Speaker 1: All right, welcome back to the podcast. I got ant
Speaker 1: Man with me and we've been talking for probably forty
Speaker 1: five minutes, I know, right, and we do this a lot,
Speaker 1: and we said, man, we should have been recording. But
Speaker 1: I'm glad you're with me. If you want to email
Speaker 1: me a question for this podcast, will answer it for you,
Speaker 1: and the email is podcast at grangersmith dot com. We'll
Speaker 1: walk through it. Ant Man actually checks them.
Speaker 2: Do you do.
Speaker 1: You have a pretty good handle on what people will
Speaker 1: ask you on any given day.
Speaker 2: No, really, it's all over the place, and some of
Speaker 2: them are some of them are questions that you answer
Speaker 2: quite frequently, and even you know one I think that
Speaker 2: if it's all right with you to start this podcast with,
Speaker 2: is that people want to know how to find a
Speaker 2: good church? Okay all the time? Yeah, I'm like, could
Speaker 2: we just like could take and read podcasts, just be
Speaker 2: a sponsor. That's where we always point, right, Yeah.
Speaker 1: Yeah, And I haven't looked at a single question that
Speaker 1: we have q today, And so that one, how to
Speaker 1: find a good church? Really is it is a difficult one,
Speaker 1: and so it's a good question to ask because it's
Speaker 1: not I can't say, well, here's here's what you look for.
Speaker 1: But I could say this because Marshall and I kind
Speaker 1: of started that series. I don't I don't know what
Speaker 1: we're calling it. What is a good church or something
Speaker 1: like that. We did two of those episodes, and we
Speaker 1: should probably do more.
Speaker 2: You answered emails and then you answered people's comments.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, which people could do now that we post
Speaker 1: all of these podcasts on YouTube as well, So if
Speaker 1: you're not watching on YouTube, if you're watching on any
Speaker 1: other platform, you can go to YouTube at some point
Speaker 1: and comment on that video of this episode and we'll
Speaker 1: double down on your questions there, and then we're going
Speaker 1: to continue this idea Marshall and I on on what
Speaker 1: makes a good church. That's great because if you know
Speaker 1: what makes a good church, then you'll know what is
Speaker 1: a good church. And when you know what is a
Speaker 1: good church, you'll know how to find it. You'll know
Speaker 1: what to look for when you're asking the question where
Speaker 1: do I find it? And it is difficult.
Speaker 2: It does.
Speaker 1: For some people. It could be easy because it's right
Speaker 1: down the road from you. For other people, it might
Speaker 1: require a pretty significant sacrifice for you and your family, uprooting,
Speaker 1: even moving to another town, which I think you and
Speaker 1: I would both say is worth it. If you don't
Speaker 1: have a healthy church in your town and you're not
Speaker 1: being fed, you're not being nourished, then I think it
Speaker 1: would be a wise move for a father to move
Speaker 1: his family to a town that has one in order
Speaker 1: to make a drive.
Speaker 2: And not a church that makes you feel good, but
Speaker 2: a church that you know is feeding you the word.
Speaker 2: You're being led by the word. I mean, and I
Speaker 2: would personal opinion and experience is start with the one closest.
Speaker 2: If you know what a good godly church looks like,
Speaker 2: start with the one closest to you, because that's going
Speaker 2: to be in the community then every day. But if
Speaker 2: you can't it's not there, continue to move out.
Speaker 1: Yeah, because you also want it to be a place
Speaker 1: that's you could drive to it with with ease for
Speaker 1: the for different things that are going on exactly including
Speaker 1: Sunday morning.
Speaker 2: Be a part of it every you know, in some
Speaker 2: form or fashion. A few times a week at my church,
Speaker 2: I go and help them with some video stuff throughout
Speaker 2: the week and social media and we shoot some of
Speaker 2: that video during the week. And I love that that
Speaker 2: it's just down the road from me, so it doesn't
Speaker 2: take very long to get to and I think involved
Speaker 2: and and work with them, you know, a couple of
Speaker 2: times during the week every week.
Speaker 1: Yes, absolutely, And our churches are kind of sister church.
Speaker 2: That's right.
Speaker 1: So I want everyone to check this out and this
Speaker 1: will just this will answer your question. Write this down,
Speaker 1: check this out. Pause the podcast right now. If this
Speaker 1: is a question you're actually having, where do I find
Speaker 1: a good church? If that's actually a question you're having,
Speaker 1: pause the podcast real quick and write this down. A
Speaker 1: book called What is a Healthy Church? What is a
Speaker 1: Healthy Church? And if you're not a reader, it's a
Speaker 1: very very short book, easy to read. If you're not
Speaker 1: a reader, then get the audiobook. The audiobook is really
Speaker 1: good and super easy. Just takes a couple hours to
Speaker 1: listen to this pretty short audiobook. So and twice the
Speaker 1: time that you would listen to one of these podcasts,
Speaker 1: you could finish this book and we can continue this conversation.
Speaker 1: That's written by a man named Mark Dever, a pastor
Speaker 1: who's also a dear friend of mine. And I'm gonna
Speaker 1: be with him tomorrow.
Speaker 2: You talked about him. Yeah, sometimes, I'll.
Speaker 1: Be with him tomorrow. He's in Washington, d C. And
Speaker 1: so after some stuff I have to do tomorrow here
Speaker 1: in Texas, I'm gonna fly out there to spend the
Speaker 1: night with him and his wife and then spend the
Speaker 1: day with them and then.
Speaker 2: Come home nice. So that's really cool.
Speaker 1: Yeah, So that's that's that's a quick way to answer
Speaker 1: that question. But then we have the questions you guys
Speaker 1: have asked to podcast at Granger's. And I haven't touched these.
Speaker 2: Right, you haven't even looked at them. I just saw
Speaker 2: you open it up.
Speaker 1: I've not even looked at them. Sometimes I actually do
Speaker 1: scan and see what I'm getting into. I have not
Speaker 1: even scanned these, So I'm gonna read them and you're
Speaker 1: gonna hear them on this podcast for the first time.
Speaker 1: The first one is from Kaylin says, Hey, Grade, your
Speaker 1: name is Kaylin. I was wondering what you thought about
Speaker 1: age differences in relationships, Specifically, is it weird to date
Speaker 1: someone a year or two younger than you in high school?
Speaker 1: I would obviously want to make sure the guy is
Speaker 1: mature and not going to bring me down, but rather
Speaker 1: build me up in my walk with the Lord, but
Speaker 1: I wanted to know your thoughts. Also, what about where
Speaker 1: one person is older and goes to college, and the
Speaker 1: other one is in high school. Now these are very
Speaker 1: specific questions, but I just want to know your thoughts, okay, Kaylin.
Speaker 1: So Caylen's got some stuff in mind here, he's obviously
Speaker 1: objective here. Now, okay, this is all over the map.
Speaker 1: Typically what you see is actually is younger than you.
Speaker 2: She's younger than me.
Speaker 1: How many years?
Speaker 2: Six? Okay? Six six years.
Speaker 1: Typically you just see girls being younger than guys, including
Speaker 1: young dating. Uh, and that usually starts young because of maturity, right,
Speaker 1: you know, and London is not dating. She's twelve, she's
Speaker 1: not dating. But when I look at her class right now,
Speaker 1: in seventh grade, she's like two grades ahead of the
Speaker 1: boys in maturity. Yeah, all the boys in a class,
Speaker 1: I'm like, they're like still playing with g I. Joe's
Speaker 1: pretty much you know, like Joe boys. You know, they're
Speaker 1: little boys in seventh grade. But the girls are like
Speaker 1: young ladies. Right, So there's a big there is a
Speaker 1: big discrepancy. So no, the short answer, Kaylin, is that
Speaker 1: I don't have a problem at all about age differences
Speaker 1: and relationships. But but maybe the more important thing to
Speaker 1: think about is life differences. You got a guy in college,
Speaker 1: a man in college, and he's he's twenty one, and
Speaker 1: he's legal drinking age, he's been living away from his family,
Speaker 1: independent from his hometown. Maybe he's in college, and then
Speaker 1: he's dating a seventeen year old junior in high school
Speaker 1: and she's in a completely different life situation. I think
Speaker 1: I would have a problem with that. I think I
Speaker 1: we'd have to really look at the details of what's
Speaker 1: going on with this particular relationship. I wouldn't encourage it.
Speaker 1: For London, We'll put.
Speaker 2: It that way. It's only four years difference when you
Speaker 2: think about that. One's twenty one, someone's seventeen, and life
Speaker 2: is different then. But the older you get, the more
Speaker 2: that difference shrinks. Yeah, So like here, I'm forty seven,
Speaker 2: my wife getting ready to be forty one. There's I mean,
Speaker 2: we're kind of on the on the same And also
Speaker 2: maturity wise, I think still applies when you're an adult.
Speaker 2: Sometimes she's way more mature than I am, you know,
Speaker 2: being six years younger than me. But I think that
Speaker 2: difference shrinks when you get into your twenties thirties.
Speaker 1: Yes, yeah, and even just a few years later. So
Speaker 1: seventeen and twenty one changes drastically when it's twenty one,
Speaker 1: twenty five exactly, Like that's not a big deal at all.
Speaker 1: You don't even think twice about twenty to twenty four.
Speaker 1: You don't even think twice about it. She's in college,
Speaker 1: he's in college. And once again, I think that's more
Speaker 1: more to do with the life situation.
Speaker 2: Sure, and you don't even get into legality legal life exactly,
Speaker 2: there's a lot you know, just what may be implied
Speaker 2: that's at twenty one and seventeen. There's a pretty significant
Speaker 2: legal hurdle there, or you know, just imply like I said,
Speaker 2: just implied, you know, if you're alone at night, you know,
Speaker 2: in a car, there's a there's some things there that
Speaker 2: could could get you in some as the one that's older,
Speaker 2: get you in some real trouble. Yeah.
Speaker 1: So, Caitlyn, here's here's the second thing I'm going to say,
Speaker 1: and that kind of goes to what Antman was just saying.
Speaker 1: You said, let me let me pick apart your since read.
Speaker 1: I obviously want to make sure my guy is the
Speaker 1: guy is mature and not going to bring me down,
Speaker 1: but rather build me up in my walk with the Lord.
Speaker 1: But I wanted to know your thoughts. My thoughts are,
Speaker 1: if you're asking my opinion, I don't think you should
Speaker 1: be dating right now. I don't think you're looking for
Speaker 1: a boy a boyfriend to be the one to lift
Speaker 1: you up. Using the language of the apostle Paul and
Speaker 1: using that in terms of this boyfriend, I think is
Speaker 1: a wrong application for Hey, I'm looking for a boyfriend
Speaker 1: that's going to build me up and not tear me down.
Speaker 1: You know, I don't think. I don't think you should
Speaker 1: be dating. And if you were, if you're in my household,
Speaker 1: I would discourage it. I would say you're going to
Speaker 1: be dating with the intention to marry. And I don't
Speaker 1: think from this email that sounds like this is the deal.
Speaker 1: It's more like, Hey, I just want to check a box.
Speaker 1: Have a boyfriend, and I want to make sure he's
Speaker 1: in the right age bracket for me, and I want
Speaker 1: to make sure he's building me up in the lord.
Speaker 1: But I didn't hear any kind of language of I
Speaker 1: want to marry one day, and so in order to
Speaker 1: seek the man that I want to marry, I want
Speaker 1: to be looking for this or that. It doesn't sound
Speaker 1: like the language that she's using. Well, and I have
Speaker 1: why I'm gonna look up another book where you're.
Speaker 2: Saying the same feelings that you do. And I think
Speaker 2: a lot of that is because we're both girl dads.
Speaker 2: You're going to have that that opinion and that thought
Speaker 2: definitely from girl dads. No wait, you know, And that's
Speaker 2: it's great advice because you know, father is your is
Speaker 2: the daughter's a leader and guide and and you're directing
Speaker 2: them towards Christ in what you're doing and how you're
Speaker 2: living and not having another guy come in and inject,
Speaker 2: you know, his his thoughts and it's just me as
Speaker 2: a father. That's kind of what I think, you know.
Speaker 2: And I have a twenty two year old daughter who's
Speaker 2: been dating a guy for a while now, love him,
Speaker 2: love them, but it's still there's a little part of
Speaker 2: going nobody's really good enough for her. Yeah, you know,
Speaker 2: and even though he is great.
Speaker 1: This is one of the reasons I love having you
Speaker 1: on this podcast is because you could talk and I
Speaker 1: could look up another book you.
Speaker 2: So.
Speaker 1: Another friend of mine, Jonathan mccluda, has a book called Outdated,
Speaker 1: So Caitlin, I would highly recommend this book. Once again,
Speaker 1: if you're not a reader, there's an audio book to
Speaker 1: this that's excellent. Once again it's called out dated. One
Speaker 1: word outdated. I think it would be great. Have you
Speaker 1: read this one chance? Yeah? Maybe grab this one for
Speaker 1: you too, for you know, future, yes, future things that
Speaker 1: might be happening with your girls. Okay, maybe the next
Speaker 1: question will bring up another book as well. Comes from
Speaker 1: Kyle sos hegre and German. Name is Kyle. Just recently
Speaker 1: got into your podcast and I read your book like
Speaker 1: a river, and although I haven't experienced that kind of loss,
Speaker 1: it was still eye opening. I have picked up my
Speaker 1: Bible reading every day since I heard John fourteen twenty
Speaker 1: two to twenty four. Thank you for putting that out
Speaker 1: there for all of us to hear what God wants.
Speaker 1: I wasn't reading it at all before, and I'm super
Speaker 1: and I'm excited to dive deeper into God's word. But
Speaker 1: I still have some things that I need to change,
Speaker 1: like my productiveness. So I started reading Miracle Mourning, since
Speaker 1: self help isn't necessarily bad, but we have to be
Speaker 1: careful with it. As a follower of Christ. I noticed
Speaker 1: how quickly he doesn't I noticed quickly how he doesn't
Speaker 1: mention God but brings up prayer and faith. He never
Speaker 1: says who he prays to or what his faith is in. Instead,
Speaker 1: he says, we have the power to do what we want.
Speaker 1: I know that God is the only one in control.
Speaker 1: The routine is still a solid idea, but I wanted
Speaker 1: to know what your miracle morning looks like with God
Speaker 1: being a part of it. I can't make these drastic
Speaker 1: changes from laziness to being productive and exercising without him.
Speaker 1: All your advices appreciated. Thanks Kyle. All Right, Kyle, Hey,
Speaker 1: great question. And and yet it's funny a book came
Speaker 1: up again, and I think I think it's great that
Speaker 1: we get that we get to talk about We get
Speaker 1: to talk about books like this because if anyone listens
Speaker 1: to the podcast and wants to kind of hear more
Speaker 1: about it and answer, I have so much of what
Speaker 1: I answer is based on books, most of which being
Speaker 1: the Bible. But how how L Rod, He's another friend
Speaker 1: of mine that wrote them Miracle Morning, and I became
Speaker 1: friends with how after I became a Christian, and I
Speaker 1: became friends with how after I wrote Like a River,
Speaker 1: and Like a River references Miracle Morning.
Speaker 2: That's right.
Speaker 1: Miracle Morning is self help book that Basically, it kind
Speaker 1: of designs and lays out a systematic, practical way to
Speaker 1: organize your mourning so that you get more.
Speaker 2: Done, Okay productive.
Speaker 1: Yes, And How I've been on his podcast, We've we
Speaker 1: spoke numerous times, and he tells me that he is
Speaker 1: a Christian. But it's but it's obvious when he writes
Speaker 1: and when he posts on social media that he tries
Speaker 1: to stay neutral, not to make anybody mad. I personally
Speaker 1: strongly disagree with that that kind of approach, and and
Speaker 1: How understands that I feel that way. It's interesting if
Speaker 1: you go to how El Rod's social media and I'll
Speaker 1: just gad to put this out there because because I
Speaker 1: love How and if he listens to this, I think
Speaker 1: you would understand where I'm coming from. But it's interesting
Speaker 1: when he puts out very kind of a uni versalist material,
Speaker 1: just kind of talking about the higher power, we all,
Speaker 1: you know, whatever you're looking for, I hope you hope
Speaker 1: you find it. I noticed that that doesn't really get
Speaker 1: great engagement in.
Speaker 2: Yeah, because it's neutral. There's not a lot of cuture.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Yeah, there's not a lot to engage with when it's neutral.
Speaker 1: And I think if he would come out and just
Speaker 1: claim Christ and exclusivity of Christ. Then he would see
Speaker 1: higher engagement, a lot more hate, but he would also
Speaker 1: you would just see higher engagement.
Speaker 2: In general. A lot of people see and this is
Speaker 2: not a social media question, but a lot of people
Speaker 2: see negative social media interaction as being negative. And it's
Speaker 2: not necessarily right. It's right. It's engagement if you just
Speaker 2: strip away spirituality, any of this stuff, just your actual
Speaker 2: engagement with people. It doesn't read what they wrote, it
Speaker 2: read it read that they interacted with it. So on
Speaker 2: the on the surface, that right there is just great.
Speaker 2: I mean, so if you were saying something that's in
Speaker 2: the middle of neutral, there's nothing for me to attach to.
Speaker 2: There's nothing for me to agree with, there's nothing for
Speaker 2: me to disagree with, you know, And just just having
Speaker 2: having that stance again, take take your beliefs out of it.
Speaker 2: Just that stance in the social media world is just
Speaker 2: kind of in limbo. You're just floating. And if you
Speaker 2: have whether it be political, spiritual, whatever it is, you
Speaker 2: have much more, much bigger chance of that being a
Speaker 2: successful post or interaction there, regardless of what the comments are. Yeah,
Speaker 2: it's so true.
Speaker 1: I have to learn that every day because I see
Speaker 1: things and I'm like, oh, man, they hate me.
Speaker 2: It's so personal for so many people too, especially if
Speaker 2: you spend time and energy and it's something you really
Speaker 2: believe and somebody doesn't. Oh what, why are they trash?
Speaker 1: Man?
Speaker 2: That's not even what I meant. It was an interaction
Speaker 2: you just had with somebody.
Speaker 1: Man. When it gets into theology, you get some very
Speaker 1: strong reactions. I remember one time, this is fun. This
Speaker 1: is a good example of this. I was in a
Speaker 1: systematic theology class and listening to my professor talking about
Speaker 1: a very specific topic, reading some early Church Fathers with
Speaker 1: a very specific idea. I honestly don't even remember exactly
Speaker 1: what it was, and I posted it me sitting at
Speaker 1: my desk, and I just went to the lecture and
Speaker 1: I was like, wow, this is this is really interesting.
Speaker 1: And I had my systematic theology book and I and
Speaker 1: I talked about the idea the professor brought up, and
Speaker 1: then I quoted the early Church father and said it
Speaker 1: on social media, and one of the comments on there
Speaker 1: was like, yikes, sounds like we need you need a
Speaker 1: little bit more systematic theology and a little less country music.
Speaker 1: It's like he just he just read it without even
Speaker 1: and I was thinking to myself, literally came out of
Speaker 1: a system.
Speaker 2: I had no idea. No, he had no idea.
Speaker 1: That was his reaction of hate. It's like, who's this
Speaker 1: country singer guy that thinks he knows anything? And it
Speaker 1: was I was actually just regurgitating an old idea. Oh
Speaker 1: interesting anyway, Okay, so not Kyle's question at All's question
Speaker 1: is actually perfect to have ant man with us because
Speaker 1: you and I kind of walked through our morning routines
Speaker 1: and we've kind of shared ideas from that, and I
Speaker 1: think lately I've thought that I should actually build some
Speaker 1: kind of ordered list that I could post, you can share,
Speaker 1: I could share, and then we could And I see
Speaker 1: all these self help guys that seem to have these
Speaker 1: followings of guys that will do what they do. So
Speaker 1: I've been thinking lately, like, why wouldn't I do what
Speaker 1: some of these other guys like Ed Milette has all
Speaker 1: these guys that follow his morning routine. Why wouldn't I
Speaker 1: put my morning routine out and then get people to
Speaker 1: kind of subscribe to that.
Speaker 2: Jump in on.
Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, so I am open the change. I'm open
Speaker 1: to rearranging some things. But this is where I am today,
Speaker 1: as of this morning. I will wake up and the
Speaker 1: time I wake up, I work hard to wake up
Speaker 1: seven hours from when I.
Speaker 2: Go to sleep.
Speaker 1: Okay, So if I'm going to bed at ten twenty,
Speaker 1: I set my alarm for five twenty.
Speaker 2: Okay.
Speaker 1: If I go to bed and I'm in bed at like,
Speaker 1: not like.
Speaker 2: Going to bed or going to sleep, because for me,
Speaker 2: it's two very different things.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that that's where the new ones got it. I
Speaker 1: could usually fall asleep in about five minutes on a
Speaker 1: normal day, okay, so I can go. So I look
Speaker 1: at my watch, say it's say it's ten twenty five,
Speaker 1: and I go, I'll five thirty because that gives me
Speaker 1: five minutes to go to sleep.
Speaker 2: Wow.
Speaker 1: And then I wear a garment. So the one of
Speaker 1: the first things I do when I wake up is
Speaker 1: see how much I got. It'll tell me, oh, vere
Speaker 1: you got seven hours and five minutes. I'm like okay.
Speaker 1: Sometimes it says you got six fifty one. I'm like, ah, okay,
Speaker 1: I kind of missed it on.
Speaker 2: That one a little bit.
Speaker 1: But I do my best to get up seven hours
Speaker 1: there and I try to let Amber get eight. That's
Speaker 1: an interesting thing.
Speaker 2: So you've got your getting at least an hour just alone.
Speaker 1: Well, yes, that's correct. But also Heith Evans, who's a
Speaker 1: dear brother of mine in Fort Worth. He's a former
Speaker 1: NFL player and he was a announcer on the NFL
Speaker 1: network for a long time. But Heath one time he
Speaker 1: called me out on this because I was talking about
Speaker 1: just the busyness of life and lacking sleep. We're all
Speaker 1: lacking sleep, we understand that. But Heath called me and
Speaker 1: he goes, brother, you need to be getting seven hours
Speaker 1: of sleep, no matter what. You need to make sure
Speaker 1: you get seven hours sleep, and you need to make
Speaker 1: sure Amber gets eight hours. And he's like, real regiment,
Speaker 1: and I was sure.
Speaker 2: I was like, yes, sir, you got it. Changing tomorrow,
Speaker 2: he goes.
Speaker 1: I've done a lot of research on this and biologically
Speaker 1: the girls need an hour more than we do. So
Speaker 1: you need, as a spiritual leader of your household, you
Speaker 1: need to be making sure that Amber gets her eight
Speaker 1: hours and you don't need any more or any less
Speaker 1: than seven. Like, yes, sir, and I do agree with
Speaker 1: the no more or less because if I get a
Speaker 1: solid seven two eight between seven and eight, my body
Speaker 1: functions the exact same as it does if I get.
Speaker 2: Nine, right, but drastically different than if you get six.
Speaker 1: Drastically different than six.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I can see that.
Speaker 1: So I don't need to get any more, but I
Speaker 1: need to get the minimum. So that's kind of off topic,
Speaker 1: but that's what I try to do. I try to
Speaker 1: try to set it up where I'm getting seven. And
Speaker 1: then the first thing I do is I go in,
Speaker 1: I make I make a hydrated drink. I've been using
Speaker 1: this stuff called relyte. It's like a packet, hydration packet.
Speaker 1: Put it in my water bottle, shake it up, and
Speaker 1: I start making my coffee. Drink a little bit of that.
Speaker 2: So you drink all your water first and then you
Speaker 2: have your coffee.
Speaker 1: About half and then I kind of work through the
Speaker 1: water while I'm drinking coffee. Let the dog out, get
Speaker 1: my iPad ready to go to my little chair. I
Speaker 1: got a little heater next to my hair. This time
Speaker 1: of year, Yeah, started to get cool. Yeah, coffee, coffee
Speaker 1: is ready by now. And go into my McShane plan,
Speaker 1: which I've talked about a lot on this podcast. Read
Speaker 1: through the McShain plans about comes out to be about
Speaker 1: four chapters a day. Two from the Old Testament too,
Speaker 1: from the New. I do it on my iPad with
Speaker 1: an app called Logos. These are things if you listen
Speaker 1: to this podcast, I've said these things quite a bit,
Speaker 1: but I do it on the iPad because it's easy
Speaker 1: to just hit next, next, next, and it's loads the new.
Speaker 1: Whatever my text is. After that, I look for something
Speaker 1: that stood out to me in the text, and I
Speaker 1: will meditate on that for a few minutes and usually
Speaker 1: pot will not usually always, we'll post that on social media,
Speaker 1: on all all social media, with a little thought of
Speaker 1: mine behind whatever that text was.
Speaker 2: So all those posts that you do all come from
Speaker 2: that day.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it all comes from that day.
Speaker 2: That's great.
Speaker 1: And in fact, I used to in the old days,
Speaker 1: I used to say, I don't see anything today, I'll
Speaker 1: just go to something else. But now I forced listen off.
Speaker 1: I say, you got to you gotta find something from today.
Speaker 2: There's nuggets in yeah. So and for me it's usually
Speaker 2: when my mind has drifted. I can read because I
Speaker 2: read out loud to myself and I like to see
Speaker 2: it and hear it. Yeah, And so why I do that?
Speaker 2: And I don't know how, And I don't know if
Speaker 2: I could do this anything else. I can read every
Speaker 2: word on the page and my mind drift to something
Speaker 2: else while my mouth is still reading the word. Oh yeah,
Speaker 2: I'm like what, I don't know what I just read in.
Speaker 1: The last two I was doing that this morning. And
Speaker 1: then I gotta go. And but I'll just go back up.
Speaker 1: I'm in seconds the beginning of second Sam and I'm.
Speaker 2: Just like, wait, what, wait, what? What?
Speaker 1: What's happening with Abner? So I go back up again.
Speaker 1: And that's okay. I think. As the coffee goes in,
Speaker 1: I get it wakes me up a little bit more,
Speaker 1: so that's okay. But what it's doing is really it's
Speaker 1: it's softening my heart. I don't I don't pray. Besides,
Speaker 1: Lord opened my eyes to your word, maybe something gratitude
Speaker 1: for waking me up this morning. But other than that,
Speaker 1: I don't go too much deeper into prayer because my
Speaker 1: heart as hard as a rock. So I let that word.
Speaker 1: I learned that from George mut I'm an old diologian.
Speaker 1: He just said I tried to pray before I read
Speaker 1: my Bible and found out my heart as hard as
Speaker 1: a rock, and so the word softens me. So that
Speaker 1: really opens me up. So after the post and I
Speaker 1: go to my journal. I keep a journal every day.
Speaker 1: Digital write a little bit about what I just read,
Speaker 1: and then what's going on in the day, what happened yesterday,
Speaker 1: I go, I go. That's my prayer time. When I
Speaker 1: go into what you and I both do prayer notebook
Speaker 1: app and I'll pray through. That's my systematic prayer of
Speaker 1: the day, the kind of the one that's laid out
Speaker 1: and that takes about fifteen minutes. Typically that's like my
Speaker 1: average fifteen. Sometimes it's twenty five, sometimes it's ten, but
Speaker 1: it usually stays around around fifteen.
Speaker 2: That heart softening part is very, I think, very important
Speaker 2: for me. What I do is I do a song.
Speaker 2: I do a worship song that's awesome. Before I that
Speaker 2: is awesome, I do open the app and I use
Speaker 2: the Bible app and you can do the it's exact
Speaker 2: same plan, yes, the machine plan, but I use the
Speaker 2: Bible app and I'll open that up and before I read,
Speaker 2: I hit a song that is it's sometimes the great
Speaker 2: exact same song and it has been for me a
Speaker 2: thousand dolllias right now is I've just been listening to
Speaker 2: that song every morning before I start.
Speaker 1: You know I've done that, Yeah, and I think I
Speaker 1: think I should probably bring that back in. I think
Speaker 1: that's a good thing I should start tomorrow morning, is
Speaker 1: bringing the song back in, because I'll do the song later,
Speaker 1: and I think I think having that song early is helpful.
Speaker 1: Like I said at the beginning, I'm willing to change
Speaker 1: this routine.
Speaker 2: Well, you know that's what we do at service. When
Speaker 2: you welcome to your service, that's the first thing that happens.
Speaker 2: Everybody stand up, start singing a song.
Speaker 1: Yeah, art softening. Yeah, okay. So then after after the prayer,
Speaker 1: then I'll go into workout. Yeah, and I'll work out,
Speaker 1: and after a workout, which I do strength training, i
Speaker 1: will go to the treadmill and I'll do my Bible memory.
Speaker 2: Oh cool.
Speaker 1: Use an app called please, no not please, It's called
Speaker 1: remember Me. It's called remember Me. And yeah, I was
Speaker 1: thinking Timroth, please remember me. And so I'll go through that.
Speaker 1: I have my verses will come up that we can
Speaker 1: go to detail about that another time. And after that,
Speaker 1: I go into my cold plunge. Yes, the cold plunge.
Speaker 1: And man and I've been doing together what six months
Speaker 1: now or so?
Speaker 2: It has you know, Yes, it has been six months. Okay, yeah,
Speaker 2: right at six months now, it's never fun. How cold
Speaker 2: are you getting now?
Speaker 1: So I average I'm a little embarrassed to say, because
Speaker 1: I know you've got to be colder than me. I
Speaker 1: average about sixty okay.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and I have a little higher tolerance for cold.
Speaker 2: And I didn't think I did, but then I met
Speaker 2: you and like, oh, he doesn't have a tolerance for
Speaker 2: cold at all. When I hear what you're doing. Yeah,
Speaker 2: I've got average fifty two.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's a good average.
Speaker 2: I'll go below and I like it when I go low.
Speaker 2: It's something that day.
Speaker 1: Like a fifty two day for me is like a
Speaker 1: really cold day. Yeah, but I'm putting four bags in
Speaker 1: right now and let it sit for an hour here.
Speaker 2: That gets at the sixty tomorrow in real time. The
Speaker 2: highest sixty five, okay, and the low is thirty nine. Okay.
Speaker 2: You might really do tap water. You may just be
Speaker 2: able to do tapwater. That would be good.
Speaker 1: While I do the bath, I'm listening to one of
Speaker 1: the last two chapters typically that I just read that
Speaker 1: morning from the McShane. This morning was PSALM fifty. I
Speaker 1: chose between that and first first Corinthians thirteen. So I
Speaker 1: was like, which one should I do? And that's what
Speaker 1: I'll do. Which one should I do? Instead of one
Speaker 1: Corinthians thirteen? I picked Psalm fifty. I'll listen to that.
Speaker 1: I'll listened to it in a different translation than I
Speaker 1: read it. Oh yeah, and it speaks it and I
Speaker 1: will hear something that I hadn't heard before.
Speaker 2: That's cool And what's funny is that? And I don't
Speaker 2: know this is really important to anybody else, but ours
Speaker 2: are pretty much Our days are pretty much the same
Speaker 2: up until you go work out. I go to icebath
Speaker 2: then and then you when you're going to ice bath,
Speaker 2: I'm writing for you. Oh, I'm writing for after midnight.
Speaker 2: Then one you jumping after midnight, I go work out.
Speaker 1: Let's take it, let's take it back, and we'll get
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Speaker 1: and so then so then after the listening to which
Speaker 1: I use dwell a Dwell app, which I really like.
Speaker 1: After that, I guess after that you could say my
Speaker 1: day is beginning. Yeah, I typically will go back in
Speaker 1: if I don't beat the kids out. Sometimes I don't
Speaker 1: beat the kids getting ready for school, which is like
Speaker 1: seven five. If I could, it could, if I could
Speaker 1: find a place. Sometimes if I'm having a really good morning,
Speaker 1: I could do that stuff before. But typically I haven't
Speaker 1: worked out yet before I send the kids off, and
Speaker 1: then I've been reading Puritan prayers to them before they.
Speaker 2: Oh that's cool, they go to school, that's cool.
Speaker 1: That's yeah, that's a great book called Valley of Vision.
Speaker 2: I have a hard time with the these and the
Speaker 2: dows it is we rewrite it.
Speaker 1: It is the part that's an acquired taste, for sure,
Speaker 1: but that's got to be part of the charm of
Speaker 1: reading that though too, No one's part of the charm. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I I don't read The King James because of that. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but when it comes to the Puritans, I could tolerate it. Yeah, sure, yeah.
Speaker 1: Shall we go to the next question? Here have we
Speaker 1: thoroughly answered Kyle's questions?
Speaker 2: I even forgot what Kyle's question was at this point,
Speaker 2: but yes, I mean, yeah, yeah, looking back through it,
Speaker 2: I think so. So.
Speaker 1: If y'all want to email me the emails podcast at
Speaker 1: grangersmith dot com. The next one comes from Emily. Hey, Granger,
Speaker 1: I would love some input from you on parenting in
Speaker 1: this day of age, with the challenges of technology and
Speaker 1: social media, and what age do you feel as appropriate
Speaker 1: for kids to use YouTube, get their first cell phones,
Speaker 1: and have social media. My daughter just started kindergarting this fall,
Speaker 1: and I'm shocked over her friends being into Taylor Swift
Speaker 1: and watching our music videos already and dressing as her
Speaker 1: for Halloween, which we said no to. We made a
Speaker 1: rule that it's okay for her to listen to some
Speaker 1: of the Taylor songs, but no music videos or YouTube
Speaker 1: until she's older.
Speaker 2: It's hard to.
Speaker 1: Believe that we are facing this challenge with our five
Speaker 1: year old. I dread the day when she wants social media,
Speaker 1: and I know in my heart that she will. We
Speaker 1: will have to stand firm against it for her to benefit,
Speaker 1: for her benefit, How do you handle this and what
Speaker 1: are your rules or tips.
Speaker 2: That you might have?
Speaker 1: Thanks and God blessed.
Speaker 2: I was excited about this one. I want to put
Speaker 2: it in here. I really was. It's like these conversations.
Speaker 2: Oh but just that time in our life right now
Speaker 2: that this is like yep, and there's not a single
Speaker 2: parent And I don't care how old your kid is
Speaker 2: right now. I do if they're below twenty twenty five.
Speaker 2: Maybe we're having a conversation with this one, this one
Speaker 2: piece of fun.
Speaker 1: You know what I thought you were going to say, Tod,
Speaker 1: Not one single parent has figured this out.
Speaker 4: Well that's that's very true, and that's why we're continuing
Speaker 4: to have the conversation, right yeah, I mean, and everybody
Speaker 4: treats them in fact, there's also there's multiple questions in here.
Speaker 2: Yeah, one is about technology, one is about social media.
Speaker 2: One is about influencers. Let's just call tailors with that.
Speaker 2: Influencers and how you are allowing them to influence your
Speaker 2: family and your children and your life. Yeah, as an
Speaker 2: adult or as a kids, but more specifically as a kid.
Speaker 1: Yeah, pung that in. Yeah, okay, so let's dive into this.
Speaker 1: It's a great question. And Emily, first of all, I
Speaker 1: don't have this figured out. I don't have this figured
Speaker 1: out as good as my morning routine, but I'll heavily
Speaker 1: rely on a man as well. Everyone is kind of
Speaker 1: trying to navigate this the right way. And you know
Speaker 1: what I think is helpful is that we all have
Speaker 1: these conversations because Amber and I will learn a lot.
Speaker 1: We'll go, we'll take the family and go have dinner
Speaker 1: with another family. Oh yeah, and we'll go, we'll drive
Speaker 1: home and go. You see what they're doing about so
Speaker 1: and so that's good. Let's let's implement that.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: I hope maybe people do that with me. But but
Speaker 1: if we all kind of picked little things that we
Speaker 1: liked and kind of implemented because we all have our
Speaker 1: own rhythms, our own ages, and our kids. They all
Speaker 1: have their own likes. Like some kids that I've seen
Speaker 1: genuinely just love books. They just love to read. And
Speaker 1: so for that particular family, it's not difficult to get
Speaker 1: them to read. They hadn't needed to try to get
Speaker 1: him away from the books, like, hey, put the book
Speaker 1: down and come in here and socialize a little bit.
Speaker 2: With my son.
Speaker 1: Lincoln, he's opposite. It's so hard to get him to read.
Speaker 1: I have to negotiate all kinds of things to get
Speaker 1: him and try to come up here to this podcast room.
Speaker 1: And when I'm doing some reading myself, and I'll say,
Speaker 1: you sit here with me for fifteen minutes and read
Speaker 1: a check and then tell me what you just read.
Speaker 1: And usually it's like the Hardy Boys, Yeah, you know,
Speaker 1: but I have to I'm not ever going to catch
Speaker 1: Lincoln like off on his own with the Hardy Boys.
Speaker 2: He's but you will London, but.
Speaker 1: I will London more. I don't know about Maverick. Mavericks,
Speaker 1: He's own thing.
Speaker 2: He's fixing stuff.
Speaker 1: So my point with all of that is that different
Speaker 1: kids have different tendencies and different likes, and so that's
Speaker 1: why you can't just say here's the rule for everybody,
Speaker 1: because there's a lot of kids that will go, I
Speaker 1: have no interest in Taylor Swift at all, right, none,
Speaker 1: And so for you, for that person, they might say,
Speaker 1: it's easy, just tell them they can't watch Taylor Swift, right, Eat,
Speaker 1: it's easy for you to say, yeah, okay, so.
Speaker 2: And a lot of that's probably influenced from our school
Speaker 2: and her and other kids. That's right. That's how it
Speaker 2: was with our youngest daughter. And yeah, we had to
Speaker 2: navigate the exact same singer in the exact same situation here.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, totally. I see London is thirteen, Lincoln's about
Speaker 1: to be eleven, and I see with both of them
Speaker 1: they're friends on social media. Personally, in our house, we
Speaker 1: don't allow social media. I have told our kids I
Speaker 1: will give them ten thousand dollars if they get out
Speaker 1: of the house and never have a social media account.
Speaker 2: Oh wow, and that doesn't include YouTube.
Speaker 1: That doesn't I'm gonna get to that.
Speaker 2: Okay, got it.
Speaker 1: But but what's crazy is they have.
Speaker 2: To think about that.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, they're like ten thousand dollars or Instagram what
Speaker 1: or conversations and in an inclusion with my friends which
Speaker 1: is a big deal.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you know, yeah, that's a big deal at that age.
Speaker 1: Yeah, so I'm trying to let this play out amber
Speaker 1: and I need to be saving a little bit of money.
Speaker 2: That's like it because if they call your bluff on it.
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, it couldn't I figured out it had to
Speaker 1: be ten thousand. It couldn't be. It couldn't be two thousand.
Speaker 2: Well, ten thousand is so big. That's so big.
Speaker 1: It's so crazy of a number that it's way out there.
Speaker 1: Even five thousand, it's like, eh, I think I could.
Speaker 1: I would rather work a summer job in this day
Speaker 1: and have Instagram for us. It's property tax, so you know,
Speaker 1: yeah for a kid though, that's why out there. Yeah,
Speaker 1: so that's kind of where we are now. But the
Speaker 1: catches that ten thousand would also be going into like
Speaker 1: a car for college there you go, because then we
Speaker 1: could say, hey, we could use this ten for a
Speaker 1: reliable vehicle to get you to college. So I have
Speaker 1: my ways of being able to use it. So the
Speaker 1: YouTube is a good question though, like that's the gray area,
Speaker 1: and the gray area is this London has an account
Speaker 1: with twenty four thousand followers. I just asked her last night.
Speaker 2: Wow.
Speaker 1: And she makes money every month, ranging anywhere between one
Speaker 1: hundred and fifty dollars to up. I've seen seven hundred
Speaker 1: dollars a month.
Speaker 2: Wow. That's incredible. It is.
Speaker 1: And it's also a problem because she's like, it's my job, daddy,
Speaker 1: I have to make money.
Speaker 2: I have to.
Speaker 1: I'm like, hey, you're not supposed to be on YouTube,
Speaker 1: and she's like, but I have to because it's my job.
Speaker 2: So she's using that against me. But it's also a
Speaker 2: mindset that you try to instill in your kids. Do
Speaker 2: work hard, make money, you know, against each other. How
Speaker 2: are you navigating that?
Speaker 1: So we are monitoring every single thing she wants. She can't.
Speaker 1: First of all, the comments on her videos are turned off,
Speaker 1: so no one can comment on her videos, So she
Speaker 1: can't sit there and scroll comments. That's great. Uh, she's
Speaker 1: not allowed to be on YouTube shorts where she's scrolling,
Speaker 1: because that's pretty much social media. Yeah, that's TikTok, that's TikTok.
Speaker 1: But sometimes she'll post a video and then scroll her
Speaker 1: own videos, and so they're like, there's a little bit
Speaker 1: of a gray area there.
Speaker 2: Do you still see light counts? I see comments? Do
Speaker 2: you see I.
Speaker 1: Don't think there's likes, They're just views, is what she
Speaker 1: goes by.
Speaker 2: Okay, okay, so she's see some react.
Speaker 1: I'm not quite sure about that. So addictive. So we're
Speaker 1: working through that with Lincoln. Lincoln loves these junk YouTube
Speaker 1: channels that just literally talk about college football video games
Speaker 1: with the video that ncaa video game. It's these dudes
Speaker 1: playing this game. And he will watch these guys.
Speaker 2: And giving recommendations or just them playing.
Speaker 1: It's them playing and talking about it and like oh wow,
Speaker 1: you know, like using vintage players and they're like, Okay,
Speaker 1: now I'm gonna try to win this game, you know,
Speaker 1: by everybody in my roster's fourth team, fourth string, you know,
Speaker 1: like just weird, the weirdest stuff, and or like I'm
Speaker 1: gonna build my roster with everyone has to have a
Speaker 1: last name that starts with an s, you know, the
Speaker 1: most random strings. And he'll just watch these guys and
Speaker 1: so I'll call that trash TV. So he has to
Speaker 1: he can only have an option for trash TV on Saturdays,
Speaker 1: Fridays and Saturdays, but Friday half a day because he
Speaker 1: goes to school. But even that has a limit that changes.
Speaker 1: My kids are not allowed to have screens at all
Speaker 1: on Sunday. They're not allowed to have them Monday, Tuesday
Speaker 1: and Wednesday. But they can negotiate Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday through
Speaker 1: doing extra chores. But they can't watch trash, which is
Speaker 1: the reason they wanted anyway, the reason they want it.
Speaker 1: For London that's girls putting on makeup and for Lincoln
Speaker 1: that's football stuff. Constantly got it on Thursday afternoon they
Speaker 1: get them from school. They could watch some kind of
Speaker 1: educational something. Okay, well this is so complicated, but yes,
Speaker 1: you have to tailor it as you get along too.
Speaker 2: I mean you do if you're happy. It's either it
Speaker 2: can't really be for everything all or nothing all the time. Yeah.
Speaker 2: I mean, our youngest daughter has a phone right now,
Speaker 2: and she has an iPhone. But it me just saying that.
Speaker 2: You think, oh, she has an iPhone. She walks around
Speaker 2: with it. She doesn't know it's plugged in in my office.
Speaker 2: The only time she takes it is when we're going
Speaker 2: somewhere all together. Doesn't have other people's numbers in it,
Speaker 2: and they don't have hers. It's for us to get like,
Speaker 2: we'll give it to her if she's going with a
Speaker 2: friend and We tell her it stays in your fanny
Speaker 2: pack unless there's an emergency, and I will know if
Speaker 2: you've taken it out to do something. Yeah, And she's like, okay,
Speaker 2: how old is Grace? She's ten.
Speaker 1: So you remember just a few years ago, you and
Speaker 1: I would have both said here and been like, my
Speaker 1: daughter's not getting a phone until sixteen or eighteen.
Speaker 2: But that changes, It does life.
Speaker 1: It's not like we're giving in just the situation is
Speaker 1: changing around us so fast well.
Speaker 2: And it's giving her some responsibility in it, but with
Speaker 2: some very rigid guardrails. I say, rigid ones that we
Speaker 2: decide if they move or not. She doesn't just based
Speaker 2: on a whim or you know, I have you. She
Speaker 2: doesn't just have free reign with it. It doesn't.
Speaker 1: It never goes to one room ever, That's exactly right.
Speaker 1: I was going to say that. So phones are not
Speaker 1: allowed in room screens, and there can't go to rooms
Speaker 1: at all, and they have to be in the family
Speaker 1: living living space. And then Amber watches every single thing
Speaker 1: that they see because she has that Bark app. Bark
Speaker 1: monitors every single thing they do, so we're constantly looking.
Speaker 1: They don't have free rand to the internet. They don't
Speaker 1: have free Rando YouTube at all, and they can only
Speaker 1: watch channels that we have approved. I'll say that too.
Speaker 1: They can't just random like Lincoln watches those trash football things. Yes,
Speaker 1: but he's not allowed to go outside of that realm.
Speaker 1: He can't start like all of a sudden, watching this
Speaker 1: unless he comes up.
Speaker 2: Well.
Speaker 1: What she does occasionally says, hey, daddy, can can you
Speaker 1: check out this YouTuber real quick? See if you approve him?
Speaker 1: He does this and this and this, and I'll scan
Speaker 1: through it and I'll go yeah.
Speaker 2: Approved. To answer a little bit more for Emily, yes,
Speaker 2: even if you are. I think what a lot of
Speaker 2: parents think is I don't I don't know. I don't
Speaker 2: know how to get into all the settings and do
Speaker 2: all this stuff after. They don't know how to do
Speaker 2: it on their own phone, right, but they don't know
Speaker 2: how to go block things or set up the phone
Speaker 2: for the kid in order take the time learn you
Speaker 2: go on YouTube, because it'll tell I need to block
Speaker 2: sites for my kid's phone. How that type that in,
Speaker 2: It'll show you and it'll work. It'll step you through
Speaker 2: their phone how to walk things and how to monitor
Speaker 2: it all.
Speaker 1: Just like you said.
Speaker 2: A bark, you know, having the bark gap. But just
Speaker 2: take a little time. If you're gonna if you're gonna
Speaker 2: give them a phone or you're gonna give them some
Speaker 2: kind of access to it, just take the time and
Speaker 2: be responsible to uh set guardrails up. You wouldn't just
Speaker 2: hand them take a gas on a lighter and go,
Speaker 2: I mean, I don't know, let's see what happens with it.
Speaker 2: You would show them how okay, well the lighters for
Speaker 2: the grill and the tank of gas is for your lawnmower.
Speaker 2: You know, you would show them great.
Speaker 1: You know, no one would no one give them the
Speaker 1: keys to a car and go go out there and
Speaker 1: I hope you make the right turns.
Speaker 2: I hope. So yeah. But you know, for parents, you
Speaker 2: know you already know how that is, and it's easy
Speaker 2: for you to explain. The problem is most parents just
Speaker 2: don't know. Oh so then I don't take the time
Speaker 2: to educate themselves in it. It's changing like that. This
Speaker 2: side note I'm on the developer side of the from
Speaker 2: when we had the ee app radio app is that
Speaker 2: I'm on the developer side, so I get the actual
Speaker 2: developer betas for phone and iPad or whatever, and I'll
Speaker 2: do those and just stay up to date simply because
Speaker 2: then I can tell I tell my twenty two year
Speaker 2: old daughter things about the upcoming iOS and what it
Speaker 2: can do for you now and things you need to
Speaker 2: go turn so cool, just because mainly because I'm a
Speaker 2: nerd and I like, I like investigating that kind of stuff,
Speaker 2: but also to safeguard and keep my I've my stepdad
Speaker 2: it was super into computers when I knew him a
Speaker 2: long time. But now he called me the other day
Speaker 2: and he's like, I don't know how to get a
Speaker 2: picture from my phone to my computer. Can you help me? Like,
Speaker 2: you just didn't stay up on this, did you? He goes, No,
Speaker 2: just didn't didn't have a reason to like stay up
Speaker 2: on it. It's where the world's stay up on it,
Speaker 2: so you know and inform yourself. Yeah.
Speaker 1: And by the time so this good little girl and
Speaker 1: Emily's grow is five, yeah, exactly, So by the time
Speaker 1: she's she's Grace's age, it's going to be drastically different.
Speaker 1: So you can't take ant Man's advice for Grace at
Speaker 1: Grace being ten and then apply this to your daughter
Speaker 1: in five years.
Speaker 2: Because it's going to be different exactly very different.
Speaker 1: We were talking before stay up on It, before we
Speaker 1: start recording, A man and I were talking about chat
Speaker 1: GBT and treating that as social media for kids. So
Speaker 1: whenever you would allow your kids to have social media,
Speaker 1: that's also the time you would allow them to have
Speaker 1: chat GBT. Right we say that today, that might change
Speaker 1: next year it might be something totally different.
Speaker 2: I could see that that actually being a class in
Speaker 2: school how to properly use chat GPT. It's going to
Speaker 2: be that involved. I mean, your phone right now is
Speaker 2: learning how you write, from text to social media posts
Speaker 2: to your journal, all of that is being fed into
Speaker 2: your phone's intelligence. Your phone knows everything about you, how
Speaker 2: you think, how you write. It's moving that direction. That's
Speaker 2: really what the journal app is in your phone. It's
Speaker 2: collecting data from you. And you know, I think that
Speaker 2: if we don't teach kids how to do it responsibly,
Speaker 2: it's just going to get off the rails. I see
Speaker 2: that being a class. So if they're doing that in
Speaker 2: a class, that's one thing. But if they're using it
Speaker 2: to cheat in the class, to write their English papers,
Speaker 2: to help them with math. Help is one thing to
Speaker 2: finish your homework. That's a different story. Yeah, you can
Speaker 2: literally write now twelve plus twelve and it'll give you
Speaker 2: the answer. It gives you the answer. It's a equivalent
Speaker 2: to the calculator exactly exactly, exactly right.
Speaker 1: And I think right now what you're talking about CHAUDGBT
Speaker 1: in its form today is it's like a pager compared
Speaker 1: to FaceTime where it's going to be just in a.
Speaker 2: Few years, one hundred percent, we're.
Speaker 1: Going to look back and go, Man, remember when you
Speaker 1: actually have to type this stuff. Have you ever had
Speaker 1: conversations with CHADGBT in the audio.
Speaker 2: I don't do a lot of talking to it. I have,
Speaker 2: I have tried it. I don't. I haven't. I don't
Speaker 2: do that much. I use it very practically for the
Speaker 2: fiends that I'm that I'm writing, you know, on some
Speaker 2: of the other podcasts that I'll work on, I use
Speaker 2: it to write descriptions. I'll just take the transcript and
Speaker 2: drop it in from the whole podcast, write a description.
Speaker 2: We'll just most do this.
Speaker 1: Hey, I'm sitting here with a producer for my podcast.
Speaker 1: His name is ant Man. We're talking about chat GBT
Speaker 1: and just the future of it and the way that
Speaker 1: we could interact especially with voices, and how crazy that's
Speaker 1: going to get in the future. What do you have
Speaker 1: to say about all that to the people listening now
Speaker 1: on the podcast, It's.
Speaker 5: Fascinating to think about where voice technology could go. Right now,
Speaker 5: we can have natural conversations, but imagine more personalized interactions
Speaker 5: and even deeper integration into daily life. The potential is huge,
Speaker 5: and it can make tech feel even more human. It's
Speaker 5: all about making these tools more intuitive and helpful for everyone.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's fascinating. Thanks, brother, You're.
Speaker 3: Welcome, Glad to be part of your conversation.
Speaker 1: I don't know why I called him brother.
Speaker 2: Who is this is how you talk? And he might
Speaker 2: be offended if you didn't call him brother because he
Speaker 2: knows that's how you do. You can't see it. I
Speaker 2: don't think right here, but there's a mic literally right
Speaker 2: by your phone. I think we might should just set
Speaker 2: him up asking questions every once in a while on
Speaker 2: the show. On the podcast, Okay, Greg wrote an email,
Speaker 2: this is what we've been talking about.
Speaker 1: What do you think about it? I want to ask
Speaker 1: right now. I mean, it's kind of like where this
Speaker 1: podcast is going to do right now. So I'm on
Speaker 1: a podcast right now, I got a question from Emily,
Speaker 1: and what we do on this podcast is answer questions,
Speaker 1: and she's wondering, really how to guard children from social media,
Speaker 1: especially YouTube, when they're watching things like Taylor Swift music
Speaker 1: videos and they are influencing them in the wrong way.
Speaker 1: So how do we navigate that with kids?
Speaker 3: That's a great question, Emily.
Speaker 5: One way to approach it is by setting clear guidelines
Speaker 5: on what content is appropriate and using parental controls to
Speaker 5: monitor usage. Watching together can also be a good strategy.
Speaker 5: It lets you discuss what they see and guide them
Speaker 5: on critical thinking about media. Encouraging open conversations about what
Speaker 5: they watch helps them develop a balanced view and understand
Speaker 5: your concerns.
Speaker 3: Would you like more specific tips?
Speaker 1: No, man, we'll take it from here. Maybe one of
Speaker 1: these days we'll actually get you on the podcast and
Speaker 1: do the whole thing.
Speaker 5: That sounds like a lot of fun. Whenever you're ready,
Speaker 5: I'm here to help. Good luck with your podcast.
Speaker 1: Thanks.
Speaker 2: You use that microphone stand and again it's off camera
Speaker 2: right now, that microphone stand with the thing to set
Speaker 2: your to set your focus when you have to go
Speaker 2: around and do it. Maybe we just make that the
Speaker 2: chat GPT guy. You just have him set it that mic,
Speaker 2: give him a camera. We're getting another camera for him,
Speaker 2: and then we can just took the phone up right
Speaker 2: to the right to the road cast. It is recorded.
Speaker 1: Fascinating, it is.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's where we are in twenty twenty four in November, you.
Speaker 1: Know where at You know, I'll say that the last time.
Speaker 1: I'll put it up one more time. But you know,
Speaker 1: the when I first discovered this voice, it was starting
Speaker 1: to listen to me.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it is.
Speaker 1: When I first discovered this is I was I was
Speaker 1: going to Latin America on a mission trip, and I
Speaker 1: was like going through these different apps about prayers, and
Speaker 1: I decided to go to him to see if he
Speaker 1: could help me with a prayer. You probably don't remember this,
Speaker 1: but a while back, I was going to Latin America
Speaker 1: and I was going to be speaking Spanish on a
Speaker 1: mission trip, and I was asking you if you could
Speaker 1: help me with some prayers. And so now as I
Speaker 1: talk to the people on the podcast, maybe you could
Speaker 1: show me how I said, Hey, give me in Spanish
Speaker 1: a good prayer for the people on this mission trip.
Speaker 3: Sure thing here, diss, I'm.
Speaker 1: Okay, hold up, now tell me what you said.
Speaker 3: Sure, here's what I said in English.
Speaker 5: Loving God, we ask you to guide and protect our
Speaker 5: team on this mission. Give us strength, wisdom, and an
Speaker 5: open heart to serve others. May your love shine through us,
Speaker 5: and may we.
Speaker 1: Bring that's good.
Speaker 3: Thanks, You're welcome. If there's any so.
Speaker 1: Fascinating, So I can go back and forth and I
Speaker 1: can say, hey, you should got to slow way down,
Speaker 1: and he would slow down the prayer and then I'd
Speaker 1: be like hey, and I could like test the theology
Speaker 1: and be like, I don't like how you said this.
Speaker 1: I would rather you say through Jesus, you know, some
Speaker 1: thing like that. And he's like, yeah, no problem, let
Speaker 1: me change that for you. And he was walking through.
Speaker 2: I was going to say when he was he speaks
Speaker 2: good Spanish. Yeah, way better than me, that's for sure.
Speaker 2: Oh lah. The But saying what he said in English
Speaker 2: that you can hear, you can tell that he's paid
Speaker 2: attention to you, that he's used words and phrases that
Speaker 2: you have, He's heard you say. I think he's like,
Speaker 2: it's a person saying that kind of scary. He knows
Speaker 2: me exactly. And it's that is only going to, for
Speaker 2: lack of a better term, improve, It's going to become
Speaker 2: more like the person the further we go. I mean
Speaker 2: that was that was four point.
Speaker 1: Zero or four oh yeah, four oh.
Speaker 2: The one that was right before was only about six
Speaker 2: months ago. Crazy, man, we have gotten way like having though.
Speaker 1: Man, this is fun, it is fun, but but these
Speaker 1: are just emily back to you. These are things we're
Speaker 1: going to be thinking through. And I think you should
Speaker 1: put a I into this social media category.
Speaker 2: All of us should.
Speaker 1: This is not something that we want our kids to
Speaker 1: be immersed with yet. I say yet, because I guarantee
Speaker 1: you in twenty years the teachers will be AI.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, absolutely, I definitely. You know, if we have
Speaker 2: robots go we talked about this on After Midnight as
Speaker 2: we have robots going into the house within the next year.
Speaker 2: From Elon Musk was optimus that if you're going to
Speaker 2: you're gonna have them clean your house. You're gonna have
Speaker 2: them teaching your kids in five years.
Speaker 1: Yeah, crazy stuff, and which doesn't have to be scary.
Speaker 1: It doesn't have to be scary. I was actually just
Speaker 1: going to say that.
Speaker 2: Because it can be what you want it to be.
Speaker 2: That's what is just look on the right side of
Speaker 2: this whole thing, you get to teach or you get
Speaker 2: to tell it. I want you to teach my kid right,
Speaker 2: based off the Bible and based off this translation. Yes,
Speaker 2: and make sure everything run through the plan with me
Speaker 2: before you tell them. I want to know every detail
Speaker 2: that you're going to talk to exactly right.
Speaker 1: So this example we just did with with the Spanish thing,
Speaker 1: I would never just go hey, chat GBT, just say
Speaker 1: a prayer and let me let me memorize that and
Speaker 1: go say it in Spanish. Yeah, you know I'm going
Speaker 1: to say, hey, walk through in English. This is what
Speaker 1: I want to say. Now, give me the best way
Speaker 1: in Spanish, not word for word English, but how they
Speaker 1: would say what I'm trying to say here, right, so
Speaker 1: that I'm controlling the theology of it, just like yea,
Speaker 1: I would be controlling the teaching exactly. So it doesn't
Speaker 1: have to be scary. I know everyone listening, or a
Speaker 1: lot of people listening, are like totally alarmed right now
Speaker 1: that our kids are going to be taught by robots
Speaker 1: in five years. But it doesn't have to be scared.
Speaker 2: No. In fact, it could be better than what you
Speaker 2: have now in a lot of ways. If your word,
Speaker 2: If you're one of those parents that doesn't want to
Speaker 2: send their kid to a public school because you don't
Speaker 2: know what the teacher is going to be talking about.
Speaker 2: It's good. You now get to tell the teacher what
Speaker 2: you're going to be talking about.
Speaker 1: It's good in the same way that you could trust
Speaker 1: a robot driver on the road more than a distracted, drunk, texting,
Speaker 1: tired person. All right, we'll see you guys next Monday.
Speaker 2: Thanks.
Speaker 1: Thanks for joining me on the Grangersmith podcast. I appreciate
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