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Speaker 1: You have a pretty good handle on what people will

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Speaker 2: No, really, it's all over the place, and some of

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Speaker 1: four chapters a day. Two from the Old Testament too,

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Speaker 1: from the New. I do it on my iPad with

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Speaker 1: an app called Logos. These are things if you listen

439
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Speaker 1: to this podcast, I've said these things quite a bit,

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Speaker 1: but I do it on the iPad because it's easy

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Speaker 1: to just hit next, next, next, and it's loads the new.

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Speaker 1: Whatever my text is. After that, I look for something

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Speaker 1: that stood out to me in the text, and I

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Speaker 1: will meditate on that for a few minutes and usually

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Speaker 1: pot will not usually always, we'll post that on social media,

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Speaker 1: on all all social media, with a little thought of

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Speaker 1: mine behind whatever that text was.

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Speaker 2: So all those posts that you do all come from

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Speaker 2: that day.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it all comes from that day.

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Speaker 2: That's great.

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Speaker 1: And in fact, I used to in the old days,

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Speaker 1: I used to say, I don't see anything today, I'll

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Speaker 1: just go to something else. But now I forced listen off.

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Speaker 1: I say, you got to you gotta find something from today.

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Speaker 2: There's nuggets in yeah. So and for me it's usually

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Speaker 2: when my mind has drifted. I can read because I

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Speaker 2: read out loud to myself and I like to see

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Speaker 2: it and hear it. Yeah, And so why I do that?

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Speaker 2: And I don't know how, And I don't know if

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Speaker 2: I could do this anything else. I can read every

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Speaker 2: word on the page and my mind drift to something

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Speaker 2: else while my mouth is still reading the word. Oh yeah,

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Speaker 2: I'm like what, I don't know what I just read in.

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Speaker 1: The last two I was doing that this morning. And

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Speaker 1: then I gotta go. And but I'll just go back up.

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Speaker 1: I'm in seconds the beginning of second Sam and I'm.

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Speaker 2: Just like, wait, what, wait, what? What?

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Speaker 1: What's happening with Abner? So I go back up again.

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Speaker 1: And that's okay. I think. As the coffee goes in,

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Speaker 1: I get it wakes me up a little bit more,

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Speaker 1: so that's okay. But what it's doing is really it's

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Speaker 1: it's softening my heart. I don't I don't pray. Besides,

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Speaker 1: Lord opened my eyes to your word, maybe something gratitude

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Speaker 1: for waking me up this morning. But other than that,

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Speaker 1: I don't go too much deeper into prayer because my

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Speaker 1: heart as hard as a rock. So I let that word.

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Speaker 1: I learned that from George mut I'm an old diologian.

479
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Speaker 1: He just said I tried to pray before I read

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Speaker 1: my Bible and found out my heart as hard as

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Speaker 1: a rock, and so the word softens me. So that

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Speaker 1: really opens me up. So after the post and I

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Speaker 1: go to my journal. I keep a journal every day.

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Speaker 1: Digital write a little bit about what I just read,

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Speaker 1: and then what's going on in the day, what happened yesterday,

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Speaker 1: I go, I go. That's my prayer time. When I

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Speaker 1: go into what you and I both do prayer notebook

488
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Speaker 1: app and I'll pray through. That's my systematic prayer of

489
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Speaker 1: the day, the kind of the one that's laid out

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Speaker 1: and that takes about fifteen minutes. Typically that's like my

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Speaker 1: average fifteen. Sometimes it's twenty five, sometimes it's ten, but

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Speaker 1: it usually stays around around fifteen.

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Speaker 2: That heart softening part is very, I think, very important

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Speaker 2: for me. What I do is I do a song.

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Speaker 2: I do a worship song that's awesome. Before I that

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Speaker 2: is awesome, I do open the app and I use

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Speaker 2: the Bible app and you can do the it's exact

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Speaker 2: same plan, yes, the machine plan, but I use the

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Speaker 2: Bible app and I'll open that up and before I read,

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Speaker 2: I hit a song that is it's sometimes the great

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Speaker 2: exact same song and it has been for me a

502
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Speaker 2: thousand dolllias right now is I've just been listening to

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Speaker 2: that song every morning before I start.

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Speaker 1: You know I've done that, Yeah, and I think I

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Speaker 1: think I should probably bring that back in. I think

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Speaker 1: that's a good thing I should start tomorrow morning, is

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Speaker 1: bringing the song back in, because I'll do the song later,

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Speaker 1: and I think I think having that song early is helpful.

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Speaker 1: Like I said at the beginning, I'm willing to change

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Speaker 1: this routine.

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Speaker 2: Well, you know that's what we do at service. When

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Speaker 2: you welcome to your service, that's the first thing that happens.

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Speaker 2: Everybody stand up, start singing a song.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, art softening. Yeah, okay. So then after after the prayer,

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Speaker 1: then I'll go into workout. Yeah, and I'll work out,

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Speaker 1: and after a workout, which I do strength training, i

517
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Speaker 1: will go to the treadmill and I'll do my Bible memory.

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Speaker 2: Oh cool.

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Speaker 1: Use an app called please, no not please, It's called

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Speaker 1: remember Me. It's called remember Me. And yeah, I was

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Speaker 1: thinking Timroth, please remember me. And so I'll go through that.

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Speaker 1: I have my verses will come up that we can

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Speaker 1: go to detail about that another time. And after that,

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Speaker 1: I go into my cold plunge. Yes, the cold plunge.

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Speaker 1: And man and I've been doing together what six months

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Speaker 1: now or so?

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Speaker 2: It has you know, Yes, it has been six months. Okay, yeah,

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Speaker 2: right at six months now, it's never fun. How cold

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Speaker 2: are you getting now?

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Speaker 1: So I average I'm a little embarrassed to say, because

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Speaker 1: I know you've got to be colder than me. I

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Speaker 1: average about sixty okay.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and I have a little higher tolerance for cold.

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Speaker 2: And I didn't think I did, but then I met

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Speaker 2: you and like, oh, he doesn't have a tolerance for

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Speaker 2: cold at all. When I hear what you're doing. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: I've got average fifty two.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's a good average.

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Speaker 2: I'll go below and I like it when I go low.

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Speaker 2: It's something that day.

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Speaker 1: Like a fifty two day for me is like a

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Speaker 1: really cold day. Yeah, but I'm putting four bags in

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Speaker 1: right now and let it sit for an hour here.

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Speaker 2: That gets at the sixty tomorrow in real time. The

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Speaker 2: highest sixty five, okay, and the low is thirty nine. Okay.

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Speaker 2: You might really do tap water. You may just be

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Speaker 2: able to do tapwater. That would be good.

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Speaker 1: While I do the bath, I'm listening to one of

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Speaker 1: the last two chapters typically that I just read that

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Speaker 1: morning from the McShane. This morning was PSALM fifty. I

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Speaker 1: chose between that and first first Corinthians thirteen. So I

552
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Speaker 1: was like, which one should I do? And that's what

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Speaker 1: I'll do. Which one should I do? Instead of one

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Speaker 1: Corinthians thirteen? I picked Psalm fifty. I'll listen to that.

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Speaker 1: I'll listened to it in a different translation than I

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Speaker 1: read it. Oh yeah, and it speaks it and I

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Speaker 1: will hear something that I hadn't heard before.

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Speaker 2: That's cool And what's funny is that? And I don't

559
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Speaker 2: know this is really important to anybody else, but ours

560
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Speaker 2: are pretty much Our days are pretty much the same

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Speaker 2: up until you go work out. I go to icebath

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Speaker 2: then and then you when you're going to ice bath,

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Speaker 2: I'm writing for you. Oh, I'm writing for after midnight.

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Speaker 2: Then one you jumping after midnight, I go work out.

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Speaker 1: Let's take it, let's take it back, and we'll get

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Speaker 1: into what happens next. Okay, the holidays are insight less

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Speaker 1: than one month away. Are you ready with the perfect gift? Well,

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Speaker 1: if you have someone that you just can't think of

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Speaker 1: a gift for, or they already have everything, why not

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Speaker 1: get them a cameo from me. That's when I get

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Speaker 1: my phone out and I'll send you a video message

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Speaker 1: to whoever you want saying whatever you want me to say.

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Speaker 1: Could be encouragement, Happy Birthday, Merry Christmas. Maybe it's just

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Speaker 1: a prairie quest for someone you love. It could even

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Speaker 1: be for you. I get those two either way. Go

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Speaker 1: to cameo dot com slash granger Smith and I will

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Speaker 1: send you a video message cameo dot com slash granger Smith.

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Speaker 1: There's also a twenty four hour option where I could

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Speaker 1: do this for you right now. That's cameo dot com

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Speaker 1: slash granger Smith. O got diving back into these routines

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Speaker 1: and so then so then after the listening to which

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Speaker 1: I use dwell a Dwell app, which I really like.

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Speaker 1: After that, I guess after that you could say my

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Speaker 1: day is beginning. Yeah, I typically will go back in

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Speaker 1: if I don't beat the kids out. Sometimes I don't

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Speaker 1: beat the kids getting ready for school, which is like

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Speaker 1: seven five. If I could, it could, if I could

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Speaker 1: find a place. Sometimes if I'm having a really good morning,

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Speaker 1: I could do that stuff before. But typically I haven't

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Speaker 1: worked out yet before I send the kids off, and

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Speaker 1: then I've been reading Puritan prayers to them before they.

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Speaker 2: Oh that's cool, they go to school, that's cool.

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Speaker 1: That's yeah, that's a great book called Valley of Vision.

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Speaker 2: I have a hard time with the these and the

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Speaker 2: dows it is we rewrite it.

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Speaker 1: It is the part that's an acquired taste, for sure,

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Speaker 1: but that's got to be part of the charm of

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Speaker 1: reading that though too, No one's part of the charm. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I I don't read The King James because of that. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: but when it comes to the Puritans, I could tolerate it. Yeah, sure, yeah.

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Speaker 1: Shall we go to the next question? Here have we

602
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Speaker 1: thoroughly answered Kyle's questions?

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Speaker 2: I even forgot what Kyle's question was at this point,

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Speaker 2: but yes, I mean, yeah, yeah, looking back through it,

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Speaker 2: I think so. So.

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Speaker 1: If y'all want to email me the emails podcast at

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Speaker 1: grangersmith dot com. The next one comes from Emily. Hey, Granger,

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Speaker 1: I would love some input from you on parenting in

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Speaker 1: this day of age, with the challenges of technology and

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Speaker 1: social media, and what age do you feel as appropriate

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Speaker 1: for kids to use YouTube, get their first cell phones,

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Speaker 1: and have social media. My daughter just started kindergarting this fall,

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Speaker 1: and I'm shocked over her friends being into Taylor Swift

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Speaker 1: and watching our music videos already and dressing as her

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Speaker 1: for Halloween, which we said no to. We made a

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Speaker 1: rule that it's okay for her to listen to some

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Speaker 1: of the Taylor songs, but no music videos or YouTube

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Speaker 1: until she's older.

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Speaker 2: It's hard to.

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Speaker 1: Believe that we are facing this challenge with our five

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Speaker 1: year old. I dread the day when she wants social media,

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Speaker 1: and I know in my heart that she will. We

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Speaker 1: will have to stand firm against it for her to benefit,

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Speaker 1: for her benefit, How do you handle this and what

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Speaker 1: are your rules or tips.

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Speaker 2: That you might have?

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Speaker 1: Thanks and God blessed.

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Speaker 2: I was excited about this one. I want to put

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Speaker 2: it in here. I really was. It's like these conversations.

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Speaker 2: Oh but just that time in our life right now

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Speaker 2: that this is like yep, and there's not a single

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Speaker 2: parent And I don't care how old your kid is

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Speaker 2: right now. I do if they're below twenty twenty five.

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Speaker 2: Maybe we're having a conversation with this one, this one

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Speaker 2: piece of fun.

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Speaker 1: You know what I thought you were going to say, Tod,

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Speaker 1: Not one single parent has figured this out.

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Speaker 4: Well that's that's very true, and that's why we're continuing

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Speaker 4: to have the conversation, right yeah, I mean, and everybody

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Speaker 4: treats them in fact, there's also there's multiple questions in here.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, one is about technology, one is about social media.

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Speaker 2: One is about influencers. Let's just call tailors with that.

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Speaker 2: Influencers and how you are allowing them to influence your

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Speaker 2: family and your children and your life. Yeah, as an

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Speaker 2: adult or as a kids, but more specifically as a kid.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, pung that in. Yeah, okay, so let's dive into this.

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Speaker 1: It's a great question. And Emily, first of all, I

648
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Speaker 1: don't have this figured out. I don't have this figured

649
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Speaker 1: out as good as my morning routine, but I'll heavily

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Speaker 1: rely on a man as well. Everyone is kind of

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Speaker 1: trying to navigate this the right way. And you know

652
00:32:44,040 --> 00:32:46,240
Speaker 1: what I think is helpful is that we all have

653
00:32:46,320 --> 00:32:49,560
Speaker 1: these conversations because Amber and I will learn a lot.

654
00:32:49,680 --> 00:32:51,520
Speaker 1: We'll go, we'll take the family and go have dinner

655
00:32:51,520 --> 00:32:54,560
Speaker 1: with another family. Oh yeah, and we'll go, we'll drive

656
00:32:54,560 --> 00:32:56,160
Speaker 1: home and go. You see what they're doing about so

657
00:32:56,240 --> 00:32:58,560
Speaker 1: and so that's good. Let's let's implement that.

658
00:32:58,960 --> 00:32:59,480
Speaker 2: Yeah.

659
00:33:00,160 --> 00:33:01,840
Speaker 1: I hope maybe people do that with me. But but

660
00:33:01,920 --> 00:33:04,600
Speaker 1: if we all kind of picked little things that we

661
00:33:04,800 --> 00:33:06,880
Speaker 1: liked and kind of implemented because we all have our

662
00:33:06,920 --> 00:33:11,200
Speaker 1: own rhythms, our own ages, and our kids. They all

663
00:33:11,200 --> 00:33:14,480
Speaker 1: have their own likes. Like some kids that I've seen

664
00:33:15,760 --> 00:33:19,720
Speaker 1: genuinely just love books. They just love to read. And

665
00:33:19,760 --> 00:33:22,920
Speaker 1: so for that particular family, it's not difficult to get

666
00:33:22,960 --> 00:33:26,280
Speaker 1: them to read. They hadn't needed to try to get

667
00:33:26,360 --> 00:33:28,240
Speaker 1: him away from the books, like, hey, put the book

668
00:33:28,280 --> 00:33:30,680
Speaker 1: down and come in here and socialize a little bit.

669
00:33:32,560 --> 00:33:33,240
Speaker 2: With my son.

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Speaker 1: Lincoln, he's opposite. It's so hard to get him to read.

671
00:33:37,360 --> 00:33:39,800
Speaker 1: I have to negotiate all kinds of things to get

672
00:33:39,840 --> 00:33:42,280
Speaker 1: him and try to come up here to this podcast room.

673
00:33:42,640 --> 00:33:44,959
Speaker 1: And when I'm doing some reading myself, and I'll say,

674
00:33:45,000 --> 00:33:47,400
Speaker 1: you sit here with me for fifteen minutes and read

675
00:33:47,400 --> 00:33:49,520
Speaker 1: a check and then tell me what you just read.

676
00:33:49,520 --> 00:33:51,360
Speaker 1: And usually it's like the Hardy Boys, Yeah, you know,

677
00:33:52,840 --> 00:33:55,240
Speaker 1: but I have to I'm not ever going to catch

678
00:33:55,280 --> 00:33:57,840
Speaker 1: Lincoln like off on his own with the Hardy Boys.

679
00:33:58,480 --> 00:34:00,520
Speaker 2: He's but you will London, but.

680
00:34:00,520 --> 00:34:04,080
Speaker 1: I will London more. I don't know about Maverick. Mavericks,

681
00:34:04,200 --> 00:34:04,800
Speaker 1: He's own thing.

682
00:34:04,960 --> 00:34:05,800
Speaker 2: He's fixing stuff.

683
00:34:06,040 --> 00:34:08,520
Speaker 1: So my point with all of that is that different

684
00:34:08,600 --> 00:34:11,879
Speaker 1: kids have different tendencies and different likes, and so that's

685
00:34:11,880 --> 00:34:14,080
Speaker 1: why you can't just say here's the rule for everybody,

686
00:34:14,200 --> 00:34:15,839
Speaker 1: because there's a lot of kids that will go, I

687
00:34:15,880 --> 00:34:19,120
Speaker 1: have no interest in Taylor Swift at all, right, none,

688
00:34:20,080 --> 00:34:22,640
Speaker 1: And so for you, for that person, they might say,

689
00:34:22,719 --> 00:34:25,319
Speaker 1: it's easy, just tell them they can't watch Taylor Swift, right, Eat,

690
00:34:25,320 --> 00:34:28,320
Speaker 1: it's easy for you to say, yeah, okay, so.

691
00:34:28,440 --> 00:34:30,320
Speaker 2: And a lot of that's probably influenced from our school

692
00:34:30,320 --> 00:34:32,480
Speaker 2: and her and other kids. That's right. That's how it

693
00:34:32,560 --> 00:34:36,640
Speaker 2: was with our youngest daughter. And yeah, we had to

694
00:34:36,719 --> 00:34:40,600
Speaker 2: navigate the exact same singer in the exact same situation here.

695
00:34:41,320 --> 00:34:46,839
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, totally. I see London is thirteen, Lincoln's about

696
00:34:46,880 --> 00:34:48,839
Speaker 1: to be eleven, and I see with both of them

697
00:34:49,239 --> 00:34:53,200
Speaker 1: they're friends on social media. Personally, in our house, we

698
00:34:53,200 --> 00:34:57,799
Speaker 1: don't allow social media. I have told our kids I

699
00:34:57,840 --> 00:35:02,000
Speaker 1: will give them ten thousand dollars if they get out

700
00:35:02,040 --> 00:35:05,040
Speaker 1: of the house and never have a social media account.

701
00:35:05,080 --> 00:35:08,080
Speaker 2: Oh wow, and that doesn't include YouTube.

702
00:35:08,640 --> 00:35:10,279
Speaker 1: That doesn't I'm gonna get to that.

703
00:35:10,360 --> 00:35:10,960
Speaker 2: Okay, got it.

704
00:35:11,000 --> 00:35:14,959
Speaker 1: But but what's crazy is they have.

705
00:35:14,920 --> 00:35:15,600
Speaker 2: To think about that.

706
00:35:15,760 --> 00:35:20,279
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, they're like ten thousand dollars or Instagram what

707
00:35:20,880 --> 00:35:24,279
Speaker 1: or conversations and in an inclusion with my friends which

708
00:35:24,320 --> 00:35:25,000
Speaker 1: is a big deal.

709
00:35:25,200 --> 00:35:28,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, you know, yeah, that's a big deal at that age.

710
00:35:28,600 --> 00:35:31,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, so I'm trying to let this play out amber

711
00:35:31,120 --> 00:35:32,439
Speaker 1: and I need to be saving a little bit of money.

712
00:35:33,040 --> 00:35:36,600
Speaker 2: That's like it because if they call your bluff on it.

713
00:35:36,760 --> 00:35:39,200
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, it couldn't I figured out it had to

714
00:35:39,239 --> 00:35:42,560
Speaker 1: be ten thousand. It couldn't be. It couldn't be two thousand.

715
00:35:43,480 --> 00:35:45,840
Speaker 2: Well, ten thousand is so big. That's so big.

716
00:35:46,000 --> 00:35:49,239
Speaker 1: It's so crazy of a number that it's way out there.

717
00:35:49,280 --> 00:35:52,200
Speaker 1: Even five thousand, it's like, eh, I think I could.

718
00:35:52,640 --> 00:35:54,520
Speaker 1: I would rather work a summer job in this day

719
00:35:54,560 --> 00:35:57,319
Speaker 1: and have Instagram for us. It's property tax, so you know,

720
00:35:58,040 --> 00:36:00,960
Speaker 1: yeah for a kid though, that's why out there. Yeah,

721
00:36:01,000 --> 00:36:03,120
Speaker 1: so that's kind of where we are now. But the

722
00:36:03,239 --> 00:36:06,359
Speaker 1: catches that ten thousand would also be going into like

723
00:36:06,640 --> 00:36:08,759
Speaker 1: a car for college there you go, because then we

724
00:36:08,800 --> 00:36:10,920
Speaker 1: could say, hey, we could use this ten for a

725
00:36:11,160 --> 00:36:14,839
Speaker 1: reliable vehicle to get you to college. So I have

726
00:36:14,880 --> 00:36:20,360
Speaker 1: my ways of being able to use it. So the

727
00:36:20,600 --> 00:36:23,760
Speaker 1: YouTube is a good question though, like that's the gray area,

728
00:36:24,280 --> 00:36:28,480
Speaker 1: and the gray area is this London has an account

729
00:36:29,160 --> 00:36:32,480
Speaker 1: with twenty four thousand followers. I just asked her last night.

730
00:36:32,520 --> 00:36:32,759
Speaker 2: Wow.

731
00:36:33,040 --> 00:36:37,319
Speaker 1: And she makes money every month, ranging anywhere between one

732
00:36:37,400 --> 00:36:40,800
Speaker 1: hundred and fifty dollars to up. I've seen seven hundred

733
00:36:40,800 --> 00:36:41,560
Speaker 1: dollars a month.

734
00:36:41,840 --> 00:36:44,640
Speaker 2: Wow. That's incredible. It is.

735
00:36:44,920 --> 00:36:47,840
Speaker 1: And it's also a problem because she's like, it's my job, daddy,

736
00:36:48,239 --> 00:36:49,520
Speaker 1: I have to make money.

737
00:36:49,680 --> 00:36:50,120
Speaker 2: I have to.

738
00:36:50,160 --> 00:36:51,720
Speaker 1: I'm like, hey, you're not supposed to be on YouTube,

739
00:36:51,760 --> 00:36:54,319
Speaker 1: and she's like, but I have to because it's my job.

740
00:36:55,120 --> 00:36:58,000
Speaker 2: So she's using that against me. But it's also a

741
00:36:58,040 --> 00:37:00,239
Speaker 2: mindset that you try to instill in your kids. Do

742
00:37:00,680 --> 00:37:06,799
Speaker 2: work hard, make money, you know, against each other. How

743
00:37:06,840 --> 00:37:07,600
Speaker 2: are you navigating that?

744
00:37:07,800 --> 00:37:11,760
Speaker 1: So we are monitoring every single thing she wants. She can't.

745
00:37:12,320 --> 00:37:14,560
Speaker 1: First of all, the comments on her videos are turned off,

746
00:37:14,760 --> 00:37:18,040
Speaker 1: so no one can comment on her videos, So she

747
00:37:18,040 --> 00:37:24,240
Speaker 1: can't sit there and scroll comments. That's great. Uh, she's

748
00:37:24,280 --> 00:37:26,560
Speaker 1: not allowed to be on YouTube shorts where she's scrolling,

749
00:37:26,600 --> 00:37:30,320
Speaker 1: because that's pretty much social media. Yeah, that's TikTok, that's TikTok.

750
00:37:30,800 --> 00:37:35,000
Speaker 1: But sometimes she'll post a video and then scroll her

751
00:37:35,040 --> 00:37:37,680
Speaker 1: own videos, and so they're like, there's a little bit

752
00:37:37,680 --> 00:37:38,680
Speaker 1: of a gray area there.

753
00:37:39,600 --> 00:37:44,560
Speaker 2: Do you still see light counts? I see comments? Do

754
00:37:44,600 --> 00:37:45,520
Speaker 2: you see I.

755
00:37:45,440 --> 00:37:48,000
Speaker 1: Don't think there's likes, They're just views, is what she

756
00:37:48,040 --> 00:37:48,360
Speaker 1: goes by.

757
00:37:48,480 --> 00:37:50,920
Speaker 2: Okay, okay, so she's see some react.

758
00:37:51,000 --> 00:37:55,160
Speaker 1: I'm not quite sure about that. So addictive. So we're

759
00:37:55,200 --> 00:38:02,320
Speaker 1: working through that with Lincoln. Lincoln loves these junk YouTube

760
00:38:02,640 --> 00:38:08,120
Speaker 1: channels that just literally talk about college football video games

761
00:38:08,680 --> 00:38:12,200
Speaker 1: with the video that ncaa video game. It's these dudes

762
00:38:12,200 --> 00:38:15,600
Speaker 1: playing this game. And he will watch these guys.

763
00:38:15,320 --> 00:38:17,320
Speaker 2: And giving recommendations or just them playing.

764
00:38:17,960 --> 00:38:20,720
Speaker 1: It's them playing and talking about it and like oh wow,

765
00:38:20,800 --> 00:38:23,640
Speaker 1: you know, like using vintage players and they're like, Okay,

766
00:38:23,640 --> 00:38:25,480
Speaker 1: now I'm gonna try to win this game, you know,

767
00:38:25,560 --> 00:38:29,319
Speaker 1: by everybody in my roster's fourth team, fourth string, you know,

768
00:38:30,160 --> 00:38:35,120
Speaker 1: like just weird, the weirdest stuff, and or like I'm

769
00:38:35,160 --> 00:38:37,719
Speaker 1: gonna build my roster with everyone has to have a

770
00:38:37,880 --> 00:38:40,840
Speaker 1: last name that starts with an s, you know, the

771
00:38:40,960 --> 00:38:44,080
Speaker 1: most random strings. And he'll just watch these guys and

772
00:38:44,120 --> 00:38:48,120
Speaker 1: so I'll call that trash TV. So he has to

773
00:38:48,440 --> 00:38:53,840
Speaker 1: he can only have an option for trash TV on Saturdays,

774
00:38:53,880 --> 00:38:56,360
Speaker 1: Fridays and Saturdays, but Friday half a day because he

775
00:38:56,400 --> 00:39:01,120
Speaker 1: goes to school. But even that has a limit that changes.

776
00:39:01,440 --> 00:39:03,319
Speaker 1: My kids are not allowed to have screens at all

777
00:39:03,320 --> 00:39:07,360
Speaker 1: on Sunday. They're not allowed to have them Monday, Tuesday

778
00:39:07,480 --> 00:39:13,160
Speaker 1: and Wednesday. But they can negotiate Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday through

779
00:39:14,239 --> 00:39:18,640
Speaker 1: doing extra chores. But they can't watch trash, which is

780
00:39:20,000 --> 00:39:22,000
Speaker 1: the reason they wanted anyway, the reason they want it.

781
00:39:22,320 --> 00:39:24,920
Speaker 1: For London that's girls putting on makeup and for Lincoln

782
00:39:25,000 --> 00:39:29,880
Speaker 1: that's football stuff. Constantly got it on Thursday afternoon they

783
00:39:29,880 --> 00:39:32,520
Speaker 1: get them from school. They could watch some kind of

784
00:39:32,640 --> 00:39:37,160
Speaker 1: educational something. Okay, well this is so complicated, but yes,

785
00:39:37,480 --> 00:39:39,040
Speaker 1: you have to tailor it as you get along too.

786
00:39:39,239 --> 00:39:41,319
Speaker 2: I mean you do if you're happy. It's either it

787
00:39:41,360 --> 00:39:45,960
Speaker 2: can't really be for everything all or nothing all the time. Yeah.

788
00:39:46,080 --> 00:39:48,399
Speaker 2: I mean, our youngest daughter has a phone right now,

789
00:39:48,400 --> 00:39:51,000
Speaker 2: and she has an iPhone. But it me just saying that.

790
00:39:51,040 --> 00:39:52,680
Speaker 2: You think, oh, she has an iPhone. She walks around

791
00:39:52,680 --> 00:39:55,520
Speaker 2: with it. She doesn't know it's plugged in in my office.

792
00:39:55,880 --> 00:39:58,040
Speaker 2: The only time she takes it is when we're going

793
00:39:58,080 --> 00:40:01,799
Speaker 2: somewhere all together. Doesn't have other people's numbers in it,

794
00:40:01,840 --> 00:40:05,080
Speaker 2: and they don't have hers. It's for us to get like,

795
00:40:05,160 --> 00:40:06,719
Speaker 2: we'll give it to her if she's going with a

796
00:40:06,760 --> 00:40:10,040
Speaker 2: friend and We tell her it stays in your fanny

797
00:40:10,080 --> 00:40:13,880
Speaker 2: pack unless there's an emergency, and I will know if

798
00:40:13,920 --> 00:40:17,360
Speaker 2: you've taken it out to do something. Yeah, And she's like, okay,

799
00:40:17,760 --> 00:40:19,399
Speaker 2: how old is Grace? She's ten.

800
00:40:20,200 --> 00:40:22,840
Speaker 1: So you remember just a few years ago, you and

801
00:40:22,840 --> 00:40:24,480
Speaker 1: I would have both said here and been like, my

802
00:40:24,560 --> 00:40:27,240
Speaker 1: daughter's not getting a phone until sixteen or eighteen.

803
00:40:28,320 --> 00:40:30,840
Speaker 2: But that changes, It does life.

804
00:40:31,040 --> 00:40:34,640
Speaker 1: It's not like we're giving in just the situation is

805
00:40:34,719 --> 00:40:37,800
Speaker 1: changing around us so fast well.

806
00:40:37,640 --> 00:40:40,839
Speaker 2: And it's giving her some responsibility in it, but with

807
00:40:41,040 --> 00:40:44,319
Speaker 2: some very rigid guardrails. I say, rigid ones that we

808
00:40:44,400 --> 00:40:47,160
Speaker 2: decide if they move or not. She doesn't just based

809
00:40:47,160 --> 00:40:50,080
Speaker 2: on a whim or you know, I have you. She

810
00:40:50,120 --> 00:40:51,960
Speaker 2: doesn't just have free reign with it. It doesn't.

811
00:40:52,040 --> 00:40:54,719
Speaker 1: It never goes to one room ever, That's exactly right.

812
00:40:54,760 --> 00:40:56,239
Speaker 1: I was going to say that. So phones are not

813
00:40:56,320 --> 00:40:58,560
Speaker 1: allowed in room screens, and there can't go to rooms

814
00:40:58,560 --> 00:41:02,920
Speaker 1: at all, and they have to be in the family

815
00:41:03,000 --> 00:41:10,480
Speaker 1: living living space. And then Amber watches every single thing

816
00:41:10,520 --> 00:41:13,759
Speaker 1: that they see because she has that Bark app. Bark

817
00:41:13,920 --> 00:41:18,120
Speaker 1: monitors every single thing they do, so we're constantly looking.

818
00:41:18,120 --> 00:41:20,399
Speaker 1: They don't have free rand to the internet. They don't

819
00:41:20,400 --> 00:41:24,040
Speaker 1: have free Rando YouTube at all, and they can only

820
00:41:24,080 --> 00:41:26,399
Speaker 1: watch channels that we have approved. I'll say that too.

821
00:41:26,480 --> 00:41:30,600
Speaker 1: They can't just random like Lincoln watches those trash football things. Yes,

822
00:41:30,960 --> 00:41:33,400
Speaker 1: but he's not allowed to go outside of that realm.

823
00:41:33,840 --> 00:41:35,839
Speaker 1: He can't start like all of a sudden, watching this

824
00:41:35,920 --> 00:41:36,799
Speaker 1: unless he comes up.

825
00:41:37,120 --> 00:41:37,279
Speaker 2: Well.

826
00:41:37,320 --> 00:41:39,840
Speaker 1: What she does occasionally says, hey, daddy, can can you

827
00:41:39,920 --> 00:41:42,000
Speaker 1: check out this YouTuber real quick? See if you approve him?

828
00:41:42,200 --> 00:41:44,600
Speaker 1: He does this and this and this, and I'll scan

829
00:41:44,719 --> 00:41:45,680
Speaker 1: through it and I'll go yeah.

830
00:41:45,680 --> 00:41:48,920
Speaker 2: Approved. To answer a little bit more for Emily, yes,

831
00:41:49,680 --> 00:41:53,120
Speaker 2: even if you are. I think what a lot of

832
00:41:53,160 --> 00:41:56,719
Speaker 2: parents think is I don't I don't know. I don't

833
00:41:56,760 --> 00:41:59,000
Speaker 2: know how to get into all the settings and do

834
00:41:59,040 --> 00:42:01,680
Speaker 2: all this stuff after. They don't know how to do

835
00:42:01,719 --> 00:42:03,400
Speaker 2: it on their own phone, right, but they don't know

836
00:42:03,400 --> 00:42:05,480
Speaker 2: how to go block things or set up the phone

837
00:42:05,480 --> 00:42:08,399
Speaker 2: for the kid in order take the time learn you

838
00:42:08,400 --> 00:42:11,000
Speaker 2: go on YouTube, because it'll tell I need to block

839
00:42:11,080 --> 00:42:13,640
Speaker 2: sites for my kid's phone. How that type that in,

840
00:42:14,040 --> 00:42:16,480
Speaker 2: It'll show you and it'll work. It'll step you through

841
00:42:16,520 --> 00:42:19,480
Speaker 2: their phone how to walk things and how to monitor

842
00:42:19,520 --> 00:42:19,759
Speaker 2: it all.

843
00:42:19,840 --> 00:42:20,319
Speaker 1: Just like you said.

844
00:42:20,320 --> 00:42:22,680
Speaker 2: A bark, you know, having the bark gap. But just

845
00:42:22,719 --> 00:42:24,600
Speaker 2: take a little time. If you're gonna if you're gonna

846
00:42:24,680 --> 00:42:26,200
Speaker 2: give them a phone or you're gonna give them some

847
00:42:26,280 --> 00:42:28,759
Speaker 2: kind of access to it, just take the time and

848
00:42:28,920 --> 00:42:32,920
Speaker 2: be responsible to uh set guardrails up. You wouldn't just

849
00:42:32,960 --> 00:42:35,400
Speaker 2: hand them take a gas on a lighter and go,

850
00:42:36,000 --> 00:42:37,640
Speaker 2: I mean, I don't know, let's see what happens with it.

851
00:42:37,680 --> 00:42:40,120
Speaker 2: You would show them how okay, well the lighters for

852
00:42:40,200 --> 00:42:42,600
Speaker 2: the grill and the tank of gas is for your lawnmower.

853
00:42:42,680 --> 00:42:44,680
Speaker 2: You know, you would show them great.

854
00:42:44,840 --> 00:42:46,880
Speaker 1: You know, no one would no one give them the

855
00:42:46,960 --> 00:42:49,200
Speaker 1: keys to a car and go go out there and

856
00:42:49,239 --> 00:42:50,520
Speaker 1: I hope you make the right turns.

857
00:42:50,560 --> 00:42:54,480
Speaker 2: I hope. So yeah. But you know, for parents, you

858
00:42:54,560 --> 00:42:57,160
Speaker 2: know you already know how that is, and it's easy

859
00:42:57,160 --> 00:42:59,600
Speaker 2: for you to explain. The problem is most parents just

860
00:42:59,640 --> 00:43:01,239
Speaker 2: don't know. Oh so then I don't take the time

861
00:43:01,239 --> 00:43:06,040
Speaker 2: to educate themselves in it. It's changing like that. This

862
00:43:06,280 --> 00:43:10,439
Speaker 2: side note I'm on the developer side of the from

863
00:43:10,520 --> 00:43:13,279
Speaker 2: when we had the ee app radio app is that

864
00:43:13,320 --> 00:43:15,480
Speaker 2: I'm on the developer side, so I get the actual

865
00:43:16,480 --> 00:43:20,560
Speaker 2: developer betas for phone and iPad or whatever, and I'll

866
00:43:20,600 --> 00:43:24,000
Speaker 2: do those and just stay up to date simply because

867
00:43:24,200 --> 00:43:26,239
Speaker 2: then I can tell I tell my twenty two year

868
00:43:26,280 --> 00:43:31,120
Speaker 2: old daughter things about the upcoming iOS and what it

869
00:43:31,120 --> 00:43:32,560
Speaker 2: can do for you now and things you need to

870
00:43:32,560 --> 00:43:35,360
Speaker 2: go turn so cool, just because mainly because I'm a

871
00:43:35,360 --> 00:43:38,320
Speaker 2: nerd and I like, I like investigating that kind of stuff,

872
00:43:38,400 --> 00:43:43,120
Speaker 2: but also to safeguard and keep my I've my stepdad

873
00:43:43,239 --> 00:43:47,600
Speaker 2: it was super into computers when I knew him a

874
00:43:47,600 --> 00:43:51,560
Speaker 2: long time. But now he called me the other day

875
00:43:51,560 --> 00:43:52,600
Speaker 2: and he's like, I don't know how to get a

876
00:43:52,680 --> 00:43:55,279
Speaker 2: picture from my phone to my computer. Can you help me? Like,

877
00:43:55,320 --> 00:43:57,040
Speaker 2: you just didn't stay up on this, did you? He goes, No,

878
00:43:57,920 --> 00:44:00,640
Speaker 2: just didn't didn't have a reason to like stay up

879
00:44:00,640 --> 00:44:02,680
Speaker 2: on it. It's where the world's stay up on it,

880
00:44:02,719 --> 00:44:05,480
Speaker 2: so you know and inform yourself. Yeah.

881
00:44:05,520 --> 00:44:07,279
Speaker 1: And by the time so this good little girl and

882
00:44:07,320 --> 00:44:10,759
Speaker 1: Emily's grow is five, yeah, exactly, So by the time

883
00:44:10,880 --> 00:44:15,600
Speaker 1: she's she's Grace's age, it's going to be drastically different.

884
00:44:15,719 --> 00:44:19,000
Speaker 1: So you can't take ant Man's advice for Grace at

885
00:44:19,160 --> 00:44:21,879
Speaker 1: Grace being ten and then apply this to your daughter

886
00:44:21,920 --> 00:44:22,680
Speaker 1: in five years.

887
00:44:22,520 --> 00:44:24,880
Speaker 2: Because it's going to be different exactly very different.

888
00:44:24,920 --> 00:44:26,640
Speaker 1: We were talking before stay up on It, before we

889
00:44:26,640 --> 00:44:29,120
Speaker 1: start recording, A man and I were talking about chat

890
00:44:29,160 --> 00:44:32,440
Speaker 1: GBT and treating that as social media for kids. So

891
00:44:32,520 --> 00:44:35,360
Speaker 1: whenever you would allow your kids to have social media,

892
00:44:35,400 --> 00:44:37,040
Speaker 1: that's also the time you would allow them to have

893
00:44:37,120 --> 00:44:40,560
Speaker 1: chat GBT. Right we say that today, that might change

894
00:44:41,160 --> 00:44:43,280
Speaker 1: next year it might be something totally different.

895
00:44:43,320 --> 00:44:45,239
Speaker 2: I could see that that actually being a class in

896
00:44:45,280 --> 00:44:48,200
Speaker 2: school how to properly use chat GPT. It's going to

897
00:44:48,200 --> 00:44:50,719
Speaker 2: be that involved. I mean, your phone right now is

898
00:44:50,760 --> 00:44:53,360
Speaker 2: learning how you write, from text to social media posts

899
00:44:53,440 --> 00:44:57,160
Speaker 2: to your journal, all of that is being fed into

900
00:44:57,200 --> 00:45:01,359
Speaker 2: your phone's intelligence. Your phone knows everything about you, how

901
00:45:01,400 --> 00:45:04,040
Speaker 2: you think, how you write. It's moving that direction. That's

902
00:45:04,080 --> 00:45:06,440
Speaker 2: really what the journal app is in your phone. It's

903
00:45:06,440 --> 00:45:09,319
Speaker 2: collecting data from you. And you know, I think that

904
00:45:09,719 --> 00:45:11,960
Speaker 2: if we don't teach kids how to do it responsibly,

905
00:45:12,000 --> 00:45:13,680
Speaker 2: it's just going to get off the rails. I see

906
00:45:13,680 --> 00:45:15,560
Speaker 2: that being a class. So if they're doing that in

907
00:45:15,560 --> 00:45:18,400
Speaker 2: a class, that's one thing. But if they're using it

908
00:45:18,440 --> 00:45:20,880
Speaker 2: to cheat in the class, to write their English papers,

909
00:45:20,960 --> 00:45:24,719
Speaker 2: to help them with math. Help is one thing to

910
00:45:24,760 --> 00:45:27,920
Speaker 2: finish your homework. That's a different story. Yeah, you can

911
00:45:27,960 --> 00:45:31,200
Speaker 2: literally write now twelve plus twelve and it'll give you

912
00:45:31,239 --> 00:45:35,200
Speaker 2: the answer. It gives you the answer. It's a equivalent

913
00:45:35,280 --> 00:45:38,719
Speaker 2: to the calculator exactly exactly, exactly right.

914
00:45:39,080 --> 00:45:41,640
Speaker 1: And I think right now what you're talking about CHAUDGBT

915
00:45:42,000 --> 00:45:44,680
Speaker 1: in its form today is it's like a pager compared

916
00:45:44,719 --> 00:45:47,440
Speaker 1: to FaceTime where it's going to be just in a.

917
00:45:47,360 --> 00:45:50,240
Speaker 2: Few years, one hundred percent, we're.

918
00:45:50,120 --> 00:45:51,520
Speaker 1: Going to look back and go, Man, remember when you

919
00:45:51,560 --> 00:45:53,839
Speaker 1: actually have to type this stuff. Have you ever had

920
00:45:53,880 --> 00:45:55,800
Speaker 1: conversations with CHADGBT in the audio.

921
00:45:55,920 --> 00:45:58,399
Speaker 2: I don't do a lot of talking to it. I have,

922
00:45:58,560 --> 00:46:00,919
Speaker 2: I have tried it. I don't. I haven't. I don't

923
00:46:00,960 --> 00:46:03,560
Speaker 2: do that much. I use it very practically for the

924
00:46:03,680 --> 00:46:06,279
Speaker 2: fiends that I'm that I'm writing, you know, on some

925
00:46:06,360 --> 00:46:08,279
Speaker 2: of the other podcasts that I'll work on, I use

926
00:46:08,320 --> 00:46:11,200
Speaker 2: it to write descriptions. I'll just take the transcript and

927
00:46:11,239 --> 00:46:14,160
Speaker 2: drop it in from the whole podcast, write a description.

928
00:46:14,160 --> 00:46:15,120
Speaker 2: We'll just most do this.

929
00:46:16,800 --> 00:46:20,280
Speaker 1: Hey, I'm sitting here with a producer for my podcast.

930
00:46:20,280 --> 00:46:22,880
Speaker 1: His name is ant Man. We're talking about chat GBT

931
00:46:23,080 --> 00:46:24,600
Speaker 1: and just the future of it and the way that

932
00:46:25,400 --> 00:46:30,000
Speaker 1: we could interact especially with voices, and how crazy that's

933
00:46:30,040 --> 00:46:31,200
Speaker 1: going to get in the future. What do you have

934
00:46:31,239 --> 00:46:33,000
Speaker 1: to say about all that to the people listening now

935
00:46:33,040 --> 00:46:35,960
Speaker 1: on the podcast, It's.

936
00:46:35,840 --> 00:46:40,160
Speaker 5: Fascinating to think about where voice technology could go. Right now,

937
00:46:40,320 --> 00:46:44,640
Speaker 5: we can have natural conversations, but imagine more personalized interactions

938
00:46:44,719 --> 00:46:48,600
Speaker 5: and even deeper integration into daily life. The potential is huge,

939
00:46:48,880 --> 00:46:51,839
Speaker 5: and it can make tech feel even more human. It's

940
00:46:51,840 --> 00:46:55,600
Speaker 5: all about making these tools more intuitive and helpful for everyone.

941
00:46:56,600 --> 00:47:01,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's fascinating. Thanks, brother, You're.

942
00:47:01,280 --> 00:47:03,520
Speaker 3: Welcome, Glad to be part of your conversation.

943
00:47:04,840 --> 00:47:06,240
Speaker 1: I don't know why I called him brother.

944
00:47:07,239 --> 00:47:08,960
Speaker 2: Who is this is how you talk? And he might

945
00:47:09,000 --> 00:47:10,600
Speaker 2: be offended if you didn't call him brother because he

946
00:47:10,680 --> 00:47:13,360
Speaker 2: knows that's how you do. You can't see it. I

947
00:47:13,360 --> 00:47:16,280
Speaker 2: don't think right here, but there's a mic literally right

948
00:47:16,320 --> 00:47:20,080
Speaker 2: by your phone. I think we might should just set

949
00:47:20,160 --> 00:47:23,120
Speaker 2: him up asking questions every once in a while on

950
00:47:23,160 --> 00:47:28,040
Speaker 2: the show. On the podcast, Okay, Greg wrote an email,

951
00:47:28,640 --> 00:47:29,680
Speaker 2: this is what we've been talking about.

952
00:47:29,680 --> 00:47:32,040
Speaker 1: What do you think about it? I want to ask

953
00:47:32,080 --> 00:47:34,239
Speaker 1: right now. I mean, it's kind of like where this

954
00:47:34,280 --> 00:47:38,440
Speaker 1: podcast is going to do right now. So I'm on

955
00:47:38,480 --> 00:47:40,600
Speaker 1: a podcast right now, I got a question from Emily,

956
00:47:40,640 --> 00:47:42,640
Speaker 1: and what we do on this podcast is answer questions,

957
00:47:42,640 --> 00:47:50,520
Speaker 1: and she's wondering, really how to guard children from social media,

958
00:47:51,120 --> 00:47:55,720
Speaker 1: especially YouTube, when they're watching things like Taylor Swift music

959
00:47:55,800 --> 00:47:59,680
Speaker 1: videos and they are influencing them in the wrong way.

960
00:47:59,719 --> 00:48:03,000
Speaker 1: So how do we navigate that with kids?

961
00:48:05,280 --> 00:48:06,680
Speaker 3: That's a great question, Emily.

962
00:48:07,160 --> 00:48:10,040
Speaker 5: One way to approach it is by setting clear guidelines

963
00:48:10,120 --> 00:48:13,600
Speaker 5: on what content is appropriate and using parental controls to

964
00:48:13,680 --> 00:48:17,360
Speaker 5: monitor usage. Watching together can also be a good strategy.

965
00:48:17,719 --> 00:48:20,040
Speaker 5: It lets you discuss what they see and guide them

966
00:48:20,120 --> 00:48:24,279
Speaker 5: on critical thinking about media. Encouraging open conversations about what

967
00:48:24,320 --> 00:48:27,520
Speaker 5: they watch helps them develop a balanced view and understand

968
00:48:27,600 --> 00:48:28,280
Speaker 5: your concerns.

969
00:48:28,760 --> 00:48:30,480
Speaker 3: Would you like more specific tips?

970
00:48:31,040 --> 00:48:33,160
Speaker 1: No, man, we'll take it from here. Maybe one of

971
00:48:33,160 --> 00:48:35,040
Speaker 1: these days we'll actually get you on the podcast and

972
00:48:35,040 --> 00:48:35,640
Speaker 1: do the whole thing.

973
00:48:38,360 --> 00:48:41,640
Speaker 5: That sounds like a lot of fun. Whenever you're ready,

974
00:48:41,760 --> 00:48:44,000
Speaker 5: I'm here to help. Good luck with your podcast.

975
00:48:44,400 --> 00:48:45,200
Speaker 1: Thanks.

976
00:48:46,200 --> 00:48:49,160
Speaker 2: You use that microphone stand and again it's off camera

977
00:48:49,239 --> 00:48:52,399
Speaker 2: right now, that microphone stand with the thing to set

978
00:48:52,440 --> 00:48:54,799
Speaker 2: your to set your focus when you have to go

979
00:48:54,800 --> 00:48:56,680
Speaker 2: around and do it. Maybe we just make that the

980
00:48:56,800 --> 00:48:59,359
Speaker 2: chat GPT guy. You just have him set it that mic,

981
00:48:59,760 --> 00:49:02,000
Speaker 2: give him a camera. We're getting another camera for him,

982
00:49:02,320 --> 00:49:04,680
Speaker 2: and then we can just took the phone up right

983
00:49:04,680 --> 00:49:06,520
Speaker 2: to the right to the road cast. It is recorded.

984
00:49:06,560 --> 00:49:07,560
Speaker 1: Fascinating, it is.

985
00:49:08,200 --> 00:49:12,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's where we are in twenty twenty four in November, you.

986
00:49:12,000 --> 00:49:14,120
Speaker 1: Know where at You know, I'll say that the last time.

987
00:49:14,280 --> 00:49:15,560
Speaker 1: I'll put it up one more time. But you know,

988
00:49:15,600 --> 00:49:18,760
Speaker 1: the when I first discovered this voice, it was starting

989
00:49:18,760 --> 00:49:19,279
Speaker 1: to listen to me.

990
00:49:19,360 --> 00:49:19,799
Speaker 2: Yeah, it is.

991
00:49:21,400 --> 00:49:23,840
Speaker 1: When I first discovered this is I was I was

992
00:49:23,880 --> 00:49:28,399
Speaker 1: going to Latin America on a mission trip, and I

993
00:49:28,440 --> 00:49:33,200
Speaker 1: was like going through these different apps about prayers, and

994
00:49:33,600 --> 00:49:35,080
Speaker 1: I decided to go to him to see if he

995
00:49:35,120 --> 00:49:39,799
Speaker 1: could help me with a prayer. You probably don't remember this,

996
00:49:40,120 --> 00:49:43,280
Speaker 1: but a while back, I was going to Latin America

997
00:49:43,320 --> 00:49:45,080
Speaker 1: and I was going to be speaking Spanish on a

998
00:49:45,080 --> 00:49:46,879
Speaker 1: mission trip, and I was asking you if you could

999
00:49:46,880 --> 00:49:49,040
Speaker 1: help me with some prayers. And so now as I

1000
00:49:49,040 --> 00:49:51,560
Speaker 1: talk to the people on the podcast, maybe you could

1001
00:49:51,600 --> 00:49:55,560
Speaker 1: show me how I said, Hey, give me in Spanish

1002
00:49:55,680 --> 00:49:58,840
Speaker 1: a good prayer for the people on this mission trip.

1003
00:50:02,640 --> 00:50:20,320
Speaker 3: Sure thing here, diss, I'm.

1004
00:50:21,239 --> 00:50:23,560
Speaker 1: Okay, hold up, now tell me what you said.

1005
00:50:25,440 --> 00:50:27,200
Speaker 3: Sure, here's what I said in English.

1006
00:50:27,440 --> 00:50:30,200
Speaker 5: Loving God, we ask you to guide and protect our

1007
00:50:30,239 --> 00:50:33,719
Speaker 5: team on this mission. Give us strength, wisdom, and an

1008
00:50:33,719 --> 00:50:37,000
Speaker 5: open heart to serve others. May your love shine through us,

1009
00:50:37,239 --> 00:50:37,600
Speaker 5: and may we.

1010
00:50:37,680 --> 00:50:38,520
Speaker 1: Bring that's good.

1011
00:50:38,520 --> 00:50:43,120
Speaker 3: Thanks, You're welcome. If there's any so.

1012
00:50:45,080 --> 00:50:47,400
Speaker 1: Fascinating, So I can go back and forth and I

1013
00:50:47,400 --> 00:50:49,160
Speaker 1: can say, hey, you should got to slow way down,

1014
00:50:49,520 --> 00:50:51,839
Speaker 1: and he would slow down the prayer and then I'd

1015
00:50:51,840 --> 00:50:53,960
Speaker 1: be like hey, and I could like test the theology

1016
00:50:54,000 --> 00:50:55,680
Speaker 1: and be like, I don't like how you said this.

1017
00:50:55,920 --> 00:51:00,040
Speaker 1: I would rather you say through Jesus, you know, some

1018
00:51:00,080 --> 00:51:01,840
Speaker 1: thing like that. And he's like, yeah, no problem, let

1019
00:51:01,880 --> 00:51:04,560
Speaker 1: me change that for you. And he was walking through.

1020
00:51:05,200 --> 00:51:06,840
Speaker 2: I was going to say when he was he speaks

1021
00:51:06,880 --> 00:51:10,399
Speaker 2: good Spanish. Yeah, way better than me, that's for sure.

1022
00:51:10,920 --> 00:51:14,839
Speaker 2: Oh lah. The But saying what he said in English

1023
00:51:15,480 --> 00:51:17,799
Speaker 2: that you can hear, you can tell that he's paid

1024
00:51:17,800 --> 00:51:21,799
Speaker 2: attention to you, that he's used words and phrases that

1025
00:51:21,840 --> 00:51:24,400
Speaker 2: you have, He's heard you say. I think he's like,

1026
00:51:24,440 --> 00:51:27,120
Speaker 2: it's a person saying that kind of scary. He knows

1027
00:51:27,160 --> 00:51:30,400
Speaker 2: me exactly. And it's that is only going to, for

1028
00:51:30,480 --> 00:51:32,759
Speaker 2: lack of a better term, improve, It's going to become

1029
00:51:32,840 --> 00:51:35,279
Speaker 2: more like the person the further we go. I mean

1030
00:51:36,160 --> 00:51:37,680
Speaker 2: that was that was four point.

1031
00:51:37,520 --> 00:51:40,239
Speaker 1: Zero or four oh yeah, four oh.

1032
00:51:40,520 --> 00:51:43,080
Speaker 2: The one that was right before was only about six

1033
00:51:43,120 --> 00:51:50,239
Speaker 2: months ago. Crazy, man, we have gotten way like having though.

1034
00:51:50,239 --> 00:51:53,719
Speaker 1: Man, this is fun, it is fun, but but these

1035
00:51:53,719 --> 00:51:56,919
Speaker 1: are just emily back to you. These are things we're

1036
00:51:56,920 --> 00:51:58,640
Speaker 1: going to be thinking through. And I think you should

1037
00:51:58,640 --> 00:52:01,480
Speaker 1: put a I into this social media category.

1038
00:52:01,520 --> 00:52:02,120
Speaker 2: All of us should.

1039
00:52:03,239 --> 00:52:07,360
Speaker 1: This is not something that we want our kids to

1040
00:52:07,440 --> 00:52:11,800
Speaker 1: be immersed with yet. I say yet, because I guarantee

1041
00:52:11,800 --> 00:52:15,440
Speaker 1: you in twenty years the teachers will be AI.

1042
00:52:15,800 --> 00:52:18,359
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, absolutely, I definitely. You know, if we have

1043
00:52:18,680 --> 00:52:21,080
Speaker 2: robots go we talked about this on After Midnight as

1044
00:52:21,120 --> 00:52:24,120
Speaker 2: we have robots going into the house within the next year.

1045
00:52:24,960 --> 00:52:29,080
Speaker 2: From Elon Musk was optimus that if you're going to

1046
00:52:29,120 --> 00:52:30,680
Speaker 2: you're gonna have them clean your house. You're gonna have

1047
00:52:30,680 --> 00:52:32,320
Speaker 2: them teaching your kids in five years.

1048
00:52:32,560 --> 00:52:38,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, crazy stuff, and which doesn't have to be scary.

1049
00:52:38,840 --> 00:52:40,400
Speaker 1: It doesn't have to be scary. I was actually just

1050
00:52:40,440 --> 00:52:41,280
Speaker 1: going to say that.

1051
00:52:41,440 --> 00:52:43,360
Speaker 2: Because it can be what you want it to be.

1052
00:52:43,920 --> 00:52:45,680
Speaker 2: That's what is just look on the right side of

1053
00:52:45,719 --> 00:52:47,719
Speaker 2: this whole thing, you get to teach or you get

1054
00:52:47,760 --> 00:52:50,120
Speaker 2: to tell it. I want you to teach my kid right,

1055
00:52:50,200 --> 00:52:54,319
Speaker 2: based off the Bible and based off this translation. Yes,

1056
00:52:54,560 --> 00:52:57,880
Speaker 2: and make sure everything run through the plan with me

1057
00:52:58,080 --> 00:53:00,360
Speaker 2: before you tell them. I want to know every detail

1058
00:53:00,360 --> 00:53:01,680
Speaker 2: that you're going to talk to exactly right.

1059
00:53:01,880 --> 00:53:04,879
Speaker 1: So this example we just did with with the Spanish thing,

1060
00:53:05,840 --> 00:53:09,319
Speaker 1: I would never just go hey, chat GBT, just say

1061
00:53:09,360 --> 00:53:12,040
Speaker 1: a prayer and let me let me memorize that and

1062
00:53:12,040 --> 00:53:13,759
Speaker 1: go say it in Spanish. Yeah, you know I'm going

1063
00:53:13,840 --> 00:53:16,359
Speaker 1: to say, hey, walk through in English. This is what

1064
00:53:16,400 --> 00:53:18,640
Speaker 1: I want to say. Now, give me the best way

1065
00:53:18,680 --> 00:53:21,080
Speaker 1: in Spanish, not word for word English, but how they

1066
00:53:21,080 --> 00:53:23,560
Speaker 1: would say what I'm trying to say here, right, so

1067
00:53:23,600 --> 00:53:26,279
Speaker 1: that I'm controlling the theology of it, just like yea,

1068
00:53:26,280 --> 00:53:29,320
Speaker 1: I would be controlling the teaching exactly. So it doesn't

1069
00:53:29,320 --> 00:53:31,120
Speaker 1: have to be scary. I know everyone listening, or a

1070
00:53:31,160 --> 00:53:33,560
Speaker 1: lot of people listening, are like totally alarmed right now

1071
00:53:33,719 --> 00:53:35,600
Speaker 1: that our kids are going to be taught by robots

1072
00:53:35,640 --> 00:53:39,240
Speaker 1: in five years. But it doesn't have to be scared.

1073
00:53:39,360 --> 00:53:41,239
Speaker 2: No. In fact, it could be better than what you

1074
00:53:41,320 --> 00:53:43,920
Speaker 2: have now in a lot of ways. If your word,

1075
00:53:44,080 --> 00:53:45,480
Speaker 2: If you're one of those parents that doesn't want to

1076
00:53:45,480 --> 00:53:47,560
Speaker 2: send their kid to a public school because you don't

1077
00:53:47,560 --> 00:53:49,040
Speaker 2: know what the teacher is going to be talking about.

1078
00:53:49,040 --> 00:53:52,319
Speaker 2: It's good. You now get to tell the teacher what

1079
00:53:52,360 --> 00:53:53,399
Speaker 2: you're going to be talking about.

1080
00:53:53,400 --> 00:53:57,520
Speaker 1: It's good in the same way that you could trust

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Speaker 1: a robot driver on the road more than a distracted, drunk, texting,

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Speaker 2: Thanks.

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