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Speaker 1: Hey, this is Sam, this is John. We're the ancient

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Speaker 1: the next two minutes or so.

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Speaker 2: My sister wants to steal my mom's house.

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Speaker 3: Sounds like she should get her own house.

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Speaker 2: It's been a decade and this is the first time

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Speaker 2: I've ever written this down. I guess I'm still angry.

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Speaker 2: Reading a few stories here made me think about when

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Speaker 2: my dad passed away and everything that led up to

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Speaker 2: it and what came after. I'm trying to hide some

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Speaker 2: identifying details in case someone I know stumbles across this,

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Speaker 2: but if a specific person does, I want you to

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Speaker 2: know I haven't forgotten and I'll not forgive you.

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Speaker 3: Oh No.

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Speaker 2: By the way, this comes from ADHD is my power,

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Speaker 2: And if you want to submit your own stories, go

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Speaker 2: to the r slash. Okay, Storytime separate it. So I'm Riley,

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Speaker 2: I'm Sophia, and I'm what you call an accident child.

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Speaker 3: Us me too.

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Speaker 2: Hello, wait, wait, wait, that's that's the story, not me.

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Speaker 2: Dad already had kids from his first marriage and didn't

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Speaker 2: want more. My mom was never supposed to get pregnant

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Speaker 2: because she'd had tumors removed from her ovaries that should

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Speaker 2: have made conception impossible.

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Speaker 3: Oh my goodness, it sounds like they were making room.

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Speaker 2: But as the eighties bled into the nineties, I came

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Speaker 2: along anyway. That's crazy to be told that you literally

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Speaker 2: can't have children, and then and then you just come

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Speaker 2: along anyway.

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Speaker 3: Well as a woman doctor. Yeah, if you.

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Speaker 2: Remove the well known woman doctor.

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Speaker 3: Thank you, Sophia. If you remove the ovaries, it makes

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Speaker 3: room for the babies to be made. One knows that.

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Speaker 3: If you remove the tumors from the ovaries.

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Speaker 2: Everyone knows that too.

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Speaker 3: If you didn't know that, you need ovaries to have babies.

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Speaker 2: And there we go. Thankfully, my parents never treated me

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Speaker 2: with the contempt that many unwanted children in dirt. My sister, however,

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Speaker 2: more than made up for their kind Oh no, what

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Speaker 2: does that mean she hates Opee more than.

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Speaker 3: Made up for their kindness. I think, what does that mean?

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Speaker 2: Opie's parents were really nice to Opee, but the sister

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Speaker 2: was terrible to Opie. I see, over a decade older

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Speaker 2: than me, she never liked me. She could put on

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Speaker 2: a decent facade when others were watching, but everyone knew

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Speaker 2: she didn't care for me. I can only remember her

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Speaker 2: being truly nice to me twice when my grandfather passed away,

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Speaker 2: and the one time she drove me to the airport.

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Speaker 2: As for my mom, she damn near hated her. My

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Speaker 2: sister had convinced herself that my mother broke up her parents' marriage,

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Speaker 2: even though our dad didn't meet my mother until years

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Speaker 2: and my mom became good friends and still are to

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Speaker 2: this day. No one ever understood where my sister's twisted

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Speaker 2: Oh gosh, yikes, that's so hard when everyone's chill with

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Speaker 2: the situation except for the one kid. He's like a

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Speaker 2: I'm never gonna forgive any of you.

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Speaker 3: It's so shiny and bright in nature, is outside, it's.

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Speaker 2: Fine, go touch grass.

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Speaker 3: A trainy and gloomy er.

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Speaker 2: In the early twenty tens, my dad got sick, the

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Speaker 2: kind of sick where everything hits you at once, like

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Speaker 2: Though he came back permanently disabled and was forced into retirement.

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Speaker 2: After months bouncing between hospitals and rehab facilities, he finally

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Speaker 2: came home. That's when I learned a hard truth. The

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Speaker 2: government stops caring about you the moment you can't make

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Speaker 2: the money and can only take money from them. So

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Speaker 2: I moved back in with my parents to help out.

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Speaker 2: For two years, I worked full time, attended school full time,

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Speaker 3: Oh.

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Speaker 2: Mom and I tag team discarred during the week, and

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Speaker 2: paying his medical bills. If their house hadn't been paid off,

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Speaker 2: they would have lost it. Most of my time with

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Speaker 2: My sister meanwhile, graced us with her presence maybe two

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Speaker 2: or three times a year, or contribution, clipping his toenails

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Speaker 3: That's tough.

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Speaker 2: She never once dealt with the real caregiving, never witnessed

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Speaker 2: She knew the financial strain we were all under, yet

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Speaker 3: That's crazy, Dad, you get a little bit from the government,

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Speaker 3: Can I take one?

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Speaker 2: And I have to take some of that from the government.

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Speaker 3: Please, you're not going to use it. You can't, you're disabled.

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Speaker 2: Thank you. Then he passed away. It happened quickly, the

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Speaker 2: way these things sometimes do. One Friday, he started acting strange,

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Speaker 2: had a minor heart attack, but given his poor health,

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Speaker 3: Oh my gosh.

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Speaker 2: The following Monday morning, I said goodbye to my father

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Speaker 2: as I watched him take his last breaths.

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Speaker 3: I didn't really expect this episode to give me at

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Speaker 2: On, so sad, and then you have your sister just

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Speaker 2: being kind of terrible this whole time while you're well,

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Speaker 3: Okay, could be worse. She could be stealing that not

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Speaker 2: That's true. She could be well, yeah, it's kind of

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Speaker 2: like payment for in the nails if you think about it.

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Speaker 3: This expensive neiltex out there, it's very expensive.

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Speaker 2: I'll give my sister credit because she was somewhat kind

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Speaker 2: during those final days. It wouldn't last. We held a

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Speaker 2: in beforehand to help with arrangements. Dad didn't have a will,

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Speaker 2: but we divided his possessions peacefully among ourselves, setting aside

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Speaker 2: But she was livid that she wasn't getting one. You

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Speaker 2: I want one now.

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Speaker 3: Guys, you can sell those two. I guess that might

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Speaker 2: She even tried claiming items that belonged to my mother,

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Speaker 3: Carl, what you can't have the whole.

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Speaker 2: You can't have everything. The memorial service itself went smoothly

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Speaker 2: until that day. I'd been drinking for over a day

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Speaker 2: one point, we decided to take a shot in Dad's memory,

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Speaker 2: and my sister wanted to join us. We told her

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Speaker 3: She was in the closet.

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Speaker 2: If they try and have the shot, I'm gonna I'm

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Speaker 3: It's a good party trick. Yeah, all take a shot, disappear,

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Speaker 2: And then you get all mad at them and then

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Speaker 3: Guys, use that for the next time we have at

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Speaker 2: A couple of months later, Mom needed all the children's

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Speaker 3: Oh my god.

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Speaker 2: I eventually moved across the country to live with my

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Speaker 3: Federal What I think she's joking? Oh, we know.

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Speaker 2: My sister wanted to pursue legal action to force Mom

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Speaker 2: I thought she was joking. Huh. My sister's own mother

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Speaker 2: My sister scoffed at the idea that my grandparents' house

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Speaker 3: How can you raise eight this much greed, Yeah, to

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Speaker 2: Well, it's just kind of crazy to me because this

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Speaker 3: Dad lived in it.

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Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, she's like, well, my dad lived here, so

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Speaker 2: I can take whatever I want. But it's like it

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Speaker 2: goes to Ope's mom. Opie's half sister, who has no

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Speaker 2: my area. A few months later. Mom was devastated. It

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Speaker 2: was close to the one year anniversary of my dad's passing,

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Speaker 2: and my sister had written her a vicious letter. In it,

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Speaker 2: she berated Mom for not giving her the house, not

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Speaker 2: selling it to her, but giving it to her for free.

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Speaker 2: So she's like, I'm not mad that you didn't try

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Speaker 2: to sell it to me, I'm mad that you didn't

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Speaker 2: give it to me just for free. What not giving

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Speaker 2: it to you for free? She argued that since it

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Speaker 2: was her father's home, Mom never had the right to

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Speaker 2: sell it to anyone else and should have handed it

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Speaker 2: over to my sister at no cost.

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Speaker 3: She's over taking my greed man. Yeah, there's nothing else.

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Speaker 2: I mean, like, truly, she was taking money from people

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Speaker 2: that were getting payments from the government, and presumably Opie's

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Speaker 2: mom still doesn't have that much money and needs the

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Speaker 2: money from selling the house. And yet this woman is

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Speaker 2: still like, I'm gonna take whatever I can get from you.

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Speaker 3: And the worst thing about all of this is even

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Speaker 2: If I passed before though, she'll be glad to know

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Speaker 2: I'm leaving her something in my will. It's a beautiful

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Speaker 3: So actually smart move to leave someone? Yeah, something a

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Speaker 2: Some people think I should forgive and move on, that

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Speaker 3: My wife was furious that I helped my sister after

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Speaker 3: she again made it known that while she was happy

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Speaker 3: Sure, I'll take it out for some dreams.

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Speaker 3: Right, babysitter, You either find someone or you're paying for

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Speaker 3: My wife frantically suggested we call my sister, since our

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Speaker 2: No, he definitely would want to take care of my kids.

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Speaker 3: She's really wanting some nice dinner time with you.

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Speaker 2: Though, Like personally, personally it was me, I I would

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Speaker 2: Oh my goodness, girl.

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Speaker 3: At this point I took her off the speakerphone and

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Speaker 3: to help us. She said that if it was that

437
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Speaker 3: big of an emergency, my sister should have called an

438
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Speaker 3: ambulance and that I should have woken her up to

439
00:20:35,680 --> 00:20:36,520
Speaker 3: tell her first.

440
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Speaker 2: Okay, well, okay, I The only thing that I kind

441
00:20:39,760 --> 00:20:42,840
Speaker 2: of agree with is the wake her up, because if

442
00:20:42,840 --> 00:20:45,560
Speaker 2: this is an emergency, even though she needs her sleep.

443
00:20:45,560 --> 00:20:47,840
Speaker 2: In terms of baby, I would have been like, hey,

444
00:20:48,119 --> 00:20:50,280
Speaker 2: I just found out this emergency thing. I need to go.

445
00:20:51,000 --> 00:20:52,680
Speaker 2: I'll be back, like, I'll be back when I can.

446
00:20:52,880 --> 00:20:53,800
Speaker 3: I'll keep you updated.

447
00:20:53,800 --> 00:20:55,080
Speaker 2: I probably would have woken her up.

448
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Speaker 3: I don't know. If I knew my wife hasn't slept

449
00:20:57,760 --> 00:21:00,680
Speaker 3: solid for a minute, I probably would have let her

450
00:21:01,240 --> 00:21:03,960
Speaker 3: set some text and explained in the text, yeah, hey,

451
00:21:04,119 --> 00:21:05,760
Speaker 3: which I didn't wake you up because you really need

452
00:21:05,800 --> 00:21:07,359
Speaker 3: some sleep and I love you, but my sister.

453
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Speaker 2: That's the only point I would give to the wife. Though.

454
00:21:10,200 --> 00:21:13,040
Speaker 2: On the other hand, I'm sorry you guys. Going to

455
00:21:13,280 --> 00:21:16,240
Speaker 2: a dinner is not an emergency.

456
00:21:15,800 --> 00:21:18,600
Speaker 3: A booked out dinner, just wanted to go, and it's

457
00:21:18,640 --> 00:21:19,320
Speaker 3: birthday dinner.

458
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Speaker 2: Yeah, really really sucks that you don't have anyone who

459
00:21:22,680 --> 00:21:27,720
Speaker 2: could like come. It's like that terrible I sat watch

460
00:21:27,720 --> 00:21:31,240
Speaker 2: your baby. So sad it's not an emergency, you know.

461
00:21:32,080 --> 00:21:35,160
Speaker 2: I would hope that if you were having an emergency

462
00:21:35,560 --> 00:21:37,520
Speaker 2: and you needed someone to watch this kid, your sister

463
00:21:37,520 --> 00:21:39,640
Speaker 2: would do it, because if she didn't, if you had

464
00:21:39,680 --> 00:21:42,200
Speaker 2: an actual emergency and your sister said, no, I cannot

465
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Speaker 2: watch your child because I'm not a kid person, she's.

466
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Speaker 3: The a Yeah, point blank, point blank.

467
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Speaker 2: You didn't have an emergency. Your opie's sister was having

468
00:21:50,560 --> 00:21:53,560
Speaker 2: an emergency, and therefore op he needed to go help

469
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Speaker 2: them or help his sister.

470
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Speaker 3: We went back and forth for a bit, but in

471
00:21:57,560 --> 00:21:59,760
Speaker 3: the end she told me that if I don't cut

472
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Speaker 3: my sister off, she doesn't know what will happen to

473
00:22:02,800 --> 00:22:04,919
Speaker 3: our relationship, Oh my goodness, and that I need to

474
00:22:04,920 --> 00:22:06,280
Speaker 3: prioritize our family.

475
00:22:06,520 --> 00:22:09,000
Speaker 2: I really, I don't know.

476
00:22:09,119 --> 00:22:12,200
Speaker 3: I don't like this. Probably the reason why the sister

477
00:22:12,280 --> 00:22:15,080
Speaker 3: was so adamant about not watching the babies because she

478
00:22:15,160 --> 00:22:17,920
Speaker 3: knew that you would make her babiesit your kid.

479
00:22:18,119 --> 00:22:20,000
Speaker 2: No, I really feel like I would to have a

480
00:22:20,000 --> 00:22:24,600
Speaker 2: conversation with my wife and say like, hey, why are

481
00:22:24,640 --> 00:22:28,199
Speaker 2: you so adamant that specifically my sister needs to be

482
00:22:28,240 --> 00:22:30,399
Speaker 2: the one? You know when she told us and you

483
00:22:30,440 --> 00:22:33,800
Speaker 2: said that you agreed, So why why now are you

484
00:22:33,840 --> 00:22:36,719
Speaker 2: coming and say like did you never actually agree and

485
00:22:36,760 --> 00:22:37,560
Speaker 2: you were just trying to.

486
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Speaker 3: Placate me, which is weird? Why all of a sudden

487
00:22:40,520 --> 00:22:41,280
Speaker 3: do we need to do this?

488
00:22:41,520 --> 00:22:44,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, like, I'm not don't give me this weird ultimatum

489
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Speaker 2: just because you lied.

490
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Speaker 3: I know she is still upset about what happened last month,

491
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Speaker 3: but to completely cut off my sister. I don't think

492
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Speaker 3: that that's at all an appropriate thing to do. All

493
00:22:56,040 --> 00:22:58,800
Speaker 3: my sister did was assert her boundaries. I won't lie.

494
00:22:58,960 --> 00:23:01,280
Speaker 3: I was hurt and a bit frustrated when we lost

495
00:23:01,280 --> 00:23:04,399
Speaker 3: our reservation, but I got over it because I've known

496
00:23:04,800 --> 00:23:07,240
Speaker 3: that my sister wouldn't want much to do with the

497
00:23:07,280 --> 00:23:09,800
Speaker 3: baby for a while. I love my wife and my

498
00:23:09,960 --> 00:23:12,760
Speaker 3: family more than anything, but my sister is also one

499
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Speaker 3: of my loved family members. She's shown up in a

500
00:23:15,720 --> 00:23:18,160
Speaker 3: way to the baby shower and the birth, other than

501
00:23:18,240 --> 00:23:21,080
Speaker 3: when caring for the baby. My wife and I haven't

502
00:23:21,119 --> 00:23:24,720
Speaker 3: spoken much today, but I don't want things to continue

503
00:23:24,760 --> 00:23:27,600
Speaker 3: like this. I don't know how to approach the subject.

504
00:23:28,040 --> 00:23:31,040
Speaker 3: She's still dealing with postpartum hormones.

505
00:23:30,520 --> 00:23:32,920
Speaker 2: So yeah, I can definitely see that.

506
00:23:33,040 --> 00:23:35,159
Speaker 3: So I understand she may be feeling on edge and

507
00:23:35,240 --> 00:23:38,240
Speaker 3: protective of the baby. But I feel like we should

508
00:23:38,240 --> 00:23:40,840
Speaker 3: address this sooner rather than later. I just want to

509
00:23:40,920 --> 00:23:43,720
Speaker 3: in a delicate, passionate way towards both of them. We

510
00:23:43,760 --> 00:23:44,680
Speaker 3: have some comments.

511
00:23:44,840 --> 00:23:47,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think that I think your wife is definitely

512
00:23:47,400 --> 00:23:50,800
Speaker 2: going through some sort of like crimonal thing or like PbD,

513
00:23:51,840 --> 00:23:54,159
Speaker 2: and I don't know, like this is tough for her.

514
00:23:54,359 --> 00:23:56,640
Speaker 2: She's going through this big change of being coming among Yeah,

515
00:23:57,600 --> 00:23:59,720
Speaker 2: and I think that, like maybe, and I don't want to.

516
00:23:59,800 --> 00:24:02,359
Speaker 2: You know, I've never obviously been a parent, but I

517
00:24:02,400 --> 00:24:05,639
Speaker 2: think when you have your kid, you're like, this is

518
00:24:05,680 --> 00:24:08,239
Speaker 2: the most important person in the world. Oh yeah, And

519
00:24:08,280 --> 00:24:11,080
Speaker 2: then someone else doesn't think that, and you're like, what,

520
00:24:11,680 --> 00:24:13,520
Speaker 2: you don't think my child's the most important thing in

521
00:24:13,560 --> 00:24:13,920
Speaker 2: the world.

522
00:24:14,119 --> 00:24:15,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, you got a little bit of a god complex

523
00:24:16,000 --> 00:24:19,119
Speaker 3: going on. It is hard. If my brother said he

524
00:24:19,160 --> 00:24:20,879
Speaker 3: wouldn't watch my kid when I need them in a

525
00:24:20,880 --> 00:24:23,480
Speaker 3: clutch moment, that would be hard.

526
00:24:23,720 --> 00:24:24,160
Speaker 2: Yeah.

527
00:24:24,200 --> 00:24:27,240
Speaker 3: And now I'm thinking if my sister in law said

528
00:24:27,240 --> 00:24:30,320
Speaker 3: that in a way, I'd probably be like, I don't

529
00:24:30,320 --> 00:24:31,240
Speaker 3: know how I feel about that.

530
00:24:31,440 --> 00:24:34,080
Speaker 2: I definitely would. The problem is that.

531
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Speaker 3: But I wouldn't cut them off. I would not cut

532
00:24:35,640 --> 00:24:36,000
Speaker 3: them off.

533
00:24:36,040 --> 00:24:40,160
Speaker 2: The problem is that she told everyone to advance what

534
00:24:40,200 --> 00:24:42,439
Speaker 2: she wanted her role to be. And op knows this

535
00:24:42,480 --> 00:24:45,239
Speaker 2: about her and OPI's super understanding, but his wife just

536
00:24:45,640 --> 00:24:48,399
Speaker 2: seemed to think that she could convince her otherwise, and

537
00:24:48,440 --> 00:24:51,760
Speaker 2: that that's the issue. It's like she came into this

538
00:24:51,920 --> 00:24:56,400
Speaker 2: whole thing with the expectation that she could change Op's sister.

539
00:24:56,520 --> 00:24:59,280
Speaker 3: Comment one, your wife is an a hole. Your sister

540
00:24:59,320 --> 00:25:02,240
Speaker 3: said she's had for you guys, but she's not comfortable

541
00:25:02,240 --> 00:25:05,560
Speaker 3: interacting or babysitting. Your wife is not entitled to your

542
00:25:05,560 --> 00:25:09,159
Speaker 3: sister's time and she shouldn't be stopping all over her boundaries.

543
00:25:09,480 --> 00:25:11,600
Speaker 3: Tell your wife that the way she treated your sister

544
00:25:11,760 --> 00:25:14,640
Speaker 3: was entitled and wrong. You will not be cutting off

545
00:25:14,720 --> 00:25:18,160
Speaker 3: your sister and your wife needs to grow up. Additionally,

546
00:25:18,200 --> 00:25:20,680
Speaker 3: your sister wasn't the only person that said no to

547
00:25:20,760 --> 00:25:23,360
Speaker 3: this last minute request. Is your wife going to cut

548
00:25:23,400 --> 00:25:26,159
Speaker 3: out the multiple friends who declined that night? There's an

549
00:25:26,359 --> 00:25:30,400
Speaker 3: unfair double standard happening here. Otherwise, on top of crossing

550
00:25:30,440 --> 00:25:34,399
Speaker 3: your sister well established boundaries, comment to there was a

551
00:25:34,400 --> 00:25:39,000
Speaker 3: difference of priority between making a dinner reservation exactly needed

552
00:25:39,040 --> 00:25:42,280
Speaker 3: to go to the hospital asap. One is about pleasure

553
00:25:42,359 --> 00:25:44,479
Speaker 3: and the other is about health. It sounds like your

554
00:25:44,520 --> 00:25:48,239
Speaker 3: wife never actually respected your sister's feelings about kids and

555
00:25:48,280 --> 00:25:52,080
Speaker 3: dismiss them because she obviously knew better, And now she's

556
00:25:52,119 --> 00:25:54,840
Speaker 3: trying to manipulate you to cut her off because the

557
00:25:54,920 --> 00:25:58,760
Speaker 3: sister isn't giving in to her demands. You are kind

558
00:25:58,760 --> 00:26:00,720
Speaker 3: of a fault for letting it go oh that far

559
00:26:01,119 --> 00:26:04,040
Speaker 3: and calling your sister and putting her on speaker. She

560
00:26:04,080 --> 00:26:06,920
Speaker 3: had been very clear with you, but you still chose

561
00:26:06,960 --> 00:26:09,400
Speaker 3: to put her in this situation because you didn't feel

562
00:26:09,400 --> 00:26:12,280
Speaker 3: like standing up to your wife. It's time she understands

563
00:26:12,320 --> 00:26:15,760
Speaker 3: that just because she thinks something should take priority doesn't

564
00:26:15,800 --> 00:26:18,359
Speaker 3: mean others will see it that way, that your sister

565
00:26:18,440 --> 00:26:21,960
Speaker 3: has always been clear about it, and that she has

566
00:26:22,080 --> 00:26:25,239
Speaker 3: done nothing out of character, that you don't see what

567
00:26:25,359 --> 00:26:28,199
Speaker 3: she's done as bad. You can ask for a favor

568
00:26:28,240 --> 00:26:30,600
Speaker 3: and the person you ask has a right to say

569
00:26:30,640 --> 00:26:34,639
Speaker 3: no for whatever reason. Otherwise you were not asking, you

570
00:26:34,760 --> 00:26:37,679
Speaker 3: were commanding, and none of you have that right to

571
00:26:37,800 --> 00:26:40,520
Speaker 3: order your sister and treat her time as your own,

572
00:26:40,720 --> 00:26:43,600
Speaker 3: even though it's what your wife wants you to do.

573
00:26:43,960 --> 00:26:48,160
Speaker 3: She is not respecting your sister and looking very entitled.

574
00:26:48,359 --> 00:26:52,800
Speaker 3: Hope Hee response this comment gave me some perspective. I

575
00:26:52,920 --> 00:26:55,200
Speaker 3: kept thinking that perhaps my wife was having a hard

576
00:26:55,240 --> 00:26:59,920
Speaker 3: time understanding. She's very family oriented and always wanted children,

577
00:27:00,200 --> 00:27:03,719
Speaker 3: considers it her purpose in life, so maybe she couldn't

578
00:27:03,800 --> 00:27:07,040
Speaker 3: understand sister's point of view. At first, I explained it

579
00:27:07,080 --> 00:27:09,960
Speaker 3: many times to her, and there were some instances where

580
00:27:10,080 --> 00:27:13,320
Speaker 3: she seemed to understand, but now looking back at it,

581
00:27:13,480 --> 00:27:16,359
Speaker 3: she didn't really get it. I think she thought once

582
00:27:16,400 --> 00:27:19,520
Speaker 3: the baby got here, everything would change and I'd be surprised,

583
00:27:19,560 --> 00:27:22,560
Speaker 3: so I shall upset that it didn't. I admit putting

584
00:27:22,600 --> 00:27:26,560
Speaker 3: sister in that situation was a thoughtless act. Wife was

585
00:27:26,720 --> 00:27:30,560
Speaker 3: just really pestering me. Anne was getting angry and angrier,

586
00:27:30,920 --> 00:27:33,960
Speaker 3: and I felt very overwhelmed. So I gave in. Sister's

587
00:27:34,000 --> 00:27:36,439
Speaker 3: not a bad person, she's just not a kid person.

588
00:27:36,800 --> 00:27:37,879
Speaker 3: And that's the end of that story.

589
00:27:38,080 --> 00:27:41,320
Speaker 2: I think, yeah, yeah, you knew going in. And I

590
00:27:41,400 --> 00:27:45,360
Speaker 2: think Ope is juggling this really hard, or is standing

591
00:27:45,440 --> 00:27:49,920
Speaker 2: between these two very difficult situation of knowing his sister

592
00:27:50,000 --> 00:27:52,560
Speaker 2: and knowing his wife and trying to manage both of

593
00:27:52,600 --> 00:27:56,760
Speaker 2: those personalities, which is a difficult position to be in.

594
00:27:56,920 --> 00:27:58,440
Speaker 2: But I think, ohp, he's doing his best.

595
00:27:58,640 --> 00:28:02,399
Speaker 3: He's doing his best. It's not a fair place to be.

596
00:28:03,200 --> 00:28:05,040
Speaker 3: He knows what he has to say to his wife.

597
00:28:05,680 --> 00:28:07,199
Speaker 3: I think he's procrastinating.

598
00:28:07,359 --> 00:28:10,800
Speaker 2: Absolutely, He's like, I really don't want to do that.

599
00:28:12,560 --> 00:28:14,000
Speaker 3: Maybe procrastinate for a week.

600
00:28:14,359 --> 00:28:17,040
Speaker 2: No, she said, she's like not even talking to him.

601
00:28:17,320 --> 00:28:20,480
Speaker 2: Maybe too then, dang, no, I think to talk to

602
00:28:20,520 --> 00:28:23,040
Speaker 2: your wife as soon as possible get this figured out.

603
00:28:23,240 --> 00:28:25,800
Speaker 2: Your sister's not going away, your wife's not going away,

604
00:28:26,200 --> 00:28:28,600
Speaker 2: and your kid's certainly not going away. So let's let's

605
00:28:28,640 --> 00:28:29,080
Speaker 2: work on this.

606
00:28:29,480 --> 00:28:33,800
Speaker 3: If your wife is very family oriented, she probably needs

607
00:28:33,800 --> 00:28:36,640
Speaker 3: to see an act from the sister in a way. Yeah,

608
00:28:36,680 --> 00:28:38,440
Speaker 3: I guess it's reminded of that.

609
00:28:38,560 --> 00:28:42,880
Speaker 2: I think it's it's how is your sister showing up

610
00:28:42,920 --> 00:28:45,480
Speaker 2: for you guys in other ways? Because I think that

611
00:28:45,560 --> 00:28:47,600
Speaker 2: it is one thing to say I'm not gonna be

612
00:28:47,720 --> 00:28:53,480
Speaker 2: there for your kid in like a nanny way, but

613
00:28:53,920 --> 00:28:56,240
Speaker 2: if she's not showing up for you guys or helping

614
00:28:56,280 --> 00:28:58,320
Speaker 2: you out in any ways because you don't have to.

615
00:28:59,280 --> 00:29:01,840
Speaker 2: You don't have to be there for the kid in

616
00:29:01,880 --> 00:29:03,960
Speaker 2: the sense of like holding the kid, taking care of

617
00:29:04,000 --> 00:29:06,520
Speaker 2: the kid, et cetera. You can say like, hey, I

618
00:29:06,560 --> 00:29:08,200
Speaker 2: know you guys are going through a really you know,

619
00:29:08,640 --> 00:29:11,840
Speaker 2: big change right now. You know I made you dinner

620
00:29:11,880 --> 00:29:13,960
Speaker 2: one night, Like how are you showing up in other

621
00:29:14,000 --> 00:29:16,160
Speaker 2: ways if you can't show up in this way? Because

622
00:29:16,200 --> 00:29:17,760
Speaker 2: I think it's valid to say I can't show up

623
00:29:17,800 --> 00:29:20,040
Speaker 2: in this way. Yeah, but I don't know. I think

624
00:29:20,040 --> 00:29:22,160
Speaker 2: I'm the kind of an active service person. So I'm like,

625
00:29:22,600 --> 00:29:25,640
Speaker 2: how else are you helping these people who are new parents?

626
00:29:26,040 --> 00:29:28,520
Speaker 3: Yeah, but that's the end of that story. And we

627
00:29:28,600 --> 00:29:31,240
Speaker 3: got another sister combo coming up for you.

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Speaker 2: the world was kind enough to offer a helping hand.

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Speaker 2: She told me I could stay at her place free

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Speaker 2: of charge for as long as I needed. I thought

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Speaker 2: this was incredibly kind of her, and I promised I

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Speaker 2: wouldn't stay a day longer than I had to. Oh,

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Speaker 2: that it's my home as much as it is hers,

652
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654
00:30:46,080 --> 00:30:48,960
Speaker 2: but she refused, saying I should save up whatever money

655
00:30:49,000 --> 00:30:51,640
Speaker 2: I earn for myself. So I've been doing all the

656
00:30:51,720 --> 00:30:55,760
Speaker 2: chores like cleaning, shopping, and cooking. It's great living with her.

657
00:30:55,880 --> 00:30:58,360
Speaker 2: We're having so much fun, and I genuinely feel like

658
00:30:58,400 --> 00:31:04,200
Speaker 2: she enjoys me being here. That sibling living together is great. Woo.

659
00:31:04,600 --> 00:31:07,080
Speaker 3: I had a good run for about a month or two. Yeah,

660
00:31:07,080 --> 00:31:09,760
Speaker 3: and then it ended with me doing all the dishes.

661
00:31:10,040 --> 00:31:13,280
Speaker 2: Rough man, that sucks. Yeah. Sam doesn't cook enough to

662
00:31:13,760 --> 00:31:14,160
Speaker 2: have that.

663
00:31:14,080 --> 00:31:16,040
Speaker 3: Many dishes to remember the nick cook?

664
00:31:16,240 --> 00:31:18,120
Speaker 2: Oh where are these dishes coming from?

665
00:31:18,320 --> 00:31:20,719
Speaker 3: I wasn't the best roommate either, But good for you.

666
00:31:20,800 --> 00:31:22,240
Speaker 3: I'm glad you're having a good experience.

667
00:31:22,320 --> 00:31:24,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, Sam's not even here right now.

668
00:31:24,160 --> 00:31:26,240
Speaker 3: He'll never be here, never here.

669
00:31:26,480 --> 00:31:29,600
Speaker 2: Here's where I think I overstepped my boundaries. My sister

670
00:31:29,680 --> 00:31:32,600
Speaker 2: is by and she's had this lovely woman, twenty six

671
00:31:32,680 --> 00:31:35,720
Speaker 2: female as her partner for as long as I can remember,

672
00:31:35,960 --> 00:31:39,760
Speaker 2: maybe since graduating from high school. She's a really lovely person,

673
00:31:39,840 --> 00:31:43,480
Speaker 2: and I think my sister is really lucky to have her. Unfortunately,

674
00:31:43,520 --> 00:31:46,239
Speaker 2: marriage equality isn't legal yet in our country, but if

675
00:31:46,280 --> 00:31:49,040
Speaker 2: it ever is, I'm sure they would definitely get married.

676
00:31:49,280 --> 00:31:52,000
Speaker 2: My sister's girlfriend I've known for quite a while. She's

677
00:31:52,000 --> 00:31:54,240
Speaker 2: really into video games and likes a lot of the

678
00:31:54,280 --> 00:31:57,120
Speaker 2: same movies and anime as me, so we've been good

679
00:31:57,160 --> 00:31:59,240
Speaker 2: friends for some time. I mean, you've known her since

680
00:31:59,240 --> 00:32:01,960
Speaker 2: your sister was an high school so yeah, makes sense.

681
00:32:02,200 --> 00:32:04,640
Speaker 2: We often game together or go to the movies together.

682
00:32:05,240 --> 00:32:07,120
Speaker 2: I know it's probably a bit weird going to the

683
00:32:07,160 --> 00:32:10,640
Speaker 2: movies just me and my sister's girlfriend. No, I don't

684
00:32:10,640 --> 00:32:11,480
Speaker 2: think that's.

685
00:32:11,240 --> 00:32:15,360
Speaker 3: Weird unless you're like I'm always hanging around my sister's

686
00:32:15,400 --> 00:32:17,040
Speaker 3: friends and I don't have any friends of mine own,

687
00:32:17,320 --> 00:32:18,640
Speaker 3: then I can see that being weird.

688
00:32:18,680 --> 00:32:21,160
Speaker 2: But my sister really doesn't mind at all. And usually

689
00:32:21,200 --> 00:32:23,640
Speaker 2: they aren't the sort of movies that would interest her. Anyway,

690
00:32:23,760 --> 00:32:26,200
Speaker 2: she comes over to my sister's apartment quite a bit,

691
00:32:26,880 --> 00:32:29,200
Speaker 2: and I noticed something they never did when they were

692
00:32:29,200 --> 00:32:32,840
Speaker 2: together at our parents' house. They're really open with displays

693
00:32:32,840 --> 00:32:37,000
Speaker 2: of affection, and it's quite frequent. Like sometimes she'd be

694
00:32:37,040 --> 00:32:39,160
Speaker 2: over in the morning when I'm having breakfast and she

695
00:32:39,240 --> 00:32:41,719
Speaker 2: and my sister would start making out in the kitchen,

696
00:32:42,080 --> 00:32:46,160
Speaker 2: touching each other and all that stuff. Okay, okay, that's

697
00:32:46,240 --> 00:32:48,120
Speaker 2: a little bit. That's a little too far.

698
00:32:49,520 --> 00:32:49,760
Speaker 3: Now.

699
00:32:49,800 --> 00:32:52,720
Speaker 2: I'm the farthest thing from a closet god you could

700
00:32:52,720 --> 00:32:55,760
Speaker 2: think of, and most straight guys would probably be turned

701
00:32:55,800 --> 00:32:59,880
Speaker 2: on by that site. Okay, it's your sister, it's your sister,

702
00:33:00,760 --> 00:33:03,240
Speaker 2: but this is my sister. So I feel incredibly put

703
00:33:03,240 --> 00:33:06,440
Speaker 2: off and uncomfortable when this happens. Yeah, okay, I don't

704
00:33:06,440 --> 00:33:08,520
Speaker 2: even think you needed to include that line.

705
00:33:08,920 --> 00:33:11,880
Speaker 3: Well, he's being real.

706
00:33:11,280 --> 00:33:14,280
Speaker 2: Guys, it's your sister, it's your sister.

707
00:33:14,720 --> 00:33:20,080
Speaker 3: Being real. Here he's saying that there's public affair display

708
00:33:20,120 --> 00:33:22,880
Speaker 3: of two women. One is my sister. I don't know

709
00:33:22,880 --> 00:33:24,760
Speaker 3: how to feel about it. What am I supposed to do?

710
00:33:24,960 --> 00:33:26,160
Speaker 3: That's what he's basically.

711
00:33:25,880 --> 00:33:27,240
Speaker 2: He says he feels about it.

712
00:33:27,320 --> 00:33:30,480
Speaker 3: He feels he does feel uncomfortable by it because he

713
00:33:30,520 --> 00:33:34,600
Speaker 3: knows what is making it feel inside. This is between

714
00:33:34,600 --> 00:33:36,800
Speaker 3: the lines, Sophie said. Most between the lines.

715
00:33:36,800 --> 00:33:39,240
Speaker 2: He said, most trade guys would probably be turned on

716
00:33:39,320 --> 00:33:42,440
Speaker 2: by this. But I feel incredibly put off and uncomfortable.

717
00:33:42,640 --> 00:33:48,800
Speaker 3: He's just he's adding that in there. Riley, I'm I, okay,

718
00:33:49,240 --> 00:33:52,960
Speaker 3: just denying the truth. Then ew I think it's gross too.

719
00:33:54,240 --> 00:33:56,080
Speaker 3: I'm just reading doing lives. This guy doesn't know how

720
00:33:56,120 --> 00:33:56,600
Speaker 3: to deal with it.

721
00:33:56,680 --> 00:33:59,960
Speaker 2: Okay, that's his sister. And also I feel like, personally,

722
00:34:00,720 --> 00:34:03,120
Speaker 2: if anyone was doing this, I would get uncomfortable.

723
00:34:03,320 --> 00:34:07,320
Speaker 3: Yeah, if it's like two goldfish kissing any anything, anything,

724
00:34:07,640 --> 00:34:10,439
Speaker 3: two turtles doing it, keep it in doing it.

725
00:34:10,560 --> 00:34:14,680
Speaker 2: Okay, everyone's seen that video. But anyway, I often tried

726
00:34:14,719 --> 00:34:17,080
Speaker 2: to leave the room when they get all lovey dovey together.

727
00:34:17,160 --> 00:34:19,600
Speaker 2: But when I'm having breakfast at the table, usually all

728
00:34:19,640 --> 00:34:22,000
Speaker 2: I can do is stare down at the table and

729
00:34:22,120 --> 00:34:24,960
Speaker 2: pretend I'm not there, and it could go on for minutes.

730
00:34:25,160 --> 00:34:29,920
Speaker 3: Sag. The cereal is so good, dude, Ope, you're missing

731
00:34:29,960 --> 00:34:33,560
Speaker 3: it man, anytime they do No, you're not even letting

732
00:34:33,600 --> 00:34:34,000
Speaker 3: me finish.

733
00:34:34,200 --> 00:34:36,600
Speaker 2: You said, you're missing it, missing.

734
00:34:36,320 --> 00:34:40,160
Speaker 3: Out on a great opportunity to play any song you

735
00:34:40,200 --> 00:34:44,680
Speaker 3: want to during that moment, So they'll stop. She will

736
00:34:44,719 --> 00:34:49,239
Speaker 3: be coming, okay, anything to turn off the move.

737
00:34:49,360 --> 00:34:54,239
Speaker 2: Oh, I just be like, ew, gross, there you go. Yeah,

738
00:34:54,360 --> 00:34:55,040
Speaker 2: you can just.

739
00:34:56,600 --> 00:34:58,440
Speaker 3: In you. You don't have to sit there and let

740
00:34:58,440 --> 00:34:59,120
Speaker 3: it happen. Dude.

741
00:34:59,200 --> 00:35:01,239
Speaker 2: My brother was making out with his girlfriend in front

742
00:35:01,239 --> 00:35:03,960
Speaker 2: of me. I'd be like, stop, you.

743
00:35:06,280 --> 00:35:07,879
Speaker 3: Get a room, man, get a room.

744
00:35:08,160 --> 00:35:10,560
Speaker 2: That's that's what I would do. So here's where I

745
00:35:10,560 --> 00:35:13,560
Speaker 2: think I overstepped my bounds. I approached my sister in

746
00:35:13,640 --> 00:35:16,320
Speaker 2: a really polite manner, requested that she'd be more aware

747
00:35:16,320 --> 00:35:19,319
Speaker 2: of my presence. I told her I have nothing against them,

748
00:35:19,360 --> 00:35:22,480
Speaker 2: but she's my sister, so naturally i'd feel uncomfortable seeing

749
00:35:22,480 --> 00:35:25,359
Speaker 2: her in that situation. Constantly. I asked if she could

750
00:35:25,440 --> 00:35:27,320
Speaker 2: just be aware of my presence and maybe tone it

751
00:35:27,360 --> 00:35:30,320
Speaker 2: down when I'm in the same room. She instantly agreed

752
00:35:30,320 --> 00:35:32,680
Speaker 2: and thought she should have thought of that earlier. Honestly,

753
00:35:33,280 --> 00:35:36,640
Speaker 2: I feel like maybe girlfriend is the is the instigator

754
00:35:36,680 --> 00:35:40,440
Speaker 2: of this, you know, like of all the the not

755
00:35:40,560 --> 00:35:43,600
Speaker 2: in like a oh, her brothers. I think it's like

756
00:35:43,680 --> 00:35:46,799
Speaker 2: a I think she's the more touchy one, and that's

757
00:35:46,840 --> 00:35:49,160
Speaker 2: probably why I op's sister didn't really think of it,

758
00:35:49,400 --> 00:35:51,680
Speaker 2: because she's kind of like, oh yeah or yeah, sure,

759
00:35:51,960 --> 00:35:54,600
Speaker 2: wis I offered to get out of the apartment way

760
00:35:54,600 --> 00:35:56,960
Speaker 2: more often than I do. I already often take time

761
00:35:57,000 --> 00:35:59,320
Speaker 2: out to go to the library at university and study

762
00:35:59,400 --> 00:36:01,680
Speaker 2: during the night, or just go watch a movie on

763
00:36:01,680 --> 00:36:03,880
Speaker 2: my own during the weekend, so that my sister and

764
00:36:03,920 --> 00:36:07,120
Speaker 2: her girlfriend can have the entire apartment to themselves. So

765
00:36:07,320 --> 00:36:09,879
Speaker 2: kind of you. I do take precautions to make sure

766
00:36:09,920 --> 00:36:12,319
Speaker 2: I'm not constantly in the way of their relationship, but

767
00:36:12,400 --> 00:36:15,080
Speaker 2: I also acknowledge that because of the situation, there are

768
00:36:15,120 --> 00:36:18,000
Speaker 2: some times where I'm gonna be unable to help being around.

769
00:36:18,040 --> 00:36:21,040
Speaker 2: And your sister should recognize that she has offered you

770
00:36:21,040 --> 00:36:25,439
Speaker 2: a place to stay kind of indefinitely, and you're doing

771
00:36:25,520 --> 00:36:28,120
Speaker 2: chores or open out and stuff. She was to take

772
00:36:28,160 --> 00:36:30,440
Speaker 2: that back, Yeah, she can't, just kind of she can

773
00:36:30,480 --> 00:36:33,319
Speaker 2: start a conversation with you anyway. After I had that

774
00:36:33,360 --> 00:36:36,160
Speaker 2: conversation with my sister, the next morning, her girlfriend was

775
00:36:36,200 --> 00:36:38,759
Speaker 2: over as usual. Her girlfriend leaned into kiss her, but

776
00:36:38,800 --> 00:36:41,120
Speaker 2: my sister backed away and told her, I think we

777
00:36:41,120 --> 00:36:43,239
Speaker 2: shouldn't do that stuff when my brother's around. It makes

778
00:36:43,280 --> 00:36:50,399
Speaker 2: him feel weird. No, no, no, no.

779
00:36:49,040 --> 00:36:55,000
Speaker 3: No, man, No, I was not executed so poorly at all.

780
00:36:55,120 --> 00:36:58,320
Speaker 2: This is what you do. You take your girlfriend aside,

781
00:36:59,040 --> 00:37:01,399
Speaker 2: not when she about to kiss you take her, take

782
00:37:01,440 --> 00:37:03,680
Speaker 2: her side, call her up, text her. I don't care

783
00:37:04,040 --> 00:37:07,920
Speaker 2: you say. Hey, I talked to my brother. He was

784
00:37:07,920 --> 00:37:10,440
Speaker 2: feeling a little bit uncomfortable, like when we do a

785
00:37:10,480 --> 00:37:12,600
Speaker 2: lot of PDA, if we could just tone it down

786
00:37:12,680 --> 00:37:15,319
Speaker 2: or you know, like give him a little bit of

787
00:37:17,320 --> 00:37:20,520
Speaker 2: just be a little respectful of his presence. Yeah, that's

788
00:37:20,560 --> 00:37:23,200
Speaker 2: the conversation we have. We don't go, oh, sorry, my

789
00:37:23,280 --> 00:37:26,680
Speaker 2: brother thinks it's weird. That sounds like he's homophobic.

790
00:37:27,200 --> 00:37:30,160
Speaker 3: Yeah, or also like, oh he gets turned off by

791
00:37:30,160 --> 00:37:31,760
Speaker 3: his sister kissing other girls.

792
00:37:32,000 --> 00:37:33,719
Speaker 1: No, it's not at all.

793
00:37:34,160 --> 00:37:34,200
Speaker 3: No.

794
00:37:34,960 --> 00:37:38,200
Speaker 2: I instantly apologized and left the kitchen. No, oh, he's

795
00:37:38,239 --> 00:37:41,040
Speaker 2: the bad guy. But my sister still insisted that it

796
00:37:41,080 --> 00:37:42,640
Speaker 2: was weird doing it when I was nearby.

797
00:37:43,440 --> 00:37:45,280
Speaker 3: Dude, not nearby.

798
00:37:45,719 --> 00:37:48,319
Speaker 2: Her girlfriend seemed pretty pissed off by the whole thing,

799
00:37:48,400 --> 00:37:51,520
Speaker 2: but silently accepted it. I could tell she blamed me

800
00:37:51,560 --> 00:37:53,640
Speaker 2: and felt I was in the way of the relationship.

801
00:37:53,920 --> 00:37:56,120
Speaker 2: I regretted having brought it up with my sister since

802
00:37:56,160 --> 00:37:57,960
Speaker 2: I'm a guest in her home. The thing is that

803
00:37:58,040 --> 00:38:00,919
Speaker 2: you're not really a guest, like you live there. You're

804
00:38:00,920 --> 00:38:05,000
Speaker 2: her roommate. She is very kindly allowing you to live there.

805
00:38:05,040 --> 00:38:07,040
Speaker 2: But like, I feel like there is a difference between

806
00:38:07,360 --> 00:38:10,480
Speaker 2: a person who's visiting for the day, you know, like

807
00:38:10,560 --> 00:38:14,080
Speaker 2: that type of guest, and a roommate who you are

808
00:38:14,200 --> 00:38:16,319
Speaker 2: very kindly allowing to live there. And it is a

809
00:38:16,360 --> 00:38:19,080
Speaker 2: different situation than like a roommate who's paying. Of course,

810
00:38:19,360 --> 00:38:19,879
Speaker 2: I feel like.

811
00:38:19,840 --> 00:38:22,960
Speaker 3: It's a situation of til you get back on your feet,

812
00:38:23,360 --> 00:38:26,120
Speaker 3: not roommate. I don't think that they're a roommate necessarily.

813
00:38:26,120 --> 00:38:28,120
Speaker 2: I think I think he's a roommate. I think it's

814
00:38:28,200 --> 00:38:30,800
Speaker 2: like I think it is different than a roommate pays,

815
00:38:31,000 --> 00:38:33,160
Speaker 2: Like he's not on that level. But I think that

816
00:38:33,239 --> 00:38:36,440
Speaker 2: like when you're there for kind of an indefinite amount

817
00:38:36,480 --> 00:38:39,160
Speaker 2: of time and you've offered to pay, and you're doing

818
00:38:39,160 --> 00:38:41,120
Speaker 2: all that chores and stuff, I feel like it is

819
00:38:41,200 --> 00:38:42,440
Speaker 2: different than just a guest.

820
00:38:42,760 --> 00:38:45,200
Speaker 3: Yeah, And then at that point, if I was ope,

821
00:38:45,600 --> 00:38:48,240
Speaker 3: I thought would go to you know, my sister's girlfriend.

822
00:38:49,600 --> 00:38:52,120
Speaker 2: I did not mean it that way, just like I

823
00:38:52,160 --> 00:38:55,120
Speaker 2: love you guys, but it's just like I felt a

824
00:38:55,120 --> 00:38:56,360
Speaker 2: little comfortable with the PDA.

825
00:38:56,600 --> 00:38:57,040
Speaker 3: Yeah.

826
00:38:57,080 --> 00:38:59,080
Speaker 2: After a few days, her partner seemed to have let

827
00:38:59,160 --> 00:39:01,240
Speaker 2: it go, and I was trying to make myself scarce

828
00:39:01,280 --> 00:39:03,520
Speaker 2: as much as possible to give them space and privacy.

829
00:39:04,120 --> 00:39:06,120
Speaker 2: Her partner was being nice to me again and the

830
00:39:06,160 --> 00:39:08,920
Speaker 2: coldness seemed to have disappeared. We were sitting in the

831
00:39:08,960 --> 00:39:12,400
Speaker 2: apartment playing video games in the afternoon when my sister

832
00:39:12,480 --> 00:39:15,000
Speaker 2: came home from work around the usual time, and like

833
00:39:15,080 --> 00:39:17,320
Speaker 2: she always does, she gave me a hug and a kiss,

834
00:39:17,360 --> 00:39:20,759
Speaker 2: like she does every day. Her girlfriend instantly fumed and

835
00:39:20,840 --> 00:39:23,680
Speaker 2: started lashing out at her, telling her it was unfair

836
00:39:23,840 --> 00:39:26,120
Speaker 2: she was still kissing and hugging me in front of her,

837
00:39:26,320 --> 00:39:28,080
Speaker 2: but she wouldn't do anything with her if I was

838
00:39:28,080 --> 00:39:31,279
Speaker 2: in the same apartment. I tried to stay silent, but

839
00:39:31,400 --> 00:39:35,360
Speaker 2: it escalated into a pretty big argument. At first, her

840
00:39:35,440 --> 00:39:37,920
Speaker 2: girlfriend started lashing out at my sister, but then she

841
00:39:38,040 --> 00:39:40,400
Speaker 2: directly turned to me and started blaming it on me,

842
00:39:41,000 --> 00:39:43,279
Speaker 2: saying I was interfering in their personal life and I

843
00:39:43,320 --> 00:39:45,880
Speaker 2: had no place to When her girlfriend lashed out at me,

844
00:39:46,440 --> 00:39:49,600
Speaker 2: my sister got really angry with her girlfriend and started

845
00:39:49,640 --> 00:39:53,400
Speaker 2: shouting back and defending me, saying it was not my idea,

846
00:39:53,520 --> 00:39:56,520
Speaker 2: but hers and I had done nothing wrong and she

847
00:39:56,600 --> 00:40:00,720
Speaker 2: shouldn't dare say a word against me. I ever seen

848
00:40:00,719 --> 00:40:04,160
Speaker 2: my sister angry like that before. She's normally such a calm,

849
00:40:04,239 --> 00:40:07,160
Speaker 2: lovely person. And not only was she really angry, but

850
00:40:07,239 --> 00:40:11,360
Speaker 2: angry at the woman she loved. And again again, the

851
00:40:11,440 --> 00:40:15,000
Speaker 2: sister's not quite getting it because she's having this very loud,

852
00:40:15,600 --> 00:40:19,000
Speaker 2: aggressive argument in front of her brother, which is on

853
00:40:19,080 --> 00:40:21,640
Speaker 2: a difference, you know, on the opposite spectrum, but is

854
00:40:21,680 --> 00:40:24,080
Speaker 2: the same thing as having a bunch of PDA in

855
00:40:24,120 --> 00:40:24,880
Speaker 2: front of your brother.

856
00:40:25,239 --> 00:40:29,400
Speaker 3: The intention from the sister seems good, but it's just

857
00:40:29,440 --> 00:40:30,920
Speaker 3: the way she goes about.

858
00:40:30,640 --> 00:40:32,960
Speaker 2: It is It's like, you guys, keep involving your brother

859
00:40:33,040 --> 00:40:36,960
Speaker 2: in the very intimate parts of your relationship, like aggressive

860
00:40:37,040 --> 00:40:41,360
Speaker 2: arguments and like PDA, and it's like all he's asking

861
00:40:41,520 --> 00:40:43,880
Speaker 2: is just wait a time out of the room.

862
00:40:43,760 --> 00:40:47,080
Speaker 3: Please let me finish my cereal start nacking out.

863
00:40:47,440 --> 00:40:50,040
Speaker 2: I just stayed silent, and after her girlfriend had left,

864
00:40:50,239 --> 00:40:54,480
Speaker 2: I apologize to my sister. She insisted I had nothing

865
00:40:54,520 --> 00:40:58,080
Speaker 2: to apologize for, but I feel incredibly guilty still and

866
00:40:58,200 --> 00:41:00,879
Speaker 2: know deep down that the whole thing my fault. It's

867
00:41:00,880 --> 00:41:04,560
Speaker 2: not your girlfriend. Sorry. Your sister's girlfriend is going to

868
00:41:04,560 --> 00:41:07,200
Speaker 2: blame it on you because that's how it was kind

869
00:41:07,239 --> 00:41:11,640
Speaker 2: of told to her, But it really is just your girlfriend. Sorry.

870
00:41:11,680 --> 00:41:16,880
Speaker 2: Your sister's girlfriend and your sister have bad communication skills, yeah,

871
00:41:16,920 --> 00:41:19,880
Speaker 2: and don't really know how to differentiate between what is

872
00:41:20,040 --> 00:41:22,279
Speaker 2: public and what is private. And also that you know

873
00:41:22,280 --> 00:41:24,320
Speaker 2: it could be like she felt like she had to

874
00:41:24,360 --> 00:41:26,279
Speaker 2: hide it a little bit with uh when she was

875
00:41:26,320 --> 00:41:28,920
Speaker 2: living with your guys' parents and feels a little bit

876
00:41:28,920 --> 00:41:34,000
Speaker 2: more comfortable around the space. But regardless, she really needs

877
00:41:34,040 --> 00:41:35,799
Speaker 2: to understand that it is different now that you are

878
00:41:35,840 --> 00:41:37,799
Speaker 2: living with her, and if she can't do that, if

879
00:41:38,280 --> 00:41:40,719
Speaker 2: it doesn't work, then she has to let you know

880
00:41:40,800 --> 00:41:43,879
Speaker 2: that you can't live with her. Yeah, but she can't

881
00:41:43,880 --> 00:41:46,279
Speaker 2: do this while you are here, and she's saying it's

882
00:41:46,320 --> 00:41:49,879
Speaker 2: fine that you're here. I massively overstep my bounds where

883
00:41:49,880 --> 00:41:52,480
Speaker 2: I shouldn't have. You really didn't and now may have

884
00:41:52,560 --> 00:41:55,800
Speaker 2: caused a rift in my sister's relationship. I hate myself

885
00:41:55,880 --> 00:41:58,880
Speaker 2: right now for what happened, and I'm feeling incredibly stupid.

886
00:41:58,920 --> 00:42:01,560
Speaker 2: And guilty. Wish there was some way to help, but

887
00:42:01,640 --> 00:42:04,640
Speaker 2: I'm worried anything I say or do could unintentionally make

888
00:42:04,680 --> 00:42:06,680
Speaker 2: things worse. And there is an update.

889
00:42:06,719 --> 00:42:09,279
Speaker 3: Folks, Oh my goodness, but what do you think It

890
00:42:09,320 --> 00:42:14,120
Speaker 3: also sounds like there's a layer beneath just the PDA. Yeah,

891
00:42:14,480 --> 00:42:17,480
Speaker 3: op asked the sister, Hey, I don't want you to

892
00:42:17,480 --> 00:42:20,440
Speaker 3: do anything while I'm like can physically see you.

893
00:42:20,840 --> 00:42:21,280
Speaker 2: Yeah.

894
00:42:21,400 --> 00:42:24,120
Speaker 3: The sister took it as, oh, you look for us

895
00:42:24,320 --> 00:42:26,440
Speaker 3: anything near us, even if you're in the same apartment

896
00:42:26,520 --> 00:42:27,839
Speaker 3: in us, I'm not gonna do it.

897
00:42:27,960 --> 00:42:28,400
Speaker 2: Yeah.

898
00:42:28,440 --> 00:42:32,080
Speaker 3: And maybe this is just like my hypothetical thing. Maybe

899
00:42:32,160 --> 00:42:34,880
Speaker 3: the sister actually isn't okay with the PDA, found an

900
00:42:34,880 --> 00:42:39,120
Speaker 3: excuse for it, and is now using that anytime her

901
00:42:39,160 --> 00:42:42,279
Speaker 3: girlfriend's around. And then her girlfriend gets upset at the

902
00:42:42,320 --> 00:42:45,880
Speaker 3: sister because she wants to, you know, be a physical,

903
00:42:45,960 --> 00:42:49,080
Speaker 3: be affectionate, but she's not having it because, oh her

904
00:42:49,239 --> 00:42:51,880
Speaker 3: the excuse is here. Maybe there's a little bit more

905
00:42:52,280 --> 00:42:53,320
Speaker 3: there than just the brother.

906
00:42:53,440 --> 00:42:56,200
Speaker 2: No, I agree. I think oftentimes when you have like

907
00:42:56,280 --> 00:42:58,520
Speaker 2: people who are like really PDA, there is one person

908
00:42:58,560 --> 00:43:00,759
Speaker 2: who's someone not saying that, Like, it's not like both

909
00:43:00,800 --> 00:43:02,319
Speaker 2: of them doing it. But like you have one person

910
00:43:02,360 --> 00:43:05,040
Speaker 2: who is maybe more of an instigator. Yeah, and maybe

911
00:43:05,120 --> 00:43:07,279
Speaker 2: she's realizing Oh yeah, my brother brought it up. Oh

912
00:43:07,320 --> 00:43:09,480
Speaker 2: I am a little bit more self conscious of it now.

913
00:43:09,719 --> 00:43:11,680
Speaker 3: Yeah. Yeah.

914
00:43:11,920 --> 00:43:14,399
Speaker 2: But there is an update, folks, Hey, John Ogi hoist here.

915
00:43:14,440 --> 00:43:16,359
Speaker 3: We're gonna get back to this episode. But a quick

916
00:43:16,400 --> 00:43:18,400
Speaker 3: three minute break of ads from a sponsor's keeping the

917
00:43:18,400 --> 00:43:18,920
Speaker 3: show alive.

918
00:43:19,600 --> 00:43:23,799
Speaker 2: Unfortunately, my sister and her girlfriend broke up. Dude, that's

919
00:43:23,880 --> 00:43:25,920
Speaker 2: not your fault. Yeah, however, it was not my fault.

920
00:43:25,920 --> 00:43:29,440
Speaker 2: It's not your fault. Oh they were having Yeah, they

921
00:43:29,480 --> 00:43:32,799
Speaker 2: were having so many more problems. If all it took

922
00:43:33,280 --> 00:43:35,279
Speaker 2: for them to break up was you been like, hey,

923
00:43:35,320 --> 00:43:39,080
Speaker 2: can you cool it? And they were like, how dare you? Yeah,

924
00:43:39,200 --> 00:43:43,480
Speaker 2: your sister had a lot of other problems in that relationship. Yeah,

925
00:43:43,560 --> 00:43:46,560
Speaker 2: it seems they've had some problems for a while. I

926
00:43:46,800 --> 00:43:49,200
Speaker 2: just haven't known anything about it. I had a talk

927
00:43:49,239 --> 00:43:51,880
Speaker 2: with my sister about what I had said. I basically

928
00:43:51,960 --> 00:43:53,799
Speaker 2: told her that when I asked her to tone it down,

929
00:43:53,840 --> 00:43:56,400
Speaker 2: I didn't mean to avoid any form of physical contact

930
00:43:56,400 --> 00:43:59,360
Speaker 2: with her girlfriend, just to avoid the over the intense stuff.

931
00:43:59,400 --> 00:44:02,640
Speaker 2: I pointed out how I'd noticed they had suddenly got

932
00:44:02,719 --> 00:44:05,360
Speaker 2: so cold and frosty with each other, and I hoped

933
00:44:05,760 --> 00:44:09,279
Speaker 2: she wasn't taking my polite request too far. She told

934
00:44:09,280 --> 00:44:11,360
Speaker 2: me it wasn't my fault at all. They had some

935
00:44:11,440 --> 00:44:15,000
Speaker 2: issues for a while. I just didn't know about it. Honestly,

936
00:44:15,040 --> 00:44:17,919
Speaker 2: I was surprised because they'd been together for so long

937
00:44:18,560 --> 00:44:21,359
Speaker 2: and they always seemed like the perfect couple. They were

938
00:44:21,360 --> 00:44:24,040
Speaker 2: always so happy and so much in love around each other.

939
00:44:24,680 --> 00:44:27,440
Speaker 2: My sister told me she loves her girlfriend so much,

940
00:44:27,920 --> 00:44:30,319
Speaker 2: but there are two sides to her. There is the

941
00:44:30,360 --> 00:44:32,800
Speaker 2: side of her that is really loving and caring and kind,

942
00:44:33,400 --> 00:44:37,440
Speaker 2: but there's the other side where she is sometimes overly possessive, controlling,

943
00:44:37,480 --> 00:44:40,960
Speaker 2: and demanding, which honestly might be why there is so

944
00:44:41,040 --> 00:44:43,840
Speaker 2: much PDA, because it's kind of like that asserting dominance

945
00:44:43,880 --> 00:44:47,800
Speaker 2: thing of like, oh God, I want it. It seems

946
00:44:47,840 --> 00:44:51,319
Speaker 2: there's an ongoing communication problem. I called that. I saw

947
00:44:51,360 --> 00:44:55,080
Speaker 2: it where whenever my sister denies her something, their girlfriend

948
00:44:55,160 --> 00:44:59,320
Speaker 2: gets angry and demanding, and this sometimes escalates into fights.

949
00:45:00,080 --> 00:45:02,520
Speaker 2: They always make up, and the girlfriend always ends up

950
00:45:02,560 --> 00:45:06,040
Speaker 2: apologizing and saying she's sorry and loves her, which is

951
00:45:06,080 --> 00:45:10,600
Speaker 2: why they've never broken up. Ooh, yeah, not great. Yikes,

952
00:45:10,640 --> 00:45:15,399
Speaker 2: a little love bombing, Yeah, yeah, absolutely no, Yeah, it's

953
00:45:15,520 --> 00:45:17,200
Speaker 2: you know, you have this big fight and then she's like, no,

954
00:45:17,320 --> 00:45:19,239
Speaker 2: I'm sorry, I love you, and blah blah blah. I

955
00:45:19,280 --> 00:45:22,120
Speaker 2: told her I had no idea about all of this.

956
00:45:22,520 --> 00:45:24,560
Speaker 2: There's a lot that I don't know. I told my

957
00:45:24,600 --> 00:45:27,600
Speaker 2: sister that this sounds serious and if this is a

958
00:45:27,640 --> 00:45:30,960
Speaker 2: real problem, she needs to have a serious talk with

959
00:45:31,000 --> 00:45:33,920
Speaker 2: her girlfriend or end things if she's not listening, my

960
00:45:34,040 --> 00:45:37,360
Speaker 2: sister said she entirely agreed, but was herself scared of

961
00:45:37,400 --> 00:45:40,279
Speaker 2: the outcome. I told her I'd always have her back.

962
00:45:40,600 --> 00:45:42,680
Speaker 2: She asked me if i'd maybe say something to her

963
00:45:42,719 --> 00:45:45,520
Speaker 2: girlfriend about it, since I was good friends with her

964
00:45:45,560 --> 00:45:48,600
Speaker 2: and me game often together. I told her maybe I could,

965
00:45:49,600 --> 00:45:53,120
Speaker 2: but I think this is something she needs to address herself. Absolutely,

966
00:45:53,280 --> 00:45:57,160
Speaker 2: don't do that. Do not talk to her girlfriend about that.

967
00:45:57,840 --> 00:46:01,560
Speaker 3: That's that is not that Yeah, how about it.

968
00:46:01,840 --> 00:46:06,160
Speaker 2: That's crossing the line for sure. Yeah, yikes, Yeah, that

969
00:46:06,239 --> 00:46:10,239
Speaker 2: would see, that's probably why they have problems in the relationship.

970
00:46:10,400 --> 00:46:13,279
Speaker 3: That is, I don't know. I can't imagine that. Does

971
00:46:13,320 --> 00:46:16,879
Speaker 3: she not have enough friends outside of this? Yeah, that's

972
00:46:16,960 --> 00:46:17,680
Speaker 3: my other question.

973
00:46:17,719 --> 00:46:19,880
Speaker 2: Well, I wonder if the girlfriend has been pretty controlling

974
00:46:19,880 --> 00:46:22,319
Speaker 2: about who she can and can't be friends with and

975
00:46:22,360 --> 00:46:23,759
Speaker 2: maybe monopolizing her time.

976
00:46:24,080 --> 00:46:25,239
Speaker 3: Oh yeah.

977
00:46:25,320 --> 00:46:27,720
Speaker 2: A few days later, I was at home playing games

978
00:46:27,760 --> 00:46:30,840
Speaker 2: with my sister's girlfriend while my sister was at work.

979
00:46:31,080 --> 00:46:33,960
Speaker 2: The girlfriend said to me, it doesn't really bother you

980
00:46:34,040 --> 00:46:36,000
Speaker 2: that much when your sister and I kiss, does it?

981
00:46:36,040 --> 00:46:36,120
Speaker 1: What?

982
00:46:37,040 --> 00:46:39,600
Speaker 2: And I don't really think it's your place to get

983
00:46:39,600 --> 00:46:42,640
Speaker 2: in between our relationship. You're just a guest in her home.

984
00:46:43,960 --> 00:46:45,719
Speaker 3: Ooh ooh.

985
00:46:45,880 --> 00:46:48,520
Speaker 2: I told her. I agreed and didn't say much else

986
00:46:48,600 --> 00:46:51,880
Speaker 2: and just steered away from the topic. Stop trying to

987
00:46:51,920 --> 00:46:55,879
Speaker 2: evolve Opee Cross. Like literally, they're both trying to get

988
00:46:55,880 --> 00:46:58,080
Speaker 2: Ope to be this kind of like mediator in their

989
00:46:58,120 --> 00:47:03,000
Speaker 2: relationship or just kind of scapegoat. Like on Op's sister's side.

990
00:47:03,280 --> 00:47:06,080
Speaker 2: She wants them to be the mediator, and then the

991
00:47:06,080 --> 00:47:08,040
Speaker 2: girlfriend wants him to be the scapegoat. And it's like,

992
00:47:08,120 --> 00:47:09,520
Speaker 2: I just don't even want to be involved.

993
00:47:09,680 --> 00:47:10,759
Speaker 3: I don't want to be here.

994
00:47:10,960 --> 00:47:12,840
Speaker 2: I just I just want to be in the library.

995
00:47:13,440 --> 00:47:13,799
Speaker 2: That's it.

996
00:47:13,920 --> 00:47:16,080
Speaker 3: I just want to eat my frosted flakes without my

997
00:47:16,160 --> 00:47:19,680
Speaker 3: sister making back out, That's all I ask. Also, I

998
00:47:19,719 --> 00:47:23,160
Speaker 3: think the girlfriend's or sister's girlfriend wants to be around

999
00:47:23,360 --> 00:47:25,160
Speaker 3: yeah with the brother playing video games so she can

1000
00:47:25,239 --> 00:47:25,879
Speaker 3: still have an end.

1001
00:47:25,880 --> 00:47:27,960
Speaker 2: When my sister came home, she said hi to us.

1002
00:47:28,160 --> 00:47:30,560
Speaker 2: It was a much colder high to her girlfriend than

1003
00:47:30,600 --> 00:47:33,200
Speaker 2: to me. She came up gave me a hug and

1004
00:47:33,239 --> 00:47:36,759
Speaker 2: a kiss from behind as usual. Her girlfriend quickly got

1005
00:47:36,840 --> 00:47:39,560
Speaker 2: upset and stood up, demanding to know why she showed

1006
00:47:39,600 --> 00:47:42,360
Speaker 2: such affection towards me but not towards her, and it

1007
00:47:42,560 --> 00:47:46,239
Speaker 2: escalated into an argument. Yikes. My sister gave me a

1008
00:47:46,239 --> 00:47:48,279
Speaker 2: look and I knew she was going to break up

1009
00:47:48,280 --> 00:47:50,399
Speaker 2: with her. She gave me the keys to her car

1010
00:47:50,480 --> 00:47:52,120
Speaker 2: and told me to go to the shops and watch

1011
00:47:52,160 --> 00:47:54,919
Speaker 2: a movie or something. Go out, come back later.

1012
00:47:55,080 --> 00:47:56,439
Speaker 3: Here's twenty bucks.

1013
00:47:56,520 --> 00:47:59,279
Speaker 2: Here's twenty bucks by yourself. Something nice. I went out

1014
00:47:59,320 --> 00:48:01,719
Speaker 2: alone for the to the night, mostly sitting in the

1015
00:48:01,760 --> 00:48:04,879
Speaker 2: movie theater until quite late. I got a text from

1016
00:48:04,880 --> 00:48:07,360
Speaker 2: my sister asking why I was out for so long,

1017
00:48:07,400 --> 00:48:08,879
Speaker 2: and that she didn't mean for me to be gone

1018
00:48:08,960 --> 00:48:11,279
Speaker 2: that long. Oh be, He's like, I didn't even want

1019
00:48:11,320 --> 00:48:11,920
Speaker 2: to chance it.

1020
00:48:12,160 --> 00:48:14,640
Speaker 3: Yeah, she's think you both take things too far.

1021
00:48:15,040 --> 00:48:17,880
Speaker 2: I got home and saw she was crying pretty badly.

1022
00:48:18,239 --> 00:48:22,839
Speaker 2: They had broken up as expected. Apparently, it wasn't nice.

1023
00:48:22,960 --> 00:48:25,279
Speaker 2: I can't imagine it would be. I did what I

1024
00:48:25,320 --> 00:48:27,719
Speaker 2: could to make her feel better, and we talked things over.

1025
00:48:28,000 --> 00:48:30,279
Speaker 2: I had really thought the relationship was the one, but

1026
00:48:30,320 --> 00:48:33,480
Speaker 2: it seemed not. Not everything is meant to be, and

1027
00:48:33,560 --> 00:48:36,680
Speaker 2: there was a lot that I apparently didn't know about it.

1028
00:48:36,680 --> 00:48:38,880
Speaker 2: It was all happy and perfect on the outside, but

1029
00:48:39,000 --> 00:48:43,399
Speaker 2: it seemed there were huge tensions on the inside. Since

1030
00:48:43,440 --> 00:48:46,040
Speaker 2: her girlfriend was over at my sister's apartment quite often,

1031
00:48:46,080 --> 00:48:48,600
Speaker 2: there was some of her stuff there. My sister asked

1032
00:48:48,640 --> 00:48:50,200
Speaker 2: me to take it back to her since she didn't

1033
00:48:50,239 --> 00:48:52,400
Speaker 2: want to see her again. She said I should do

1034
00:48:52,440 --> 00:48:54,279
Speaker 2: it since I'm her friend, and she told me I

1035
00:48:54,320 --> 00:48:56,239
Speaker 2: could still be friends with her and game with her

1036
00:48:56,280 --> 00:48:58,920
Speaker 2: if I wanted to. Their breakup shouldn't affect that. I

1037
00:48:59,280 --> 00:49:01,879
Speaker 2: feel like this is how she treated Ope, he should

1038
00:49:01,920 --> 00:49:02,360
Speaker 2: affect it.

1039
00:49:02,640 --> 00:49:03,359
Speaker 3: Yeah.

1040
00:49:03,440 --> 00:49:05,359
Speaker 2: I drove some of the stuff back to her ex

1041
00:49:05,400 --> 00:49:07,520
Speaker 2: girlfriends the next day and I had a brief chat

1042
00:49:07,520 --> 00:49:07,799
Speaker 2: with her.

1043
00:49:07,880 --> 00:49:11,320
Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, dude, stopped talking to her. Dude, you dude,

1044
00:49:11,360 --> 00:49:14,000
Speaker 3: you don't understand where you are to her, You're you're

1045
00:49:14,040 --> 00:49:15,759
Speaker 3: the bait. On the end, of a fishing look, and

1046
00:49:15,760 --> 00:49:18,080
Speaker 3: you keep no, you keep going up to the earth,

1047
00:49:18,440 --> 00:49:19,520
Speaker 3: so you could become the bait.

1048
00:49:19,680 --> 00:49:22,480
Speaker 2: I've had to do this before with like a ex

1049
00:49:22,680 --> 00:49:26,879
Speaker 2: friend when they broke up with their partner. I had

1050
00:49:26,920 --> 00:49:29,879
Speaker 2: to go bring stuff to the partner and they were

1051
00:49:29,920 --> 00:49:31,960
Speaker 2: just downstairs, so it wasn't like a whole you know,

1052
00:49:32,320 --> 00:49:33,880
Speaker 2: enough to drive, but I had to go down. So

1053
00:49:34,000 --> 00:49:37,440
Speaker 2: I'm like having a conversation with the ex friend yeah,

1054
00:49:37,480 --> 00:49:39,440
Speaker 2: and hearing them cry about it, and then I had

1055
00:49:39,440 --> 00:49:43,319
Speaker 2: to go downstairs. And then also that partner started because

1056
00:49:43,360 --> 00:49:45,719
Speaker 2: I was kind of friends with them before. Yeah, And

1057
00:49:45,800 --> 00:49:48,320
Speaker 2: so then they're complaining about it to me, and I'm like, dude,

1058
00:49:48,480 --> 00:49:51,839
Speaker 2: why stop, don't put me in this.

1059
00:49:51,920 --> 00:49:53,480
Speaker 3: Don't put me in this. I had to do this

1060
00:49:53,520 --> 00:49:56,560
Speaker 3: to a to my ex's friend. I was kind of close,

1061
00:49:56,760 --> 00:49:58,239
Speaker 3: not really kind of close, but I hung out with

1062
00:49:58,239 --> 00:50:01,080
Speaker 3: her a lot and she was going Atlanta to see

1063
00:50:01,400 --> 00:50:03,560
Speaker 3: her again, and I gave her back all the stuff

1064
00:50:03,600 --> 00:50:05,319
Speaker 3: and I gave her like, I gave her a big

1065
00:50:05,360 --> 00:50:06,560
Speaker 3: hug and was like, all right, give this to her

1066
00:50:06,600 --> 00:50:08,200
Speaker 3: because I wasn't able to get my ex a big

1067
00:50:08,280 --> 00:50:10,799
Speaker 3: hug before we broke up, because I thought I was

1068
00:50:10,800 --> 00:50:12,600
Speaker 3: gonna see her again. And then I gave her back

1069
00:50:13,120 --> 00:50:16,160
Speaker 3: the little lego piece she got me, so take care

1070
00:50:16,200 --> 00:50:17,600
Speaker 3: of it. She's like, you don't want it. I'm like,

1071
00:50:17,960 --> 00:50:19,879
Speaker 3: I'm good, and then I lotted a lot of weight

1072
00:50:19,920 --> 00:50:21,600
Speaker 3: by that time. She's like, oh you look great. I

1073
00:50:21,680 --> 00:50:24,759
Speaker 3: was like, good, Okay, tell excellent.

1074
00:50:25,360 --> 00:50:26,440
Speaker 2: You don't have to tell anyone.

1075
00:50:26,480 --> 00:50:28,719
Speaker 3: That Actually, don't tell anyone that.

1076
00:50:28,800 --> 00:50:31,680
Speaker 2: Don't tell anyone. She was also quite upset, and I

1077
00:50:31,800 --> 00:50:34,799
Speaker 2: just basically said, I'm really sorry the way things turned out.

1078
00:50:35,320 --> 00:50:37,560
Speaker 2: She apologized for trying to blame me for some of

1079
00:50:37,600 --> 00:50:41,040
Speaker 2: the deep seated problems they had. We both agreed, even

1080
00:50:41,080 --> 00:50:44,080
Speaker 2: though we're good friends, we should stay apart for a

1081
00:50:44,200 --> 00:50:46,719
Speaker 2: long while now because of the breakup.

1082
00:50:47,040 --> 00:50:48,520
Speaker 3: You guess they're good friends.

1083
00:50:48,760 --> 00:50:51,040
Speaker 2: But there is a little bit left do this story.

1084
00:50:51,360 --> 00:50:52,480
Speaker 2: Do you have any final thoughts?

1085
00:50:52,719 --> 00:50:55,640
Speaker 3: This is just this is tough. This is a tough one.

1086
00:50:55,719 --> 00:50:59,040
Speaker 3: I feel like your sister has already kind of made

1087
00:50:59,120 --> 00:51:01,359
Speaker 3: up her mind and was just done with the whole thing.

1088
00:51:01,560 --> 00:51:05,160
Speaker 2: Yeah. I think she was just finding excuses to distance

1089
00:51:05,200 --> 00:51:06,440
Speaker 2: herself from her girlfriend.

1090
00:51:06,680 --> 00:51:08,840
Speaker 3: Yes, and it wasn't tough for the sister. It's just

1091
00:51:08,920 --> 00:51:09,600
Speaker 3: awkward for.

1092
00:51:09,520 --> 00:51:13,160
Speaker 2: You to be Yeah, to be the excuse.

1093
00:51:12,960 --> 00:51:16,080
Speaker 3: But I will say, probably earned yourself another three months stay.

1094
00:51:16,400 --> 00:51:20,879
Speaker 2: Yeah, now, there's nothing, there's nothing that's preventing you from staying. Oh,

1095
00:51:22,120 --> 00:51:25,239
Speaker 2: good luck, Opie, and I hope that you You know

1096
00:51:25,480 --> 00:51:26,880
Speaker 2: your room situation is okay.

1097
00:51:27,000 --> 00:51:28,879
Speaker 3: I hope so too, But there's a little left.

1098
00:51:29,080 --> 00:51:31,760
Speaker 2: My sister thanked me for my help. She's still pretty

1099
00:51:31,840 --> 00:51:34,520
Speaker 2: upset even now, obviously. I mean they've been dating since

1100
00:51:34,600 --> 00:51:37,200
Speaker 2: high school, so, but it's expected when you have a

1101
00:51:37,239 --> 00:51:40,879
Speaker 2: major breakup from such a huge relationship. I didn't pry

1102
00:51:40,960 --> 00:51:43,319
Speaker 2: too much or ask for any gossip or info that

1103
00:51:43,400 --> 00:51:45,600
Speaker 2: wasn't freely given to me by her. I told her

1104
00:51:45,640 --> 00:51:47,600
Speaker 2: I'll work on finding a place to move to, but

1105
00:51:47,680 --> 00:51:50,719
Speaker 2: she said purely and honestly that she would rather I

1106
00:51:50,760 --> 00:51:52,799
Speaker 2: stay in her apartment for the time being. Yeah, she

1107
00:51:52,840 --> 00:51:55,320
Speaker 2: probably wants the comfort. She's like, I have no d

1108
00:51:55,360 --> 00:51:57,000
Speaker 2: and I'm alone. Please stay with me.

1109
00:51:57,200 --> 00:52:01,000
Speaker 3: You ever stay with her, or she's gonna adopt kittens. Yeah,

1110
00:52:01,000 --> 00:52:01,640
Speaker 3: all at once.

1111
00:52:01,920 --> 00:52:04,920
Speaker 2: She said she's going through a major emotional trauma and

1112
00:52:05,040 --> 00:52:08,319
Speaker 2: really need someone to rely on and a confidant to

1113
00:52:08,400 --> 00:52:11,000
Speaker 2: always speak to and be there for her so she

1114
00:52:11,080 --> 00:52:14,319
Speaker 2: doesn't feel alone and helpless, and she'd be happy if

1115
00:52:14,360 --> 00:52:16,480
Speaker 2: I stayed there for the time being. I told her

1116
00:52:16,520 --> 00:52:19,399
Speaker 2: I'd be happy with that too. Oh. I've been doing

1117
00:52:19,440 --> 00:52:21,640
Speaker 2: most of the cooking, shopping, and house chores for the

1118
00:52:21,719 --> 00:52:24,600
Speaker 2: past few days while my sister's been sulking in bed

1119
00:52:24,719 --> 00:52:27,040
Speaker 2: or on the couch. I think she might have even

1120
00:52:27,160 --> 00:52:30,320
Speaker 2: caught a cold or something oof rough. But I'm happy

1121
00:52:30,360 --> 00:52:32,759
Speaker 2: to help in whatever way I can. I called my

1122
00:52:32,800 --> 00:52:35,720
Speaker 2: parents and told them what had happened. They were pretty upset.

1123
00:52:35,840 --> 00:52:38,760
Speaker 2: They didn't know how bad things were either, and offered

1124
00:52:38,800 --> 00:52:41,239
Speaker 2: to help in whatever way they can, although they're both

1125
00:52:41,280 --> 00:52:44,279
Speaker 2: far away. Aw, that's good. It's good that she has

1126
00:52:44,320 --> 00:52:46,240
Speaker 2: this really great support system in her family.

1127
00:52:46,360 --> 00:52:48,719
Speaker 3: Mm hmm. Everyone's pitching in helping out.

1128
00:52:48,840 --> 00:52:49,319
Speaker 2: I love that.

1129
00:52:49,440 --> 00:52:51,920
Speaker 3: I could see myself doing that for my sister and

1130
00:52:51,920 --> 00:52:54,520
Speaker 3: my brother got broken up with I'm just getting pizza, like,

1131
00:52:54,840 --> 00:52:55,480
Speaker 3: you'll be fine.

1132
00:52:55,520 --> 00:52:57,360
Speaker 2: That's what you did for me. I got you pizza,

1133
00:52:57,480 --> 00:52:59,920
Speaker 2: but no, I just supporting me. Oh you were just

1134
00:53:00,280 --> 00:53:01,280
Speaker 2: you were good support.

1135
00:53:01,760 --> 00:53:05,319
Speaker 3: I remember getting did get you pizza you're talking about

1136
00:53:05,560 --> 00:53:06,240
Speaker 3: talking about?

1137
00:53:06,600 --> 00:53:06,839
Speaker 2: Nah?

1138
00:53:06,920 --> 00:53:10,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, you gotta be there and you come by whenever. Oh, thanks,

1139
00:53:10,200 --> 00:53:10,919
Speaker 3: five minutes away.

1140
00:53:11,040 --> 00:53:14,280
Speaker 2: Yeah, I've already come over once you have you have yeah, yeah,

1141
00:53:14,320 --> 00:53:15,000
Speaker 2: maybe Sunday.

1142
00:53:15,120 --> 00:53:19,520
Speaker 3: Cool, I'll be round perfect. All right, Well that's the

1143
00:53:19,640 --> 00:53:22,200
Speaker 3: end of this episode. Uh, reach out to your sibling,

1144
00:53:22,280 --> 00:53:25,440
Speaker 3: tell them, love them. Tell them that if hypothetically you

1145
00:53:25,520 --> 00:53:28,040
Speaker 3: stayed with them and they said that it was okay

1146
00:53:28,080 --> 00:53:30,759
Speaker 3: for free, and then you told them to stop being

1147
00:53:30,800 --> 00:53:32,880
Speaker 3: PDA with their significant other and then they broke up,

1148
00:53:32,920 --> 00:53:35,000
Speaker 3: that you would be there for them. He would be there.

1149
00:53:35,760 --> 00:53:38,920
Speaker 2: Tell him that if you're calling them that specific thing. Yeah,

1150
00:53:38,960 --> 00:53:42,040
Speaker 2: but folks, that's the end of that story and the

1151
00:53:42,160 --> 00:53:44,960
Speaker 2: end of this episode. So if you love us, make

1152
00:53:45,000 --> 00:53:45,960
Speaker 2: sure to subscribe.

1153
00:53:46,040 --> 00:53:48,600
Speaker 3: We love you and see you tomorrow.