1 00:00:19,880 --> 00:00:21,000 Speaker 1: Hey, Hurdler's EMILYA. 2 00:00:21,040 --> 00:00:25,520 Speaker 2: Badi here chiming in with another installment of five Minute Friday. 3 00:00:26,200 --> 00:00:28,440 Speaker 2: I have a favor to ask you right off the bat, 4 00:00:28,520 --> 00:00:31,360 Speaker 2: the first thing you hear in this episode, I want 5 00:00:31,640 --> 00:00:36,199 Speaker 2: your feedback in the show notes. I'm including a link. 6 00:00:36,680 --> 00:00:40,400 Speaker 2: I am doing a lot of planning for Hurdle in 7 00:00:40,520 --> 00:00:44,360 Speaker 2: twenty twenty one, and I want to know what you like, 8 00:00:44,960 --> 00:00:49,559 Speaker 2: what's sticking, what's resonating. All the good things, maybe some 9 00:00:49,680 --> 00:00:51,519 Speaker 2: of the bad things. I just want to get on 10 00:00:51,560 --> 00:00:53,680 Speaker 2: the same page because I want, if you're coming back 11 00:00:53,720 --> 00:00:55,960 Speaker 2: to this feed week after week, to be giving you 12 00:00:56,240 --> 00:00:58,440 Speaker 2: content that you care about and that resonates with you, 13 00:00:58,640 --> 00:01:02,320 Speaker 2: and that I I am just doing something good. So 14 00:01:03,000 --> 00:01:07,240 Speaker 2: please show notes, Google form Hurdle Feedback Survey. 15 00:01:07,760 --> 00:01:10,320 Speaker 1: I'm all heres. This week, I'm. 16 00:01:10,200 --> 00:01:14,040 Speaker 2: Chatting about my hair. I know that's like a random 17 00:01:14,120 --> 00:01:17,600 Speaker 2: thing to bring up on the podcast, but for a 18 00:01:17,640 --> 00:01:20,120 Speaker 2: few days this week, I wore my natural hair and 19 00:01:20,160 --> 00:01:22,360 Speaker 2: I was getting a ton of feedback on it, and 20 00:01:22,400 --> 00:01:27,400 Speaker 2: it made me want to bring this conversation to the show. 21 00:01:27,600 --> 00:01:30,400 Speaker 2: So here's the deal. When I was in high school, 22 00:01:30,760 --> 00:01:32,920 Speaker 2: I used to wear my natural curly hair all the 23 00:01:32,920 --> 00:01:35,760 Speaker 2: time and I'm not talking about like the curling iron 24 00:01:35,800 --> 00:01:37,839 Speaker 2: waves that you might see. 25 00:01:37,920 --> 00:01:40,080 Speaker 1: Like, I don't even know who to give an example of. 26 00:01:40,160 --> 00:01:42,560 Speaker 2: I always feel like I want to say Kardashian curling 27 00:01:42,600 --> 00:01:46,480 Speaker 2: iron waves, but maybe that's like Kardashian circa two thousand 28 00:01:46,520 --> 00:01:47,680 Speaker 2: and seventeen. 29 00:01:47,760 --> 00:01:50,000 Speaker 1: Maybe not now. I don't know. A lot of people 30 00:01:50,080 --> 00:01:50,559 Speaker 1: wave their. 31 00:01:50,440 --> 00:01:52,280 Speaker 2: Hair with a curling iron I am one of them. 32 00:01:52,360 --> 00:01:53,920 Speaker 2: I love to do it that way. It makes me 33 00:01:53,960 --> 00:01:56,480 Speaker 2: feel really pretty and attractive. I'm sitting here with my 34 00:01:56,520 --> 00:01:58,600 Speaker 2: hand under my chin, like if you could see me. 35 00:01:59,240 --> 00:02:00,520 Speaker 2: It just makes me feel nice. 36 00:02:01,120 --> 00:02:01,520 Speaker 1: Anyway. 37 00:02:01,680 --> 00:02:04,720 Speaker 2: I used to wear my hair though my natural curls 38 00:02:04,760 --> 00:02:07,920 Speaker 2: all the time, which are definitely tighter. It's like a 39 00:02:07,960 --> 00:02:10,920 Speaker 2: bigger style. If you go on over to the newsletter 40 00:02:11,080 --> 00:02:14,000 Speaker 2: plug link in the show notes, you'll see a photo 41 00:02:14,120 --> 00:02:17,320 Speaker 2: of me with my curly hair. In high school, I 42 00:02:17,360 --> 00:02:19,560 Speaker 2: was doing a lot of weight cycling. Then I was 43 00:02:19,880 --> 00:02:24,119 Speaker 2: constantly in and out of weight watchers meetings, and at 44 00:02:24,120 --> 00:02:26,680 Speaker 2: this time, when I was wearing my hair like this 45 00:02:26,880 --> 00:02:29,919 Speaker 2: from high school to college, I was feeling really uncomfortable 46 00:02:29,919 --> 00:02:33,000 Speaker 2: in my own body. I was also constantly wearing my 47 00:02:33,040 --> 00:02:35,360 Speaker 2: hair like this when I was at my heaviest my 48 00:02:35,440 --> 00:02:39,120 Speaker 2: freshman year of college. And so when I think about 49 00:02:39,160 --> 00:02:41,760 Speaker 2: that time in my life when I wasn't the happiest, 50 00:02:41,760 --> 00:02:44,200 Speaker 2: when I didn't have a really good self image, I 51 00:02:44,360 --> 00:02:48,920 Speaker 2: envisioned myself with this hairstyle. So fast forward to now, 52 00:02:49,400 --> 00:02:53,560 Speaker 2: it's like, God, ten years or so at least, I 53 00:02:53,600 --> 00:02:56,040 Speaker 2: look completely different than I did in high school and 54 00:02:56,200 --> 00:02:59,400 Speaker 2: at the beginning of college. I have had for a 55 00:02:59,480 --> 00:03:07,079 Speaker 2: long time trouble disassociating this hairstyle with the emily that was. 56 00:03:07,240 --> 00:03:09,760 Speaker 2: Like when I look at myself in the mirror and 57 00:03:09,840 --> 00:03:13,560 Speaker 2: my hair is naturally curly, I'm like seeing something that's 58 00:03:13,600 --> 00:03:16,959 Speaker 2: not real. Like I know that I do not currently 59 00:03:17,040 --> 00:03:19,600 Speaker 2: look like I did back then, but I look in 60 00:03:19,639 --> 00:03:23,320 Speaker 2: the mirror and I feel like I see the rounder cheeks. 61 00:03:23,360 --> 00:03:26,920 Speaker 2: I see some of that, you know, negativity, maybe that 62 00:03:27,040 --> 00:03:30,200 Speaker 2: surrounded how I felt at that time. It's like I'm 63 00:03:30,240 --> 00:03:33,720 Speaker 2: instantly transported back to so many of the scenarios that 64 00:03:33,800 --> 00:03:37,200 Speaker 2: made me feel lesser than, like my high school cafeteria 65 00:03:37,280 --> 00:03:39,120 Speaker 2: and the people that would make fun of me, or 66 00:03:39,600 --> 00:03:43,240 Speaker 2: god knows what. It's been interesting this week because I 67 00:03:43,240 --> 00:03:45,240 Speaker 2: don't know what got into me on I think it 68 00:03:45,280 --> 00:03:49,640 Speaker 2: was Wednesday to just like rocket naturally, but I did 69 00:03:50,240 --> 00:03:55,640 Speaker 2: and maybe for the first time in a I don't know, 70 00:03:55,760 --> 00:03:59,200 Speaker 2: like I don't want to say ever, but maybe the 71 00:03:59,240 --> 00:04:01,520 Speaker 2: first time in a life long time, I did my 72 00:04:01,640 --> 00:04:05,600 Speaker 2: hair like this, which it's currently the same curls right now, 73 00:04:05,960 --> 00:04:12,280 Speaker 2: and I felt really confident and really just home, like 74 00:04:12,560 --> 00:04:15,440 Speaker 2: this is who I am. I'm not sitting here saying 75 00:04:15,520 --> 00:04:18,040 Speaker 2: like I'm just gonna suddenly wear it like this exclusively 76 00:04:18,120 --> 00:04:21,000 Speaker 2: all the time, but I am saying, and I'm telling 77 00:04:21,000 --> 00:04:23,960 Speaker 2: you the story because I want to articulate that just 78 00:04:23,960 --> 00:04:28,360 Speaker 2: because someone changes, maybe losing weight made you a happier person, 79 00:04:28,400 --> 00:04:31,080 Speaker 2: maybe gaining weight made you a happier person, that doesn't 80 00:04:31,120 --> 00:04:33,720 Speaker 2: mean that there isn't going to be legacy work to do. 81 00:04:34,360 --> 00:04:38,000 Speaker 2: I am still doing the work. I am still working 82 00:04:38,040 --> 00:04:41,680 Speaker 2: on my inner dialogue and my overall body positivity and 83 00:04:42,120 --> 00:04:44,520 Speaker 2: embracing who it is that I've become because I am 84 00:04:44,600 --> 00:04:48,279 Speaker 2: proud of her. And I'm sure that maybe you have 85 00:04:48,360 --> 00:04:52,599 Speaker 2: something that you struggle with that transports you back to 86 00:04:52,680 --> 00:04:55,520 Speaker 2: a different point. And it's just so important for us 87 00:04:55,560 --> 00:04:58,280 Speaker 2: to recognize who it is that we really are and 88 00:04:58,360 --> 00:05:01,040 Speaker 2: to see what is actually happening in front of us. 89 00:05:01,040 --> 00:05:04,800 Speaker 2: If we want to continue to move forward. So I 90 00:05:04,880 --> 00:05:08,680 Speaker 2: prompt for you this week, what is one story that 91 00:05:08,720 --> 00:05:12,640 Speaker 2: you are telling yourself that is not true? What is 92 00:05:12,720 --> 00:05:15,839 Speaker 2: one story that you are telling yourself that is not true? 93 00:05:16,360 --> 00:05:19,960 Speaker 2: And you need to let go of listener question of 94 00:05:20,000 --> 00:05:22,200 Speaker 2: the Week this week. I feel like I cannot stick 95 00:05:22,240 --> 00:05:24,839 Speaker 2: with journaling no matter how many times I try. How 96 00:05:24,880 --> 00:05:27,120 Speaker 2: do I do it? I have gone through so many 97 00:05:27,120 --> 00:05:31,080 Speaker 2: different evolutions of journaling, Like I had a one line 98 00:05:31,080 --> 00:05:33,040 Speaker 2: a day journal that I used for about a year. 99 00:05:33,240 --> 00:05:36,240 Speaker 2: I've had like other various prompted journals, some that I 100 00:05:36,240 --> 00:05:40,120 Speaker 2: still use sporadically. I've used simple mind journals, like I've 101 00:05:40,160 --> 00:05:43,039 Speaker 2: done all of the things and the two biggest tips 102 00:05:43,080 --> 00:05:45,479 Speaker 2: that I can offer you one journal at a time 103 00:05:45,600 --> 00:05:49,040 Speaker 2: that invigorates you instead of makes you feel dread like 104 00:05:49,120 --> 00:05:52,200 Speaker 2: for me, I'll compare this to meditation. I do not 105 00:05:52,440 --> 00:05:54,680 Speaker 2: love meditating first thing in the morning, but I do 106 00:05:54,760 --> 00:05:56,880 Speaker 2: love meditating like in the middle of my work day 107 00:05:56,920 --> 00:05:59,119 Speaker 2: when I need a breath of fresh air. The middle 108 00:05:59,160 --> 00:06:01,400 Speaker 2: of the day at meditation practice works for me. The 109 00:06:01,440 --> 00:06:04,120 Speaker 2: morning meditation practice does not. So find a time for 110 00:06:04,200 --> 00:06:08,560 Speaker 2: journaling that invigorates you and feels right my next tip 111 00:06:08,880 --> 00:06:11,919 Speaker 2: is then find a journaling style that feels good for you. 112 00:06:12,000 --> 00:06:14,640 Speaker 2: I mentioned a variety of different ways that you can 113 00:06:14,680 --> 00:06:17,680 Speaker 2: do it for me. Right now, the lined journal and 114 00:06:17,839 --> 00:06:21,520 Speaker 2: ending each day with something I'm grateful for just feels right. 115 00:06:21,920 --> 00:06:23,720 Speaker 2: It might not feel that way forever, but for now 116 00:06:23,880 --> 00:06:27,320 Speaker 2: it feels good. So lean into a journaling practice that 117 00:06:27,880 --> 00:06:31,680 Speaker 2: is convenient and invigorates you and also excites you in 118 00:06:31,880 --> 00:06:34,839 Speaker 2: the style that you are journaling. If you have a 119 00:06:34,880 --> 00:06:37,560 Speaker 2: listener question, I'm all ears, you can always send those 120 00:06:37,600 --> 00:06:40,719 Speaker 2: over to me via email or DM at Emily at 121 00:06:40,800 --> 00:06:44,120 Speaker 2: Hurdle dot us or on Instagram at Hurdle Podcast or 122 00:06:44,160 --> 00:06:47,919 Speaker 2: at Emily a Body. And now finishing off with highlights 123 00:06:47,960 --> 00:06:50,200 Speaker 2: of the week. Links to all this goodness can be 124 00:06:50,279 --> 00:06:54,760 Speaker 2: found in the show notes read Uncomfortable Conversations with the 125 00:06:54,800 --> 00:06:58,760 Speaker 2: Black Man by Emmanuel at Sho. So I've highlighted a 126 00:06:58,839 --> 00:07:03,520 Speaker 2: manual before this. This man is such a good hearted human. 127 00:07:03,720 --> 00:07:07,520 Speaker 2: You have definitely by now watched his viral videos on 128 00:07:07,560 --> 00:07:11,360 Speaker 2: YouTube or Instagram or Facebook. And this week he released 129 00:07:11,360 --> 00:07:14,400 Speaker 2: his first book. I obviously haven't read it yet. The 130 00:07:14,480 --> 00:07:16,920 Speaker 2: reviews are calling it a perfect read for those who 131 00:07:17,000 --> 00:07:20,080 Speaker 2: might be intimidated by Waightier books like How to Be 132 00:07:20,120 --> 00:07:23,880 Speaker 2: an Anti Racist, so I'm amped for him. I loved 133 00:07:23,920 --> 00:07:26,440 Speaker 2: that yesterday. I think he posted that they sold eighteen 134 00:07:26,480 --> 00:07:30,320 Speaker 2: thousand copies in the first day, so definitely give that 135 00:07:31,000 --> 00:07:35,960 Speaker 2: a look. See listen Coffee's Overcold through with Emma Abrahamson. 136 00:07:36,400 --> 00:07:39,320 Speaker 2: I know that many of you follow along with Emma Abrahamson. 137 00:07:39,400 --> 00:07:40,040 Speaker 2: How could you not? 138 00:07:40,240 --> 00:07:43,000 Speaker 1: She is electric and such a good human. 139 00:07:43,240 --> 00:07:45,560 Speaker 2: We met a couple of years ago, maybe just over 140 00:07:45,560 --> 00:07:48,280 Speaker 2: a year ago, at Nike World Headquarters, and have stayed 141 00:07:48,280 --> 00:07:50,840 Speaker 2: in touch ever since. This week on the show, she 142 00:07:50,960 --> 00:07:53,880 Speaker 2: is chatting with Kelly Roberts. Kelly is a friend of mine. 143 00:07:53,880 --> 00:07:56,520 Speaker 2: She's also the founder of the Sportsbrus Squad movement and 144 00:07:56,560 --> 00:07:59,960 Speaker 2: the bad Ass Lady Gang. I think this combo is 145 00:08:00,240 --> 00:08:05,600 Speaker 2: completely up the hurdler's alleys, so check that out. Watch 146 00:08:05,720 --> 00:08:08,080 Speaker 2: If you haven't done this yet, I would be surprised. 147 00:08:08,280 --> 00:08:12,120 Speaker 2: The Queen's Gambit on Netflix. I think last week maybe 148 00:08:12,120 --> 00:08:14,120 Speaker 2: I put out a feeler on social media looking for 149 00:08:14,160 --> 00:08:15,000 Speaker 2: a new show to watch. 150 00:08:15,200 --> 00:08:16,280 Speaker 1: I watched all. 151 00:08:16,520 --> 00:08:20,360 Speaker 2: I think seven episodes of The Queen's Gambit within forty 152 00:08:20,400 --> 00:08:24,840 Speaker 2: eight hours can't reckon enough. I think that Anya Taylor 153 00:08:24,920 --> 00:08:29,680 Speaker 2: Joy the lead actress is absolutely stunning, and the storyline 154 00:08:29,720 --> 00:08:33,439 Speaker 2: is basically this girl that became an orphan because of 155 00:08:33,480 --> 00:08:36,760 Speaker 2: an accident. At the orphanage, she's playing chess in the 156 00:08:36,760 --> 00:08:39,720 Speaker 2: basement with one of the maintenance guys. She becomes a 157 00:08:39,800 --> 00:08:43,240 Speaker 2: chess wizard and it follows her story into that life 158 00:08:43,280 --> 00:08:46,000 Speaker 2: and just such a cool storyline. 159 00:08:46,160 --> 00:08:46,880 Speaker 1: Ten out of ten. 160 00:08:47,600 --> 00:08:52,960 Speaker 2: And lastly, I talked about journaling, so this is appropriate, right. 161 00:08:53,440 --> 00:08:54,920 Speaker 2: You have got to check out. I think this is 162 00:08:54,960 --> 00:08:58,280 Speaker 2: the coolest gift idea. Baron Fag has a limited edition 163 00:08:58,400 --> 00:09:02,960 Speaker 2: Letters to the Future journal. It is basically designed to 164 00:09:03,520 --> 00:09:06,840 Speaker 2: write letters to yourself and it comes with envelopes that 165 00:09:06,840 --> 00:09:09,600 Speaker 2: you can seal to open at a later date. I 166 00:09:09,640 --> 00:09:11,679 Speaker 2: know it's kind of wacky, but I think that's what 167 00:09:11,760 --> 00:09:14,720 Speaker 2: makes it a really cool gift idea, because how cool 168 00:09:14,720 --> 00:09:17,080 Speaker 2: would it be if you once a month wrote a 169 00:09:17,120 --> 00:09:20,160 Speaker 2: letter to yourself that you would then open that month, 170 00:09:20,240 --> 00:09:22,400 Speaker 2: a year, two years, three years later. 171 00:09:22,440 --> 00:09:22,600 Speaker 1: Now. 172 00:09:22,640 --> 00:09:26,000 Speaker 2: I know some of you who are maybe organization freaks 173 00:09:26,200 --> 00:09:30,920 Speaker 2: or minimalists unlike me, maybe may. 174 00:09:30,880 --> 00:09:33,400 Speaker 1: Cringe at this idea, but I just I think it's great. 175 00:09:33,559 --> 00:09:34,320 Speaker 2: I do, I do. 176 00:09:34,720 --> 00:09:35,720 Speaker 1: I think that's it for now. 177 00:09:35,880 --> 00:09:37,600 Speaker 2: The last thing I do want to throw into the 178 00:09:37,600 --> 00:09:40,400 Speaker 2: mix here if you haven't seen yet, there are a 179 00:09:40,400 --> 00:09:42,800 Speaker 2: ton of new hurdle sessions coming up in the next 180 00:09:42,880 --> 00:09:45,960 Speaker 2: few weeks. I've got intro to Freelance Writing, take Your 181 00:09:46,000 --> 00:09:48,839 Speaker 2: Running to the Next Level, an awesome end of your 182 00:09:48,880 --> 00:09:53,000 Speaker 2: goal Setting workshop, and the Handling Hurdle Moments Seminar. I 183 00:09:53,040 --> 00:09:55,360 Speaker 2: did a Q and A about the Handling Hurdle Moments 184 00:09:55,400 --> 00:09:59,160 Speaker 2: Seminar earlier this week. I am just so lit and 185 00:09:59,200 --> 00:10:01,920 Speaker 2: fired up about all of these and I would love 186 00:10:02,080 --> 00:10:04,640 Speaker 2: to see you in one of them. 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