1 00:00:00,080 --> 00:00:01,880 Speaker 1: What's up? Ordanly right? 2 00:00:01,920 --> 00:00:04,520 Speaker 2: Happy the court role? You already know it is the 3 00:00:04,600 --> 00:00:08,520 Speaker 2: Key Key Court podcast. Welcome, Welcome, Welcome. Let's get into 4 00:00:08,920 --> 00:00:11,560 Speaker 2: this additional case this week because I'm going to be 5 00:00:11,600 --> 00:00:15,880 Speaker 2: on vacation next week, so we won't have any bonus episodes. 6 00:00:15,920 --> 00:00:17,599 Speaker 2: But as soon as I come back, you already know, 7 00:00:17,840 --> 00:00:20,480 Speaker 2: you already know. So let me read this case because 8 00:00:20,520 --> 00:00:23,759 Speaker 2: this one has me a little triggered. But of course 9 00:00:23,800 --> 00:00:25,880 Speaker 2: I will always want to know what you think you are. 10 00:00:26,000 --> 00:00:29,400 Speaker 2: The jury now it says, hey, kikey, am I wrong 11 00:00:29,480 --> 00:00:32,839 Speaker 2: for refusing to let my sister's kids stay at my 12 00:00:32,960 --> 00:00:37,720 Speaker 2: house even though she's struggling financially. I have a sister, Emma, 13 00:00:38,040 --> 00:00:42,440 Speaker 2: who has three kids, ages five, seven, and ten. Over 14 00:00:42,479 --> 00:00:45,720 Speaker 2: the past year, she's been going through some tough financial times. 15 00:00:46,040 --> 00:00:49,000 Speaker 2: Her husband recently lost his job, and they've been struggling 16 00:00:49,040 --> 00:00:51,959 Speaker 2: to make ends meet. I know it's been hard on her, 17 00:00:52,520 --> 00:00:54,600 Speaker 2: but I've tried to help as much as I can. 18 00:00:54,720 --> 00:00:58,360 Speaker 2: But if I'm being honest, it's becoming overwhelming. A few 19 00:00:58,440 --> 00:01:00,720 Speaker 2: weeks ago, she asks me if her keys could stay 20 00:01:00,760 --> 00:01:03,760 Speaker 2: with me for a week while on summer break. She 21 00:01:03,840 --> 00:01:06,320 Speaker 2: said her husband and no, she said she and her 22 00:01:06,400 --> 00:01:09,520 Speaker 2: husband are trying to figure out their finances and that 23 00:01:09,600 --> 00:01:12,560 Speaker 2: they really needed a break from the stress of everything. 24 00:01:13,080 --> 00:01:15,920 Speaker 2: She said it would help them focus on their situation. 25 00:01:16,840 --> 00:01:20,600 Speaker 2: I told her that while I understand her stress, I 26 00:01:20,800 --> 00:01:24,559 Speaker 2: just don't have the space, energy, or time to take 27 00:01:24,640 --> 00:01:28,360 Speaker 2: on three kids right now. My apartment is small, and 28 00:01:28,520 --> 00:01:31,200 Speaker 2: I'm in the middle of a pretty intense work project. 29 00:01:31,400 --> 00:01:33,959 Speaker 2: Plus i have personal things going on that I'm not 30 00:01:34,240 --> 00:01:37,800 Speaker 2: even gonna share. She was really upset and accused me 31 00:01:38,040 --> 00:01:41,320 Speaker 2: of not caring about her or the kids. She said 32 00:01:41,400 --> 00:01:44,040 Speaker 2: I should be more supportive and that as a family, 33 00:01:44,440 --> 00:01:48,160 Speaker 2: I should be willing to make sacrifices. I get that 34 00:01:48,240 --> 00:01:52,360 Speaker 2: she's struggling, but I don't feel like it's my responsibility 35 00:01:52,440 --> 00:01:56,200 Speaker 2: to take on the burden of her children, especially when 36 00:01:56,240 --> 00:02:00,120 Speaker 2: I'm already stressed myself. I offered to help another way, 37 00:02:00,360 --> 00:02:02,960 Speaker 2: like sending them a little extra cash for some groceries, 38 00:02:03,360 --> 00:02:06,600 Speaker 2: but she insisted that that is not the same. Now 39 00:02:06,680 --> 00:02:09,640 Speaker 2: my other family members are getting involved and they're upset 40 00:02:09,680 --> 00:02:13,000 Speaker 2: with me, saying that I'm selfish and cold hearted, and 41 00:02:13,320 --> 00:02:16,359 Speaker 2: I just feel like I chose not to have children 42 00:02:16,840 --> 00:02:19,520 Speaker 2: and this is the exact reason why it's not my 43 00:02:19,680 --> 00:02:21,720 Speaker 2: a duty to take care of her kids. 44 00:02:21,919 --> 00:02:25,040 Speaker 1: Am I wrong? Girl? Girl? 45 00:02:26,360 --> 00:02:29,040 Speaker 2: Here's what really triggered me from the beginning when you 46 00:02:29,080 --> 00:02:33,880 Speaker 2: started the story off by saying, my sister's kids, you're 47 00:02:33,919 --> 00:02:37,000 Speaker 2: their aunt. You know you're their aunts, So it's not 48 00:02:37,160 --> 00:02:40,960 Speaker 2: my sister's kids, it's my niece and nephews like that. 49 00:02:41,160 --> 00:02:43,880 Speaker 2: From that moment, I was like, Okay, there's a disconnect here, 50 00:02:44,200 --> 00:02:46,520 Speaker 2: and I don't know the relationship between you and your family. 51 00:02:46,560 --> 00:02:49,560 Speaker 1: So I understand that you have your own stress in life. 52 00:02:49,919 --> 00:02:52,320 Speaker 2: You have made the choice not to have children, so no, 53 00:02:52,720 --> 00:02:58,480 Speaker 2: it is not your responsibility to take on her issues. However, 54 00:02:59,240 --> 00:03:03,360 Speaker 2: as an aunt, as a sister, she's only asking if 55 00:03:03,400 --> 00:03:05,160 Speaker 2: the kids can come for a week. 56 00:03:05,600 --> 00:03:08,760 Speaker 1: That's like seven days, okay a week. 57 00:03:09,360 --> 00:03:12,120 Speaker 2: I personally would make the sacrifice to be there for 58 00:03:12,240 --> 00:03:15,280 Speaker 2: my nieces and my nephews, and I wouldn't be calling 59 00:03:15,320 --> 00:03:17,399 Speaker 2: them my sister's kids. It would be my niece. I'm 60 00:03:17,440 --> 00:03:19,880 Speaker 2: there for my nieces and my nephews. What can I 61 00:03:19,919 --> 00:03:23,240 Speaker 2: do to help? You know, they're in a really stressful situation. 62 00:03:23,480 --> 00:03:26,640 Speaker 2: And I understand you offered up a little extra grocery money, 63 00:03:26,919 --> 00:03:29,440 Speaker 2: but your sister needs a break, and that's what she's asking, 64 00:03:29,480 --> 00:03:32,120 Speaker 2: and maybe she doesn't trust other family members with the kids. 65 00:03:32,440 --> 00:03:34,960 Speaker 2: Maybe she just trusts you because you are their aunt. 66 00:03:35,400 --> 00:03:39,440 Speaker 2: So I would have made the sacrifice and did whatever 67 00:03:39,480 --> 00:03:42,840 Speaker 2: I could to open up my house, open up my 68 00:03:42,960 --> 00:03:46,320 Speaker 2: extra bedroom, whatever to my nieces and nephews, with no 69 00:03:46,440 --> 00:03:49,120 Speaker 2: questions asks like when it comes to my nephews, you 70 00:03:49,160 --> 00:03:51,840 Speaker 2: know what, don't don't ever let it come to my nephews. Okay, 71 00:03:52,400 --> 00:03:55,640 Speaker 2: it would be no questions asked for me. Absolutely they 72 00:03:55,640 --> 00:03:58,000 Speaker 2: can come for a week. Absolutely, I'm gonna make the 73 00:03:58,040 --> 00:03:59,600 Speaker 2: sacrifices to help my family. 74 00:04:00,120 --> 00:04:00,800 Speaker 1: Absolutely. 75 00:04:01,760 --> 00:04:06,160 Speaker 2: But you had, like you said, you have created a 76 00:04:06,200 --> 00:04:08,480 Speaker 2: life that is comfortable for you. You don't have children, 77 00:04:08,560 --> 00:04:10,640 Speaker 2: you don't want children, and you don't want anything to. 78 00:04:10,560 --> 00:04:13,440 Speaker 1: Do with these kids. So that's your prerogative. 79 00:04:13,520 --> 00:04:17,080 Speaker 2: But in my opinion, just in my opinion, I think 80 00:04:17,080 --> 00:04:19,800 Speaker 2: it's a little coldhearted, not gonna lie, you know, and 81 00:04:20,920 --> 00:04:24,240 Speaker 2: you just I don't know, calling them your sister's kids. 82 00:04:24,279 --> 00:04:26,360 Speaker 2: It just seems like you're not even connected to them 83 00:04:26,400 --> 00:04:28,719 Speaker 2: as an aunt. You don't maybe don't even take the role, 84 00:04:28,760 --> 00:04:33,039 Speaker 2: aren't seriously, But if it was me, I would absolutely 85 00:04:33,080 --> 00:04:35,840 Speaker 2: allow my nieces and nephews to stay with me for 86 00:04:35,920 --> 00:04:38,599 Speaker 2: a week to give my sister and brother in law 87 00:04:38,640 --> 00:04:41,039 Speaker 2: a break. That is just me, but that's my opinion. 88 00:04:41,400 --> 00:04:43,400 Speaker 2: Of course, you are the jewelry friends, so I would 89 00:04:43,400 --> 00:04:45,160 Speaker 2: love to know your thoughts on this. I posted a 90 00:04:45,240 --> 00:04:48,240 Speaker 2: video on my Instagram at on air Keiki k ek 91 00:04:48,480 --> 00:04:52,320 Speaker 2: E also on at Fred Show Radio. Let me know 92 00:04:52,640 --> 00:04:55,360 Speaker 2: your thoughts on this case. Hopefully we can help her. 93 00:04:55,600 --> 00:04:58,919 Speaker 2: I'm not judging you, sis, I just think you, you know, 94 00:04:59,040 --> 00:05:01,719 Speaker 2: could be a little bit warmer to your nieces and nephews, 95 00:05:01,760 --> 00:05:04,560 Speaker 2: So let me know your thoughts. In the meantime, of course, 96 00:05:04,680 --> 00:05:07,719 Speaker 2: we'll be back in the court room soon. I'm going 97 00:05:07,760 --> 00:05:10,760 Speaker 2: to Hawaii with my sister for her birthday, so I'll 98 00:05:10,800 --> 00:05:13,080 Speaker 2: be out for a few days. But after that, you 99 00:05:13,160 --> 00:05:15,600 Speaker 2: already know, back to business. I can't stay away from 100 00:05:15,680 --> 00:05:17,799 Speaker 2: you too long, Okay, love your friend. 101 00:05:17,880 --> 00:05:18,720 Speaker 1: Let me know what you think.