WEBVTT - What Age Should Kids Use Social Media? 0:00:11.440 --> 0:00:13.880 All right, welcome back to the podcast. I got ant 0:00:13.920 --> 0:00:15.880 Man with me and we've been talking for probably forty 0:00:15.880 --> 0:00:18.520 five minutes, I know, right, and we do this a lot, 0:00:18.560 --> 0:00:20.520 and we said, man, we should have been recording. But 0:00:20.840 --> 0:00:22.680 I'm glad you're with me. If you want to email 0:00:22.760 --> 0:00:25.680 me a question for this podcast, will answer it for you, 0:00:26.079 --> 0:00:28.920 and the email is podcast at grangersmith dot com. We'll 0:00:28.920 --> 0:00:32.560 walk through it. Ant Man actually checks them. 0:00:33.120 --> 0:00:34.239 Do you do. 0:00:34.240 --> 0:00:35.960 You have a pretty good handle on what people will 0:00:35.960 --> 0:00:37.440 ask you on any given day. 0:00:37.680 --> 0:00:41.199 No, really, it's all over the place, and some of 0:00:41.240 --> 0:00:44.280 them are some of them are questions that you answer 0:00:44.320 --> 0:00:47.440 quite frequently, and even you know one I think that 0:00:47.680 --> 0:00:49.519 if it's all right with you to start this podcast with, 0:00:49.960 --> 0:00:51.360 is that people want to know how to find a 0:00:51.360 --> 0:00:55.040 good church? Okay all the time? Yeah, I'm like, could 0:00:55.040 --> 0:00:57.400 we just like could take and read podcasts, just be 0:00:57.440 --> 0:01:00.800 a sponsor. That's where we always point, right, Yeah. 0:01:00.840 --> 0:01:03.400 Yeah, And I haven't looked at a single question that 0:01:03.480 --> 0:01:05.480 we have q today, And so that one, how to 0:01:05.520 --> 0:01:09.560 find a good church? Really is it is a difficult one, 0:01:09.600 --> 0:01:11.360 and so it's a good question to ask because it's 0:01:11.360 --> 0:01:14.520 not I can't say, well, here's here's what you look for. 0:01:15.680 --> 0:01:18.840 But I could say this because Marshall and I kind 0:01:18.840 --> 0:01:22.200 of started that series. I don't I don't know what 0:01:22.240 --> 0:01:25.000 we're calling it. What is a good church or something 0:01:25.040 --> 0:01:28.040 like that. We did two of those episodes, and we 0:01:28.040 --> 0:01:29.120 should probably do more. 0:01:29.319 --> 0:01:31.800 You answered emails and then you answered people's comments. 0:01:32.080 --> 0:01:34.720 Yeah, yeah, which people could do now that we post 0:01:34.760 --> 0:01:37.080 all of these podcasts on YouTube as well, So if 0:01:37.120 --> 0:01:39.040 you're not watching on YouTube, if you're watching on any 0:01:39.080 --> 0:01:41.640 other platform, you can go to YouTube at some point 0:01:41.640 --> 0:01:45.320 and comment on that video of this episode and we'll 0:01:45.360 --> 0:01:49.720 double down on your questions there, and then we're going 0:01:49.760 --> 0:01:52.880 to continue this idea Marshall and I on on what 0:01:53.120 --> 0:01:55.880 makes a good church. That's great because if you know 0:01:55.960 --> 0:01:58.400 what makes a good church, then you'll know what is 0:01:58.440 --> 0:01:59.680 a good church. And when you know what is a 0:01:59.680 --> 0:02:02.120 good church, you'll know how to find it. You'll know 0:02:02.120 --> 0:02:04.640 what to look for when you're asking the question where 0:02:04.640 --> 0:02:08.240 do I find it? And it is difficult. 0:02:08.360 --> 0:02:08.800 It does. 0:02:09.280 --> 0:02:12.560 For some people. It could be easy because it's right 0:02:12.560 --> 0:02:15.079 down the road from you. For other people, it might 0:02:15.120 --> 0:02:20.160 require a pretty significant sacrifice for you and your family, uprooting, 0:02:20.400 --> 0:02:23.480 even moving to another town, which I think you and 0:02:23.520 --> 0:02:26.160 I would both say is worth it. If you don't 0:02:26.200 --> 0:02:31.680 have a healthy church in your town and you're not 0:02:31.760 --> 0:02:35.320 being fed, you're not being nourished, then I think it 0:02:35.360 --> 0:02:38.200 would be a wise move for a father to move 0:02:38.720 --> 0:02:41.959 his family to a town that has one in order 0:02:41.960 --> 0:02:42.600 to make a drive. 0:02:42.720 --> 0:02:44.520 And not a church that makes you feel good, but 0:02:44.560 --> 0:02:47.919 a church that you know is feeding you the word. 0:02:48.160 --> 0:02:49.760 You're being led by the word. I mean, and I 0:02:49.800 --> 0:02:54.080 would personal opinion and experience is start with the one closest. 0:02:54.120 --> 0:02:56.920 If you know what a good godly church looks like, 0:02:56.919 --> 0:02:58.600 start with the one closest to you, because that's going 0:02:58.680 --> 0:03:02.160 to be in the community then every day. But if 0:03:02.160 --> 0:03:04.040 you can't it's not there, continue to move out. 0:03:04.600 --> 0:03:06.280 Yeah, because you also want it to be a place 0:03:06.320 --> 0:03:11.000 that's you could drive to it with with ease for 0:03:11.080 --> 0:03:14.320 the for different things that are going on exactly including 0:03:14.320 --> 0:03:15.000 Sunday morning. 0:03:15.080 --> 0:03:16.960 Be a part of it every you know, in some 0:03:17.360 --> 0:03:20.799 form or fashion. A few times a week at my church, 0:03:20.840 --> 0:03:22.919 I go and help them with some video stuff throughout 0:03:22.919 --> 0:03:24.760 the week and social media and we shoot some of 0:03:24.800 --> 0:03:27.480 that video during the week. And I love that that 0:03:27.840 --> 0:03:29.560 it's just down the road from me, so it doesn't 0:03:29.600 --> 0:03:31.520 take very long to get to and I think involved 0:03:31.560 --> 0:03:33.760 and and work with them, you know, a couple of 0:03:33.760 --> 0:03:34.960 times during the week every week. 0:03:35.360 --> 0:03:39.200 Yes, absolutely, And our churches are kind of sister church. 0:03:39.240 --> 0:03:39.560 That's right. 0:03:41.200 --> 0:03:43.360 So I want everyone to check this out and this 0:03:43.400 --> 0:03:47.720 will just this will answer your question. Write this down, 0:03:48.240 --> 0:03:51.240 check this out. Pause the podcast right now. If this 0:03:51.320 --> 0:03:53.680 is a question you're actually having, where do I find 0:03:53.680 --> 0:03:56.000 a good church? If that's actually a question you're having, 0:03:56.400 --> 0:03:59.360 pause the podcast real quick and write this down. A 0:03:59.400 --> 0:04:05.880 book called What is a Healthy Church? What is a 0:04:05.920 --> 0:04:09.440 Healthy Church? And if you're not a reader, it's a 0:04:09.600 --> 0:04:11.720 very very short book, easy to read. If you're not 0:04:11.800 --> 0:04:16.520 a reader, then get the audiobook. The audiobook is really 0:04:16.560 --> 0:04:20.120 good and super easy. Just takes a couple hours to 0:04:20.240 --> 0:04:23.560 listen to this pretty short audiobook. So and twice the 0:04:23.600 --> 0:04:25.640 time that you would listen to one of these podcasts, 0:04:25.720 --> 0:04:28.400 you could finish this book and we can continue this conversation. 0:04:28.400 --> 0:04:31.359 That's written by a man named Mark Dever, a pastor 0:04:32.640 --> 0:04:34.159 who's also a dear friend of mine. And I'm gonna 0:04:34.160 --> 0:04:34.880 be with him tomorrow. 0:04:34.920 --> 0:04:36.719 You talked about him. Yeah, sometimes, I'll. 0:04:36.600 --> 0:04:39.120 Be with him tomorrow. He's in Washington, d C. And 0:04:40.080 --> 0:04:42.880 so after some stuff I have to do tomorrow here 0:04:42.920 --> 0:04:45.120 in Texas, I'm gonna fly out there to spend the 0:04:45.160 --> 0:04:47.160 night with him and his wife and then spend the 0:04:47.240 --> 0:04:48.799 day with them and then. 0:04:48.839 --> 0:04:50.920 Come home nice. So that's really cool. 0:04:51.000 --> 0:04:54.520 Yeah, So that's that's that's a quick way to answer 0:04:54.560 --> 0:04:57.480 that question. But then we have the questions you guys 0:04:57.520 --> 0:05:02.839 have asked to podcast at Granger's. And I haven't touched these. 0:05:02.920 --> 0:05:04.320 Right, you haven't even looked at them. I just saw 0:05:04.360 --> 0:05:05.000 you open it up. 0:05:05.279 --> 0:05:09.000 I've not even looked at them. Sometimes I actually do 0:05:09.080 --> 0:05:11.279 scan and see what I'm getting into. I have not 0:05:11.520 --> 0:05:14.680 even scanned these, So I'm gonna read them and you're 0:05:14.680 --> 0:05:16.599 gonna hear them on this podcast for the first time. 0:05:17.080 --> 0:05:20.000 The first one is from Kaylin says, Hey, Grade, your 0:05:20.120 --> 0:05:23.400 name is Kaylin. I was wondering what you thought about 0:05:23.440 --> 0:05:27.320 age differences in relationships, Specifically, is it weird to date 0:05:27.400 --> 0:05:29.960 someone a year or two younger than you in high school? 0:05:30.520 --> 0:05:32.320 I would obviously want to make sure the guy is 0:05:32.360 --> 0:05:34.640 mature and not going to bring me down, but rather 0:05:34.640 --> 0:05:37.240 build me up in my walk with the Lord, but 0:05:37.279 --> 0:05:41.799 I wanted to know your thoughts. Also, what about where 0:05:41.800 --> 0:05:44.359 one person is older and goes to college, and the 0:05:44.400 --> 0:05:46.520 other one is in high school. Now these are very 0:05:46.560 --> 0:05:49.440 specific questions, but I just want to know your thoughts, okay, Kaylin. 0:05:50.400 --> 0:05:53.359 So Caylen's got some stuff in mind here, he's obviously 0:05:53.480 --> 0:05:57.720 objective here. Now, okay, this is all over the map. 0:05:57.760 --> 0:06:01.320 Typically what you see is actually is younger than you. 0:06:01.400 --> 0:06:02.000 She's younger than me. 0:06:02.120 --> 0:06:02.960 How many years? 0:06:04.520 --> 0:06:06.760 Six? Okay? Six six years. 0:06:06.839 --> 0:06:11.560 Typically you just see girls being younger than guys, including 0:06:12.040 --> 0:06:17.800 young dating. Uh, and that usually starts young because of maturity, right, 0:06:18.040 --> 0:06:22.240 you know, and London is not dating. She's twelve, she's 0:06:22.279 --> 0:06:24.960 not dating. But when I look at her class right now, 0:06:25.120 --> 0:06:28.960 in seventh grade, she's like two grades ahead of the 0:06:29.080 --> 0:06:33.800 boys in maturity. Yeah, all the boys in a class, 0:06:33.800 --> 0:06:36.200 I'm like, they're like still playing with g I. Joe's 0:06:36.200 --> 0:06:39.920 pretty much you know, like Joe boys. You know, they're 0:06:40.080 --> 0:06:42.680 little boys in seventh grade. But the girls are like 0:06:42.800 --> 0:06:45.640 young ladies. Right, So there's a big there is a 0:06:45.640 --> 0:06:48.680 big discrepancy. So no, the short answer, Kaylin, is that 0:06:48.760 --> 0:06:51.120 I don't have a problem at all about age differences 0:06:51.120 --> 0:06:54.000 and relationships. But but maybe the more important thing to 0:06:54.000 --> 0:06:58.360 think about is life differences. You got a guy in college, 0:06:59.240 --> 0:07:03.279 a man in college, and he's he's twenty one, and 0:07:03.320 --> 0:07:08.200 he's legal drinking age, he's been living away from his family, 0:07:08.600 --> 0:07:13.360 independent from his hometown. Maybe he's in college, and then 0:07:13.400 --> 0:07:16.600 he's dating a seventeen year old junior in high school 0:07:17.560 --> 0:07:21.280 and she's in a completely different life situation. I think 0:07:21.320 --> 0:07:23.520 I would have a problem with that. I think I 0:07:24.160 --> 0:07:26.560 we'd have to really look at the details of what's 0:07:26.600 --> 0:07:31.760 going on with this particular relationship. I wouldn't encourage it. 0:07:31.800 --> 0:07:33.120 For London, We'll put. 0:07:32.960 --> 0:07:35.680 It that way. It's only four years difference when you 0:07:35.680 --> 0:07:39.160 think about that. One's twenty one, someone's seventeen, and life 0:07:39.200 --> 0:07:41.760 is different then. But the older you get, the more 0:07:41.840 --> 0:07:45.240 that difference shrinks. Yeah, So like here, I'm forty seven, 0:07:45.320 --> 0:07:47.680 my wife getting ready to be forty one. There's I mean, 0:07:48.160 --> 0:07:51.200 we're kind of on the on the same And also 0:07:51.240 --> 0:07:53.680 maturity wise, I think still applies when you're an adult. 0:07:54.760 --> 0:07:56.880 Sometimes she's way more mature than I am, you know, 0:07:56.960 --> 0:07:58.960 being six years younger than me. But I think that 0:07:59.120 --> 0:08:02.360 difference shrinks when you get into your twenties thirties. 0:08:02.440 --> 0:08:05.280 Yes, yeah, and even just a few years later. So 0:08:05.320 --> 0:08:09.280 seventeen and twenty one changes drastically when it's twenty one, 0:08:09.360 --> 0:08:11.920 twenty five exactly, Like that's not a big deal at all. 0:08:11.920 --> 0:08:14.520 You don't even think twice about twenty to twenty four. 0:08:14.640 --> 0:08:17.120 You don't even think twice about it. She's in college, 0:08:17.160 --> 0:08:19.760 he's in college. And once again, I think that's more 0:08:20.000 --> 0:08:21.400 more to do with the life situation. 0:08:21.480 --> 0:08:26.960 Sure, and you don't even get into legality legal life exactly, 0:08:27.600 --> 0:08:30.160 there's a lot you know, just what may be implied 0:08:30.200 --> 0:08:33.600 that's at twenty one and seventeen. There's a pretty significant 0:08:34.400 --> 0:08:38.920 legal hurdle there, or you know, just imply like I said, 0:08:38.960 --> 0:08:41.600 just implied, you know, if you're alone at night, you know, 0:08:41.880 --> 0:08:45.720 in a car, there's a there's some things there that 0:08:45.720 --> 0:08:48.600 could could get you in some as the one that's older, 0:08:48.679 --> 0:08:50.360 get you in some real trouble. Yeah. 0:08:51.200 --> 0:08:53.680 So, Caitlyn, here's here's the second thing I'm going to say, 0:08:55.760 --> 0:08:57.520 and that kind of goes to what Antman was just saying. 0:08:58.200 --> 0:08:59.960 You said, let me let me pick apart your since read. 0:09:00.160 --> 0:09:02.040 I obviously want to make sure my guy is the 0:09:02.080 --> 0:09:03.880 guy is mature and not going to bring me down, 0:09:03.880 --> 0:09:05.920 but rather build me up in my walk with the Lord. 0:09:05.920 --> 0:09:08.560 But I wanted to know your thoughts. My thoughts are, 0:09:08.559 --> 0:09:11.559 if you're asking my opinion, I don't think you should 0:09:11.600 --> 0:09:15.720 be dating right now. I don't think you're looking for 0:09:15.800 --> 0:09:19.880 a boy a boyfriend to be the one to lift 0:09:19.920 --> 0:09:24.400 you up. Using the language of the apostle Paul and 0:09:24.600 --> 0:09:28.800 using that in terms of this boyfriend, I think is 0:09:29.280 --> 0:09:32.199 a wrong application for Hey, I'm looking for a boyfriend 0:09:32.240 --> 0:09:34.280 that's going to build me up and not tear me down. 0:09:34.760 --> 0:09:37.400 You know, I don't think. I don't think you should 0:09:37.400 --> 0:09:41.280 be dating. And if you were, if you're in my household, 0:09:41.400 --> 0:09:45.079 I would discourage it. I would say you're going to 0:09:45.160 --> 0:09:48.800 be dating with the intention to marry. And I don't 0:09:48.840 --> 0:09:53.000 think from this email that sounds like this is the deal. 0:09:53.200 --> 0:09:55.160 It's more like, Hey, I just want to check a box. 0:09:56.160 --> 0:09:58.880 Have a boyfriend, and I want to make sure he's 0:09:58.920 --> 0:10:01.240 in the right age bracket for me, and I want 0:10:01.240 --> 0:10:02.920 to make sure he's building me up in the lord. 0:10:04.160 --> 0:10:07.480 But I didn't hear any kind of language of I 0:10:07.840 --> 0:10:11.360 want to marry one day, and so in order to 0:10:12.080 --> 0:10:14.640 seek the man that I want to marry, I want 0:10:14.640 --> 0:10:17.000 to be looking for this or that. It doesn't sound 0:10:17.040 --> 0:10:20.720 like the language that she's using. Well, and I have 0:10:21.400 --> 0:10:23.120 why I'm gonna look up another book where you're. 0:10:23.000 --> 0:10:25.080 Saying the same feelings that you do. And I think 0:10:25.120 --> 0:10:27.040 a lot of that is because we're both girl dads. 0:10:27.280 --> 0:10:29.559 You're going to have that that opinion and that thought 0:10:30.000 --> 0:10:33.520 definitely from girl dads. No wait, you know, And that's 0:10:33.600 --> 0:10:37.240 it's great advice because you know, father is your is 0:10:37.280 --> 0:10:41.199 the daughter's a leader and guide and and you're directing 0:10:41.240 --> 0:10:44.840 them towards Christ in what you're doing and how you're 0:10:44.880 --> 0:10:48.960 living and not having another guy come in and inject, 0:10:49.160 --> 0:10:51.960 you know, his his thoughts and it's just me as 0:10:52.000 --> 0:10:53.520 a father. That's kind of what I think, you know. 0:10:53.559 --> 0:10:55.560 And I have a twenty two year old daughter who's 0:10:55.559 --> 0:10:58.120 been dating a guy for a while now, love him, 0:10:58.240 --> 0:11:00.080 love them, but it's still there's a little part of 0:11:00.120 --> 0:11:03.240 going nobody's really good enough for her. Yeah, you know, 0:11:03.840 --> 0:11:05.040 and even though he is great. 0:11:06.080 --> 0:11:07.880 This is one of the reasons I love having you 0:11:07.920 --> 0:11:10.079 on this podcast is because you could talk and I 0:11:10.120 --> 0:11:11.360 could look up another book you. 0:11:13.400 --> 0:11:13.559 So. 0:11:13.960 --> 0:11:17.240 Another friend of mine, Jonathan mccluda, has a book called Outdated, 0:11:17.559 --> 0:11:19.920 So Caitlin, I would highly recommend this book. Once again, 0:11:19.920 --> 0:11:22.640 if you're not a reader, there's an audio book to 0:11:22.720 --> 0:11:26.480 this that's excellent. Once again it's called out dated. One 0:11:26.520 --> 0:11:29.400 word outdated. I think it would be great. Have you 0:11:29.440 --> 0:11:34.200 read this one chance? Yeah? Maybe grab this one for 0:11:34.240 --> 0:11:37.439 you too, for you know, future, yes, future things that 0:11:37.559 --> 0:11:40.840 might be happening with your girls. Okay, maybe the next 0:11:40.880 --> 0:11:43.400 question will bring up another book as well. Comes from 0:11:43.440 --> 0:11:46.520 Kyle sos hegre and German. Name is Kyle. Just recently 0:11:46.559 --> 0:11:49.880 got into your podcast and I read your book like 0:11:49.880 --> 0:11:52.880 a river, and although I haven't experienced that kind of loss, 0:11:52.880 --> 0:11:57.560 it was still eye opening. I have picked up my 0:11:57.679 --> 0:12:02.800 Bible reading every day since I heard John fourteen twenty 0:12:02.880 --> 0:12:05.720 two to twenty four. Thank you for putting that out 0:12:05.720 --> 0:12:09.480 there for all of us to hear what God wants. 0:12:10.080 --> 0:12:12.360 I wasn't reading it at all before, and I'm super 0:12:12.640 --> 0:12:16.520 and I'm excited to dive deeper into God's word. But 0:12:16.559 --> 0:12:18.920 I still have some things that I need to change, 0:12:18.960 --> 0:12:22.920 like my productiveness. So I started reading Miracle Mourning, since 0:12:23.600 --> 0:12:26.720 self help isn't necessarily bad, but we have to be 0:12:26.760 --> 0:12:30.400 careful with it. As a follower of Christ. I noticed 0:12:30.440 --> 0:12:34.600 how quickly he doesn't I noticed quickly how he doesn't 0:12:34.640 --> 0:12:38.240 mention God but brings up prayer and faith. He never 0:12:38.280 --> 0:12:42.640 says who he prays to or what his faith is in. Instead, 0:12:42.679 --> 0:12:45.280 he says, we have the power to do what we want. 0:12:45.880 --> 0:12:49.000 I know that God is the only one in control. 0:12:49.240 --> 0:12:52.120 The routine is still a solid idea, but I wanted 0:12:52.160 --> 0:12:55.120 to know what your miracle morning looks like with God 0:12:55.160 --> 0:13:00.360 being a part of it. I can't make these drastic 0:13:00.440 --> 0:13:04.640 changes from laziness to being productive and exercising without him. 0:13:05.160 --> 0:13:08.400 All your advices appreciated. Thanks Kyle. All Right, Kyle, Hey, 0:13:08.440 --> 0:13:17.360 great question. And and yet it's funny a book came 0:13:17.440 --> 0:13:22.080 up again, and I think I think it's great that 0:13:22.120 --> 0:13:24.920 we get that we get to talk about We get 0:13:24.920 --> 0:13:28.880 to talk about books like this because if anyone listens 0:13:28.920 --> 0:13:30.839 to the podcast and wants to kind of hear more 0:13:30.840 --> 0:13:34.079 about it and answer, I have so much of what 0:13:34.160 --> 0:13:39.040 I answer is based on books, most of which being 0:13:39.080 --> 0:13:43.760 the Bible. But how how L Rod, He's another friend 0:13:43.760 --> 0:13:46.400 of mine that wrote them Miracle Morning, and I became 0:13:46.440 --> 0:13:51.760 friends with how after I became a Christian, and I 0:13:51.880 --> 0:13:54.840 became friends with how after I wrote Like a River, 0:13:55.240 --> 0:13:57.880 and Like a River references Miracle Morning. 0:13:57.920 --> 0:13:58.240 That's right. 0:13:58.520 --> 0:14:03.760 Miracle Morning is self help book that Basically, it kind 0:14:03.760 --> 0:14:09.560 of designs and lays out a systematic, practical way to 0:14:09.760 --> 0:14:12.200 organize your mourning so that you get more. 0:14:12.080 --> 0:14:14.480 Done, Okay productive. 0:14:14.679 --> 0:14:19.120 Yes, And How I've been on his podcast, We've we 0:14:19.280 --> 0:14:23.840 spoke numerous times, and he tells me that he is 0:14:23.880 --> 0:14:27.560 a Christian. But it's but it's obvious when he writes 0:14:28.400 --> 0:14:30.880 and when he posts on social media that he tries 0:14:30.920 --> 0:14:35.080 to stay neutral, not to make anybody mad. I personally 0:14:35.840 --> 0:14:41.640 strongly disagree with that that kind of approach, and and 0:14:41.760 --> 0:14:46.400 How understands that I feel that way. It's interesting if 0:14:46.440 --> 0:14:49.560 you go to how El Rod's social media and I'll 0:14:49.600 --> 0:14:51.480 just gad to put this out there because because I 0:14:51.520 --> 0:14:53.560 love How and if he listens to this, I think 0:14:53.600 --> 0:14:56.000 you would understand where I'm coming from. But it's interesting 0:14:56.000 --> 0:15:01.760 when he puts out very kind of a uni versalist material, 0:15:02.240 --> 0:15:05.600 just kind of talking about the higher power, we all, 0:15:05.800 --> 0:15:07.840 you know, whatever you're looking for, I hope you hope 0:15:07.840 --> 0:15:13.360 you find it. I noticed that that doesn't really get 0:15:13.400 --> 0:15:14.400 great engagement in. 0:15:15.160 --> 0:15:17.120 Yeah, because it's neutral. There's not a lot of cuture. 0:15:17.200 --> 0:15:17.640 Yeah. 0:15:17.720 --> 0:15:19.880 Yeah, there's not a lot to engage with when it's neutral. 0:15:20.040 --> 0:15:21.400 And I think if he would come out and just 0:15:21.480 --> 0:15:24.640 claim Christ and exclusivity of Christ. Then he would see 0:15:25.000 --> 0:15:28.280 higher engagement, a lot more hate, but he would also 0:15:28.320 --> 0:15:30.040 you would just see higher engagement. 0:15:30.040 --> 0:15:32.280 In general. A lot of people see and this is 0:15:32.280 --> 0:15:34.120 not a social media question, but a lot of people 0:15:34.280 --> 0:15:39.640 see negative social media interaction as being negative. And it's 0:15:39.680 --> 0:15:43.360 not necessarily right. It's right. It's engagement if you just 0:15:43.680 --> 0:15:47.080 strip away spirituality, any of this stuff, just your actual 0:15:47.080 --> 0:15:50.640 engagement with people. It doesn't read what they wrote, it 0:15:50.720 --> 0:15:53.760 read it read that they interacted with it. So on 0:15:53.800 --> 0:15:55.520 the on the surface, that right there is just great. 0:15:55.800 --> 0:15:59.040 I mean, so if you were saying something that's in 0:15:59.040 --> 0:16:01.440 the middle of neutral, there's nothing for me to attach to. 0:16:02.240 --> 0:16:04.200 There's nothing for me to agree with, there's nothing for 0:16:04.200 --> 0:16:07.280 me to disagree with, you know, And just just having 0:16:07.320 --> 0:16:11.040 having that stance again, take take your beliefs out of it. 0:16:11.160 --> 0:16:14.160 Just that stance in the social media world is just 0:16:14.320 --> 0:16:16.960 kind of in limbo. You're just floating. And if you 0:16:17.120 --> 0:16:21.840 have whether it be political, spiritual, whatever it is, you 0:16:21.880 --> 0:16:25.320 have much more, much bigger chance of that being a 0:16:25.360 --> 0:16:29.880 successful post or interaction there, regardless of what the comments are. Yeah, 0:16:29.960 --> 0:16:30.880 it's so true. 0:16:31.080 --> 0:16:33.120 I have to learn that every day because I see 0:16:33.160 --> 0:16:35.280 things and I'm like, oh, man, they hate me. 0:16:35.360 --> 0:16:37.760 It's so personal for so many people too, especially if 0:16:37.800 --> 0:16:40.120 you spend time and energy and it's something you really 0:16:40.160 --> 0:16:43.480 believe and somebody doesn't. Oh what, why are they trash? 0:16:43.520 --> 0:16:43.640 Man? 0:16:43.680 --> 0:16:46.000 That's not even what I meant. It was an interaction 0:16:46.080 --> 0:16:47.000 you just had with somebody. 0:16:47.040 --> 0:16:50.800 Man. When it gets into theology, you get some very 0:16:50.840 --> 0:16:55.080 strong reactions. I remember one time, this is fun. This 0:16:55.120 --> 0:16:57.240 is a good example of this. I was in a 0:16:57.280 --> 0:17:02.480 systematic theology class and listening to my professor talking about 0:17:02.960 --> 0:17:07.199 a very specific topic, reading some early Church Fathers with 0:17:07.240 --> 0:17:09.920 a very specific idea. I honestly don't even remember exactly 0:17:10.000 --> 0:17:13.720 what it was, and I posted it me sitting at 0:17:13.760 --> 0:17:16.320 my desk, and I just went to the lecture and 0:17:16.320 --> 0:17:18.760 I was like, wow, this is this is really interesting. 0:17:18.800 --> 0:17:22.879 And I had my systematic theology book and I and 0:17:22.960 --> 0:17:25.560 I talked about the idea the professor brought up, and 0:17:25.600 --> 0:17:27.679 then I quoted the early Church father and said it 0:17:27.720 --> 0:17:30.960 on social media, and one of the comments on there 0:17:31.119 --> 0:17:34.320 was like, yikes, sounds like we need you need a 0:17:34.320 --> 0:17:37.440 little bit more systematic theology and a little less country music. 0:17:38.119 --> 0:17:40.600 It's like he just he just read it without even 0:17:40.800 --> 0:17:43.399 and I was thinking to myself, literally came out of 0:17:43.400 --> 0:17:43.840 a system. 0:17:43.840 --> 0:17:46.920 I had no idea. No, he had no idea. 0:17:47.200 --> 0:17:49.560 That was his reaction of hate. It's like, who's this 0:17:49.640 --> 0:17:52.479 country singer guy that thinks he knows anything? And it 0:17:52.520 --> 0:17:55.000 was I was actually just regurgitating an old idea. Oh 0:17:55.080 --> 0:17:59.280 interesting anyway, Okay, so not Kyle's question at All's question 0:17:59.560 --> 0:18:01.879 is actually perfect to have ant man with us because 0:18:02.320 --> 0:18:04.520 you and I kind of walked through our morning routines 0:18:04.720 --> 0:18:07.560 and we've kind of shared ideas from that, and I 0:18:07.600 --> 0:18:12.840 think lately I've thought that I should actually build some 0:18:12.920 --> 0:18:17.520 kind of ordered list that I could post, you can share, 0:18:17.560 --> 0:18:21.200 I could share, and then we could And I see 0:18:21.240 --> 0:18:24.000 all these self help guys that seem to have these 0:18:24.080 --> 0:18:26.959 followings of guys that will do what they do. So 0:18:27.000 --> 0:18:30.800 I've been thinking lately, like, why wouldn't I do what 0:18:31.080 --> 0:18:34.320 some of these other guys like Ed Milette has all 0:18:34.400 --> 0:18:36.600 these guys that follow his morning routine. Why wouldn't I 0:18:36.640 --> 0:18:38.960 put my morning routine out and then get people to 0:18:39.440 --> 0:18:41.040 kind of subscribe to that. 0:18:41.240 --> 0:18:41.679 Jump in on. 0:18:41.760 --> 0:18:49.440 Yeah, okay, so I am open the change. I'm open 0:18:49.480 --> 0:18:52.439 to rearranging some things. But this is where I am today, 0:18:52.480 --> 0:18:57.560 as of this morning. I will wake up and the 0:18:57.640 --> 0:19:00.760 time I wake up, I work hard to wake up 0:19:00.880 --> 0:19:02.000 seven hours from when I. 0:19:01.960 --> 0:19:02.520 Go to sleep. 0:19:03.320 --> 0:19:07.360 Okay, So if I'm going to bed at ten twenty, 0:19:08.160 --> 0:19:09.919 I set my alarm for five twenty. 0:19:10.920 --> 0:19:11.320 Okay. 0:19:12.480 --> 0:19:14.639 If I go to bed and I'm in bed at like, 0:19:14.760 --> 0:19:15.359 not like. 0:19:15.480 --> 0:19:17.480 Going to bed or going to sleep, because for me, 0:19:17.560 --> 0:19:18.960 it's two very different things. 0:19:19.240 --> 0:19:22.480 Yeah, that that's where the new ones got it. I 0:19:23.359 --> 0:19:25.480 could usually fall asleep in about five minutes on a 0:19:25.520 --> 0:19:28.040 normal day, okay, so I can go. So I look 0:19:28.040 --> 0:19:30.120 at my watch, say it's say it's ten twenty five, 0:19:30.720 --> 0:19:33.960 and I go, I'll five thirty because that gives me 0:19:34.000 --> 0:19:35.040 five minutes to go to sleep. 0:19:35.160 --> 0:19:35.520 Wow. 0:19:35.560 --> 0:19:39.680 And then I wear a garment. So the one of 0:19:39.680 --> 0:19:41.119 the first things I do when I wake up is 0:19:41.160 --> 0:19:43.760 see how much I got. It'll tell me, oh, vere 0:19:43.880 --> 0:19:46.679 you got seven hours and five minutes. I'm like okay. 0:19:46.840 --> 0:19:50.679 Sometimes it says you got six fifty one. I'm like, ah, okay, 0:19:50.800 --> 0:19:52.000 I kind of missed it on. 0:19:51.960 --> 0:19:52.600 That one a little bit. 0:19:53.000 --> 0:19:56.120 But I do my best to get up seven hours 0:19:56.440 --> 0:20:01.200 there and I try to let Amber get eight. That's 0:20:01.200 --> 0:20:02.040 an interesting thing. 0:20:02.359 --> 0:20:04.720 So you've got your getting at least an hour just alone. 0:20:05.240 --> 0:20:11.480 Well, yes, that's correct. But also Heith Evans, who's a 0:20:11.840 --> 0:20:13.680 dear brother of mine in Fort Worth. He's a former 0:20:13.840 --> 0:20:16.800 NFL player and he was a announcer on the NFL 0:20:16.840 --> 0:20:20.760 network for a long time. But Heath one time he 0:20:20.800 --> 0:20:23.119 called me out on this because I was talking about 0:20:23.160 --> 0:20:27.199 just the busyness of life and lacking sleep. We're all 0:20:27.240 --> 0:20:31.280 lacking sleep, we understand that. But Heath called me and 0:20:31.320 --> 0:20:33.000 he goes, brother, you need to be getting seven hours 0:20:33.040 --> 0:20:35.840 of sleep, no matter what. You need to make sure 0:20:35.880 --> 0:20:37.600 you get seven hours sleep, and you need to make 0:20:37.640 --> 0:20:41.560