's gonna need our help if her main 194 00:09:33,040 --> 00:09:36,280 Speaker 3: feature for dating is a guy with the dimple, like 195 00:09:36,440 --> 00:09:38,120 Speaker 3: you and I we got. 196 00:09:37,920 --> 00:09:42,959 Speaker 4: To yeah, I'm honestly, like, I'm open. I don't have 197 00:09:43,040 --> 00:09:45,520 Speaker 4: a like I usually go for. I've never dated a 198 00:09:45,559 --> 00:09:48,880 Speaker 4: blonde guy like I usually go for a tall, dark 199 00:09:48,920 --> 00:09:53,520 Speaker 4: and handsome. Yes, like I'm open. I've dated a couple 200 00:09:53,520 --> 00:09:55,559 Speaker 4: of Jewish guys. I really, I really. 201 00:09:55,520 --> 00:09:58,520 Speaker 2: Like Jewish guys will treat you like a princess. 202 00:09:58,800 --> 00:10:02,439 Speaker 4: Yes, but I'm a and they'll never marry me. So 203 00:10:02,720 --> 00:10:03,839 Speaker 4: it's like, I don't know. 204 00:10:04,040 --> 00:10:06,000 Speaker 2: My father did oh. 205 00:10:05,840 --> 00:10:07,320 Speaker 4: Well, I mean that's rare. 206 00:10:07,880 --> 00:10:08,280 Speaker 1: It is. 207 00:10:08,840 --> 00:10:11,400 Speaker 3: Well, he had to first marry my mother and then 208 00:10:11,440 --> 00:10:12,920 Speaker 3: he was like, I don't care who she is, if 209 00:10:12,920 --> 00:10:13,920 Speaker 3: she's normal. 210 00:10:14,640 --> 00:10:16,680 Speaker 1: But at this stage of the game, at our ages, 211 00:10:16,679 --> 00:10:19,240 Speaker 1: who cares about the marriage part. You want somebody to 212 00:10:19,720 --> 00:10:20,720 Speaker 1: enjoy your life. 213 00:10:20,800 --> 00:10:24,400 Speaker 4: Yeah, the one that I love that like I could 214 00:10:24,400 --> 00:10:27,160 Speaker 4: have I was still in my thirties. It was after 215 00:10:27,200 --> 00:10:31,640 Speaker 4: my divorce. I could have, like I was, I loved him, 216 00:10:32,160 --> 00:10:35,640 Speaker 4: I would have like like you know, I don't know, 217 00:10:35,720 --> 00:10:38,880 Speaker 4: I think that it could have grown into something bigger. 218 00:10:38,920 --> 00:10:41,320 Speaker 4: But then he cheated on me and I had. 219 00:10:41,200 --> 00:10:55,560 Speaker 3: To go, I mean, you got I imagine you have 220 00:10:55,840 --> 00:11:01,199 Speaker 3: trust issues around cheating, around cheating and around I'm cheating me. 221 00:11:01,480 --> 00:11:06,360 Speaker 4: Yes, And I think I've actually scarred my poor boys 222 00:11:06,960 --> 00:11:13,880 Speaker 4: because like they are like the biggest gentleman in the world. 223 00:11:14,400 --> 00:11:18,880 Speaker 4: And my eighteen year old he's in acting and you know, 224 00:11:19,000 --> 00:11:21,240 Speaker 4: he's in his acting classes. Any I said, you know what, 225 00:11:21,320 --> 00:11:23,360 Speaker 4: you know what? You know he has a girlfriend as well, 226 00:11:24,280 --> 00:11:28,240 Speaker 4: and I said, you know it's not natural, like for 227 00:11:28,880 --> 00:11:32,560 Speaker 4: it's really hard to date an actor. Is Maggie going 228 00:11:32,640 --> 00:11:35,760 Speaker 4: to be okay with that? And He's like, yeah, I 229 00:11:35,800 --> 00:11:37,640 Speaker 4: just can't do any love scenes. I'm like, well, you 230 00:11:37,760 --> 00:11:39,200 Speaker 4: need to quit acting right now. 231 00:11:39,280 --> 00:11:41,720 Speaker 1: Then I can't do any love scenes. 232 00:11:41,960 --> 00:11:45,000 Speaker 2: Yes, And I'm like, but wait a minute, how old 233 00:11:45,080 --> 00:11:45,680 Speaker 2: is this sun? 234 00:11:46,120 --> 00:11:46,880 Speaker 4: He's eighteen? 235 00:11:47,080 --> 00:11:49,040 Speaker 2: I mean, do you really think this is the one 236 00:11:49,080 --> 00:11:50,720 Speaker 2: he's going to end up with? You better hope not. 237 00:11:51,240 --> 00:11:53,680 Speaker 4: I am not saying a damn word about that. 238 00:11:53,920 --> 00:11:55,959 Speaker 2: Okay, well I can. I haven't met him. 239 00:11:56,080 --> 00:11:57,120 Speaker 1: They might be listening. 240 00:11:58,200 --> 00:12:01,880 Speaker 4: No, they really don't. Actually, they stop my social media. 241 00:12:02,360 --> 00:12:04,400 Speaker 4: They know more than I know, because I don't even 242 00:12:04,440 --> 00:12:07,040 Speaker 4: do my own social media. I'm someone that does it 243 00:12:07,160 --> 00:12:11,160 Speaker 4: for me because I'm not social right now. This is 244 00:12:11,400 --> 00:12:15,959 Speaker 4: kind of my first interview since like the doctor's. 245 00:12:15,440 --> 00:12:18,240 Speaker 2: Office and just are we more fun than pulling the 246 00:12:18,320 --> 00:12:19,920 Speaker 2: tooth or what? Yeah? 247 00:12:20,040 --> 00:12:23,760 Speaker 4: I mean, I mean the anethesia part with the boobs 248 00:12:23,920 --> 00:12:26,320 Speaker 4: was pretty fun. I'm not gonna lie until I got 249 00:12:26,400 --> 00:12:28,959 Speaker 4: nauseous and had to have the medicine. 250 00:12:29,040 --> 00:12:31,520 Speaker 1: Yes, yes, I love that. I call it the Michael 251 00:12:31,600 --> 00:12:34,600 Speaker 1: Jackson drug. I go the first time I ever had it, 252 00:12:34,600 --> 00:12:37,440 Speaker 1: it was like, do you have any of this to go? Right? 253 00:12:38,000 --> 00:12:40,880 Speaker 3: I just don't understand why they don't tell you about 254 00:12:41,080 --> 00:12:43,920 Speaker 3: stool softener. It's not to get you know, when I've 255 00:12:43,920 --> 00:12:48,720 Speaker 3: had no Seriously, when I had breast lift and faced 256 00:12:48,720 --> 00:12:49,800 Speaker 3: on like, they're like. 257 00:12:50,080 --> 00:12:51,480 Speaker 2: Dear, you know, they don't tell you that. 258 00:12:51,559 --> 00:12:53,720 Speaker 3: I mean, I ended up in the hospital having animals 259 00:12:53,720 --> 00:12:54,439 Speaker 3: for God's sakes. 260 00:12:54,440 --> 00:12:58,640 Speaker 4: It's like it's I mean, I haven't had an issue, 261 00:12:59,160 --> 00:13:02,000 Speaker 4: but I didn't take like, I didn't take any pain 262 00:13:02,080 --> 00:13:06,000 Speaker 4: pills because they make me so ill. I mean too 263 00:13:06,320 --> 00:13:08,960 Speaker 4: they I can't take them. And honestly, it wasn't in pain. 264 00:13:09,360 --> 00:13:11,920 Speaker 4: It's just my arms are a little sore because he 265 00:13:12,000 --> 00:13:14,160 Speaker 4: had to scrape. He had to scrape my lymph. Notes. 266 00:13:14,240 --> 00:13:16,560 Speaker 2: Okay, when you're not do you go to the gym? 267 00:13:16,679 --> 00:13:16,760 Speaker 4: Like? 268 00:13:16,840 --> 00:13:18,560 Speaker 3: I know obviously right now you can. Are you a 269 00:13:18,640 --> 00:13:20,760 Speaker 3: gym rat? What do you do to work out when 270 00:13:20,800 --> 00:13:22,040 Speaker 3: you're no? 271 00:13:22,040 --> 00:13:22,920 Speaker 4: No, I walk round? 272 00:13:23,080 --> 00:13:23,960 Speaker 2: I have to coffee cup? 273 00:13:24,880 --> 00:13:26,280 Speaker 1: What about your favorite food? 274 00:13:26,600 --> 00:13:29,480 Speaker 2: Wait? You walk your dogs? That's your old exercise? 275 00:13:29,600 --> 00:13:33,360 Speaker 4: What I wear five pound ankle weights almost all day long, 276 00:13:33,520 --> 00:13:34,200 Speaker 4: every day. 277 00:13:34,400 --> 00:13:35,720 Speaker 2: That's called lunch for me. 278 00:13:37,679 --> 00:13:40,440 Speaker 4: No, like they really do. Because I did pilates for 279 00:13:40,480 --> 00:13:43,200 Speaker 4: thirteen years. I know, like like you know, after babies, 280 00:13:43,640 --> 00:13:45,640 Speaker 4: I could probably teach it at this point, but it 281 00:13:45,760 --> 00:13:49,360 Speaker 4: is so expensive. It's like, you know, one hundred dollars session. 282 00:13:50,000 --> 00:13:52,360 Speaker 4: I mean when you do privates because I have like 283 00:13:52,400 --> 00:13:54,920 Speaker 4: a back issue. You know, I have all these issues, 284 00:13:54,920 --> 00:13:57,680 Speaker 4: so I couldn't do the same as everyone else in 285 00:13:57,720 --> 00:14:01,200 Speaker 4: the class. So I you know, I did pilates. I 286 00:14:01,240 --> 00:14:04,200 Speaker 4: was a gymnast for nine years when I was young, 287 00:14:04,720 --> 00:14:08,440 Speaker 4: so I feel like I have muscle memory. So like 288 00:14:08,520 --> 00:14:12,400 Speaker 4: during COVID, I did gain twenty pounds and everyone including myself, 289 00:14:12,480 --> 00:14:16,320 Speaker 4: was in shock. I was like I didn't know I could. Like, 290 00:14:16,360 --> 00:14:18,679 Speaker 4: I was like, this is I mean crazy, And. 291 00:14:18,679 --> 00:14:21,520 Speaker 1: Did you feel good? Did you feel good? No? 292 00:14:22,600 --> 00:14:26,200 Speaker 4: Because I gained my weight in my mid section only you. 293 00:14:28,480 --> 00:14:29,160 Speaker 2: Yeah. 294 00:14:29,400 --> 00:14:32,120 Speaker 4: I think it's hereditary, like my mom and my grandma 295 00:14:32,200 --> 00:14:32,440 Speaker 4: like that. 296 00:14:32,440 --> 00:14:34,960 Speaker 3: It's always after a menopause that's where they tend to 297 00:14:34,960 --> 00:14:37,480 Speaker 3: put it. But here's the thing, men, here's the good 298 00:14:37,480 --> 00:14:41,640 Speaker 3: news for you, brandy. Men. I have found don't care 299 00:14:42,360 --> 00:14:45,160 Speaker 3: as you get older. Care about they do not care. 300 00:14:45,480 --> 00:14:48,280 Speaker 3: They like a little something something. I'm telling you men, 301 00:14:49,080 --> 00:14:53,200 Speaker 3: men say that all the time. Not all the time, 302 00:14:53,280 --> 00:14:55,480 Speaker 3: but a lot of times. Menals say to me, you're 303 00:14:55,520 --> 00:14:58,200 Speaker 3: too thin and I'm not and all my weights in 304 00:14:58,240 --> 00:14:58,760 Speaker 3: my middle. 305 00:14:59,200 --> 00:15:02,960 Speaker 4: Well, well everyone right now is so mooty, delicious and 306 00:15:03,000 --> 00:15:06,400 Speaker 4: like everyone's all about like curves, and trust me, I 307 00:15:06,440 --> 00:15:09,640 Speaker 4: wish I had them. I paid for them and then 308 00:15:09,720 --> 00:15:15,440 Speaker 4: they exploded. So I'm like, okay, but I mean, I'm 309 00:15:15,560 --> 00:15:18,240 Speaker 4: happy with my body. I'm happy with my figure. I 310 00:15:19,000 --> 00:15:20,720 Speaker 4: have a little booty. It's cute. 311 00:15:22,040 --> 00:15:24,200 Speaker 2: See there's the confidence coming back right there. 312 00:15:24,200 --> 00:15:28,560 Speaker 4: You go there, I'm not like I've always felt lucky 313 00:15:29,200 --> 00:15:35,160 Speaker 4: to not have to work out for after babies. I 314 00:15:35,200 --> 00:15:38,000 Speaker 4: was like doing pilates because like pabic floor and all 315 00:15:38,000 --> 00:15:38,760 Speaker 4: that fun stuff. 316 00:15:38,920 --> 00:15:42,000 Speaker 3: Yeah, but I'm going to tell you men, I'm telling 317 00:15:42,000 --> 00:15:44,360 Speaker 3: you I am older than you, and men like a 318 00:15:44,360 --> 00:15:47,280 Speaker 3: fit woman's a fit woman. So get back in the 319 00:15:47,320 --> 00:15:49,880 Speaker 3: gym and start doing pushups when you can. 320 00:15:50,320 --> 00:15:50,800 Speaker 2: When you can. 321 00:15:51,600 --> 00:15:54,400 Speaker 1: That's hard. No, she won't be doing them for a while. 322 00:15:54,680 --> 00:15:55,880 Speaker 2: I said, when you can. 323 00:15:56,640 --> 00:16:01,480 Speaker 4: No, even when I'm not, I have like two pound pink. 324 00:16:01,280 --> 00:16:04,720 Speaker 1: Weights, Brandy, I try to do them off the bureau, Okay, 325 00:16:04,920 --> 00:16:07,600 Speaker 1: not on the floor working. 326 00:16:07,320 --> 00:16:10,240 Speaker 4: Out like I love a horizontal life, like I like, 327 00:16:10,360 --> 00:16:13,600 Speaker 4: walk on them, I walk on the beach, I like. 328 00:16:13,880 --> 00:16:15,840 Speaker 3: And you know what, she has no shortage of men, 329 00:16:15,880 --> 00:16:18,320 Speaker 3: and I work out. I am a gym rat and 330 00:16:18,360 --> 00:16:19,400 Speaker 3: I have a dearth of men. 331 00:16:19,560 --> 00:16:21,800 Speaker 2: So you know, all I want to say is I 332 00:16:21,840 --> 00:16:24,720 Speaker 2: don't know, but stop working out. 333 00:16:25,000 --> 00:16:28,720 Speaker 3: You have been It's a delight to meet you. You 334 00:16:28,800 --> 00:16:32,400 Speaker 3: have been so transparent both about your health and where 335 00:16:32,440 --> 00:16:36,240 Speaker 3: you are when it comes to love right now, and truly, 336 00:16:36,320 --> 00:16:37,760 Speaker 3: Susan and I are rooting for you. 337 00:16:37,520 --> 00:16:40,480 Speaker 2: You are fabulous. It's been a pleasure to meet you. 338 00:16:41,000 --> 00:16:43,360 Speaker 4: Oh thank you. I wish I had more like advice 339 00:16:43,920 --> 00:16:46,960 Speaker 4: for I mean, after my divorce I had if you guys, 340 00:16:46,960 --> 00:16:50,000 Speaker 4: get my first book, Drinking and Tweeting, all the advice you. 341 00:16:49,960 --> 00:16:51,920 Speaker 1: Need Drinking and Tweeting. 342 00:16:52,120 --> 00:16:54,720 Speaker 4: Yes, it's a New York Times number one bestseller. 343 00:16:55,080 --> 00:16:56,760 Speaker 1: Oh okay, my. 344 00:16:56,800 --> 00:17:00,520 Speaker 4: Second one was the number nine best seller. Sorry to say, 345 00:17:00,560 --> 00:17:05,480 Speaker 4: but that one. Don't get that one is not helpful. 346 00:17:06,160 --> 00:17:09,960 Speaker 4: That was called drinking and Dating, which I realize now 347 00:17:10,000 --> 00:17:13,320 Speaker 4: when I read it back, I'm like, yeah, this is 348 00:17:13,359 --> 00:17:17,040 Speaker 4: not that's not gonna it's like like learn from my 349 00:17:17,160 --> 00:17:18,359 Speaker 4: Mistakes kind of book. 350 00:17:18,640 --> 00:17:21,880 Speaker 3: Okay, Okay, I want you to do one thing today 351 00:17:22,000 --> 00:17:23,040 Speaker 3: before you go to bed. 352 00:17:23,160 --> 00:17:24,720 Speaker 2: Okay, I want. 353 00:17:24,520 --> 00:17:28,760 Speaker 3: You to look in the mirror and say, I am beautiful, 354 00:17:29,080 --> 00:17:33,520 Speaker 3: I am enough, and I'm beautiful and I am worth it. 355 00:17:33,640 --> 00:17:38,160 Speaker 3: Just any any iteration of those words every day, every day, 356 00:17:38,520 --> 00:17:39,400 Speaker 3: starting to day. 357 00:17:39,600 --> 00:17:41,479 Speaker 2: If you're not going to do pushups for me, then 358 00:17:41,480 --> 00:17:42,159 Speaker 2: you got to do that. 359 00:17:42,720 --> 00:17:45,560 Speaker 4: I was excited the other day because I put like 360 00:17:45,600 --> 00:17:49,600 Speaker 4: this infrared like belt on and I like stood up 361 00:17:49,600 --> 00:17:52,399 Speaker 4: and I was not looking at my body before, and 362 00:17:52,560 --> 00:17:55,960 Speaker 4: I was like, my waist is snatched. I'm like humans, 363 00:17:56,680 --> 00:17:57,360 Speaker 4: no where to go. 364 00:17:57,880 --> 00:18:00,360 Speaker 1: Oh well you will, though, Brandy, you will. 365 00:18:00,960 --> 00:18:04,720 Speaker 4: I think once I get my confidence up, I will 366 00:18:04,720 --> 00:18:07,560 Speaker 4: definitely be out like I have. All my friends they 367 00:18:07,880 --> 00:18:11,000 Speaker 4: want to go out. I'm just I'm getting there. I 368 00:18:11,119 --> 00:18:14,000 Speaker 4: just need this ringing in my ear to stop so 369 00:18:14,040 --> 00:18:25,000 Speaker 4: that I can hear them. 370 00:18:25,160 --> 00:18:27,520 Speaker 1: I do have one question. You did mention that an 371 00:18:27,560 --> 00:18:31,080 Speaker 1: ex boyfriend ran into one of your sons and reached 372 00:18:31,119 --> 00:18:33,800 Speaker 1: out to you. What was that about? What was that like? 373 00:18:34,280 --> 00:18:36,359 Speaker 1: Do you have a plan to see them or make. 374 00:18:36,280 --> 00:18:37,359 Speaker 4: A fat No? 375 00:18:37,800 --> 00:18:41,480 Speaker 1: Okay, best sex of my life and it's a big 376 00:18:41,520 --> 00:18:44,119 Speaker 1: fat no three years come. 377 00:18:44,000 --> 00:18:46,600 Speaker 4: On, no, Like, yeah, no. 378 00:18:46,560 --> 00:18:50,840 Speaker 1: It was what I've done, possibly tortuous. 379 00:18:51,640 --> 00:18:54,080 Speaker 3: I'll just say that, you know what, this is where 380 00:18:54,119 --> 00:18:56,360 Speaker 3: the nights kicks and you don't have to listen to them, 381 00:18:56,760 --> 00:18:57,320 Speaker 3: just do them. 382 00:18:58,160 --> 00:19:01,359 Speaker 4: I can't understand them anyways. Friends, I'm like, oh, what 383 00:19:01,440 --> 00:19:03,240 Speaker 4: are you saying? Shut up and do what you're doing. 384 00:19:03,520 --> 00:19:04,440 Speaker 2: I know all about that. 385 00:19:04,680 --> 00:19:06,600 Speaker 1: Are like Kathy, Yeah, yeah. 386 00:19:06,520 --> 00:19:09,400 Speaker 4: I love I love a European man. I do because 387 00:19:09,400 --> 00:19:13,080 Speaker 4: they're gentlemen. They open doors for you. Now like the guys, 388 00:19:13,160 --> 00:19:16,560 Speaker 4: they just they don't do it, and I just I 389 00:19:16,600 --> 00:19:17,600 Speaker 4: don't want a gentleman. 390 00:19:18,640 --> 00:19:19,399 Speaker 1: Everyone should. 391 00:19:19,760 --> 00:19:22,480 Speaker 4: Yeah, and then I get Homie throws me on the bed, 392 00:19:22,560 --> 00:19:23,440 Speaker 4: and yeah. 393 00:19:23,440 --> 00:19:25,600 Speaker 1: Then you can be rough, but in the meantime you're 394 00:19:25,600 --> 00:19:27,040 Speaker 1: a gentleman exactly. 395 00:19:27,720 --> 00:19:29,920 Speaker 4: Well, ladies, it was so good to meet you. And 396 00:19:30,040 --> 00:19:33,560 Speaker 4: I did watch the Golden Bachelor, but I like, my 397 00:19:33,800 --> 00:19:37,200 Speaker 4: brain is still fogged, but I do remember the one 398 00:19:37,320 --> 00:19:39,720 Speaker 4: lady that won, So I'm glad that you told her off. 399 00:19:43,400 --> 00:19:45,960 Speaker 2: No, she's she's fine, she's fine. 400 00:19:46,040 --> 00:19:49,680 Speaker 1: You know, we love them all. Everybody's unique in their 401 00:19:49,720 --> 00:19:50,120 Speaker 1: own way. 402 00:19:51,640 --> 00:19:56,280 Speaker 4: Okay, I'm not gonna lie. I don't love all that. 403 00:19:56,320 --> 00:19:58,720 Speaker 1: When you're ready to me too for a happy hour. 404 00:19:59,040 --> 00:20:03,000 Speaker 2: Yeah, let's do it. We went like once this ear, 405 00:20:03,240 --> 00:20:03,680 Speaker 2: you'll know me. 406 00:20:03,800 --> 00:20:06,240 Speaker 3: Wait, you'll know me, Brandy. Susan will be the ones 407 00:20:06,280 --> 00:20:08,840 Speaker 3: with the perky boobs. Mine will be the ones sitting 408 00:20:08,880 --> 00:20:09,480 Speaker 3: on my waist. 409 00:20:09,520 --> 00:20:10,280 Speaker 2: You won't, you won't. 410 00:20:10,400 --> 00:20:12,359 Speaker 4: You'll know who we are, and I don't know what 411 00:20:12,480 --> 00:20:15,040 Speaker 4: mine will be, but I do know that my my 412 00:20:15,240 --> 00:20:19,200 Speaker 4: sterile tape is like purple from my purple shampoo. 413 00:20:19,640 --> 00:20:21,920 Speaker 1: Okay, purple nipples. 414 00:20:21,960 --> 00:20:23,400 Speaker 4: But I'll see you ladies later. 415 00:20:24,080 --> 00:20:27,000 Speaker 1: Thank you again, love, Okay, we wish you the best. 416 00:20:27,280 --> 00:20:28,000 Speaker 4: Thank you so much. 417 00:20:28,160 --> 00:20:32,440 Speaker 2: You feel better, okay. So Susan, Yes, that was quite 418 00:20:32,480 --> 00:20:35,040 Speaker 2: the interview. We've never met her. I kind of feel 419 00:20:35,040 --> 00:20:37,639 Speaker 2: like she's one of our tribe. What did you think? Like, 420 00:20:37,880 --> 00:20:39,680 Speaker 2: what what's your takeaway? 421 00:20:40,119 --> 00:20:42,800 Speaker 1: You know me and my I felt bad for her. 422 00:20:43,800 --> 00:20:46,040 Speaker 1: I felt so bad for her. I mean, what a 423 00:20:46,240 --> 00:20:49,640 Speaker 1: dark place to be. It was one thing after another 424 00:20:49,800 --> 00:20:54,480 Speaker 1: after another, and not loving your own body. I mean, 425 00:20:54,640 --> 00:20:57,280 Speaker 1: your body's failing you because of something. At least she 426 00:20:57,440 --> 00:21:00,440 Speaker 1: was smart enough to take them out, but she still 427 00:21:00,520 --> 00:21:01,040 Speaker 1: not there. 428 00:21:01,520 --> 00:21:04,159 Speaker 2: Yeah, but she's so I had a different take on it. 429 00:21:05,200 --> 00:21:11,000 Speaker 3: Everything I've read says that she thought the breast implants 430 00:21:11,160 --> 00:21:14,720 Speaker 3: caused the quote unquote parasite or plural. 431 00:21:14,800 --> 00:21:14,960 Speaker 4: We did. 432 00:21:15,200 --> 00:21:17,560 Speaker 1: She didn't dive into that too much, no, she but 433 00:21:17,680 --> 00:21:18,000 Speaker 1: then she. 434 00:21:18,160 --> 00:21:21,320 Speaker 3: Said maybe it wasn't that. So you know, that's like 435 00:21:21,400 --> 00:21:24,000 Speaker 3: the question of the hour. I'm curious Brittany. 436 00:21:23,720 --> 00:21:28,040 Speaker 1: Had big blister, boiled pimple, and you didn't know why 437 00:21:28,200 --> 00:21:30,000 Speaker 1: she went through crazy. 438 00:21:29,640 --> 00:21:32,359 Speaker 3: Things with the same I gotta say one thing about 439 00:21:32,400 --> 00:21:35,840 Speaker 3: her dating. Obviously she's not in a position now to date, 440 00:21:36,280 --> 00:21:37,359 Speaker 3: but you know, you know. 441 00:21:37,520 --> 00:21:38,240 Speaker 2: She's coming back. 442 00:21:38,280 --> 00:21:40,760 Speaker 3: She's talking about the belt around her waist, she wants 443 00:21:40,800 --> 00:21:43,679 Speaker 3: to wear her stiletto heels. You know, here's the thing 444 00:21:43,720 --> 00:21:47,040 Speaker 3: that concerns me. Even though this is a podcast about dating. 445 00:21:47,760 --> 00:21:50,520 Speaker 3: You and I are further down the road than Brandy 446 00:21:50,720 --> 00:21:53,600 Speaker 3: in terms of parenting, right. And when she was saying 447 00:21:53,880 --> 00:21:57,320 Speaker 3: I'm gonna be wherever my boys are, I was like, honey, 448 00:21:57,880 --> 00:22:01,040 Speaker 3: you have no idea, because you and I both know 449 00:22:01,600 --> 00:22:05,000 Speaker 3: oftentimes it doesn't work out that way and you can't 450 00:22:05,040 --> 00:22:06,199 Speaker 3: make your life your children. 451 00:22:06,720 --> 00:22:09,639 Speaker 1: No, and your her ex husband is remarried and they 452 00:22:09,720 --> 00:22:13,640 Speaker 1: have a little family unit there, and that's probably torture 453 00:22:13,760 --> 00:22:14,000 Speaker 1: for her. 454 00:22:14,560 --> 00:22:16,960 Speaker 2: I didn't get the sense she was over him either, 455 00:22:18,520 --> 00:22:18,760 Speaker 2: did you. 456 00:22:19,000 --> 00:22:22,399 Speaker 1: I think he just shocked her when that happened. You know, 457 00:22:22,480 --> 00:22:26,159 Speaker 1: it's her world, Yes, it has, it has and I 458 00:22:26,280 --> 00:22:29,920 Speaker 1: think she is ready, like she probably hates him still, 459 00:22:30,680 --> 00:22:34,040 Speaker 1: she hates him now, but she's ready to find somebody. 460 00:22:34,359 --> 00:22:36,800 Speaker 1: She doesn't want to get married, and which is fine 461 00:22:36,840 --> 00:22:40,119 Speaker 1: that when you're over fifty enough you don't have to 462 00:22:40,359 --> 00:22:43,200 Speaker 1: get married, but you do want someone in your life. 463 00:22:43,200 --> 00:22:43,359 Speaker 4: You know. 464 00:22:43,640 --> 00:22:44,879 Speaker 2: I agree. 465 00:22:45,200 --> 00:22:47,480 Speaker 3: The other thing, I was talking with the guy the 466 00:22:47,560 --> 00:22:51,080 Speaker 3: other night and he was saying, which was lucky for me, 467 00:22:51,720 --> 00:22:57,359 Speaker 3: that he has learned that he prefers to date a widow, 468 00:22:57,840 --> 00:23:01,680 Speaker 3: lucky for me. And I asked him, yes he did, 469 00:23:02,000 --> 00:23:05,440 Speaker 3: He said because many and he's divorced himself, but he 470 00:23:05,480 --> 00:23:07,440 Speaker 3: said he's healed. Of course, men always come out of 471 00:23:07,480 --> 00:23:11,560 Speaker 3: it unscathed. He said that the women he's dated who 472 00:23:11,600 --> 00:23:16,680 Speaker 3: have been divorced have trust issues, anger issues, and he goes, 473 00:23:16,760 --> 00:23:19,480 Speaker 3: you know, I'm like in an age, I didn't cheat 474 00:23:19,520 --> 00:23:21,399 Speaker 3: on her. I didn't, you know, I don't want to 475 00:23:21,520 --> 00:23:24,639 Speaker 3: spend my time no, but he's yeah, but he no, 476 00:23:24,800 --> 00:23:27,680 Speaker 3: he's talking about that. I don't want to be the 477 00:23:28,119 --> 00:23:30,360 Speaker 3: what he said that like the punching bag that wasn't 478 00:23:30,400 --> 00:23:34,560 Speaker 3: already used for a woman who's gone through a terrible 479 00:23:34,640 --> 00:23:37,640 Speaker 3: divorce because of cheating. And it made me wonder if 480 00:23:37,800 --> 00:23:40,840 Speaker 3: Brandy will ever I wanted her. I wish I had 481 00:23:40,920 --> 00:23:42,560 Speaker 3: said that to her. You know, you've got to find 482 00:23:42,600 --> 00:23:45,480 Speaker 3: a way to learn to trust again, because there is 483 00:23:45,640 --> 00:23:49,760 Speaker 3: no good relationship, marriage or otherwise if you don't have trust. 484 00:23:50,040 --> 00:23:53,560 Speaker 1: This is true. This is true. And I dated, well 485 00:23:53,960 --> 00:23:57,399 Speaker 1: sort of. It never really happens a man that was widowed, 486 00:23:57,600 --> 00:24:05,639 Speaker 1: and unfortunately I reminded him of his wife Kathy. When 487 00:24:05,680 --> 00:24:08,719 Speaker 1: I saw the picture, it frightened me. Really, we were 488 00:24:08,960 --> 00:24:12,560 Speaker 1: like clone, same haircut. She was a hairdresser, and we 489 00:24:12,880 --> 00:24:15,880 Speaker 1: had such great chemistry. He came to when I lived 490 00:24:15,880 --> 00:24:17,399 Speaker 1: in the city, to the condo and we went to 491 00:24:17,480 --> 00:24:21,240 Speaker 1: a big holiday party together and he was like, we're 492 00:24:21,480 --> 00:24:23,720 Speaker 1: very attracted to each other. But he said, I can't 493 00:24:23,760 --> 00:24:27,000 Speaker 1: do it, Susan, I'll compare you constantly. So it's a 494 00:24:27,160 --> 00:24:27,720 Speaker 1: it's a thing. 495 00:24:28,160 --> 00:24:28,360 Speaker 2: Yeah. 496 00:24:28,920 --> 00:24:31,640 Speaker 3: I mean, I haven't found that I haven't met men 497 00:24:32,040 --> 00:24:33,639 Speaker 3: in the in the dates I've had, and you know, 498 00:24:33,800 --> 00:24:35,639 Speaker 3: I'm starting to date a little bit more now. 499 00:24:36,240 --> 00:24:38,879 Speaker 4: I am not seen. 500 00:24:40,119 --> 00:24:42,720 Speaker 3: I actually try not to date men. I agree, that 501 00:24:42,840 --> 00:24:44,520 Speaker 3: remind me of my husband, but I haven't found that 502 00:24:44,600 --> 00:24:47,680 Speaker 3: to be an issue. But listening to Brandy, I mean, yes, 503 00:24:47,920 --> 00:24:50,800 Speaker 3: right now, she's healing. She's been through three years of horror. 504 00:24:51,240 --> 00:24:54,080 Speaker 1: Yes, three years, that's a long time. 505 00:24:54,119 --> 00:24:55,399 Speaker 2: In pajamas, I get it. 506 00:24:55,800 --> 00:24:58,840 Speaker 3: But you can since she was out on Valentine's Day, 507 00:24:59,320 --> 00:25:02,280 Speaker 3: she's getting you Drew back, and it's going to come 508 00:25:02,400 --> 00:25:05,280 Speaker 3: time for her to put on those sexy heels and 509 00:25:06,359 --> 00:25:06,960 Speaker 3: have a date. 510 00:25:06,920 --> 00:25:08,280 Speaker 2: Those clothes and have a date. 511 00:25:08,400 --> 00:25:10,680 Speaker 3: And I guess, Brandy, if you're listening, which I hope 512 00:25:10,720 --> 00:25:12,480 Speaker 3: you are, First of all, you are a delight. 513 00:25:12,640 --> 00:25:14,400 Speaker 2: I would love Susan. I would love to go out 514 00:25:14,400 --> 00:25:15,600 Speaker 2: with you in your life some time. 515 00:25:16,400 --> 00:25:19,040 Speaker 3: But secondly, do what you got to do to learn 516 00:25:19,080 --> 00:25:22,320 Speaker 3: how to trust again, because there is no good relationship. 517 00:25:22,440 --> 00:25:24,200 Speaker 2: I swear that's true. Do you agree with that? 518 00:25:24,560 --> 00:25:27,920 Speaker 1: Yes, I totally do. And it's hard. It's hard when 519 00:25:28,000 --> 00:25:29,919 Speaker 1: you were done wrong to trust. 520 00:25:30,560 --> 00:25:34,479 Speaker 3: Yeah, well, we'll see, Brandy. Keep us up today, let 521 00:25:34,560 --> 00:25:37,000 Speaker 3: us know how things are going. And for the rest 522 00:25:37,080 --> 00:25:41,399 Speaker 3: of you, are you feeling stuck in chapter two? Email 523 00:25:41,520 --> 00:25:44,399 Speaker 3: us or call us. All the info is in the 524 00:25:44,520 --> 00:25:46,240 Speaker 3: show notes. 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